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Every relationship is a learning experience, especially for two people raised in different cultures. Mixedrace people and interracial relationships often go unrecognized on Mercer Island, despite their significant presence in the community.

Seniors Sydney Hanson and Daniel Androussenko have been dating for just over a year, since December 2017.

Hanson is Chinese, adopted and raised by white parents, while Androussenko is Russian.

For this couple, their different ethnicities offer opportunities to learn about each other’s cultures. “[Daniel has] told me a lot about the town he grew up in and his experiences,” Hanson said.

Hanson and Androussenko mainly experience each other’s heritages through food, a common bridge across cultures.

“I hadn’t tried a lot of Russian food until I went to his mom’s house and then she made so much food, like borscht,” Hanson said.

Navigating an interracial relationship has been an unexpected source of learning for seniors Naomi Lewis and Cooper Wilce.

Lewis, who is Caucasian, and Wilce, who is Vietnamese, Thai and Caucasian, have been dating for about eight months. (continued on page 4)

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Letter From the Editor Yeah, I know what this looks like. We wanted to do a themed issue of The Islander, but we didn’t have any original ideas. So we went with the Love Issue, because today is Valentine’s Day. How appropriate!

You might be expecting an issue full of fluff pieces, pink hearts, and anonymous Valentine’s Day messages pulled from a Google Form (and admittedly, there’s a little bit of that — just enough to satisfy our Spread Editor’s expectations). Yet love is a universal subject with countless facets, types and means of expression. It deserves to be celebrated on a level beyond the superficial, beyond the awkward exchanges of mass-produced cardstock bearing hastily taped lollipops.

From committed student athletes to our Drama department, MIHS is full of people who love what they do. You’ll find stories on these groups and more in the Features, Sports and A&E sections.

We hear the words “toxic,” “abusive” and “healthy” thrown around a lot regarding

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past, The Islander has ranked the best makeout songs and movies. This issue, we’re moving onto a subject closer to home: MIHS’s best makeout classrooms.

Just in advance, I’d like to affirm that The Islander does not have an official stance on the actual act of making out in classrooms. We simply feel a journalistic duty to keep the student body informed; if you’re already going to make out in a classroom, you might as well choose a good one.

We just hope that before you and your partner dash into Johnston and Willecke’s room, you stop and consider the potential consequences of your actions.* It’s really easy to fall into the trap of a forced, stilted theme issue. In making this paper, we hoped not to tailor our writing to any one gimmick, but rather to look at our school through a fresh lens.

My hope is that at least one article will present you with a new perspective or a changed view, because that’s what love does: it defies expectations.

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relationships, but their definitions remain hazy to many of us. Lena Hardisty clears it up in her article in Features, examining the red flags and warning signs of unhealthy romance. I was happy to see a fellow OneLove discussion facilitator quoted; the workshop put on by this organization at MIHS last year showed me that though educating people on this subject is difficult, our community is open and willing to learn.

On the Opinions page, staff writer Nico Galvin takes a critical look at inclusion throughout MIHS. Though the unofficial “fourth I” is an excellent goal for the school to aspire to, it is undeniable that it isn’t yet an accurate reflection of our school’s culture. Tolerating those whose backgrounds or identities are unfamiliar to us is not enough; to live up to this potential school motto, we must appreciate and celebrate — dare I say, love — all types of people on MI. If you need a more physical outlet for your love, look no further than the back page. In the

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FEATURES 3 Spot Harmful Relationships Before They Hurt February 14, 2019

Lena Hardisty staff writer

Abusive relationships are serious, but the term “abusive” is often overused and misused, creating a lack of clarity around harmful relationships, particularly when examining the difference between toxic, abusive and unhealthy relationships.

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and support; in contrast, unhealthy or “toxic” relationships are detrimental to both people involved.

In an abusive relationship, however, one partner uses a pattern of abusive behaviors to control the other. This can include physical violence, as well as sexual and emotional abuse.

Not all toxic situations are abusive, but they do have the capacity to become abusive.

“Other than physical abuse, [abuse] can be things like calling you names, being controlling of you, telling you where to be and who to talk to, what you can post on social media, what not to post on social media,” health teacher Lori Emery said.

“If they are controlling all aspects of your life, controlling what your relationships are with other people, those are all warning signs of an unhealthy and

first serious relationship people have ever had, so they’re just starting to get experienced on how to even be in a relationship.”

“They aren’t often malicious with it — they sometimes don’t even know that they’re being abusive to their partner, just because it’s their first relationship,” she said.

Often, both people in the relationship can be blinded by love, and bystanders can provide an important outside view.

For students who suspect that someone they know is an unhealthy relationship, it is recommended to provide support as much as possible, and then to direct their friend to a trusted and capable adult.

“It’s really important to be there Graphic by Lena Hardisty just as a source to be able to talk to as well as just being someone to fall back abusive relationship,” Emery continued. on,” said Nadia Lumba, a student representative of According to the National Domestic Violence OneLove.

Hotline, one in 10 teens in relationships report to OneLove is an organization that focuses on having a partner tamper with their social networking understanding and identifying dangerous relationships, account, which is the most frequent form of harassment and presented workshops at MIHS in 2018. or abuse.

“If you notice the warning signs early, you’re able “In high school, [abuse is more commonly] of the to prevent violence and things like it,” Lumba said. “If controlling type,” Emery explained. “It’s often the you know something is going on, you can report it.”

Celebrating Black Culture Beyond February Annika Bhananker and Maya Virdell copy editor and sports editor

Thanks to Valentine’s Day, February has built its brand as the “Month of Love.” While romance often dominates the focus, February also honors love for cultures with the celebration of Black History Month.

Black History Month is about appreciating the history, achievements and struggles of African Americans globally.

“What is ‘black culture’?”

Channing Martin said. “Is black culture the way that I walk or the way that I talk?”

“Usually, when ‘black culture’ is being utilized in an environment, it is the majority of the time referenced by white people selling an idea or a product.”

Throughout Black History Month, people find a variety of ways to celebrate their culture.

The concept of black identity and culture is complex and differs from family to family, introducing further variability to the celebration of Black History Month.

“Not everyone comes from a background where they can say ‘my family is from Congo’ or ‘my family is from [this place],’” Martin continued.

“Yes, my ancestors are from Congo centuries ago, but I have no idea what my culture is.”

Understanding black history and culture provides a community of shared ancestry

and experiences.

Connecting with this culture allows people to grow as individuals and communities and perceive themselves in a new ways. “[BHM] opens my eyes up to my environment by making me incredibly appreciative of the sacrifices made for people of color,” Faith Osei-Tutu said.

community, and I knew I was different, but I never understood why I [was] different.”

However, Martin has a different perspective about Mercer Island’s influence on her.

“I truly believe that Mercer Island has made me accept myself even more,” Martin

that tell me that I can achieve anything that I can think of, even if it is a little idea.”

Clubs like BSU and CARE help maintain and strengthen the black identity through education and awareness.

“To me, having a ‘relationship’ with my culture means that I have a deep understanding of what it

Photo courtesy Joy Francke Seattle activists hold raised fists, a symbol of unity and strength, at this year’s MLK, Jr. Day March, Jan. 21.

In predominantly white environments such as Mercer Island, a strong cultural connection can provide a sense of belonging and familiarity.

“Between the time of first grade and eighth grade were the biggest years that I’ve felt the most insecure about my race and how I identified myself,” senior Nia Tate said.

“I knew I was black in a predominantly white

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“Although a lot of people might oppose this idea, I believe that MI has encouraged me to stand out and take the phrase ‘I’m black and I’m proud’ to the highest limit.”

Widespread awareness of black history can be empowering.

“I look up to [black influencers] as beacons,” Martin said. “Beacons of lights

took to get me to my current situation [where I have] opportunities my grandparents didn’t have growing up,” Tate said.

However, some choose not to forge this connection to their culture.

“It could be because of the mass police brutality; it could be for the unfair disadvantages; it can even be for the way black people are portrayed in

modern movies and TV shows as drug dealers or gangsters,” Tate said.

“Either way, self-identity is on a spectrum when it comes to black culture and many people have many different reasons why they may separate themselves.”

“They have their own ideas and interests, and I have mine,” Tate concluded.

“I have learned that some of the students that are mixed do not claim their black heritage or think they do not belong in the club at all,” Martin added.

“It hurts my heart to think that because of Mercer Island, a student feels that they should hide their true self to fit in. I understand that growing up in a majority white environment can make you think horribly about one side of your identity, but every student needs to learn about who they are no matter what the circumstances are.”

“It is important for people to know their culture and embrace it because it creates a diverse community who is aware of all peoples,” OseiTutu said.

Though February is only one month, Martin strives to embrace this love and acceptance for her culture year-round.

“No matter what month it is, I am still black,” Martin said.

“I always walk with pride because I am black. Therefore, all 365 days of the year I am black and I am proud to be who I am.”

4 FEATURES Mixed and Matched (cont.) few MIHS students have personal experience with interracial dating, many encounter interracial relationships as children of parents from different ethnicities.

The growing community of mixedrace students at MIHS has become especially evident with the formation of the Hapa Collective in 2018.

“Hapa” is a Native Hawaiian term meaning “half,” commonly used to mean “half-Asian.”

Although the term has sometimes been used in a derogatory way, many people are proudly reclaiming “hapa” as a label for their mixed heritage.

Andrés Lam, a half-Mexican, halfChinese sophomore and one of the founders of the Hapa Collective, has observed the differences between cultures within his parents’ relationship.

“Unlike Asian people, Latinos are very affectionate when greeting each other,” Lam noted.

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“[There are] really only good things I guess — experiencing different family cultures, like going to Naomi’s house for Thanksgiving versus going to my house,” Wilce said.

“There’s different dynamics in the families,” Lewis explained.

For Thomas Lee and Kate Hamilton, growing up in the same location surpasses any cultural barriers.

“We’ve both lived on Mercer Island for the majority of our lives, so [our values and experiences] are pretty much the same,” Hamilton said.

Although relatively

encouraged me to hug my Asian side. Now, my Asian aunts and uncles hug me.”

Lam recognizes that although both sides of his family speak a proficient amount of English, there is still occasionally a barrier.

“When language is a hindrance, love and emotion is shown in non-verbal ways,” Lam continued. “[For example,] hugs, kisses, making of food and gifts.”

The use of non-verbal love languages to convey devotion and appreciation to others demonstrates that familial connection can transcend cultural disparities.

Junior Lila Shroff, whose mother is Caucasian and father is Indian, sometimes feels disconnected from her Indian heritage.

“Sometimes I feel more separated from the Indian side of me, but this is probably due to the fact that I have grown up in America and only seen

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Top: Hanson and Androussenko celebrating Hanson’s 18th birthday in January at a local restaurant.

Left: Wilce and Lewis share an embrace.

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Right: Lam with his great aunts, both of whom are Mexican immigrants.

Below: The Shroffs at a family reunion about 12 years ago (mother, brother Sam, father and Lila).

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India through the eyes of a visitor,” Shroff explained.

“That being said, I don’t ever feel like I am sacrificing one part of my identity to conform to the other.”

Although Shroff’s parents come from different cultures and ethnicities, her extended family have welcomed her and her parents with open arms.

“Both sides of my family are completely inclusive and welcoming,” Shroff said.

Although cultural differences may appear to set interracial couples apart, they are still rooted in the dynamic between partners — how their personalities and values interact. Culture is just one factor that completes a relationship.

by Jordan Snyder

Throughout the year, people tell their loved ones that they love them without actually saying “I love you.”

“I say I love you by asking about others or doing things for someone else,” senior Eliza Crenshaw said.

This phenomenon sheds light on an underappreciated facet of love.

“I think encouraging someone to be their best self is a high form of love, and it’s central to the kind of love I want to receive,” English teacher Jane Stafford said.

For Stafford, this can be expressed in subtle ways.

“Are you going to feel good about this decision later? Are you maintaining your integrity?” Stafford noted as several

Photo courtesy Andrés Lam Photo courtesy Lila Shroff

examples of expressions of Displaying love to people make them feel happier and “You make a great difference and say how much you love

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everyday love. around you can respected. in someone’s life or care about them through the smallest comments or actions,” Nia Tate said.

Showing love — even in different ways — makes others feel respected and can strengthen the relationship. When Islanders share love, the whole island becomes closer.

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Athletes Plan to Bring Love for their Sports to College Natalie Chen staff writer

As MIHS seniors finish applications and anxiously await replies from colleges, a select group look forward to the next stage of their athletic careers on National Signing Day. Each year, senior athletes have the opportunity to sign a National Letter of Intent, binding them to a school for one academic year while the institution provides athletic financial aid for that year.

Approximately eight million high school students participate in sports, but only a mere six percent continue at a collegiate level, establishing committed MIHS students as top athletes in the nation.

Many students do not know what they want to do in college in the earlier stages of high school. However, Blake Robertson, who committed to University of Puget Sound, knew he wanted to play soccer in college since sophomore year.

“I realized that my life revolves around the sport, and I wanted to continue,” Robertson said.

Aside from trying to stand out to scouts, Robertson also had to decide what he wanted in a team.

“I looked for a good group of guys and a coach

Vassau, who committed to University of Utah Lacrosse, worked tirelessly to play well in front of college coaches.

“Getting recruited was

“I’m really excited to be around and working alongside people who want to be there, especially with such a big program,” Winiski said. “On my visit,

Photo by Annie Poole Lina Winiski (left) signed on to WSU Crew, Blake Robertson (center) signed on to University of Puget Sound Soccer and James Richardson (right) signed on to MIT Swimming.

I could respect and work hard under,” Robertson said.

Being a competitive athlete, especially one with a desire to advance to college-level athletics, requires an ability to perform well under pressure. Stewart

mainly about getting in front of the right coaches at the right time,” Vassau said.

Lina Winiski, who is committed to Washington State University for crew, also put in lots of effort and determination to achieve her goal.

everyone made me feel at home, and I’m looking forward to being there full time.”

For MIHS Girls Lacrosse player Grace Fujinaga, the search for a collegiate lacrosse team involved searching for a program that also emphasizes education.

“I knew that my priority had to be the school. At [University of Pennsylvania], this is certainly true,” Fujinaga said. “The energy their lacrosse team has is also amazing, and I felt it the moment I played at their camp.”

Although students committed to Division III collegiate teams do not participate in the National Signing Day, these athletes deserve just as much attention for their success.

James Richardson’s path to committing to the Division III MIT swim team seemed like an uphill battle after Richardson got sick during his sophomore season, but decided he wanted to swim in college after a successful junior season.

“I’m really grateful for this opportunity because it definitely wasn’t just me,” Richardson said. “My coaches, my teammates have gotten me through this and I couldn’t have done it without them.”

Although these athletes’ high school careers are almost coming to a close, their talent and dedication will continue to carry their passions to the next level at college.

MIHS Sports Bonding Fosters Love for the Team Alex Levin staff writer

On any sports team, wins and losses can easily define a team, but a win is meaningless if a team does not first build stable communication and a sense of community within its players.

Many sports teams from MIHS gain these attributes by creating a solid foundation of team bonding.

Girls Golf, currently adopting the slogan “teamwork makes dreamwork,” is a perfect example.

“Our team is a family, and we work hard to keep it that way,” captain Annelise Rorem said.

To create a supportive environment, the team created a partner system for competitions.

“Rather than having a ladder of trying to beat your teammates each week for a certain spot, you work together as partners,” Rorem said. “You move up together, you move down together: you really just get to know the person.”

The team also stays closer together by embracing

traditions such as “Pagliacci yet exceedingly arduous.

“It’s always really fun and Thursdays” or team sleepovers. Using the motivation from really cool for everyone,” The volleyball team also the upperclassmen athletes, captain Nate Robinson said. embraces similar values by the team, starting at Lid Park, “Every one feeds off of each participating in convivial swims across Lake Washington other to have the adrenaline to team dinners, assembling on and then runs back across the do it.”

Sundays during the season.

I-90 bridge.

It is clear that, with these “I love that we all can bond over volleyball,” captain Stirling Yeadon said. “[Since the dinners are] not on the court, it’s less competitive, and a good environment to bond with everyone.”

As a result, the team’s camaraderie has helped during the games.

“It makes us have better team dynamic and be able to flow on the court better,” Yeadon said.

Boys Water Polo has a method of team bonding that is just as joyfulThe Volleyball’s off-court bonding culminates in team unity on senior night.

traditions, the sports teams at MIHS are thriving under team bonding. The teams prove that sports are not just about the outcome of the game, but about the bond shared between the athletes making it happen.

Photo courtesy Faith Osei-Tutu

To: Oliver Lars Jens Greiner-Petter Lieber Oliver, einen schönen Valentinstag! Ich bin seit diesem Tag in Mathe verknallt, als Sie mir Ihren Grafikrechner geliehen haben und mir ein Stück Ihrer Orange gegeben haben. Wir sollten irgendwann ausgehen!

Mit freundlichen Grüßen

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To: Pearl Rincon

Talked to you one time. You seem kinda nice, idk.

Lmk what you wanna do for Valentines. Maybe ramen on the Saturday after?

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I’ve kept my distance but I can’t hold it back anymore. I love you so much, words cannot describe the burning intesity of my passion. Your secret admirer, sweetheart, lover, escort, gallant future girlfriend,

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To: Steven Perzia My dear Steven Perzia, IHOP misses you.

I miss you.

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To: Katherine Sours

The Makoto to Your Haru

To: Jeff You’re the crunch to my berry, the crispy to my cream, the bippity to my bop, the belle of my ball, wappity to my shmackity doo.

Happy Valentine’s Day! It seemed like just yesterday when we became friends. But my feelings developed into love and long yearning (thanks Li Bai) after some time; perhaps it was because of the beautiful sonorous sound you were blowing into the euphonium or your luscious blond locks blowing in the wind in Victoria. I know that somewhere along the path of our friendship, my feelings for you changed beyond simple friendship. I hope my message finds you well. I know I’m not the one you want, but will you at least consider my inadequate self?

Blah, I’m terrible at writing love letters. Meet me at the fish waffle place at 8PM tonight if you want to see where this love can go.

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To: Lily Behar Send me a letter!

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I was happy we got to meet if only for a short while, hope you’re doing well and your head doesn’t hurt too much. see you again soon!

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Spread the Love Valentines

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To: Lilly Zaborski LILLY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

To: Rainer McDonald To: Evan Doty I heard you’re a fan! I’m gonna come meet you for a quick quarterback lesson. I know your future is bright! Just know that you’re special in your own way and you can succeed at anything!

I’ll meet you on February 20 at the field of your choice. I’ll see you then!

Tom Brady

Dear Rainer, aka stud aka Mt. Rainier aka my first and only crush, When I see you my heart flutters, when we talk I can’t help but stutter, when we hug you make me shudder, we belong together like bread and butter, like a cow and its udders.

Rainer you are beautiful, and you Canadian like no other. If we were together, I’d cherish you like a mother. I love your blank stare late in the night.

Happy Valentine’s Day beautiful Rainer, from a loving brother.

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8 OPINIONS Self Love vs Narcissism: Know The Difference Sabrina Hubbell staff writer

Self love and narcissism are often perceived as the same thing, but they’re not. The misunderstanding can make students avoid self-appreciation for fear of being painted as self-obsessed.

However, self love is necessary for students to practice because it positively impacts overall mental health.

Self love is the idea of accepting imperfection, and using acceptance to be empathetic and kind towards oneself and others, while narcissism allows one to see no flaws in oneself and often accompanies egoistic attitudes.

Self love is about the balance between pushing yourself to do better and forgiving mistakes you make.

Self love is not a selfish attitude that disregards others.

The fear of being perceived as narcissistic prevents many from practicing self love. People are afraid to show love for themselves publicly because they fear they will be seen by others as self-centered.

At many schools, including MIHS, students are pressured to excel academically and athletically.

The competitive nature of high school is healthy in order to strive for your best work, but becomes troubling

when one begins to see mistakes as setbacks or negatives. In such cases, self acceptance as a form of self love can help students ultimately feel happier.

Mental health is important, and in our school, acceptance toward yourself should be prioritized.

Practicing self love can reflect well onto others as well.

“People see you loving yourself and being your best self and they can take inspiration from that,” Hannah Sidney said.

Sidney improved her self-confidence by learning how to accept and respect herself despite flaws or mistakes. “[Self love is saying,] ‘I accept that there are certain things wrong with me, but I’m trying to make the best of myself,’” Sidney said.

During teenage years, many students struggle with trying to figure out what they want to pursue. This often frustrating process can be less stressful by finding out who you are and what you love. That can help you appreciate yourself and learn how to be your best.

“I think the best way to practice [self love] is to have a period of self discovery in your life,” Image teacher Lori Emery said. “Without influence from other people like peers, parents or coworkers.”

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“I’m John Bolton and I approve this missile.”

Cartoon by Teddy Fischer National Security Advisor John Bolton channels his inner Major Kong after the U.S. pulls out of the Intermediate Nuclear Forces Treaty.

Graphic by Lena Hardisty

OPINIONS 9 Inclusion Motto Demands Honest Conversation February 14, 2019

Nico Galvin staff writer

fact that our school has an almost 70 percent white and 20 percent Asian population.

This isn’t a problem by itself, but minority students can inherently feel excluded by this; for those of the majority, exposure to non-white, nonAsian students is low.

Inclusion is perhaps the buzzword of the year at MIHS. The improvement of inclusion is a key part of the School Improvement Plan, and, though it isn’t officially a part of the motto yet, the school is seriously Cartoon by Lena Hardisty considering adding “inclusion” to the other three I’s. But is the school doing enough to add the word as a legitimate part of our values?

Not really.

That’s not to say that the school isn’t inclusive.

MIHS tends to have an openminded community of students, who in general avoid discrimination based on race or gender/ sexual identity. Our school has done well in allowing clubs like Black Student Union or Queer Straight Alliance to create spaces for groups of students to feel safe and supported.

Most of our problems But we’re not perfect. aren’t unique to our school; Though we don’t have a they are problems seen culture of discrimination, throughout our state and smaller acts still occur country. But in the same way, that harm our inclusion. our successes aren’t unique It’s not uncommon to hear to the school either. So why slurs casually dropped in should we put inclusion into conversation, or students our school motto as if they of other gender identities are? misgendered.

The school has certainly Let’s also not forget the been improving in inclusion

over the past few years.

Efforts like the inclusion of more diverse literature and hiring practices, the school’s application for certification as No Place For Hate and the new Margins program, which plans to send a few MIHS students to impoverished

exist at MIHS. The school needs to take more effort to educate the student body about the underrepresented and misunderstood people among them.

QSA has spearheaded numerous such programs, according to QSA President

areas in our country later this year, are all steps in the right direction.

These actions are admirable, but for the most part aren’t hugely improving inclusion. Addressing the lack of a diverse teaching staff at MIHS is very important, but the other efforts aren’t directly addressing the roots of the problems that

Artemis Kim. “We do a lot of teacher trainings, student education [and] we’ve done a few BRIDGES lessons,” they explained. “We did a teacher training a couple years ago where we told all the teachers to ask for names and pronouns, and in my experience they’ve been really good about that.”

Toxic Masculinity Has No Place At MIHS Max Hense staff writer

As toxic masculinity becomes an increasingly visible issue, it is essential that students at MIHS are aware both of its pervasiveness and its detrimental effects.

It’s no secret that MIHS

Graphic by Lena Hardisty

values inclusion. With a dedicated administrative team and accepting student body, our high school has done much in the way of equity for all of its students. However, at MIHS, as well as our country at large, the past decades have seen increased awareness for toxic masculinity.

Toxic masculinity is a brand of masculinity that discourages men from showing emotion and encourages aggression and violence.

This problem has become even more prevalent with the modernization of society, as men and boys are exposed to the expectations of society at a mass scale, through social

media and the internet in general.

Mercer Island, although devoted to inclusivity, is not exempt from this problem.

Toxic masculinity manifests itself in the expectations many of the boys at our school face - including pressure to act emotionless or excel sports.

The pressure to conceal feelings impacts men as a whole in many ways. It can play a role in men’s mental health and the discouragement in seeking help for mental illness. Male suicide is the seventh leading cause of death for men in the U.S., and the stereotype that men must always be free of emotion plays a part in how they handle their depression or anxiety.

Violence, more often

than not targeted at women, is another unfortunately prevalent effect of toxic masculinity. The expectation that all men must be dominant over women can influence their relationships with them and could lead to violence if their assumed power is threatened.

Boys at MIHS are also victims of this system, often feeling pressured to dress or act a certain way in an attempt to meet the standards that society has defined as truly masculine. Pressure to join sports, act a certain way with their friends or present themselves to their fellow students are direct effects of toxic masculinity, and can damage both male and female students at our school.

It’s important to

QSA’s actions are centered around education, and are in the right direction to improve inclusion at MIHS. But they are being led by students, not the school. Kim doesn’t think it should be this way.

“A lot of that falls on queer students to educate,” they said. “That shouldn’t be our job. We’re just kids.”

The school really can’t take credit for what the QSA and other student groups have achieved. Though QSA’s progress is certainly a success, the bulk of the work has fallen on the students, which shouldn’t be the case.

T h e improvements to inclusion should come mostly from the school, especially if the school wants to put inclusion in the motto.

At the end of the day, inclusion is just a word.

But without any significant difference in inclusion between our school and the rest of the community, inclusion in our motto doesn’t symbolize a school that is indisputably tied with the values of inclusion. It’s just a word.

remember toxic masculinity and masculinity are not synonymous.

Toxic masculinity is not a character trait or personality, but rather an unfair system of expectations imposed on men by society.

For students at MIHS, it’s crucial we recognize these effects in our own community, continue to raise awareness and try to prevent the continued normalization of toxic masculinity.

However, you can be masculine without contributing to toxic masculinity. Masculinity or femininity is for the individual to define and should not be the decision of ingrained prejudice or supposed social norms.

Recognizing the effects of unfair and harmful systems in yourself and others is the first and most important step you can take to a more

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Dirty Dancing

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Rom-Coms Reviewed

by A&E columnist Ben Capuano & humor columnist Spencer Klein

SYNOPSIS: Considered a classic, “Dirty Dancing,” the 1987 breakout hit starring Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey, delivers a cheesy plot and complex dance sequences. The story centers around Baby, a do-good teen whose dad is rich, and Johnny, a lower-class dance instructor who works at the summer resort where Baby and her family happen to be staying. Baby is NOT a good dancer but through some crazy mix-up she winds up having to fill in for Johnny’s partner at the biggest dance gig of the summer.

ROMANCE: The forbidden relationship between Baby and Johnny is believable and relatable, featuring dance montages where Johnny is a tough but tender teacher. The better romantic scenes include an impromptu lip-synched duet to “Love is Strange” and the talent show finale where Johnny and Baby reveal their relationship. What makes Baby and Johnny’s relationship especially significant is how they transcend economic inequality to find love.

GHOST

SYNOPSIS: You can enjoy rom-coms any time of the year. But, just for the sake of argument, let’s say you were craving something with a bit more supernatural flavor. A bit more action. A bit more Patrick Swayze. If what we’ve described sounds right up your alley, “Ghost” might be the movie for you.

ROMANCE: Let’s start with romance, something this movie has baked into its warm, spooky core. Patrick Swayze gets murdered and sticks around for revenge while helping out his fiance Demi Moore. Once Swayze gets axed, both he and Moore cling to their feelings for one another. As the titular ghost, love is all Swayze has in the supernatural world he finds himself thrust into. I found myself tearing up during heart-wrenching scenes where death was all that kept these two lovers apart. The premise is a bit absurd but the emotion feels powerful.

COMEDY: But it’s not all somber - Swayze’s phantasmagoric transformation is a constant source of intentional and unintentional comedy.

“Ghost” has a lot of of “training montage”-style humor when Swayze learns how to best utilize his spectral powers. Swayze also keeps yelling at people who can’t hear him for the whole film. The first time it’s startling and dramatic, but it gets funny as it keeps on happening.

COMEDY: Most humor in this movie does not involve the two protagonists, but the events and cast around them. Dance classes consisting of stuffy tourists and the addition of Wayne Knight (Newman in “Seinfeld”) adds a comedic flair that does not detract from the serious central narrative.

The Fault in Our Stars

Land Before Time

SYNOPSIS: Today, a rom-com can’t operate on its own without a theme - whether it’s amnesia in “50 First Dates” or being Asian in “Crazy Rich Asians.” For this romantic comedy classic, director Josh Boone takes a morbid, albeit dull stab at the genre in “The Fault in Our Stars.”

ROMANCE: Starring Shailene Woodley and Ansel Elgort as two teenagers with terminal cancer, you can tell that they have chemistry when they do things like call each other by their full legal names and ignore each other’s texts. Their chemistry is as real as the miracle drug that keeps Hazel alive. Regardless of whether these doomed souls belong together (they don’t), they share a first kiss in the Anne Frank house, and do aerobic things despite the fluid buildup in Hazel’s lungs. Thankfully, Augustus is given two weeks to live because their relationship couldn’t last much longer.

COMEDY: On top of the bad chemistry, the comedic side of this movie misses the mark. This film attempts lots of comedy: smash cuts of Mike Birbiglia’s battle with testicular cancer set to upbeat acoustic music, witty banter such as “you’ve just got a touch of cancer” and a flirty conversation between Hazel and Augustus while their friend has an existential breakdown about his coming blindness. However, the biggest comedic miss in this movie is the ending. Augustus dying of terminal cancer is just not the hilarious, heartwarming ending we expected from this rom-com.

SYNOPSIS: “Land Before Time” might be the worst rom-com we’ve ever seen.

Right off the bat, every actor is in weird makeup that makes their skin look scaly and for some reason everyone is crawling around on their hands and knees. Additionally, several of members of the cast have horrid artificial neck extensions to portray characters known as “Long-Necks,” including our main character, Little Foot. This decision baffles us as much as it frightens us.

Cartoon by Teddy Fischer

ROMANCE: If there were strong romantic chemistry between the two leads of “Land Before Time,” we might look past the weird makeup. But sadly, there isn’t.

Female lead Sarah actually has negative chemistry with Little Foot.

They spend the whole movie at one another’s throats. When the film ends, the two just go their separate ways like nothing ever happened.

It’s like these screenwriters had never seen a romantic movie before.

COMEDY: A good rom-com should always start with funny little introductions to the lead characters. “Land Before Time” starts off with Little Foot’s mom dying instead. We should’ve been laughing but instead Spencer broke down crying in his seat.

Maybe this movie has some pretentious commentary on the nature of love that we’re missing. But until we figure that out, “Land Before Time” remains a romcom disaster. Do not, under any circumstances, watch this filmmaking abomination.

Behind the Ballads: Jazz Choir Prepares Singing Valentines Jordan Snyder staff writer

Every February, members of Jazz Choir join together to deliver singing valentine surprises to different students and teachers at school.

“For some of the students, singing valentines are used as a wholesome and loving way of showing their affection, and for others it’s a way to put their friends in the spotlight in front of their friends,” Jazz Choir member Hannah Sidney said.

In the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, Jazz Choir sold songs for $5 in the Commons.

When people purchase a singing valentine, they can specify the name of the recipient and pick

one of the song options.

This year, Jazz Choir serenaded people with “I Want it That Way,” by the Backstreet Boys, “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough,” by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell and “The Longest Time,” by Billy Joel.

Jazz Choir delivered valentines Feb. 15 during third period. Members of Jazz Choir sung to each lucky recipient in front of their whole class.

“We also like to make sure that when we serenade them we get in really close so they can feel the sender’s affection, and end it with a note of the sender’s choosing,” Sidney added.

“It’s fairly popular because it’s funny to embarrass their friends and teachers,” Jazz

Choir member Evelyn Clarke state competitions, this tradition “Singing valentines have said. has also transformed into a fun always been one of my favorite Mya Levin, parts of Jazz who received a Choir because singing valentine [of the process her sophomore of] learning year, confirmed the songs and Clarke’s analysis. singing them to “I thought it people in front was extremely of everyone is funny but super so much fun,” embarrassing,” Clarke said.

Levin said. “One “It is a totally of my friends light-hearted, filmed the whole funny act that thing and I was we can have totally red in the fun preparing Photo by Jordan Snyder in class, and face.”

Jazz Choir practices delivering a singing valentine to Peter Empey.

Although add some fun to singing Valentine’s Day valentines serve to raise money way to showcase Jazz Choir’s at school,” Jazz Choir teacher for new materials and out-of- talents.

Annalise Sansburn said.

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Parker’s Pool Makes a Splash in “Metamorphoses” Charlie Fischer staff writer

Although Feb. 7 marked closing night for MIHS Drama 2’s winter show “Metamorphoses,” the drama continued. MISD Technical Theatre Specialist John Parker was faced with draining over 1,000 gallons of water from the centerpiece of the stage: a filtered pool measuring 10 feet by 16 feet.

A project spanning over several months, Parker, with the help of the theatre tech class and a few dedicated parent vol-

unteers, assembled the pool, which encompassed the majority of the stage.

But the origin of this year’s production dates back to when MIHS Drama Teacher and Director Daniela Melgar first pitched the idea to Parker nearly six years earlier.

“I didn’t know about t h e show at the time but [Melgar] said ‘it’s

Photo by Annie Poole

Erysichthon (Gabby Potts) sits on edge of pool and pleads with Poseidon.

a pool,’” Parker said. “So I did some research on it, and I said ‘We have to run this by maintenance and operations, just to see what they say.’ And they said ‘No way. The insurance isn’t going to want to do it. Nobody’s going to want to do it,’” Parker explained.

“So we got scared and we said ‘You know what? Forget it.’”

However, last spring, Melgar introduced the play again, this time to a group of students from her Drama 2 class during their weekly reading session.

Mary Zimmerman’s “Metamorphoses,” a modern adaptation of the original poem by Ovid, retells a combination Greek and Roman myths focusing primarily on romance and the tragedy of its characters.

“The students loved the show and voted on that one,” Melgar said. They went forward with the idea, acknowledging that they might have to act without the pool if they couldn’t gain the district’s approval.

“We started scheduling our meetings with the maintenance director, Tony Kuhn, our facilities director, and then our admin, Nick Wold,” Melgar said. “[Parker] had to do all of the design and prep work around it so

that it was ready and complete before presenting it.”

After few weeks of questions and stipulations, the administration gave the go-ahead for Parker to build his design.

“We made a really good proposal, they know that the kids in Drama really care about their program...we all take ourselves pretty seriously in here,” Parker said.

With actors moving to and from the pool, the stage crew has implemented several unconventional tactics to ensure everyone’s safety.

“Some of the biggest challenges [were] stuff that the audience never [saw]. Like how we [kept] people from slipping and falling backstage,” Parker said.

“So we got carpet runners, lots of towels and stagehands mopping.”

Actors have also used slippers off stage and space heaters to dry costumes overnight.

Perhaps the most daunting challenge of the production, however, was ensuring the safety of the stage itself, which could face catastrophic damage in the event of a leak.

“The lining of the pool is basically what’s keeping it inside, and the minute that tears, that’s it. Game over,” Melgar

explained.

The stakes were even higher last weekend, with an orchestra rehearsal Monday and a concert Tuesday.

“It’s going to take a fair amount of time to get the water out of the pool,” Parker said in anticipation. Many parent volunteers helped Parker dismantle the stage on Sunday.

Besides the pool itself, the stage was surrounded by over 200 chairs and a separate control room.

“All that [had] to come down and we [had] to be ready for [the] concert by sixth period on Monday,” Parker said.

After disassembling the stage, Parker will repurpose the wooden platforms from the deck surrounding the pool for future projects.

Parker believes the quality of the production outweighed the risks. “[The show was] really elegant and beautiful, with the chandelier and the actual water.” Parker said. “[It was] so tactile, the kids [used] the water for everything. It [was] really a major part.”

This article describes Parker’s teardown plan at press time. Circumstances may have changed due to snow.

Anna Sham Follows Love for Photography to College Alex Levin staff writer

Although the majority of MIHS students plan to focus on STEM, humanities or business after graduation, many choose to follow an alternate path that allows them to follow their passions. Senior Anna Sham is proudly one of these students.

Sham will attend the Parsons School of Design next fall, a well-known art university, while majoring in photography.

A photographer since the age of nine, Sham clearly has developed her love for art enough to know she wants to pursue a career in the field.

“If I didn’t have the passion for photography, I wouldn’t be doing it,” Sham said.

The school’s location in New York City is one of the main reasons Sham felt motivated to commit to Parsons rather than a local art school.

“I’m from Hong Kong, and New York City reminds me of my home,” Sham said. “I feel like going to New York I can branch out more, meet new people and get a lot more connections.”

Although Sham has been an artist for many years, it wasn’t until recently that she started to take it more seriously.

“In the beginning I was just playing around with different types of art” Sham said. “I did drawing and dancing. Sophomore or junior year [was when] I started pursuing photography as a career.”

As a rising artist, Sham searched for some inspiration to keep getting better along the way. Her specific motivations came from looking at others’ art and seeing where she needed to sharpen her skills.

“It’s [a lot of] self motivation.

I wanted to improve every sin-

gle day; I look at other peoples art and it made me want to improve,” Sham added.

Sham is currently taking AP Photography, which is a way to hone her photography skills before going off to Parsons. “[Sham] entered the class with a great personal drive to create artwork,” AP Photography teacher Laura Totten said. “She is highly motivated on her own to research photography skills.”

Totten also speaks to the benefits of going to an art school.

“I think it’s an amazing experience, and it also teaches creative thinking, which can be applied to any industry,” she said.

To see more of Sham’s artwork, check out her Instagram: @annasham_

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The Islander’s Top Eight Makeout Classrooms Nico Galvin and Hannah Whobrey staff writer and features editor

Sometimes, the only thing that can make school better is swapping spit with your special someone — but before you do, you should know the best spots. With almost four years of combined dating experience, no one is more qualified to talk about making out than Nico Galvin and Hannah Whobrey.

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Room 505: Band Room

You can get as loud as you want here; the sound of Band will both drown you out and set a romantic mood.

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Underneath Mr. Laughary’s Pile of Ungraded Essays

This is perhaps the safest place in the entire school to have an uninterrupted makeout sesh. You can enjoy making out here for three months at the very least.

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The Strip It’s called that for a reason.

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Room 401: Calculus Room

There’s no time that you need someone to console your emotional fragility more than after a calculus test. Making out isn’t just for pleasure; it’s also for healing.

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Any Block Room

Makeout partner not meeting your standards? Don’t sweat it — there’s another 58 people to choose from.

七月 Room 308: Chinese 七日 Room French is the language of love; Mandarin is the language of making out during school.

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Main Office

For some, it’s the free candy. For us, it’s the sense of danger.

5.0 Room 110: Physics Room 10 This room is full of romantic potential, but it’ll take a lot of work to turn it into kinetic energy.

PDA: Pretty Dang American, If You Ask Us Spencer Klein and Jeff Parkinson humor columnist and staff writer

In the past, our publication has been harsh — even scathing — toward those who choose to engage in public displays of affection (PDA). However, we’ve come to realize that PDA are not just important, but patriotic.

Let’s take a listen to our national anthem: “Oh say does that Star-Spangled banner yet wave / O’er the land of the Free and the home of the Brave.”

We believe that nothing demonstrates freedom and bravery more than PDA. What’s more brave than putting your vulnerable relationship on display for people to evaluate and judge?

What’s more brave than confirming rumors, stirring the tea, slapping the chapstick?

We thought about this for 30 intense minutes and could only come up with three things: 1. Going commando in jeans 2. Eating an Oreo Dessert Churro™ straight out of the microwave 3. The troops In the 1950s, America experienced the triumphant Red Scare. To put an end to these lurking communists, we needed to establish American values, like patriotism, the free market and teens making out in the middle of the hall while other teens are trying to get to class. Exports like steel, cars and mono made this country strong.

Just look at the most glorious time in American history: the 1980s. The culture in that time was firmly pro-PDA. Look at movies like “Wet Hot American

Photo by Annie Poole Co-authors Jeff Parkinson and Spencer Klein, locked in a patriotic act of tremendous courage.

Summer” and “American Pie” — a movie so pro-PDA that the main character broadcasts himself having sex with a foreign girl to the whole school, resulting in her deportation, and it is portrayed as a positive thing.

This country was founded on the principle that its people would be free to express themselves however they wanted. Sometimes the most important forms of expression are those that make people uncomfortable.

Freedom of speech is not just the freedom to tell the world what it wants to hear or to show the world what it wants to see. It’s also the freedom to show the world what it absolutely does not want to see, things that it might think are “gross” or “borderline public indecency” or “not how you’re supposed to use teeth.”

Imagine a world where Mark Twain never wrote Huckleberry Finn because it made people uncomfortable, or where Usher and Lil Jon were too scared to make their masterpiece “Yeah.” That’s a world we don’t want to live in.

Cowardice: the enemy of making out in the halls.

People would rather run from their immediate feelings than face them lips first. We say no. We want you to follow your instincts. Throw trash on the ground. Hunt the weak. Kiss in public. True bravery is throwing caution into the wind, no matter what teacher sees you and then comments about it during a lecture. Even if it’s Dino. Because of course it’s Dino.

Love and patriotism have no bounds. We cannot slap a chastity belt on the American spirit because of our petty societal norms. If you’re on the fence about this, we encourage you to get off the fence and into the halls — to make out.