September 2015

September 2015

The

baby issue

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Skip the baby shower And plan a Mother Blessing instead!

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Milk sharing Minnesota mamas are donating breastmilk to help families who can’t provide their own for their babies.

43 Grandparents 101 Make the most of your relationship with your parents (and your spouse’s parents), even when it’s tricky!

38 Photoshoot safety Newborns, often photographed during their first week of life, must be handled with extreme care.

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50 Get blessed

A ceremony called a Mother Blessing has become a popular alternative to the traditional American baby shower.

54 Home with baby Check out the latest innovations in high chairs, cribs, play mats, rugs and even cleaning products, all ideal for families with infants.

Losing Chloe See how a Hopkins family’s journey of love and loss put them on a mission to help other children with rare diseases.

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CONTENTS

10 FROM THE EDITOR

18 SCHOOL DAYS

Babies are the beginning of everything, including our own miraculous rebirth.

Give time, bring over food — and follow up later — when supporting new parents.

12 CHATTER

20 TEENS AND TWEENS

Mugshots Coffee Co. offers gourmet java in a kid-friendly space in Bloomington.

When brothers and sisters connect (instead of fight), it’s a beautiful thing.

14 BABY ON BOARD

22 GROWS ON TREES

Being reborn

Helping out

Cool coffee shop

Sibling love

Postpartum survival

Sharing the wealth

Money, support from friends and even therapy can help you through this phase.

Should you discuss the details of your finances with your kids? Yes, actually!

16 TODDLER TIME

24 ASK THE PEDIATRICIAN

When toddlers ‘help’ Letting kids take on chores may require lower expectations and extra patience.

Solid foods

Once your child is 6 months old, it’s safe to bring on the baby food.

26 ON BEHAVIOR

Pesto pasta Peas, parsley, walnuts and noodles come together in this delish weeknight dish.

30 BOOKSHELF

Baby books These bold new books are perfect for parents who want to read to their babies.

74 FROM OUR READERS

If you have a demanding child, you’ll cope better by following these four simple steps, from the PACER Center, our newest contributor.

Readers share their photos from the Great Minnesota Get-Together.

About our cover kid Name: Fang

City: Minneapolis

Age: 1 month

Mom: Audrey Qian

At birth: 6 pounds 9 ounces, 19 inches Place of birth: The Mother Baby Center, Abbott Northwestern Hospital, Minneapolis Personality so far: Quiet and happy Photos by Rana Leonhardi Photography / ranaleonhardiphotography.com

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28 IN THE KITCHEN

Self-care comes first

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GYMNASTICS TUMBLING TRAMPOLINE

FROM THE EDITOR

On being (re)born T

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hank you for picking up Minnesota Parent’s annual Baby Issue!

It’s one of my favorite magazines to produce every year because — in my opinion — few things are more interesting, more complicated, more challenging or more fun (yes, really) than babies.

Babies are the beginning of everything.

Yes, they’re starting their own lives. And that’s miraculous. But they also give birth to us — mothers, fathers, grandparents. We transform. Our children turn us into something new.

Even when we enter parenting as smart, as educated, as savvy, as self-aware and as emotionally prepared as we could possibly be, we’re never truly ready to be reborn ourselves.

Because sometimes change hurts.

Before I had my son, like every non-parent, I had it all Photo by Tracy Walsh / tracywalshphoto.com figured out. I was even preemptively a bit cynical — no rose-colored glasses for me. It was going to be hard — really hard. But I’m going into this with open eyes, I told myself.

Right. Sure.

But, the truth was, I never knew how hard it was going to be — or really the way in which it would be hard — until I lived it. And you can never know the joy and love that’s possible until you live it either. The best, most vivid storyteller on earth can’t convey the realities of parenthood.

So, in this issue, we won’t try to explain how it feels. You either already know or will soon enough. Instead, we’ve got the skinny on some big baby issues, including the trend of mamas sharing surplus breast milk to help other mothers. (How cool!)

We also have tips for making grandparenting relationships work (hello, in-laws!) and some important safety concerns to consider when hiring a photographer to capture precious images of your newborn.

This month, we’re also taking a close look at a special kind of ceremony that’s helping Twin Cities mamas meet the challenges of motherhood with confidence.

It’s called a Mother Blessing. I love the idea of a Mother Blessing, especially for those mamas having a second or third child. They don’t need another baby shower to gather up gear. What they really need is love and support. And those are the hallmarks of these sweet ceremonies in which friends and family share small gifts, stories and wisdom, too.

A Mother Blessing celebrates and honors birth and motherhood.

And that is a beautiful thing.

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EXPLORE THE TWIN CITIES Traveling around Minneapolis-St. Paul just got a lot more fun! Kid Around Town, a new free app by Twin Cities app designer and mama Aneela Kumar, is a family-friendly travel guide to top destinations around the Cities, featuring virtual scavenger hunts, trivia questions, photo challenges and a variety of other city “missions.”

Developed for ages 6 to 12, the app encourages interactivity between kids, parents and their surroundings.

Kid Around Town boasts a motto of “Turn screen time into ‘explore the world’ time,” based on the idea that screens use among kids is inevitable, so it may as well be educational, too.

For example, if you accept a mission on the Wild Rumpus Bookstore page of the app, you’ll be asked to shake the phone to start: “Let’s see your skills, agent. Do five challenges to earn your passport stamp.” Photo challenges include things like: “Look up! Take a photo of what you see.” And “Are you taller than the purple door? Take a photo to check.” Multiplechoice trivia questions include: “Where can you find a sign that says ‘Incipiat Tumultus Saevus?’” and “Which book was the inspiration for the name of the store?”

The ultimate goal to play and explore together — kid around — as a family to create lasting memories. Learn more at kidaroundtown.com.

Meanwhile, Tom Weber, a host for Minneapolis Public Radio, is out with a new book encouraging local exploration — 100 Things to Do in the Twin Cities Before You Die. “A lot of times people hear about cool things and make that mental note, ‘I should do that some day,’” he said.

“When it comes time to think of things to do, they forget. I hope this is a way to have a list ready to go so the next time you’re sitting around wondering what to do, you just open the book.”

Indeed, families will find much to inspire them in the book, including the Mill City Museum and a hike near Minnehaha Falls.

Weber said he was surprised by how much fun he had at the museum.

“When you talk about a museum about flour, that sounds really boring. But it’s not — it’s awesome,” he said.

Learn more at facebook.com/100ThingsTC.

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Kid-friendly coffeehouse Southwest Bloomington isn’t exactly a hotbed for independent gourmet coffee.

But the newly established Mugshots Coffee Co. — at 10518 France Ave. S. — is a definite exception to that rule, serving locally roasted Dogwood Coffee (including espresso drinks as well as Chemex and Clever Dripper pour overs), local pastries and dairy products, kegs of probiotic kombucha and live music.

Mugshots — an urban-themed ministry extension of Hillside Church of Bloomington — is family friendly, too, with kid seating, grilled cheese sandwiches and other tot-friendly menu options. Learn more at mugshotscoffeeco.com.

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Postpartum survival 101 If someone offers to buy you a Stokke high chair, consider finding a tactful way to ask for the cash instead.

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ne day, you’re a woman with a job, a social life and the option of sleeping without interruption until your alarm goes off.

The next, you’re a mother, suddenly responsible for ensuring the well-being of a small human who can’t turn himself over or support his own head.

It’s beautiful and profound — but also pretty terrifying.

The postpartum period is a time of major transition — a gray zone where you’ll start to discover how to navigate the world with a new identity. The process can be a bit alienating.

For example, I remember visiting my coworkers when my daughter was about 6 weeks old. One guy, a father of two, asked me what had surprised me the most about parenthood so far.

There was an awkward pause as I stared at him blankly, unsure of what to say. Finally I blurted out, “I guess I never thought I’d have to be up all night, like, ALL NIGHT, every single hour, and that she’d be screaming the whole time.”

Uncomfortable silence followed until Father of Two broke it.

“For me, becoming a parent is what finally made me really appreciate everything my own parents did for me,” he announced. Everyone nodded in approval.

Now that some time has passed, I can see where he

was coming from — and yes, I have a new appreciation for my parents, too.

But when I was in the thick of the postpartum insanity, I wasn’t #countingmyblessings or #feelinggrateful. Instead, I was weeping with frustration when the supplemental nursing system broke. I was cursing every time another birth-related medical bill showed up in the mailbox.

I was taking it one day at a time, but in a “marchingto-your-own-downfall” kind of way.

But that was my experience. It’s different for everyone.

And I’m hopeful that others can enjoy a more peaceful journey in the early days of parenthood.

Here are some of my suggestions for strengthening your postpartum-survival skills.

⊲⊲Get money, as much as you can Are you familiar with the coded language of parenthood? Perhaps you’ve come across postpartum tips like this: “Forget the cute onesies — register for meal preparation, diaper services and housecleaning instead!”

Let’s cut to the chase. You had a baby, and you need money. Those baby wipes aren’t going to pay for themselves, right? If someone offers to buy you a Stokke high chair, consider finding a tactful way to ask for the cash instead.

⊲⊲Ask for help This is another one of those postpartum clichés. And it’s true — you will need help!

But what if you’ve been socialized to “not put people out”? What if there’s no one available to help?

I’d like to change the directive of “ask for help” to “jump at the opportunities.”

For example, if your friend offers to come over and hold the baby “sometime” to give you a break, say, “Yes! How about now/this afternoon/tomorrow morning?”

By reframing my neediness in this way, I was able to feel “empowered” about my need for a break (and less like a kitten trapped in a canyon).

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BABY STUFF

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Crinkle, jingle, squeak. Its 36 soft velour panels in nine vibrant colors are designed to engage a baby’s senses of sight, touch and sound. And it’s machine washable. eeboo.com

⊲⊲Find a good therapist No one wants to spend pregnancy thinking about the threat of depression or anxiety.

But the reality is that 15 percent of women will experience some form of pregnancyrelated depression or anxiety (this includes the prenatal period).

If this happens to you, treatment is key.

Consider asking around about therapists who specialize in pregnancy and childbirth. Think of it as insurance — you probably won’t need it, but if you do, you’ll be prepared. Go to ppsupportmn.org.

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⊲⊲Avoid jerks The postpartum period is an ideal time to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Competitive friends offering backhanded compliments, moony ex-boyfriends looking for an ego boost and judgmental sisters-in-law sharing their “advice” are all probably people you could do without.

Remember: If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

Shannon Keough lives in Minneapolis with her husband and two children.

Send questions or comments to skeough@mnparent.com.

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When Toddlers ask to ‘help’ P

erhaps the thought occurred to you with a sharp headache and a grimace, as your toddler sweetly asked, “Can I help?”

Maybe you were shamed when — at the neighborhood barbecue — a handful of other parents were already talking about allowance. What? Before potty training?

Sometimes the subject comes up when we’re faced with a sudden request: Can I have a dog? A turtle? A cockroach?

Something, anything living and breathing? Can you build me a sandbox? A vegetable garden? A lemonade stand?

We’re talking about chores, Toddler Parent.

Can your toddler handle the responsibility of a pet? A garden?

A lemonade stand? Can she HELP? (Please, Mommy!) And furthermore, should she help?

Toddlerhood is marked with rapid shifts between extreme neediness and declarations of independence — also frustration when these two vastly different needs aren’t pretty much met instantly.

They need you to do certain things for them … NOW. They crave competence, praise and involvement in the family’s daily activities.

And yet their abilities are limited, their skill sets untested.

⊲⊲So where to begin?

Let’s start with the bigger, murkier idea of “I want to help.”

When your toddler makes this proclamation, it’s usually in regards to the very adult task that’s distracting your attention from their unyielding cuteness.

They want to help make dinner, mow the lawn, build a campfire, iron clothes. These are the extremes, involving heat and heavy machinery, but you get the gist.

In these moments, you’re likely conflicted. I should let him be involved. I should teach and be patient. But by “help” your child means “make a mess and do it wrong and make it take twice as long.”

Let your mood be a barometer for the question of “help.”

Parking ticket, stressful workday and an older sibling with strep?

Not the day for you to accept help with flipping burgers on the grill. Mellow Sunday morning and the task is making banana bread? Sure!

It’s not a bad idea to have “diversion tasks” for your child to do along side your grown-up task. These “chores” aren’t bad for killing time on a rainy day, either. Some ideas include cleaning windows (with a plain water spray bottle), dusting with socks,

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brushing the cat, fluffing pillows, drawing a picture for Grandma or going on a trash hunt.

Use your imagination and put on your best “this is so important; you’re such a big girl” voice.

⊲⊲What else is appropriate?

If you want to take it a step further, with regular chores and responsibilities, there are some common age-appropriate duties for toddlers. Whether you offer allowance is up to you. Expectations that can be met by most 2- and 3-year-olds include: ⊲⊲Putting dirty clothes in the hamper ⊲⊲Helping put clothes in the washing machine ⊲⊲Putting clean clothes away ⊲⊲Weeding and watering plants ⊲⊲Pushing a Swiffer

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⊲⊲Feeding pets ⊲⊲Wiping up messes ⊲⊲Washing up after a meal ⊲⊲Picking up toys ⊲⊲Picking up books ⊲⊲Throwing trash away ⊲⊲Fetching diapers and wipes for a younger sibling ⊲⊲Showing a picture book to a younger sibling ⊲⊲Emptying the dishwasher (when free of sharps and breakables) ⊲⊲Making the bed

⊲⊲Know your kid One final word or two on the subject of toddler chores: Practice makes slightly less imperfect. Lower your expectations A LOT and then lower them still. The bed will not have boot-camp-level hospital corners; the Swiffer path will be haphazard at best.

But they’ll practice, get a little bit better and feel useful in the process — and build up their self-esteem, bit by bit.

Jen Wittes lives in St. Paul and is a mother of two. She’s helped many Twin Cities families in her work as a postpartum doula.

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How to help when a new baby arrives T

his month one of my very best friends is expecting her second child.

I’m so excited to meet this new little person, to hold a brand new baby, to curl the infant’s tightly clenched fingers around my index finger, to smell the top of his or her head, and then, to give the baby back to Mom and Dad and go home — to my full household with four growing-up children — where we all typically sleep through the night and everyone wears underwear.

I know the lives of my friends will change forever on their new little child’s birthday. It will be wonderful and hard at the same time. As we all know, parenting isn’t easy, but it can bring much joy, wonder and fulfillment. I’ll enjoy watching this new little person grow and change, and I’m eager to offer my support and friendship to the whole family along the way.

Now that my own children are growing older, I have

I know from experience, simple acts of kindness can make a big difference when a new baby joins a home.

a little more of myself to give to others who are welcoming babies into the world. I can pay forward the acts of kindness and support offered to my own family when my children were born to others who are expanding their families.

I know from experience, simple acts of kindness can make a big difference when a new baby joins a home. If you know someone who’s expecting, and you’d like to do something both kind and helpful, consider these suggestions:

⊲⊲Give food Offering meals is a classic and practical way to offer support to an expanding family. But, if you have your own young children at home, it can be hard enough to get a meal on your own table!

I suggest being a little creative. One of my favorite meals to give a new family is breakfast. We raise

SCHOOL-AGE STUFF

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Meanwhile, all the kids have varying levels of buckling skills and patience. MyBuckleMate (now available in bright red) holds buckle slots upright for easier clicking. Visit the site below to see if they’re compatible with your car. mybucklemate.com • $14.99 for two

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chickens, so I always have an extra dozen of fresh eggs on hand. Those accompanied by a loaf of nice bread and some homemade jam is always well received.

Muffins, quick breads or other healthful, sustaining snacks that can be enjoyed anytime of day are also ideal for overwhelmed families.

If you have the time, providing a full meal is always a wonderful gesture; however, do communicate with the family, so they aren’t overwhelmed with a freezer full of lasagnas.

When we had our last baby, a group of thoughtful friends coordinated a meal calendar to provide our family with suppers for a couple of weeks.

That thoughtfulness and genuine outreach of support from a community of friends meant so much, more than any material gift.

⊲⊲Share your time Attending to an older sibling — or even holding a baby while a new mama takes a shower — can be very helpful in those first few weeks of transition. Maybe you could offer to pick something up at the grocery store or run an errand for the family.

I know I appreciated some conversation with grown-ups either on the phone or during scheduled visits from friends when I was home on maternity leave.

⊲⊲Check in later, too Those first six weeks after bringing an infant home are tough. And often much of the support and attention comes in those first few weeks. But months 3, 24 and 62 can be just as challenging in different ways.

Wherever we are in our journey, let’s make a commitment to each other as parents to do what we can to support each other. Most of all, as parents, let’s do all we can to shower all children with love.

Megan Devine is an elementary school teacher and mother of four. She lives in Northeastern Minnesota. Write her at mdevine@mnparent.com and check out her blog at kidsandeggs.com.

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Sibling symbiosis A

s parents living in a digital age, many of us have thousands of pictures of our kids.

But among those many images, certain photos stand out — signature shots that somehow speak perfectly to how we remember our kids in certain stages.

They transport us back in time. I have several photos like this, and I can get lost in them if I look closely.

There’s my daughter at 18 months (angry in every picture taken by a special photographer we hired); another shows my son at 4, absolutely ecstatic, wearing his Sunday best for Easter.

And then there are the photos of the two of them together: Siblings.

One (above, left) shows my baby girl, wearing a big hat and resting in the crook of her big brother’s arm.

His goofy grin seems to say: This is my little sister. She looks almost solemn, but appears to feel safe and sound.

This, of course was only the beginning of their lifelong relationship. And it was a new phase for us as parents: When a second baby comes along, it’s hard to grasp

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how you’ll ever manage another child or how your family’s dynamics will change.

But things just evolve, naturally: There are times that one child needs you more than the other — or neither of them need you at all because they’ve found each other.

On the flipside, there are those times you feel one is too much to handle, and the other follows suit and becomes even more impossible than the first.

They easily learn how to argue with one another.

When they’re babies and toddlers, this may come in the form of screaming and crying, of course.

Every parent I know says there’s a one-of-a-kind special cry that only a sibling can inspire.

My daughter had a special happy squeal and bounce that was only for her brother. Now that they’re older, however — 11 and 14 — things have evolved again.

⊲⊲Where’s my playmate gone?

As a teen, my son has hit that stage where he comes home and the door to his room closes.

I’ve found my daughter roaming the house, bored and agitated because her playmate is gone.

I feel sad for her, because she knows he’s growing up.

Having been in his shoes as an older teen sibling myself, I know he needs his space.

I gently urge her to give him time, and I urge my son to pay attention to her once in a while.

I want them to be able to confide in one another, to have another support besides their parents as they grow

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When a second child comes along, it’s hard to grasp how you’ll ever manage another child or how your family’s dynamics will change.

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into adults.

But I often see more nitpicking about who fed the dog last.

⊲⊲Tween-teen connection Then they surprise me: There will be moments when he’s home before she is, waiting for her to jump on the trampoline with him.

They also have a special thing they do: He airplanes her like I did with them when they were babies. Inevitably, they thud heavily on the ground, their growing-up bodies way too big to be playing inside like that.

As they giggle and talk over each other, my eyes catch the recent photo of them on the wall (above, right).

She’s tucked into the crook of her big brother’s arm. He’s smiling goofily as if to say: This is my kid sister. And she’s smiling, too, because she feels safe.

I want to tell her it’s going to be OK: He isn’t going anywhere.

But the way they look at each other sometimes, I think she knows it already.

Jennifer Wizbowski lives in Excelsior.

Write her at jwizbowski@mnparent.com.

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Mom, how much money do we have?

R Money shouldn’t be a mystery, and the sooner kids learn to understand earning, spending and saving, the better.

ecently, my friend Jennifer was talking with her 7-year-old son, Jackson, about his allowance. She was introducing the spend-some, save-some, donatesome system, and he was excited about this step toward being a more responsible big kid.

Jennifer said the conversation was breezy yet earnest as they talked about what he liked to use his spending money on, what he might save for and what charity he might donate to.

She felt like a great parent. Then he asked how much money she made a week. And she told him.

Their positive discussion came to a halt. First Jackson was bewildered, then angry.

How could she make so much money and he make so little? Why is life so unfair?

As a freelance writer, I know just how Jackson feels.

But I digress.

I was impressed that Jennifer fessed up the number.

Not many parents would.

⊲⊲Unnecessarily secretive parents Interestingly, it seems that affluent parents in particular tend to avoid telling their children facts about their finances.

At least, those are the findings from a recent survey of affluent families conducted by Spectrem Millionaire Corner, which showed that just 17 percent of respondents said that they have or will share their income or net worth with their children by the time they’re 18.

New York Times money columnist Ron Lieber, who was given the opportunity to add questions to Spectrem’s survey, wrote about the findings this past June.

And the reasons that parents gave for not sharing the information were particularly interesting — 32 percent said simply, “It’s none of their business.”

Thirteen percent said they were worried how the information might affect their kids’ behavior (presumably they worried that kids would act

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spoiled or entitled), and another 9 percent said they worried about kids sharing family financial information with others.

Of course affluent families may have more complicated financial lives than those of us with a lower net worth or income, but these reasons for not being open about finances are, according to Lieber, counter-productive — and I think this line of reasoning holds true across income lines.

⊲⊲Why they need to know Take the No. 1 reason: “It’s none of their business.”

Actually, as a member of the family, it really is their business. It affects just about every part of their lives.

When we avoid our kids’ questions about our income, it makes money feel even more mysterious to them.

But money shouldn’t be a mystery, and the sooner kids learn to understand earning, spending and saving, the better. Not only do they learn about how their in-app purchases are costing real money, but they also can get a grounding in what it takes to make smart decisions about things like college loans and new cars.

Demystifying money doesn’t have to mean sitting down with your family budget and going through every expense. Another friend of mine recently pulled into a gas station with four kids on board and asked them all to predict how much it would cost to fill the tank.

Answers ranged from $2 to $15.

When it turned out the answer was $58, the astonished kids took their education even further by converting that figure into things they were more familiar with: How many packs of gum could you buy for that much money? How many bars of clay or crickets for the bearded dragon? How many tacos?

How many hours would you have to babysit to earn that much?

We can find little opportunities like this every day.

⊲⊲Honesty and financial realities The other reasons parents gave for not being truthful about their family’s finances — that they’re worried the information will affect their kids’ behaviors or that their kids will blab too much — may reveal some distrust.

Having an honest conversation with kids about our expectations for them as well as the sanctity of personal information would be healthier than withholding information.

As for my friend Jennifer, she’s since realized she’d missed an excellent opportunity to discuss how money’s spent with her son: He might’ve felt a lot less angry after he saw how her income disappears each month into taxes, mortgage, insurance, car payments and fun stuff for him and his sister like restaurants and movies.

Who knows, he might have felt a lot more appreciative of his mom’s hard work!

Eric Braun lives in Minneapolis.

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Starting solid foods When should we start our baby on solid foods?

I’ve heard everything from a few weeks to four months!

It’s not surprising that parents are confused about when to start solids, because clinicians are too! There’s evidence to wait until six months of age and evidence to start much earlier.

Organizations, such as the American Academy of Pediatrics and the World Health Organization, recommend exclusively breastfeeding until about 6 months of age because breast milk is nature’s perfect food.

Additionally, breast milk has amazing immuneprotective properties for infants, decreases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and is preventative against childhood obesity.

There’s also new evidence that formula-fed infants, who receive solids before 4 months of age, have a

How long is it safe to keep infant twins in the same crib?

Although it may seem harmless or even more natural to have twins in the same crib, this isn’t a practice endorsed by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

The reason for this is the increased risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Twins are often born prematurely or have low birth weights. Both of these are risk factors for SIDS. Additionally, an infant who is too warm (perhaps due to a twin’s body heat) is at risk for SIDS. And, physically, an infant may turn his or her head into a sibling’s body and be more at risk for airway obstruction.

If this is already your practice, however, as soon as one of your infants is able to roll over, they should definitely be separated.

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six-fold increase in the odds of being obese age 3.

On the other hand, the American Academy of Allergy Asthma and Immunology recommends introducing solids, even potentially highly allergenic solids like egg, soy, fish or peanut butter, by 4 to 6 months. Delaying introduction of these foods until 1 or 2 years of age may actually increase the risk of developing food allergies.

So, the best answer today is to offer your baby breast milk or formula, nearly exclusively, until about 6 months of age.

If parents desire to start solids earlier, between 4 to 6 months of age, they should look for readiness signs in their child — sitting up with minimal support, holding up his or her head and making chewing motions while watching you eat.

Offer little tastes off of your fingers (or off of theirs) using a single pureed fruit/vegetable or oatmeal. (Regular use of rice cereal remains unadvised due to concerns for arsenic. Learn more at aap.org.)

If you desire to start more highly allergic foods, talk to your infant’s clinician first.

Delaying solids until after 7 or 8 months of age comes with longterm risks for aversion of solids altogether.

How can we get our son, 4 months old, to sleep through the night? He’s still getting up every three hours.

Infant sleep training has many notable gurus, Dr. Sears and Dr. Ferber, to name a few, who have devised methods to encourage sleep.

The most important thing to recognize is that every baby is different and every parent has different tolerances for sleep training.

The key is setting sleep up for success from the very beginning: Create a bedtime routine that’s quieting and calming with feeding or gentle rocking.

Lay your infant down on his back, in his crib, before he’s completely asleep.

This will help him develop the skills needed to put himself to sleep.

Have realistic expectations for your infant. Many 4-month-old infants don’t sleep through the night.

Often, with the introduction of solids at 6 months of age, parents can expect longer sleep periods.

Dr. Gigi Chawla is a board-certified pediatrician and the senior medical director of primary care at Children’s Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota.

Take care of yourself, parents E

mma is a bright, witty, and creative 12-year-old, but she has trouble staying focused and would rather play in the backyard than do her homework. For Emma and her mother, Courtney, homework isn’t just a chore — it’s often a battle.

At age 6, Emma was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), one of the most common mental health disorders in children. Courtney had tried everything she could think of to help Emma, including medications, counseling and parenting-skills training.

Nothing seemed to help, and the girl had become increasingly difficult to deal with. She was constantly clinging to her mother, following Courtney around the house, and pestering her for what seemed like hours on end. Courtney grew more frustrated with each passing day.

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One afternoon, Emma refused to do her homework yet again, and Courtney lost it. In a moment of desperation, she yelled at Emma at full volume rather than using the techniques she had been taught.

“I had just reached my breaking point,” Courtney said. “I was so exhausted and stressed out and I didn’t know what to do to redirect her behavior. I sat down at the kitchen table and cried.”

While Courtney had worked tirelessly to create an action plan for Emma’s behaviors, she had missed another important step — taking care of herself.

Every parent needs to think of his or her own well-being as well as that of their child, and Courtney had left herself vulnerable to the stress of parenting a child with emotional and behavioral challenges.

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Here are four tips to help you make self-care a priority:

1. Acknowledge how important it is Running yourself ragged without taking a break is a recipe for illness and burnout, and can negatively impact your ability to care for your child. Taking regular time-outs will relieve stress, boost your mood and help you cope more effectively when your child’s behavior pushes you to the limits. Even Superwoman deserves a day off now and then.

2. Create an action plan Intense and challenging behavior can wear down even the most patient parents. That’s why it’s so important to create an action plan that you can turn to in moments of stress. Identify and practice strategies for staying calm, such as deep breathing, counting to 10 or listening to music.

3. Take regular time-outs

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4. Reach out for help When you’ve tried everything with your child, and nothing is working, it’s natural to feel frightened. This is when parents are most likely to resort to spur-of-the-moment actions, such as spanking or yelling. Decide ahead of time who’ll back you up when you’ve reached your limit, whether it’s a neighbor, friend or relative. It’s better to take a break than to do something that might escalate the behavior or hurt the parent-child relationship. © Disney. Reprinted with permission from Disney Online. All Rights Reserved. This article originally appeared on Babble.com and was published in partnership with The PACER Center, based in Minneapolis.

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2 cups frozen peas (one 10-ounce bag) 1 cup packed fresh parsley leaves 1/2 cup walnuts, toasted (see sidebar) 2/3 cup grated Parmesan, plus more for serving 3 garlic cloves, smashed and peeled 1/3 cup extra-virgin olive oil Coarse salt and ground pepper 12 ounces pasta

Cook 1 cup peas according to package instructions.

Combine cooked peas, parsley, walnuts, Parmesan, garlic and 1 tablespoon water in a food processor.

Pulse until a paste forms. With the machine running, slowly add oil, processing until blended.

Season with salt and pepper.

Cook pasta in a large pot of boiling salted water, according to package instructions, adding 1 cup of peas about 30 seconds before the end of cooking.

Reserve 1 cup pasta water; drain the pasta and peas.

Return the pasta and peas to the pot and toss with 3/4 cup pesto (reserve the remainder for another use), adding enough pasta water to create a sauce that coats the pasta.

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Serve pasta with more Parmesan.

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TOASTED WALNUTS For this pesto recipe, you can easily toast the walnuts one of two ways to add a lovely flavor to the dish.

On the stovetop: Heat shelled walnuts in a dry, heavy skillet over medium heat, stirring constantly, for about 1 to 2 minutes or until the nuts are a rich golden brown and smell toasted.

Move the walnuts to a plate or bowl to cool and sprinkle with optional salt.

Hint: Don’t chop or mince the walnuts before toasting.

In the oven (2 cups or more): Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

Arrange shelled walnuts on a cookie sheet in a single layer. Bake 8 to 10 minutes, checking frequently.

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By Sarah Dorison Babies love to read books! Here are some of our top picks, all new to bookstores in the past year, including engaging animals, photos of a real infant in action and a Minnesota twist on a timeless classic.

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You’ll find the same charming rhythm and rhyming of the Margaret Wise Brown original in this delightfully localized board book by a Minnesota author and father of three.

Canoes, snowshoes, hungry raccoons and more will take you and Baby to the north woods, where you’ll find “a rod and fish and Tater Tot dish,” “three fat walleyes eating rhubarb pies” and “little deer ticks and snacks on sticks.”

See who’s hiding behind the flaps in this interactive board book? Seven adorable animals appear from behind their paws (double flaps that all pull down). And, best of all, there’s surprise ending.

This set of four sturdy, accordion-format board books features more than 40 works by contemporary artists in four big, bold colors (red, green, yellow and blue).

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Vincent and the Night Babies love black and white, and this book delivers with lively drawings intertwined with images of a real baby boy, inspiring imagination, humor and whimsy on every page.

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Minnesota moms who aren’t able to produce their own breast milk are finding support, friendship and nourishing, natural milk for their babies.

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hen Betsy Batista found out she had cancer in 2014, the diagnosis was especially difficult as it meant she had to stop breastfeeding her 4-month-old daughter so that she could undergo chemotherapy.

“I was devastated,” the St. Louis Park mom said.

That’s when Batista’s doula told her about the possibility of donated milk: Mothers pump excess breast milk to be used in cases of health complications, adoption, the mother’s death, breastreduction surgery or low supply.

LIQUID GOLD For preemie babies in the hospital, the cost of breast milk, if it’s available, is covered by insurance or can be rolled into the cost of their care.

In most other situations, however, parents are on their own.

Batista’s baby was taking in 30 to 40 ounces of milk every day. At up to $6 an ounce from a milk bank, breast milk was prohibitively expensive.

Instead, Batista turned to a little-known network of local mothers who offered her excess milk — for free.

She reached out online through the Human Milk 4 Human Babies Facebook page to share her story and seek milk donations.

For the next eight months, she and her husband, DanMichael Batista, balanced the logistics of picking up, storing and preparing breast milk from other mothers to feed their growing daughter.

“I have no judgment either way, if someone wants to breastfeed or use formula,” Batista said. “I personally felt strongly about breastfeeding her for one year, and I was physically unable to provide that milk myself. Other people were. It was a huge blessing.”

GETTING PAST DOUBTS Nicole Stecker, 38, the doula who introduced Batista to milk donation, became a donation recipient herself after breast-reduction surgery.

“Some moms are blessed with an oversupply, and they don’t know what to do with it. They just dump it down the drain. I’m so passionate about educating people that donation is an option,” said Stecker, a certified birth doula, Lamaze-certified childbirth educator and certified lactation counselor.

“I’ve had 10 milk mamas, as we call them,” said Stecker, a 38-year-old Minneapolis mother of three, who is also pursuing her master’s degree in nursing. “They feel so happy to be able to give to another baby.”

After having some initial doubts, Stecker’s husband, Dan, 39, is now a staunch supporter of milk donation.

“It worked out really well,” he said. “It’s definitely different, but it’s important. It was an educated, informed decision.”

IMPORTANT FOR PREEMIES For babies born prematurely, donated milk is especially crucial when birth mothers can’t provide enough milk through breastfeeding or pumping.

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↑↑Nicole Stecker of Minneapolis milk does, nor does it include became a breast-milk donation any of the necessary growth recipient after breastfactors, hormones or immunoreduction surgery. Ten different logical components of human local women — “milk mamas” milk,” said Mark Spitzack, who she found on her own, including a NICU nurse — have helped her coordinates perinatal and provide breast milk for her son, pediatric support projects at Knox, since his birth. Photo By Abbie Burgess the University of Minnesota Masonic Children’s Hospital.

The hospital is the first in the Twin Cities (and one of just 170 in the country) to receive a designation from the Baby-Friendly Hospital Initiative, a global program to encourage breastfeeding in hospitals and beyond.

Spitzack said formula, which is made from cow’s milk, can be hard on preemies’ stomachs.

“They especially benefit from human milk,” Spitzack said. “The more I learn about breast milk, the more moved I am by its power to nurture and heal these fragile little ones. It’s liquid gold for those preemies. It’s magic.”

The University of Minnesota Medical Center used to run a

milk-donation program, which started back in 2006, but financial, logistical and contractual challenges prevented the program from continuing.

The medical center purchases milk from the Mothers’ Milk Bank with the Rocky Mountain Children’s Health Foundation in Denver and from the Mother’s Milk Bank of Iowa at University of Iowa Children’s Hospital.

Both organizations are part of the Human Milk Banking Association of North America.

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FINDING, TESTING MILK Unlike milk sharing — a grassroots movement among mothers to share their bounty — milk banking is a more formal process.

Parents who want to obtain pasteurized milk for their own babies can contact the Human Milk Banking Association to see if one of its member milk banks has some available for a fee, Spitzack said.

Milk banks screen donors and test for bacteria and other pathogens in milk, which is pasteurized or sterilized. The risk of disease transmission is low, but bacteria could be present in donated milk, Spitzack said.

Alcohol, caffeine and certain prescription drugs can enter breast milk, so it’s important to know what donors are using.

In informal milk sharing between individuals, there’s some evidence that free milk (versus milk for a price, especially a high price) can reduce the risk of low-quality milk. (As a courtesy, however, recipients often offer to replace the expensive bags milk is stored in.)

To lessen the risks associated with informal milk sharing, recipients of donated milk can request medical testing from potential donors and ask about lifestyle, medications and pumping habits.

Batista felt secure with her choice since all her milk-sharing donors were

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LIQUID GOLD forthright in sharing their health information, she said.

Stecker points out that her donor, a NICU nurse, feeds her own baby with the same milk that she donates.

“It’s mom-to-mom trust,” Stecker said.

Stecker’s pediatrician is supportive and believes that the benefits of breast milk outweigh any potential risks.

MEETING DONORS For Megan Tardiff of Minneapolis, age 41, having a personal connection with her donor helped ease her concerns.

Her main donor, 33-year-old Anna Chang of St. Paul, had an oversupply of milk for her 3-pound baby after a C-section delivery.

The women had met in prenatal yoga classes and both had received care at Health Foundations Family Health & Birth Center in St. Paul, which also happens to run Mama Latte, a breast-milk donation center.

The pair bonded over their new babies and milk sharing, and their friendship has far outlasted their six-month milk-sharing arrangement.

Their sons are now 3½, and the women are still close.

“We needed to find each other, and we did,” Tardiff said. “I think that’s one of the pieces that came out of this — to see how mamas rally around other mamas. I have a new tribe.”

LOW SUPPLY, HIGH DEMAND In Minnesota and nationwide, there’s a shortage of milk donors. The high cost of milk at milk banks is due in part to

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its scarcity.

An estimated 4 percent of the need for human donor milk is being met in the U.S., Spitzack said.

As far as free donations go, it’s like “piranhas” out there, Stecker said of the competition for donated milk: “Everyone is begging for milk. It’s so sad.”

Chang said donating surplus milk had special benefits for her: It gave her a welcome outlet in a difficult post-partum time.

“It helped me contribute to the outside world, which I needed,” she said.

Spitzack said some families have a “yuck-factor” reaction when they first hear about the trend of using donated milk.

“The funny thing is we don’t hesitate to give babies milk from cows,” he said. “We’re the only species that routinely gives milk from another species to our young. When a cat feeds an orphan squirrel, it makes the news.”

HARD WORK, BUT WORTH IT

↑↑Anna Chang of St. Paul (left) had an oversupply of milk for her 3-pound baby after a C-section delivery. Megan Tardiff of Minneapolis was one local woman who gratefully accepted Chang’s surplus milk for her son — and the two have become close friends.

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Batista, now 29, celebrated two milestone accomplishments this year — the end of cancer treatment and, through the “sheer generosity” of informal milk-sharing donors, getting her baby to 12 months old exclusively on breast milk.

“I want others to know that this is an option. It is possible. It’s hard work, but it’s worth it,” she said.

Batista shares her message of gratitude to donors and potential donors: “You can be such a blessing in somebody’s life. These women fed my baby when I couldn’t. It can feel like a failure to not be able to feed your own baby. “(Milk donation) made me feel like I was doing right by her.”

Abbie Burgess is a Twin Cities freelance writer.

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Both the Ohio and Iowa banks pasteurize, test, bottle and distribute milk to infants in need. Women who don’t live close to a milk-collection site can ship the milk from home.

Most immunologic and nutritional components of human milk remain intact after pasteurization, said Dr. Amy Johnson-Grass, a naturopathic doctor, who founded Mama Latte six years ago.

“It’s pretty cool what women have to offer other women,” said Johnson-Grass, who is also the owner and executive director of the Health Foundations birth center.

“It’s a huge community.”

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There are currently two for-profit or public-benefit corporations in the U.S. that test, pasteurize or sterilize, and do more extensive processing of the milk to engineer it into fortifiers for infants in hospitals around the country. Those include Prolacta Bioscience and Mother’s Milk Cooperative.

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Baby Jack of Minneapolis was photographed when he was 5 months old.

Though his father was at his side, supporting him for this photo, he was digitally removed in Photoshop to create the final photo. “He was a little unsteady sitting solo,� said photographer Rana Leonhardi, an advocate for safety measures in newborn and infant photography.

Shutter safety GETTING AMAZING SHOTS OF YOUR NEWBORN SHOULD INVOLVE IMPORTANT PRECAUTIONS TAKEN

BY A PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER

Story and photos by Rana Leonhardi

A newborn baby. Tiny fingers, perfect little nose, ittybitty feet, fuzzy little hairs and that delicate, oh-so-soft skin. A newborn photography session truly is a once-ina-lifetime opportunity to document all those tiny details.

It’s the very beginning of your child’s story, and she’ll never look the way she does right now, during those first two weeks of her life.

Because of the significant amount of changes a baby goes through during life’s early stages, I believe the best time to photograph a newborn is between 6 and 10 days old.

This is when babies are still sleepy and naturally curly.

Because this window is rather short, you shouldn’t wait until the last minute to find a photographer.

Selecting the right person to photograph your newborn is critical, not just because you want beautiful pictures, but also for the safety of your child.

There are things that can go wrong if you don’t hire someone who’s trained in handling newborns.

Injuries such as dislocated hips or shoulders, pulled elbows, burns, abrasions and even tetanus are some of the injuries that untrained photographers have accidentally inflicted on newborns. Accidental overextension of a baby’s airway is another risk as it can potentially cause partial or complete airway collapse.

Don’t rush into finding just anyone. Take the time to carefully research who you hire.

Although deciding on the right photographer for your newborn is a very important decision, it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Follow these important steps:

Shutter safety Hire a specialist For the safety of your infant, I recommend you hire someone who specializes in newborn photography — especially if you’re interested in special poses and props.

Photographers who specialize in newborn portraiture should have portfolios of newborn photography on their websites — and they should be familiar with the safety principles common in working with infants.

Check references Find out what clients of your prospective photographers are saying online. If a company doesn’t have any newborn photography reviews, use caution.

Look them up on the Minnesota Secretary of State’s website (sos.state. mn.us) to see if they’re licensed to operate their business in Minnesota.

Professionals who are serious about their business will take the time to obtain proper licensing.

Having a licensed business speaks volumes about the level of their professionalism and offers credibility to their business.

I wouldn’t hire a photographer who was operating illegally, just as I wouldn’t visit an unlicensed physician.

After you’ve selected a couple potential photographers who meet the criteria, it’s time to make the call.

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↑↑To create this image of newborn Cameron Dodd of St. Paul, photographer Rana Leonhardi had the father pose his hands around the child, who was lying on a black fleece blanket (top photo). Baby Cameron was never lifted in the air to create the final shot (bottom).

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Shutter safety Questions to ask Of course there are likely other questions you’ll want to ask unrelated to safety, but these are the key safety questions to ask:

⊲⊲ How do you control temperature in the studio and how warm will it be?

Since newborns cannot regulate their body temperature, the studio should be kept at about 80 degrees to ensure baby doesn’t get cold. Space heaters are a good choice, if they aren’t placed too close to baby.

I always keep a close eye on babies throughout their session. I watch for signs of being too cold (blue, purple, patchy or mottled skin) or too hot (flushed red skin that’s hot to touch) and adjust the heat as necessary.

⊲⊲ How do you keep an eye on circulation?

It’s really easy for a newborn’s circulation to be cut off.

Being watchful of hands and feet turning a deep red or purple is a sign that they need to be moved.

⊲⊲ What types of injuries can result from improperly handling newborns and how do you avoid them?

Many injuries (dislocation of hips, shoulders and pulled elbows) are caused by pulling on the legs, arms and wrists of a newborn.

To avoid these types of injuries, I gently scoop the legs into position rather than pulling them into position and I avoid tugging or pulling on limbs. Burns can be avoided by placing space heaters a safe distance from baby and abrasions can be avoided by using safe props.

Overextension of the airway is another avoidable injury.

Photographers should make sure the head and neck are never pulled too far forward, and they should keep weight off of the neck during certain poses.

⊲⊲ Do you create images from composites?

Many final images of newborns are careful composites of multiple images layered together in Photoshop, with the hands of the person holding or supporting the baby virtually removed.

↑↑Many professional photos of newborns — take, for example, these shots of Henry Odegaard of Coon Rapids — are composites of multiple images layered together in Photoshop: Hands of the person holding the baby are erased. When hiring a photographer, be sure to ask about these safety measures.

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Certain poses should always be composites in my opinion and the only truly safe way to achieve these certain poses. Babies should never hang in slings, hold their chins up independently or be held precariously high in a parents’ hands.

When done correctly, beautiful composite photography is the result of painstaking and careful editing work by

the photographer after the session, and is the only way to ensure your baby’s safety.

⊲⊲ How do you select props?

The list of adorable things you can fit a baby into is seemingly endless, but it’s really important that the props being used are safe. When I’m out shopping for props, I look for items that aren’t made of glass and that don’t have sharp edges.

Rusty props are rustic and charming, but tetanus isn’t. So I’ll specifically purchase props that are made to look old, but aren’t.

I also like to purchase props that won’t be top heavy, which could cause them to fall over when a baby’s weight is added.

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⊲⊲ How do you ensure my baby’s safety when using props?

While newborns aren’t super mobile, they can flex their legs and project themselves forward and flip out of props if the photographer isn’t careful.

Using weights is one of the tricks I use in my studio to make sure that a prop doesn’t become top heavy when baby is placed in it. Combining safe props and weights with a spotter’s hands (either an assistant or parent) is the only way to make sure that a baby is safe in a prop. A spotter’s hands would only be removed from the baby for the one 250th of a second that it takes to release the shutter or, sometimes, not at all. The spotter’s hands are then virtually removed in Photoshop.

⊲⊲ How much time does a session take?

The time it takes shouldn’t be determined by the clock, but rather by your baby’s unique needs. Your baby’s comfort and safety are the top priorities. I often take several hours when my little clients need it, and the great photographers out there will be willing to take the time necessary.

Rana Leonhardi is a mother and the owner of Rana Leonhardi Photography. She’s a member of the International Association of Newborn Photographers. Learn more at ranaleonhardiphotography.com.

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FOLLOW THESE STRATEGIES TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR PARENTS (AND YOUR SPOUSE’S PARENTS) — NOW THAT YOU’RE A PARENT YOURSELF

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By Corey Butler

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ho doesn’t love a room full of new toys?

Parents. That’s who.

Whether you’re an expecting parent, a new parent or are already knee-deep in diapers and Disney-princess dresses, there’s a surprising challenge that can sometimes arise: Grandparents.

In most cases, Nana and Pop just want to share a little extra love with their grandchildren. But, in some scenarios, they can overstep their boundaries, whether it’s by offering unneeded — or outdated — advice or sending little Jayden

home hopped up on a sugar rush rivaled only by King Candy from Wreck-It Ralph.

So, in the interest of helping you find that common ground with the grandparents in your life, we talked to Katie Miller, a wise Minneapolis mother of two, and Maggie Klefsaas, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Washburn Center of Children, to compile a list of tips to take to the grandparents in your life.

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SURVIVING GRANDPARENTS

Focus on intent When grandparents swoop in with suggestions or advice, it often leads to new parents defensively feeling like they’re doing it wrong. Remember that parents instinctively try to help their children.

So, when Nana asks, “Are you sure the baby isn’t hungry?,” her intent isn’t to second-guess your abilities as a parent. She’s trying to find a way to help you in this journey of parenthood.

If the advice feels overwhelming, feel free to say, “Thanks for your opinion. I’ll think about it.”

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Communicate ‘house rules’

When grandparents come over, casually verbalize your routine or “house rules” by explaining, “We’re trying to sleep-train, so we may hear some crying tonight.” Or, “We’re still breastfeeding and haven’t introduced a bottle yet.”

Communicate your parenting techniques to grandparents preemptively — presenting a united front with your partner — with the hope they’ll respect your boundaries.

If they don’t, ask your partner to support you in having a conversation with the grandparents. Explain to Grandma and Grandpa that you know they’re coming from a place of love, but it’s important to you and your spouse that they support your parenting decisions.

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Ask for help

Parenting a newborn can be exhausting, overwhelming and emotional. Grandparents can be an important support system for you, allowing you to run errands or even take a nap while they coo over their new grandbaby.

It’s OK to lean on them, but not too much. They have their own lives and may not be able to make you and your children the center of their universe.

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Spoiling is spoiling

When the kids get too much of a good thing from a grandparent, it’s OK to let the incident slide, but have a conversation with them about future “treating.”

Explain your reasoning and what you plan to do if it occurs again. For example, in this day and age, when multiple Christmases are common, explain that not only is it overwhelming to have three or four Christmas celebrations — complete with stockings and piles of gifts in one day — but that you also don’t have the need or space for the toys. You can explain that you’re also trying to start new traditions of your own.

Another strategy is to decide that each child should receive one toy from each side of the family. Any others will be donated. That will help make each present more important and thoughtful. It may also make the day less overwhelming for the grandchildren.

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Show appreciation

Try to notice when grandparents are right — and when you find their wisdom comforting.

Positive reinforcement can go a long way in making grandparents feel honored, respected and wanted.

Keep in touch with them and affirm their efforts. After all, grandparenting can often be as demanding and exhausting as parenting.

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Sometimes Gigi and PopPop, especially if they’re the caregiver of a child 3:20 PM or children during the day, can be lenient with candy, ice cream and the like — very lenient.

You may find yourself asking specifically what was given so that you’re not fooled into allowing another treat that same day (those little teeth!).

Especially if your children are young, you may need to rely on the grandparents for the truth.

However, as your kids get a little older and, dare we say, more conniving, they may know how to work the situation to their benefit. Seek the truth from the outset and avoid issues later.

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Word expectations positively Instead of using “Weekdays aren’t great for guests,” try, “We would love to see you this weekend.”

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Be clear about your needs When talking or venting to grandparents, be clear with what you would like from them.

Say: “Right now, I just need you to listen,” or, “What would you do in this situation?”

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Vary roles as needed

It’s important to realistically define the role each grandparent can play in a child’s life.

One grandparent might fit perfectly into your lives and parenting style. Another might be someone you feel isn’t equipped to care for your kids properly.

Not all grandparents have good decisionmaking skills — or the physical strength and speed required to restrain a toddler in unsafe situations or care for a cranky infant when things get stressful.

That may mean one grandparent will see your child every week, while another might visit monthly and take on different activities for different durations.

It’s OK to have different rules for different grandparents. Grandparents should respect that you’ve set a structure for how you want to raise your children. If they don’t, you can always redefine their role by limiting time with the grandchildren. Be confident and stick by the rules you’ve created.

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Be flexible and empathize

Remember they’ve been excited to become grandparents and “spoil the kids” for a long time.

Be flexible while still maintaining your limits and expectations.

Empathize with the grandparents.

They’re no longer in control as parents, and they’re adjusting to their new roles, too.

Corey Butler lives in Northfield with his wife and two children.

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Instead of giving gear and gifts, attendees of a Blessing Way offer encouragement, caring and support.

Showered

By Jen Wittes

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his is my favorite, favorite thing to do,” said doula Sarah Longacre, owner of Blooma Yoga, as she invited Minneapolis mom-to-be Mia Como to take the center seat in the circle of women gathered for her Mother Blessing.

“It’s different than anything else we do at Blooma — and different than anything we do in the United States — to celebrate moms,” Longacre said.

The Mother Blessing, also called a Blessing Way, is a ritual with roots in Navajo tradition and has become a popular alternative to, if not a supplement to, the traditional American baby shower.

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with love

Second, third or fourth baby? A Blessing Way is a special way to celebrate a pregnancy and motherhood — without dragging your friends and family through yet another baby shower.

Instead of giving registry gifts, attendees of the Blessing Way give love, wisdom and support.

Each one is different Every ceremony takes on its own tone and style, depending on the woman being celebrated, Longacre said.

Some Mother Blessings are brief, while others are long and elaborate. Some feel a little like a

↑↑Mia Como of Minneapolis is honored during a Blessing Way ceremony at Blooma in Minneapolis. Also known as a Mother Blessing, the ritual has become a popular alternative — or supplement — to the traditional American baby shower.

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Showered with love “girls night.” Others are more ritualistic and earthy with belly painting and meditation.

One thing that all Blessing Ways have in common is they occur during the last 30 days of pregnancy and offer a symbolic ushering in of motherhood — traditionally around the 9th or 10th full moon of gestation.

Como’s night was one of ritual and celebration, intimacy and sweetness, complete with candlelight, flowers, chocolate, lemonade and wine.

Wishes and wisdom

The ceremony started with an honoring of the many women who’d given birth before in the participant’s families.

Each woman took a turn to light a candle for her own ancestors and elders, announcing her lineage in a specific way: “I am ____, the great-granddaughter of ____, the granddaughter of ____, the daughter of ____ and the mother of ____.”

Those candles, which were kept burning throughout the ceremony, would also be lit for Mia during her birth, in the homes of her women friends and family members.

Later, the guests each took turns giving Mia a bead, which they’d been told in advance to bring. With each bead, each woman shared her advice, hopes, wishes and wisdom.

One friend presented a string of turquoise, Mia’s favorite; her former roommate — a pastry chef — gave her a cupcake-shaped bead.

Each story brought long laughs and free-flowing tears, leaving a feeling in the room of a life well lived and a strong support team for the next phase — parenthood.

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I was supported enough to feel like I could do anything, including cry and acknowledge my fear — when it began to creep in — and move beyond it when I was ready.

— Mia Como of Minneapolis, honored at a recent Blessing Way

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Moving toward the birth

↑↑Levon Oliver Como was born to Mia Como and her husband, Jessen, a few weeks after her Blessing Way ceremony at Blooma in Minneapolis.

Photo by Kris Drake Photography / The beads, which, in a sense, krisdrakephotography.com held both the history and the promise of support, were strung into a birth necklace for Como to wear or hold during labor.

The ceremony closed with a light yoga meditation and a simple lullaby for the baby: “I am opening up to the sweet surrender of the beautiful baby in my womb.”

The night ended with more laughter, snacks and wine, mingling and making plans.

Levon Oliver Como was born a few weeks later to Mia and her husband, Jessen. Longacre was the doula and made sure the birth necklace, as well as the strength and wisdom generated by the Blessing Way, were on hand, even as the family’s plans changed from a natural experience at a birth center to induction at the hospital.

“I kept that necklace close by me for my labor and Levon’s birth and felt the love, support and strength of those women surrounding me,” said Como said. “I was supported enough to feel like I could do anything, including cry and acknowledge my fear — when it began to creep in — and move beyond it when I was ready.”

Como said the Blessing Way was an extremely powerful and humbling experience for her.

“I don’t think I realized how lonely pregnancy feels until I stepped into that room filled with women whom I love and trust and who support me so strongly,” she said. “It was full of joy and memories and wishes that I didn’t realize would be so important until I heard them.”

‘Forgive yourself’

A shared sentiment throughout Como’s ceremony, birth and the early days of Levon’s life was, “Forgive yourself.”

It’s a message many moms need to hear: It’s OK to make parenting mistakes and crucial to go easy on yourself when you do.

The Blessing Way was an exercise in acknowledging vulnerability and a first step toward asking for and accepting help as a new parent.

Of course, a hearts-and-flowers or earth-mama moon-dance style of Mother Blessing isn’t for everyone.

In fact, Longacre encourages individuality in planning each Mother Blessing, stressing that it’s important to create your own rituals and be guided by our own comfort levels and preferences.

Though Blooma provides a beautiful space and expert knowledge of the Mother Blessing tradition (guided ceremonies start at $300), many women host these ceremonies in their own homes.

Activities might include rock painting, love letters, maybe even Truth or Dare.

The point of a Mother Blessing is not to hone in on the latest baby monitor or nipple cream, but rather, to create a culture of love and support, not just during pregnancy and childbirth, but also throughout early parenthood and beyond.

Jen Wittes lives in St. Paul and is a mother of two. She’s helped many Twin Cities families in her work as a postpartum doula. Send questions or comments to jwittes@mnparent. com.

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We tested two of the products and the results were impressive: Though we can’t confirm anything on a microscopic level, we loved the scrubbing power of the Kitchen Glove (especially on the stainless steel cooktop) as well as the streak-free drying action of the Kitchen Marvel (ideal on granite).

We also liked the idea of using about 100 fewer paper towels every day. Also, these products never seemed to get that funky kitchen stink that’s so common with cotton cloths.

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A high-quality, NAEYC accredited Christianbased preschool/childcare serving families at ten metro locations, offering affordable/ flexible full and half-day schedules for children ages 6 weeks–5 years old. Fouryear-degreed teachers engage the “wholechild” in welcoming, stimulating classrooms designed to meet the needs of young children.

"Giving Children The World." Serving ages 16 months–8 years. Full-day options and summer camps available. Infant classes available with parent or caregiver. Native Spanish speaking teachers. Call or email to schedule a tour today!

3770 Bellaire Ave White Bear Lake 651-762-7884 ladcfamilies.org

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Think Small Minnesota’s leading voice for early childhood.

Advancing quality care and education in the crucial early years. Resources on how to find quality child care, what to do if you need help affording child care, tips for school readiness, and more.

St Paul Office: 10 Yorkton Ct, St. Paul Minneapolis Office: 2021 East Hennepin Ave Suite 250, Minneapolis 651-641-0305 thinksmall.org

Fitness The Little Gym of Edina The Little Gym is a non-competitive gymnastics facility that offers classes for children between the ages of four months and 12 years old. We offer gymnastics classes, dance classes, parent-child classes, and sports classes. If you have kids, we have options.

8223 Hwy 7, St. Louis Park 952-924-0083 thelittlegym.com/edinamn

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Visit narimn.org or call 612-332-6274 to find a NARI-certified professional for your next remodeling project or to become a NARI member.

The NARI logo is a registered trademark of the National Association of the Remodeling Industry. ©2008 NARI of Minnesota.

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BABY RESOURCE GUIDE Mom & Baby BabyLove BabyLove offers Lamaze and Express birth classes, baby and breastfeeding classes, prenatal yoga, car seat inspections, lactation counseling, and birth doula services. Experience our caring, welcoming environment where the focus is helping you have a safe and healthy birth and become a confident parent.

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Other Engelmeier & Umanah, P.A. A unique law firm dedicated to legal planning for parents and families through unique systems designed for the well-being and care of your most precious asset — your children.

We design plans that are reflective of your changing lives and assets.

706 Second Ave S #100 Minneapolis 612-455-7720 e-ulaw.com

Help Me Grow MN Young children grow, learn and change all the time. Keep track of the developmental milestones your child reaches. If you have concerns about your child’s development, talk to your doctor or refer your child by calling or visiting our website.

1-866-693-4769 helpmegrowmn.org

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Pacifier An urban baby + kid boutique offering gifts, clothing (up to size 12 years), toys + gear. Visit us online at pacifier.me for free shipping on orders over $50, or at one of our 3 metro locations.

Northeast Minneapolis: 612-623-8123 Downtown Minneapolis: 612-767-6330 50th & France in Edina: 952-767-6565 pacifier.me

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↑↑Erica Barnes cuddles with her daughter Chloe, who passed away at age 2 due to metachromatic leukodystrophy, a terminal degenerative neural disease.

LOSING

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A Hopkins family’s journey of love and loss has put them on a mission to help other children with rare diseases

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LOSING

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↑↑Eva and Chloe Barnes play six weeks before Chloe passed away at age 2 due to metachromatic leukodystrophy, a terminal degenerative neural disease.

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the last five years I’ve struggled to find a label for myself.

I like definitions for things.

Labels are comforting and secure.

I often feel if I could just find a word that describes the person I’ve become since losing my daughter I would somehow be able to own that title and act the way a whatever-the-word-is acts.

I once heard a person say that we can find titles for all kinds of loss. A woman who loses her husband is a widow. A man who loses his wife is a widower. A child who loses his or her parents is an orphan.

But, the argument goes, the loss of a child is so deep and painful that humanity hasn’t been able to find a word for it.

Maybe that’s true. The thought resonated with me when I first heard it. But, in the years since losing Chloe, I’ve come to a different conclusion for why we haven’t found a special title for a person who loses a child.

Dreams dashed Chloe was a spunky, beautiful, curly headed 2-year-old with a life of breathless wonder ahead of her. My husband and I had already woven more hopes and dreams for her future than I could count.

When she was diagnosed with a terminal degenerative neural disease and only a slim chance of a cure, my husband and I did

what any young parents would do for their baby: We fought like hell to save her life (or ensure she would live with the best quality of life possible) and adjusted our expectations as best we could.

With every new piece of nightmarish diagnosis, we tried to shift our parental paradigm to what her future would look like.

My God, Chloe may not be able to dance at her own prom. I just want her to be able to walk with a walker. OK, I just want her to be able to walk AT ALL. What? The disease may cause intellectual impairment? I just want her to graduate high school. I just want her to be able to talk a little, maybe express her basic wants and needs.

I just want my baby to live. I just want my baby to die without too much pain.

Saying goodbye The week that Chloe lay in hospice, I packed up all but a few of her clothes, toys and furniture and took them to a center that houses mothers struggling with addiction.

It was one of the most difficult things I’d done since hearing Chloe’s diagnosis, metachromatic leukodystrophy. I took down the tiny, new coat she had never even worn, hugged it against me and wept.

I’d bought her the coat ahead of winter. This is what parenting is.

Countless acts of caring for our children. Tangible acts of love and care. Thinking ahead for them. But how would this little coat accomplish the purpose I as a parent had

LOSING

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↑↑Chloe Barnes, who passed away at age 2 due a terminal degenerative neural disease, inspired her parents to found the Chloe’s Fight Rare Disease Foundation in 2014.

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Promising to do good A couple of days before Chloe died, Philip and I sat beside her bed and made one of the most sacred promises of our lives. We promised her that we would do all of the good in the world we were meant to do as well as all the good she would’ve done if she’d lived.

This promise has been a driving force in our lives ever since and has solidified choice after choice for us. While it requires honesty on our parts and constant reassessing of our own emotional health to stay grounded, it’s our new parenting paradigm.

In 2014, Philip and I founded Chloe’s Fight Rare Disease Foundation with a mission of funding research that finds cures for rare and underfunded diseases such as metachromatic leukodystrophy.

And we’re making progress: Researchers at the University of Minnesota soon will be starting a research project covering lysosomal storage diseases such as metachromatic leukodystrophy, thanks to a $15,000 donation from Chloe’s foundation.

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I knew the hard answer in this new existence of mine — by being worn by a little girl who needed it. Chloe was no longer that child; and I knew in my heart of hearts that stubbornly keeping it wouldn’t be for her anymore. That day, a journey to find a new way to parent Chloe began.

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CHLOE’S FIGHT 5K TOGA RUN Help raise funds for Chloe’s Fight Rare Disease Foundation with the Chloe’s Fight 5K Toga Run/Family Walk and Kid’s Toga Race around Lake Calhoun.

All proceeds from the event, held in partnership with the three-day Taste of Greece festival, will benefit CFRDF and its mission. Event highlights include a Best Toga Contest, a kid’s toga race and a Greek-themed photo booth. Chloe’s parent’s, Erica and Philip Barnes, founded CFRDF in honor of their daughter in 2014.

When: Sept. 11 Where: Minneapolis Cost: $10–$30 registration fee Info: chloesfight.org

end of the day we can lay our heads down on our pillows and call ourselves what we all want to be called — good parents.

If — when — a cure for metachromatic leukodystrophy is discovered, I won’t care one bit if my name is never mentioned, even if I’ve had a part in it.

Somehow Chloe will know, and I will have done my job for her.

You see, parenthood doesn’t end when your child dies.

I am and ever will be the mother of Chloe Sophia Barnes.

So, back to the assertion that society cannot find a word for a person who has lost a child: I believe society has a word.

The word is “parent.”

Erica Barnes lives in Hopkins with her husband, Philip, daughter, Eva, and son, Cade. She blogs at huffingtonpost.com/erica-barnes.

Learn more about Chloe’s Fight Rare Disease Foundation at chloesfight.org.

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Cinderella ⊲⊲Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella, a 2013 Tony Award-winning Broadway musical, kicks off the Broadway on Hennepin season. More than just a pretty face with the right shoe size, this Cinderella is a contemporary figure living in a fairytale setting.

This hilarious and romantic production is geared toward adults, but is appropriate for ages 5 and older.

When: Sept. 8–13 Where: Orpheum Theatre, Minneapolis

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Minnesota State Fair ⊲⊲The Great Minnesota Get-Together is one of the largest and best-attended expositions in the world, attracting nearly 1.8 million visitors every year, showcasing Minnesota’s finest agriculture, horticulture, art and industry, plus carnival rides, games, live music and food vendors aplenty.

When: Through Sept. 7 Where: Minnesota State Fairgrounds, St. Paul Cost: Advanced tickets start at $10.

Daily gate admission is $13 for ages 13–64; $11 for ages 5–12 and 65 and older; and free for ages 4 and younger. Kids days with reduced rates

Cost: Seats start at $39.

Info: cinderellaonbroadway.com or hennepintheatretrust.org

of $8 include Aug. 31 and Sept. 7.

Info: mnstatefair.org

Renaissance Festival ⊲⊲King Henry and his court invite one and all to his 16th-century European village, featuring 12 stages of musicians, magicians, jugglers and mimes, including more than 500 engaging memorable characters. More than 250 artisans fill the festival marketplace to create a unique shopping experience. Themed weekends include Oktoberfest, Highland Fling, Shamrocks & Shenanigans and more.

When: Weekends through Oct. 4, plus Monday, Sept. 7 (Labor Day) and Friday, Oct. 2

Where: Rural Shakopee Cost: $22.95; $13.95 for ages 5 to 12.

Advanced tickets are $11.50–$19.95.

Buy online or at local stores to avoid lines at the event.

Info: renaissancefest.com

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adaptation of the critically acclaimed film, is recommended for grades 3 and older.

When: Sept. 1–Oct. 11 Where: Children’s Theatre Company, Minneapolis Cost: Tickets start at $10.

Info: childrenstheatre.org or 612-874-0400

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⊲⊲Naturalist Lauren Borer with Twin Cities Environmental Education Consulting will present a series of hands-on K–2 workshops.

When: Topics include Life in a Pond (2 p.m. Sept. 3), Bird Scavenger Hunt (9 a.m. Sept. 10), Tremendous Trees (2 p.m. Oct. 9), Leaf Hunt (2 p.m. Oct. 16) and Seed Hunters (2 p.m. Oct. 23).

Where: Environment Area, Brooklyn Park Cost: $10 per session Info: Register at tceec.weebly.com

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When and where: 8:30–10:30 a.m.

Sept. 3 at Black Dog Preserve, Bloomington, Oct. 1 at Lake Harriet, Minneapolis, Nov. 5 at Fort Snelling State Park, St. Paul and Dec. 3 at Crosby Farm Regional Park, St. Paul.

Cost: $15–$20 per session Info: Register at tceec.weebly.com.

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⊲⊲Naturalist Lauren Borer with Twin Cities Environmental Education Consulting will present a monthly birding group. Meet at different locations throughout the Twin Cities to look and listen for birds, using online tools and apps to identify various species at a variety of sites.

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⊲⊲Make a play date with nature and your little one (age infant to 5) with this Nature for Curious Kids series. Each

class includes sensory learning, science activities, hikes, ideas for activities at home, plus games for babies, toddlers and preschoolers. September’s topic is Fish and Friends. Kids will have a chance to take a short walk along the river, touch and hold live fish and discover animals that share their homes with fish.

Activities run all morning; come and go as you please.

When: 9 a.m.–noon Sept. 10. Other sessions include Fall Leaves on Oct. 8 and Birds of a Feather on Nov. 12.

Reservations are required by the Tuesday before each event.

Where: Kroening Interpretive Center, North Mississippi Regional Park, Minneapolis Cost: $5 for all participants (except ages 1 and younger) Info: tinyurl.com/bigriversmallfry

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Urban Ecology ⊲⊲Naturalist Lauren Borer with Twin Cities

Environmental Education Consulting will present a series of hands-on workshops for kids in grades 4 through 8.

When: Classes, held on the second Thursday of the month, include Insects & Field Plants (1–3 p.m.

Sept. 10), Urban Forest Ecology (1–3 p.m. Oct. 8), Winter Weeds ID (1–3 p.m. Nov. 12) and Winter Birding (1–3 p.m. Dec. 10).

Where: Como Woodland Outdoor Classroom, St. Paul Cost: $15 per session Info: Register at tceec.weebly.com.

SEPT. 11–13

Taste of Greece ⊲⊲Sample authentic Greek food and handmade desserts, and enjoy live music, dancing, church tours, a Greek boutique, Greek wine tastings and a kids’ area with inflatables at this 27th-annual fund-raiser festival.

When: Sept. 11–13

Out & About Where: St. Mary’s Greek Orthodox Church, Minneapolis, Cost: Admission is free. Food tickets are $1 each.

Info: mplsgreekfest.org

STARTS SEPT. 12

Kids Build Weekend Workshops ⊲⊲The North Central States Regional Council of Carpenters is opening the doors of one of its largest training centers to the community for a series of two-hour weekend workshops for ages 5 to 12. Kids can make wood projects to build their skills and confidence one Saturday per month September through May. Projects will include a keepsake box, small bench,

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Out & About bookends, toolbox, pinewood derby car, key holder/jewelry hanger, candy dispenser, planter or birdhouse. Tools will be provided.

When: 10 a.m.–noon Sept. 12, Oct. 10, Nov. 14, Dec. 12, Jan. 9, Feb. 13, March 12, April 9 and May 14 Where: 740 Olive St., St. Paul Cost: FREE. Workshops are limited to 30 kids, who must be accompanied by a parent or guardian.

Info: Find registration details at facebook.com/KidsBuildworkshop.

STARTS SEPT. 17

SciGirls Club ⊲⊲Naturalist Lauren Borer, featured on the third season of TPT’s SciGirls this past spring, will present an afternoon program for girls ages 8 to 14. Each month girls will have a chance explore different areas of science and use engineering skills for problem solving.

When: 2:30–4:30 p.m. Sept. 17 and on every third Thursday of the month in fall and — if there’s enough interest — through April 2016 Where: Boneshaker Books, Minneapolis Cost: $15 per session Info: Register at tceec.weebly.com.

SEPT. 12

Minneapolis Monarch Festival ⊲⊲Celebrate the Monarch butterfly’s amazing 2,300-mile migration from Minnesota to the mountains of Michoacan, Mexico, with music, a parade, dance performances, art activities and games, plus Minnesotan and Latin food.

Monarch butterflies raised by volunteers will be tagged with small stickers and released. Also known as Festival de la Monarca, this seventh-annual festival will feature activities conducted in Spanish

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Sever’s Corn Maze and Fall Festival ⊲⊲Now celebrating its 19th year, this destination features corn and hay-bale mazes, an exotic petting zoo, a giant slide, pumpkin blasters, pig races and — new this year — four zip lines, a gourd walk and a new show, Monkey Business with Frankie the Monkey. Special events will include a family movie night, Oktoberfest and a Halloween celebration.

When: 1–8 p.m. Fridays, 10 a.m.–8 p.m. Saturdays and 10 a.m.–6 p.m.

Sundays, Sept. 11–Nov. 1, plus Oct. 15–16

and English.

When: 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Sept. 12 Where: Lake Nokomis at 50th Street and Lake Nokomis Parkway Cost: FREE Info: monarchfestival.org

Mississippi RiverFest and Heritage Day ⊲⊲Celebrate Minnesota’s greatest resource — the Mississippi River! Meet a bald eagle and other raptors at 2 p.m.

Climb a tree to see the river from new heights with an arborist. Play historical games and participate in river-themed activities and crafts. Learn how to make popcorn over the fire and walk along the National Park Services’ giant River Map. When: 1–4:30 p.m. Sept. 12

Where: Shakopee Cost: $15 for ages 4 and older at the door. Go online for discounted tickets.

Info: severscornmaze.com

Where: Kroening Interpretive Center, North Mississippi Regional Park, Minneapolis Cost: $5 per person Info: tinyurl.com/riverfestday

SEPT. 18–19

St. Paul Oktoberfest ⊲⊲Enjoy a variety of tapped beers and bratwurst at this 15th-annual event, including the centuries-old German traditions of bed races, carriage rides, polka and, of course, beer songs and games, plus a family-fun area.

When: Sept. 18–19 Where: Rice Park, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: saintpauloktoberfest.org

SEPT. 19

Wild Rice Festival ⊲⊲Celebrate wild rice — including Minnesota’s harvest season and Native American culture — at this 12th-annual festival. Enjoy activities, educational presentations, engaging exhibits and food, including wild rice soup, fry bread, Indian tacos, yogurt/wild rice parfaits and buffalo dogs. Food trucks will be on site as well from noon to 4 p.m. See Native American drumming, dancing, singing, flute making and music, storytelling and traditional wild-ricing methods. View historical vignettes, including a replica tipi with representative artifacts of traditional Dakotah life as well as honey-extraction techniques and a pressing of apple cider.

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When: 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Sept. 19 Where: Harriet Alexander Nature Center, Roseville Cost: FREE Info: wildricefestival.org

Excelsior Apple Day ⊲⊲This popular Lake Minnetonka street festival, created in 1935, features live music and local art, crafts and food vendors. Other attractions include a kids’ corner, a pie-eating contest, a wine and beer garden that opens at 1 p.m. and an old fashioned street dance in the evening.

When: 9 a.m.–10 p.m. Sept. 19 Where: Downtown Excelsior Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/appledayexcelsior

SEPT. 19–OCT. 25

Twin Cities Harvest Festival and Maze ⊲⊲This festival, now in its fifth year, boasts Minnesota’s largest corn maze — nearly 20 acres. This year, the maze will celebrate the Minnesota Wild’s 15-year anniversary with an XV and the Minnesota Wild logo. Other features include a corn pit, a straw-bale maze, live music, a petting zoo, hayrides and more.

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The Music of the Three Worlds ⊲⊲At this performance by COMPAS artist Tres Mundos, hear the music of Carnival, sing a Cuban rumba and dance to Latin jazz beats. Tres Mundos’, or Three Worlds’, collective accomplishments include Latin Grammy nominations, international tours and multiple CDs. Their music blends salsa, samba and jazz to create a sound that’s authentic yet original.

Weekends & MEA

Sept. 26th–Oct. 31st MEA: Oct. 15th–16th Saturdays & MEA 11am–5pm Sundays 12pm–5pm

When: 6:30 p.m. Sept. 28 Where: South St. Paul Library

year funds will go to the Minnesota Wild Foundation, which supports the game of hockey and the wellbeing of Minnesota children.

When: 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Saturdays and Sundays Sept. 19–Oct. 25, and Oct. 15–16 Where: 8001 109th Ave. N., Brooklyn Park Cost: Tickets are $10 online or $12 at the gate. Children under 36 inches tall are admitted for free.

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Pumpkin Patch Festival ⊲⊲This 26th-annual event features numerous fall activities and attractions, including corn and straw-bale mazes, games, farm animals, fun houses, pony rides, face painting, a soap box derby, swinging in a hayloft, barrel races,

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make-and-take scarecrows, a “pumpkin chucker flinger thinger,” and a new twintower hideout.

When: Weekends Sept. 26–Oct. 31 Where: Nelson Family Farm, Litchfield, 1.5 hours west of the Twin Cities Cost: $8 Info: nelsonfarm.com

SEPT. 26

Museum Day Live! ⊲⊲Smithsonian magazine’s 11th-annual event includes free admission to many museums nationwide, including more than 20 Minnesota museums, such as The Works Museum, Historic Fort Snelling, the Minnesota Center for Book Arts and the American Swedish Institute.

When: Sept. 26 Where: Go to smithsonianmag.com/ museumdaylive to see a list of participating Minnesota museums.

Cost: FREE. Tickets, good for two

people each, are required.

Info: smithsonianmag.com/museumday

Do you have twins or siblings ages 6 –11?

Kidspo ⊲⊲This third-annual kid-friendly event gives busy families a chance to spend a day together having fun while getting to know local businesses. Activities will be geared toward ages 3 to 10.

When: 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Sept. 26 Where: Eagan Community Center, Eagan Cost: FREE Info: kidspomn.com

SEPT. 27

Caponi Art Park Medieval Fair ⊲⊲The Middle Ages come to life with authentic costumes, music, dance, weaponry and interactive demonstrations, presented by the Society for Creative Anachronism.

When: 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Sept. 27 Where: Caponi Art Park, Eagan Cost: Free or a $5 suggested donation Info: caponiartpark.org

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