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’09 CONTENTS 05/ 06
career&money
50 career life & balance
20 good reads
features
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Wasatch Women
A makeover story
Sisters with a story
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Who needs little sisters?
A personal essay
30 Swim in style
This season’s trends
The cowgirl wears Prada
52 finances
Step 4: Have enough insurance
54 politically speaking
Addressing the Great Recession
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24 going solo
Every girl needs a sister
health&fitness
60 solutions
Electrifying new hope for migraine pain
62 fitness & nutrition A, B, C’s and Double D’s
26 take it outside
Embracing the adventure of kayaking
28 relationships
From rivalry to revelry
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style&beauty
32 night out
Where to start, or end, your night
38 Marital Bliss
35 haute looks
Planning a wedding
Sun-safe skin
48 A working pair
home&family
Mother-daughter businesses
56 Sisters with style
Owners of Hip & Humble
58 OM sweet OM
Sleep, meditation and you
in every issue
4 Editor’s letter 6 Contributors 8 Editor’s picks 10 What I know 64 That’s what he said
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41 good eats Let’s do lunch!
44 better living
Organize your entry
46 family time This means war!
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“What? How did she do that?” My daughter Sophia, who was 8 at the time, pointed to her eyebrows — or lack of them. She fell asleep while
watching TV with Lucy, her 5-year-old sister. Apparently, while she slept, the mischievous 5-year-old took scissors to Sophia’s eyebrows. Trimming them in uneven patches and, in places, completely off! Unbelievable. But, it was believable. Lucy was the same child who had cut her own bangs so short we were forced to take her in for a haircut to fit. Her new “do” made Audrey Hepburn, with her cropped bangs a la Roman Holiday, look like a hippie. Those bangs were short. This kid obviously had a thing for scissors. Drawing in eyebrows on an 8-year-old was never what I imagined I’d be doing as a mother. But, thanks to her sister, every school day morning, our ritual included the application of makeup to disguise the scraggly brows. Back then, our daughters got along pretty well, but much of the unexplained mischief in our house was conveniently blamed on Lucy. In most cases, she owned up to her transgressions. In the case of the “eyebrow caper of ’04,” as it came to be known in our home, she consistently pled innocent. We laughed it off, telling our friends the story over and over, much to Lucy’s chagrin. Three years later, Sophia confessed. She had done the snipping herself. In fact, she had knowingly let her sister take the fall and all the years of embarrassment. “Yeah,” she said, “I used to lie a lot back then.” We were stunned. We expected her pants to catch fire right then and there. Her guilt finally got the better of her and she came clean. Poor Lucy. This letter is Sophia’s penance. As my daughters will someday learn, sisters are meant to take care of each other, stand up for each other and lean on each other. This issue celebrates the bond we have as sisters. In many cases, we build these bonds from childhood. For those of us without biological sisters, we find friends to call sisters, like our writer of “Every girl needs a sister” on (pg. 20). You’ll find stories of sisters working together (pg. 55), sharing a common tragedy (pg. 15) and lessons learned from sibling rivalry (Relationships, pg. 24). As one of five sisters, I grew up in a home with plenty of female discord (sorry, Mom and Dad). I carried guilt for punching my sister, Amy, in the stomach for reasons I have forgotten. As an adult, I apologized. She claims amnesia. Trauma-induced, no doubt. I hope this issue helps you appreciate the sisters in your life, inspires you to reach out to tell them how much they mean and, if necessary, own up to any “eyebrow” incidents from your past.
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LORI J. LEE (Take it Outside, pg. 22): What is the most embarrassing thing your sister ever did to you? I was the one to embarrass her by demanding she take off a pair of my pants — that she borrowed without asking — right in the middle of the hall of our high school. I’m not sure when and where it all happened, but that obnoxious little girl turned into one of my most trusted friends and confidantes. We just wear our own clothes.
MARCIA CHIDESTER (Family time, pg. 43): If you could pick your sister, who would you pick? I would pick Elizabeth Pezzullo, who is my best friend in the world. We are sisters already, even without the blood tie. We met each other while working at a newspaper in Virginia. I was a type-A worker bee and she taught me to stop and smell the flowers in addition to the newsprint.
Graphic Design / Layout STEPHANN KNOTTS Contributing Writer s CARL BAUMEISTER, LANNA CAIRNS, MARICA CHIDESTER, REBECCA CRESSMAN, MELANIE DOUGLAS, BETH DOVE, BONNIE EVENSEN, LIZ HALE, JEFF HANEY, ALLISON HANSEN, ELIZABETH KENNEDY, LORI LEE, MICHELLE LEONARD, SARAH NIELSON, JULIE PEREZ, CAROL PHILLIPS, BONNIE HOOKER, JAMIE HUISH STUM, KIM WARREN Photography | Illustration MICHAEL CALANAN, CHRISTY CARRUTH, JULIE PEREZ, ROBYN POARCH St yling & Wardrobe CAROL PHILLIPS, WHIMSY CLOTHING Hair & Make-up JAMIE LIBBY, LINDSAY HOGGAN, HEATHER SHEGRUD, ASHLEY FORMAN, TRANQUILITY MED SPA & SALON; LORI JONES
BONNIE HOOKER (OM sweet OM, pg 58 & Haute Looks, pg. 28): What is the most embarrassing thing your sister ever did to you? I am an only child, so it’s completely up to me to embarrass myself. I do a really good job for a one-woman show. If I had to have a sister, I’d choose my friend Pam; she is the polar opposite of me, which is very grounding. She is my voice of reason.
LANNA CAIRNS (Marital Bliss, pg. 32): If you could pick your sister, who would you pick? Serena Williams, I would love to improve my tennis game!!
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JAMIE HUISH STUM (A Working Pair, pg. 44): How often do you speak to your sister and what life circumstances make you want to call her? I speak to one of my sisters at least every week — mostly we call for no reason at all. It’s amazing how we will laugh at the exact same things, even when we’re in different parts of the world.
MICHELLE LEONARD (Politically Speaking, pg. 52): What is the kindest thing your sister has ever done for you? One of the kindest things my sister Lara did for me was she and her daughter surprised us and flew into town for my daughter’s birthday celebration.
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Flippin’ easy videos: About the size of a BlackBerry, the Flip Ultra video camera fits right inside your purse for anytime you want to film. Bring it to the park, family functions, business events —anywhere you go. When you come home, simply pop out the USB connection and download to your computer. You won’t need any cords and it operates on two AA batteries. Buy it online at www.flip.com. $149.99 Editor’s note: A bit more challenging to download on a Mac, but easily figured out with a little online help. I’ve never taken so many videos of my kids!
Scrub-a-dub-dub love: These gloves will make you want to clean your house. Made with an extension “cuff” made of waterproof oilcloth, these beauties keep your sleeves from getting soaked when you’re using extra elbow grease. You can feel proud of this purchase — they’re made locally! We’re giving away three pairs online in June. Buy them at several retailers in Utah or go online to find a location near you: www.gloveablesinc.com. Editor’s note: My kids actually enjoy cleaning when they get to wear these — incentive enough to buy a few pairs!
Wear it well: Handmade and local, Watermelon Pearls’ creations are each unique. Because they aren’t mass-produced, you won’t see anyone else wearing exactly the same jewelry. You can feel good about purchasing from a local artisan and supporting a woman-owned business when you wear these little beauties. We’re giving away a pair of earrings online in June. Pieces are very affordable and range in price from $12 to $45. Purchase online at watermelonpearls.etsy.com. Editor’s note: These are light and easy to wear for those of us who don’t like a lot of heavy jewelry, but still want to make a statement.
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WHAT IK N
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BY REBECCA CRESSMAN
Her name is Linda.
She is the spunkier of my two older sisters. When we were kids, she both amazed and scared the heck out of me. She had long black hair, chocolate colored eyes and muscular olive-skinned arms.
out dancing and their long talks on Sunday afternoons. She told me every detail of what he said and what he did and I loved hearing the spark in her voice. It was great to see her turn into a giddy, gushing romantic.
Linda was 7 years older than me and, though she was always tender with me, she was tough. I remember the day a Doberman pinned me to the ground and tore at my neck. It was Linda that wrestled and yanked that big dog off of me and into the air. She was just 13. When she was 14, she wore camouflage and old army fatigues and played rugby. When she was 15, she’d climb into her friends’ old dented vans covered with peace signs and disappear for days. When she was 16, she climbed into someone else’s car and didn’t come home for years.
We’re now into month No. 3 of her new relationship. The first few dates’ blinders are off. Now she is much more worried about what he doesn’t say and what he isn’t doing. And so am I — a little. He’s a good, kind, hard-working guy. But when it comes to defining a relationship between them, he is idling in neutral when he should be in gear.
I was 14 when she carried her boxes back into the house I shared with my mom. She was thinner, more fragile and pretty disillusioned. I didn’t know what she’d gone through during those five years she was gone, but she was different than before. She moved in and got her life back on track. She got a job and then her G.E.D. She got married, had two stocky blueeyed boys, divorced and opened her own daycare. Back then, the years between us were a big gap. I was in high school and she was a single mom trying to run her own business and collect child support from a not-so-willing ex. As time ticked by, the gap between us grew smaller. I got married and had three boys of my own, and suddenly our lives had much more in common. The seven-year age difference didn’t really separate us anymore. When our mother died, we turned to each other to fill the gap. About that time, Linda started dating again. She’d been single for a long time. So, when she hit the dating scene she was suddenly the 15-year-old teenager she should have been when we were kids: nervous, giddy and completely unhinged. I felt like I was 15 years old again too; as we talked and talked, the phone heated up in my hands. She called me in the early morning hours when she knew I was awake. Then she’d call me again in the afternoon and drain what was left of my cell phone battery. She described their nights
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Linda doesn’t trust her instincts. She wants me to be Judge Judy and rule whether the relationship has a case or whether it should be thrown out of court. I’ve been weighing what to say to her. If I tell her that it seems he’s just not into her, she’ll break it off early as a preemptive strike. She could avoid heartache in the long run that way. But, she’d also miss out on the “between time.” You know, the time between the start and the end of a love story. It’s the best part of movies, books and life — if we let it. It’s full of twists and turns, walks and talks, mistakes, surprises and life lessons. But it’s like everything else. You can’t learn from it if you run from it. So, you can tell your sister whatever you want. But, you won’t hear me tell my sister, “He’s just not into you.” She can take the “between time” to find that out on her own.
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be an authoritative figure. “What can I do about that?” she sweetly shrugs. elsey Nixon Egan floats into Afternoon Tea at the Grand America Hotel in a bright spring dress and striped sandals, with a smart and genuine smile. The North Ogden native may only be 24 years old, but she has already managed to skillfully orchestrate a thriving career and respectable reputation as a young, talented chef and engaging television personality. As a sophomore at BYU, while her peers were still picking majors, she created Kelsey’s Kitchen, a college cooking show that aired 100 episodes. Before she graduated with a degree in broadcasting, she had completed two internships with Martha Stewart Living and worked as a production assistant for an entertainment company that produced a show for the Food Network. After college, she appeared on QVC as the spokesperson for a kitchen appliance company and worked as a personal chef for the family of a Hollywood studio executive. In Los Angeles, she graduated from the acclaimed Le Cordon Bleu culinary academy. Two weeks later, she began filming as a contestant on the reality show, The Next Food Network Star, in New York City and Vegas.
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“A lot of reality makes people cringe, but this was a family show,” she explains. “It was about a real person in a stressful situation chasing a dream. It did not have all the drama and raciness, and that really attracted me to making the decision to do the show.” With Kelsey’s infectiously charming personality, television background and strong education, she was a standout on the show. Besides conquering team challenges, she won the most individual contests: she dominated a technique challenge; her Beef Wellington recipe was featured in Bon Appétit magazine; and her seafood creation was picked up on the Red Lobster menu in over 600 restaurants. Plus, she says thanks to Utah support, she was named “Fan Favorite.” Ultimately, while the judges acknowledged her nearly flawless performance, she was dismissed from the Final Four because ironically, they felt she was a little too young to
It is her youth, and her focus on easy and affordable home cooking, that led to her current gig hosting online material for the Food Network. Her “webisodes,” part of the network’s attempt to appeal to a savvier, more youthful audience, launched in April. Now a newlywed, Kelsey and her husband are mulling options in New York City, aiming to make their early marriage an “adventure” before hopefully returning to settle in Utah with a family. She says she’d like to focus her career on sharing the joy of the nearly lost art of cooking at home, and may end up as a food editor or expanding her interest in recipe development. While most of Kelsey’s young career has been splashed on screen, working comfortably just out of frame is her supportive younger sister, Kylie. If Kelsey is the sugar and spice, her sister is the leaven that makes it all rise. Together, they’re a perfect blend. As an advertising major and budding photographer, Kylie admits she has always been much more comfortable behind the lens, lending her talents to her sister in the spotlight. Kylie was artistic director of the Kelsey’s Kitchen
In return, “big dreamer” Kelsey gives Kylie inspiration and motivation. “I’m more laid back. I could just coast through life,” Kylie says. “Kelsey helps me think of new things I could be doing.” Her older sister encouraged her to study abroad in London and spend a semester at BYU-Hawaii. Instead of going on a senior trip after high school, Kelsey convinced her younger sister to join her in New York City for the summer just for fun. The two spent their television show (“I washed a lot of dishes,” she shrugs with a smile), and regularly photographs Kelsey’s food creations for her Web site, magazine articles and promotional material. “It has been fun to see Kylie’s photographic talents complement my Web site,” Kelsey says. “Just as she’s building my portfolio, I’m building hers.” It also helps that their personalities are so different, but complementary. “We’re two ends of the spectrum, but that’s probably why we get along so well,” says Kylie. The sisters openly admit that Kelsey’s enthusiasm is balanced by Kylie’s level head and flexible nature. “I think if you asked our mom, she might
say sometimes Kylie needs a boost of confidence, someone to say, ‘You can do this.’ And I need someone who can say, ‘It is going to be okay; let’s look at the big picture.’ She’s just so stable,” Kelsey says. “I’ve got to have a five-year plan and a 10-year plan. Kylie is so good at preparing herself but not getting too caught up. I really admire that about her. She embraces whatever comes her way.”
her sister. “The city was so much bigger than anything we had experienced.” When it comes to cooking, the girls share the same family history. Growing up with a lineage of “foodies,” their mother put amazing meals on the table every single night. “We didn’t eat frozen lasagna,” Kelsey says. Kylie adds: “Not that there’s anything wrong with that.” For family gatherings, their grandmother and aunt joined their mother to create famously delectable offerings. Kelsey picked up on things, but Kylie is just now turning her interest to food. “I’m trying to learn,” Kylie says. “I really enjoy it; I’ve just never taken the time to learn.” Then, like a true younger sister, she points to Kelsey. “She makes fun of me.” Between teasing, Kelsey will surely help her sister, “Pookie,” refine her skills in the kitchen, just as she hopes to help other home cooks through her career. The petite dynamo speaks with gusto of her mission to enlighten home cooks. “I really want to inspire people. That’s what gets me. Inspiring people to cook at home, that’s what lights my fire.” There to fan the flames will be her proud sister.
meager earnings like princesses at the yummiest restaurants in the city and dressed up for Wicked on Kylie’s 18th birthday. They shared a small studio
apartment, rotating who got to sleep in the bed or on the couch. Again, Kylie supported her sister by running silly errands for Kelsey’s demanding P.A. job. “There is something so charming about coming from a small town,” says Kelsey, of that magical summer with
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Sisters in Tragedy BY ALLISON HANSEN hey say that time heals. But when your closest sister commits suicide, it might take a lot of time. Cherie Burton explains that even now, after four years, she is still processing the loss of her sister, Shawna Nielson. “There are the stages of grief. You kind of deny it, then as a mom you have to get on with your life. I went through all that,” Cherie explains. “It was around the two-year mark that I physically grieved. I would literally hyperventilate when I heard a song on the radio that reminded me of her. Even to this day, the lessons behind it are huge.” Cherie, Shawna and their older sister, Taunia, were like the Three Musketeers (they also have brothers and a much younger sister). The family moved from state to state, but they always had each other. “It was the three of us against the world,” Cherie reminisces. They shared a room and went to the same college. Shawna married her sweetheart and had five kids, who were best friends with Cherie’s children. Cherie remembers the light Shawna shared: “She was so vibrant, a larger-thanlife personality. She was the life of the party.” A gifted musician, she was also an extremely dedicated mother, involving her children in multiple activities. In reality, Shawna struggled with bipolar disorder. “She was way up or she couldn’t get out of bed. The pendulum was always
swinging,” Cherie explains. It was after her children were born that chronic pain from a childhood surgery reoccurred; though her life seemed nearly flawless, Shawna became addicted to painkillers and submitted to multiple treatment programs. “My role in the family was to rescue or try to fix her,” Cherie reflects. “What I learned is all I had to do was love her.” One day, Shawna left a note for her husband and took her life at a local hotel. She was 34. “My sister and I just fell on the floor, hugging and crying,” Cherie says. “Everyone’s world just blew up.” Shawna passed away a few weeks before Cherie was to give up her title as Mrs. Utah. In that capacity, Cherie used her background and education in psychology as a platform for improving the self-esteem of young women. “And here’s my sister, losing the battle in my backyard,” she says. After the tragedy, the family united. With a history of depression and suicide on both sides, the sisters committed that the unhealthy pattern would end. Cherie used her gift for the written and spoken word to write a book. She is developing a Web site to share a message of inspiration, a message she believes that Shawna wants other women to hear. “I feel closer to my sister more than ever,” Cherie says of her new mission. “It is deeper than that; it is like Shawna’s voice. Her life taught all of us so many lessons. We don’t focus on the darkness, we focus on the light.”
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JOEY DOWLING AND JACKI FORD KNOW HOW TO STRETCH.
The Orem natives, who were “basically born and bred” in their mom’s dance studio, have spent most of their lives sashaying across the country together in the glittery but often tumultuous industry of professional dance. “This business will reel you in and spit you out very quickly,” says Joey. “It is an unbelievable emotional roller coaster. Your world can come crumbling down and you have to pick up the pieces.” Jacki adds, “We’re always giving each other pep talks.”
When they’re dancing, people often can’t tell them apart. “Sometimes people will look at us and think we’re twins. We’re both tall and we have similar features,” says Joey. But, Jacki says, “Anyone who knows us rolls their eyes.” Off the stage, they swear they have uniquely distinct personalities: Jacki is a little reserved and Joey is, well, “louder.” The sisters’ work as a complementary duo continues. Their latest collaboration: a line of fashion dancewear aptly named Jo+Jax. The statuesque sisters (Jacki is 5’9” and Joey is 5’11”)
Joey Dowling and Jacki Ford These Utah sisters signed on for the unpredictability of a dancer’s life together, and now live just 20 minutes apart in Manhattan, where they’ve twirled and tapped on Broadway stages and headline tours. They made history as one of the only sister pairs ever to work as Radio City Rockettes at the same time. “Our entire family thought the heavens had just opened up,” laughs Joey. “Our grandparents were hysterical. It was like we made it. They thought it was the coolest thing in the world.” For the girls, it was a job; one they could do literally side-by-side. Being inseparable started young for Joey and Jacki. “We pretty much lived the same life,” says Joey, as she recounts years of driving together to special training programs and competitions. “Jacki and I spent a lot of time together, probably way more time than any other siblings. There were many moments we wanted to rip each other’s hair out, but we were literally joined at the hip.”
were inspired to create dance clothing that accommodates height by their own struggles with pants and tops that came up short. Their line has garnered considerable attention in the dance community. “It is so nice to hear the feedback; people are just loving it,” says Jacki. “It is great to share this with people, and to have them appreciate it.” Whether traveling to teach workshops or selecting Lycra in the Garment District or staying home to organize each other’s apartments, these graceful sisters have learned that it is easier to stay in step as a pair. “A dancer’s life, with so many dreams and expectations, ends up being so personal,” says Joey. “It is such a great blessing to have not only a sister, but a friend, that you can call up at any minute.”
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A makeover story
When Cinderella is her own Fairy Godmother Toward the end of her memoir, The Amazing Adventures of Dietgirl, writer Shauna Reid concludes: “I realized you have to be your own superhero.” Read in another context, these words may have seemed a bit trite. Haven’t we all heard by now that we are the master of our own destiny, the captain of our fate? Yet as I read this simple sentence, I blinked back tears. It didn’t work. Tears ran down my cheeks. Shauna Reid is the kind of writer who puts you squarely in her camp. She doesn’t know me, but I consider her a friend. On New Year’s Day 2001, Shauna Reid decided that she no longer wanted to have the biggest knickers (that’s underpants to Americans) in Australia. She joined Weight Watchers (not for the first time) as a step toward her goal of reducing half her body weight. She also tried something new in her fight against fat; she began to share her experiences online. And so The Amazing Adventures of Dietgirl was blogged into existence. Seven years later, Shauna changed the shape of her story some and published it as a book with the same title. Like the blog, the book traces not only the ups and downs of her weight loss campaign, but also the transformation of her career, her relationships and even her residence
after she moved across the world to Scotland. While the blog-like feel of a dated-entry format and personal weight loss statistics did bring Bridget Jones’ Diary to mind, Shauna Reid has a voice all her own. Shauna’s voice is warm, funny, and open. As a reader, I felt invited into her life. She doesn’t hide her insecurities, and she charms with her gentle, self-deprecating sense of humor. While she examines the events and relationships in her life that contributed to a weight gain beyond healthy proportions, she moves past the blame game and lets those close to her help her reach her goals. Slowly, she makes small changes in her life that add up to a big difference. She alters more than eating habits and fitness routines as she ventures out in ways she never has before. Through the real magic of hard work and determination, Shauna emerges a svelte new woman. Most magically of all, readers still recognize the voice from the first page. It just rings stronger and clearer now.
For younger readers Heather Vogel Frederick’s novel, The Mother-Daughter Book Club, is sure to get young readers hooked on the classics — of literature, that is. Just as four very different sixth graders start to settle into middle school, their moms shake things up by banding together to form a motherdaughter book club. Living in Concord, Mass. — the hometown of Louisa May Alcott — the moms naturally decide that Little Women is the ideal book to discuss. Reluctant participants at first, the girls get caught up in the stories of Jo March and her sisters, find parallels to the world of Little Women in their own lives and actually start looking forward to the monthly meetings. Double the reading fun and make this book a companion or introduction to reading Little Women.
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The Mother-Daughter Book Club Reading level: Ages 9-12 by Heather Vogel Frederick $6.99 (Paperback) | 288 pages Publisher: Simon & Schuster ISBN: 9781416970798
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Needs Little Sisters? BY ALLISON HANSEN
MEET MY KID SISTER, BOO. Actually, her name is Celeste, but I honestly don’t think I have ever called her that. Boo is three years younger than me, three inches taller and three times more talented at all the things I wish I was good at. As young girls, we were often asked if we were twins. Our mom styled our matching long brown hair the same and dressed us in coordinating outfits every day. Boo and I both played soccer and competed in horse shows together. We shared a bedroom from birth through high school. But soon things started to change and we declared our independence from each other. We drew partitions in our room for separate space, but it never lasted, because one of us got solo access to the clothes closet while the other possessed the only doorway out. When we were forced to share a queen-size bed on visits to Grandma’s house, we lined all the pillows down the center as a median. There could not have been a more opposite pair. While I’d stay up all night reading The Baby-sitters Club, she’d rise before the sun. In high school, I was the bookworm cheerleader who struggled for dates; it only made it worse when my more beautiful little sister showed up on the scene, a social standout with a mob of male fans. I lit up the stage as a performer while she lit up the volleyball court as a sports star.
In reverse … let’s just hope Mom lost those home videos. Our differences have followed us into adulthood. Take our weddings, for example: My sister asked me on a Thursday to meet her at City Hall two days later. We went to a local BBQ joint with a few family members after the ceremony. In contrast, when I got married, the event was meticulously orchestrated, from the custom gown to the religious ceremony to the formal dinner reception attended by hundreds. We each had the wedding of our dreams. I have moved from New York to Los Angeles working glamorous gigs in television, now settled with a family in a neatly manicured neighborhood. Boo is a medical student (did I mention needles make me sweat with anxiety?) living with her husband and Labradors in a home she remodeled with her bare hands on acreage in the Sierra Nevada wilderness just a short drive from our hometown. I make killer brownies, and she’s killed a bear. Growing up with a popular, talented younger spirit like Boo was tricky, sometimes downright torturous. So, why then, when I recently learned I was expecting a second child to join my daughter, did I fervently pray for another little girl? Why would I incessantly ask God to send my Sophie a little sister, one who might potentially steal her clothes and read her diary?
Because as different as we are, there is nobody more like me than my sister. We have matching freckles across our nose and identical laughs and a funny white birthmark on the backs of our arms. It isn’t just genetics that connects us, it is our shared experiences. We suffered through piano lessons and our parents’ mid-life crises side by side. A pivotal moment in our sisterhood came a short time after we had grown up and moved several states apart, both single young women conquering our own worlds. In a freak multi-car pileup, I nearly lost my life on a Southern California freeway. You know how they say your life flashes before your eyes? Well, mine did, and I thought of Boo. I went through physical therapy, saw a counselor for post-traumatic stress, and replaced my totaled car. But it was only when I reunited with Boo and we embraced in tears that I felt okay. My sister was my safety. This June, I’ll hand my Sophie her new little sister to hold for the first time. First, I hope she doesn’t drop her on her head. More importantly, I dearly hope they’ll bike through the neighborhood together and argue over boys and share music and be sweetest friends. I dream they will share the laughter and friendship and safety I share with my sister. And yes, the freckles, too.
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BY SARAH NIELSON
every girl needs a sister I don’t have a biological sister.
As a young child, I always felt that I was missing out on some magical piece of life by not having a sister. To me, sisters were miraculous beings who sparkled like glitter and smelled like roses. As an adult, I realize that the power of sisterhood isn’t always what it seems, but as a child it was something I didn’t have. And was something I wanted. The girls in junior high school who had older sisters seemed to know far more about life than I did — they knew how to properly apply blue eyeliner so that it perfectly accented their pink sparkle lip-gloss. I needed that female influence in my life. Sure, I had a mother, but she was busy raising boys. You see, I’m the oldest child and I have four younger brothers — not exactly an easy undertaking for any parent.
The girls in junior high school who had older sisters seemed to know far more about life than I did. I love my brothers and wouldn’t trade them in for a gaggle of girls, but I haven’t always felt that way. In my youth, I would have gladly given up all four of my brothers for a sister. When my mother gave birth to her last baby, I cried for days that I had yet another brother. I so desperately wanted him to be a girl that I borrowed pink baby clothes from a neighbor and dressed him like the little sister I always wanted. I insisted everyone call him Samantha. I was 12 and knew better, but I couldn’t help myself. I spent years engrossed in all things sisters, until the day I finally found one of my own. I was 16 years old and thought I knew it all. Who didn’t at that age? I walked into my LDS seminary class
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unsure of what to expect, but I hoped for something to come out of the school year. I had no idea I’d leave the room with the sister I’d always dreamt of. Jennifer was a year younger and everything I wasn’t. She was dark-haired and mysterious, while I was the typical bubbly blonde. On the second day of class, we were watching a movie when I heard crying behind me. I turned and saw tears in Jennifer’s eyes. I didn’t know her, but I couldn’t sit idly by while someone was in pain. In typical high school fashion, she unfolded the drama of her love life, which was the reason behind the tears. That day we bonded over some silly boy who we have both long since forgotten. Jennifer and I have been best friends since that fated fall day. She is the love of my life, and I am hers. Neither of us have sisters of our own, so we morphed our friendship into a sisterhood. We have a connection that will never fade. There have been fights where we haven’t spoken in month, but much like “real” sisters, we forgive and forget. I am single and have no children, while Jennifer is married to a great man and is the mother of five beautiful children. Our day-to-day lives couldn’t be more different, but we have an entire lifetime of commonalities. The last thing I want to do is take part in a discussion about the best no-tear shampoo or how to correctly discipline a child, but I do because, as I understand it, that’s what sisterhood is all about. We live hours apart and don’t see each other as much as we should. Often we go weeks at a time without finding the time to call one another, but the minute I hear the sound of her voice, I am that 16-year-old girl again who has finally found her sister. I am home.
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I’LL ADMIT IT. I AM AFRAID. To be on the water, shoved into a sardine-sized boat that holds your legs like a vice, with the ever-present chance of being rolled upside down by waves or body balance, to hang below the surface … well, I have some issues to work through. But, what is life if not an opportunity to learn new things, challenge one’s mind and body, and take risks? Gibson Mokler, a friend of mine from Kokatat, a manufacturer of PFDs (personal floatation devices) and paddling equipment, suggests I learn the kayak roll (the skill that allows you to roll the kayak rightside up when you fl ip over) from a good instructor. “The school of hard knocks does not instill good habits,” he points out. And, though being trapped underwater can be … let’s call it “disconcerting,” he tells me to remember, as one of his boating buddies likes to quip, “There’s plenty of time to breathe later.” “Remain calm and confident in your ability to get your breathing side up either by rolling or a wet exit,” says Gibson. Ok Gibson. Remaining calm may be easier said than done, but one must start somewhere.
Getting your Feet Wet
Embracing the Adventure of Kayaking BY LORI LEE
A few years back at a women’s wilderness retreat, I took a kayak class from Karan Estee. A spunky woman who knows her stuff, and is genuine and helpful, she made the short class fun and interesting despite my hesitancy to get into the cold mountain water. After falling in love with the sport, she quit her desk job, drove to California and became a certified instructor with the American Canoe Association. She started her own school here along the Wasatch Front just over three years ago, and here I stand, poolside, hoping she’s as good as I think she is. The blue waters of the pool at the Jewish Community Center sparkle, and the smell of chlorine permeates the air. The colorful play boats line the sides of the pool, but despite this festive outlay, I hold all the reservations that fear packs. I’m assigned a sassy, little red boat that I squeeze my legs and hips into and push myself into the pool by dipping the nose over the
edge and into the water. On the fi rst day, Karan shows us the two primary forward strokes, and I reach as far as possible and then bring my paddle back only to my knee, keep my elbows down, turn my body, not just my arms. On the second day, I secure my nose plugs and my partner, Dean, lets me grab the bow of his boat while I pretend my boat is fl ipped over. Karen breaks it down one bite at a time — like eating an elephant — so the fear, if I don’t look at the whole picture, just the current technique, doesn’t overwhelm me. First, a bow rescue: hold a partner’s bow. Second, while holding on, roll your boat to the side and rest your head on their boat. Third, practice rolling your body and becoming comfortable with the way your
THINGS TO REMEMBER If you take up the sport of river kayaking: 1. Don’t compromise on safety equipment. Spend the money; you’re worth it. Purchase a good-quality, properly fitted helmet. Ensure that your PFD is in good condition and fits properly.
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2. Don’t try to learn in the latest and greatest play boats. They are designed for advanced maneuvers and are harder to control. 3. Make sure your boat is securely tied to your rack. Drive carefully, even when scouting the river from the car.
4. Respect the river and other users. 5. Respect the environment and pick up litter. Each of us can make a difference.
HELPFUL WEBSITES www.utahkayakschool.com — Karan Estee’s web site. 801-815-2089 www.letsgopaddle.com — New Web site established by the Paddle Association of America. www.americanwhitewater.org — American Whitewater restores rivers dewatered by hydropower dams, eliminates water degradation, improves public land management and protects public access to rivers for responsible recreational use. www.watergirlsatplay.com
body makes the boat respond. Fourth, practice twisting up, keeping your head on your shoulder. One move at a time, we get closer to the thing that scares us (the boat fl ipping), but one move at a time means we step closer, understand better and the fears evaporate the same way — one at a time. Nose plugs in place, paddles pulling and pushing the water, my little red boat cruises the waters of the pool week after week. I’d like to report that I am now a proficient kayaker, but alas, I cannot. Some days I wanted to run from the pool, but I didn’t and that’s my biggest happy ending. Perseverance. The things I can claim: I am a more knowledgeable kayaker, I understand the technical
aspects of the sport, I got past the fear. I think I actually rolled once by myself on the last day of class. I played boat tag in the pool with the other students, racing and splashing one another as we struggled not to be touched. I worked at the roll, over and over. I bumped boats with cute guys. But mostly, I didn’t allow my mind to close down — I stayed engaged until that last day of class where we tirelessly rolled, over and over, the instructors cheering us on.
transform from scared and insecure to strong and self-assured. For me, being a strong kayaker helped me to become confident about everything in my life. I thought, ‘If I can do this, I can do anything!’” I say, everyone must believe in something. I believe I’ll go kayaking.
“I love teaching women and kids the most,” says Karan. “As women, we are emotional creatures and often have a lot of fear around this sport. I like being able to instill confidence in women and seeing them
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friend of mine is trying to teach her boys about love and kindness. One morning, she was preparing pancakes. Her 3- and 5-year-old sons began to argue over who would get the first pancake. Deciding to use this as a moral lesson, my friend said, “If Jesus were sitting here, He would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake. I can wait.’” Her 5-year-old turned to his younger brother and said, “You be Jesus.” Sibling rivalry is one of society’s oldest problems; just think of biblical brothers Cain and Abel. This story, of course, ends tragically when Cain becomes so angry and irritated at constantly having to help take care of his younger brother, Abel, that he kills him.
While sibling rivalry is a complicated issue, there are many influential factors — Mom and Dad, however, play the most significant role in determining rivalry or revelry between their children. In my psychotherapy practice, parents often express concern over “offspring rivalry” and want desperately for their children to get along and enjoy each other. While sibling rivalry is a complicated issue, there are many influential factors — genetics, gender, life events, cultural and generational patterns, and even other extended family members.
which escalates conflict and increases resentment between the siblings. Furthermore, the younger child now believes they can get away with more because the parent is “on their side.” Express your awareness by acknowledging what you see, “Wow, one toy and two children who really want to play with it at the same time.” Then add as you’re leaving the room, “I am confident that you’ll be able to come up with a solution that’s fair to both of you.” If you have a Cain-and-Abel situation seemingly about to unfold, describe what you see and separate the parties by saying something like, “I see two very angry kids who are about to hurt each other. Time to cool-off. Both of you need to go to your own rooms!” When children can’t seem to work out problems by themselves, call a meeting of the antagonists. Explain the purpose and the ground rules. Write down each child’s concerns and feelings. Without evaluating, write down everyone’s ideas for solving the problem. Decide upon solutions you can live with and follow up with another meeting in a few weeks to determine how productive the resolution was — perhaps it will be time to implement yet another solution.
Mom and dad, however, play the most significant role in determining rivalry or revelry between their children.
Children who learn how to resolve sibling conflicts are best prepared to manage their interactions with a variety of complex human beings. They’ll also learn that they won’t always get their way, and that life is unfair at times. When parents remain active in the experimentation process, home is the ideal human lab.
TO INTERVENE OR NOT TO INTERVENE?
FROM CHILDHOOD TO ADULTHOOD
Research shows that while we should pay attention to kids’ conflicts in order to acknowledge them and their difficulty while ensuring safety, it is best not to intervene and resolve the issue for them. When one parent jumps into sibling spats, one child (usually the younger) becomes protected against the other (usually the older)
Regardless of age, the beauty of our sibling relationships is that they are not fixed. Siblings share a history that brings self-understanding and perspective to adulthood. As we grow older, rivalries can be forgotten and forgiven, leaving us to focus on the forces and feelings that keep us connected as siblings.
FAVORITE REFERENCE: Siblings Without Rivalry, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish. 28 wasatchwoman.com
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First, know that there are four basic body shapes: A-Shape – This shape needs to draw attention away from the hips. (Black halter, ruffle skirt) I-Shape – This shape needs the illusion of a waistline, often with tummy control. (Black halter, ruffle suit) V-Shape – This shape needs to play up the bust area. (Bikini, green halter) X-Shape – This shape needs a balanced look. Use a pattern or athletic cut. (Workout suits)
TAILOR YOUR SUIT Make sure to measure your bust, waist, hips and torso correctly to get a bathing suit that fits well. Look for construction details and styles that appeal to you. You are the one who will be wearing the bathing suit. Clothes that make you feel uncomfortable are never a good fashion statement. Avoid suits that stop in the center of your hips and make them look even wider.
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Hide the issue: Bigger on top Try a one-piece in bright solid colors that has a built-in bra with separate cups. It also helps to wear a one-piece that minimizes the chest. You’ll still have cleavage, but more support. You can also get a great look in a workout suit that has great support. Look stylish while doing laps or playing with the kids at the pool. Styles shown here: TYR and Speedo
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Where to start {or end} your night WHEN YOU DESPISE CHAIN RESTAURANTS as much as I do, you quickly become well versed in local restaurants. Salt Lake City has an array of outstanding brewpubs that should not be overlooked. Brewpubs have more than just beer to offer. I’m drawn to the low-key atmosphere and personable staff a pub offers. There’s something to be said about stopping to enjoy your meal. In a pub, I never feel hurried like I do in the typical chain restaurant. While I’ve never been much of a foodie, I can definitely appreciate the menus that our locals pubs have. When I make plans for a night out — it doesn’t matter what the occasion — I customarily start off with dinner at a pub. Three Salt Lake brewpubs surpass any chain restaurant I’ve ever frequented.
BURGER HEAVEN I’ve found very few restaurants that offer a hamburger as favor-filled as a burger grilled in your own backyard, but the Red Rock Brewery serves one that is even better. The burger comes inside a pita, which always feels healthier to me. There is no ketchup; the burger is dressed instead with the most amazing aioli sauce. Ask your server to recommend a house beer to accompany your meal; however, my opinion is that a nice glass of Shiraz goes with everything.
FRIES AND FUN Squatters, a favorite among many locals, is conveniently located downtown and serves the best sweet potato fries I’ve ever tasted. I’m not much of a beer person, but even I can appreciate the lavish beer menu. The back patio in the summer is the perfect place to spend an extended lunch hour with friends. EDGING OUT THE COMPETITION I saved the best for last. I’ve been dining at the Desert Edge Brewery 32 wasatchwoman.com
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in Trolley Square for a decade. This restaurant, commonly referred to as The Pub, is not just my favorite brewpub, but also my favorite restaurant. Nothing says summer, to me, like spending a warm night sitting outside on the balcony drinking a glass of red wine while catching up on life with my girlfriends. Life is busy, but the occasional night out keeps my life in balance. The food at Desert Edge feels healthier than any other pub food in the valley. I suspect this has something to do with the lack of french fries, and a variety of both cold and grilled salads. When you’ve frequented the same restaurant as long as I have Desert Edge, you absolutely play favorites with the menu. More often than not, I order the black bean and goat cheese quesadillas. I promise you, this is not your mother’s boring cheddar cheese quesadilla. The wine list leaves something to be desired, but the Syrah is perfectly acceptable for my taste. On special occasions, I order one of their numerous chocolate desserts. I have a slight weakness for all things chocolate. The Desert Edge Brewery holds some of the most memorable moments of my life. It was there that I met the man of my dreams, and consequently had my heart broken by him years later, at the same table. I have loved this restaurant longer than I have ever loved a man. It may be a codependent relationship, but it’s one that I’m completely satisfied in keeping.
If you go: Desert Edge Brewery at Trolley Square 550 S. 700 East (Inside Trolley Square), Salt Lake City 801-521-8917 Cuisine: American Price range: $20 and under
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HAUTE LOOKS
BY BONNIE HOOKER
SUMMER IS NEARLY HERE, bringing longer days, soaring temperatures, and increased outdoor activity. Warmer weather also heralds greasy skin, clogged pores, melting makeup and the occasional sunburn. To tame greasy skin, master esthetician Tricia Hintze recommends using non-comedogenic products (meaning they will not clog your pores), washing skin twice a day and using a physical scrub twice a week. On sensitive skin, a cleanser such as Cetaphil works well, and for other skin types, a wash containing salicylic acid breaks up sebum deposits and prevents breakouts. Monthly treatments such as microdermabrasion or chemical peels help keep pores squeaky clean.
Screen out those rays “Sunscreen is the most cost-effective and easiest way to protect your skin and avoid sun damage,” Tricia says. Apply sunscreen twice a day; once in the morning before heading out the door and again in the afternoon, as it tends to wear off with normal activity. Apply more frequently if you are engaging in any strenuous activities. “Don’t forget to apply to neck, cleavage and backs of hands, as these spots tend to get neglected. You can always tell a person’s age by their chest,” reveals Tricia. “People can take vigilant care of their face and they forget the rest. It shows.” Thanur Baurbur, a skin care specialist at LightTouch Laser, tells her clients to wear an SPF (sun protection
factor) of at least 30. She also tells her patients to use Retin-A, the only face cream proven to reverse sun damage and regenerate collagen and even out skin texture. “It’s an old standby, but it works.” She also likes NIA products, which contain niacin, a vitamin touted to heal sun damage and even out skin tone.
Both Thanur and Tricia like Neutrogena’s Ultra Sheer Sunblock SPF 85. It’s a non-comedogenic sun protective cocktail for your skin. This product also contains titanium dioxide and helioplex — a broad-spectrum sunscreen, meaning it protects against UVA, UVB and UVC rays. Plus, it’s affordable at $11.99 a tube, and is widely available at your local grocery store.
That burns! Thanur cautions that getting microdermabrasion and applying Retin-A will make skin more photosensitive. But, she says, “If you protect yourself from the sun, using SPF and hats, you can do any treatment to make your skin more beautiful.”
Got sunburn? Cleanse gently with tepid water and soothe the skin with pure aloe vera. Mask the redness with Physician’s Formula’s Organic Wear Natural Finishing Veil, it is completely free of preservatives and will not further irritate sun-damaged skin.
Sunny-side makeup Summer makeup is best applied with a light hand. Think sheer. Less is more. Lip stains and glosses with a hint of color are great this time of year. To control oil, try oil blotting papers or primer. Bath and Body Works has some great blotting papers in translucent, yellow or pink undertones, for a perfect match to every
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skin tone. Primer does double duty by both absorbing oil and reducing the appearance of pores and fine lines.
Benefit’s Dr. Feel Good primer comes infused with vitamins A, C and E. Best of all, it is colorless making it work for any skin color. Tricia is a proponent of mineral makeup. “It contains an antibacterial, it’s sheer, so it doesn’t look cakey and will not melt in the heat — nor does it suffocate the skin.” Mineral makeup contains titanium dioxide, a physical sunblock that also soothes red, irritated skin. Tricia likes Jane Iredale Mineral Makeup, but admits other brands work just as well. If coverage is what you need, Revlon Color Stay Light Makeup SPF 25 is sweat-proof, sun-proof, rub-proof and lasts all day. For more sheer coverage, a tinted moisturizer is the answer. It gives some coverage without looking heavy or cakey.
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hen I look back at my own wedding, I can’t believe how the time flew by. From the beginning — finding the right dress with my 101 friends (I bought two dresses because I couldn’t decide) — to the aftermath — picking up the dress from the dry cleaners — I
shocked and overwhelmed by all the options and costs that are available today. According to Real Simple magazine, the average Utah wedding is over $30,000. For example, when I was planning my own wedding, I was certain that peonies were my choice for my bouquet — but peonies in September are not a financial option.
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wish I could press “rewind” and do it all again, but with better shoes! Take it from me: slow down and enjoy it all. You are about to create some of the your most cherished memories. Every wedding fantasy you may have had as a young girl can easily distract you from the reality of what it takes to make it all happen. Doing the right research, asking the right questions and finding the right people to assist you can make your planning doable and even enjoyable.
FINDING YOUR STYLE Depending on your familiarity with wedding planning, you may be
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The more I researched flowers, the more I learned what I liked and what I didn’t; what was in season and how much it would cost. You can’t be an expert in everything. Therefore, the three most important questions you should continually ask yourself are:
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gets married this year, did this and said it really helped get her priorities straight. She initially wanted to get married in Hawaii, but with her older grandparents, the travel would have been impossible for them. Now she is having her wedding closer to home and feels great about her decision.
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Doing the right research, asking the right questions and finding the right people to assist you can make your planning doable and even enjoyable. much to him! Even in his office today, he has the seating chart framed. What a guy — that is why I married him!
GATHERING IDEAS You won’t regret the research you put into your wedding. Refrain from purchasing things until after you have done your research. Always make informed choices and know their costs — you don’t want to overspend early. Ask your family and friends, read bridal magazines or books, go online, attend wedding shows — anything that exposes you to the wedding world. Wedding magazines are addictive, so be careful. Invite some of your closest friends and family members over and bounce ideas off them. They’ll help you answer questions you may not have thought to answer: What is my wedding theme? Is it going to be formal or informal? What are my wedding colors? What do you want for food and drink? My hairdresser, who
Lastly, and most importantly, give yourself enough time to meditate, pray and write your wedding vows. My husband and I say our wedding vows to each other every anniversary. Many couples don’t give themselves enough time to focus on what is said at their wedding, but the words spoken are the heart of all weddings. Most of your guests will remember the ceremony by the words and feelings that were expressed. Your wedding is really about this — everything else is important, but secondary. Stay true to what matters most to both of you, find the right people to support you and you will have the time of your life. Congratulations.
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hat’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “sister”? My first thought is of two preteen siblings sharing a bedroom as well as their secrets when the lights go out at night. While this somewhat resembles my daughters, it is nothing like the relationship I had with my sister.
Lesli is a wonderful cook and throws an annual Halloween party that would make Martha Stewart envious. She even makes hand-dipped gourmet caramel apples made with apples from her own tree. I’ll be willing to bet that she doesn’t have an inkling of the impact she has had on my life through her example.
My sister, Lesli, is 11 1/2 years older than me. Supposedly, she always wanted a little sister. However, I’m quite certain I was not what she had in mind. While many sisters were sharing clothes and crushes, I was ruining her Madame Alexander dolls, staining her new light blue carpet and spying on her and her boyfriends. Instead of being a best friend, I was more of an annoyance!
Many women have been wonderful examples to me. Women don’t need to be siblings to be sisters. There are all kinds of sisters: sorority sisters, sisters-in-law, women that share similar religious views, women with similar ethnic backgrounds all call each other sisters. I consider my close friends to be sisters. Sisters are the women in life who share your ups and downs, victories and defeats and, at the end of the day, still call you their friend.
While this age difference may not have met Lesli’s expectations of the ideal sister, it worked out great for me. She was my role model. I wanted to be like her and make her proud of me. I always put her on a pedestal. When she was a teenager, she worked as a waitress in a nice restaurant, so when I turned 16, I found a restaurant to work in. I have done many things in my life because she did them first. She has been quite an inspiration to me and has influenced my career choices.
Celebrate sisters and sisterhood by doing a sisters’ lunch. You can go to a fun restaurant, have a picnic in the park or make them lunch. Cooking for friends is the ultimate way to show you care. Here are the recipes I used for my most recent sisters’ lunch. These recipes are quick and easy. Sisters are a wonderful blessing in our lives. Enjoy these precious relationships over good food.
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Crispy Pita Wedges 4 pita bread rounds 3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 1 clove garlic, pressed in a garlic press
Chicken Waldorf Salad Sea or kosher salt Fontina cheese, or other cheese (i.e. Gruyere, Cheddar, etc.), grated
Directions 1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. 2. In a small bowl, combine olive oil and pressed garlic. 3. Lightly brush pita rounds with olive oil mixture and sprinkle with a pinch of salt. Place on a sheet pan lined with parchment paper (or a Silpat baking sheet). Bake until golden brown (about 5 minutes). Remove from oven. Using tongs, turn each pita over and repeat the process with the oil and salt on the other side. Bake until light brown.
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3. Whisk the yogurt, mayonnaise, honey and lemon zest in a medium mixing bowl. 4. Wash apples thoroughly. Halve, core and cut the apples into 1/2-inch pieces, leaving the skin intact. Add the apples, celery and cherries to the bowl and sprinkle with lemon juice, then toss with the dressing. Cover and refrigerate if not serving immediately. 5. When ready to serve, toss almonds into the salad. Arrange the lettuce leaves on 4 salad plates. Place the salad atop lettuce and serve.
Warm Artichoke and Parmesan-Filled Wonton Cups 1 package fresh square wonton wraps 1 14-ounce can artichoke hearts (nonmarinated), quartered 1/2 cup freshly grated parmesan cheese, plus more for topping 1 cup mayonnaise
1 cup sour cream 1 small shallot, finely minced 1 garlic clove, finely minced or pressed 1/4 teaspoon Tabasco sauce Salt and pepper
Boneless, skinless chicken breasts
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2. Place 1 wonton skin in each cup of 2 mini muffin pans and gently press to form a cup. Bake 5-7 minutes until wontons just start to turn a pale golden color. Remove from oven and allow to cool.
1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees.
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3. In a food processor with steel blade attached, combine artichoke hearts, 1/2 cup of parmesan cheese, mayonnaise, sour cream, shallot, garlic and Tabasco sauce. Process on pulse setting until combined, but small chunks of artichoke remain.
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4. Spoon about 1 tablespoon of artichoke mixture into each wonton cup then top with more freshly grated parmesan cheese. Return to oven and bake until cups turn golden brown and are warmed through. 5. Carefully remove to serving platter and serve warm or at room temperature.
Lemon Cupcakes with Lemon Cream and Berries For the cupcakes 1 package yellow cake mix 1 small package lemon-flavored instant pudding mix 1 cup sour cream Zest of 1 lemon
Juice of 1 lemon Water 4 eggs 1/2 cup vegetable oil
For the Lemon Cream 1 1/2 cups heavy whipping cream 1/3 cup confectioner’s sugar 8 ounces (about 1 cup) lemon curd
2 small packages of fresh berries (raspberries, blackberries, blueberries or strawberries)
Directions 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. 2. Juice lemon into a 1/2-cup or larger measuring cup with measurements on the side. Once lemon juice is in, add enough
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1. Generously season chicken breasts with salt and pepper and grill until done. Let cool until they can be handled and cut into 1-inch chunks.
5. Serve immediately or cool and serve at room temperature.
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Wonton wraps Canned artichoke hearts (non-marinated) Sea or kosher salt
Directions 2. In a dry sauté pan over medium heat, toast almonds until they become fragrant. Watch carefully, turn often and remove from heat before they burn. Cool.
Shallots Garlic Lemons Gala or Braeburn apples Celery Dried cherries Bibb or butter lettuce Fresh berries
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Zest of 1 lemon, finely grated Juice from 1/2 lemon 1 head Bibb or butter lettuce, trimmed, washed and dried 2 or 3 boneless, skinless chicken breasts Salt and pepper
4. Remove from oven and turn oven to broil. Sprinkle pitas with a little cheese and place under the broiler until cheese melts and becomes golden brown. Remove and cut into 6 equal wedges.
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Yellow cake mix Lemon-flavored instant pudding Almond halves Tabasco sauce Mayonnaise Light mayonnaise Vegetable oil Extra virgin olive oil Honey Salt Pepper Confectioner’s sugar
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water to make 1/2 cup of liquid. Combine all ingredients in a mixing bowl and beat on medium speed for 3 minutes. 3. Liberally spray two 12-cup cupcake pans with baking spray and line them with cupcake liners. 4. Scrape down sides of bowl and stir to mix until well combined. Fill each cupcake cup 2/3 full. 5. Bake for 15-18 minutes until cupcakes barely spring back in the center when lightly touched. Do not let edges get brown. Remove from oven and allow them to cool a couple of minutes. Remove from pan to a cooling rack. Continue to cool until ready to frost. 6. Beat heavy cream until it starts to thicken. Add confectioner’s sugar and beat until thick, but not separating. 7. In a small mixing bowl, whisk lemon curd until pale yellow and no longer heavy and stiff. Gently add lemon curd to whipped cream and fold together until well incorporated and no big pockets of curd remain. Add to piping bag and pipe onto cooled cupcakes, or spread a thick layer with a butter knife. Decorate each cupcake with four berries and refrigerate until ready to serve.
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The women who keep a wellorganized home know the secret: They contemplate the problem, create systems and provide tools for order, and motivate their family to maintain them.
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friends’ homes, books or magazines for inspiration. (You can find a list of great organizing books at wasatchwoman.com.) Use a shoe shelf system to keep the shoes and boots from spilling out of a hall closet. Mount hooks on the wall where your children can reach to help ensure that they can easily hang up their own jackets and backpacks. Provide a place to sit and remove wet boots — even better, one that provides storage. Label containers to make a clear statement about where each member can place his/her things. By involving the family in the problem-solving part, you’ll have already established the groundwork for the next step: motivate them to maintain the organizing system. This is an oft-omitted step in the process, but without it the order won’t last. Marie says the biggest hindrance to keeping a home organized is that “women tend to think of themselves as ‘maid’ instead of ’mother.’”
First, sit down. (Yes, sit down … and contemplate.) You may want to take up a stool or chair in the entryway and take a good look around. Think of all the things that you use the entry for, e.g. hanging coats, storing boots and shoes, setting down keys and mail, applying lipstick and holding those little items like purses, scarves and hats.
When the shoe shelf system in my newly organized entryway wasn’t always being used by my children, I thought about walking around and picking up their shoes and boots and returning them to the shoe shelf, but only for a minute. What would happen if I was removed from the picture? Chaos would rein again. That’s fine for Bob Dylan, who says “chaos is a friend of mine,” but chaos makes most of us crazy. So, I used a chore-reward system that our family already had in place to connect desired behaviors with privileges (stay tuned for my article on job charts in our July/ August issue), to get my family interested in putting away their own shoes and boots.
Second, talk to your family about what they plan on storing in the entryway. Be careful; don’t try to accommodate everything. Begin by reducing what your family has: “Get rid of half of what you own,” says Marie Ricks, author of Project: Organization — Quick and Easy Ways to Organize your Life. Share, donate or dispose of items you don’t need.
Every family can establish rules for maintaining order, give rewards for keeping those rules and impose consequences for breaking them. This requires creativity and perseverance, but the harvest is immense. Your family learns selfdiscipline and organizing habits and you (this is the best part) get a peaceful, organized home!
Truthfully, starting on an organizing project can be daunting, but with a few simple steps, the process will be easier than you think.
Create a system for storing or containing what’s left. List the types of tools or products you’ll need. Look to organized
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ared and Daniel Chapman are always at each other’s throats. They push and shove, argue and tattle.
Their angst is classic sibling rivalry, a jockeying for position in their family and in the world. Ten-yearold Daniel struggles socially and academically, and tends toward emotional outbursts. Jared, 8, does well in school, is a natural athlete and makes friends easily. He also has a gift for trumpeting his superiority. While sibling skirmishes such as these can drive a parent to the brink of insanity, such confrontations are normal, says Murray-based family counselor Nancy Bradish. “In each of us is the need for attention and approval,” she says. “Children vie for attention and are very competitive.”
Both Kathryn Chapman, 41, and her husband, Mark, try to spend time alone with each of their four children, but most especially with the struggling Daniel. Kathryn reads books with him and takes him to the library or shopping. Mark plays chess with his son or they watch a movie. Kathryn often reviews with her warring boys which behaviors are not allowed in their home. To help them remember each other’s positive qualities, she sometimes asks them to write 10 nice things about each other. Last year, a family therapist recommended that the brothers develop separate sets of friends, a difficult task as the family’s Provo neighborhood is short on boys in Daniel’s age group.
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The ongoing rivalry between Laura Smith’s 7-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son stems from the daughter’s intense dislike of her brother. “They’ve been like oil and water from the get go,” says Laura, who lives in Riverton. “He gets in her face and bugs her for attention. She doesn’t like it, so she cries, screams and tattles on him.”
Laura Smith’s solution to her children’s squabbling is a technique she learned in a Love and Logic parenting class: Teach them how to handle differences and let them solve the problems themselves. But, that’s often difficult.
“It’s really hard to stay out of it,” says Laura, 37. “Some days they have issue after issue and I need to separate everybody, just for my own sanity.”
RIVALRY AS INSPIRATION While sibling rivalry takes its RIVALRY REMEDIES The most common cause of sibling rivalry is competition for parental attention, Nancy says. Every child wants to think they are their parents’ favorite, and they are chagrined when they have to share the limelight with a sibling. Spending one-on-one time with each child will go far toward making them feel loved and less competitive, Nancy says. The time need not be spent with elaborate activities — helping with homework will do. So will taking a son to football practice or chauffeuring a daughter to dance class. During that time, it is important for a parent to listen more than talk. “It’s easy to fall into the role of telling a child what’s best for them,” Nancy says. “Instead, ask the child what she thinks. Get her to think about choices and consequences, then try to guide her to the best decision.”
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toll on siblings and parents alike, Kathryn thinks all the competing has a silver lining. As a teenager, Kathryn envied her older sister, Wendy, as she learned to assemble and wear stylish outfits. The feeling grew to rivalry, spurring Kathryn to amass her own fashionable wardrobe. As Wendy prepared to serve a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Kathryn decided to rededicate herself to the church, too. When the sisters got engaged to their respective husbands, Wendy and her fiancé read marriage books together to prepare for their upcoming nuptials. Kathryn followed suit. “I saw what Wendy was doing and I strived harder,” Kathryn says. “Sibling rivalry can inspire people to be better.”
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For some mother-daughter pairs, it’s the daughter who jumps on board a mother’s business venture. Gillian Rawcliffe says she grew up alongside digital communications agency Verite, founded 15 years ago by her mother, Kim Jones. “I remember the first couple of years, my mom was working out of our house and we constantly had contractors coming in and out,” she says. “Verite is normal life for us.”
Trish’s mother, Louise Harrington, was teaching high school in Provo when Trish asked her to be Modbe’s second consultant and to sell the swimwear to friends through parties. “I got hooked,” says Louise. “I loved working with women and selling them a product that made them feel good. I made more in that summer than I ever did working as a teacher and I only worked as a consultant part time!”
Having watched Verite since its inception, Gillian brings a solid understanding of the organization’s internal workings, but Kim refused to put her into a job she wasn’t qualified for. Instead, Kim hired Gillian as the receptionist and allowed her to work her way up to her current position in business development.
fter having her third baby, Trish Wilhite faced a dreaded task: finding a swimsuit that fit and flattered. Unsuccessfully combing stores got her to thinking — why not design her own? Trish set up camp in her basement in 2005, calling her line of swimwear Modbe.
Trish and Louise are one of many mother-daughter teams finding success in the workplace together. Today more than 10 million companies are owned by women, employing more than 15 million people and generating $1.9 trillion in sales a year. And more than 61 percent of those plan to pass their business on to their daughters, as opposed to just 30 percent of male business owners, according to the Center for Women’s Business Research. Utah is one of the top states nationally for starting a woman-owned business, says Lavanya Mahate, director of the Women’s Business Center in Salt Lake City. Current statistics estimate that 40 percent of Utah’s businesses are owned by women — that’s two-fold growth in the last decade, says Lavanya. As growth continues, some women find unexpected business partners in those they are closest to — their mothers or daughters. “What makes any partnership click is when there is mutual understanding and trust, which often lacks in other kinds of partnerships,” says Lavanya. “What sets a successful mother-daughter business apart is there is this unconditional trust and love and more patience, understanding and giving in to each other’s opinions and ideas. The trust factor is big. So which other relationship can beat a motherdaughter relationship?”
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Utah is one of the top states nationally for starting a woman-owned business. Current statistics estimate that 40 percent of Utah’s businesses are owned by women — that’s two-fold growth in the last decade. When asked how their mother-daughter relationship changes in a business setting, there was a pause. “Go ahead, Mom,” says Gillian. “It gets a lot more serious,” replies Kim, who admits that at times she is a little harder on Gillian than on other employees. “We are both very much goal-oriented and task-oriented, but it can be stressful because of our relationship sometimes, and we can be in tough situations with clients or vendors, so, yeah, there are times when the stress level can go up.” “I really respect her as a boss,” says Gillian. “I still think of her as a mother when I come to work, but there is a professional switch that we turn on and off.” Though they admit they do discuss business outside the office, Gillian and Kim say they are pretty intuitive about
“She’s my business partner, but in our free time, we’re mother and daughter. We don’t annoy each other as much as you would imagine.”
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when to talk about life outside of Verite. “It’s nice that we can still get a glass of wine and not talk about work,” says Gillian. “I think we hang out more now that we work together than we did before.”
daughter. We don’t annoy each other as much as you would imagine,” says Nashlah.
Mother and daughter Shahar and Nashlah Boyayan feel the same closeness. A single mother since her daughter, Nashlah, was 4 years old, Shahar says she and her daughter learned how to work together very early. Shahar started boutique social media agency Buzz Booster and after receiving a degree in business communications, Nashlah joined her mother. The team learned how to divide responsibilities to capitalize on two different generations’ approaches to technology. Nashlah, who “grew up in front of a computer” coaches clients on how to use a Web site and how to update content. Shahar brings a top-down perspective of why a business owner needs to use the Internet to build the strategy and the marketing plan together, says Shahar. The pair launched WhoPopsYourPopcorn.com, an online television show that provides business and marketing tips to about 10,000 viewers. A quick glance at the show makes it evident that the Boyayans enjoy being together. “She’s my business partner, but in our free time, we’re mother and
All three sets of mothers and daughters agreed that working out how to solve issues in the business arena is crucial for a successful mother-daughter partnership. To resolve conflict, Shahar and Nashlah hold meetings twice a week to walk through any issues. “We both have strong personalities, so we have to figure out a way to keep respect in place. But sometimes there is some yapping,” says Shahar. “Usually it’s Shahar who starts that,” says Nashlah. “For me, I have to keep my cool and realize that Gillian is an employee,” says Kim. “We might be in the middle of working out a situation and I realize I maybe wouldn’t be quite so direct or in-your-face with another employee.” “And I have to ask myself if I am respectfully speaking to a boss the way I would if I was not related to my boss,” says Gillian. “I would concur,” says Kim. And then, “But we also maintain our sense of humor.”
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The vote by the mostly male board of the nonprofit Ogden Pioneer Heritage Foundation to place Desiree in charge of the event speaks volumes about the former Miss Rodeo Utah’s reputation as a leader — and her savvy in the business, sales and marketing industries. planning and execution of Ogden Pioneer Days: Sometimes, the best man for the job is, indeed, a woman. “This job is exciting. It can be a crazy ride, that’s for sure,” says Desiree, a fashion-merchandising and sales and service technology professor at Weber State University, who is gearing up for her second and last year as the top leader of the committee that runs the annual summertime rodeo and city party. The warm weather is heralding the sweltering days of summer, but Desiree
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has spent the winter months tying up loose ends so up to 80,000 people can enjoy the events connected to Pioneer Days, widely regarded as Utah’s best statehood commemoration.
While no easy task, it’s also an appointment for the history books: She’s the first woman to be named to the position since 1934, when legendary Ogden Mayor Harm Peery launched the northern Utah community’s celebration of its western heritage. “It really is breaking the glass ceiling,” Desiree said. After all, she says, the world of the Professional Rodeo Cowboys Association for the most part remains the stomping grounds of “the man’s man” — a place where women aren’t often the ones seen calling the shots, either in the boardroom or behind the bucking chutes. “We’re dealing with the epitome of the macho man,” she said, flashing a smile. The vote by the mostly male board of the nonprofit Ogden Pioneer Heritage Foundation to place Desiree in charge of the event speaks volumes about the former Miss Rodeo Utah’s reputation as a leader — and her savvy in the business, sales and marketing industries. “I am always trying to negotiate a better deal,” said Desiree, who has worked as a consultant on sales-training and customer-service techniques for such Fortune 500 companies as IBM, Hewlett-Packard and Microsoft. “Yes, we are selling a product — it’s entertainment, but it is still a
product,” said Desiree, who is equally at home in Wranglers and Justin boots as in Prada and Jimmy Choos. Desiree’s view of her job is simple, strategic and straightforward: the rodeo is a business. And it must find a way to financially survive — and, yes, even thrive — in this era that is increasingly urban, hip and high-tech. So that is her challenge: To create enough excitement around a show featuring America’s first extreme sport that even the iPod generation will plunk down hard-earned cash to attend. That means pretty girls in flashy shirts racing around the arena on raring-togo horses. It means a JumboTron for up-close-and-personal looks at the action. It means specialty acts that take motocross riders high into the air. It means rock-and-roll, disco and techno music while bulls toss cowboys off their backs. And it means a fun, low-cost, clean and safe environment for families who come as part of the activities that run July 19-24. It means branding the rodeo as a one-show-fits-all event. “Branding is huge,” she says. “We are getting better at it, but we need to get back to the days when Ogden Pioneer Days was a part of everybody’s tradition. We are getting back there. History has a way of repeating itself.” Desiree notes that Mayor Peery founded Ogden Pioneer Days at the height the Great Depression. Today, as pennies are pinched in an equally fervent fashion, she realizes that the western-influenced show, propelled by hundreds of volunteers, must be even better than it has been before. “This is such a mix of my worlds,” she says. She comes from academia and the business world, but “also from a rodeo family. And, really, coming from that type of background taught me so much, but it mostly taught me this: Once you start, you don’t quit.”
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INSURANCE PICTURE A MEDIEVAL CASTLE — one built as a fortress and surrounded by a moat. The moat kept the castle safe, protected from intruders and marauding invaders. The people within were secure. To make sure the people within your castle are secure, you need to create a moat of protection too. Step 4 in our Building a Firm Financial Foundation series is having adequate protection against the unforeseen events of life. Let’s look at two very important decisions you need to make.
BY BONNIE EVENSEN
DISABILITY INSURANCE If the main breadwinner in your home were unable to work due to a disabling accident or disease, how long could your family survive? Disability insurance will provide an income to the family. There are several parts to a good disability program that you will want to discuss with a professional. Just remember the moat around the castle and don’t overlook this important step in your protection. ONE MORE CONSIDERATION
LIFE INSURANCE Why should you have life insurance? If anything happened to you or your spouse, would your family be able to stay in their home or would they suffer a severe financial loss? Would your children be able to have the education you wanted them to have? Whether you are a dual-income family, a single parent or a single woman, adequate life insurance is crucial. In addition to protecting the family, life insurance can help provide a secure retirement. Here’s a quick look at two main types of life insurance:
TERM LIFE INSURANCE This is the most basic type of life insurance. It’s like leasing a car. You may purchase death benefit for a specific period — such as 5, 10 or 20 years. When the period is over, the coverage is gone — like turning in a leased car. • The premiums are generally fixed for the time of coverage and begin at a lower amount than a permanent policy. • The policy doesn’t build cash value. • In some cases, you can covert the policy to permanent life insurance without having to take another medical exam.
PERMANENT LIFE INSURANCE
• The policy provides a guaranteed death benefit along with a guaranteed premium. • Cash values accumulate and grow at a tax-deferred rate. • Policyholders can borrow from the cash value to pay for things such as a college education.
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We work hard at building a beautiful and strong castle. But we simply don’t know what kind of unplanned and unexpected intrusions may come our way. Protection is critical. Build a strong moat and your castle will be secure.
firm financial foundation 1. Decide to be financially secure and then do something about it. 2. Take responsibility for your money. 3. Build an emergency cushion.
PREVIOUS STEPS
This insurance can be compared to buying a car that you plan to drive forever. It will stay in force for as long as you want it to.
In addition to life and disability insurance, many people want an additional type of protection called long-term care insurance. It’s possible that your parents or you and your spouse may someday need assistance with the basics of living. Who will give the needed care? Are you able to quit your job to care for your parents? Do you want your children to be in financial stress as they care for you? The phrase “long-term care” is used to describe assistance with the things you do each day, such as getting dressed, eating, moving from place to place and using the bathroom. Help can be given at home, in an assisted living facility or in other places. Here’s a warning — long-term care can be expensive. A year in a nursing home is estimated to cost a national average of $60,000, often more. Good planning is critical. Talk this over with your parents or your children and make the right choice for your family.
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BY MICHELLE LEONARD
Addressing the
GREAT RECESSION Tuning out the news because it’s too depressing? Avoiding your 401(k) statements? Wondering what happened to the exciting campaign season? Unfortunately, things may get worse. Some may think of the Great Depression as lasting just one terrible year in 1929 when the stock market crashed. But, the crash was just the beginning. From 1929–1932, more than 5,000 U.S. banks failed, along with $2 billion in deposits. U.S. unemployment reached 25 percent, millions lined up for soup and suicide rates climbed. Utahns were hit especially hard during the Depression because the majority were farmers and the state faced a severe drought. In 1933, Utah’s unemployment reached 36 percent, the fourth highest in the nation. And for the next decade, it averaged above 25 percent, with more than 32 percent of its population on some type of government assistance. By comparison, the U.S. unemployment rate in March was about 9 percent and Utah’s was 5 percent, the fourth lowest in the nation. So how did the Depression generation survive? They got by on what they had, wasted nothing, re-using shoes, bags and more. They took the jobs that were available, regardless of pay or prestige. Government also stepped in to assist and Republicans lost power in the presidency, Congress and the state. President Franklin D. Roosevelt established what was called the New Deal — several extensive programs and public work projects to employ, feed and assist citizens. Many programs came to Utah: school lunch, nutrition classes and thousands of miles of highways, roads and sewer systems were constructed, as well as more than 250 public buildings including city halls and schools. About half of them are still standing.
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Fast-forward to our challenge: It looks like our 15-monthplus recession is now probably a global recession, although some are even using the dreaded “d-word” (depression) to describe it. Even billionaire Warren Buffett described the U.S. economy as “falling off of a cliff,” as he lost more than 30 percent of his value this past year, and his title as the world’s richest man. What will be required of us (and our politics) to get through our Great Recession? Will government be the answer? Will President Obama’s stimulus packages be today’s New Deal? Perhaps it’s time to face some enlightening facts:
Save before you spend. Perhaps we can learn to earn and then spend, as satirized in a recent SNL skit with Steve Martin: “You mean if I don’t have money then I can buy something?” Commentator: “No, you save money, and then you buy it.” Recognize the big picture. Other countries are not faring as well as the U.S. during this recession. GDP is down more than 10 percent in several European countries, and 20 percent in some Asian countries. But we need China and others to continue to buy our debt in the form of Treasury bills to keep our stimulus coming.
Address our real challenges. It’s time for both political parties to address our fears and financial challenges openly and with “transparency,” as accountants say. In Thomas Friedman’s apropos remarks at a recent University of Utah event, the New York Times columnist said, “Our country, our financial system is in cardiac arrest.” We need more straight talk like this. Where does that leave us today? To clip coupons, to spend less, to keep our jobs, to be thrifty and to realize that this recession — perhaps the worst since the 1920s — may get worse before it gets better, but can yet change us for the good.
BY ALLISON HANSEN
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“When have we ever listened to our mother?” AT FIRST GLANCE, it is
easy to distinguish sassy brunette Suzette Eaton from her younger sister, bubbly redheaded Sheridan Larsen. But when they start talking, with giggles colliding and conversation overlapping, it is nearly impossible to differentiate between the two sisters.
store is going to look fabulous,” she says. “I just know that, so I don’t worry about it.” At first, their mother was nervous about the partnership. “Our mother actually counseled against it,” says Suzette. Sheridan interjects, “When have we ever listened to our mother?!” Their mischievous laughter blends, and Suzette agrees. “Yeah, we never listen to our mother.” There is one lesson that stuck: Be nice. “We have very strong family ties, and we just weren’t allowed to talk mean or ugly,” says Suzette. The girls, who say they (mildly) disagree about once every five years, continue to treat each other with respect as both a family rule and a business practice.
Suzette and Sheridan are best known as co-owners of the fantastically knickknacky and fashionable Hip and Humble boutiques in the 9th and 9th neighbor- Even with the economic downturn, the shops are hood of Salt Lake City and experiencing a healthy gain. They’ve created a faithin Bountiful. But their syn- ful following with special events, a discount club ergy seeps into every facet of with members-only benefits and free fresh-baked their lives: they live a block cookies all day. Their sweet apart, their kids (two each) walk home from school sisterhood is what makes together and their husbands pitch in. “We have a it work. “It has been the crazy big family where we make lunches together best experience of my life and tend each other’s children,” explains Suzette. to share it with her and to “On the weekends, the kids go between houses and be able to have a business eat dinner wherever they are.” partner and a friend and a Sheridan says she always knew they’d be business partners; they’ve owned Hip and Humble together now for 10 years. They credit their success to a deliberate division of labor that makes use of their individual talents: Suzette manages the housewares division, with funky lime green teapots to sweetly scented diffusers, while Sheridan handles the fashion, including curve-friendly denim and date-worthy tops. Suzette explains: “I don't ask what's coming in [fashion], and I don’t know what's coming in. Because we've known each other for 35 years, you never worry about anything. She's always had the best fashion since she was 6 and I was always redecorating and redoing my room.” Sheridan nods. “And I know the
sister all rolled into one, because there is no one you can trust more,” says Suzette. “You have a friend who really does understand what you’re going through,” says Sheridan. “We’re stuck with each other. Maybe that’s why we’re so nice to each other,” laughs Suzette. “We’re not going anywhere,” Sheridan smiles. “What would we do? We’d be really bored sisters.”
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Your guide to meditation
BY BONNIE HOOKER
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hat’s on your mind? If you’re like most women, you’d say “a lot.” That’s because as women we often are doing many things at once. If the demands of all these activities become too much to handle, stress levels go up. The stress of everyday living cannot only affect how we feel, but it sometimes overflows the daytime, resulting in sleepless nights. Less sleep leaves you more irritable, less productive, dissatisfied and entering a cyclical pattern of anxiety and unhappiness. Meditation could be the answer. When done properly, meditation calms the mind, making it more focused and lucid. Taking time to meditate ideally should give you more time to complete life’s busy tasks, because meditation brings you clarity and focus. Meditation helps you filter out what is not important. That helps you become more balanced in your day-to-day life. Daily meditation increases creativity and mental agility, lowers blood pressure, boosts happiness and alleviates insomnia.
Good for what ails you
According to meditation guide Rachel Rofe of YourBestMeditation.com, one of the most profound arguments for starting a meditation practice is that “meditation raises serotonin levels, which influences mood and behavior.” Serotonin is a feel-good neurotransmitter produced by our brain. When the brain is overloaded with stress and anxiety, serotonin levels drop and can result in depression, lethargy and confusion. Dr. Steven Rector practices emergency medicine in southeast Iowa and has lectured internationally on the importance of integrating western medicine with alternative healing. He is also a proponent of the health benefits of meditation. Dr. Rector, in answering a question on DoctorsOnTM.org, says, “Studies suggest that this unique state of physiology (meditation) helps regulate cortisol and other hormones associated with chronic stress — and also healthier regulation of serotonin.” Someone who meditates
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regularly also displays “increased integration and orderliness of brain functioning.” Natalie Hansen, director of the Transcendental Meditation Center in Herriman, agrees with the overall health benefits of meditation. “Inner peace creates outer peace. There is decreased domestic violence, reduced use of non-prescribed and prescribed drugs, and the reversal of the aging process.”
Take a time-out
According to Meditation.org, “A simple 10- or 15-minute breathing meditation can help you to overcome your stress and find some inner peace and balance.” It sounds easy, but when pressed to actually clear your mind and focus on nothing, everything speaks to your brain, clamoring for attention — the laundry needs to be loaded, the dust bunnies under the bed need to be vacuumed, your child needs help with homework. This distraction is what yogis refer to as “monkey mind.” Julie Moss, a meditation practitioner for over 20 years, suggests using a mantra to reduce distraction and keep monkey mind at bay. “I try to pick a mantra that means something to me. I focus on the rhythm and cadence of it, repeating it over and over again, either out loud or silently. It keeps all the other debris at bay.” The most familiar mantra is “om” it has no meaning, isn’t an actual word — but rather a sound. Om is considered to be the sound of the universe, or the sound of existence. When chanting om, it shuts out everything else.
Contemplate this
Rachel cautions that meditation requires practice. Don’t be upset if it doesn’t come easy in the beginning. Be patient; like anything, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. While meditation can be done anywhere — from in the car to the checkout line in the grocery store — Rachel recommends
you start out in a space where you won’t be disturbed. Turn off all distractions, such as cell phones, TV and radio. Meditation can be done either sitting up or lying down, whichever is more comfortable, just make sure to have a straight back. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Try to keep your mind empty. Throw out thoughts that do not serve you. Think not of the past or the future — only the now. One technique Rachel advocates is to “picture your thoughts as black smoke. Breathe the black smoke out and imagine the breath that you are breathing in is full of bright white cleansing light. Your mind and thoughts are being purified.” Try this for 5 to 10 minutes and try to work your way up 20 or 30 minutes. Daily meditation practice gives you the most benefit, but takes commitment. The actual time involved in meditation can be as little as five minutes. Five minutes for less stress and possible age reversal? Close your eyes, breathe deep and see what happens.
Store.Unexplainable.net has many different meditations available to choose from and you can download free sample meditations to try. Locally, the Golden Braid Bookstore in Salt Lake City sells guided meditation CDs starting at $15. You can listen to them anywhere, although we don’t recommend use while driving. A live meditation class is another great way to go. The Yoga Center in Holladay offers a twice-weekly meditation class for all levels. It includes guided meditation combined with gentle stretching. The first class is free; after that, it’s $11 per class. Charlotte Bell, a Salt Lake City-based yoga instructor, offers a yoga, meditation and music retreat in Lava Hot Springs, Idaho. Her method integrates the principles of yoga, meditation and music to make meditation more appealing to the beginner.
FAMILY PRACTICE Julie Hooker-Baker, a yoga instructor and stepmother of two boys, has been meditating for over 10 years. She likes using the Wii Fit to get into the mood. “It’s a great way to get your family interested.” She declares. “It’s competitive; I know that flies in the face of what meditation is about, but its works.” Wii Fit meditation is competitive in that family members are battling it out for the most time spent sitting in a meditative state. “I can actually get my stepkids to do it!” Julie exclaims. The Wii Fit tracks each individual’s progress not only in time, but also in how still the practitioner is sitting, then you compare how you are doing against your opponents.
www.charlottebellyoga.com www.yourbestmeditation.com — Rachel Rofe, Julie Hooker-Baker, Julie Moss www.tm.org — Dr Steven Rector, Natalie Hansen of Transcendental Meditation Center www. store.unexplainable.net — John
MORE MEDITATION HELP Our meditation expert, Rachel Rofe, says that using a guided meditation CD with soothing music and voice walking you through a meditation can really help, especially in the beginning.
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BY BETH DOVE
Electrifying new hope
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for migraine pain
ow in her 50s, Joanne Wright has spent a large part of her life since her teens battling migraine. The severe throbbing head pain comes a few times a month and can last hours or days. “I’ve been to experts and tried so many different meds,” says Joanne. “Now, I just give myself up to it. My life stops — the whole world stops.” Joanne unplugs the phone and takes her two grandchildren to a neighbor’s house. Then she lies down in a dark room until the pain has run its course.
Many treatments are available to prevent or halt migraine. But for some sufferers, nothing seems to work.
Migraines plague 28 million Americans, and women are three times more likely to get them than men. Like Joanne, up to 10 percent of migraine sufferers get no relief from medication or simply can’t tolerate the side effects. A new treatment called occipital nerve stimulation may soon offer relief from the most stubborn, unresponsive migraines. The technology involves stimulating the greater occipital nerve on the back of the head with an electrical device. Here’s how it works: Electrodes are placed under the skin on the back of the neck. Wire leads are then tunneled to another part of the body where a device about the size of a pacemaker is placed just underneath the skin. Electrical signals travel from the implanted device along the leads through the electrodes to the targeted nerves. The electrical impulses are intended to mask pain signals before they can reach the brain.
“It changed their lives,” says Robin Hollingsworth, of the patients for whom the device worked. “Others got no relief at all, and still others were helped somewhat.” Robin is the director of clinical
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Migraine sufferers’ symptoms are unique to each person, therefore, there’s no surprise that some people benefited from the treatment and others didn’t. Because each person’s symptoms are different, no single treatment is likely to help everyone. Occipital nerve stimulation is not for everyone who has ever suffered a migraine. Because the electrode and delivery device are both implanted, complications can occur. Such an invasive treatment is reserved for people who haven’t responded to more conventional methods. “It’s important to remember that the people enrolled in this study have exhausted all prior therapies,” says Lynn Webster, M.D., who has implanted 24 of the devices as lead investigator and medical director at Lifetree. “If we can help even a portion of them, that’s a major success.”
Readers who would like to explore this treatment option can call Lifetree Clinical Research and Pain Clinic at 801-261-4988. Lifetree is located at 3838 South 700 East, Suite 200, Salt Lake City, Utah.
Boston Scientific is the medical technology company that manufactures the current device. Other companies are also studying the use of electrical impulses to treat pain. As the results from these studies become available, treatment options may widen for those who need them most.
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The device is being studied to see if it can reduce the number of migraine days in people who have had multiple migraines for at least one year. Because the study is still going on, exact numbers can’t be released yet, but early results are encouraging — at least for some sufferers.
operations at Lifetree Clinical Research in Salt Lake City. Lifetree is one of 15 sites nationwide to participate in the four-year PRISM (Precision Implantable Stimulator for Migraine) study. The study is slated to wrap up in 2010.
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Finding the right fit in a sports bra
A,B,C’s and Double D’s
BY MELANIE DOUGLAS
It doesn’t matter
if you do yoga, walk, jump rope, kick-box or strength train, every good workout starts with a good sports bra.
running, jumping or aerobics need tighter support, but not so tight that you couldn’t comfortably take a deep breath.
This is serious business. Many women don’t realize that breast connective tissue can become irreversibly stretched without adequate support during activity. What does that mean? One word: sagging. Finding a good sports bra will keep the lift you have and prevent gravity from taking its toll.
Sports bras should be breathable and the material should wick moisture away from your body. Poly/Lycra blends are good, but most companies have their own branded form of wicking material. Watch out for wires that prod, poke or rub the wrong way, as well as thick exterior seams that can cause chafing on the arms. Encapsulation, or shaping that surrounds and supports each breast individually, increases comfort as well.
Finding the right fit, support level and durability need only be a once or twice a year investment. Take the time to find what works for you. Your body will thank you.
Comfortable
Washable Regardless of activity, a good sports bra should meet three basic guidelines. It should be:
Supportive Support is the whole point of a sports bra. Good support means minimal bounce. And less bounce means you can move more comfortably for a longer duration — and without stretching supportive breast ligaments. Adjustable straps are handy because they allow you to personalize the support level for different activities. High-impact activities like
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Working out means sweating, and sweating means washing. Your sports bra will be washed more than any other piece of workout apparel you own. Read customer reviews to see if a bra washes well (Zappos.com or Nike.com have great customer reviews on each product). Padded sports bras are increasingly popular, but padding isn’t always up for daily sweat-a-thons and washing machine agitation. (Most sports bras do best with hang drying … but being machine washable is a sports bra necessity!)
This is serious business. Many women don’t realize that breast connective tissue can become irreversibly stretched without adequate support during activity.
I’ve been teaching group fitness for over 15 years. I sweat hard and work hard. My sports bras get washed and beat up — every single day. After hours of research and years of personal hits and misses, here are my favorites:
$45 Range Saucony Motion Sensor Bra: This bra rules in support! It compresses and holds you in, yet it’s still comfy. www.zappos.com or Salt Lake Running Co.
Moving Comfort Fiona Bra: With clever, concealed front adjustable straps and seamless encapsulated cups, this one is extremely supportive and comfortable. www.movingcomfort.com
$30 Range Moving Comfort Alexis Bra: Coined the “wonder bra of sports bras,” this little number packs both incredible shape and support. www.movingcomfort.com
Moving Comfort Iris Bra: Great shaping and smooth, noline look under shirts. This one rules in breathability because of a unique wrap-around ventilation system. www.movingcomfort.com
$10 Range Danskin Medium-Impact Active Sports Bra: This bra is padded and comfortable. It washes reasonably well, but won’t last six months. The straps can run a bit tight on the shoulders, but for $10 you can’t complain. www.walmart.com
BOUNCE TEST Before you decide which bra is right for you, try it on and give it the bounce test. Run in place or simulate the activity you’ll be performing while wearing the bra. That way, you’ll find a bra that fits your unique curves while you enjoy a variety of activities. Once you’ve got the right sports bra, you’ll move more comfortably and you’ll be well supported. Both you and your breasts will be happy about that.
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“Sisters” can have fun, too – BY CARL BAUMEISTER
I’m a gym rat – okay? Not a mouse, or squirrel, or beetle and certainly not a butterfly. A rat. I’m not sure who the first gym rat was, but the phrase coiner was saying to him, and me and everybody else like us, “Hey, you love gyms and working out and sweating and, er, um … being macho!”
Next time you see your “man,” put your thumbs up next to your ribs with index fingers pointing out like you’re aiming pistols and say, in your best James Cagney, “You — you dirty gym rat, you.” If he works out, he will beam with pride. If he doesn’t work out, he will immediately spring in the direction of WalMart (it’s the economy, stupid!). Or, depending on how fat he has gotten, he may slowly drag his sorry keister out of the easy chair. If there’s a popping sound as he emerges, you know you got to him just in time. He will then brush the potato chip crumbs from around his pie hole and chin, and lumber off in search of workout clothes. A couple hours later, he’ll be outfitted in the latest gear. If you’re lucky, he might even have headband, tipped deftly like a fedora. If he’s smoking a cigarette, it will at least be filtered — gotta save some of that “wind” for workin’ out! Ah, there’s something sexy about being called a gym rat. However, among the guys lately, it’s not fashionable to address a fellow gentleman as a gym rat. You don’t go up to someone at the gym, and say,
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swat!
“Hello, Gym Rat. How do you do? How are your investments? What are you to accomplish here at the gymnasium today?” Of course not — that would be just plain silly. Instead, here is standard fare in the parlance of modern dudes at the gym:
Question: “Hey bro, howdahellya doin’?” Answer: “Hrrrkrrr.” Question: “Whatcha workin’ bro?” Answer: “Hrrrrkerrr … [Puff] … Chiz … [Puff] … Hrrrrrkellee--ee.” Question: “Huh? Hercules? What? Oh, chest. I thought so because it looks big — like Hercules. OK — see ya, bro.” Now, girls, did you notice the deft use of the moniker, “bro?” When guys greet each other at the gym, they shake hands in the “macho-cool” style: well-calloused hands grasped thumbwrestling style, pumped-up chests banged together once, a few flicks brofingers to bro-fingers and then quickly let go — lest anyone think something. Girls, I never see this kind of camaraderie between you at the club. Are you too competitive with each other? Why not have some fun? Here’s what I propose: From now on, all women at the gym are to address each other as “sis.” This is to be followed by a light, perfunctory kiss on each cheek — Euro-style, a flurry of finger clicks (sis to sis) and a nice little backhanded swat on the
can. Why should the girls be left out of the fun? A typical dialogue would go something like this:
Girl Question: “‘Sup, sis?” [Kisses on sweaty cheeks.] Girl Answer: “Jrrrwwwwrrr … [Puff].” Girl Question: “Whatcha workin’?” Girl Answer: “Jrrrwwwwrrr… glue … [Puff] … Jrrrwwwwrrrkk.” Girl Question: “What? Glue … oh, your glutes! Well, keep it up, sis. You’re looking small … right here! [SWAT.]” Okay, see ya, sis.
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