Unleash your power with PURPOSE.

By Rebecca Miller

As I sit down to write this blog, I’m staring out my hotel window on to the beautiful views of Southbank in Melbourne. The city outside may be bustling but it’s time for my mind to quiet and reflect. I have just attended a training day at The Coaching Institute with Remi Pearson which truly blew my mind.

The last 24-hours has got me reflecting over the last 30 years like never before. Wow, three decades. What an incredible journey it has been with so many highs, lessons learnt, challenges to overcome, failures to acknowledge and so much growth - not just in my craft but personally and as a solopreneur.

It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been so worth it because it brought me to this moment, right now, reflecting on my journey with the fullest of hearts. I have an overwhelming feeling of joy and I want to stop for a moment to honour that journey, myself and all the people who have been on the journey with me (whether it was a reason, season, or a lifetime) and contributed to my growth.

This time 30 year ago, I was training to become a beauty therapist and I loved it. I really felt like I had found my calling. To be honest, I didn’t love school (well, I loved the social part but didn’t love the schoolwork) but attending college to study beauty therapy unleashed something inside me - a sense of purpose and meaning.

I loved all the anatomy and physiology side of things, of course the practical days but what I loved most of all was how I made my clients feel. This ignited something inside of me, like I knew I was going to go on to create something impactful and meaningful.

From that naive 18-year-old who wanted to change the world, to now 30 years later building a 5-million-dollar empire, being awarded Australian Clinic Of The Year, Salon Team Of The Year, Business Leader Of The Year, NSW Business Of The Year, Parkes, and Orange

Most Outstanding Business. I own all my clinic buildings; I’ve had the honour of training over 50 therapists in my business and helped some of them go on and start their own businesses. My podcast, Living Your Best Life, having over 50 thousand downloads, I live in my dream home, I have 3 beautiful children who are my world and last year, I was awarded Humanitarian Of The Year at the Australian Beauty Industry Awards. I am just about to host my 5th retreat “Becoming Limitless” and now dedicate my life work to my legacy, coaching hundreds of salon owners.

I am not sharing all of this with you to be wanky and brag about my achievements but show you that absolutely anyone can do this!

If I had to share the one thing that has been the driving force behind my success give me the strength to keep going, even when I’ve been knocked down, it’s understanding my WHY.

My life awakening.

Around 10 years ago, I was sitting on the end of my bed having just finished another 12-hour day on clients with no energy left in my tank. I had no energy to give to my family when I got home, the most important people in my life.

As I sat on the end of my bed, I was asking myself “is this as good as it gets? I’m working so hard, but I am not getting anywhere!”

I bet you’ve had that feeling too.

This was the moment I had to take a big, hard look in the mirror. I wasn’t creating a business and life I loved, I was just a very hard-working technician living my life by default not design.

This moment was the catalyst to my next chapter and propelled me into the road less travelled. I knew if I wanted to grow my business and become the leader I was born to be, I had to grow first. So, I started my personal development journey and transformed my world as I knew it.

“Our businesses are a reflection of us” - that was a big pill to swallow. I didn’t want to play small anymore. I wanted to create a legacy. I began to invest in myself, my business, and my team where together we were learning, growing, expanding, and stepping out of our comfort zones. Ultimately, I had to push pass the fear holding me back and welcome a new life of purpose-driven power. When I uncovered that purpose, everything became clearer.

Mastering ourselves is the greatest contribution we can give humanity.

We live in a very uncertain time in history, we cannot control a lot of things. I think the last few years have really shown us that but the one thing we can control is ourselves and the way we react to things.

Our internal world will always reflect our external world. What I mean by that is our beliefs, thoughts, the words we speak, our feelings, emotions, habits, and behaviours all bundle together create our reality. So, today I’m going to share with you how unleashing my power with purpose was the biggest thing that changed the game for me in business and life. My hope is to inspire you to think differently. You can create your life and business by design, but it all starts with purpose.

Your purpose is inside you.

Every single person has purpose and vision in life and your business is a vehicle to live that purpose. You don’t have to find it, it’s already inside you. Just like confidence, passion and courage are waiting to be unleashed but limiting beliefs keep them tucked away inside us. These frameworks will get you thinking and feeling into why you are here.

A reason for being.

The greatest fear is not the fear of failure or standing out; the greatest fear is that you will not fulfill your greatest potential. The essence of who you are is inside you. Your life has been intellectually designed to guide you into becoming who you need to become to achieve your potential.

This is the IKIGAI a Japanese concept meaning “A reason for "BEING"

What is Your Ikigai?

Use the concept of Ikigai (reason for being) to find that sweet spot where your gifts, skills, passions, and values align. Take a moment to draw your own version of the overlapping circles of the ikigai symbol and consider the following:

What do you love?

What aspects of your life bring you into your heart and make you come alive?

What are you great at?

What unique skills do you have that come most naturally to you? What talents have you cultivated and what do you excel at even when you aren’t trying?

What does the world need?

What change would you most love to create in the world? What is your legacy? What do people value and pay you for?

What service, value or offering do you bring, or could you bring, that brings real value to others? Something people need and are happy to pay for or share some value in exchange?

Take a few minutes to write whatever keywords, phrases, and ideas come up for you, then look for areas of natural overlap. Reflect on all of these elements and how they may relate to each other.

Using the IKIGAI concept is a great starter to start to tonight the power inside you.

Unlocking your life and soul purpose having clarity is key.

Most salon owners do not take the time to get clarity on their purpose and what they actually want out of their life and business.

Here are 2 big questions to ask yourself.

Why am I here? (Purpose)

What do I want?

This is called your soul purpose. When it’s not clear why we’re here or what we want, we can feel lost and in that feeling of lost we can experience stress, anxiety, no direction and continue to experience life by default and not design.

So, again, why are you here and what do you want?

Let me share my soul purpose with you.

I empower self-lead salon and clinic owners to unlock their potential, to create a life by design with an unshakable mindset and to create a business of impact, freedom, and joy.

This is different to my business purpose. Our purpose is to empower women to feel confident and educate them to love the skin they are in.

When you are designing your life, your business purpose should fit with in your soul purpose. Sometimes our business takes over and we don’t have clarity on the higher purpose and what you want to really get out of our life. Our business should be a by-product of our soul purpose.

When you become purpose driven, you show up differently. It’s the reason you bounce out of bed every single day with a fire in your belly. Purpose becomes your fuel source to step into a visionary leader, to empower your team, attract your soul clients and communicate your message to the world.

Understanding my purpose has been the very thing that propelled me into creating a life and business of meaning and a by-product has been financial abundance, more joy and intrinsic feeling of fulfilment and alignment.

Take the time quieten your mind and really understand your power and that you are here to live BIG. It doesn’t happen by chance; it happens by design.

Rebecca Miller- The Salon Whisperer Life and Salon/Clinic Business by design coaching. Becoming Limitless Retreat host. hello@rebeccamiller.com.au