Young Mens Forum Newsletter Volume 1 issue 2

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YOUNG

FORUM

NEWSLETTER

VOLUME 1, ISSUE 1

Teen father

This newsletter was put together by learners from 10 selected schools that form part of the Molo Songololo YOUNG MEN’S FORUM. The content reflects their views, experiences and thoughts about their peers, schools and communities.

has never seen his child Teen father...Mabuto Bobo “I have never seen my child. My girlfriend’s parents told me that I can not have contact with her or our child”; explains grade 12 learner and teen father Mabuti Bobo who become a dad at age 16. Stigma, shame, disappointment, abandonment, evictions, dropping out of school. This is what many teen girls experience when they discover and reveal that they are pregnant. Who are the fathers and what happens to them? It is common knowledge that it takes two to tango. But in many cases the fathers remain faceless. Molo Songololo spoke to teen fathers to gain insight into the challenges boys and young men face. ‘I just turned 16-years old when my girlfriend first told me that I would be a father. I did not believe her” says 18-year old Mabuti Bobo. He went into a state of shock and was confused for a few days.

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This appears to be the most common response of most boys and men. Denial! It appears that they don’t realize that sex without protection equals babies. Mabuti soon realised that it is not a dream and that he is actually going to be a father when his girlfriend started showing. ‘What now? What am I going to do? What is she going to do?’ these are that questions that kept him awake at night. Despite this, Mabuti continued to go to school. His girlfriend dropped out and told her parents and his mother. Her family organized a family meeting. He became more anxious when he realised that ‘I was in trouble because it started to involve the elderly people’.

Growing up is not easy. Teens face many challenges and take many risks. Some have life long consequences. We provide you with the guys’ perspectives… Remember you have the power to change and act against abuse, crime and violence!

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At the family meeting his girlfriend’s father asked many questions; ‘How will you support the baby? What are your plans for my daughter? What responsibility are you going to take? These were difficult questions for Mabuti. He did not know how to answer.

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‘Being a father at a young age is a very hard thing. It’s been more than two years since my baby was born and I still haven’t seen my child’ says Mabuti in a low sad voice. “I think of the child now and then, especially when I am alone.’

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Mabuti is determined to work hard and finish his matric because he ‘wants to be able to support and take care of my child and to be in my son’s life’.


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