deck inspired by fb convo (started by kevin with this): I’ve seen the tragedy of student suicides play out at both MIT and Cooper Union in the last few years, and am now reading about it at Northwestern. Is there anyone/anything that is rigorously *studying and hypothesizing what’s going on across the board? Is this about the life of students, or the lives of 19 year olds, or specific academic pressures or or or?
not sure what you mean by 'across the board'.. but that phrase is key.. because to get to the roots of healing..
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
the fundamental reality is that we are all human beings.. and we basically all have the same needs.. your fundamental needs are human needs you share with every other human on earth - Gabor Maté
perhaps our best energy will come from addressing those needs first
time to change that ie: the ai humanity needs.. augmenting interconnectedness
perhaps we can use 2 conversations as infrastructure to heal (reshape/reset/revolutionize)
everyday life for all of us
2 convers as infra
one with yourself.
one with others.
we need a means to listen to every voice.. everyday.. because it..
2 convers as infra
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
34 min – whole thing comes down to a human difficulty in holding pain – we look for external solutions to our internal pain.
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
32 min – so we have our pain.. but we don’t know
how to move thru it.. because nobody is holding us thru it the way that we need to be held.. therefore.. pain becomes unbearable and promises to be eternal unless we do something to kill the pain.. and that’s where the addiction comes in
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor MatÊ Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
and so the addictions.. to drugs/alcohol/sex/shopping/eating/internet/porn/gambling.. whatever.. always an attempt to numb the pain temporarily.. because of difficulty we have in holding the pain and being vulnerable to it
cope\ing/addictions as slow suicide
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
23 min – human beings are ultimately creatures of connection.. if there’s no connection.. there’d be no human life.. no human being could evolve on his/her own.. if we were like snakes.. we wouldn’t survive.. we were wired to connect.. that wiring for connection stays with us all our lives.. so we’re social creatures.. that’s part of our nature thurman interconnectedness law: when you understand interconnectedness it makes you more afraid of hating than of dying hari addiction law
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: [https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
and fundamentally what happens is.. whatever diminishes/denies/subverts our need for connection is going to lead to some kind of pathology.. 22 min –
trauma is the disconnection.. the essence of trauma is disconnection from *self/others.. *maté basic needs
matĂŠ trauma law:
1\ every case of addiction originates in trauma 2\ trauma is the disconnection.. the essence of trauma is disconnection from *self/others
so seeing our cope\ing strategies (aka: addictions) as perhaps suicide in s l o w m o t i o n we never learned to move thru pain (attachment missing), so pain turns into trauma. then we we use any means to not be/feel ourselves (authenticity missing), and with this disconnect.. we suffocate from the day.. addictions/et-al as pain/trauma-killers become the death of us
almaas holes law: a hole is nothing but the *absence of a certain part of our essence. .However to say we have lost parts of Essence does not mean they are gone forever; they are never gone forever. When you’re a baby, you have no holes; you are complete when you are born. ..
*..missing piece #1: authenticity
.. missing piece #2: attachment
perhaps we let go of *studying and hypothesizing.. and try something that is truly..
short: deep/simple/open
2 needs and a cure (cure ios city)