Love Yourself!

Teaching Children Self-Love Starts with You

WRITTEN BY KATIE DOLEN | PHOTOS MARY LORRAINE PHOTOGRAPHY

Parenthood is an extraordinary journey, filled with moments of joy, challenge and growth. As parents, we often pour our energy into caring for our children, ensuring their physical, emotional and mental well-being. However, in the midst of this selfless caregiving, we may neglect an essential cornerstone of effective parenting: self-love. Cultivating self-love is not only vital for our personal well-being but also serves as a powerful example for our children, teaching them to value themselves and embrace their individuality.

Why Self-Love Matters for Parents

Parenting can be demanding, with pressures to meet societal expectations, maintain a household and balance work responsibilities. Without self-love, these demands can lead to burnout, stress and feelings of inadequacy. Selflove acts as a buffer against these challenges, allowing parents to recharge, build resilience and approach their roles with patience and empathy.

When parents prioritize their own well-being, they set a strong foundation for healthy family dynamics. Self-love fosters emotional stability, better decision-making and the ability to model healthy relationships. It is not selfish but rather essential; you cannot pour from an empty cup. By caring for yourself, you enhance your capacity to care for your children.

Modeling Self-Love for Your Children

Children are keen observers. They learn about relationships, boundaries and self-worth primarily from their parents. Modeling selflove demonstrates to your children that taking care of oneself is a priority and that everyone deserves compassion and respect—including themselves.

Here are ways to model self-love effectively:

1. Set Healthy Boundaries: Show your children that it’s OK to say no when necessary and prioritize your needs. For instance, let them see you dedicate time to rest or pursue hobbies you enjoy.

2. Practice Self-Care: Regularly engage in activities that nourish your body, mind and soul, such as exercise, meditation or reading. Share the importance of these practices with your children so they understand their value.

3. Speak Kindly to Yourself: Avoid self-criticism, especially in front of your children. Use positive affirmations and encourage them to do the same.

4. Acknowledge Mistakes: Embrace imperfection and show your children that it’s OK to make mistakes. Use these moments as opportunities to grow and model selfforgiveness.

5. Celebrate Your Achievements: Share your successes, no matter how small, and express pride in your efforts. This reinforces the idea that self-appreciation is important.

6. The Ripple Effect: When children witness self-love in action, they internalize its significance. They learn to value themselves, set boundaries and prioritize their well-being. This foundation equips them to navigate challenges with confidence and build healthy relationships throughout their lives.

Moreover, modeling self-love helps children understand that love is not conditional on external achievements or perfection. They see that love—for oneself and others—is rooted in acceptance, kindness and respect.

Parenting with self-love is a gift that benefits both you and your children. By prioritizing your well-being and modeling self-compassion, you create an environment where love and respect flourish. Remember, teaching your children to love themselves begins with showing them how it’s done. As you nurture your own self-love, you empower your children to grow into resilient, confident individuals who understand their worth and the value of self-care.

During the month of all things L-O-V-E, join State of Play for their 4th annual Love Song Sing-Along with beloved songstress Britt from Montana Momma Music. Decorate cookies from Secret Garden Cookie Co. and enjoy Valentine’s Day-themed arts and crafts in the studio. Wednesday, February 12 from 4-5 p.m. Visit www. stateofplay. co to book your ticket as this event is sure to sell out!

Katie Dolen is the co-founder of State of Play in Bozeman.

“When parents prioritize their own wellbeing, they set a strong foundation for healthy family dynamics.”