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Page 14 Pandemic Parenting: Has Halloween Been Cancelled? While there are big changes this year, there are still plenty of really fun and creative ways to celebrate Halloween – safely. by Katie Raquel Page 18 Pumpkin Patches Check out these seven awesome pumpkin patches that are safely open for your pumpkin picking (and a few have other activities lined up!). by Anya Heidenberg
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Monster Mash: Nixing Nighttime Fears Do you have a child who is afraid of the dark and imagining monsters in their room? Malia has background on how and why nighttime fear occurs and how you can help your child cope. by Malia Jacobson
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Teaching Your Kids About Civic Responsibility With a contentious election just weeks away, the importance of educating our children about their civic responsibility has never been greater. We have some suggestions that work for all ages (including adults who may have ignored this important duty – it’s never too late!). by Sandi Schwartz
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What Parents Need to Know About Human Trafficking You don’t need to panic but you do need to be aware of what trafficking is, the signs to look for, and how to keep your family safe. by Susan Meister
Page 21 Apple Picking We Will Go Celebrate fall at two local apple orchards ready for customers plus a couple of kid-friendly apple snack recipes.
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in each issue: 06 Father’s Day Local dad, Rob Weisskirch covers parenting topics from a dad’s point of view. 08 Grandma Says An experienced grandmother of two offers insight and advice. 10 Dear Teacher Two long time teachers answer your questions about your child’s learning. 12 Products We Love for October
2020-2021 Family Favorites Winners We tallied over 12,000 votes and we have winners in our annual Family Favorites contest. Meet all of our deserving winners.
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Contributing Writers anya heidenberg malia jacobson susan meister Katie Raquel sandi schwartz tricia vlasak rob weisskirch
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We’re heading into what is traditionally a busy time for families with Halloween and fall activities usually abundant. COVID-19 has changed all of that, of course, and festivals and events are mostly cancelled. But that doesn’t mean the fun has been cancelled. Katie Raquel has some creative ideas for celebrating Halloween safely on pages 14-15. Plus, we have a list of Pumpkin Patches on page 18 and some suggestions for apple picking on page 21. However you choose to celebrate Halloween please be safe! We have two articles about serious matters this month. On page 24, Sandi Schwartz discusses civic responsibility and offers suggestions on how we can teach our kids to take their responsibility seriously. With an election coming up, it’s more important than ever to set an example for our children. If you haven’t registered to vote, there’s still time before the general election on November 3. Finally, “What Parents Need to Know About Human Trafficking” by Susan Meister is on pages 26-28. It’s not an easy topic to think about but it’s important. There is a lot of deliberate misinformation being shared on social media that is creating havoc for organizations trying to help victims. Please take time to read the article and then follow up with the sources if you want additional facts. Also, donations to help victims are always needed and the sources can provide you with the best place to make a donation. Have a”bootiful” October and stay healthy.
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Kids & Pets Many people have gotten pets during the COVID-19 pandemic. One child in my daughter’s class got a rabbit, another got a horse. On the one side, I think it is great to have dogs, cats, bunnies, and anything else out of the shelters. But on the other side, I hope that families are putting in the time and effort to learn how to care for their pets. Two years ago, we got a dog from the SPCA. At the time, my daughter liked animals but was a bit ambivalent (and a little scared) when it came to dogs. For her the hesitation was about the unpredictability of dogs when they jump and lick. One Saturday I showed my wife pictures of dogs listed on the shelter website, and she said, “Let’s go see.” We never really discussed the size or type of dog, other than my wife wanted a short-haired dog. At the shelter we wanted to take all the dogs home. But one was too yappy, one was not friendly, and there were many that were too small. On the way home, we decided to pop into the SPCA. There were some large dogs that just seemed like too much to handle for us with a preschooler at the time. But, one large dog seemed drawn to us. We interacted with him in a visiting pen, and he was friendly, didn’t react when others walked by, and was interested in being petted. He played a little and didn’t make noise with any handling. He was a bit drooly with long jowls, but that was his charm. My daughter did not take to him right away. He was more than double her size and was less attentive than the kittens with which she played. Then, they were closing so we had to leave him and come back the next day. We came back and found out that another family wanted to test him with
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Father’s day by Rob Weisskirch
Is it time to add a dog, cat, or bird to your family?
their current dog. That wasn’t a happy match, so he was ours. At that point, we heard his back story. The SPCA has a program where if someone is in a domestic violence situation, they can temporarily surrender the pet until the owner gets re-settled. In our dog’s case, the woman owner could not have the dog in her new situation, and the male owner said to leave the dog at the SPCA. The big, drooly, goofy dog jumped right in the back of the car, and the adventure grew. “I love dogs” quickly became a common saying from my daughter, and the two became well-bonded. I am a firm believer in the benefits of caring for animals for children. Children develop a sense of responsibility, empathy, and caregiving, among other skills. Research findings support that children are less reactive to stress if they have a dog. A dog present can help kids keep their behavior from escalating. Also, there is growing evidence of dogs’ benefit for kids with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other developmental disorders. There is even evidence that children with pet dogs get more physical activity overall – walking, chasing, playing together adds up. Our dog has truly become integrated into the family. He plays, gets into trouble, and demonstrates the same, fluctuating obedience as my daughter does. His care has required special food, medicated doggie shampoo, ample play, lots and lots of training, regular toys to destroy, and very controlled vet visits (he does not like them). I hope that all the new adopters of dogs recognize that these are the kind of things you do for a family member. Our dog has become a patient
playmate. I have also seen how his patience can wear thin with her. We think that the dog thinks of her as “the loud one,” as he will retreat to the other end of the house when she is excessively exuberant in her play. She has learned empathy in thinking about how he might feel in a situation like when she comforts him when he reacts to fireworks around July 4th. She has gained a sense of pride in teaching him desired behaviors and walking him independently (but monitored because he still outweighs her). She has also learned by watching his behavior, asking questions, or figuring out what he wants. My wife and I have had to explain pack behavior and how the dog may see her as a sibling, and she has to behave like a dominant older sister to get him to do what she wants. For me, there is something complete about having a family with a dog. I have been frustrated when our dog has dug holes in the yard, chewed the plant stakes in the garden, and stolen a dirty sock from a laundry to chew on, but then a half-hour later, the dog will lay his head on my chest to solicit a few pets, and all is forgiven. He reminds me of how important patience is and how much I need to take a step back to figure out why a behavior is occurring. These interactions with him help me do the same with my daughter to be a better father. Robert (Rob) S. Weisskirch, MSW, Ph.D., CFLE is a Professor of Human Development at California State University, Monterey Bay and is a Certified Family Life Educator. He and his wife are parents to a chatty, elementary school aged daughter and reside in Marina.
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WCGD? I suspect that when I look back at whatever length of time finally encompasses the COVID pandemic, I’ll still have way more questions than answers. There are so many variables on how this is effecting you and yours: whether your children and grandchildren live close by and are included in your “bubble;” how much time you spend alone and whether you’re isolated, your financial situation, and, of course, your health. There is certainly nothing normal about these times. When I sat down to write this month’s column, I realized there are so many variables impacting all of us: it’s hard to come up with a “one size fits all” article that fits under the heading “Fall Festivities” that my editor assigned. Instead, I’ve decided to address some of the issues parents may be dealing with now and how grandparents might be able to lend a hand. In other words, what can grandparents do about . . . SCHOOL Most of our grandchildren are about a month in with remote learning. How are things going for them? If parents are juggling working outside of the home while their child is at home, conflicts are inevitable. Is there some way you can help with that? If you are retired or working part-time, this may be a solution to many problems. There is some risk, of course, based on outside jobs and exposure. But it is something to consider. Not only would it relieve overburdened parents, but
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it would give you precious time with your grandkids. Grandparents have a lot of experience to offer, and can undoubtedly be an asset to the parents and the schools for at-home learning. Taking it one step further, perhaps you can help other families or the school somehow. Making phone calls, sending emails, and arranging “learning pods” are things a grandparent can help with. If you aren’t physically close enough to help out, can you pick up the tab for your grandchild’s out-ofhome educational care? There are several local organizations offering supervised care for children of working parents. What a gift you could give parents by providing financial assistance for one of those programs. HALLOWEEN Halloween is something kids look forward to for months. Coronavirus is the real boogeyman that has brought Halloween to a screeching halt. Or has it? Haunted houses and parties and door-to-door trick-or-treating are nixed. But Halloween can still be fun. According to statistics found online (so it must be true…lol), 74% of millennial moms say Halloween is more important than ever this year. What can grandparents do to help create a memorable Halloween? How about going HUGE on your decorating by making your house the one the neighborhood kids ask to drive by every night. Fog machines, lights, tons of pumpkins, inflatable décor… all fun to look at and so festive!
Another idea: if your grandkids can come over on Halloween, why not incorporate an egg hunt concept with Halloween? You can find small plastic pumpkins on Amazon to fill with candy and hide them around your yard (or house if there is uncooperative weather). Dress up for the kids and have a family-only Halloween party. Or can you rent a screen and projector (or use a large television) to put in your driveway to play Halloween movies. If you’re comfortable with it, invite a few neighbors, your grandkids, and some of their friends to bring their lawn chairs and watch movies at a safe distance. FALL FUN One more idea for Fall…get outdoors! I’ve always been a big advocate for camping, and Autumn is the best time. The weather has finally cooled down, the trees are changing colors, and it’s apple season in many California areas. Rent an RV and take the grandkids somewhere fun for a few days. Give Mom and Dad a break, and make some new memories. S’ mores, stargazing, long walks, maybe riding bikes…all great activities. This year has proven to be a challenge, but one thing that continues to amaze me is the ability of people to adapt. We will get through this together. tricia vlasAK is a mother, grandparent, and wife. She works in law enforcement when she isn’t writing about parenting, hiking with her dogs, or going on Jeep adventures.
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Understanding Addition and Subtraction plus Books for the Learning Disabled Understanding Addition and Subtraction Concepts Question: My third grader was still having problems with basic addition and subtraction at the end of second grade even though she had extra assistance at school. Is there any way I can help her now? – Math Problem Answer: Children need to be able to recall basic facts quickly and automatically. Usually by the end of second grade, most students have automatic recall of not only the addition facts but also the subtraction facts that they are expected to know. Mastery of a fact means giving the response in less than 3 seconds or 30 correct per minute. However, this is for an oral response, and more-time may be needed by young children. Being able to complete 50 problems in 3 minutes is definitely a reasonable goal. Fortunately, you can help your child adopt strategies to help him learn the basic facts fairly easily. Work on this now whether he is in regular or online school. Before you begin teaching number strategies, observe which numbers your child cannot add automatically. These are the ones you want to help him learn. Don’t confine teaching a strategy to just flash cards; use dice, spinners, coins, markers and simple games. Move slowly. Begin by working with the “one-morethan” (3+1). Then go on to (2 +2) and (3+3). For example, for the problem (3+1), he
can lay out three items and then add a fourth. Having him use a strategy like this ensures that he is solving the problem. Doing this repeatedly will help him learn each fact rather than telling him or showing him an answer. Here’s another way for you to help your child learn the basic facts, it is enjoyable because it involves playing games. Since ten is the basis of our number system, it is very important for children to become familiar with all the number combinations that make ten when added together (5+5, 8+2, and so on). Our “Bean Game” will help them do this. Color one side of ten beans (coins or counters) with marking pens, nail polish, or paint. Place the beans in a container that can be used as a shaker. Two or more players can enjoy this
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game. The first player shakes the container and dumps out the beans, He or she then counts the number of painted and unpainted beans, states the combination: four painted plus six unpainted equals ten, and writes down the number of painted and unpainted beans on a chart. The player continues until he or she hits a previously rolled combination. Then it’s the other player’s turn. The winner is the player who shakes the largest number of different combinations in his or her turn. In “Take Away Game,” items are being removed from a group. You’ll want to use flash cards with simple facts like 2-1, 4-2, 5-3, and 5-4. Have your child draw a card at random, then you need to make up a story. For example, for 3-1 you could say, “I have three nickels; if I take away one, how many would I have left? Your child should lay out three counters and take away one to show how many are left. Then he or she should make up stories for the remaining flash cards and use counters to illustrate how “take away” works.
Finally, go on our website dearteacher.com and look at the Math Skill Builders and the Math Learning Activities for more ideas on teaching the basic facts.
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Hello Amigo / Hello Friend A fun, bouncy bilingual song from 123 Andrés’ Grammy Award-winning album, now brought to life in a picture book that’s perfect for story time sharing! Sara Palacios animates this popular song with vibrant, fresh illustrations that will engage little ones and their parents. $8.99, ages 1 to 6, www.123andres.com /product/hola-amigo-book/
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Has Halloween Been Cancelled? Is Halloween cancelled? No way! But it may be wise to think beyond some of our traditional celebrations this year. Here’s how our family is getting into the spirit from home. Haunted Candy Hunt Our kids are pretty united in what they consider to be the most important elements of Halloween: costumes and candy. So we’ll plan and get excited about our costumes (which they are only allowed to wear outside in the yard on Halloween), set up a spooky “haunted house” with creepy music and decorations, and will hide candy all over for them to find after dark with flashlights. You can go one step further by hiding candy inside of glow-in-thedark plastic eggs. Honestly, this sounds so fun that we might add it to our celebration every year. Zombie Piñata I’ve been teasing my husband about hanging onto a busted unicorn piñata for the past two years — he hates to toss anything that can be repurposed.
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But joke’s on me because this is the year of the ZOMBIE PIÑATA. And any piñata can be a zombie (or mummy) piñata; just give your kids a roll of toilet paper and some paint and put them to work. Making it might even be more fun than smashing it. Movies and Pizza Ah, good old pizza and movie night. A timeless combination that not even a global pandemic can take from us. The beauty of this celebration is that it’s cozy, easy and can feel special if you approach it that way. Our kids have never experienced pizza delivery, so it’ll be a major treat! Pumpkin Carving A classic for a reason! We grew our own this year, but there are also a few great pumpkin patches in town. Borchard is our favorite. And protip: mist the outside of your uncut pumpkin with 1 teaspoon bleach per 1 quart of water, then spray down the inside when you’re done carving. As an extra layer of protection, wipe down
the carved edges with petroleum jelly. Even with this extra TLC, California’s warm autumns are pretty hard on carved pumpkins, so you may want to make yours right before Halloween. Dia De Los Muertos If you’re not feeling some of the “spookier” elements of Halloween this year, I can totally relate. We’ve had some losses in our family that make certain decorations feel uncomfortably close-to-home and even disrespectful. Exploring Dia De Los Muertos as a family may be a great alternative that allows you to create space to celebrate and honor your loved ones. Dia De Los Muertos is celebrated on November 1st and 2nd, and the centerpiece of the celebrations are altars for deceased family members that feature photos, favorite foods, flowers and other mementos. This is another shift that could create new traditions and meaning for your family. “Boo” Your Friends and Family Spread some spooky holiday cheer
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by sending a surprise treat or note to your loved ones. We could all use a little reminder that our people are still out there thinking of us and random acts of kindness are a timeless way to make any season or holiday more meaningful. (Beenbooed.com even has posters and notes that you can print out!) What to do about trick-or-treaters? Some have suggested individually wrapped goodie bags left out on a table in your driveway, but since candy is already individually wrapped and Covid is far less likely to spread through contact surfaces, I’m gonna make it real easy on myself and just leave out a big ol’ bowl of candy that can be refreshed throughout the night. We’ll turn on our porch light and creepy music, leave a spirited message on the door and wish everyone a safe and happy night, no matter how they choose to celebrate. Katie Raquel is the founder of Katie’s Coldpress, a Realtor with Over the Moon Realty and the author of SQUEEZED: The Raw Truth About Work-Life Balance. She lives with her family in Monterey County.
Kids’ Halloween Movies That Won’t Keep Them Up All Night
Bedknobs and Broomsticks. This Disney classic is what Mary Poppins would be if it had witches, wizards, and magic bedknobs that make your bed fly. The theme involves World War II and Nazi invasions, but it is handled with kid gloves. For ages: 7+. Curious George: A Halloween Boofest. For littles who love Curious George this is the perfect full-length Halloween movie to keep their attention. More funny than scary, this film follows George to the local Boo Festival. For ages: 3+. Hotel Transylvania. This animated movie and its two sequels may not actually be about Halloween, but the story of Dracula and his daughter is fitting for the spooky season. For ages: 7+ It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. What is a Halloween without the Great Pumpkin? Linus’ optimistic wait in the pumpkin patch is a staple. For ages: 4+.
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Mary and the Witch’s Flower. This movie about a girl who picks a special flower that brings her to the enchanted Endor College, does have some suspenseful scenes but it also has a theme of learning to be brave. For ages: 8+. Room on the Broom. This short film, an adaptation of the book by Julia Donaldson, stars a witch, but she’s by no means scary. This was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Animated Short Film. For ages: 3+. Scoob. This animated movie delves into the gang’s origins, then solves a mystery. For ages: 7+. Super Monsters Save Halloween. For the littlest Halloween fans, Netflix offers this Super Monsters half-hour special, which actively shows preschoolers how the holiday’s scares are mostly make-believe. The characters explain the tricks behind haunted houses and spooky decorations so they don’t seem quite so horrifying anymore. For ages: 4+.
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Pumpkin Patches 2020 This year brings changes and challenges to our traditional trip to the pumpkin patch. Although we have lost a few of our normal haunts the remaining patches are taking extra precautions to ensure your safety.
1. Borchard Farms 142 Rodgers Road, Salinas • www.borchardfarms.com • Open 10:00 am to 8:00 pm daily. Staff will be enforcing masks, social distancing, and performing a temperature check prior to entering. They promise to have a pumpkin wonderland waiting beyond the checkpoints filled with many varieties of gourds, squash, and pumpkins. They will also feature the family activities of Ghost Town, the Haunted Barn, and the 5 acre corn maze.
2. Cardinale & Wright Pumpkin Patch/Artichoke Festival Haunted House Monterey County Fairgrounds, 2004 Fairground Road, Monterey artichokefestival.org • Open 5-10 pm every Friday and Saturday in October The Artichoke Festival presents something new – a ghoulish Haunted House. Next to the Cardinale & Wright Pumpkin Patch, ghouls and goblins age 12 and up will enjoy the thrills of a very scary night of Halloween nightmares. The Haunted House will follow all social distancing protocols with plenty of space between guests, touchless ticketing, and hand sanitizing stations. Not recommended for children under 12, but the Pumpkin Patch will be friendly for all ages.
3. Crystal Bay Farm 40 Zils Road, Watsonville • www.crystalbayfarm.com Open through October 31st 10 am.-6:00 pm Open till 8 pm on Fridays Covid 19 information was unavailable at this time, please contact the farm for more details. They list a $2 entrance fee and dogs are allowed.
4. Earthbound Farms 7250 Carmel Valley Road, Carmel Valley • www.earthboundfarm.com Every precaution is being taken to ensure your family’s safety. Masks are required, there are hand sanitizer stations available, and the pumpkins are priced as a flat rate rather than by weight this year to encourage you to shop with your eyes and only touch the pumpkin you plan to take home. Before you go you should know that no groups are allowed during this time, the area is roped off to control traffic flow, and only ten people at a time will be permitted. Patch Attendants will limit you to twenty minutes to pick.
5. The Farm Exit off Hwy 68, Spreckels Blvd, Salinas • thefarm-salinasvalley.com Open Monday through Saturday, 10 am-5 pm Pumpkin patch is open. Special Autumn events/activities still being planned as of press time.
6. Gizdich Ranch 55 Peckham Road, Watsonville • 831-722-1056 • Open daily 9 am-5 pm Pick your own pumpkin patch is open daily. You can also buy produce and pies.
7. Rodoni Farms 4444 Coast Road, Santa Cruz, North of Santa Cruz on HWY 1 • www.rodonifarms.com Open through Oct. 31, 2020, Mon-Fri 11am-6pm, Sat & Sun 9am-6pm (rain or shine) For a day of fun in Santa Cruz you can stop in at the Rodoni Farm where they will be enforcing social distancing guidelines. They have hay bales, scary cutouts, and a 5 acre corn maze. The pumpkins are priced by size, not weight. They also have fresh Brussels sprouts on the stalk, artichokes, corn stalks, and gourds. They are dog friendly.
8. Swank Farms 4751 Pacheco Pass, Hollister • www.swankfarms.com • Open through Nov. 1st, 10am to 10pm Family fun is sure to abound at Swank Farms! All staff pass a health check prior to each shift. Common areas are routinely sanitized and hand sanitizer or hand washing stations will be available to you as well as staff. They will also have their yearly sunflower field, trail of lights and frights, and Fall Days.
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We found two local apple orchards open for apple picking. It’s a perfect activity for social distancing fall fun but hurry, the season ends in later October/early November. Both orchards required face coverings and social distancing and prohibit large groups. Be sure to call ahead to make sure they are open and to find out what varieties of apples you can expect on your visit.
2. Squeeze the juice from the lemon onto the apples while you prepare the caramel. (This keeps them from turning brown.) 3. In a microwave-proof bowl, melt the caramels and corn syrup. Try 30 seconds, then 15 seconds - just enough to melt them. 4. Stir to mix. 5. Allow to cool for about 2-3 minutes. 6. Wipe the apples with a paper towel to remove as much lemon juice as possible. (Caramel won’t stick to a wet apple.) 7. Spoon the caramel into the hollowed out apples until just below the top. (This can be a very sticky stage, so you may want to wipe your fingers with some vegetable oil first.) 8. Set the apple halves in muffin tins to keep them steady. 9. Chill in the refrigerator until the caramel has set, about 20 minutes. Cut into slices (spray the knife with cooking spray for easier cutting; a serrated or tomato knife works well). APPLE RINGS Makes 12 rings Ingredients: 3 large, round apples and a variety of toppings. Suggestions: 1-2 kinds of nut or seed butter; cream cheese; peanuts; sunflower seeds; chocolate chips; raisins or Craisins; mini marshmallows; shredded coconut; crumbled pretzels or chopped pretzel sticks. Directions 1. Core and thinly slice apples width-wise to make 1/4 wide rings. 2. Serve the rest of toppings in small bowls and let kids decorate their own rings. Have them start by spreading each ring with a nut or seed butter or cream cheese to help the toppings stick.
CLEARVIEW ORGANIC ORCHARDS Clearview Orchards produces the finest CCOF certified organic apples. Whether you want to pick your own apples or simply pick up some organic fruit from the Apple Barn to take home, Clearview Orchards is perfect for family outings. 646 Trabing Road, Watsonville, 95076 • 831 245-3854 Open every Saturday and Sunday through November 1 from 10 am to 4 pm. GIZDICH RANCH While the apple picking season ended a bit early due to higher than normal temperatures, you can buy produce and pies. Families are also welcome to bring a blanket and picnic under the apple trees. 55 Peckham Road, Watsonville, 95076 • 831-722-1056 Open 9 am-5 pm daily.
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Parents love seeing little ghosts, ghouls, and goblins on the doorstep at Halloween. But when monsters, ghosts, and other imaginary figures start keeping kids awake at night, it’s another story. Nighttime fears are highly common—and not just for little kids, either. “Studies show this is a very common issue, affecting up to three-quarters of kids from preschool through adolescence at one time or another,” clinical psychologist Jayne Schachter Walco, Ph.D. of Parsippany, New Jersey, says. “Parents think of fears as something only small children deal with, but that’s untrue.” Young children aged three to six are more likely to complain of “fantastical” fears like monsters and ghosts, while older children fear things that could actually happen, like a fire, storm, or a home intruder, Walco says. That’s because small children have trouble distinguishing fantasy from reality, while school-agers are becoming more aware of the sometimes-scary
real world. Though fears vary for different children, parents can address them more or less the same way. Read on for how to slay the scariest of scary monsters at your house this fall. Fear faker? Young children are champions at stalling bedtime; how can parents tell if monster fears are more of the same? “When a child learns that complaining about a fear is a successful tactic to postpone bedtime, he might continue to do this even without any real fear,” says Shelby Harris, Psy.D., director of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine Program at Montefiore Medical Center in New York City. But parents can sleuth out a genuine phobia, she says. A real fear will be quite intense and will be present during the day, not just at night. So if your little arachnophobe only fears spiders after seven p.m., the fear may be bedtime-related, while a fear that’s present at other times is likely authentic. Fear fix: Treat your child’s fears
(even ones you suspect are less than genuine) with empathy and understanding, Harris says. Never laugh at your child or humiliate her. Instead, say “I understand how this might be scary for you, but you’re always safe here.” Routine scene Children with irregular sleep schedules are more prone to nighttime fears and nightmares, Walco says. Why? Overtired children have more difficulty reaching and maintaining deep sleep and spend more time in lighter, “dreaming” sleep, so vivid nightmares may come calling more often. These tired tots may wake more often during the night, resulting in more time spent pondering whether that shadow in the corner is really a monster in waiting. Fear fix: Maintain a predictable, age-appropriate bedtime routine every night to boost relaxation before bed and help ensure that children get enough rest. Preschoolers need 10-12 hours of sleep each night; school-agers and teens need 9-11. Bedroom buddy Nighttime fears can seem more frightening when children sleep alone, Harris says, which is why children often ask to sleep with parents when they’re afraid. Whenever possible, though, parents should avoid the “quick fix” of letting kids hop into mom and dad’s bed—this can reinforce fear by communicating that a child’s bedroom isn’t a safe place to sleep.
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Fear fix: Parents’ goal should be helping a child feel safe and comfortable in his or her own bedroom. “Whenever possible, soothe a child in the child’s bedroom, instead of in parents’ room,” Harris says. Once he’s calmed down, tell your child you’ll return to check on him in 10 minutes, and make sure to return as promised. Sleeping close to a sibling or pet can also help calm fears. Creative calm Parents employ a variety of creative tricks to help fearful kids, from imbuing a stuffed animal with magical powers to dousing a room with pretend “monster spray” to giving children a pretend sword for “protection.” These tactics can be effective for the preschool set, says licensed therapist Robert Turner of the Rose Sleep Disorders Center in Denver, Colorado. But beware: parents’ willingness to play along with fears in this way might convince a child that the fear is real. Fear fix: For young children aged three to five, explore whether a transitional object like a special stuffed animal might help boost confidence and help a child fall asleep at bedtime, Turner says. But avoid reinforcing fear by hamming it up or acting afraid yourself. Right light Night frights are often sparked by fear of the dark, according to Robert S. Rosenberg, D.O., medical director of the Sleep Disorders Centers of Prescott Valley and author of Sleep Soundly Every Night; Feel Fantastic Every Day. While babies under two lack the cognitive capacity to be truly afraid the dark—this comes later, when the “imagination” part of the brain takes off during the preschool years—darkness may intensify fears in older children, whether the child is scared of something pretend, like a goblin, or something potentially real, like a burglar. Fear fix: Flooding a fearful child’s bedroom with nighttime light can backfire; too much light at night can disturb circadian rhythms, intensifying insomnia or overtiredness. Place a small, dim nightlight in a corner of the room, away from a child’s face. Better yet, choose a night light with a red bulb, and avoid blue lights—research shows they disrupt sleep patterns, Rosenberg says. Rapid reframe Ultimately, the best approach is one that helps your child learn to manage fears long-term, says Walco. Help your child learn to take control of fearful, racing thoughts by reframing a scary mental image: a monster chasing your child with a knife (scary!) could become a friendly fairy chasing your child to offer an ice cream cone (sweet!). Arm your child with factual information, like the real causes of nighttime noises: spooky, creaky footsteps are really caused by your old floorboards, not an intruder. And practice self-calming strategies, like taking two deep breaths when afraid, or picturing a safe, enjoyable scene. When a child masters the skills needed to self-regulate and actively dial down fears, he’ll be more confident, self-assured, and emotionally resilient—for life. Malia Jacobson is an award-winning health and parenting journalist and mom of three. Her latest book is Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades. MONTEREY BAY PARENT • october 2020
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Teaching Your Kids About Civic Responsibility
How much do your kids know about government? A September 2016 Washington Post article discussed how many Americans are unfamiliar with how our government works. For example, one survey found that only a quarter of citizens could name all three branches of government (executive, legislative, and judicial—in case you were wondering). This is unfortunate since research shows that we are happier when we build relationships and open up with others in our community. Dates to Remember for the November 3 General Election Register to Vote: 10/19/20 Conditional Voter Registration: 10/20-11/3 Return vote-by-mail ballot: 11/3/20 Vote in person: 11/3/20 All of California’s registered voters will be mailed a ballot no later than 29 days prior to Election Day.
Benefits Of Civic Engagement There is a clear link between social connection and happiness, when we interact with our neighbors on issues that impact our lives we can experience a greater sense of connection to those we otherwise would not have met. Experts have found that civic involvement helps us build personal connections. When we participate in social action, community service, and political groups, we increase personal satisfaction as we engage with others on issues of mutual interest. These activities also involve participating in the decision making process, which has been found to boost our happiness. Finally, we feel happier when we help others less fortunate than ourselves. The largest survey on American civic engagement, involving 30,000 people, from the Harvard Kennedy School of Government revealed that quality of life and happiness are highest in communities where residents are more socially connected. Results showed that civic engagement predicted the quality of community life and residents’ happiness better than education or income. The survey also showed that if other individuals in a community had higher civic engagement, the whole community was happier overall. The connection between community involvement and happiness for children and teens
has also been evaluated. According to youth.gov, youth who volunteer are more likely to feel connected to their communities, do better in school, and are less likely to engage in risky behavior. In fact, students who performed voluntary community service were 19 percent more likely to graduate from college. Some suggestions: Our children will spend some time in school learning about American history and government, but you can enhance their experience from a young age by doing the following: • Read books about American politics and government based on their age and interests. • Discuss who you will be voting for and why. Show them a ballot and have them be present when you fill yours out. • Watch movies and documentaries about history and government. • Volunteer together as a family to instill community service values. • Encourage them to join the student government or debate team at school. • Bring them to a political event or rally. • Learn together online using resources like iCivics, Kids in the House and Kids.gov Sandi Schwartz is a writer and blogger. You can find her work at www.sandischwartz.com.
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What parents need to know about human trafficking
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There is a pervasive myth that in a community known for its exquisite hiking trails, stunning ocean views, and vertiginous farm fields, human trafficking—a crime that involves force, fraud, and coercion to ensnare its victims—likely does not occur. It does. California is the number one state in which both sex and labor traffickers operate, and Monterey County is not exempt from the factors that invite them. The County is located in the center of the state with a major highway running through it. There are significant tourism and trucking industries, a large migrant population, and poverty. All contribute to the ability of traffickers to operate relatively freely. Polaris, an organization largely respected for its accuracy, reports that in 2019 it was in contact with over 22,000 individual survivors nationwide, an increase of 25 per cent over 2018. Although these data, Polaris notes, “are not intended to represent the full scope of human trafficking, but rather the incoming communications received only through the National Human Trafficking Hotline,” it is a sign that this crime is increasing. Locally, according to the County’s Office of Education and the Department of Social Services, it is believed that more than 100 children ages 10-18 have been trafficked in our community since 2015. The actual number is unknown. The difficulty in ascertaining an accurate count has three major causes: prosecutors choosing to indict offenders for related offenses that are easier to prove in court; the unsubstantiated fear of victims that they will be prosecuted for their trafficker’s offenses if they come forward; and communities that are not well informed about the crime of human trafficking and its often subtle hallmarks. Given that human trafficking is believed to be the third most prevalent criminal activity in the world and a significantly profitable one, the actual number of victims is probably much higher than most estimates suggest. What is it exactly? Human trafficking is a form of modern slavery, even though it does not generally involve the stereotypical kidnapping and locking up of victims
that the word slavery suggests. According to John Vanek, an international expert and author on the topic of this complex crime, “force, fraud, and coercion are essential ingredients in determining trafficking, coercion being any scheme that causes a person to believe that failure to perform an act would result in serious harm, gaining compliance through fear.” Thus trafficking at its core is a psychological crime that mostly preys on the economically desperate, the marginalized, and the abused. But it can also seek out those who simply crave flattery, attention, material goods that are otherwise unattainable, or the promise of a glamorous life. Vanek points out that “the variety of ways a person can be exploited is limited only by the imagination of the trafficker.”
unsurprisingly, social media, and Instagram in particular, according the Peterson. “Traffickers look for young girls with open pages, tagging themselves to live in the Monterey area. The traffickers often pose as women, telling the girls something like, ‘You are so beautiful, are you ready to make some money?’ They will offer drugs, or promise new cell phones, or expensive clothes, but mainly attention. Everyone wants resources and everyone wants to feel beautiful. The cell phones and the expensive purses should be a tip-off that trafficking may be involved.” But not all recruitment is done through the internet: traffickers often hang around school playgrounds or community centers, looking for possible victims. Because the signs of trafficking to a teacher or a school nurse or a police officer may be quite different, it can be a difficult crime to recognize. Vanek says that “trafficking is too complex to be approached with a simple list of signs to be looked for.” That makes awareness and vigilance especially vital.
Who’s at risk? No demographic, no economic class, no gender is free from risk. Transgender children who may have been abandoned by their parents and are living on the street are particularly vulnerable. There have been both sex and Education, advocacy & resources labor trafficking cases prosecuted in By definition, sex trafficking involves Monterey County. The one that Deputy prostitution. In 2017 the California District Attorney Greg Peterson says legislature decriminalized prostitution “should send chills down the backs of involving minors under the age of 18, the readers of this article” is one that so they are now treated as victims and concluded this year. never as “child prostitutes.” The change It originated with the Salinas police was meant to encourage victims to department, and involved a young come forward to report their traffickers woman from a two-parent family, “the without fear of being charged with a kind that eats dinner together every crime themselves, which is often how night.” She had disagreements with her traffickers will maintain a hold on their parents, not uncommon for teenagers, victims. and ran away. Within 24 hours she Further, since 2018, schools was in the clutches of traffickers. Her are mandated to educate students parents located her and saved her from about human trafficking, starting in the traffickers, who were convicted the first, third, and sixth grades. The and are serving long prison sentences. “You cannot say that if you come Schools are mandated to from a good family, educate students about human you’re safe,” Peterson trafficking, starting in the first, said. “You are still susceptible.” third, and sixth grades. Recruitment methods One of the most effective methods by which victims are recruited is,
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objective is to let children know what they can do if they feel their safety is compromised. Middle schools and high schools require training for teachers so they can be on the alert for signs of trafficking. The Monterey County Human Trafficking Symposium, an annual event that takes place in January during Human Trafficking Awareness Month, is held in partnership with the Office of Education and the Department of Social Services. This year it attracted a sold-out audience. Advocacy & resources There is a multitude of advocacy organizations devoted to prevention and counseling. Among them is the Monterey Rape Crisis Center, which offers a web of support for survivors of both sex and labor trafficking. Deborah Pembrook, MRCC human trafficking outreach manager, says, “We have a 24-hour hotline, bilingual and free. We work with survivors to help connect them with what they may need, including medical, mental health, financial, and advocacy. There are also other organizations in Monterey County, such as YWCA and the Coalition to End Human Trafficking. There is a survivor-led prevention education program called ‘Safe and Sound’ that teaches the coercive tactics traffickers use, in order to help young people resist these tactics. All of these organizations offer services to help us build a community that is resilient to trafficking.” In addition, the Monterey County Department of Social Services has teamed up with neighboring counties to provide educational materials and resources, including tools to screen and identify at-risk children, with a coalition of public agencies focused on human trafficking. Trafficker profiles What is the profile of a trafficker? Again, John Vanek’s experience is instructive. “Anyone can become a trafficker — women as well as men, even teachers, doctors, business leaders, leaders within faith communities. A trafficker could look just like you or me.” Everyone interviewed for this story noted that human trafficking spans every segment of society. “It is a crime that happens in plain sight,” says Deborah Pembrook.
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“A trafficker can look like someone just going about everyday life.” Questions have been raised about how Covid-19 has impacted trafficking, particularly labor trafficking. According to Polaris, “The pandemic is greatly impacting Latinos and Black people as a result of systemic inequities in our society. These inequities are the same ones that create the vulnerabilities that traffickers often take advantage of.” The economic disparity in Monterey County only intensifies those factors and should make our residents take note of the consequences of such disparity. How to protect children Lauren DaSilva, Deputy Director of the Monterey County Rape Crisis Center, has specific recommendations for parents to effectively prevent human traffickers from finding their way to vulnerable children. First, she says, “Focus on your relationship with your children and the relationship with your children’s friends. Try to stay grounded in your commitment to be an open communicator, a loving and caring parent who listens carefully to your children’s concerns. Have an ageappropriate conversation about permission, consent, and child abuse without thinking that the subject is over their heads or they can’t understand.” Greg Peterson also offers advice, this time to young people: “Lock your social media, make sure it’s private,” he says. “Don’t accept promises of
easy money, and be aware that if you find yourself a victim, you cannot be prosecuted.” John Vanek reminds us how important it is to report trafficking, since lack of reporting leads to people believing that it doesn’t occur in their community. He adds that “the trauma of victimization does not end when the traumatic incident ends. Victims are impacted to some degree for the rest of their lives.” Advocates for survivors see daily how painful it is to emerge from a situation in which one has been coerced into behaviors that can permanently affect their mental health and their future relationships. Deborah Pembrook sums up her own resilience in dealing with those who have suffered inestimable trauma: “We see real hope in the face of darkness every day.” We must exercise our power to recognize and serve the population of human trafficking survivors in our very own neighborhoods by applying the diligence necessary to ensure that our children are not prey to the danger that surrounds them. Good parenting, open communication, education, and keen observation will go a long way toward reducing the ability of traffickers to upend lives and futures. Susan Meister is a journalist, columnist, and community activist living in Pebble Beach. Susan’s writing was recognized with the 2020 Bronze Award for service writing from the Parenting Media Association.
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“The Essential Abolitionist: What You Need to Know about Human Trafficking and Modern Slavery” is an authoritative and comprehensive book on human trafficking by international expert John Vanek. Available as a paperback or eBook from Amazon. Monterey County Rape Crisis Center 24 hour bilingual hotline: 831-375-4357 National Human Trafficking Resource Center 24 hour toll free hotline: 888 373 7888 YWCA: 831-372-6300 Department of Social Services utilizes a screening tool to help identify minors who are victims of, or at risk of trafficking through its child protection hotline, and offers support to victims being served through the Child Welfare Services: 1-800-606-6618 polarisproject.org: Essential resource for data on human trafficking
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Farmers’ Markets SUNDAY 8:00 AM. Monterey Bay Certified Del Monte Farmers Market. Held at Del Monte Center in Monterey until 12pm in the lot behind Macy’s. Please remember to wear a face mask and to leave pets at home. 10:00 AM. Marina Certified Farmers Market. Fresh, organic, certified produce grown by local small-scale family farmers. Held at 215 Reservation Road, Marina. MONDAY 3:00 PM. Pacific Grove Certified Farmers Market. Offers a wide array of fresh fruits, vegetables and nuts from small-scale family farmers, along with prepared food and artisan items from local vendors. Located on Central Avenue at Grand Avenue. Open until 7:00 pm. TUESDAY 9:00 AM. Carmel Farmers Market. With over 25 farmers and vendors, this market offers a selection of California grown, local fresh farm produce and specialty items including pasture raised grass-fed meat, seafood, organic eggs, cut flowers, organic honey, and potted flowering plants. held at Barnyard Shopping Center from 9 AM-1 PM. 11:00 AM. Alisal Certified Farmers’ Market. The Market is located in the parking lot of the WIC Center, 632 East Alisal, Salinas.
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4:00 PM. Old Monterey Farmer’s Market. Held on Alvarado Street in downtown Monterey. Closes at 7 PM. wednesday 1:00 PM. Downtown Santa Cruz Farmers Market. Held in the heart of downtown Santa Cruz, one block off of Pacific Avenue. In addition to a substantial variety of farm products, this market offers a great selection of local artisan foodstuffs, and baked goods. FRIDAY 9:00 AM. Monterey Bay Certified Del Monte Farmers Market. Held at Del Monte Center in Monterey until 2 pm in the lot near the Tesla station. Remember to wear a face mask. 2:30 PM. Watsonville Farmers’ Market. Offers a wide selection of local produce and lots of food booths. Held in the Watsonville City Plaza. saturday 9:00 AM. Oldtown Salinas Farmers Market. Held on W. Gabilan St. between Main and Salinas St. in downtown Salinas. 9:00 AM. Westside Farmers Market. The Westside Farmers’ Market takes place every week, year round at the corner of Hwy 1 and Western Drive, situated on the northern edge of Santa Cruz’s greenbelt.
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