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Contents may 2021

in each issue:

08 Father’s Day Local dad, Rob Weisskirch covers parenting topics from a dad’s point of view.

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Summer Camp: Even more vital for 2021. After a year of pandemic restrictions, kids really need a sabbatical from screens, community, and time for play.

by Catherine Menendez

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Summer Camp Grid 2021. Looking for camp?

Check out these awesome choices.

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Jump in, the water is fine! Where to swim and who is offering lessons.

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Seven Important Water Safety Reminders. A certified swim instructor offers seven timely water safety reminders.

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Open for Business. Most attractions like museums and amusement parks have been closed since last March. We have reopening info for some of our favorites.

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The Mother Load. Mothers earned their stripes during COVID-19. Were they gained at a fair cost?

by Lissa Carlson

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Returning to Normal May Mean Anxiety. Going back to the classroom may mean anxiety for children and parents.

by Susan Meister and Joel Kestelyn

10 Peninsula Kids Parents share photos of their kids and families.

12 The Deep Blue Bay Monterey Bay Whale Watch educates readers about Monterey Bay National Marine Sanctuary. on the cover

Hendrix is 3 years old and shown on the cover with his mother Krystal. Hendrix will be attending preschool next year at Shoreline Church where his dad Greg Broom works as the Children’s Pastor. Hendrix loves going to the park with his mom and making his new baby sister Kennedy laugh.

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from the publisher…

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It’s spring, finally, and things are looking hopeful.

Between a big push on vaccinations and adherence to safety measures, Monterey and Santa Cruz Counties are moving towards a measure of “normal.” For families, that has traditionally meant summer camp, swim lessons, and weekends spent at amusement parks and other attractions. And, although it will be a little different this year as we continue to wear masks in public and limit our exposure to crowds, it looks as though we will be able to participate in all of those things. To that end, we’re trying to help by gathering information about what’s open, when still-closed attractions will open, who is offering summer camp, plus where you can swim and get swim lessons. Please be aware that the information changes daily, so check our website at MontereyBayParent.com frequently for updates.

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May brings Mother’s Day, of course. We are certainly hoping that you plan on celebrating the mothers in your life (and that you will be celebrated if you’re a mom!). One of the lessons of the pandemic has been just how heavy the load mothers carry. We still do an unequal amount of childcare and housework, and in many homes, it was mom’s job that took a hit during the pandemic. Nearly one million mothers left their jobs during the pandemic– many because childcare was unavailable or because they couldn’t juggle the demands of virtual school with their paid work. It’s a massive toll both economically and on the mothers’ wellbeing. Lissa Carlson explores how the pandemic affected mothers on pages 26-27. She offers a lot of food for thought as we individually and as a society explore parental roles and the place of mothers in society.

Cover Photographer Michelle Findlay Contributing Writers LISSA CARLSON SUSAN MEISYTER & JOEL KESTELYN CATHERINE MENENDEZ tricia vlasak rob weisskirch Editorial Submissions are welcome. We reserve the right to edit, reject or comment editorially on all material contributed. We cannot be responsible for return of any unsolicited materials.

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Happy Mother’s Day–may yours be filled with love and cuddles.

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There are times when I am talking to my daughter, hearing the words from my mouth, and I realize that I sound like my mother. My parenting is deeply rooted in how I was parented and particularly by my mother.

With Mother’s Day this month, I think of five things I learned from her:

Father’s day by Rob Weisskirch

Five things I learned from my mother … about being a father

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Show you care about others in small ways. My mother is the kind of person who, when she travels, buys trinkets for loved ones. When she visits, there are small gifts of things on sale, giveaways she thought we would like, or items she remembered we said we wanted. From growing up, I learned about the importance of showing others what you think of them.

I am not a trinket-buyer. However, I do a large chunk of grocery shopping, and sometimes, I buy a new product or something I think my daughter will find interesting. When I return, my daughter will ask, “Did you buy any treats?” You’ve never seen a child so excited over sour gummy fruit snacks, but I think she recognizes that someone was thinking about her like my mother did (and continues to do) for me.

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Recognize the person who your kid is, audibly. My mom is one of my biggest fans. As I grew up, she regularly commented positively on the work I did. But, she commented not just on the hard work but also on the kind of person I was. She told me I was intelligent, creative, clever, talented, etc. Although my face would redden

when she would say these things, it was a good reminder that she had faith in me and saw the best version of who I was. Like many people, there were times when it felt like other kids didn’t recognize these traits. But, my mom was unwavering. As a dad, I have learned that, just as my mother praised the person I was, I do the same with my daughter. I am quick to remind my daughter of her creativity, sense of humor, fearlessness, compassion, and ability to bring people together. Like my mom did, I want to be sure that my

daughter knows that I see her for the person she is.

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Try new experiences. I grew up in a solidly working-class family, where we did not have a lot of money for extras, but my mother found ways to introduce new activities. She once got discounted tickets for a strange theater performance of a sad clown who did not speak for 45 minutes but pantomimed to violin music. At intermission, my sister and I begged to leave, but mother had us stay. After

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the “play” resumed, the clown dashed off stage and burst into the lobby.

Moments later, the sad clown flung open the doors and uttered the only words of the whole play, “Donuts!

Donuts!” and threw donuts, frisbeestyle, into the audience. After that, he started interacting with the audience, leaving us laughing. My mother also took us to the roller derby because we liked roller skating. To see something different, we went to see Wrestlemania IV live. From her attitude, I think I have also embraced that notion with my parenting. In our family, we take advantage of the breadth of activities in our area (when they were open).

As a family, we have taken tours of a mushroom farm, attended open houses at the local research labs, attended cultural festivals like Dia de Los Muertos, the Obon Festival, and the Jewish Food Festival, been to events during car week, and probably others that I am forgetting. The point is that, like my mother, I am trying to convey the idea that there is a wide diversity of experiences out there.

You never know when donuts may fly through the air.

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Have a positive attitude towards learning. I always remember my mother taking a class. When we first got a microwave oven, she took a class on microwave cooking. When she wanted to transition out of being a secretary, she took classes to become a mortgage broker. She would take all the education classes they offered when she went on a cruise. In her 50’s, she took courses at a community college, one or two classes at a time, to get her A.A. Now, in her later 70’s, she is pursuing her Bachelor’s degree as a junior at Cal State Northridge, majoring in Psychology. She has demonstrated to me that there is always something to learn and that learning leads to selfimprovement. I think that a positive attitude towards learning has sunk in when my daughter can barely contain herself to tell me what she learned watching “Operation Ouch!” or something she learned from the main school lesson for the day.

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Affection is expected. My mom is a hugger and a kisser. A hug and kiss are required upon arrival and departure (even as an adult).

When something good happened,

there was a kiss and a hug. When I was sick, my mom would take my temperature by putting her lips on my forehead to determine my level of illness, which ended with a kiss.

Even at the age when affection was considered embarrassing by me, it was still administered with the warning, “I’m still your mother.” There were also those times when I was stressed over some aspect of adolescent triviality that the kiss good night was indeed a reminder that some relationships are constant. The physical interaction between parents and children has meaning–it reinforces the relationship, it provides appropriate intimacy, and it reminds you that you are loved. I make sure that my affection is expressed freely to my daughter.

Happy Mother’s Day to my mom, my wife, and to all the moms reading!

Robert (Rob) S. Weisskirch, MSW, Ph.D., CFLE is a Professor of Human Development at California State University, Monterey Bay and is a Certified Family Life Educator. He and his wife are parents to a chatty, elementary school aged daughter and reside in Marina.

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We’re celebrating MOMS this month.

Here are some of our favorite reader-submitted photos.

Maximilian Hadley with mom Jenny

Sheri and daughter Katelyn

Nichole and daughter Alison

Lisa and her mom, Janet

Lisa with boys Jacob and Lucas

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Diego, Dominic and David’s mom

Danika with son Mikey

Next month, we’re celebrating FATHERS. Email your favorite photo of the fathers in your life (with or without kids!).

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SUMMER CAMPS 2021

EXPLORE OUTDOORS THIS SUMMER WITH SCIENTISTS FROM THE PACIFIC GROVE MUSEUM OF NATURAL HISTORY Small cohorts of campers will be led by two scientists on adventures in the Museum, in the garden, and to nearby natural areas. Each day will bring fun with friends and new experiences with science, nature, and our local history. Each week is a new camp theme filled with science experiments, art projects, games, and activities designed to learn while having fun.

Camper, family, and staff safety is our number one priority. We have put into place practices that provide layers of protection.

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Spring is Orca season in the Monterey Bay

There is absolutely nothing like seeing Orcas in the wild – much better than seeing them in a small tank in captivity. Orcas, or killer whales, are the largest of the dolphins and one of the world’s most powerful predators. They sometimes show their dolphin connection by breaching, wake riding, and surfing in the swells.

Orcas are family oriented, intelligent, and playful animals. They usually stay with their families their entire lives. Orcas are protective of their young, and other adolescent females often assist the mother in caring for them. They’re immediately recognizable by their distinctive black-and-white coloring. Smart and social, Orcas make a wide variety of communicative sounds, and each pod has distinctive noises that its members will recognize even at a distance.

They’re at the top of the food chain and have very diverse diets, feasting on fish, penguins, and marine mammals such as seals, sea lions, and even whales, employing teeth that can be four inches long.

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by Catherine Menendez

While health and safety precautions are undoubtedly in full force at summer camp, imagination and creativity are in every nook and cranny.

SUMMER CAMP

Even more vital for 2021 The events of 2020 had a significant global impact, especially on those who will experience their longterm aftermath: children and adolescents. While processing this is important, it is essential to begin to shift our mental energy forward.

How can we prepare for the future?

How do we keep young people healthy and safe, yet also ensure that they are growing emotionally, physically, and relationally? How can we take inventory of children’s education, relationships, and general activity in order to set them up for developmental success moving forward? As a mental health professional who works in the camping industry, I am convinced that summer camp is no longer an optional add-on to enrich a child’s experience while they are out of school; it is a vital

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need for all children and adolescents in 2021 and beyond.

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Camp provides a forced sabbatical from technology/ screens. There has been a marked rise in screen usage amongst all ages for obvious and essential reasons. While technology has been crucial in allowing work, education, and connection to continue, we also know that screen time can negatively impact mental health over the long haul, especially in children (Twenge & Campbell, 2018). Using screens as a primary means of relational connection during key periods of childhood development is particularly alarming. Now more than ever, it is crucial that we strategically and consciously create space for young people to move their bodies, be

outside, and connect face-to-face with peers. Camps are one of the contexts that provide this pivotal combination for extended amounts of time: authentic connection with others in an outdoor, technology-free context.

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Camp creates community, not polarization. During an election year which would have already been fraught with political tension, the added effects of COVID-19 (isolation, increased social media usage) only heightened polarization; feelings of division and hostility are as present as the air we breathe. Social hierarchies and divisions which may exist in other spheres of life are not present at summer camp because of two key elements: staff who model acceptance and kindness, and the shared MONTEREY BAY PARENT • may 2021

connection of trying (and perhaps failing) at something new, away from the loving (yet often stifling) gaze of parents.

Healthy, deep friendships inherently welcome and hold space for differences; learning how to make and maintain these relationships is both pivotal for development and challenging to see modeled in the current climate.

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Camp fosters imagination and free play.

Finally, in a world where most activity and social interaction is necessarily and increasingly structured for health and safety precautions, camp offers the gift of more freedom. At summer camp, children participate in the imaginative, free play that is so crucial for development.

Activities at camp are inherently playful: staff and campers alike sing, run, dance, and create.

The Project Zero Team at Harvard created a research initiative entitled The Pedagogy of Play, which focused on play as a key element of learning (2016). In this project, their team identified choice, wonder, and delight as “indicators of playful learning” (Mardell et al., 2016). These elements exist in abundance at summer camp: campers are able to learn independence by making their own choices and taking on responsibility, engage with nature in a way that stirs up awe and wonder, and experience the delight that comes from jumping off a rope swing or belly-laughing with a friend at a meal. While health and safety precautions are undoubtedly in full force at summer camp, imagination and creativity are in every nook and cranny.

Catherine Menendez is a licensed clinical mental health counselor associate (LCMHCA) who works with her husband John as a camp director for Camps Timberlake and Merri-Mac in Black Mountain, North Carolina.

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June 7th–July 30th Camp Hours: Monday through Friday, 9 am–4 pm

Offering over 30 fun, COVID safe sports and activities

June 7th – July 30th For more information about local camps that offer an opportunity for your children to experience everything great offered by a camp experience, turn to page 12.

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Full program information will be posted on the Monterey Sports Center website as soon as program details are finalized.

Due to the current CDC guidelines, participants must be signed up for 2 consecutive weeks of camp at a time. This summer there are a total of 4, 2 week sessions!

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Basketball Jones Hoop Camps Carmel, Salinas, Aptos, Santa Cruz 831-537-0238 www.basketballjonescamp.com

Monterey Sports Camp 301 E Franklin St, Monterey, 93940 831-646-3730 Montereysportscenter.org

Carmel Youth Center Torres Street & 4th Avenue, Carmel, 93923 831-624-3285 www.carmelyouth.org

Monte Vista Christian 2 School Way, Watsonville, 95076 831-722-8178 www.mvcs.org

Central Coast YMCA 500 Lincoln Ave., Salinas, 93901 831-757-4633 www.centralcoastymca.org

Ooze Studio 13766 Center St., Carmel Valley, 93923 415-465-0075 www.ooze.studio

Chartwell School 2511 Numa Watson Road, Seaside, CA 93955 831-394-3468 chartwell.org

Pac Rep Theatre School of Dramatic Arts Mountain View & Santa Rita, Carmel, 93923 831-622-9175 www.schoolofdramaticarts.org

The Dance Center 26135 Carmel Rancho Blvd., B6, Carmel, 93923 831-625-3262 www.dancecarmel.com

Pacific Grove Museum of Natural History 165 Forest Avenue, Pacific Grove, 93950 831-648-5716, ext. 16 www.pgmuseum.org

Hidden Hills Ranch 19014 Pesante Road, Salinas, 93907 831-663-6471 www.hiddenhillsranch.org

Progress Not Perfection Paint Parties 125 Central Avenue, Pacific Grove, 93950 831-256-7443 www.pnppaintparty.com

Justin Russo Golf Academy 1 McClure Way, Seaside, 93955 831-760-0749 justinrussogolfacademy.com

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Shoreline Church Summer Camp 2500 Garden Road, Monterey 93940 831-655-0100 https://shoreline.church/summer-day-camp

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Jump In! Here are the local options for a spring or summer dip.

Most locations are offering swim lessons this summer.

INDOOR POOLS CENTRAL COAST YMCA 117 Clay St, Salinas www.centralcoastymca.org Swimming lessons are available for youth ages newborn and up in group, private, and semi-private settings.

Lessons are held in four-week sessions with two half-hour classes each week.

Saturday lessons are also available.

Lesson sessions begin in June.

MONTEREY SPORTS CENTER 301 East Franklin Street, Monterey www.monterey.org/sportscenter Monterey Sports Center offers a large lap pool that is now open at 25% capacity. Swim lessons begin on May 1.

PATULLO SWIM CENTER 1148 Wheeler Street, Seaside (831) 899-6815 Patullo Swim Center is run by the City of Seaside. They have a large lap pool and are currently open only for adult lap swimming and exercise classes.

Swim lessons and open swimming schedule will be announced soon.

OUTDOOR POOLS CARMEL VALLEY COMMUNITY YOUTH CENTER 25 Ford Rd, Carmel Valley (831) 659-3983 www.cvcyc.org CVCYC is a private, non-profit organization that provides one of the only outdoor pools for general swimming. Located in Carmel Valley, the weather tends to be warmer and more comfortable for swimming. They have a diving board and a small slide in the shallow end for smaller children.

Be sure to arrive early as parking and the lounge chairs fill up fast.

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Swim lessons are available by contacting Kristen at kristen@cvcyc.org. Lessons are $125 for nonmembers and $110 for members.

MEADOWBROOK SWIM AND TENNIS CLUB 1553 Kimball Avenue, Seaside • (831) 394-6629 www.meadowbrookswimandtennis.com Meadowbrook is a private tennis and swim club with two pools, one is five and a half feet deep and a “Kiddie” pool which is only two feet deep. Currently, only swimming for exercise is allowed and you must have an appointment.

MONTEREY MOOSE FAMILY CENTER 555 Canyon Del Rey Blvd.

Del Rey Oaks • (831) 394-6896 https://montereymoose876.org Large outdoor pool available for members with reservation.

Membership to The Moose Lodge is a requirement to use pool unless with a member as a guest. Prospective members can fill out an application by visiting the website.

SIMPKINS FAMILY SWIM CENTER 979 17th Avenue, Santa Cruz • (831) 454-7946 http://scparks.com/Home/SimpkinsFamily SwimCenter.aspx This pool is run by the Santa Cruz Parks Department. They are open on a limited basis for individual adult lap swim and warm water pool use, and single-family warm pool reservations. Currently only private swim lessons are offered at $180 for six lessons.

STILLWELL CHILDREN’S POOL AT LOVERS POINT PARK Ocean View Boulevard and 17th Street, Pacific Grove www.cityofpacificgrove.org/living/recreation/facilities/ stillwell-childrens-pool-lovers-point This pool has a gorgeous ocean view and is perfect for little ones under 10 years old. The deepest section is 3 1/2 feet high at the wall. The pool will be opening on June 7th for swim lessons only. Registration will open online May 14th.

Swim lessons begin Saturday, May 1!

TITUS PARK SWIM AND TENNIS 127 San Benancio Road, Salinas • (831) 484-1825 https://tituspark.org/swim-lessons Located off of Highway 68 towards Salinas, Titus Park Swim and Tennis is a private club. The pool is open and reservations are required. Group and individual swim lessons are available. Group lessons are $40 for Members / $50 for non-members.

SWIMMING INSTRUCTORS KERRI WILLIAMS: ISR MONTEREY BAY www.isrmontereybay.com ISR is not traditional swim lessons. Starting as early as 6 months old, these lessons focus on teaching the child to roll onto their back to float, rest and breathe, and to be able to maintain this life-saving position until help arrives. Kerri uses the behavioral sciences: sensorimotor learning, positive reinforcement, and operant conditioning with your child.

The program focuses on survival swim, but children who can walk (generally one year of age and older) will learn to swim during lessons.

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Open to Ages: Group Lessons (6 month-5 Years old) Privates (6 months-Adult) Class Sessions: Saturdays (1 day a week for 4 weeks) Weekdays (3 days a week for 2 weeks) Classes limited to 4 to 8 students depending on level.

Privates limited to 1 to 4 students

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Seven Important Water Safety Reminders In California, drowning is a leading cause of injury-related deaths among children under the age of five. For many children who live on the Monterey Bay, swim time may be limited. As a result, parents may not spend enough time thinking through water safety and teaching their children those rules.

Whether your family’s water time will be at a pool or on the beach this summer, take some time to consider the following suggestions:

1.

Always have adult supervision. And I don’t mean sitting by the pool with a book or your phone (although you should keep your phone handy in case of an emergency).

Drownings are silent. You won’t hear a scream or a splash.

A child can lose consciousness after being submerged for two minutes. After 4-6 minutes, permanent brain damage can occur. While having a lifeguard and other swimmers and parents present may make you feel safer, the reality is that lifeguards can be distracted, and other parents are watching their children, not yours.

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Swimming lessons. Children can learn to float as young as six months old, and kids at any age need to know how to keep themselves safe in the water. Call a variety of instructors and swim schools so that you know what is available. (See pages 22-23 for suggestions).

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Physical barriers. A must for any pool is a fence at least four feet high, with a self-latching and self-locking gate.

Pool fences save lives. Period. But they are not fool-proof.

Even self-latching gates don’t always close completely. Older siblings and even adults can forget to latch the pool fence, so check the fence and the gate regularly. Be particularly cautious when visiting friends or relatives with a pool.

4.

Learn CPR and first aid. Be prepared in case of an accident.

5.

Throw out the water wings. Water wings are toys – dangerous toys. If you are using a flotation device, make sure it is U.S. Coast Guard approved. However, never depend on flotation devices to take the place of adult supervision.

Young children can, and do, take off life jackets.

6.

Talk to your kids. Start early. Go over the safety rules every time your kids are in or near the water. Your words will sink in and can prevent accidents.

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Know where you’re swimming. There are beaches in Monterey and Santa Cruz Counties that are dangerous for wading and swimming. If the signs tell you to stay out of the water, abide by the rules and keep your children a safe distance away from the shoreline. Better yet, stick to beaches that are safer and have lifeguards.

Leigh Ann Newman is a certified survival swimming instructor and owner of a swim school in Florida.

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Most local attractions like museums and amusement parks have been closed since last March. Many are now either open or have announced their opening plan and dates.

We checked with some of our favorites and here is their most updated info.

CALIFORNIA’S GREAT AMERICA 4701 GREAT AMERICA PARKWAY SANTA CLARA WWW.CAGREATAMERICA.COM

California’s Great America is reopening on May 22. All 2020 Silver, Gold, Platinum and Pre-K Season Passes will be honored during the 2021 season, including 2020 Season Pass add-on products. All 2020 park admission tickets are valid through Sept. 6, 2021.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Masks are required and park staff employ rigorous sanitation standards and robust cleaning procedures.

Guests are encouraged to visit the website for the latest updates on requirements, policies and safety protocols for the 2021 season, as these guidelines may be revised prior to opening day.

CHILDREN’S DISCOVERY MUSEUM OF SAN JOSE 180 WOZ WAY, SAN JOSE WWW.CDM.ORG

The inside of the Purple Museum is now open every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Reservations are required. Two play sessions per day with capped attendance capacity to honor social distancing guidelines and ensure a safe and quality experience are being offered. A private play time option is also available.

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COVID PRECAUTIONS:

The Museum is following the guidelines and recommendations set forth by the Santa Clara County Public Health Department, the State of California, and the CDC to ensure the safety and health of employees and visitors.

GILROY GARDENS

3050 HECKER PASS HWY., GILROY GILROYGARDENS.ORG

Gilroy Gardens reopening is May 22 with the full schedule announced on their website.

All 2020 memberships will be honored during the 2021 season.

In addition, all 2020 memberships will receive an in-park spending credit valid for purchases during the 2021 season. In addition, a special membership is being offered for just $48 per person – details are available on the website.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

All guests and associates will be required to wear face coverings at al times while in the park. Park staff implement preventive measures as recommended by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

HAPPY HOLLOW

748 STORY RD, SAN JOSE HAPPYHOLLOW.ORG

Happy Hollow has reopened with an adjusted experience. Walk Through the Zoo, the first stage

of Happy Hollow’s reopening, is a one-way outdoor waking path through the two zoo areas that allows guests to learn about the animals and wildlife conservation while safely stretching their legs and spending time outdoors. Rides remain closed. To use tickets that expired during one of our closures, please contact our Guest Services team at info@happyhollow.org or (408) 794-6400.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Happy Hollow requires all guests and staff to complete a quick health screening before entry. Masks must be worn at all times.

MONTEREY BAY AQUARIUM

886 CANNERY ROW, MONTEREY MONTEREYBAYAQUARIUM.ORG

The Monterey Bay Aquarium opens to members from May 1–14 and to the general public on May 15. Tickets will not be available at the Main Entrance. You must reserve online in advance. Both members and the general public will reserve tickets for a specific entry date and time.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

All guests ages three and older must wear a face covering. Guests wearing neck gaiters, scarves, bandanas or face shields. will not be admitted.

You must stay at least six feet away from other guests in other parties and Aquarium staff at all times. Total capacity is limited to help guests keep their distance.

Additional sanitizing stations have been installed.

MONTEREY MUSEUM OF ART 559 PACIFIC ST., MONTEREY MONTEREYART.ORG

The Monterey Museum of Art is opening to members on May 13 and to the general public on May 20.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

For updated Covid adjustments, check the museum website).

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MONTEREY ZOO

400 RIVER RD, SALINAS, 93908 MONTEREYZOO.ORG

Monterey Zoological is open and back to its regular hours and days.

Tickets are available online or at the gate depending on availability.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

No-contact temperature checks conducted upon arrival. All will be required to exercise a 10-20ft. social distance from anyone not in their family or group. Frequent hand-washing and sanitizing is requested. Masks required at all times.

MY MUSEUM

559 PACIFIC ST., MONTEREY MYMUSEUM.ORG

MY Museum has plans to open to the public in July. 2020 memberships were frozen when the museum closed and will be honored.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Details will be available soon on their website.

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NATIONAL STEINBECK CENTER 1 MAIN ST, SALINAS WWW.STEINBECK.ORG

The center will reopen May 6 to the public with limited hours.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Details will be available soon on their website.

PACIFIC GROVE MUSEUM OF NATURAL HISTORY

165 FOREST AVE., PACIFIC GROVE WWW.PGMUSEUM.ORG

The museum has reopened and is welcoming visitors from 10 am to 4 pm Friday through Monday.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

New safety procedures in place including mandatory masks.

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SANTA CRUZ BEACH BOARDWALK

165 FOREST AVE., PACIFIC GROVE WWW.PGMUSEUM.ORG

A limited selection of rides is now open for California residents.

Park capacity and reservations are limited, advance reservations recommended and available online through the end of May. Walk-up available as capacity allows.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Face masks are required. Rides will close periodically for cleaning and sanitizing.

SANTA CRUZ CHILDREN’S MUSEUM

1855 41ST AVE #10, CAPITOLA WWW.SCCMOD.ORG

Currently open for private parties only. The announcement for a general opening is expected soon.

COVID PRECAUTIONS:

Face masks are required and no food or drink is allowed in museum.

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The Mother Load

Mothers earned their stripes during COVID-19.

Were they gained at a fair cost?

by Lissa

Carlson

If there’s ever been a year mothers are due a medal in May, it’s this one. So what if we nearly lost our minds for it?

The COVID-19 pandemic revealed system flaws in health, economics, race, and even gender, particularly as it relates to motherhood. Headlines since February have dominated the topic.

The New York Times devoted an entire series called “The Primal Scream” to “America’s mothers in crisis,” featuring audio from real moms who called a hotline where, for up to one full minute, they could vent or just scream.

Homeschooling and quarantine intensified motherhood, compounded by work demands, health fears, and financial uncertainty for most of us. It was painful.

Yet throughout history, collective suffering can lead to growth. Many are enthused by the prospect of what lies post-pandemic, perhaps even as a direct result of it, including the likelihood of federal paid leave and normalization of mental health challenges.

How did we get here?

Jodi Vandenberg-Daves teaches the history of motherhood at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse and wrote the book “Modern Motherhood: An American History” (Rutgers University Press, 2014). In the early 20th century, she says, mothers got their first big break, resulting in a Mothers’ Pension Movement to ensure economic justice. The 1970s brought a second wave of economic protection for women with the Pregnancy Discrimination Act of 1978, making it illegal to fire based on pregnancy.

Still, rigid cultural expectations about motherhood prevented other advances that would have served working women well, causing many to dub it an “unfinished revolution” (there’s even a 2011 book, “The Unfinished Revolution,” by Kathleen Gerson). Essentially, VandenbergDaves says, women gained the right to compete for the same jobs as men, but employers were not expected to recognize the caregiving role of motherhood by providing flexibility to attend to sick kids or dental appointments.

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I want my mommy!

Is caregiving an issue distinct to mothers? Yes, says Vandenberg-Daves.

“We don’t tend to talk about gender.

We treat it as a non-issue and instead use the term ‘parents.’ Kids don’t treat their parents as parents; they treat them as mom and dad if they’re in a heterosexual situation.”

To exemplify the distinction between genders, Vandenberg-Daves has students recall who completed various household tasks as they grew, from emotional labor (who listened to your problems) to basic household management (who remembered your shoe size, signed your permission slips, and ensured you had the uniform you needed for the band concert on Thursday). Overwhelmingly, such duties fall under the title of motherhood. “And I’m not saying men don’t do these things,” VandenbergDaves says. “They do, and I would never want to minimize that. I want to uphold it and say, ‘Yay! Let’s do more of it!’”

Research in same-sex families suggests greater equality and satisfaction in the division of household and family labor, further supporting that it’s indeed a gender differentiation.

Stephanie Rytilahti, director of gender and women’s studies for the University of Wisconsin System and mother to three young children, says the pandemic made visible the often inequitable division of labor. Partners witnessed the logistical management of their households more closely during quarantine.

It’s not your fault When there’s a household failure, it’s moms who tend to make it personal and berate their parenting abilities, Rytilahti says. Moms wonder why they can’t manage it all; employers can contribute to this sentiment rather than recognizing an outdated system and lack of support.

Vandenberg-Daves says our cultural belief that families should function as individual units contributes

to the battle. “(It’s this) idea that it can all be done by you as a mom by just working harder to put all the right pieces in place,” Vandenberg-Daves says. “Basically, society asks women to make up for all that it won’t do.”

Greater institutional and governmental assistance for families, along with quality training for implementation, provide equitable support and an overarching framework that reduces implicit biases caused when supervisors treat flexibility or time off on a case-by-case basis, Rytilahti says.

The good news: Federally mandated paid leave is on the horizon, according to Jessica Mason, a senior policy analyst for the National Partnership for Women & Families.

“I’m optimistic that this is the year the federal government finally passes a paid leave policy,” Mason says. “What’s particularly encouraging to me is that we see economic advisors calling out how essential it is to have these social supports in place so everyone can participate, and get and hold jobs; and that this type of support is at the center of our economy just as much as building a road or a bridge.”

The National Partnership, working to improve lives through equality for women for 50 years, was pivotal in passing the Family & Medical Leave Act (FMLA) of 1993. However, Mason says, FMLA only protects those employed at least one year who’ve worked 1,250 hours for a company with 50 or more. These contingencies neglect 44 percent of the workforce.

Protecting our most vulnerable The pandemic caused disproportionate harm to people of color, especially women, according to a research brief released by the National Partnership in late March. It further widened the gap between more-advantaged workers (often white) and those in positions deemed essential, who faced daily risk of infection (positions often held by marginalized groups).

National Partnership, a founding member of Paid Leave for All,

Among our readers: Did the “motherload” increase?

We asked members of the Monterey Bay Parent Facebook group how Covid was impacting the workload in their family.

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promotes a comprehensive policy that covers multiple needs (cancer, to help a family member, or pregnancy/ childbirth) to ensure less discrimination in its application, Mason says.

A mother’s lack of support impacts her whole family. “The pandemic really drove home that women and their families cannot thrive unless they have the support they need for their health and their economic security,” Mason says. “We saw that when people didn’t have paid sick time, they had to go into work sick anyway because they couldn’t afford to lose a paycheck.

Health and economics are inextricably intertwined.”

Beyond federal measures There are opportunities at the local level that will help just as much as paid leave for all. Rytilahti lists options such as onsite child care and companywide plans for no-school days. It’s supporting a culture where it’s okay to leave a meeting early because your child has a soccer game, she says. It’s generating creative ways to provide access to leadership roles for all, such as offering job-share positions. And it’s normalizing caregiving roles for men.

“We have to raise our voices,” Vandenberg-Daves says. “Some of us can’t do this for whatever reason – we need the job too desperately, we’re in a difficult work relationship. But those of us who can advocate, we should, and we should make that visible.”

Will greater economic and healthcare protections for families be COVID’s silver lining? In the words of author Zora Neale Hurston, “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” Perhaps 2021 holds answers.

In the meantime, the New York Times “Primal Scream” line remains open. The number is 212-556-3800.

You’re welcome, and Happy Mother’s Day. Lissa Carlson is the vaccinated mother of two teenage boys. She is an award-winning writer who has written about parenting for 25 years. of the mothers who responded said their childcare responsibilities increased during the pandemic. of the mothers who responded said fathers took on more childcare responsibilities during the pandemic. montereybayparent.com

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Going Back to the Classroom May Mean Anxiety for Children and Parents

By Susan Meister and Joel Kestelyn We are getting closer to being liberated from an extended period of fear and isolation, stemming from the pandemic. Even now, when vaccinations are taking place at a rapid rate, it is not over yet. Uneven adherence to guidance to continue wearing masks and socially distance, and in too many cases, a refusal to vaccinate are still putting us at risk of a resurgence. Still, Monterey County is opening up, and perhaps the best news is that schools are welcoming back students. For parents who have struggled to take care of children at home, who have had to supervise their remote learning, and in many cases, have had difficulty maintaining their own jobs remotely, it’s mostly welcome news.

ANXIETY UPON GOING BACK TO SCHOOL You would assume that parents and kids should be ecstatic about their return to classrooms, social lives, and their usual extracurricular activities. But here is the surprise: it seems that, as a whole, they are not. A 1,000-person study of parents with children from kindergarten to college age, reveals that a full 66 percent report feeling anxious about returning. If given a choice, the study asked, 30 percent would prefer to stay remote, 38 percent want to return to classrooms,

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and nearly 25 percent would choose a combination. For every student age group, parents have noticed a sizable increase in symptoms of anxiety and depression. According to psychologists Martha Paleaz and Gary Novak, when children return to school and separate from their parents, ”high rates of protest and distress may emerge.”

This is not the picture of strong mental health that we hoped would result from a return to normal life for school-age kids. Leaving the safe cocoon that home has become will not be easy for some children. For others, there are both academic and social worries, and parents pick up on the anxieties their kids are feeling.

The approaching “normal” is fraught.

We have all been through a lot. We are exhausted, and dealing with yet a new set of pandemic-related problems seems nearly impossible.

LOCAL RESOURCES AVAILABLE Fortunately, we have excellent child and adolescent mental health care services. The Monterey County Health Department Behavioral Health-Child and Adolescent Services provides services in schools. The Ohana Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, recently established at CHOMP, offers outpatient and inpatient services.

Susan Swick, Ohana’s Physicianin-Chief, urges parents to provide what

she calls “reassurance and scaffolding” as they help their children return to the life that we once called normal.

Above all, she says, “It’s important to recognize that your anxiety is higher now because of the worry that your kids have fallen behind in ways you might think can’t be made up.” But, she reminds us, “kids are built to master new situations, which doesn’t mean they don’t have anticipatory worry, but often anticipation is worse than reality.” She points out that “This is a back-to-school moment such as kids face after summer vacation when the younger ones wonder who is going to be in their class, or what their teacher will be like. For teenagers, it’s wondering who their new friends will be, how they will talk to that girl who is sitting next to them in class, will their old friends still hang out with them?”

Then there are those children who have previously struggled socially or may even have been bullied–for them, going back to school might produce significant anxiety. “That child might have flourished being at home. They would rather not have to face the bully on the playground.”

ANXIOUS PARENTS What about anxious parents? Certainly, there is concern that our kids have lost skills, that they’ve lost ground in reading or math, or even in playing the sports they used to love. Dr. Swick reminds us that cognitive, neurological, physical, and emotional development has continued even in isolation. They may be somewhat behind academically, but they also have developed new abilities to cope with negative situations; Dr. Swick reminds us, “There may be some pleasant surprises. Kids may discover they have more tools in their belt than they did last year.” And they will have company. “There will be many who are managing the same challenges.”

EXPERT ADVICE Advice from Dr. Marni R. Sandoval, Deputy Director of Monterey County’s Behavioral Health-Child and Adolescent Services, is closely aligned with that of Dr. Swick. Her department provides mental health services for Medi-Cal recipients, the uninsured, and the undocumented, serving clients from 0-25 years old and their families.

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districts with a variety of needs. They consult with teachers about mental health awareness in school districts with which they have contracts.

Thus she is well aware of the issues returning kids are facing.

“Going back to school after a long absence is not only anxietyproducing for children without mental health issues, but for those who have experienced trauma, those memories might reoccur under the stress of reentry. Remember that rituals have been lost, like birthdays, graduations, family gatherings. All of this has brought developmental disruptions.”

ADVICE FOR PARENTS Drs. Swick and Sandoval agree on how parents can better handle their children’s anxiety. It’s vital to remain open, even curious. Please don’t assume you know what is troubling them. Dr. Swick advises letting them talk about their worries, then validate their feelings. “Model this for kids: you’re confident that it’s going to be okay. If you swoop in and try to fix it, you’re telling them that it’s a really big problem and needs parental intervention. Instead, just be calm and bear it, even if you have to fudge it! And while you’re doing that, be protective of sleep, yours and theirs, make space for recharging activities, whether it’s play or music or nourishing social connections. That is all essential for health right now.”

Dr. Sandoval concurs. “Prepare your kids for what their lives might look like when they go back to school.

Let them know it’s okay to feel scared, but make them feel that they can be successful. Children watch how we handle our anxiety. Collectively acknowledge that the pandemic has

been difficult for all of us. Let them know that you are ready to listen, even in the case of teenagers, if it takes several attempts to get them to talk.”

WHEN YOU NEED MORE HELP If you have concerns about your children, there are resources to consult. Teachers are on the front line, and they might be your first call. Dr. Sandoval notes that “teachers have had experience with hundreds of kids. They know the signs of distress. They may be the first to connect with if what you are observing is troubling you.” There is also your pediatrician, who may know your children from birth.

If you detect serious problems, especially in adolescents, with disruption in sleep or eating habits, isolation, or suspected drug use, that’s when you call either Ohana for a consultation with a caseworker– they answer your call within a business day–or with the Monterey County Behavioral Health- Child and Adolescent Services, who are on hand 24/7 (see resources sidebar).

Both professionals point out that you are an expert on your kids. You know them better than anyone else, and you know if they are experiencing a situation that can be worked out within your family or if what you are observing is more than you can or should be handling.

UNDERSERVED POPULATIONS NEED EXTRA ATTENTION There is one unique issue that should be addressed, according to Dr. Sandoval, which is inherent in the distinctive demographics of Monterey County. We have a large Latino population who are struggling with socio-political issues and all of the

pandemic challenges and are feeling the stress in dramatic ways.

“As a community,” she says, “we have to take a stance towards equity.

Their needs are unique, and they have not had the same level of support as those on the Peninsula have had.”

Fortunately, her department offers that support, providing mental health care in all corners of the County. She points out, however, that parents need to advocate for funding the continuation of their work. “ Local education boards need to hear from people in their district so our services can be more widely utilized.”

Whichever route parents take to deal with their children’s anxiety, the good news is that there is abundant help available. “If you worry, “ Dr. Swick says, “Don’t worry alone.”

Susan Meister is a journalist, columnist, and community activist living in Pebble Beach. Susan’s writing was recognized with the 2020 Bronze Award for service writing from the Parenting Media Association.

Joel Kestelyn is a sophomore at the University of Washington, studying psychology and pre-law.

RESOURCES: Ohana Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health 831-624-5311 A case worker will call back within a business day.

Monterey County Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services Crisis line 24 hours/ 7 days a week, both English and Spanish: 831-687-4379

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