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contents inspire jennifer woodruff darcy grimes talara parrish you go, girl!
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nurture pets 40 bloom where you’re planted 42 health Q&A 44
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editor’s note
Sat., June 23 — a date that we have anticipated for months — is quickly approaching and is one that we have set aside to celebrate all the wonderful women of the High Country. The second annual All About Women Expo is scheduled from noon until 6 p.m. on that day at the (new) Watauga County High School in Boone and promises to be a festive, fun-filled event that every female in and around these mountains will not want to miss. We have been working diligently for several months to provide a one-stop opportunity for women and teenage girls to have an afternoon to call your own. Of course, other members of the family are more than welcome to attend, too. From the time the doors open, we want you to feel special as you listen, observe and participate in all that we have planned. We want the inspiring words from our guest speakers to touch your hearts and transform your lives and, we want you to find comfort in the music you hear and to be able to “let go” for a little while from the hustle-bustle of the outside world.
We want you to find that one tidbit of information from a participating business or organization that you need to help you or your family with a situation that you may be facing now or will in the future. We want you to find products and services among our vendors that will make your life easier and hope that you find that pair of earrings or the book that you just can’t live without. We welcome you to attend one or more of our breakout sessions that have all been designed with women in mind. We invite you to share in a special 4 p.m. awards ceremony during which we will recognize four amazing High Country Women of the Year for their contributions to making our world a better place in which to live. Most of all, we just want you to join us for the day and remember, it’s all about you. Eager to celebrate,
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newsbits&clips Did You Know? Men and women are marrying later and have fewer children than in the past. A greater proportion of both women and men have never married, and women are giving birth to their ďŹ rst child at older ages. Although more adult women live in married-couple families than in any other living arrangement, an evergrowing number of women are raising children without a spouse. More women are remaining childless, although eight out of 10 adult women have children. As the baby boom generation ages, a growing share of women — and men — are older. Because women live longer, women continue to outnumber men at older ages. Women are more likely to live in poverty than are adult men. Single-mother families face particularly high poverty rates, often because of the lower wages earned by women in these families. Source: Women in American Report, census.gov
newsbits&clips POP Shoppe Successful The High Country Women's Fund hosted its annual Mother's Day POP Shoppe event on Sat., May 12, which allowed 47 mothers to shop and 62 children to play on the day before Mother’s Day. HCW would like to thank all women who donated clothing items, accessories and/ or money to support the annual event. The organization’s annual Power of the Purse fundraising luncheon is scheduled for 11 a.m. – 2 p.m. on Fri. July 13, at the Blowing Rock Country Club. For more information, call (828) 264-4007 or email info@highcountrywomensfund.org.
Appalachian Women’s Fund Awards $68,000 to 12 Agencies The Appalachian Women’s Fund recently hosted its annual grantee awards luncheon, during which its members heard from representatives of the 12 agencies that received portions of the $68,000 it allotted in 2011. The organizations on the receiving end include those that provide assistance to women and children in the High Country area — food pantries, women’s shelters, and others that provide educational, health and housing opportunities. The AWF’s 5th annual Women of Vision Luncheon and Silent Auction, which raises funds to make these gifts possible each year, will be held at 11 a.m. June 21 at Linville Ridge Country Club. For more information, visit www.appalachianwomensfund.org or call (828) 264-4002.
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newsbits&clips Women Volunteers on the Rise The volunteer rate of women in the United States increased from 29.3 percent to 29.9 percent in 2011, while the volunteer rate for men, at 23.5 percent, changed little. Women continued to volunteer at a higher rate than did men across all age groups, educational levels, and other major demographic characteristics. Source: U.S. Dept. of Labor
All About Women
schedule of events
Expo Schedule 11:30 a.m.
Doors to vendor booths open Auditorium
Noon
Welcome and introductions
12:15 p.m.
Shane Guichard Musical melody of inspiration and motivation
12:30 p.m.
Margaret Moore On The Game of Life
1:30 p.m.
Breakout session I
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Center court 2:00 p.m.
Lost Jewels of the Ghawazee Belly Dancers
2:30 p.m.
Mary Greene Traditional mountain music/dulcimer
2:30 p.m.
Breakout Session II Auditorium
3:30 p.m.
Regina Delisse Hartley Finding Humor When Nothing Seems Funny
4:00 p.m.
High Country Women of the Year Awards
4:20 p.m.
Jessica Presnell Live from Disney
5:00 p.m.
Betsy Bolick Turning Challenges Into Blessings
5:45 p.m.
Door Prizes and closing remarks
Concessions will be available. Breakout sessions topics and locations TBA. Schedule subject to change.
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Breakout Sessions
featuring
Fitness
Health
Healthy Cooking
Interview Tips
Self Defense
Zumba
breakout sessions
Finance
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Art
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High Country Women of the Year 2012
2012 High Country Woman of the Year
Service to the High Country Rachel Deal of Crossnore will be presented the 2012 High Country Woman of the Year award winner in the category of Service to the High Country on Sat. June 23 at the All About Women Expo. On the following day, she will be among the first of Avery County’s “Citizens of the Century” to be inducted into the Martha Guy Hall of Legends at the Williams YMCA in Linville. In May, she received the coveted Order of the Long Leaf Pine Award from the office of North Carolina Governor, Beverly Perdue, joining such notables as Michael Jordan, Maya Angelou and Billy Graham. The following week, she received the Handmade in America’s Small Towns Award, “for her diligent and dedicated volunteer service to the Town of Crossnore,” said Judi Jetson, HIA’s director of economic development. “Rachel is known for her sense of humor, persistence and ability to make visitors fall in love with her town. She is also a fierce advocate for the small town way of life, and a tireless advocate in Raleigh. These qualities make her highly valued, not only in her own town, but throughout all of Western North Carolina.” Rachel was recently described by Avery Journal-Times reporter Matthew Hundley, as, “One of Avery County's most vocal advocates for decades who earned a reputation for dogged determination in the face of obstacles that would have stopped most people in their tracks.” Those who know her best understand that once she sets her mind to doing something, there’s no stopping her. Her fortitude is driven by her compassion for people — especially the young and young at heart — and for
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pets and many other special causes. The youngest of five children born into the Theron Dellinger family, which was instrumental to much of Crossnore’s early success, Rachel graduated from Crossnore High School in 1953 and moved soon afterward to work in Charlotte. A gifted vocalist, she joined the Charlotte Opera Company. While there and met Ken Deal, who she later married. The couple eventually returned to Avery County and worked for many years with Carolina Caribbean Corp. on Beech Mountain. Much of Rachel’s volunteer work has been centered upon Crossnore, the home of her ancestors who helped established its historic significance. Among her many accomplishments, perhaps the most notable was rescuing the 1930’s footbridge across Hwy. 221 when it was scheduled for demolition in 1995. She threatened to chain herself to it, if it wasn’t preserved. It was — and now sits across the creek near the Baptist church. Rachel helped build the Dellinger Memorial Park that honors her parents, and has given many hours of service to the community’s enhancement and beautification projects, including greenways and walking trails. She has been a long-time volunteer at Crossnore School, Inc., a member of the Crossnore D.A.R. and also participates in the annual outdoor drama, Miracle in the Hills, which depicts the town’s history. She is a faithful member of Crossnore Presbyterian Church, where she has served as an elder, choir member and on various committees locally and within the Western N.C. Presbytery. She has also devoted much time and energy to the local hospitals and healthcare facilities and organizations including WAMY Community Action, Blue Ridge Heritage Foundation, and for the county of Avery — the Humane Society, the Museum, Planning Board, Economic Development, Geriatric Council, Council on Aging Transportation Board, Long Term Care Community Advisory Council, Home and Community Care Block, Transportation Board and the Alzheimer’s Support Group. She has delivered meals to shut-ins for many years and has volunteered at longterm care facilities, where every Sunday afternoon, she goes room-to-room singing to the residents and delivers cookies or
holiday favors prepared by her sister. Rachel spends several hours, at least three days a week, at the Avery County Senior Center, visiting with and working with the elderly; on Friday's, she devotes her attention to the center’s subsidiary, Caregiver’s Haven, a respite service for families of Alzheimer’s patients. For nearly 20 years, Rachel has served the seven-county Region D Area Agency on Aging as Senior Tarheel Legislator, which has required regional travel as well as numerous trips to Raleigh; 18 years ago, she helped start the Council on Aging’s Gifts from the Heart program in Avery. She is also a 1999-2000 Duke Senior Leadership Program participant. Previous honors include the 1987 Avery County Volunteer of the Year, 1987 NC Governor’s Award for Volunteer Excellence, 1995 Ernest B. Messer Award, 1995 Region D Senior Citizen of the Year; 1995 Avery County Woman of the Year, 1997 NC Assoc. of Senior Citizens Senior of the Year, (Western Dist.), 1999 WNC Duke Leadership Award, 2000 Margaret B. Hardy Award for Advocacy for the State of NC, 2007 Farm Bureau Association’s Woman of the Year, 2007 High Country Council of Government’s Horizon Award, and 2008 Avery Chamber of the Commerce Woman of the Year. Rachel was diagnosed many years ago with a degenerative heart disease. She has one kidney and sight in only one eye, but says that staying busy helps her stay alive. At 82, she counts among her “greatest joys in life” as being able to help make the High Country a better place in which to live. Rachel is “very humbled and honored” by all the attention that she’s receiving, she says. “It means so much to me to be getting my roses while I'm alive.”
sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
High Country Women of the Year 2012
2012 High Country Woman of the Year
Preserving Mountain Heritage Leniavell Trivette of Zionville is an accomplished artisan whose mountain crafts have received national attention — from Boone to Washington, D.C. and beyond. Known throughout North Carolina as a unique crafter, Leniavell keeps alive a flame that has burned brightly in her family for several generations – and one that she hopes to pass on to the next. Born and raised on a modest family farm during “hard times,” she says, on “the Old Beech,” she is proud of her heritage and the fact that her talents and skills were acquired through the work of her late mother, Elsie Harmon Trivette, a 1994 NC Folk Heritage Award recipient. Leniavell has “many happy memories,” she says, of growing up as the second oldest of six children. She and her two sisters helped with all the chores, but especially enjoyed many hours helping their mother make rugs. “We used burlap for the back of the rugs and sometimes we used the rough burlap fibers for the yarn,” she says. “We unraveled discarded feed sacks to get the yarn. Mom gave us kids five cents to unravel the long strands of burlap. We sold the finished rugs for 50 cents each over in Blowing Rock.” Learning by example at her mother’s side was among life’s greatest lessons, she says, and it paved a way for her to help keep a vanishing mountain tradition alive. Following the death of her father and after her siblings took flight from the family home, Leniavell stayed close by her mother. The two of them moved from their mountain home to the Zionville community, where they began to concentrate on their handwork. Friends and family encouraged
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them to take their work to craft shows, which they did, and established a name for themselves among fellow crafters. Since the deaths of both her mother and sister June, Leniavell strives to do all she can to preserve a lost and dying art. As she became an expert crafter, Leniavell became sought after as a demonstrator with her weaving, quilting, hand-tied lace and a colonial knotting technique used to decorate bedspreads and pillows. Her “storybook” dolls, sock monkeys and sunbonnets attracted a growing fan base, as did her carding sheep’s wool, spinning and hooking rugs, “on an old fashioned spinning wheel.” She continues to share her skills at various venues including workshops, retreats, schools, fairs, festivals and trade shows. From county fairs to the world's fair, from local museums to the Smithsonian, Leniavell’s work continues to be admired by many. Since 1982, Leniavell has exhibited at the NC State Fair’s Village of Yesteryear, where she was voted Craftswoman of the Year in 2000. She became an affiliate member of the Southern Highland Craft Guild in 2004, the honorary inclusion reflecting the highest level of achievement and perpetuation of folk art in the region. She also loves working at the Traditional Crafts tent at Merlefest, which she has done for many years. In 2008, one of her quilts was chosen to hang in the North Carolina Museum of History in Raleigh. She used Carolina blue and white fabric and decorated it with threaded knots and fringe in a pattern. Dr. Sally Council with the NC Arts Council said, “The overall result is essentially the purity of presentation that is at the root of her (Leniavell’s) Appalachian aesthetic, a historic aesthetic that comes from within.” Two of Leniavell’s quilts have claimed a place of distinction in the Cratis D. Williams Graduate School and Belk Library at Appalachian State University. She also has an annual presence at the Diversity Celebration on the campus of Appalachian State University. Leniavell has been recognized at the Smithsonian Festival of American Folklife and its offshoot, the North Carolina Folk Festival. She, her mother, and late sister, June, were featured at the Smithsonian event in 1994 as the only North Carolina
crafters invited to participate. That particular event drew in approximately 1.5 million people, which was “a big crowd” for the Watauga County natives, Leniavell says. To date, she has a collection of more than 35 ribbons earned from various competitions. For many years, Leniavell worked very closely with her mother and mastered the various handicrafts that had been passed down through at least three generations. Dyeing fibers with natural materials like walnuts, barks and berries, to tomato vines and rusty nails, are just a few of the “old-timey” inherited techniques. Leniavell worked for a local craft co-op for 18 years, during which time she helped promote and sell the crafts of other local and regional artists. In the late 1980’s, Leniavell and her mother “rubbed elbows” with a couple of celebrities who were in the area filming, “The Winter People.” When Kurt Russell inquired among the local people of someone who could teach Goldie Hawn to use a spinning wheel he had purchased for her; he was directed to Leniavell’s mother. Today, she treasures the framed photograph she has of her mother and the actress together. Leniavell is an unassuming individual who takes great pride in her work, but never boasts about the intricately designed pieces she completes with the greatest of detail. She gives full credit to her “upbringing,” and especially, to her mother. “Mom never realized the value of what she did,” she says. “She gave a lot of her work away to anyone who came by and said they liked it.” Something tells us the threads of Leniavell’s time-honored treasures won’t be unraveling anytime soon. See her at work during the upcoming Expo on Sat., June 23, and join her as she is recognized for preserving her mountain heritage during the awards presentation at 4 p.m.
sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
High Country Women of the Year 2012
2012 High Country Woman of the Year
Professional Leadership Julie Landry of West Jefferson will be presented the 2012 High Country Woman of the Year award in the category of Professional Leadership on Sat. June 23 at the All About Women Expo. Julie began work in Ashe County in 1975 on a special grant from the NC Arts Council. As Cultural Arts Coordinator, she was part of the NC Cooperative Extension’s 4-H program staff and later became an agent of the organization. During that time, she helped establish the Ashe County Arts Council, which has become one of the most successful in the state. Bringing the NC Symphony to Ashe County in 1979 for the first of many performances was a “natural step,” she says, of which she was proud to be involved. During the 1980s, Julie co-authored the NC Cooperative Extension 4-H publications “Dramatic Arts I, II, III.” She also assisted in the creation of a children’s theatre, which eventually laid the groundwork for the NC 4-H Performing Arts Troupe, which played throughout the state for more than 10 years. In 1993, a program to help children prepare for school, aptly named Smart Start, was established in NC; the following year, Julie wrote the grants to start Ashe County Partnership for Children, the organization to implement Smart Start programs in the county. This program still operates today and has influenced hundreds of children’s lives as they prepare to attend school. In 1997, Julie was among a group of people at a Jefferson restaurant with a vision for a local performing arts center. Julie took notes and drew the plan on a napkin. “After much blood, sweat, tears, and work on a major capital campaign to raise the funds,
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the Ashe Civic Center became a reality in 1999,” she says. Today, operated by the local Arts Council and Little Theatre, it is a center for the performing arts in Ashe County.
The longer that Julie worked in children’s programs, she says, it became evident to her that she needed to start something that would always be there for the children of the county.
The Ashe County Children’s Trust Endowment was established in 1999. Since that time, funds have been raised to award grants for children’s programs from — $200 in the beginning to $7,500 in 2012. Without Julie’s interventions, the full time afterschool program for all children in grades K-8, conducted in partnership with Ashe County Schools, and a full-time summer day camp for children in grades K-6, would most likely not exist today. She also helped to establish a full-time school-based health center for Ashe County’s only middle school, in 2000, which has guaranteed available quality health care for all children when they reach the seventh grade in Ashe. In addition to working with youth programs and the arts, Julie had the opportunity to work with the farming community while with Cooperative Extension. She worked closely with West Jefferson and Region D Council of Governments to apply for and receive funds in the amount of $100,000 from the Tobacco Trust Fund that enlarged and enclosed a portion of the Farmers Market in downtown West Jefferson. As a result, in 2007 the market grew from 20 to 36 slots for “Home Grown and Hand Made in Ashe County.” During her career and since, Julie has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars through grants for both extension and community projects. She has conducted numerous leadership, resource development/fundraising and organizational development workshops and seminars at the local, district and state levels. Julie feels strongly that it is the support and help of the people who have surrounded and supported her through the years that have made the difference and have helped her to succeed in the challenges she has tackled. In 2006, Julie retired from the Ashe County office of NC Cooperative Extension, after 30 years of service. During her career, Julie worked as the 4-H agent before becoming the county extension director. She is a graduate of both Appalachian State University and NC State, earning her bachelor of science in elementary education from Appalachian State University and her masters degree in adult education from NC State. Julie enjoys traveling and spending
time with Lanny, her husband of 43 years, along with her daughter, her son, and her four grandchildren. She currently volunteers in the community as a board member for the Ashe County Partnership for Children, Ashe County Children’s Trust Endowment, Ashe Really Cares and the Ashe County School-Based Health Center. The following are just a few of the numerous awards and commendations she has received for her valuable contributions in her leadership roles: • Commendation from Ashe County Commissioners for dedicated service to the youth of Ashe County – through her 4-H Leadership. • Commendation from Ashe County Partnership for Children for her dedicated service and inspirational leadership, which gave life to mission • Certification of Appreciation Award from Gov. James B. Hunt in Grateful Dedication and Devotion to Volunteer Services in NC as Facilitator for the Governor’s Summit on American Promise and Volunteerism – 1998 • Nominated for the 1997 Presidents’ Service Award by Bill Clinton • Awarded the Extension Agent Award of Excellence by R.J. Reynolds Industries, Inc. and NC Agricultural Extension Service • Recognition by the NC Association of 4-H Agents for Major Contributions to the North Carolina 4-H Agents Association Enrichment Fund – 1993 • Service Award from National Association of Extension 4-H Agents as 1993 Conference Coordinator • 4-H Distinguished Service Award by the National Association of Extension 4-H Agents in Recognition of Outstanding Contributions to 4-H – 1985 • Recognition by NC Cooperative Extension Service for Superior Leadership – 1983 Join us during the 2012 High Country Women of the Year Awards presentation at 4 p.m. on Sat., June 23, to congratulate Julie Landry on her latest accomplishment. sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
High Country Women of the Year 2012
2012 High Country Woman of the Year
Advocacy on Women’s Issues Suzette Patterson of Boone will receive the 2012 High Country Woman of the Year award for Advocacy on Women’s Issues on Sat., June 23 at the All About Women Expo. Suzette has long been a guiding light among women in the area — having, for many years, worked in agencies, volunteered and served on numerous committees and in organizations designed to inform and empower women. Since 2003, Suzette has served as the assistant director for Gender Education at ASU, which includes overseeing the operation of the Women’s Center. As such, she has advocated for policy changes to create inclusive environments for underrepresented populations and provides academic support counseling for multicultural students on academic probation; she teaches classes on social justice and leadership, designs and implements campus-wide programming about sexual assault and violence on campus. She also coordinates the Women’s Leadership/Diversity Conference, Walk for Awareness, and the Vagina Monologues Planning Committee, provides advocacy and support for survivors of sexual assault, dating violence and stalking on campus. Prior to joining the ASU faculty, Suzette spent four years as assistant director of OASIS, Inc., which has served victims of domestic abuse and sexual assault in the area since 1978. Suzette’s involvement in the agency afforded her the opportunity to work closely with women and men of all ages, along with their family members, while helping them navigate through some of the most critical times of their lives. She was there for clients as they
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escaped their volatile situations in search of safe havens; she helped them explore options for a violencefree life and led them to resources for education, skill development and independence. Suzette also worked as program director for the Volunteer Outreach Center, matching volunteers with appropriate agencies and coordinated
National Youth Service Day event for 400 Watauga County school students and more. She was also the grant administrator for the ASU Women’s Center and earlier, through her internship and graduate assistant work, she gained a lot of experience through the Women’s Center, as well as New River Behavioral Healthcare.
She has also had extensive exposure through parenting and childcare programs and has served on numerous planning teams and task forces on diversity and women’s leadership. Suzette served on the Watauga County Council on the Status of Women for several years as member and chair, and has been an advisor and presenter at various conferences including the NC Coalition Against Sexual Assault, Southeast Women’s Studies Association Annual Conference and Women’s Leadership Conference. She has served as the chair of the Watauga County Sexual Assault Response Team and the Women’s Center Training Committee at ASU. Suzette has had the opportunity to teach college-level classes on topics including Women and Leadership, Life and Career Planning, Preparing Diversity Educators; she has also taught preschool and spent a year teaching middle-school social ethics and economics in Kenya.
Suzette received her bachelor of arts degree in interdisciplinary studies in 1997, followed by her masters degree in community counseling, in 1999, both from Appalachian State University. When asked what inspired her to pursue her chosen field, she said, “I am not sure how I got here, exactly. I followed my heart and the opportunities that I have been given. I have a great passion for women, women's issues, and communities of women and I have been lucky enough to find ways to continue those passions through my work.” She takes it all on a “day-to-day basis,” she says, with a sincere hope that her efforts make a positive impact in the lives of those she serves. “I work to change policies to make our community more inclusive, welcoming, and safe for everyone. Sometimes, she says, that means listening, other times it is helping people see the choices they have. “Sometimes, it is just holding their hands
when they need it.” Suzette says she love to watch young women change and grow throughout their college careers. The words of one of her graduate school mentors, she says, is something she tries to pass on to others, — “A good leader is always pulling the next one up behind her.” Suzette is married to Andrew Miller, who works at Challenge Towers, in Todd. The couple has two daughters, Lucy and Violet. When asked about the women who inspired her, she says, “One of the greatest women in my life is my late grandmother, Ruth Davis Greene, who was born in Todd,” she says. “I am very proud of my mountain heritage.”
sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
margaret moore
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Beyond the Sidelines
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Margaret Moore On the Game of Life We all know her as “Coach Moore’s wife,” and it's a role in which she serves with dignity and pride. But, Margaret Moore has captured her own winning titles in the game of life and is known for her victories as an extraordinary wife, mother of three, grandmother of six, schoolteacher and volunteer — just to name a few. Margaret was born and raised in Mineola, Texas. She met Jerry Moore while they were students at Baylor University and married him during their senior year. “I’ve been a coach’s wife for 49 of our 52 years of marriage,” she says — from his first high school assignment in Corsicana, Texas, to Southern Methodist University in Dallas, then the University of Nebraska in Lincoln, North Texas State in Denton, Texas Tech in Lubbock, and the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville before heading east in 1989 to Appalachian State University. As they enter their 23rd year in Boone, the coach is still winning; Margaret is enjoying retirement from a 28-year teaching career, the last 15 of which were spent at Blowing Rock Elementary School. But, that doesn’t mean she’s sitting on the sidelines watching the world pass her by.
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She stays busy with her volunteer work, mainly through Hope Pregnancy Resource Center and Watauga Medical Center, as well as distributing food to the less fortunate and helping with various other community projects when called upon to do so. As an active member of Mount Vernon Baptist Church with her husband, Margaret has served on various committees, has taught Sunday school, she routinely hosts a ladies’ Bible study in her home and participates in numerous other church activities and programs. And, of course, Margaret opens her heart and home to the ASU Mountaineers — not only to the football players, but also to their families, to the the coaching staff and their families, and others involved in the program. Beyond the football field, Margaret has long been known for her outreach as a mentor to countless ASU students — a mother to others, in many situations, who find themselves a long way from home and in need of a maternal source of comfort. She is also a member and past president of the American Football Coaches Wives Association Margaret will speak to our Expo audience on the
Margaret will speak about the challenges and joys of being a coach's wife. She will offer advice on how to turn the negative into positive when adversity arises and she will offer a few helpful tips on making the most of our roles as wives and mothers. challenges and joys of being a coach's wife. She will offer advice on how to turn the negative into positive when adversity arises and she will offer a few helpful tips on making the most of our roles as wives and moms. If time permits, she will welcome a few questions at the end. Don’t miss the opportunity to see and hear from the “First Lady of ASU Football” during the All About Women Expo. sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
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regina hartley
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Finding Humor When Nothing Seems Funny With Regina Delisse Hartley, PH.D Since 2006, Regina DeLisse Hartley has served as the depart-
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ment chair of business and technology at Caldwell Community College in Hudson, but her title of “Dr. Hartley” did not come quickly, nor did it come without years of hard work, pain and sacrifice. During the upcoming All About Women Expo, Regina will be sharing some of the “lighter moments” of her life story and how she managed to turn disappointments and shattered dreams into happiness and success. Today, much of her journey seems like a distant memory. But, she will never forget graduating at the top of her senior class, though dropping out of college at the age of 20 to get married. Five years lat-
er, she stood at the kitchen sink of her trailer, looking at her couch potato husband and thinking, desperately, “Is this all there is to life?” “We were dirt-poor and I was working extra to support us,” she says. “We had two beautiful sons during our fiveyear marriage, but I knew they deserved more, too.” From the moment she decided to make life count for more than broken promises and shallow dreams, Regina persevered through the school of hard knocks while she raised her two young sons as a single mother. She learned quickly that job opportunities were limited without a college education, so she returned to school. She received no financial support for her children and worked four part-time jobs to help make ends meet. Asking for public assistance to feed her boys was a humiliating experience; she was denied because her car was “worth too much,” she was told. She accepted occasional dates if they included a meal. Her toddler son ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches three times a day; her infant survived on formula and occasional baby food. Regina’s health suffered; she lost weight, slept little and lacked energy. She wouldn’t give up. Earning her associate's degree spurred her on. “College boosted my self-esteem and gave me hope,” she says. She eventually obtained five degrees with honors — through depression, failed marriages and divorces — before she found success.
“So often, women, in particular, are pulled in so many directions, and we often feel limited in what we can do,” she says. “Sometimes, there are no champions out there to support and motivate us, or to help us believe in ourselves. Sometimes we have to be our own champions and overlook those who discourage us or try to hold us back.” “The key,” she says, “is to never give up — always press forward. If I can do it, anyone can.” She was determined to have a better life for her sons and for herself. She also remarried. “I let God pick this one and he did a much better job than I had done,” she says. Regina realizes the importance of nurturing mind, body and soul, and encourages women to maintain a healthy lifestyle. She “works out” daily, competes in marathons, lends herself to community service and lives out her faith in God. She is an inspiration to all who know her and has received numerous accolades for her professional and personal contributions to society. Plan to meet this incredible woman at the All About Women Expo and hear how she has used humor to help her thrive and survive during life’s most difficult moments. sherrie norris Editor, All About Women
betsy bolick
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Turning Challenges Into Blessings
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With Betsy Bolick
Betsy Bolick of Boone was born with sacral agenesis, a rare disorder of the spine that affects one out of 100,000 people. Her parents were given little hope for her survival. Even if she did live, they were told, she would never be able to walk. Today, Betsy walks — and travels across the country and beyond its borders, telling her story through her “Small Enough Ministry.” She is excited, she says, to be making a hometown appearance at the All About Women Expo. “This ministry allows me to travel and speak to those who are disabled — both in heart and body,” says one who has turned her physical challenges into a life-changing blessing for others. “Last year I was able to go to Africa and share my story with children who had been born with spina bifida,” she says. “It was such a humbling experience for me. It helped me realize that I’m blessed in many ways and especially, with a wonderful gift of having been
born in a nation with great doctors and hospitals.” The trip also taught her that she must “keep fighting,” she says, and “to give a voice to those who are different and hope to those that are hopeless.” Betsy’s hope for her ministry is “to share the purpose of life, from conception until death,” she says, “through whatever circumstances we are born with, found in, or endure. There is always joy through the pain and purpose in the suffering.” Being able to see clearly through the pain to realize the blessings did not come easily for this young woman, who also works as office manager at the local Hope Pregnancy Resource Center in Boone. “I am so thankful for my disability because the Lord has used it in mighty ways,” she says. “There are still days that I struggle with my disability and struggle with what life would be like if I was ‘normal.’ Yet, I am reminded, when I travel, by the people I meet, that there can be no real definition of ‘normal.’ I
am defined by something greater than myself and I chose to live for someone greater than myself. Therefore, this is temporary.” Betsy says, “I had no clue, as a child, crying because I was different, that the Lord would have me crying tears of joy later — for the same reason.” Plan to hear Betsy’s story and how she allowed her faith to help her win victory over the disappointments of her early life and shape her into the woman she is today. She will be on the Expo’s main stage at 5 p.m. to share how she was able to find release from the pain of humiliation associated with her disability — turning from the stares and hurtful comments from her childhood and teenage years, to find peace.
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Dynamic Duo of Healthy Living To Offer Cooking Demos at the Expo Plan to meet Caroline Stahlschmidt, left, and Catherine Scantlin at the All About Women Expo and take away a few tips on transitioning to a healthier and happier lifestyle. Photo submitted.
Caroline Stahlschmidt and Catherine Scantlin are quickly becoming the High Country’s “dynamic duo of healthy living.” Together, they are helping to empower others to take control of their health and make lasting healthy lifestyle changes. The two met through the Neighborhood Yoga teacher/ training program and developed a deep friendship built on many shared interests including yoga, cycling, running and healthy cooking. In January 2011, they began brainstorming about ways to share their passion for healthy cooking. In March, they offered a plant-based cooking class at Chetola Resort & Spa, which was a “sell-out” with great response. Catherine had just started working at Chetola as the health and wellness director and offering healthy cooking classes for guests and locals. It was a perfect fit for Chetola’s mission of expanding their wellness offerings. The twosome built on their success and offered five more classes in 2011 with topics including “Glorious Greens,” “Tasty Tofu & Tempeh,” and “Whole Foods Holiday.” In 2012, they began to offer monthly classes that have attracted satisfied participants from Charlotte, Hickory, and New York. Additionally, Catherine helped Chetola develop an impressive selection of wellness programs ranging from two sold-out dinners with more than 85 attendees, an expanded
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fitness and yoga schedule, a kid’s after-school and summer fitness/healthy eating initiative, an employee wellness plan and the new “Hike for Health” summer project. Catherine also facilitates Boone’s Biggest Winner, a 12week health and weight loss challenge sponsored by Appalachian Regional Healthcare System. She exposes participants to numerous aspects of successful weight loss, such as plant-based nutrition, cooking classes, varied types of exercise, yoga, stress management, awareness of emotional eating, and understanding more about food sources. Success has been consistent with participants reporting losses from 12 pounds to more than 20. In July 2011, Caroline started her own company — Elevate Your Wellness — offering private and group-health coaching. Having previously worked in the corporate world for more than 15 years, her focus shifted with her husband’s diagnosis of stage II colon cancer in the summer of 2009, at age 38. Hearing the words, “Your husband has cancer” was the wake-up call of a lifetime, she says. “It started me on a journey to find the best options to help him recover and to keep cancer away for good.” She became committed to healthier lifestyle choices, which including a plant-based diet, stress reduction and exercise. Additionally, she became dedicated to helping others make lifestyle changes to increase energy, improve quality
of life, and avoid the trifecta of common western diseases: cancer, diabetes, and heart disease. Caroline offers health-coaching programs to help clients make gradual healthy lifestyle changes. Although weight loss is often a result, it is not the main focus for her clients, she says, emphasizing that whole body wellness includes eating whole foods, cooking more at home, mindful eating, stress reduction, meditation and exercise. Caroline also teaches two weekly yoga classes at Neighborhood Yoga in Boone and to Appalachian State University students during summer and fall semesters. She also has a contract with ARHS to offer monthly cooking classes to hospital employees at both the Boone and Linville campuses. Caroline has recently teamed up with David Salter and Christina Howe to open and help manage the Boone Healing Arts Center. “The new center will bring together a variety of holistic healers under one roof,” she says, “which will include health coaching, acupuncture, massage, and much more. It will also have a large workshop room that will host guest lectures, weekly classes and group programs.” Caroline always envisioned such a center that could bring together a variety of complementary healing modalities and act as a community hub for wellness in the High Country.
“I thought this dream was many years out,” she says, “until I met David and Christina who share the same vision and the desire to make it happen now.” Boone Healing Arts Center is located at 838 State Farm Road in a newly remodeled building with modern décor and a welcoming feel. The center is set to open in July. Caroline and Catherine often joke that people in town think they are the same person. They both respond to either name. They have the same initials, same hair color, same dedication to hard work, and even the same personality type, according to the Myers-Briggs assessment. They continue to inspire each other — and nearly everyone they meet — to live a healthier and happier life. We are excited to welcome them to the All About Women Expo on June 23, where they will be offering short cooking demos. Their next cooking class, “Farm to Table,” will be held from 4-6 p.m. at Chetola, on July 22. For details about the classes and related wellness programs at Chetola, visit www.chetola.com. To read more about Caroline’s health coaching, weekly classes and upcoming workshops go to: www.elevateyourwellness.com.
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The Lost Jewels of the Ghawazee (ga-was-ee), an ethnic fusion belly dance troupe based in Granite Falls, will be sharing the rich multicultural history of “the oldest dance in the world” with attendees of the All About Women Expo in Boone on Sat., June 23. Comprised of multitalented women who live and work in the foothills and High Country areas, the troupe blends folkloric and modern dance into its own unique style. Flavored with movements found in dances from India, Spain, Morocco, Egypt, Latin America the Middle East, the troupe constantly explores new and different dance styles to incorporate into their repertoire. The Jewels share those cultures — and their pure love of dance — by performing regularly at area festivals, arts events, nonprofit fundraising events and public school functions. Founded by lead dancer and mentor Becky “Neela” Shook, the troupe was formed in 2003. Neela’s love for dance the past 15 years led to her create her Art in Motion dance studio in Granite Falls, where she also teaches yoga. Just as belly dance is an evolving expression of the people who dance it, their new “Re-Belly-ous” style describes the troupe’s latest direction. It’s a venue for them to play, express, create and entertain. Pin-ups and iconic Hollywood glamour form the costuming basis of the “ReBelly-ous” look. Who can deny the allure of Hedy Lamarr, Mae West, Carole Lombard or Bette Davis? These strong women shaped the troupe’s idea of beauty, femininity and the strength of the femme fatale. And don’t be surprised if your toes tap to the beat of their rockabilly music. Belly dance captivates the hearts of the “sisters,” embracing all they love: music, dance, art and creativity. Yet, so much awaits their exploration. Only time, study and practice grant them the privilege of carrying on the belly dance tradition. For more information, visit www. lostjewelsbellydance.com or www.rebellyous.com and plan to see them doing what they do best at the expo.
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Expo Welcomes Capt. Dee Dee Rominger Dee Dee Rominger, investigations captain with the Watauga County Sheriff's Office, will teach a self-defense class at the All About Women Expo. Rominger is a certified RAD (Rape, Aggression, Defense) Instructor, which is a self-defense course designed especially for women. Rominger has been with the sheriff's office since December 2002. She has held the position of captain since Dec. 2006. She graduated from the FBI National Academy in April 2010, and has received many hours of training in the field of criminal investigation. She is certified in numerous areas of investigations, including criminal, advance death, advanced network, forensic and cold case homicide. A native of Avery County, Rominger said that her career choice “was definitely influenced” by her family and their
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involvement in law enforcement and the criminal justice system. “From the time I was a little girl I always wanted to be a police officer,” she said. “My goal has always been to help people — and being in law enforcement has really given me that chance. I love what I do. I am excited about being a part of this upcoming event for women.” Rominger graduated from Avery High School in 1980 and from Lees McRae College in 1982 and Caldwell Community College in 1984. “I have been married to the same wonderful man for 28 years,” she said. “His name is Gary and he works for Watauga County Tax Appraisers Office. We have a son, Garth who is 26.” We welcome Capt. Rominger to the Expo and invite you to meet her there.
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Support for Avery YO! Just One Click Away For Jennifer Woodruff, serving as the director of Avery Youth Opportunities, is as much a personal honor as it is professional. “It seems that my life has come full circle,” she says. “My family has benefited from some of WAMY's programs through the years and now, I am able to help give back by helping provide some of that same kind of assistance to others.” The afterschool program she leads, more commonly known as Avery YO!, is one of the many programs sponsored by WAMY Community Action, Inc., — designed to positively impact the lives of elementary and middle school students and to encourage their potential for success through a variety of activities and experiences. With concerns that Avery YO! is facing a 40-percent cut in funding next year, “due to reductions in federal and foundations grants,” she says, Jennifer is making it her 32
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personal mission to protect the future of the program. She is hoping for community support in a unique effort that will help sustain it for the foreseeable future. Jennifer is asking our readers to join her in supporting a current opportunity the program has been given to win a $50,000 community grant through Cultivate Wines. “We are currently competing with 29 other nonprofit organizations for $50,000 through “The Give,” she says, “which, if we win, will provide scholarships for 30 students to attend Avery YO! At a cost of $11 a day for five days a week, that’s 30 weeks of participation and $500 to be used for supplies.” Through “The Give,” Cultivate Wines donates the first ten cents of every dollar made through its products to non-profits supporting education and basic human needs. “The revolutionary twist,” the company
describes, “is that we do not direct the funds — instead, nonprofits submit their cause and we allow customers to vote on our website, with a goal to allow customers to express their values through their purchases, which means they need a voice in determining where the money goes.” Cultivate gives away $100,000 per quarter to nonprofits, via the democratic voting system. The winner receives $50,000 and the five runners-up will each receive $10,000.
To help Jennifer and the students in her program, through the end of June, visit Cultivate's website: www.cultivatewines.com/give Scroll to "Avery YO!: Youth Development in Rural NC" and follow the prompts. To participate, you must be enrolled in Facebook.
JenniferWoodruff You will know your vote has gone through when the "vote for this" button you clicked has turned gray. To see the vote count go up after you vote, refresh the page. Avery YO! offers additional educational opportunities to at-risk youth after regular school hours, during the 3 -6 p.m. timespan, Jennifer says, “when it is more likely for adolescents to engage in risktaking behaviors if left in an unsafe or unsupervised environment.” Not only are the students in a safe place with caring leaders, they are in a program, she says, that focuses on cultivating healthy lifestyles through arts and culture exposure, physical fitness planning, energy conservation awareness and community involvement. “Students not only receive homework assistance, tutoring, and academic remediation,” she says, “they are also benefiting from the additional mentoring services provided by our partnership with the Appalachian State University education department, along with plenty of handson activities through the 4-H curriculum, guest speakers, and more.” Jennifer can barely contain her own excitement as she describes how the students are getting energized and active, and learning to master ultimate challenges, “especially through the new and exciting ‘Survivor: The Ultimate After School Adventure’ and learning and exploring by designing, creating and experiencing the world of technology through the use of computers and cameras,” she says. “We are working together and continually growing smarter, healthier and making a positive difference in our community.” Jennifer takes seriously her responsibility to direct the program, its staff and to coordinate collaborative efforts with several partnering agencies. “We are all committed to teaching, nurturing and encouraging the whole student to grow in a safe, caring setting — and all within the strict guidelines of the NC Child Development Division,” she says. Receiving her diploma from Avery High in 2005, Jennifer went on to graduate Magna Cum Laude with a double major in sociology and psychology from Lees-McRae College.
With an interest in nonprofit management, she was “fortunate,” she says, to complete two internships with WAMY during her senior year of college. To be a part of “creating opportunities for individuals in our communities,” she says, is one thing. “But, to help them become more self-sufficient, which in turn, strengthens the communities, in general, makes it all worthwhile.” It’s much the same with the success of Avery YO!, which was created with the student in mind and the tools to help them realize their success as productive individuals in their communities. Avery YO! is available to all Avery County K-8th grade students at all of the county’s elementary schools and at the middle school. Fees are based on a sliding scale, depending on family size, income and academic eligibility with limited academic scholarships available each school year. The program operates from the time of dismissal until 6 p.m. and follows the
annual school calendar; extended care on early dismissal days is also provided. For more information about the AveryYO! Afterschool Program, call Jennifer at (828) 737-0057 or visit: www. wamycommunityaction.org. In addition to the continuous support of WAMY Community Action, Inc., Avery YO! is also made possible by Avery County 4-H, NC Cooperative Extension, The County of Avery, Avery County School System and High Country United Way.
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DarcyGrimes Darcy Grimes, left, with Tyronna Hooker, 2011-12 NC Teacher of the year. Photo submitted
Bethel’s Darcy Grimes
NC Teacher of the Year Darcy Grimes, a third grade teacher at Bethel Elementary School, was named North Carolina Teacher of the Year in May, from among the 97,000 teachers in North Carolina public schools. "We are so proud of Darcy, the work she does every day, and the caring energy she brings to every class,” said Superintendent Dr. Richard Jones, following the presentation. “Whether great teachers are born with special abilities, I do not know; however, Darcy clearly has the ‘gift’ for working with kids with great effectiveness. For Darcy to be number one out of nearly 100,000 teachers in North Carolina is a great tribute to her individually, to Bethel School, and to all our teachers. This is a great moment for the Watauga County Schools, as Darcy represents the excellent teaching occurring in every school.” Jones also commented on the significance of the fact that Grimes teaches at Bethel. “The fact that the Teacher of the Year is from Bethel, probably one of the
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smallest schools in the state by enrollment, makes the award even more meaningful. I am so pleased to share this moment during my time as interim superintendent.” Bethel is currently the smallest school in the WCS system, with an enrollment of 187 students in pre-kindergarten through eighth grade. It is rated a NC School of Distinction based on the state’s system for evaluating students’ academic growth and proficiency. Grimes is believed to be the first teacher from the Watauga County Schools to win the statewide honor since the state began participating in the Teacher of the Year Program in 1970. She was named the Watauga County Schools Teacher of the Year last May and was chosen as the Northwest Region Teacher of the Year in December. Each step in the selection process – local, regional, and state — involves careful review of the qualifications, classroom performance and communications skills of each candidate. The selection process for the Watauga
County Schools Teacher of the Year consists of five unannounced classroom observations, a review of a written statement of teaching philosophy from each candidate, and an interview. The local selection committee includes representation from teachers, principals, the Board of Education, and the Watauga County Schools central office. At the regional level of competition, candidates submit teaching portfolios for assessment, go through another interview, and receive on-site school visits and more classroom observations. The final selection of the NC Teacher of the Year is made after additional screening by a committee that includes professional educators and business and community leaders. The guidelines for choosing the North Carolina chooses a Teacher of the Year require a person who is "dedicated and highly skilled, proven capable of inspiring students of all backgrounds and abilities to learn." Because the Teacher of the Year will travel around the state to speak on behalf of education, this person must also
“be poised, articulate, and energetic.” Well before her selection as Teacher of the Year, Grimes was recognized as an exceptional educator. One of her colleagues at Bethel said that “even on a bad day, Darcy is still the best teacher around.” Bethel Principal Randy Bentley described Grimes as “a person born to teach. She has a passion for teaching that transforms into student excitement about learning. If you are feeling down and watch her at work in the classroom, it makes the whole world better.” Bentley also praised Grimes for her skilled use of technology to enhance classroom instruction and for how her students enjoy learning with her. “Other people talk about 21st century instruction. She already does it,” said Bentley. Grimes is an Appalachian State University graduate who first joined the Watauga County Schools as after school site director at Blowing Rock School while still a student at ASU. She taught at Moravian Falls Elementary in Wilkes County for three years before coming to Bethel in August of 2009. Grimes is certified as an Intel Master Teacher and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in instructional technology at ASU. As North Carolina Teacher of the Year, Grimes will receive $7,500 from the NC Department of Public Instruction, use of a state vehicle for one year, a technology package from SMART Technologies, and a two- year appointment to the State Board of Education. She was previously awarded $2,500 from the Watauga Board of Education and $5,000 from the Department of Public Instruction for her selection as a Regional Teacher of the Year. She is now a candidate for National Teacher of the year, an honor won by three of the state’s Teachers of the Year over the last 41 years. “The only downside of her selection is that Darcy will be out of her classroom next year traveling the state, but she will continue to serve students in that role,” Jones said. “At a time when so many prominent officials seem to be critical of public education, Darcy will be an excellent model of the quality individuals in our classrooms. She is a great representative of the wonderful things that happen in public schools and of how we owe it to our students and our teachers to give them all the support they need to be successful.” JUNE 2012 | AAWMAG.COM
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Talara Parrish and her mother, Brenda Witherspoon, beside a bed made of reclaimed barn wood displaying a flower garden quilt they made in honor of Talara's grandmother."
Everything Has a Not so long ago, Talara Witherspoon Parrish was faced with a decision — to stay in Jacksonville, Fla., or to return to Ashe County, the place she called home. Newly divorced and unemployed, after serving as a business manager for a construction company for more than 20 years, the move seemed ideal, she thought. However, with only $600 in her possession and children and grandchildren living in Jacksonville, the decision was not easy. “I knew that if I returned to Ashe County, with the downturn in the construction business, I would have to basically create my own job,” she says. Talara often thought about the times she had brought friends to visit the mountains. They invariably asked where they
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could find authentic items made from local artists — those things exclusive to the area. “What few things available could just have easily been found in Blowing Rock or Maggie Valley or even at the beaches,” she says. “I spent time on the phone talking to my dad, who had retired back in Ashe, about opening up a unique shop. He had also been thinking along the same line, but I really couldn’t make up my mind what I should do.” After a particularly difficult day of trying to decide whether or not to leave Florida, Talara had dinner with a friend at a Chinese restaurant. Her fortune cookie read — “Real courage is moving forward while not knowing the outcome.” Right then, Talara, says, she knew her answer and prepared to return to Ashe
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County. On Labor Day weekend, 2011, Talara and her parents, Phil and Brenda Witherspoon, opened their store called, “Everything Has a Story.” Located beside Shatley Springs Restaurant in Crumpler, the unique shop is dedicated to preserving heirlooms, traditions and the heritage of the Blue Ridge Mountains. The family now partners with more than 40 local vendors and artisans who create items that have a close association to Ashe County and the surrounding mountains. All of the crafts sold in the store are made from native materials found in the area. Reclaimed wood furniture, handmade
knives, quilted bedspreads and quilts, carved wooden birds and handmade dolls from a pattern of the 1920s are just a few of the available and distinctive items. Included with each item is a short biography of the artist responsible for the treasure, how it relates to the area, the artist’s passion for his or her craft and other interesting information about its legacy. The store has created a relaxed social atmosphere with a conversation area offering comfortable seating for a quick chat or extended discussion. “We wanted to create a place that takes our customers back to the days of the old country store,” Talara says. “We wanted a place to celebrate family.” On occasion, the vendors can be found creating their latest piece onsite, including Talara and Brenda who often put their quilting frame to good use. Talara’s father, Phil, too, might be found whittling the day away. “I learned how to whittle at Huffman’s store when I was a small boy,” he says. “We love to have kids come in and ask questions about what we’re doing. We like to
see them take an interest in making something with their hands and see some of the things that their great-grandparents might have done.” Talara and her parents encourage visitors to observe, ask questions, and to try making something for themselves. Among Talara’s many talents are sewing dolls and crafting furniture out of reclaimed barn wood with her boyfriend. She also quilts, but is quick to say that her mother is the master crafter. Brenda started quilting as a young girl and after a lengthy lapse in activity, recently took up the task again. “Like all of our quilts in the store, our work is hand quilted or tacked,” she says. Among their many projects, the mother-daughter duo partnered with the Museum of Ashe County History to make a unique quilt. “‘Winding through Ashe County’ is what we call a crazy quilt made up of many different pieces of cloth representing memories of life in Ashe County,” Talara says. “Each piece was submitted by an Ashe resident and came with a brief de-
scription of what that cloth meant to them, personally.” The “stories” are in a scrapbook to be raffled off along with the quilt on October 28. Tickets for the quilt are selling for one dollar each or six for five dollars. Money collected will go toward supporting the preservation and restoration of the upstairs courtroom of the courthouse where the museum is currently located. Copies of the scrapbook will be published for sale later in the year. The quilt is on display in Talara’s store. Just like the many stories of the quilt, Talara’s story is one of challenge, courage and conviction — full of memories from the past and dreams that became reality.
reta J. winebarger Wife, mother, avid reader and a CNA at Ashe Memorial Hospital. Her passion is writing stories about her Appalachian heritage.
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Whether winning a state dancing title, modeling the latest fashions on a runway, teaching social skills, coaching novice snowboarders, or studying with friends at Appalachian State University, Carmela White shines with an inner beauty and grace that easily attracts those in her presence. The Banner Elk native is a persistent, hard-working young woman determined to follow her dreams of modeling and acting and has been able to pursue her goals since childhood, thanks to a supportive family. Reflecting on her family values, she says, “I have always been taught that ‘charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised,’ (Proverbs 31:30).” “My mom always told me that if I am going to pursue a career in this industry, that I can’t take rejection personally. Knowing that the industry is incredibly competitive, she taught me to never give up and shake it off when an audition doesn’t go as planned,” she says. She has learned to keep her chin up — even when things do not go as desired. “I have also learned that I can do nothing on my own and I must always follow God’s will for me,” she says. Performing onstage is second nature to Carmela, who has been dancing since she was 3 years old. By the time she started clogging at age 5 she had already experienced ballet, tap and jazz dance. She later studied pointe, swing, cha cha, waltz, bolero and other ballroom dances and earned several state titles in clogging and swing dance. Carmella’s love of dance attracted her to High Country Cotillion as a high school freshman. After six years, she evolved from student to head cotillion leader.
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Through teaching students dance, as well as relevant social skills through skits, games and stories, Carmela shows students that it’s easy to be a cool college kid, have fun and use good manners — all at the same time. She enjoys the “benefits” she’s reaping following her third year as a leader. “I love talking to the students and hearing from their parents about how cotillion is impacting their everyday lives.” Confidence gained from her personal cotillion and dance experiences has helped Carmela in pursuing her modeling career. “Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be in front of the camera,” she says. “After research and preparation, I interviewed with several modeling and acting agencies and signed my first contract with Victor’s International, based out of New Orleans, when I was 15,” she says. Seeking more regional work, Carmela signed with the Davis and Lowe Talent agency where she was introduced to the film and acting side of the industry. During high school, she modeled in Atlanta and North Carolina markets, while honing her acting skills as a Watauga High School Playmaker. In college, she continued building her resume through various opportunities in front of the camera and on the runway. Following an intense auditioning process in 2011, Carmela landed a three-year contract with Evolution Modeling and Talent Agent and a three-year international management contract. She has since received offers from modeling and entertainment agencies in Los Angeles and New York. While deciding among her options, Carmela is studying for a degree in advertising with a minor in marketing at ASU.
In addition to working with cotillion, Carmela also teaches snowboarding at Sugar Mountain. She also initiated a program between the Kings College in New York City and ASU. Located in the Empire State Building, Kings College is known for placing students in internships with high profile companies. “This new program will open doors for other App students to study and intern in NYC without being forced to transfer schools,” she says. “I hope students use this opportunity to pursue their dream career.” Carmela’s career goals include finishing her degree, then not only acting and modeling in larger markets, but also, eventually, working as an agent or in the production of runway shows and photo shoots. “If I pursue a career in this industry,” she says, “I know that I cannot worry about what I will do next, or where I will be moving, or if I’ve impressed a casting director, but instead, I must give it all to God and let him lead me. Worrying does not help. This not only applies to working in this industry, but also to jobs, school and relationships.” To others interested in pursuing careers in modeling and acting, Carmela offers this, or “Have your own style. Don't be afraid to let your personality show. We must be willing to take chances, because we only live once — what do we have to lose?” Sharon Carlton Sharon Carlton, High Country Courtesies ©2012 Director of High Country Courtesies, writes and speaks on modern etiquette and life skill topics. Conducts customer service workshops, hosts dining etiquette classes, and is Director of High Country Cotillion, a social education program for youth. Contact her at scarlton@highcountrycotillion.com.
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A stage career is inevitable for Carmella White, a talented, hardworking young woman with big dreams.
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Nothing compares to the time a mom and her kids can spend romping or working together in a lush, green field. No one knows this better than Maria Norris, a young mother of two, who takes advantage of every opportunity she has to spend with her daughters on their family farm. Two years ago, Maria and her husband, Ryan, discovered an entirely new meaning to family farm time and found an innovative way to put the “kids” to work. No worries — they will never be accused of breaking child labor laws. Their daughters are in on the plan and love it. The Norris family own and operate GOat GREEN Farm, a green business that utilizes a time honored, land-clearing method of utilizing goats to get the job done right. Forget the expensive, time-consuming, mechanical and usually loud methods of clearing land that are known to pollute the air, ground and water. By all appearances, the entertaining goat “staff ” at GOat GREEN Farm seems to love their job of clearing land. It just seems to come naturally. “Leasing goats,” Maria says, “is green, cost-effective, efficient and the laborers are extremely fun to watch.” Depending upon how much land you need to clear, the fun-factor for the consumer increases with the number of “workers” actually need. The workforce doesn’t punch a clock, they don’t complain and they’ll get the job done in minimal time. Winnie, Midnight, Veronica, Mary, Bucky, Sunny, Valentine, Rose, Pinky, Kisses and Leaper are just a phone call away — or at least, their “bosses” are available and ready to schedule a visit to your property, assess the viability of their services and give you a free estimate. Once you’ve agreed upon the terms, the Norris team will establish a start-date and erect a 48-inch-high electric netted fence to keep the crew from wandering
from the jobsite. When the fencing is in place and secure, the goats are set free to do what comes natural. They will eat and they will continue to eat — and will amply fertilize the ground in the midst of clearing. They may also be accompanied by their guard dog, to keep them in line. Not all property is suitable for goatclearing, Maria says, with that determination made early on, to save the potential customer time and money. The goats and their owners are well known in the area and come with a long list of references — including the Nature Conservancy, for which they cleared nine acres last summer. The farm is a second-year grant recipient of the Tobacco Trust Fund Grant money, an honor, Maria says, that is “is a greatly appreciated source of funding,” especially in light of the dramatic legislative cuts that have recently impacted agriculture and farmers throughout North Carolina. The AgOptions Grant money awarded to GOat GREEN Farm enables maintenance of pasture rotation and (please, don’t tell the goats) to sell the goat meat, which will be available in July. The farm maintains about 40 goats at any given time, so shortage of staff is usually not a problem, Maria says. The Norris family is currently celebrating their second year at GOat GREEN Farm. Maria and Ryan grew up in the High Country and their daughters are dedicated to not only tending the goats, but also giving them their names. GOat GREEN Farm will provide a free estimate by professionals, who before they send out the actual laborers, will come to you and handle logistical details — from start to finish. For more information, contact GOat GREEN Farm today at (828) 773-1577, (828) 773-1578 or visit www.goatgreenfarm. com, goatgreenfarm@yahoo.com.
Genevieve Austin Genevieve Austin is a mother of one, who received her teaching certificate from ASU; she is a writer who is working on her first book, ‘The Toy Box,’ and is also a radio personality, artist, singer and animal advocate.
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Have No Fear, My Friend No matter how long you’ve known someone, there comes a time when she can surprise you with her bravery. Several years after the deaths of our husbands, my friend, Joann and I were on an East Caribbean cruise. We had already sailed the seas with my son and daughter-in-law and finally felt brave enough to venture out on our own. Soon after launching on our independent voyage, I became seasick and was unable to complete the chore of unpacking. I had gotten down to my last bag before I had to give it up. Two nights into our venture, while Joan lay sleeping, I finally opened the bag and to my dismay, I discovered a large black spider — or at least three of its legs beginning to slither out from under my nightgown. As I screamed, Joann came alive. Still half-asleep, she looked toward my bag as I pointed and asked, “Is it tropical?” “I don’t know, “I replied, “but, it’s scary.” “I’ll tell you one thing,” she said, “ I won’t be able to sleep another wink until that spider is out of here.” She jumped out of her bed like a wild woman and ran over to take a closer look. The “intruder” had not crawled all the way out from under my gown, but its three visible legs did seem to move slightly. You have to imagine this scene — she’s leaning down over the bag and I’m bending over behind her when she said, “Wait, let me get my magnifying glass so I can see it better.” “Do you carry a magnifying glass everywhere you go?” I asked. She explained that her mother had given it to her years ago and she always carried it with her. She quickly retrieved the glass so we could get a better look. And then, she decided to go looking
for a “brave male” to help us get rid of the spider. I was amazed that she literally stuck her head out of the cabin door — despite night cream smeared all over her face and rollers in her hair, while dressed in a lessthan-glamorous nightgown — in search of help. She didn’t see anyone, so she shut the door and headed back to me — and the spider with, apparently, another plan in mind. “Get me a piece of paper and I can pull him out,” she said. I grabbed a tissue. “Stand back out of the way,” she ordered. I was happy to stand back. I didn’t want that spider running up my leg. “What are you going to do with it when you grab it”? I asked. She evidently thought I’d step on it, but that wasn’t my plan. I opened the bathroom door, lifted the commode lid and waited to do my part to flush him down the drain. I hurried back over to Joann’s side and watched in amazement as she reached down, tissue in hand, and grabbed that spider by the legs. When she began pulling, that “spider” came out all right, one long, black fringe at a time. I had completely forgotten about the black shawl that I had packed in the bottom of the bag. We began to laugh so hard and immediately realized how lucky we were that no gallant knight had been outside our door. We could just imagine the humiliation we might have suffered at breakfast the next morning, had the scene unfolded differently and some handsome gent at the next table shared how he had been summoned to save us from a spider. By the way, Joann is the same friend who holds tightly to two “noodles” — one around her neck and the other around her waist — when she’s standing in waist-deep water in my son’s pool. She’s afraid of drowning in the shallow end of a pool, but she has no fear of a black spider.
sherry boone Local writer who shares her personal stories with others in hopes that they, too, will be comforted by some of life’s sweet memories.
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Common Pregnancy Questions & Answers from the office of Charles Baker, MD Q: What should I do before pregnancy to help me (and my baby) be as healthy as possible? A: Take at least 400 mcg. of folic acid daily to help prevent neural tube defects such as spina bifida. If you drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes, stop. Try to establish a healthy exercise plan, even if it is just walking 30 minutes a day, three-five times a week. Consider getting vaccinations if you have lapsed or never had them, including Tdap, MMR booster (not within onetwo months of conception), and varicella booster (or have your health care provider check your titer if you do not recall ever having the chicken pox). Q: How do I know how far along I am? A: Pregnancy due dates can be calculated using Naegele’s Rule, by adding one year, subtracting three months, and adding seven days to the first day of a woman's last menstrual period (LMP). The result is approximately 40-week duration. Ultrasound can be used to confirm your due date and is most accurate in the first trimester. Q: When can you hear a heartbeat? A:
Trans-vaginal ultrasound can detect a heart beat right about five weeks
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after conception or 6 ½ - 7 weeks gestation (as dated from the LMP). An office handheld Doppler (a device that uses ultrasound waves also) can detect a heart beat by around 12 weeks, sometimes earlier.
Q: When can I find out if I’m having a girl or a boy? A: Most of the time, ultrasound can show the gender of the fetus by around 18-20 weeks. Q: What typical testing is done during pregnancy and when do you do it? A: In the first trimester, women are screened for their blood type and Rh factor (i.e. if negative or positive blood type), STD screening, anemia, and pap test if they are due. Women may also be screened for thyroid dysfunction or other problems based on their history. In second trimester, women can be offered screening for Down’s Syndrome, Trisomy 18, and neural tube defects such as spina bifida. They can also be screened for Cystic Fibrosis, an inherited lung disease. In third trimester, and sometimes earlier, women are screened for gestational diabetes as well as for Group B strep. Group B strep is a type of bacteria that some women carry in their vagina, which could cause infection in a newborn baby.
Q: What are my pain management options for labor and birth? A: Women have a wide variety of options to cope with pain. Some women will choose to have a completely unmedicated birth and utilize position changes, heat, massage, laboring in water and/or the services of a doula (a person trained and experienced in childbirth who provides physical, emotional and informational support to the mother) instead. Women can also choose to have IV pain medication, which is typically a narcotic such as Stadol, Nubain or Fentanyl. Women may choose to get an epidural, for which a small needle is put into the lower back and a thin catheter (tubing) is placed to deliver continuous anesthetic — with or without — analgesic to numb or decrease sensation of contractions. The most important thing is that women openly communicate their desires and needs with their care provider, discuss their options, as well as the risks and benefits of each of them. Every woman, labor, and birth is different and deserves individual attention, care and support for the uniqueness of the woman, family and their desired experience. Heather W. Jordan, CNM, MSN Charles Baker, MD 436 Hospital Drive, Suite 230 Linville, North Carolina 28646 www.averyclinic.com 828.737.7711
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Geary’s Getorix Series Continues Boone’s acclaimed author, Judith Geary, has done it again. In her first novel, “Getorix: The Eagle and the Bull,” we are introduced to Getorix, a young Celtic warrior of 14, who, with his father, is captured when the Romans conquer his people. His father is unceremoniously executed in a dark dungeon and his body dumped into the sewers of Rome. Getorix is spared — only to be tendered as a slave to the 13-year-old son of one of his Roman conquerors. He is robbed of the right to die a noble death alongside his father, thus entering “Otherworld” as a man. The story takes the reader on a journey through the rich history of the Roman Republic in the years leading up to Julius Caesar’s rule. Getorix, who will be no one’s slave, must weigh the demands of honor against his nascent friendship with the Roman boy, Lucius, who would be his master.
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“GETORIX: Games of the Underworld,” is the second book of the series in which Getorix is now an escaped slave who plans to travel to Gaul to return his father’s emblem, symbolically returning his father to his homeland in honor. Getorix and the Roman boy, Lucius, who by this time have become trusted friends, meet to say farewell before Getorix begins his journey. As Getorix presents Lucius with a parting gift, a replica of his father’s brooch, Lucius announces he would like to join Getorix in his exodus from Rome. Suddenly, they are publicly attacked by raiders dressed in Celtic garb, and Lucius is taken prisoner. Getorix is implicated in the attack. He suspects Romans are behind the assault, even though the raiders themselves are Celtic. The question is why? And why was Lucius singled out to be kidnapped? (While it may seem I’ve given away the
plot of the novel — this is only the introduction to the story, taking place within the first three pages.) Thus begins a suspenseful tale of intrigue into the inner workings of Rome, from the rat-infested sewers of the underworld to the luxurious trappings of the ruling class. Getorix enlists the help of Keltus, (a Celtic slave and bodyguard to Lucius), Senius, (a Druid who has some ability to divine the future), and Brosch, (a young Celtic slave who is in love with Lucius). Together, they attempt to fathom the changing loyalties of both friends and foes in a desperate scheme to rescue their friend from those who wish to use him as a pawn in their own ambitious grapplings for power at the pinnacle of the Roman Republic. With deceptive ease, Judith leads the reader through a maze of Roman politics and religious thought. We learn the differences between Roman and Celtic gods
and the disparity in perceptions of honor between the two cultures and between the classes. The story is chock-full of details of Roman life during this historical period, interwoven so skillfully in the fabric of the pages the reader, caught up in the unfolding drama, is unaware of the impeccable research that went into the creation of this superbly ambitious novel. The story is cast with characters from history — as well as with fictional characters sprouting from Geary’s fertile imagination. Suspense is established in the first pages, sweeping the reader along with the mounting travails of the young protagonists until the very end. There is no rest for the weary in this captivating tale of friendship, loyalty, love, political intrigue and honor. Will Getorix survive to return to his homeland? Read “Getorix: Games of the Underworld to discover the answer.”
Danielle Bussone Danielle Bussone is a writer and artist. To learn more about her, visit www.daniellefineart.com
About the author: Judith Geary co-founded High Country Publishers with Bob and Barbara Ingalls in 2001 and continues to serve as its editor, now Ingalls Publishing Group. She also teaches at Appalachian State University. Her first novel, “Getorix: The Eagle and the Bull,” is recommended for classroom use by the North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, along with the accompanying curriculum, Getorix’s World, co-written by Sandra Horton. It supports the focus of the new NC curriculum for sixthgrade Social Studies on The Ancient World to 1450 and is already in use in several schools in the area, mostly in the gifted programs. Judith Geary will be signing books at Black Bear Books at the Boone Mall from 1-4 p.m. on Sat., June 23. JUNE 2012 | AAWMAG.COM
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Years ago, I worked with a young woman who everyone loved to be around. She was a beacon of light. People gravitated toward her. During those same years, I worked with another woman who, whenever she walked into the room, people stiffened and moved away. Both were good looking and talented. It begged the question — why are some people attractive and some repellant? Due to the extremes of these two women, I had a great opportunity to observe and draw conclusions about what attracts and what repels.
My observations “Ms. Repellant” — through body language and choice of words — was dismissive and cold to those not of her ‘perceived status;’ she rarely asked questions and mainly made statements. She was more interested in scoring the winning point than understanding others and was always talking about her accomplishments, her possessions and her point of view.
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“Ms. Magnetic” — through body language and choice of words — showed warmth, kindness and respect to all, shared her perspective, but did not try to force it on others. She sought the input of others, was approachable, affirming and other-centered. Another question begged: Can we actually increase our personal magnetism? The answer: We come into this world with a predisposition called temperament. We cannot change it, but we can cultivate its strengths and minimize its weaknesses. There are many theories of temperament types and most derive from the observations of Galen, a Greek physician who lived more than 2,000 years ago. Galen is credited with coining the terms “choleric,” “sanguine,” “phlegmatic” and “melancholy.”
Phlegmatic Also known as “the laid-back.” One of the strengths of a phlegmatic is her easygoing amiability; one weakness is a lack of ambition in reaching goals.
Sanguine Aka the cheerleader; one strength of which is the ability to motivate others; one weakness is a tendency toward insincerity — saying what others want to hear.
Choleric The bulldog; one strength is the ability to focus and get things done One weakness is a tendency to dominate and intimidate.
Melancholic Aka the sensitive; one strength is creative insightfulness; one weakness is a tendency toward gloom and doom. Most of us are a “stew” of different temperament types, but generally we fall into one or two types. Regardless of our temperament blend, if we cultivate our strengths we will become more attractive to others. For example, a sanguine/choleric hybrid can choose between being honest and straightforward (attractive) or tactless (repellant).
healthylady A melancholic/phlegmatic hybrid can choose between being observant and realistic (attractive) or a doomsayer (repellant). Our attractive and repellant qualities develop overtime. We become habituated to responding a certain way. Following are five steps that can help you increase your personal magnetism:
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Progress daily. If your tendency is to be a negative doomsayer, set a goal to offer positive reflections— sincere perspectives, not insincere optimism — for one full day.
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Get help. Sometimes, our repellant traits are so deeply rooted that we are unable to overcome them without help. If this is the case, seek the advice of a professional who is trained to help you handle your particular situation.
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The Dance of Decision
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My daughter, Maddy, has decided not to study in China this summer. She’s coming home instead and secretly, I’m doing a big ol’ goofy happy dance. Of course, when China was first mentioned, I said, “How cool!” wrote the check, and shared the brochure with her grandparents. I’m all for supporting my 20-year old’s independence and I love her insatiable wanderlust. But, secretly, I prefer letting go in smaller doses. As it turns out, the parental journey is astoundingly short between carefully folding newborn onesies, going out to a nice dinner while the kids stay home eating pizza, and sleeping in my daughter’s guest room in her own house half a continent away. The whole parental gig is about letting go. Even way back in the delivery room when Maddy’s tiny body still felt like part of my own, I sensed a profound paradox: I need to let go of the one person in the whole universe I’m also wired most to protect, nurture, love and know. Every single
part of my being — from my hormones to my sense of responsibility to each beat of my heart — conspires to envelop my child fully, embrace her every nuance and never let her out of my sight. Yet, I also know to hand over her own keys as soon as she’s ready. In the big scheme, I wouldn’t have it any other way. My parents let me loose at just the right time, fueled to this day by their love and their belief in my glorious autonomy. And while I have visited families and cultures with those tight weaves we romanticize — multi-generations all living up in each others’ lives — I also hear stories of family pressure to suppress desires, conform to constrictions and make unwanted decisions that protect someone’s feelings or shore up the status quo. It seems altogether innocent to throw my loving arms around my squirming oppositional toddler and say, “Oh, c’mon just one kiss.” But later, when the stakes rise, my parental encroachments can squelch her artistic creation, shut down an uncon-
ventional dream, or silence an important voice. Deep familial love should be cherished, nurtured and protected, but I am also indebted to that enlightenment ethos to stake our individual claims. For the good of my daughter, I have to let her go find that claim for herself, even if she spends the summer in far-flung places instead of under my roof. I suspect her ability to make that decision is good for the world, too, for choice remains the best antidote to appalling conditions for women across the globe. Consider these startling statistics: Working women still earn less than men and women account for more than two-thirds of those living in abject poverty. Six-hundred million women are illiterate, almost twice the number of illiterate men. Women are the overwhelming victims of domestic violence, human trafficking, rape and gender discrimination. Although women, in developing rural areas, grow 60-80 percent of the food, many are not legally allowed to own land.
Legislators are mostly men, too, and while certainly many champion women’s rights, I suspect those laws would change a lot faster if we occupied more than the current 15 percent of national parliament seats across the world. Over and over again, our choices are squashed. While it may be a long rope, these disturbing facts seem tied to my ability to let my daughter go, successfully. If I guilt her into coming home this summer (even if it’s subtle and just because I want to see her), how ultimately is that different from other impositions that sound protective, but blare abhorrent? Parents withdraw their daughters from school to protect them from frightening influences, governments prohibit women’s work and travel for their own safety, community leaders condone female genital mutilation to preserve virtue, legislators restrict reproductive rights in the name of morality. I know that’s a stretch and I really don’t equate genital mutilation with wanting my kid home this July. But, I do see the
slope. Sometimes I want to wrap Maddy in “my” version of her life, especially if I feel her pain or miss her dreadfully. And, that means trouble every time — even with the best of intentions. When we respect and empower our growing children they do, in fact, pay it forward. My job is to silence my voice enough so she can hear her own and then live with loud gusto. That’s how this works. If I want her forever to be free to choose her own passions, partners, progeny, places and point of view, then this summer she needs to choose whether it’s Beijing or Boone. And no big ol’ goofy happy dance until she decides. Sources: Commission on the Status of Women; Women’s Environment & Development Organization; Data on the Status of Women Worldwide
Jeanne Supin Do Less. Be More. Conscious Change by Design. www.supin.com
I would not describe myself as a “Parrothead” due to the fact that I have yet to attend a Jimmy Buffett concert; however, I am partial to his music. Through adolescence and college to love and marriage and growing older, Jimmy has perched on my shoulder, tempting me with sail boats and sandy beaches, cheeseburgers and margaritas. As the tide of summer rolls in, with it comes to urge to dust off the Jimmy Buffett records and imagine myself under a thatched hut somewhere in the Caribbean, fruity drink in hand, watching the sun shimmer on the ocean like diamonds. “Yes, I am a pirate two hundred years too late.” – Jimmy Buffett, A Pirate Looks at Forty My introduction to Jimmy Buffett came courtesy of my Uncle Darrell. Through my child’s eyes, Darrell, with his sail boat, long pony tail and gold earrings, did resemble a pirate – a friendly, swashbuckling, Jack Sparrow-type pirate à la Pirates of the Caribbean not a murdering, pillaging, Black Beard-type pirate à la actual history – and his home was filled with
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Jimmy Buffet’s infectious melodies whenever I visited. “Twenty degrees and the hockey game’s on.” – Jimmy Buffett, Boat Drinks Later, as a teenager, never able to shake the lingering memory of those beachy tunes, I picked up a copy of Songs You Know by Heart. That collection of Buffett’s greatest hits accompanied me to college in Boston, where it conjured up images of sun and surf whenever snow covered the ground. To my surprise, I also discovered that a fondness for Jimmy Buffett was not exclusive to the South. My friend, Angela, who hailed from New Jersey, had grown up listening to her father’s Buffett records. We spent many a summer day singing along to Fins, Volcano, Boat Drinks and other favorites. “With a little love and luck, we’ll take the sky.” – Jimmy Buffett, Love and Luck Somewhere along the way, more Jimmy Buffett CDs found their way into my collection and I found Roger. We soon discovered that we each owned a copy of Buffett’s box set, Boats, Beaches, Bars & Ballads, and we shared
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our favorite songs. Roger, having lived in Hawaii for four years, had the sea in his veins. Once every year or so, he longed to bask in the sun on a beautiful beach and soak in the crystal clear ocean waters. Although I had not often visited the shore during my formative years, and when I did it was the coast of North Carolina, I had always been partial to beaches and longed to see the tropical islands that Jimmy’s ditties had imprinted on my imagination. “Don’t try to describe the ocean if you’ve never seen it. Don’t ever forget that you just may wind up being wrong.” – Jimmy Buffett, Mañana Several years into our relationship, Roger and I traveled to Mexico, where I had my first glimpse of the Caribbean. It was love at first sight. I understood what Jimmy meant when he sang, “Mother, mother, ocean. I have heard you call.” It wasn’t just the sounds — waves crashing against the shore, the breeze rustling palm branches and the calls of seagulls circling overhead — but
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ba, St. Kitts and most recently, Curaçao. Each island has been a unique, memorable experience. I eagerly anticipate our continued exploration of the Caribbean — the beaches, the culture and the flavors. Whether we are watching the sun slip beneath the horizon or weathering a tropical rainstorm, there is bound to be a Jimmy Buffet song to capture the memory. I’ll keep adding to the ones I already have stored away until my soundtrack is complete. “Some people never find it, some only pretend. But me, I just want to live happily ever after, every now and then.” Jimmy Buffett, Happily Ever After (Now and Then)
heather brandon Considers life to be one big anthropological field experience. She observes and reports. She enjoys travel, food and wine and adventures with her husband, Roger.
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I wander along, breathing in woodsy scents, listening to a mourning dove, barely avoiding getting tangled in some prickly dog-hobble. I arrive at Emerald Pool and gratefully accept a seat on a comfortable rock just below a tumbling waterfall, next to two huge, moss-covered boulders. Their job is to slow the exuberant waterfall to a quiet stream, which then drops gently into the deep green pool. What a metaphor for my headlong life — Sue, the waterfall, rushing precipitously down, down, into more and more exciting, meaningful experiences. Too many opportunities, too little time. The boulders are clearly reflective this amazing day of Pam and Teri, giving me precious space to rest, reflect, slow down, and soak in the silence and solitude. And Emerald Pool? What if I enter deep into its secrets and find a new way into my spirituality? Could it result in my dearest desire, to write revelatory essays and poems? Pondering the experiences we’ve had, we each step back over the threshold and
return to the council circle. We pass a talking stick around, honoring each woman’s telling of the story of her time alone. We all listen carefully, then mirror back to each woman what we’ve heard of her story, assuring her we have been witness to her experience. Teri and Pam draw on their own depth of wisdom as they help each of us discern the direction of her life. We hike back up the steep, rocky trail, women with a lot of reflecting to do, each cradling a luminous new vision — a gift from our deepest selves, two wise women, and the depths of nature. For more information on Medicine Walks and other Womanquest programs, e mail info@womanquest.net or visit www. womanquest.net.
sue spirit Writes poetry and essays about nature, spirituality, writing, and travel. She has a little cabin in the mountains. degreesoffreedom@frontier.com
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Oxygen facials are gaining popularity in the spa industry today. They are reported to offer numerous benefits to the skin and are thought to especially fight the signs of aging. They are especially gaining favor among celebrities who are always looking for that “quick fix.” Most oxygen facials are performed with a special machine that sends out a pressurized mist, delivering concentrated oxygen to the surface of the skin. The mist released is rich in extracts, vitamins and minerals, which once in contact with the skin, are absorbed by the skin. After receiving such a treatment, the skin will generally showcase a special glow and appear more plump and smoother. Also, the facials are thought to promote new growth in the collagen in the skin and improve overall elasticity and decrease the appearance of enlarged pores and wrinkles. Most treatments are said to have an impact on the skin for around two days. Such a treatment is ideal if you are preparing for a special event. A series of the treatments are recommended for longer-lasting results. Some dermatological and scientific studies show that there is no evidence that these are as effective as some claim. Experts say that skin cannot absorb oxygen, so there is no way it can penetrate and make your skin healthier and younger. Any possible benefits that show up on the skin afterwards can be attributed to the basic facial itself and the possible plumping effect from the oxygen, but these will most likely be very temporary results. These facials will not hurt you, so if you have the funds and inclination to have an oxygen facial – go ahead and enjoy. In the long run, using a good quality skincare line, eating a healthy diet, and maybe getting the occasional basic facial may give you the best results for your skin.
kelly penick Licensed aesthetician 828.773.3587
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