All About Women - March/April 2010 by Mountain Times Publications

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Contents

March / April 2010

A Fairy Tale Wedding for Jama pg 30

Arts

Features

Profiles

Food & Entertainment.............pg 14

Registering the Good Deeds In

Bride on a Budget...................pg 7

All About Authors..................pg 23

Watauga County...................pg 11

A Life-Changer for Intern.......pg 13

Fashion and Fads..................pg 26

All About Men: Jeff & Steve...pg 28

Elizabeth Ashley....................pg 34

The Pet Page.........................pg 44

A Funny Thing Happened on

Gloria Marquez....................pg 38

the Way to the Wedding........pg 33 Diversity Celebration..............pg 50

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PUBLISHER Nancy Morrison nancy.morrison@averyjournal.com 828-733-2448 EDITOR Sherrie Norris sherrie@aawmag.com 828-264-3612 ext. 251 MARKETING CONSULTANTS Jon Davis, Renae Jones, Lewis McNeil, Sue Moore, Crystal Owens, Sandy Russell, Amanda Swartz

PRODUCTION / LAYOUT ARTIST Donna Currie, Daniel Johnston, Robert Moore

GRAPHIC DESIGNERS Jennifer Canosa, Robert Hampton, Meleah Petty

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Corrinne Loucks Assad, Genevieve Austin, June W. Bare, Maggie Bishop, Sherry Boone, Sharon Carlton, Marica Cham, Bonnie Church, Jenny Church, Danica Goodman, Heather W. Jordan, Melanie Marshall, Kelly Penick, Kylee Pitts, Vicki Randolph, Teri Wiggans, Anne Marie Yates, Heather Young

COPY EDITING Danica Goodman

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Publisher’s Note Welcome to a very special edition of All About Women of the High Country for March and April. When the winter weather shows signs of breaking in the spring, a young woman’s (and also a young man’s) fancy often turns to thoughts of building a life with that special person. If we are not planning a wedding ourselves, most of us know a friend or relative who is doing just that. We have included lots of tips and suggestions for that wonderful event, plus articles on lots of other subjects in this issue. Enjoy! When I read through the various articles on weddings, I chuckled to myself because both Sherrie and I are in unique positions to know the wedding scene very well. For many years, Sherrie ran a catering business and I’ll bet she lost count of the number of wedding parties she planned. I, on the other hand, was married to a Charlotte bandleader and owned Goodman Entertainment & Events in the Queen City. And yes, I have lost count of the number of weddings and related events for which we provided the music. One thing both Sherrie and I stressed in our businesses was to book early. On many choice dates, your event won’t be the only one. The earlier you chose your caterer, your musicians, your florist, your location, etc., the better. Many bands book up a year in advance; certainly six months is about the closest you can cut it. The best way to find good music is by word of mouth. Ask around. Find the musicians everybody enjoyed at that wedding you attended last year. The second best way is to choose a reliable musical entertainment agency. With an agency, if something happens to your planned musicians at the last minute, a very good substitute can usually be found with a minimum of trouble. After all, weddings are supposed to be fun, right? By the time the next issue of All About Women comes out the first of May, we should be seeing leaves popping out on the trees and some spring flowers. I, for one, would like to fast forward to that point! Of course we’d miss St. Patrick’s Day and Easter and lots of birthdays and other occasions. But, in the meantime, sit down with some good reading material (and you are holding some of the best!) and enjoy whatever nature throws at us for March and April. As always, we welcome your suggestions and comments. You are the reason we exist and we want to provide content you’ll enjoy reading. So, let us hear from you. Have a great March and April!

Nancy Morrison, Publisher nancy.morrison@averyjournal.com

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Editor’s Note Can it be? Is that a robin I see? Spring is just around the corner and what a busy time it will be. (Did I just write a poem?) As they often do this time of year, weddings, proms, graduations, municipal elections and so much more will soon be filling our calendars and making memories for all involved. Garden plots will soon be cleared, lingering debris from winter’s destructive storms removed, and river banks occupied once again with faithful fishers in pursuit of the big catch. And speaking of the big catch––nothing warms my heart much more than a lovely bride on her wedding day, unless it’s a newborn baby (but we’ll go there later!). As you’ve already noticed by the gorgeous bride on our cover, it’s time to turn our focus to engagements, weddings, receptions and all the planning that goes with them. In this exciting issue that lends itself to a breath of fresh, spring air, you will meet several women––and men––who are glimmers of light and who spread warmth throughout their corners of the world. The lovely Jama Greene Maples, shown on our cover, grew up in Watauga County while watching plenty of fairy tale movies and always knew in her heart that she would one day meet her Prince Charming and ride off into the sunset. She did just that. You will love her story! I can’t wait for you to read about Gloria Marquez, a local RN who at 67 recently ran the Disney World Marathon in Orlando, FL, just a while after hiking the entire Appalachian Trail. Quite an accomplishment, don’t you think? We have packed this magazine full of life’s greatest moments for several women–– and the men we can’t live without. We hope you savor every morsel of this magazine! We continue to be amazed and Visit aawmag.com to find links and resources for all stories mentioned in this issue.

extremely grateful for all the compliments and words of encouragement we hear every time we produce another issue. As always, we ask that you please support our advertisers who make it all possible. I do not say this lightly, because we could not make this magazine available to you without them. Okay, this is the March-April edition. So, Happy Women’s History Month; Happy Easter; and Happy Birthday to both of my sisters, Gail and Sandy, and my two nieces, Makenzie and Renee, a special cousin, Patti, and one of my two best lifelong friends, Gina; plus lots of other wonderful folks in my life who are celebrating during this time––too many to mention and most others are men, anyway! (Clay Mohr, 60 never looked so good!) Growing older, but better together––

Sherrie Norris, Editor Sherrie@aawmag.com

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Bride on a Budget By Melanie Marshall

When it came time to plan our wedding, my then-fiance Kevin and I picked out a location, a caterer, and started listening to CDs to choose a local band, etc. Then we looked at the price tag – forget that, we preferred a house payment. The ceremony was pared down to a weekend in my hometown with our immediate family and closest friends only. In total, maybe a dozen people were present. I bought a white pants suit and Kevin a white button-up shirt. We are jeans and t-shirts kind of folks anyway, so we made a wedding to suit ourselves. Fortunately, friends of mine are renovating a historic hotel in my hometown (rumored to by haunted, but we didn’t give that much thought). There are currently only eight rooms out of a three-story building completed. The downstairs area, what would have been a lobby, was restored. These wonderful friends let us rent the eight rooms and downstairs for a steeply discounted rate. In fact, the final wedding price tag of $500 www.aawmag.com

includes the cost of hotel rental. My sister, Melissa, and her husband Gene were invaluable. They made our wedding cake and set up a beautiful cheese display for the night before the ceremony. In truth, their efforts made our wedding beautiful. Instead of a usual rehearsal dinner, we had game night. Our family members and friends gathered for cheese and drinks and played games like Catch Phrase. Thank goodness everyone was such a good sport. On the day of the wedding, I have a memory I will never forget. It was such a laid-back, casual affair that we all scattered prior to the ceremony. Some friends toured the busy city of Sutton, West Virginia (okay, we don’t even have a traffic light) and some went shopping at a nearby outlet mall. Kevin and his friends went to work on our wedding gift, a 1952 Farmall tractor. It was my father’s first tractor and he gave it to Kevin. I refer to this as my dowry. The

tractor the ti time and t was nott running i att th d we wanted to bring it back to Boone. Twenty minutes prior to the ceremony, I was dressed, my friends had done my hair and make-up, but no groom was in sight. The judge is waiting downstairs with our guests. I looked up to see Kevin, muddy clothes and all, but smiling. “The tractor runs,” he said. He jumped in the shower and we walked together down to the ceremony. We simplified the music issue. I walked down the aisle to the XM Radio classical music channel playing softly in the background. There was no risk of a commercial right at the “Who presents the bride?” question and no one is paying attention to the tunes anyway. Kevin and I opted not to have a best man or maid of honor in light of our small gathering and low-cost wedding. My best friend, Dana, however, was having none of it. Just as we stood before the judge, Dana grabs flowers out of a nearby vase and said “I’m standing here.” I just laughed. That is what friends do – they are there whether you ask or not. Afterward, all of the guests and the newly married couple walked down the street to a local restaurant. Instead of gifts, I had asked that everyone pay for their own meal. Kevin and I had lived on our own long enough to own every small appliance known to man and already had sheet sets. Our wedding was perfect and reflected our personalities. The guests and the groom were in jeans. There was no pressure on anyone to dress up or buy a gift. We all just had a good time together. Thanks to our wedding budget, Kevin and I will be celebrating our one-year anniversary by moving into our newly built home. Instead of one day, we invested in our life together. MARCH • APRIL 2010

Registering The Good Deeds In Watauga County

Register of Deeds staff, left to right: Anne Hamby, Kathy Burkett, Lorie Bolick, Kim Brown, Carolyn Greer, Diane Dancy and Phyllis Critcher. Front row is Joann Townsend - Register of Deeds.

By Corrinne Loucks Assad After 20 years of public service, Joann Townsend is certainly no stranger to the Watauga County Register of Deeds office. She began working there as a temporary part-time clerk in 1980 and was promoted to a full-time position in 1983. She ran her first successful campaign for the Register’s seat in 2004 and was re-elected for another four-year term in 2008. Not only does she love the people she serves, it is also quite evident that the feeling is mutual. Today at the County Courthouse, she is a respected, knowledgeable leader who knows her stuff, as her staff will attest. Joann admits having learned a lot from her two predecessors, Phyllis Foster and Wanda Scott, powerful women who helped set the 8

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tone for the office years ago. Joann explains that her ns: Vital office is made up of two divisions: Records such as birth, marriage and death records, and Land Records, which handles property-related documents. “The way we look at it, we handle every aspect of a person’s life,” she says. “Considering all the types of records we handle, we will eventually touch every resident of Watauga County.” And touch us her staff does, as they fulfill their commitment of being a helpful, kind, public service office. The records of Watauga County are vital to its history; it is the responsibility of the Register of Deeds office to properly

record, preserve and protect those records. The office staff currently has a fiveyear project under way to preserve birth and death records from 1914 through 1985. Joann explains that records prior to 1986 require de-acidification and encapsulation, as acid-free paper was not used until 1986. Many of those records consisted of births assisted by midwives and home births and were handwritten. The Watauga County Register of Deeds contains records dating from the present back to 1872, when the courthouse burned down. Many local residents brought in their www.aawmag.com

personal copies of records to replace those that burned in the devastating fire. The all-female staff members–– consisting of seven Deputy Register of Deeds and several paralegals––are dedicated to their jobs and their roles in the community, as evidenced by their tenure and praise for each other. Kim Brown and Phyllis Critcher make up the Vital Records team and have made many sweet relationships with residents over the years. In 2009, they recorded 525 births, 396 marriages, 366 deaths, and swore in 160 Notary Publics in addition to dispensing over 4,000 certified copies. One of Kim’s favorite memories is of a couple, both in their 80s, who came in for their marriage license. The women have other fun stories that come to mind, including the 18-year-old bride-to-be and her 62-year-old fiancé. Staff members in the Land Records Division recorded over 14,000 documents in 2009. Land-related documents are deeds, rights-of-way, septic and other land easements, etc. As difficult to believe as it might seem, over $300 million in real estate sold or changed hands in Watauga County last year. “We love our jobs and Joann has always been very fair,” says Lorie Bolick. Diane Dancy describes the group as working well together as a team and says working with Joann is very nice. “We are thankful for our great jobs and our leader,” Carolyn Greer expresses in her bubbly way. Also included on the team are Anne Hamby and Kathy Burkett, who had great things to say about their jobs and their leader. Ranging from three to fifteen years, the experience in the office is rich, topped only by the lovely and warm personalities of the women therein. Joann Townsend is leading a wonderful team, caring and capable, that has touched the documents and the hearts of most Watauga County residents. If you haven’t had the pleasure of meeting them, buy a house, get married, have a baby, and then go in and record with them!

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April is Poetry Month. How do women poets see womanhood? The following poems are written by local women about women, and may indicate a poet’s perspective on our roles as women. Catherine Bare describes her feelings in Strength: “The longer we live the more trials women survive. But the point is that we survive, we get stronger, and we help other women along in their lives. Perhaps the world is a little better for our struggles. And I think God is always there, cheering us on. Maybe He loves us more, if that is possible, every time we strive and succeed.”

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devoted mother, Labels on empty boxes left behind.

Heartened and renewed!

An unbroken circle of women friends From Toledo to Seoul From Boone Deep Gap, Banner Elk, Trade Zionville, Winston, and Columbia.

The sun warms to our smiles. We laugh, and rainbows glisten. We sing. The angels rejoice. Perchance we even dance. God smiles at our joy!

Who know each other’s past And don’t Don’t care Celebrate today Each other.

June W. Bare is concerned that women have bought feminism at the expense of their privilege of womanhood. She uses the phrase from an old cigarette ad of the 60s to begin her thoughts.

we look up lift our hands then stand and help another.

Catherine Bare

Evelyn Asher was captivated by a statement Barbara Walters made on The View: “What would I do without my women friends?”

Frances VanLandingham

Evelyn Asher

Frances VanLandingham thinks back at the difficult life her mother had as a mountain woman in the early 1900s. Her poem The Thief reflects these thoughts.

We’ve come a long way, baby...

What Would I Do Without My Women Friends? Who give each other confidence Celebrate our passages Remember the good times Don’t keep scorecards Know no distance. When we can come as we are Dress to the nines And laugh When we have Nowhere to go. Who urge each other to exercise Write and rewrite Live gregariously through each other’s Activities Dreams. www.aawmag.com

The Thief A thief broke in and stole my life away. He took the moments one by one, And sacked them up into the days. The stacks of days pile into years. And then the decades loom. This thief, he comes so stealthily. He enters through the mind. Wait, be patient, not now, Your time will come. Tools to break the lock of will.

or have we? Maybe we have flung some valuables beside the way, and turned our tables from a gentler, kindlier day. Have we cast honor by the road? Have we packed upon our backs a heavier load? What we viewed as lacks our mothers valued best: a home and hearts to fill with love and skill... a place of woman’s rest. Have we really come a long way? Perhaps it’s no advance, but rather we have lost our chance and bought the slice at greater price than what we hoped to pay. June W. Bare

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Wedding Is

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s a member of the clergy, I enjoyed weddings – the nerves, the anticipation, the unquestioned love and, with the best-laid plans, the glitches. For instance, limousine drivers who knew the way to the church but not the way back to the bride’s house to pick up the rest of the wedding party or the 26 attendants trying to fit around the altar of a small New England church or, even, my referring to the groom as the bride and the bride as the groom. I treasured my time with the couple, preparing them for the marriage – the dayto-day living – indeed the work of marriage. I had requirements for every couple to do that I felt were important for all persons considering marriage. First, I required them to participate in an assessment. I used the “Prepare-Enrich Inventory” by Life Innovations. The inventory assesses 12 areas of a relationship including conflict resolution, roles, family relationships, communication skills, leisure time, sexuality and spirituality.

During three feedback sessions, we discussed the strengths and growth areas of their relationship indicated by the assessment. We practiced assertiveness training, communication skills and tools for conflict management. Ninety-five percent of my couples found the assessment valuable. I asked them to keep it with their wedding album and use it as a tool to assess their marriage each year on their anniversary. Next, I required them to read The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele. Using simple words, phrases, and cartoons, the book introduced the couple to this personality assessment tool. Each discovered himself or herself and then discussed what it was like to be in his or her skin. We practiced active listening skills as the couple came to understand each other in new and deeper ways. My husband (of 43 years) and I have known of the Enneagram for the past 20 years and have found it important in our work for personal growth and the work of our marriage. And last, the couple and I designed the liturgy for their wedding to reflect something unique about their relationship. Most asked me to speak on the work of marriage during the service. For they, now, knew that the wedding, whether large or small, a financial blowout or a simple moment, did not determine the success of their marriage. The success of their marriage depended on their willingness to work on their relationship ‘til death parts them.

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Working With Red Cross – A Life-Changer For Intern By Kylee A. Pitts

Kylee Pitts had no idea that her internship with Watauga Red Cross would be a lifechanging experience.

alking into the Watauga County Chapter of the American Red Cross, I didn’t know what to expect. As a full-time student with extra curricular activities and a job, adding an internship to my plate seemed like just one more thing to add to my expanding resume. Little did I know that the experiences I was about to face, the lessons and the history I would learn, would be life-changing. Each year the month of March is proclaimed Red Cross Month during which the organization recognizes the efforts and accomplishments of its volunteers and supporters. When Clara Barton founded the American Red Cross in 1881, all she wanted to do was help people in need. Her mission continues today in a way that would make her proud. For the past 92 years, the Watauga Red www.aawmag.com

Cross has been serving the citizens of this county and its surrounding area. Executive Director Sonny Sweet echoes the importance of Red Cross Month. “It celebrates the goodness of volunteers who give so freely of their time and talents to help others when help can’t wait. They have done so since our chapter was born in 19l7, keeping alive the mountain tradition of taking care of our own.” “Together we can save lives,” is the Red Cross motto, which holds true more today than ever before. Helping and saving lives is something that our volunteers, supporters and employees strive for every day, whether through specialized training, giving blood or helping in the wake of a disaster. Since the devastating earthquake in Haiti, the citizens of Watauga have really stepped up to the plate to donate what they could to help victims of the disaster thousands of miles away. Through the mail, Internet and the newest way to donate – through text messaging – the American Red Cross has raised millions of dollars. Helping in the smallest way combines with others for huge results in the end. The American Red Cross is more then just giving blood because there is a shortage, or being trained in CPR and first aid. We are not just helping people in the U.S; we are helping people around the world through

the International Red Cross and the Red Crescent. Giving a part of yourself by giving blood is another key way of helping the community. Over the past year more than 4,500 units of blood have been collected, which means over 13,000 people throughout the U.S. received life-saving blood. By giving a little bit of yourself, you helped someone. Sweet also believes that our volunteers are the heart and soul of the Chapter and are the key to the future success of it. “In 2009 over 700 volunteers from Avery and Watauga counties were successful in fulfilling its mission. We have 21 volunteering members of the Board of Directors; organizational changes have been mastered thus far with the help of all the volunteers. I have no doubt that will continue to be the case in the future.” It is through experiences like these, and learning what the American Red Cross is all about that I finally realized what it meant to help the people of the world. I walked into that office on a September afternoon, not knowing what would happen once this internship started, and I will walk out in May having learned that helping people, giving what you can, is the greatest gift of all. For more information on how you can volunteer, please contact the Watauga County Chapter of the American Red Cross at 2648226. Or go to www.wataugaredcross.com

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It’s A Family Affair For

a D u r e g h t hter Duo o M

BY SHERRIE NORRIS What began as a favor to family and friends over 20 years ago could easily have turned into a full-time job for Dorothy (Dot) Gragg and her daughter, Paula Gragg Ferguson. While each had her own career interests, catering and directing weddings became a good sideline business for the hardworking duo. Between weddings, parties, and special gatherings, the two estimate that they have served around 300 events over the years. The multi-talented team, which has often included the help of family members and close friends, has made an unofficial name for itself through time. Word of mouth, they know, is the best advertising and enough to keep them busy in their spare time. Catering is a lot of work, Dot and Paula admit, and while they have done their fair share and still love to work with food, their current primary focus is wedding planning and directing. “We still do food events at church,” Paula says. With a chuckle, they talk about the weddings that they’ve not only directed, but 14 MARCH • APRIL 2010

also catered the rehearsal dinner and set up for the reception. “We can take care of many aspects of the wedding,” Paula adds. “There are times when we do almost everything except marry the couple.” However, they easily recall the time when Paula actually stood in for the officiating minister during rehearsal because he was late. “If you direct weddings, you have to be prepared for anything – and make it seem like it was meant to be that way!” Dot is a retired hairdresser and recent widow who takes care of her grandchildren during the day and helps with the care of her elderly mother-in-law. Paula, wife of Matt Ferguson and loving stepmother to Leanna, works for Lowe’s as a Store Environment Design Manager, responsible for the design of the kitchen area in Lowe’s stores. She has designed showrooms in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico. Catering and wedding directing is a side job that both mother and daughter enjoy, simply, they say, because they are able to use

their God-given talents while spending quality time together. “Our family has always been close and it’s nice to be able to work with my mom and help make someone’s wedding day perfect,” Paula says. Known for her good cooking, Dot made her public debut in the late ‘70s and early ‘80s on the social committee at Mount Vernon Baptist Church. She was responsible for planning all the food events held at the church. Her volunteer services evolved into a family event, Paula recalls. “Between planning, setting up, and serving, my dad (the late Paul Gragg), my brother Mitchell, and I were always involved and eager to help her,” Paula says. “Up until my dad’s death, he was always at our events and helped in someway – even if it was just eating! “Since I have been married, Matt and Leanna have played a big part in what we do. It is always nice to have an extra set of hands and I’m glad that Leanna gets to experience it like I did growing up.” Paula has taken on more of a lead role in planning food-related events at their church these days, but her mother is always a big part of everything she does. “I couldn’t do it without her. That actually goes for catering, too.” Paula says her mother has always been better at food preparation. “And I do better with presentation,” to which she credits her professional background in design. “I do love to cook and have learned from my mom over the years. Mom has also catered to the ASU football coaches by baking a cake every time they win. She has done this ever since Coach Moore has been coaching at ASU. We do many different types of events, but weddings are our favorite. We still prefer to direct and help plan weddings, but we do still cater and we enjoy doing both.”

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Pointers For The Perfect Day: When asked about helpful advice to offer brides, especially regarding the reception, Dot and Paula agree on the importance of hiring a caterer and/or someone to be in charge – someone who will not be attending the actual wedding ceremony. While most people are on a budget, they say that it will be much better in the long run to hire someone to do the food than to rely on family and friends to do it. “A lot of times family members want to be part of the wedding and it’s hard to have the reception ready and attend the wedding.” Hiring someone takes the stress off the bride, her mother and the entire family, Dot adds. “The thing that people remember most about weddings is how the cake and the food looked and tasted. “The bride should be able to enjoy herself and not be worried if everything is going to come together.” Additional advice: make sure the reception flows well. “Think about how people will come in and then line up. Plan for more than one line if you have a lot of people. Also think about having drinks at a different location from the food. Consider color and texture of the food and plan for a variety: hot/cold, sweet/salty, color and texture. Also think about presentation. Food can be a centerpiece. Varied heights on the table help create interest and candles can always set off a table. Greenery, grapes and other fruit can always be used as fillers to bring the table together. Both Dot and Paula offer another very important piece of advice: “Plan, plan, plan. The more you can plan in advance, the better things will go on your wedding day. Make sure whoever is in charge understands exactly how you envision your wedding and how it needs to flow. It is her (or his) job to make your day what you have always dreamed of it being.”

Delicious Dishes From Dot and Paula One Bowl Pound Cake 3 ½ cups flour 3 cups sugar 6 eggs 1½ cups Crisco 1 cup milk 2 teaspoons vanilla Mix all ingredients together on high for 12 minutes. Bake in greased tube pan @ 325 degrees for 1 hour and 20 min.

No Fail Caramel Icing 1 stick of butter 1 cup brown sugar ¼ cup Pet evaporated milk 2 cups powdered sugar Melt butter in saucepan on top of stove over low heat. Add brown

sugar, stir constantly until sugar mixes with butter (approximately 2 minutes). Add milk and let come to a boil, remove from heat and cool for 10 minutes. Add powdered sugar and mix well.

Ham Delights 1 pkg. mini party rolls 1 pkg. deli ham 1 pkg. Swiss cheese 1 Tbs. Worcestershire sauce 3 Tbs. Dijon mustard 3 Tbs. poppy seeds 1 stick butter (melted) Mix Worcestershire sauce, Dijon mustard, and poppy seeds with melted butter. Slice pack of party rolls in half (top/bottom). Spread mixture on bottom half; add ham and cheese and cover with top half. Bake at 350 degrees until cheese is melted.

Spinach Dip 1 pkg. frozen chopped spinach (thaw and drain off all water, squeeze in colander) 1 pkg. Knorr vegetable soup mix 1 large carton sour cream ½ cup mayonnaise Dash of Texas Pete Mix all ingredients together and refrigerate. It’s better when made the day before. Serve with fresh finger-size vegetables and or favorite chips or crackers. Amaze your guest and serve the dip in a cabbage bowl. (See below.) Red Cabbage can be great for adding color to your table.

Cabbage Bowl Trim core end from bottom of a large cabbage head to create a flat base. Cut 1” from top of cabbage to form a cavity by scooping out the center but leaving 1” thick sides. Fill center with a dip of your choice.

Lime Punch 2 pkgs. lemon-lime Kool-Aid 2½ cups sugar 1 quart water 1 large can pineapple juice 1 (2 liter) bottle ginger ale 1 quart lime sherbet Mix Kool-Aid, sugar, water and pineapple juice together. Refrigerate until chilled. Pour into punch bowl and then add ginger ale and sherbet. Mix together and serve. MARCH • APRIL 2010 15

IT’S A WOMAN’S JOB Lane Weiss Is All About

WATER CONSERVATION By Sherrie Norris You might say that Lane Weiss lives on the conservative side of life––at least when it comes to water. As the program coordinator in charge of water conservation education for the Town of Boone (Public Utilities & Engineering Dept.), Lane knows that every drop counts. Currently focusing on a water conservation program by the same name (Every Drop Counts), Lane is involved in a variety of community events that provides valuable educational tools to help the community understand the importance of water. “In the spring we have our annual Rain Barrel Sale, through which residents can order a rain barrel at a discounted price,” Lane explains. “We also have a poster contest for the second-grade classes at Hardin Park and Two Rivers Community Schools. We make available an endless supply of educational material including traveling libraries, workbooks, paint sheets, and water conservation tips and facts sheets.” One of the program’s most popular resources is a presentation tailored to elementary classes that takes Lane into the schools to explains the water cycle and the importance of conservation and how it can be done. Lane describes related events such as guided field trips to the town’s reservoir and water treatment plant and the annual “Fun in the Park,” in conjunction with the recycling and adopt-a-street coordinators. 16 MARCH • APRIL 2010

LLane W Weiss i iis a ((water)) conservative i at h heart and d lleads d llocall programs to h help l educate d others h about the importance of conserving a valuable natural resource.

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Fun in the Park, Lane describes, is an educational outreach opportunity for families to teach their children how to become good stewards of our community. It features two bounce houses, an air slide, hourly door prizes, goodie bags and plenty of educational material. For Boone residents, her office also offers a do-it-yourself water audit that comes with a complimentary conservation kit. With the arrival of spring, Lane is all about the third annual Watauga County Rain Barrel Sale, currently in progress and sponsored by the Town of Boone, the NC Cooperative Extension and Watauga County Soil and Water Conservation District. “This year we will feature a Moby 65-gallon rain barrel for $100 (original cost $149). These barrels surpass other barrels for several reasons: they are made in North Carolina and Ohio, made of 100 percent recycled materials, are childproof with a bug proof lid, gravity-fed with no pumps required, Best-In-Class overflow setup and all parts are included and ready to set up.” Furthermore, Lane adds, “Two rain barrels can easily fit in the backseat of most four-door sedans. “By purchasing a rain barrel, you are helping to conserve our most vital resource. These barrels can be used for a variety of household tasks including watering lawns and/or gardens, bathing pets, washing cars or even rinsing walkways. Rain barrels also help protect our rivers and streams from run-off pollution while controlling the moisture levels around the foundation of your home. Using rainwater is also an excellent way to keep your water bill down.” Lane is convinced that the programs she helps coordinate are a great way for women to teach their children and/or themselves how to be environmentally responsible. “It is wonderful being able to offer our community a variety of tools so that residents can make the most of their environment and the environment of future generations.” www.aawmag.com

Lane came to Boone in 2000 to attend ASU, graduating in 2005 with a degree in business administration with majors in management and marketing. “I have always loved Boone and the thought of leaving never crossed my mind,” she

states. “After graduating, I worked as a teller at BB&T until I landed the position of program coordinator with the Town of Boone in September of 2009.” Lane was recently married and lives in Watauga County with her husband, Pete Weiss, and their three labs. “I don’t think I could have dreamed up a better job,” she concludes. “I work with an amazing group of people at the Town and get to promote something that I sincerely believe in, water conservation.” Rain barrels may be purchased now through June 1 through the Web site www.rainbarrel program.org/wataugacounty. The pickup day for all barrels will be Friday, June 24 from 9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. at the Watauga County Agricultural Conference Center located at 252 Poplar Grove Road, Boone N.C. 28607. For more information, please visit www.rainbarrelprogram.org/wataugacounty or contact Lane Weiss at (828) 268-6250.

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Left: The 2009-2010 board of directors for volunteers services at Cannon Memorial Hospital, left to right: Jean Adams, treasurer; Rachel Deal, vice-president;

Sallie

Woodring,

program

director; Jeannine Meador, president; Linda Yount, secretary.

Right: Blowing Rock Hospital volunteers pictured at an appreciation luncheon held in their honor.

The Value Of A Volunteer?

Priceless!

Volunteers at Watauga Medical Center are honored during an annual recognition luncheon. 18 MARCH â&#x20AC;˘ APRIL 2010

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p r i l i s N a t i o n a l Vo l u n t e e r Appreciation Month and nowhere do these selfless individuals work harder than in the High Country. Last year within the Appalachian Regional Healthcare System’s three hospitals – Blowing Rock Hospital, Cannon Memorial Hospital and Watauga Medical Center – nearly 300 volunteers provided over 32,000 hours of free services that equated to a monetary value of $279,589. Each of these individuals lives out the motto of the ARHS program: Volunteers Bring a Mountain of Better Todays. Whether the volunteers provide needed equipment and services to the healthcare facilities and the patients they serve through fundraising efforts, or simply push the juice carts down the corridors with a smile, their assistance makes a world of difference, says Sallie J. Woodring, Director of Volunteer Services/ Career Pathways at ARHS As a group and as individuals, several have been recognized both locally and state-wide for their services to their fellowmen. All About Women of the High Country salutes these and other volunteers who give so freely of their time and talents to make our world a better place to be.

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Carbohydrates:

Have No Fear! By Danica Goodman Fat. Sugar. Calories. Carbohydrates. Who wouldn’t be confused? In a society so obsessed about not getting fat, why is it that many of us are fat? When something is “fattening,” we really mean it is dense in calories, and is likely to make us fat. There are misleading terms, and yet we look for “low-fat,” “sugar-free,” “low-carb,” and “zero calories” as answers to healthy foods. These are good advertising gimmicks; junk food is still junk food. Despite popular belief, carbs are not the enemy. Populations whose dietary staples are rich in carbohydrates tend to be considerably slimmer than those who make meat and dairy their dietary mainstays.1 In the case of diet, calories are what make a person gain weight. Fat does play a role, but it is because fat is very high in calories. One gram of fat has 9 calories––almost twice as many as a gram of carbohydrate, which contains only 4 calories.2 Plant foods are low in fat and calories and high in nutrients and fiber, so a person drops weight and gains energy by eating the right foods without having to lift a finger, although exercise will speed up the process of losing weight. Short-term weight loss is not the same thing as lifelong weight management. 3 Providing we aren’t restricting our calories, people on high-fat and high-protein diets retain far more calories, as opposed to burning those calories as body heat.4 Rational people go on irrational diets because they are desperate.5 Fad diets do not work because of their diuretic effect that results in people losing up to a gallon of water in pounds the first week, which encourages dieters to continue.6 This type of weight loss is neither permanent nor safe. Healthy weight loss is achieved slowly, through eating the right

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types of foods––a diet that is absent of animal products. Remember, slow and steady wins the race. When we attempt to count calories, limit portions or skip meals entirely, the body thinks it has entered starvation mode. It slows

the more benefits your body will derive from phytonutrient-packed, disease-fighting superfoods. This carbohydrate-phobic society is the result of misinformation and a lack thereof. Some people know that all carbohydrates are not the same. Others they feel they are safe if they avoid them entirely. Here’s the truth about carbs: “Carbohydrate” means carbon dioxide and water, which are what plants make carbs out of. Carbon dioxide and water are all the waste product one is left with after the body uses carbohydrates as fuel. Without carbohydrates, the body enters starvation mode and its only choice is to burn fat inefficiently by using a pathway that produces toxic byproducts such as acetone and other so called ketones. This is very hard on the body, so in order to wash these toxic byproducts out of the system, the body uses a lot of water.7

Rational people go on irrational diets because they are desperate. —Michael Greger, M.D.

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the metabolism in order to sustain life in the event that there will be long periods without food. When you think you are being good by not eating much or skipping meals, you are in fact making it much harder to burn off unwanted body weight. You want to make sure that you eat enough calories (but get your calories from the right foods) so you can assure your body it is safe to burn calories. Because plant foods are low in calories and high in fiber, a person feels full long before they have consumed too many calories. If you eat the right type of foods, you will not have to place restrictions on the amount of food you eat. In fact, the more variety you eat,

There are two types of carbohydrates: simple and complex. Simple carbohydrates are from plants that have been refined and stripped of their fiber and nutrients, so they turn into “sugar” immediately and are quickly absorbed into the blood stream—at a rate that is faster than the www.aawmag.com

body can metabolize, which results in being stored in other areas. (In this case, “sugar” is not the same thing as table sugar; this sugar, or glucose, is something the body needs very much, but not at the rate at which simple carbohydrates are absorbed.) Examples of simple carbohydrates are table sugar, cookies, pastries, chips, white bread, white pasta, white rice, sodas and so on. These foods are best to limit or avoid completely. Complex carbohydrates are plants in their natural form, which retain their nutrients and fiber. When consumed, the fiber slows the process of “sugar” breakdown, so the body is getting what it needs at a rate at it can metabolize. Examples of complex carbohydrates are vegetables, fruits and grains such as: wheat pasta, wheat bread, brown rice, and so on. The right types of grains are extremely healthy and are not something that makes one gain weight; the weight comes in when people add oils (which are pure fat) and animal products, which pile on the calories. Carbohydrates themselves are not fattening. Despite their repeated condemnation in the popular press, scientific studies clearly show that carbohydrate-rich foods have virtually no effect on body weight––it’s the company they keep, such as oils, meat and dairy.8 Even if people overdo it, the calories from carbohydrates are either stored as glycogen, the high-energy molecules your muscles use for power and endurance, or are lost as body heat and are not turned into fat at all. It is no easy biochemical task to convert a piece of bread into human fat, and studies of controlled overfeeding show very little effect from even hefty amounts.9 Because calories are obtained from different sources, not all calories are metabolized in the same way. Calories from fat are much more likely to be converted into body fat, as opposed to calories coming from carbohydrates. Calories from carbohydrates require much more energy to be converted into body fat, so the body would rather use them than store them. Therefore, carbohydrates are the best friends of those who want to lose weight, as they actually increase metabolism. Some of the thinnest populations in the world, like those in rural Asia, center their entire diets www.aawmag.com

on carbs. They eat 50 percent more carbs than we do, yet have a fraction of our obesity rates.10 Complex carbohydrates are necessary for every bodily function. In fact, without them you would not have the normal fuel you need for an active life, let alone any sort of athletic endeavor.11 A helpful tool is to take your ideal body weight, multiply it by ten and the result is the minimum amount of calories you should consume every day. This is assuming you are on a low-fat, whole foods, plant-based diet. A whole foods, plant-based diet is ideal for optimal health. It is often easier to make big changes in diet and lifestyle all at once than to make small, gradual changes. First, you feel so much better so quickly that the choices become clearer and worth making. Second, your palate adjusts quickly when you make comprehensive changes in your diet so that you begin to prefer low-fat foods. Fat is an acquired taste. It’s not one of your four basic tastes, so your palate adapts even more quickly to low fat than to low salt. Although people often think that fat tastes good, it

really doesn’t. Nobody raids the Crisco jar in the middle of the night!12 Also, rice is extremely high in nutrients and can be a staple of your diet. There are several thousand different types of rice, but the typical American household is familiar with only one or two. Only when switching to a plant-based diet does one realize how limited their choices were before they eliminated animal products!

Information in this article was taken from: Breaking the Food Seduction by Neal Barnard, M.D.; 1, 8, 9, 11 Carbophobia: The Scary Truth About America’s Low-Carb Craze by Michael Greger, M.D.; 3, 5, 6, 7, 10 The China Study by T. Colin Campbell, Ph.D.; 4 Eat More, Weigh Less by Dean Ornish, M.D.; 2, 12

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All About Authors BY MAGGIE BISHOP

Schuyler Kaufman Author, Editor & Columnist Tell us about your latest published book

them to the publishers. I construct indices for A

How and why did you begin writing book

and your current writing project.

History of Biblical Interpretation. In the second

reviews?

In Dear Mouse, has-been movie idol Matt Logan finds a blackmailing starlet-wannabe in

volume, I translated the French chapter on the Catholic Counter-Reformation.

An early review of my book was just 300 words lifted from my publicity packet. The

his dressing room closet, strangled with his tie,

magazine carrying it offered me the job of

dressed for the shower scene.

reviewing books.

Why do you write about a washed-up movie

What’s your favorite part about publishing

actor?

t h e m o nt h l y High Countr y Writers Journal?

Everybody writes about stars. I know the

I can’t pick one. Writing, editing, artwork,

regular, working actor’s world. I also know the the everyday battle of a recovering alcoholic.

finagling it together – I love it all.

What’s your favorite personal story of your

What advice do you have for making the

own acting?

most of attending a writing conference?

As Tom Thumb in the Christmas Show, we

Comfortable shoes. Trust me – leave the

wore Disney-style heads – with blind spots!

stilettos at home.

My Tom Thumb costume was tight. My tap

Making friends is as important as the

shoes and the stage were slippery. At the end

shoes. People you’ve met on discussion boards,

of the show’s debut, I leapt to catch a magical

people you never heard of, famous people, etc.

thingy. Only half an inch of heel tap landed

The more friends you make, the more fun you’ll

onstage. I slipped off. I landed upright, but my

have.

pants ripped, stem-to-stern, joined by only a What do you do when you aren’t writing?

scrap! Leading the final procession through

I read a lot. I cook, not always successfully.

the audience, I felt some kid grab my pants. The last shred parted. The rest is left to readers’

Describe your writing work space and

I exercise while watching T.V. Guilty pleasures

imagination.

habits.

include soap operas, British-style crossword

My grandfather’s library table, with books

puzzles, odd magazines, children’s literature.

How did your character, Matt Logan, come

barricading three sides. Writing fiction, I create

I visit friends, and sometimes get to ride their

to you?

a scene in my head, learning what characters

horses.

One night, I couldn’t sleep. I imagined a

want and fear. I write chunks, shift them

silly fantasy, drifted off and I built on it. I wrote

around until the story happens. For articles, I

the result, which became the seed of the

take notes by hand, type them verbatim, then

hotmail.com. Purchase “Dear Mouse” at

story.

arrange those until I get the main point. The

The Jones House, Mast Store in Boone and

rest unfolds.

Todd General Store in Todd. Maggie Bishop’s

What’s involved in editing the biblical interpretation project? We edit biblical scholars’ articles, and send www.aawmag.com

Contact Schuyler at schuylerkaufman@

Editing scholarship takes time and caution.

Appalachian Adventure series of mystery and

Scholars’ writing styles are wildly diverse;

romance are available at the above locations and

publishers’ guidelines, ditto.

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Local Quilter Sews Up “Worldwide” Contest BY SHERRIE NORRIS

24 MARCH • APRIL 2010

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ust us

before

Christmas,

Lansing

The Quilt Show with Alex Anderson

re resident Joan Piercy received what

and Ricky Tims is the only quilt show

Ironically, Joan Piercy, an experienced

sh she, at first, thought was just another

series recorded live before a studio audience

seamstress/quilter and proud mother of

telemarketing call from two people posing

and can be seen exclusively on www.

three, grandmother of seven, joined the

as celebrities. Before the call ended,

TheQuiltShow.com.

show on its third day and could not be

however, Piercy had learned that her name

Featuring the quilting industry’s top

generated drawing.

happier.

had been randomly selected from a pool of

teachers and artists, “The Quilt Show”

“I still can’t believe this,” she said. As

50,000 entries as the winner of a worldwide

is filmed in Boulder, CO at Daylight

a long-time owner of a Bernina 440 sewing

contest. And, her callers were indeed well

Productions

machine, she admitted, “I’ve never had

known personalities.

premier every two weeks and are available

Her prize? A state-of-the-art Bernina 820 sewing machine valued at $7,499 provided by The Quilt Show. Additionally,

Studios.

All-new

episodes

on-demand with unlimited access during

Goodwin came to Sew Original in Boone to present Piercy with her prize and

their run. As

anything like this one before.”

the

world’s

first

full-service

was joined by the shop’s co-owner Melinda

Piercy was awarded $500 worth of thread

interactive online video/Web magazine

from Superior Threads and free quilting

created just for quilters worldwide, the show

Piercy is no stranger to Sew Original,

lessons from Sew Original in Boone.

is the first quilting series to be shot in front

a full service Bernina dealership and quilt

Rose, store patrons and local media.

With personal notification coming from

of a live audience and features instruction,

shop, which is now the closest one to her

The Quilt Show’s hosts Alex Anderson,

entertainment and insights into the lifestyles

home.

formerly of HGTV’s Simply Quilts, and

of well known quilt personalities. The ever-

“I always enjoy coming over here and

Ricky Tims, who is a quilt teacher, author,

evolving Web site offers its members a

getting the supplies I need. They are so nice

and entertainer, Piercy was in a mild state

multitude of opportunities including a daily

to me and make all of us feel welcome.”

of shock and still excited a month later

blog, forum chat rooms and the world’s

Rose admitted that she and her business

when claiming her prize in Boone.

largest online gallery that allows viewers to

partner, Shirley Bailey, try to meet the

locate quilts all over the world.

needs of all their customers. “We want it to

Making the official presentation at Sew Original was Ruth Goodwin, the show’s

Similar to paying for a magazine,

always be a place they enjoy coming to. We

marketing director, who after learning that

subscribers have immediate access to

are proud to be a part of this celebration for

Piercy’s Lansing was not in Michigan, made

the latest shows and information that is

Joan.”

the relatively short drive from her Raleigh

upgraded daily.

office to Sew Original, the closest Bernina

Rose and Goodwin say the Bernina

In the show’s early days, Anderson and

820 is top of the line and offers high-

Tim decided that when their membership

performance features for quilters as well as

It all began nearly three years ago

reached 50,000, they would give away

fashion designers, fiber artists and crafters.

when Anderson and Tims combined their

a sewing machine, with each member a

It has been described as “the only, luxury,

comprehensive skills to bring to the World

potential winner.

high-performance sewing and embroidery

dealer.

Wide Web “the richest, most diverse

According to Goodwin, during the

system in the world, offering the most

Web site for quilters ever created and

recent presentation, their goal was met in

sewing and embroidery space, unbeatable

the opportunity for them to watch a fully

mid-December and all subscribers’ names

speeds, and the most advanced ergonomics

produced Web ‘TV’ show.”

were placed in a random, computer-

of any home sewing machine.”

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Fashion and Fads With Jenny Church

Dressing for the Occasion Spring is here and with it comes wedding season. A wedding, renowned for being one of the best days in a person’s life, is also one of the most memorable. With that said, it’s natural for a bride to want everything to be perfect. A wedding is tricky because it is an event that should be timeless; however, it is easy to get sucked into trends that do not stand the test of time. For some, it’s not about the look but about the feel of the day and even how it will look 10 years later in their wedding album. Following is a guide that should prove helpful with fashion decisions that need to be made for the big day.

S omething Old, S omething New; Something Borrowed, Something Blue Blue is the “it” color for the 2010 wedding season – more specifically, cobalt. There are many ways to incorporate color schemes into wedding decor as well as attire. Made popular in 2007, color in wedding gowns is now acceptable. Whether your gown is decorated with a colored sash or embroidered with colored beadwork, color on your gown is in. It is very non-traditional and it can be simple or spunky. If color on your gown isn’t the way you want to go, then play up your color scheme through your bridesmaids’ dresses. The secret to finding the perfect wedding dress is to go with your gut. Too often girls find the right dress but feel like they found it too soon or that there may be something else out there, which usually leads to more confusion and stress. When you find a dress you love, chances are you will keep coming back to it.

Gown trends this season Florals are back. Choosing a wedding gown with a floral design is a hot choice, even if it’s just in the lace. Ruffles are making a comeback, so be watching for tasteful ways to add them to your gown. Play up your gown with color! Informal, short wedding dresses are on the rise. Dressing down for the big day is becoming quite common. 26 MARCH • APRIL 2010

Bridesmaids’ dresses From my work in a bridal store, I can offer a personal testimony that almost all brides say they want to pick a dress that their bridesmaids can wear again. However, that often leads to added stress for the bride, because she feels pressure to pick something that all her girls, every shape and size, will be happy with and can wear again. It’s a nice thought, but nearly impossible to do. They are bridesmaids’ dresses and are designed to look that way! The bride chose her attendants because they are the ones closest to her and they should honor her choices. On the other hand, if you feel bad about forcing your friends to wear what you choose, an increasingly popular solution is to let the girls choose their own dresses, but in the same color. In recent years this has become a solution to making the most of body type and style problems that many brides face. Her friends most likely don’t look the same and may prefer the dress they feel most comfortable in. As a bride, it is still okay to desire uniformity. If she chooses to allow her bridesmaids to pick their own dresses, she should still be able to set some rules. For example, if she wants all the dresses tea length, strapless, etc., then she needs to say so. Ultimately it is her day and her opinion matters most. The bride will not pick dresses for her bridesmaids that don’t look good. While the chosen dress may not be the best cut for one individually, most of the time the bride will choose something that is somewhat flattering.

What Mothers and Others Should Wear to a Wedding Mothers of the bride and groom should allow ample time for ordering their dresses and for any alterations that might be needed. Moms, keep it classy and keep in mind the bride’s color scheme. You should blend in, but not be confused with members of the bridal party. Typically, the bride enjoys helping the mothers with their selection, plus it’s a great bonding experience! Black has recently become acceptable for guests to wear to weddings, though personally, I do not agree that it’s the proper thing to do. The exception is a formal evening ceremony with dresses and skirts preferred over pantsuits. Wearing a dress is a privilege and is an expression of one’s confidence. Women in dresses get noticed, and feel pretty, too! www.aawmag.com

Your Home BY CORRINNE LOUCKS ASSAD

Spring Home Makeover It’s been an exciting winter winter, hasn’t it? Great skiing, cold and clear starry nights, cozy days snowed in at home. Some of us will be sad to see it go––then there are the rest of us! As the first signs of spring make their appearances, it’s a great time to spruce up the appearance of our home. “Simple” is among the key words for spring this year; “garden” is another. Starting with the front entrance to your home, sweep off the steps. Bring a fresh look to your front door simply by cleaning the area. Wash the door and windows or consider a fresh coat of paint––even in a different color. Hang something new on your door, like a floral wreath or a sign that expresses your 2010 motto. If your porch is large enough, add pots of colorful spring flowers. Not so large? A bistrosized table and two chairs will add a touch of glamour. Top it with a potted plant and plan to use it as a perfect spot for afternoon tea as the temperatures rise. Without spending much money, change window treatments, replacing with sheers or florals. Sheer curtains, tablecloths, bed skirts and pillows all say “spring.” Look for plain, embroidered, or printed sheer designs that complement your interiors.

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In a room with low ceilings, work with the wall color and choose vertically patterned curtains hung close to the ceiling. Your room will feel a foot taller. Try lighter throw pillows and a vase of fresh flowers. Voila, a brand new room! You’ll be amazed at how much rearranging your furniture will change the look and feel of your home. If your furniture is centered in front of the fireplace, think about ways to change the look for spring by directing it toward a view. Take advantage of an outside scene by changing the focal point from the mantel to a window or door. Change out your typical bathroom rug with something big and colorful. Move pictures, mirrors and knick-knacks. A stack of pretty coffee table books can serve as an end table. A wall mirror makes a lovely serving tray sitting on an ottoman. Lighten up. Hang two large mirrors on opposite walls or paint a ceiling a pale blue or gray to open up a room. Cover suede or corduroy sofas and replace heavy throw rugs with sisal or cotton in light, cool colors. Remove heavy knickknacks, replacing with lighter objects. Consider switching to floral or white dishes, adding plants, picture frames,

or displaying a collection of pitchers or glass. Spring’s the time to de-clutter. Get rid of unused items. Look for organizing solutions for your home. Any spot that is overcrowded or unorganized can drain your energy. It’s also the perfect time to sweep away the ashes of winter fires and start fresh. Fill your firebox with silk plants, an arrangement of candles, or an attractive display of beautiful birch logs. Or, cover the box with an attractive folding screen decoupaged with summer florals. As warmer weather moves us outside, clean off the patio. No patio? Bring the outdoors inside with garden chairs, potted plants and floral fabrics. Scrub or spray paint patio furniture and replace old cushions. Power-wash the patio/deck, remove dusty silk or fake plastic flowers and plants, and set out pots of spring flowers. Whatever you choose, it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. Shop at thrift stores for throw pillows and lighting accessories. A tired old brass chandelier can be spray painted a light color for a gorgeous addition. Let your imagination flow freely and have fun! Notice how we’ve left out spring cleaning? We’ll save that for a rainy day. MARCH • APRIL 2010 27

Jeff Knight and Steve Fortner, “angels” at Camp New Hope, have also opened Tarheel Tables, their woodworking business that’s attracting a lot of attention in Ashe County. Photos by Vicki Randolph.

Two Hardworking Angels Bring New Life To Local Camp BY VICKI RANDOLPH Camp New Hope, located on the lush banks

weekend in January, 2009 when their friend

Charlotte and the High Country did not

of the New River, is a very special retreat

Chris introduced them to the special place

allow them the time to accomplish all they

for families of children with life-threatening

where his mother, Randy Brown, was the

desired to do at the camp. At the same

illnesses. It’s also the place two close friends

director.

time, Randy decided to offer the two men a

have decided to call home in an effort to make life better for others.

They, along with several others, came

place to live in exchange for their volunteer

to offer their volunteer services on the

services. They had plans to begin a joint

Jeff Knight and Steve Fortner may

property and felt an immediate draw to the

business called Tarheel Tables, so the timing

seem to blend quietly into the background

camp and its mission. Before heading back

seemed right to bring their entrepreneurial

when you first meet them. The longer you

to Charlotte after accomplishing all they

spirit to the mountains.

are around them, the more you feel a sense

could during that first trip, they made plans

of their peaceful, giving spirits.

to return every other weekend.

The two discovered the camp one 28 MARCH • APRIL 2010

Ultimately,

the

distance

The two friends couldn’t have been happier with Randy’s offer—nor could

between

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All About Men owners gave their blessings and, along with

Why in the world would two handsome,

business expansion. Exquisite examples of

some local church volunteers, Jeff and Steve

single guys give up their own lives to live

their craftsmanship are sprinkled around

built their modest living quarters into what

at a camp in the woods? Steve has a quick

the camp, from which they gladly accept

they refer to as the “Garage Mahal.”

answer. “This place is home, for sure. The

orders.

“This camp could not have survived this year without these guys,” says Brown, who

camp has had a big impact on both our lives. It really puts things in perspective.”

As word spreads about this talented twoman team, one can only wonder if perhaps

is a full-time volunteer herself, referring to

Then the quiet pair open up and start

Randy is right. Maybe they are angels. “They

the tough economic hit the camp has taken

sharing stories about the kids who come

are great guys with huge hearts who could

this year. “I used to worry about things,” she

to CNH. That’s when they start to talk,

be doing a lot of other things, but this is the

says. “I don’t worry anymore. I don’t have

revealing their passion for the place. And

life they have chosen. I just think it is so rare

to. God sent me these two angels. Yes, they

they laugh hearty laughs about flipping a

and admirable for two young men who are

are men, but to me they are angels!”

canoe in the river, and other shenanigans

as talented as they are to dedicate their lives

that have taken place throughout the last

for such a worthy cause,” she says with love

year.

and wonder in her eyes. “Camp New Hope

Referring to them as her full-time volunteers, Brown adds, “I never have to ask them to do anything. They work for the

Tarheel Tables is their woodworking

not only has a lot of special children who

camp all day and never seem to tire. They

business, now located in Ashe County. “We

come here, we now have our own angels,

work in the freezing cold of winter and in the

do a little bit of everything,” says Jeff. “If

and their names are Jeff and Steve!”

heat of the summer, and they never take a

anyone can imagine it, we can build it.”

Just a side note to the single ladies,

day off. They never complain and they never

They build staircases, do wood flooring,

the men say that if they ever do meet “Miss

ask for money, they just do what needs to be

custom cabinetry and build beautiful furniture,

Right,” she’ll have to have a desire to live at

done, and they do it with a smile!”

the latter being their primary focus for future

the camp and volunteer, too!

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Since childhood, Jama Greene dreamed of finding h her Prince Charming and getting m married. Could that be, she wonder wonders, because of those Disney movies she grew up watching, like Cinderell Cinderella and her all-time favorite, The Princess Bride? “My dad promised me that if I waited until I finished college to get married, I could have the wedding of my dreams. I waited and he kept his word. I wanted my wedding to be personal and unique. You don’t have to follow tradition – change it up to make it your own! That’s what makes it so memorable for you and your guests.” Jama advises other brides-to-be to start planning early “and take your time. Don’t settle for something that will be just ‘okay.’ Decide what you really want and go for it! And if you can’t find it, try making it yourself or find someone to do it for you.” Jama admits it can be very stressful that way “and more work than you can imagine, but so much fun!” Planning her wedding was among the best times of her life. “Plus, I had a great time [planning it] with my mom. She was so helpful and worked very hard to make it perfect for me.” One of the most important things, she says, is to invest in the right photographer. “Yes, most are expensive, but they’re worth it. Your wedding day goes by so fast; the only thing you have left when it’s all over are your photos. We chose Sposabella Photography – an excellent choice!”

Once Upon A Time . . . Jama met Randy Maples through friends during their freshman year at Appalachian State University. “I thought he was gorgeous but went on my way, thinking nothing of it.” A couple of weeks later, the two met again on campus, discovered they had the same major and became very good friends. They began meeting for breakfast every Thursday, doing homework together, and hanging out with the same friends. “During our sophomore year, things

took a different turn. We started having the same classes together and saw each other more often. Our friendship eventually turned to romance.” Each earned degrees in applied physics; Jama’s concentration was astronomy, Randy’s was engineering.

The Proposal Randy ordered Jama’s engagement ring from his step-grandfather, a jeweler in Mississippi. “When he went to Mississippi with his family,” Jama recalls, “I suspected that he went to get my ring. Several weeks passed and no ring.” During one of Randy’s visits back to Boone, the couple returned to ASU for a stroll around campus. s“We came to the physics building, sat down in front of the Orion’ss eBelt statue to talk. Precisely at 11:11 p.m., o Randy jumps down to one knee – so fast it took me a minute to realize what he was doing. He proposed! Of course, I said yes!”

Plans Fall Into Place Fall, the couple’s favorite season, seemed the perfect time for a wedding. Having planned her wedding since she was a little girl, Jama knew that she wanted to be married in a naturally beautiful church, one that she didn’t have to make look pretty. “Unfortunately, our church was under construction, so we went church hunting. We had so much fun with my parents as we visited churches and took pictures!” Two hours from Boone, they discovered Gaither Chapel at Montreat and it was everything Jama had dreamed of – “beautiful rock walls and floors . . . I loved the timbers, and the area around it was beautiful!”

Settling For Champagne Choosing colors was another task. ”Randy liked orange, I hated it. I liked purple, Randy hated it! We settled on rose and champagne, thinking they would blend in well with typical fall colors. Little did I know how hard it would be to match everything – even getting flowers in those colors took some time.”

The Perfect Dress Dress hunting was a bit discouraging firsst, Jama adm at first, admits. ‘”They all looked th same to me – white the a ivory strapless dressand e in every shop. The es co colors were awful on me; st strapless wasn’t my style. M Mom and I searched for se several months.” A newspaper ad led the them to Pam’s Unique Bo Boutique in West Jeffers fe ferson. “Though small, it offe fe offered more variety than hug huge bridal shops and was whe where I found my perfect gow go w – a champagne blush gown colo color with straps. The co olo worked and the style color was great – modern with a vinta vintage flair.” Accessories? “Almost a night nightmare,” Jama states. “No shoes matched, no pearls worked. I finally found my shoes in a bridal magazine from Blue Tux – the exact color of my dress and the most comfortable I have ever worn!” Jewelry wasn’t an easy find “until we accidentally stumbled upon Mel’s Treasures that made the necklace I wanted in the color I needed – a perfect vintage look.” Her hairpiece from “Did Someone Say Party?” was perfect. Until a month before the wedding, Jama hadn’t planned to wear a veil, but finally decided that a birdcage veil would work, even though the color wasn’t exact. “My bridesmaid, Heather Abee, did a splendid job on my hair for my wedding day, giving me a vintage-looking hairstyle that worked well with my veil.” Continued On Next Page MARCH • APRIL 2010

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For The Bridesmaids Jama wanted her five bridesmaids to wear tea-length dresses and had originally chosen a champagne hue. “Because the color was so close to my dress, I decided black would be classier. Everyone looks good in black! I found the dresses at Dillards and knew it was the look I wanted. Wanda Nickel made their sashes, just a simple champagne ribbon that helped coordinate the colors. My flower girl wore an ivory dress from Belk.”

It’s All About The Blooms

It’s A Celebration! Jama did not want to walk down the aisle to Canon D. “I wanted something different so I chose a beautiful piano piece from the movie Cold Mountain.” The mothers were seated to Moon River – her mom’s favorite, growing up. Dancing down the aisle after the ceremony was a last minute decision – one of which most of the wedding party was not excited about at first. Jama had seen it done on YouTube videos and thought, “Hey, why not? It’s a celebration!” It’s not the norm, for sure, she admits, “but actually it’s the one thing that everyone has talked about – especially my brother’s dancing!” For the reception, she wanted classy music - love songs that spanned several eras, especially her favorite big band music. “I surprised Randy by having sung and recorded the song, with the help of our good friend John Cockman, for our first dance. I was really nervous about it, but Randy always said he loves when I sing to him. I don’t ever sing in front of people and it was really hard for me to do.”

Sweet, Simple And Sacred Randy and Jama agreed to make the ceremony sweet and simple with the inclusion of communion. “We wanted to make sure that God was constantly at the center of our wedding as He is in our lives and our relationship. My dad, a gifted craftsman, made our communion cup, very precious to us and exactly what we wanted. After communion, Randy prayed for us, which was probably the most precious moment of my wedding. Having your husband pray for you and your relationship is so awesome.” 32 MARCH • APRIL 2010

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Jama wanted everyone to feel like they were stepping into a fairy tale so she chose mostly roses and hydrangeas – delicate and feminine. “My mother designed and arranged almost all of the flowers – from dried hydrangea wreaths to the table arrangements and my bridesmaids’ pomanders!” She wanted a mixture of silk, dried, and real flowers, the latter (her bouquet, the corsages and boutonnieres), coming from Bouquet Florist. “They did an excellent job. I loved my bouquet to which we attached an antique locket holding a picture of my parents on their wedding day. Now, the locket, which I wear as a necklace, contains an additional picture – of Randy and me on our wedding day.”

A Promise Kept Jama wanted a special moment with her dad before he gave her away. “Pastor Scott helped me plan that part, which we called ‘A Promise Kept.’ On my 16th birthday, my father gave me a promise ring to signify a vow that I made to him, to myself, and God, that I would remain pure until I got married. On my wedding day, I gave the ring back to my dad.”

Sweet Confections We had fun choosing the cake from City Bakery in Asheville; they did a great job. I love cakes with flowing fondant flowers! I also wanted a wooden cake tray to hold the cake and had someone from Boone make one. My dad carved a big wooden M for Maples as our cake topper that’s very special to us.”

Happily Ever After After the reception, the newlyweds departed for their western Caribbean cruise, which included stops at the Grand Cayman Islands and Cozumel for snorkeling and touring the Mayan Ruins. “Randy reserved us the penthouse suite on the ship with its own private balcony. After the cruise, Randy took me to Charleston, SC, where I’d always wanted to visit. This part of our honeymoon – his gift to me – was a surprise; he told me about it after our ceremony. We visited the museums and took the carriage ride down Battery Street to see all the historic houses. It was a wonderful honeymoon and a great start to living happily ever after.” Mr. and Mrs. Randy Maples are now residing in Asheville. Randy is employed at Eaton Corporation; Jama is planning to continue her education in the fall. www.aawmag.com

Mother Of The Bride Does It Right

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Few people are more involved in planning a wedding than the bride––and her mother. While we’ve all heard the horror stories about the MOB (mother of the bride) trying to make her daughter’s wedding the one she never had and making everyone miserable in the meantime, Teresa Greene sheds a totally different light on how a mother is supposed to act. Her daughter, Jama (our “cover girl”), even talks about the positive experience it was for them and how much fun they had together planning the perfect wedding. Teresa, who married her own knight in shining armor 34 years ago, wanted her daughter’s fairy tale wedding to become a reality. She did it for all the right reasons–– for her daughter. “We began planning 12 months before the wedding and despite what others might have thought, not a day too soon,” Teresa reflects. “It was a special time for all of us, especially for Jama and me. As we began to see the big picture, the excitement mounted!” It all paid off, she said. “When the yone wedding day came, everyone was happy.” resa Jama and Teresa agree that an early start is ing imperative. “Your wedding might not be the only one on en the calendar for your chosen ng date so consider booking your venue early, as well as r, the photographer, caterer, g musicians, florist, wedding planner, etc. It can make alll the difference in the world and can alleviate a lot of ddi unique. i stress.” The details make a wedding Teresa emphasizes. “It’s all about what the bride wants.” Important also are frequent meetings with the florist, photographer, caterer, etc. “Request to see samples of your wedding flowers ahead of time to make sure the color is right. Communicate clearly about specific photos you want. Remember that your photos will tell your story for generations to come. Taste food prepared by your choice www.aawmag.com

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Teresa was there all the way for her daughter, Jama. of caterer before you sign the deal. Taste the cake, too. Be specific about what you want and don’t settle for less.” After all was said and done, the bridal luncheon remains among Teresa’s favorite memories. Attired as southern belles, complete with w hats and all that’s feminine, th the bride and her attendants w were treated like royalty at Chelsie’s Tea Room in As Asheville’s Biltmore Village, gre greeted with mimosas and served delectable food foll followed by freshly-made, mou mouth-watering desserts on tabl tables covered with starched linen linens and live flowers. Jama surp surprised her mother with a Pand Pandora bracelet featuring a teacu teacup charm. H Having Jama as a d a u g h t e r made it all so easy, her mother says. “She has always shown the utmost respect to everyone, including us, always following through on her promises and honoring her commitments. Her father and I were honored to do what we could to make her wedding the one of her dreams.” Mother and daughter stayed so busy planning that Teresa, especially, did not have much time to consider the life-changing significance of it all. “The last hours and

minutes can be a bit overwhelming. I had to stay focused as best I could; I did not want to forget anything. Adrenaline kept me going until everything was perfect down to the last detail.” As she was being seated, Teresa recalls looking around one last time, hoping that everything was just how she and Jama had imagined. “I glanced up the long stone staircase and saw Jama as she patiently waited for her father to take his place by her side. She wasn’t a little girl anymore. Gone were the glasses, the ponytail and the braces. I saw a beautiful graceful, young woman in love. She had found her Prince Charming. With tears in my eyes, I blew Jama a kiss and told her ‘I love you, you’re beautiful.’ My heart was full. It was time for a wonderful chapter in our lives to come to a close and a new one to begin.” Teresa admits that the days following the ceremony were even more emotional for her than the ones leading to it. “My youngest daughter was taking a new direction in life and wouldn’t need me as much as before. I experienced a complicated mix of emotions––everything from loneliness, grief and loss, to joy, pride and satisfaction. After the reception, when the bride and groom prepared to leave, I really just wanted to hold her and never let go.” MARCH • APRIL 2010 33

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Bloom Where You’re Planted BY SHERRY BOONE

Easter Memories To Warm My Soul Good memories can be recalled at just the right time and are important, especially when a comforting lift is needed. Since December, many of us in the High Country have been under more stress than usual, mostly because of the unusually difficult winter weather we’ve experienced and others, too, because of serious illness affecting our family members and close friends. This is true for me and fortunately, one of those special memories has risen to the surface to boost my spirits. In April, 1989, I was on vacation in Great Britain with my husband, Sam, and our son and daughter-in-law. It was a pleasure, as well as a blessing, to be able to visit the beautiful cathedrals in the Easter season. But, I kept thinking, I’d miss Easter with other family members back home and would not be able to hide and hunt eggs with my granddaughter. We were in Chester, England, the day before Easter and we headed out for Carlise in wind and rain. We arrived late that night at the Bed and Breakfast Inn where we planned to stay. We could see nothing except the porch light and the innkeepers waiting to greet us. We drank hot tea and answered many questions about our life in America before going to bed. We were awakened the next morning by the sound of the wind and expected to see more heavy rains as on the night before. What a wonderful surprise awaited me as I opened the heavy drapes! The sky was Carolina blue with not a single cloud. Glorious flowers were blooming everywhere as far as I could see! This was Easter blessing number one! The aroma of breakfast drifted upstairs and music played as we dressed for the day. Blessing number two came as I stopped on the stairs and listened carefully as the hymn, “Joyful, Joyful, We Adore Thee,” wafted through the stairwell. I could not help but shed tears! That is one of my favorite hymns. I could not www.aawmag.com

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A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Wedding B Y R E V. M A R C I A M . C H A M The Pastor Goofs. After the benediction I announced, “It gives me great pleasure to present to you, Barbara and Bob, the newly married....” The organ blasted out triumphal music. The mother of the bride stood and waved frantically. “Marcia, you forgot the rings.” Technology to the Rescue. The best man forgot the reading, Rumi’s “A Moment of Happiness,” that the bride had specifically wanted him to read. I thought we could make a substitute. Not to be. The bride waited in the limousine while the best man ran to the parsonage. My husband fired up his computer. They searched for the reading. Printed it out. He returned and tapped on the window of the limousine. He mouthed to the bride that he had the reading. I signaled to the organist that all was ready. We began, only twenty minutes late, but with a relieved bride. Candelabras. My sister added two extra sets of candelabras to create a more intimate scene for my niece’s wedding. The groomsmen carried lighters to the front and began their task of lighting the twenty-seven candles on each side of the altar. They completed the right side and moved to the left as a breeze extinguished the candles on the right. They completed the left and moved to the right – oops, again the breeze. The pews rocked with stifled laughter. Immediately we whispered to each other, “Dad’s extinguishing the candles.” Dad had died eleven months earlier. We believed his spirit had shown up to create a moment of laughter to release the tension of the wedding – the first big family event since his death.

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A Break from Tradition. The priest, Bobby, and I shared the preparation for the marriage of his niece and a young man from my church. I arrived at the Catholic Church early, as we’d decided. Guests arrived. The organ played. No priest. The deacon prepared the bread and wine for the Eucharist. Bobby called. “Flat tire. Marcia, set up the altar.” “A Protestant carrying the Eucharist. Am I allowed?” “We’ll know if a bolt of lightening strikes.” I carried the elements to the altar. The whispering among the guests halted as I placed them. I looked up. Questions, skepticism and curiosity showed on their face. Bobby arrived, adjusted his robe as he flew to the altar and held me in a big hug. Then in a voice all could hear, he said, “This is how it should be. After all, we are all Christians, aren’t we?” Smiles and nods spread throughout the room, the guests relieved, and the procession began. You can find more about Marcia M. Cham by going to www.marciamcham. com www.aawmag.com

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ne night while I was fixing dinner, Roger announced he wanted to get me an engagement ring for Christmas. I tried to continue with the task at hand while I worked through various emotional states – suspicion, disbelief, joy and giddy excitement. I casually asked, “Would you like me to help pick it out?” Roger eagerly nodded his head up and down, signaling that he indeed would appreciate any help I was willing to provide. The next day, he began sending me links to Web sites specializing in diamond rings. I examined the wares carefully. About three things I was sure: I was drawn to princess-cut stones, I did not want a diamond so large it appeared as if I had trouble raising my hand from the weight, and I wanted something uniquely me. About everything else, I was uncertain. Many of the rings were dazzling, but the classifications were confusing and I was slightly afraid of ordering a ring sight unseen. Was it good or bad that a diamond was classified as a .40 carat, good cut, G, SI1? And, should a diamond be certified or not? I realized very quickly that I needed to learn a new language. I had never given much thought to diamonds as I have always considered myself a “pearl girl.” I was aware of the “4 C’s” – carat, cut, color and clarity – but only as far as I could have correctly answered a trivia question asking me to name them. In practice, I doubt that I would have been able to pick out the diamond if one had been placed side by side with cubic zirconium. It was time to get educated! I began reading the online instructional materials, pouring over descriptions of the color and

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clarity grades. I studied the grading scales, memorizing the different designations. I researched the two organizations that certify diamonds and considered the pros and cons. The more I learned, the more excited I became about finding the perfect ring. After several weeks of cramming my head with diamond jargon, I felt it was time to test my newly acquired knowledge – I was ready to visit jewelry stores. I began locally, stopping in at Saslow’s and The Stone. The staff at both stores humored me as I asked endless questions and tried on numerous rings. These first reconnoiters were helpful but frustrating. I had envisioned entering the first store and finding the one. I was disappointed. Roger suggested that we plan a trip to Greensboro to visit Jared. I teased that he had been brainwashed by television commercials. In all, Roger and I visited eight or nine jewelry stores. I rejected most of the wares based on price alone. At some stores, I felt too

pressured by the sales people. At others, I did not receive enough attention. And, at more still, the rings were too ordinary. Roger was very patient throughout our shopping trip, but he was probably concerned that I would not be able to make a selection. Finally, we went to Jared, the store Roger had wanted to visit to begin with, and I found it – the ring I wanted to wear forever. Roger gave me the ring on Christmas Day. Now, more than two months later, I still catch myself gazing at it in amazement. The ring meets my three requirements. It is a princesscut stone, it is the perfect size for my hand, and it is uniquely me. And, what about my diamond’s “4 C’s?” I honestly have no idea. We have the paperwork if I ever need to know, but I’m not sure it really matters. In the end, I discovered that the various grades and classifications mean little if you do not love the ring and are not excited to wear it and show it off. Yes, I learned the language of diamonds, but made a decision based on the language of love. MARCH • APRIL 2010 37

Local Nurse Hikes The Appalachian Trail, Runs The Disney World Marathon at

BY CORRINNE LOUCKS ASSAD

hen one hikes the entire Appalachian Trail– all 2,175 miles from Georgia to Maine––he or she earns a trail name from fellow hikers along the way. Sailman lives on a sailboat

when not hiking, a karaoke singer who became a hiker is known as Wedding Singer, Exhibitionist hikes without a shirt, Seaweed eats nori and brown rice for dinner. The list goes on, but none has the ring of triumph like Gloria Marquez who became known as Walk In Glory during her trek north. Years of deep thought, months of planning, and countless hiking excursions went into Gloria’s preparation for the big hike and the mountains that stretched ahead of her. Inspired by Sailman to hike the Appalachian Trail, Gloria purchased some needed equipment and jumped on the trail for trial runs. Having no idea how much of her it would actually require, she said just before embarking for the real thing, “This definitely is a bigger project than I envisioned, maybe I was misled.” After many days of stressing, scurrying, packing to get ready, and some 17 packed boxes to be mailed to 17 locations along the way, she realized, “This is a big deal!” Traditionally, only 10 to 15 percent of hikers who start the trail actually finish. As of 2007, the recorded number of hikers who actually completed the trail was only 9,583, and among them was Walk In Glory! Add to her success that she celebrated her 60th birthday on the trail at a hostel in Harper’s Ferry, WV and her story becomes even more impressive. Gloria’s seven siblings came in to celebrate from various parts A young-at-heart Gloria

of the country – California, Oregon, Boston, New York, etc., as

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well as her kids from Florida and San Diego. After Gloria’s having

Glory at 67, finishes the

lived in the woods for three months with bear, moose, bikers and

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a harsh case of Lyme’s disease, this must have been quite the

in Orlando, Florida.

party! On www.TrailJournals.com on the last day of her hike, Gloria wrote, “10/11/02 Hooray! Yippee! Yahoo! I am done, finished,

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Gloria Marquez while hiking the entire Appalachian Trail from Georgia to Maine. caput, through, fini, complete, ended... Katahdin Peak 5.2 mi. - 10.4 mi. round trip. My legs are wobbling and my feet are throbbing. It feels really good...more later. Peace.” An inspiration to her family and friends, Gloria wasn’t kidding when she said “more later.” In December of 2008, her son said he wanted to do something radical and chose to run a marathon. That’s all it took. In January of 2009, Gloria signed them both up for the Disney World Marathon to be run a year later. Hiking at least two to three strenuous hikes per week on her own–– and with the local Chargers and Re-Chargers groups–– Gloria added running to her regime, and ran her first race at the 29th Annual Turkey Trot on November 11, 2009 in Southern Pines. At age 67, running her very first race, Gloria came in third for women in her age group! At the time, the 13.1-mile race was the farthest Gloria had ever run at one time. Not so today, as she doubled her own record when finishing the Disney World Marathon this past January! Gloria is an inspirational friend, mom, sister, aunt, new grandmother, nurse, etc., and all who know her agree that she is not only a go-getter, but also a kind, generous, loving influence in their lives. With a personal motto of “What I decide on will be done,” Walk In Glory (now Run In Glory!) is a shining light to everyone she touches. www.aawmag.com

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All About Beauty by Kelly It’s that time of year again – love is in the air and those who have found that special someone have a certain glow that’s easy to detect. As spring makes its way into the High Country, there surely are those among our readers who are making plants for their wedding day. For that day, which should be the most special of all days in a woman’s life – and all the events leading up to it and beyond it – she needs to be prepared in more ways than one. Every bride-to-be should take advantage of the opportunity to feel like a queen and be treated just the same. Nothing beats specialized spa treatments for the bride and her attendants, such as massages, manicures, pedicures, deep cleansing facials and body scrubs – all in a comforting, soothing environment. A day of group pampering proves to be a great bonding experience. The shared time at the salon helps ease any last-minute jitters. It is usually a fun, relaxing experience and one more memory-maker for the bride and her closest gal-pals. Each attendant will appear radiant with an extra boost of confidence as she accompanies the lovely and refreshed bride down the aisle. As winter weather has taken its toll on the area, chances are it has affected our skin as well, especially our hands and feet. Keeping them well moisturized is vital, as is the overall maintenance of our entire bodies. Keep in mind, brides, that much attention will be given to your hands – and especially your ring finger. And, as you step into your classy wedding pumps, make sure that your feet and toes are show-ready. For your honeymoon, hopefully you will be escaping to a resort where, chances are, your spa indulgences will continue. Popular trends in spas and resorts today are the couple’s packages for massages and various treatments. Enjoy the magical time as you begin your future together. Make every moment count while relaxing and connecting, celebrating life and love with your new spouse.

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Heartfelt BY TERI WIGGANS

WomanQuest – A Vision Quest

What is a quest, anyway? Webster defines it as “a seeking or a journey in search of adventure.” WomanQuest, an introductory vision quest for women, being offered locally June 2-6, provides a unique opportunity for women from diverse backgrounds to seek clarity in moving through life transitions with ease and grace, creating new possibilities, healing wounds and relationships and unveiling one’s life purpose. It is a five-day, four-night introduction to the ancient tradition of vision questing. Guidance is given through ceremony and education that prepares the quester for a 24hour solo journey on the beautiful land of Turtle Island Preserve, right near Boone. I was a participant in WomanQuest for the first time last year. It was a life-altering experience that created for me a new and deeper confidence. What I learned was that nature, whether it is trees, streams, mountains or flowers, reflects my thoughts and emotions at any given moment. When I am seeking an answer about my life, I simply listen, and nature provides it. When I was a teenager, I had periods of sadness. I thought that my mother preferred for me to be happy all the time so it was difficult to be okay with feeling sad in front of her. I rode my bicycle to a nearby stream and received solace. Then I would hop back on my bike and feel like a new person. I have spent many years away from receiving solace from nature. Experiencing the WomanQuest was a dream fulfilled. I had always wanted to participate in a vision quest and thought I had to go west to do so. I found that one can go anywhere, hold the intention of seeking to find, and succeed in expanding and blossoming. The other participants were phenomenal. Anne Harrington from Kentucky shares, “While it felt a bit scary to try because I had no camping experience, which did not matter, my WomanQuest was absolutely remarkable! The atmosphere the leaders created was so welcoming and deep that sharing within our group was gentle and easy.” Amelia Fan from West Jefferson states, “It is truly a challenge to find words to describe the positive impact WomanQuest has had on my life. I am not the same woman I was before I participated. I have more confidence and feel more comfortable inside my own skin. The support and encouragement I received from this circle of women has helped me face and overcome some of the darkest and most challenging times of my life. I continue to feel nurtured by my Quest experiences.” Pam Noble, featured in the most recent All About Women magazine, and wilderness guide Judy Flavell are the co-leaders of the Quest. Both are committed to supporting women in discovering their own wisdom through connection with nature. I am honored to be part of Base Camp this year, helping to prepare delicious meals for everyone. For more information or to register, please contact Pam Noble by e-mail: info@ womanquest.net or by phone: 828-264-2954. Teri Wiggans, RN/FNP, supports people in their healing process at the Heartfelt Healing Center. Contact information: Ph: 828-264-4443 or www.heartfelthealingcenter.com. 42 MARCH • APRIL 2010

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Local “Celebrities” Will Serve It Up Top 10 For The Kids Prom

South’s Recognized As One of

While the term “celebrity” might be used loosely, it works, says a spokesperson for the 5th Annual Celebrity Serve, which will take place on Tuesday, April 20 in Watauga County.

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A successful fundraiser partnering with local eateries and well known “personalities” that began as a way to help Watauga County Hospice, the event has garnered more than $100,000 since its inception. Organizations including Hospice, Make a Wish Foundation, High Country Soccer and the Hospitality House have been on the winning end of the proceeds. Even before last year’s successful event was over, the Celebrity Serve board began accepting

Young women heading out to select this year’s perfect prom dress will need to check out South’s in the Boone Mall, which has been recognized by the Top 10 Prom organization as one of the best stores in the country for prom 2010. Denise Knapp, president of the Top 10 Prom organization was pleased to make the announcement and to present the 2010 recognition to J.B. and Lou Ella South, owners of South’s Specialty Clothiers. “Prom styles this year are some of the most exciting we have seen in several years.” said Lou Ella South. “Colorful prints and high-level styling will provide a very wide selection.” Each year having that special dress becomes more important. Buying local helps make sure of this because South’s registers each dress it sells to avoid selling the same dress to the same school. For this reason, many young women start shopping early to get that perfect dress first. South’s is located at Boone Mall and is open during prom season 10-9 p.m. Monday-Saturday; Sunday 1-5 p.m. For more information, visit South’s, call (828) 264-8977, or go online to www.southsclothiers.com www.aawmag.com

requests from area nonprofit agencies for consideration as the 2010 beneficiary. “It was not an easy decision to make because we had several well-deserving groups that could certainly make good use of the money,” says Jack Pepper, chair of the CS board, “But we chose Watauga County Education Foundation as recipient of this year’s proceeds, knowing that many students will benefit from the money we raise.” Pepper, his wife Lisa and fellow community advocates Tim Baxter, Gwen Dingh, Mary Hall, and Sherrie Norris established Celebrity Serve as a way to help the local Hospice agency after its annual telethon was discontinued. “The success of our first attempt was astounding,” says Hall, “so we decided the next year to spread the funds throughout the community as a way to help others.” Watauga Education Foundation could not be happier that their turn has arrived, says executive director, Melanie Bullard. “We are honored to be chosen the beneficiary – really, it is the children and students of Watauga County who will be the ultimate winners. “We are hopeful that every community member who’s ever benefited from Watauga County Public Schools will come out on April 20 and show their support for education. This is an incredible opportunity to partner with local restaurateurs and make a Tuesday anything but typical. It can be a day that Watauga County raises enough money to put books in the hands of its pre-school children and the world in the hands of its WCS students.

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Milli’s repetitive wo words at the image looking back at him is quite entertaining to anyone w who might observe the interaction. Milli is a parakeet with high self-estee self-esteem, bird thought to be a “she” when the lovely b Austin. joined the family of Dave and Perri Aust Perri soon realized that Milli was a male. Milli delights young and old alike aand seems very content in his own compnay. H His host family decided to get Milli a parak parakeet companion. Now Milli shares a spacious abode with h Dixie, who has talent all her own and has skills to crow about, like opening their cage door. The family is never surprised when a bird suddenly lands upon one’s head or shoulders. To visitors, it’s startling and delightful. When Perri is home for long durations, she wears designated scarves that are “parakeet safe,” should Milli surprise her with more than his delicate self upon her head. Milli has a variety of words, phrases, and sound effects, such as, “Just another day in paradise!” and “Milli is a pretty bird!” Then, he will swing his head back and forth and make this gurgling sound. Perri states that it is “the sound of water.” Watching Milli bathe is a show. The sound he makes is identical to that of water falling from faucet to sink. Perri will place a small bird bowl into the sink, turn on the water on so that a gentle stream flows through it and lands in the bowl. Milli happily hops down from her hand, lands on the edge of the bowl and begins a ritual bathing routine. He puts his head directly into the stream

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of water and lets water soak his head for a couple of seconds. Then, he shakes back and forth and spreads one wing at a time as he slips them slowly through the stream of water. He dips his belly into the bowl and when he feels refreshed and clean, he simply shakes and flies away. Milli is an unusually talented and animated parakeet. Milli flies back to the cage where Dixie seems content to remain. Once he returns, he chirps and coos with Dixie. They make a beautiful pair. Perhaps the most entertaining time for observers of Milli and, it seems, for Milli, too, is when he spends time flirting and chatting and dancing up a storm – with none other than himself. While gazing into the mirror, he repeats again and again, “Milli is a pretty bird! Milli is a pretty bird!” It’s so much fun to see the unabashed enthusiasm that Milli has for, well, Milli, something he could do for hours, Perri says. But life goes on and birds gotta fly. We all know it’s “just another day in paradise” if we take the time to notice it.

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Mom’s World B Y H E AT H E R J O R D A N , C N M , M S N

FOREVER LOVING They didn’t have you where I come from Never knew the best was yet to come Life began when I saw your face And I hear your laugh like a serenade As you wander through this troubled world In search of all things beautiful You can close your eyes and you’re miles away And hear my voice like a serenade How long do you want to be loved? Is forever enough, is forever enough? How long do you want to be loved? Is forever enough cause I’m never, never giving you up -- Excerpted from “Lullaby” by The Dixie Chicks When my husband and I were first married, friends from college made us a book filled with quotes of inspiration regarding both friendship and relationships. Along with other friends, they recapped a variety of stories about when they first met us – individually and when we became a couple. When I read this, I can’t help but think about how completely different life is together twenty-some years later, not just because of being older, having three kids, and a busy life, but because of how we have grown as a couple. Through time and turmoil, love and grace, we have moved beyond the college recollections of crazy party moments and built a relationship that is grounded in knowing each other in all our weaknesses and strengths. My Gramma Bates used to say that marriage takes 110 percent to work. She and my grandfather were married nearly 60 years, and I have fond memories of them sharing sweet kisses and dances around the kitchen until my grandmother’s passing. He continues to call her the “love of my life.” I remember how I felt when I first met my husband. Completely head over heels, as if a few hours apart were incomprehensible and that, despite my focus on school, there were few other priorities in my life than our relationship. We had other good friends, but we were inseparable. We enjoyed good music together, long conversations, and the outdoors, and he was there at the onset of my discovery of my passion for midwifery. Marrying a midwife is certainly not an easy reality, but he has stuck with me as I have pursued a career that necessarily means long hours away, sleep deprivation, and sometimes extended hours with children moving into and out of phases pushing parental buttons. Like any couple, we have our stress, but we work very hard to communicate and work through. 46 MARCH • APRIL 2010

It strikes me that as you move through a long relationship with someone, you become increasingly aware of who that person is, how they think, when to give them (or yourself) space, and when to move in closer. Sometimes I think the hardest thing to do is back off, even when there is a driving force inside to fix a conversation or situation or when your own stubbornness makes you want to dig into your position. In the same way that we pick our battles with our kids, oftentimes it seems necessary to do the same with our spouses. Time is a blessing and a curse, in that the perspective we gain from encountering similar conflicts can either propel us forward with insight or hold us back with resentment. And yet, if we keep in mind what each of us wants – to love and be loved, to speak and be heard, to reach out and have someone be there waiting to pull us up – then we hopefully will continue to move forward toward forever loving. But, as my grandmother said, it does take 110 percent! If you have comments or questions about this article, please feel free to contact Heather Jordan, Certified Nurse-Midwife, at the office of Charles E. Baker, MD at 828-737-7711 x253 or e-mail her at landh@localnet.com. www.aawmag.com

High Country Courtesies BY SHARON CARLTON

INTERNET DATING

Etiquette and Guideline The era of social media has arrived. New technologies are rapidly bringing a fundamental shift in the way we communicate, interact, and live. The Internet has been embraced as a route for people to meet and build relationships with other people who live around the block, as well as those who live around the world. A popular online relationship service, eHarmony.com, now boasts 20 million registered members with 10,000 to 15,000 new members daily. One of every eight couples that married last year met online. Meeting people online offers many advantages: a larger pool of people than one might meet at work, through friends or social circles; a less stressful arena to initiate conversation (especially for those who are shy); privacy and safety; and control over the pace at which a relationship proceeds. This new platform also offers new challenges – among them, deciphering “the rules.” As in all relationship situations, treating others with kindness and respect is of utmost concern; how we do so reflects on our personal character and integrity. Following are some etiquette tips and guidelines to assist you in the world of cyber-dating. • Register with sites that are geared towards your interests, vision or goals. Research several top sites to determine which may offer an approach for profiles and questions that appeals to you. • When setting up your profile, be honest about yourself. Resist embellishing or exaggerating details; truthfully share your age, what you look like, your interests, talents, dreams, likes and dislikes, successes and failures. Use a current, flattering, clear photo of yourself. • Respond in a timely manner (3 – 4 days maximum) to all inquiries. Always be courteous, positive and upbeat in your e-mails. www.aawmag.com

• Comment on what you liked about someone’s profile and e-mails. Should you receive more e-mails than you can handle quickly, freeze your account until you can reply. Write e-mails to get to know others; ask light questions to determine if you share enough common interests to pursue a relationship. Until you are engaged in a serious dating relationship, it is appropriate to correspond with more than one person at a time.

“Nearly one in four single Americans who are looking for a romantic partner – or about 16 million people – use the 1,000 or more dating Web sites out there. That includes almost one in ﬁve Americans in their 20s, and one in ten in their 30s and 40s.” – Mark Penn in his book Microtrends.

• When you are no longer interested in conversing with someone, tell him or her directly and politely. Briefly express appreciation for the opportunity to get to know the person, stating that you feel that you are not compatible and wishing him or her good luck. • Expect fewer responses than you send out (perhaps one for every three to five). When someone does not respond, or stops answering your e-mails, do not take it as a personal rejection; he or she simply does not feel you are their match. It is time to move on. • If you feel at all uncomfortable with someone’s e-mail, don’t hesitate to cease contact with him or her. You may ignore the e-mail, block it or delete it. Should you ever receive any photos or e-mail language that you find disturbing or abusive, report it to the Web site to assist them in keeping their site clean. All

of your personal details should be kept private! Do not release your last name, address, place of employment or personal e-mail address. Phone numbers should be exchanged only after several successful “online dates,” when you are ready to move to telephone conversations. • Proceed slowly and cautiously. Before setting up a meeting/date, ask for a second photo and his/her last name. A Google search may or may not be productive, but is worth trying. Pay attention to any inconsistencies in someone’s stories. Get to know each other before your first meeting. • A first meeting should take place in the daytime in a public place (not a regular location for you). Arrive by your own transportation with a cell phone. Arrange for a friend to have the details of your meeting (date’s name, phone number, place and time of meeting) and to call you during the meeting time. Stay sharp; refrain from drinking alcohol. Leave by your own transportation. Online dating is not a fad. Seventeen percent of online daters have turned online dates into long-term relationships or marriages. For those who are transient, too busy or shy to socialize, or who live in isolated communities, Internet dating offers a new, exciting alternative for meeting potential partners. Proceed with caution, patience, honesty and courtesy knowing that any good relationship takes time. Sharon Carlton, High Country Courtesies ©2010 Sharon Carlton conducts High Country Courtesies customer service workshops and is Director of High Country Cotillion, a social education program for youth. She writes and speaks on modern etiquette and life skill topics. Contact her at sacarlton@skybest.com.

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Minding Her Own Business From the moment he asks to the moment you say, “I do,” Elizabeth Ashley is there to make sure that each memory is not only perfect, but unforgettable. As one of the most sought after wedding planners in the High Country, Elizabeth and her team of wedding professionals have been responsible for many detailed events and unique weddings. Her career in the wedding industry began by working in a bridal boutique where she gained much knowledge and experience toward fulfilling her dream of becoming a wedding planner. As a young girl, she was known for her sketches of formal wedding gowns. As she grew older, she discovered her passion and talent for weddings and planning events. Elizabeth’s experience at a local bridal shop as the senior bridal consultant enabled her to grasp the importance of accommodating brides and their families. Learning the business from some of the best in the industry, Elizabeth took those valuable lessons and created a business that combined all of her talents into one. Events by Elizabeth Ashley was established with the realization that the area needed a professional who was willing to go to great lengths. “Someone,” Elizabeth states, “who not only would get the job done, but who understood the clientele.” As her past work has taken her to locales all over the map, Elizabeth is able to offer the High Country a taste of various styles and trends not always found locally. In addition to exciting spots up and down to the east coast, she has also worked with clients from around the world. “E-mails to China, conference calls to England and France – there’s never a dull moment,” Elizabeth says. “Even when I’m on vacation, I’m thinking of my clients and looking for fresh new ideas to benefit their special day.” For a bride and groom, the ever-changing wedding industry can be overwhelming, Elizabeth acknowledges. Understanding the pressure this can create for a bride, especially, it’s just one more reason she works closely with each client individually to incorporate personal touches and allow the decision-making process to be fun. Elizabeth’s experience in the industry helped form relationships with an extensive list of highly regarded vendors and rental companies to make every element flawless and memorable. Her work has been distributed across the nation in many bridal publications. For two years in a row, her business held the bridal choice award on weddingwire.com. Elizabeth’s passion for making people happy shows in everything she does. Her personality is magnetic, exuding a sense of stability and comfort. She believes that every person attending an event should walk away saying it was the best (wedding, party, etc.) ever. She and her team do everything they can to make that a reality. Because Elizabeth works as a full-time wedding and event specialist, she is able to provide specialized services that involve meeting the demands of her clients. As a native to the area, Elizabeth knows the importance of supporting local business and keeps this thought in mind with every event. She also tries to be as “green” and eco-friendly as possible. Whether it’s a sunset wedding on the beach, an elaborate evening candlelit wedding in the mountains, or a crisp fall afternoon ceremony under the apple trees, Elizabeth can help visions become reality. Her expertise does not stop with just weddings, but also includes destination weddings and other special events such as equestrian shows, fundraisers, golf tournaments, in-home wine tastings, tea socials, luncheons, baby showers and much more. Elizabeth is quick to admit that her success would not be possible without the support of local vendors, her family and friends. “It takes a team to orchestrate a lovely wedding. The credit can never go to just one person.” When Elizabeth is not working, she loves spending time playing with the children of her best friend, hiking a trail or playing golf. She has a zest for life that drives her creativity, both personally and professionally. Even on the job, Elizabeth’s sense of humor is evident. She makes every effort to make her work feel fun. “I often have to remind myself that I’m working. It’s a wonderful place to be.” For more information, visit her Web site at www.eventsbyelizabethashley.com.

Facing Page: The many facets of Elizabeth Ashley – always at your service. www.aawmag.com

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Diversity Celebration ppalachian State University will bring the world to Boone on ppal

March 23 for its 9th Annual Diversity Celebration. Ma

Dr. Spier-Bergstedt says her participation in the celebration is a natural extension of her professional position, which she sees as helping

Beginning at 3:00 p.m., the Plemmons Student Union

to create, promote and structure intercultural learning opportunities

w will go global as the community gets an up close and

both on the university campus and in the local community. The Diversity

personal look at various cultures from around the world.

Celebration brings these two populations/communities together in a

The Diversity Celebration encourages students and

synergistic way, integrating the

university employees to celebrate and become more aware

arts to celebrate world cultures on

of a wide variety of cultures, says an event spokesperson. “The

a variety of levels.

celebration allows people to celebrate their differences and

Dr. Spier-Bergstedt describes

become united in common interests.”

her

This year’s Diversity Celebration will include visual performances,

storytelling,

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position

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International Outreach at ASU,

instrumental

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performances representing numerous cultures from around

a larger comprehensive Office

the world, as well as related interactive activities and

of International Education and

refreshments.

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Susan King and Tracey Wright are returning as co-chairs

resources for learning and teaching

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about world cultures and develops

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and

of departments.

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states, is Dr. Sarah Spier-Bergstedt

local and regional communities.”

of the Office of International

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Education and Development,

deepen global understanding and

who has been a member of the

to increase the level of intercultural

committee for the last three years.

communication and global competency skills among Appalachian

“Sarah has a rich personal history of

students, staff, regional schools, and community members through

living and visiting in numerous countries.

promoting cross-cultural sharing, learning, and exchange opportunities.

She is also a dancer and last year introduced

“Specifically, I am developing our ‘AS-U-GO’ program to K-12 schools

a new feature for the celebration called

in our eight-county area of northwestern North Carolina, inviting schools

‘World

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Diversity Celebration) as participatory workshops, led by students,

expertise of dance

community members, and App State faculty reflecting a wide range of

to host ‘World Culture Days.’”

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instructors

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cultural dance forms and music. These workshops are an opportunity for

the university and

all ages to learn a new movement and dance form they may have never

community as well as the offerings of

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tried. The Diversity Celebration is funded in part by the Office of Equity,

student

Diversity and Compliance, the Office of International Education and

groups, Sarah built

Development, the Office of Multicultural Student Development, Black

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Student Association, ASU Parents Association, ASU Staff Council, the

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very

platform and

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multiple dance forms from many cultures. It was so popular that we decided to bring it back

and a number of individual and business donors. Admission is free, so come dance, play, eat and learn on this trip around the world that begins in Boone. For more information, go to www.celebration.appstate.edu.

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“Knowledge is the key to tolerance. ” “To overcome ignorance and prejudice.”

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Cents & $ensibility BY CORRINNE LOUCKS ASSAD

Tax Tips – Hang on to your money! Taxes can be very confusing and even more so with the ever- changing laws governing them. Remember to discuss these tips with your tax professional to see if they can save you money this year! A new bundle of joy in 2009? To claim your new baby as a dependent on your tax return, obtain his or her social security number when applying for the birth certificate. In addition to a new child deduction, you can also receive a $1,000 child tax credit, which applies to children under the age of 17. They must have been living with you at the end of 2009, have lived with you for more than half the year, did not provide over half of his or her own support and have been claimed as a deduction on your tax return. Earned income and other

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limits apply. Single parents may be eligible to file as head of household rather than single. Doing so will get you a larger standard deduction and into a better tax bracket. To qualify, you must have paid 50 percent or more of the cost of providing for the qualifying dependent. Depending upon your income, you can deduct between $2 and $4,000 of tuition and other qualified college-related costs. You don’t have to itemize these deductions in order to claim them. There is also a new education credit this year called the American Opportunity Credit, allowing up to $2,500 credit per eligible student, 40 percent of which is refundable. Qualified, in this case, means any tuition or course materials such as books,

supplies or materials needed as a condition of enrollment or attendance. For example, a notebook computer would qualify only if it were required by the college for the above. Ask your tax professional about saving thousands with these credits. If 2009 found you job hunting, there may be deductions for which you qualify. Printing and mailing resumes, fees to search companies, travel to another state for a job search, to name a few. Searching in the same line of work, costs are only deductible as miscellaneous expenses once they exceed 2 percent of your adjusted gross income. If you change jobs, the costs of selling your home and/or moving expenses may also be deductible. As of December, 2009, the unemployment rate was 10.0 percent. If you lost your job, remember that no taxes are deducted from your unemployment compensation, so make sure to save about 25 percent. Also, any severance pay also counts as taxable income. Some of the greatest tax deductions come from owning your own home. You can deduct property taxes, mortgage interest paid, home improvements for medical care, interest on a home equity loan or line-of-credit, some private mortgage insurance (PMI) premiums, and more. Did you sell your home in 2009? If you lived in your home for two of the past five years, any profit made on the sale is tax free – up to $250,000 for individuals or $500,000 for married couples. A job change or divorce may also qualify you for this law. First-time homeowners can still get up to an $8,000 credit through April 1, 2010. Hang on to your home for over 3 years and you’ll never have to pay it back! Don’t forget to mail your tax return or file an extension, make quarterly estimates for 2010, and contribute to an IRA for 2009, all completed and postmarked by April 15, 2010. www.aawmag.com

Healthy Lady BY BONNIE CHURCH, CNC, WELLNESS COACH

Lose the Muffin Top As endearing as it sounds, there is nothing cute about a muffin top. Spandex undergarments can disguise it, but the life-threatening damage that belly fat creates can only be remedied by losing it. Belly fat is uniquely associated with some dangerous diseases. The blood, flowing through belly fat, transports fat to the liver. These fatty deposits impair the liver’s ability to metabolize nutrients and balance hormones. This impairment triggers some serious health issues including: elevated LDL (the bad cholesterol), lowered HDL (the good cholesterol), high blood fat, high blood pressure, cancer, type 2 diabetes, varicose veins and sleep apnea. The good news is, within the next 12 weeks you can potentially reduce your belly fat by four inches or more. Doing a few things, faithfully, will help you carve some graceful contours before your big day. More importantly, it can dramatically increase your chance for a long, healthy life with the one you love. 12 - Week Action Plan Take the following suggestions to your health professional for approval and direction before beginning a diet and lifestyle program. Do NOT crash diet! Starvation affects proper metabolic activity and becomes an obstacle to losing belly fat. Preparing for a wedding is stressful enough without the weakness and irritability that results from crash dieting. Eat small meals every few hours. This will help keep your blood sugar under control and will enhance your metabolism. Calories and blood sugar will convert to energy and not accumulate as fat, when fed to the body in manageable portions. www.aawmag.com

Eliminate the white stuff. Excess sugar turns to belly fat. Eliminating the white stuff in all its various forms is the centerpiece of eliminating belly fat. The “white stuff” includes white bread, white potatoes, white rice, white pasta, white sugar and white flour. (Be careful about the whole-wheat claim. Often, it is merely a little bit of whole wheat mixed into a white flour base.) Eat real food, mostly vegetables. A good eyeball methodology is an average size dinner plate with ¼ lean protein, ¾ vegetables, a tight fistful of starch (whole grain pasta, sweet potatoes, whole grain bread) and a spritz of fat.

hormones are released that trigger sugar cravings and fat storage. Take time to decompress through deep breathing, prayer, meditation and exercise throughout the day. Get to bed before midnight and sleep at least six hours. Enjoy your special day! All of us at AAW wish you a wonderful wedding day and a long and healthy life with that very special man.

Drink plenty of water. Water helps to control hunger pangs. The neurons in our brain that trigger hunger pangs and those that trigger thirst are near each other. Sometimes the body confuses dehydration with hunger. A 12 oz. glass of water can turn off the pang. Take a high quality multivitamin and fish oil. Maintaining wellness and proper metabolism requires a base of micronutrients. To ensure you are getting the basics, Dr. Walter Willet of Harvard School of Public Health recommends a multivitamin. If you are not eating fish a few times a week, consider a fish oil supplement to supply those important essential fats. Exercise. It is important for you to exercise. Exercise burns fat, builds muscle and reduces stress hormones. At the very least, walk fast enough to break a sweat for 30 minutes each day. Live and sleep peacefully. When you are sleep deprived or stressed, MARCH • APRIL 2010

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Goodbye Winter The season of spring offers a wonderful opportunity for the family to spend time together outside. There are many inexpensive family activities such as blowing bubbles, flying a kite, taking a nature walk, feeding the ducks, planting seedlings, planning a garden, and taking a bike ride. A family can closely observe changes right in their own back yard. Backyard Scientist Here is an entertaining way to closely observe the changes of nature: • Keep a nature journal in which to record observations. • Locate a section of the yard where few

people walk. • Using string to lay out at least a threefoot diameter circle in the backyard. • Carefully record the changes that occur in the circle by making sketches, taking pictures, collecting seeds or leaves. Remember to record the day and time of the observation. You may want to record information such as: o What is the weather like? o What do you see, smell, and hear?

• Older children might want to make three circles in the yard to compare and contrast the changes. o Are there fewer, more, or the same amount of insects living or traveling across each spot? o Do the same grasses and plants grow in each? o Do the grasses and plants grow at the same rate? o Does each spot get the same amount of rain, sun, and shade? Nesting Materials: For most birds, nest-building supplies consist of whatever nature has lying around, such as wood, grass, twigs, feathers, and fur. Here is a project to do together to learn about nest building. • You can provide the birds in your neighborhood with easy-to-obtain nesting materials by stuffing a mesh produce bag with materials such as pet fur, strands of cloth, bits of stuffing, hay, yarn cut into short lengths, hair from your brush, or feathers from an old down pillow. Hang the mesh bag in a tree, or near a feeder. • In the coming weeks, be on the lookout for birds visiting the sack. Watch what trees or birdhouses to which they return. You might get to see your building materials being incorporated into the nests. Spring is an excellent season to get outside with children. Put on old shoes and play clothes and let the children jump in puddles. Go to the park and play a game of soccer, baseball or Frisbee. Say goodbye to snow, slush, winter jackets and indoor play!

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Make Brunch A Special Occasion During those special times – weddings, family gatherings, etc., it might be easier to consolidate breakfast and lunch into one. Brunches have become popular before and after the wedding for added opportunities to chat about last-minute details as well as a final meal together before out-of-town guests depart.

Apple and Sausage Strata Pam cooking spray 1 carton (16 oz.) Egg Beaters Original 1 (12 oz.) can fat free evaporated milk 1 tsp. ground mustard ½ tsp. kosher salt ½ loaf Hawaiian sweet bread, cut into ¾ inch pieces 4 frozen Banquet Brown ‘N Serve Turkey Sausage patties, chopped 1½ cups shredded reduced-fat Cheddar cheese, divided 1 large Granny Smith apple, unpeeled, chopped ½ cup dried cranberries

2 tsp. butter or margarine 2 cups shredded Cheddar cheese Heat oven to 350°F. Cook grits in water as directed. In ungreased 13 x 9-inch (3-qt) glass baking dish, mix cooked grits and remaining ingredients except 1 cup of the cheese. Sprinkle with remaining 1 cup cheese. Bake 22 to 27 minutes or until edges are bubbly and cheese is melted.

Blueberry-Banana Bread 2 cups Original Bisquick® mix ¾ cup quick-cooking oats 2/3 cup sugar 1 cup mashed very ripe banana (2 medium)

¼ cup milk 2 eggs 1 cup fresh or frozen (thawed and drained) blueberries Heat oven to 350ºF. Grease bottom of loaf pan, 9x5x3 inches. Stir Bisquick, oats, sugar, bananas, milk and eggs in large bowl until moistened. Beat vigorously 30 seconds. Gently stir in blueberries. Pour into pan. Bake 45 to 55 minutes or until toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool 10 minutes. Loosen loaf from sides of pan; remove from pan and place top side up on wire rack. Cool completely, about 2 hours, before slicing. Wrap tightly and store at room temperature up to 4 days, or refrigerate up to 10 days.

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Preheat oven to 325°F. Spray 13x9-inch glass baking dish; set aside. Combine Egg Beaters, milk, mustard and salt in large bowl. Add bread, sausage, ¾ cup of the cheese, apple and cranberries to bowl; toss to coat. Place bread mixture in prepared dish; press down lightly. Bake uncovered 50 to 55 minutes. Top with remaining cheese; bake an additional 5 minutes or until cheese melts. Let stand 10 minutes before serving.

Carolina Brunch-Style Grits 1 cup quick-cooking corn grits 4 cups water 1 can (11 oz) Green Giant® Mexicorn® whole kernel corn with red and green peppers, drained 1 box (9 oz) Green Giant® frozen chopped spinach, thawed 1 pkg. (1 oz) Old El Paso® taco seasoning mix 2 Tbs. chopped onion www.aawmag.com

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By Sherrie Norris

he Appalachian Women’s Fund (AW (AWF) is known throughout the mo mountain area for doing good deeds and fundraising for local women and children who have been identified as needing a helping hand. In an attempt to broaden the network and provide opportunities for community service and fundraising to ASU students, two young women – both natives of the area and current sophomores – have decided to start a chapter of AWF on the ASU campus. Hannah Copeland and Lucy Binning hope to raise awareness on campus of the need for help, specifically with women and children, in the local community. The chapter should be in full swing and on the list of clubs at ASU by the fall. They are presently awaiting their chance to go before club council to prove why their idea is

Lucy Binning and Hannah Copeland. Photo by Sherrie Norris.

important and that such a club is necessary. To date, the duo has already enlisted 20-

abuse, and neglect. These women and

increasing support in our community to assist

plus students who have expressed interest

children have received aid from a network

many programs within Watauga County and

in the club and are willing to devote time to

of other community organizations, but need

surrounding counties that help young girls

promoting it.

more help than can be provided.

build self-esteem and confidence. In turn,

Agreeing to serve as club advisor,

For example, when a woman and

these compassionate college students know

Susan McCracken is the director of ASU

her family moves out of OASIS, AWF

that every little bit will help others succeed

graduate school, research, and sponsorship

has helped them get back on their feet by

in this ever-changing world.

programs, and currently is working toward

providing household necessities, support

Hannah and Lucy point to statistics that

her doctorate in educational leadership.

for counseling programs or educational

prove girls who are exposed to domestic

She has expressed excitement about the

endeavors.

violence are more likely to attempt suicide,

opportunity to work with such great young women on a mission.

Hannah and Lucy are counting on the interest and assistance of other ASU

abuse drugs and alcohol and run away from home.

The women and children who will be

students in the effort to perform service work

Hannah states, “We really want to help

their primary focus, as is true of the original

and fundraising to help meet these and other

girls overcome these issues and grow from

AWF, are those who been through tough

needs of women and children.

them so that will not be their fate.”

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representing the AWF who have helped them achieve their goals of forming the campus chapter. Hannah’s mother is involved and helped her see that there is a definite need for what they are attempting to do. “Nancy Ashline has also been extremely helpful to us by being there every step of the way and helping us get the resources we need to get this club up and running.” “We need to get the next generation of young women plugged into the reality that so many women just like them find themselves in unimaginable circumstances,” states Cathy Williamson, public relations coordinator for AWF. “Hannah and Lucy are perfect to help us spread the word among ASU students. Their energy is amazing. They are building this club from the ground up and the possibilities are endless. It’s exciting for us to see this new ASU Chapter being launched.” For more information about the AWF, visit it on Facebook or at www. appalachianwomensfund.org or simply call (828) 264-4002.

Celebrity Serve Continued from page 43 Jay Fenwick, WEF President, says that proceeds from Celebrity Serve will be used for the Foundation’s two current (large) initiatives. One initiative is the Imagination Library, which places age-appropriate books into the hands of preschoolers every month from birth until kindergarten. “We are so excited about this because lifelong success starts with reading. Too many children are not provided the opportunity to own a set of books, and by ‘own’ I mean so much more than just legally possessing. They become a part of the book and the book becomes a part of them.” The other initiative, Fenwick says, is the WEF’s support of the Watauga County Schools’ Global Learning Community. “Dr. Hemric and his team are bringing this sweeping educational transformation to our schools and community. Right now, teachers all over our county are being trained on how to creatively and effectively engage our students ‘on their turf.’ The students are ‘plugged in and connected’ all the time - except when they’re in school! Controlling, guiding, empowering this access as a part of the educational environment is truly transformational. “As for the Foundation, this is a watershed event. We are so excited to be able to engage these two projects in such a substantial way and to have the opportunity to reach so many people to let them know about our Foundation and its passions.” The Watauga Education Foundation makes a significant contribution to the quality of life for Watauga County families by funding projects that fall outside state and local education budgets. Since 1989, the Foundation has awarded more than $1 million to enrich the educational experience in Watauga County Public Schools, its efforts positively influencing the lives of thousands of students in grades Pre K-12. Watch for more details of Celebrity Serve 2010 in The Watauga Democrat and The Mountain Times. www.aawmag.com

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Make Brunch Continued from page 55 Honey Nut-Peach Smoothies 1 1/3 cups Yoplait® 99% Fat Free creamy harvest peach or creamy vanilla yogurt 1 ½ cups Honey Nut Cheerios® cereal 1 can (15 oz) sliced peaches in juice, drained 1 cup milk 1 banana, sliced 1/8 tsp. ground cinnamon, if desired In blender, place ingredients. Cover; blend on high speed 10 seconds. Scrape down sides of blender. Cover; blend about 20 seconds longer or until smooth. Pour into 4 glasses. Serve immediately.

Brunch Quiche Pizza Pat-in-Pan Pizza Crust 2 cups Gold Medal® all-purpose flour ¼ tsp. salt ½ cup vegetable oil 3 Tbs. cold water Filling: 1½ cups shredded Cheddar cheese (6 oz) 1 pkg. (3.5 oz) sliced Canadian bacon, cut into strips ½ cup 1½ -inch pieces fresh asparagus 3 eggs 1 container (8 oz) sour cream 2 medium green onions, chopped Heat oven to 425°F. In medium bowl, mix flour, salt and oil with fork until all flour is moistened. Sprinkle with cold water, 1 Tbs. at a time, tossing with fork until all water is absorbed. Gather pastry into a ball. Press in ungreased 12-inch pizza pan, building up edge. Bake 14 minutes. Sprinkle cheese, bacon and asparagus evenly over baked crust. In medium bowl, beat eggs slightly with fork or wire whisk. Add sour cream and onions; beat until well blended. Spoon egg mixture evenly over pizza. Bake 20 to 25 minutes or until knife inserted in center comes out clean and edge is golden brown. Serve warm.

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