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editor’s note

We have a strong focus on fashion in this issue, with some of the area’s trendiest women modeling the latest apparel, as well as those original designs created here in the High Country and others with suggestions on looking your best, regardless of the trend. What perfect timing for the 32nd annual Fashion Show and Luncheon at the Blowing Rock Country Club in early August, as dozens of women — and a few brave men — hit the runway adorned with fall’s ﬁnest, and all for the cause of beneﬁtting the new Foley Center at Chestnut Ridge. The facility is expected to open later this month and will replace the existing Blowing Rock Hospital and Davant Extended Care Center that has served the historic town for decades. The fashion world, as well as the medical world, is always in constant transition with a new design, a new medication or treatment, introduced almost daily, it seems. It’s life as we know it, in general, and especially here in the High Country as each season brings about a new look, a new feel and a new way of looking at things around us. Autumn is a favorite time for many of us as we experience the transformation of temperatures and the scenery surrounding us — with nature putting on quite the show with amazing colors bursting forth in every direction. Much like those leaves, each of us has that side that seems to illuminate brighter at times that at others. It might not be as predictable as the changing seasons, but even when we might feel a little dark on the inside, thinking we have nothing to offer, just remember — that’s when the internal changes are taking place. It rarely happens overnight, so we must be patient and wait for the change from gloomy to a brilliant golden glow. Don’t give up. Your time to stand out, be noticed and make someone’s day a little brighter is just around the corner. Happy fall,

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Local businesswoman, pilot and author releases book Kimberley Jochl, an Appalachian State University graduate and current vice president at Sugar Mountain Resort, hosted a party on July 21 to promote her book, “The Aviatrix.” The book is a narrative nonfiction following Jochl’s journey of overcoming her fear of flying by becoming a female pilot, which is typically a male-dominant profession. In 2013, according to Women in Aviation International, in comparison to men, women only made up 6.61 percent of pilots. “As soon as she came to me with the idea that she wanted to learn how to fly, I was all in,” said her husband, Gunther Jochl. “She took to flying really well. She’s very disciplined, and that’s what flying is all about.” Kim said she couldn’t have written the book without the overwhelming support of her friends and family, as well as the dedicated people who helped her become a published author. “I never intended to write a book, and of course, I never dreamed of or desired to fly an airplane,” she says. “‘The Aviatrix’ explains why I’m a pilot and why I’m an author.” One of the great things about writing a narrative nonfiction is that her characters are real, Kim says, many of which attended the launch party.

“I couldn’t have become a pilot without the support of my husband,” she adds. “Most importantly, he brought the academics of learning how to ﬂy to me. He’s experienced as a mechanic on airplanes. Becoming a pilot is hard and there’s a lot of book work and understanding of concepts, including a lot of math.” “The Aviatrix” was originally her life’s memoir, as well as her journey of becoming a pilot. However, her editors thought it would be best to split the book into two different parts. Jochl’s memoir is set to release this fall. “The Aviatrix” is available online at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Aircraft Spruce, Pilot Shop and Aero Performance. The book is also available in regional locations including Fred’s General Mercantile, Elizabethton Municipal Airport, Appalachian State University Bookstore and Sugar Mountain Sports.

Rachel Davis promoted at Hospitality House Rachel Davis was recently promoted from shelter associate to that of volunteer and food service coordinator at Hospitality House, a newly created position to help streamline facility programs, according to Executive Director, Tina Krause. A native of southern Minnesota, Rachel moved to Boone in 2015 with her ﬁancé. She has a bachelor’s degree from the University of Wisconsin Stevens Point. Rachel previously served as an AmeriCorps VISTA for Habitat for Humanity in Wisconsin, with a primary focus on capacity building and volunteer coordination. A self-described “foodie, ” Rachel was inspired by her parents who always cooked from scratch. “I would bug my mom about wanting pop-tarts and colored cereal and she would tell me that one day I would thank her for saying no, and she was right,” she says. Her new position will allow her to be

more hands-on and work closely with the garden program and its coordinator Lauri Wilson. “I am very passionate about connecting gardens to food,” Rachel says. “I think of food as medicine. It should enhance your health, not detract from it. I am excited for the opportunity to work with Lauri to bring creative, fresh food to the people that rely on Hospitality House for healthy, nutritious meals.” Krause adds, “Rachel’s previous experience in volunteer management, combined with her passion for food and nutrition will equip her to succeed in this new position. To learn more about Hospitality House visit online at www.HospHouse.org, follow on Twitter @HospHouseBoone or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/HospHouse For additional information, contact Todd Carter at todd@hosphouse.org or 828.264.1237 ext. 107. AAWMAG.COM | SEPTEMBER 2016

WOMENINTHENEWS Allison Jennings named director of development at Watauga Habitat for Humanity Allison Jennings has been named Director of Development for Watauga Habitat for Humanity, and will be working with fundraising and marketing efforts. “As we grow and reach further into the community to help provide affordable housing solutions for low-income Watauga County residents, we feel Allison is just what we need,” said Executive Director Alex Hooker. “Her passion for helping people, coupled with her nonproﬁt experience, will be a great asset to the organization.” Allison worked previously as the food and nutrition coordinator for Hospitality House of Boone and was co-founder of the Western Watauga Food Outreach project. She has been a strong advocate for those struggling with food insecurity and addressing the needs of people facing poverty. “I am thrilled to be a part of a team that works to provide decent housing for all. This is a natural ﬁt for me as my mission in life is to help others and my

vision is to make sure that happens”, Allison says. Watauga County Habitat for Humanity builds homes in partnership with qualifying partner families and the community, then sells the homes at no proﬁt affordable mortgages to partnering families, equipping the families with the knowledge and tools to be successful homeowners. For more information, to donate or volunteer, visit wataugahabitat.org.

WHS alum helps improve air quality models through NOAA internship

Watauga High School alumna and rising University of Delaware senior Kathryn Wheeler had the opportunity this summer to focus full-time on improving air quality models through an internship at the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration’s Atmospheric Turbulence and Diffusion Center in Oak Ridge, Tenn. Kathryn ﬁrst became passionate about air quality when, after high school, she spent 10 months living in Beijing, China. “Ozone levels are high in Beijing, and people living there diligently check the air quality forecast every day in addition to the weather forecast,” she says. “It was eye opening to learn that there are places in the world like China, even in the U.S., that have air quality problems.” The opportunity for the environmental science major and computer science minor, came about through her selection for NOAA’s Ernest F. Hollings Undergraduate Scholar program.

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According to Kathryn, current air quality models mostly ignore chemical reactions inside forest canopies. She explains that forests emit compounds, such as isoprene, that through chemical reactions can increase ozone levels near the Earth’s surface that can be detrimental to human health. “Air quality models aimed at predicting ozone levels usually set a blanket rate for the emissions of these compounds, and do not account for chemical transformations within the forest canopy that ultimately change their canopy emission rates,” she says. Working under the guidance of Rick Saylor, a physical scientist with NOAA’s Air Resources Laboratory, Kathryn is writing and running atmospheric model simulations to create a list of correction factors that will improve the accuracy of existing air quality models. “The point is to try to increase the accuracy of how air quality forecast models predict ozone concentrations,” she explains. “Ozone near the Earth’s surface is hazardous to human health and can cause respiratory issues, particularly for vulnerable populations like the elderly, children and people with respiratory problems, such as asthma.” Kathryn is using data collected in the Oak Ridge National Laboratory’s forest to generate reference tables based on certain levels of compounds in the forest canopy. Other scientists then can use these reference tables to correct their predictions for those compounds coming out of the forest canopy. Kathryn surmises. “Increasing the accuracy of these models will allow scientists to more accurately predict ozone levels and to better inform the public when precautions are needed.”

Emily Shack on fashion Emily Shack came to Boone in 1997 from Chapel Hill, graduated from ASU, got married and stayed. She and her husband live with their three children, 12,10, and 8, in a newly renovated farmhouse on three acres of land, just a short drive from town. She currently works at Mountain Pathways as the 9-12 year-old classroom assistant and farm camp assistant director. And, say her coworkers, she is known as a lady who knows — and wears — fashion well. In fact, she sees fashion as a hobby. “I have always been interested in expressing myself through what I wear,” Emily says, “I grew up with a super artistic fashion-fanatic older sister, Bekah, who was and is my best friend. She has a fashion design degree and is a phenomenal seamstress. We both love to shop, but mostly thrift stores and bargain warehouses, flea markets and Ebay.” Part of the “hunt” for Emily, she says, is sorting through others “trash” to find what she considers a treasure. “I very rarely buy things that are not deeply discounted or second hand. I am a firm believer that you do not have to have a lot of money to have great name brand items. I think people get caught up in the hype of brands, whether or not they actually like the item.” For Emily, clothing has to feel good to look good. “It doesn’t have to be outlandish, but if fits well and is made well, then I feel put together,” she says. “ I love to balance unique items with solid basics. It makes me feel like I have the right amount of expression in my daily life: for example, a great pair of jeans with a flowy solid T-shirt. I would wear big earrings, maybe a bold scarf and beautiful unique leather sandals or boots. It feels expressive, but not like overkill.”

Just a few of Emily’s fashion rules:

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• Buy classic pieces, like black pants, a black dress and others in solid colors — and then make the outfit your style with the accessories. It is easy to change your jewelry, shoes or earrings if they go out of style, but the classic pieces never do. • You want to have “flair” in your outfit, but it rarely should come from the big pieces, like pants. I do have some crazy patterned vintage dresses, so with those, I wear minimal jewelry and classic or solid accessories to not over do it. • I love scarves, earrings and shoes — mostly leather boots. I always want the jeans and shirt or the dress to be classic and fit well. AAWMAG.COM | SEPTEMBER 2016

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The Shirt on Top Glamour and Vogue have never really appealed to me — sure, I might ﬂip through one that’s laying on a coffee table, but more likely, I’ll be reaching for the Rolling Stone to see how out of touch I am with the new music scene or Southern Living to tear out a recipe that sounds spectacular, but never somehow materializes on my table. The closest I really came to the fashion world was working a part-time job at a Benetton at our local mall in Lynchburg in the mid to late 1980s. I would ﬁnish school, go to track practice, change clothes and work a 5-9 p.m. shift most nights of the school week, then come 10

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home and do homework. I wasn’t particularly into the clothing style, and certainly not into the cost of said clothing style. A $70 sweater was nothing to shirk at in 1986 — or in 2016, for that matter. I was still scouring Goodwill for dark trench coats and rhinestone jewelry. But, I did like looking at the weird hair and makeup, odd color combinations unisex styles and international ﬂavor of the store. I was starting to listen to a lot of alternative music, and at the time did not mind picking out outﬁts for customers to the droning, fairly depressing tones of The Smiths or folding sweaters to the

melodies of XTC. While I played it pretty safe in securing my academic career, I was enticed by stories of my coworkers who were in their 20s to 30s. They seemed knowledgeable — and free of the conﬁnes of school and parenthood — and I somehow felt more worldly just talking to them. They would give me generally good advice — be it about relationships, renting your ﬁrst apartment, roommates, risks not worth taking and college life. Kim, my manager, was a large-busted platinum blonde that favored Marilyn Monroe and turned plenty of heads when men found their way into the store. She was

also highly intelligent, a successful retail salesperson and took no crap from anyone. She adopted me and watched out for me as a sort-of little sister, even though I had two older sisters already. After working there for some time, I was invited to participate in a number of fashion shows they sponsored in the local community. Since these were nonpaid events, one perk of agreeing to be in the fashion show was a free haircut by one of the chic expensive hair salon stylists in Lynchburg, which at that time would typically cost more than $30 of my hardearned high school income. Already experimenting with asymmetric hairstyles that were popular then, I decided at one show to swallow any inhibitions, and told the salon stylist on hand to cut my hair “however you think will look good” and I meant it. I was not particularly attached to my locks and, as my mother would repeatedly recount in later years, there were worse things I could do than cut my hair weird. I was a straight-A student, weird hair or not. My hair was already semi-short, but his interpretation of fashion at the time was best summarized as Annie Lennox style to those who grew up in the 80s. While difficult to imagine for the college friends of my “hippy days” or my co-workers of the present, my head was virtually shaved — with a few longer layers and spikes in the front. When my middle son Joseph heard of this occurrence, he recoiled with disgust “Eww! That must have looked horrible!” “Not so bad,” I recanted. “No. There is no way that could have looked good,” he continued. Reﬂecting on that time, I remember the utter freedom I felt in letting go of any preconceived notion of how I thought I should look, how many others thought I should look — and of giving that creative license to a salon artist. He was delighted, and I had no regrets. I lived with that hair for a while. I marched across stages in striped shirts and leggings, head-wraps and dangle earrings, giving the persona a try. I graduated second in my class and went on to Davidson College, looking for my new identity in my independent life away from home. My hair grew and I wore skirts down to my ankles. I studied anthropology, found my passion for learning about women and birth, connected with people

through the “Grateful Dead” — and more music than I can even recall — and discovered depths of myself in India and abroad. Over the years, my clothes changed, my hair changed and I got comfortable. Comfortable in my own skin, I suppose. The shock value was unnecessary — I did not need to strip down to an identity beneath the surface to figure out who I was. I just was. Now, my shopping rarely occurs at shopping malls. I continue to rummage through consignment and second hand stores, searching for “good finds” and showing up at work in my bargains. I watch my oldest son, just turning 18, seek out his identity in his sociopolitical statements and his music. I recognize the shock value of saying something bold, dressing bold or listening to something bold. It is all too familiar. I shock him (I presume) sometimes but saying, “Yeah, I like that” or “That reminds me of . . .” and fill in the blank with old “Iggy Pop,” “The Replacements,” “The Clash,” and so on. Sometimes, he plays some death met-

al for me and I try not to cringe, failing to find the musical value of the song or group, but I roll with it and give him that. Nothing wrong with a little shock value. Music is the pattern he is constructing and deconstructing, trying on to see what fits. Fashion wise, he could care less. While my middle son, Joseph, carefully constructs his outfit, reapplies deodorant and combs his hair one more time in the mirror to leave the house, Will grabs the shirt on top. His clothes have nothing to do with his identity or independence. He blasts “Streetlight Manifesto” or “Tacocat” or “Goldfinger” and tries on his persona. He’s a phenomenal student with a life ahead of him to discover himself. And if he wants to blast ska-punk or death metal — well, there are worse things he could do.

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Fashionable Interviews Dressing appropriately for the occasion

Fashion: a prevailing custom or style of dress, etiquette, socializing, etc. — dictionary.com

Fashion is fun, ﬁckle, ever evolving and inﬂuential. I have a closet full of styles spanning numerous decades, as evidence to the variety of trends one can experience in an adult lifetime. Interviews are gut-wrenching, palm-sweating opportunities to stretch horizons. I have abundant stories about nerve-wracking interview faux pas and successes in eight states from classic corporate settings to informal, laid-back settings. While our society, in general, has become increasingly casual in recent

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decades, dressing for success in the professional arena has also evolved. As more employers welcome casual workplace attire, recommendations for interview dress are less straightforward than in the past. With one chance to make a dynamic ﬁrst impression at an interview — one chance to convince an employer you are a great ﬁt for the company — dressing appropriately for each situation is imperative. Consider the following suggestions when dressing fashionably for an interview.

UNDERSTAND THE DRESS CODE FOR POTENTIAL POSITIONS After researching the industry and job function, learn about the company culture well before your interview. If you do not know someone who works there, who can provide you with insight regarding company dress, investigate the company through social media or ask your contact at the company about the dress code. Hu-

man resource personnel will understand your desire to prepare.

DRESS ‘ONE STEP UP’ By dressing one level above the dress code expected for the position, you express you are willing to make the effort to be professional. For example, if the employees wear khaki pants and sports shirts, you may wear dress pants or a skirt with a blouse. If office dress is required of the position, wear a suit or a professionallooking outﬁt. For a position at a startup, where employees dress in ﬂannel shirts and denim, wearing a suit would be overdressing; slacks and a nice dress sports shirt, button up shirt or blouse would be appropriate. Remember that it is always better to be slightly over dressed than under dressed for interviews in any arena.

ACCESSORIES PRIMER: Shoes should always be clean and freshly polished, free from scuffs. Neither sneakers nor sandals are interview dress. When dressing in a suit or dress, solid colored, low-heeled pumps are the classic choice that will allow you to walk gracefully and look professional. Tottering on too-high heels is not productive. When carrying a satchel, portfolio or handbag, make sure it is clean and has no pen marks, scuffs or scratches. Carry either a handbag large enough to carry a copy of your resume or a portfolio — not both. Bring a pen and any pertinent personal data (social security number, etc).

If you wear glasses, bring or wear them. Wear small amounts of simple jewelry that does not jingle, clatter or distract.

GROOMING: When meeting someone for the first time, a first impression is formed in the first few seconds. Your face is the first thing a person notices, so wear a pleasant expression on your well-groomed face. • Teeth should be clean; breath should be fresh. • Makeup should be appropriately professional, never dramatic. • Keep hair clean, simple and controlled. • Hands should sport clean, wellmanicured nails with a neutral shade of polish. • Wear only a light fragrance, if any. • Cover tattoos, unless you know the employer is supportive of employee tattoos.

THE ‘LEAVE IT BEHIND’ LIST: • Cell phones — unless they are turned off. • Clothing wrinkles: befriend your iron.

not professional. • Tight, short clothing. • Chipped nail polish or dirty ﬁngernails

GRATITUDE: • Wear an attitude of gratitude: gratitude engages the interviewer and reﬂects your character. • Thank the interviewer and express what a pleasure it was to meet them. • Follow up by sending a hand-written note to the interviewer within a few days, once again thanking them for the opportunity to interview and to be considered for the position.

At every interaction, be professional in your appearance and communication. This includes picking up application forms, speaking on the phone and interacting with every person on site. Your appearance and manners reﬂect your selfesteem, as well as your character. Regard every interview as a learning experience that will help you in interviews and at work. Remember, the interviewer will consider your appearance, dress, manners and your attitude in “judging your book by the cover.” Take time to prepare to present yourself as a fashion- savvy, professional “must-read” that never goes out of style.

• Bra straps: cover up. • Gum, hats or sunglasses.

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• Torn, stained clothing.

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Harriet Davant ‘a steel magnolia’ named Blowing Rock’s 2016 Woman of the Year During the 39th Annual Fashion Show and Luncheon on August 5 at the Blowing Rock

Dedicated to making the world around her a better place to be, Harriet Davant is Blowing Rock’s 2016 Woman of the Year. Photos by Sherrie Norris

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Country Club, Harriet Davant was named the 2016 Woman of the Year by Suzanne Miller, who served in that capacity in 2015. “I’m overwhelmed,” was Harriet’s initial response to the announcement, as she was quickly surrounded by friends, family and associates in congratulating her on a well-deserved and long overdue honor. Referring to the honoree as “a steel magnolia, the ultimate Southern lady,” Suzanne said, “our woman of the year has been characterized as smart, independent, funny, loyal and dedicated to her family, friends and her community.” Suzanne shared with the audience how Harriet and her family have made countless contributions to the Blowing Rock community since coming to the area in the 1950s, and how her husband and beloved physician, the late Charles Davant Sr., had a significant impact upon local health care. A Raleigh native, “ a big city native,” Suzanne described, Harriet graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill. “And as a Southern lady, of course, she is a member of the Daughters of the American Revolution — and may not refuse a sip of bourbon at 5 p.m.” It is only natural, Suzanne said, that Harriet be honored on such an occasion, as she has been a longtime supporter of health care and medical services for Blowing Rock and Watauga County, as a whole. In 2011, she was the first honorary chairwoman for the annual fundraising event. As one of the first women associated with Blowing Rock Hospital, Harriet came to the area with her husband seeking safe haven for their children from

Harriet Davant is congratulated by Suzanne Miller, 2015 Woman of the Year, following the Aug. 5 fashion show at Blowing Rock Country Club.

the polio epidemic. At that time, there was only one seasonal doctor in Blowing Rock. Eventually, the Davants made Blowing Rock their permanent home, and Dr. Davant became the town’s ﬁrst full-time physician. Suzanne thanked Harriet for the continued support she has shown the hospital over the years. “Her husband spent many long hours working in the medical clinic, making house calls day and night, and then working in the emergency room clinic,” Suzanne said. “Harriet was a founding member of the Watauga Medical Auxiliary, a group of physicians’ wives who were very active in promoting good medical services in Watauga County. She also served on the board of directors for the Blowing Rock Hospital.” Harriet also saw a need for volunteering “in many areas of life in her new community,” said Suzanne, and encouraged summer residents to also give of their time and talent to the area while they were here. “We can picture her as a pioneer laying the foundations and traditions for volunteering as we see it today in Blowing Rock.”

It wasn’t all work in those summers, Suzanne added. “They had a great time and she made sure there was time for fun and exercising. One of their exercises was a belly dancing class — with a recital at the end of the season.” Harriet is also dedicated to education, Suzanne emphasized, citing her work with Watauga County Schools and as a trustee for the Morehead Scholarship Foundation for UNC-CH. “Harriet often dealt with the mischievous antics of her children so her husband did not have to worry,” Suzanne added. Harriet always believed that children should be well rounded and allowed to explore and grow in their world, and served as a den mother for the Cub Scouts as her son grew. “She kept a pony in their front yard in downtown Blowing Rock,” Suzanne said. “Her daughter loved horses and was allowed to ride horses during the day all around town. One day, her daughter came home reeking of a foul odor, at which time Harriet discovered that her daughter had fallen off the horse into a horsey mess. She was undressed outside and sent straight to the bath. Her clothes went to the trash can.” Meanwhile, Suzanne added, Harriet’s son was in the attic building a rocket. “And it went off early. Straight through the roof!” Harriet has come full circle, Suzanne described, in her involvement with her family, community, friends, county and state. “She laid the foundations of volunteering 68 years ago for education, quality of life, a time for fun and exploring — and the dedication to help bring high quality medical care and services to our community,” said Suzanne. “It is all evident today — and all the more reason that Harriet Davant is our 2016 Woman of the Year.”

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The 39th Annual Fashion Show and Luncheon on August 5 at the Blowing Rock Country Club raised $25,000 to beneﬁt the hospital system’s newest facility, Chestnut Ridge in Blowing Rock, a new 112-bed long-term post acute health care facility expected to open later this month. “Mountain Mystique — Magic, Merriment and Moving Forward” was the theme for the event that showcased a number of local men and women adorned in the latest fashions from a number of local dress shops and boutiques. A unique addition to this year’s event included students in the apparel design and merchandising department at Appalachian State University modeling their original creations. Chairing the 2016 events — the patrons’ party and fashion show — was Bo Henderson, a 30-year Blowing Rock homeowner, community activist and ASU alumnus. “I was blown away by what they did as students at the spring showcase at ASU — and I loved their participation in the fashion show,” he said. Dr. Herman and Renee Godwin were recognized as honorary chairman and chairwoman of the 2016 fashion show. Rob Hudspeth, senior vice president of system advancement at Appalachian Regional Healthcare System, joined CEO Richard Sparks in welcoming the 250-plus attendees with gratitude for their support of the fundraising event that has greatly beneﬁted Blowing Rock Hospital and Davant Extended Care. As of presstime, $25,000 had been raised between the fashion show/luncheon and the patrons’ party that preceded the main event. At the luncheon, Suzanne Miller, Blowing Rock’s Woman of the Year for 2015, introduced Harriet Davant as the 2016 Woman of the Year. (See accompanying article on page 11.)

“Mountain Mystique — Magic, Merriment and Moving Forward” was the theme for the event.

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The roster of runway models: Ruth Ellen Weems, Tiffany Taylor, Tommy Taylor, Charlene Barham, Pat Collins, Jeanine Collins, Martha Trimble, Missy Harrill, Jim Williams, Cindy Milner, Wendy May, Celeste Phillips, Gwen Dhing, Nancy Capel, Lee Carol, Joellyn Gibbons, Dee Lambeth, Lyn Boyd, Lisa Van Arnum, Sarah Almus, Janet Cone, Jessica Powell, Charles Hardin, Ray Pickett and Jim Pitts

Shops and stores providing fashions for this year’s event: Almost Rodeo Drive, Benjamin’s/Libba’s, Celeste’s, Ever-A-Woman, Finlay House and J.W. Tweeds

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A unique addition to this yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s event were original creations by students in the apparel merchandising and design program at Appalachian State University.

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The work of Jessica Lancaster and Andrea Lazaro, along with their male counterpart, Peter Nance, students in the apparel design and merchandising department at Appalachian State University, was showcased in the 2016 Blowing Rock and Fashion Show on Aug. 5. A Statesville native, Jessica says to have had her collection invited into the Blowing Rock show was a huge honor. “To be chosen out of 29 other students was humbling, and allowed me to gain confidence in my work,” she says. “Ever since I was a little girl, I knew I wanted to go into fashion. I would create outfits for my dolls and have always been intrigued how fabrics, colors and designs somehow all flowed perfectly together.” She has also honed her skills as a photographer for almost nine years. “The apparel program at ASU helped me realize my love for high-end design and creativity. My goal is to collaborate my designs and photography together,” she adds. About her collection: “Life’s swift movements oftentimes bring moments where time seems to stand still and is never to be forgotten. ‘The Still Movement’ reflects what it looks like to reminisce on the exquisite and pure feelings these moments deliver.” Andrea, from San Juan, Puerto Rico, inherited her love of design from her parents and grandmother, all of whom Andrea Lazaro

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design either clothing, interiors or jewelry. “My grandmother has sewn dresses for me since I was very little and she was born into the industry because of her father who owned a fabric store in Mayaguez, Puerto Rico,” Andrea says. “My mother, also being a designer of interiors when I was young — and now currently using her talents to design and make handmade jewelry — inﬂuenced my decision in wanting to pursue a career in design.” Andrea’s spring 2016 fashion line showcases darkness and the evil of the witches of Old Salem — portraying the elements of evil meeting beauty and darkness as “enchanting.” “I wanted to portray a very powerful image of women — and how manipulative the power of beauty and envy can be,” she says. “Green satin was used to symbolize this envy, and black lace symbolizing the darkness of these beautiful women, is what draws you to them.” To have her work recognized and showcased at the Blowing Rock fashion show “meant the absolute world to me,” Andrea says. “When you are in the design and production process for a fashion line, you are

Jessica’s Collection “Life’s swift movements oftentimes bring moments where time seems to stand still and is never to be forgotten. ‘The Still Movement’ reflects what it looks like to reminisce on the exquisite and pure feelings these moments deliver.”

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“I wanted to portray a very powerful image of women — and how manipulative the power of beauty and envy can be. Green satin was used to symbolize this envy, and black lace symbolizing the darkness of these beautiful women, is what draws you to them.”

constantly thinking of ideas, changing your work and making sure every detail is perfect. I have spent numerous nights in the studio working on my garments — seeing that someone else recognized my work and appreciated it was all I needed to put a smile on my face.” Both Jessica and Andrea are receiving “well-rounded” educational opportunities in both the design and merchandising sides of the industry, they say, rather than focusing on just one aspect. “I have been able to form personal relationships with my professors and other students in a way that makes going to class feels comfortable,” adds Andrea. “I am able to rely on both professors and students for help. Because of this tight-knit relationship, I always feel encouraged and supported to follow my dreams — no matter how big.” sherrie norris Editor, All About Women

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BEAUTY

Fashionably Beautiful In a world of fast moving fashion trends we can ﬁnd ourselves in a whirlwind of “Do I?” or “Don’t I?” Whether its skincare, makeup, hair or clothing, fashion is constantly changing. The ages and stages in our lives should also be progressive, but that doesn’t mean we should adopt every new trend that comes down the runway or that is featured in the latest magazine. In my personal experience as a makeup artist, I ﬁnd that the majority of women, 50 and above, continue to maintain the status quo, especially in the area of makeup. We “get” the clothing

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vibe and the need to make certain age appropriate changes. We acknowledge that if we were around when the mini hit the fashion world, we absolutely do not need to be wearing one now. However, there are always exceptions — if you’re that rare 80-year-old who has the goods to rock that cheetah print mini skirt just because you can — girl, go for it! My intent is to share a few suggestions that can help us be fashion forward and discard some of the old practices we’ve done since forever. Skincare: If you’re using the same products you used 10 years ago, it’s

probably time for a change. Collagen begins to falter in your 20s, and elastin in your 30s. Move your regimen up a notch by adding vitamin C to counter discoloration and sun damage. Vitamin C is unstable and oxidizes easily, so make sure you get a product in an opaque container with an airless pump. To combat collagen loss, ﬁne line and wrinkles, a retinoid cream should be added to your arsenal. To avoid irritation, always wait about 15 minutes after cleansing before applying any retinoid type creams. Mature skin tends to be on the dry side, so make sure your cleanser is a creamy formula or an

oil — drop the foaming cleanser. A good moisturizer is a must. Moisturizers are very important because they inhibit oxidative stress and cause free radical damage, which causes ﬁne lines and wrinkles that occur when skin lacks moisture. Reminder: Sunscreen! And don’t forget your chest and hands. Major agers: Too much foundation, powder and blush, eye makeup and lips too dark with the wrong color; hair too long, clothing too loose or too tight, holding on to that dress you used to rock, but now makes you look like a sausage wearing it — all of these are aging and keep you from looking your best. Years ago, we could wear just about any and everything and still look fab. Today, those practices can make us look dated and crazy. We’re not getting older, we’re getting better, so to keep us looking our best, follow these few anti-aging makeup tips: Eyes: Black liner can be a bit much as it can accentuate wrinkles in the eye area.

Try using a dark brown or gray kohl pencil. Once you’ve lined, go back and lightly smudge. Avoid liquid liners, as they tend to be too harsh looking. Shimmer eyeshadow is only allowed in the inner corners or lightly on the movable lid to open up the eyes. If you own any metallic, throw them away. Now! Matte is your new best friend. Brows: Since brows frame your face, it is necessary to fill them in, since they have a tendency to thin out. Trust me, you will look so much better. The next time you visit your favorite salon, ask your stylist or esthetician to give you a shape line and show you how to fill it in. Believe me, you can take years off your face by doing this one thing. Mascara: A nice coat of black works well. Don’t apply tons, as you will look clumpy, spidery and scary. Cheeks: Don’t be known as the “little old lady” with the extreme blush. The idea here is to add a natural flush to the cheeks. Try brushing on a little bronzer,

lightly along the hairline and jaw line, then pop a soft color on the “apples” and blend. Use a cream or lightly dust on powder. Lips: If you’ve noticed that your pout is not quite as pouty as it used to be, it’s because lips tend to get thinner as we get older. Try using a neutral tone lip liner to line and ﬁll in your lips, then swipe with a pretty lipgloss or lipstick of your color choice. No dark, “vampirey” colors allowed. Dark colors make your lips disappear into a deep dark hole under your nose. Opt for a tone that is not jarring. All in all, remember that a mature face with contrast appears more youthful than one that has no contrast. Whether you go au natural or you want to enhance your version of you, always remember that you are beautiful!

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Diet Fashions

Crazy fashions come and go. Remember the psychedelic paisleys and the weird crocheted vests of the 70s? How about the parachute pants popularized by MC Hammer or the humongous shoulder pads in the 80s? And who can forget the slap bracelets, butterﬂy clips and tacky glitter and glitz of the 90s? Strange trends are not limited to the fashion industry. They are part of the history of dieting, as well. As for a few odd, ineffective and potentially dangerous trends that have hit the weight-loss industry over the years, remember the Lucky Strike Cigarette diet from the 1920’s? The “reach for a Lucky instead of a sweet” campaign capitalized on nicotine’s

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appetite-suppressing quality. How about the grapefruit diet, a.k.a. the Hollywood Diet? The popular low-calorie plan called for eating grapefruit with every meal. And yes, there was a tapeworm diet — which touted losing weight by swallowing a parasite-packed pill. Add to this crazy mix all the wraps, potions, powder, lotions and pills deemed overnight ‘weight loss miracles.’ Many are merely fancy — and often expensive — diuretics that trigger temporary water loss. Some potentially dangerous ‘quick ﬁxes’ are still around. There are the pills that contain a speed-like ingredient that suppresses appetite, but overtime, can exhaust the adrenals. There are pills that

keep your body from absorbing the fat from your food, referred to by some as ‘the diarrhea diet.’ There is also a controversial diet that combines hormones, stimulants and a strict 500 to 800 caloriea-day regimen. Sadly, many people have lost more money than weight over the years with the promises of quick and easy weight loss. As with all fashion trends, the classics remain. Why? Because science and experience show they work. Yes, it does require cultivating new habits. For some, coaching and support might be needed. That said, the fundamentals of weight loss are pretty basic.

Following are three time-tested habits that will help you reach your goals: 1. “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants,” instructs Michael Pollan in his book “Food Rules.” That is great advice. Food can be deﬁned as high quality choices from all food groups — carbs, proteins and fats. The standard American diet has lots of highly processed foods, excess fat, sugar and reﬁned grains, which has led to a national epidemic of obesity, diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Think about what you are eating: Your plate should be lean, clean and colorful. Make sure you spread your meals throughout the day. Don’t starve yourself and then binge on one meal.

2. Drink enough water through the day. Our bodies are approximately 70 percent water, so we need a lot of it. Hydration supports a healthy metabolism and helps keep cravings at bay. Generally, eight to 10 cups are needed.

3. Kick the sugar habit. OK, an occasional dessert is not going to sabotage you, but keep it occasional. Excess sugar is toxic to every cell in our body — and it can pack on the fat. To help you kick the habit, learn to recognize sugar by its many aliases: cane sugar, high fructose corn syrup and rice sugar, to name a few. If they are listed in the first five ingredients, don’t eat them. Also, pay attention to your labels: If the sugar is above five grams, you don’t want it. Your body cannot break down more than that, per meal. There’s nothing fancy or exotic here, I know, but if you encounter a marketing pitch that ignores these three rules, pass — especially, if it has anything to do with tapeworms and cigarettes.

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Peri Moretz ‘Don’t waste your gifts’

Peri Moretz has been a fixture in the town of Boone for more than 25 years, working behind the scenes as director of human resources to make sure everything runs smoothly. Her main role, she says, is to plan, organize and direct various programs, such as orientation for new employees, retirement, health insurance and other benefits for the employees; she also administers the classification, pay plan and personnel policy, supervises the safety and risk management program and maintains personnel records — and she does it all with exceptional professionalism, wisdom and knowledge, say those who work closely with her. She is a member of and has served on the board of directors for the International Public Management Association, receiving her status as certified professional in 2007. She is also a member of the Organization of Municipal Personnel Officers and has served as a board member, president and vice president. Since she joined the Town of Boone staff in January 1991, Peri has worked under the direction of four mayors — Velma Burnley, Loretta Clawson, Andy Ball and current mayor Rennie Brantz — and three town managers — L.D. Hagaman, Greg Young, and John Ward. Peri enjoys working with the town employees,

many of whom she describes as “loyal, hardworking and dedicated to providing services to town citizens and striving to make Boone a wonderful place to live, work and play.” Peri has witnessed a lot of change in and around Boone in those 25 years, she says. “A lot of business growth” throughout the town, including ASU, is among those areas where she’s seen the most changes, she says, along with the development of the Greenway and expansion of roadways. She has also seen a rise from 121 town employees in 1991 to 176 full time employees today to accommodate the ever expanding and thriving downtown area that attracts thousands each year. “Peri Moretz is an outstanding leader,” says Mayor Rennie Brantz. “She is always professional, organized, thoughtful, personable and caring. She brings a very special touch to town governance and is deeply appreciated by all who have worked with her.” Peri previously worked at the Employment Security Commission for three years, during which time she assisted individuals in ﬁnding employment and worked with a federally-funded program that helped place people with speciﬁc needs. Continued on page 28

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Peri Moretz is pictured on the family farm with her husband, Ernie, their daughter, Amber, son, Matt and his wife, Kendall, and daughter, Madyson. Photo by Kayla Morton Greene

More about Peri A native of Pottstown, Penn., daughter of Bill and Sally Herr and sister to three brothers, Peri moved with her family to Charlotte when she was 4 years of age. She graduated from South Mecklenburg High School Her father, who died in October 2010, was one of her biggest supporters and encouragers in life, she says. “If I ever doubted myself, I would talk to my dad. He always believed in me.” Peri is “very fortunate,” she says to have always had a close relationship with both of her parents. “I look up to my mom who is intelligent, strong and giving and has done a lot of mission work and volunteer work in her community.” Her father-in-law, Wade Moretz, who died in 2014, and his wife Mary, who were married for 64 years, have also played an important role in her life, Peri says. “They have been wonderful parents to me, too.” Since childhood, Peri says, her parents

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were great inspirations. “They both graduated from high school and worked hard to raise four kids. My mom stayed at home with us until we were teenagers. They were happily married for 51 years.” Having learned from their example, Peri says, she aspired to be a positive role model for her children and others, “by encouraging them and by showing them they are important and that I care.” She has often told her children that life isn’t about how much money you make, but the enjoyment you experience through affecting others in a positive way. Peri is constantly looking for ways to uplift those who may need encouragement and enjoys sending cards to let others know she is thinking of them. As the ﬁrst in her family to obtain a college degree — which made her parents very proud, she recalls — Peri attended Appalachian State University for her bachelor’s degree and enjoyed membership in Chi Omega. She worked part-time as a student to help with college expens-

es and fulﬁlled her senior year internship under the direction of Larry Nance in the personnel department, where, she says, she gained valuable experience. “I’m one of those students who came to Boone to attend ASU and never left,” she says. Peri met Ernie Moretz at ASU, a local boy who worked on campus. “We dated a little over a year and married at a small Lutheran Church in Charlotte on March 3, 1984 during spring break of my senior year.” Peri describes Ernie as a very quiet man (“unlike me!”) with a great sense of humor. “He is very kind, humble and giving — and is one of the most hardworking people I know. I cannot keep up with him!” The couple has two children. Daughter Amber Moretz is a successful hair stylist at Serendipity. “She is fun loving and a lot like her dad,” Peri says. Their son, Matthew Moretz, currently employed at ECRS, served in the Army for seven

years and was deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan. “Matt has a strong faith and has taught me a lot as I’ve watched him work through some challenging times,” Peri says. “He is married to Kendall Moretz, a trainer at the Broyhill Wellness Center, who is very special to our family.” Their daughter, Madyson, who began kindergarten last month at Green Valley School, “melts my heart,” Peri says. “You can tell I enjoy being her Nana!”

Peri’s pearls of wisdom It is visibly apparent that Peri makes every effort to take care of herself. She is up at 4:45 a.m. five days a week and exercises at least an hour at the wellness center before work. “It is a great way to start my day and I enjoy seeing friends each morning. We are like family.” “Cardio and weights are very important, as well as a healthy diet,” Peri says. A self-proclaimed “sweet tooth,” she adds, “the diet can be challenging at times.” Peri also has an eye for fashion and always tries to look her best, but she credits her daughter for helping her try new things and dressing up her wardrobe — “things I might not otherwise wear,” she says. Overall, Peri adds, “I think you need to be comfortable and feel confident in what you wear, even if it is not always what is currently fashionable.” She learned a lot about appearance from her mother. “As a little girl, I loved sitting and watching her apply her make-up and jewelry before she and my dad went out on a date. She was always fashionable — and I never saw her wear pants until she was in her 80s.” When asked to share some tips about looking one’s best, Peri’s reply was simple: “Wear clothes and accessories that are comfortable and make you feel confident — and remember, pearls never go out of style!” As far as hobbies and personal interests, Peri really enjoys her family time. “Ernie and I live on a farm and have some livestock and a garden. I enjoy working in my yard, especially my flowers and I

usually have a project or two that needs my husband’s help.” Together, she and Ernie enjoy watching the ASU Mountaineer football team, as well as the Carolina Panthers. She also likes to travel, and was fortunate, she says, to enjoy at trip to England with her mother in June. She and Ernie like to travel with friends as time allows. “We’ve celebrated several of our 50th birthdays in Montana, California and the Florida Keys.” During her son’s military service, Peri was among the founding members in the High Country chapter of Blue Star Mothers, for which she served as vice president, president and chaplain. An active member of Boone United Methodist Church, she has served on various boards, committees and has helped in other areas as needed. “I hope to do some mission work abroad in the next few years,” she adds. Peri and her family have been involved through the years with the Deep Gap Volunteer Fire Department and loved helping with the popular chicken barbecue fundraisers “back in the day,” she says. In addition to supporting several local charities with her husband, Peri has also participated in various fundraising projects, including those for multiple sclerosis and the American Cancer Society. With a positive attitude and a great outlook on life, in general, Peri makes a difference, regardless of the time or place. Her son told her recently that he remembers her telling him, when he was 5 years old, that he could do anything he put his mind to. “My daughter remembers me telling her, ‘If someone is ugly or mean to you, kill them with kindness,’ she says. “Unfortunately, that is not always an easy thing to do.” As a reminder to herself, Peri often ponders on scripture found in Phillipians 4:13: “I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me.” Another, too, among her favorites is: Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

When asked for any advice she has to share with other women — to help them be the best they can be — Peri responds: (1) “Treat others as you would like to be treated. Everyone is important and everyone can have a bad day. (2) “God has given you special gifts, don’t waste them,” (3) “Remember, the glass is half full.” (4) “Surround yourself with positive people.” (5) “Enjoy your girlfriend time.” (6) Have some down time to just be.” sherrie norris Editor, All About Women

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“What do you want your daughter — or your best friend — to know about beauty?” I have asked this question in therapy sessions for many years. So far, everyone has answered some version of wanting her to: (1) know that her beauty is unique, (2) be seen in the ways that she is different from everyone else, and (3) be seen in the ways that her strength and joy can be evident. No one has responded with a hope that she will evaluate her beauty based on comparisons to other people or to conventional fashion industry and media standards.

During these conversations, logic seems to dictate that the same ideas must apply to all people — if they apply at all. That is, if you see the beauty of someone closest to you in her uniqueness, strength and joy, then that is the way to judge all human beauty, including your own. The self-acceptance involved in embracing your own unique beauty promotes physical health, happiness and healthy relationships. Discussions related to individual unique beauty are common in therapy when the problems discussed include eating disorders, as might be expected. But, this topic is important for many people across a wide range of other issues, including depression and relationship problems. A common thread is often the worth and sufficiency of the person to address these needs. That is, when an individual recognizes self worth, and operates from that mindset, she is then able to effectively utilize her unique skills and strengths to meet her needs. This process seems ironic or contradictory to many people, at ﬁrst. Accepting yourself as you are actually increases your ability to make wanted changes. For example, I have seen examples of obese people achieving greater health — including weight loss — after embracing beauty and worth at whatever weight, instead of waiting until a certain weight is attained in order to connect to that beauty and value. Identifying with and connecting to the beauty and worth that is already present — not only what appears after changes are made — can, therefore, build greater physical health. It is often much more difficult to make healthy decisions when you believe that you are not valuable or beautiful. Thoughts such as ‘Why bother?” or “I can’t,” are common for people who are not connected to their worth and beauty. Conversely, ideas that the effort for change is warranted — and is possible — are more common for a person who believes she is basically a valuable person. Eating healthy foods in healthy amounts, while moving more, makes sense when you are protecting inherent value, than

when you believe you are trying to create value. So, when people talk about concerns with being overweight, the first thing I want to address is always self-acceptance of beauty and worth. This shift allows choices about what is possible, instead of shame and fear about what hasn’t yet happened. Overall happiness is increased also when a person operates from a belief that she is beautiful and worthy. It is important to keep in mind that this beauty and worth is inherent and individual — not created or somehow existing, in comparison to other people or standards. That is, your beauty and worthiness is not increased or diminished in the presence of another beautiful and worthy person. It just is. Acceptance of this basic truth allows for much greater happiness. As described, connection to individual strengths also expands options for and ability to make desired changes, which can also increase happiness. Happiness doesn’t mean having no problems. In part, it comes from knowing you are worthy of and capable of addressing identified problems, effectively. Additionally, relationships tend to be healthier for people who practice this type of thinking and self-acceptance. When you operate from what is your best, it is much easier to connect with what is the best of another person. In these circumstances, times of feeling vulnerable — or recognizing mistakes — can be approached more confidently and kindly, both with kindness toward

yourself and the other person. So, there is less need for avoidance, secrets or patterns, such as blaming. People who know they are worthy and beautiful can recognize that an area for growth is just that, and not evidence of unworthiness or ugliness. Growth is then better maintained because it doesn’t depend on perfection for approval, but on acceptance. So, examine how you think and speak of your beauty and your worthiness. Are those words deserving of the people you love most? That is, would you say those words about your daughter or best friend? If not, correct your words and thoughts. The fashion industry is finally playing a little bit of “catch up” to reflect the diverse ways that humans are beautiful. We are seeing a few models that are plus size, of different skin colors and many other differences, including differentlyabled models with Down syndrome or prosthetic legs. Be sure that you reinforce this sort of thinking about yourself, also. Accept your beauty and it will be even more evident to you and to other people. The health of your body, emotions and relationships will benefit greatly.

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What We Wore Have you ever pondered what future generations will remember as the representative fashion of today? And, why is it that history and fashion are intertwined? Sometimes I think eras are defined not only by significant events, but also by what we wore. The 1920s, for example, should be remembered for many things, including the Harlem Renaissance, women earning the right to vote, the discovery of King Tut’s tomb, Lindbergh’s solo flight across the Atlantic and the discovery of Penicillin, as well as the stock market crash and subsequent Great Depression. And, yet, I cannot think of that age without picturing glitzy flapper dresses with dropped waists and rising hemlines.

The same goes for the 1930s, 1940s, 1950s, 1960s, 1970s — you get the idea. Two recent events made me reﬂect on my own fashion history: my hairstylist Claudia was wearing “A Breakfast Club” T-shirt at my last appointment, and Roger and I went to see the band Garbage in concert. Being born in the late 1970s, the 1980s and 1990s were two of my deﬁning decades. My earliest fashion memory from the 1980s — well, not exactly a memory, but

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because there is photographic proof, I cannot deny that it happened — is of being dressed identically to my younger sister, Kendle. We are wearing dresses that can only be described as “Little House on the Prairie” chic. I am grinning in the picture; Kendle looks miserable! Fashion of the 1980s was heavily influenced by movies, music and television, specifically the now classic John Hughes movies, “The Breakfast Club” included, as well as the brand new music television channel, MTV. I studied Madonna’s and Cyndi Lauper’s music videos, and did my best to imitate their styles. And, I wore my Michael Jackson Thriller-era oversized T-shirt, constantly — so often that one of two things must have happened: (1) my mother made it quietly disappear when my attention was elsewhere or (2) it finally disintegrated into a pile of glittery rags!

There was also neon — lots of neon. And, jelly shoes. I loved jelly shoes. Additionally, 1980s style included the power suits and stiletto heels that made up the modern working woman’s wardrobe. While I was not quite ready to fight my way up the corporate ladder, I do remember wearing (and loving) a peachcolored pants and jacket combination with those quintessential giant shoulder pads. My grandmother let me pick it out; she was probably laughing all the way to the register. I interrupt my musings for an announcement from my husband, Roger: When he learned that I was writing about 1980s fashion, he insisted that I mention jams — whatever those are. I have learned from further research (asking Roger) that jams are brightly colored long shorts that were a staple of boys’ fashion during the 1980s. I now return to my regularly scheduled reflections: The 1990s ushered in a new decade and new fashion trends. Although I was never a fan of the grunge music scene, I did wear my fair share of plaid, combat boots and baby doll dresses. And, in the interest of full-disclosure, I will admit to wearing Birkenstock-type sandals. What can I say? They were in. In 1995, I went away to college in Boston and discovered the above mentioned band, Garbage. I spent the next few years mimicking the style of front woman, Shirley Manson. With her flaming red hair, kohl-lined eyes and penchant for velvet and fishnet stockings, she embodied everything that I wanted to be at that point in time — strong, feminine, just angry enough and definitely in charge! Just like Madonna and Cyndi Lauper, Shirley Manson was the latest in a string of female role models that I was fortunate to have during my formative years. Although I started off copying them, these women taught me a great deal about finding my own personal style — something that is now more influenced by what I like and what works for me than by what is trendy. Seeing Garbage again, 21 years later, brought back a wave of memories. Shirley, who turns 50 this year, still has the take-charge attitude, but with a more refined, modern style. And, I would hope, so do I. Time marches on — for us and the

world around us. I enjoy reliving the 1980s and 1990s through music and movies; however, having worn it the first time around, I have no desire to revisit the trends of those decades. While I can only guess what future generations will remember as the representative fashion of today, I feel confident that they will find it impossible to reflect on the events, art, music and more of this era without remembering what we wore.

heather brandon Considers life to be one big anthropological ﬁeld experience. She observes and reports. She enjoys travel, food and wine and adventures with her husband, Roger.

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Small enough,

but serving a big God Betsy Bolick returns to Boone

After a lifetime of overcoming physical obstacles, and seven years of traveling with her ministry, “Small Enough,” Boone’s Betsy Bolick has returned to her hometown as minister to women and special events at Perkinsville Baptist Church. Photo by Kristin Espinosa, Elias Photography

Boone native Betsy Bolick has returned to her hometown to serve at Perkinsville Baptist Church as minister to women and special events. As executive director and founder of Small Enough Ministries, Betsy has a passion to reach the next generation with the gospel of Jesus Christ, she says, acknowledging that the Lord has used her testimony to proclaim hope and joy in

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the midst of life’s trials. Having learned to overcome physical obstacles early in life, Betsy has been traveling and speaking across the country for the last seven years, and has seen God use her greatest struggle, she says, for his glory. Betsy received a degree in religion with a specialization in women’s ministry from Liberty University and a master’s

degree in church leadership and ethics from John Brown University. Most recently, she was in the master’s of divinity program (women’s studies) at Southeastern Seminary. With just a few days under her belt at Perkinsville, Betsy’s enthusiasm for life and serving God and others is clearly evident. “I am always overwhelmed and in awe

of the work, grace, mercy, power, and love of Jesus — he is always blowing my mind with his goodness and his faithfulness,” she says. “Even when I am faithless, he is faithful (2 Tim. 2:13). Even when I cannot see what he is doing — or I question where he is leading — his plans for me are good.” According to Perkinsville’s pastor, Seth Norris, “Betsy comes alongside women like Stephanie Byrd, and others, who have already developed an excellent women’s ministry, and I know that their work together will beneﬁt both the women of Perkinsville and the community.” As a church, Seth adds, “we committed to blessing our community, and Betsy’s service here will further our ability to be a blessing. Her passion is contagious. She is fun, gifted — and most importantly, she loves the Lord. Betsy has already come to love Perkinsville, and I couldn’t be more thankful that she is serving here.” In a conversation two years ago with Seth, Betsy says, her aunt mentioned her ministry and her love for the High Country. “Never in my wildest dreams did I believe it was possible for me to return to my precious home and be able to serve in the capacity that I feel God has called me to,” Betsy says. “But, yet again, I have learned that God is big — bigger than my small dreams and my small understanding of what he can do.” Not only has God planted a deep love in Betsy’s heart for her hometown, she says, but also a passion to reach Watauga County with the love of Jesus Christ. When, earlier this year, she received an invitation from Seth to share her testimony at his church event known as “A Beautiful Story,” her heart “immediately skipped a beat,” she says. “I am so humbled and thankful that the Lord has allowed me to share the story he is writing in my life,” she adds. “It is such a precious reminder that God’s plan is good for his children — even in the darkest places. He has taken my greatest sorrow and used it for his glory and my good. What an incredible savior we serve!” What Seth did not know, Betsy says, was that she had prayed much earlier that God would open the door for her to one day share her story at that particular event.

“God hears the simple prayers of his people,” she says. “I immediately said yes.” Betsy credits Brian Lowe, for whom she earlier worked at The Hope Center, for being a good friend and catalyst “who often propels me forward in the calling God has placed on my life, and challenged me to step out without fear and insecurity.” Brian, she says, was instrumental in helping move her toward the opportunity to speak and ultimately serve at Perkinsville. The night of the event was so beautiful and freeing, Bolick says, “to stand up on the stage bold, free and vulnerable — before many that had known me my entire life and others who had just met me.”

‘He has taken my greatest sorrow and used it for his glory and my good. What an incredible Savior we serve!’ - Betsy Bolick From that experience, she felt a strong desire to serve alongside those at Perkinsville, Betsy says. “I remember thinking, ‘God, that would be so cool to work and serve here. I adore everyone on staff and I felt so welcomed and loved. Little did I know what God was doing. He’s big!” Yet, God was not ﬁnished. After “A Beautiful Story,” and hearing the band House of Cedar, which includes Perkinsville’s worship team members, Kelly Puckettt and Kevin Eller, Betsy had mentioned to her family how much she would love to travel with the group and partner in ministry. “I had meant to contact the group members,” Betsy shares, “but Kelly beat me to it when she sent me a message that God had placed on their hearts to contact me — that same day that he opened the door for me to serve at Perkinsville.” Betsy says at the time, she could not see what God was doing — “or where he

was taking me — and then bam! I had no clue that God was working behind the scenes, yet, he was setting his perfect plan in motion.” When God moves, you know it, Betsy says. “I have prayed for many years to have the opportunity to focus full time on Small Enough Ministries. Yet, I desperately wanted to serve my local church and be faithful to love my community with the love of Jesus.” The partnership with Perkinsville helps her fulfill the call that God has placed on her life to teach women all across the country, yet love those next door to her, as well, Betsy surmises. “I am thrilled to serve here in this capacity. I am blessed to have the opportunity to reach women of all ages with the gospel of Jesus Christ.” Betsy will be co-leading small groups, discipling and mentoring women, planning events, partnering with the women at Perkinsville to share the gospel with the community — “and learning from the incredible staff, members and specifically women that God has brought to Perkinsville,” she says. Betsy describes Seth as a servant leader who has stepped up to help her in her transition. “He, as well as my fellow staff and the precious people at Perkinsville, have welcomed me with open arms.,” she adds. “The Perkinsville church family desires to see the gospel transform those in Boone and beyond. I am unbelievably blessed that Small Enough can come alongside and join in the kingdom work happening at Perkinsville.” The church instills the confidence of Christ in her, daily, Betsy says. “They encourage me to travel and share my story with churches, small groups, women’s events and retreats. They have loved me so well over these past few weeks, and I can’t wait to see what God continues to do through Perkinsville, Small Enough, Boone and beyond. He is big — and I am little.” For more information about Betsy, her life story and her ministry, visit besmallenough.org or perkinsvillebaptistchurch. com. sherrie norris Editor, All About Women

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Celebrating National Breakfast Month Breakfast Bakes 1 can of refrigerated ﬂaky biscuits 1 Tbs. butter 1/3 cup ﬁnely chopped onion ½ cup chopped cooked ham 5 eggs, well beaten Cheese, shredded or cut into pieces

Welcome to National Breakfast Month. I’m all about it, but I can’t promise that a full, hot breakfast is served every morning at my house. But then again, who says breakfast has to be just for mornings? There is some comfort in coming home from a long day at the office with no idea what to fix for dinner, and suddenly, just by opening the fridge and finding a dozen eggs on the shelf, my wheels begin to turn. Omelets? Pancakes and eggs? Bacon, egg and cheese sandwiches? Scrambled eggs, ham and potatoes? You get the message. Or, sometimes, I just plan it that way and throw an “overnight casserole” in the fridge before going to work — and it’s ready to stick in the oven when I return. Originally planned as the first meal of the day, breakfast actually means “to break the fast” after one has not eaten since the night before. Regardless of what you call it, or when you eat it, breakfast food is among my favorites. Let’s see what we can do to make it special at your house. sherrie norris Editor, All About Women

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Heat oven to 350. Separate biscuits; cut each in half. Let stand at room temperature 5 minutes. Press each piece onto bottom and up the sides of 10 lightly-greased muffin pan cups. Set aside. Melt butter in skillet over medium heat; add onion. Cook, stirring occasionally, 1-2 minutes or until onion is soft. Add ham; continue cooking 1 minute. Add eggs; cook gently until set. Remove from heat. Sprinkle about 1 tsp. cheese into each biscuit cup. Divide egg mixture among muffin cups and press down slightly; sprinkle each muffin cup equally with remaining cheese. Bake 14-17 minutes or until puffed and biscuits are lightly golden brown. Serve warm.

Bacon Cheese Pie 1 (9-inch) prepared piecrust Filling: 6 slices bacon 3 oz. sliced Swiss cheese 4 eggs - lightly beaten 1 Tbs. all-purpose ﬂour ¼ tsp. salt 1/8 tsp. pepper 1 dash cayenne pepper 2 cups light cream Dice bacon, fry crisp; drain and spread into pie shell. Cover with cheese slices. Combine other ingredients and spoon into pie shell. Bake at 400 for 15 minutes, reduce heat to 325 for 25-30 minutes more, until knife in center comes out clean.

My Favorite Chicken Breakfast Burritos 2 leftover grilled chicken breasts 4 eggs, scrambled 1 red pepper, sliced Burrito- size tortillas Shredded cheese of choice Reheat chicken; cut into thin strips or small chunks. Prepare burrito with chicken, eggs, pepper and cheese, making sure to roll up bottom well. These may be made up in advance, wrapped tightly in aluminum foil, refrigerated and heated before your family rushes out the door on those busy mornings. They will heat in a minute or so in the microwave, depending on your microwave settings, but remember to ﬁrst remove foil. You can also make up a bunch of these, wrap well and freeze before heating. Sausage also works well if you tire of chicken, but it’s not as healthy. And, I love my chicken burrito with salsa, which is healthy.

Savory Sautéed Mushrooms 1 Tbsp. butter or margarine 2 cloves garlic, minced 1½ lbs. fresh mushrooms, sliced ¼ cup soy sauce Garlic powder to taste Black pepper to taste Melt butter over medium heat in a large pan. Add garlic and sauté for 2 minutes. Add sliced mushrooms, stir to coat; cook for about 5 minutes. Drizzle soy sauce into the mushrooms. Sprinkle with garlic powder and black pepper. Continue cooking over medium heat for about 10 minutes or a bit longer for desired texture.

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On becoming a world citizen I have visited some 45 countries, most of them with a thoughtful group of senior travelers. Our groups explore the essence of each chosen culture and promote cultural exchange. I've written essays about each country, picked out projects to support in several,

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tried to use my Spanish whenever possible, learned a few words in each country's language and read many books about each country. I’ve kept travel journals and an extensive notebook of articles about African countries, I’ve followed international events in magazines and newspa-

pers and on public radio and TV. An attempted coup in Turkey, a devastating earthquake in Burma, a revolution in Egypt — just about every country I've visited has had a frightening crisis before, during or after my visit. This has caused friends and family to cry in alarm,

“Why do you go to these places?” Religious intolerance is increasing rapidly; hunger, poverty and disease have a foothold in much of the world. Armed conﬂict is escalating frighteningly and terrorist attacks seem to be multiplying. What can I do, I wonder? How can I make my life count for something? The words of Frederick Buechner echo for me: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet.” It seems to me that the world's hunger is for reconciliation among nations and people. And my deep gladness is to explore as many countries and cultures as possible, making meaningful connections wherever I go. My Scottish friend Nigel Dower has given a lecture on global citizenship. His words challenge me to do a little investigating. Just who is a global citizen? She is a person who believes that all humankind is one. She places her identity with the global community above her identity as a citizen of a particular nation. She does not renounce her citizenship in her own country. She still loves her native land. But, that identity is given second place. She loves all the nations of the world. She calls herself a member of humankind.

Did you know that if you decide to become a global citizen you can wear a patch with that designation? You can also obtain a world passport, which is valid nowhere in the world, but Mauritania, Tanzania and Togo. Well, maybe that's a start. Burkina Faso, Ecuador, Zambia and Vatican City have also been known, on occasion, to accept the world passport. Diogenes in ancient Greece began the global citizenship movement by announcing, “I am a citizen of the world.” How much can one be expected to identify with all humans everywhere? Identifying as a world citizen means to feel part of and to have concern for all of humankind. It means to desire that we live together as a human family, to believe in the interconnectedness of all things and to value the lives of all humans equally. When a ferry overturns in Bangladesh killing 450 people, those lives matter just as much as those of the 1,245 people killed in Hurricane Katrina. The death of one child in a bombing in Syria is just as tragic as the death of one child in the U.S.A. in a driveby shooting. Some of the actions a global citizen may assume are being a peacemaker — reaching out in service where led — protecting the environment, respecting

diversity, promoting religious pluralism, alleviating poverty, espousing gender equity and advocating sustainable worldwide economic growth. A global citizen, on landing by plane or boat in any country, might think, “I'm home!” Not only could she wear a world patch, she could raise a world ﬂag. She could — and should —learn another language. (Let's face it: Esperanto has probably gone the way of the bustle!) She might work to have her town or city become a world sister city. To date, there are over 1,000 in the world. She could offer to lead a class or give a talk on world citizenship. But, most of all, she would work to be knowledgeable about each country and region of the world, ﬁnding ways to identify personally with as many countries and people within those countries, as possible. Do you want to become a global citizen? You can start today by declaring yourself as such. You will be inspired to begin looking everywhere for knowledge and opportunities to serve. Welcome to the wider world! Step out of your comfort zone. Wander the earth with no boundaries. See what opens up. You will be glad you did.

sue spirit Writes poetry and essays about nature, spirituality, writing, and travel. She has a little cabin in the mountains. degreesoffreedom@frontier.com

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Meg Julian In Pursuit of Wholeness

Meg Julian is a woman who looks at the bright side of life. “You can always find it if you really try,” she says.

Hanging on the wall in her bedroom, a series of “living intentionally” posters serve as daily reminders of the kind of life Meg Julian works to create: a life ﬁlled with adventure, laughter, creativity, the love of family and friends and, yes, even romance. Through pictures cut out of magazines, quotes and ideas for her “bucket list,” Meg has found a way to follow both her heart and her dreams, while living a life of purpose and intention. “Whale watching” (something she did last summer), “keep a tight budget” and “make the most of your time of earth” are only a few of the mantras and goals found on her posters as a representation of Meg’s pursuit of a richly, wonderful, whole life. Even before she understood the concept of mindfulness, wholeness or living intentionally, Meg’s family and child44

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Valuable life lessons for Meg Julian, pictured center with members of “The Katydids” dance team, were learned early in life through dancing, and have extended far into adulthood.” Photos submitted

hood laid a foundation for her adventurous spirit and life of discovery. As she describes, “I had the most idyllic childhood, because I grew up with parents who absolutely and whole-heartedly loved one another. My father thanked God every night for the blessing of my mother.” She also grew up at camp. “We — my parents, my sister, two brothers and I — lived year-round at Holston Presbyterian Camp, where my father was administrator. Because of this, I learned very early that learning can and should be fun, that there are many kinds of people and there are different ways to worship God.” At the camp, she recalls, there was no competition. “Everything was together. It was an inclusive atmosphere in which I thrived.” A camper, counselor and secretary at Holston, Meg enjoyed all aspects of camp

life and put the skills acquired there into her own education and, eventually, her career choices. In high school, she was a member of Miss Kay’s clogging team, an experience which continues to impact her life as well as that of many others. “The lessons of self-respect, responsibility and sense of community went much farther than the dance ﬂoor, “she says,” and have extended far into adulthood with an adult square dancing team, The Katydids, who were all members of Miss Kay’s team at one time or another.” Dancing and singing camp songs are still things Meg loves to do. She loves line dancing, is a member of the Boone shag club, a regular at contra dancing in Valle Crucis and most recently, she participated in the Avery YMCA’s second annual “Dancing with the Stars” competition, in which she won the judges’ choice award.

The enthusiasm in which Meg brings to life can also be found in her approach to her family, her community and, at one time, in her classroom and her school. Completing the two-year program at Lees McRae College, as well as starting a clogging team on its campus, Meg ﬁnished her elementary education degree at Appalachian State University. She also received her master’s degree as a K-12 reading specialist. While teaching at Elk Park Elementary in kindergarten and ﬁrst through third grade classes, Meg’s family grew to include three wonderful children — A.J., Gil and Mary. During her 18-year-tenure at Elk Park, Meg most enjoyed teaching a K-1 combination class as she often worked with the same students for two years. “I loved to see their progress,” she explains. “I loved to watch them grow.” As an educator, many of the camp lessons learned in Meg’s childhood resurfaced: “Have fun — learning can and should be fun.” Meg also endeavored to create a community mentality in her classroom that included everyone as they helped each other reach their individual goals. “I wanted my students to understand that we were in it together.” Closing in on 20 years in the classroom, Meg attended a workshop with her colleagues in which a questionnaire revealed great leadership skills. Meg asked her friends, “Does that just mean I’m bossy?” They assured her that her skills — in uniting groups of people and successfully leading them — was only a positive trait, and they encouraged her to pursue a degree in administration. Upon completion of the degree, Meg was the assistant principal at Avery Middle School for one year, followed by nine years as principal at Newland Elementary School. The teachers at Newland were “so wonderful and so willing to work,” she says. Her belief that “in the classroom is where the rubber meets the road” and “making and keeping your teachers happy will change the school dramatically,” was met with enormous success. As a principal, Meg wasn’t concerned only with test scores or percentages, but she also recognized the importance of reaching the whole child through music, art, dance and unity, as well as academics. She used the resources she had to grow a community — one who knew the

same songs and sang them together, one that shared the same jokes and one that understood the concept of “one for all and all for one.” Close friend and colleague Judy Shomaker describes Meg as an extraordinary educator. “Her love for children is undeniable, and she will advocate for what is best for children, without hesitation. Children thrived in her classroom and always felt loved. Her hands-on approach to learning has always amazed me.” Following her time as principal at Newland, Meg spent two years at the central office, working as the K-12 curriculum instructor. Today, she works with ASU, supervising student teachers and encouraging the next generation of mindful instructors. In her free time, Meg enjoys snow skiing, hiking, reading, dancing and spending time with her three grandchildren who live in Wilmington. She loves the waterfalls and views our mountains provide. As to the future, Meg desires to stay healthy through diet and exercise. She wants to enjoy the place in which she has found herself. “I just want more of what I have right now,” she explains. As part of her “to do” list, Meg would like to move to Wilmington for a year and fulfill her lifelong dream of living at the beach. Meg’s best advice for teachers, students and everyone is to “count your blessings.” She says she works to live her life embracing this attitude and has been amazed at how this positive focus has a lasting effect on her life, as well as others. “Look at the bright side,” she says. “You can always find it, if you really try.” Meg’s perfect day would include a morning at the beach watching the sunrise, swimming in the ocean and feeling the warmth of the sun. She would time-travel through the middle of the day — to reach the mountains in the evening to watch the sunset. “I would want to do all of that with someone I love,” she continues. From her camp life to the dance floor — to the halls of education as teacher, principal, and supervisor — to the posters that hang in her bedroom, Meg Julian blazes her own trail as a woman passionately engaged in pursuing wholeness —everything imaginable — to enjoy the best in life.

A series of “living intentionally” posters serve as daily reminders of the kind of life Meg Julian works to create: a life filled with adventure, laughter, creativity, the love of family and friends — and, yes, even romance.

Hollie Greene Hollie Greene is an English teacher who loves stories, words and the mountains of North Carolina.

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Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Not Expected Understanding Postpartum Distress by Sophie Minis

The birth of an infant is often a time of joy and celebration — family members come to see the baby, strangers stop a new mother in the grocery store to share congratulations and remark, “Isn’t having a new baby the best? Isn’t being a mom wonderful?” For some mothers, however, these statements bring feelings of discomfort that this widely held belief about motherhood does not fit their own experience. “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not happier? Does this mean that I am a bad mother?” Postpartum depression and anxiety is the most common complication after childbirth, affecting between 15-20 percent of women. While 60-80 percent of mothers who have recently given birth may experience “baby blues” — a brief period of moodiness, irritability or sadness that may last a few days or a week after delivery — postpartum depression and anxiety affects women longer, potentially starting during pregnancy and lasting up to the first year. A new mother experiencing postpartum distress may feel anxiety, irritability, sadness, feelings of guilt, worthlessness or helplessness, low energy and lack of interest in activities, disturbances in sleep and/or appetite, physical aches and pains — and sometimes thoughts of suicide. Postpartum depression and anxiety, often referred to as postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (PMAD), are not limited to a certain race, age or class. While normal hormonal shifts after birth can contribute to heightened mood changes for any woman, other emotional and environmental factors can also make her more vulnerable to these symptoms. Ultimately, “she” can be any new mom: she is the mother who had to go back to work early and is trying to balance work and raising an infant; she is the mother who stays at home with her baby and misses the gratification she experienced at work; she is the young mother who has minimal resources and was not planning on having a baby at this point in her life; she is the mother in her 40s who does not feel connected to younger mothers in her community; she is the

mother taking care of a baby born with special needs; she just had her ﬁrst child; she just had her third child — or this is her adopted child. She is your neighbor, your friend, your daughter, your sister and your co-worker. She could be any woman raising an infant. She feels anxious, helpless and insecure — and wonders if she will ever feel like herself again. Although it is so common, postpartum distress remains stigmatized in our society. The idea that motherhood is an idyllic time in a woman’s life shapes the expectation that this is what it will be like for every new mom, and it can create stress and shame when this expectation is not realized. Additionally, the majority of media coverage concerning postpartum mood disorders covers the most tragic cases, such as the mother who takes the life of her child or herself. While the vast majority of cases of postpartum depression and anxiety disorders do not result in harm to the mother or child, untreated depression and anxiety in new mothers can prolong symptoms unnecessarily, adding stress and unhappiness for all concerned. Fortunately, there are resources that can help mothers navigate the challenges of postpartum distress. Perhaps the most basic resource is being able to let a mother share her experience without judgment. An empathetic listener who gives a mother space to share her experience is essential. A mother who is facing these challenges needs to know she is not alone, that this is not her fault, and that there is support for her to overcome this difficult and temporary period. In our community, The Children’s Council is making steps to support the wellbeing of all new mothers and their babies. Babes on Blankets is a support group for parents to share their joys, challenges, helpful suggestions and urgent questions. It meets every Thursday, 10:30 a.m.-12 p.m. at the Children’s Council, and is ideal for parents and babies, birth to 1 year. Nurtured Beginnings is a program that provides one to three in-home visits, free of charge, to parents of newborns

up to 12 weeks old residing in Watauga County. The Children’s Council believes that bringing families and community supports together gives babies the best environment for growth. This growth is nurtured by providing information, resources, a listening ear and a helping hand. The Children’s Council is also in the process of developing a support group for mothers experiencing postpartum distress. The group will provide a safe, nonjudgmental space for a mother to share her experience and receive support from others going through similar challenges. In addition, The Children’s Council, with the support of Appalachian State University’s Counseling and Psychological Services center, will be screening “The Dark Side of the Full Moon,” a documentary that spotlights the impact of postpartum distress and the need for new mothers to be screened for postpartum mood and anxiety disorders. The film will be shown from 6-9 p.m. Thursday, Sept. 29 at Appalachian State University’s Greenbriar Theater. Moderators will be present for a Q&A session after the film. Admission is free, but donations are appreciated and will benefit the Children’s Council’s efforts to support maternal and infant mental health and wellbeing. For more information on Nurtured Beginnings, Babes on Blankets, the upcoming postpartum support group, or “The Dark Side of the Full Moon” screening, contact Tasha Fuller at The Children’s Council. If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of postpartum depression or anxiety, please reach out. Postpartum Support International offers more information about postpartum mood and anxiety disorders, in addition to resources for mothers and their support systems. Postpartum Support International www.postpartum.net Support Helpline: (800) 944-4773

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Wrap You Up in Jesus’ Name by Ann Wilson “Wrap You Up in Jesus’ Name: A Mother’s Prayer” by Ann Wilson chronicles the series of prayers the author has prayed over her children throughout their infancy, childhood, teenage years and on into adulthood. It is a prayer that has become a legacy with Ann’s children ending their texts, emails, and conversations with the book’s acronym, “WYUIJN.” This heartfelt book begins with a preface and introduction that carefully explain Ann’s hope in sharing her work: “I wrote this book because I felt like the Lord wanted me to share this prayer and things I have learned over the years. Everything that I have learned has come by grace, and I am thankful for it. Hopefully this book will make it a little easier to understand what the Bible is telling us to do with raising children. Children are like guinea pigs you are practicing on while raising them, because they are so different. It is also like walking in space, because you don’t know what to expect. I remember taking a Lamaze class, thinking I was really doing something great, when I should have been taking a Bible class on raising children.” The 31 chapters in the book outline 31 ways to pray for one’s children, based on the varying stages of their lives. Each section uses a Bible verse as a way to examine both a mother’s heart and that of her children. Each prayer is a reminder of what is truly important in this life — not wealth, position or prestige, but rather the heart, the soul and the spirit — and keeping each of those in good standing with God. The first prayer, “WYUIJN In Salvation,” explains that there is only one way to come to Christ: “Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved” (Acts 4:12). Ann expounds, “We wrap them (children) up in Jesus’ name, because there is no other name through which they can be saved and live forevermore. This is the most important thing we can do for our children: teach them about salvation.” Other chapters include prayers about trust, goodness, temperance, wisdom and strength. During an interview, Ann explained that this book of prayers was not what she intended originally: “My husband and children think I am the only one that knows how to cook, so I felt like a good way to do it would be to write a cookbook and I could include scripture. While I was writing the cookbook, I felt in my spirit that Lord was saying, ‘I want you to write this prayer first that you prayed over your children since they started school. So, I stopped writing the cookbook and started on this.” Ann also wants young parents to understand the responsibility of having children: “When we first get married and have kids, we think ‘oh, how

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wonderful this is’ — and we don’t realize the responsibility that we are getting into. If is a life-long commitment. Every decision we make in life can bring a positive or negative consequence in our life and also that of our children. I tried to instill in the readers what a joy our children should be to us, but also that the children’s welfare rests on the parents until they are on their own.” The ﬁnal prayer in her book, “WYUIJN In His Care” highlights one of the most important themes of the book. “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you” (1 Peter 5:7). We must teach our children at a young age to cast their every care on the Lord, for he cares for them. Our children need to know that, no matter where they go, the Lord is with them. They do not have to worry about things. Remember — we cannot go everywhere they go, but the Lord can. Our children were lent to us to care for them and teach them the ways of the Lord.” A poignant book of prayers, “WUYIJN” directs the overwhelming love and responsibility we have for our children into an impassioned and beautiful series of incantations to our creator. Ann’s book brings hope to the daunting, beautiful task of raising a child. Hollie Greene Hollie Greene is an English teacher who loves stories, words and the mountains of North Carolina.

About the Author A native of Avery County, Ann Wilson became a Christian when she was 21. At 26, she married and later raised three daughters. She has taught Sunday school classes for children, teenagers and women. She has also organized youth rallies, Bible schools, and home prayer meetings. Ann’s ﬁrst book, “Wrap You Up in Jesus’ Name,” has created many opportunities to meet others and share her book of prayers. She is currently working on a cookbook to add to her collection of writings. For more information about Ann, her books, or upcoming events, visit annwilsonbooks.com.

I wrote this book because I felt like the Lord wanted me to share this prayer and things I have learned over the years. Everything that I have learned has come by grace, and I am thankful for it. Hopefully this book will make it a little easier to understand what the Bible is telling us to do with raising children. - Ann Wilson AAWMAG.COM | SEPTEMBER 2016

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