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FORGIVING THE UNFORGIVABLE
LET ME TELL YOU A STORY; I RECENTLY HAD A SESSION WITH A CLIENT. SHE WAS STUCK IN A PARTICULAR AREA OF HER LIFE – AS MANY OF US ARE – BECAUSE OF SOMETHING THAT HAD HAPPENED MANY, MANY YEARS AGO AND WAS BLOCKING HER FROM MOVING FORWARD.
What this woman experienced happened when she was at the innocent age of 2, a whole lifetime ago! The particular emotion that was not acknowledged was anger – anger that was manifesting in her life as a grown woman. When I asked her if she was ready to forgive, she responded ‘How can you forgive the unforgivable?’
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What a great question. How the hell do you forgive the horrors that happen in the world and people’s personal lives? Have you ever thought ‘It’s not my life, I can’t do anything about it?’ I know it was something I remember I used to say to myself and then continue in my life in ignorant bliss. It didn’t affect me because I’m one of the lucky ones and there’s a good chance you were too.
I responded with, ‘Well, I can’t answer that question, however, let us consider the consequences of not forgiving and letting it go?’ Depending on the severity of the trauma, it can be subjecting ourselves to a lifetime of misery, pain and suffering because someone wrongfully proved to you that you are unworthy of love. Something this beautiful soul had experienced long enough and was ready to let go of! I’m so grateful I got to be a part of her healing – in just one session, she removed the blocks to love and felt free again!
“Forgiveness is like setting a prisoner free, and realising you were the prisoner.”
Forgiveness in the truest sense of the word is not about condoning what happened or ‘letting them get away with it’ or pretending like everything is ok and let’s just move on. Forgiveness is taking 100% responsibility for the feelings you have held onto for so long. It’s
realising that holding onto those hot coals of anger, resentment and bitterness inevitably rob you of the love and connection that are your basic human needs, for the rest of your life. It’s understanding that the feelings you feel are yours and yours alone. Only you can heal them. Let me give you some tips on how you get there.
Awareness Bring your awareness to when you feel a surge of toxic emotion course through your body, do you focus on what or who is triggering you and fall into the blame game? That moment is the focal point for healing. You have to consciously choose to love the situation that is robbing you of your peace of mind, whatever it is.
Self Soothe Give yourself the advice that you so desperately need to hear and take it. When you choose to love that which you hate about yourself or what has happened to you, you allow a higher power to shine through; inspiration now becomes your ally. You become aware of the melodramatic story, keeping you stuck in cycles of pain, and you move into freedom. Freedom to feel what you feel. Freedom to express yourself fully in any given moment. Freedom to connect to everyone and everything.
Freedom to give and receive love joyfully because love is all there is and that is what you are!
My Name is Alexe J McDonald and it is my passion and purpose to help you create freedom in your life and to thrive through life’s challenges by changing sub conscious beliefs and perceptions allowing you to transcend limitations into strengths and transform stress and anxiety into peace and empowerment!
