Equal II Margazine May 2012

The Power of ImPerfection

May 2012

Awesome Contributors

Diane Jackson

Catherine Fyans

Angela Anderson

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note from the editor

Helen Frys

Welcome to this second issue of Equal II Margazine, published for the natural therapy practitioner and their clients.

back for more. I am pleased to be working with these same individuals again, as they unfold more of their own wisdom and insight.

To be quite honest, heading into the arena, I thought I had it pretty together. Long ago I learned that I could never be perfect in the absolute definition of the word; that mistakes would creep through in things I wrote and edited; that I could count on putting my foot in my mouth at an inopportune moment...

And so we also have Catherine Fyans revealing a startling discovery of how perfect imperfection can be. Helen Frys tells us to forget about being perfect and 'just do it!'

Diane Jackson offers a useful set of supportive thoughts that can be tied in to the word 'imperfection'. Angela Anderson encourages us to start to trust in our perfect imperfections, or perhaps our imperfect perfection.

What I didn't understand fully, it seems, was that I still have more to learn. So that, for instance, today when I went back to re-read my first welcome message to all you wonderful readers I found a mistake!!! I know: can you believe it?? And after I was so careful. It's almost as if I needed to be reminded that I'm not perfect.

Who'da thunk it?

One way that Mz Margz is modelling her own understanding of the gift of perfection that lies in imperfection, is in her calm and breezy acceptance of the number of contributors for an issue – or the lack thereof. So that this time around, we have roughly half as many guest authors as we did the first time.

This doesn't mean, however, that the second issue is in any way less meaty, or less important – or less perfect – than the first.

Indeed, in some ways this issue even more important. Because whilst it is absolutely vital that we each discover our voice, if we continue to let our perceived imperfections paralyse us, our voice will never gain its full impact.

But enough of the sermonising! I'm just so delighted in the ongoing lessons this life is teaching me, that I wanted to share a little bit with you. I'm also sharing elsewhere in this issue, having myself been stimulated to write, first about the perfection of being in the present moment, and second about what is often seen as signs of 'female' imperfection.

We have another new contributor in this issue as Lia Scomazzon shares how she stumbled on perfection... and what it sounded like.

Several writers in that first issue found the whole experience so inspiring that they came

Mz Margz, meanwhile, is back from New York and hitting on all cylinders. Whilst her articles this issue aren't about imperfection per se, they are most certainly about that bigger issue that surrounds, and underpins, imperfection – trust.

Trust in your imperfections. Trust in your thoughts. Trust in your actions. Trust in your vision. Trust in yourself.

Trust in your ability to bring your message to the world.

I'll not say more about Mz Margz's articles but rather let you dive right in and discover all of the truly amazing insights and discoveries (and I do not say this lightly) she brought back from 10XEMPIRE. Let me just repeat what I wrote in the last issue, because the words ring even more true today than they did two months ago: 'If I know anybody who can step up into her full greatness, it's absolutely, definitely, Mz Margz. Watching her journey thus far has been fascinating; I have an inkling that fascination is about to ramp up 10X. Remember, friends – we knew her "when" – and we'll know her "then"!!'

For Mz Margz – indeed, for us all – our 'then' has already begun!

Enjoy...

Peace.

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Note from Mz Margz Sometimes things pass under your nose and they are so simple and clever you go 'DOH! Wish I'd thought of that!'

I'm not complaining. All I am saying is, it might look glamorous and fun, but every rose has its thorns and every glamour event has a corresponding smelly airport bathroom. If it's too perfect, we can't ever learn from the experience.

It was like that when Dean Frenkel, Harmonic Throat Singer and all-time fabulous human being, coined the title phrase at Sanctum for the Soul.

It was pretty darned perfect though when I found my driver and he pointed out which car was taking me from JFK into town.

'Perfection' is indeed 'as per fiction'. It's an unattainable standard we strive relentlessly toward until one day the need for perfection knocks us so hard in the head we finally get the message. There is no such thing as perfect!

As I've sat over the last 24 hours writing my articles, my brain has started to process some of what happened for me at 10X. As I look back, there was so much imperfection in that event.

So this is why Patricia and I decided that the Imperfect in I'm Perfect was a great way to go.

Thank you to all our wonderful contributors who have all shared different insights on perfection, or lack thereof.

The lovely thing about the Margazine and having Patricia in the editor's chair is that I get to consume the stories in the exact same way you do. They all get saved and tagged by Patricia and put up in edit mode until I swoop in to cut them into the Margazine.

I so treasure reading the stories and cherish reading the creativity of the fabulous contributors, more so because I've seen most of them in their less-thanperfect states, smashing through their fears or their not-good-enough hang-ups with perfection.

Having just finished reading Patricia's editor's note, I was touched by her words.

Patricia knows me from the very early days and has seen every iteration of imperfection that could have ever possibly been churned out. But it's all turned out just perfect and my ability to dodge the perfection stamp continues. Yes, last month I was in New York and that sounds like a really perfect thing to do... and it was.

Just for instance, I can tell you that it wasn't very perfect sitting and trying to focus on some of the most important information being shared – during the 14th hour of training that day! Yes, 14 hours. I was near tears with exhaustion, jet lag and excitement, and my brain hurt so bad trying to concentrate, and the presenter kept shouting out, 'Can You Take More???' and it seemed like I was the only one in the audience NOT shouting, 'YES, Give Us More!!!'

Never compare what others are getting or doing, because you can guarantee somewhere in any equation, they have a different take on the situation. I was SO ready for bed but wouldn't submit, just in case I missed something. I also knew in those situations, the presenter rewards those who hang in 'til the end with the best information. I felt very imperfect in not wanting to be there, but the information I got was sheer perfection.

I believe for perfection to exist, it needs imperfection to balance. Watch the sunrise and you will realise just how perfect things can get in nature – and then understand for the sun to rise, it has to kill off the beauty of the night.

Have a highly imperfect month, folks, and thanks for all your support and great comments about the Margazine! It's been... ummm... perfect!

But I just want to remind you that door to door, the travel time between the Cute House and Manhattan is 24 hours. I went nonstop, so I spent 24 hours either shuffling through security points, waiting in airport lounges or being jammed into a small, hard seat, shoved up against snoring strangers and wide awake myself. That ain't so perfect. Then there's the jetlag!

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STUMBLING ON PERFECTION

by Lia Scomazzon

On one of my regular rambles through the uncharted terrain of the internet, I discovered perfection. Here it is:

fix has its place, too). The man sharing this speaks from a place of deep connection and authenticity.

http://www.stillmind.com.au/ MP3%20mindful/6minute %20breath%20awareness.mp3

But what really makes this perfect is that he stumbles during part of the delivery of this gift.

Not just once, but three times, and each time he rights himself and continues. Because our world is used to aspiring to a different type of perfection, one that is clearly defined, controlled and frequently unattainable, it is a surprise that this recording was not discarded and replaced with a mistake-free version.

Whether or not you decide to unwrap this gift from www.stillmind.com.au, I will let you know what is inside.

It is a six-minute mindfulness meditation that gives us the essence of perfection.

There is understanding about our circumstances (we are so busy, who can consider sparing longer than six minutes for enlightenment?), it is simple (with minds already close to overload, we seek the not-toodemanding), and it is effective (we don't always need the timeconsuming process of unfolding understanding; a spiritual quick-

But this version is where we get an inkling of what perfection is.

There is understanding, simplicity and effectiveness here, coming from a place of authenticity and connection, but on another level altogether. The essence of love, integrity and reflecting something higher than

ourselves is undimmed, and it is shared with us.

How perfect this MP3 and what a gift it is, to be able to teach us that! When we can be open to the many layers of what it shares, we can create something perfect as well, perhaps with a little error, here and there, also.

Š 2012 Lia Scomazzon All Rights Reserved

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TRUST IN YOUR OWN IMPERFECTION

by Catherine Fyans

I have a large gap between my two front teeth that reminds me of one of my 'imperfections' on a daily basis. Not at all fashionable in this climate of expensively aligned and whitened teeth, but there it is.

I am in fact a very flawed person and I won't bore you with the list. Enough to say, I have my share of issues, neuroses and hang-ups.

Through my imperfections I have experienced much in the spectrum of human sufferings and failings; and, just for the record, choose not to cover the whole spectrum – thank-you very much, 'Universe'!

Under the guise of the business of health, I am surreptitiously a health and life 'coach'.

For me it is truly a matter of 'teach what you most need to learn'; and, though I attempt to 'walk the talk' as much as I can, I would not want anyone to observe me in my fragile and vulnerable moments.

Well, actually they did, very recently and very publically.

Why are these things so very inconvenient?

Just when you think that the mask is firmly in place for all to not notice the 'real' and flawed you, something triggers the part that is real and begs to be Click here if lost

expressed. Out of left field. Just like that.

(And no, I am not talking about naked dancing.)

I was at yet another workshop (No. 2340, I think) and 'The Universe' conspired to coordinate a series of events to trigger deep emotional pain in me.

My child self was 'on lead', well and truly, and there was no stopping the swell of emotion that had been suppressed under that mask for far too long.

Very uncomfortable for a good little perfectionist like me. Nowhere to hide.

I could feel the ice break under a torrent of tears. And this was not one of those touchyfeely workshops but one on finances and business management!

Despite this, I felt the softening in myself and those around me as I was met with compassion and understanding.

Mask askew, make-up smeared, snottynosed and blotchy – I realised that others responded much more warmly to this version of me.

I was very imperfect, but very real.

Catherine Fyans © 2012 Catherine Fyans All Rights Reserved

No Return from an Empire State of Mind

by Margaret Gill

'New York, concrete jungle where dreams are made of There's nothin' you can't do Now you're in New York These streets will make you feel brand new Big lights will inspire you Let's hear it for New York, New York, New York'

Minding my own business.

Sitting quietly in the first few days of the New Year.

Planning to be settled – making it all work – being sensible – no more crazy, impetuous behaviour.

Wasn't to be.

On 3 January 2012 came an invite to attend 10XEMPIRE in New York City at Easter.

– My head said no.

– My heart said go!

– Life will never be the same.

I've tasted something that perhaps 'should' have stayed in the jar with the lid firmly gaffer-taped down. Because once you dip your big ole finger in that honey pot of potential you know life is about to turn you on your head and bang your crown chakra on the concrete.

As Jay-Z and Alicia Keys blasted out the speakers reminding me New York is the concrete jungle dreams are made of, at least I knew I had plenty of places to bang my head!

People are asking me what the key takeaways were from my trip and the program.

I think the biggest personal takeaway is how close I've been to the right answers all along.

Like so many of us, I trusted my intuition to a certain degree and acted on it, but then I just seemed to end up going around in circles, unsure if I was on the right track because the pieces didn't seem to be coming together. Sometimes it takes a complete stranger with a piece of blue sky to walk in and turn the dial a couple of degrees before you see and understand exactly what the puzzle has been trying to tell you.

Sometimes in life, invisible doors open. Most of the time, we simply walk past these doors, too busy and too self-absorbed to notice them. Other times we notice all right, but those open doors just scare the hell out of us and it's easier to walk on by.

The day I flew back into Melbourne was the anniversary of the day nine years earlier that I had moved to the quaint little town of Hepburn Springs. After a hellish long flight, 24 hours in airports and planes, it was so wonderful to see the smiling face of my friend at the airport.

There is nothing like coming home after a long-haul flight, but I knew the second I opened the gate and walked up the path to the front the door that this wasn't going to be home again for much longer.

My nine-year journey has only been the prologue. Most certainly it has been one of finding myself, the true me within. I doubt all of me has been pulled out yet.

I believe that's another part of my takeaway from New York.

There is still more for me, and it's my time now to go forth and find the remaining parts of the puzzle.

As usual, I was the kid in nappies at the start of the event, chasing after the bigger brothers and sisters. The difference this time was that it only took me a few hours to catch up.

Everyone else there seemed to have been to at least a dozen other Brendon Burchard events, were in a Mastermind group of his, had done his speaking course, were in the Experts Academy twenty times over.

Many guru-ised him.

Quite frankly he'd always slightly irritated me with his high energy videos, and it had been a bit of a mystery to me why I'd signed up and paid so much to come to this event. But here I was, front row, centre of the room, dancing like a mad woman, cheering and carrying on with the other 350 people in the room.

The thing that stood out for me was this – through the whole event he remained just like he is in the videos. After about six hours of presentation he could

still bounce around the stage like a madman, delivering highend content at a pace that had been difficult to keep up with in the first hour, so imagine how it was by the fourteenth hour on Day Two. Yes, we'd started at 9AM and we finished at 11PM that day. He was still a hypedup Duracell Bunny delivering mind-blistering content at 11PM! That was inspiring, and opened up a whole new world for me to aspire to!

I've always had a rule not to spend big money on courses with people I liked a lot. It might seem counter-intuitive, but the reason is this. You'll end up nowhere if you start the relationship with someone you've already perched on a podium.

One of my mentors used to say to all her groups – never put me on a pedestal because that only gives me further to fall. It's been invaluable advice over the years.

If people are making you comfortable, they don't stretch you and you will tire of them, or at least their message, very quickly. People that you find slightly grating or irritable have something in their energy field that will agitate you and put you in a place of discomfort.

I've come to understand that the magic happens for most humans when they are in discomfort, because they will do anything to move away from the yucky feeling back to where they are comfortable.

Some people have the gift of pulling you back into comfort, but when you look around, you

are way higher than the place you started in.

At this point, you can get vertigo and scramble back down to the place where you feel safe.

Or you can look up and see a whole new level of potential to strive toward.

Seems I'm most comfortable right out on the edge of cohesion, totally comfortable with being uncomfortable.

New York is a city on the edge, and being there reminded me of the things I've given up to be on this journey.

Throughout the training we had to keep shouting out, 'It's my time!'

For me, now – it's my time to go to the next level.

That may mean walking away from much of what I have already created. But my foundations are deep, and stronger than they have ever been. I've listened and learned from some of the greatest minds on the planet as I've skilled myself up from the wallpaper I used to be in my corporate days into a whole new vibrant world of potential.

What New York taught me was that I want more than anything in the world to keep working with people, to help them find all the pieces of their puzzle – but also that I haven't yet discovered all the ways in which I will do this.

The streets of New York did make me feel brand new, and the bright lights did inspire me.

I want to feel what it's like again to go to a deli at 6AM and find

it not only open but crankin' out the best tuna melts in the city. I want to get my photo taken with Elmo at 1AM when I can't sleep, and most of all I want to find all the things I can do.

Who knows if it will be in New York; but I'm doing my

damnedest to get back to use up the two free tickets I got with 10X. Next time I'll be in California – minutes from Cupertino in Silicon Valley.

My iPad will sure feel at home, even if I don't!

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Are You A Flower or A Bee?

by Margaret Gill There was a fabulous little story shared at 10X that I hope you are going to love.

everything it needs, until it is time to go back to the earth and start the process again.

It totally nails how we need not to 'bee' in our business and marketing activities.

Then there is the bee.

Flowers are amazing things. They start from a tiny seed, get the idea that they can be bigger than their current reality, and begin to do what it takes to grow.

They start out as a very tiny seed.

But eventually, once their foundations are secure, their roots have been put down and conditions are right, the flower plant sends through its first offering to the world.

It pops new green shoots up through the dirt that has so lovingly supported it during its first stage of growth. The flower then lets the green shoots turn into leaves that establish the stability of the plant and provide shade while the flower bud starts to form.

Then when it is good and ready, the flower bursts forth and shines in all its glory for the world to see. It is so wonderful and beautiful, people often ignore everything else in the garden just to get close to and admire the flower. There is quite a lot of work and energy required to get the flower to its full stage, but once it's there, it simply stands tall and naturally attracts

Everyone loves bees. In fact, they have a solid reputation for being busy, and being busy's good, right?

Well, yes and no‌ The bee pops out with much abundance surrounding her, more honey than she could ever eat in a lifetime, but alas, all too soon she joins the thousands of others just like her who need to work hard all day and keep up the reputation of the bee.

They fly around all day seeking out the flowers that are just standing in the sunshine waiting for the bees to arrive.

Bees don't see very well, so they have to fly until they find a big bright patch of colour and hope it's a bunch of flowers, not a bright red Kenworth truck. It's tough for a bee just to get back to the hive in one piece.

Poor Mz Bee... doesn't even have time to admire the flower before she has to busily gather the pollen and then carry almost her own weight in pollen or nectar back to the hive. Then she has to fight with the thousands of other

bees, just to get a spot to dump her load.

Meanwhile the flower sits quietly in the garden, basking in the sunshine and waiting for Mz Bee to return.

But there is more work for Mz Bee to do before she can return to the flower. First she has to do a complete cleanup at the hive before she goes back out to collect another load.

Sometimes a flower patch is so abundant that the bee must make several trips back and forth, carrying a heavy load back in and taking an empty load out, then carrying another heavy load back in again. The noise and road rage is overwhelming all day – so many bees on the path back and forth to the hive. Sometimes Mz Bee passes some amazing places, but there's no time to stop and smell the roses, she just has to keep working.

Oh, and she can't forget to pollinate a few thousand other plants as she passes by, to keep the whole ecosystem in balance.

The work of a bee is never done.

The bee is so busy she doesn't even have time to consider if there is anything productive she could be doing with the empty load she has to take out of the hive. She is just so focused on getting the pollen and nectar back

Wattle tree and bee in the Cute House Garden

to the hive that there's no time for thinking creatively.

Then there is that demanding Queen to be served... Oh dear, more work, it never ends!

Then what? The farmer comes and takes a huge percentage of the production, safe in the knowledge that the bees don't need it. They'll just keep gathering and producing, gathering and producing, because they don't know how to stop.

Now, think about this: The flower and the bee play an equal part in the honey making process.

Honey can't be made without a bee AND a flower.

In fact our whole food chain is being threatened because the bees are disappearing, and bees are necessary for pollinating most of our food crops. But if the bees don't have enough flowers to seek

out because humans keep building housing estates where flowers beds used to grow, then how can they make honey? And without honey, how can they survive? Honey – and bees – don't exist without flowers.

It's the same in business. Either you can be the bee who literally works their guts out to get the honey, OR you can be the flower who stands in the limelight drawing the bees in and getting the same result.

In your business you can choose to be the one-track bee who will always be part of the masses working their guts out with little reward or recognition. Or yours can be the business that plans, that puts down solid foundations and roots, that is prepared to enlist the help of others during its growth, and, most importantly, is prepared to shine so everyone can

find you easily AND you can contribute to the positive outcome.

The moral of this story is: 1. Stop cutting down the tall poppies because bees and humanity need them.

2. Flowers and bees have different ways to contribute to the same outcome, which is honey.

Bees and flowers have predestined roles, but humans have choice.

What are you choosing to be? A flower or a bee?

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TRUST IN YOUR OWN IMPERFECTION

by Helen Frys

Did you know that what you're longing for, is longing for you?

It's true.

So, what gets in the way of bringing our desires to us? Often it's waiting for that all-time, I'llknow-it-when-I-see-it, everything-has-to-be-perfect, moment.

It's almost like we're waiting for someone to bring a beautiful shiny silver ball, all packaged up beautifully, and when we unwrap it there's a slight explosion, and all of a sudden, whammo! everything in our life is absolutely perfect and we have all we've ever wanted. Now… at last I can move ahead with my ideas!

I was a great one for waiting for all my ducks to be lined up before I would take any action.

But all that led to was procrastination and never getting anything done.

So how did things change for me? Three small secrets helped me to get off the perfection treadmill:

First, I take 100% responsibility for all of my creations.

I realised that whatever is happening in my life is all of my own doing, my own thoughts and my own feelings. The actions I take or don't take. Accepting full responsibility opens the door to having my desires.

Second, I take action towards what it is I want.

I discovered that to begin with, all I have to take is one small

action step towards my goal. I tell myself to just start… even if the first attempt is really bad, I know that as I continue that action, I'll get better and better at it. I can refine it and tweak it. But only if I've started.

What's holding you back? If you are thinking you're not perfect, and you just haven't got it all together yet, then that is what's keeping what you want at bay.

Think of it as learning to cook a new dish. The first time you attempt a new recipe it may not look or taste like you expected.

But what happens if you have a second or third or fourth go at cooking that dish? You begin to understand what works and what doesn't, you know what to add or take out, you discover new techniques, and you get excited, because it all comes together. It tastes better and looks fantastic!

'What's the worst that could happen if I give it a go?'

Well, the same principle works when you want to create your deepest longings. You don't have to be perfect to start. Start, and then you become perfect. Taking even one percent action each day is still better than taking no action at all.

Pay close attention to what you are thinking, saying and doing.

Be gentle with yourself. Start being what you want to attract.

Yes, I'm sure you will have challenges on the way, but challenges help us to grow. Give thanks for them, and think of how good you'll feel when you've overcome them. There's nothing more satisfying than celebrating after overcoming a challenge. It's what makes life exciting.

Third, I make a commitment to myself to start.

Making the commitment sets in motion all kinds of things that will support your desires. I remember thinking, 'Who am I to go out and teach?' 'Who am I to be a writer?' 'Who am I to share my message?' But that was my fear talking. As I began to trust and accept that I'm not perfect and don't have to be, opportunities began to open up for me. And I wondered, where had all these opportunities been in the past? The truth is, they were always there. I just wasn't saying 'Yes' to them.

What if you were to ask yourself:

'What belief am I holding onto that makes me fearful of moving in the direction of what I want?'

'When will it be the right time?'

'What if I did start today, can't it only get better?'

'How much longer am I willing to wait?'

Think of Richard Branson's famous phrase, 'SCREW IT, JUST DO IT'. There is perfection in our imperfection!

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The New Face of Healing

by Margaret Gill The face of Healing has been morphing and growing ever since the very first cavemen realised certain plants had different effects. Then they started to figure out certain rocks worked well for certain tasks, and our industry was birthed. Truth is, nature and the animals had been working with the natural energies way longer than humans – and they are still so much wiser than we are!

Things seem to be ramping up at a rate of knots in these new energy times. Several of my clients have really stepped up and begun concentrating on bringing through their own systems. These 'systems' vary widely in both their application and in the way they help people.

Every opportunity I get these days, I like to talk with people who have had major personal shifts in the past years. I have a constant need to understand what makes some people shift, and what makes others stay where they are. Being someone who has made incredible shifts in my own personal life, to the point now where the old me wouldn't even be able to pick the new me out of a line up, I have developed a fascination with what makes some people step into who they really are.

The thing I have noticed most is that people get seriously uncomfortable within themselves before they move.

The other common factor is that they wish they had shifted

sooner, because life IS better 'on the other side'.

needed that third party to be right IN the process.

I attract a lot of corporate refugees as clients because likes attract! These are people like me, who jumped the corporate machine and went in pursuit of another life. Many of the 'shifters' are now developing healing and coaching systems that will make a big difference in the world.

The difference with these new systems is that now the healer stands back and lets the client interact with the healing system, and the client and the system figure it out between themselves.

Yes, it's very different!

This has made me even more inquisitive, and now I've added another question. What allows these shifters to step into a different life, but also gives them an 'access all areas' pass to bring through their own systems?

In my interview with Lee Carroll recently we spoke about these new systems that are turning up around the planet. He observed that they are very different from the healing systems we have been using in the past. The clarity, vibrancy and truth within these systems allow people to move very quickly through their stuff, should they so choose.

It got me to a point where I asked myself... well, what is so different about these new systems?

The key difference I can see is that in the past the healer worked 'on' or 'with' the client.

Sure, the client was doing all the work in terms of the change within, but that was generally done with the physical help of the healer – be it a massage therapist, energy healer, reflexologist – it

The healer is still necessary to hold the energy of the session for the client, but they are not needed to participate.

I noticed it for the first time when Suzie Coombes and I facilitated a session for 40 people at the last Utopia event. The session we did was very different to the way we had been working in the past and it was incredibly powerful. But we didn't use a system. Instead what happened was Suzie pulled the energy into the room, I grounded it and then invited the group to interact with the energy.

That day all of us marvelled at the power the session generated.

We had some masterful healers in the group and they automatically knew what to do. The surprising but not altogether unexpected thing was, the people who hadn't ever experienced anything like that before knew exactly what to do as well!

For me it was totally hands off. I had channelled through the words the day before and my only 'tool' was the iPad the words were stored on. Suzie had her powerful crystals in the room, but they were only placed on one participant who acted as the group's proxy. Since seeing more Continued Over

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The heartbeat of the team, the fabulous Sandy & Curly Harris with me at a previous Utopia

The photo probably doesn’t do justice to what went on but this was half the circle - it extended right out onto the deck - I have blurred out the faces to respect people’s privacy, they were very blissed out. Suzie seems to have disappeared but she was right there in the middle for most of the session. Credit given to the unknown photographer.

Trusting My 'Female' Imperfection

by Patricia Mackenzie

Old wives' tales. Women's work. Home remedies.

Just emotional. Women's intuition.

I'm sure we're all familiar with these largely misogynistic clichés from our younger days. And I'm sure we're all familiar with the attitudes behind them.

When I was growing up, women's work was, first and foremost, running the home. It seemed that it didn't matter whether or not said woman was also working full-time to support her family, as my mother did. Men simply did not dust, or vacuum, or cook meals or do the laundry. They just didn't.

Women's work when I was young also included the professions of teacher and nurse as tasks that were somehow below a man's mettle. Where on earth did that attitude come from? Who is more influential in laying the groundwork for a new generation, than a teacher? And who is more

essential to the well-being of many a patient, than a nurse?

'She's just emotional...' How often have you heard that said, dismissively, of some woman who has succumbed, albeit momentarily, to some real or perceived grief? As with these other catchphrases, this one highlights the discomfiture of the person making the observation far more than it does the person who has become 'emotional'.

In fact, people who revert to clichés such as these often do so because they are uncomfortable about the circumstances surrounding them. In an era when the establishment was expanding and solidifying their influence on the community of health providers, any cure that might have been previously used by granny at home was regarded with deep suspicion.

So long as society embraced the idea that the husband was somehow 'head' of the household, any woman who did not fulfil her 'natural' duties of cleaning and cooking and taking care of the children – or, horror of horrors, worked outside of the womanly careers I mention above – was met with scorn, if not outright contempt.

Fortunately, in the last few decades we have seen attitudes begin to shift. For instance, we have managed to move away from dismissing, out of hand, old wives' tales and home remedies. They might have originated with females – certainly by implication they came from the home life, which was the woman's bailiwick – but research has shown that many of them are correct, or contain truth.

Progress might be slow, but it is sure.

Intuition seems to be the last bastion of this kind of misogyny, even though here, too, attitudes are starting to shift. Humans are starting to discover that instinct can be useful across all of life, not only within the home and family, but also in the classroom, the place of business, and elsewhere.

But intuition is still so misunderstood. So often when our intuition kicks in, because we don't know exactly where the thought – the idea, the conclusion, the judgment – came from, we automatically mistrust it. I know that I did, for many years; and I know that I did myself no favours in doing so.

Reason is important to me. I am an intellectual and thus find it easy to rely on my ability to think my way through any situation.

My ability to quickly see all sides of an issue allows me more-orless effortlessly to make a sound deduction.

Emotion is also important to me.

I moved half-way across the world to marry the love of my life, simply because I loved him.

It was the best choice of my life, and helped me along the way to trusting myself more.

Intuition is the third pillar to successful living, as well as an approach to life that calls on both the intellect and the heart. Yet, for most of my life I was wary of what my gut was telling me.

When I began to look more deeply into what intuition actually comprises, I discovered that it could be as reliable a tool as reason and emotion.

Essentially, intuition springs from that part of our consciousness that we cannot otherwise access.

When we use intuition, our

subconscious (or, if you prefer, unconscious mind) is combing through our past experiences and observations in an effort to find similar circumstances, thereby coming up with some logical conclusions.

For me, learning to trust my intuition has meant going deeper into trusting myself. Far too often, I think, we allow the external – society, family, circumstances – to supersede the internal – thoughts, feelings, intuition. And yet in the end, if we are not true to ourselves, imperfect though we undoubtedly are, then how can we ever be true to anyone – or anything – else? How can we make any contribution whatsoever to our world?

Granted, we will make mistakes.

Even when we perfectly trust in our imperfection – it is still imperfect. We are still human.

And yet, and yet... If we can willingly accept that making a mistake means we tried, if we can honestly value our own wisdom – that unique combination of our intellect, our emotions and our intuition – even when it's flawed, then I firmly believe that we have already made this wonderful Earth a better place.

Trust in your own imperfection, for it is perfect.

Blessings, love and peace, to you all.

Patricia Mackenzie © 2012 Patricia Mackenzie All Rights Reserved

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of this type of work in action, I believe it would have worked even without the proxy. The other crystals were all around the room, interacting with the forty people lying on the floor.

It was one of the most profound things I’ve ever experienced.

Music also played a big role in this particular session, with several very gifted musicians jamming toward the end of the session and the rock-solid work of Sandy and Curly Harris forming the heartbeat outside the circle.

The new systems are ideal for group work, so long as the group can be grounded within the energy together. Once you get the grounding anchored, then the room can go anywhere.

I see it a lot like the way musicians work. It takes a lot to hold the energy in a space like Wembley Arena or Madison Square Garden. A bunch of young kids who have been rehearsing in their garage can't go straight out and hold a crowd that big. It takes time to build up the internal strength to be able to command a stadium audience. But when those super groups arrive on stage, it's their own personal energy that puts the crowd into those euphoric states and then holds them there for several hours.

This brings us into interesting times. It certainly opens up the possibility of taking healing to the masses. But, how are you going to adjust to turning up in a room with little or no tools, and truly facilitating a process for people – without touching them, talking to them or even knowing their names in some instances?

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Are You Using QR Codes in Your Business?

Scan your iPhone over the code on the right - it should connect you with the Equalii website - cool huh!

by Margaret Gill These days it seems that new technology can appear from out of nowhere, and suddenly it is all the rage and 'everybody's doing it'. Sometimes that can be daunting for the small business owner or solo practitioner. I am fortunate, in that new technology seldom daunts me; and, once I have discovered something that works, I happily share my knowledge with those who could also benefit from it – in a word, dear reader, with you.

QR code might be something you've never even heard of, but once you break it down, it's really quite simple. A QR, or 'Quick Response', code is simply a two-dimensional barcode. Not so many years ago, barcodes seemed to be mysterious gibberish, but nowadays, they're used in nearly every retail establishment. They have become recognised as invaluable data that can be read by the store's scanners to, e.g., keep track of inventory, take note of which items are moving and which are not, change pricing with the stroke of a few keys, and many other uses.

QR codes take the barcode to the next level, in that they can store far more data. These days, most smart

phones have the technology to read a QR code. And with 50 per cent of people now using smart phones to look for information when they're out and about, to find, say, a place to eat or where to get a massage – well, I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.

It makes sense for natural therapy businesses to begin to use the QR code technology. As a person uses their smart phone to scan a QR code, your information could appear. It has taken the digital and print worlds, and melded them beautifully into something that can bring people to your door. It's so simple, it just could work!

As with any social media, the QR code will work best if you have a strong WHO and WHAT statement for people to attach to. For instance, say somebody sitting in a cafe picks up your print brochure and reads that you deal in muscular pain.

They happen to have a sore shoulder, and scanning your QR code tells them you're just around the corner. It's easy to find you – it's easy to come and see you – and you've got yourself a new client.

Taking ac)on, prayer, homeopathy, herbs, and nutrients can all be used to counteract stage fright.

You will be happy when you see how easily clients can find, and even book an appointment with, you via a smart phone and your QR code.

Here's another example, this one from real life. One of my Sore to SOAR participants brought her brochure, complete with QR code, to the event. She runs a spa in a tourist destination, and people who read her brochure can scan the QR code and go straight to her website via their smart phone.

How easy is that?!

You can imagine how powerful this could be when combined with an online booking system. Whilst you are seeing clients, your system can fill your diary, take payments – and even bring the client to your waiting room, without your having to lift a finger.

QR codes are easy to get. Simply google 'QR code generator'.

You will find many free options for creating code.

You simply enter the information you want people to see – your 'WHO' and 'WHAT', as well as how they can get in contact with you easily whilst they are out and about. Then, you simply download your own, unique, QR code image to include on your brochure and business cards.

Naturally, any new technology has its cons as well as its pros. One of the 'cons' is simply that QR codes aren't all that well known. Yet. But then, we

remember when the words 'facebook' or 'twitter' were meaningless, at least in relation to business.

The point is, retailers already recognise the power in a QR code. As demand rises for access to this kind of immediate information and connectedness, more and more smart phones will come already equipped with a QR code reader, which for now usually needs to be downloaded and installed separately.

But in the not-too-far-distant future, I predict that we'll start to see QR codes everywhere. So now is the time to hook into this new – free! – technology, and use it as creatively as possible. You could put your QR code on your A-Frame, or on the magnetic signs on your car; maybe on your kid's t-shirt – then making sure they wear it everywhere. Let your imagination range free! There's no real limit to where you can place a QR code, so that people can find you anywhere.

How Have fun!

much is that doggy with the QR Code

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Trust in your own Imperfection

by Diane Jackson As soon as I read these words I began saying them over and over, trying to understand what feelings were arising from this idea.

My first thought – and I will call it a thought at this point of time – was that it was about bringing the focus onto oneself. I believe this to be a good thing, as we need to start with our own self, before moving elsewhere.

What is an imperfection? A fault; or a failure to reach our own expectations; a judgement of our own shortcomings, whether that be an aspect of our behaviour, an aspect of our physical being, the sound of our voice, the colour of our hair: where does it end?

How will you know what areas you need to work on or grow from if you do not look at your imperfections and learn to embrace their significance in making up the whole of you?

I... I am

M... Master of my own thoughts.

P... Pleasing myself is important.

E... Evolving in ways that are right for me.

R... Respecting myself.

F... Focusing on realistic goals.

E... Embracing all of me.

C... Collectiveness of thoughts helps my creativity.

In the word 'imperfection' is 'I'm Perfect'.

When we have a favourite piece of jewellery, clothing, or keepsake, just because it may have a fault does not mean we love it any less. Using this understanding towards oneself brings a gentleness to love all of yourself, and to trust in your own imperfections.

I found that turning each letter of the word 'imperfection' into a positive attribute softened the energy that imperfection can sometimes bring. Maybe these ideas can help you, too, not only to find your own imperfection, but also to embrace all of who you are.

N... Nurturing myself is a gift.

T... Tolerating my imperfections.

I... Intuition is my compass.

O... Open to learnings.

Trust in your own imperfections, absolutely.

In love and worthiness Diane © 2012 Diane Jackson All Rights Reserved

What Did I Learn From 10XEMPIRE

by Margaret Gill

When inspired, Humans are limitless.

Life-changing events are just that. A lot of the feedback I get from my Sore to SOAR event is that it was 'life-changing' for participants. 10X taught me why.

It also highlighted for me why so many in the natural therapy industry struggle to get off the ground, as well as where I've been failing to connect to the industry. 10X made me see that my role is way bigger than I first imagined.

What follows is a $10,000 tip. I could have just got what is in the following three paragraphs and walked out of that room and I would have got my money's worth. Luckily, I stayed to learn the steps!

(That last sentence is your clue to the earth the universe and everything – once people see and connect to your vision, they will happily pay and stay to get all the steps.)

Okay, this is it. The next three paragraphs are why 10X changed my life direction so dramatically.

FIRST. Anything that transcends people past the point they currently see themselves in, to a point where they can see a new potential for themselves

AND the new potential fulfils THEIR hearts desire (note I said 'their', not 'your') AND you show your audience exactly how to go about creating that new potential for themselves in a step-by-step format that they can easily achieve if they apply themselves it will literally be life-changing for them.

SECOND. This will happen with an audience of one or an audience of ten thousand.

THIRD. When you bring your audience to a point where they have worked through all the steps and stages and their vision and yours match, the struggle will cease – and you AND they will naturally become golden. From that point on you can take it as far as you like or keep it as contained as you like, but when you can inspire people to see a potential life without sickness or stress or any of the other myriad of things that drives them nuts, then everything will change for you.

The answer lies in WHY you do what you do, not how you do it. Let them see 'why' you do what you do and if that 'why' is inspiring to them... then they will follow you.

Okay. Sometimes we flippantly read something and don't fully understand what has been shared. So I encourage you to read those three paragraphs over and over until your eyeballs burn. Why? Because WHY is the answer.

I'm glad I had to stay around to learn the step-bystep system, but that was basically the core of the whole three days – and it is core to why people will book sessions with you, and it is core to why people will buy your products and come to your events.

In Sore to SOAR we learn how to say the same thing over and over again in different ways so people get it. So here goes – the same message said differently!

• Tell people not WHAT you do but WHY you do it – without making it about you.

• Create a compelling message that is not about you, but has everything to do with why you do things, and that will inspire people to want to work with you.

• Learn to share that message in exactly the same way every time you say it, and tell every person, no matter who they are or how many of them there are, why you do what you do.

• Ensure your message inspires deeper action in people and their greater community.

• Aim to raise people up to a new level of understanding with every interaction you have.

• Ask people to do more, but don't ask them to do too much all at once.

• Be humble. You will never do anything until you can speak to people in language they understand.

• Learn a lot about the people you work with. Know what keeps them awake at night and know what makes them dread getting out of bed each morning.

• Get yourself out of your message. You can only help people to transcend when they figure out the value of moving via their own thought processes.

You must hold a much bigger vision for your people. As they grow into what you can see, you need to have a new picture to show them or a new path for them to transcend upon.

When inspired, Humans are limitless.

If you can keep the vision alive for your people, or create a new version of their vision each time they achieve the previous one, they will keep walking with you.

During the course of our three days in New York we had three guest speakers who all had commanding visions.

One was David Bach, who shared how he got on Oprah. His vision began with 'every woman can be debt-free', and surprisingly that WASN'T what got him on Oprah the first time. His grandmother had inspired the vision in him from a very small child when she changed the reality of their family the day she decided she could no longer tolerate being poor.

He has taken that vision and rolled it out right around the planet, to both men and women.

Another was Peter Deamardis, who shared the story of his X-prize, a contest he created to inspire the rocket scientists of the world to design a craft that could fly out of and back into the earth's atmosphere without burning up AND could stay up there for a while before returning AND could do it all again two weeks later.

That wasn't the inspiring thing. What was inspiring was that he didn't wait until everything was perfect, he launched the prize without actually having the prize money. We hear the folklore, but to have the actual person on stage right in front of you who had the balls to offer a ten million dollar prize with no clue as to how he was going to raise that money gives the story a whole new depth.

Once the contest launched he went about raising the prize money and he is not the kind of guy who takes NO as a final answer. But everyone including Richard Branson said no. Then just before his world was about to crumble in on top of him he read a magazine article about a woman who had just sold her telecommunications empire for gazillions of millions. The reporter asked her what on earth could she possibly not be able to buy now. Turns out the only thing she couldn't buy at that time was the ability to see the planet from outer space and return home safely. What are the chances! Talk about a perfect match in a sea of imperfection.

This woman ended up being the major sponsor for the prize and now sits on the board sharing Peter's vision to create not just new technology but whole new industries. Richard Branson came in and

The Present is Perfect

by Patricia Mackenzie

'Live each day as if your life had just begun' (Goethe).

Thomas Leonard, one of the founders of the modern life coaching industry, echoed the wisdom of countless others when he encouraged us to regard the present as 'perfect'.

As a devout humanist, I am excited about the future.

However confronting that may be when we first encounter the idea, I have found it to be remarkably freeing once I began to understand, and embrace, it.

I believe fundamentally in humanity's ability to right our course and that, ultimately, we will make this world a better place in which to live. I celebrate the divinity inherent in each of us, as well as the divine in our collective will and action.

As a widow, I am both saddened and comforted by the past. Saddened, because memories of my late husband remind me that my life has changed irretrievably. Comforted, because memories of him, my true love, also remind me of the extraordinary gift I was given, to share life with him for almost 17 years.

As Patricia in all of my permutations and above all human, I know, deep down, that both the past and the future are immaterial to all intents and purposes.

The only time I have, the only life I can live, is now, here, today.

Who I am today is the result of my thoughts, actions and expectations in countless past 'presents'. Who I am to become tomorrow lies entirely in how I treat myself today.

Let me break it down a bit more, in hopes that you'll discover a glimmer of your own truth in the concept.

'Perfection' is an ancient human construct that spans both time and cultures. The earliest known definition of 'perfect' comes from Aristotle, who wrote that perfection is found in three distinct, albeit interrelated, states: 1. That which is complete, that is, contains all the requisite parts; 2. That which is so good, that nothing of the kind could be better; or 3. That which has attained its purpose.

The present – today, as I am writing (or you are reading) this – embodies all three.

First, the present is most certainly complete. One of my favourite science fiction theories is that of time

travel and sometimes I daydream about visiting a different point in history past or future. However, in 2012, humankind has yet to unravel the secret to moving backwards or forwards in time, and thus we can only live one moment at a time. No matter how much we wish we were living in a brighter future, or how often we think we're stuck because of our past, neither is actually true. The present contains all that we have.

Second, the present is matchless – that is, it could not be a better present, no matter what. This one might be a bit more problematic sometimes, when we recognise that we are now at point B because weeks or months ago we turned left at point A – and wish we'd turned right instead or had ended up at point C. Regret is a powerful master, but it is also a pointless one. We cannot possibly go back and right a wrong or correct a trajectory. Our only choice is to move forward from this, the perfect present moment.

Finally, perfection is that which has attained its purpose. It is an opportunity to learn from past perceived mistakes. If we don't, we're bound to keep on repeating them, and I don't know about you, but I really do not like having to go back over the same ground and re-learn a lesson! Again, we can see the perfection in this moment by realising that it does truly contain all of our past – as well as promise that we can do better in the future if only we live in our truth now.

Once I began to awaken to the reality that this moment, and this moment alone, was truly mine, I began to discover the beauty of living in flow.

Michael Neill contends that the default in human nature is one of positivity and self-nurture, and I believe that he is right. This means that I am learning not to beat myself up if I find that I'm dwelling a bit overmuch on my past, or relying too greatly on a future that hasn't yet happened.

Gradually, I am learning to simply be with whatever state I find myself at present, without allowing myself to slip into stasis.

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bought the rights to the spacecraft days before it went successfully into space and got his face all over the publicity from the event.

Peter continues to launch contests that can't be won, not because of the outcome but because it forces scientists to go beyond what is currently possible, and innovate and create new technology that will win the prize. The upshot is, whole new industries have been created from these prizes that have spurred positive outcomes for problems that were previously thought unsolvable. One such offshoot product cleaned up much of the oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico, halting further eco damage. Many other products have been used to overcome the challenges of the Third World and are making profound differences in the everyday life of communities that had nothing.

The interesting thought for me was, these scientists already had the smarts and ability to create these amazing technologies, just as normal people have the ability to create health and well-being in their lives. What Peter did was create the inspiring vision that brought the greatness out in these people.

Fine examples of challenging people up to a higher vision and creating new realities.

Your work can do the same once you figure out the message and inspiration you are going to take to people.

It doesn't have to be on the global level, but imagine the ripple effect if you even inspire one Mum to put an apple in their kid's lunch box every day instead of a sugar-filled candy bar.

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Instead, I can live in the moment – my only moment – and in the next one, pick myself up, dust myself off, and look around to discover what miracles await me in the present.

Life can be glorious when we discover that the present is perfect!

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Trust in Your Own Imperfection

by Angela Anderson

“I always screw things up but I can’t even do that perfectly...”

Do you compromise your sense of self-confidence due to your desire to be perfect? To make it hard for yourself – do you want to be seen as perfect to someone else? Or harder still – do you want to be seen as perfect in everyone’s eyes? We may be only talking perfection in a certain task or aspect, but being seen as perfect in someone else’s eyes when you are TRYING to be perfect puts a lot of pressure on yourself, and also makes it nearly impossible because you are TRYING, not BEING. As much as we would like to think we can, ultimately it is not easy to change someone’s opinion of us, and usually is even harder when we try. If we are trying to be what we think they want us to be – to be what we think is their perfect daughter, son, employee, boss, mother, father, friend, partner... we will never feel good enough. It may not be possible to be perfect for any one of them, let alone to be everything to everyone. It is possible to be everything to yourself –by simply being yourself and accepting yourself in all your imperfections.

One thing that destroys confidence more than anything is the unrealistic expectations that we place on ourselves to be something that we think someone else wants us to be. We might turn ourselves inside out to make them proud or pleased with us without ever feeling it for ourselves. If we are not expressing our authentic selves we do not feel fulfilled, confident or worthy of any praise we might receive, because we then wonder if they like who

“Oh my god, I shook their hand with sweaty palms, what will they think...!”

we really are – the true me – or just who we pretend to be for their benefit.

The quest for perfection can be the most effective tool in your arsenal to destroy your self-confidence and self-esteem. That ‘Little Miss Perfect’ or ‘Mr Perfection’ voice in your head might sound surprisingly (or not so surprisingly) like your mother, father or significant other. You know the one; you may know it all too well. The voice is especially vocal when you are in a position where you need to achieve; where you feel you need to do right or feel right; where you need to control negative feelings; or where you fear failure or rejection. How do these play out in your life? How does your need for perfection impact your opinion of yourself?

Think of a stressful situation, such as meeting someone whom you really want to like you, whether it is work or social. A time when you feel the pressure of saying the right thing; of looking the right way; of doing the right thing to impress. How does your self-talk play out before, during and after the event?

Is your inner talk supportive, or not quite so much?

Is your script something like this...

Before: 'Okay we have to do this perfectly, this is our one and only shot... Screw this up and you screw up everything... I always screw things up but I can’t even do that perfectly...'

During: 'Say something, you look like a fool... Stop talking, you're proving it... Sweaty hands, I hate my sweaty hands... Oh no, they don’t like me... What can I say to make them think better of me or show I'm more intelligent...'

After: 'Gee, you screwed that up... What was with the stutter...? And what was with that scratchy throat...? I should have talked less/more... I can’t believe I said that, I'm such an idiot... I should have been less nervous... Oh my god, I shook their hand with sweaty palms, what will they think...! I have screwed up everything, I'm sure they don't like me...'

Look for the ways in which you sabotage your confidence by comparing yourself to others, or feeling the need to be perfect. Look for generalisations, such as saying that you always do something. Interrogate yourself, and upon inquiry you may find several instances where you have not.

So 'always' is not perfectly true; sometimes you do it differently.

Celebrate every time you pick yourself up on your negative self-talk. And yes, you might think or say it again, but drop the need to get it right first up.

Celebrate that you are noticing it, pat yourself on the back, and know that you can change it because you are noticing it. It is impossible to see change in something if you are not even aware of it.

The hardest thing about perfection is that often we compare ourselves to others in order to feel better, or worse, about ourselves. Our perception of You might never get it perfectly right, but you will perfection stops us from getting near the mark. We start to see less and less reason to criticise yourself, think our desire to be perfect and from that you can gain will make us better or help us confidence in yourself.

The quest for perfection can achieve it, but it rarely does, Confidence is not gained be the most effective tool in instantly, it is a work in and rarely does it make us feel your arsenal to destroy your progress and it is rarely good about ourselves. It is impossible to be perfect if you perfect. self-confidence and are on the constant search for self-esteem.

When you can allow yourself it. to be perfectly happy with Look for ways to accept and imperfection, you may acknowledge your imperfections: they are what actually start to find instances of perfection. make you, you. It is good to want to improve, but Perfection exists in the moment, not in a task. When seeing the ascent to perfection as an impossible task you are not trying, when you are whole-heartedly may stop you from ever achieving it. Drop the and entirely nowhere (or now-here), no past, no perfection; see the perfection in imperfection, in future, just now, just completely you, in your knowing that you did the best you could at the time moment, you may not think it is perfection, but you with the resources and knowledge you had will feel it. available.

So find the intriguing tasty smoky flavour in your Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but it is impossible burnt potatoes. Discover something humorous or to have hindsight AT the time. We always know the new in a failure or mistake. Draw or paint for the best way to do something afterwards... or do we? enjoyment of creating something that is not a We just think we do. Allow yourself the possibility masterpiece. Submit an article for a magazine – it that you absolutely did what you had to do at the does not have to be perfect – someone might get time, or said what had to be said at the time. That something out of it. everything is perfect in its apparent imperfection.

You never know unless you give it a go. Do not let Change your self-talk and change the way you think your need to be perfect at something, stop you from about yourself. It's guaranteed that you will make doing something. Enjoy the task, trust yourself, and great inroads to improving your confidence, just by gain the confidence and satisfaction in doing changing the way you talk to yourself. something just for the sake of doing it.

Do not accept everything you say about yourself.

Question every time you criticise or second-guess yourself.

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by Margaret Gill Learning what not to do is sometimes more important than learning what to do.

information that can move people the furthest, the fastest and the easiest.

Before heading off to New York, I can confess to feeling a little trepidation. It's been nine years since I have lived in a big city and I wondered how I would deal with the crowds. Plus, for whatever reason, in the past six months I've taken on a bit of a feral look, my hair AND the blonde has grown out and I'm looking a bit wild.

She told me that she had been to a big event with the presenter I was going to train with in New York.

Firstly she confirmed he delivers. Phew! Since I'd sunk $10K into someone I'd never experienced live before, this was reassuring.

My normal 'go to' would have been to get a cut and colour, buy a heap of new clothes I didn't really need or like, hit the makeup counter, and end up in the latest fashion look.

All the time I had Oscar Wilde's very true words rolling around in my head.

'Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.'

Now, fortunately for me and my pocketbook, a few weeks before 10X I made contact with a complete stranger via a conversation going down on Facebook, of all places. We ended up talking on the phone. She lives half a world away but was at a similar 'feral' point as I – and, like me, knew she has way more to do in the world but not sure how it is all going to play out.

She was at the 'tracks' stage. We call it the 'trackie dacks' stage here in Australia, that point where you go into lockdown and spend time with your inner sloth.

I was SO grateful for her honesty, because this woman had done some amazing things in her career. In fact, she had probably done everything I thought I needed to do. So this was a very synchronistic kind of phone call. What she shared was that although she was deeply passionate about her topic, somehow she'd got to the top of the ladder in her field and figured out... oops, wrong ladder!

Entrepreneurs are prone to do this from time to time.

We go hell for leather after something, then figure out it's not what we really wanted. In fact, what is seen as failure by most is actually what drives us because we know it's what we learn on the rise up that makes the next ladder easier to ascend.

But what she shared next was SO helpful for me. We sometimes forget it's the smallest pieces of

Then she shared that the last time she went to one of his events, she went in her tracks. She said it was so liberating because when she rocked up to speak with people, she got to speak to the real them, not the one judging her corporate suit and who she was in her past iteration. She said it was enlightening how different people treated her.

She also encouraged me to go as my feral self. So I did. I didn't get my hair cut, I just took comfy clothes (not trackie dacks tho), and I bought a replacement mascara and lippy at the Mac shop in New York because it's so cheap.

Then came the interesting part. How others reacted to me.

The room was full of movers and shakers. The ones who shook the most were the ones who embraced me the most. The up-and-comers judged me and moved on.

Everybody was wearing name tags, and I noticed one whose list I'd signed up for, so I approached them.

They tried to convince me that I'd made a mistake, that surely I couldn't have signed on to their list – I must have mistaken them for somebody else.

Interesting reaction to someone identifying themselves as a fan.

Then it happened a second time. This person was sitting right behind me, and I was certain I recognised the name, so of course I cheerfully introduced myself.

This person also thought I'd made a mistake – I couldn't be interested in them!

What the????

Now, I'm usually really good with names and faces although not necessarily good at putting them together at the right time. But sure enough, when I got home I figured out I was in both their funnels and both could

have sold me something in the future. Note the past tense!

We have to be so careful when we start stepping up. People recognise us long before we expect that to start happening. These two people were both there because they had a following and wanted a bigger one.

So why on earth would they try to convince me I thought they were someone else?

Because I wasn't a suit?

I believe it went deeper than this.

We had been strongly advised from the podium by all the speakers to make it our business to talk to as many people as we could in the room. One thing I've learned is when you've paid a big chunk of cash to someone to help you, do what they say.

So whilst in New York, I made it my business to talk to people. It was sage advice that I'm pleased I heeded, despite the discomfort it caused me. Because as I get home and go through the business cards and memories from the event, I've come to realise the people who have remained front of mind fall into two categories. They were incredibly genuine and inspired me greatly, or they left me thinking 'what the?'

There is also a bunch of business cards that for the life of me I can't remember the person even after I've looked on their website – so not front of mind. I can't even remember meeting them, let alone having a conversation. They were the wallpaper people. Had the right look, were saying the right things, but there was no oomph.

Darren Hardy on the other hand was one of the keynote speakers at the event and he is the visionary force behind SUCCESS magazine as its Publisher and Editorial Director. I'll

be honest, I had no idea who he was before he spoke. But when he came on stage I remembered him from a few hours earlier. He was the dude in jeans and t-shirt whose energy made me spin around and look at him as he was checking in at the registration desk. He was incredibly well-groomed, but he could have been any cool dude with a Chapel Street look. Such were his levels of confidence and passion for what he does, even in understated clothes, he naturally exuded, without words, actions or deeds, an energy that said this guy is someone you better take a look at!

Later that afternoon, our host taught us all about the importance of being different and being memorable for the right reasons, and then taught us how to ascend people from not buying to buying by being visionary and inspiring, and constantly giving back all the time.

'Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.' ― Bernard M. Baruch

I sat beside one such very powerful woman on the day we were there for 14 hours. She was very dressed down and I'm glad I judged her that day, because there was something about her casualness that I liked the look of. I looked up her website when I got home, which now makes those amazing gems she willingly shared with me throughout our time together all that more valid. Yep, she could have been a keynote that day.

Instead she was doing what really successful people do, learning from other successful people and giving those on the rungs below a hand up.

He didn't need to be nice to me when I went up to speak to him the next day, but he chatted and asked where I was from. He now has a FOLDER in my inbox that will probably never be removed.

Darren Hardy, Editor of Success Magazine with Margaret Gill - I’m the short one with the jetlag, no makeup and bad hair!

I bless all these complete strangers because they got me out of the nappies. They made me realise in a funny way that if I could turn up in that company and have some of those powerful people want to give me a hug, they must have thought I was alright. I came to realise the people who chat back are the ones who matter and the ones who don’t, well I don’t need to mind.

Success leaves invisible clues. I met some very powerful people at that event, but they weren't necessarily the best-dressed in the room. In fact most of the people who already had the big empires were a) very casual and b) very slow to tell you just how much they had amassed.

The people with the big messages and high passion for their work were great huggers – they totally embraced you and didn't hold back.

They were also genuinely interested, and couldn't have been more hospitable.

The good huggers don't care what you're wearing or who cuts your hair. The good huggers stay in your mind for the right reasons and, more importantly, the GREAT huggers stay front of mind forever. © 2012 Margaret Gill All Rights Reserved

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Movie review: Thrive

by Patricia Mackenzie

'What on earth will it take?'

'The world is waking up...'

Sectors' (outlining the twelve areas in which humankind can and must make a difference), all of the information is quite literally at our fingertips.

Many of us have already heard about Thrive around the traps, and it is a documentary well worth watching, for all that it's over two hours in length.

Before you rush off and watch or read and then come back and say 'wait, what about...?' let me add this.

The result of a lifetime of work by Foster Gamble, heir to the Proctor Gamble fortune, and his wife Kimberly Carter Gamble, Thrive takes us deep into what really might be going on here on Earth.

“When inspired, humans are limitless”

Foster tells the story convincingly as he leads us from proof of an alternative energy source – one that flows through all of us – through proof of alien visitors, to evidence of a worldwide conspiracy that threatens to enslave all of humanity – and in the end emerges into a fresh vision of a truly brave new world.

The movie and website are both clearly U.S.-centric. They were both developed by, and for, Americans. But this does not mean that the problems – and the solutions – aren't global, because they are. Indeed, one of the central messages of the movie is 'we are one'.

What sets this movie apart from other conspiracy-theory movies is that it goes beyond the conspiracy, to hope. The creators of the movie have an absolute and fundamental belief that echoes Mz Margz – When inspired, Humans are limitless.

And no, I don't agree in every detail with what the Gambles present here, as either inevitable or factual truth. Having said that, I was impressed with the thoroughness of their various investigations and intrigued enough to keenly await what happens next.

Slick and well-produced, even though this is two hours of mostly talking heads, my attention and interest were held captive as the narrators moved from topic to topic, tying each to the previous and with each step revealing a bit more of the canvas.

Bottom line. I am a devout humanist. I believe that we – Humans – have the answers to all of our challenges. I believe that we can THRIVE!!

The good news is twofold: First, the movie is free to watch online, at http://www.thrivemovement.com/home Second, if you really don't have the two hours today – and although I strongly encourage you to make the time, and soon – then all of the information is also available on the website. With sections on 'The Code' (the fundamental pattern of New Energy), 'The Problem' (follow the money...), 'Solutions' (including strategies and success stories), and 'The 12

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A Call to Action Click here if lost Every natural therapy practitioner who is reading this Margazine knows that you provide a valuable service to your clients and patients. You understand the very real power behind your particular modality – and you also recognise that sometimes proving its effectiveness can be difficult through traditional means, such as laboratory research or other empirical trials.

As a small business owner, you have been courageous enough to step out and declare that your modality – be it aromatherapy or reiki or acupuncture or naturopathy or any other – does offer genuine healing, and deserves an authentic place in the medical community. You are willing to stand tall against those nay-sayers who would like to declare you are a fraud.

You know better. You are a professional.

Well, it's time for all Australian natural therapy practitioners to step up to the plate, put on their bigkid pants and come out fighting. The 2012-13 Federal Budget that was released this month includes a million dollars to investigate natural therapies to 'examine the evidence of clinical efficacy, cost effectiveness and safety

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and quality...' http:// www.budget.gov.au/ 2012-13/content/bp2/html/ bp2_expense-12.htm According to a Sydney Morning Herald article that came out before the Budget, the investigation, headed up by the Chief Medical Officer, will include some natural therapies, but exclude others.

It is now more important than ever for us ALL to stand together and defend the healing modalities that we believe in so strongly.

Those natural therapies that are found by the review not to meet requirements that are not spelled out in greater detail than what I have quoted above, will no longer be eligible for inclusion in the private health insurance subsidy.

This probably will result in those therapies being dropped from private health insurance coverage altogether.

Many natural therapists have started their small businesses from scratch and fight each day to keep going.

The exclusions, which would come into place on 1 July 2013, could well push some therapists over the edge and back into the paid

workforce or the dole line.

Surely it would make more sense for the Government to find strategies to help these people succeed! Such is the short-sightedness of Government, however, that the fix they think appears the easiest, actually isn't.

I am not writing this to dishearten you, or to make you fold up your website and just go away. But I am writing this to scare you, at least a little bit. We must remain at the forefront of knowledge about those matters that impact our industry, so that we can find ways to fight for the righteous cause we believe in so strongly!

Call to action Today is the day to write your Member of Parliament.

Those good men and women do actually pay attention to what their constituents say, and if you can make a good case for how your practice is helping in your local community – and to do that, you will need specific examples – then they will sit up and take notice. At least, they will if they are at all serious about their role in Canberra.

Make sure that you sign any and all petitions that are circulated to you on this issue, whether or not they

directly relate to your particular modality. We cannot let our glorious differences become a curse.

If you don't find a petition to sign, start one! Get your clients to sign, as well as your colleagues and others in the community. This isn't just about your business continuing on, it is about people's right to choose their own healthcare.

Be successful By far the best way we can 'win' this one, though, is by being so good at what we do that people will flock to us regardless of our standing with the health insurance industry. We have to be so good, so different, so amazing, so masterful at what we do, that people will pay to come and work with us whether or not there are subsidies.

A word of caution, however.

If you think you can continue to roll out the 'standard' model, with same-old offerings and confusing messages that result in leaving people with no clue as to who you are or why they should work with you, then – yep – you might as well return to your day job.

'Samey' WILL suffer Maybe this isn't such a bad thing to happen to our industry at all. After all, gold is refined by fire. If we are prepared to truly ramp up our industry – the

natural health therapies across the board, so that the ordinary person can truly choose the way in which they will heal – to the level where our successes are obvious not only to us and to our clients, but to the local community and even the Government, even though this might mean that those of us who do not truly have a vision might fall by the wayside, we still will have done what we know we've come here to do.

We'll have made this world a better place to live in.

ARE YOU WITH ME??

There will always be people who are smart enough to invest in their own health and well-being. So I encourage you to rise up to your full strength and power, and focus your fighting energy into going out there and carving a place where you can create the greatest business imaginable.

To do so, you must have: • a very clear message • an easy-to-understand reason why people would want to work with you • a unique mission, or way of working with people • mastery of your craft • your own systems and ways of doing things that are different and stand out • a professional offering

Beyond these factors, that will be the foundation of your business, the most important thing you need to do is begin to develop revenue streams outside the usual one-to-one treatment model that most of us use. I speak elsewhere in this issue about the new face of healing, and that might give you a place to start thinking about ways you can expand and grow how you do what you do.

Wait! Before you think 'I can't, because...' I encourage you to think 'what if, because...?' Yes, this is an opportunity for us to become truly creative about how we can channel our abilities! It is only the latest in recurring attempts throughout history to shut down the natural therapy industry. Those who are on the attack are attacking in fear: whether it be fear of the unknown, or fear of a decrease in their own pocketbooks.

We, however, can afford to be fearless if we truly know that we were put on this planet at this time to help people and to make a significant difference. I believe that you do; and I believe that together –

WE WILL WIN THIS ONE!!! © 2012 Margaret Gill with Patricia Mackenzie All Rights Reserved

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