How to Make Your Marriage More Exciting
In medicine there is something called the "Silent Killer." That term refers to cancer, which comes kind of "out of nowhere" and if not discovered and treated, can kill the host - that is, the person who is the carrier.
There's also a "silent killer" in marriage. While it's true that the "big issues" are the most blatant and best-known cause of separation and divorce - affairs, financial issues, parenting differences and others the real root cause of fundamental unhappiness in marriage, and the thing that ultimately leads to dissolution of marriage, is boredom.
Is Boredom in Marriage Inevitable?
So do marriages always end in boredom or lack of excitement over time? My guess is that you talked to 100 married people and got them to be honest, they would all say it does, and that settling into some kind of "half-conscious stupor" or a kind of state parallel to being "roommates" is about all you can really expect in long-term marriage.
Interestingly, many people won't even describe this in too negative a light. All many people are seeking in a marriage after all is comfort, security and - to be frank - to keep from having to go through the hassle of dating and dealing with the constant challenges that go along with it.
A lot of people describe themselves as "reasonably happy" in marriage whose lives together are very humdrum, repetitious and unchanging. They could be "reasonably happy" either because they just like the regularity and predictability of their marriage, or it could be that they simply don't expect much more.
What if You Want More Than A Humdrum Marriage?
Since you're reading this article, you are clearly interested in how to make your marriage a little more exciting. You're probably already bored out of your mind by what's going on at home, and trying to put on a good face and tell your partner things are "OK."