Tips on Having a Good Marriage
One of the challenges in giving tips on having a good marriage is that many of the tips are at odds with the societal perspective on marriage. That 's why the divorce rate is so high, because as a whole most people are doing things and behaving in such a way that is counter to the goal of a good marriage.
Marriage is where two people come together to spend their lives together. A Good Marriage is where both participants continually make decisions that nurture the relationship.
Here are 7 tips on having a good marriage:
1) Make a decision to be the best you can be.
Most conflict in relationships stems from a lack of self esteem of one person or the other
2) Grow your Dreams and Goals Lists as individuals as well as a couple.
Having dreams is critical to staying alert and attentive to life. Being excited about where you are headed is a great platform for establishing a great relationship and is one of the key tips on having a good marriage.
3) Understand and acknowledge your partners Time Orientation.
Often in a relationship, one person is more future orientated and one more past orientated. So one tends to think only of the future and where they want to go and do and then they don't act in the present. All the while the other tends to dwell on the past and it's limitation, again missing the present. Between these two extremes is every combination of orientation. Understand your partner's so you can use the benefits of that orientation. The benefit of future focus is that with a compelling future that both people engage in - excitement is ever present in the relationship. The advantage of musing about the past is that by taking the learnings from the mistakes of the past you don't need to repeat them.