Your troubled marriage can be saved

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Your Troubled Marriage Can Be Saved

As a lay minister and counselor, I have helped many couples with marriage problems. I do so, not from a secular perspective, but from a spiritual one, with the Bible as my base.

Over the years I have come to realize that more and more "Christians" are so in name only, as they either don't understand God's Word, or no longer care to be obedient. For context, obedience is not optional for true Christians.

The Bible says marriage is forever, until death. It also says that the Lord hates divorce. (Malachi 2:16). And yet divorce has become the default setting for most people experiencing marital difficulties. At the first sign of trouble, they head for divorce court and then retry marriage again with their next "soul mate."

I am not going to elaborate on the many reasons not to divorce, as that's not the subject of this article. The issue isn't the substantial damage done by divorce, but whether or not a troubled marriage can be saved.

Rhetorically, as every marriage is uniquely different, the question of whether or not a marriage can be saved must be asked using specific details of the discord, right? No, details are of little importance for those who believe. Yes, they are the mitigating circumstances of our trouble, but in terms of solving the problem, they are irrelevant.

Secular marriage counselors would, of course, disagree. They've been to college, they've had specialized training, they're licensed by the state, etc., so they know best --- or do they? Let's try another rhetorical question. If secular marriage counselors are so good at what they do, why do they almost always fail? At best, most can only make your subsequent divorce less traumatic. But in terms of saving marriages, most have an almost perfect failure rate. Why?

Because they are "treating" a symptom, not the cause. To the point, when people are causing trouble in their marriage, they are really experiencing a problem with God, and that's an issue secular marriage counselors won't touch with a ten-foot-pole.


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