Lead Like Jesus: Ignite Leader Guide by NavPress

leader guide Student guide Ken Blanchard & Phil Hodges

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Acknowledgements I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:3-6 The Apostle Paul reminds us of the importance of giving thanks to those who’ve partnered with us. There have been many people who participated in the creation of Ignite to whom we are grateful... Our Heavenly Father who gives richly to all who ask, to His Son, Jesus for a life well-lived that perfectly demonstrated the message we teach and to the Holy Spirit for the ability to live, love and lead like Jesus… Phyllis Hendry for championing the message that Jesus is the greatest leadership role model of all time… Tommy Moore for his practical leadership and strategic thinking in support of the product development process that created Ignite… Karen McGuire for her direction and wisdom in insuring the integrity of the Lead Like Jesus message is reflected in the content of the Ignite program… Wendy Seidman for leading the charge of turning an idea into reality through her gifts, talent, expertise and endless hours of priceless time… John Herring, Life Bible Study and NavPress for catching the vision of students who lead like Jesus and investing time and resources into making it a reality… Mark Clement, Scott Ross and Big Picture Media for writing, filming and creating video content that would inspire students to reach higher and dream more… Jerry Haddock and the Association of Christian Schools International for encouraging the creation of a leadership experience for students to support the ACSI mission… Julie Georggin for her commitment to bringing this experience to students and vital leadership in establishing Lead Like Jesus as a trusted provider to ACSI… The Youth Advisory Council of the LLJ facilitators who dreamed dreams, shared ideas, and believed that the Lead Like Jesus message should be taught to students… Word Worship and Brett Rutledge for the permission to use Make Us More… Every adult leader, teacher and parent who invests his or her life in raising up the next generation of leaders in the image and model of Jesus… And every student who is inspired and challenged by Ignite to transform the world.

IGNITE LEADER GUIDE TABLE OF CONTENTS Welcome.............................................................................................................................................. 3 Facilitator Tips.................................................................................................................................. 4 Session 1: Who Will I Follow?....................................................................................................... 9 Session 2: The Heart of a Leader—How Am I Edging God Out?.................................19 Session 3: The Heart of a Leader —How Do I Exalt God Only?...................................31 Session 4: The Head of a Leader —Where Am I Headed?.............................................43 Session 5: The Hands of a Leader —How Do I Develop People?................................55 Session 6: The Habits of a Leader —How Do I Stay Connected with God?...........69 Appendix:............................................................................................................................................81 ++ Takeaways ++ Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love (verses) ++ EGO Assessment: o Pride Assessment o Fear Assessment

WELCOME TO IGNITE! On behalf of the Lead Like Jesus organization, I want to thank you for your willingness to serve the best interests of the students under your care by guiding them through this student leadership training. By doing so, you have joined tens of thousands of people around the world who have discovered that there is a leadership model they can trustâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;His Name is Jesus. The purpose of this guide is to help you facilitate an interactive learning experience using video (depicting a group of high school students engaged in daily leadership issues), group discussion, and individual activity that will help your students discover their own identity and role as a leader in their everyday world and relationships. Preparing the next generation to advance the Kingdom through their demonstration of Jesusâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; love-based leadership is a high calling. It is worthy of our continuing prayers and trust in the work of the Holy Spirit that He will fill in the blanks and inspire the hearts of your students. Blessings to you as you live, learn, and lead in the name of Jesus! Phil Hodges and the Lead Like Jesus team

FACILITATOR TIPS Personal Preparation 1. Pray—for yourself and for those you will lead in Ignite. Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. 2. Commit yourself to being: ++ A growing Christian. ++ A person of personal prayer and Bible reading. ++ Willing to give time and energy to preparation, participation, and follow-through. ++ A teachable spirit. ++ Sensitive to the leadership of the Holy Spirit in personal preparation as well as during the sessions. ++ A person who loves God and loves people. ++ A servant leader. 3. Don’t be overly concerned about how your presentation or how the sessions will go. Remember, your sessions are not about you; they are about helping others learn to Lead Like Jesus. 4. Remember that Jesus said, “Remain in Me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me.” John 15:4 5. Understand and apply God’s Word: ++ Review all scripture used in each session. ++ Consider what the truths taught in each session mean to you here and now: ++ How does knowing this truth about God make a difference in your life? ++ How can you apply this truth? o What are the implications for you and the students? o Is there a command in this passage that leaders are to obey? o Is there an example to follow? o What does this truth tell you about people in general? How does this truth apply to you and the students? Now that you have learned these things what can you do to help others walk in obedience? 6. Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit: ++ Pray for and expect the Holy Spirit’s leading in each session. ++ Be open to His leadership as you meet and discuss the key issues surrounding leading like Jesus. ++ Ask God to help you model leading like Jesus in all areas of your life.

7. Provide an atmosphere for comfortable discussions: ++ Create an environment where everyone is free to ask questions. ++ Create an atmosphere of respect. ++ Create an atmosphere that is not distracting: ++ Provide adequate lighting, comfortable seating, and appropriate temperature. ++ Cell phones are turned off. ++ Room is neat and clean.

How to Use the Leader’s Guide Group Size Ignite works with any size group: ++ Small groups of less than 10 ++ Large groups of 10-100 people or more Format Options Ignite can be used in a number of delivery formats: ++ Six Sessions of 35-40 Minutes Each Teaching the sessions over six weeks or six days gives students time to absorb the content and put it into practice. If you teach the course over six weeks or days, although the sessions are only 35-40 minutes long, we recommend that you allocate 45-50 minutes for each session. This extra time will allow you to debrief students’ past week (or day) and provide a Q and A time. The six-session format option allows some flexibility, so if you need additional time for the discussions, activities, Q and A, and debriefing, you’ll be able to take it. Note that the time allotted of 35-40 minutes is intended to keep you and the participants moving quickly through the material. ++ Two Sessions of 21/2 Hours Each

By teaching sessions 1-3 together and then 4-6 together, you will be able to give students some concentrated time to reflect on the state of their Heart as a leader (sessions 1-3) before moving on to the next domains of a leader (Head, Hands and Habits). If you use this format, we recommend allowing 45 minutes for each session with a 5-minute break after Session 1 and a 10-minute break after Session 2.

++ Two- or Three-Day Retreats

In a retreat format you have the flexibility to present the material to accommodate any schedule you create.

++ One Day

There are six 35-40 minute sessions, which total approximately 4 hours of content. In a one-day format you would also need to allow 30-45 minutes for lunch and additional time for breaks. Short breaks of 5-10 minutes are recommended following sessions 1 and 4; longer breaks of 10-15 minutes are recommended following Sessions 2 and 5. Below is a sample schedule with 45 minute sessions, 10- and 15-minute breaks and a 45 minute lunch:

9:00-9:45 Session 1: Who Will I Follow? 9:45-9:55 Break 9:55-10:40 Session 2: The Heart of a Leader—How Am I Edging God Out? 10:40-10:55 Break 10:55-11:40 Session 3: The Heart of a Leader—How Do I Exalt God Only? 11:40-12:25 Lunch 12:25-1:10 Session 4: The Head of a Leader—Where Am I Headed? 1:10-1:20 Break 1:20-2:05 Session 5: The Hands of a Leader—How Do I Develop Others? 2:05-2:15 Break Session 6: The Habits of a Leader—How Do I Stay Connected with God? 2:15-3:00

Facility Setup The more intimate the setting the better. You can achieve that by having the students sit closer together. If you use round tables keep them close together, allowing approximately four feet between each table, with a maximum of six people per table (set the seats up so that no one has their back to the front). How This Leader’s Guide Is Organized Session Overview: ++ Purpose of the Session: The goal or action the students are to take at the end of the session ++ Objectives of the Session: Description of how students will accomplish the session goal (what they will learn and how they will learn it, whether it’s through the video, a discussion, or some type of individual/group activity)

++ Optional Additional Information: Recommended pages to read from the Lead Like

Jesus book and study guide to further equip the facilitator ++ Outline: An overview of the session Instructor Narrative: 1. I s what you are to say to the students. If you had to, you could read this start to finish, word-for-word, and the material would be presented completely. However, the more effective way is to use this information as a resource as you prepare to facilitate the six sessions. We recommend that you personalize this material by using your own words and illustrations. You might want to highlight key words and phrases or make your own outline so you don’t have to read it word-for-word. We recommend practicing each session at least once so that you are comfortable with the material, and you’re able to keep to the time allotted.

2. Statements that should be read verbatim are bolded. It’s important to read these word-for-word because they either appear in the student guide, are questions for you to ask or instructions to give.

3. D irections to you, the facilitator, are shown in a box like this intended for you to read to the students.

white or gray

and are not

Activities: ++ Large Group Activity: Everyone in the group does an activity together. For example, you read scenarios and students vote which answer they agree with. ++ Video: Students hear teaching on leadership concepts and watch them played out in a story. ++ Large Group Discussion: You facilitate a discussion with the entire group based on the video they just watched. ++ Small Group Activity/Partner Activity/Just You Activity: Students either get into groups, work with a partner, or work alone to apply the leadership concepts. Most often, your role is to make sure they stick to the allotted time. ++ Large Group Debrief: You debrief the above activities (small group/partner/just you) with the students by asking them questions in a large group; sometimes you’re guided to repeat comments you heard so that the discussion is not predictable.

++ Large Group and In Closing: You share the information that’s listed in that

section with students. Overall Materials List ++ Bible ++ Leader’s Guide ++ Student Guides ++ Computer, projection, and sound equipment (DVD player if using a physical DVD instead of downloadable video files). Be sure to test the videos ahead of time to check the volume level and that everyone in the room can see the videos well. Also, be sure the lighting is adequate so that the video is not washed out but that students can still see their student guide, as it includes notes from the video. ++ Optional: Name tags and markers ++ Optional: Candy or other treats to give out as prizes/rewards to the students for answering questions in the large group; volunteering to come up to the front, etc. ++ Optional: Music to play before and after sessions, as well as during the breaks, to create a welcoming and relaxed atmosphere Miscellaneous Tips Microphones: If you have a large group in which students wouldn’t be able to hear each other without a microphone, try to get a handheld mic. When you give it to a student, do not let go, so that you can make sure answers are kept brief. It also gives you control, so if someone has a long answer that’s losing other students, you can jump in and keep it moving. Group/Individual Activities: It’s critical to keep the energy up during these sessions. An essential way to do that is to KEEP THE SESSIONS MOVING ALONG at a good/fast pace. So, when students are doing an activity in groups or on their own, DO NOT WAIT UNTIL EVERYONE IS FINISHED! When 75-80% of students have completed the assignment, move on! If they’re doing an assessment, tell those that aren’t done to go ahead and complete it while you move on. Encouraging Students to Answer Your Questions/Participating: Try using an incentive like throwing candy for answering a question, or giving a candy bar/gift card/go to lunch first pass if it’s a really important point or they volunteered to come up front.

Session 1 [36 minutes]

WHO WILL I FOLLOW?

The goal of this entire course is for students to take one step toward leading like Jesus in a work/serving group they are currently involved with (at school, church or home). The purpose of this session is for students to choose Jesus as their leadership role model. Objectives for students: ++ Determine whether they view themselves as a leader or not by using the leadership continuum to evaluate their leadership ++ Realize that leadership is important because leaders impact the lives of others—positively and negatively (The video shows the problem with bad leadership through Jake’s father’s boss and its impact on Jake.) ++ Realize, whether they like it or not, that they are a leader and that they in turn are being led/influenced by others (Leadership Definition: “Anytime you seek to influence the thinking, behavior or development of another person”) ++ Decide to follow the Greatest Leader of all time, Jesus—beginning by taking one step to be more influenced by God the Father, just as Jesus was (through video and a small group activity) For more information, please read pages 3-35 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 10-13 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide. Outline

Welcome and Introductions (if needed) a. Large Group Activity (Students assess whether they think they’re a leader or not.) b. Video: Why Leadership Matters c. Large Group Discussion

ii. Video: Who Will I Follow? (Part 1) a. Large Group Discussion b. Video: Who Will I Follow? (Part 2) c. Large Group d. Small Group Activity: How Can God Influence You? e. Large Group Debrief iii. In Closing...

WELCOME and instructions Welcome! The purpose of this leadership course is to ignite greatness in you—as Jesus defines it—so you, in turn, can ignite greatness in others. It’s about how you can influence others with a love-based approach to leadership vs. a power-driven one. (Facilitator: Remember that whenever you see a box like this, it’s for you to read and follow the instructions. See the “Instructor Narrative” tips on page 7.) ++ Note: Add additional time for introductions if students don’t know each other or if they don’t know you. ++ Introduce yourself if they don’t know you. ++ If students are at tables and don’t know each other have them introduce themselves to their table and tell a little known fact about themselves OR if you have a group of students who have a leadership position, have them tell each other what office/position they hold. ++ If they’re not at tables, wait to do introductions until the first small group activity. PRAY to open up the course.

LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY [1 minute] Purpose: For students to evaluate whether or not they think they’re a leader

Before the video begins, take a moment to answer the question on page 4: How do I view myself?

In this first video, we’re going to look at the impact leaders have on us, whether it’s good leadership or bad.

WHY LEADERSHIP MATTERS [play VIDEO, 8 minutes]

NOTES: Leadership matters (whether it’s good or bad) because it impacts others’ lives Definition of a Leader: Anytime you influence the thinking, behavior or development of another person, you’re taking on the role of a leader

Large group discussion [5 minutes] As you just saw, leadership matters because leaders impact us all the time, sometimes it’s for good and sometimes it’s bad. But either way we’re influenced by them. So, let’s think about this. Who influences your choices on any given day—positively or negatively? Turn to the person next to you to answer that question. If you need to have 3 people in your group to include everyone, go ahead. Give them 10-15 seconds to answer.

Whose choices do you influence on any given day—positively or negatively? Share your answer with your partner. Give them 10-15 seconds to answer.

OK, what were some of your answers?

Possible Responses (1 minute): ++ Brother/sister ++ Friends ++ Teammates ++ Mom/Dad—If they don’t mention parents/guardians, be sure to bring it up.

As you can see, we are all being influenced or led and we are all influencing or leading others. So, who/what is influencing Jake and in what ways? Possible Responses: ++ Parents—Their choice of moving to a new place has negatively impacted Jake: he’s now scared because he doesn’t know anyone and is in an unfamiliar place; and he lost his status with friends and community. ++ Jake’s dad’s boss— He decided to steal from the company, which put Jake’s dad out of work— obviously negatively impacting the family with loss of income and security, creating fear. ++ Fear (See examples above.) ++ Loneliness (See examples above; Jake doesn’t know anyone.)

And who is Jake influencing? Listen for: his parents.

How did Jake’s response influence his dad? Possible Responses: ++ He made his dad feel horrible. ++ He caused his dad to become defensive/angry. ++ His dad felt like he let Jake down.

As you’ve pointed out, Jake was influenced both directly and indirectly by the choices of others and at the same time he is influencing others by his choices. We will come back to the subject of Jake and his dad later, but for now, let’s see how this influence process plays out with a girl from school.

WHO WILL I FOLLOW? PART 1 [play VIDEO, 5 minutes]

Large group discussion [1 minute] Ok, Jake is obviously being influenced by Carmen, the girl he’s just met. Why do you think that happened? What’s influencing his choice? Just SHOUT OUT your thoughts! Be sure to repeat what they shout out. Possible Responses: ++ He thinks she’s cute/he’s attracted to her. ++ She seems to make sense; she sounds like she’s a Christian. ++ Jake wants to be in a band. ++ Jake wants to feel accepted/fit in. ++ Jake has led before and he thinks he could lead the band.

Yes. It also sounds like Jake wants to begin establishing who he is—his identity—in this new place. So, let’s see how Jesus fits into all of this.

WHO WILL I FOLLOW? PART 2 [play VIDEO, 3 minutes] He calls us to use our influence to serve. (He calls us to lead as He led.) How well am I leading? ++ Who should I measure myself against? ++ Who should I use for my leadership role model? ❑ Parents? ❑ Celebrity? ❑ Star athlete? ❑ Music artist? ❑ (Other?) What about Jesus (as your role model)? He: ++ Changed the course of history. ++ Started a worldwide movement that still exists today. ++ Was the main character in the best-selling book of all time. ++ Built into a team of people.

++ Delegated His mission to them (the Great Commission).

++ Dealt with the same challenges as you and me: o Imperfect people o Rejection o Criticism o People bullied Him o Major temptation o Betrayed by close friends Transformed Leadership: ++ Leading yourself ++ Leading others in a one-on-one relationship ++ Leading a group or team ++ Leading a community or organization We’re going to focus on leading yourself because our hearts have to be transformed to be like Jesus, and that’s the only way we’ll be able to lead like Jesus.

Large Group [2 minutes] He just talked about how our hearts need to be transformed to be like Jesus, before we can even lead like Him. We also talked about the importance of intentionally choosing who we allow to influence us. Since Jesus is to be our leadership role model, we then need to look at who He was most influenced by. Turn to page 6… ++ John 12:49-50—For I did not speak on my own, but the Father who sent me commanded me to say all that I have spoken. I know that his command leads to eternal life. So whatever I say is just what the Father has told me to say. ++ John 14:31—But he comes so that the world may learn that I love the Father and do exactly what my Father has commanded me. ++ John 15:15—I no longer call you servants, because servants do not know their master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

And what did Jesus’ Father say about Him? ++Matthew 3:17—This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased. Clearly the Father loved Jesus and influenced Him. Because of that relationship Jesus knew who He was and how He was to lead. As we talk about influence for us, the most influential relationship we’re called to have is with the Father—just as Jesus did. Turn to page 7, in your Student Guide, and get into groups of 4. Be sure everyone has a group. You have 30 seconds to do this. ++ If they need help forming groups quickly, step in and assist them. ++ Option: You can read the directions below for the Small Group Activity or just have the students read the instructions in their groups.

Small group activity:

HOW CAN GOD INFLUENCE you? [8 minutes] Purpose: For them to identify one step they are going to take to be influenced by God vs. others.

Note: Below is the directions for the Small Group Activity

1. Get into groups of 4. (Depending on the number of students, one or more groups of five may be necessary. The person with the longest hair leads.)

2. Read the following scripture passages and then answer: What does God say about us? Psalm 139: 13-16—The Message Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.

Ephesians 1:11-12—The Message “It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.” What is God saying about you?.... us?

3. As a group, brainstorm answers to the following question, and write down 1 step you will take and share it with your group:

During your day, when you realize others are influencing your choices, what step you can take to be influenced by the Father instead? What is 1 step I can take to be influenced by the Father instead of others?

After four minutes, let students know they should be moving on to #3. After another four minutes call the groups back together. If you have more time, then ask who’s done (not who needs more time); if it’s the majority, move on. If it’s not, then give them another minute.

Large group debrief [2 minutes] What ideas did you come up with to help you be influenced by the Father vs. others? And if you hear an idea that you think you could use, feel free to write it down and use it! Possible Answers: ++ I’m going to memorize a verse, so when I realize I’m being influenced by someone else, I can repeat it to myself. ++ I’m going to remind myself that God made me exactly the way He wants me to be and not try to be like somebody else.

Note: ++ Ask them to speak up so the group can hear their answers. Use a mic if necessary, and even if they use a mic, repeat the gist of their answer (many students don’t speak clearly). ++ The students may joke around. If so, join in and then ask someone else for their idea. If you get another funny one, laugh with them and ask if someone else has a serious one!

in closing [1 minute] Those are great ideas. In closing, I want you to write down the one step you want to take in the Takeaway section in the Appendix. Give them time to write down their Takeaway. If you’re doing Session 2 immediately after Session 1, say: ++ “And when you’ve done that, take a break and be back here by

(time).”

If you’re not doing Session 2 right after Session 1: ++ Pray to close the session. ++ Say: “And look to use this step during the next 5 days so you get into the practice of using it.”

Session 2 [35 minutes]

The heart of a leader HOW AM I EDGING GOD OUT? 19

The purpose of this session is for students to identify how they Edge God Out (EGO) of their hearts— whether it’s primarily through pride or fear, which are the biggest barriers to leading like Jesus. Objectives—for students to:

++ Identify how they Edge God Out (EGO) vs. Jesus’ model of leadership described in Mt 20:28 (by watching a video)

++ Assess whether they’re primarily motivated by pride or fear (by taking an assessment and listening to a video)

++ Identify how they normally express pride or fear (through a small group activity) ++ Share a work group situation where they experienced pride and/or fear and what triggered it (by participating in a small group activity)

For more information, please read pages 48-63 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 43-56 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide. Outline

Large Group: Session Introduction

ii.

Video: How Am I Edging God Out? a. Large Group Discussion b. Just You Activity: Ego Assessment

iii.

Video: Pride and Fear a. Large Group Discussion b. Small Group Activity: Pride or Fear?

iv.

In Closing…

Large group

session introduction [1 minute] As we look at leadership, there are 4 domains. You can follow along on page 10 in your Guide: The first is the Heart of a leader, which is our motivation or why we lead. This is where transformation begins. The second domain is the Head of a leader. It’s what we think and believe about leadership, and it ends up influencing our choices and decisions. The third domain is the Hands of the leader. It’s what leaders do. It’s our actions. And finally the last domain is the Habits of a leader. It’s how leaders stay intimately connected with God. In this session, we’ll begin looking at the Heart of a leader. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” In leadership, having the right heart makes all the difference. And Jesus demonstrated that truth by always leading from a heart that exalted God only. So, let’s listen to Marcus as he talks about the heart. You can either follow along with the video or turn to the chart on page 12, so when Marcus gets there you’ll be able to see it.

How am i edging God out? [play VIDEO, 5 minutes]

Notes: It’s easy to see others’ shortcomings and faults, but when it comes to our own, we’re often blind. Leading like Jesus is a heart issue, if we don’t get that right, then nothing will make us a servant leader. Matthew 20:26-28 Whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” BTW, Jesus didn’t offer a Plan B ++ H e didn’t say: “Oh, you only have to serve those who are nice to you.” ++ We’re not off the hook with those who are angry or bitter ++ Jesus said to serve, just as He served So, what causes us to only look out for ourselves (satisfying our own needs first vs. serving the best interests of others)?*

Edging God out as... who i worship

My source of security & self-worth

My Audience & ultimate authority in my life

(*One answer is that we put our trust in things and relationships—to give us our self-worth and security— instead of in God and His promises. )

Large group discussion [3 minutes] Ok, so what’s going on between Tasha and Carmen? Just SHOUT IT OUT. Possible Responses: ++ They’re jealous of each other. ++ They can’t stand one another. ++ Tasha is afraid, which is what Carmen said. Tip: To encourage participation from everyone, get people to respond from tables/groups whom you haven’t heard from yet. You could even number the tables and go in order. OR, if you don’t have tables, ask for someone to contribute from a section of the group you haven’t heard from yet (e.g. in the back, left-hand side).

And we got an indication that Carmen thinks Tasha is dealing with fear issues—“afraid that she won’t be in the center of attention.” What do you think Carmen might be dealing with—fear or pride? Those of you who think it’s pride, raise your hand. Pause

Those of you who think it’s fear, raise your hand. Pause

OK, we’ll find out about Carmen later, but now we’re going to focus on you. What’s your biggest challenge—pride or fear? You can follow along as I read the directions for the EGO Assessment.

just you activity:

ego assessment [7 minutes] Purpose: For students to identify whether they’re primarily motivated by pride or fear

1. Complete both parts of the EGO Assessment located in the Appendix:

• Pride Assessment

• Fear Assessment

2. Then total your scores. Watch to see when most students are done. (You’ll begin to hear them talking or see them looking up from their paper; this may be around four minutes.) ++ When you see that many students are finished, ask the group for a hand raise as to how many are done. If it’s 75% or more, tell the rest to finish completing the assessment while you move ahead. ++ If most students are not done, give them another couple minutes. ++ After 6-8 minutes, say the transition statement below.

Now, to double-check your conclusions from your assessment, listen to Scott, the youth pastor, give a fuller explanation of pride and fear.

PRIDE AND FEAR

[play VIDEO, 6 minutes]

Edging God out as... who i worship

My source of security & self-worth

My Audience & ultimate authority in my life

Results in two kinds of ego problems

Large group discussion [4 minutes] ++ Share with the group which motivation you’re personally challenged by: pride or fear. (Sharing personally is critical to helping the students be vulnerable with each other. If you have table leaders, make sure they share which one they’re primarily challenged by, as well.) ++ Then give an example of how you normally express it—modeling for them what you’re expecting them to do. ++ For example: “I’m primarily challenged by fear, and one way it comes out is when I don’t tell someone the truth, because I’m afraid they’ll get mad at me or I’m afraid I’ll hurt their feelings.”

Tasha and Carmen clearly aren’t happy. But it’s a situation where we all find ourselves in at some time or another. So, let’s take a deeper look at our pride and fear, and I’ll start. “For me, I’m primarily challenged by out when .”

(pride/fear) and I notice it comes

So what are you primarily challenged by, pride or fear? Let’s do a hand raise. How many of you are challenged by pride? Raise your hand. Pause and get a sense of what percent of the group is dealing with pride.

How many of you are challenged by fear? Raise your hand. Pause and get a sense of what percent of the group is dealing with fear.

How many of you think you’re equally challenged by both pride and fear? Raise your hand. Pause and get a sense of what percent of the group struggles with both. Then comment on your observation, such as: “It looks like 2/3s of us are primarily motivated by fear.”

Scott, the youth pastor in the video, mentioned 3 ways that pride and fear affect us—you can see them on page 15 in your Guide. They always cause us to:

++Separate from God, others, and ourselves. ++Compare ourselves to others. ++Distort the truth by lying or exaggerating. Now, take a moment and write down a project work group you’re currently in or if you’re not currently in one, think of one you were in recently. Maybe it’s one from a class, a club, a team, church, etc. When you compared yourself to the others in the group—because we all do—did you become anxious or arrogant? Or something else? Go ahead and jot it down. Pause

How did you isolate or separate yourself from the group? Did you remain silent, not speaking up because you were afraid or did you monopolize the conversation and keep others from contributing? Take a moment to write your thoughts down. Pause

Finally, what about distorting the truth? In what ways did you lie or exaggerate to keep from getting in trouble or to sound better than you really were? Go ahead and jot that down. Pause

I’m going to give you some time to process this a little more in a Small Group Activity.

Small group activity:

PRIDE AND FEAR [8 minutes] Purpose: For students to identify what triggered their pride/fear in a work group situation

Note: Opening up to others about their pride/ fear, is the first step toward “healing”/Exalting God Only and creating community.

Read the instructions below.

1. Get into a group of 4 or 5. (The leader is the one who has had a pet the longest.) 2. Share with your group:

a. Which you’re primarily challenged by: Pride/Fear/Both

b. How you normally express it (if it helps, you can use a statement from the Assessment you thought was most true of you)

c. A current project work group/service group/club you’re in—a group where you have to work with others to get something accomplished (If you aren’t currently in a group, think of a past group experience.)

d. A time when you reacted out of pride/fear and what you think triggered it

You have 8 minutes, so go ahead and start.

Project work group: Pride/fear/both? How you normally express it: Project work group: What triggered your pride/fear?

After 4 minutes, tell them they should be halfway finished. After 8 minutes, call the group back together.

in closing [1 minute] Hopefully, you’ve realized that all of us have situations and people in our lives that don’t bring out the best in us. The key to handling these types of situations and people is to recognize what triggers us to respond out of pride and fear. Because before we can LEAD like Jesus, we have to BE like Jesus. And that’s what our next session is about—how to have a heart that Exalts God Only. Now, take a moment and turn in the Appendix to write down your Takeaway from Session 2. Give them time to write down their Takeaway. If you’re doing Session 3 right away, say: ++ “And when you’ve done that, take a break and be back here by

(time).”

If you’re not doing Session 3 right after Session 2: ++ Pray to close the session. ++ Say: Look for ways to use your Takeaway within the next 5 days.

Session 3 [36 minutes]

The heart of a leader HOW DO I EXALT GOD ONLY? 31

The purpose of this session is for students to identify 1 step to take to move away from their fear/pride and toward humility/confidence in God in their work group situation. Objectives—for students to:

++ Share how they would react to the case study/video of Carmen and Tasha’s situation (through large group discussion)

++ Identify one step they can take to move toward humility/confidence in God (through an individual time of solitude and surrender)

++ B rainstorm ideas on how they can react out of humility/confidence (instead of pride/fear) in their work group situation (through a small group discussion)

For more information, please read pages 63-73 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 57-62 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide.

Outline i.

Video: Exalting God Only (Part 1) a. Large Group Activity

ii.

Video: Exalting God Only (Part 2) a. Large Group b. Just You Activity: Surrender c. Small Group Activity: Exalting God Only d. Large Group Debrief

iii.

In Closing . . .

Exalting God Only allows us to respond to others and God with humility and confidence instead of pride and fear. So, let’s see how this plays out with Tasha and Carmen.

EXALTING GOD ONLY (Part 1) [play VIDEO, 4 minutes]

LARGE group activity [2 minutes] Purpose: For students to share how they’d react to the case study of Carmen and Tasha

OK, let’s find out what you would do next if you were in Carmen’s situation. Let me read all of your choices first, and when I read them a second time you can vote. You can follow along on page 20 in your Guide. If you were in Carmen’s situation, would you:

1. Just act like you normally would?

2. Turn around and make a joke to lighten up the situation, like “You’d look much better if you tied your hair up.”

3. Try again to connect with Tasha.

4. Just leave and connect with her later.

Ok, who would act like you normally would? Raise your hand. Pause If you think they need a little movement, have them stand instead of raise their hand.

Who would make a joke to lighten up the situation? Raise your hand. Pause

Who would try again to connect with her? Raise your hand. Pause

Who would just leave and connect with her later? Raise your hand. Pause

It’s interesting to see how we’d respond. And there isn’t a right answer. To respond as Jesus would with His heart, we need to factor in our personality along with the skills we’re about to learn. So, with that in mind, let’s see what Carmen decided and then we’ll hear some teaching on how to move away from our pride and fear.

EXALTING GOD ONLY (Part 2) [play VIDEO, 8 minutes]

Moving away from pride and fear means understanding each other’s world—seeing things from another’s perspective, not just your own. How does that happen? ++ Reach out to that person, putting their hurt, pain, or anger before your own pride or fear. ++ When you get rejected, don’t give up! ++ STOP and step back emotionally. o “Stuff” your own EGO down by acknowledging: • Your own fear (fear of rejection, being lashed out against). • Your own pride swelling up (from being treated in a way you don’t like). o Choose to act: • With humility vs. being prideful. • With confidence vs. being fearful. Moving away from your pride or fear means moving toward Exalting God Only

Exalting god only as... The only one I worship

The only one who gives me my security & Self worth

My Audience of one and the highest authority in my life

Replaces pride and fear with

Large Group [1 minute] Humility and confidence only come through surrender—giving ourselves, our EGO, completely to God— which is what Carmen did. She surrendered her EGO to God and allowed Jesus to lead her so she responded to Tasha in humility and compassion instead of reacting out of pride. Tasha and Carmen’s relationship began to move: ++From isolating themselves from each other to being in community. ++ From distorting the truth by putting up fronts to authenticity and trust by being real and truthful with each other. ++ From comparing themselves with one another to contentment by stopping the competition and accepting each other. So, now the question is: What are you going to do about YOUR heart? If your heart’s not right, you can’t lead like Jesus. Having a heart like Jesus isn’t something you can do on your own; that’s like trying to do your own open-heart surgery. A transformed heart is only something the Holy Spirit can do. But, there is something you CAN do and that is invite God in—not just to be your Savior or your teacher or your friend—but invite Him in to be the Lord of your life. We’re talking about total surrender—like King David did in Psalm 51:10, when he said: Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. And when you do that, you change direction just like Carmen did with Tasha. To give you that opportunity, you’re now going to have some time alone with God. Turn in your Student Guide to page 21, and read the directions. You’ll have about 10 minutes. And if you’d like to find a more comfortable spot, feel free to do so.

just you activity:

SURRENDER [10 minutes] Purpose: For students to identify one step they can take to move away from fear/pride and toward humility/ confidence in God

Note: Below is the Individual Activity: Surrender instructions

SURRENDER

JUST YOU

The purpose of this time is to give you an opportunity to ask God to become the Lord of your life, including the Lord of your relationships. Allow God to speak directly to you about how you can grow in humility if you tend to be prideful or in confidence if you tend to be fearful. 1. D ecide whether it’s pride or fear that primarily motivates you. (If it’s both, choose one to focus on at this time.) 2. Read the verses below under that heading (Confidence or Humility) and choose the one that is the most meaningful to you. 3. As time allows, do one or more of the following (there’s space below to write down your thoughts): a. W rite the verse in your own words. Then read your paraphrase back to yourself.

b. S tate the opposite meaning of the verse. (Proverbs 3:4-6—Don’t trust God, figure out everything on your own.) • What impact does the verse have now? c. Personalize the verse. (Prov. 3 (insert your name), trust in God . . .) • Let the Holy Spirit apply it to a need, a challenge, an opportunity or a failure in your life. • What will you do to apply this verse in your life? Be specific. d. Pray the verse back to God. Put your own name or situation in the verse. (Father, please help me to trust you with my fear of (insert fear here); I can’t figure this out myself.) CONFIDENCE •F or you have been my hope, O Sovereign LORD, my confidence since my youth. Psalm 71:5 •T he fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17 • But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. Jeremiah 17:7 • Such confidence as this is ours through Christ before God. 2 Corinthians 3:4 • I n him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. Ephesians 3:12 • In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. 1 John 4:17 HUMILITY • He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them his way. Psalms 25:9 • Humility and the fear of the LORD bring wealth and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4 • Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3 • Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3 • Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12

•W ho is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. James 3:13

Notes:

4. S pend a couple of minutes writing down one step you can take to move away from fear/pride toward confidence in God/humility.

A step I can begin taking toward confidence/humility:

After 10 minutes, call students back together.

Small group activity:

EXALTING GOD ONLY [8 minutes] Purpose: For students to brainstorm ideas on how to Exalt God Only in their work group situation

All right, now taking what you’ve just experienced, let’s go back to your work group situation. In the last session, you identified a work group and how your pride or fear affected your interactions. What I want you to do now is look at that same situation that triggered your pride or fear. But this time, brainstorm as a group, other ways you could respond differently— to get ideas as to how others might handle the same situation.

You’ll have a couple of minutes per person, but first, we’ll divide up. Those of you who are challenged mostly by pride will go over to this part of the room. Point to one part of the room. If people start moving, ask them to please wait until you read off all 3 groups.

Those who are challenged mostly by fear will go over to this part of the room. Point to another part of the room.

And those who are challenged by both will go over to this part of the room. Point to other part of the room.

OK, go ahead and move now. And, quickly get into groups of 3. And if you need to get into groups of 4 to include everyone do that. Take 15 seconds to get into your groups. Give them just 15 seconds to get into groups. Otherwise start putting students into groups.

Go ahead and read the directions in your groups and then start. If you have any questions, let me know. Note: Below are the instructions to the Small Group Activity: Exalting God Only 1. Get into groups of three or four. 2. Tell your partners the following information: ++ The work group situation you discussed in Session 2 ++ What triggered your pride/fear/both ++ What you did about it (even if it was “nothing”) ++ The step you just identified that you want to begin taking—from page 23 3. Then as a group, brainstorm other steps or ways you could respond.

After 2 minutes, tell students to go to the next person. After another 2 minutes, tell them to switch to the last person. Then after another 2 minutes call time.

Large group debrief [2 minutes] OK, what were some ideas you came up with? Possible Responses: ++ I need to stop being so sarcastic in my group and say encouraging things instead. ++ I need to speak up and contribute to the group instead of thinking that what I have to say doesn’t matter or won’t make a difference.

Optional Small Group Discussion (If time allows): 1. Think of a recent interaction with your parents/guardians that didn’t go well. 2. Share with your group: ++ Whether you experienced pride or fear. ++ What caused that response. 3. As a group, brainstorm how you could have handled the situation.

in closing [1 minute] What you just did is foundational to leading like Jesus. As leaders, we need to CHOOSE to step back and respond to others with humility or confidence rather than reacting out of pride or fear. We need to invite God into the moment. And this applies not only to the work groups we’re in but also to our families. Let me pray for us right now.

Pray:

++ For God to give them the courage to take their one step. ++ For God to begin working in that one relationship. ++ That God would prepare the student’s heart and that person’s heart for their next interaction.

Please take a moment to write down your Takeaway from this session. If you’re doing Session 3 right away, say: ++ “And when you’ve done that, take a break and be back here by If you’re not doing Session 3 right after Session 2: ++ Pray to close the session. ++ Say: Look for ways to use your Takeaway within the next 5 days.

(time).”

Session 4 [37 minutes]

The heAD of a leader WHERE AM I HEADED?

The purpose of this session is for students to take a first step toward writing their personal vision statement Objectivesâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;for students to:

++ Realize that vision is critical because it motivates people by giving them a purpose.

(The video shows the problem Jake runs into because he lacked vision and then moves onto Jesusâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; vision for leadership.) ++ Take the first step in writing their personal vision statement (during an individual activity) ++ B rainstorm ways for each of them to use their skills, abilities, talents, and spiritual gifts to serve others (through a small group activity) For more information, please read pages 83-93 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 64-80 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide.

Outline i.

Video: Why Vision Matters (Part 1) a. Large Group Discussion b. Video: Why Vision Matters (Part 2) c. Large Group

ii.

Just You Activity: First Steps Toward a Personal Vision Statement a. Small Group Activity: Your Vision b. Large Group Activity

iii.

In Closing . . .

We’ve been talking about our heart as a leader, which is where transformation begins. In this session, we’re going to begin talking about the Head of a leader, which is what we think and believe about leadership, people, and work. It influences our choices and decisions. But the Head of the leader starts with knowing who we are and connecting our vision to God’s vision. Let’s go ahead and watch the video. You can follow along on page 28 in your Guide.

WHY VISION MATTERS (Part 1) [play VIDEO, 4 minutes] NOTES:

Our Heart—What motivates us Our Head—What we believe about leadership and leading others (it influences our choices and decisions): ++ It’s knowing who you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there. ++ It’s knowing how and why to include others.

Large group discussion [2 minutes] Jake now has a leadership problem. Sam, doesn’t want to put the time or effort into practicing, and on top of that, Sam now feels like the whole band is ganging up on him. As the band leader, what do you think Jake’s goal should be? Listen for something similar to the following:

• To get Sam on board (because Jake doesn’t want to find someone else and probably couldn’t with the short timeframe)

If you don’t hear it, propose the above as a goal Jake might have

If you were in Jake’s position, what would you do next? Possible Responses (there’s no correct answer): ++ Talk to Sam ++ Find someone to replace him ++ Have the band apologize to Sam

OK, now let’s listen to some teaching about vision and how that impacts Jake’s thinking and actions.

WHY VISION MATTERS (Part 2) [play VIDEO, 7 minutes] NOTES: What would you do if people in your group weren’t putting in the effort to get something done? You could try: ++ Ordering them around. ++ Using threats. ++ Giving up totally and just doing it yourself. OR you could try encouraging them by using a leadership skill called “Vision Casting.” Vision ++ It’s a picture of the PREFERRED future, the future you want to see come true. ++ It’s got to tell others what you want to see happen and why—because vision is what gives people the inspiration to keep on keeping on. For example: ++ Martin Luther King saw a future with everyone having civil rights—not just a few ++ Jesus saw sin no longer blocking our way to God. o He saw a future where there were no more sacrifices—He was it, the final one. o So now all we have to do is ask Him for forgiveness and to come into our lives to lead us. Proverbs 29:18 says, “Without a vision, the people will perish.” How does vision affect our world? In Jake’s case: ++ He already knows “what” he wants Sam to do: come to practice, come on time and play his heart out. ++ Jake’s missing the “why”—the inspiration for Sam to “keep on keeping on.” ++ So, finally, Jake tells Sam it isn’t really about just following through on a commitment or not wanting to make a fool of themselves (neither of those goals are very inspiring). ++ The vision is really about helping out kids—a whole school full—who can’t afford school supplies and backpacks. ++ Then Jake ties in how their band could make that happen—that music is powerful and can touch the hearts of their friends like nothing else. This connection through music can inspire friends to really want to give their money to this cause.

Large group discussion [4 minutes] Jake used an extremely important leadership skill with Sam that had nothing to do with vision, and that was the apology. We won’t cover the elements of it today, however, many times apologizing is critical to building trust with those you lead. So, moving to vision, let’s dissect what we saw for a minute: • When Jake was talking with Carmen, he realized he had a vision for this event. • And when he talked to Sam he explained the band’s role in that vision. So, what was Jake’s vision and the band’s role in it? Listen for something close to these statements (1 minute):

• For every student at Roosevelt to have school supplies and a backpack. • For the band to do such a great job playing and choosing music that the students would be moved emotionally to donate above and beyond what is “normal” for this cause.

We’ve taken a look at Jake and how important it is to have a vision that you’re passionate about. Now it’s time to look at Jesus. The video mentioned Jesus’ overall vision but now let’s look at Jesus’ vision for leadership which was and still is radical. He lays it out in Matthew 20:25-28, you can read it on page 30 in your Guide: If you’d like, ask for a volunteer to read this passage. Be sure everyone can hear them.

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” The first thing He says has to do with defining greatness for His people. Notice he doesn’t say it’s “bad” or prideful. He knows we’re wired for greatness, and He even affirms it. However, He does have a radical definition of it.

The world defines a great leader as having power over others by being the smartest, the richest, the sexiest, the most powerful. You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Jesus on the other hand defines a great leader as someone one who strives to serve others. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve . . . Notice that Jesus doesn’t tell us to be “greater than”—that would be comparison. Rather, Jesus just tells us to become great. Because He knows that when we’re great, we’ll bring out greatness in others. To be great, we need to serve. Being a great leader means using our influence to serve others not exploit them. And a key way we can serve others and bring out their greatness is by understanding God’s vision for us personally, how it fits into His overall plan and then inviting others to join in. So, you’re now going to have a chance to take a first step toward your vision. But before we jump into that, I want to mention what Sam’s mom brought up—that the only way that we can lead like Jesus is to first HAVE Jesus. And if you don’t have Jesus that may be what you’d like to handle first. If so, come talk to me or someone in your group. Let me pray. Sample Prayer : Father, thank you for this day that will never come again. And thank you for this time together to be able to study how Jesus led so we, too, can follow the greatest Leader that ever lived. Lord, there might be some students here that might not know you and I ask that you would draw them to You. That they would realize that You, Jesus, are the only one who can get rid of the sin obstacle keeping them from You. I also want to invite your Holy Spirit to come and guide each one of these students right now as they wrestle with what unique contribution you want them to make. I pray that you give them insight into how you wired them up and how they can use them for Your purposes. We love You, Lord, In Jesus’ Name, Amen

Go ahead and start on your vision statement on page 31. You have 6 minutes.

just you activity:

FIRST STEPS TOWARD A PERSONAL VISION STATEMENT (PART 1) [6 minutes] Purpose: For students to take the first step in writing their personal vision statement

Note: Below are the instructions for the Individual Activity: First Steps toward a Personal Vision Statement

FIRST STEPS TOWARD A PERSONAL VISION STATEMENT (PART 1)

JUST YOU

1. What am I good at? / What do I love to do? [Hint: Think about your skills/abilities/talents or your spiritual gifts if you know them.] For example—I’m good at or love: Art/music/singing Math/science/computers Writing Sports Fixing cars Selling/Making money Cooking School Waterskiing Reading Tutoring Animals Organizing/planning Getting people together Hospitality Helping others Leading Teaching/speaking/debating Star the top 2-3 that you feel the strongest about.

2. How can I use what I’m good at or love to do to serve others? For example: ++ I love playing in a band, I could get our band to play for charity events to help the poor/needy. ++ I’m good at art and I’m creative. I want to help organizations that help the homeless by doing the artwork for their flyers, posters, or brochures, so people will really want to volunteer and give money to get people off the streets.

++ I love to read, so I’m going to start a book club and invite/include those students that are on the fringe. ++ I’m good at math and I could tutor others in the peer mentoring program or an after-school program/ministry. ++ I love waterskiing and I have the gift of evangelism. I want to use waterskiing to reach other kids for Christ. So, I’m thinking of starting a waterskiing club/ministry and offer to teach kids how to ski and use that time to ask them questions and talk to them about God. ++ I’m good at leading others. I could get a group together to raise money for the food pantry. How can I use what I’m good at or love to do to serve others?

After 6 minutes, call the group back together or when most students have finished. Then read the instructions to the Small Group Activity below.

Small group activity:

FIRST STEPS TOWARD YOUR VISION STATEMENT (PART 2) [10 minutes] Purpose: For students to have their group brainstorm ideas of how they could use their skills, abilities, talents, and spiritual gifts to serve others

1. Ok, you’ll need to get into groups of 4. (The person with the shortest hair is the leader.) 2. Share what you just wrote down (#2 above: how you can use what you’re good at or love to do to serve others) with the group. 3. Then, as a group, brainstorm as many ideas as possible for how you could use your skills/abilities/talents/spiritual gifts to serve others. Be sure to write their ideas down in the space below.

4. A llow about 2 minutes per person, and then move to the next person in the group. 5. A fter everyone is finished, take a moment to review the brainstorming ideas you just wrote down and the idea you shared with the group (#2 above). Then star the one you like the most. Purpose: For students to have their group brainstorm ideas of how they could use their skills, abilities, talents, and spiritual gifts to serve others

++ After 5 minutes, tell them they should be halfway done. ++ After another 4 minutes (9 minutes total), tell them they should move on to #5. ++ If they need more time and you have extra time allow them to keep working. ++ Discreetly listen in to get quotes from students that you can use in wrapping up below—but DO NOT use their names unless you get their permission first. For example: “I heard some great comments like . . .(and then share what you heard)”

LARGE group activity [3 minutes] Purpose: To identify one way they can bring “greatness” out in others in their work group/family/others (one way they can serve them)

I heard some great statements, like… ++ Share with the entire group a couple of statements that you overheard. ++ OR ask the students what great ideas they came up with for someone in their group

This is a great start toward having a personal vision statement and how God wants to impact the world through you. We’re now going to circle back to this concept of greatness and how to bring it out in others. Think about your work group or if you’re not in a work group, then think about your family.

I’d like you to write down your answer to this question on page 33: • What’s one thing you can do to bring out the “greatness” in others—what’s one way you can serve them? Write your answer down. Give them a minute to write their answer down.

Now turn to the person next to you and share it with them. After a minute move on.

Quickly, what were some ideas you heard from your partner? Take a couple of responses and then move on.

in closing [1 minute] Prayer Lord, You created me. You shape my dreams, and You continually craft the circumstances of my life so that You can use me to spread Your kingdom vision and values throughout the earth. I am grateful to belong to You, and honored to be part of what You are doing. All that I am and achieve is because of You. Use me today, I pray in Jesus’ name, Amen. OK, now take a moment and write down your Takeaway from this session in the Appendix. Give them a moment to write their answer down.

If you’re doing the next session right away, say: ++ “And when you’ve done that, take a break and be back here by If you’re not doing the Session 5 right away, then: ++ Pray to close the session. ++ Say: “Look to use your Takeaway within the next 5 days.”

(time).”

Session 5 [39 minutes]

The hANDS of a leader HOW DO I DEVELOP OTHERS

The purpose of this session is for students to develop someone in their work group (or other situation) using the developmental model Jesus used with His disciples Objectives for students: ++ Understand how Jesus developed His disciples using the Way of the Carpenter (WOC) model (through a video and a large group activity that tests their understanding) ++ Apply the WOC framework to a situation in their own lives (in a partner activity) ++ Identify how to handle their pride/fear so it doesn’t negatively impact a work group interaction (through a partner activity) ++ Discuss how to respectfully “lead up” to their parents using Jake’s interaction with his dad as an example (in a large group discussion) For more information, please read pages 125-145 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 99-116 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide. Outline

i. ii.

Video: The Way of the Carpenter (Part 1) a. Large Group Activity b. Partner Activity: Developing Others Using the WOC Model

iii.

Video: The Way of the Carpenter (Part 2) a. Partner Activity: The Way of the Carpenter and Pride/Fear b. Large Group Debrief c. Large Group Discussion

iv.

In Closing…

Large Group: Session Introduction

Large group

session introduction [1 minute] We’re now going to talk about the Hands of the leader, which is about accomplishing results by developing others. Looking at Jesus’ life, it wasn’t random that He was a carpenter. He grew and learned in a way carpenters had always learned. And then Jesus led and equipped others for greatness using the same stages that He experienced and progressed through as a carpenter. In this next clip, we’re going to hear how to serve others and make others great by developing them so they can accomplish whatever task they’re assigned.

THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (PART 1) [play VIDEO, 5 minutes] NOTES: The Heart and the Head are vital to leadership, but at some point you need to put leadership into action. The Hands is where: ++ You’re thinking more about others (than yourself!)—helping them get “A’s.” ++ You’re really loving them—“The opposite of loving others is using them.” ++ You help them move from where they currently are to where they want to be. The Hands is about developing others. Jesus developed others the way that He was developed as a carpenter. ++ Stage 1: Novice o Someone who’s just starting out oT hey need basic information about what they’re doing—the “who, what, when, where, why and how” to do the task ++ Stage 2: Apprentice oS omeone who’s in training—they’re getting the hang of a task, but they’re still not able to work alone oT hey still need instruction. They need to be able to practice the task/skill and be evaluated on it. They need to know that they’re doing the right thing the right way and to be corrected when they don’t quite “have it” yet.

++ Stage 3: Journeyman oS omeone who’s able to work independently because they’ve developed the skills to do the task/skill well oT hey just need to be assigned the job (so they can go get it done!), but they also need encouragement because they can still get disillusioned and discouraged. ++ Stage 4: Master/Teacher oS omeone who’s mastered the skill/task and is now able to teach others o They just need affirmation and autonomy.

LARGE group activity [6 minutes] Purpose: For the students to apply their understanding of the Way of the Carpenter model to four examples

OK, let’s make sure we get this. I’m going to read an example of someone learning a task starting on page 38 in your Student Guide—most are of Jesus developing His disciples. ++ If students are not in groups/tables, have them get into groups of 4-5 people. ++ Optional: Give the winning tables a prize such as candy, etc.

The first group to raise their hand and get it right—after I finish reading the situation—wins. We’ll do this 4 times. You can win only once. If it helps, use the Learning Stages chart on page 37 to help determine which stage you think the following situations describe. Ready?

LEAR N I NG STAGES NOVICE Someone just starting out

APPRENTICE Someone in training

JOURNEYMAN Someone able to work on their own

MASTER Someone able to teach others

LEADER PROVIDES (Leadership Styles)

INSTRUCTING

COACHING

MENTORING

COMMISSIONING

Basic information; what, how, where, when, why

Instruction; practice; evaluation

Assignment; encouragement

Affirmation; autonomy

Ok, the task in this one is the disciples casting out a demon: “Lord, have mercy on my son,” he said…I brought him to your disciples, but they couldn’t heal him…Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy…then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” he replied “because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed… nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:15-20 ++ The first group that guesses “Apprentice” wins. Be sure to look toward the back of the room and to the sides also. ++ If there are other adults, you might want to ask them to be the judge of which group raised their hands first. ++ G ive the winning group a prize (candy, candy bars, etc.), and if there’s a tie, be ready with candy!

This story is an example of the disciples being in the Apprentice Stage. Notice that the disciples were on their own healing people, so they’re not Novices. However, they weren’t able to heal the boy. So . . . • Even though they were practicing the task or skill of healing, they still needed evaluation of what they weren’t able to do: they didn’t have enough faith. They needed coaching or instructions on what to do differently: pray and fast. Jesus also encouraged them by reminding them that if they did this and had faith, nothing would be impossible for them. All right, here’s the next one, the task is being a disciple: As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:18-19 ++ The first group that guesses “Novice” wins. Be sure to look toward the back of the room and to the sides also. ++ Give the entire winning group a prize (candy, candy bars, etc.).

Good. The Stage is Novice. They are just starting out, and will need basic instruction. The next task is learning to drive: A teenager has just received her driver’s license and her dad asks her to drive to the store for him. She rear ends another car because she was playing with the radio. ++ The first group that guesses “Journeyman” wins. Be sure to look toward the back of the room and to the sides also. ++ Give the entire winning group a prize (candy, candy bars, etc.).

All right, now this one can be confusing. Even though she’s just gotten her license and it sounds like she’s a novice, however, she’s actually in the Journeyman Stage. Through Driver’s Ed and logging hours with her parents, she has progressed through the Novice Stage and the Apprentice Stage, but in this case, she forgot to follow the rules for driving safely. ++ S he’s had basic information, instruction, practice and evaluation through Driver’s Ed and logging hours with her permit—the Novice and Apprentice Stages ++ S he’s able to drive on her own, but needs to be reminded and encouraged to do what she already knows how to do.

Finally, I have another biblical example—the task is preaching the Good News: God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ.” When the people heard this they were cut to the heart and said to Peter and the other apostles, “Brothers, what shall we do?” Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins . . .” Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day. Acts 2:36-41 OK, which stage is Peter in? ++ The first group that guesses “Master/Teacher” wins. Be sure to look toward the back of the room and to the sides also. ++ Give the entire winning group a prize (candy, candy bars, etc.).

Yes, he’s in the Master/Teacher Stage. Peter is now doing the task—preaching the Good News—on his own.

As you do this next activity, keep Matthew 20:25 in mind:

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” After you find a partner, read the instructions and if you have any questions, let me know. OK, go ahead and begin the Partner Activity. You have 10 minutes.

PARTNER UP: DEVELOPING OTHERS USING THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (WOC) MODEL [10 minutes] NOTE: Below is the instructions for the Partner Activity 1. Find a partner. Then take a couple of minutes on your own to answer question #2. 2. Think of a work group situation where you’re helping someone learn a task. However, if there isn’t one, then any situation will work. Then write down: a. The task b. T he Learning Stage you think that person is in (Novice/Apprentice/Journeyman/ Master-Teacher) c. Y our next step—the kind of leadership you think they need (Instructing/Coaching/ Mentoring/ Commissioning) • For example: o W ork Group Situation: Aksel isn’t getting the PowerPoint (PPT) presentation done because he‘s struggling with how to integrate some pieces into it. When I tried to explain it to him, he just didn’t get it. o T ask: He needs to integrate elements into the PPT presentation. o S tage: Novice. Even though he’s a master/teacher with the basics of PPT, he’s a novice when it comes to integrating other elements into it. o Next Step (leadership required): Instruct by first showing him step-by-step how to integrate one of the elements; next have him integrate one while I’m watching (so I can troubleshoot); and finally, have him integrate another element while I’m working on something else in case he needs help. • For example: o O ther Situation: My mom isn’t understanding when I try to teach her how to download an app on her iPad. o Task: She needs to download apps on her own. o Learning Stage: Novice. She’s clueless about this technology! o N ext Step (leadership required): Instruct my mom by first showing her how to download an app and then having her write down the steps before she finally tries it herself.

Situation: Task: Learning Stage you think s/he is in: Next Step to take (leadership required): 3. Take a few minutes to share your answers with your partner. Then brainstorm other ideas for next steps you could take with that person.

After a few minutes, have the first person begin sharing their answers. After another 3 minutes, tell them to switch. Call them back together after 3 more minutes. If you have additional time, and they could use it, give them 1-2 more minutes.

Now we’re going to listen to some teaching on what happens when pride and fear enter into the leader/follower relationship and then we’ll check in on Carmen.

THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (Part 2) [play VIDEO, 4 minutes] NOTES: As we develop others, we need to recognize when pride or fear is getting in the way of helping others win. (It can be really hard to care about someone who’s challenging you, your motives, or what you’re trying to do.) So, as quickly as you can: ++ Recognize when you’re wanting to react to someone out of your pride/fear. ++ Overcome it by responding differently or having an uncomfortable conversation. For example, Carmen with Mike: ++ Carmen recognized pride beginning to well up inside her, as a response to how Mike was reacting to her. ++ She then talked to Mike right away about it.

o She didn’t say: “That comment was really annoying, why did you say that?” (This causes people to become defensive.) o She did say: “Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like I’m really irritating you. Did I do something wrong?” (Starting with an “I” statement causes people to be more open.)

PARTNER ACTIVITY: THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER AND PRIDE/ FEAR [4 minutes]

Purpose: For students to identify how pride or fear would impact how they’d approach the person they’re developing/leading

1. Get back with your partner and think about the person you and your partner were just brainstorming about. 2. Look at the following charts and read the statements that correspond to the stage that person is in. Put a check by the statements that reflect how your pride/fear might be affecting your relationship. 3. Then share with your partner one way you’ll change your approach with that person. • Example: I want to be more patient with Aksel and I need to help him out vs. expecting him to deliver something he currently can’t do without some help. • Example: I get frustrated with having to explain things to my mom…over and over. So, I want to approach her with a heart that really wants to serve her vs. approaching her as though she’s a pain.

After 4 minutes, call the group back together to do the Large Group Debrief.

NOTES:

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A NOVICE

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH AN APPRENTICE

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A JOURNEYMAN

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A MASTER/TEACHER

LARGE GROUP DEBRIEF [2 minutes]

How did paying attention to your pride/fear affect the way you’d approach that person? Possible Responses: ++ I realized that I needed to be more patient, so I need to just slow down. ++ I shouldn’t be afraid, I need to just be confident (in God) with this person and if they get upset, remind myself that that’s one of the responses I expected and keep telling the truth in love.

LARGE GROUP DISCUSSION [6 minutes]

Finally, a key part of being a great leader is being a great follower and learning how to lead up. This means being able to positively influence those who have rightful authority over you by how you respond to them.

A key relationship where you can begin leading up is with your parents or guardians. Part of honoring your father and mother can be learning to “lead up” to them in an honoring way. For example, in the beginning Tasha and Jake dishonored their parents. But let’s just focus in on Jake and his dad. Jake yelled at his dad because he was angry—anger that was fueled by fear of starting over, not knowing anyone, not having friends, and the list goes on. Thinking about how to honor our parents, what is something Jake could do to “lead up” or make this situation right with his dad? Just SHOUT IT OUT. Repeat their responses so everyone can hear. Only take a minute to do this. Possible Responses: ++ Apologize to him ++ Mend the relationship by explaining to his dad what was going on

Now it’s your turn. Take a minute to share with your partner an incident where you were prideful or fearful with your parent/guardian. And then take another minute to brainstorm at least one way you could have handled it differently. ++ After 2 minutes, tell them to switch. ++ After another 2 minutes, call them back together. ++ If you have time, take a minute to debrief with them. Ask: “What ideas did you come up with?”

in closing [1 minute] Great job. Take a moment to write down your Takeaway in the Appendix. If you’re doing the next session right away, say: ++ “And when you’ve done that, take a break and be back here by

(time).”

If you’re not doing the next session right away, then: ++ Pray to close the session. ++ Say: “Look to use your Takeaway within the next 5 days.”

Session 6 [36 minutes]

The HABITS of a leader HOW DO I STAY CONNECTED WITH GOD?

The purpose of this session is for students to practice two of the five key Habits: Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love and Prayer Objectives—for students to:

++ Know the five key habits Jesus used to stay connected to the Father ++ Assess how they’re doing with the five habits (through a large group activity) ++ Choose which habit they’d like to do start or do more of (through a large group activity) ++ Experience two of the five habits modeled by Jesus: Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love and Prayer (through a large group and a partner activity)

++ Identify one way they can practice love/serving in a key relationship (through a partner activity) ++ Choose one (at the most two) Takeaways to act on, after reviewing their Takeaway list in the Appendix

For more information, please read pages 153-180 in Lead Like Jesus and pages 157-160 and 145-147 in Lead Like Jesus 6-week Study Guide.

Outline i.

Video: The Habits of a Leader (Part 1) a. Large Group Activity

ii.

Video: The Habits of a Leader (Part 2) a. Large Group Activity b. Large Group c. Partner Activity: Expressing Love

iii. iv.

Large Group: Course Summary In Closing . . . a. Video: Ignite! b. Closing Prayer

Welcome back to our last session on habits. As we look at the life of Jesus, no one had more stress than He did. But He practiced at least 5 key habits that helped Him stay connected to the Father—so He could stay focused on what He needed to do. Let’s go ahead and watch this next video.

THE HABITS OF A LEADER (Part 1) [play VIDEO, 6 minutes] NOTES: Habits—those practices that help us stay connected with God. Jesus, the Son of God, even HE had to have great Habits to stay connected with His Father So, if He needed it, stands to reason we do too! 5 Key Habits: 1. Solitude—being silent and completely alone with God to listen to His “still small voice” At daybreak Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for him and when they came to where he was, they tried to keep Him from leaving them. Luke 4:24 ++ No agenda ++ Away from everyone and everything

2. Prayer—having a conversation with God Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24 ++ Talking with Him, but also listening to Him ++ Really believing He cares about you and wants to know what’s on your heart ++ Believing that He will change you ++ A way to connect our plans and efforts with His plans

LARGE group activity [1 minute] Purpose: For students to assess how they’re doing with these five key habits that Jesus practiced

On page 47, we’re going to take a moment to assess how you think you’re doing on these two habits. And for some of you this may be the first time you’ve even heard of some of them! So, how are you doing with Solitude? Using a 1 to 5 scale: 1- I don’t do this habit; 3- I sometimes do this habit; 5- I do this habit consistently. SOLITUDE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

So, how are you doing on Prayer?: PRAYER 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

Pause.

Let’s now hear about the other 3.

THE HABITS OF A LEADER (Part 2) [play VIDEO, 1 minute] NOTES: 3. Applying Scripture—reading the Bible and then applying it/using it in your life Do not merely listen to the Word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. James 1:22 ++ A love letter from God ++ A “how-to” manual for life—including how to deal with people

4. Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love—reflecting on and soaking in His love And may I have the power to understand how wide, how long, how high, and how deep your love really is. May I experience your love so that I will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from you. Ephesians 3:18-19 ++ Experiencing how crazy He is about you ++ Because we can’t give something away that we don’t have ++ (Unconditionally loving the people around you) ++ (Getting your self-worth and your security only from Him) ++ (This is the antidote to pride and fear.)

5. Safe Relationships—friends you can relax and be yourself with and hold you accountable As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 ++ Who encourage us ++ Who when necessary, keep our feet on the ground (will tell us the truth) ++ (Who will be real with you) ++ (Who will challenge, encourage and ask hard questions when you need it) These 5 Habits connect you to God so He can ignite something incredible in your life.

LARGE group activity [10 minutes] Purpose: • For students to pick one habit they’d like to practice more of in the future • For them to Experience God’s Unconditional Love

So, how are you doing with Applying Scripture?

APPLYING SCRIPTURE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

Pause.

Finally, how are you doing on the last two—Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love and Safe Relationships:

EXPERIENCING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently. SAFE RELATIONSHIPS 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

Pause.

1. Looking back at how you assessed yourself: Which habit do you do the most? And what benefit do you get from doing that habit? You can write your answer on page 48 in your Guide. Pause.

2. Which habit would you like to start or do more of? It doesn’t have to be a habit that you rated yourself low on. I’ll give you a moment. Pause.

3. What habit did you choose and why? Pause so they can write down their answer or think about it. Share with the students the habit you want to do more of. For example: I want to start doing Solitude because I need to really unplug and get centered and connected to God…and that’s the one I tend to avoid the most!

The habit I want to start or do more of is _________, because _________. OK, it’s your turn. 4. Find a partner (or get into groups of 3 to include everyone), and share your answer with them. Give them 2-3 minutes. Discreetly listen in and write down a couple of their answers so you can share those with the rest of the group. Be prepared to share your answer with the group also.

It’s interesting to hear where everyone is on their journey with this. I heard one person say: and another one say: . The thing to remember is that making these habits a part of our lives is a journey and the point is for them to CONNECT US WITH GOD, not become a task to be checked off! In Session 3 we practiced one of the habits: Applying Scripture. You spent time reflecting and then figuring out a next step you could take to move toward humility or confidence.

We’re now going to touch on two more habits. We aren’t going to be able to do all five during our time together; however, we are going to experience Prayer and God’s Unconditional Love. We’ll start with God’s Unconditional Love. So, what I’m going to do is read some verses about how much God loves us…how much he loves you. Let it wash over you. Allow these verses to sink in at a heart level—to begin touching you. Quite honestly, the only antidote to our pride and fear is experiencing His unconditional love. So, if you would, please close your eyes as I read these to you. ++ Read the following verses slowly and with meaning. ++ Pause between each verse/bullet. ++ It might seem long, however, it really only takes about a minute—2 at the most. ++ These verses plus others are also listed with their reference in the Appendix under Experiencing God’s Love

• I take great delight in you. • Come to me like a child. • Put your hope in me. • I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. • You can always approach me with confidence. • Ask and you will receive. • I forgive you. • I have called you by name and you are mine. Nothing can separate you from my love. • You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are the apple of my eye. • Come to me and I will give you rest. • You didn’t choose me, I chose you. • Call to me and I will tell you great things. • I will never leave you or forsake you. • I know your name. Before you were born, I knew you. • I stand at your door and knock. If you open it, I will come in. • I want you to have life, life to the full. • I love you.

Large group [1 minute] You can open your eyes now if you’d like. You are unconditionally loved by God—and nothing can separate you from Him. It’s critical you and I understand and trust in that truth. And it’s critical because it’s hard to give away something we don’t have. Jesus came from love, with love and for love. And He wants us to feel and believe that we’re unconditionally loved. Because only then will we be able to love others as He did. And if you haven’t picked up on it yet, the final secret for leading others like Jesus is that it’s love-based. But when we begin to give love away, what does that actually look like? That’s what this next activity on page 49 is about and you will practice the second habit—Prayer.

PARTNER ACTIVITY: PRAYER— EXPRESSING LOVE [8 minutes] Purpose: For students to pray that their partner would take a step in being more loving/serving in a key relationship

1. Find a partner. If you need to have a group of 3, do so. 2. Fill in the blanks in the following sentence and then share your answer with your partner:

“I want to be more (insert word from below) with (the name of a key relationship). One way I’ll do that is by (one action you’ll take).” For example: • I want to be more courteous with my dad. One way I’ll do that is by not looking at my cell phone when he’s talking to me. • I want to be more patient with Michael, who’s in my work group. I’ll do that by not interrupting him anymore.

3. Pray for your partner, specifically their key relationship and the step they want to take.

You have 8 minutes. After 8 minutes call them back together.

NOTES: Words Describing Love (1 Corinthian 13): ++ Patient ++ Kind ++ Content ++ Humble ++ Courteous ++ Good-natured ++ Gracious ++ Encouraging ++ Sincere

Large Group COURSE SUMMARY [2 minutes]

Not only were you able to practice the habit of prayer, but you also experienced an important first step toward leading like Jesus: expressing love. Jesus is love. So, if we can’t love like He does, we can’t lead like He does. And as leaders, we need to constantly be reminded how much we matter to God because, as leaders, we need to remind those around us how much they matter to God. As we’ve learned, leadership is fundamentally about serving others, as Jesus did. And loving them as He did. We’ve gone through a lot together: • We’ve discovered that our heart is mostly motivated by pride or fear. But, then we discovered how we can move toward humility or confidence.

• We looked at the head of a leader and you took the first steps toward writing your own Vision statement.

• We then turned to the hands of a leader and how you can develop others by serving them instead of using them.

• Finally, we experienced a few of the habits of a leader—how we can stay connected with God. And you chose one to begin practicing.

Take a moment now and turn to the Takeaway section of your Student Guide. Look at what you wrote down, and pick 1—or 2 at the most—that you want to act on and star them. Pause and move on when most people are done.

in closing [3 minuteS] As we close, it would be great for us to hear from you. What did you get out of going through Ignite and how do you see yourself using it back at home or school? ++ Take 3 minutes to hear from the students. Hearing from student peers is one of the best ways to not only summarize the material, but also to reinforce the power of it, including how others are going to actually use it—which, in turn, encourages others to do the same ++ As each person shares, encourage the group to clap for them. You may consider giving them a prize for volunteering. ++ Make sure everyone can hear what’s being said.

Thank you. We’re going to watch this one last video and then I’ll close in prayer.

IGNITE!

[play VIDEO, 3 minutes]

CLOSING PRAYER [1 minute] Here’s a prayer you could use that highlights language used in the video and the course (for example: ignite, bring out the greatness in others, “us to be more like you”): Lord, thank you for who you are and who you are to us. Thank you for loving us unconditionally and giving us a model for leadership that’s different than the world’s. Please ignite our hearts, so that we’re transformed ...for us to be more like You. And ignite our hearts so that we can help bring out the greatness in others at school, home, church and all the other places we touch people. Please give us the strength to begin making the changes you want us to, give us your direction and your wisdom and most of all you. We love You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

APPENDIX

TAKEAWAYS FOR... SESSION 1:

SESSION 2:

SESSION 3:

SESSION 4:

SESSION 5:

SESSION 6:

EXPERIENCING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (OPTION: Insert Your Name in the Verses Below) ++ (Your name), I no longer call you “servant.” I call you “friend.” (John 15:15) ++ Seek first my kingdom and all you need will be yours, (Your name). (Matthew 6:33) ++ (Your name), I take great delight in you. (Zephaniah 3:17) ++ Come to me like a child. (Luke 9:48) ++ Put your hope in me. (Psalm 42:5-6) ++ I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. (Jeremiah 29:11) ++ You can always approach me with confidence. (1John 5:14) ++ Ask and you will receive. (Matthew 7:7-8) ++ I am the vine. You are my branch. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. (John 15:5) ++ I forgive you. (Mark 11:25) ++ I have called you by name and you are mine. (Isaiah 43:1) ++ Nothing can separate you from my love. (Romans 8:38-39) ++ You are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14) ++ Forget what is behind and press on to the goal to which you have been called. (Philipians 3:13-14) ++ Follow me, and I will make you a fisher of men. (Matthew 4:19) ++ You are the apple of my eye. (Psalms 17:8) ++ Come to me and I will give you rest. (John 15:16) ++ You didn’t choose me, I chose you. (John 15:16) ++ Call to me and I will tell you great things. (Jeremiah 33:3) ++ I will never leave you or forsake you. (Joshua 1:5) ++ I am preparing a place for you. (John 14:3) ++ I know your name. (Exodus 33:17) ++ Before you were born, I knew you. (Jeremiah 1:5) ++ I stand at your door and knock. If you open it, I will come in. (Revelations 3:20) ++ I will work all things for your good. (Romans 8:28) ++ I want you to have life, life to the full. (John 10:10)

PRIDE ASSESSMENT Use the following scale to assess how true these statements are of you. Be sure to answer them as realistically as possible—not how you want to be! 1 2 3 4 5 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ It’s definitely It’s rarely It’s sometimes It’s true most Yes, it’s not true. true. true. of the time. definitely true of me! _________ I don’t like acknowledging that someone else’s idea is actually better than my own. (“The better their idea the more angry I get!”) _________ I n conversations/groups, I do all the talking, boast, crack jokes and/or showoff to get attention. _________ I expect others to do what I ask because I’m the smartest in the group, captain of the team, or first chair, etc. _________ I judge the value of an idea by who said it rather than how good the idea actually is. _________ I treat people as too far beneath me to talk to them (For example: those who aren’t that athletic, not as smart, don’t dress well, don’t have as much money, are from another culture/ethnic group or are in the wrong group of friends.) _________ I find myself correcting people if they say or do something incorrectly. _________ B eing right or not wanting to admit I’m wrong is more important than owning up to the truth. _________ E xceeding in sports, band, school or another area is a mark of success and is more important to me than if I hurt people in the process.

_________ I act as if rules and standards don’t apply to me. _________ I look in the mirror to find the source of all success (taking all the credit) and out the window for the cause of failure (pointing the blame at others).

_________ TOTAL

40-50 Pride is your primary motivator. 30-39

Pride is an issue that you need to address.

20-29

Pride is a small factor in your life.

10-19

Pride is rarely a factor in your relationships.

FEAR ASSESSMENT Use the following scale to assess how true these statements are of you. Be sure to answer them as realistically as possible—not how you want to be! 1 2 3 4 5 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ It’s definitely It’s rarely It’s sometimes It’s true most Yes, it’s not true. true. true. of the time. definitely true of me! _________ People say I’m negative, anxious, or critical. _________ T o increase my sense of security and self-esteem, I rely on who I know or which group I’m in; how much money I have; where I live; what I own; or how well I’m performing in school/sports/music/etc.

_________ I ’m more concerned about others’ opinions than listening to my own “heart.” _________ I ’m too afraid of being rejected to take a stand. _________ I find myself not saying “no” even when I know that “no” is the right answer. _________ I hate conflict and avoid it at all costs. _________ I t’s really hard for me to tell others that I don’t know the answer or that I need help. I’m afraid I’ll look dumb or that I don’t have my act together. _________ F itting in is critical, and I will do anything to keep being accepted by the group I want to belong to. _________ I t’s important for people to like me. So, it upsets me when I’m in conflict with someone or someone says something negative about me or rejects me. _________ I need approval of others to feel like I’m “OK” or doing well.

_________ TOTAL

40-50

Fear is your primary motivator.

30-39

Fear is an issue you need to address.

20-29

Fear is a small factor in your life.

10-19

Fear is rarely a factor in your relationships.

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leading like Jesus COMING SUMMER 2013: IGNITE Study Guide Expand on everything you’ve learned through the IGNITE Student Leadership resource. Continue to apply the principles of effective leadership through a personal plan. Look for this resource at www.IgniteStudentLeadership.com

LEAD LIKE JESUS: LESSONS FROM THE GREATEST LEADERSHIP ROLE MODEL OF ALL TIME

With simple yet profound principles from the life of Jesus and dozens of stories and leadership examples from his life experiences, veteran leadership expert Ken Blanchard and co-author Phil Hodges guide readers through the process of discovering how to lead like Jesus. Described as the process of aligning two internal domains—the heart and the head— and two external domains—the hands and the habits—Lead Like Jesus profoundly defines leadership in a context that is applicable in every area of influence.

KEN BLANCHARD is the Chief Spiritual Officer of The Ken Blanchard Companies. His books include the international bestseller The One Minute Manager. He and coauthor Phil Hodges founded the ministry Lead Like Jesus and coauthored the bestselling book Lead Like Jesus. PHIL HODGES served as a human resource and industrial relationship manager in corporate America for thirty-six years. He is coauthor of three books: Leadership by the Book with Ken Blanchard and Bill Hybels, and The Servant Leader and Lead Like Jesus with Ken Blanchard.

LEAD LIKE JESUS STUDY GUIDE This 6 week study provides 5 days of personal reflection including memory verses, prayers, activities and opportunities for you to write your own plan. Available in single or bulk quantities. A free downloadable facilitator’s guide, for use in a small group setting, is available at LeadLikeJesus.com.

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