When it comes to money, should you give?

Words SANDY FORSTER

Everything in nature is flowing with a balance that is vital to your growth and expansion. Giving and receiving is part of that flow. However, too many people (particularly women) are so busy giving to everyone else that they fail to give to the most important person of all – themselves.

You may think that by giving you’ll be blessed and feel fulfilment and joy (which I’m sure you do), but if you’re only giving and not receiving, you’re stopping the never-ending flow. By not allowing yourself to receive, you are putting up a barrier for more good to flow to you.

Everything is energy, everything is in a constant state of movement, and everything is flowing. You must be open to receive everything – more love, money, friendship, compliments, health, time, happiness, laughter – more of everything. The more you receive, the more you can give!

The other downside of giving all the time is you can become someone else’s support – they rely on you instead of finding their own feet and taking responsibility for themselves. They expect (maybe at a subconscious level) that you’ll rescue them.

You’re hindering their growth by giving (your time, energy, money) ALL the time. If we go through life without obstacles, it stunts us. We don’t become as resilient as we could be.

Giving and receiving can be challenging when it comes to money, especially if you’re in a position to help others. When you have more, you naturally want to give more to ease the burden on others, particularly those close to you.

However, you’ll empower them even more if you allow them to create for themselves. Instead of helping those you love for a day and then watching them continue to struggle, give them knowledge, support and encouragement, and you’ll help them transform their life.

I learnt this the hard way, through receiving (borrowing) money from others. It wasn’t until I had $100,000 of debt, was on welfare with no-one to turn to and couldn’t borrow any more from anyone that I took total responsibility. Not only for where I was but for making sure I changed my circumstances. I took control of my financial situation. By applying all I’d learnt, things completely transformed for me and I went from welfare to millionaire.

Watching people struggle financially can be challenging if you’ve been in that position yourself because you don’t want others to experience it. You just want to help; you want to give, and you want to ease their pain.

My advice is to definitely give, just don’t give a handout, give a hand up. You’ll all be happier and more fulfilled in the long run.

Sandy Forster is the author of the international bestseller ‘How to Be Wildly Wealthy FAST’. www.WildlyWealthy.com