Charm March/April 2015

LISA BROWN | A BALANCED LIFE | PICTURE THIS! | HIS POINT OF VIEW

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Contents La La Lashes!

Game Changers

16

Features 20

Balanced Life: The No More Yelling Challenge is On!

22

Cover Story: Terri Deike, #WINNING

32

Game Changers

36

Renee Hawkins and the Coolest Job in Longview

48

Lisa Brown: If Meandering Were an Olympic Sport, I’d be the Dorothy Hamill of My Generation

28

His Point of View

32

Health & Beauty 12

Fitness Trackers Go Bling

16

La La Lashes!

40

53

On the Cover

School 38

Fitness Tips from the Gurus

In Every Issue 40

His Point of View

46

Picture This!

Fashion

53

Book Review: Sisters of Shiloh

Dressed to Chill

54

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Sisters of Shiloh

Charm Challenge

Terri Deike, Athletic Director for LeTourneau Univeristy, has a simple mission: to move people forward.

Spot the Charm Our January/February Spot the Charm winner was Maria Oldendorff from Longview and she has chosen a $100 gift card to Dillard’s. She spotted the charm on pg 27 in our last issue!

We invite you to spot a special Charm logo in this edition. If you locate it, sign on to mycharmonline.com and click the Spot the Charm link on the homepage.

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LETTER is not only comfortable and fun, it’s also based on easy versatility.

Dear Readers, I am not exactly

Need to leave the gym and meet a friend for lunch? (Okay,

what you would call a

maybe a smoothie.) No problem, just throw on a scarf and change

sporty girl or a fitness

shoes. Voila.

the

Our beauty feature this month is a subject that’s near and dear

of

to my heart. Mascara. We all need our lashes to go from workout

the stairs. To go one

to wind down without a smear or a flake. Beauty contributor Amy

floor. Down. When I

McHaney selflessly braved the cosmetic counters to evaluate five

couldn’t think of how to

leading mascaras in differing price ranges. Covering everything

start this letter, I paced

from tubing mascaras to lash lengtheners, Amy’s mascarathon is

around my office for a

an assessment you won’t want to miss.

fanatic. elevator

I

take instead

minute eating a Girl Scout cookie. I completely understand that

If it’s inspiration you’re looking for, our cover story delivers

for some of us, fitness just isn’t our thing. We need a little

plenty. As the only female athletic director in the American

motivation.

Southwest Conference, LeTourneau University’s Terri Deike has

Some of us don’t. But whether you’re a sports

enthusiast or merely a spectator like me, this issue is for you.

dedicated her life to the success of others, on and off the field.

We’re all becoming very familiar with the fitness trackers

We’re honored to feature her on our cover and bring you her story.

that have been showing up on every wrist lately. The concept is

With her commitment to academics, family and faith, Terri is truly

definitely health-conscious and cool, but the devices themselves

winning in the game of life.

have lacked a little in the style department. That’s all changing as

On a purely personal note, the staff at Charm has planned the

designs by Tory Burch, Jonathan Adler, Swarovski and Mira are

biggest bash ever for my birthday this year. We have rented Maude

hitting the scene. Now your device can synch with your phone,

Cobb Activity Center on the evening of Thursday, May 14 and it is

track your progress and look cute doing it. We looked into the wide

going to be huge! We plan on seeing more than a thousand friends,

world of designer trackers and we’ve got the skinny on all the latest

complete with food, wine, shopping and an awesome celebrity

and greatest.

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HEALTH & BEAUTY

THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN CHOOSING YOUR FITNESS BRACELET: Find the bracelet that fits you. If it doesn’t look or feel right, it isn’t the fit for you. Think of it as choosing a pair of shoes.

You want them to look stylish, but you don’t want them to feel uncomfortable when wearing them all day.

Check for compatibility with your device. While most of these

FITNESS TRACKERS GO BLING

bracelets will work with Android and IPhones, you want to make sure that it’s compatible with either your phone or computer.

You don’t want to not be able to use the apps needed to enhance your performance.

FITBIT CHARGE

Words by ASHLEY ANDERSON

How

many of us have made a New Year’s resolution to work out more often and eat healthier? Most Americans put that

at the top of their lists every year. However, it can be difficult getting motivated and finding the time. Luckily for us, fitness bracelets have become one of the biggest health trends in the past few

The Fitbit Charge has a slim and sleek design and comes in

years. Not only do they track your exercise, sleep habits and calorie

black, blue, burgundy and slate. It’s water-resistant, but if you need

intake, they can also be fashionable. Fashion designers such as Tory

something waterproof, you might need to look somewhere else.

Burch and Jonathan Adler are making fitness bracelets extra stylish

This model comes with a USB syncing device that automatically

for fashionistas.

puts your Fitbit data into your computer, iOS, or Android devices.

You want to choose something functional but fabulous.

It even supports caller ID on your cellphone, so you can see

Something with a little bling, perhaps? With so many different

important calls coming through. The battery life lasts around

brands and models out there, it can feel overwhelming to find

ten days. The Fitbit website and mobile app are very easy to use.

the perfect fit for you. Are you sporty, or just looking to add more

You can use either one to customize your device for such things

exercise to your daily routine? Do you want something that’s

as logging your calorie intake and inputting your blood pressure

compatible with your smartphone? Do you want a bracelet that

and heart rate. The Charge monitors your sleep by showing the

includes a heart monitor or sleep tracker? Here is a guide to help

times that you're asleep, restless and awake, but unfortunately not

the woman on the go get started in making the decision to get

your light sleep, deep sleep and REM times. All in all, the Fitbit

healthy and look fabulous while doing it.

Charge seems to be one of the top fitness bracelets for beginners.

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GARMIN VIVOSMART

The Jawbone UP 24 is a bangle type bracelet that comes in orange, pink, red, navy, black and lime and is water-resistant. The battery life is around five to seven days. One drawback of the Jawbone is that it doesn’t have a display feature that shows the time and distance traveled. It also requires an Android or iOS phone. So if you want a bracelet to connect to the computer, this is not the one for you. The stand out feature on this model is that it tracks your quality of sleep better than most of the others. It learns your habits and gives you personalized suggestions to help you get to bed on time and wakes you up at the optimal moment in your sleep cycle.

The Garmin Vivosmart is also a slim wristband that comes in black, berry, blue, purple and slate. This one is waterproof - which is a plus if your preferred workout is swimming. Like the Fitbit Charge, it also has a USB device for charging and synching to

FITBIT FLEX

your phone or computer. The average battery life is seven days.

One of the best features is the vibrating alert you receive if you are idle too long. It’s a great motivator to remind you to keep moving. The Garmin website and mobile app are also easy to navigate. If you don’t have an Android or iOS device, you can still synch with the Web app and your computer. You won’t get the smart notifications, but it’s a nice alternative for someone who doesn’t have access to those devices. If you’re looking for a bracelet with a few extra features such as heart rate monitoring and smart phone notifications, this just might be the choice for you. It’s especially great for athletes that prefer added aspects.

The Fitbit Flex is not too much different than the Fitbit Charge. It comes in black, slate, violet, pink, lime, teal, tangerine, navy, red and blue, and has a battery life of five to seven days. The main distinction is that this version doesn’t have a display. Instead, it uses LED lights to show how you’re progessing.

JAWBONE UP24

Bling Factor: In my opinion, the best feature is the tracker that pops out of the bracelet to fit inside custom jewelry. Tory Burch has designed a beautiful line of metal bracelets and pendants to make it extraordinarily fashionable to wear all day long. The prices range from $175-$195.

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MIRA

The Misfit Shine just might be the most chic device of all.

This minimal metal monitor can be worn in a variety of ways.

FITNESS TRACKER AND BRACELET

It can be clipped to clothing, snapped into a bracelet, or worn in a necklace. It comes in topaz, black, grey, champagne, coral, wine, seaglass, Coca-Cola red and Victoria’s Secret pink. A halo of lights tells you how close you are to reaching your daily goals.

All you have to do to synch your stats is place the device on top of

Mira is a stylish, lightweight bracelet

your smartphone and it connects wirelessly. The downside is that

surrounded by a detachable tracker that tracks your steps, calories, distance and elevation. It comes in brushed gold and midnight purple. The battery lasts up to five days, but you must have an Apple product to use it. An added bonus is that this design just came out in February, so you would most likely be the first one of your friends to own it. Who doesn’t love to be a trendsetter?

Bling Factor: It’s already blinged out, so you don’t have to buy extra accessories for this one.

it doesn’t have a rechargeable battery, so you’ll have to buy a new one when it dies in about four to six months.

Bling Factor: Swarovski is known for their bling and created a chic collection of bracelets and pendants to use with the Misfit Shine. These accessories are a little more affordable at $69.99-$149.99.

All of these fitness bracelets are basically high tech pedometers with a little extra flair. They can be added to the bracelets you already own to make your outfit more fashion forward. If you really want it to pop, pick one of the brands that have blinged out accessories. You will definitely be the belle of the

MISFIT SHINE

party, and friends will be asking where you got that beautiful piece of jewelry. Some of them are more pricey considering you have to buy the fitness tracker and the accessories separately, but they are definitely worth it! However, the most important thing is to set goals and find the right device that helps measure your progress along the way. Here’s to a happy, healthy and fashionable 2015! C

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When I returned home to Longview, I started asking my reliable beauty sources (girlfriends, of course) about their false

LA LA LASHES! Words by AMY MCHANEY

lash experiences. After hearing first hand experiences – good and bad – I decided the possibility of losing some of my already thin lashes when removing the falsies was more risk than I was willing to take.

I decided to back away from the false lash idea and explore the world of mascara, with a goal of attaining maximum length. It turns out that there are tons of mascaras to build the length of your natural lashes. Of the array of products available, two approaches were most interesting to me: tubing and fiber extensions.

TUBING MASCARAS

The

mascara evaluation that follows is by far my favorite topic. Ever. I learned a ton of useful information and am so excited to share my

journey from short, thin lashes to amazingly long lashes with you.

But first I want to share a story about how I became interested in the world of mascara in the first place …

This type of mascara was introduced in 1999 and is made of a polymer that forms a tube around your lashes as opposed to traditional wax-based mascaras. The tubes themselves add length to your lashes as you layer. The very best part, in my opinion, is that it does not flake, smudge, smear or result in raccoon eyes.

It is cry proof and sweat proof. But wait – it gets even better – it’s super easy to remove. Just warm water and a little rubbing

I surprised my oldest child – and only girl – with a trip to

with your fingers and the tubes slide right off and down the drain.

New York City for her tenth birthday last November. About 5

The tubes do look a bit like spider legs, which is freaky, but they

minutes after we were wheels up, I realized I had forgotten to

are down the drain in a flash, I promise!

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BLINC MASCARA (Sephora, $26) Claim to Fame: Blinc was the first tube mascara on the market; the packaging states that the “tiny water-resistant ‘tubes’ around your lashes add volume and length and cannot run, smudge, clump or flake, even if you cry or rub your eyes.”

My Experience: The originator of the tubing mascara did not disappoint. The Blinc formula goes on fairly wet and thin, which is typical of a tubing mascara, according to my research. It is important to build coats before the tubes dry; dry time is about 90 seconds. I thought this was plenty of time to apply multiple

up with a sticky mess. I did not have a problem getting the coats layered in time if I focused on one set of lashes at a time. I thought that the Double Extend version of tubing mascara yielded a more flexible lash with length comparable to the Blinc mascara, though I did not see anywhere close to 80% longer lashes. Like the Blinc mascara, the tubes stayed put – no smudging or flaking – and were very easy to remove with water and fingertips only.

The Verdict: If you want to try a tubing mascara without shelling out a lot of cash, the L’Oreal Double Extend is an excellent choice. Be aware that applying this mascara is a two-step process

coats when working on one eye before I moved on to the other. I

per eye, but the result is great!

really liked the length I achieved and I thought my lashes looked

FIBER MASCARAS

great overall, though they were fairly stiff (I applied three coats)

Fiber mascara is loaded with – you guessed it – tiny fibers that

when dry. I wore this mascara to boot camp and to bed – true to its

adhere to your lashes to increase the length. Some mascaras have

word, the tubes stayed put. They were very easy to remove with

the fibers built into the mascara itself, others include a tube of dry

warm water and gentle rubbing with my fingertips.

fibers to be applied separately.

The Verdict: If you are looking for noticeably longer lashes and a mascara that stays put, I’d recommend Blinc without hesitation.

I liked the fact that a primer was not required to achieve long lashes.

MAYBELLINE NEW YORK ILLEGAL LENGTH FIBER EXTENSION S MASCARA (Walmart, $6.94) Claim to Fame: The mascara formula includes 4mm fibers in the tube for instant lash extensions without flakes.

My Experience: I like the idea of a single step application to

“I WORE THIS MASCARA TO BOOT CAMP AND TO BED – TRUE TO ITS WORD, THE TUBES STAYED PUT.”

achieve long lashes – I’ve mentioned in past Charm stories that I have four kids, so I don’t have a ton of time to primp. My lashes were definitely lengthened and looked very nice overall, though I’m not sure my they were noticeably longer than with a regular mascara. I did not have problems with smudging or raccoon eyes.

The one thing I did not love about the Illegal Length mascara is that Maybelline recommends using an eye makeup remover to wash it off; I prefer to use soap and water. It’s worth noting you CAN remove this mascara using soap and water, it just takes a while to get it completely off.

L’OREAL PARIS DOUBLE EXTEND BEAUTY TUBES MASCARA (Walmart, $8.97) Claim to Fame: The L’Oreal Double Extend Mascara

The Verdict: I thought this was a nice mascara, though the results were not as dramatic as I was hoping for.

MERLE NORMAN WICKED LASH MASCARA

packaging says that it can extend lashes by 80%, is long –wearing,

(Merle Norman, $18)

smudge-proof and removes easily.

MERLE NORMAN MASCARA PRIMER

My Experience: The L’Oreal product includes both a primer

(Merle Norman, $14)

and the tubing mascara within the same tube; brushes for each

Claim to Fame: According to the Merle Norman website,

product unscrew from either end of the barrel. This is really

“Peptides and Panthenol leave your lashes conditioned and

convenient, but there is only about half the volume of mascara

flexible,” and “Arch Fiber Technology adds amazing volume,

(.16 fl.oz.) vs. the Blinc version(.3 fl.oz.); at less than half the price,

length and curl.”

though, it’s hard to complain. The application of Double Extend

My Experience: I would not normally purchase a separate

is a two-step process; first you apply the primer, which is white,

mascara primer, but the day I visited the Merle Norman at

then you coat with the tubing mascara. It is important to apply

Longview Mall there was a gift with purchase offer that I couldn’t

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by the Wicked Lash Mascara while the primer is still wet. Though this is a two-step process, it really doesn’t add a ton of time since you aren’t waiting around for your lashes to dry between coats.

I thought the results were very nice – the Wicked Lash wand is very large and does a great job of spreading your lashes into a very pretty fan. I also gained considerable length, and my lashes remained flexible. The mascara washed off easily with soap and water.

The Verdict: I really like the Wicked Lash mascara and think it yields very pretty lashes – I like the fanned look without having to search around for a lash comb. Though the price of the two products together is on the high end of those I tested, you are getting two full-size tubes of product (.3 fl.oz. primer, .37 fl.oz. mascara).

TOO FACED BETTER THAN FALSE LASHES EXTREME (Ulta, $35) Claim to Fame: The packaging claims that “100% said it was easier to apply than false lashes, 97% said it gave the look of lash extensions and 97% said lashes looked dramatically longer immediately.”

My Experience: The application of the Too Faced mascara is tricky, and a fair number of negative reviews online reflect the difficulty factor. But this is mascara, after all, and not rocket science; I felt like I was up to the challenge. The kit consists of two tubes; one is a mascara, the second is a tube of dry fibers with a mascara brush. The mascara acts as the first and third step in the process – first you coat your lashes with the mascara, then while the lashes are still wet, you brush the dry fibers onto the tips. The third and final step is another coat of mascara. After a few days of practice I have to say that I am pretty thrilled with the result – my lashes are significantly longer, and I can actually feel them pressing on my brow bone, a new sensation for me. I did not apply fibers to my lower lashes based on recommendations of other users online. I did not have problems with flaking, smudging or raccoon eyes, even after wearing the mascara to boot camp.

The Verdict: If you are willing to spend a few extra minutes on your mascara routine, you will be pleased with the length you gain with this product – it’s nothing short of amazing. C 18 CHARM | M A R C H / A P R I L

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WHEN

most women talk about

leave a sister hanging and you can drop those judgments at the

fitness or health, they are

door. Because admitting that you don’t always have it together

referring to working out

is tough! It means admitting that behind all of the smiles and

at the gym and dieting … possibly encouraging each other through

numerous framed photos that grace our home, and behind all of

challenges and competitions. Well, I have been looking into a

those proud Facebook posts stands a mom who can admit that

different form of fitness that includes emotional strength training.

motherhood isn’t always lollipops and rainbows. I watch shows

Making healthy choices that feed my soul, and a challenge that

like “21 Kids and Counting” in which the mom talks to 21 kids as

could change the spirit of my home.

calmly as a new mother on Morphine, and BAM! I feel like total

As busy as moms are, we carry the weight of our home on our

crap!

shoulders. Husband is happy. Kids are alive. Work is well. Bills are

Then I switch the channel and watch “Super Nanny” followed

paid. House is clean (sort of). The laundry … well, the laundry

by the newest episode of “Hoarders,” and hey, I’m a rock star! But

is constant. From the outside looking in, we’ve got this! Right? I

instead of comparing … maybe I should figure out what type of

mean, how do we do it all without totally losing it?

plan will work for me? How can I begin my own transformation?

Well, I’m thinking that if we want to keep it all together, we

Here’s what I’m thinking. First of all, I have to have some

must stretch those patient arms to give extra hugs. We must

more Jesus, y’all. I need more scriptures to feed me, more

work out the soreness left by little arguments and back-talking.

encouragement … He is my coach. I need to stretch my arms of

Sometimes we even need to feed ourselves with spiritual fullness

patience and extend kindness.

to keep our minds and hearts healthy.

“My mom hugs me too much,” said no child ever! Instead of

I need to be intentional about these changes, just as many

holding onto the soreness of disagreements, I must work that out

do when planning for a physical transformation. Every woman

in a simple conversation. If we’re in a hurry, make it a quick chat!

has that part of her body that she is dissatisfied with. She then

So ultimately, I have decided to take on a challenge. I am

focuses on this part when working out … exercising the muscles

starting the No More Yelling Challenge. Sounds cheesy, I know.

that will shrink, tone, and strengthen this area. She will make

Being a competitive person, I felt this was something that could

better eating choices and maintain a healthy diet, which very well

work for me.

contributes to her progress. She may even reach out to a coach for encouragement.

So I thought about the part of me that I am dissatisfied with.

The one thing that makes me feel the worst. The one thing that makes those around me feel horrible. There’s one thing I focus on that needs to be transformed. Three. Two. One. I’m a yeller. Yes, my name is Dawn and I’m a yeller.

Just like any unhealthy soul, I justify my yelling. “They don’t listen. They only listen when I yell. THEY MAKE ME YELL.”

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DOESN’T MEAN that i spew glitter AND ATTEMPT TO BE the pinterest queen. "

Taking part in a challenge motivates me. So, no more yelling

Well, the truth is that I allow myself to get to that point. I wake

for me! Thirty days no yelling. I’m hoping if I give myself an

up knowing that I will repeat myself anywhere between 5-7 times

expiration that it will not matter and the change will end up

before I yell at my kids to get up … to get dressed, get to eating,

sticking anyway. I don’t want my goal to seem unattainable, right?

get to brushing those teeth, get those shoes on, get in the car …

I CAN DO THIS!

GET MOVING!!! Three kids, seven mornings a week, numerous commands … you do the math! Lots of yelling going on!

Well, here is the deal. After I walk away or drop them off at school, I am tired. I am worn out. I am weak. I am sad … and I

I need to remind myself daily that these children are mine.

They were given to me. They are the reasons why I am called “Mom.” Being a mother doesn’t mean that I spew glitter and attempt to be the Pinterest Queen.

am sorry. I’m not sorry for directing them and reminding them

But it does mean that someone bigger than me … bigger

of their responsibilities. I’m sorry that because I am lacking in

than this world, has confidence in me. Out of the whole world of

strength, healthy choices and spiritual fullness which mushed all

women, He chose me to be Logan, Aven and Gentry’s mother. He

together has formed a yeller in me.

trusts me to love and raise these children the best way I can …

Now, I know that I am not the only “yeller” out there. Don’t

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COVER STORY

#WINNING Words by AMY PEARSON | Photos by CHRIS LOZANO

Terri Deike blazes through the foyer of Solheim Athletic Center at LeTourneau University, stopping to chat with a prospective student and his grandparents.

“Glad to have you,” she said both enthusiastically and genuinely, giving them her undivided attention before turning to greet the student escort and ask about his day.

The Athletic Director of LeTourneau since 2010, Deike’s office affords her the view she loves best: of student athletes. The sun shone on the tennis courts one recent afternoon as students volleyed bright yellow balls back and forth.

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Her mission is simple: “I help coaches move forward in their positions as well as champion student athletes,” she said, breaking her job down to its most fundamental level. “I give coaches the tools they need to be successful.”

Deike makes it look easy. Articulate, energetic and clearly determined, Deike has risen through the ranks from high school coach to the only female university athletic director in the American Southwest Conference.

“I want other women to have this opportunity,” she said. “I want other women to be sitting here in this chair at other institutions, not for the equity reason, but because they want to.”

She’s taught at Hallsville High School, Belton Junior High School and taught and coached at Whitehouse High School for a total of 23 years, embracing girls’ basketball and instructing biology and advanced biology classes.

Eventually, she left Whitehouse to start the girls’ basketball program at the University of Texas at Tyler, both heading up the program and serving as head coach, taking the girls to ASC Eastern Division championships three times in her first five years.

She was also the compliance coordinator for UT Tyler, making sure they met the requirements for membership in the NCAA and navigated the waters of their provisional years.

The early years Deike grew up in Windom, Texas, a small town in Fannin

To that end, Deike not only focuses on student athletes at LeTourneau, but gives her time to efforts in the community, as

County, population 199 at the 2010 census.

“It was my mom, my dad and my two sisters on our dairy farm,”

well. She is a member of the Rotary Club of Longview, tutors at the Boys & Girls Club, where she wants to start a special group

she recalled.

Her dad started his career as a teacher and basketball coach,

for girls’ empowerment, and she has a young lady she mentors through Partners in Prevention.

“Everything I do revolves around the samething – moving

becoming the youngest school superintendent in the area before deciding to live off the land and moving his family to Windom.

They bought 360 acres, cows and equipment.

people forward to success,” she said.

Eyes on the athletes

“I was raised on the dairy,” Deike said. “It was a small school.

We did three things: we played basketball, we were in the FFA,

Deike graduated from what was then East Texas State

where we showed cattle, and we were in the 4H, which also

University (now Texas A&M Commerce) in 1979 with a degree in

included our cattle. My mom was the 4H leader. My mom and dad

health and PE and biology.

went to every single basketball game of ours. My life was athletics

She earned a masters of education degree with an educational

and animals.”

leadership certificate in 1994.

“But I always wanted to be an athletic director, not a principal,” she said.

When it came to college, Deike knew she’d do something with animal science or sports. Animal science translated perfectly into biology and basketball was in her blood.

Her first job was at Overton High School, where she coached basketball, volleyball and taught biology.

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everything I do revolves around the same thing moving people forward to

“Family. Basketball. Dairy. Those three were always linked. We were always together.”

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Even when she went away to college, she came home on weekends to help her sisters milk their cows.

“Some of those cows were ours. We owned them. That’s how we paid for college,” she said. “My sister was left to milk them all week, so we came home on the weekends to take a turn and help her out.”

Some of her earliest memories include sitting on a bench outside the town’s general store, listening to the older men talk while they whittled.

They went to church often, where they were close to other members of the congregation.

“When someone died, you took them food; I still do that, actually,” she said. “That’s what life was like. I thank God for every

“If we don’t learn how to get along with people who are different from us, who act differently and think differently, we are going to have a struggle in every single thing we do,” she said.

In addition, she is adamant that there will never, ever be any quitting.

“Ever,” she emphasizes.

“Quitting becomes part of your character, part of your life and your habits,” she said.

The lessons learned in athletics carry over to every facet of life, Deike believes and, most importantly for her position, to academics.

“We are in college for academics; that’s the beauty of a Division III school,” she said.

hardship and every blessing I’ve had in my life.”

Among her blessings, Deike counts her son, Dylan, a freshman at Stephen F. Austin State University; daughter Taylor, a sophomore at Chapel Hill High School and husband, Dale, an oilfield veteran who works for Anadarko Production Company.

It was “extremely important” for her children to grow up with athletics, Deike said. Her son played golf and baseball. Her daughter plays softball and volleyball. Softball season started in late January.

“I’ll be at every game,” Deike vowed.

Her kids were at most of her games.

“Dale would be on a rig for weeks at a time so the kids had to come with me to games,” she said. “There wasn’t another choice.”

Dale fashioned a harness so she could safely fasten a car seat into the team bus and Dylan and Taylor would accompany her on the road.

“We were always in a gym,” she said. “As little kids, they’d yell ‘Block out! Block out!’”

‘Athletics is the greatest institution there is’ Deike lives by the word of God and the practice of athletics.

“Athletics is the greatest institution there is,” Deike said firmly.

“It’s not something you do; it’s a way of life. It’s how you think.”

The intangibles of athletics are what bring the most value for Deike.

“Playing the game is really just the end result of what we do for years,” she philosophized. “We put all of life into the thing we call sports. It’s much, much, much more than playing a game.”

Athletics , first of all, is a commitment to something bigger than yourself, she said. It’s a dedication to the ideals of being the best you can be. It’s being responsible, 110 percent, every day. It’s a hard work ethic and learning to work as a team.

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While Division III schools cannot recruit for – nor give

“We have here a fabulous opportunity to move them forward

scholarship monies to – athletes, the proper emphasis, Deike says,

in their Christian faith,” she says of the students and the coaches.

is based on the balance of academics and athletics.

“We get to talk about our faith openly and introduce that to student

“I’m hard on the students, in a way,” she said. “My goal is that their grades and their performance needs to be equal to or higher than those of the general population.”

Last semester, athletes earned an average of a 3.1 grade point average, while the general population recorded a 3.08.

“We did it,” she said.

The NCAA Deike also serves in the capacity as the senior woman administrator, a role the NCAA requires for member schools. She is on the membership committee of the NCAA on the national level, a committee she has previously chaired.

“We help make some policies for the 470 Division III member schools, we’re in charge of compliance on some levels,” she

athletes if need be.

“That’s such a blessing here.”

With copies of “My Utmost for His Highest” and “A Walk to Wisdom: 31 Days Through the Proverbs” on her desk, Deike credits God with all her successes.

She also hopes he plays a role in the lives of everyone around her.

“I will consider myself successful, as a coach, as an athletic director, if every student athlete understands what Jesus Christ has done in their life and that God has a plan in their life,” she said.

Success doesn’t always mean winning, either.

“Don’t get me wrong, I’m a die-hard winner; I want to win,” she

explained. “The NCAA is a great organization and has created all

said. “But there’s a lot more to it. Winning takes care of itself if all

the rules we go by.”

the other factors are in place.”

She attends meetings twice a year in Indiana and weighs in on teleconferences once a month.

As she builds on her career, Deike would like to see all LeTourneau’s teams climb to the top of the conference in every

“I love that LeTourneau is Division III,” she said. “It’s the best

sport. She would like to see a paradigm shift in the thinking of the

place to be, in my opinion. I have no interest in LeTourneau going

university as a whole, to be more accepting of athletics and of the

Division I or Division II; it doesn’t fit with our philosophy.”

Faithful focus

hard work student athletes put in. She wants to make sure coaches have what they need to be successful leaders and role models.

Part of the beauty of LeTourneau, and of her role in the

“I did my job as a coach if you can come back and say that you

administration, is that she gets to express her faith at work,

are successful in a marriage, in a job, as a parent. Then we’ve done

Deike said.

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FEATURE

GAME Words by AMY PEARSON Photos by CHRIS LOZANO

FROM

the court to the field, strong East Texas women are leading the next generation of young ladies to successes in athletics, academics and in life. With a passion for the game, for leadership and for each other, these ladies love to leave it all in the athletic arena.

BREY BRINGS YOUTH, PASSION TO THE FIELD Ashton Brey almost blends in to the sea of students at Spring Hill High School.

“That,” she laughs, “is my biggest challenge as a teacher and as a coach.”

The first-year teacher, head coach of the girls’ softball team, is

Her eyes flash when she talks about coaching softball, a sport she has played since she was 4 years old.

“I love it,” she said. “I didn’t want to quit the sport cold turkey, so that’s one of the reasons I wanted to coach.”

Although she sometimes envisioned herself broadcasting Texas Ranger games over the radio, she knew her heart and her passion was on the softball field.

With 18 girls starting out on her team, with a few more to join after

only recently out of school herself. A stand-out on the Lindale High

basketball season ends, Brey can’t wait to build upon the successes of

School softball team, Brey went on to earn a degree from East Texas

past years.

Baptist University in mass communication and a master’s degree in education, all the while playing for a team that went to the national championships her sophomore year. She pitched and played in the outfield.

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“But I want them to focus on the here and now, not last year or what happened in the past,” she said.

She loves the competition in sports, and “proving to yourself what you are capable of.”

While softball is a team sport, “a lot comes from within,” she said.

“You have to see yourself face a challenge and overcome it.”

The mental part of the game is one of the biggest obstacles to a lot of players, Brey said.

“It’s huge in this game,” she said. “Not being afraid of whether

COACH DEVELOPS FAITH, ATHLETES ON THE COURT says, “I • Coach Thorn.”

There’s a hand-drawn picture on Nicole Thorn’s office wall that

That’s not the only note on her wall and her players clearly put

you’re going to go up to bat and strike out, not being afraid if you’re

their words into actions as one of them stopped by her office “just to

going to mess up in the outfield. You have to go all out and play

say hi” during her gym class period.

with heart.”

As a coach, Brey isn’t a yeller or a screamer, but she said she focuses intently on the games because she still wishes she was out there playing.

“I get to see it from both sides now; I see more than one point of view,” she said.

Her favorite part of coaching is keeping her foot in the door of the game and being competitive on both ends. She also loves working with the girls. At the end of the day, or of the season in May, she hopes that they’ve not only learned something about the game, but about themselves as people.

“That would be really cool,” she said.

With a strong team this year, and a freshman class with outstanding players, Brey is also looking forward to the future of the Spring Hill softball program.

“It’s like ‘Wow!’” she said. “I’m excited because I have them for four years and this core group of freshmen will come all the way through the program with me."

“I love my kids as if they were my own,” Thorn said.

“When someone plays for me, I don’t want them to succeed only on the court but in life as well.”

In her second year as the girls’ volleyball coach at White Oak High School, Thorn never imagined she’d be working at the high school level.

“I always wanted to coach in college,” said the former Panola College coach, who made the move to secondary school so she could devote more time to her biological kids, ages 3 and 7.

A former Pine Tree High School standout, the statuesque athlete teaches PE and coaches 37 girls to victory on the court.

“I’d known for a long time I wanted to coach. Sports have been an amazing part of my life,” she said. “I want to give back to young athletes who aspire to succeed in athletics. I want to influence them the way I was influenced.”

Thorn cites her parents, who both played basketball at Panola College, as her primary inspiration and motivation.

“My parents instilled in us that we have to work hard for what we have,” she said.

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Her club coach, Todd Lyles of the East Texas Jumpers/Texas Sport, was also a “huge influence” in her life.

“He taught me the fundamentals of volleyball and was one of the Oak High School NICOLE Thorn� White VOLLEYBALL COACH

main reasons I became a coach,” she said.

Mary Wise, her college coach, encouraged her to stay with the sport, where she played middle blocker.

Of course, then there were her high school coaches.

“They were very influential to me, they coached me to have faith in our teams and to strive for perfection,” she said. “I’m blessed to have played for such admirable people.”

She’s also blessed that the White Oak school system allows her to practice faith alongside athletics.

“Here at White Oak, we’re very spiritual and we love to talk about God and how He has blessed us with our talents,” she said. “We glorify Him in all situations.”

Thorn also commands respect.

Respect for her as a coach, for the game and for each other.

“I don’t expect them to be best friends, but I do expect them to respect each other,” she said. “If they don’t talk to each other in the hallways, how can they expect to come together and win game five, 14-14?”

The goal every year, of course, is to win the state tournament and White Oak has been to the championships eight of the past nine years.

“We work August through November and of course it’s the goal, but we don’t really talk about it until we get there,” she said. “We’re setting goals along the way.”

As last year’s district coach of the year, just one of many honors she holds, Thorn says she loves the journey an athlete goes through from the beginning to the end of the season.

“I love watching them grow as young women on and off the court,” she said. “When they leave my program I want them to succeed and be classy, respectful young ladies.”

GOLF TEAM GIRLS GIVE COACH PURPOSE Candee Collins got a little teary, sitting in her classroom at Pine Tree High School one recent afternoon, looking at large collages on her wall of pictures of her girls’ golf teams.

“That’s my draw,” she said, pointing to the pictures of the fresh-faced, smiling girls, posing with golf clubs. “Those are my girls.”

Collins has taught U.S. government and U.S. history at Pine Tree for the past 29 years and has been the girls’ golf coach for 22 years.

She’s also been the coach of girls’ basketball and volleyball.

Growing up in a small town, Collins herself participated in basketball and track.

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Tree High School CANDEE Collins� Pine GIRLS' GOLF COACH

“We had a golf course in my hometown, but it wasn’t kept up,” she said. “If we’d had girls’ golf, it would have been my sport.”

A graduate of Oklahoma State University, Collins played basketball for a year and then was an assistant to the coach.

She went to Oklahoma Baptist University for her master’s degree and then coached basketball full time at Rose State University. She

The girls practice together from 2 to 4:30 p.m. every day at various courses around town. They also have an indoor facility they can use in case of inclement weather.

While Collins constantly has the girls set goals for themselves – both individually and as a team – she also has a collective goal.

moved to Texas, where she got a teaching job at a high school in

“Our goal is always to get back to state,” she said.

Victoria.

Her team motto is “see it, feel it, trust it” and she spends a lot of

It was there she met her husband, Greg, on a golf course.

When Greg got a job at a newspaper in Kilgore, the couple moved to East Texas.

The golf season extends all school year in Texas, with tryouts taking place the second week in August and tournament play kicking off in October.

Twelve to 15 girls make the team each year and Collins hopes the program will expand into area middle schools.

“That way the players will have several years under their belts before they get to me and it will make us more competitive in the arena,” she said.

The sport of golf is an unusual beast, Collins said, because players are playing for both an individual score and a team total.

time teambuilding with the girls.

This year, they all painted a picture together, a tree from a movie they’d watched as a group over the summer. Collins’ tree has all the girls’ initials painted onto the trunk.

“I wanted to do something that was going to be meaningful for all of us,” Collins said. “I want them to realize that, in the big picture, this is about what’s going to happen for the rest of your life.”

That is one of Collins favorite things about coaching: seeing the change in maturity over the time she comes to know her team members.

“If they focus on self over team, it’s time for them to go,”

“When they realize how they fit into this, into the team and into

she said. “It’s not always about you and you have to be a willing

life and that God put them here for a reason, that’s amazing. That’s the

team player.”

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FEATURE

RENEE HAWKINS and the

IN LONGVIEW Words by LISA BROWN | Photos by CHRIS LOZANO

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WHEN

you step inside the Longview Museum

Texas and the surrounding areas. “I communicate with the artists

of Fine Arts, the first thing that might

through emails, in person and on the phone. I handle the contracts

surprise you is an overwhelming feeling

and dates for exhibitions. Paula and I work on everything from

that you’ve arrived someplace pretty incredible. The second

floor plans to hanging the art on the walls, arrange pieces in the

surprise would possibly be that it’s right smack dab in the middle

galleries, it’s a very hands on environment.”

of our own ever burgeoning city.

When asked about some of her favorite exhibits, you can tell

This “must be scene” museum is located on the corner of Tyler

that the question is just about too hard for her to answer. “I guess

and Fredonia in downtown Longview. First established in 1958,

one of the best would have to be Susan Sales and Marla Ziegler.

the locations changed a total of five times before landing at its

They were so much fun to work with and brought with them such

present site in 1997. And with a permanent collection of over 400

a great energy, but I can honestly say that about every artist I’ve

items surrounding her on a daily basis, executive director Renee

been lucky enough to get to work with.”

Hawkins is pretty much living out what most art enthusiasts would consider a dream job.

With the Boots and Suits fundraiser coming up on April 18, a music concert series, a new lecture hall and ever-changing gallery

Ms. Hawkins, a graduate of Pine Tree High School, shared

exhibits on the horizon, the museum has a lot going on. Add to

with me her impressive rise to museum curator, “It’s an interesting

that booking weddings (yes, you can absolutely get married in the

story actually. I was an employee at Fredonia Oil and Gas, which

Museum!) and receptions, showers, parties and classes (the list

was near the Museum at the time. I first became involved as a

LITERALLY goes on and on). Renee Hawkins has more on her

casual observer during the renovations. I was able to watch

plate than most people can ever imagine having to deal with. Of

what was going on from my office, and I eventually became an

course, most people don’t have business cards stating that they’re

enthusiastic volunteer, which led to becoming a member of the

the executive director of a museum either. If you ask me, that’s a

Museum Guild and eventually stepping into the position that I

pretty cool thing to have. C

now hold.”

She went on to say that her father was an art teacher, as well

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S CHOOL Dr. Hopson has put together a lecture titled “Eating By God’s Design” that he and Jennifer recently put into a Facebook group discussion. They feel so passionate about sharing this that they have included some of the talking points from the lecture. They both feel like God has blessed them with their talents and want to share it with all who will listen.

EATING BY GOD’S DESIGN

FITNESS TIPS FROM THE GURUS Words by ASHLEY ANDERSON

The

Photos by CHRIS LOZANO

love for health and fitness is something that has created a bond between Dr. Cody and Jennifer Hopson from the moment they met.

•

The Bible says we were “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). Out of His abounding love, God also created an earth for us to dwell upon, “And out of the ground made the Lord God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food” (Genesis 2:9).

•

Fruits and Vegetables are indeed essential to our diets.

Scientists are finding daily that the nutrients in these foods are decreasing chances of cancer and other diseases.

•

However, scientists are also discovering the carcinogens and toxins that are being released into our bodies from the standard American diet.

•

The preservatives we have created are toxic. The white flour, sugar and refined wheat products are the cause for many of our diseases. Many of us don’t realize the foods that we eat can open the door for sickness and diseases.

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Man has found ways that he thinks is better for food to be raised, but we have discovered that this man-made food is actually more harmful. It is marketed to you as natural and healthy when in actuality it is far from it.

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Man has decided he can genetically modify the food God created to be better but later we will see how bad this actually is for us.

HOW TO EAT BY GOD’S DESIGN •

First, understand that there is no perfectly in the world we live in. mistakes in this area. I am just the bad food that I know is bad or convenience.

•

My recommendation is to make small changes here with one thing at a time and try to eat well 80% of the time with the other 20% not worrying about what it is you are eating.

•

A suggestion would be to use Monday-Friday as healthy eating days and Saturday and Sunday as moderation days.

However, don’t go crazy and practice gluttony during this time and negate all the good things you have done earlier in the week.

Each of their professions proves that love in daily conversations with patients and clients to try to help them achieve their optimal health and fitness levels. Dr. Cody Hopson began chiropractic care in 2006 by opening his own practice, Peak Performance Chiropractic. In 2010 he merged with the Good Shepherd Neurological Institute and remained there until 2013. He has recently taken over Dr. John Petty’s practice in Longview.

Jennifer has been a fitness instructor and trainer for 16 years and has taught and trained at multiple gyms. She is now the owner of Inspire Cross Training where she teaches early morning classes 3 days a week and a mid morning class 2 days a week.

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way you can eat We will all make as likely to eat because of stress

•

First, eat only fresh vegetables and fruits, nothing canned or processed in any way. This should make up 15% of each meal. Only eat frozen when fresh is not available and stay away from canned, as these are typically GMO. Try to eat raw the majority of the time or lightly steamed. Do not overcook them, as this will decrease the nutrient content.

•

Whole grains (no white flour) should make up 25% of only 1-2 meals per day. Contrary to what we think, we eat too many grain products as a majority of our diet.

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We have been marketed to believe that carbohydrates provide the energy we need to function. We do need a small amount of carbohydrates but we typically eat much more than needed.

“AND OUT OF THE GROUND MADE THE LORD GOD TO GROW EVERY TREE THAT IS PLEASANT TO THE SIGHT, AND GOOD FOR FOOD”

(GENESIS 2:9)

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Protein and fat are essential nutrients, but carbohydrates are not. God has allowed your body the ability to take the others and use them for energy when needed.

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Fat is actually the primary and preferable fuel source for the body. It is the way we have been since our existence and the way our ancestors ate. C

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of VIEW

easy to say that the male figures in our

She also never spanked me once that I can remember. I’m sure

young lives influenced the men that we

as a boy I did a lot around her that wasn’t perfect. But I never

would become. I truly believe it’s the

did anything intentionally that I thought she would disapprove of.

women in our formative years who determined the “person”

She had this way that made you never want to disappoint her. Her

we became.

strength was in the example she had set for me.

Sure, dads, uncles and papaws showed us how to carry ourselves as men with our heads up, forging forward with pride, dignity and grit. They instilled in us the value of hard work, honesty and strength.

Women taught us compassion and love, sugar and spice and everything nice, right?

Of course they did. However, in their own way they also taught us the same lessons as our forefathers did, just in different ways.

Take my grandparents for instance. My grandfather fought in Europe in World War II. He served in the 101st Airborne and

Yet even later in her life, in her weakest mental and physical state, she was still so strong inside.

In her late 70s, she lost her leg due to circulation complications triggered from surgery when she broke her hip. She was suffering from dementia by that time as well. I can still remember her reaction when she was told that she couldn’t get out of the hospital bed.

“I can’t lay here, I’ve got two boys to take care of,” she said.

She didn’t cry, she didn’t yell. She didn’t say, “I have to be strong.” She just was. C

was pinned down at Bastogne during the Battle of the Bulge.

His brother was killed in action after the war was officially over.

And those are just the candy-coated memories he shared with us grandkids.

March is Women’s History Month.

We at Charm encourage you to

But back home, my grandmother was fighting her own battle.

visit womenshistorymonth.gov

She was newly married, her husband was an ocean away off

to learn more about the strong

fighting a devastating war and she was about to become a new

women that helped form

mother of twins. When the time came to have the babies, one

our country. We also encourage

was born so small he could fit in a shoebox. That was my father.

you to visit with the strong

His brother did not survive. Thankfully, another strong woman,

women that personally

his aunt Hazel, was a nurse. She stayed up for about three days without sleep to care for my father.

shaped the person you have become.

I never heard my grandmother talk about that day. She didn’t dwell on it and seek sympathy. But she also didn’t boast about how it made her stronger or a better person. She just went about being that stronger, better person in her own quiet way.

Eventually, my grandfather made it back and they would go on to have two more children and a long happy life together. She was always a housewife, went to church every Sunday and babysat grandkids during the summers and when we were too sick to go to school. She may have never picked up a paycheck, but she had to be the hardest working person I knew.

I guess the thing that always impressed me the most about my grandmother was that her strength was always below the surface.

She was not some loud talking, shotgun Annie type. She was demure, well mannered and always pleasant.

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those of you who’ve been reading my stories (lo

And unlike those times when I get annoyed with things for no

these many years), it might come as quite a shock

reason (animals dressed as humans, or the board game Parcheesi

when I tell you that once upon a time I was a bit of

- neither savory, creamy, or delicious), my fear of (for instance)

a dabbler in sports related activities.

baseballs is genuine. You see folks, I’m the only known person ever

I could dodge a ball like Martha Stewart dodging the IRS

to be hit by a foul ball during a Dodgers game while sitting in a

during tax season. I even put the word “bad” in badminton (in a

stall in the ladies room. It took me years of therapy to flush with

cool hipster way like, “That 6th grader’s so bad we should call it

confidence in public again.

GOODminton”). You might even say that for a short period of time

And that’s not my only sports injury. During my short tenure in

in junior high, I actually had prowess. Regrettably, I haven’t gotten

college (or as my family calls it, “that week I stayed in a dorm”), I

it back since 1977.

actually signed up to run the mile in track. Full disclosure, the coach

Lately, the only thing that I’ve done that can even remotely be called an athletic-type achievement was making it from one end of Marshall to the other without hitting a single red light. Granted, comparing that to a sports accomplishment is stretching it a bit … but people … one end to the other! Not a single red light!! It was like NASCAR for middle-aged women who drive used Hondas.

It’s true, I’m not really athletic per se, and I’ve never enthusiastically embraced anything sports related (except for that time I bear hugged Joe Montana at a JC Penny in California during the 1980’s). I tend to shy away from anything involving bats (flying rodents or baseball), hoops (earrings or basketball) and crickets (obscure British sport or mortal bug enemies).

FOUL BALL!

of the track team looked like a rugged Shaun Cassidy. Three hours after the start of the meet, they found me incoherent and exhausted at a local IHOP (which was 2 blocks from the track) covered in maple syrup and hallucinating that I was the cantankerous old boxing trainer from the movie Rocky.

I guess I’ve just always been someone that’s more comfortable observing life and doing things in a meandering, sort of whimsical way. For instance, I love to bowl (and I’m really good at knocking down pins), but unfortunately, the folks in the lane next to mine always seem to get a little miffed that it’s their pins that I’m so good at knocking over. Hrumph. Come to think of it, I’m guessing that’s why no one will

ROCKY!!

practice archery with me.

Be that as it may, the truth is I tend to take things at a slower pace. And except for my fleeting moments of prowess, I always have. Life just tends to move way too quickly. It seems like one day you’re wondering how fast you can go, and the next day you’re wondering how fast everything went.

However, having said that, I’m thinking that during this next phase of life, I better get a bit more active. Those saints aren’t just going to meander in to the pearly gates, you know, and I really would like to be in that particular number (when everyone goes marching in). But truth be told, the nonactive part of me feels that all that marching seems like an awful lot of work. C

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Longview Regional Medical Center Women’s Advisory Council hosted its annual Stars Over Longview Awards Ceremony and Luncheon in January. Lee Woodruff, New

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York Times Best-Selling Co-Author of “In an Instant” and contributing reporter for “CBS This Morning,” was the keynote speaker for the event, which honored 12 women for their dedication to the betterment of our community.

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JIM JONES, JIM KENDRICK, VICKI JONES, CARLOS “SCOOTER” GRIFFIN

other business, non-profit and government leaders.

TONYA KENDRICK, JIM KENDRICK, MACKENZIE KENDRICK, GRANT COX, COLE KENDRICK, ERIN SPRADLIN

THOMAS HARRIS, DR. KATHLEEN WEINDORFF

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LONGVIEW | THE HOME OF ALICIA NOLTE | 1/17/15 Photos by CHRIS LOZANO

Longview Ballet Theatre’s Pirouette organization hosted a “Frozen” themed mother-daughter tea at the home of Alicia and Ella Nolte. The party featured Longview native and LBT alumna Beckanne Sisk who is a soloist with Ballet West in Salt Lake City, Utah.

PHOEBE PAYNE, OLIVIA PAYNE

JULIA AND PAYTON POWERS

DARLA CHERRY, ALICIA NOLTE

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Members and friends of the Longview Museum of Fine Arts turned out for a preview of the “Perspectives” photo exhibit. The SCOTT CAMPBELL, O. RUFUS LOVETT

SANDRA SKOOG, RENEE HAWKINS

show featured work by artists from across East Texas, including photographers from Canton, Carthage and Marshall.

ELISABETH FULLERTON, NATHAN GARDNER

Attendees listen to a gallery talk during the preview party.

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KARRIE, MADDIE AND MOLLIE TRAYLOR

Charm celebrated the redesign of the magazine with a party at the all-new Café Barron’s. Special guests included Nancy Abernathy and Claire Henry, who were featured on the cover of the January-February issue.

TEMPE AND DR. CHRIS KIRBY

CLAIRE HENRY, NANCY ABERNATHY

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CAROL MANLEY, AMY CURTIS

HEATHER WATSON, AMANDA MORGAN

DEENA SHELTON, JULIE STRAIT

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The American Heart Association’s Girls Go Red Mom & Me Brunch was held to increase awareness of heart disease in women of all ages. The event featured Miss Texas 2014 Monique Evans, and guests were treated to American Girl themed activities and party favors.

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Queens Book Club was reading on our first appearance on “Good Morning America” with Diane Sawyer and Charlie Gibson.

After that announcement, The Absence of Nectar sold out of its first printing that very day. I have been selecting her books for my 650+ Pulpwood Queens and Timber Guys Book Clubs to read ever since. Her books are just that good.

But this is the first book she has written with her sister, Becky Hepinstall. Becky is a history buff, and the story has a real twist. You Kathy L. Murphy with authors Kathy and Becky Hepinstall taken at their publisher sponsored photo booth at Girlfriend Weekend!

SISTERS OF SHILOH Words by KATHY MURPHY

Years

may think you have read everything on the War Between the States, but this story is of two southern sisters who disguise themselves as men in order to join the Confederate Army.

One sister is seeking vengeance and the other is finding love.

How did these women do that? I had to know.

Recently, I featured the two sisters at my annual 15th Anniversary Girlfriend Weekend, but did not expect to have what I thought would be a thoughtful, insightful, serious panel on this aspect of history turn into a slap your knees hysterical comedy act.

Kathy Hepinstall explained that their outfits were true replicas

ago when I moved to historic Jefferson, Texas, I truly learned that history was of great importance. History comes alive in

Jefferson with their annual Pilgrimage which is always held the first weekend in May and their Civil War re-enactment of the fictitious “Battle of Port Jefferson.”

The one thing I learned living in that fair city was when someone spoke of the “whoa-ra”, they meant the Civil War. I became fascinated.

Having always been a big fan of Margaret Mitchell’s Gone with the Wind, I read and reread books on this particular timeframe in history.

Then along came Sisters of Shiloh by Kathy & Becky Hepinstall.

I had never read this take on the Civil War before, and I devoured their book.

I have known Kathy Hepinstall for 15 years - as long as my salon, Beauty and the Book, has been open.

Kathy grew up outside Houston, and her books have pretty much all become Official Pulpwood Queen Selections. Each book is a standalone read, and I cannot figure out for the life of me why she isn’t a household name.

In fact, she was the first author I announced that my Pulpwood

of Confederate uniforms; all authentic except for the fact they were wearing SPANKS! The audience howled.

Laughter ensued throughout the panel about Kathy and Becky’s take on their book, but this is just like my book club. We don’t take ourselves very serious, but we do take our reading very seriously.

Even if historical fiction may not be your favorite genre, this is one book that will have you on the edge of your seat. Sisters of Shiloh: A Novel makes history come alive. And isn’t that why reading is the best entertainment in the world?

Kathy and Becky Hepinstall grew up outside of Houston, Texas.

An award winning creative director, Kathy is also the best-selling author of four previous books. She lives in Carpinteria, California.

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