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By Megan Roche hen one sits down and speaks with Bernadette Pleasant, her last name represents exactly what that conversation is like. The 55-yearold comes from quite the strict upbringing, where using her voice was looked down upon. Growing up as a Jehovah Witness, Pleasant was given an ultimatum at the age of 17; either marry her then boyfriend or never see him again. She wanted to prove her doubters wrong, so she made the choice to marry him. “Dating casually was not an option, you had to date to marry. What I was noticing was people making decisions, I felt restriction and the inability to be angry about this or sad about this. I was putting on a mask to feign happiness. I didn’t know what happy looked like because I didn’t see it. There was this never being allowed to show the feeling that I felt. After 10 years, I knew I didn’t want to do this religion thing anymore. It appeases my family, but it didn’t make me happy and I just said I was done,” Pleasant recalled about her past. After divorcing after 10 years of marriage, Bernadette was eventually excommunicated from the Jehovah Witness faith. According to the Jehovah Witness faith, unless there is abuse or cheating, a woman truly has no reason to leave her husband. After her excommunication, she became depressed and was in a mental state that

often had her thinking about suicide as a way out. “Leaving was the best thing I ever did. I reached a tipping point and I didn’t want to feel that restriction where I couldn’t have my own opinions. I just thought, no more of this bound living. It was also very hard on me because my leaving wasn’t an option according to the religion. I was considered to be doing something that just wasn’t okay. I didn’t know what I was doing, but I knew that I wasn’t doing this religion thing anymore,” Pleasant said. After her battles, Pleasant has decided that she wants to give people the gift of learning how to use their voices and that’s when Femme was born. Femme is a 90 minute class that has taken Pleasant all over the country. While attending a Femme class, Pleasant takes students through the emotional tour, finding out what the emotions of happiness, joy, grief, and more mean to each individual person in her class. Her class encourages movement and has live African drums that play throughout the 90 minute session. Pleasant compares her class as the emotional version of going to the gym. “My work requires that people take the mask off. I do it in a way that nobody is feeling totally exposed and uncomfortable. But, my class has a serious emphasis on healing and doing better and without using those therapy buzzwords. I make people comfort-

able enough where they feel that they don’t have to run toward the door or send someone into a spiral of a traumatic experience. I want people to carry less weight and feel like they have truly left something behind in my class,” Pleasant shared. According to the Femme website, Femme is a movement experience that passionately fuses primal movement, sensual dance, meditation, creative visualization and celebration of the human form. Inspired by African, Tribal and Free Dance interwoven with the somatic and primal

healing arts, Femme! creates sacred, safe spaces and invites everyone to reclaim and boldly display their power. “I love music. That hypnotic thing that happens when live drums are playing allows someone to disconnect the self-imposed judgements about looking good and not wanting to look messy. The drums help usher in freedom and that’s a beautiful place to be,” Pleasant shared. Pleasant has constantly traveled with her work, never really doing anything around continued on page 15


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