Valentine’s Day: From Ancient Origins to Modern Celebrations
alentine’s Day, celebrated annually on February 14, is a day dedicated to love, affection, and the exchange of heartfelt gestures. Its origins, however, are rooted in ancient traditions and historical events that have evolved significantly over centuries. Today, the holiday is marked by a blend of romantic, cultural, and commercial customs that vary across the globe.
The Origins of Valentine’s Day
The story of Valentine’s Day begins in ancient Rome, where a festival called Lupercalia was celebrated from February 13 to 15. This pagan festival was dedicated to fertility and purification, featuring rituals that included the pairing of couples through a lottery system. While Lupercalia was far from the romanticized version of Valentine’s Day we know today, its timing and focus on relationships laid the groundwork for the holiday’s eventual transformation. The connection to Saint Valentine comes from a more Christianized interpretation of the day. Historical records suggest that there were multiple martyrs named Valentine in early Christianity, but one figure stands out. Saint Valentine of Rome, believed to have lived during the third century, was martyred for performing marriages for Christian couples in secret, defying Emperor Claudius II’s ban on such unions. Claudius had prohibited marriages to ensure young men would join his army without attachments. Valentine’s acts of defiance made him a symbol of love and devotion, and he was later canonized by the Church.
In 496 AD, Pope Gelasius I established February 14 as Saint Valentine’s Day, effectively replacing the pagan Lupercalia festival with a Christian feast. Over the centuries, the day’s association with romantic love grew, particularly
during the Middle Ages. The poet Geoffrey Chaucer is often credited with linking Valentine’s Day to courtly love in his 14th-century poem, “Parliament of Fowls.” Modern-Day Celebrations
Today, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in diverse ways across the world, with each culture adding its unique twist. The common thread is the expression of love and affection, though the methods and scale of celebration vary.
In many Western countries, Valentine’s Day is a significant cultural event. Couples exchange cards, flowers, chocolates, and gifts as tokens of their love. Red roses, a symbol of passion, are particularly popular. Romantic dinners and weekend getaways are common ways for partners to celebrate the day together. Single individuals often embrace the holiday as well, celebrating self-love or organizing gatherings with friends.
In Japan, Valentine’s Day has taken on a unique commercial and cultural angle. Women traditionally give chocolates to men, categorized as “giri-choco” (obligation chocolate) for colleagues or acquaintances and “honmeichoco” (true feeling chocolate) for romantic interests. A reciprocal celebration, White Day, occurs on March 14, when men return the favor with gifts for women.
In Finland and Estonia, February 14 is known as “Friend’s Day” (Ystävänpäivä), emphasizing platonic relationships rather than romantic ones. Friends exchange cards and small gifts, highlighting the broader scope of love and appreciation.
In some countries, Valentine’s Day is observed with grand public displays of affection. For example, in the Philippines, mass weddings are a popular tradition, with hundreds of couples tying the knot in government-sponsored
ceremonies. This creates a festive atmosphere and provides an opportunity for couples to celebrate their love in a communal setting.
However, Valentine’s Day is not universally embraced. Some cultures and communities regard it as overly commercialized or incompatible with local traditions and values. In certain countries, the holiday is banned or discouraged due to religious or cultural reasons, with alternative celebrations taking its place.
The Evolution of a Global Phenomenon
The modern celebration of Valentine’s Day is deeply intertwined with commercialization. Retailers capitalize on the holiday by promoting themed products, from greeting cards to luxury goods. The tradition of gift-giving has expanded to include personalized items, experiential gifts, and even digital expressions of affection through social media and messaging apps.
Despite its commercialization, Valentine’s Day remains a meaningful occasion for many people. It serves as a reminder to express love and appreciation, whether through grand gestures or simple acts of kindness. While the ways of celebrating may differ, the essence of the holiday—a celebration of love in its many forms—remains timeless.
Conclusion
Valentine’s Day has a rich and complex history that spans centuries and cultures. From its origins in ancient Rome to its transformation into a global celebration of love, the holiday continues to evolve. Whether celebrated with a romantic partner, friends, or family, Valentine’s Day offers an opportunity to cherish the connections that bring joy and meaning to our lives.
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Centenary University Awarded $1,000 Grant from Engage NJ to Support Day of Service in Honor of Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.
Centenary University has been awarded a $1,000 grant to support the University’s upcoming day of service, held annually to celebrate the legacy of Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. Administered through Engage NJ, the grant is part of a broader $250,000 initiative funded through AmeriCorps to engage over 15,000 students across 11 states in service of underserved and marginalized individuals and communities on or around Martin Luther King Jr. Day.
Centenary is one of nine New Jersey colleges and universities to receive funding through the AmeriCorps Martin Luther King Jr. Day of Service Grant program. This year to honor Dr. King’s legacy, Centenary students will volunteer on Monday, Jan. 20, from 2-5 pm, at the Weekend Bag Program, Inc., a nonprofit that provides discreet weekend bags with food and essential hygiene supplies to students facing challenges outside of school. The Andover, NJ-based organization partners with school liaisons to prepare and distribute nearly 300 bags each week. Founded by Isobel Costello, who was then a 14-year-old Newton High School freshman, the program is completely
confidential. The event is sponsored by the Centenary Civic Engagement Center and the Centenary Hunger Task Force.
The University began collaborating with the Weekend Bag Program last year, sharing donations of hygiene items and co-hosting food drives to support the organization. This year, the University has invited local high school students and youth groups to work alongside Centenary students at the Weekend Bag Program on Martin Luther King Jr. Day.
“A central part of the educational experience at Centenary is encouraging our students to build better, more equitable communities,” said Kathleen Greco, dean of student success. “As we go about our daily lives, it’s easy to forget that area young people are facing difficult life circumstances, including hunger and homelessness.
Through our collaboration with the Weekend Bag Program, Centenary students can help provide young people with basic needs so they can focus on learning, continuing Dr. King’s enduring mission.”
High school students or youth group members who would like to participate in Centenary’s Martin Luther King Jr.
Day of Service at the Weekend Bag Program should email Kathleen.Greco@ CentenaryUniversity.edu
About Centenary University
Centenary University offers extraordinary learning opportunities that empower students to develop intellectually, emotionally, and interculturally—keys to
career and personal success. Under the leadership of President Dale Caldwell, Ed.D., the University aspires to advance its reputation as a world class institution offering innovative programs, including the world’s first Master of Arts in Happiness Studies, to lift the future for our students and local communities.
Centenary University Receives Leadership Gifts from Two
Centenary University recently received leadership gifts from two foundations to provide scholarship support to first-generation college students and those experiencing financial need. The Douglas M. Noble Family Foundation has contributed $100,000 to benefit students facing financial challenges, with a preference for firstgeneration college students, while the John A. and Margaret Post Foundation donated an additional $100,000 to assist students with demonstrated need. Both organizations have long track records of support for Centenary University and its students.
“We are extremely grateful to the Douglas M. Noble Family Foundation and the John A. and Margaret Post Foundation for their commitment in support of the University’s mission to advance educational opportunities for students, regardless of family background or economic situation,” said Centenary President Dale Caldwell, Ed.D. “Together, these two leadership gifts provide $200,000 to improve the future for hard-working Centenary University students.”
The two foundation gifts closely align with Centenary Now: The Campaign for College & Opportunity for Everyone, an $8 million capital campaign to ensure that every student at Centenary has sufficient
financial support to graduate. Dr. Caldwell launched the campaign in fall 2023 in honor of his inauguration as the University’s 15th president. Through the campaign, the University has identified new sources of scholarship funding for students and introduced innovative academic programs, creating new pathways for students of all economic backgrounds to earn a college education at Centenary.
As a result of these efforts, last summer Centenary was selected as a FirstGen Forward Network member for its commitment to improving experiences and advancing success for first-generation college students. In addition, Centenary was named a Top Performer in Social Mobility in the U.S. News & World Report 2025 Best Colleges listing. The publication’s social mobility ranking measures how well higher education institutions graduate large proportions of economically and educationally disadvantaged recipients of federal Pell Grants, the majority of which are awarded to students whose adjusted gross family income is under $50,000 annually. The social mobility ranking specifically tracks each college’s success at graduating Pell Grant recipients and achieving equitable outcomes for students from underserved backgrounds.
What Is Mavacamten? And What Makes It So Controversial?
By Richard Mabey Jr.
Mavacamten is a relatively new pharmaceutical prescription drug that is used to treat Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy. Its brand name is known as Camzyos. What makes this prescription drug so controversial, is basically its price. One month’s supply of 30 oral tablets, is priced at a little over $8,600.00. I can imagine Andy and Opie trying to figure out how much that comes to for a year’s supply. And, Barney shouts from the backroom of the Courthouse, “that comes to $93,200!” And then Andy’s eyes open widely, while Opie says, “wow, Pa! That’s a lot of money, ain’t it?” And then Andy shakes his head, up and down, and says to his little son, “yes, son, it sure is!”
To get a basic understanding of just how Mavacamten works, in helping to relieve the symptoms of Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy (HCM), we need to take a quick look at what causes HCM. HCM is caused by a genetic mutation, mostly of the MY-H7 Gene. Basically, one in 500 people have HCM.
I have HCM and I can tell you that it’s no Sunday picnic. I was first diagnosed about a year and a half ago. Sadly, in this past year, I have felt myself going downhill quite a bit. Even to walk around the block, which is about a quarter of a mile in length, I now get winded and sometimes experience severe chest pains. I have done extensive research on this pharmaceutical prescription drug. I have talked to quite a few Cardiologists and Pharmacists about Mavacamten. Their common bond of seeing the drawback of Mavacamten, is that it is very expensive.
In this little article, it’s not my purpose to debate whether or not the high cost of Mavacamten is justified. I know that a lot of research money went into developing this prescription drug. My purpose, in writing this article, is to get the word out about Mavacamten. Presently, my Cardiologist is working on a way for me to be able to take this prescription tablet, at a more reasonable price.
The scientific explanation of what happens to the Left Ventricle of the heart in HCM, sounds like a conversation between Dr. Spock and Captain Kirk. Or better yet, like the four lads of “The Big Bang Theory” talking in their living room. So, here’s a basic outlook.
HCM is a condition in which the heart muscle fibers become thickened. This results in the heart not being able to pump blood effectively. Essentially, the heart muscles harden and are not able to pump out blood effectively. HCM can also have a damaging effect upon the heart’s electrical system. Sudden death, from exertion, is not uncommon for people with HCM.
Now, back to Mavacamten. This prescription drug targets the heart muscles, anatomically known at Sarcomeres. Mavacamten inhibits the excessive production of Myosin. This is a protein that contracts muscles. So, in inhibiting Myosin production in the heart, the heart slows down, during its contraction stage.
I know this is a most basic outlook of how Mavacamten works. But, from everything that I have read and in talking to Cardiologists and Pharmacists, Mavacamten is generally preferred over Beta-Blockers. Again, it’s not my purpose
to get into a debate over which prescription drug is more effective for HCM, but rather just to get the word out about Mavacamten.
I share this, with great respect. I was very surprised that my General Practitioner knew very little about Mavacamten, when I first started asking her about it. In defense of my Primary Doctor, she does see a lot of patients in a day’s time. And, I know that she really doesn’t have the time to read the dozen or so medical journals that she gets every month, from cover to cover.
Odds are that someone you know has HCM. They may
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The complex chemical formula for Mavacamten.
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a stroke or suddenly dies. Mavacamten may be the missing piece of puzzle, to provide outstanding help to someone with HCM.
Yes, various
can treat the
And yes, Pacemakers and Defibrillators can treat HCM symptoms. But the harsh, cold truth, is that HCM is a progressive disease of the heart, that eventually hardens that heart’s muscles to the point where the patient gets
Based upon all the heart tests and procedures that I have had endured, in the past year and a half, I’ve had four Cardiologists tell me that I will probably pass away in my sleep, relatively soon. One of my Cardiologists, told me that, based upon all the data from my heart procedures, that I have about two years to live. My present Cardiologist told me that my symptoms will
worsen, relatively soon. He told me that if I avoid strenuous activity, avoid caffeine, get eight hours of sleep each night, and eat very healthy, it could be another four or five years before my symptoms become overwhelmingly debilitating.
I know I am saved by Christ and that I am going to Heaven, so I don’t worry about it. But, I do want to get the word out about lesser known treatments for HCM. And, since Mavacamten is relatively new (it was approved by the FDA in April of 2022) I do want to get the word out about it.
Life is not always fair. But no matter what is happening in your life, be it losing your job, or the loss of a dear loved one, or getting a bad medical report, please know this. God loves you, more than you will ever know. And, a miracle may soon be knocking on your door.
Richard Mabey Jr. is a freelance writer. He has had two books published. He hosts a YouTube Channel titled, “Richard Mabey Presents.” He can be reached at richardmabeyjr@gmail.com.
Council of Independent Colleges Names Centenary University President Dale Caldwell, Ed.D., to Board of Directors
The Council of Independent Colleges (CIC) has named Centenary University President Dale Caldwell, Ed.D., to its Board of Directors effective Jan. 4. The board includes national leaders in higher education, including college presidents from CIC member institutions.
Centenary University is a member of CIC, an organization that supports university leadership, advances institutional excellence, and enhances public understanding of the many contributions independent higher education makes to society. CIC membership includes more than 700 nonprofit independent colleges and universities, statebased councils of independent colleges, and other higher education affiliates.
A leading voice in New Jersey higher education, Dr. Caldwell assumed the presidency of Centenary University on July 1, 2023. Under his leadership, the University has launched several new partnerships and academic programs that are creating new pathways for students of all economic backgrounds to earn a college education. An agreement announced last month with The Patrick School allows for the national high school boys basketball powerhouse to relocate to the Centenary campus, creating an innovative dual enrollment program for high school students to live, study, and train on the University’s campus. Last summer, Centenary also announced a partnership with Ideal Institute of Technology that provides opportunities for vocational students from Ideal
to gain job skills and earn a salary, while pursuing an undergraduate degree from Centenary.
Dr. Caldwell’s goal is to make higher education more accessible to students who may not otherwise pursue a college degree. Now, he has expanded his efforts beyond Centenary’s campus to encourage more high school students to consider college, launching a speaking tour called Simplifying College at New Jersey high schools. The tour focuses on teaching prospective students about the value of college, the financial aid and scholarship process, and the college opportunities close to home in New Jersey.
It’s a message he hopes will expand across the country through his participation on the CIC Board of Directors: “Thousands of high school students here in New Jersey aren’t considering college at all because no one has encouraged them to apply. They don’t understand the benefits of college and think they can’t afford tuition because the process to receive financial aid and scholarships is confusing. It’s the same across the United States. Yet, studies show that earning a college degree is one of the biggest predictors of career success. College graduates have 57 percent more employment opportunities, have received 72.4 percent of all jobs offered since 2010, and earned an average salary of $84,000, compared to $49,000 for those without a degree. That’s an important message that I think needs to get out there.”
By Richard Mabey Jr.
MThis Be Thy Kindness, Never To Be Forgotten
y uncle, Peter Knothe, was one of the kindest individuals whom I have ever known. He and my father had a very close friendship. They loved and greatly respected each other. Uncle Pete was more of a brother to Dad, than he was a brother-in-law. They both married daughters of Edmund and Lydia Kemmerer. They both had this very unique sense of humor.
When Dad was in the hospital, in Chambersburg, Pennsylvania, Uncle Pete came out to visit Dad a lot. Dad was fighting pancreatic cancer. I remember, as we all would gather around Dad’s hospital bed, Uncle Pete would say a most thoughtful and reverent prayer. Uncle Pete had a meter, a style, a certain voice tone in his prayers that rang with earnest sincerity.
They were both World War II veterans. They understood the horrors of war that they had seen, first hand. They both knew, deep in their hearts, that there is no glory to war. They were both fiercely patriotic men. Interestingly enough, both of these good men returned home from the war, married and raised their family in their respective family homesteads.
My father went Home to be with the Lord in May of 2006. Uncle Pete did not miss a beat, in becoming the adopted father to my sister and I. A debt that I can only recognize and never repay.
Uncle Pete’s daughter, Linda (Knothe) Intili is a very artistic soul. Linda creates beautiful grave covers, which are sold at the family Christmas Tree stand every year. Every year, since the Christmas of 2006, Linda has created
and designed a most wonderful grave cover for Dad. And, never charged my sister and I for them. During the Christmas season, Uncle Pete and Aunt Alice would put that masterpiece grave cover onto Dad’s grave site.
On Veterans’ Day, Uncle Pete would place a flag next to Dad’s grave. One Easter season, Uncle Pete placed a plastic bunny rabbit and a lily flower in front of Dad’s headstone. Dad loved to chomp on the ears of a candy Easter Bunny. The humorous outlook between Dad and Uncle Pete had lived on, even after Dad went Home to be with the Lord.
Uncle Pete went Home to be with the Lord in April of 2018. He lived to be 96 years old. I don’t think a day goes by that I don’t think of dear old Uncle Pete. He was a very kind, giving man. Uncle Pete worked as a Finishing Carpenter, specializing in building bowling allies. He worked nights and weekends of the family farm. He served as a Volunteer Fire Fighter in Randolph for many years. For many years, he served as the Treasurer of the Jeptha Masonic Lodge in Rockaway. He was a long-term Deacon in his church. For many years, he served as a volunteer for the Deborah Heart and Lung Center in Browns Mills. He was a long-term member of the Randolph VFW and the Randolph Historical Society.
In light of all his many worthwhile accomplishments, I dearly remember Uncle Pete as the kind gentleman who honored my father, even after Dad passed away. There are no words. I so dearly miss my beloved uncle.
Love your family. Forgive, forgive, forgive and then forgive again. Burn all grudges. Tell your loved ones that you love them. For none of us have a guarantee that we will
see tomorrow’s rising sun.
Richard Mabey Jr. is a freelance writer. He has had two books published. He hosts a YouTube Channel titled, “Richard Mabey Presents.” He can be reached at richardmabeyjr@gmail.com.
Dear old Uncle Pete standing beside my Dad’s grave site.
by Elsie Walker
ONetcong Church Jazz Service and Pancake Breakfast Fundraiser to Benefit Disaster Relief
n March 2nd, the sounds of jazz will break out in Netcong for a good cause: disaster relief. It is the annual Jazz Worship and Mardi Gras Pancake Breakfast at the Stanhope United Methodist Church, #2 Route 183 in Netcong. The worship service starts at 9:30am followed by the breakfast at 10:30am. Free will donations can be made during the service or during the breakfast. The donations go to UMCOR (United Methodist Committee On Relief) which provides long-term recovery assistance to areas hit by natural disasters. The event is sponsored by the United Methodist Men’s group at the church. Church member Scott Lefurge, of Byram Township, coordinates the event which includes a variety of musicians, many of whom are his students; Lefurge teaches instrumental music at Bedminster Township School. Recently, Lefurge shared about the Jazz Worship and Mardi Gras Pancake Breakfast which initially started as a response to Hurricane Sandy in 2013. Disaster relief is one of the church’s mission projects through which it helps others in need. For its first five years, the Jazz Worship and Mardi Gras Pancake
Breakfast raised funds directly for Hurricane Sandy relief. After that, the event started raising funds for UMCOR so now funds go to natural disasters nationwide and beyond.” We chose UMCOR as our charity because it is directly affiliated with the United Methodist Church and allows us to give the funds directly for hurricane relief efforts. In recent years, we have expanded our fundraising efforts for UMCOR so they may continue to provide relief efforts for all kinds of natural disasters. UMCOR is an amazing organization that provides relief efforts almost immediately throughout the U.S. and the world, “ explained Lefurge. Since 2013, the Jazz Worship and Mardi Gras Pancake Breakfast has raised about $6,000 for disaster relief.
The focus of the event grew out of an idea in early 2013 to have a Fat Tuesday breakfast hurricane relief fundraiser. (Fat Tuesday, the last day of Mardi Gras season, is a day of feasting before the Christian time of Lent, which includes fasting.) However, it was thought that more people would come on a Sunday morning. Since Fat Tuesday is the time of Mardi Gras, the idea of having jazz music was added and it all morphed into
the Jazz Worship and Mardi Gras pancake breakfast.
On March 2nd, the event will start off with the jazz service featuring several inspirational jazz pieces. Past services have featured among pieces performed “What a Friend
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and Bernardsville. “It is very rewarding to see so many student musicians and their families coming together to play fun music and enjoy delicious food while raising funds for such a worthy cause,” he shared. Over the years, the number of musicians and types of instruments played has grown.
“When we began, we started out in 2013 with only three musicians. In 2023, our tenth anniversary of our Mardi Gras Jazz event, we were blessed to have 35 musicians performing together. This year will be our 12th Jazz event. and it would be wonderful if we were able to have even more musicians joining us for this special event,” Lefurge said. In particular, he is excited to have his son, Zach Lefurge, a trumpet player, joining the musicians.
A variety of instruments make up the jazzy sound of the day. Those have included saxophones, trumpets, clarinets and bass clarinets, trombones, flutes, piano, keyboards, guitars, basses, drums, violins, tubas, xylophones, glockenspiels and tambourines. “It is very humbling and heartwarming to know that God uses my talents and abilities as a music teacher and musician to praise Him and lead worship while encouraging other musicians and music students to participate in this fun,
spirit -filled worship service and event at our church. Knowing that we can use our musical talents to raise much needed funds for disaster relief which will help others is an amazing blessing,” said Lefurge
During the service, Lefurge will share the background of the pieces performed. “One of my favorite songs in this year’s service will be ‘This Little Light of Mine’. I plan on sharing in my message how God calls each and every one of us to let His light shine through us,” he said.
For the breakfast, the church’s large fellowship hall will be decorated for Mardi Gras and musicians will be playing a variety of jazz numbers on the hall stage while people enjoy pancakes and a variety of breakfast goodies. The food is donated so 100% of the monies raised goes to disaster relief.
Lefurge has been touched by the support of his church in this effort. He shared, “Last year, the Sunday of Mardi Gras weekend was also Super Bowl Sunday. The men of the church and our fans of our Mardi Gras Pancake Breakfast and Jazz Worship fundraiser chose to hold our Mardi Gras event instead of a Super Bowl Event. I was very happy that there was so much support for this event that it has now become a tradition at the Stanhope United Methodist Church.”
By Henry M. Holden
BWhat Ever Happened to the Lenni Lenape?
efore there were paved highways in America, Native Americans created footpaths to connect villages and create hunting and trade avenues. One ancient trail stretched 200 miles from Port Jervis, New York, along the course of the Delaware River through the lower inlet and the Atlantic Ocean. The path united the clans and villages of the Lenni Lenape Native American nation that once governed the entire river watershed in today’s New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania and Delaware. Early European colonists referred to this prehistoric pathway as the “Minsi Trail.”
The Indigenous populations of New Jersey were exposed to a foreign culture following the European settlement along the Hudson River by the Dutch, and the Delaware River by the Swedes. These people knew themselves as the Lenni Lenape which meant “original men” although this author has seen other translations in the eastern Algonquin language. They were cousins through the Delaware group, and had a strong alliance with the Iroquois Confederation in the western part of New Jersey.
The population of the Lenni Lenape when the first Europeans arrived in New Jersey was estimated to be about 2,000. But later, when the Tribe relinquished all claims in 1758 at the treaty of Easton, it was estimated that their numbers had been reduced to half the original number.
The Lenni Lenape was made subject to the Confederation whose warriors, degraded the Lenni Lenape warriors by calling them “women.”
Christopher Columbus mistakenly discovered the western hemisphere during his voyage to locate a Western Trade, route to India. He incorrectly called the Aboriginal
people; Indians and the word became. a Pejorative for all native peoples. Like most tribes, Lenape communities were weakened by newly introduced diseases originating in Europe, such as smallpox but also cholera, influenza, dysentery, and recurrent violent racial conflict with Europeans.
Minsi Trail is prehistoric. Native American artifacts have been found along the rivers and streams. The local Lenni Lenape probably used the sheltered valleys to provide trail corridors for food resources.
In the northwest area of the preserve, just above where India and the Burnett Brooks join to become the North Branch of the Raritan River. According to Native American tradition, the Lenni Lenape (“Men among Men”) tribe traveled the trail from Delaware River headwaters in upstate New York to the saltwater river mouth for more than 10,000 years. The trail passes through the Delaware Water Gap where a 1,460-foot-high Mount Minsi is named for the Munsee (“people of the stony country”), the northerly group of the Lenape’s Wolf clan. The Munsee, perhaps because they lived so close to hostile Iroquois warriors in New York, were more war-like than the peaceful Turtle and Turkey clans to the south known as pacifists. The trail and its branches connected the clans and their villages with an estimated several thousand by 1600.
Lenape women and children performed more domestic-type jobs, while the Lenape men were responsible for hunting and fishing, tool making, and building shelters.
The Lenni Lenape people lived completely from what their environment provided. Women made rugs and mats on which to sit and made baskets for storing and carrying food. Clay pots were used
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This illustration shows a Lenape family inside their barkhouse. A fire for cooking and to provide warmth is burning in a pit in the center of the floor. Decorative mats on the walls offered some insulation. Smoke escaped through openings in the roof which could be covered in time of rain. Braided ears of corn and herbs were hung from the ceiling, and dried. Illustration courtesy of Herbert C. and John T. Kraft
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for cooking while clamshells and gourds were used as serving bowls. Gathering and processing the area’s nuts, berries, and underground edible roots also fell to the Lenape women.
Lenape men were required to hunt deer, bear, and small game for meat. They also fished the local streams for trout, bass and, other fish. Men crafted the tools needed for hunting; bow and arrow were the most common tools for hunting land animals while fishhooks were made from animal bone. The fur from mammals served as clothing and bedding, and the feathers from large birds such as duck and geese provided down for insulation.
Both male and female tended to the agricultural needs of the village. Following the end of the frost, the Lenape would plant seeds that had been saved since the previous autumn’s harvest. Corn, beans, and squash were the typical cultivated foods.
Because there is no written record left by the Lenni Lenape, archaeologists and historians are needed to decipher the lifestyle of the native people. The only written descriptions of the Lenape come
from European settlers.
Historian Charles Philhower identified and described the Lenape as three regional groups known as the Unami (south) nonelection (central) and the Minsi (north) which were distinguish by their respective turkey, turtle, and wolf tribal totems. Each clan was further divided into individual units living in villages.
Three Minsi villages were situated in Randolph Township near the intersection of Granny’s Brook (Dover) and the Morris Canal at Dover, near Shongum and near Mt. Freedom at Calais.
Three clans made up the Lenni Lenape nation: Wolf; Turtle, and Turkey. Often, the Lenape have been referred to as the “Delaware” because they lived along the Delaware River. The Wolf Clan occupied the land in what is now Monroe County (Pa). This Clan was referred to as the Munsee or Minsi, the name of their spoken dialect of the Algonquin language. Their area stretched northward along the Delaware River from the point where the Lehigh River meets the Delaware in what is now Easton, New Jersey. The members of the Wolf Clan were known as “People of the Stony Country”
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The Turtle Clan occupied land south of the Lehigh-Delaware union, reaching into Philadelphia and were referred to as “People Down the River.” The Turkey Clan lived the furthest south, occupying current-day Wilmington, Delaware. They were called the “People Who Live Near the Ocean.” The three clans were all sects of the Algonquin Tribe and generally lived peacefully with each other. The Lenape, however, did conflict with other warring nations, including the Iroquois and the Cherokee.
They were considered savages, because they had no written language to record for posterity, the living moment. They also had little regard for sanitation.
They practiced a religion, unlike Christianity or Judaism that the settlers had never seen. Their religion promised a material existence after life more rewarding than the present and they sustained their lives through symbols, mysticism and superstition.
They survived by hunting deer and other flesh borne animals and fished, gathered berries, and cultivating vegetables.
significant as a mentor to the male children than was their father, who was generally of another clan. Hereditary leadership passed through the maternal line, and women elders could remove leaders of whom they disapproved.
Agricultural land was managed by women and allotted according to the subsistence needs of their extended families. Families were matrilocal; newlywed couples would live with the bride’s parents.
During the decades of the 18th century, most Lenape was pushed out of their homeland by expanding European colonies. Their disastrous situation was exacerbated by losses from intertribal conflicts.
The English “rewarded” the Lenni Lenape for their friendship and loyalty by requiring a treaty from the tribes, signed at Easton, in 1758. The treaty was another example of the white man taking advantage of the native population.
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The fact that Lenni Lenape lived in small clans influenced their culture and economic development. This close to nature, the group reinforced its customs, and living conditions and were intimidated by the Europeans.
A remarkable effort was required by everyone to gather food sources necessary for tribal survival from the natural abundance that surround them.
The Lenape kinship system had matrilineal clans. That is, children belong to their mother’s clan, from which they gain social status and identity.
The treaty released all remaining land in New Jersey near the “drowned” lands along the Sussex County to the Board of Proprietors. Then most of the three tribes officially joined the Mohicans and moved into western Pennsylvania and then west to Indian territory and Wisconsin.
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BThose who remained in New Jersey were remanded to the first Indian reservation, at Brotherton, now known as Indian Hills. The reservation was established by friendly Quakers concerned with the welfare of the Minsi. In 1832, New Jersey State Legislature appropriated $2,000 as a final payment to the remaining Lenape for all rights to land in New Jersey.
In the 21st century, most Lenape now reside in Oklahoma, with some communities living also in Wisconsin, Ontario, and in their traditional homelands continued from page 14
Did You Know?
lack History Month has a lengthy history that dates back more than a century. According to History.com, historian Carter G. Woodson and minister Jesse E. Moorland founded the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History (ASNLH) in September 1915. Promoting the achievements of Black Americans was among the various missions of the ASNLH. One of the ways the ASNLH sought to achieve that mission was through the establishment of Negro History Week in 1926. Organizers chose the second week of
February for the event because that week happened to be when Abraham Lincoln (1809) and Frederick Douglass (1818) were born. Lincoln and Douglass played pivotal roles in the abolition of slavery in the United States. After the establishment of Negro History Week in 1926, more and more cities began to celebrate it. History. com notes that by the 1960s Negro History Week had evolved into Black History Month on college campuses, eventually leading to formal recognition of the event by American president Gerald Ford in 1976.
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Brass Roots Begins 2025 at the Historic Stanhope House – February 22
Brass Roots, the nine-piece horn band, kicks off its 2025 calendar on Saturday, February 22, from 8:00 to 10:00 PM at the iconic Stanhope House, located at 45 Main Street, Stanhope, New Jersey.
Brass Roots combines rock music with a powerhouse horn section featuring saxophone, trombone, and trumpet. Originating in Long Valley, NJ, the band delivers a high-energy mix of genres, from rock, funk, soul, and R&B —creating an unforgettable experience for music lovers of all ages.
About The Stanhope House
Known as the “Last Great American Roadhouse,” The Stanhope House boasts a rich history that dates back to 1794. Over the centuries, it has served as a private home, stagecoach stop, general store, post office, tavern, rooming house (and rumored brothel), and hotel. Since the 1970s, it has gained national acclaim as a music venue hosting legendary artists like Dr. John, Paul Butterfield, John Lee Hooker, and Richie Havens, among many others.
The Stanhope House also holds a special place in cultural lore, with stories of iconic figures like Babe Ruth, who frequented it during Prohibition, calling it his speakeasy. It’s even said he left behind a baseball bat
as a memento of those bygone nights.
Event Details
Doors open at 7:00 PM, with table reservations for six available by calling 973347-7777. A full dinner menu is offered and can be viewed here
Tickets in advance can be purchased here for $10.00 (plus a $1.50 service fee). Tickets at the door are $15.00. All ages are welcome.
Use these directions to The Stanhope House at 45 Main Street in Netcong. There is plenty of free parking.
About Brass Roots
Brass Roots delivers a live music experience like no other. Featuring exceptional musicianship and a deep repertoire, the band is known for getting audiences on their feet and dancing. As Laurie, the Director of the Hackettstown Business Improvement District, put it:
“Their energy and talent will have your guests clapping their hands, tapping their toes, swaying in their seats, and dancing in the aisles! Their extensive song selections satisfy everyone’s taste.”
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AL’S CONSTRUCTION
By Megan Roche
BLocal Writer Recalls Special Connection to Jimmy Carter
efore he was a writer for My Life Publications, a young Steve Sears had taken an interest in writing poetry.
“In the early to mid 1990s, I had developed an interest in poetry. In fact, one of my first professional published works were poems and reviews of poetry chapbooks.
An editor of a poetry magazine that I was fond of suggested supporting poets by buying their works, and Jimmy Carter had recently published a hardcover book of poems. I bought the book in read it, and loved his writings. After that, I thought I would write him a letter and did so, applauding his efforts while also sharing some of my poems,” Sears said.
After sending that letter to the former President, Sears didn’t think much of it. One day, a letter from the Carter Center in Atlanta showed up on his doorstep. Assuming it would be just a typed formal reply, Sears was surprised when he found a personal, hand written thank you note from Carter himself.
“The response I received was in an official Carter Center envelope, so when I removed the contents I figured it would be an official letter type written. What President Carter had done instead was taken the first page of my handwritten letter to him and written a return note on top. Needless to say, I loved
the return note, and the first thing I did was call my mom to let her know,” Sears recalls.
The note reads: cc Steven, Thanks for your very nice letter. I’m glad you liked the poems. Jimmy C. PS: I also like yours.
His mother, who was not a very political woman, had always liked Carter. Sears remembers her often telling him that she always thought Carter was down to earth and a kind man.
That letter served as a great source of inspiration for the then young writer.
“First of all, it is a unique correspondent with a United States President. Not many people can say they have something so special. Second, that note encouraged me to continue my young writing career at that time, which had included op-eds to a local newspaper and the previously mentioned publications in the poetry magazines. It is a very special thing to me,” Sears said.
For the Sears family, the love of books helped lead them to establishing a family library. The Dewey Decimal-coded library still houses Carter’s poetry book. Right near the library, in a frame sits Carter’s letter back to Steve.
“For years the letter sat next to my writing desk in a frame, but now it is behind my desk in that same frame. I often look at it when I turn to get something out of my inbox or
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reach for a writer’s book for information and inspiration,” Sears says.
When news of Carter’s passing made its way to front pages around the world, Sears was struck with sadness. However, he knows how truly special it was that even just for a brief moment, Jimmy Carter knew who he
was. As Sears reflected on his passing, he’s grateful for that little letter.
“I will always have this wonderful reminder near my writing desk of what a wonderful human being he was, and how we both shared a love of writing.”
Steve Sears still has the book of Jimmy Carter’s poetry and a very special letter from Carter about his own poetry writings
Easy Dishes to Boost Immunity
Staying healthy is important year-round, but especially in the cooler months when temperatures drop, people spend more time inside and germs can spread easily. What you eat and the lifestyle you embrace are critical components of staying healthy.
Nourishing meals full of fruits, vegetables, protein-rich foods and whole grains help provide the body’s immune system with the nutrients it needs. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle by getting enough sleep, being physically active every day, having enough fluids and reducing stress also help keep the immune system in shape.
As a nutritious food to include on your grocery list, grapes of all colors – red, green and black – contain more than 1,600 natural plant compounds such as antioxidants and other polyphenols that help protect the health of cells throughout the body. They also contain about 82% water, so they provide important fluids for hydration, which is also critical to a healthy immune system.
Grapes can be enjoyed as a healthy snack or an immune-boosting ingredient in recipes like Chicken, Spinach and Grape Pita sandwiches and Grape and Salmon Power Salad. Each provides a mix of immune-supporting nutrients, including zinc in chicken, vitamins A and C in kale, polyphenols in grapes and other important nutrients in the salmon, walnuts and barley.
Find these recipes and more in “Eating for Immune Health” along with additional ways to eat healthy and stay well at grapesfromcalifornia.com
Chicken, Spinach and Grape Pita Servings: 4 2 tablespoons pine nuts
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 Tbls minced shallot
3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1pinch red pepper flakes
1/4 teaspoon ground sumac salt
freshly ground black pepper
1 package (5-6 ounces) fresh baby spinach, washed and dried
1 1/2 cups shredded, cooked chicken (about 8 ounces)
1 cup red California grapes, sliced
1/4 cup crumbled feta cheese
4 whole-wheat pita breads (6 1/2 inches each), warmed and halved
In small skillet over medium-high heat, toast pine nuts, stirring constantly until toasted, about 5 minutes. Transfer to bowl and let cool. In large bowl, whisk lemon juice, shallot, olive oil, red pepper flakes, sumac, salt and pepper. Add spinach, chicken, grapes, feta and pine nuts; toss to mix. Stuff into pita breads and serve.
Nutritional information per serving: 445 calories; 24 g protein; 46 g carbohydrates; 20 g fat (39% calories from fat); 5 g saturated fat (10% calories from saturated fat); 57 mg cholesterol; 658 mg sodium; 6 g fiber.
Grape and Salmon Power Salad
Servings: 6
3/4 cup pearled barley
3 cups firmly packed kale leaves, torn and sliced into ribbons
1 cup halved red or black seedless California grapes
8 ounces cold, cooked salmon, skin and bones removed
1/2 cup walnuts, lightly toasted and coarsely chopped
Dressing:
1/4 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice
1 clove garlic, mashed
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1 pinch cayenne pepper
1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil
Cook barley according to package directions. Drain and cool.
Tenderize kale by blanching in boiling water 2-3 seconds or microwaving 1 minute. Rinse pieces in cold water to stop cooking; squeeze dry. Fluff and uncrimp dry kale pieces with fingers. In medium bowl, mix barley, kale, grapes, salmon and walnuts.
To make dressing: In small bowl, whisk lemon juice, garlic, salt, pepper and cayenne. Gradually mix in olive oil. Pour onto salad and fold gently to combine.
Nutritional information per serving: 413 calories; 15 g protein; 30 g carbohydrates; 16 g fat (47% calories from fat); 3 g saturated fat (8% calories from saturated fat); 22 mg cholesterol; 232 mg sodium; 500 mg potassium; 4 g fiber. (Family Features)
6 Tips for Adding More Seafood to Your Family’s Menu
Seafood can make for a healthy addition to diets, particularly for children. It improves body and brain function, and studies conducted by “Pediatrics” and the “American Journal of Clinical Nutrition” have linked seafood to reduced risks of heart disease and allergic conditions like asthma.
In fact, the United States Department of Agriculture suggests making seafood part of healthy diets and its 2015-2020 Dietary Guidelines for Americans recommend putting it on menus at least twice a week.
While there are common complaints, such as “my kids won’t like it” or “I don’t know how to prepare it,” these tips can help make it quick, easy and affordable to add nutritious seafood to your family’s menu.
Start with shrimp. Shrimp is one of the most popular types of seafood in the United States. Try shrimp warm or cold as a snack, appetizer or main course. It’s versatile and can be sauteed, broiled, boiled, grilled or baked. Make it fun. Consider putting healthy fish like wild cod, salmon or pollock into fun foods like tacos or burgers.
Buy frozen. Fish is now flash frozen at sea to lock in freshness. Frozen seafood meals add convenience and help cut down on waste because what you don’t use can go back in the freezer.
Cook with your kids. If your kids don’t think they like seafood, have them help with dinner. Cooking with kids can help develop healthier long-term habits and a more
adventurous palate. It also helps improve motor functions and confidence. In fact, a study published in “Pediatrics” shows getting children involved in meal preparation may increase their enjoyment of healthy foods.
Pick the right products. To create a family-friendly menu, consider an option like Aqua Star’s Cutting Board meal kits, a selection of 10 recipes that include everything a family needs to prepare a tasty, healthy meal. Selections include tacos, flatbreads and comfort favorites. With pre-portioned ingredients for quick preparation and cleanup, they make it easy for parents and kids to create their own restaurant-quality meals.
Eat at home. Eating out often can drive unhealthy eat-
ing habits and strain family budgets. Seafood is easy and convenient to make, whether you use a simple recipe like these Chipotle Shrimp Street Tacos or choose a convenient meal kit, and can help you spend more time together at the dinner table.
Find more tips and recipes to add seafood to your family’s table at aquastar.com.
Chipotle Shrimp Street Tacos
Total time: 20 minutes
Servings: 2
1 Aqua Star Chipotle Shrimp Street Tacos Meal Kit, including: creamy ancho chili sauce, Aqua Star shrimp, chipotle seasoning, spinach, corn , roasted tomato white corn tortillas
2 teaspoons cooking oil, divided
Submerge unopened sauce packet in bowl of water to thaw.
In large skillet, heat 1 teaspoon oil; add shrimp and cook 6-8 minutes. Drain excess fluid and add chipotle seasoning.
In medium skillet, heat remaining oil; add spinach, corn and roasted tomato. Cook 4-5 minutes until water is evaporated; set aside.
In microwave, warm tortillas in moist paper towel 30 seconds.
To build tacos, fill two tortillas with shrimp and vegetables then top with sauce. (Family Features)
Former Radio City Rockette from Randolph Set to Release Memoir
By Megan Roche
Jennifer Jones has shattered glass ceilings throughout her career, becoming the very first African American Radio City Rockette in the 1980s. She’s also beaten colorectal cancer. Now, she’ll add another accolade to her list: two-time published author.
Jones, who grew up in Randolph, was the very first African American Radio City Rockette. In her memoir, titled Becoming Spectacular, Jones dives in to her time on the line. From performances at the Super Bowl to what life was really like on the Radio City stage, Jones invites readers in to hear her story.
“I really tried to take the reader through my whole life. The initial chapter talks about the Super Bowl halftime show, but after that I go back into my childhood and the start of my life,” Jones says.
No stranger to being a trailblazer in her own right, Jones touches on her parents being trailblazers as the two were in an interracial marriage, which for the 1960s was not the norm. However, it was her parents love of Broadway that led to exposing a young Jennifer to the arts.
“That love taught me at such a young age that I needed to be on a stage and to be able to walk out of a stage door,” Jones recalls.
The book slowly opens up to life inside Jen’s early dance classes and growing up as a bi-racial child in a white school system. She also sheds light on her reign as Miss Morris County, her experience owning her own aerobics studio. There’s also a chapter on her experience studying dance in New York and of course, the coveted audition to becoming a Radio City Rockette.
“I talk about the good and the bad, the resistance that
was coming towards me of people within Radio City and the women on the line who were not ready for a change. But I also touch on the ladies who were ready for a change and those who really embraced me. I talk about all the terrible things I went through but what ultimately kept me there was my love of dance and my dream of performing on a stage and walking out of a backstage door no matter what,” Jones said.
After finishing her time as a Rockette, Jones went on to star in the revival of 42nd Street. Her work on the show earned her a TONY Award for Best Revival of a Musical.
However, there are also chapters on the lows of her life.
“After 42nd Street, a lot of people thought I had disappeared. I share a lot in the book about being a single mom, my marriage, my divorce, not having a college degree. I talk about all the jobs I held in toxic work environments,” Jones shares.
Jones also opens up about her journey of getting diagnosed with and ultimately beating colorectal cancer.
Overall, Jones couldn’t be prouder of sharing her story. She hopes each person who reads her story remembers that their stories are important too.
“Ultimately, each and every one of us has a mark to leave on this world and we all have a greater contribution to give something to others. We’re all just diamonds in the rough just trying to be the shiniest, most precious cut that we can and that is our gift and that is when we shine the most,” Jones said.
The book will be available for preorders beginning Feb. 18. The book’s official release date is one month later on March 18. Jones will also be speaking and hosting various book signings in the area. For the most up to date event schedule, visit www.rockettejenn.com
Becoming Spectacular is Randolph native Jennifer Jones’ second book, set to debut in March
On Eagle’s Wings, Chapter 2: The Goddess
By Richard Mabey Jr.
This is the second condensed chapter of the book that I am presently writing, about my journey to earn scouting’s highest rank, Eagle Scout. This is a true story.
Each and every one of us hold a destiny, a purpose, a certain knowingness of our purpose in life. It may be buried deep within the fiber and sinew of the chambers of the heart, but from time to time, God reveals glimpses of the purpose of which He gave the precious gift of life to us. And, in line with that perspective, there are people who come into our lives, beyond coincidence, who become a wonderful friend and guide to help us in our pursuit of our Divine purpose in life.
In early September of 1969, I had just turned 16 and was beginning my junior year at Boonton High School. That Saturday morning, when I walked into the foyer of the Paterson YMCA, all alone, I had no idea I was about to meet a person who would dramatically change my life for the better. Mom had driven me to the big city YMCA, for the purpose of my beginning to take swimming lessons at their indoor pool. A fire burnt in my heart, to earn the Swimming Merit Badge, to become an Eagle Scout.
I remember I was all so nervous. I walked the long hallways to the room where the indoor pool was located. I remember it like it was yesterday. I opened the door to the pool room, and there sat this very beautiful young woman, on a chair beside the pool. When I entered the room, this beautiful goddess came over to greet me and introduce herself.
Lisa smiled as she shook my hand and introduced herself. Lisa was to be my swimming teacher. Amazingly, the other two boys, who were scheduled for her swimming class never showed up. Lisa had just begun her junior year at Paterson State College (now known as William Paterson University). She had long brown hair. Simply put, I fell in love with her, the moment I first saw her.
I remember that Lisa was incredibly patient with me. She taught me the proper arm and leg movements needed to become a good swimmer. She had a most gentle voice, but at the same time, held a certain degree of authority when she spoke. Every Saturday morning, for three months, we would meet at the indoor swimming pool at the Paterson YMCA.
Lisa was so unlike the girls I knew at school. She had a certain inner confidence, compassion flowed through her veins and an abounding kindness abided in her heart.
I think that Lisa saw something in me. She was fully aware of the flame that burnt in my heart, to become a good swimmer. I remember Lisa once told me that I was the best swimming student that she had ever taught. Not that I was a great swimmer, that was far from the case, but rather that I was so very sincere and earnest in my quest to become a good swimmer.
About a month into our swimming lessons, my heart broke when Lisa’s boyfriend came into the pool room, to pick up Lisa. Lisa scolded him for interrupting her class with me. He sulked as he departed the pool room. I confess, I actually felt sorry for her puppy dog boyfriend. For as kind as Lisa could be, she could also be all so very stern. In early December of 1969, I convinced Lisa to sign up to become an official Swimming Merit Badge Counselor. Lisa proudly signed the paperwork for my Swimming Merit Badge. It was a moment that was all so near and dear to my heart. From time to time, I think of Lisa. I pray she is alive and well. One of my deepest regrets is that I did not invite Lisa to my Eagle Scout Dinner. It was just one of those things. I don’t think I would have earned scouting’s highest rank, without Lisa’s helping hand. I am convinced, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that God brought Lisa in my life to help me along my rocky road to become an Eagle Scout.
But now, after earning the Swimming Merit Badge, a new challenge awaited me. And that big challenge was to earn the difficult Lifesaving Merit Badge. Lisa, if you’re reading this story, thank you for all your help.
To be continued.
Richard Mabey Jr. is a freelance writer. He has had two books published. He hosts a YouTube Channel titled, “Richard Mabey Presents.” He can be reached at richardmabeyjr@gmail.com.
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