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Editorial - Literature Nerd, John Locke - 6 Data Story Telling - Intimate Partner & Domestic Partner Violence, End it - 12 Op-Ed - Redefine Gentrifying for Future Generations - 14 Nursing Narrative - 16 Why Can't Love Hurt - 24
Travita Price, LPN - Very first interview for our 1PLove recognition - 18 Sandra Rivera, Media Entrepenuer & Mom - 22
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hen I was studying journalism at Columbia College Chicago, I continuously bumped heads with my professors or teachers, because they would always cut my sentences down and write watch out for wordiness. What bothered me the most, I was not a news writer; I was studying magazine article writing. When I spoke to the advisor, I was sold on the concentration, because I felt in magazine writing I would be able to express my ideas, since I see it as my art. However, as my classes went on, it seemed my teachers decided that they would teach their courses according to industry standards. I began to realize that magazine article writing was not the self-expressive major that I thought it would be, but art according to an Editor-inChief's style. I learned that most magazines followed either AP Style or their own style based out of AP Style formats, with some minor tweaks. That was a struggle of mine through-out my time at Columbia. Still, I decided that once I received my degree that I would never
write for a publication that would not allow me to express myself. If we're going to continue to call writing a form of language arts, we should be free to
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online publication because style and tone mean a lot to publishers. To them, I was no one who carried enough authority to change their philosophies. With all that being said, when we discussed in class, the change in sentence structure in the seventeenth century, and I learned that there was someone who I could blame for this modernday mentality that strips away the art of writing, I thought to myself that John Locke is someone I need to know. I am going to blame him for the rest of my life for my aggravating years in journalism school.
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express the creativity the way any artist of any genre does. I figured my art should come from how I wanted to show it, and no one should tell me where my sentence should end, or how my tone should come across to the reader. My only success after that declaration after graduation was in creating my own
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His Influence The seventeenthcentury changed sentence structure. Before the change, sentences were very long but grammatically correct. Individuals who influenced the change were Thomas Hobbs, Isaac Newton, and John Locke. John Locke was most influential in the sentence structure change. As a
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matter of fact, many of the fundamental ideas and doctrines of the United States government were greatly influenced by this English philosopher. His writings were a significant influence on the Founders of the United States of America and many other Americans seeking freedom. Locke's philosophical ideas helped inspire them to make a stand against their English oppressors. The views of Locke and other philosophers were fused into the documents on which the country was founded. The ideas are written in Locke's "Second Treatise on Government" had an especially significant impact on one of the most critical documents in American history, The Declaration of Independence.
Written in two parts, the "First Treatise on Government" was a criticism of "The Divine Right of Kings" and a refutation of a monarchy. The next and more influential "Second Treatise of Government" is his solution to the monarchy. This solution consists of dissolving the corrupt system and creating his ideal government to take its place. He addresses the reasons for his theory and considers his ideas from many angles.
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In these writings, he expresses many views that were seen as extremely radical and revolutionary when they were published in the late 1600s. Although John Locke was well known during his life, he chose to publish his "Treatise on Government" anonymously. This act, in and of itself, shows how radical these ideas were at the time he released them. It was not until after his death that it was revealed that he was the author of the writings. Locke clearly wanted his ideas to be communicated to the world and influence others thinking. Luckily, his ideas would be Adobe Spark Free Photos _ Anthony Garand put to good use almost one hundred years later by a group of men with the desire for freedom. His Life/Philosophies The founders used these revolutionary ideas to break John Locke was born in away from the monarchy of Wrington, Somerset, in England. Beginning with the 1632, the son of a country Declaration of Independence lawyer who served as a and continuing on to the Captain of Horse in the United States Constitution, Parliamentary army; both Locke's influence has been his parents died when he apparent in creating and was young. He was educated shaping the structure and at Westminster School and identity of the United States Christ Church, Oxford, of America. and for about four years, he taught Greek, rhetoric, and moral philosophy
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there. He did not like the conventional Aristotelian style of philosophy, so he went on to study medicine, finally receiving a degree in 1674, and a year later being elected to a medical Studentship. He was not qualified to practice as a doctor but did informally, and this led to an essential change in his life. He operated successfully on Lord Shaftesbury, whose household he joined as advisor, medic, and friend. Shaftesbury, an influential politician, was able to give various government appointments to Locke. However, Shaftesbury lost his power, and Locke not only lost a powerful patron but felt threatened enough to leave England for France. His anti-royalist views certainly made him unpopular in some quarters. When Shaftesbury regained his influence, Locke returned to England, but soon felt obligated to leave again, this time for the Netherlands, where he lived for five years, before finally returning to England on the accession of William and Mary. It was during his stay in the Netherlands that he wrote the Letter on Tolerance and finished his two most important works, both published in 1690
after his return to England: An Essay on Human Understanding and Two Treatises on Government.
ideas provided by primary qualities resemble the objects, the ideas The new regime in England produced by honored Locke with various secondary government posts. He settled qualities don't. at Oates in Essex, at the house of Damaris Masham, where he died in 1704 at the Locke's Theory age of seventy-two, possibly Representative as the result of a tiring Realism: journey made to London at Locke is an the behest of King William. empiricist. That is, he argues that Locke's philosophical anything interests divided roughly substantive we into three parts: political, know about epistemological, and the world, scientific. On the scientific we must side, he was much have learned influenced by his friend, through the Irish scientist Robert experience. Boyle, whom he helped with his experiments, and His representative realwhose corpuscular theory ism states that: of matter Locke argued for in the Essay. According to this theory, every physical (a) There is an external thing is composed of subworld that exists microscopic, indivisible independently of us (that's particles, corpuscles, the realism part), and and all of an object's (b) We are only indirectly properties are the result aware of this world, through of the arrangement of its mental representations corpuscles. There are two (that's the representative main kinds of property part). or quality: primary and secondary. They're both the powers to produce ideas in us, but. In contrast, the 8
(c)These representations are generated by your sensory systems and may be accurate
or inaccurate. According to Locke, all knowledge comes through the senses. There can be no innate ideas, no knowledge placed in us by God from birth. He accepts that we have natural abilities, such as the ability to reason. This is not to say that we can only gain knowledge of what we can actually observe. As far as politics, Locke was very much concerned
to oppose the notion of the divine right of kings - the religious defense of absolute monarchy. He set out to show how the political state was established and justified, arguing that in the original, pre-political state of nature, people find that they need to join together to protect their natural rights. That is, there's a need for someone to play the part of an impartial adjudicator and defender of rights; that
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adjudicator must have the consent of the people, and to gain such protection, they must willingly give up their personal power to punish wrongdoing. Society is thus founded on a contract; if the adjudicator - the sovereign - breaks the terms of the deal, the people have the right to rebel, and to choose another government.
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data storytelling domestic violence & intimate partner violence
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“Intimate Partner Violence is relatively common among women homicide victims”
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omestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) show up in many different forms. According to the Illinois Department of Human Services (IDHS) domestic violence happens in families or close relationships when one person tries to control the other person by physical, verbal, sexual or emotional abuse, also property or economic abuse.
(NISVS) indicate that about 1 in 4 women have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime and reported some form of IPV-related impact. Also, over 43 million women (38 million men) experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) according to the Center of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is abuse or aggression that occurs in a close relationship, like DV it also happens in different forms, physical and and sexual violence, stalking (is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact by a partner that causes fear or concern for one’s own safety or the safety of someone close to the victim) and psychological aggression (the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm another person mentally or emotionally and/or to exert control over another person).
IPV Death Facts
According to the CDC, data from U.S. crime reports suggest that 16% (1 in 6) of homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner. The reports also found that nearly half of female homicide victims in the U.S. are killed by current or former male intimate partners. In the state of Illinois IPV is relatively common among women homicide victims. Data show that of 200 women deaths most are IPV-related. Data also show that most of these deaths took place in the house or apartment of the victim. Young black women were most affected ( see chart -- visit www.ivdrs.org for data brief)
CDC says that IPV is common and it affects millions of people in the United States each year. Data from the National Intimate Partner Sexual Violence Suevet
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Real Life Accounts Transparency
It is very important for women who have faced abuse in relationships and overcame it to speak openly about their experiences. It can help empower other women to get out of a dangerous situation. I have not been in a relationship where I experienced abuse, but I was in a relationship where I felt I was being groomed. There is definitely a grooming phase. Where the person makes it seem as though they need you. They display much love and affection, sometimes gratitude, while at the same time violating your mental awareness of yourself. I know Katt Williams says in the realm of comedy that its called self confidence for a reason and it's true, but what you’re fed about you can break down what you believe about you, sometimes for a moment others for a very long time.
A person can believe they are with an abuser for all the right reasons. To intrude on the abused person self awareness, they can compare them to others, create doubts about the relationship to make them feel as though they are not doing good enough to keep the person. If you are a fighter, in everything that you do you desire to do your best, so that is one way an abuser gets you wrapped into their cycle. Social media makes it easier nowadays for abusers to study their victims to become aware of their strengths and weaknesses.
Prevention According to the Center of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), research indicates that IPV is most prevalent in adolescence and young adulthood and then begins to decline with age, demonstrating the critical importance of early prevention efforts. IVDRS data show that black women 18-27 is
most affecteed, woment have to report and document everything, especially black women...even if the doctors do not ask, ask them, get mental health advice, raise concerns, advise that they document everything.
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REDEFINE GENTRIFYING FOR FUTURE GENERATIONS Gentrification is: The displacement of lower-income residents by more affluent populations. Its design is to resuscitate revenue streams and aesthetically enhance the city landscape, especially at a time of perceived hypercompetitiveness and place-punishing globalization.
Chicago Community Areas (CCA) As many natives of Chicago may already know, the city is broken down into 77 community areas. These areas are often grouped into nine districts or “sides.� The community areas are well defined and do not overlap and have one or more neighborhoods in it. The community areas can be a complicated thing to understand. Still, the historical context indicates that they were defined by the Social Science Research Committee at the University of Chicago beginning in the 1920s. Now they are used for a variety of urban planning initiatives.
Example of Black Gentrifying
Bronzeville (35) and Grand Boulevard (38) - Bronzeville was known as the "black metropolis" because of the saturation of black businesses and business owners. With eradicating projects like the Robert Taylor Homes, the African American/Black population or overall population in these areas decreased. The Chicago Housing Authority (CHA) Plan for Transformation in 2010: The plan demolished the CHA projects, this plan was behind the removal of the projects in Bronzeville. Bronzville history was rich with black culture and black wealth. It was called the black metropolis because it's where many working to middle-class blacks bought homes.
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Non-White Gentrification Non-white gentrification means that people of color need to buy in communities that are left to be gentrified by investors. Easier said than done, obviously. We have to build the economy in the hardest-hit cities where the majority of the population is black and brown.
So let's talk! Jay Z said, ""Gentrify your own 'hood, before these people do it," he rapped. "Claim eminent domain and have your people movin'. That's a small glimpse into what Nipsey was doing."
In a video done by the late Dick Gregory, who was a pioneering comedian and civil rights activist, shown in 2010, by the National Leadership Visionary Project he was asked to give advice to young adults he said:
Now, what is eminent domain? In Layman's Terms, it is when the government wants to come into a city and take over claiming it plans to use the land for public use. By definition, the eminent domain refers to the government's power to take private property and convert it into public use. The Fifth Amendment provides that the government may only exercise this power if they provide just compensation to the property owners.
• Eighty-three percent of employment happens with small businesses. He advises getting into entrepreneurship. • He says, get into communities and not neighborhoods. It's essential to control the police and fire departments, the banks, schools, and control the flow of money.
These cases can be tried in court. Building communities is not an uncomplicated vision. It takes a desire to want to be around people that initially, lifestyles we may not agree with; we know these areas are not easy to navigate through. Rebuilding takes courage.
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e walk through life, and we take for granted the people that are around to help us. Especially in the hospital, usually, we are there for what needs to be taken care of then we move on with our lives. Where nurses are there to assist and help day in and day out, whether it is in a hospital, in-home care, in a nursing home or assisted living, nurses are there to see to it that we are in our best health possible while in their care. Marie Thompson, 53, and a registered nurse (RN) for the Chicago Public School system loves the fact that she chose nursing as a career. As she walks into the elementary school where she teaches, her face lights up as if she is one of the students about to learn something new to run home and tell their parents. Instead, her glow comes from knowing that she has the skills to aide any runny nose, asthma attack, or immunization problem a student may have to deal with. Marie began her career as a nurse at Walter Memorial Hospital on the Northwest side of Chicago in 1979 after graduating from DePaul University. She describes her experience at Walter Memorial as exciting and fun, but at the same time, scary because although she was a trained nurse, she had not gained experience. As Marie sat on the couch in her dimly lit living room, she recalled the moment she wanted to become a nurse. She can remember being in third grade and having to go to see the pediatrician. When she would get there, she would be greeted by a "nasty older lady who was just mean," she said. At
the time, she didn't know that nurses were taught to be objective. What she did know is that she wanted to be a nurse because her mother was one. Her mother would always make her, and her siblings make their beds perfect, and she could remember the white shoes that her mom always wore to work. She looked up to and respected her mom, and she knew her mother was a nice woman to the patients she saw. Not like the mean nurse from her pediatric office. Marie was destined to change how nurses were viewed in the '60s and '70s. If it were up to her, the image would go from being very stern to being more relaxed and friendly. Marie plans to retire from the school system, but her journey did not go straight from her first job at the hospital to being a nurse at the Chicago Public School System. In between those positions, she worked 13 years of in-home care assistance with private and nursing homes. She spent time teaching a certified nursing course to prepare aspiring Certified Nursing Assistants (CNAs) for their state exam. She also spent many years supervising nursing staff. Marie classifies her leadership skills as her best qualification. She recalled when she supervised nurses at Chicago Osteopathic Medical Center in Olympia Fields, IL (now St. James Hospital), "there were negative employees that needed to be weeded out," she said. She would notice that some of the nurses were not passionate about their job and noticed that some of them were there to receive a check. The nurses would pass all their medications
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to their patients and then try to go home two hours early for no justifiable reason. Marie said, she could not understand that, because in a hospital where different shifts of nurses are taking care of one patient -- communication is extremely important. "I can remember once where a patient received the wrong meds, and it was because of lack of communication. That is when I knew as a supervisor, something needed to be done." Then, she said, she became strict. She had to write-up a few people and let a few go. She implemented new rules and created free lunch incentives. The change allowed her to develop a staff that had excellent communication and professionalism. Marie was also a field nurse. She enjoyed it because the environment was different from being in a hospital. She felt there was more direct communication amongst the nurses, home care providers, and nurses' assistants. That she liked, because it allowed for better care for the patient. Although, she like the environment better there were still places that she noticed needed improvement. When Marie worked in the private and nursing homes, she would see a superior attitude that came from the nurses. "We are all jammed up into one category -- nurses," she said. However, that is not true according to Marie. She said that the only individuals in the nursing industry that can be classified as a nurse are the registered nurses, because they went through a degree program. That is one of the glitches in the industry to her. She feels that nursing should not be broken down into so many categories "that's where the superior attitudes come from," she said. The registered nurse works by the side of the doctor. The RN and the doctor chart the information so that they have a way to communicate the patients' needs. The
License Practical Nurse (LPN) works with the RN, he or she does things like passing the medications, check the patients' vitals, and check any type of medicines the patient may be receiving through an intravenous (IV). The CNAs help with anything the RN or LPN may need physical help doing. "That's where much of the disrespect comes in because some nurses will get the attitude that they do not have to do physical work because they have been through school," she said. That is one thing Marie wish would change about the industry. She has noticed many changes since 1979. She remembered working at Walter Memorial, and there only being four black women working in the hospital, including her. Only she and another woman were registered, nurses. Now she sees more black women in the field. She feels there is a high demand for nurses, and many of them are overworked and drained. That is why she believes nurses leave hospitals and go to home care and some schools. "It is a demanding industry, and you have to have a passion for it to do it. If you do not, then your patients suffer, and we are experiencing too much of that," she said. There are so many ways this industry can be brought back to life if people begin to see helping people as the primary cause of serving in it like Marie. Nurses do not have to be drained and should not be. We have enough women out there that are intelligent enough, wise enough, dedicated enough to submit their lives to helping people through experiences. It just has to become a priority like it once was. Our young people have to begin to realize that helping others is the real key to success. "Marie Thomas" is a fictious name. The person that the story is based-on did not want to share her name and we respect her privacy.
Travita is an LPN that we are recognizing in our effort to recognize healthcare workers and beyond. Check out www1pLove. com to find our more on our mission to collect the stories of everyday people.
Q: Full Name with credentials A: Travita Price LPN Q: What City, State do you work in? A: Tinley Park Q: How long have you been a registered nurse A: I have been an LPN for a year and a half, but I've worked as a CNA for over ten years. RN
Short Description: An RN is similar to an LPN but holds more responsibilities in a wider aspect. An RN monitors the patient’s symptoms and records any changes in the patient’s condition. They are in charge of reporting accurate reports of medical histories, administering medication, and monitors the reaction or side effects of medication. Requirements: • Complete your prerequisites applying for nursing school or ADN at community college • Earn your nursing degree at a nursing school or community college (takes 24 months or less) • Must pass the NCLEX-PN exam to earn your license as an RN • Get licensed as an RN in your state
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Q: Did you always want to be a nurse? If not, what did you want to be? A: No, I wanted to be a Teacher until my father died when I was 14 years old of cardiac arrest and kidney failure. Q: Share a little bit about your family? A: I have three children, and I am a single Mom. I teach my children that they can do all things through Christ that strengthens them. I love to come home and talk out our day. I'm raising my children to think positively about everything they do. Q: What is your most memorable day serving as a nurse?
Short Description: While an LPN may hold a lower title than an RN, they still have many important nurse duties. They provide a care routine for sick and injured patients. An LPN handles the basic needs of the patients by monitoring their blood pressure and monitoring any other vitals that need focus from the particular patient. Requirements: • Need a High Scool Diploma or a GED • Need to complete the LPN program at a nursing school or community college (can be completed in 12 months or less) • Must pass the NCLEX-PN exam to earn your license as an LPN
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Short Description: A CNA provides health care for patients at homes, hospitals, or any other medical facility under the supervision of an RN or LPN. They often assist patients with their day to day that they cannot currently do without assistance. Requirements: • Proof of age. Must be at least 18 years old • High School Diploma or GED • Physical examination • Immunization records • TB test results • Background Check • CPR and First Aid Certification • Valid states drivers license or ID
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A: My most memorable moment as a nurse was when I was just starting on the floor by myself, and my day was busy and challenging. One of my lady residents Marie H. came up to me and said, "You're doing good job honey, just keep that beautiful smile on your face" then she grabbed my face and smiled at me. That did something to my soul. I'll always remember what she said to me. She passed away 4 months later, but her words will stick with me forever. Q: What's your favorite part about being a nurse? A: My favorite part about being a nurse is helping others when they can't help themselves. And the joy and comfort I can give to their loved ones. Q: What's one thing about the nursing industry that you would change, and why? A: I would like to see a change in how the world is educated about infection control and safety. I would like to see more community centers be involved in helping their communication stay healthy and safe. Educate the community. Q: Has COVID-19 Pandemic changed how you view your role as a nurse? A: No Q: Explain how or how it has not? A: Because, if you know patient safety and infection control, this
is another virus that is considered dangerous, and we as nurses have come in contact with many. COVID 19 just is a reminder that more people in the world need to be more mindful of their safety and how to prevent the spread of germs. This pandemic has opened my eyes to how much the world needs more education on infection control and how to keep it safe. Q: Share one fun fact about yourself that no one would assume at a first guess? A: A fun fact about myself is I like to dance in the mirror when no one is watching lol...
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It's fair to say that most foodies are introverts, right? They travel restaurant-to-restaurant usually alone telling the stories of the food that resonates with their liking or lack thereof; but what now amidst COVID-19? Clearly, many industries are going to be impacted for months and months to come. Many people are trying to figure out lifestyle changes, whether they are single, married, dating, or in a relationship; kids or no kids; pets or no pets...Life has flipped for us all. If you are one who relishes in the food industry, especially the plush food scene in Chicago, you are most likely anxious to see what's next. Many foodies' self-care is food. Or, more so, the experience that comes with it. Being a foodie is not at all about being gluttonous, as one might assume. It is all about experiencing food. Knowing the history of the cook or chef, admiring the ambiance, even pairing drinks with suitable cuisine. This is 20
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EASY CURBSIDE PICK-UP Restaurant: Steak 48 Chicago Location: River North 615 Wabash Ave, Chicago Foodie Choice: Filet Mignon & Dbl baked truffle potato Drink Pairing: Red wine aged in bourbon barrels
9 Restaurant: Calumet Fisheries Location: 3259 E 95th Street Chicago Foodie Choice: Smoked Salmon (Pepper & Garlic); bring it home and air fry asparagus on 370 degrees for 15 minutes with olive oil, sea salt and cracked black pepper. Drink Pairing: Kentucky Mule
Restaurant: Golden Gloves Cuisine (GGC) Location: 1401 173rd St Hammond Indiana ( just a bit south east of Chicago) Foodie Choice: Hennessy on Wings & Mac N Cheese Drink Pairing: House Lemonade (GGC)
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she decided that walking away from a senseless marriage would probably be one of her most significant accomplishments. Q: What advice would you give your 18-year-old self? A: Nothing, I would do everything the same, even my mistakes, because without them, as cliche as it sounds, I'm not sure I would be the same woman I am today. In early December 2019, she and her fiance decided after having a radio show that they should "just do it" and began their own station. In January 2020, they found a location and went live with their first show by February 2020. The mission of Fluent Radio is to give people a voice and independent artists
a platform. Its target audience is young adults interested in Hip Hop and R&B. Sandra believes that women, regardless of having a partnership that women still have to have some independence. She wants to allow her daughter to have an open the door to independence, by modeling, investing in yourself, building credit, ownership, and starting a small business. Q: What is your self-love activity; what do you do to align with operating with your best self?
A: Self-affirmations and accepting that I am not perfect and to let go of issues I cannot control. She shared that her favorite selfaffirmation activity is to read aloud the affirmations on a piece of artwork with a woman wearing a crown. IG: @fluentradio Facebook: BossFluent
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WHY Can’t Love Hurt?
their mind because communication for them is indirect. They only focus on how the outcome benefits them. Typically we these people, it's not that they do not want love and relationship; they just have to figure out who they are in one. When we know who we are, we have more to offer versus when we do not, we are like children.
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t is disappointing when people say love does not hurt. That is not true. It does not abuse, control, or manipulate. Love is in motion. It cares, listens, plans takes note, prepares, builds, encourages, is The Value in Love that Hurts honest, is patient...and so The value in love that hurts is that Hurt is not many other words, but the it teaches. People do not seem to abuse. Somebest example is a mother. look at dating as an opportunity times things We know a father's love, to grow. It seems everyone these but a mother's love hurt because we days put all their hopes in one is an excellent way are trying to hold basket, then everyone after that to embody the idea on to something we has to deal with their bitterness. of love. Many times, need to release to grow. If you can find all that fulfill your people use Jesus Christ That can be ego, stub- heart's desire with one person as an example of love, borness, arrogance and without dating, great, but for but that's not tangible. people come along who most of us, that is not a reality. Actually, understanding We don't have to live in bitterness tolerate it. Its not the Love of Christ takes when things do not work. Dating them hurting you, an outstanding amount of its your unwilling- should be fun, an escape and if spiritual maturity and faith. you see more, and you are mature, ness to grow. However, tangible love, we communicate it. If that person does witness first hand through not see the same, move on. It may our mothers for many of us. hurt (not that this is love), but it is
preparing you, because when you do partner with "the one" you will be able to navigate through not getting what you want.
Immature Love This kind of love thinks that it is supposed to feel good. Like they are obsessed with the honeymoon phase. Immature lovers do not want to be corrected. They are selfish and do not see the relationship as a partnership but only see how it can benefit them. They tend to think that you can read
How to Mature in Love The best way to mature in love is to love yourself. Take chances in life that can set you to be your best self. This way, when you are ready to be in a real partnership, you can put all your cards on the table with no shame and no fear. 24
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I was never much of a drinker. I was turning 24-years-old and decided to visit the Wild Hare Reggae Club in Chicago, If you saw Love Jones with Lorenz Tate and Nia Long, you remember the Wild Hare. Anyway, As I said, I was not a drinker, so I asked the bartender to give me his favorite. He appeared to be a young white male; you cannot tell by looking at someone their nationality. Still, he handed me a shot of Maker’s Mark Bourbon. It instantly became my favorite type of spirit, I am on a journey learning the part African American’s played in the production of the American drink to hopefully land at a place where I have my own Bourbon in the marketplace and in the hands of those that admire the notes and subtleness of it. Nia Jovan Andrews, JP&E, Owner
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