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FAITH DISCUSSION GUIDE
Welcome
REC EIVING GIFT S
It i s G od ’ s pr om i s e t o y ou th at as y ou c on ti n u e to l ov e ea ch o ther a nd seek His w isdo m
H ebrews 13:16 “And d o n o t fo r get t o d o go o d a n d t o s h a r e w it h o t h er s , fo r w it h s u c h
in y o u r r e l a t i o n s h i p , H e wi l l re v e al H i mse l f to y ou i n b ea utiful w a ys. C o z y up a nd dive int o w h a t G od h a s i n store f or y ou th rou gh some h on est discussio n, reflectio n a nd
s a crifices God is plea s ed . ”
p r a y e r . B e s u r e t o h av e y ou r Bi b l e h an d y . If y ou d on ’ t ha ve a ccess to o ne, check o ut the
G iving yo ur pa rtner a g i ft, h o we v e r smal l i t may b e , l e ts th e m kn o w th at y o u
B ib l e G a t e w a y a p p a vai l ab l e on y ou r A p p l e or A n d roi d device. Fo r a custo m Da te Night
intentio na lly so ught o ut th e i r h ap p i n e s s . I t d i sp l ay s th o u g h tfu l n e s s an d s e l fl e s s n e s s ,
In B o x - F a i t h pl a y l i s t, f e atu ri n g Ch ri sti an arti sts, v i si t da tenightinbo x.co m/fa ith.
a nd lets yo ur pa rtner kn o w th at th e i r j o y i s a p r i o r i ty fo r y o u .
EXPR ES S YOUR LOV E
ACT S O F SERVIC E
W he n e n t e r i n g a r e l ati on sh i p , f i n d i n g th at sp ark i s u sua lly ea sy. After the spa rk fa des
J ohn 13:5 “Then he pour ed w a t er in t o a b a s in a n d b ega n t o w a s h t h e d is c iples ’ feet a n d t o
and l i f e c i r c u m s t a n c es c ome i n to p l ay , a re l ati on sh i p ca n be tested. Finding so meo ne
wipe them with the towe l t h a t w a s w r a pped a r o u n d h im. ”
who pu s h e s y ou t o be c ome th e b e st v e rsi on of y ou rse lf is a blessing, a nd finding s o m e on e w h o a l s o e nc ou rage s y ou i n y ou r re l ati on sh i p w ith C hrist is priceless. In a r el at i o n s h i p , i t ’ s i m p o rtan t to f oc u s y ou r e n e rgy on b uilding ea ch o ther up in C hrist. Act in g i n l ov e t o w a r d y ou r p artn e r take s i n te n ti on , b u t G o d gives us a ro a d ma p t o fol l ow . P ar is c a n b e kn o w n as th e c i ty of l ov e an d tod ay we will explo re the different lo ve
Jesus displa yed His lo ve fo r Hi s d i s ci p l e s b y h u mb l i n g Hi mse l f an d te n d e r l y s e r v i n g o n e o f their mo st ba sic nee d s . Pe r fo r mi n g acts o f se r v i ce fo r y o u r p ar tn e r can b e an y th i n g fro m filling their ga s ta n k to cr o ssi n g a ch al l e n g i n g tas k o ff th e i r to -d o l i s t. I t d i s p l ay s a sa crifice o f yo ur time, en e r g y an d th o u g h t.
lang u a g e s . W e a l l c h oose to e x p re ss l ov e i n d i f f e re n t w a ys. Yo ur hea rt w ill respo nd
PHYSICA L TOUC H
t o o n e l o v e l a n g u a g e more n atu ral l y th an oth e rs. In The 5 Lo ve La ngua ges, Dr. G a ry
Luk e 15:20 “And he a rose a n d c a me t o h is fa t h er . Bu t w h ile h e w a s s t ill a lo n g w a y o ff, h is
Chapm a n h i g h l i g h t s th at ac ts of l ov e c an b e l ost i n transla tio n if yo u a ren’t a w a re o f
fa ther s a w him a nd felt c o mpa s s io n , a n d r a n a n d emb r a c ed h im a n d k is s ed h im. ”
ho w y ou r p a r t n e r s e eks l ov e . Th e re are c ou n tl e ss way s to displa y lo ve, but to night w e ar e g oi n g t o f oc u s o n 5 c ommon e x p re ssi on s.
Physica l to uch ca n be a p o we r fu l e x p r e s s i o n o f l o v e . I n Je su s ’ mi n i str y , He co n ti n u al l y used physica l to uch to d i s p l ay Hi s l o v e an d co mp as s i o n fo r Hi s fo l l o we r s . A l ack o f
Let ’s t a ke a c l os e r l o ok at e ac h of th e 5 l ov e l an gu age s a nd see ho w w e ca n put them
physica l to uch in yo ur r e l ati o n s h i p can l e av e y o u fe e l i n g d i s co n n e cte d an d u n l o v e d ,
int o pr a c t i c e . Y o u m ay f i n d a n e w ap p re c i ati on f or a c erta in lo ve la ngua ge.
even if this is no t yo ur p r i mar y l o v e l an g u ag e .
WORD S O F AF F I R M AT I ON P ro v er b s 1 6 :2 4 “G r a cio us w o r ds ar e a ho ne yco mb , sw e e t to the s oul a nd hea ling to t h e b o nes .” An e n c o u r a g i n g w or d c an l e av e a l asti n g i mp ac t. Sh ari ng a ffirm ing w o rds w ith yo ur p a r t n e r doe s n o t n e ed to b e c omp l e x or l on g- wi n d e d . If it do esn’t co me na tura lly to yo u t o s h o w l ov e i n t h i s way , try wri ti n g a n ote or se n ding a text, telling yo ur pa rtner s o m e t h i n g s i m p l e t h a t y ou ap p re c i ate ab ou t th e m.
QUAL I TY TI ME H e b r ews 1 0 :2 4 - 2 5 “A nd l e t us co nsi de r ho w w e may sp ur one a nother on towa rd love an d g o o d d eed s , no t gi vi ng up m e e ti ng to ge the r , as so me a re in the ha bit of d oing , but
PR AYER AND REFLE CTI ON Sha re w ith yo ur pa rtner o n e n e w th i n g th at y o u l e ar n e d ab o u t h i s o r h e r h e ar t th i s evening. W ith this in mi n d , take a fe w mi n u te s to d i scu ss th e s e q u e sti o n s: H ow are y ou enc ouraged b y w h at God h as b een d oin g in you r relation s h ip ? What s ac rif ic es are y ou w illin g to make in ord er to s h ow you r p artn er love in a n ew w ay? Ta k e a minute to pra y to g e th e r si l e n tl y o r al o u d . I f y o u ar e u n su r e wh e r e to s tar t, p r ay these w o rds: “H eav enly F at her, th an k Y ou for allow in g u s to s et th is q u ality time as id e as w e
e n c o ur a g i ng o ne a no the r —and al l the m o r e as yo u se e th e Da y a pproa ching.”
get t o know eac h oth er’s h earts a little b it more in timately. Wou ld Y ou s tir in u s a
J o hn P i p e r w r i t e s i n hi s b ook, De si ri n g God , “ S e e k y ou r jo y in the jo y o f yo ur spo use.”
perf ec t example of love in Y ou r s on , Jes u s . P leas e g u id e u s d aily as w e s tep ou t of
Ar e y o u w i l l i n g t o s l o w d own an d sp e n d q u al i ty ti me with yo ur pa rtner if it w ill bring
our c omf ort zones to s h ow eac h oth er ou r love. I n Jes u s ’ N ame,
t hem j oy ? S p e n d i n g qu al i ty ti me c on n e c ti n g wi th e ac h o ther w ill bring a sw eet rem inder o f t h e b l e s s i n g t h a t God h as gi v e n y ou i n on e an oth e r. E njo ying yo ur da te night this ev en i n g i s a w on de r f u l way to sp e n d q u al i ty ti me wi th ea ch o ther!
des ire t o s eek t he joy of ou r p artn er ab ove ou r ow n ? T h an k Y ou for g ivin g u s th e
Amen.”