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Hanukka The nine best Jewish books of the holiday season Victor Wishna JTA
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eally, every season is book season — but autumn brings a blend of offerings just right for warming up with as the weather cools down. To help you select the best one(s) to keep you cozy on the couch, or to find that perfect Hanukka present for the avid readers in your life, check out our selection of notable new reads, all with a Jewish twist. Whether you’re interested in fiction, non-fiction, memoir, or graphic novels, we’ve got you covered. The Devil in Jerusalem (St. Martin’s Press), Naomi Ragen The 10th novel by best-selling American-born Israeli author Ragen is a crime thriller based on real events from a well-known Jerusalem court case. When two young brothers are brought to Hadassah Hospital with horrific injuries, an Israeli detective finds herself navigating her way through the Old City streets and parsing kabalistic texts and cult rituals in pursuit of answers. Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl (Riverhead Books), Carrie Brownstein
Before Brownstein made her name nationally as an underground music movement, to a career that co-creator and co-star of IFC’s Portlandia, she was earned her a spot as the only woman on a Rolling already an icon to fans of her feminist punk band Stone list of the 25 Most Underrated Guitarists of All-Time — and well beyond. The Mystics of Mile End (William Morrow Paperbacks), Sigal Samuel The half-hasidic, half-hipster Mile End section of Montreal, where this beautifully written debut novel is set, allows Samuel to explore a range of interlocking and conflicting themes: religion, science, chaos, order, love, grief — and, of course, the many pathways to find meaning in life. The lives of David, a professor of Jewish mysticism, and his two teenage children are all set on divergent trajectories by the tragic death of their wife and mother. Pastrami on Rye: An Overstuffed History of the JewSleater-Kinney. And before that she was an ambi- ish Deli (NYU Press), Ted Merwin tious Jewish girl growing up in the Pacific North- For those who have longed for an entertaining acawest. This deeply personal memoir reveals her jour- demic treatise on the evolution of a distinctly Jewney from her childhood in Washington — with an ish and American phenomenon, have no fear: “The anorexic mother and a father who would eventually first full-length history of the New York Jewish come out of the closet — to her days as a pioneer of Continued on next page
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camp survivor in East Harlem was one of the first American works of fiction to deal with the trauma of the Holocaust from the perspective of a character who lived through it. This reissued edition, with a new foreword by novelist Dara Horn, reveals that the tale’s depictions of the Shoa’s traumatic aftereffects and its examination of the sometimes troubled relationships between Jews and other American minority groups remain just as powerful today. Schmuck (Alternative Comics), Seth Kushner, with art by multiple contributors The Kickstarter campaign that, well, kick-started this wonderfully enjoyable work promoted it as “a semi-autobiographic novel anthology about one schmuck’s quest for love and the meaning of life in New York City.” Fair enough, though the description doesn’t begin to capture the hilarity and poignancy that emerges when this collection of 22 comics — all short stories by Kushner, each with a different, talented illustrator — is taken as a whole. In a heartbreaking twist, Kushner passed away earlier this year and wasn’t able to see his fine book in print. The Sea Beach Line (Fig Tree Books), Ben Nadler Izzy Edel, the protagonist of Nadler’s second novel,
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haring blessings, friendship and welcoming guests are among the themes that illuminate a new crop of Hanukka books for children. The eight-day Festival of Lights begins this year with the first candle lighting on Sunday evening, Dec. 6. Some acclaimed children’s writers and illustrators serve up a sparkling array of lively and inspiring stories that will take readers from the streets of New York City to a moshav in Israel and even into the kitchen to cook up some Hanukka fun. Hanukkah is Coming! Tracy Newman, illustrated by Vivian Garofoli Kar-Ben ($5); ages one-four A delightful, rhyming story that follows a family as it celebrates Hanukka: lighting the menora, frying up potato latkes, trading bow-wrapped gifts, and spinning a dreidel. The colorfully illustrated board book is a perfect read-aloud for young kids, each page ending with the easy-to-repeat refrain, “Hanukkah is coming.” This is the second entry in a series that launched with “Shabbat is Coming!” by Tracy Newman; two new titles for Passover and Rosh Hashana are due out next year. Oskar and the Eight Blessings Richard Simon and Tanya Simon, illustrated by Mark Siegel Roaring Book Press ($17.99); ages four-eight Oskar and the Eight Blessings transports readers back in time to the sights and sounds of New York City’s streets in 1938. The fictional tale takes place on the seventh night of Hanukka, which on this year is also Christmas Eve. Oskar, a young Jewish refugee, arrives on his own by ship, sent on the journey from Germany by his parents
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following the frightening events of Kristallnacht. Oskar has only the photograph and address of his Aunt Esther, who lives uptown. As he makes his way up the length of the island, Oskar is mesmerized by the city’s wintry glow. He crosses paths with strangers who share blessings — a piece of bread, a Superman comic book, a whistle from Count Basie, and a kind encounter with Eleanor Roosevelt. The book’s simple prose is brilliantly matched with Mark Siegel’s captivating illustrations, which bathe the realistic cityscape with a dreamlike haze. An author’s note reveals that the tale is based on family stories that Richard Simon’s grandfather told him as a child. The historical references here are based on actual events from 1938 New York. Hanukkah Cookies with Sprinkles David Adler, illustrated by Jeffrey Ebbeler Apples and Honey Press ($17.95); ages four-eight “A bit of a feminist tale” is how author David Adler — best known for his popular Cam Jansen series — describes this book, which features Sara, an inquisitive, fun-loving girl with a heart of gold. Looking out the window of her city apartment, she notices a man juggling and eating a bruised apple set aside by the owner of Sol’s Market. As she comes to understand that the man is hungry, Sara prepares small bits of food to leave for him at Sol’s. Sara later spots the man at her synagogue, and the rabbi introduces her family to Mr. Berger, a former circus performer. Sara’s family invites him to a Hanukka dinner, leading to a budding friendship. Sara also represents the multitudes of nontraditional families within the Jewish community; she lives with her mom and grandmother, with no father. “It was an intentional choice,” said Adler. Farmer Kobi’s Hanukkah Match Karen Rostoker-Gruber and Rabbi Ron Isaacs, illustrated by CB Decker
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Hanukka Books from previous page Apples and Honey Press ($17.95); ages four-eight Farmer Kobi has a house full of barnyard friends, but they wish he had a human friend, too. This lighthearted, hilarious story opens on the second night of Hanukka at a moshav, an Israeli collective farm. Farmer Kobi has invited his new friend Polly for a Hanukka feast, but Polly is surprised when she’s greeted by a slew of animals who sing Hanukka songs and play dreidel while Farmer Kobi checks on dinner. This isn’t Polly’s idea of fun. After she leaves, an unexpected visitor knocks on the door looking for help with a flat tire. The new guest, Ruthie, feels right at home — turns out she has her own family of farmyard friends waiting in her truck. The offbeat, lively story is filled with playful language: “You look flap-ulous,” a goose honks. There are fun nods to Israeli and Jewish traditions, all explained in a glossary at the end. CB Decker’s cartoon-like illustrations bring the story to
life with plenty of merry mayhem. The laughs come courtesy of coauthors Karen Rostoker-Gruber — a writer, humorist and ventriloquist — and Rabbi Ron Isaacs, the guitar-strumming rabbi emeritus of Temple Sholom in Bridgewater, NJ, and a best-selling author of more than 100 books. Sammy Spider’s First Taste of Hanukkah, a Cookbook Sylvia A. Rouss and Genene Levy Turndorf; illustrated by Katherine Janus Kahn Kar-Ben ($17.99 hardcover; $7.99 paperback; $6.99 eBook); ages five-nine Welcome back, Sammy Spider. In this 15th book of the wildly popular series, the friendly arthropod joins Josh and the Shapiro family in the kitchen just in time for Hanukka. In the introduction, Sammy Spider takes a page from the most famous and beloved of all spiders, E.B. White’s Charlotte of Charlotte’s Web. “I’m going to show Josh which recipes are Meat, Dairy, or Parve by spinning M, D or P in our web!” Sammy tells his mom. The colorfully illustrated book includes 18 easy-to-follow recipes for Hanukka meals and treats, including “Maccabee Munch” — a sweet, Chex-mix type treat — applesauce and “Chocolate Fun-due.” A fourth chapter features Hanukka craft projects. ■
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Most interfaith kids will utter this classic, and rather obnoxious, boast at some point during childhood. And I have to admit, it makes me wince and grit my teeth a little. As an interfaith child myself, I understand all too well that bragging about Christmas and Hanukka gifts can be a defense mechanism designed to dazzle and deflect those who view interfaith families with skepticism and disapproval. But as the parent of two interfaith children, now 17 and 20, it was crucial every year to at least attempt to reduce the avalanche of holiday packages, boxes, and bags. I really did not want my interfaith kids to feel entitled, superior, or somehow wealthier than their single-faith playmates. To be honest, I did try to give my kids double the gifts, but I wanted those gifts to be metaphorical, or experiential, not material. The plan was to bestow on them deep connections to both Judaism and Christianity, education in the history and rituals and beliefs of both religions, and opportunities to celebrate with extended family on both sides. In lieu of buying stuff, my husband and I tried to focus on creating deep sensory memories for our children: frosting gingerbread houses and frying latkes, hanging ornaments and dancing around the menora. OK, so we are not total Scrooges, or Grinches, or ascetics. Each child got one pile of gifts at the hol-
idays, and “Santa” delivered that pile on Christmas morning. I do understand why some families who don’t celebrate Christmas give a huge mound of presents on Hanukka instead. But giving two piles of presents on two overlapping holidays seemed to me like a misguided attempt to make the two holidays equal. Part of the beauty of celebrating both religions for our family is that Hanukka does not have to compete with Christmas. Instead we let Hanukka be a more modest holiday, appropriate to its modest place in the Jewish liturgical calendar. Part of our strategy was to communicate with all the grandparents and aunts and uncles our intention to try to keep the gift giving under control, and instead focus on those who are truly in need. Each year, we shepherded our children to the local Alternative Gift Fair, where they made charitable donations in lieu of Hanukka gifts. But being an interfaith family provided fresh incentive each year to try to make sure to focus on the carols and the klezmer, the firelight and the candlelight, and spending time with both sets of relatives. It took a conscious effort to keep Hanukka and Christmas from disappearing under a drift of torn red-andn green and blue-and-white wrapping paper. Susan Katz Miller, a former Newsweek reporter, is the author of Being Both: Embracing Two Religions in One Interfaith Family.
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they also learn about the ultimate corruption and failure of the Hasmonean dynasty itself. As they grow, they move further away from the simple message of Hanukka that they had claimed as children — to bring light to dark places. The contrast between the narrative about light that children learn in elementary school and the parallel one about the story of the Maccabean revolt that they learn more about as they get older is not just a developmental one — it’s a profound statement about how we view the world. Stories about war that can provide a sense of unity and purpose are ultimately draining, whereas ones about light and miracles are constantly renewing. Experiencing an ongoing war is grueling. Living in Jerusalem right now, I know that feeling intimately. Waves of
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Hanukka Lights from previous page terrorism, fear, uncertainty, and distrust rise and then (eventually) fall. And citizens, Jews and Arabs alike, are left wondering what the future will hold, without any clarity that the once-touted promise to live with “peace and security” will return. It’s hard to dream big or even to believe in miracles at a time of ongoing war. You live for the day, and then the day after. That is the mentality of war. A story of light and oil that lasted only for eight days is one of vision and hope. The rabbis of the Talmud picked up on the distinction. They spent so many more pages expounding upon the miracle of the oil, recounting the details of when and how to light the Hanukka menora and only a few lines about the military victory achieved by the Maccabeans. Focusing on the light was tactical. The rabbis didn’t want the legacy of Hanukka to be about a victory won by human hands in which God was absent. They wanted to elevate the victory of Hanukka to the heavenly realm. This is a celebration of miracles and God’s hand in history, not the brute force of the determined few, the rabbis would have said. The rabbinic approach is most telling in the haftara they selected for the Shabbat of Hanukka, which include the words from Zechariah, “Not by might, and not by power, but by my spirit, says the Lord.”
And now, living where I do, I understand the importance and wisdom of the rabbinic emphasis. Focusing on the miracle of the oil helps us put our faith in something bigger than ourselves. It gives us hope to look beyond the political machinations of the day to what the future could look like. It helps us break free of the never-ending cycle of violence and cynicism and can enable us to look forward to the possibilities that the “light driven” narrative can offer to our children and beyond. The rabbis wanted to ensure that a political victory, however needed at the time, wasn’t the end of the story. They wanted to ensure that we didn’t worship our own political might and are guided by a greater power. The Hanukka of the rabbis relies on the personal and embodied light that my five-year-old sings about. There is a beautiful idea from the Book of Proverbs that we each contain within ourselves a light, “The life breath (the soul) of a human is the lamp of God. With it, God searches all the hidden chambers.” (Proverbs 20:27) Our internal light is God’s light within us, searching out every part of us, revealing in the hidden places our abilities to manifest that light outward. This Hanukka, how can we return to the pure idea of our own personal lights, or “ner li,” as my daughter would croon? Not only the one I hold in my hand to light the Hanukka menora, but the one that I have within me to shine light into dark, seemingly unmovable or unchangeable places around us? n
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