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e live with a practical tradition. We begin the Jewish New Year with 10 days devoted to introspection. Between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur we are asked to review our past failures and victories, to evaluate our relationships and how we can make things better for ourselves and those we care for. We take stock of our lives and try to put ourselves back on the right path. “Het” is the Hebrew word commonly translated as “sin.” It is derived from the term that means “to miss the target.” The assumption is that sin is a mistake, an action we would correct, if possible. It is human to make mistakes — it is brave to try to correct them. This makes “teshuva” — translated as “to return” — an attainable task. We are not expected to be perfect, but we are expected to clean up the messes we have made. Our tradition identifies two categories of relationships: those we have with each other and those we have with God. The mistakes we make fall into these categories as well: the ways in which we hurt others and the ways in which we hurt God. Isn’t it incredible that we can hurt God? Some may disagree and ask, “How can a perfect God be concerned with our sins?” In my opinion, it is a measure of God’s love for us that God created a relationship in which God is affected by our actions. While some may say this is only a metaphor, I’m not so sure. If one truly believes in the concept of tikun olam, and recognizes our responsibility to fix the world, how can God not be disappointed and hurt when we fail? This interplay between teshuva and het, our relationship to others, creates a very involved dynamic and ideally forces us to face our frailties and responsibilities. We have made mistakes — how can we atone for them? We are always in need of repentance and atonement. We learn from the Midrash (Mishle 6:6): The students of Rabbi Akiva asked him, “Which is greater, teshuva or tzedaka?” He answered, “Teshuva, because sometimes one gives tzedaka to one who does not need it. However, teshuva comes from within (it is always needed).”
The students said, “Rabbi, have we not already found that tzedaka is greater than teshuva?” In this text, Rabbi Akiva places emphasis on the necessity of teshuva — we are always in need of repentance and atonement. Yet the students refuse to accept his answer. The text doesn’t provide a resolution to the debate and seemingly leaves the matter for us to decide. This text identifies some of the most important issues in our comm u n i t y today: How does one explore Judaism and derive deep meaning from it? What if you want to strengthen your Jewish identity? One way is through introspection and to find yourself in intense moments that we create through silent ritual and prayer. This is the essence of teshuva, the “return to one’s tradition.” This is one way, and it is a good way. But it is not the only way. Another way to achieve this goal is to immerse oneself in tzedaka. I have experienced moments of spiritual delight wrapped in my prayers and turning toward God, when the door opened and my path was illuminated. But I have also experienced the intensity of giving a bag of school supplies to a child who has never had them before, of delivering 20,000 pounds of food to a shelter in Mississippi or building a house in Appalachia. I found these experiences equivalent ways of becoming close to God. I can tell you this: When I am alone and feel in the dark, when I am scared and aware of my mortality, or when I am in pain, it is the tzedaka experiences that I dust off and recall. They bring me back. Ritual and prayer are vital expressions of my identity and form the basis of my observance, but my humanity comes n from tzedaka.
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rom Antarctica to Shanghai and from farms to cities, this year’s crop of High Holy Days books for children offers a globe-trotting exploration. Friendship and family are the themes that run through five new titles that entertain and inform young ones and older readers. Turning the pages of a new book is the perfect way to usher in the holidays. Penguin Rosh Hashanah, by Jennifer Tzivia MacLeod (CreateSpace Independent Publishing; ages three to six) Celebrating Rosh Hashana can be tough for a young penguin in Antarctica. There are no bees to make honey and no apple trees — just a lot of snow. In this warmhearted, offbeat introduction to the Jewish New Year, illustrated with photographs of penguins and their natural habitat, the little penguin sometimes finds it hard to do the right thing. In simple rhythmic verse, part of an animal-themed series on Jewish holidays (Otter Passover and Panda Purim), the Israeli-based writer Jennifer Tzivia MacLeod conveys the themes of Rosh Hashana — reflection, forgiveness, faith, and family. Time to Start a Brand New Year, by Rochel Groner Vorst; illustrated by Shepsil Scheinberg (Hachai Publishing; ages two to five) With this new title, Hachai Publishing adds to its collection of rhym-
ing, colorful stories for young kids. This High Holy Days story features a contemporary haredi Orthodox family getting ready to celebrate Rosh Hashana, from apple picking to harvesting honey to hearing the shofar. The author, who as a teen won Pittsburgh’s Holocaust poetry contest, is a kindergarten teacher at a Jewish day school in Charlotte, NC, where she grew up. Talia and the Very Yum Kippur, by Linda Elovitz Marshall; illustrated by Francesca Assirelli (KarBen; ages four to eight) The endearing Talia makes a return in this funny and charming encore to Talia and the Rude Vegetables, featuring a young girl who sometimes confuses grown-up words that sound like others. It’s Yom Kippur and Talia is visiting her grandparents, who live on a farm. She helps her grandmother prepare a noodle kugel for the family’s break fast, gathering eggs from the hen house and milking the cow with her grandfather. Kids will be tickled by the bit of merry mayhem that follows when Talia mistakes the Hebrew word “yom” (meaning “day”) for “yum” — and she begins to grow impatient for her family’s “breakfast” as she wonders why a “fast day” is moving so slowly. Grandma comes to the rescue by explaining that on Yom Kippur, people pray, fast, and ask for forgiveness for any wrongdoings, leading to a heartSee
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sight from Ashdod, where shop signs assure prospective customers that they have French-speaking staff, to Netanya, where some taxi drivers use broken, newly acquired French to communicate with tens of thousands of Francophones now living in the city. Their presence is evident in Jerusalem, too. “You used to be able to get by in our neighborhood with either English or Hebrew,” Sharansky said of Old Katamon, an affluent neighborhood that’s home to many American-Israelis. “Now you can add French to the list.” The influx makes 5775 ”the year of the aliya of choice,” according to Sharansky, who spent years in Soviet jails for his endeavors to make aliya from his native Donetsk in present-day Ukraine. This wave of olim from France — a Western and relatively
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In a small bowl place yeast, one teaspoon sugar, and lukewarm water. Allow to sit five to 10 minutes, until it becomes foamy on top. In a large bowl or stand mixer fitted with whisk attachment, mix together one and one-half cups flour, salt, and sugar. After the water-yeast mixture has become foamy, add to flour mixture along with oil and vanilla. Mix thoroughly. Add another cup of flour and eggs until smooth. Switch to the dough hook attachment using a stand mixer. Add another one to one-and-onehalf cups flour and then remove from bowl and place on a floured surface. Knead remaining flour into dough, continuing to knead for around 10 minutes. Don’t add more flour than the dough needs; the less flour, the lighter the dough. Place dough in a greased bowl and cover with damp towel. Allow to rise three to four hours.
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Preheat oven to 350 degrees. After the hallah is done rising, split the dough evenly in half. Divide each half into three pieces. Roll each piece into a snake and then flatten. Sprinkle crumb topping inside, then pinch sides up to close. Gently roll again to seal in filling. Repeat with all pieces and then braid, forming into a circle and pinching together each end of the braid. Repeat with second half of dough. Place each hallah on a parchment paper or silicon liner on baking sheet. Allow hallah to rise another 30-60 minutes, or until you can see the size has grown and hallah seems light. Whisk egg in a small bowl. Brush on top of each hallah. Top each hallah with remaining crumb mixture. Bake for 25-26 minutes, or until
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oming from a nonobservant change as new technology emerges,” family of Jewish immigrants which means that “what our society from the former Soviet Union to considers acceptable for sincere comIsrael, a country where many people munication, like asking for forgiveness tend to lead secular lifestyles to begin before Yom Kippur, also changes.” “There was a time when it wouldn’t with, I wasn’t raised in a particularly religious environment. In fact, I can be considered appropriate to perform count on fewer than five fingers the teshuva over the phone,” Miller says. times that I set foot in a synagogue “That changed as people moved farther away and there were not opporduring my childhood. But one aspect of the Jewish faith tunities for face-to-face communicathat has always appealed to me, and tion. Soon, e-mail and then texting likely appeals to many other Jews — became ‘tacky’ ways of performing religious and non-religious alike — is teshuva — until these were the most its introspective morality. Every fall common ways that we engage with season, we look back on the past year in advance of Yom Kippur, determine whom we have wronged, and try to atone for our interpersonal sins with sincere apologies. Around the time of Yom Kippur last year, I felt that I had unintentionally offended an old friend of mine. I then decided to make an apology. Belief in God or prayer aside, this felt to me like the decent Jewish religious leaders across denominations were asked thing to do. about the suitability of technology-facilitated Yom Kippur Without too much atonement. Photo by Colin/Wikimedia Commons thought about the medium, I made the apology through a Facebook message. each other.” Even so, Miller maintains that Although the apology was accepted, I later questioned whether I had han- face-to-face communication should remain the preferred mode of teshuva, dled this the right way. In the fast-paced world we live in because it is much more difficult to today, in which many social interac- ask for repentance in person. In fact, according to Rabbi Joshua tions are already conducted on-line, can apologizing on social media be Rabin, director of kehilla enrichconsidered true atonement? We sur- ment (organizational development) veyed Jewish religious leaders across at United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism, people often tend to apolodenominations on the subject. Popular Jewish blogger and social gize via social media “because somemedia expert Rabbi Jason Miller times it’s just easier to type a message strongly argues against technology-fa- to somebody than to look them in the eye.” cilitated atonement. Rabin says that these days, when “I’m a fan of face-to-face communication or, when not possible, a “more and more people use technolphone call. It’s important for people ogy — whether it’s text messaging or to hear your voice when you apolo- social media — to communicate with gize. Sending an e-mail, text message, each other about important things, it or Facebook message is a good start, actually is all the more reason why a but it’s not sufficient for the per- face-to-face personal apology is the formance of teshuva [atonement],” most meaningful thing you can do. It’s that much different from the typMiller says. Yet Miller does acknowledge that “our communication preferences See Atonement page 50
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RoshHashana Apology from page 34 haps a woman would better understand my need to obsess a bit this year, I asked my friend (and fellow Kvell-er) Rebecca Einstein Schorr, a Reform rabbi, to advise me as if I were a congregant. I gave her the same spiel: “How can I move forward in a relationship when I’m owed an apology, but it never comes?” Rebecca agreed that the responsibility for teshuva (repentance) lies with the one who has wronged another individual. “However,” she continued, “waiting for another person to recognize his or her role in causing you pain can shackle you to the past. While the onus still resides with the person who has hurt you, there is nothing constructive about holding onto grudges.” “But how am I supposed to get rid of a grudge?” I asked. “The best advice I can give someone is to act as though the other person has asked for forgiveness. Aside from extreme examples of physical or emotional abuse, it can be more productive to release others and move forward with the relationship in cases where no apology is forthcoming.”
I admitted I had no extreme situations to report, but I was still apprehensive about starting a new year devoting any time to a friend who is unable to recognize her role in a rift. I continued the conversation with my friend Rivkie Grossbaum, who also happens to be a teacher at Chabad Minneapolis. There are three levels of forgiveness in Judaism, she told me. In the first level, “We might still be upset, yet we find it in ourselves not to hope for the person’s downfall.” I could manage level one, as I don’t tend to imagine revenge schemes. “At the second stage,” Rivkie said, “we might not be ready to relate to the person as we did before, but we are able to stop carrying feelings of resentment.” I liked that Rivkie differentiated between moving on from resentment and being close to the person again. “The third stage is restoring the relationship. At this level not only have we forgiven the individual, but we’re now ready to be close again. The Talmud explains that we’re expected to find the strength to forgive on the first level. Absence of any forgiveness
whatsoever is a sign of cruelty.” There’s no doubt that the toxic nature of a grudge has allowed me to overly focus on the few problematic relationships in my life instead of the many that are going well. I do not want to become the kind of person who is always feeling offended. And I think it’s safe to say if you’re perpetually waiting for an apology from friends and family, the problem is likely you and not everyone else. The truth is, even if I decide to bring up the issues with the few people I have in mind, the exact apology I’m hoping for is probably not coming. By the time Yom Kippur begins, I’m going to force myself to stop obsessing about it, which is a decent form of forgiveness, albeit the most basic one. I hope that the people I’ve hurt will release me on that level, too. Maybe in another year I can improve my capacity for a higher form of forgiveness, or at the very least spend more time worrying about who n I’ve hurt rather than the other way around. This piece originally appeared on Kveller, a 70 Faces Media company.
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tants and professional problem-solvers who offer an array of preparatory sessions tailored to particular olim groups, like pensioners or families. Unlike North American Jews, who immigrate to Israel at a steady rate of approximately 3,500 people each year, French immigrants to Israel can also be seen as olim of necessity because many are fleeing anti-Semitism, Sharansky conceded. He last visited Paris in January, just two days after an armed Islamist gunned down four Jews at the city’s Hyper Cacher kosher shop. He spoke there to French Jews who were too fearful to wear their kipot on the street, who told him they would immigrate to Israel because they feel they’re being chased out of their homeland. Yet, Sharansky pointed out, nobody is forcing these emigres to Israel. “Their arrival in such numbers is an achievement for Israel because the olim from France could have gone anywhere in Europe — to Britain, for example,� Sharansky said. “Many could have gone to the United States or Canada or Australia, but they chose Israel, not only for emotional reasons, but also because it competes well against all these other options economically, culturally, and in terms of quality of life.�
Meanwhile, aliya of necessity is also making a comeback, with nearly 10,000 people leaving wartorn Ukraine for Israel over the past 18 months. During that period, more Ukrainians moved to Israel than during the preceding five years. Since the eruption last year of a civil conflict in the country’s east, aliya figures from Ukraine increased dramatically, reaching 5,840 emigres in 2014 — a 190 percent increase over 2013. In the first half of 2015, Israel saw the arrival of 3,450 Ukrainians compared to 2,592 French Jews. Unlike French citizens, Ukrainians need visas to live in — or even visit — European Union member states. For Ukrainian Jews, Israel is often the only Western country willing to take them in. In parallel, immigration from Russia is also increasing due to the depreciation of the Russian ruble and the erosion of civil liberties under the government of Vladimir Putin, Sharansky said. In the first six months of 2015, a total of 2,958 Russian Jews — mostly from affluent cities like Moscow and St. Petersburg — made aliya, compared to 1,944 in the corresponding period last year. “They don’t want to be locked in if the doors
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RoshHashana Aliya from previous page close again,” Sharansky said. The Jewish Agency is well versed in handling immigration of that sort. As recently as 2013, aliya from the former Soviet Union, Ethiopia, and developing nations accounted for 50 percent of the total of 19,558 newcomers. But last year, aliya from those countries accounted for 45 percent of the 26,627 total, with Western countries — France, especially — providing the difference that tipped the scale in favor of aliya of choice. Still, Sharansky has limited hope for attracting great numbers of Jews from Ukraine — home to European Jewry’s second-largest community, with roughly 360,000 Jews — and Russia, where 250,000 Jews live. “Those who wanted to leave have left,” he said in reference to hundreds of thousands of Ukrainian olim who came in the 1990s. “[For] those who stayed, we are making it easier for them to come, but in many cases they are determined to stay.” Indeed, the vast majority of Ukrainian Jews have thrown in their lot with their young, anguished country. Thousands of Jews from the wartorn east — where secessionist militias backed by Russia are still fighting government troops despite a truce — live in refugee-camp conditions or with relatives, preferring to wait out the storm rather than emigrate. In Kiev, middle-class Jews, whose life savings have lost half their value, are waiting for better days. Many feel solidarity with their country, where anti-Semitic incidents are relatively rare. “Everybody is suffering now: Jews, ethnic Rus-
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Shofar from page 46 sians, ethnic Ukrainians, Muslims,” said Zvi Arieli, a Jewish resident of Kiev whose military background prepared him for his volunteer role as a coordinator on security matters for the city’s Jewish community. “There’s also a sense of unity in that.” By contrast, Jews in Western Europe often speak of feeling singled out in the wake of attacks like the one at Hyper Cacher or the slaying of a Danish Jew in February outside his synagogue in Copenhagen. Mr. Fitoussi, a regular shopper at Hyper Cacher who declined to give his first name, said he decided to leave for Israel next year after he was called a “dirty Jew” on his way to synagogue, even though he was wearing a hat at the time over his kipa to avoid exactly that kind of situation. “I don’t know how he knew I was Jewish,” said Fitoussi, who started concealing his kipa a few years ago. “They are looking for us now, and the more we hide, the closer they will look.” He chose Israel because “it’s just a continuation — a correction, perhaps — of life in France,” he said. “A house in Paris will be a house in Jerusalem and the house in Netanya will replace the one in Deauville,” he said, in reference to a beach resort n popular among Parisian Jews.
ascribes to the shofar the power “to confuse the accuser,” suggesting that the sound of the shofar would destroy the power of Satan to speak against Israel on these holy days. Latter-day mystics, following this talmudic tradition, added a collection of verses from Psalms to be read before the blowing of the shofar. One of them, Min hameitzar (out of the depths), is composed of an acrostic that reads kera satan (destroy Satan). Another ancient use of the horn on the New Year was to proclaim the coronation of the victorious gods. We can see how this practice has been reinterpreted in Jewish tradition, which sees Rosh Hashana as the day when God, having completed the work of creation, is crowned king. In the words of the psalmist, “With trumpets and the blast of the horn, raise a shout before the n Lord, the king” (Ps. 98:6). Rabbi Reuven Hammer is a former president of the International Rabbinical Assembly and one of the founders of the Masorti movement in Israel. This article is excerpted with permission from Entering the High Holy Days, published by the Jewish Publication Society, and appeared at myjewishlearning.com.
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ical option.” But there’s one exception, Rabin argues: “if the wrong you committed was actually through social media.” “If you were to write a really nasty tweet about somebody…I think that any teshuva process should involve your actually apologizing through that medium to begin the process, because that’s where the wrong was committed,” he says. Rabbi Roni Handler — religious leader of Temple Micah in Lawrenceville, director of community learning for the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, and executive editor of Ritualwell.org (a website committed to blending Jewish tradition with innovation) — also believes that if the sin being atoned for is directly connected to social media, “there’s actually something really powerful about stating that [apology] on-line.” “If we are atoning for something like spending too much time on social media and not paying attention to our family, then putting out a statement like that might serve to hold us accountable and show our recognition of having a problem in this area,” Handler says. “But it shouldn’t be that we just state it and then go back to our regu-
lar behavior,” she adds. “That, in fact, is not doing teshuva according to any Jewish scholar.” In the Reconstructionist movement, explains Handler, “we value community a lot, and obviously the face-to-face community is really special and powerful.… But we are always thinking about other ways in which we can connect as well. I don’t know that [social media] should replace face-to-face connection, but we do recognize that community is important and there are a lot of different ways to connect.” Handler believes there is a difference between posting a public apology on social media and sending a direct social media message to an individual. Posting a public apology has its place and value, though in many cases it should be just the first step on the way to teshuva, says Handler. Regarding direct messages on social media, their suitability for atonement “depends on the relationship itself,” she says. “There is a lot that can end up being misconstrued in writing, whether it is in an e-mail, in a text, or on-line.… Something that people might be writing quickly because they’re running out of the door might come out as curt or angry. So when one is making teshuva, having the proper intention
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Atonement from previous page is so important for that. If the relationship that you have is one that you feel an e-mail could be sufficient [for an apology] then in that case maybe that would be okay,” Handler says. Rabbi Esther Lederman, director of communities of practice at the Union for Reform Judaism, also cautions against making a mass apology on social media because forgiveness in the Jewish tradition must be sought “directly from the person you have hurt” and is “also about repairing the relationship, which can’t be done anonymously.” Additionally, when it comes to apologizing to someone directly via social media, Lederman believes that the medium is less significant than the intention of the apology. “I’ve had very meaningful exchanges by chat and e-mail, although I am also someone who prefers to communicate with a person by voice,” she says. Lederman says she fears a world in which “technology will replace the real human to human contact that is necessary for sacred engagement.” If this occurs, she says, “What is the point in gathering together as a community at an appointed time? I believe there is a sacred purpose to that and I don’t want e-mail, Facebook, or Twitter to ever replace this.” The social media editor of Chabad.org, Rabbi Mordechai Lightstone, emphasizes that the most important aspect of atoning for interpersonal transgressions is understanding that forgiveness centers on how the aggrieved person receives the apology. If that person feels they were apologized to in the right way, then whatever the medium is becomes less significant. “When we wish to truly convey the emotional impact of our words, we must make sure we truly understand how they will appear,” Lightstone says. That appearance, in turn, will differ depending on who is receiving the apology. “To some, nothing short of a phone call before Yom Kippur would be considered a serious and honest form of asking forgiveness,” says Lightstone. “To others, the very thought of a phone call would be considered unnecessary and even socially awkward. It takes a true understanding of who your friends are to really know the best way to reach out.” Lightstone, therefore, is unlikely to consider my aforementioned decision to apologize to my friend via Facebook as invariably wrong, as long as the apology was truly accepted. “If I’m able to truly convey my heartfelt remorse with an emoji and a short message, and I know that the person receiving it will be fully comforted or even prefer that text over a phone call or face-to-face apology, then I’m happy to do so,” Lightstone says. ■
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