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20 PHOTOGRAPHY Plan your photos like a pro.

22 Times are changing A second chance for love.

COVER STORY | 10 TRUE ROMANCE A dream wedding came true for one Clayton couple.

23 a veiled opportunity Tradition completes the look.

FEATURES | 16 vintage is vogue Heirloom rings, wedding gowns are popular family treasures.

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29 A lasting commitment Rings are symbols of love.

WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY | 31 FEATURED PHOTOS Five north country wedding photographers share some of their best shots from 2015. |

32 LAUREN HARRIENGER 34 Amanda Morrison 38 Stephen swofford 40 CHRIS BOVA 42 KRISTEN CHARLES ON THE COVER | A groom lands a kiss on his bride’s cheek.

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18 STRESS-FREE PLANNING Follow these tips to ensure your day is a real celebration.

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C o ntri b u t o rs NORAH MACHIA is a freelance writer and former Watertown Daily Times staff writer who lives in Watertown.

In features, she writes about how many engaged couples take inspiration from the past when planning their weddings, especially when it comes to engagement rings and wedding gowns. (pg. 16)

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Harold B. Johnson II BOO WELLS is a freelance writer, chef and owner of the Farm House Kitchen, a catering company and cooking school in Sackets Harbor. In features, she offers some advice on planning the big day, emphasizing the celebration of love. A wedding is “the melding of two families, their customs, their beliefs and their lives.” (pg. 18)

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FOR CLAYTON COUPLE, NUPTIALS SURROUNDED BY LOVE, JOY STORY BY KAREE M. MAGEE PHOTOS BY DAVE BONNEY, KATHLEEN TROTTIER & SARAH ELLEN SMITH

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Kassandra Kittle’s goal for her wedding day was to keep it fun, keep it moving and as stress-free as possible, a perfect match for her relationship with husband Colby Mallette.

Growing up in Clayton together, Kassandra and Colby were best friends long before they ventured into dating during the spring after their freshman year at different colleges.

“Neither of us wanted to ruin anything,” Kassandra said. “We were best friends first.”

About a year later, the couple decided they wanted to make it official, but the real test for the relationship came two years later in 2009.

Kassandra took a job in Los Angeles

and “dragged the country boy” to the big city, she said, where they moved into a tiny studio apartment.

“We didn’t have anybody there,” she said. “It was just us. That was the turning point that we knew we were in it for the long run.”

Five years later, after moving back to Clayton and in the middle of building their house, Colby planned his proposal.

On Aug. 28, 2014, Colby and Kassandra headed to The Ivy Lea Club in Canada on a boat captained by Kassandra’s godfather, Jim Schnauber, and his wife for Kassandra’s 27th birthday.

Ten minutes from the restaurant, as the clouds opened and let through a ray of sunshine, Colby asked her if she wanted

her last birthday present.

“At that moment that’s when I realized,” Kassandra said.

The surprise didn’t end there. Returning home from the restaurant, they stopped at Kassandra’s grandparents’ house where her parents, sister and brother were waiting before heading to the Clipper Inn to celebrate with her friends.

“I still get goosebumps thinking about it,” she said. “It was filled with so much laughter, so much love.”

It was in the same spirit that Kassandra began planning her wedding, but she also wanted a ceremony that was simple, costeffective and low-key, she said.

The ceremony was an intimate affair at Christ Episcopal Church, Clayton, dec-

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orated sparsely in neutral colors, dusky pink and scatterings of gold metallic.

Kassandra and Colby were married in front of just 120 guests with a personal sermon by the Rev. John Crosswaite. “He said ‘we felt like a pair of old shoes to him,’” Kassandra said. “’Our relationship was comforting, it was loved.’”

But while the ceremony was personal, the reception mirrored the style of their engagement, full of people.

On July 24, 2015, 500 people entered

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The focus was totally on fun and happiness.

The biggest thing to us was having everyone we loved there.

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through the sparsely decorated dairy barn at Zenda Farms. Two troughs by the entrance were filled with signature drinks in mason jars, summer sangrias and mojitos, followed by old wooden chests lined with fabrics for guests to leave their gifts while the old farm equipment lingered by the walls.

“I wanted to instantly create the feel and keep the trueness to the venue,” Kassandra said.

The main barn was decorated with neutral-colored Chinese lanterns of varying sizes, mint green panels with pink lace and items like crystal springs crates with flower vases on top.

“It’s not crazily decorated,” Kassandra said. “I wanted it to be charming, but not over the top.”

Kassandra said she didn’t want the focus to be on the decorations or anything except having fun.

Despite areas for indoor and outdoor seating, sitting was discouraged, including during dinner.

Seven food stations were positioned around the barn, including fajitas, pasta, cheese and a mashed potato bar.

“We wanted everyone to eat,” Kassandra said. “We just didn’t want them to sit down and eat. We wanted to keep the fun up.”

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Late-night food was also provided in the form of sheet pizzas, delivered by Attilio’s in Clayton. And while there was a traditional wedding cake, cake pops were the main event.

To keep the guests entertained, Kassandra booked two music groups. Nik and the Nice Guys from Rochester played a mix of pop, rock and country during the majority of the reception, but it was local group Annie in the Water, an acoustic rock duo, who played for cocktail hour and the first dance to “500 Miles.”

“It’s like the most romantic song ever,” Kassandra said. “I wanted it to represent who we were. The traditional sappy version was not for us.”

Whether it was the low-key ceremony or the upbeat reception, the day fit Kassandra’s expectations.

“The focus was totally on fun and happiness,” she said. “The biggest thing to us was having everyone we loved there.”

Kassandra said that she wanted to be able to look up and make eye contact with someone who made her smile.

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The details

Kassandra Kittle & Colby Mallette JULY 24, 2015 HOMETOWNs: Clayton (bride and groom) Parents of the BRIDE: Patti and George Kittle Parents of the groom: Carol Mallette and the late Dale Mallette CEREMONY: Christ Episcopal Church, Clayton officiant: The Rev. John Crosswaite RECEPTION: Zenda Farms MAID OF HONOR: Jessica Kittle, sister of the bride best man: Ian McCallum bridesmaids: McKenzie Cantwell, Abby Morrow, Ashley Bryant, Nikki Costello, Alison Cerow-Ingalls, Emily Burgess, Alex Buduson, Chelsey Greenberg groomsmen: Bryan Wiley, Jacob Wiley, Matt Costantino, Tim Aubertine, Ben Augliano, Kolby Kittle, Andy Schultz, Kyle LaLonde hair: Natalie Curtis, Ellen’s Beauty Shop, Clayton; River Day Spa & Salon, Clayton makeup: Lashes, Locks & Lips Make Up Artistry, Syracuse dresses: The Lovely Bride, New York City tuxedos: Nelson’s Dry Cleaning & Formal Wear, Watertown

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Above, Mark Waterbury, owner of Waterbury Fine Jewelers, 105 Court St., examines an hierloom engagement ring at his store. Below, a vintage engagement ring from the 1920s has a classic filigree band.

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It’s not unusual for many engaged couples to take inspiration from the past when planning for their big day, especially when it comes to the wedding gown and the rings.

Mark Waterbury, owner of Waterbury Fine Jewelers, 105 Court St., in the Top of the Square Plaza, has observed this trend for years.

“For some people, it’s an old family tradition” to pass down an engagement ring from one generation to the next, he said.

Often times the bride-to-be is interested in her mother’s ring because of its “great sentimental value,” Mr. Waterbury said.

In his line of business, Mr. Waterbury will sometimes get requests from couples to refurbish and/or resize vintage diamond engagement rings. The rings from the early

1900s through the 1930s are often popular with brides-to-be because of the filigree on the bands, something that is unique to that time period, he said.

“It’s a classic style,” he said.

The filigree design first became popular in the early 1900s, and reached its peak during the Art Deco era of the 1920s and 1930s. These engagement rings were created by jewelers who were able to twist

thread of metals, such as silver, into intricate designs for the band. A diamond was added once the band was completed.

Mr. Waterbury said sometimes a vintage engagement ring can just be resized, but in other cases, it’s become too delicate to be worn on a daily basis. As a result of 3-D camera technology, however, it’s possible to replicate the intricate filigree pattern on the band to match the original, he said.

“Sometimes we have to replicate a ring that can’t be salvaged,” he said. “But the original diamond remains.”

Vintage wedding gowns are often preserved for future use as well, said Tina Petrillose of Pine Cleaners, 237 Franklin St. Cleaning and preserving wedding gowns is one of the services offered through the business.

The Watertown business contracts with a company in Montreal to package the

F E AT U R E S This 1941 v-neck wedding gown with intricate beading and shirring was donated to the Jefferson County Historical Society by the family of the late Margaret Phillips.

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The late Mrs. Phillips, whose maiden name was Roch, had married Patrick Phillips in 1941. She was a school teacher who taught throughout Jefferson County.

“She loved children,” her niece said.

The Jefferson County Historical Society often receives donated vintage wedding dresses, said volunteer Deborah Gillan.

Gowns are stored in archival boxes and packed with acid free paper. When they are taken out of their boxes, they must be

handled with white cotton gloves, she said.

“Sometimes gowns are donated by family members, and other times, they are donated by the woman herself,” Mrs. Gillan said.

The nonprofit museum also receives donations of vintage wedding veils, and headpieces, some dating back to the 1900s, she said.

NORAH MACHIA is a former Watertown Daily Times reporter and freelance writer who lives in Watertown. Contact her at norahmachia@gmail.com.

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gowns in acid-free paper and vacuum seal them in a box, she said.

A representative from the Montrealbased company travels to Watertown every two weeks to pick up the weddings gowns, Mrs. Petrillose said.

“We have many people who want to preserve their wedding gowns” so they could be worn again by future generations, she said.

Even Mrs. Petrillose had her own wedding gown cleaned and preserved for her daughter to use someday, although “she will probably want to get rid of the big poufy sleeves,” she joked.

Some people take a different approach to preserving their wedding dress, or at least parts of it, she said.

“I know people who have taken some lace and beading off their gowns, and have used it to create a baptismal dress for their children,” she said.

Vintage-inspired wedding dresses have become more popular in recent years, with some being altered to provide a mix between classic and modern day looks.

According to a Los Angeles Times article, there has been a trend for some brides to choose gowns that are more conservative, focusing on elements such as “soft lace, flowing fabrics,” along with classic embellishments.

The family of the late Margaret Roch Phillips donated her 1941 vintage wedding gown to the Jefferson County Historical Society, Watertown. She died in 2012.

The late Mrs. Phillips and her husband, Patrick, owned the former White House Inn on Washington Street. It was torn down in 1969 to make way for the construction of the Dulles State Office Building.

Her vintage ecru satin wedding gown is typical of the 1940s era. It has full-length sleeves with buttons at the bottom, intricate v-neck beading, and shirring in the bust area.

Carolyn McDonald, the niece of the late Mrs. Phillips who now lives in Yuma, Ariz., said the family donated the gown to the nonprofit museum as a tribute to her late aunt.

But in addition to its historical significance, it may also provide inspiration for modern day brides-to-be in selecting their own gowns, she said.

Mrs. McDonald said she would not be surprised if certain details of her late aunt’s wedding gown were replicated in more modern-day wedding dresses.

“We donated it in memory of her,” Mrs. McDonald said. “She never had children to pass it down to, but maybe other women will get inspiration from the dress.”

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A survivor’s guide to planning Take a deep breath and remember that it’s a celebration

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If you are a PHOTOGRAPHER, wedding vendor, caterer, DJ or anyone else who sells services to brides, you might want to stop reading. If you are a bride, a groom, a member of the bride or groom’s family or the person who will ultimately get stuck with the bill for the blessed event, read on.

In its infancy, a wedding is a joyous celebration of two people’s love for one another. It’s the melding of two families, their customs, their beliefs and their lives.

It is the beginning of a lifetime of laughter and memorable times. A Norman Rockwell image of two families brought together by a couple’s love, shared vacations, shared holidays, shared grandchildren or grand pets. Once the initial excitement of the engagement wears off, it’s time to get down to the serious business of planning the big day. As the ideas

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and dreams begin to grow and take shape, much like a child, the wedding begins to take on a personality of its own. And, this is where the trouble begins.

Bridal magaBoo Wells zines like Martha Stewart Weddings, Vogue Bride, and wedding blogs like TheKnot.com start creeping into the dreaming and planning phase. The wedding industry’s lists of “Do’s” and “Don’ts” begins to consume and dictate.

Martha Stewart whispers etiquette advice and Emily Post warns of seating chart faux pas. Then there is Pintrest —

need I say more? Suddenly, the celebration becomes one more stressful event in a long line of stressful events. The wedding industry makes you feel like you are behind from the minute the engagement ring is slipped onto your finger.

The best photographers will be booked, the venues taken, and so on. The clever DIY ideas on Pinterest start sucking you in like making your own paper maché

Before the marketing companies, blogs and glamorous glossy magazines completely overwhelm you, stop and take a deep breath. lanterns versus learning to blow glass and creating candelabras for each table, along with making your own wedding cake and several hundred individual mini cakes, one for each guest.

I have catered and helped plan hundreds of weddings in my 16 years in business. I have watched as the celebration turns from fun to exhausting.

Here is my advice: Before the marketing companies, blogs and glamorous glossy magazines completely overwhelm you, stop and take a deep breath. Close your eyes and try to envision what your wedding looks like and what it feels like. Is it low key, river casual or black tie elegant? Are guests wearing cocktail dresses and madras, sundresses and shorts or evening gowns and tuxedos? Does the reception feel relaxed or is there a more formal schedule for the event’s activities.

Think about the two families who are being joined, their lifestyles and backgrounds and let that information help create the type of celebration that best represents you. Try not to let the wedding

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Do’s & don’ts Do’s n Take a deep breath. n Learn to “go with the flow.” n Delegate. n Laugh at the snafus — they will happen. n Have fun — remember, it’s a party.

Don’t n Forget that this is ONE day in the rest of your life. n Break the bank (see above). n Overthink the details. n Plan to make your own wedding cake (been there). n Expect your bridal party to be superhuman — they have lives, too. n Allow the little things that go wrong to ruin your entire day. n Subscribe to hysteria-inducing websites or people.

Boo Wells is a freelance writer, chef and owner of the Farm House Kitchen, a catering company and cooking school in Sackets Harbor.

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industry or the other weddings that you have attended dictate what your celebration is all about.

You and your families are the hosts of the party and it’s your job to make sure your guests are comfortable and have an enjoyable time. There are items you must take into account as a host. For instance, it is important to feed people if you are serving alcohol.

If you are having a seated dinner it is polite to make sure that there is a seat for every guest. If your guests are older than 16, is would be considerate to make sure the style of music you select isn’t techno or rap (maybe that is just my own personal opinion) the list goes on, but it’s mostly common sense stuff.

This is a celebration of the future and the emphasis needs to stay on the word celebration. How you and your family define “celebration” is personal and should not be influenced by Martha or The Knot.

Step back and remember that this is one day in the rest of your life — a party. This day should be fun, it should be a day you and your family remember forever as one of the best days of your lives, not as one of the most stressful or most expensive.

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ith everything that goes into your wedding day, those once-in-a-lifetime moments will go by in a blur, which is why hiring a professional wedding photographer is a must. After all, the last thing you should be worrying about is whether your photographer will be able to cap-

ture your big day.

The key? Prepare yourself so that you can accurately evaluate the “right” photographer for you.

“The best photographer will take the time to build a rapport with you and use his or her experience and creativity to capture the mood, personality, ambiance and even the geography of your wed-

ding,” says Professional Photographers of America photographer Berit Bizjak.

“The finest wedding photography is more than a series of still pictures. It’s physical poetry — it tells the story of the day and portrays the essence of both people and place.”

To this end, PPA, the largest international nonprofit association created by

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The best photographer will take the time to build a rapport with you. The finest wedding photography is more than a series of still pictures. It’s physical poetry — it tells the story of the day and portrays the essence of both people and place.

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Berit Bizjak, photographer, Professional Photographers of America professional photographers, has taken the guesswork out of the process by offering six tips to help you plan your wedding photos like a pro: 1) Book far in advance. The best photographers get booked quickly — sometimes as much as a year in advance — so don’t wait until the last minute to book your photographer.

2) Show them the money. Now is not the time to skimp on your photo budget.

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services, and remember: after the cake is long gone, and the dress is stored away, your wedding photos will be the only things left to share and enjoy for years to come, so don’t cut too many corners on your photography budget — you’ll end up regretting it.

3) Make sure your photographer is a real pro. Only hire someone who has liability insurance, experience taking the style of photos you want, backup equipment and a plan for when things go south. Ideally, he or she is a PPA photographer. PPA photographers do more than just snap pictures. They have the technical expertise and artistry to make you look your best and bring your vision to life. They also abide by a strict code of ethics that makes a real difference.

4) Request to see a full gallery of real weddings. Look at full wedding coverage (not just a small selection of each wedding’s best moments) to see a photographer’s true style and get a sense of how he or she might tell your “story.” Do you prefer more artistic or traditional poses?

Would you rather have a photojournalist approach or a mix of all styles?

5) Work with your photographer to create a detailed shot list. PPA wedding photographers can also help you create that shot list, as they know what key moments tell a wedding story and can prepare for those. But talk about your must-haves, and walk through the entire program with your photographer ahead of time. Share your expectations ahead of time to ensure that he or she captures the key shots, while remaining attentive and available to catch the best candid moments.

6) Plan your post-wedding photo strategy ahead of time. Almost as soon as the festivities are over, you’ll be eager to look at the photos so you can relive your big day over and over again. Ask your photographer for teasers or a “sneak peek” and a timeline for when the rest of the pictures will be available. Will they give you an online gallery for family and friends to choose the images they want?

Again, knowing these things ahead of time will make things easy on the back end, sparing you any heartache.

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ouples planning to get married do so with the intention of spending the rest of their lives together. Few couples exchange rings thinking divorce or the loss of a spouse is in their future, but some marriages do end. Happily, that reality does not prevent many people from seeking happily ever after once again.

A recent study from the Pew Research Center found that many people who were married before are deciding to take the plunge a second time. Four in 10 new marriages in the United States now include one partner who was married before. Roughly 42 million American adults have gotten married a second time - up from 22 million in 1980.

The Pew study also discovered that more men than women are likely to get remarried. Around 65 percent of previously married men have a desire to remarry, compared to 43 percent of previously married women.

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for a second time can consider the following tips to help make the day one to remember forever. n Recognize that a second wedding is in no way less important than the first.

Couples should remember that this is still the first wedding for the two of them as

good party. Friends and family who are supportive of you shouldn’t have reservations about helping you celebrate. n Don’t feel boxed in by old-school etiquette. Rules have relaxed with regard to weddings. Many couples put their personal imprints on their weddings

Don’t feel boxed in by old-school etiquette.

Many couples put their personal imprints on their weddings and do not feel the need to conform to outdated expectations. a couple and it should be seen as just as special as any other wedding celebration.

It’s easy for men and women marrying for a second time to be hard on themselves, especially when thinking ahead to the gifts that were given and the money spent by guests for their first marriage. But a new relationship and love is worthy of a

and do not feel the need to conform to outdated expectations. You don’t have to skip all of the frills of a first wedding the second time around or head to the local courthouse and pass on another big wedding. Do what feels comfortable to you, whether that means throwing a big party or hosting a smaller affair. n Let past experience serve as your guide. You’ve been married before and can use that to your advantage. It’s likely you know what worked for the wedding the first time around and which things you probably could have changed or done without. Maybe you were stressed about having everything go perfectly or feeling like you had to put on a show for guests. As a more mature person this time around, you no doubt realize that sharing this special time with the ones you love is the most important wedding component of all. n Be open-minded with your wardrobe.

Let the formality of the event and the time of day when you’re getting married influence what you will be wearing instead of perceived etiquette or family notions. It’s acceptable to wear white again if you so desire. Plus, more mature couples have a sense of what makes them look good, rather than opting for trendy outfits. n Above all, have fun. Couples know what to expect the second time around, so stress usually doesn’t stem from the unknown. You may feel more relaxed at a second wedding, so let that ensure you have a great night

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he perfect dress is on the wish list of many a bride-to-be, but no bridal ensemble is truly complete until the bride chooses her veil.

Veils have been worn by brides at their weddings for centuries. Veils can be traced back to the Middle East, where veils helped protect against the weather while also preserving the modesty of the bride.

In Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome, veils were used as protection against evil spirits.

According to popular wedding website The Knot.com, until Vatican II, all Catholic women were required to have their heads covered in church, including during their wedding ceremonies. Veils were worn for this purpose, but they also symbolized trust in the groom and his love and companionship. Some Christians also see the veil as a visual representation of submission to the Church and to God. Others think of the veil as another beautiful accompaniment to their bridal gown, without attaching any additional meaning to the veil itself.

Veils come in various lengths and can complement the style of a wedding gown.

They also tend to add glamour to brides’ looks. Here are the types of veils from shortest to longest.

Blusher: Blushers cover the face, though some extend only to mid-cheek on the bride.

FLYAWAY: Flyaways cover just the back of the head. Shorter veils may work better on petite women.

SHOULDER: Shoulder veils are about 20 inches in length and will hit at the bride’s shoulders or just below.

WAIST: Waist-length veils cascade down to the middle of the bride’s waist.

FINGERTIP: These veils extend down 38 to 42 inches, brushing against the bride’s fingertips. waltz/knee: For a dramatic look, many brides may opt for waltz-length veils, which fall to the back of the knees. chapel/floor: Veils that extend to the floor may be referred to as “chapel” or “floor-length” veils. Such veils cascade slightly behind the bride.

Veils can complete brides’ wedding day looks. Shorter veils may be comfortable to wear throughout the day and evening, but brides may want to consider detachable veils if they are selecting lengthier options.

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ouples planning their weddings realize pretty quickly just how expensive weddings can be. Depending on where couples tie the knot, the costs can stretch into the tens of thousands of dollars, leaving many young men and women to scramble to find ways to trim costs without trimming quality.

Many couples look for ways to cut wedding costs, and couples facing that very dilemma should know that there are several ways to save money but still host the wedding of their dreams.

Guest list Guest lists can consume a significant portion of couples’ wedding budgets. When compiling the guest list, couples should keep in mind that guests will need savethe-date cards, invitations, catered meals (including cocktail hour, dinner and dessert), drinks, and gifts (including hotel gift bags and wedding favors). So the cost per guest will be more than just the per person cost of the meal couples negotiate with their caterer. Couples who can pare their guests lists down to just family and close friends can save a substantial amount of money without affecting their ceremonies.

Arrangements Floral arrangements are a big and potentially expensive part of many couples’ weddings. The bride needs her bouquet, as do her bridesmaids. In addition, many couples decorate their ceremony space with flowers, and of course reception table centerpieces typically include flowers as well. When working with your florist, request in-season flowers, which will cost considerably less than exotic flowers that are out of season. In addition, let your florist know your budget and ask that he or she recommend

flowers that won’t break the bank.

Gifts While it’s become customary to prepare gift bags for guests staying in hotels, couples should not go overboard with such gifts. Gift bags need not include more than a snack, a bottle of water and a homemade thank-you card. Couples also should not break the bank with regard to reception gifts, which have also become a standard offering. Keep such gifts simple and inexpensive, even opting for homemade gifts if you and your future spouse are skilled with crafts.

Wedding costs can be eye-opening for couples preparing to walk down the aisle.

Fortunately, there are many ways to cut costs without cutting quality.

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Reception A couple’s wedding reception also will chew up a lot of their wedding budgets.

But there are ways to reduce the costs of receptions, too. Couples planning on having a morning wedding can shift their receptions from the evening to the afternoon, when the cost per meal will be considerably less. Afternoon receptions also can be alcohol-free, saving couples even more money. If a nighttime reception is a must-have, choose a limited cash bar instead of an open bar. Limited cash bars often provide guests with free beer and house wine while guests who prefer liquor or mixed drinks must pay for their own libations. If you are planning an outdoor wedding reception, you may even be able to provide your own alcohol, which can save considerable amounts of money.

Couples also can trim reception costs

by choosing the least expensive meal package. Packages often differ greatly in price but are not always so different with regard to their menus. If you find the packages offered by your venue are similar, choose the least expensive option.

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hen planning their weddings, couples may find themselves becoming experts on subjects they previously never gave much thought. Thanks to the cost of weddings, today’s couples must make each decision carefully, and that may result in hours of research and discussion.

One of the big decisions couples must make when planning their weddings concerns their floral arrangements. The right floral arrangements won’t break the bank but will add substantial aesthetic appeal to ceremonies and receptions. It can be difficult for couples to achieve that balance of cost and look on their own, so the following are a few helpful hints for couples when choosing their wedding day floral arrangements. n Work with a florist you trust and like.

All florists are not the same, so finding one you can trust and will enjoy working with can make all the difference. Many couples have little or no experience with floral arrangements prior to planning their weddings, so it can calm couples’ nerves to work with someone they trust in such situations. Florists with significant wedding experience will no doubt make a host of recommendations based on couples’ budgets and preferences, so couples might be more inclined to listen to that advice if they are working with someone they trust. Ask relatives, friends or coworkers if they can recommend any

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florists whose wedding work they are familiar with. n Choose in-season or native flowers.

Couples working with tight budgets may want to choose in-season flowers or those native to the area where they will be tying the knot. In-season and native flowers won’t need to be ordered or shipped in from afar, which can be costly. In-season and native flowers tend to be more abundant as well, and the greater their availability the less couples are likely to pay for them. n Repurpose floral arrangements. Another way to save on floral arrangements is

to repurpose flowers throughout the day.

Once bridesmaids no longer need their bouquets, use them to decorate gift tables or cocktail areas. Floral arrangements on display during the ceremony can be removed once you have both said “I do” and moved into the reception area where they can be enjoyed through the night. Go over any repurposing you plan to do with your reception hall manager prior to your wedding day so he knows where and when to move the arrangements. n Go big. Some flowers simply bloom larger than others, and choosing such flowers may help you save money since you won’t need to buy as many flowers as you would if you were to go with smaller blooms. Once you find a florist to work with, discuss your options with regard to doing more with less. Many florists embrace the challenge to be creative within a budget, so you might just be surprised and impressed by what they come up with.

Floral arrangements can set the mood for a wedding ceremony and reception, and even couples with little or no experience choosing arrangements can end up with stunning displays.

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that wedding rings are worn on the ring finger because that finger isn’t used as much as the rest of the hand, ensuring delicate ring materials won’t be damaged.

Ross Simmons Jewelry states that gold is still the most popular metal choice for wedding rings, but couples are opting for some other metals that are more durable. Platinum is popular not only because it is longwearing, but it also tends to be the most expensive. It’s also a dense metal and can feel heavy in hand.

Tungsten carbide is another durable metal

that has grown in popularity in recent years.

These rings cannot be cut and resoldered, which means it’s important to size the rings correctly the first time. Titanium is both lightweight and durable, and it’s popular because it is hypo-allergenic, making it practical for those with allergies to other metals.

Wedding rings continue to serve as symbols of a couple’s vows and union. Much like the marriage itself, they are designed to last the test of time.

According to the Diamond Source, wedding rings were adopted by Romans and incorporated into Western wedding ceremonies.

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ouples adhere to many traditions on their wedding days, including the exchange of wedding rings. Wedding rings symbolize the union of two people and their pledge to remain faithful to each other.

No one is exactly sure just when the tradition of exchanging wedding rings originated, but some say it can be traced back to ancient Egypt, when the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings was made. Reeds growing along the Nile were twisted and braided into rings and given during betrothal ceremonies. The round ring symbolized eternity, and the hole within the center meant a gateway to things unknown. Since reeds were not very durable, soon ivory, leather and bone were used to create wedding rings.

As new lands were explored and territories expanded, traditions from one culture were adopted and modified by other cultures. The same is true with wedding rings.

According to the Diamond Source, wedding rings were adopted by Romans and incorporated into Western wedding ceremonies.

Romans’ rings were highly decorated, and some historians believe wedding rings were given to represent ownership over brides instead of symbolizing love. These rings were made of iron and called “Anulus Pronubus,” or “betrothal ring.”

Rings have been simplified since those days and ultimately made of many materials. Throughout history, wedding rings were worn on various fingers and even both hands, whereas many married people in Western cultures now wear their wedding rings on the left hand and on the fourth finger. Romans once believed that this finger contained a vein, called the “Vena Amoris,” that ran directly to the heart. Though that is not true, the tradition has prevailed.

Other legends say that, when blessing a Christian marriage, priests would bind the marriage by saying, “In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,” simultaneously touching the ring to the recipient’s thumb, index finger and middle finger, before slipping it on the fourth finger while saying, “Amen.”

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his group of ladies was one of the best, by far. They kept each other laughing and made my job easy.

All of their hair and makeup was done at Backwoods Beauty, and they even all wore matching headbands made by rePURPOSE. We used the front entrance at Jefferson Community College as a lightly wooded backdrop, and though the sun was hiding behind the clouds for this part of the day, this sunshine-filled group made up for it.

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‘A quick ceremony’

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he whirlwind of emotions culminates in the moment right before the bride leaves to walk down the aisle.

Here I stuck with the bride long enough to see her grabbing a sneak peek at the church while she had time to soak it in before starting the wedding ceremony.

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‘Nature’s backdrop’

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he red rock that erupts from the earth along Colorado’s Front Range in Roxborough Park starkly contrasts with the finely manicured greens of Arrowhead Golf Course for this summer wedding last August. The Denver area’s breathtaking scenery is one reason why outdoor weddings are so popular in the Mile High region.

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‘A calming hand’

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wo groomsmen covered in glow bracelets plotted together to win the garter toss. They had a great time trying despite their loss. Candid images of wedding attendants often make for some of the best images while photographing the important day for the bride and groom.

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