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Pottawattamie County Recorder Mark Brandenburg holds up an Iowa marriage license application outside his office in the Pottawattamie County Courthouse.

Do you have a license for that?

Tim Johnson

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Among the 10 million things you need to do to prepare for your wedding is get a marriage license. All states require a license to legally marry.

Applications for marriage licenses are processed at the county recorder’s office, usually located at the courthouse.

“Typically, we’ll be doing about 900 a year,” said Scott Mefferd, vitals clerk at the Pottawattamie County Recorder’s Office. “Our numbers will probably go down when more states have samesex marriage.”

Those from out of state who get licensed in Iowa must also marry in Iowa, according to Iowa law. They are not required to marry in the same county where they obtain a license.

Both members of the wedding couple and a witness who knows them must be present to get a marriage application in person. Applicants do not have to be U.S. citizens, but all parties must have a current, valid ID and sign in front of a notary public.

Be sure you know what and who

you need before you go, Mefferd said.

“Really, the biggest thing is they forget they have to have a witness that knows the couple when they apply,” he said.

That catches some people off guard, since Nebraska does not require a witness for an application, he said.

If you apply by mail, each person must sign in front of a notary public, Mefferd said.

“Some people (who live out of state) still have family here, so they still want to get married here,” he said.

The couple and witness must be 18 and competent to enter into a civil contract. Each member of the wedding couple must be unmarried and not closely related by blood or first cousins.

No blood test is required.

People age 16 or 17 must get permission from their parent or guardian and a judge to marry in Iowa. For that, the couple fills out a minor consent form, Mefferd said. It must be signed by their parents or guardians and a judge, then returned to the Recorder’s Office for an application form.

But it’s not very common for people younger than 18 to marry here, he said.

“We do get a few, but not as many as you might think,” he said. “Younger than 16 cannot get married in Iowa.”

By state law, there is a three-day waiting period to marry, beginning the day after you get a marriage license.

So, in effect, there must be at least three days between the day you apply and the day you get married. If the license is not picked up within six months, it is invalid.

“Nebraska doesn’t have a waiting period, so that does confuse some people,” Mefferd said. “When people call in, we try to make sure they’re aware of that.”

The waiting period may be waived by a district judge in the county’s judicial district. An application for waiver of the waiting period is available from the recorder’s office. If granted, there is a $5 fee.

The couple will receive two copies of the license – one for their personal records and one to present to the officiant.

There is a nonrefundable fee of $35, which can be paid with a credit or debit card, cashier’s check or cash. It cannot be paid with a personal check.

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How to build a wedding registry Metro Creative Connection

Many once-popular wedding traditions have fallen by the wayside.

But one wedding tradition that has withstood the test of time is the wedding registry.

Couples about to tie the knot still build a wedding registry so their guests know what to buy them as wedding gifts. This saves guests the trouble of agonizing over what to buy the couple getting hitched and also ensures that couples won’t receive two or more of the same item.

Building a registry can be fun, as couples can act like kids in a candy store and add items they might otherwise not be able to afford. But there is a method to building a registry that can ensure the process of giving and receiving gifts is comfortable and convenient for everyone involved.

• Choose a national chain. Many stores will allow couples to establish a registry, but it behooves couples to choose a national chain or chains for their registry. A local boutique store might sell several items you would love to have, but that store may only be accessible to guests who live nearby, and such stores may be more expensive than larger national chains that can afford to charge less for similar products. Choosing a national chain ensures all of your guests will be able to access and purchase a gift from your registry, and make those purchases without breaking the bank.

• Choose a store with an online presence. When choosing a store for your registry, it also helps to choose a store with an online presence that’s user-friendly. Ideally, pick an online retailer you have already had positive experiences with. This not only will make it easier for your guests, but also for you should you decide to return items down the road.

• Choose more than one store. You also want to choose more than one store when building a registry. Some guests will prefer to shop in-store rather than online, so you want to give them some options so they don’t have to drive far and wide to find the lone brick and mortar store for your registry.

• Visit the stores and do your homework. Though some stores allow you to develop a registry entirely online, it still helps for couples to visit the store together and build their registries in the more traditional way. Visiting a store as opposed to browsing the store website allows you to touch and feel products, which can give you a more accurate idea of their quality. In addition to seeing the products in person, read online reviews of products before putting them on your registry so you can ensure you’re getting quality items.

• Choose items that vary in price. Many couples are sheepish about putting expensive items on their registries. That’s not surprising, as the cost of attending a wedding, especially one that features lots of out-of-town guests, can be substantial. But some guests, such as the bride and groom’s parents and siblings, may want to give

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Building a registry can be fun, as couples can act like kids in a candy store and add items they might otherwise not be able to afford. a more high-end gift, so don’t be afraid to include items in a range of prices, from the inexpensive to the more costly, on your registry.

• Don’t abandon the registry after your big day. You won’t end up getting everything you include on your registry, but that doesn’t mean you should just forget about those items that never made their way into your home. Many retailers offer couples significant discounts on items from their registries that were never purchased, and those discounts may extend for as long as a year after the big day. Revisit your registry after the wedding to see if you can find great deals on those items you never received, and continue to do so until the registry expires.

Building a registry can be a fun activity for couples about to tie the knot. But there are some guidelines to follow to make the process go smoothly for guests and couples alike.

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Music mistakes to avoid Metro Creative Connection

Wedding guests are usually anxious to head to the reception, where they can let loose and party. Music is an essential component of a lively and fun wedding reception, and there are some musical miscues couples should look to avoid to ensure the music is not memorable for all the wrong reasons.

• Blocks of silence: Nothing makes time seem interminable more than silence. Always have a constant flow of music to avoid awkward silences. This includes the time guests are waiting prior to the ceremony as well as when they’re entering the cocktail hour. Music will help everyone feel comfortable, and it creates a pleasing atmosphere, so make sure music plays throughout the festivities.

• Second-guessing a professional: In an effort to curb costs, some couples provide their own playlists via an mp3 player or a streaming service for the music. This is often a mistake. Hiring a professional means you will not have to worry about managing music on top of your many other wedding day responsibilities. A band or deejay usually also serves as the emcee for the event, announcing key moments of the reception as well as getting guests up on the dance floor.

• Playing only one type of music: Playing too many songs from one genre of music will alienate some of the guests who simply are not interested in that type of music.

Professional deejays or performers know how to offer a great mix that will appeal to the masses, and they are often well worth the cost. Try to span different decades and genres to keep as many of your guests on the dance floor as possible.

• Failure to make a song list: Some songs you may feel are essential to the wedding and others may be on a do-not-play list and are associated with negative memories.

Band leaders and deejays are not mind readers. Give your band leader or deejay ample time to review your

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requests so that he or she has time to find a song that may not be in his or her collection.

• Dancing to long songs: Pay attention to a song’s length, and choose spotlight dance songs wisely. Remember that guests will be watching you dance with parents or each other, and a fiveminute song can seem neverending while others are waiting around.

Avoid very long songs, as the mix of music should be upbeat. The wedding isn’t the time to play “American Pie” by Don McLean, Queen’s “Bohemian Rhapsody” or Lynyrd Skynyrd’s “Free Bird.”

• Inappropriate lyrics

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Steering clear of wedding music mistakes means couples have a greater likelihood of throwing spectacular parties. and volume: Keep the music at an acceptable volume, and avoid songs with suggestive language or curse words that are inappropriate in a family setting.

Music is a key element of any good party, including a wedding reception, and it’s essential that couples take steps to avoid any musical miscues.

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After the toast comes the dance Couples take lessons in preparation for reception tradition MIKE BELL

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he big day is the culmination of countless decisions.

Who is selected for the coveted spots on the bridal party? What colors to wrap the bridesmaids in to enhance the bride? Can you trust your husband-to-be to dress himself? Should the ceremony be inside, or risk a torrential downpour catastrophe outside?

Remember your friend’s wedding during a hurricane?

They still haven’t found aunt Margaret.

Of all decisions, the outcome of the first dance is entirely in the bride and groom’s hands. Or rather, their feet.

For Simply Ballroom in Omaha, the dance comes first, not last for their instructors.

Owner Rachelle Anderson said many brides and grooms are focusing more on their first dance at the wedding reception.

“Lots of people are mixing it up by having something classical and then it turns into something more contemporary,” Anderson said.

For example, starting slow with something graceful and romantic before busting into popping, locking – and occasionally – dropping it.

“They want to do something for both their parents and grandparents while entertaining their friends as well,” she said. Some couples turn the dance into a spectacle, involving the whole wedding party in choreography.

The kinds of dances people are gravitating towards these days are as varied as the wedding couples themselves, Anderson said. From ballroom and swing dancing to waltzing and square dancing.

All of which and more Simply Ballroom teaches.

The amount of time needed for such lessons varies depending on what the couple wish to learn, but Simply Ballroom can prepare them for something simple in as short as one lesson, no matter your skill level.

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“Even one lesson is better than just penguin-dancing in a circle,” Anderson said.

On Monday night, Alyssa Riser and Jacob Canniff were practicing their dance for their wedding in March.

It was Canniff’s first

instructors. Not just for bride and groom, either.

Father and daughter, mother and son and children can also get in on the lessons, Anderson said.

However, finding the right song can put loads of pressure on the couple, if

Cullen in the movie “Breaking Dawn.” Couples looking to recreate the magic of these star-crossed lovers can embrace Perri’s delicate tone and tender lyrics.

• “All of Me” by John Legend: It’s been hard to escape this popular love

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Alyssa Riser and fiance Jacob Canniff, both of Council Bluffs, practice their dance moves at Simply Ballroom in Omaha to prepare for their wedding in March. dance lesson in his life.

“I’ve been stepping on her toes our whole relationship, tonight isn’t any different,” Canniff said.

However, Riser said she had been doing dance her whole life. Canniff said he had been nervous at first but was already having fun with it.

“It’s actually way more enjoyable than I thought it would be,” Canniff said.

Then they began to step together to “I’ll Follow You,”

by Shinedown.

Anderson said it’s preferable to spend more than one lesson learning how to dance for the big moment.

Simply Ballroom offers specialized wedding dance instruction through its

not the whole party.

Yes, this is a song that the couple has selected to represent their love for each other, but it also should be one that will speak to the masses and can be thoroughly enjoyed by all.

Couples want to avoid a song that does not seem to fit with the festivities.

For those couples who need a little musical inspiration, turn to many of the modern hits you’re bound to hear on the radio which may help you to shine in that first dance.

• “A Thousand Years”

by Christina Perri: “Twilight” fans enjoyed this romantic song during the wedding scene between Bella Swan and Edward

song by R&B artist John Legend. An ode Legend wrote to his wife, this song has quickly become a popular choice for a couple’s first dance.

• “I Choose You” by Sara Bareilles: This peppy

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song by singer/songwriter Sara Bareilles is a good choice for couples who prefer being nontraditional.

It’s faster paced and less sentimental than many other wedding songs.

• “Better Together” by Jack Johnson: Johnson is known primarily for his soft rock and acoustic guitar work blended with catchy lyrics. Also an accomplished surfer, Johnson’s work is enjoyed by many but may be especially prized by couples who want to their reception to be a laid back affair full of fun and whimsy.

• “I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz: Another acoustic ditty, this song has a country influence and talks about not giving up and staying in a relationship for the long haul.

• “I Don’t Dance” by Lee Brice: Speaking of country influences, couples who want a little twang in their first dances can choose Brice’s breakthrough hit.

Romantic lyrics about spinning his partner around in circles despite not liking to dance illustrates what one partner will do for the other when in love.

Couples can make that first moment on the dance floor a special experience by choosing modern classics for their first dances.

– Metro Creative Connection contributed to this story.

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Dress tips for plus-sized brides-to-be

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eddings are special days for couples tying the knot. But even the most carefully planned wedding requires some patience and perseverance.

For brides-to-be, finding the right gown is one element of wedding planning that calls for patience and persistence. Trial and error is often part of the process as women look for the perfect wedding gown. Brides-tobe who have a specific style in mind may find that their dream gown doesn’t always live up to expectations, while another style of dress they never imagined wearing turns out to be a stunner.

Another challenge many women face when gown shopping is that many wedding gowns are styled and geared toward women with slender figures, making the process of selecting a gown for a curvier bride a bit more difficult.

But any bride, regardless of size or figure, can find the ideal dress, especially when she employs the following tips.

• Sample sizes fit a select few. Bridal shops carry a range of dresses but may only stock one or two sample dresses. For economy, these samples are a median size that are intended to fit as many shoppers as possible.

Such gowns are usually in the neighborhood of a size 10.

Most women, whether petite or plus-size, will not fit into the sample, so do not get discouraged.

• Visit large retail chains. Popular wedding dress chains, such as David’s Bridal, may have a wider selection of sample dresses in larger sizes. Department stores as well as designers who specialize in plus-size gowns also make good resources.

• Call bridal stores in advance to schedule your visits.

Your time is precious, so call bridal shops prior to visiting and explain to them your size and what you are looking for in a gown. This will ensure you aren’t wasting your time driving to stores that can’t provide what you want.

• Select the right fabrics. Heavier fabrics like taffeta, silk dupioni and satin may conceal better than others and can be ruched to camouflage areas you want to minimize.

• Use salespeople as a resource. The right salesperson can make wedding shopping much easier and far more pleasant. Don’t rest until you find someone who is excited to work with you and will give you his or her honest opinion and recommendations.

• Dresses can be altered. Every bride needs some alterations made to her dress to achieve the perfect fit. Plus-

sized brides may need a few extras. A dress is unlikely to meet all of your needs right off the rack, so find a good seamstress who can alter your dress to meet your needs.

Sleeves can be put on, dresses can be shortened, support can be added, and many customizations can be done to a gown post-production.

• Find a flattering shape. Choose a gown with a fullskirt or an A-line skirt with an empire or a dropped-waist seam that will elongate your midriff and flow away from your hips. Curvier brides typically avoid strapless gowns, as such dresses have a tendency to make a woman’s shoulders and arms look wider.

• Don’t get stuck on size. Sizes vary widely depending on the manufacturer. Wedding gowns tend to be labeled with couture sizes, which are much smaller than street sizes. A good salesperson should have a reasonable conversion chart or will choose sizes based on your measurements alone. Ignore the size on the tag and go for the gown that fits.

• Never settle for less. Whether it’s a gown that’s not flattering or a salesperson who is rude or chastises you for not being the ideal size, do not settle for anything less than a great gown and attentive service. Bridal stores compete for business, so if a given shop does not meet your expectations, don’t hesitate to work with a rival store.

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REUSE, RECYCLE

The many ways to repurpose a wedding gown Metro Creative Connection

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rides want to look their best on their wedding days. In addition to professional hairstyling and makeup, many brides invest in extravagant wedding gowns.

Estimates suggest the average wedding gown costs $2,000. Brides who indulge by purchasing a designer dress can pay upward of $5,000 for their gowns.

But even the most expensive dress will only be worn once by the blushing bride. Fortunately, there are a variety of ways brides can reuse or recycle their wedding gowns.

Heirloom One of the easiest ways to get more from your gown is to pass it down to another bride after your wedding day. Brides frequently save and preserve their gowns with the intent of passing it down as an heirloom to a daughter or another family member. Maintain the beauty of the gown by hiring a professional dry cleaner or wedding gown preservation service to treat and package the gown before storing it for some lucky lady’s future use.

Religious outfit If you feel the style of the gown won’t keep up with the times, the fabric of the gown can be repurposed into a baptismal outfit or a communion dress or suit. Christian children are welcomed to the faith

in white clothing, which is a symbol of purity and cleansing of sin. Seamstresses can fashion beautiful dresses or suits from original wedding gowns.

Play clothes Many little girls and

garments or decorative pieces for the home. A lacecovered lampshade can be a creative way to commemorate your wedding day for years to come.

Art Use the gown as a back-

boys like to play dress-up.

And rather than have a gown sitting in the closet, use it to make play clothes for little ones. The gown can be turned into a dress for a fairy princess or an ice queen.

Ornaments or favors Lace from gowns can be turned into doilies, accents on other clothing, under-

ground for artwork. Simply stretch it across a wooden frame and staple on the back. You then have a handy canvas at the ready.

Nursery décor Decorate a baby’s nursery with a portion of the wedding dress, which can be turned into a crib skirt or pillow. The dress can also be used to create frilly

curtains. A white dress will blend with just about any pattern.

Anniversary tablecloth Measure out the length of a dining table, and cut and sew the gown into a special occasion tablecloth. Take it out each year on your anniversary.

Stuffed animals Present children with cozy friends that they can love for years.

Cut out a pattern for a bunny or bear and use it to craft a stuffed toy from the gown. Visit a local craft shop for stuffing fill and buttons for eyes.

Donation Some less fortunate people cannot afford a gown. Work with a church or shelter and find out where you can donate the gown to be used by someone who normally would not wear something so lavish.

Theater prop Many plays and musicals feature wedding scenes. An upstart theater company may benefit from having a wedding gown in their costume department.

Handkerchief Cut out a piece of the gown and sew the hem.

Offer it as the “something old” or “something borrowed” for a loved one’s wedding.

Wedding gowns do not need to be relegated to a closet once a bride has said “I do.” Turn that dress into something useful for years to come.

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Which dinner service is right for your wedding?

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Weddings are typically the culmination of months of careful planning. After a couple has officially tied the knot, a celebration typically follows. Although music and mingling are integral to a wedding reception, the meal is often the central component of the party.

Couples have options when choosing dinner service for their weddings, and some need not serve dinner at all.

An early wedding may consist of a brunch or some passed appetizers, while some couples opt for a cocktail party in lieu of a dinner party. Still, some weddings feature only desserts.

But guests attending more traditional weddings expect to dine at the receptions that follow such affairs. Buffet service and a sit-down dinner are the most popular choices for wedding meals, and each has its advantages and disadvantages.

Choosing the dinner service that works best for your wedding may involve a careful comparison of the various offerings and keeping your budget and guests’ comfort in mind.

Sit-down dinner A sit-down dinner consists of several courses of plated food served by

a waitstaff. Guests never have to leave their seats, and sit-down service is usually in line with a formal reception. Some food offerings at sit-down dinners tend to be fancy and presented in a manner that is appealing both to the eye and the palate.

well. Guests are generally given several choices for the main course, and that could mean ordering extra food and preparing it to be ready for guests’ selections. Serving meals may take longer, and sometimes meals may not arrive hot to the table. Guests may

There are several advantages to sit-down meals.

Guests can focus entirely on enjoying themselves and conversing with fellow guests rather than getting up to seek out food, and those with mobility issues do not have to worry about maneuvering to a buffet station or trying to balance food. Guests get top-notch treatment and will have a waitstaff on call to fill their every need, which can make an affair more memorable for all in attendance.

But sit-down dinners are typically more expensive as

be limited to certain food choices, and portion sizes may not be what guests were hoping for. Sitting idle for a while can affect the mood of the reception and lead to boredom.

Buffet service A buffet-style dinner is served from a long dais table that holds several chafing dishes full of food.

Wedding guests will rise from their seats and make their way to the buffet stations, where they’ll be able to serve themselves or be served by staff manning the stations.

Buffets present an array of foods that cater to the various dietary needs of guests. Those at the reception can sample several different foods rather than be restricted to one main course. Guests can limit portion sizes or sometimes return for second helpings.

Buffets are generally less formal and allow guests to mingle more readily.

But buffet-style meals may produce long lines as guests pick and choose their meals.

While experienced catering managers and reception site staff should have plans in place to create a freeflow of guests to the buffet stations, there will be a first and a last table called to eat, and guests on the tail end of the service may be stuck with whatever is left over if food is not adequately restocked. In an effort to accommodate everyone, extra food may be cooked for buffet-style dinners, which can be costly and wasteful. In addition, guests are asked to do more work, as they need to get up and retrieve their own food.

A catering company or the banquet manager at a reception site can work with couples as they decide if a buffet or sit-down dinner is the best option for their wedding receptions.

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Time of day, even the time of year can influence wedding foods Tim Rohwer

trohwer@nonpareilonline.com

Many couples get married in the evening or late afternoon, while others prefer a much earlier ceremony.

The type of food can vary depending on these times, a local expert said.

“It’s usually a lighter fare in the daytime,” said Austin Kucks, catering director for the West Broadway Hy-Vee Food Store.

This includes sandwiches, fruit salads, along with pasta or potato salads, or vegetable trays, he said.

Evening weddings call for more traditional dinner menus, Kucks added.

Not only the time of day, but the seasons of the year can influence the proper menu, he said.

“Heavier foods are usually served in the fall but during spring, people revert back to the lighter menus.”

Lighter foods include grilled chicken, smoked meats, salmon, herb roasted chicken and chili-glazed chicken, he said. Heavier foods include roast beef, pork loin and potato casseroles.

Though Kucks caters weddings at all times of the year, spring and fall are the two most popular wedding seasons, he said. That’s because they provide the nicest weather environment, not too cold, not too hot.

“Those are the nicer times of the year for such an elegant event.”

To be more specific, late April into early May are when most spring weddings occur, while October is the favorite autumn month, Kucks said.

Most couples prefer a two-entree buffet, usually two meats, though salmon is a popular choice, also, he said. Usually, there are two sides – potatoes and vegetables. Green beans or broccoli are popular vegetables, he said. The meals also come with salad and bread.

To better ensure the couple and the guests enjoy the menu, Kucks provides food “testing,” prior to the order. The couple and two guests will sample various foods to help in their decision on what to order and how the food is to be cooked.

Popular entree selections are chicken breast, roast beef, chicken cordon blue, sweet and spicy salmon, rotisserie tur-

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Though he caters weddings all year, Austin Kucks, catering director for the West Broadway Hy-Vee Food Store, is busiest in late April/early May and in October. key breast, chili-glazed chicken, meat or vegetarian lasagna, oven-roasted chicken and pork loin.

Potato selections include mashed potatoes and gravy, baked potatoes, hashbrown casserole, au gratin potatoes and bacon ranch potatoes.

Favorite vegetables include baked beans, baby carrots, scalloped or buttered corn and green bean casserole. Favorite salads include coleslaw, fresh fruit. broccoli salad, potato salad, Caesar salad and pasta.

Cake is the favorite dessert, though cupcakes are becoming more popular, Kucks said.

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A selection of wedding cakes designs at Hy-Vee West Broadway.

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Cupcakes, Tiers & Textures Scott Stewart

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n essential part of wedding planning is selecting the perfect cake – which means, of course, sampling some of the options.

For Karris Mattox at Mad Ox Bakery, selecting the right cake is a process she’s happy to walk potential customers through – a process that’s both fun and open for a variety of approaches.

“Cakes are always wanting to be a centerpiece,” she said.

When couples come in, Mattox said they often bring in photos of ideas that she can walk them through selecting

the color from one, the texture from another, until the perfect cake come together. She will then sketch an outline of what she wants to bake.

“They might bring in five or six pictures,” she said. “You grab elements from different things that they see and try to put that together.”

Traditional tiered cakes are in vague right now, although that doesn’t mean brides don’t want some flair – deep colors, textures and other elements can add a modern twist to a white cake.

“Ruffles are really big now,” Mattox said. “A lot of people are wanting them to mimic a dress.”

Several of Mad Ox’s recent wedding cakes featured tex-

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ture and layers, with fondant ruffling in bold colors. Mattox said she recently did a cake with deep red, silver and crème colors and fondant ruffles along the bottom.

Sometimes people want to use several colors, Mattox said, but she recommends choosing a dominant color with some accents. For feeding a crowd, cupcakes are the preferred choice at Mad Ox to go along with a formal wedding cake.

“Sheet cakes aren’t as popular anymore as cupcakes are for doing a show cake,” she said. “A lot of people are seeing you don’t have to have someone cut the cake.”

The bakery offers a variety of options, such as a recent selection of cookies n’ cream (topped with crushed cookies), birthday supreme (covered in sprinkles), red velvet (with a red sprinkle), chocolate chip (you can guess the topping) and salted nut roll (with the candy on top).

“It almost turns into a dessert bar,” Mattox said. “It’s not as popular to match everything.”

Mad Ox can bake anything, including old family recipes, she said. And don’t think a wedding cake has to be either white or chocolate. She encourages couples to choose a flavor reflecting who they are.

“A popular flavor we do is chocolate and citrus,” she said. “People want to try different things.”

A distinctive cake flavor can be something people remember about the wedding forever, Mattox said. Small touches like that help Mad Ox distinguish itself among other providers of cakes, from larger stores to specialty bakeries.

Another specialty of the downtown business is the groom’s cake, which traditionally is whimsical and a different flavor from the bride’s cake.

(Traditionally, a white tiered cake is the formal cake, while the groom’s cake might be chocolate and reflect something personal.)

“It has kind of morphed into the bride says; I get to choose what I want,” Mattox said. “Then he is super excited to choose an idea that could be totally off the wall.”

Recently, Mad Ox did a cake for a former Iowa State University football player, who asked for a cake in the shape of his old jersey with his old

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The perfect groom’s cake for the outdoors man is just one of the styles available at Mad Ox Bakery in Council Bluffs. number on it. Mattox said she has done vehicles, hobbies and other personal themes – both for just the groom and for the couple.

“I’ve done one for an entomologist,” she said. “It was in the shape of a 3-D bumble bee.”

Another groom’s cake featured a personal likeness of a wrestler made out of edible chocolate on a wrestling mat.

Yet another featured dead deer in the back of a truck.

“It might be a little gory but it was something he liked to do,” Mattox said.

“I really like it when couples come in here and feel like they don’t have to do the normal thing.”

Couples receive a free consultation, a normal offering in the world of wedding cakes, and she said many will come in to discuss a cake, try samples and shop around for what best fits them.

“I’m pretty much up for anything so long as it’s legal,” she said. “If you’re willing to be our guinea pig, we’ll try it.”

At the West Broadway Hy-Vee, many of the same trends in wedding cakes can be found.

Theresa Slyman, a cake decorator and designer for the store, said textured cakes are popular right now, as

are using cupcake displays to replace cake for everyone but the bride and groom themselves.

Rosettes – flower-shaped decorations – are also popular, Slyman said.

“If we do any plains, it’s with ribbons around the bottom of the cake,” she said. “We do a lot of tiered cake with ribbons.”

When customers come to Hy-Vee’s bakery department, they can make an appointment to go through a book of wedding cake options. The consultant will help the couple review prices and how many each cake will feed for their party.

“We can do tiered cake. We can do a sheet cake,” Slyman said. “We do fondant cakes, too, depending on what they want.”

Special requests have included a character from “Duck Dynasty” and an Xbox game console for groom’s cakes, she said.

For those planning a wedding, don’t leave the cake for the last minute – Slyman said at least a month’s notice is recommended, although some come in a year in advance to place orders.

“Everything has to be taken care of just a week before the wedding so they’re all set,” she said. “We try to get them in at least a month or so before the wedding.”

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Cake-cutting etiquette and guidelines Metro Creative Connection

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he presentation of the wedding cake marks the culmination of the day’s festivities and a final symbol of a happy couple’s new partnership.

Many people eagerly await the cake as much as they may anticipate catching a glimpse of the bride in her beautiful gown. While the cake in all its finery can be a beautiful sight to behold, a cake can only last so long before its fate as a delicious dessert is sealed.

As is the case with many wedding traditions, there is some established etiquette with regard to cutting and serving wedding cake.

If you plan on putting your cake on display, be sure it is made with a frosting and filling that can endure room temperature. Certain creams may sour if not refrigerated, and you do not want anyone becoming ill. If you have your heart set on perishable fillings, keep the cake refrigerated and then have the big reveal right before it is cut.

The cake cutting usually comes near the end of the wedding reception. Schedule the cutting so that older guests or young children can leave without feeling as if they would be offending anyone.

The emcee of the evening typically announces the cake cutting, and the band may play a quirky tune or revisit the wedding song while the first slice is being cut.

A bride should hold the cake knife with her right hand, while the groom places his right hand over hers before they proceed to slice down together. If the cake has a foam or cardboard support, be careful not to cut through it. Use a cake server to grab the first piece.

Traditionally the newly betrothed will feed each other a bite of the cake to symbolize their first meal as a couple. Couples can feed each other a small amount, taking care not to spill any. Many couples no longer embrace the once-popular tradition of smashing cake in each other’s faces, but whether or not couples follow this tradition is up to them.

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The timing of when a couple cuts the wedding cake can have a specific meaning. Long ago, the cake was usually cut at the very end of the reception and would signal to the guests that it was the end of the festivities. Today, cutting the cake is an unspoken signal that represents that the formal wedding is nearing a close, and guests who would like to leave can do so without worry of being rude. Many couples will cut the cake right after dinner as a courtesy to older guests who may want to get started on their trips home. This affords them the chance to make an earlier exit, rather than staying through the dancing that could extend into the wee hours of the night or missing the cake entirely. Cutting the cake mid-reception also serves another practical purpose for couples who are paying a photographer by the hour. Photographers typically go home after the cake-cutting, so a mid-reception cutting can save couples a substantial amount of money.

Some couples like to serve their parents a piece of cake. Traditionally the bride should serve the groom’s parents and the groom the bride’s parents.

If there is a groom’s cake, guests may prefer a slice of both cakes.

Guests may also want to take home a slice of the groom’s cake. Tradition states that a piece of the groom’s cake should be presented to an unmarried woman attending the wedding. The woman is not expected to eat the cake, but rather to put it under her pillow. Superstition held that this tradition would help an unmarried woman find a husband.

Make arrangements for proper packaging of the groom’s cake, so guests

can take home a slice if they so desire.

The waitstaff typically handles the slicing of the cake. The uppermost tier is reserved for the couple to save, and the remainder of the cake will be served.

Recognize that not all guests like cake, but it’s better to err on the side of caution and have a cake that will feed all of the guests. You also may want to offer a dessert bar for guests who prefer another type of sweet treat. However, this is a luxury, not a necessity.

The cake-cutting ritual at weddings has withstood the test of time, and many couples still prefer to present the cake with fanfare and excitement.

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SEATING SOLUTIONS How to manage reception arrangements Metro Creative Connection

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fter all of the invitations have been sent and RSVPs returned, engaged couples who are including a sit-down dinner as part of their wedding receptions must figure out the seating arrangements for their guests. Such a task can be both fun and stressful.

The fun of making seating arrangements stems from reuniting friends and family members who couples feel will enjoy one another’s company and make the reception that much more fun. But feuding family members can make the task of assigning seats somewhat stressful.

Couples need not be relationship experts to plan seating arrangements that ensure guests have a good time. The following tips can help couples enjoy the process of mapping out their wedding reception seating assignments as much as possible.

• Make assignments by hand. While there is software designed specifically to help couples map out seating assignments, many couples find it easier to do the seating assignments by hand, which allows couples more freedom to rearrange tables. In addition, making the seating arrangements by hand ensures that couples spread out guests who might not get along.

• Don’t seat guests in the hopes of quashing old conflicts. While the jovial spirit of a wedding ceremony and reception might seem like the perfect atmosphere for feuding friends or family members to bury the hatchet with regard to old conflicts, this leaves open the potentially ugly possibility that such conflicts might escalate.

Couples don’t want their weddings to be remembered for all the wrong reasons, so keep feuding factions apart

when assigning seats.

• Keep special needs guests in mind. Some guests at the wedding may have special needs, and this must be kept in mind when planning seating assignments. Guests with medical conditions may benefit from sitting close to the restroom, while those with mobility issues might be best served sitting in a spot where waitstaff can more easily recognize when they need something. Consider sitting older guests, whose vision might not be as strong as it once was, as close to the happy couple as possible so these guests can see everything and won’t feel left out.

• Make sure the seating assignment table is easily accessible. The table on which seating assignment cards will be placed should be accessible upon entering the reception hall. A table that’s far off in the corner may confuse some guests, who might think the seating is a free-for-all and simply sit in the first empty seats they see.

• Consider flow between tables when making assignments. While you might have aced the seating assignments at each table, don’t overlook the importance of mapping out tables as well. No couple wants their guests to feel isolated from friends or family members at other tables, so do your best to ensure there’s a good flow between the tables. Plan for tables of family members to be placed next to one another, and do the same with groups of friends. This encourages guests to mingle and can make the night much more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Planning seating assignments for a wedding reception is no small task. But couples can employ several strategies to make the process go as smoothly as possible.

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The guide to choosing groomsmen Metro Creative Connection

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rooms-to-be face many decisions regarding their pending nuptials, but few may prove as delicate as choosing the groomsmen for the big day.

Friends who expect to be groomsmen may be disappointed if they are not ultimately chosen, while brothers may feel left out if they are not asked to walk a bridesmaid up the aisle.

Choosing groomsmen should not be taken lightly.

Grooms-to-be who are facing some difficult choices with regard to that decision can follow a few pointers to ensure they make the right call.

• Pick a number. Before you even consider who you want your groomsmen to be, speak to your fiancée about how many bridesmaids she hopes to have.

The number of groomsmen and bridesmaids typically matches, so your fiancée’s intentions may make your decision a lot easier.

For example, if you have two brothers and several friends you’re considering, but your fiancée only intends to have a maid of honor and one bridesmaid, then you can just ask both of your brothers to serve as groomsmen. Friends are unlikely be offended if family members get the nod ahead of them, so discuss numbers with your fiancée before you begin trimming your list of candidates. If you already have an idea of who you want to be your groomsmen but your choices outnumber your fiancée’s, see if she has anyone else she can add to her party so no one is left out.

• Choose the best man for the job. Many grooms pick a brother to serve as their best man, and while that’s a nice sentiment, it’s important that grooms recognize that being a best man carries with it some responsibility. A best man will organize the bachelor party, give a toast at the wedding and handle any post-wedding duties, such

as returning the tuxes or arranging for the newlyweds’ transportation to the airport. If your brother is already incredibly busy or if you doubt he is up to the task of being a best man, then you might be better off asking him to be a groomsman and finding another best man who’s more capable of juggling the numerous responsibilities that come with being best man.

• Don’t forget your fiancée’s family. While you should not feel pressured to pick anyone in particular as your best man, if your fiancée has any brothers, ask her if she had her heart set on including any of them in the bridal party. Some brides want their brothers to be groomsmen, so discuss this with your fiancée before asking anyone to line up beside you. This discussion can go both ways as well, as you can ask your bride-to-be to include a favorite sister in her bridal party if you so desire.

• Confirm their availability. When asking friends or family members to be groomsmen, it’s best to ensure they can actually make it to the ceremony.

This is a concern for grooms who are planning a destination wedding or those getting married in their fiancée’s hometown and not their own, as some guests, including potential groomsmen, may not be able to afford to attend an overseas or faraway ceremony. When asking, explain the situation to them, and let them know you fully understand if they cannot commit to being a groomsmen due to travel or financial concerns. Confirm their availability as soon as possible, as you don’t want to be down one groomsman come your big day. For those who you want to be a groomsmen but are unable to make it, it can be a nice gesture to buy them a groomsmen gift as a token of your appreciation for their friendship.

Many grooms face difficult decisions when choosing their groomsmen. But there are ways to make such decisions a lot easier than they may seem.

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TRANSPORTATION TIPS Getting to and from your wedding Metro Creative Connection

Transportation can be easily overlooked when couples plan their weddings. Couples may recognize they may have to hire a car or limousine to get them to their ceremonies and then their receptions, but what happens when the limousine calls it a night?

While some couples immediately depart for their honeymoons after saying good-bye to their wedding guests, many build a day in between the wedding and honeymoon, giving them a chance to rest, take stock of their wedding gifts and finish packing.

That leaves the question of how a couple will return home from the reception or get to the airport.

The best man may offer to drive the bride and groom where they need to go. But if the best man is from out of town, he may not have a chariot awaiting to escort the newly christened hus-

band and wife to the airport.

As a result, all members of the wedding party should discuss their post-wedding travel plans in advance. Any person who will be arriving in a hired car will need to make arrangements to have their own vehicle available at the end of the wedding or be able to call a taxi or car service to get a safe ride home.

Some wedding party members may decide to park a car at the reception site or a hotel the day prior to the wedding so they will have a return ride. It’s also a good idea to ask friends or family members who are not in the bridal party for a ride home.

Safety is an utmost concern after the wedding. Even if wedding party members have a car available, no one should drive when intoxicated. Couples may want to include the phone number of a local taxi service in their hotel gift bags just to be safe.

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A couple’s honeymoon is their first real chance to relax and unwind after the hustle and bustle of wedding planning. Couples who want to make sure their first getaway as husband and wife goes off without a hitch might want to heed the following advice.

1. Start saving early. Honeymoons are expensive, so to afford the vacation of your dreams it’s wise to begin saving for the honeymoon as early as possible. It may be well worth it to compromise and make sacrifices in other areas to ensure you have enough funds for your dream honeymoon getaway. Do not expect cash gifts at your wedding to pay for your trip. If you do, you may be sorely disappointed when the time comes to

take off.

2. Read online reviews. Online reviews can paint an accurate picture of a potential honeymoon destination.

Look at vacationer-supplied photographs to see how the accommodations match up to the resort’s own marketing materials. You don’t want too many surprises, such as service fees, dirty rooms or a lack of beach amenities, to ruin your trip.

3. Plan at least one exciting outing.

While on your honeymoon, be sure to go on at least one adventure. Try an activity you have never done before, such as snorkeling, traveling a zip line or swimming with stingrays.

4. Pack early. After a long wedding day and reception spent dancing into the wee hours of the morning, you probably do not want to spend time packing. Pack your suitcases and

travel essentials in advance of your wedding day so you have more time to sleep in before you depart for the airport. Also, remember not to overpack. You want to have room for the souvenirs you purchase along the way.

5. Enjoy your surroundings. Put down the smartphone or tablet enough to truly enjoy your surroundings. A honeymoon is an opportunity to relax, and that may not be possible if you’re tied to your devices. Friends at home can wait for your status updates and wedding pictures.

6. Splurge on something expensive.

Whether it’s an ultra-fancy dinner or an exotic souvenir, indulge.

7. Leave your itinerary open. After scores of wedding appointments and watching the clock, it’s nice to fly by the seat of your pants.

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How to preserve wedding bouquets Metro Creative Connection

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bride’s gown may garner its share of attention come her wedding day, but floral arrangements also tend to impress guests. Fresh flowers make a wedding and the ensuing reception more inviting and appealing.

According to The Knot.com, couples can expect to spend 8 percent of their wedding budget on flowers. For the average wedding, that equates to roughly $2,000 for various arrangements and bouquets. That can be a considerable expense for fragile flowers with a shelf life of only a day or two.

But instead of tossing beautiful bouquets and other flowers into the garbage once the wedding day has come and gone, couples can employ various methods to preserve those impressive displays for years to come.

Air drying One of the easiest ways to preserve flowers is to dry them out. This is best done by hanging blooms upside down

so they will remain straight and not warp or wither while drying.

Secure flowers in small bundles and hang from an out-of-the-way spot in a cool, dry area. The flowers may need to remain hanging for up to three weeks before they are completely dried out. After which, gently remove the flowers and arrange them in a vase or another container. Otherwise, reassemble a bouquet how it was and carefully display.

Pressing Pressing is another way to preserve floral bouquets and arrangements. To press flowers, find a few heavy books to stack or another weighted object.

Place the flowers between parchment paper or waxed paper and lay the heavy items on top. You also can place the flowers in tissue paper between the pages of a book so they are not jostled.

Leave the blooms for a week or two and then check on them before putting them in a shadow box or photo frame.

Chemical drying Silica gel, borax and regular sand

can be used to dry and preserve flowers as well. These can be handy for people who desire to preserve an entire bouquet as-is.

Silica gel is a desiccant commonly found in small packets inside of new shoes and purses. It also can be purchased at home improvement retailers and is used to dry out musty basements and other areas.

Fill a deep container halfway with the silica gel or other drying material.

Put in the bouquet and then gently add more product to the top of the flowers so they are completely submerged. Place a snug cover over the top of the container and let everything sit for about a week. Slowly the moisture will be absorbed from the flowers.

Some people choose to spray dried flowers with a sealant to keep them looking nice longer.

An all-purpose craft spray might work. You also can ask for recommendations from the florist who handled your arrangements, and that florist may even preserve the flowers for you for an additional fee.

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Dressing for wedding day comfort

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edding attire is known more for style than comfort. Formal wear, high heels and the various trappings of wedding day wardrobes do not always equate to a day of comfort. While dressing up will never be the same as slipping into a wellworn pair of jeans, there are ways for brides, grooms and guests to be comfortable on the big day.

• Dress for the weather. It’s tempting to put appearances before comfort. However, wearing clothing without regard for the weather is a surefire way to be uncomfortable all day long. Choose lightweight fabrics for warm weather occasions, and heavier fabrics when attending a winter wedding. Wraps, short jackets, muffs and decorative scarves allow women to cover up if there’s a chill from the weather or if air conditioning is set too cold.

• Invest in alterations. Few people can wear clothing, especially formal attire, right off the rack. The services of a good tailor can prove invaluable. Shortened hemlines or tightened sleeves can make dresses fit better. Shapewear or support components may be added to the wedding gown so that extra undergarment layers can be avoided. The less you have to fuss with clothing, the more comfortable you will be. Try on your outfit without alterations and point out the areas that are bothersome. Is a bodice slipping down?

Is the tuxedo jacket a little too snug? Speak with the tailor about what can be done to remedy the situation.

• Choose the right size. Formal wear is frequently governed by a different set of sizes from everyday attire.

Formal items are cut smaller and more in line with highfashion couture sizing. Expect to have to go up in size with regard to formal gowns. Instead of concerning yourself with the size on the tag, focus on the fit. Squeezing into something that is too small can make you uncomfortable all evening long and inhibit your ability to enjoy yourself on the dance floor. Avoid discomfort (and split seams) by leaving some wiggle room in wedding day ensembles.

• Focus on footwear. Guests’ eyes likely won’t be on your feet. Still, many people subject themselves to uncomfortable shoes all in the name of fashion. The fastest way to an unenjoyable time is having to sit out a wedding because your shoes are causing excruciating pain. New shoes sometimes need a period of breaking in, so wear them around the house to determine if they’re comfortable enough to wear for several hours at a time. Women should opt for the lowest heel possible to avoid pressure on the balls and

arches of their feet. Floor-length wedding gowns usually cover a bride’s feet, so she has more leeway with finding an attractive yet comfortable shoe. Outdoor weddings tend to be more casual than indoor affairs, and guests may be perfectly comfortable wearing sandals.

• Brides can go minimalist. Wedding dresses range from ethereal sheaths to layered princess gowns. The more fabric, tulle, boning and crinoline in the gown, the heavier it will be. Heavy gowns can make it difficult to move around, particularly when dancing or visiting the restroom. Unless you have your heart set on a full Cinderella look, scale back on your gown.

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AVOIDING THE AWKWARD How to handle guests who don’t RSVP Metro Creative Connection

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edding invitations are often a great source of information for guests. While wedding websites also provide a great opportunity for couples to get the word out about their weddings and share pertinent details like the date and location of the wedding, many people are still unfamiliar with the concept of a wedding website, and therefore they rely on invitations as their primary source of information about a wedding.

One of the most important bits of information couples

must include on their wedding invitations is the RSVP date. The RSVP, which stands for “repondez s’il vous plait,” is a couple’s request for a response to their invitation. The RSVP is typically a specific date by which guests must let the couple tying the knot know whether or not they plan to attend the wedding.

There are no rules that govern how far in advance of the wedding couples should ask their guests to RSVP, but some venues might want a final headcount or at least a close estimate of the final countdown three to four weeks before the big day. As a result, it’s best to ask guests to RSVP at least three weeks before the wedding and preferably four to five weeks before the festivities commence.

If invitations are mailed two to three months prior to the wedding, that gives guests ample time to determine

whether they can or cannot join in the celebration. While many guests will respond immediately or in plenty of time for couples to arrange seating and notify their reception venue, nearly every bride and groom has been forced to deal with guests who simply failed to respond to their invitations, a potentially precarious position for couples to find themselves in as their wedding day quickly approaches.

When guests fail to respond on time, couples should maintain their composure and not take it as a sign of disrespect or indifference. Guests might not be planning a wedding, but chances are they’re busy, too, and their failure to respond is likely just a mistake. Before contacting those who failed to provide a timely response, wait a few extra days so responses that were mailed at the last minute can be counted among those that were received on time.

Once the deadline and subsequent extension has passed, couples can begin to contact those guests who have not responded to their invitations. If it’s a close friend or family member who hasn’t responded, simply call them on the telephone and politely ask if they plan on coming to the wedding. They won’t need to mail the RSVP at this point, so just jot down their response and thank them before moving on to the next person.

When a person who hasn’t responded is less familiar to the bride and groom, such as a parent’s distant cousin or professional colleague, then it’s perfectly reasonable to ask for help.

For example, if a parent’s neighbor has yet to reply, ask Mom or Dad to drop by their house or call them on the phone to determine if they plan to attend.

The majority of invitees, if not all of them, who fail to respond on time will understand when contacted directly and asked if they plan to attend, so couples need not be nervous or confrontational when making phone calls or writing emails. Keep things short and sweet and let guests know their attendance is appreciated or their absence will be felt if they cannot make it.

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Creative ways to make a memorable wedding entrance

Wedding entrances are what a couple makes of them, and they can run the gamut from traditional introductions to theatrical skits and dance routines Metro Creative Connection

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nce wedding vows and rings have been exchanged, many couples join their friends and family to celebrate with a wedding reception.

Many brides and grooms eagerly await the moment when they can make their grand entrance to the reception, and over the years it has become customary for couples to make a bit of a splash when making their first appearance as husband and wife. Some enter with a special song. Others prefer something a bit more theatrical. Explore these ideas for memorable wedding reception entrances.

• Catch guests by surprise. Wedding guests will probably expect the wedding party to enter through a certain door and the bride and groom to follow afterward. An element of surprise, such as the couple rising from the floor or appearing from a different area in the reception hall, may not require a lot of planning but can have a dramatic effect. Unpredictable entrances also include unexpected song choices or dramatic lighting to immediately draw everyone’s attention.

• Stick to one or two songs. Some couples think it might be fun to have each member of the wedding party enter with a different song. Not only will this take a lot of coordination on the part of the deejay, but it can make the entrance choppy as well. Introductions may go more smoothly if couples have the entire wedding party enter to a particular song that revs up the crowd and gets them excited for the grand entrance. At the height of the song, the bride and groom will enter. The entrance typically segues into a couple’s first dance.

• Go with people’s strengths. A couple may want to showcase special skills as they enter the reception hall.

There’s no limit to what couples can do, from acrobatic techniques to tap dancing to juggling. If it’s entertaining, it very well may prove memorable.

• Make sure everyone is on board. Couples should recognize that some members of the wedding party may be uncomfortable acting like clowns in front of a crowd.

Do not force anyone to participate in crazy antics if they do not want to. Find things each member of a wedding

party feels comfortable doing. Couples may want their bridal party members to enter in a more traditional way before the newlyweds do something more dramatic and humorous.

• Include the entrance in your planning. If you want to follow a certain theme, such as “Star Wars” or “Mission Impossible,” coordinate in advance with a deejay or band members. Talk about what, if any, props you plan to use and the type of music that will be playing.

If entrances involve choreography, be certain to practice in advance of the wedding so everything will work out well and look professional. However, even stunts that go awry can be entertaining and funny for guests.

• Low-key entrances are acceptable, too. Couples who aren’t into much fanfare should not feel pressured to make an entrance with a dance routine or to have any stunning visual effects. If you want a low-key introduction, arrange for such an entrance with the emcee.

Wedding entrances are what a couple makes of them, and they can run the gamut from traditional introductions to theatrical skits and dance routines.

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Kids or No Kids?

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eddings are a time for celebration and sharing good times. Some couples want to share their love and excitement with as many people as they can fit under one roof, while others may prefer a more intimate affair to enjoy with a select few.

One difficult decision couples must face when planning a wedding is whether or not to invite children to join in the festivities.

Young guests can bring an energetic spark to the celebration, but kids unaccustomed to dressing up and enjoying a fancy night out may get swept away by the majesty of the night. Adult guests looking to have a good time may find it difficult to relax and let loose if they have to keep a constant eye on their children.

The topic of children at weddings is a tricky subject.

Family and friends may have strong opinions on either side of the debate. Ultimately, the couple needs to come to an agreement regarding children at their wedding. Once a decision has been made, couples can employ some strategies to make the wedding as enjoyable as possible for every age group.

No children Couples who decide to exclude kids from their guest lists should alert guests well in advance of the “no kids” edict. Be tactful when alerting guests. If you will be sending out save-the-date cards, include the phrase “Adults only, please” on the card. You also may want to include the information on a wedding website if you have one. A website affords you more space to explain your stance on young guests.

When it comes to the wedding invitation, your indications should already be clear. However, you can reinforce that kids are not invited by addressing the invitations accordingly. Do not include the children’s names or “and family” on the envelope. Invitations should only feature the names of the people being invited.

Be consistent if you do not want children at the reception. It is not okay to allow one guest’s kids while excluding another’s. The only exception is children who are members of the wedding party. However, if you prefer a kid-free wedding, you may want to avoid a ring bearer and flower girl during the ceremony.

Chances are word will spread that the wedding is not

for child guests. If you do not want to handle inquiries, ask a member of the bridal party to answer any kid-related questions.

Children allowed Contrary to popular belief, children can be well-behaved at a wedding and add a youthful component to the celebration. Watching a child twirling on the dance floor or devouring a large piece of wedding cake can make a wedding day more memorable and special.

Couples who invite kids to the wedding should expect the unexpected from their youngest guests. Let the small things slide and speak with youngsters’ parents if any issues arise.

Arrange for some activities to keep children entertained and out of trouble. Have the band or deejay incorporate some child-friendly dances or activities. Designate the kids’ table and arrange some small toys or activity books.

Be sure to choose some child-friendly foods during the cocktail hour. Hungry children can be that much more fussy. Arrange a special menu with the catering manager and be clear about how many kids are invited. Usually kids’ dinners cost substantially less than adults’.

Some reception sites may provide a separate room where children can gather. A television with a favorite movie or a few video games may be all that’s necessary to pass the time. Hire a babysitter to stay with the children and give adults in the other room peace of mind.

Limited children You may want to include older children at the wedding but have younger ones stay home. As you would for a wedding without kids, spread the word that there is an age limit. On save-the-date announcements, request that “No children younger than age 12” attend the wedding.

Be prepared for some opposition from guests whose kids fall under the age limit. Just be firm with your plans.

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The banquet space can host up to 250 or more people, according to Jeremy Buthe, club manager.

“We have a large banquet space,” he said.

The draw at the club is the gorgeous view of Lake Manawa, Buthe said.

“The reception area overlooks the lake. We have an outdoor patio area, many people will have the ceremony right on the lake,” he continued. “We also have a big open space between the clubhouse and lake for use.”

The club offers a full catering package, while also pro-

viding chairs, tables, linens, China and more.

“Our reputation for our food program is second to none,” Buthe said. “And really, people love us for the ambiance – being on the lake is fun. Our selling point is being on the lake, the ambiance that comes with that. We have a great view.”

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BAYLISS PARK HALL 530 First Ave. Council Bluffs, IA (712) 325-8388 baylissparkhall.com

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ocated at 530 First Ave., Bayliss Park Hall has been an amazing venue for weddings for decades.

The former Elks building was built in the colonial-revival architecture style and features a wide porch and upper balcony.

Arlo Burk, who co-owns the hall, said about 95 percent of the events at the hall are weddings or receptions, with about half of all couples doing both on site.

“We offer a nice package when they do the wedding and reception,” Burk said.

Burk said the venue is unique because it allows couples to bring their own drinks and insured caterers.

The hall also offers in-house catering for as little as $10 per person.

“We help our (couples) with the choice of caterers and some of the other services they’d like us to get involved with,” Burk said. “We’re offering more than just a facility rental.”

The hall also offers easy access to Bayliss Park, a destination spot in Council Bluffs for wedding photos.

“It’s gorgeous for pictures,” Burk said.

There are photos of the hall’s rooms from its formal dedication on April 19, 1901, featured throughout the building. Architectural features such as columns, woodwork and glass windows have been preserved.

“People enjoy the uniqueness of a glorious antique building,” Burk said.

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BELLA TERRE 23375 Barrus Road Glenwood, IA (402) 657-5543 bellaterre.com

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ou can see Italy from here” boasts the Bella Terre Reception Hall & Vineyard website. The name means “beautiful lands,” and the wedding destination sits on eight beautiful acres in southwest Iowa.

The venue features an Italian-style hall with interior modeled on a small village. For example, the balconies and windows were sculpted after the famous Ponte Vecchio bridge in Florence, a doorway was based on one from Cortona and an awning from a restaurant in Portofino.

The vineyard represents the Chianti region of Tuscany.

“Our whole idea was to create an Italian experience right here close to home,” said Chuck Zurcher, who manages the venue with his wife, Kim. “We’re not just four walls and a deejay.”

John and Deb Scanlan own the facility, which is at 2337 Barrus Road.

“Weddings at Bella Terre are truly enchanted events. We invite you to step into a unique venue of old-world Italy with the warmth and charm of a more gracious time. With the entire estate of breathtaking surroundings, you can create an event that has a truly romantic and beautiful backdrop for the most special day of your life,” its website states. “It is sure to leave your guests with a lasting impression and create a lifetime of memories for you.”

Wedding and reception packages include a full day rental of the hall, tables and chairs, use of both bride and groom rooms, audio-visual equipment, one to five hours of reception time, bartender service and an event manager.

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BIG GROVE VILLAGE 18807 450th St. Oakland, IA (712) 482-6840 biggrovevillage.com

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quaint Victorian-style wedding chapel fashioned from a former one-room schoolhouse is a key attraction – among many – at Big Grove Village in Oakland.

The nondenominational chapel was built in 1887 as the Martin Schoolhouse. Later, after the school was closed, it was moved to it’s current location and became a chapel, according to the Big Grove website.

The chapel maintains its historic decor and charm.

Located on 160 acres, surrounded by farmland, the village is full of history. The area is a collection of buildings, including a log cabin.

“Couples will stay in the log cabin the night after the wedding,” said Dawn Briggs, a culinary specialist whose parents own Big Grove Village. “It’s very romantic and it’s a great getaway place.”

The venue is also known for its bed and breakfast services. The village won the Friendliest Innkeeper Award from the Iowa Bed and Breakfast Guild in 2011 and 2012.

For the small intimate wedding, the church comfortably seats up to 70 people and has all the modern conveniences of heat/AC, electricity and restroom. “(We’ve) got that country charm,” Briggs said. “It’s something different. It’s small, it’s intimate.”

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CASTLE UNICORN 57034 Deacon Road Pacific Junction, IA (712) 527-5930 castleunicorn.com

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astle Unicorn, south of Council Bluffs, features a castle couples are able to stay in the night before their wedding as part of their package. The outdoor venue holds receptions under a pavilion, which is completely covered and open on three sides. There are ponds, fountains, plans and other wildlife on site.

Castle Unicorn has hosted weddings as large as 375 people, but there is not limit. There is a minimum however – the minimum is 150 people for Saturday weddings and 100 people for Friday and Sunday weddings.

Co-owner John Scott said people often choose their own music, photographers and florists because those decisions can be However, catering is done through Castle Unicorn for convenience. A wide variety of menu options is offered, while there is no additional charge for bartenders. A security guard is not provided.

Venue staff set up and breakdown tables, chairs and linens as well. Castle Unicorn offers privacy rooms for both men and women who participate in wedding ceremonies.

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sixth-generation Shelby farm hosts a beautiful venue for nuptuals.

“Surrounded by trees, native grasses, and flowers, Willow Creek will take your breath away from the moment you step onto the property,” the Willow Creek website states. “Some of Iowa’s prettiest rolling hills provide the background for helping create memories that will last a lifetime.”

Shane and Maritza McCool owns the venue together, and Maritza said the chapel is a destination home to nature’s calling.

“A lot of people like that it’s not in the city and it’s a chance to have a country retreat,” she said. “People are really drawn to that.”

The non-denominational chapel is surround by winding paths, flower beds, native grasses and more. Willow Creek is the only glass chapel in Iowa, according to the McCools, and features 40-foot celings.

The chapel also has two iron gazebos, one on the edge of apond and the other located at the endge of a stream next to the chapel.

A separate building is designated for the bride’s party, which has full-length mirrors and a private bathroom.

All meals must be catered in, and there are no restrictions on caterers.

The property has been in Shane McCool’s family since 1865.

“A lot of people like barn-style weddings,” Maritza McCool said.

WILLOW CREEK GLASS CHAPEL 4072 325th St. Shelby, IA (712) 483-2435

willowcreekglasschapel.com

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MID-AMERICA CENTER 1 Arena Way Council Bluffs, IA (712) 326-2268 caesars.com/casinos/mid-america-center/ hotel-casino/property-home.shtml

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eddings and receptions at the Mid-America Center means there’s one less thing to worry about.

Services are held in the center’s convention space, with catering and bar services provided by the MAC. The staff is experienced and ready to serve.

It’s one stop shopping at the MAC, as staff will set up and clean up. Guests just have to pick what they want.

Though catering and bar services are provided through the MAC, couples can bring their own cakes and other amenities, including flowers, music and wedding mints.

Guests have the option of staying at the adjacent Country Inn & Suites. Block discounts are available for wedding groups.

For wedding ceremonies at the MAC, there is no additional fee if the ceremony is in the same room as the reception.

Other features at the MAC include round tables and chairs, decorated tables, cake cutting services and various other options for linens and champagne. Once couples book their service, they work with an event coordinator to personalize their wedding day.

The MAC prides itself on personalized service, according to staff members.

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WEDDING PLANNING CHECKLIST You’re Engaged!

First Things First

Pre-Planning

What to Wear

Last-Minute Confirmations

Pre-Arrangements

For the Guests

The Majors The Minors Style

Paperwork

Other Arrangements

The Ceremony

Post-Wedding

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EVERYTHING YOU NEED FOR YOUR

Special Day

CATERING • CAKE • FLOWERS CHOCOLATE FOUNTAIN • BEVERAGES • BALLOONS

Council Bluffs:

• 23rd & West Broadway - (712) 328-9792 Catering/Special Events Coordinator: Austin Kucks

• Mall of the Bluffs - (712) 322-9260

Catering/Special Events Coordinator: Josh Benson

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