Josephine October 2010

Josephine October 2010

St. Joseph’s only women’s magazine

TAking The fighT To breAsT cAncer

October 2 at Civic Center Arena

Treatment has seen great advances no-name vs. name-brand Sometimes the generic item is the way to go, and sometimes it’s not

More insiDe: Make your waking hours more productive by sleeping well How to handle annoying people

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cover girl October is a month that has special meaning for Marsha Ingersoll. Diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2004, the Savannah, Mo., resident has been free of the disease for more than five years now. Because October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we asked Marsha for her advice to those still battling the disease.

“You need to take it in stride, stay positive and stay active,” she says. “I had a lot of great mentors, and there are so many people who have lived for a long time after going through this.”

Another thing that Marsha says helped her through cancer was continuing to work as a physical therapist at United Cerebral Palsy where she’s been employed since 1980.

“I love the kids, and I like being able to make a difference, even when I can’t make everything OK,” she says.

Marsha and her husband, Dave, have a son and a daughter.

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Queen of the hill World Cup medalist, ESPN analyst remembers St. Joseph roots

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Come on down We’ll keep you entertained at the Josephine Expo

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Moving forward in the fight Breast cancer treatment has seen great advances

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Go generic Name-brand products aren’t always the best

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A view of the future Fortune tellers say they offer insight, not Halloween thrills

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Wake-up call To have a good morning, you need a good night

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Feeling annoyed?

How to handle people who really push your buttons

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At-home fitness You don’t have to join the gym to get in shape

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editor’s note Things have been especially busy at Josephine in recent weeks, and that’s not just because we’ve been putting together this month’s edition of the magazine.

This Saturday, Oct. 2, you’re invited to an event that’s been a year in the making. Our annual Josephine Expo will be held from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. at Civic Arena.

Although I’ve been marginally involved with the expo for the past couple of years, this time I’ve had an inside look at all that goes on behind the scenes to bring you an event that we aim to make entertaining, insightful and a great day out with your girlfriends.

I’ll be acting as hostess for this year’s event, so throughout the day you’ll be seeing (and hearing) me on stage. I’ll also be spending plenty of time with other Josephine staff members in our booth located in front of the stage, and I would love for you to stop by and tell us what you’d like to see in the magazine and to share your ideas about stories we can write that would make your life easier.

We’re also looking for cover models for the magazine, so if you’re interested, please come by.

This year’s expo includes all kinds of stuff to keep you busy.

We have dozens of vendors, lots of shopping, tasty food and great musical entertainment lined up for you. And back this year by popular demand is our fashion show, brought to you by East Hills Shopping Center, at 11 a.m. and 3 p.m. For all the details on the expo, check out the story by our expo

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Also in this month’s edition you’ll find a couple of other timely stories. October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and on page 16, Erin Wisdom has a look at how detection and treatment of the disease has changed over the years.

As the survivor in that story and our cover model both have proven, breast cancer isn’t an automatic death sentence anymore. Of course, early detection is key, so don’t let those mammograms slide and get to the doctor if you have any reason to believe something’s not right. Those things may produce some anxiety, but the alternative to putting either off could be far worse.

October also is the time of year many of our thoughts turn to the supernatural, and to that end, Sylvia Anderson has talked to local fortune tellers to find out the inside story on what they do. To these folks and their customers, fortune telling isn’t a Halloween trick, it provides year round insights into life. You can find that story on page 20.

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• 9:45 a.m. and 6 p.m. (weigh-ins at 8:30 and 5:45), TOPS (Take off Pounds Sensibly), a nonprofit weight-loss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn St. Call Kay at 364-5354 or Sharon at 232-6339 or e-mail sradtka@stjoelive.com for more information. Every Monday in October.

• 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call 2387503.

Oct. 19 • 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. Call 232-7462.

Oct. 26 • 10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 279-1947.

• 7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258.

• 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, Chillicothe Housing Authority building. Call (660) 707-0097.

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Oct. 6 • 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. Every Wednesday and Saturday in October.

• 7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum.

Call 262-9684.

Every Wednesday in October.

• 5 p.m., Fall Into Fraxel, Advanced Dermatology and Skin Cancer Center, 1419 Village Drive.

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If you would like to list your event or meeting in the calendar, please e-mail your information to josephine@newspressnow.com.

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• 1 p.m., St. Joseph Garden Club, Francis Street First United Methodist Church, autumn tea, visitors welcome. Call 232-9151.

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St. Jo Women On The Go, Holiday Inn, dinner, $12.

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• 5 to 8 p.m., Friday Night Wine Tastings, Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE. Every Friday in October.

• 10 a.m., Paint the Parkway Pink, check-in begins at 8 a.m. in Bartlett Park.

• 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., Josephine Expo, St. Joseph’s Civic Arena, www. josephineexpo. com.

Oct. 21 • 5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 232-9750.

• 7:30 p.m., Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club monthly meeting, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call (816) 669-3478.

Oct. 28 • 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 390-8081.

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take a new diet approach Health. The way people talk about their weight-loss plans — to others and to themselves — can make a huge difference in their success or failure, dietitians say: • Avoid “should” and “have to” statements. Saying “I shouldn’t eat fries” or “I have to eat some chocolate” will make you feel deprived or out of control.

If you’re “choosing” not to eat the food, you have more power and less guilt.

• Don’t say you’re “on a diet.” Look at good eating as a permanent lifestyle switch: “I’ve changed my diet.” Or tell people, “I’m eating more healthfully now.”

• Ditch all-or-nothing thoughts. If you eat one cookie, you haven’t “blown” your diet. Have a realistic mentality, not a catastrophic one: If you stop at one cookie, it’s no big deal.

keep it separate

What is he thinking? Our Shea Conner has this advice for women: I know that when you get married, you’re supposed to share everything — the bed, the banking account, the cars, even the dinnerware (unless your wife doesn’t share the same appreciation for your set of ceramic Spider-Man glasses). But there are two areas of the home where separation should be a necessity: clothing and the CD/DVD collection. Just as I don’t want to sort through V-cut tops and sundresses to get to my Chicago Cubs T-shirt, I don’t want to sift through copies of Madonna’s “Like a Virgin” and Alanis Morisette’s “Jagged Little Pill” on my way to Metallica’s “Ride the Lightning.” And I’m pretty sure my wife would appreciate it if she didn’t have to look over the “Jackass” movie cover every time she wanted to watch “Julie & Julia.”

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do it yourself Money. If you’re heading out grocery shopping and want to cut down your spending, realize you’re often paying for convenience. Prepped meats that have been skinned, cubed, pounded, pre-marinated and/or seasoned before packaging will cause you to fork out a lot more dough. Instead, reach for items like bone-in chicken breasts or other meats, and put forth a couple extra minutes prepping them at home.

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don’t sweep it under the rug Relate. Arguing is not necessarily a sign of a bad marriage. It’s when you do it that makes a difference, Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson says in Psychology Today. According to a recent study, whether you should fight depends on how serious the problem is. Did your spouse drink too much at the party last night, or is he drinking too much every night? Did she splurge a little too much on clothes last month, or are her spending habits edging you closer and closer to bankruptcy? For a successful marriage, you are better off letting the small stuff go. Couples who battled it out over serious issues did a better job of tackling, and eventually resolving, those issues than those who swept big problems under the rug.

perfect power Organize. The best way to store batteries, according to Real Simple magazine, is in their original packaging in a drawer — not, contrary to popular belief, in the refrigerator, as condensation can cause damage. Secure loose batteries with a rubber band, and make sure all the positives point the same way, says Eric Schweitzer, technical program manager for the Association of Electrical and Medical Imaging Equipment Manufacturers. If the terminals touch each other, the life of the batteries can be shortened. “And be sure to put them in a plastic bag so they don’t touch metal objects, like keys, which can cause electrical shorting,” he says.

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World Cup medalist and ESPN softball analyst remembers St. Joseph roots

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5-foot-8, 110-pound girl begins her wind-up as she takes her foot off the pitcher’s mound. Her arm whips around so fast that the batter loses sight of the ball, and when she finally swings, it’s too late.

The ball is in the catcher’s glove and the umpire has called strike three.

This was the scenario for many batters who faced a powerful 12year-old girl from St. Joseph named Cheri Kempf. And now, more than 30 years later, Kempf is a former professional athlete, a World Cup medalist and an ESPN analyst.

It all started with a small softball team from Maryville, Mo., called the Mighty-Mo’s. This is where Kempf fell in love with a hard, yellowish ball with small red stitches.

“I first played for an amateur team,” Kempf says. “It was a great experience, and I really enjoyed when we won.”

While playing for the MightyMo’s, Kempf became a national champion for the Amateur Softball Association (ASA). Dana Browning, Kempf’s former catcher for the Mighty-Mo’s, remembers how it felt to be behind the plate those many years ago.

“She’d whip that ball around and just stun the batters. She was so dominant. People couldn’t touch her. She’s probably the best female athlete out of Northwest Missouri.”

Browning also recalls how thankful she was for Kempf. Catching for her on the Mighty-Mo’s was the reason Browning played college softball, she says.

“The softball coach came to my apartment and said, ‘I want you to play softball for us because you caught for Cheri Kempf.’ I played softball in college because of her.”

In 1981, Kempf played college softball at Missouri Western State College. As a St. Joseph native, Kempf never strayed too far from home.

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She’d whip that ball around and just stun the batters. She was so dominant. People couldn’t touch her. She’s probably the best female athlete out of Northwest Missouri.

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“I grew up in a nice neighborhood and graduated from Mid-Buchanan High School,” she says. “I played at Mo West for three years. A year I played was the only year they won the national softball championship, which was in 1982. Winning the championship was one of my greatest moments. I was a competitor and winning was so much fun for me.”

After graduating college as a three-time All-American, Kempf decided to continue as an adult player. In 1992, Kempf pitched for the United States national team that defeated Belgium and China and won the World Cup. “It was always an honor to represent my country,” Kempf says. “Playing for the national team helped establish professional softball terminology, as this was before the Olympics” began including the sport.

When her playing days were over, Kempf was inducted to the NAIA Collegiate Hall of Fame, the Missouri State ASA Hall of Fame and Missouri Western’s Hall of Fame. She then went on to be a NCAA Division I softball coach and pitching coach for the USA Junior National Team.

“An unexpected thrill for me was watching the athletes that I coached win,” Kempf says. “I really enjoyed it. When I coach I try to point out extraordinary plays. I make sure that young people un-

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derstand what they are doing and what’s out there.”

Today, Kempf, who lives in Hermitage, Tenn., is a member of the Women’s Sports Foundation and the USA Softball Coaching Pool.

She is also president of the National Fast Pitch Coaches Association and the owner of a training facility in Tennessee called Club K. She has written a book entitled “The Softball Pitching Edge” (which is now a DVD) and has invented two devices to help pitchers with finesse, details and mechanics.

“They asked me to do this book and I said, ‘Yes!’” she says. “It covers fundamentals and mechanics from start to finish. There is also a second edition I wrote which will be out early 2011.”

Kempf has been seen and heard several times on ESPN, ESPN2, Fox and many other popular networks.

She was recently recognized as the No. 1 TV analyst for the College Softball World Series.

Kempf’s story proves that a person doesn’t need to be from a huge city to be a candidate for fame and greatness. Kempf explains that all a person needs is a big dream, tons of self-confidence and a little faith.

“I was not one of thousands, so (St. Joseph) lent itself well to me,” she says. “It was the perfect place to grow up, as it was not too big and not too small — just the right place for me as a young person.”

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Come on down Shopping, entertainment and fashion will keep you busy at the Josephine Expo Oct. 2

By TAMARA CLYMER | Josephine magazine

Every fall, women from across the area flock to downtown St. Joseph to enjoy a day of fun, food and fashion at the Josephine Expo. It’s become a bit of a tradition for our readers, and one that we enjoy as much as anybody. We get to hang out with thousands of our readers and have a ton of fun in the process.

This year, the expo is set for Oct. 2 at St. Joseph’s Civic Arena, and as the expo coordinator,

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it’s my job to work with our committee to make sure we have everything in place to provide expo-goers with an amazing experience.

This year I think we’ve outdone ourselves. Here’s a little of what is in store for you at this year’s expo.

entertainment schedule 10 a.m. Phil Vandel For years, Phil Vandel has just been one of those guys who immediately comes to mind when you think of country performers in St. Joseph. A former member of the country duo Vandel Snook and currently fronting the Phil Vandel Band, this St. Joe original deftly writes winning narratives over melodies of catchy country-pop that have won fans over in the Northwest Missouri area.

fashion show After a short hiatus, the Josephine Expo fashion show is back and better than ever. This year’s show is being coordinated by the experts at East Hills Shopping Center. Who better to put the show together than the people who know fashion best? The show this year will showcase not only some amazing fall fashions but also highlight some amazing young talent, of all shapes and sizes, from our community. Be sure to check it out.

11 a.m. Fashion show Brought to you by East Hills Shopping Center. noon John Goolsby John Goolsby was blessed with an acrobatic voice and grainy tone that is adept to effortlessly executing genres as varied as soul, blues, pop and country. He’s made his presence known as a true talent through his work as frontman for the country rock group Shootin Blanks and as a solo artist. Between an arsenal of diverse covers and his own built-to-last pop smart originals, Goolsby will leave little doubt of his place as one of the city’s true talents.

stage schedule One of the most popular parts of the expo each year is the music.

It’s a great opportunity to get a free sample some of the best musical talent St. Joe has to offer. We have some new musical acts this year, including Michael Words and the band Eyelit, but we also have fan favorites The Woodshed and John Goolsby returning. Whether you like acoustic rock, bluegrass or indie folk music, we have something for you to enjoy while you’re shopping, visiting with friends or hanging out in the food court.

demos Where else do you get the chance to ask the experts questions without having to schedule an appointment and pay consulting fees? This year’s demo schedule includes Zumba demonstrations, dieting tips and free financial advice, among Please see Page 14

1 P.m. eyelit Eyelit consists of the husband-and-wife musical duo Austin and Dansare Marks. Over piano, acoustic guitar, simple-yet-gorgeous voices and skeletal arrangements, they deliver an utterly arresting rendition of intimate indie folk that’s as inspired by pioneers like Bob Dylan as it is today’s notable indie singer/songwriters like Bon Iver and Iron and Wine.

2 P.m. marcus words This St. Joe singer/songwriter has made himself a staple in the local music scene through his solo performances and as a member of The Leading Average. His brand of acoustic rock blends aspects of funk, pop and jazz with lyrical self-reflections and a warm tenor whether he’s singing his own original tunes or putting his signature twist on songs by Stevie Wonder, Tom Petty or Counting Crows.

3 P.m. Fashion show Brought to you by East Hills Shopping Center.

4 P.m. the woodshed Made up of a quartet of veteran musicians, The Woodshed — with Tracy Huffman (vocals, guitar, banjo), Sean Cleary (vocals, guitar, dobro), Michael Coman (bass, vocals) and Rhonda Coman (percussion) — has established itself during the past three years as one of St. Joe’s best acoustic roots outfits. The group will surely have you hooked with its versions of classics by Neil Young and Johnny Cash, bluegrass and traditional folk and its own original tunes.

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booths One thing that hasn’t changed is all of the great booths at the expo.

This year’s sponsors include Hy-Vee, Heartland Health, East Hills Shopping Center, Dillard’s, Vatterott College, St. Joseph Cablevision and the St. Joseph News-Press. We also have some veteran vendors back, including Spec Shoppe, Stay at Home Mom’s Candles, The Soap Lounge and Simply Tea. And there are tons of new vendors to visit. We have cosmetic, jewelry, fashion accessory, kitchen utensil, home décor, health care and entertainment booths to see, just to name a few.

food And what Josephine Expo would be complete without tons of great food to sample and dine on. This year is no exception. The food court, once again sponsored by Hy-Vee, will anchor

the west side of the arena. There are barbecue meats, pizza, sandwiches, chips and salsa, specialty desserts and, of course, ice cream. And to wash it down, your traditional sodas are joined by specialty teas and coffees, wine and margaritas.

Tickets for the expo are just $5, and you can save a buck with a coupon found in the NewsPress. Tickets are on sale at the St. Joseph HyVee and the News-Press or can be purchased the day of the event at the Civic Arena.

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Moving forward in the fight Breast cancer treatment has seen great advances

By Erin Wisdom Josephine magazine

Carol Rasnic was 54 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and it was her liver that gave it away.

Nearly 20 years ago, the push for annual mammograms wasn’t what it is today. Ms. Rasnic’s cancer had already reached stage four and metastasized before it was caught — and at that point, not even surgery and chemotherapy could save her. A year later, she passed away.

Julie RasnicStewart was diagnosed with breast cancer about a year ago and had a double mastectomy.

Although she is still recovering, now she is cancer free.

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But if any good can come from such a bad situation, it may be that when Rasnic’s daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer, it was in an early stage.

“I’ve been getting routine mammograms since I was 27,” says Julie Rasnic-Stewart of Fillmore, Mo., who was 37 at the time of her diagnosis. “I didn’t have to go through what my mom did.”

That’s because, in addition to a much earlier diagnosis, Rasnic-Stewart also underwent testing that revealed chemotherapy likely wouldn’t be successful for her and that if she had only the cancerous tissue removed, her chances of experiencing a reoccurrence were 90 percent. Thus she opted for a double mastectomy and — a year later — is alive and well.

The early diagnosis that saved Rasnic-Stewart’s life is just one example of how far breast cancer treatment has come over the past few decades.

“It’s not just ‘Oh, I’ve got a lump and I’ve got to go to the operating room and have my breast off tomorrow,” says Dr. Edward Andres, a surgeon with Heartland Surgical Associates and the driving force behind the breast center Heartland Regional Medical Center opened two years ago. “That never happens anymore. ... It used to be that there were these big, horrendous operations and you took as much as you could get away with to get rid of the disease, but now, we’ve learned that instead of this big operation, we can be more targeted and get better results.”

This isn’t to say mastectomies don’t happen, just that they aren’t the automatic go-to that they were in the past. In his almost 40-year career at Heartland, Andres has witnessed progress not only in the

form of less drastic surgery techniques but also in chemotherapy, radiation, hormone manipulation and the use of antibodies — which all combine to make breast cancer treatment multidisciplinary and to give patients more options for their fight.

But a new challenge, Andres says, can be getting patients to embrace these options. One protest he says he hears repeatedly comes from patients who would prefer an open biopsy to a less-invasive needle biopsy, which has become the norm.

“They say, ‘I just want it out, doctor. I don’t want a needle,’” he says. “That’s just not appropriate anymore. We have to educate patients.”

He adds that eight to nine out of 10 times, the biopsy results will come back negative. In the past — when open biopsies were the standard way to go — patients often could breathe a sigh of relief they didn’t have cancer but were left with a scar that would make future testing more difficult.

Also different now is a trend toward breast centers like Heartland’s that tend to offer more coordinated and expedient care than was typical in the past — reducing the amount of time from when a patient receives an abnormal mammogram until she is diagnosed from about eight weeks to about eight days.

Of course, even with advances, treatment is still most likely to lead to a cure when cancer is caught early. The most likely way to accomplish this is through a mammogram, and the standard recommendation is that women begin receiving annual mammograms at age 40. (A family history of breast cancer — as in Rasnic-Stewart’s case — might lead a doctor to recommend receiving mammograms sooner. But generally this isn’t encouraged since breast tissue is denser in younger women, which renders the test less effective.)

Despite this recommendation, however, plenty of women don’t receive regular mammograms.

Heartland hopes to reach women like this through the “mammogram marathon” it’s planning to host from 8 p.m. Nov. 5 through 8 p.m. Nov. 6. For women who can’t afford the test, the Heartland Auxiliary and YWCA will cover the cost, and Heartland will provide a ride for anyone who needs it.

“This will be a time blocked out for people who can’t get a mammogram for whatever reason — time, cost, transportation,” Andres says. “If we wait until someone has a palpable cancer, we’ve moved beyond stage one. But if we detect it early, we treat it early.”

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he word “generic” brings to mind colorless food boxes and prescription drugs with weird sounding names.

But when customers or patients are able to put aside advertising slogans, they can find dramatic savings when using generic medication and off-brand foods.

Generic medications Although it can take as long as 15 years for a brand-name medication to have a generic counterpart, typically the generic drug is exactly the same as the brand name — for a fraction of the cost.

“The main difference between generic and brand name is just the manufac-

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turer most of the time,” said Bill Lipira with Rx Alternatives. “They have the same active ingredients. They have to undergo the same quality assurance testing as the brand-name drug.”

In most cases, Lipira says a generic drug should perform in exactly the same way.

“Some people insist that the brandname drug works better,” Lipira says.

“But in my opinion that is mostly psychological.”

There are just a few medications, according to Lipira, that the FDA has determined are not “therapeutically equivalent” to their name-brand counterpart. This amounts to only about 4 percent of generic medications, but patients should check with their doctor. Patients taking heart or epilepsy medications should be especially careful because the efficacy of their medication

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is particularly important.

Lipira says patients also should be aware that a pharmacist cannot simply trade out a generic medication for a brand name. A doctor must write on the prescription that a generic substitute is OK. So patients who prefer generic medications will need to mention that in the exam room.

“I’d say 9 out of 10 times the doctor says it is OK to use the generic drug,” Lipira says. “But it doesn’t hurt for people to be aware.”

Generic food Choosing between generic foods and brand-name goods is a bit more complicated. Not only are grocery store customers blasted with advertisements, but manufacturers actually pay more to have their foods placed at eye-level on the shelves. Patrons sometimes need to

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search out generic options.

In many cases, the generic option has the exact same ingredients as the brand name. Rachelle Hochgraber, dietitian for the Liberty, Mo., Hy-Vee, says she recommends checking ingredient lists before making a purchase.

“When it comes to snack-type foods, such as chips and soda pop, there can be a big difference between the ingredients,” Hochgraber says, “which also explains why most shoppers say they can taste a greater difference between Mountain Dew and Hee Haw and Del Monte and Hy-Vee green beans. For things like canned and frozen vegetables, there are not many differences among a name brand versus generic in the ingredient listing.”

When it comes to nutrition, there can be a tremendous difference between name-brand and generic food products. For those who aren’t big “label readers,” Hochgraber offers this tip: If the list of ingredients is three or more, that is a clue to do a closer comparison of the nutrition facts. She says, typically, the longer the list, the more caloric and nutrition differences.

So what should customers be looking for when considering food labels? Hochgraber says there could be differences of up to 5 grams of fat, 5 grams of sugar and up to 100 milligrams of salt between generic and name-brand foods.

“This can be significant, depending upon health concerns,” Hochgraber says. “A shopper concerned with sodium would find 100 milligrams to be a significant difference and would look at a different brand. If they are purchasing an item based on budget or financial concerns, then the lowerpriced item would be top priority over health.”

In the end, Hochgraber says, it all comes down to a few simple questions: Does the generic item taste different?

Does nutritional value matter? Does the integrity of the product, including the environmental impact, matter? Is the taste difference worth the lower price? Is the nutrition difference worth the lower price? Is the family argument worth the lower price?

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Famous psychic Edward Caycee Expecting a baby? There’s a simple way to reportedly accessed these same records figure out if it will be a boy or girl according for readings. It has to “Madam Le Marchand’s Fortune Teller and a lot to do with the belief in reincarnaDreaming Dictionary.” tion, Lory says, and learning from your Originally published in 1863, it told profespast lives and how they are affecting sional and amateur fortune tellers how to you today. Lory also uses several decks read cards, tell fortunes with dice, tea, coffee of Doreen Virtue grounds, eggs, apple-pairings, palms and even oracle cards to do readings. moles on the body.

“I’m a little leery of Tarot cards,” Although we may laugh at some of the she says. “The methods, the book is still being published traditional kinds are too weighty on the today and the fascination with fortune spooky end of things sometimes for me. telling is just as popular, if not more so.

I’m not here to spook somebody.”

Granted, it’s often for entertainment. And She likes the Doreen Virtue cards if it’s not, there are plenty of skeptics because the pictures are pretty, with who question the methods, not to mention primarily benevolent looking angels on scammers and frauds involved who want them. A book comes with them to explain to make a buck. But local psychics say if what they generally mean. She says the you are looking for some real answers, cards and all psychic tools are simply they can be found, and there is more to it used to get things started, by asking you than entertainment — if you want there questions to tap your inner thoughts. to be.

“I really want them to get into their Psychic medium Lory Lacy, professionintuition,” she says. “That’s where the ally known as “Lory Elle” gives readings real meat is. Everybody has the psychic on Monday nights at Café Acoustic in St. gift, some more than others. If you tune Joseph and also online. Although she has into it, it’s like a radio receiver and it’s a known of her psychic abilities since she matter of tuning into the station.” was 3 years old, it wasn’t until the last few There are two things to be wary of if years she began studying metaphysics you are trying to tap into the spiritual and tapped in to her abilities. world without any guidance, says Laura“At some point I feel that science and lei, owner of White Light Bookstore and metaphysics will come together and unCrystals in Kansas City. Lauralei and her derstanding will happen in a way beyond husband, David, are both psychics and what we know,” she says. teach several kinds of classes on chanLory says she can predict the future neling, which is a way of communicating to a degree and see into someone’s past. with spirits. They also do spiritual healBut currently, she’s found a niche as ing through Reiki and Sacred Geometry, an Akashic reader after studying Linda plus astrological readings.

Howe’s book on the subject. The Akashic “I wouldn’t ever suggest using an Ouija Record is like a virtual record of everyboard,” Lauralei says. “We have free will thing in the universe that has happened, on this level. If you invite a lower energy she says. When you give Lory your full into your space, they can be there. I alname, she accesses the record through a ways suggest working with a master soul Josephine magazine

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or spirit guide — the frequency is so high, it keeps anything lower from coming around you.”

Lauralei is the first to admit there are people who think believing in this sort of thing is crazy or worse. That’s why she only goes by her first name.

“People are very judgmental, even my family,” she says. “They like to say you’re crazy or insane, but whenever there is a crisis, I’m the first one they call. Other than that, I’m crazy.”

Crazy or not, she has been asked by the police and FBI to help with missing person cases and has been successful at it.

However, she found it emotionally draining and now prefers to help people with spiritual guidance, she says.

“I would much rather do channeling to tell people what their mission in life is, what they came to learn and experience and things that help them with their own spiritual growth.”

The other warning she has about seeking psychic advice is that it can be addictive.

“You can get addicted to a psychic as much as anything else,” she says. “You get addicted to knowing what’s going to happen and hearing it’s going to be OK. So I will only do card readings for someone every two months.”

A two-month period is also the most accurate. After that it drops way down, she says. And that’s because we have free will.

“You have to take into account that we have our own choices and abilities.

So your future is always in your hands,” agrees Dale Davied, president of The Psychical Research Society of Kansas City, a non-profit group that meets in Parkville, Mo., to study psychic development, “People can tell you things that can change it,” Dale says. “But you have the ultimate choice in your outcome.”

He says there are a few scammers out there who will try to convince you otherwise and say something like “you have this spirit around you and if you pay this amount, I will get rid of it for you.” But for the most part, he’s found that psychics are caring and giving individuals who want to see the world as a better place.

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Check it out yourself at one of the two PRSKS Psychic fairs the group holds each year. They usually have at least 20 different psychic readers and around 50 vendors offering everything from aura photography to spiritual guide paintings, Dale Davied says. This fall the fair is scheduled for the weekend of Oct. 22 through 24 at the MCC exhibit hall at Interstate 435 and Front Street. The hours are 4 to 10:30 p.m. Oct. 22; 11 a.m. to 10:30 p.m.

Oct. 23 and 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. Oct. 24. Admission is $14 for the whole weekend and free for PRSKC members. For more information, visit www.prskc.org or call (816) 880-9474. For more information on the services at The White Light Bookstore and Crystals, visit or call (816) 931-0116. And to get more information on Lory Elle and her appearances at Café Acoustic visit loryelle.com or call Café Acoustic at 671-1141.

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To have a good morning, you need a good night

Wake-up call

By Kristen Hare

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f the snooze button on your alarm clock looks a bit worn these days, if you’re late for the office or morning appointments or show up looking like you just fell out of bed, the problem may be a simple one — you’re having a hard time waking up.

Most people do.

But in order to have a better morning, and even a better day, you really have to look at what’s happening the night before.

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That, says Dr. Michael Loggan, a pulmonologist at Liberty Hospital, is where all the trouble begins.

“I think a lot of people have problems waking up in the morning,” he says.

But for most people who don’t have medical problems with sleep, like sleep apnea, getting a good night’s sleep really just means developing good sleep hygiene.

The techniques are pretty simple, and they make sense, too.

• Limit your naps during the day.

• Don’t use your bedroom for anything other than sleeping.

• Turn off the TV and the computer.

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• Keep your room quiet.

• Don’t drink caffeine at bedtime.

• Cut back on alcohol, which can cause your sleep to be fragmented.

• Keep a regular schedule.

Also, don’t go to bed early just because you have a big day ahead.

“You need to make sure you’re tired and you’re ready to go to bed,” he says.

Many people end up in bed when they’re not tired and worry about the coming day, or bills, or kids.

To calm your mind, try some simple breathing techniques and yoga poses at bedtime, recommends

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Patti Stark, owner of Serenity on the Square in Liberty.

One simple pose she recommends is laying on your back and putting your feet and legs up against the wall. Do this for 15 to 30 minutes.

“It really helps the body to calm down and relax.”

In her house, they take baths each night with one cup of sea salt and one cup of baking soda. You can add epsom salt, too, Stark says. Soak for about 20 minutes and dunk your head under once or twice.

“It is really, really relaxing.”

Once in bed, instead of running through the past day or racing into the coming one, Stark recommends a visualization that involves seeing your breath moving like energy or light up and down your spine. On the way down, let it leave your body and return to the earth. On the way up, let it leave your body and head for the sky.

What you’re really doing is focusing your attention on your breath,

and the thinking and worrying stops.

In the morning, Stark does something similar. In the five minutes before you’re really awake, when your do-to list starts forming, she recommends focusing instead on the things you want to see for the day — not chores and duties, but feelings and experiences.

“Before I even put my feet on the floor, I send myself these affirmations that I need,” Stark says.

Once awake, she recommends warming yoga poses like the sun salutation. And don’t rush through your morning, she says. If you enjoy your cup of coffee, then enjoy your cup of coffee. Take the time to energize yourself before rushing out the door already feeling exhausted.

Heather Thompson, owner of Hazel’s Gourmet Coffee and Tea in St. Joseph, has one simple solution for the morning blahs.

“Caffeine, definitely,” she says.

There’s always a morning rush at

Hazel’s, but also one in the afternoon as people hit that mid-day slump. When you hit that point, there are several solutions, Loggan says.

“Of course, techniques like caffeine can be helpful,” he says.

And if you’re afraid of drinking too much caffeine, Thompson says you can always order your drink half-caffeinated.

You also could take a short walk or exercise and get some fresh air, and if you really don’t have any medical sleep problems, Loggan says a short nap does wonders.

If you’re falling asleep at work, however, instead of just feeling sleepy, he recommends seeing a doctor to make sure you don’t have any medical sleep issues.

But if you don’t, if you’re just dragging through the day, well, look back to your nights to solve that one, he says.

“The problem is what you did last night.”

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Aristotle knew what he was talking about. There’s often no escape from things that annoy us, so we have to learn how to deal with them in a productive way.

“Try not to get angry,” says Pam Clary, a licensed clinical social worker and instructor at Missouri Western State University. “That won’t help the situa-

tion, plus it could make you look bad.”

It can help to empathize with a person and not take their behavior personally, Clary says, but that can be hard if it’s a family member or co-worker.

“You may have to really look at yourself inwardly and ask, ‘Why does this person annoy me?’” she says. “ ... We tend to let annoying people take up more of our time and energy than necessary.”

Diane Kyser, executive director and founder of The Community Mediation Center of Kansas City, says remaining calm during a conflict is key.

“Our tendency is to avoid dealing with conflicts until someone either explodes or ends the relationship,” she says. “My first tip for everyone in a conflict is don’t talk, listen. Try to understand the other person’s perspective.”

O Staying calm means you don’t do something you regret later.

O Becoming overly angry can led to doing something rash. If you can stay calm, you’re more likely to choose constructive actions.

O Getting annoyed really harms no one but you.

O Getting annoyed makes it easier to get mad the next time.

O It may not be intentional at all. Maybe they have absolutely no idea that they’re annoying you.

O People make mistakes. Don’t read too much into it when people do inconsiderate things. It may simply be an honest mistake.

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In most situations, that will produce better results than placing blame on the other person. “I know it is basic, but the ‘I feel ... when you ... because ...’ statements are best to use,� Clary says. “It helps you own your own feelings, and no one can make you feel guilty for your feelings.�

Kyser says it’s possible to be kind and honest, but we usually opt for one or the other. “Speak, expressing your feelings, needs and experience,� she says. “Attitude is very important. Whatever is said will be interpreted in the context of the speaker’s body language and tone. So, the willingness to learn from the other rather than to protect one’s own views will be conveyed in words the speaker uses and the attitude with which they are said.�

It’s important in any conversation for both parties to be heard and understood.

In order to really understand, you must acknowledge and manage the emotions that are driving the conflict. “Conflict will not be dealt with well until the emotions driving the conflict are managed — not squashed, managed,� Kyser says. “Behind every angry word is an unmet need. ... Just stopping to name the emotion that one is experiencing requires one to think about what is happening.�

Alexander Kjerulf is one of the world’s leading experts in happiness at work. He speaks and works as a consultant in businesses all over the world. “The very best strategy is to become less angry,� Kjerulf says in an article at positivesharing.com. “If you can fix it so that it takes more to trigger your anger reflex, you will enjoy greater peace of mind and be more free to act decisively and constructively when you are treated badly at work.�

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She recommends finding a video that has good music and fun moves. “If it’s something your grandma would like, don’t buy it,� Still says. “If you don’t enjoy it, chances are you’ll never do it again.�

There are literally thousands of workout DVDs out there with just as many customer reviews. Kris Prater of St. Joseph says it pays to know what you’re buying.

In her personal collection, Prater has about 12 different videos for her workout routines, and there are another 30 among the three friends she exercises with. “It’s easy to get bored,� she says.

If you’ve never done a home workout video before, make sure you start off on the right foot.

Choose a video that’s fun and interesting and will keep you on your toes.

There are tons to choose from, so feel free to be selective.

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never say to a woman during a disagreement, courtesy of Men’s Health.

The comments are my own:

here’s a commercial that shows Honest Abe Lincoln fidgeting uncomfortably as his wife, a frumpily dressed Mary Todd Lincoln, asks him if she looks fat. Abe struggles to come up with the right answer, but being the honest guy that he is, he finally answers with a hand gesture that says “maybe a little.” Mary Todd storms off in a huff. Abe, meanwhile, stands confounded, sure he’ll pay dearly for his honesty later.

And that’s where we guys often find ourselves, teetering on a slender beam of response, hoping to balance ourselves with the right answer.

One false move and we fall into a dark abyss of withering stares, dead silence and no sex.

There’s nothing you can experience beforehand that will prepare you for how to answer women — unless maybe you let someone throw knives at you in a carnival side show. You can do nothing and still get hit.

The rule book on how to answer women is ever-changing. Any advice given can be obsolete by the next argument. A simple and sweet “I love you” can even cause a firestorm in the wrong context.

Simply put, women hear things differently from men. An innocuous statement has the potential to enrage them. Women want honesty, but you won’t know how much until you find out like Abe when it’s too much.

Men’s Health magazine recently ran an article on “Five Things You Should Never Say To A Woman.”

The article warns of how seemingly simple phrases can cause big trouble.

Here’s the five things men should

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“RELAX” — Never, ever tell a woman having a hissy fit to relax. It’s like trying to light a grill with gasoline. Sure it will work on a conventional level, but it will create much more fire than you need or want.

“I LOVE YOU” — I love you sounds good after you’ve made love. It sounds good after your wife just cooked a great meal.

But it’s not what she wants to hear when you’re coming in the door at 3 a.m. To her, those words are a precursor to some bad news of what you might have done before you came home.

“IT’S UP TO YOU” — This is one of those few times that women want men to be in control. They want you to pick out the restaurant or where to go on vacation. It’s partly because it shows that you’ve given thought to the matter and that you really care.

“It’s up to you” makes it sound as if you’re just along for the ride in the relationship.

“YOU KNEW I WAS THIS WAY WHEN YOU MARRIED ME” — And she married you hoping she could change you. She didn’t marry the slob she now sees molding away on the couch covered in Doritos and chili sauce.

SAYING NOTHING — When you ask your wife if something is wrong and she says “nothing,” you know it’s “something.” Say nothing and walk away and you’ll soon find out what “nothing” was and more. Any answer is better than no answer.

As an added bonus, here are five phrases that will gain you favor with your woman.

1. “Tell me everything.”

2. “Let’s go see another chick flick.”

3. “It was my fault.”

4. “Spend as much as you want.”

5. “I’ll buy it for you.”

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should hire myself out as a bloodhound because I have a super-powered schnozz. My olfactory receptors are so sensitive, I not only sniff out good things, like cookies baking or rain in the air, but I am also the one to point out the smell of body odor, gas leaks and mice. (Yes, once I smelled a mouse before we saw him in the closet.)

Because I am scent-oriented, I have bottles of perfume, lotion and cream lined across my vanity that can make me smell like anything from roses and coconuts to gardenias or even cotton candy. I use a minimum of 15 different products on my face and body just to be able to present myself to the world as a “natural” beauty.

I became aware of the importance of how you should smell after my parents let me spend a weekend with my eccentric aunt. We had a marvelous time together, but the aroma of that weekend — 20-year-old Chanel No. 5, stale cigarette smoke and moth balls — lingered in my hair and clothes for days.

Vowing to never smell like that, I became fascinated with scented items, especially giant bottles of bubble bath with fake flowers stuck inside. I was so impressed with the tacky bottle of suds makers that I purchased one for my grandmother every Christmas for six years straight. It never occurred to me Grandma didn’t even have a bathtub so she really didn’t need a product used for soaking. Yet every year, she kindly took the gift of floral-infused personal detergent and sat it on the back of her toilet, along with the previously received ones, and there they sat. Unopened. Forever.

Grandma may not have opened the bubble bath but she loved smelling good. She had a whole collection of items sitting on her dresser that were off-limits, just like the bubble bath.

I remember as a little girl sitting with her at her vanity as she held up

a bottle of amber-colored liquid and explained, “This has superpowers and can make men fall at your feet.” She took off the lid, covered the opening with her index finger and tipped the bottle to the side. She took her moistened fingertip and gently touched behind my ear.

Within seconds, my eyes started to water and I felt nauseated. I quickly became light-headed from holding my breath, not wanting to inhale the corrosive product that had just been applied to my body. I knew immediately why the perfume had such a powerful effect on men. It apparently had the same ingredients in it as chloroform.

Grandma must have been superhuman because she could pour about a cup and a half of this stuff on her person before going out on the town and never even stumble, her scent lingering in the air for three days after she passed through.

My mother was not a good example when it came to perfume selection, either. She went more organic, choosing musk oil as her signature scent, but the cologne was oil-based, which meant she smelled good but was always greasy, as was everything she touched. If she answered the telephone then handed it to me, I was “accidentally” wearing musk oil. If she put mail in the mailbox, the postal carrier was wearing musk oil. By the end of the day, everyone in mom’s path, including the dog, smelled just like her.

Hopefully, I have learned from their mistakes. But who knows? My kids may discuss my choice of fragrances and pray they never get stuck in an elevator with me because they are too nice to tell me I smell like a combo of lilacs and Limburger cheese. I just hope they will learn to embrace their own scent. Just like a skunk, if you think you smell good, proudly stroll through life knowing there is someone out there whose eyes don’t water when they smell the aroma of your presence.

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getting real

Signature scent Not everyone realizes the importance of how you smell Stacey molluS is a humor columnist

who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”

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A main-course Caesar salad Add chicken to round out the meal

McClatchy-Tribune

nutrition information Per serving: 551 calories (33 percent from fat), 20.1 g fat (4.2 g saturated,10.4 g monounsaturated), 118 mg cholesterol, 50.1 g protein, 4208 g carbohydrates, 6.4 g fiber, 995 mg sodium.

Makes: Two servings

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Caesar salad is said to have been created in 1924 in Tijuana, Mexico, by a restaurateur named Caesar Cardini. His dressing was made with anchovies, garlic, lemon juice, oil and eggs.

But when I set out to make a dressing very light and without eggs it must have succeeded — it disappeared in minutes.

This salad becomes a main course with the addition of spicy coated chicken. The chicken only takes 10 minutes to cook in a preheated broiler.

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chicken caesar salad Vegetable oil spray 3/4 pound boneless, skinless chicken breast 1/2 cup plain bread crumbs 2 teaspoons minced garlic, divided use 1 teaspoon dried oregano Salt and freshly ground black pepper 1 egg white, lightly beaten For dressing: 4 anchovy fillets, mashed 4 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce 4 teaspoons olive oil 4 teaspoons lemon juice For salad: 1 small head Romaine lettuce, washed and cut into pieces (about 8 cups) 1 cup plain croutons 2 tablespoons Parmesan cheese Preheat broiler. Line a baking tray with foil and spray with vegetable oil spray. Remove visible fat from chicken. Mix bread crumbs, 1 teaspoon minced garlic, oregano and salt and pepper to taste together in a small bowl. Dip chicken into egg white and then roll in bread crumbs. Dip in egg white again and roll again in bread crumbs. Place on prepared baking sheet and broil about 6 inches from heat for five minutes. Check after three minutes.

If breadcrumbs start to burn, cover the chicken with foil and continue to cook. Turn and broil another five minutes. A meat thermometer should read 170 degrees. Remove from oven. While chicken broils, place anchovies, remaining teaspoon garlic, Worcestershire sauce, olive oil and lemon juice in the bowl of a food processor and blend thoroughly, or mix and mash together by hand. Place lettuce in a bowl and toss with half the dressing. Divide lettuce between two dinner plates.

Add croutons and sprinkle with Parmesan cheese. Cut chicken into thin slices and place on top. Spoon remaining dressing over the top.

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