Josephine December 2013

Josephine St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

December 2013

Deck the halls

Go beyond snowmen and Santas this Christmas

Forget the Christmas sweater Get the right lip color St. Joseph Police Department’s first female commander Building the perfect bun

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Deck the halls Christmas decorations that dazzle all season long

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Sparkle all the way Step away from those Christmas sweaters

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Good medicine How to choose the doctor who’s right for you

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Making history Janice Rothganger is fi rst female commander in the St. Joseph Police Department

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Lovely lips Pick the perfect color

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cover girl Katie Peterson is a 25-year-old St. Joseph native. She graduated from Northwest Missouri State University in 2011 with a bachelor’s degree in merchandising and an emphasis in fashion and interior design. She started working for the previous owner of Spectacular Settings during her senior year of college and was approached to take over the business during the summer of 2012. On Dec. 1, she will celebrate one whole year of officially owning her own business.

When she has free time, she enjoys reading and crafting, though she admits her job keeps her very busy. However, she enjoys the opportunity to have a career doing something she loves.

“I am happy to say it has been a successful year, and I feel so fortunate and blessed to be the owner of my own business at my age,” she says.

Read some of Katie’s holiday decor tips on page 16.

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Dressing up hot chocolate

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Don’t overdo it

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Building the perfect bun

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Stocking stuffers

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Handling nosy questions

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Holiday movies

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Disappointed?

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the regulars Editor’s note

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Two guys and a question

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Josephine calendar

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We’re loving it

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Average Joe

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Getting Real

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Meal time

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HOME SAFE HOME.

By JESS DEHAVEN The holidays are here, and many of us are decorating our homes and preparing for visits and visitors.

While angels and Santas may be part of your traditional decor, why not change things up this year? You can do Christmas without all the obvious trappings. Brooke Wilson consulted a couple of local decorators to get some ideas on getting that holiday feeling in a more sophisticated way. Read more on page 16.

If your holiday cheer extends to your wardrobe, we’re recommending that you step away from those Christmas sweaters. You can add a little holiday sparkle without going overboard. Kristen Hare talked to some style experts about how to dress the right way for the holidays.

Turn to page 20 for that story.

The holidays mean parties and gatherings where the temptation to overindulge in food and drink is everywhere. We asked Crystal Wiebe to gather some tips for how to handle all that. Knowing that those gatherings also are the perfect place to find yourself cornered by colleagues, friends and relatives armed with nosy questions, she also found some ideas for dealing with that. Check out those stories on pages 9 and 13.

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girlstuff Dressing up hot chocolate It’s always easy to spice up your coffee with an assortment of flavored creamers available. Why not liven up your hot chocolate, too? Marshmallows and whipped cream are reliable ingredients, but you might think outside the box this year.

Tara Brock, a barista at Starbucks, shared her favorite hot chocolate concoction.

“I’d say defi nitely using a homemade hot chocolate mix if you can and make it with whole milk or even half and half. If you top it with cinnamon, it’s even more wonderful,” she says.

Stacy Saythany, Java City barista at Missouri Western, has a few ideas of his own.

“First off, any of those ice cream syrups work well.

Try adding some caramel to it and make a turtle hot chocolate,” he suggests, “or a bit of strawberry to create a chocolate-covered strawberry kind of idea.”

Saythany recommends using whipped cream as a canvas and different sauces and toppings to decorate on top. “Peppermint sprinkles come to mind as a Christmas idea,” he adds.

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An article on startcooking.com titled “12 Twists on Instant Hot Chocolate” offers a variety of simple addins to instant hot chocolate that you might not have considered before: Ice cream (1 scoop) Nutmeg or vanilla extract (1/4 teaspoon) Peanut butter (1 or 2 tablespoons; mix well and let it melt completely) Coconut milk (1/4 cup) Orange zest (carve three 2-inch long strips of orange rind and let them steep for a while) Espresso or coffee (1 tablespoon)

Maple syrup

For those looking to serve up “festive” drinks for guests at a holiday gathering, you might check out a few recipes from an article on Buzzfeed.com titled “15 Amazing Ways to Spike Hot Chocolate.” (Disclaimer: These recipes contain alcohol and are not kid-friendly.)

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Every Monday

Two guys and a question Two male members from our newsroom answer a question, one a newlywed, the other a bit more seasoned.

Hopefully one of them will know what he’s talking about.

The question:

When it comes to gift-giving, do you prefer your wife to tell you exactly what she wants or would you rather surprise her?

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Dec. 2 | 7 to 9 p.m., St. Joseph Camera Club, Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.

Every Tuesday 7:30 p.m. to 8:15 p.m. Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 2221 N. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

Dec. 17 | 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. To find out more and to make reservations, please call Vickie at (816) 244-5648 the Friday before the meeting.

Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, East Hills Shopping Center parking lot off Woodbine.

7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684.

5:15 to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 2221 N. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

Every Thursday 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799.

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Every Saturday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, East Hills Shopping Center parking lot off Woodbine.

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Alex Flippin When it comes to giving my wife that perfect gift, I like to both surprise her and give her something she’s told me she’d like.

Last-minute gift finding is just too stressful, so I try to file back things she mentions wanting while we’re shopping or sitting around watching television. That way it not only surprises her, but I also know it’s something she’ll be excited to get. Still, coming across something out of the blue I know she’ll love is always a great feeling too.

Alex is a weekend anchor/reporter at Fox 26 KNPN. He has been married 11 months.

Andrae Hannon Buying your wife the right gift and the way you do it often depends on the type of relationship you have with your wife. Neither one of us has a problem with her giving me a list of items she would like with the colors and sizes included. Especially since I’ve had to return two coats and some boots that she kind of wrinkled up her nose at in the past. Hints do not work for me. An example being the time she wanted a nice patio set.

She proceeded to cut a picture of a set out of a catalog and placed it on the refrigerator. I didn’t notice.

This is not to say that I have never surprised my wife with a gift that she absolutely adored.

A few years ago I bought her an iPod for her birthday and she simply flipped. I have the action photo to prove it. And just last year I surprised her with a Nook that she uses every day for everything. That particular gift idea I amazed her with has played a role in what gift she will get for Christmas this year. She has told me she would like to have the Nook HD. A great suggestion. Our unspoken agreement of how we make gift-giving suggestions will give us a great Christmas.

Andrae is a reporter at Fox 26 KNPN. He is 38 and has been married for 13 years.

We’re loving it A look at what Josephine staffers are crazy about this month

Hot chocolate K-Cups

Kawaii cuties If you’re looking for a gift for a little girl on your Christmas list, here’s an idea. Kawaii Crush are little dolls that come with pets and outfits and hats that you can change out. There also are playsets like a mall and a candy shop (think Polly Pockets).

They’re described as the “hot Japanese craze” (Kawaii means cute or adorable in Japanese, according to a press release). My 6-year-old spent two hours playing with hers the night she got it and has asked for more for Christmas. The dolls are about $6 each with playsets ranging from about $10 to $30. They’re available at all the usual toy outlets, including Target, Toys R Us and Walmart.

I love my Keurig for coffee, but every once in a while I want a hot drink without consuming caffeine. Lately I’ve been drinking Timothy’s White Hot Chocolate K-Cups for a sweet treat. The drink is so creamy and delicious, it’s perfect for these cold winter nights wrapped in a blanket with a good book. The 22-pack can be found on the Keurig website or at Bed Bath and Beyond.

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So fresh and so clean If you don’t like to wear thick foundation or spend too much money on makeup, but still want flawless coverage, steal the trick I’ve used for almost a decade. Covergirl Fresh Complexion concealer is extremely lightweight and perfectly smooths out any bumps or redness on my face without looking like I’m wearing a mask. I sweep it under my eyes and across my cheeks and forehead, then blend with my fingers.

It has pretty impressive staying power for being so light; I only occasionally touch it up if I have somewhere to go in the evenings. Best of all, it only costs about $5, and one tube lasts me almost three months.

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Evol Burritos One of my favorite frozen meals recently has been the Evol burrito. The two I’ve tried, Spicy Steak and Chipotle Chicken, are all-natural and big enough as a meal on their own. Also, the filling seems much heartier and healthier than other frozen burritos. I enjoy being able to identify everything I’m eating — rice, beans, meat — as opposed to the monotonous blob inside other burritos.

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Don’t overdo it this holiday season Abundant delicious food and freely flowing beverages are hallmarks of the holiday season.

That is a wonderful thing, but along with schedule changes and stress, the frequent feasting can make us fat.

Well, at least it can make us feel that way.

According to a National Institutes of Health study released last year, the average American actually gains less than a pound over the holidays.

While that may be a relief to learn, we all know that over the years those extra pounds add up. Plus: Overdoing it on rich holiday food is not the best health decision, anyway.

So, get a jump start on your New Year’s resolution by approaching holiday eating the right way.

If you want to become more disciplined about your food, what better time than the season of constant temptation?

Before the party

you consume there.

Worried about overindulging at a holiday party? Avoid it by indulging – or at least ingesting – something before you get there.

Eat: Never go to a party hungry, or you’re likely to end up grazing through the whole event. Consume a serving of lean protein, such as chicken or fish, before you go out. “Protein is a natural appetite suppressant,” says Barbara Gulin, who runs the subscription-based food service Meals by the Week in Kansas City.

Drink: You can trick yourself into feeling full by having a few glasses of water before you show up. Although it could lead to an extra restroom visit during the evening, your hydration efforts can also combat the effects of alcohol.

Socialize: If possible, get your partner or a friend to attend the party with you – and to help you stay accountable for what

During the party

You can make healthy choices, even when a thousand holiday cookies are staring you in the face.

Eat: Decide early what foods you’ll sample and which ones you’ll skip. Limit yourself to one plate.

Drink: Start with a nonalcoholic calorie-free beverage, such as sparkling water. Then, opt for water at least half the time for the rest of the event. For safety and calorie count, it’s good practice to always follow every adult beverage with a glass of water.

Socialize: Take time to chitchat before you ever load up a plate. Then, take your conversation as far away from the food table as possible. This will help you resist unconscious grazing.

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Create a ballerina bun at home It’s a hot hairstyle right now. The ballerina bun may look intimidating, but a local “hair tailor” shows Josephine readers how to easily create the look at home.

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Step 3: Separate your ponytail into four even sections. Lightly pin each section so it

forms a cross on your scalp — one piece to the top, one piece to the right, one piece to the bottom and one piece to the left. (Pins do not need to be secure, as this is just temporary.) These pieces will eventually form a circle to create the bun.

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You will need:

■ a hair tie ■ bobby pins and straight pins ■ hairspray and pomade ■ a backcombing brush or comb ■ a curling iron (optional)

Step 1: Generously spray hair and brush

through. If prone to flyaways or you prefer a more refined look, use the tips of your fingers to rub pomade (smoothing cream or paste) through your hair. This step will help your style last.

Step 2: Gather hair into a ponytail. Brittany

Smith, hair tailor at Edmond Street Parlor, likes the ponytail to lay at the back of the head. She says the end result is neither too high nor too low. Where your bun sits is personal style and preference.

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Step 4: Start with the top piece. Back comb the section to give your hair some additional body. Then, roll the piece under (toward your scalp) until it forms the top part of the bun. Use one bobby pin on each side to attach the roll to your scalp. Do this for each section — top, bottom, right, left.

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Stocking stuffers need attention too When I was a child, my stocking stuffers were functional gifts to say the least. Now, I’m not complaining, not much anyway. But almost every year, I was guaranteed these two items: fruit and thank-you cards.

I will admit, the thought behind them was well-intentioned. Fruit fits so nicely in the toe of a stocking and provides a break from all the holiday sweets. Thankyou cards are to remind the child to send out appreciations for gifts they received from family.

That’s all good and honorable and I’m embarrassed to admit, my parenting creativity when it comes to stocking stuffers has continued down this conservative path. And at the risk of sounding like the laziest person this side of the Mississippi, 12

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I have even been known to take the candy canes off the tree to put in a stocking.

There, I admitted it. But that’s the first step in doing something about stopping the cycle.

So this year, I’ve resolved to create a new look and surprise within each stocking and I want to pass the idea on ... themed stockings.

My daughter is a Disney princess freak. For her, the stocking will have a new look and new contents, starting with a Disney key chain and flashlight.

The latest Disney DVD is a must with some kind of pink candy accessories. A feathery wand and a tiara will top off the sock for those days when a little ego boost is needed.

My son has discovered that hunting

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instinct. So this young warrior will be finding camo gloves and balloons for his treat. Since a flashlight seems logical, the magnetic LED route will be the way I go for him. And glow-in-the-dark stars will complete this young one’s dream.

But what about a more adult version for your significant other? Here’s where the gift can keep on giving. Chocolate anything creates that natural aphrodisiac. Top that off with matching negligee and a romantic DVD and you’ve got a date night set.

So, take a little time to find the perfect theme for your stockings this year. Not leaving it as an afterthought allows for an added surprise to the magic of Christmas morning.

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How to handle nosy questions As the mother of quadruplets, Rebecca Ishum knows all about nosy questions.

Her two boys and two girls have inspired colorful commentary since before they were born. Part of that is because the Kansas City woman blogs about her family at ABeautifulRuckus.com.

But her brood is also just quite a sight to behold.

“I had a random security guard ask as I passed by if I had had my tubes tied, and another person asked if they could adopt one of my girls since I had ‘extra,’” she says.

By way of responding, Ishum usually tries “to work in a semi-awkward explanation that lets the other person know how invasive they are being.” For example, her favorite answer to the question “How did you end up with quads?” is “Well, when a man loves a woman …”

“They tend to back off pretty quickly if you just say that phrase,” she says.

Whether you have four kids or none, it seems we all experience intrusive questions related to motherhood (or if we plan to get there) at some point.

“I don’t know why being pregnant/having kids makes people think they can ask anything,” Ishum says. “It’s so rude that it absolutely baffles me that otherwise sane people can open their mouths and say some of the stuff they do.”

Inappropriate inquiries from strangers, friends and even family members often address other subjects, too.

We’ve all heard these before: “How much did that cost?” “What’s your salary?” “What are you going to do about (insert highly personal situation here)?”

Because they can be so offensive, it’s tempting to reply to questions like these with snark or sarcasm. However, on her website MannersMentor.com, etiquette guru Maralee McKee recommends against meeting rude questions with rude replies. Instead, she suggests “taking the high road” by using humor, directness and/or tone of voice to politely establish your boundaries.

For example, when someone presses you about a fiscal matter, from the cost of your new shoes to your salary, smile a little as you let them know Grandma taught you never to discuss money or politics. (That’s akin to the firm but funny approach Ishum takes.)

Vagueness works, too. When someone presses you to disclose what you paid for anything, just say “I got a good deal.”

Just don’t feel obligated to tell anyone anything you don’t want to. In fact, depending on the situation, it may be wise to distance yourself from people who want to know too much.

McKee writes, “It’s also OK to simply say, ‘I’d rather not say’ or, ‘That’s private,’ especially if you believe the person is trying to intimidate you with his or her question.”

— Crystal K. Wiebe

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Lesser-known holiday movies When it comes to holiday movies, we all know the perennial classics — “A Christmas Story,” “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation,” “It’s a Wonderful Life,” “Miracle on 34th Street,” etc., etc.

For every classic, there are a bunch that are rightfully forgotten (there’s a reason no one remembers the Ben Affleck/James Gandolfini movie “Surviving Christmas” or, and I’m not kidding, “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation 2: Cousin Eddie’s Island Adventure”). But there also are some diamonds among the rough terrain of failed holiday cash grabs.

Speaking with critics Bob Shultz and Danny Phillips, we compiled a list of movies that should be more a part of the holiday canon:

For the whole family: “Scrooge (1951)” (Not Rated): There

have been a lot of adaptations of Charles Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol,” but Shultz and Phillips agree that the version starring Alastair Slim as Ebenezer Scrooge is the best. “The film ... starring Alastair Sim should be the only traditional film adaptation of this Dickensian tale ever to be viewed,” Shultz says. The film is known as both “Scrooge” and “A Christmas Carol.”

“Scrooged” (Rated PG-13): Maybe you’re looking for something Dickens-based that’s a little more modern (as in the late ’80s). Why not something with a hilarious turn by Bill Murray? Loosely based on “A Christmas Carol,” this telling finds Murray as a cold-hearted TV programming executive who is financially rich but without any joy in his life. Of course, it’s nothing a visit from his dead boss can’t fix. “(It) is one I return to time and again.

It was also the first paid film review gig for me. So, it does hold a special place in my occasionally professional heart,” Shultz says.

“Will Vinton’s Claymation Christmas” (Rated G): It’s better known as The

California Raisins Christmas Special, even though they only make up one vignette of the Claymation Christmas showcase. It’s not a movie, and some parts of it are very dated, but it’s still very funny and a nice, non-cynical 14

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look at the holidays. It’s available on YouTube and for purchase on Amazon.

“Sleepless in Seattle” (Rated PG): Celebrating its 20-year anniversary, this incredibly charming Tom Hanks/ Meg Ryan classic finds two lonely people smitten with each other when a Christmas Eve radio talk show program airs Sam Baldwin’s (Hanks) message of wanting a new woman in his life after losing his wife to cancer.

For older teens and adults: “Die Hard” (Rated R): If you’re not in

the mood for Christmas or holiday cheer, why not watch Bruce Willis battle evil Russians in his iconic role as John McClane? It’s not often recognized as a holiday movie, but it has some bloody, festive cheer in its holiday setting.

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“A Midnight Clear” (Rated R): You may have heard stories of American and foreign soldiers coming together on holidays in time of war to stop fighting and celebrate. This movie, with then-unknowns Ethan Hawke, Kevin Dillon and Peter Berg, captures the spirit of the season during a time of tension. Definitely not for kids, but holiday-related.

“Home for the Holidays” (Rated PG-13): If you’re looking for something a little bit more adult, the Jodie Foster-directed comedy starring Holly Hunter and a pre-”Iron Man” Robert Downey Jr. is a bit crude, but still a heartwarming picture of a dysfunctional family reluctantly coming together for the holidays. Think “Christmas Vacation,” but a little less manic. Danny Phillips gives it a strong recommendation.

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Reclaiming the holidays

Tips for dealing with disappointment this holiday season From not getting the bonus or gift you were expecting to feeling let down by family, it’s not hard to see possible emotional minefields in the days surrounding the holiday season.

Many feel the pain of disappointments this season, according to Dr. Vincenza Marash, diversity and women’s counselor at Missouri Western State University.

“I think holidays, for many people, there could be that sense of disappointment, dismay, disheartenment,” she says. “ ... There’s always this sense of pressure and expectation around holidays, and a lot of people end up feeling like somehow they don’t measure up or that they don’t fit.”

Marash says that often her clients also sometimes report feeling disconnected from loved ones, which can be painful and lonely.

As disappointments pop up, Marash

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suggests making a few positive steps toward reclaiming and putting your own mark on the season.

She says one way to start is to visualize how your ideal holiday would go.

“Kind of visualize it in your mind’s eye and then incorporate elements of that into your actual holiday,” she says.

Part of this is exploring the meaning behind the celebrations.

“If you’re going to celebrate this holiday, what’s a way in which you can just stake a claim on it, so that it’s not just a holiday your family always celebrated and you feel obligated to celebrate it?” she asks.

Marash says you also can create rituals to associate with the holidays, which could be as simple as planning a special meal.

Part of thinking about the holidays and taking steps to make them your own can include the aspect of simpli-

fying, she says. That means taking inventory of what you do and why, and leaving some things that are no longer meaningful behind.

Along with letting go, finding a way to reach out to others in need can establish new patterns for the season.

She says it’s paradoxical, but giving one’s self often has a positive effect on the giver.

Lastly, she encourages others to use the holidays to deepen their relationship with themselves. Amid the buzz and frantic nature of the season, she says taking time to nourish one’s self is important, too. Anything from yoga to journaling could work to do so.

“Oftentimes it’s stopping, pausing, tuning in and listening to our inner rhythms and deepening that personal relationship so that can enable us to be more present with others,” she says.

— Jessica Shumaker

Christmas decorations that dazzle all season long Words by BROOKE WILSON | Josephine magazine

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ave you ever taken stock of your Christmas decorations after unpacking them from the attic and thought you were in a decorating rut? Using the same pieces in the same parts of the house year after year certainly is traditional, but it isn’t very exciting.

If you’re looking for a new way to elegantly style your home for the holidays, local designers Tabitha Yount of Elegant Interiors and Katie Peterson of Spectacular Settings have plenty of helpful tips to keep it looking beautiful all winter.

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Tabitha Yount of Elegant Interiors uses evergreen garland in many different ways to decorate for Christmas.

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“Some of the Christmas parties that I’ve decorated for ... they’ve kind of gone away from the traditional colors, the red and green,” Peterson says.

She says separating the two colors and picking one to focus on, or using other more unconventional colors, still conveys a winter wonderland feeling without putting too much emphasis specifically on Christmas. Silvers, golds, whites and light blues mimic the icy weather, and they work for the entire winter instead of just December.

However, using bright, bold colors also adds a touch of whimsy to the season and can be used as a theme for your tree.

Peterson says her mother once decorated a tree in bright blues, pinks and greens because she was inspired by decorating trends she had seen in home decor stores that year.

Yount agrees that you don’t have to change everything in your home to red and green for just one day. She recommends that people wanting to try something different should draw inspiration from the colors they already use in their homes.

“If you have purples, if you have burgundies, if you have lavenders, whatever your color scheme is in your home, go with it, run with it. If purple and black are your colors, then silver would be absolutely stunning with purple on a tree,” she says. “Just go with the theme of your home and make it go into Christmas.”

Speaking of black, Yount says it’s an underutilized color during the holiday season. Yet this elegant neutral can really enhance your other colors without looking drab or solemn.

“Black is timeless, it’s always going to be in. ... A lot of people don’t use it, but when they see it they’re like, ‘Oh wow, that’s very stunning,’” she says, suggesting to pair it with red cardinal decorations for a pop of brightness.

Using different colors isn’t the only way to spruce up your decorations. If there’s one holiday trend that trumps all others this year, it’s lots and lots of sparkle.

“If you can make anything look glitzy, this is the year for it. ... Make your house shine during the holidays,” Yount says.

Peterson also agrees that sparkly details are a pretty way to add glamour to Christmas decorations. Glittery figurines, crystal ornaments and sequined garlands are all ways to incorporate sparkle without going over the top. Of course, if over the top is the only way you go, then feel free. Yount says she loves when clients think big instead of going too small with their decorations.

If your family has held on to certain

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Winter figurines can give a feel of Christmas but will not look out of place if left out throughout the winter season. decorations from years past that you want to display but not make the main focus, Peterson suggests using multiple trees of different sizes throughout the house. That way, the main tree in the living room can be decorated in whichever theme you choose, while a smaller tree in another room can feature the family ornaments and crafts made by children through the years.

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“Nothing is worse than when you take down your holiday decorations and the house is dull and boring all winter,” she says.

Sparkle, don’t jingle, all the way Step away from those Christmas sweaters and try something really festive

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Try pairing a loose-fitting metallic with leggings, or look for a piece with small, sparkly details. Wallerstedt recently picked up black tights with metallic dots on them, and she’s planning to wear them with a simple black dress and glitzy earrings this holiday season.

If you’re not comfortable with a sparkly top or dress, Vicki Patterson, manager at Dress Barn, recommends choosing a scarf with a little sparkle and keeping the rest of your look simple.

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ost of us know, by now, not to wear those bedecked holiday sweaters that are so bad they get their own party to celebrate that badness.

But if you still want to look festive for the holidays, you can. Pick one element, like sparkle, ornament or color, that goes into making Christmas memorable, just don’t pick them all.

Sparkle:

Like those lights on the tree, add a little something sparkly to your outfit, says Casey Wallerstedt, owner of Mod Podge Boutique.

“I’m seeing a lot of metallics,” she says.

Red and green are the obvious choices here, but don’t forget winter white. Patterson’s seeing lots of emerald green in stores this season, and for people who want to be a bit more casual, try red skinny jeggings.

“They say red skinnies can change a girl’s life,” Patterson says, because everyone looks good in them.

You also can add color with your makeup, Wallerstedt says, with a bold red lip.

Ornament:

In your hair, on a scarf, on your flats or boots, add a holiday broach, Wallerstedt recommends. Statement necklaces are also nice, she says, and with them, you can bring together color and sparkle while still keeping your outfit simple.

Texture:

Sweater dresses are a great way to add some texture into your holiday look, Patterson says. Add a sparkly scarf or a colorful piece of jewelry, and you’re ready.

“They don’t have to be overdone,” she says.

Unless they do. If you’re invited to a bad sweater party, then by all means, go for it.

“If you’re going to do the Christmas sweater party, there’s no getting around it,” Wallerstedt says. “You gotta go all out.”

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How to choose a doctor

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The initial process should involve a little bit of research and some interviewing.

Many people begin the hunt with little information. In fact, studies show that people know more about buying a car than they do about selecting a physician.

Because these professionals play such

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an intricate role in our lives, it is important to ask the right questions.

Identify who the patient is. Is the doctor for you, your spouse, your children or your parents?

“If you are someone who doesn’t have a lot of health problems you need to find a provider who can cover a lot,” said Dr. Tim Murphy with Northwest Health Services.

Those with prior diagnoses might consider looking at specialists as well.

“You can’t really have a specialist as a primary physician, though,” Murphy says.

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Murphy says there would be spurts when he would take on new infants until he would fill up in a couple of years to capacity and let them age up a little bit.

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“It’s not a common practice here in the Midwest,” Dr. Davin Turner says of interviewing physicians. “I don’t mind.

But some (doctors) do.”

Turner, with Heartland Regional Medical Center, believes a good, open relationship between patient and physician improves the quality of care.

“Some people like doctors to be formal and businesslike while others like them to be warm and empathetic,” Murphy says.

Bedside manners may be the only real difference between physicians — doctors of medicine and doctors of osteopathic medicine, at least.

“The lines are very blurred,” Turner, a D.O., says.

The two practices are the only two bodies that are fully licensed and can be in any specialty field. Family nurse practitioners, however, are required to work under a collaborating physician.

FNPs do not handle inpatient care and are not able to write prescriptions for controlled substances. Other than that, there are not a lot of limitations, says Murphy, also a DO. “A couple generations ago there was a pretty significant difference (between D.O. and M.D.),” Murphy says. “But today, there’s not a lick of difference.”

Both have essentially the same medical school training, while doctors of osteopathic medicine do additional coursework in osteomanipulative therapy.

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Janice Rothganger is a commander with the St. Joseph Police Department. She is the highest-ranking woman in the history of the St. Joseph Police Department.

I had big career goals, always. I had a high school guidance counselor who said, ‘Whatever you do, strive for the highest you can.’ So that’s what I did.

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hen Janice Rothganger was a child, her favorite cop shows didn’t include many women. But this didn’t keep her – a Girl Scout with a bent toward community service – from imagining herself in law enforcement.

“It was hard to find a (female) role model,” she says.

“But I knew that’s what I wanted to do, so I put my mind to it.”

She stuck to her guns and joined the Army right out of high school – to the dismay of a great-aunt who was very traditional about gender roles and asked if it was too late for her to get out of it – and served four years with the military police. The next year, in 1994, she was hired by the St. Joseph Police Department, where she’s since risen through the ranks to the position of commander.

“Cmdr. Rothganger is a strong leader who consistently performs at a high level,” St. Joseph Police Chief Chris Connally says. “She is a very reliable employee with a strong sense of integrity.”

Rothganger notes that during the past two decades, she’s seen many more women become involved in law enforcement and get promoted to positions previously held only by men. This includes her, as the highest-ranking woman in the history of the St. Joseph Police Department.

Before becoming commander, she spent about five years as a police officer, then about a year as a corporal (in crime prevention) before being promoted to sergeant in 2000. She spent eight years in that role – supervising the communication center, then going back to patrol and then working in professional standards – before being promoted to captain on the evening shift.

In 2012, she went into the detective division and served as an intelligence officer. Her promotion to commander came in January 2013, and she is currently serving a three-year rotation in which she is responsible for the entire patrol division, among other duties.

“I had big career goals, always,” Rothganger says. “I had a high school guidance counselor who said, ‘What-

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ever you do, strive for the highest you can.’ So that’s what I did.”

She adds that although her family wasn’t influential in her decision to go into law enforcement (as she had no family members in the field), she did come to share the career with family: Her mother became a corrections officer the year after Rothganger started with the department. In addition, Rothganger met her husband on the job.

Her husband, Johnny Rothganger, recently retired from the department. Rothganger notes that it was beneficial for both of them to have a spouse who understood the demands of the job.

“I imagine it’s hard for people in this line of work who don’t have a spouse in the occupation,” she says.

“With Johnny, he could say two words, and I could automatically finish his sentence for him. Just having that unspoken understanding is really helpful.”

Having support like this has been especially important during the hardest times, such as when one of Rothganger’s fellow officers was murdered in 1998.

“It’s something that stays with you,” she says. “You have to find a way to move on and to go back to work and just remember that you took an oath. You have to remember why you do this job.”

Most of the time, however, remembering hasn’t been hard. Rothganger adds that she’s enjoyed being able to help people, as well as to sometimes work outside – which is something that carries over to her home life. She and her husband own a small acreage where they’ve gardened and raised dogs, cats and chickens.

Although people occasionally ask if she’s interested in applying for police chief someday, it would be difficult for her to give up this rural lifestyle and live within city limits.

Another of Rothganger’s outside-of-work interests is the Special Olympics, with which she connected through a sister who had Down syndrome. She’s volunteered as a chaperone and participated in the Law Enforcement Torch Run since 1996. She’s also taken part in the Polar Bear Plunge for about 10 years now.

She notes that the Torch Run has been a great way to combine her career and the Special Olympics. And if she has it her way, law enforcement will continue to be part of her life for years to come.

“I’m glad I chose this career field,” she says. “This is the only thing I’ve ever been interested in doing, and I can’t imagine my life any other way.”

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Lovely lips Pick the perfect color

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y mother always told me to never leave the house without lipstick.

It took me a while to understand why she felt so strongly about lip color. Lipstick is like a bow on top of a present: it pulls your entire look together and makes you look polished and pristine.

But now that fall is here, how can you transition into fall and winter lip styles? What colors are best and how can you pick the one perfect for you? What are the best ways to care for lips as the weather gets colder and dryer? I got in touch with three freelance makeup artists who gave me the scoop on the best colors, how to make lipstick stay and the best ways to transition lips into fall and winter. Even if you’re a lipstick novice, their tips, tricks and advice will help you feel like a pro in no time.

Fall and winter are all about deep, dark and luscious lip colors.

“Rich and full jewel tones are in this season. Garnets, warm toffees, rose pinks and burgundy lip colors are the choice for this fall,” says freelance makeup artist Jennifer E. Sullivan Cassidy of Kansas City, Mo. Transition your bright, sparkly and soft summer lipsticks for “nude colors, rose red, deep plums, browns and burgundy,” says Courtnie Marie Ross, a professional makeup artist/ licensed hair stylist and freelance model of Kansas City, Mo. The trick to going from summer to fall is not to feel like, “you have to tone your makeup down for the season,” states Tess Roam, freelance makeup artist from Kansas City, Mo. “Think of bright pumpkin patches and changing leaves. Fall is one of the most colorful times of the year!”

She suggests trying out a plum-colored, vampy lip or trading out your coral lipstick for a wine-red shade.

Besides the deep plums, dark reds and luscious browns that are perfect for winter, a great lip look for fall is a natural lip with dark, smoky eyes. But how can you pick the right natural shade? The first thing to realize is that your natural shade lipstick from summer may not be your perfect match going into fall and winter.

“People tend to get a little bit paler in the winter months and tanner in the summer, which can alter natural lip color by a few shades,” Roam says.

So remember when transitioning to fall, pick a natural shade a few shades lighter than your summer pick. Not sure what color is even your natural shade? Pay attention to your skin tone.

“Caucasian skin tones with a rosy undertone look best in pinks, olive undertones look best with deeper shades like burgundy or toffee, Asian skin with a yellow undertone

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tends to look best in coppery or reds with a blue base, African-American skin with a warm mocha undertone, pastels look great! African-American skin with deeper brown undertone, bright bold colors,” Sullivan says.

Still not sure what color will look best? Ross suggests heading to the makeup counter and actually trying on a few shades so you can find the perfect fit for you. Once there, try on some lipsticks that are more sheer than opaque, so it, “works with your lip color rather than completely covering it,” Roam says.

Finding the perfect lip color is important, but something to really keep in mind for great looking lips in is the right lip care for the colder, dryer months. Roam reminds us to hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. The cold and dryness of fall and winter can really take a toll on your lips.

“If you are not properly hydrated, your lips are first to suffer,” Sullivan says.

To keep your lips healthy, remember to eat a healthy and balanced diet and drink lots of water, because, “healthy skin really starts from the inside,” Ross says. Remember to continually use lip balm in the fall and winter months to keep lips from cracking or chapping. Sullivan recommends using Clinique’s Superbalm Lip Treatment to keep lips healthy and hydrated.

Her big secret? “When using your facial moisturizer, don’t forget to apply to your lips too.”

Now that you know what colors to pick and how to choose them, how do you make them last? Using a lip primer and lip liner is the secret. Sullivan and Ross both recommend using Too Faced’s Lip Insurance Lip Primer to give lipstick a longer life.

Roam’s pre-primer secret? Applying foundation to lips before the primer. Following primer, trace then fill in your lips with a lip liner.

“Try staying within one or two shades of your lipstick color,” Roam says.

But don’t worry if you can’t find the right lip liner color.

“If you have a perfect shade lipstick yet can’t find a liner to match, try an invisible lip liner, such as Too Faced’s Borderline Lip Pencil,” Sullivan says.

Use two coats of lipstick and seal it on for the day by using a gloss that also helps seal, such as LipChic’s Lipstick Sealer & Gloss, one of Sullivan’s favorites.

“Be careful in using a matte lipstick, they can dry out your lips,” Ross says.

To achieve the matte look with any lipstick, Sullivan suggests dusting lips with a translucent powder. Primer, liner, lipstick and gloss sound like too much hassle for you? Roam loves using lip stains instead of lipstick because of their staying power and simple application.

Feeling better about lip color? Take things in stride in pretty plum, dark burgundy and warm toffee colors. Make it last with primer and lip liner and don’t forget to hydrate. Your lips will be the highlight of your fall looks in no time.

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Average Joe

A movie

We are rust friends Defining the relationships between men ALONZO WESTON has been a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press staff for more than 20 years.

He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@newspressnow.com.

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came out last month called “Last Vegas.” It stars Morgan Freeman, Michael Douglas, Robert DeNiro and Kevin Kilne as four old friends who take a trip to Las Vegas before one of them gets married.

They’re called the Flatbush Four, and their story is one of longtime male friendship. Of course you get the Viagra, hemorrhoid and other old-age ailment jokes along the way, but the movie explores in a humorous way how male friendships work. It shows how these friendships can last through arguments, fights, marriages and divorces. It’s how friends become family over time.

There’s even a book written about it by Geoffrey Greif called “Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships.” In the book Greif says men have “rust friends,” “must friends,” “trust friends” and “just friends.”

The “rust friends” are those friends who have a long history together. A “must friend” is the best friend you call on with good or bad news. A “trust friend” is one who is liked and trusted but not as close as a “must friend.” The “just friends” are just that, casual acquaintances.

Some would call Doug Vaughn, Orville Hunter, Kevin Banks, Joe Henderson and myself “rust friends.”

We show up for each others’ family funerals. We get together for drinks on each of our birthdays. We’ve been friends since grade school.

But we are not known as being “rust friends.” We are known as the Corner Five. We got that name during our teen and early adult years when we used the steps of Mary Ellen’s House of Beauty Parlor on the corner of 20th and Messanie as our headquarters.

The name stuck. We still get called

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that today whenever we all get together.

Back when we were younger that used to be almost every day. First it would be at school, and as we got older it would be after work. We went to parties together. Sometimes all five of us would go to a movie together.

We no longer see each other every day anymore. Sometimes we don’t even see each other for several months. But there’s an unwritten code that if there is a need, we come together like the Avengers. We’re there to support whichever one of us is in need.

The Corner Five guys know me better than anyone except my wife.

They’ve been my friends in spite of my faults as I have despite their shortcomings.

We play different roles when we’re apart. That’s when we’re husbands, dads, granddads, employees or just plain old men. But when we all get together, we magically revert back to the roles we had in younger days.

Orville has always been the stoic, common-sense one of the bunch. He usually determined what the group would do in any given situation.

Joe is the people person. He was always looking for a good time. Always good-natured, his laugh makes everybody else laugh.

I don’t think Doug has any enemies. He’s always been liked and respected by everyone. He’s probably the most supportive of all of us. He’s sure helped me through some rough moments.

Kevin was the ladies’ man. He didn’t even have to ask women out — they asked him. He’s also probably the most handy of all of us and maybe the most dependable. When I need help with a project, he’s always there.

As for myself, I suppose I was the one who provided comic relief. I’m the one who the others shook their heads at for doing the nutty stuff. I’m the one who ran into walls, wrecked cars and got sent home from school for wearing flowered pants and an Army jacket.

In spite of all my craziness, my friends stuck with me. Of course that side of me is pretty much gone today, but when we get together, I’m still that guy in their memories.

We’re more than friends, we’re family.

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Getting real

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you attend a sporting event, please notice the interesting ways folks show support for their team. It is unlike anything you find in any other gathering of people.

When you go to a game, fans dress in uniforms that match the players, wear shoes with the team’s logo on them and everyone high-fives and screams like maniacs in support of the players. This all seems perfectly normal there, but if you take them out of that setting, the reactions seem completely inappropriate.

For instance, face painting. It is common to paint the team colors on your face for a game. It’s a great way to let the world know you are “part of the team.”

This act of solidarity might impress the fans sitting around you, but imagine walking into your local grocery store with your face completely covered in your team colors. Be prepared for all the customers to run out the door or dive under counters assuming you are a robber or serial killer. Unless you are a superhero, face painting is not acceptable outside of a stadium.

Let us also consider booing people you don’t agree with. If a call is made on the field and you don’t agree with it, you boo and yell at the official, telling him how you think he is mentally incompetent and is in need of glasses. I dare you to take that attitude to your workplace. The next time your boss says you made a mistake on an expense report, jump up, start booing then shout, “You suck! I bet your mom dropped you on your head when you were born!” This may be an effective technique in harassing an official in a game, but in the office, it may get you a one-way ticket to anger management classes.

I am a huge fan of chest bumping at a game, and this physical contact with a fellow fan is a great way of saying, “I am so overcome with joy right now, I need more than a high five, but since it’s inappropriate for men to hug, let’s slam our bodies together!” Take this ritual home with you and use it on your mailman when he comes to the door to deliver a package. But just know, after the poor unsuspecting mailman picks himself up from the ground after your frontal assault, he may mace you with his dog spray, and your mail will now need to be picked up at a P.O. box, as you are no longer allowed the privilege of door-to-door delivery.

I noticed how some fans bring a drum or air horn to the game, so when their team does something fantastic, they have an instrument to let their presence be known. Please don’t take that same instrument of support with you to church and when the pastor says something impressive, you blast the air horn to let him know you agree. Doing so may give a heart attack to the person who uses Sunday morning service to catch up on sleep.

Drunken dancing is something we have all witnessed at a game, and we’ve probably even had the dancers spill their beer on us. Those dancers may enter the stadium with decorum, but by the third quarter and six beers, they are dancing to every chant, musical snippet or team song. The dancing men always seem to look like the groundhog from the movie “Caddyshack,” and the drunken women’s dance moves give the appearance of someone who dances for dollars at her night job, the moves causing parents all over the stadium to scramble to cover their children’s eyes to prevent having to explain where babies come from. Now I’m all for more public dancing, but the dance needs to be appropriate for the location. For instance, the Chicken Dance can be performed at most locations, at any time, but any dirty dancing should be done in a dimly lit area, between consenting adults.

Yep, I love the enthusiastic support at a sporting event, and honestly, we should take some of that into our daily lives. Who wouldn’t like someone to applaud and chant your name, just for getting the dishes done?

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Fan behavior is great at the stadium but doesn’t translate to real life STACEY MOLLUS is a family-loving, fun-seeking, glitter-covered, chocolate-consuming humor columnist and author. She would love to hear from you, so e-mail her at queenofchocolates@live.com or find her on Facebook at “Stacey Jensen Mollus.”

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Meal time

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ometimes there is not a lot of difference between a salad dressing and a sauce, it’s just how you use them. But there is a huge difference between purchased and homemade; both in flavor and cost. So I usually make my own.

I can control the ingredients (read the labels of most bottled dressings), I can adjust the flavoring, it is much more economical, and it doesn’t take a great deal of time to create something special. A good dressing or sauce can elevate simple vegetables to sublime vegetables or make a plain dish exceptional. Inspiration for your creations can be found in many places.

When I went to Singapore, I was expecting some swashbuckling city, sort of like the old movies. I certainly was not expecting such a pristine and quite lovely city. I enjoyed my trip and came away with some good recipes and interesting cooking information. My friend there often prepares the following recipe, which is extremely versatile and easily made.

This spicy, flavorful dressing is excellent tossed with almost any cooked vegetable like broccoli, cauliflower, zucchini or snow peas.

Spicy Sesame Dressing 2 tablespoons sesame oil 1½ tablespoons corn or safflower oil 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes 1½ tablespoons minced garlic 1/4 cup soy sauce 1 tablespoon sugar 1 tablespoon lemon juice Combine the two oils in a heavy saucepan.

Heat until very hot but not smoking, and add crushed pepper flakes. Remove from heat, cover, let stand for 10 minutes, then add garlic, soy sauce, sugar and lemon juice, stirring to dissolve sugar. Use warm on cooked vegetables or refrigerate for future use.

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free to add your own personal touch — more onions, more garlic, whatever appeals to you.

I sometimes add a glug of Worcestershire sauce or hot sauce if the greens are more assertive.

Note: I make my own crème fraiche by taking a cup of heavy cream (not ultra pasteurized), adding a tablespoon of buttermilk and letting it set at room temperature until thick, usually about 24 hours.

Lime Chipotle Sauce 1/2 cup honey 2 tablespoons minced canned chipotle chilies 3 tablespoons Dijon mustard 1/2 cup lime juice 1½ teaspoons minced garlic 1 teaspoon ground cumin 1/2 teaspoon ground allspice 1/2 cup chopped cilantro Mix together and season to taste with salt and freshly ground pepper. Makes about 1½ cups.

This is a good all-purpose mustard sauce. I love it with stone crab or shrimp.

Since most people don’t have light cream around, I substitute whole milk. It’s OK. Just don’t use Miracle Whip, please!

Mustard Sauce 3½ teaspoons dry mustard 1 cup mayonnaise 2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon A-1 sauce 1½ tablespoons light cream 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt Mix the above ingredients and beat about three minutes. Chill well before serving.

This is fabulous on fresh greens of any type. In the summer I keep a lot of this in the fridge for both salads and dipping vegetables.

Crème Fraiche Buttermilk Salad Dressing 1 cup crème fraiche, purchased or homemade (see note) 2 tablespoons buttermilk 1 finely chopped green onion, white and light green part 1 garlic clove, minced 4 to 6 sprigs parley, chopped leaves 1½ teaspoon cider vinegar 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard Mix together and season with kosher salt and freshly ground pepper. Cover and refrigerate for at least one hour or up to several days before serving. Makes about 1 cup. Feel

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LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.

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