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inside Exercise for two Stay active while pregnant

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Hot hair Get your tresses to stand up to summer’s heat

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Cover photography by Matt Reid/Josephine magazine

cover girl Cover model Denver Martin knows her way around a scalp.

“I do hair,” says the stylist at Belleza Salon and Day Spa. “Hair is my hobby.”

When she’s not at the salon, Martin enjoys spending time with her family. She likes taking her two daughters to Worlds of Fun and Oceans of Fun. The family had a big vacation to Disney World last year, but this summer, they’ll stay around the area, she says.

Martin showcased her locks as part of our feature on summer hairstyles. Fortunately, Martin didn’t have to subject her strands to summer heat and humidity for her photo shoot. Garden Gate Flowers and Gifts provided the colorful (and cool) backdrop for our spread.

For more on summer hairstyles, see Kristen Hare’s story on page 20.

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July 2013

Make your eyes pop

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Cheap summer dates

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Feeling the burn

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Curbing a craving

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Keep fit on vacation

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First dates made easy

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Credit card transfers

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DYI ottoman

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Money savvy women

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Ready for the reunion

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Book it

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the regulars Editor’s note

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Two guys and a question

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We’re loving it

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Josephine calendar

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Average Joe

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Getting Real

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Meal time

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By JESS DEHAVEN When it’s hot, your hair and skin are two things that suffer. That’s why this month we’ve asked a couple of our writers to get some tips on how to handle the sun’s heat.

Hair can be a big problem in the summer. Styles that work for you most of the year suddenly won’t cooperate, and sometimes it’s just too hot to wear your hair as you normally would. Kristen Hare talked to stylists for their tips and tricks to get great summer hair.

You’ll fi nd that on page 20.

Scorched skin is another hazard of summer. Emily Gummelt got expert advice on how to handle things when you’re feeling the burn. Turn to page 6 for that.

Summer also means reunions.

It’s common to experience some anxiety when you’re meeting up with people you haven’t seen in years. Jennifer Hall talked to a group of women who were preparing for their 20th class reunion to see how they handled things. That story is on page 14.

And if you’re hitting the road on a vacation, don’t leave your fitness routine behind. You might not be able to pack the treadmill or bike you normally use, but there are ways to stay in shape when you’re away from home. Jennifer Gordon has details on page 9.

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girlstuff Wear the right shadow to make your eyes pop Not sure which color will make your peepers pop?

Stop collecting unwanted shades and start buying knock-out hues with these tips.

The cliff notes A general rule of thumb is to focus on a shade opposite on the color wheel. More often than not, these complementary colors will do the trick, says Mindy Dawson, owner of Rumours Salon, 2002 St. Joseph Ave. Once you find the one, focus on buying three or four shades of the same color family, which can be used to blend for a more three-dimensional look. Danielle Wiedmaier, instructor at St. Joseph Beauty University of Hair & Nail Design, says it’s best to use the darkest shade closer to the eye and lead the lighter shade to the eyebrow.

Blue baby Unfortunately, blue eyes are the most difficult color to work with. For light or gray eyes, choose warmer, earthy tones, such as brown or light gold. If you’re comfortable, line the eyes with a darker shade, which Dawson says will create a nice eye-popping contrast. It’s probably best to stay away from blues or

purples with these color eyes.

Green goddess Coppers, browns and purples will make green eyes stand out from the crowd. The shade of green you have will determine exactly what shade of purple to use. If you

have more yellow flakes surrounding your pupil, go for a deeper purple. If they’re simply green, stick to the lighter violets and pinks. For a more dramatic nighttime look, Wiedmaier suggests mixing darker blues with grays for a smoky eye.

Brown-eyed girl Ditch the notion that brown is a boring eye color. Both stylists say women with brown eyes are the most lucky, because brown goes with everything — purple, pink, green, blue, gray, brown. Dawson suggests sticking to earthy tones with a slight gold shimmer for a more natural look, but don’t be afraid to experiment with any color on the wheel.

Haute hazel These chameleons also have a bit of free reign. Feel out what shade your eye is that day by looking closely at the flecks and rings of color. Once you determine what’s standing out the most, highlight it by using the tips above. For a go-to shade, stick to light pinks, purples or blushes.

— Kim Norvell | Josephine magazine

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Date ideas ... ... that won’t break the bank

Summer is a great time for couples to rekindle romance. Try these cheap (or free) date ideas to mix things up.

Explore the great outdoors Although Missouri temperatures can be finicky, couples should embrace the opportunity to get outside on not-too-hot days. Go on a walk, hike or bike ride. Pack a picnic and head to the park. Bring the camera along to document the day. Spend a few dollars on a round of mini golf. Water park’s too expensive?

Turn on the sprinklers and hose down the car or the dog, then turn the hoses on each other.

Go on the hunt Browse thrift stores, flea markets, garage sales, art festivals and farmers’ markets with your significant other. Try to find a unique trinket or clothing item to give one another as a gift.

“You can tell a lot about a person by how they are in a thrift store. You can see what they gravitate towards,” says Amy Heath, owner of The Lucky Tiger.

She says shops and sales like this are great for dates because there are items for both men and women, and couples can see each other’s quirky sides.

Embrace your inner kid Plan a game night with each other or with friends to show your competitive streak. Have a cookout with a volleyball or horseshoes tournament on a warm night. If it’s too hot out, beat the heat at the bowling alley or play board games in your living room. If movies are more your thing, wait on some of the big summer blockbusters until you can see them for cheaper at discount theaters like Plaza 8.

Cook up some romance You’d be hard pressed to find a date more romantic than preparing a candlelit meal together. Put on your favorite CD and enjoy sharing some elbow space in the kitchen as you cook. A nice wine can top off the evening for less than you’d think, since many decent bottles cost less than $10.

“Something else that’s good you can buy are mixed rums that are flavored. ... Pour them over ice, they’re really good especially in the summertime,” says Oscar Hansen, owner of Smooth Endings.

— Brooke Wilson | Josephine magazine

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July 2013

Feeling the burn?

How to treat scorched skin You just returned to work after a much-needed weeklong vacation at the beach.

It was great. You feel rejuvenated and motivated. You brought a lot back with you: a cleared mind, lasting memories and ... an awful sunburn. Fortunately, there are ways to alleviate that one not-so-awesome souvenir.

Prevention

Typically, within only an hour in the sun you can burn, says Charity Wampler, practice manager at Advanced Dermatology and Skin Cancer Center. Because of this, it’s important to use a sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or greater, which should be applied 20 minutes before you’re out in the sun. If you’re sweating or in water, it should be reapplied every 90 minutes to two hours.

For best results, look for a sunscreen with physical blockers like titanium dioxide or zinc oxide in the list of ingredients. It also helps to wear breathable material, long-sleeved clothing and a broad-brimmed hat for extra protection from the sun. “Seek shade when possible,” Wampler adds.

Cures

For non-blistering sunburns, you should wipe the skin with cool, damp cloths for about 10 to 15 minutes, two or three times a day, Wampler says.

Use refrigerated aloe vera gel to cool and soothe your skin. “You don’t want any lotions or creams with petroleum,” she warns. The same goes for Benzocaine and Lidocaine. “Petroleum can trap heat in your skin, which you don’t want. Benzicane and Lidocaine irritate your skin.”

Take an Ibuprofen to ease inflammation, Wampler says. “Drink plenty of fluids because it (a sunburn) dehydrates you,” and, “If you do end up with blisters, you do not want to pop them because you run the risk of infection or scarring,” she advises.

Tanning (in moderation) can help

A little time in a tanning bed actually might help prevent a severe sunburn before you go on your next vacation, or at least lessen the blow of the sun’s harsh rays.

Alicia Crabtree, manager of Fun Tan, has advice for those who are going to be spending quite a bit of time in the sun this summer.

“Give yourself time and build up a base tan,” she suggests. “We’re pretty strict on tanning times. Burning actually slows down the tanning process, so we try our best not to ever let that happen.”

— Emily Gummelt | Josephine magazine

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Two guys and a question

Kick cravings to the curb It’s very easy to give in to our cravings for unhealthy, unnecessary snacks. Some women feel guilty for giving in to these urges, but Sheri Caldwell, St. Joseph Hy-Vee store dietitian, says cravings can be your body trying to communicate that your diet may be lacking the nutrients it needs. “Your body is kind of like a child: It throws a fit if it’s not getting what it wants — nutrition — and makes you crave a quick energy source,” Caldwell says. Instead of seeing snacking as a failure, see it as a message from your body that you need to eat healthier. Here are some tips to stave off those pesky cravings:

Two male staff members answer a question, one from the fresher end of the dating pool, one a bit more seasoned.

Hopefully one of them will know what he’s talking about.

The question:

How comfortable are you with the woman making more money in a relationship?

Don’t skip the most important meal of the day Enjoying a nutritious, modestly-sized breakfast can help regulate your body’s metabolism, Caldwell says. Try starting your day with some eggs, whole-grain cereals or fruit.

Fill up on fluids To keep your body from mistaking thirst for hunger, make sure you’re keeping it well hydrated. Caldwell advises drinking half your weight in ounces of water or low-sugar drinks.

Relieve your stress According to Health.com, stress can cause your body to build a resistance to leptin, which is a hormone that helps you feel full. Caldwell recommends finding a healthy way to eliminate stress, such as spending time with friends and family members who love and support you.

Learn to listen to your body When the cravings kick in, Caldwell recommends munching on wholesome foods, like strawberries, celery and sweet potatoes, and avoiding sweets, as they can just make you yearn for more sugary snacks. Also important is getting adequate rest.

Many women grab caffeinated products to keep themselves alert, but these are unnecessary calories and are no replacement for a good night’s rest.

A trip to the doctor may be your answer Some people may need to add more probiotics to their diet. Probiotics are bacteria that help promote a healthy digestive system and can be found in foods such as yogurt (with live cultures), pickles, miso soup and even chocolate.

They also can be taken in supplement form; however, Caldwell advises visiting your doctor to see if this is really what your body needs.

— Kelsey Saythany | Josephine magazine

Shea Conner

Steve Booher

When a man enters into the world of print journalism, he makes a few concessions.

Most notably, he has to accept the fact that he’ll never make a lot of money. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest if my girlfriend or wife was the “breadwinner” because, well, it wouldn’t be difficult for them to do.

And really, what man wouldn’t take pride in being with such an accomplished, successful, hard-working woman? That’s the kind of person I’d want in my corner.

Only two things really matter to me: 1) That the family or couple is in fact being properly cared for (whether the man works, the woman works or both). 2) That both partners are satisfied with their career role.

If not, then it’s time for a talk and a change.

Now, there is an exception. I once dated a woman who’d occasionally insist on paying for dinner because she knew she had more financial flexibility, but then she’d act like she rescued me from the gallows afterward.

She’d try to use it as a guilt trip in every little squabble. Ugh.

It would probably bother me but it does depend on the woman.

I’m not saying that it would a deal-breaker or divorce-maker, but here’s how this plays out in my mind.

Let’s say a couple needs a new kitchen light fixture and heads to the home improvement store. She chooses the $500 one with burnished brass and tinted sconces. He has no idea what a sconce is and favors the fake wood and plastic model with the 4-foot long florescent tubes. And, it’s on sale for $39.99.

Which one do they buy?

If she suggests a compromise, that means she understands that relationships are about more than just money. They can still talk, share and make household purchases on equal footing. But if she decides she simply has to have the sconces and pays because she can afford it, that could be a problem The next thing you know, she has his manhood tucked away in her designer handbag ,and he’s clicking on free legal advice websites late at night.

Shea is an entertainment writer. He is 27 and in a relationship.

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Steve is the News-Press’ multimedia editor. He is 54 and has been married for 12 years.

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We’re loving it A look at what Josephine staffers are crazy about this month

A few haircuts ago, a stylist recommended that I purchase something called

Super Skinny Serum by Paul Mitchell.

Not only does it smell like apples, but it reduces frizz and speeds up the drying process while conditioning your hair.

I’ve had this stuff for a couple years, so one small bottle goes a long way.

— Emily Gummelt

Lately, I’ve been all about coconut oil. The cholesterol-free, good-for-you oil is only oil in the strictest sense — it’s solid at room temperature — but it quickly melts into liquid on the stove top. I use the commercially available LouAna brand to add a richer flavor to stove top dishes. I also use a dollop of it in my coffee for an extra brain boost in the morning.

— Jennifer Gordon

With the summer heat and humidity come the frizzies, and I find

Garnier Fructis’ Moroccan argan oil treatment helps significantly reduce the poof.

It’s not the be-all, end-all solution to frizz, but I find it tames my hair without making it appear stringy or greasy and is versatile in that it can be applied to wet or dry hair My husband and I got a grill for our wedding, and so far it’s our favorite gift. Since it’s summer, we use it whenever we can, even to cook unconventional sides that don’t normally go on the grill. My new favorite technique is to make rice in a disposable aluminum container. Just fill with uncooked instant rice, liquid and any additional ingredients you want, cover with foil and grill for about 15 minutes until the liquid is absorbed. Check out this recipe for ideas and tweak it to suit your tastes: www.tasteofhome.com/Recipes/Rice-on-the-Grill.

— Brooke Wilson

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– whichever is most convenient – multiple times a day.

— Kelsey Saythany

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Th is month I’ve been diving into Daphne Oz’s new book

“Relish: An Adventure in Food, Style, and Everyday Fun.” The co-host of ABC’s “The Chew” provides easy, attainable tips on living a healthy – and more importantly, happy and rewarding – life without the constant pressures of dieting. Oz (daughter of the famous talk show host Dr. Mehmet Oz) shares her recipes for breakfast, lunch, dinner and cocktails, with easy and delicious substitutes so you don’t have to sacrifice quality when you eat.

— Kim Norvell

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July2013 Every Monday

9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS, (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weight-loss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn St., 232-6858.

5:15 p.m. to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

July 1 7 to 9 p.m., St. Joseph Camera Club, Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.

Every Tuesday 7:30 p.m. to 8:15 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

July 16 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. To find out more and to make reservations, please call Vickie at (816) 244-5648 the Friday before the meeting.

July 23 10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, general meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. For additional information, go to www.stjomowelcomewagon.com.

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Keep fit during vacation You can keep your body vacation-ready even when you’re at your destination with a few short exercises.

Dana Fanning, a fitness specialist with Heartland Health, and Kelly Carson, a personal trainer for Anytime Fitness, shared some of their favorite no-weights-needed moves.

To get your pulse going, Fanning suggests doing 45 seconds worth of jumping jacks.

“Any time your hands are above your heart, it’s going to help get your heart rate up,” Fanning says.

A short series of exercises also can maximize your workout while minimizing the time you spend exercising.

Carson recommends going through this circuit training regimen three times and resting 90 seconds between each round. You do not need to pause between exercises because you’ll be working different parts of your body.

Start with 10 push-ups. You can do either traditional push-ups where you’re on your hands and knees or a modified version. Fanning recommends those with knee problems or people who have difficulty getting on the ground do a push-up against a wall.

Next, get on your stomach and lift your arms and legs off the ground. Keep your spine neutral and your core engaged. Hold for about 20 to 30 seconds.

Roll onto your side for side planks after you finish. This will work your core strength. Bend one of your arms so that your elbow and your shoulder are in one line and your elbow and wrist are in line. Stack your feet on top of each other. Place the opposite arm on the floor in front of you for stability.

Lift off the ground so that only your feet and your forearm touch. You can keep your hand flat on the ground for balance or put your hand on your hip.

Hold for about 20 to 30 seconds.

Another variation of a push-up, called a pike push-up, will give you a shoulder workout. Keep your feet about shoulder width apart and bend forward. Walk out your hands until you’re in a position that resembles an upside down “v”. Then, bend your elbows and push the top of your head toward the floor. Repeat 10 times.

Lunges also are a good take-anywhere exercise. If you’re outside during your circuit training, incorporate the lunge into a walk. If you’re inside, alternate legs. Take a step forward and bend into your front knee. Make sure the knee doesn’t go past your second and third toes. Keep your back leg straight with the knee unlocked. Repeat 10 times per leg.

— Jennifer Gordon | Josephine magazine

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tips to make your first date easier

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My mom had all sorts of helpful suggestions of what to eat on a first date when I was younger.

No soup (too slurpy). No spaghetti (not as romantic outside of a Disney movie).

No chicken wings (too messy).

Though the logic was a little flawed (on my first date with my future husband I ate a Reuben sandwich, sauerkraut and all), there’s a reason to plan out what you eat on a date. It’s the same reason you plan outfits and hairstyles. Everyone wants a first date to be as perfect as possible.

Sometimes, in all the planning, the conversation part of the date gets neglected. Dr. Wendy Walsh, author of “The 30Day Love Detox,” and Jeannie Assimos, director of content for eHarmony Advice, shared these seven tips to help that first heart-to-heart go a little more smoothly.

1

You’re not filling a position.

Yes, questions help generate discussion, but save that list you prepared for when the talking lags a little.

“If you read them a list of questions like a job interview, it’s not going to go over well,” Walsh says.

Assimos agrees.

Make sure you listen to what’s being said. You’re there to learn about the other person and test to see if you two could be compatible.

2

Be a detective.

Simple prompts can help get the answers to questions you want to know but may be afraid to ask.

“One of my favorite ones is where you grew up and what your family was like,” Assimos says. “This is a very good gauge of a person’s emotional health.”

Stable upbringings often mean more balanced adults. Even if your date comes from a more turbulent household, you might hear how your date views that upbringing and how it’s shaped him or her.

3

Ask about weekend plans.

How your date spends time off can tell you a lot about personality. Does your date spend time off with friends? Maybe he or she likes catching a Saturday matinée or catching up on reading.

You can find out quickly if your date’s level of social interaction matches up with yours.

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Talk about friends.

Ask about your date’s friends. How many of them are married? Are any of your date’s siblings married?

“Just as divorce is contagious, marriage is contagious, too,” Walsh says.

If your date spends a majority of time with single friends, he or she might be looking for a more casual relationship.

On the other hand, if your date is surrounded by couples, he or she might be looking to settle down.

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Keep it upbeat.

Negativity can be a big turn off, especially if it’s aimed at the relationships in your life. Keep mum on your squabbles with friends and family. If you don’t, you could be sending the wrong signal.

“Where’s the loyalty there? You’re not presenting yourself as someone with good character,” Assimos says.

Ditto goes with the ex-boyfriend. If something bad happened during your last break-up, that probably will be covered eventually.

6

Find the funny bone.

Do Adam Sandler movies make your date laugh?

That’s definitely something you should suss out at the beginning of a relationship, Assimos says. Surveys and dating profiles frequently list “sense of humor” as a desired quality in a partner.

If you’re not going to find the same things funny, it’s good to know that up front.

Walsh agrees. Men and women alike appreciate it when someone laughs at something they say. That may not happen if you think you and your date don’t see eye to eye on “Mr. Deeds.”

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Let the date end.

At the end of the night, say your goodbyes and keep the phone away from you, Walsh recommends. Don’t try to schedule another date. Don’t text.

Communicating through texts opens the door for over-sharing, which you were careful not to do on your first date.

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Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, East Hills Shopping Center parking lot off Woodbine.

7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684.

5:15 to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

Every Thursday 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799.

6:45 to 7:30 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

July 11 Noon, St. Joseph Garden Club will meet at Country Squire, 1602 Buckingham St. For more information, call 232-9151.

6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Herb Gardeners, FCS Financial, 2109 S. Riverside Road, genetic engineering update with Fred Messner.

July 18 5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 232-9750.

Every Friday 5 to 8 p.m., Friday Night Wine Tastings, Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.

Every Saturday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, East Hills Shopping Center parking lot off Woodbine.

9 to 9:45 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

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Is making a credit transfer worth it?

It’s a simple question with a not-so-simple answer. If you’ve racked up debt on a high-interest credit card, transferring the balance to a card with a lower interest rate may sound like an enticing way to save cash. However, a credit transfer can be really good or really bad depending entirely on your financial situation.

You must have good credit to qualify for low rates.

Zero interest balance transfer cards usually only are available to those with good or excellent credit. If you qualify and it will help you pay off your debt sooner, it might be the way to go. But if you don’t have good credit and you simply receive an offer in the mail, you may want to reconsider a transfer.

“You could get a zero percent offer, but let’s say they don’t approve you for a zero percent offer and they give you a 15 percent card,” says Jana Castanon, community outreach coordinator for the Overland Park, Kan., branch of Apprisen, a credit and debt counseling service. “You really need to look at the information that they approve you for and don’t just assume that you’re getting that rate that they offered you initially.”

The promotional period doesn’t last forever.

If you find a zero percent interest balance transfer offer (or any other incredibly low rate), make sure you’re aware how long that interest rate will apply to your account.

Don’t forget about transfer fees.

You can’t swap a high interest rate for a low interest rate without paying them.

These fees often are determined as a percentage of the total amount you’re transferring. According to creditcards. com, 3 percent is the average fee in 2013.

The more you transfer, the more you’ll hurt your credit score.

You may think that transferring your debt from card to card when your low teaser rate expires is the perfect solution to avoid ever paying interest. Think again. Lenders see those who continue to open new low-interest accounts while maintaining high debt levels as risks.

A transfer won’t change your spending habits.

The benefit of a balance transfer is a reduced interest rate on an existing balance, so that you can pay off the balance as quickly as possible. But if the main reason for transferring your balance is to free up available credit on an existing card, you may be setting yourself up for serious debt problems.

Castanon says that opening up new credit lines — and racking up even more debt than you did previously — almost always ends badly.

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Local club focuses on making women financially savvy Using money to make money is an expertise of sorts for one women’s group in St. Joseph.

They aren’t stockbrokers, but after 27 years of studying the stock market and making investments, they can offer good advice. Like what questions to ask, when to buy and when to sell — and why this is such important knowledge for women.

“Women need to understand things about finances and investing,” Deann Young, a founding member of the YWCA Investment Club, says. She adds that the woman behind the club’s creation, former YWCA Executive Director Aline Pfeifer, was inspired to do so after losing her husband and finding she didn’t have the knowledge necessary to manage her investments. She didn’t want other women to be in her position.

As a result, up to 20 women (the maximum allowed according to the club’s partnership agreement) have met monthly since 1986 to educate themselves — and to make some money in the process. The 18 current members share a portfolio worth more than $200,000, as well as a wealth of knowledge to put to use in managing their personal finances.

“One of the things I’ve learned is to be a steady investor,” member Barb Moore says. “Most people that keep accumulating don’t just do it overnight.”

The same has proven true for this club. Members contribute a minimum of $35 each per month and have seen their investments pay off over time, even with a stipulation in club guidelines allowing the women to withdraw their money at any time. Some have done so to cover the cost of trips the club has taken, including one for their 20th anniversary to Chicago, where they visited the Chicago Board of Exchange, and one for their

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versized ottomans are a big trend in furniture this year. When I first saw a demo living room set, I fell in love. But as soon as I started walking around the showroom floor, I noticed how overpriced the oversized ottomans really are. So I figured I could just make my own for much less using a square dining room table top I had in the garage, minus the legs. The rest I got from Lowe’s and Joann Fabrics.

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1½-inch screws Drill Scissors Chop saw Small can of stain

2 yards of 4-inch foam 3 yards of batting 1 can of Scotch Guard 1 can of spray glue Staple gun and staples

How to build it: Measure and cut foam to fit the top of your table top. Spray adhesive and apply.

Do the same with the batting, but batting should overlap the foam, then staple underneath of the table top. Measure and cut material and staple to the underneath of the table top. Allow extra to hang over each edge and pull tight when stapling.

Measure and cut the 1 x 8 x 8 piece into four equal sections.

Spray adhesive on one side of each board and cover with material, stapling to the opposite side. Cut off any extra material so the pieces aren’t too thick.

Turn table upside down and screw each side piece into the lip of the table top.

Measure and cut 3 x 3 post into four equal lengths for the legs. Screw each leg into the lip of the table top. Stain each leg and let dry.

Turn right side up and, voila, you’re done.

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25th anniversary to New York City, where they visited the New York Stock Exchange.

Despite the name, the club no longer meets at the YWCA. Its meetings now take place at the office of a CPA (who also happens to be the club’s treasurer) from 6 to 8 p.m. the first Thursday of each month.

Each member is assigned a stock to keep track of, and meetings include updates on companies the club has invested in and on how its stocks are doing.

In the early days, examining a stock’s performance involved handwritten ledger sheets. Now, everything is electronic, and compiling stock reports takes 30 minutes rather than three hours.

“The electronic age makes it much more accessible to anyone,” member Susan Pettigrew says.

And changes in gender norms have made investing more accessible to women, specifically.

“The most investing my mother or grandmother ever did was a CD in the bank,” member Kathy Brinton says.

“They probably wouldn’t consider buying a stock or a bond.”

“I think men held the purse strings,” member Anne Brownfield adds. “I don’t think women ever had any real money of their own.”

One way this group of women is like many others of past eras, however, is that they do enjoy the social aspect of their meetings and have formed friendships that have offered support through marriages, divorces, grandchildren and illnesses. Member Mary Keck, for one, says she joined specifically because of the social draw. And member Janie Christen makes mention of the fun and laughter that are a part of every meeting.

The meetings are full of new information, as the women consistently research new industries and technologies to determine whether to invest in them (Their most recent research has been into 3-D printers).

Member Nancy Black notes that if she weren’t a member of the club, she likely wouldn’t be exposed to this kind of information.

“One of the things that I find very valuable is that it keeps me in touch with what’s going on in the economy,” Ms. Young adds. “It keeps you in touch with things that are going on in the world.”

Of course, this is valuable not only for women but for anyone — which may be why the club has received some non-female interest.

“My husband asks to come to meetings,” Ms. Moore says. “He’s been wanting to join for years.”

Men aren’t allowed, but any women interested in the club can e-mail ywcainvestmentclub@gmail.com.

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Members of the Central High School 1993 graduating class, Christy Archer Stopher, left, and Erica Jungk Martin, right, Jenny Nelson Miller, back left Traci Edson, back right, and Brad Ritchie, top left, tour the facility recently during a class reunion.

Reunions: Fun and stressful

Class reunions can bring about a whirlwind of emotions. Mixing the past and the present is exciting and nerve-racking. Organizers from Central High School’s Class of 1993 are experiencing both.

“For me, it’s a big one and people are getting older,” says Sharlie Hill-Henry, one of the organizers.

“People are more mature now — well, we’re finding out maybe some aren’t.”

And that’s part of the difficulty with class reunions. Some old feelings and difficult personalities still are afoot.

Tonja (Catron) Palmer and her husband, Randy Palmer, who started dating at 16, had no intention of attending this year’s reunion. But when the group reached out for help in the organizing, Tonja Palmer thought it

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“I personally didn’t want to go and sit at a table by ourselves because of all the cliques,” she says.

Palmer, Hill-Henry, Ashlie (McMillan) Spiegel, Julie (Zuchowski) Sutton, Erica (Jungk) Martin, Traci Edson and Janet Clay wanted to do things the right way.

The group of women knew each other in high school but had their own cliques at Central. Some went to grade school and junior high together, but they became close while planning their 20-year reunion.

“None of us had seen each other since graduation, I think,” Palmer says.

Facebook was an invaluable tool for the group, creating a specific page dedicated to their class. And they made a

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point to invite every single student who was ever in their class. There were more than 400 in the class, but only about 350 graduated.

The whole point of the reunion wasn’t about graduation, however. A classmate said it best: “It doesn’t matter if you were a classmate for one day, you were still a part of our class.”

“It’s about reuniting with your friends from high school,” Palmer says. “It doesn’t matter if you got the diploma or not.”

Hill-Henry and Edson were responsible for getting the invitations out.

There wasn’t a five-year reunion, and the women said the 10-year reunion wasn’t as organized. Not everyone got invited. That’s why the group wanted to make a point to invite everyone this time around.

“There were some bitter feelings at the 10-year (reunion),” Palmer says.

Sutton says she wasn’t even invited, and the Palmers didn’t attend.

About 85 people responded, but a majority of the former classmates told organizers they have no intention of going to their class reunions. Ever.

Hill-Henry says that the women she has talked to say they aren’t going because they don’t feel comfortable with how they look and the difficulty of finding something nice to wear.

It’s been great reconnecting. We are all different people now, but it’s been fun.

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“A lot of us have weight gain,” she says.

“It’s an image thing. They don’t want anyone to judge them.”

It’s hard to pigeon-hole anyone, let alone such a large group of students, but the Class of 1993 definitely earned a reputation its sophomore year.

During a pep rally, the class decided to throw their small bottles of bubbles across the gym at the seniors. The seniors began throwing them back. Along the way, lids were opened. The ladies remember an administrator or two sliding across the slick gym floor.

The act earned them exclusion from pep rallys for the rest of the school year.

It’s those fun times that organizers hope can be rekindled with a class reunion.

“It’s been great reconnecting,” Edson says. “We are all different people now, but it’s been fun.”

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Exercise for two Stay active while pregnant

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The idea of maintaining an active lifestyle while in the second or third trimester of pregnancy may sound difficult for some women.

However, moderate exercise is essential to keeping both mother and baby healthy.

“I think people tend to think that pregnancy is an illness, so they’re not supposed to be doing a lot of things ... because they know another life is at stake. They think that if they do something dramatic it could injure the baby,” says Dr. Maureen Boyle, an obstetrician and gynecologist with Heartland Health.

“I don’t think people understand it’s crazy hard to injure your baby whether you’re exercising or not,” she continues. “... Unless you literally have blunt trauma or are in a car accident, that baby’s in a big protective muscle.”

The key to developing a maternity exercise routine is evaluating how active of a lifestyle you led before getting pregnant. Sarah Srock, a fitness specialist with Heartland Wellness Connection, is in the third trimester of her first pregnancy. Since she’s always been a very active person, she says she had no intention of stopping once she became pregnant.

“I was able to keep my routine the same, but I will tell you as months go on your intensity decreases, things start to get a little more uncomfortable, and you just basically have to listen to your body,” she says.

For women who don’t exercise very often, starting mild activity each day like walking or swimming is a good way to ease into a maternity exercise routine. Low-impact weight training, stretching and prenatal yoga classes also are ideal for pregnant women.

“You can still do some strength training, even just using your own body weight, doing squats and lunges. ... Swimming is an excellent form of exercise for pregnant women, especially as you get bigger. You have a lot of aches and pains and swimming you’re just kind of weight free,” Srock says.

“A lot of the complications we see with pregnancy are related to excessive weight gain and obesity. If you’re planning to become pregnant, if you try to get to a healthy weight you’ll probably have a better pregnancy outcome and your complication rate will decrease,” Boyle says.

Srock says exercise helps ease swelling and circulation issues, prevents excessive weight gain and also boosts energy and mood levels.

“If I didn’t stay active during my pregnancy, I probably would have been a little depressed because your body goes through all these changes and you have no control over it, no control. Getting out there and getting fresh air just really, really helped me stay sane,” she says.

“People who exercise during pregnancy have better endurance in labor and they recover faster from a C-section if necessary,” Boyle adds. newspressnow.com/josephine

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Sarah Srock has continued to exercise throughout her pregnancy.

Regular exercise comes with another benefit which Srock says is very important to her.

“The key in exercising is on breathing, and in labor you have to focus on your breathing, so I feel like in a way I’m training for that big day,” she says.

Although expectant women shouldn’t be afraid of exercising throughout their pregnancies, there are certain limitations they need to be aware of.

“Your joints get more lax due to the hormones of pregnancy so you have to be careful what exercises you’re doing,” Boyle says.

“Watch your center of gravity too as you start to gain more abdominal girth. There are exercises after about 20 weeks you shouldn’t do anything where you’re laying flat on your back just because it can decrease the ability of the oxygenation to the uterus.”

She also says pregnant women should avoid contact sports or high-risk sports like skiing, as well as marathon running. Though running while pregnant is OK, marathon running has the potential to increase the mother’s heart rate to dangerously high levels for the baby.

As with any part of pregnancy, it’s best for women to consult with their doctors before undertaking a prenatal exercise routine, especially for those with higher risk pregnancies. Above all, listen to your body to tell you when you might be overdoing it.

“Just tell women not to be scared,” Srock says. “... I was one of those worried moms but I’m not worried anymore. When I have a second one, I plan to stay just as active as long as I can.”

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Get your look to stand up to summer’s heat

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here are so many memorable things about the summer: pools, baseball games, fresh fruit, pedicures, cute sandals, swishy sundresses, summer reality TV, cold drinks, barbecues and bad hair.

conditioner and a shine spray, and Davis recommends anti-humidity products than can help tame the frizz.

Alter your style During the summer, Gordon, who has

Yep. Bad hair.

With the sun, humidity, heat and chlorine all ever-present, our heads are dealing with a lot while the rest of us sits back and relaxes. Summer can be tough on hair, but you don’t have to pull out the baseball cap when temps rise.

Instead, get the right products and a few fun accessories, and you can look great while having some summer fun.

Jessica Conner Davis, a stylist at Images of You, Chandra Gordon, owner of Identity Salon, and Denver Martin, a stylist at Belleza Salon and Day Spa, all offer a few tips on getting the best style for your summer.

Get the right products Just like your skin, your hair needs different things with different kinds of weather. The sun and chlorine from the pool can damage hair, and humidity can make it look totally crazy, so treat your hair accordingly.

Before swimming, Martin says, wet your hair down and add a leave-in conditioner.

“Your hair will already have soaked something in other than the chlorine,” she says.

When you’re done swimming, rinse off and add a leave-in again, she says.

“It will keep it from fluffing out.”

Gordon also recommends a leave-in

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If you have long hair and you’re normally someone who wears your hair down, consider a messy bun, a messy braid or an updo that looks cute and casual but also keeps you cool.

Martin, who has long hair, often braids hers or puts it up into a messy bun. If you’re pulling your hair up or back, you also can add accessories with clip-on flowers or bows or colorful bobby pins.

Put a hat on it Maybe best for days at the lake or pool, but find a cute hat, scarf or bandana and keep your head covered when you’re going to be outside for long stretches of time. This will help protect your hair and scalp from sun damage and can keep your face covered up from sun damage, too.

And there’s not one style to stick to, according to Cosmopolitan. Big floppy hats are popular, as are cowboy hats and funky fedoras.

OK. Just chop it off The inverted bob remains a popular cut, all three stylists say. The style has longer layers in the front, Conner Davis says, and a stacked, shorter cut in the back. “A lot of people are going short right now,” Martin agrees.

Whether you cut your hair off or pick up some hats and scarves, try a few updos or invest in the products to treat your hair right, each option can help you feel and look cool through the next few months of summer heat — and maybe add “great hair” to the list of things to be enjoyed this summer.

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My first experience of the south was of canopies of Spanish moss-covered trees and historic homes. I peered into one of the gated courtyards that accompanied many of the beautiful homes, and I was amazed by the seashells that were pressed into the cement.

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Spanish moss hangs from the trees in Lafayette Square in Savannah, Ga. The square was named for the Marquis de Lafayette, Lafayette High School’s namesake. There are 22 squares in the historic town.

Byrd’s Famous Cookies was busy with visitors buying wafers that come in a variety of flavors.

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pieces. Some honor historical figures, like Lafayette Park, which was named for the Marquis de Lafayette.

The cobblestone streets along with riverfront lead tourists to and from the many restaurants and shops.

After buying tins full of Georgia peach cookies at Byrd’s Famous Cookies, we ate at Belford’s in the historic city market.

Our sightseeing was done on foot, but there are multiple tours of this historic city. You can travel by trolley, horsedrawn carriage or bike.

If I ever return to this memorable city, I would take one of these tours to learn more about its history.

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hat constitutes male-oriented TV today says a lot about male culture or how we perceive it. In the 1950s and 1960s, we had John Wayne and Robert Young. They were strong male figures — brave, wise and the masters of their universe.

Those older male role models stood tall, and they always made the right decisions. People respected them.

They played in entertaining westerns and family dramas that had plots.

And male TV always has been about sports. The Super Bowl, World Series, boxing and the NBA playoffs have been long-tested ways to draw men to TV. It’s the pure competition.

By comparison, today we have the Phil Robertson clan of “Duck Dynasty,” Ultimate Fighting Championship (UFC), “Ice Road Truckers” and Spike TV. Weird, violent and raunchy. That’s what defines male-oriented TV today.

There even are TV shows created for men about work. Somebody somewhere thought that guys like to see other men work, so they created reality shows like “Ice Road Truckers” and “Ax Men.” Apparently, we like watching other men haul stuff over treacherous ice and chop down trees.

My take on that is if you have to watch a TV show to see work done, you probably haven’t worked much.

If you did, you’d know that work isn’t fun. It’s work.

There’s nothing fun about driving a forklift and having some straw boss lurking around a corner hoping you’ll screw up so he can write you up. There’s certainly no humor in getting your hand chopped off by an un-OSHA approved machine.

I see truckers drive on ice down the Belt Highway. I’ve seen guys cut down trees after a storm. It’s not called entertainment but an inconvenience.

I’ve watched a bit of “Duck Dynasty” — only enough to be glad I own a remote. The show basically is about the Robertsons, a family who got rich and famous by making duck calls and

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decoys. The Robertson family lifestyle can best be described as “Winter’s Bone” with religion. Backwoods, backward people who live equally by both gun and Bible are not entertainment — they’re in line at Walmart.

The UFC is ostensibly a mixed martial arts competition. But outside of a few matches, I’ve seen more skill in bar fights. The rules are just as lax, too. Anything goes. Pretty soon I bet they’ll let the fighters use beer bottles and bar stools in the octagon ring.

If an alien came down and watched Spike TV to find out about American men, he’d leave feeling smug, knowing he’d have no problem conquering this Earth. He certainly wouldn’t have to waste time zapping our brains out. Spike TV already did it.

There’s a show on Spike called “Bar Rescue,” which is just as it sounds. A guy goes around the country trying to keep bars from closing.

I tried to keep bars from closing many times after the last call lights flickered, and they just threw me out the door. No show or nothing.

There’s another show called “Repo Games” where actual car repossession men play a sort of Trivial Pursuit with the owners of vehicles that are about to be repossessed. If they lose, their vehicle gets repossessed.

A show certainly for these financially strapped times. But there’s nothing fun about someone’s car being repossessed — especially if it’s yours.

“Tattoo Nightmares” is about people with bad tattoos who try to get them removed or fixed. “Ink Master” is a show about people getting bad tattoos.

Really, have we men been dumbed down so much as to see all this as male entertainment? I’d rather watch paint dry. Come to think of it, that might be a show.

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s a kid, we all dream about what we want to be when we grow up.

I thought I would be a veterinarian.

I brought home every stray animal I could find in hopes of saving their lives. My attempts at lifesaving were not always successful. Like the time I found three baby birds that had fallen from a nest, and as the savior of all things breathing, I decided to build a new home for the featherless creatures that would be better than anything their mother could have built.

I cut the top off of a milk jug and added a layer of comfort by filling it with grass, then I gently laid the fledglings in their new bed. I topped off their five-star accommodations with room service, dropping a worm in the tub so they wouldn’t go hungry. (I obviously was too young to know how baby birds actually ate their meals.)

I fell asleep with a smile on my face that night, knowing I improved the life of those little ones and helping animals was the best job on earth.

All it took was an overnight storm with lots of rain to show me that saving animals was more than just petting puppies. It also had a dark side.

I went out that morning, expecting the featherless birds to be waiting for another delicious worm. Instead, I found the milk jug full of water, and the bodies of the baby birds floating on top.

I learned a valuable lesson that day.

Birds’ nests need drainage holes. It also taught me that I didn’t want to be a vet.

I took my love for anything that blinked and found a different way to save the world. I now rescue not only furry critters, but I also save bugs

and spiders, and after a rainstorm I pick worms up from the sidewalk and carry them to the dirt so they won’t dry out. I think everything needs to be able to go back home to its family at the end of the day.

Recently, I took my love of animals to the zoo. I lied to myself on several occasions, pretending the animals really were happy in their caged habitat because they had no predators ready to eat their faces off, and they really found it amusing when humans made animal noises at them.

We walked amongst the bears and gorillas, birds and armadillos. Life was good until we stopped at the antelope corral.

We leaned against the fence and watched as one of the magnificent creatures began to chase another. We laughed as they romped and played and applauded when the rest of the herd of ‘lopes began to chase the one lone animal. Quickly our joy turned into confusion as we tried to figure out the purpose of this very unevenly numbered game of tag.

Everything changed when my daughter pointed out, “I don’t think they are playing. All the hair is standing up on their backs and they are trying to gore the one in front.”

Our hopes that they were just roughhousing were destroyed when the target of the angry herd was knocked down and the others begin to tromp a mudhole into the poor thing.

We all screamed, covered the eyes of the children and began to run from this “pen of punishment.”

I looked for a blow dart tipped with a tranquilizer to help defend this poor animal, but there was none to be found. Convinced the animals may decide to turn their anger against humans, we packed up the van and headed home. We had enough nature for one day.

I knew then life has a way of working out just like it is supposed to. Had I really become a vet, I would have been on anti-depressants, have so many pets I would be on an episode of “Animal Hoarders” and been habitually arrested for freeing lobsters from local restaurants.

I guess life knew me better than I knew myself.

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The law of unintended consequences The above law and Murphy’s law were hand in hand when I was helping plan James Beard’s surprise 80th birthday party at the Stanford Court Hotel.

All table centerpieces were to relate to his books or favorite recipes. He was an avid bread baker, so for one table I took a enormous mixing bowl from the restaurant kitchen, mixed up some bread dough and used a huge wooden spoon as an accent. It looked great until that evening when the spotlight over the table came on, warmed up the yeast and the dratted thing started to grow. All dressed up in my finest, I spent a good portion of the evening punching down dough!

Another table was piled high with assorted spices and herbs. The arrangement looked fabulous, but since a couple of guests were allergic, not such a winner.

The most challenging and stressful centerpiece was the pig’s head surrounded by trotters and potatoes (trotters are pigs feet). James Beard loved them. It was a challenge to find a fresh pig’s head, but I managed it, carting the head and feet through San Francisco. Someone had the bright idea that we should roast off the head just a little bit so it wouldn’t be so pale. Wrong. The fat in the head started to melt, the pig’s head (not attractive to some anyway) really looked oozy and awful. So back to the market to get a fresh head. It was awkward explaining to the San Francisco cabby what was in the bag! Eventually, I got the pig’s head in the center, feet and potatoes in a circle around the head, porcine perfection, and James loved it. It was his favorite! Happy birthday!

James Beard’s Buttermilk White Bread 2 packages active dry yeast 1 tablespoon granulated sugar 1/2 cup warm water (100 to 115 degrees, approximately) 4 cups unbleached hard-wheat flour 1 tablespoon salt

3 tablespoons melted butter (unsalted) 1 to 1¼ cups buttermilk Combine yeast, sugar and water and allow to proof. Mix flour, salt, melted butter and buttermilk together, work into smooth dough, then add yeast mixture. Beat well for about two minutes, then remove to well-floured board and knead for about 10 minutes until the dough is supple, smooth and satiny. (You can use a mixer with the dough hook, it takes about five to six minutes.) Place dough in buttered bowl, turn dough to coat with butter.

Cover and sit in warm place to rise until dough has more than doubled in bulk.

Punch down, remove to floured board and knead for about two minutes. Form into a loaf about 9x5 inches. Place in buttered 9x5x3-inch bread pan, cover and place in warm draft-free place to rise until more than doubled in bulk.

Bake in center of preheated 375-degree oven for about 40 minutes. Remove from pan and bake for another five to eight minutes to give a crisp brown crust. Cool before slicing.

Cream Biscuits These were his favorite biscuits, so we served them at the party. They are unique in that they use heavy cream instead of butter or shortening.

2 cups all purpose flour 1 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon double acting baking powder 3/4 to 1 cup heavy cream Melted butter Sift the dry ingredients together, then fold in the cream until it makes a soft dough that can be easily handled. Turn out onto a floured board, knead for about one minute, then pat

to a thickness of about 1/2 to 3/4 inch. Cut into rounds or squares, dip in melted butter and arrange on a buttered baking dish or in a square baking pan. Bake in preheated 425 oven for 15 to 18 minutes and serve very hot.

Cheese Soufflés with Marinated Shrimp A great make-ahead and he loved it!

1/3 cup unsalted butter 1/4 cup flour 1½ cups milk Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste Freshly grated nutmeg 5 large eggs, separated 1 cup grated Gruyere cheese 1/2 cup cooked, peeled baby shrimp 1 tablespoon Pernod or other anise-flavored liqueur 3 egg whites You need 8 ramekins (each 1 cup capacity) Make soufflé base; melt butter in medium saucepan, whisk in flour, cook until foaming, whisk in milk and bring to a boil. Stir constantly until sauce thickens. Season with salt, pepper and nutmeg, and simmer for two minutes.

Remove from heat, and whisk egg yolks into sauce so they cook and thicken slightly.

Stir in cheese, reserving 1 tablespoon for the top of the soufflés.

Taste for seasoning — it should be highly seasoned. Rub a piece of butter on top to prevent a skin form forming. Mixture can be kept at room temperature for up to six hours.

Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Generously butter ramekins. Mix shrimp with Pernod and spread in bottom of ramekins, dividing evenly.

Place cheese mixture over low heat to warm.

Beat egg whites with a pinch of salt until soft peaks form. Fold a quarter of the egg whites into the cheese mixture to lighten, then fold everything together. Spoon into ramekins and sprinkle reserved cheese on top. (These soufflés can be refrigerated at this point for one hour) Bake in preheated oven for 10 to 12 minutes until puffed and brown.

Serve at once.

LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.

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