Josephine June 2014

Josephine St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

June 2014

Stay cool as summer heats up Bright colors, prints and eyelet fabrics will keep temperatures bearable and and fashions beautiful and wearable

Great day trips to take this summer Hats that are both functional and fashionable YWCA salutes lifetime achievement award winners

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Looking cool 16 Bright colors, prints and eyelet fabrics are hot this summer

Recognizing 22 excellence A look at the 2014 YWCA lifetime achievement award winners Moving on 26 Group seeks to help people heal after divorce

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Hats on This month’s cover girl might be a first for Josephine. Not only did Lindsay Laderoute write this Family bonding month’s cover story on fashion, she also agreed to Your must list serve as the model for it.

A freelance writer for Josephine and a handful of Sandal-ready feet other publications (including Atchison, Kan.’s, Lady Summertime savings A, also owned by our parent company) Lindsay’s been modeling since she was 15. A St. Joseph native, she’s a 2013 graduate of the University of Missouri where she majored in journalism.

Editor’s note Not surprisingly, fashion and beauty are Lindsay’s main focus for Josephine.

Two guys “Those are just the things that I love. They make and a question people feel more confident,” she says. “You can be Josephine calendar someone new every day. It’s my form of art.”

Check out Lindsay’s story and photo shoot on We’re loving it page 16. Above, Lindsay wears a white dress, Average Joe $59.99; blue cardigan $39.99; gold sandals, $29.99; sunglasses, $14.99; and gold teardrop Getting Real necklace, $22.99, all from the Gap Outlet at the Meal time Legends Outlets Kansas City.

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By JESS DEHAVEN Summer is my favorite season, and I’m sure I’m not the only one. The season is all about relaxing, whether it’s fashion, eating or just taking a break from the everyday routine.

We’ve got an issue full of summer-inspired stories that hopefully will get you in the spirit of the season.

Our big feature this month is on summertime clothing. If you’re looking for something new to add to your wardrobe, turn to page 16. There you’ll surely find something to suit your taste.

Perhaps that wardrobe item you’re looking to add is a hat? If you’ve always wanted to top off your look with a chapeau but haven’t quite been able to figure out how, Kelsey Saythany has some tips for you on page 9.

Moving from your head to your toes, perhaps your feet need a little attention. Brooke Wilson found out how to get your feet sandal-ready for summer. Read all about it on page 12.

Finally, if you’re looking for something different to do this summer, whether for the weekend or as part of a stay-cation, you’ll want to check out Emily Gummelt’s story. She’s compiled a list of some must-see destinations in our area that you may not know are out there. Check out page 11 for more.

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Get that tanned look without actually tanning Most women want to achieve a sunkissed glow without risking wrinkles or worse, skin cancer.

Luckily there’s plenty of options on the market for getting that look, some of which require a bit more elbow grease.

Spray tan

Karen Neff, owner of Tanfastic Tan & Spray, says her customers increasingly prefer a spray tan to the tanning bed because “it provides an awesome tan with no orange color, just a natural bronze tone.”

Her company, at 3711 Mitchell Ave., offers both a VersaSpa booth or a personal spray technician. The booth has an automated voice that instructs the user exactly what to do (so no risk in having a Ross Geller moment).

Neff says to prep yourself for a spray tan, it is “extremely important” to shower, shave and exfoliate the night before.

Moisturizer also should be applied, but no later than four hours before the spray.

“They are also instructed on the care of the tan after they leave us so their tanning results are great,” she says. “It is a must to stay completely dry for at least six to 10 hours and prevent heavy sweating to obtain maximum results.”

She adds the VersaSpa spray is scented with lemongrass, so there’s no obnoxious odor to deal with.

DIY

If you’re more keen to do your tan yourself, Neff says the company also provides the DHA (dihydroxyacentone) formula in a can.

In addition, there’s plenty of self-tanner lotions on the market that can be used at home.

According to consumersearch.com, the Top 3 best sunless tanners are St. Tropez

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Self-Tan Bronzing Mousse ($42), Jergens Natural Glow Daily Moisturizer ($7.22) and Dr. Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Glow Pad for Body ($45).

Reviewers say the last product is helpful for hard-to-reach places, such as your back, because the tanning lotion is contained on a wipe.

Just like spray tans, users must first exfoliate the skin in order to achieve a streak-free look. Reviewers of sunless tanners advise you test an inconspicuous part of your body first before applying.

A less permanent option is simply using bronzer to enhance the areas of your face where the sun naturally hits — your forehead, cheeks, nose and chin. According to howstuffworks.com, there’s also a benefit in dusting bronzer on your neck and chest. To achieve a more natural look, try using a short, fluffy brush.

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Get the most Burn more calories with your workout

It would be great if we could burn extra calories by doing nothing.

Unless you believe the claim of certain supplements, however, that’s not really possible.

For those resigned to losing weight the old-fashioned way, the next best thing is to make our workouts more effective.

Think of it as making your workouts work harder for you.

Of course, this also requires you to work a little harder – but with the right techniques you might hardly know it!

Here are three tips to try.

spending a little time on the weight bench or it may mean just adding weight to what you’re already doing. Going for a walk around the neighborhood? Carry some dumbbells!

Vary the intensity

“You need some time in the red zone,” says self-proclaimed fitness freak Wallace Nelson of Kansas City. Interval training involves varying the intensity of aerobic activities. For example, run moderately for two to five minutes, and then sprint for 30 seconds to two minutes. On a bike, you would alternate moderate and Add weights intense pedaling. In either case, the effect Incorporate lifting – even if it’s light – throws your body out of homeostasis and into your workout routine. This can mean results in continued calorie-burning for

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hours afterwards. If you aren’t sure of the difference between moderate and intense exertion, consider Nelson’s rule: “If you can talk, you are not pushing very hard.”

Work out longer

Interval training can be intimidating, especially for a beginner. Another way to get more from your workout is to extend it. That doesn’t necessarily mean doubling the time you spend on the treadmill. Just push yourself a little harder than you think. When you think you can’t do another push-up, do three more. When you can’t run another block, run two more. Little efforts add up.

— Crystal K. Wiebe | Josephine magazine

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Every Tuesday 7:30 p.m. to 8:15 p.m. Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 2221 N. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.

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This question assumes that all women are essentially alike, doesn’t it? If you asked me what I never understood about other men, I wouldn’t even know where to begin.

What kind of men? Not all men are alike, of course, and neither are all women.

But even if you limited the scope of the question to the women I’ve known well, in my lifetime (I’m 31), I find it hard to find common ground they all stand on. None of the women in my life have ever behaved in such a way that I think is characteristic of women in general, because there’s no such thing as “women in general.” People are a lot more complicated than that, aren’t they?

And what a relief that is. I don’t like it when someone assumes something about me simply because I’m a man, or makes judgments about me because of it. That’s not fair. So I can’t really answer the question. I don’t think anyone can, really, without being at least a little insulting.

There are many things about women that have eluded men for generations. Too many to fit within one segment of a magazine.

And the topics vary for everyone. Some men like to think they have women figured out, but they’d be wrong. Others try to understand certain things and leave others alone.

I find myself in the second group. One thing that has eluded my understanding is a women’s ability to turn simple comments, even compliments, into personal attacks if they are having a bad day. I’ve come across this several times in my home life. Simple questions like, “How was your day” can make a woman lash out if you catch them when they’re tired, busy, stressed or any other number of things. Then I feel terrible for even asking. Having been married for nearly a decade, I’ve seen many phases of this. I’ve learned to just move on with my day. Which, truthfully, isn’t always the best course of action either.

Kellen Perry is a producer at Fox 26 KNPN. He is 31 and married.

Dan Dozar is KNPN’s news director. He is 35 and has been married for nine years.

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We’re loving it A look at what Josephine staffers are crazy about this month

I recently came across a cool little group called Wordologies whose philosophy is “wisdom in words.” They make little journals, notepads, coffee cups and magnets with short, uplifting messages like “giving gains. magnify goodness,” “mindfulness matters. be where you are” and “change conquers. clear the static.”

The items and their messages are simple and put you in a positive frame of mind.

The best part is that 5 percent of the sales profit goes to an organization called Women for Women International, which offers business and job skills training to women in conflict-ridden nations. You can buy items at www.wordologies.com.

— Jess DeHaven

A few months ago I purchased a small French Press coffee maker from Hy-Vee. It was the best $8 I think I’ve spent. I had never used one before (my husband and I got a Keurig a few Christmases ago so we’re obsessed with that mostly), but I’ve noticed the French Press really brings out the full flavor of the coffee, leaving in some of the oils that get lost when made in the Keurig or regular coffee maker. I’ve ended up using it almost every day (it’s also great for loose-leaf tea).

My new favorite body lotion is made locally by Tara Duckworth, who owns a yoga studio in Downtown St. Joseph. Her Happy Tree body butter feels so great on my thirsty skin. Not only is it moisturizing, but the naturally made product also exfoliates. I use vanilla, but she offers other scents. To purchase the body butter, and other natural beauty or home products, e-mail clarityyogi@gmail.com or stop by Clarity: Yoga and Wellness, 124 N. Eighth St., before class times.

— Kim Norvell

— Emily Gummelt

I used to check my car’s tire pressure around once or twice a year (not recommended), mainly because I could never get those stick gauges, no matter the brand or age, to work for me. I would get different readings on the same tire and eventually give up and decide it was probably fine.

After seeing a good review on Consumer Reports, I decided to try the Accutire MS4021B digital gauge. It makes checking tire pressure way easier. Now I check them probably more than necessary, but when it takes under a minute, why not? Tires are too expensive not to maintain.

— Kelsey Saythany

I love eggs in most forms, but I never was a fan of scrambled eggs until I learned to cook them the way chef Gordon Ramsay does. The process involves slowly melting butter into the eggs, stirring them constantly and moving the pan on and off the heat until they’re fluffy and creamy.

The flavor is amazing, and you’ll never have to worry about rubbery eggs again!

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Hats on for summer Whether you need to hide a bad hair day or add a little something to your outfit this summer, it’s time to put away those winter caps and start accessorizing with lighter summer hats. Try out these timeless headpieces.

hair or with hair tied into a low, elegant bun.

Floppy hat

As the weather continues to warm up and you spend more time outdoors, a floppy (or sun) hat is a great way to keep those rays off your face and look great doing it. Women with long locks pull off these hats particularly well. Pair it with a summery dress or flowy shirt, and wear it on days you plan on spending a large portion of time outdoors.

Cloche hat

These classy, bell-shaped hats pair perfectly with formal attire. Its close-fitting nature makes it look best with short

Straw fedora

This casual hat can be used to complement an outfit or hide a bad hair day.

They look great with just about any casual outfit and won’t look out of place in an indoor setting.

Crochet beanie

This is another casual hat that can be worn as an accessory to an outfit. A slouchy crochet beanie is easier to wear in the summer because it is light and breathable. Of course, they won’t provide much protection from the sun, so these

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are best used to calm down frizzy hair on a humid day or just to spice up your look.

Hats can attract more attention than any other accessory, so it takes some confidence to wear one. Here are some tips to make pulling off the look easier:

■ Make sure your hat fits securely to avoid needing to constantly adjust it throughout the day and so it’s less likely to fly off in the wind.

■ Sometimes hats look better worn low on the forehead or tilted back or to the side. Try moving your hat around on your head until you find the angle that works best.

■ If you plan on only having one or two hats in your inventory, it’s best to go with a neutral color that will go with a wide variety of outfits.

— Kelsey Saythany | Josephine magazine

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How to use summer break to foster relationships with children

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Without school to keep the kids occupied, summer lends itself to boredom and time away from home.

But parents can use the break as an opportunity to connect with their children, says clinical psychological Elaine Johnston.

“They don’t have school, homework, sports or extra curricular activities to distract them on a daily basis,” she says. “And you, the parent, have less to focus on as well.”

Johnston recommends making a point to interact with each child individually, planning special activities that not only center around fun but allow for communication.

Sometimes parents forget to simply talk to their kids, and summer is an excellent time to start, she says.

Here are a few ideas to promote a stronger relationship between parents and children: Plan regular trips and outings as a family. It’s important for everyone to feel involved in the process.

Spend time with children separately, away from their siblings.

Give kids added responsibilities on their summer break. Despite what they say, children crave structure.

Don’t forget about school. If you haven’t been able to get as involved with school, or homework, as you’d like during the school year, take the summer months to help your child keep up on his or her skills.

— Jennifer Hall | Josephine magazine

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The must list Don’t miss these places this summer The weather is warmer, kids are finally out of school for the summer, work has calmed down a bit ... time for a vacation.

But before you order those plane tickets, consider these options for staying in the area instead.

Venture out to Smithville Lake (about 45 minutes from St. Joseph) or Mozingo Lake (about 54 minutes away) for all your fishing, swimming or boating needs. Both include several walking and biking trails as well as camping sites.

For nature lovers:

For history buffs:

Shatto Milk Co., located in Osborn, Mo., would make a great educational day trip to see where milk, butter and ice cream come from. Only about 30 minutes from St. Joe, families can schedule a guided tour of the farm and its facilities.

The Kansas City Zoo, only about an hour from St. Joesph, typically has different events and activities planned each day, making for an entertaining experience for visitors. Check out the zoo’s website, kansascityzoo.org, for an events calendar.

If you’re looking for a longer trip, Omaha’s Henry Doorly Zoo and Aquarium, about two hours from St. Joe, is a mustsee for all ages. Ranked the No. 1 zoo in the country, this attraction has an event planned for nearly every holiday, as well as a wide variety of exhibits.

The Strategic Air and Space Museum, located in Ashland, Neb., would be a great getaway for those looking for a historical experience. A little over two hours away from St. Joseph, this museum gives the public a chance to visit a multitude of aircraft that helped the Strategic Air Command preserve peace during the Cold War. You also might check out Wilson’s Creek National Battlefield, near Republic, Mo. (3 hours, 40 minutes away from St. Joseph), for a self-guided tour of the battlefield.

a great option for rainier days. With a pool and water slides all indoors, guests staying at the lodge can enjoy the convenience of just lounging in one place.

For adults:

For a relaxing, kid-free trip, you might check out Pirtle Winery, one of the many wineries in the area., where you can stop by for a tasting and tour of the facility. Or, book a stay at The Elms Hotel and Spa in Excelsior Springs, Mo. (only a little over an hour away from St. Joseph).

For shoppers:

There are plenty of good shopping opportunities in Kansas City, from The Legends to Zona Rosa, but if you’re willing to make the drive, there are even more opportunities. Make it a weekend trip and visit Lake of the Ozarks or Battlefield Mall For thrill-seekers: in Springfield. Osage Beach Premium The ever-popular Worlds of Fun/Oceans Outlets (about 3 hours, 30 min. away from of Fun in Kansas City is probably the most St. Joseph) includes stores such as Coach, common spot for roller coaster and water Calvin Klein, Loft Outlet and a Levi’s Outride enthusiasts to visit. The Great Wolf let store, to name a few.

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Get your feet sandal-ready for summer

If your feet are rough, callused and a little ugly after being stuffed into boots all winter (like mine), you might be embarrassed to slip on that cute pair of strappy sandals once warm weather hits.

Just like hands, the skin on your feet tends to dry out in winter. Morgan Rush, a stylist at Images of You Salon, says winter actually is a great time to get pedicures so that the skin stays soft and doesn’t develop calluses.

“Most people think that you need to get

them in the summertime, but your skin dries out more in the wintertime and your feet are in closed shoes, so they’re not getting moisture, you’re not using lotion as much and really you don’t think about it,” she says.

When spring rolls around, the best way to pamper feet and bring them back to life is to moisturize them with a good-quality cream or balm. Ms. Rush says to avoid anything containing plastics or chemicals and opt for a natural brand.

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If your feet have calluses, smooth them gently with a foot file when your skin is softest, like after a shower. Use the file in moderation so you don’t cause any damage. Some people might reach for a pumice stone, but Rush advises against it.

“If you think of a pumice stone it’s kind of porous, it kind of traps that dead skin in there, so it might not necessarily be the cleanest thing to do,” she says.

Also beware of trendy pedicure products that boast miracle cures, because

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If you see fungus or dark spots in your nails and you don’t quite know what they are, I’d go get a pedicure. If they don’t know what it is, go see a foot doctor or ask your regular doctor.

Morgan Rush, a stylist at Images of You Salon

they usually don’t deliver the results they promise.

“I wouldn’t use a Ped Egg. Those kind of just do more damage than good. ...

They look kind of like a cheese grater.

Well if you think what a cheese grater does to cheese, you’re doing that to your foot, and that’s not making your foot better,” she says.

If you don’t already, consider making it a habit to get regular pedicures. They’re relatively inexpensive for how long they last, and they go far beyond having pretty-colored toes. Most pedicures include foot massages, hydrating masks, paraffin dips and other procedures that help feet feel better. If you struggle with other foot issues like ingrown toenails or fungus, ask your nail technician instead of trying to tackle the problem yourself.

“If you see fungus or dark spots in your nails and you don’t quite know what they are, I’d go get a pedicure. If they don’t know what it is, go see a foot doctor or ask your regular doctor,” Rush says.

Having healthy feet is just as important as taking care of the rest of your body.

Older women especially can benefit from extra foot care, as nails tend to get thicker and skin gets cracked as we age. Just make sure the salon you go to uses clean, sanitized tools and doesn’t use damaging implements like callus razors, which are illegal in salons in many states.

“I don’t think people realize that just getting your feet done can make your whole body feel better,” Rush says.

— Brooke Wilson | Josephine magazine 75022682

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Summertime savings tips Summertime is usually killer on your bank account. If you’re saving by staying at home, you’re paying for air conditioning; if you want to see a blockbuster summer movie, you’re shelling out for full-priced theaters; pretty much everything has a cost.

There are still ways to save money in the summertime, as some thrifty people have found.

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Save money on energy bills by dealing with heat creatively

a lot of ice water and you know, when it gets really bad, we’d hit the air conditionWith all of the great things the summer er,” he says. “But before that, we’d hit the dehumidifier, knock the humidity down.” sun provides — a decent tan, a chance to Using power strips to stop the flow of go to the pool and more outdoor activities — it’s also a bear on summer energy bills. electricity from devices that use it even Columbia, Mo., resident Tom O’Connor when they’re off, such as televisions and computers, O’Connor knocked his energy gives speeches on electric savings and bill down dramatically. The point is to be says when it comes to summer, his wife driven to do it. and he had to be practical.

“The biggest thing is awareness and “(We) hung out in the basement, drank

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just monitoring and paying attention to what is being used and switching stuff off with power strips,” he says.

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It’s a tip world-renowned financial author Dave Ramsey suggests — discovering all of the events in your hometown.

“Be proactive about finding free activities around your town. Not all of them will be highly publicized, but with a little investigation, you could find the hidden gem that could be the highlight of your summer,” he states.

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“Take advantage of the longer days and sunny weather by getting outside to experience it. If it will help you, get rid of the cable and gym membership for now. Both can confine you indoors and soak up your time and money,” Ramsey says.

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ummer fashion can be a struggle. It’s all about balancing comfort and style; wearing what’s trendy while keeping cool in the scorching Midwestern

summer. Another factor playing into the puzzle of summer clothing: what to wear to work. The rising temperatures bring on shorter hemlines and brighter colors.

So what are popular and appropriate options? We caught up with a fashionista who works at the Gap outlet at the Legends shopping center to give us a crash course on summer trends in and out of work.

One thing that never fades during summer — unlike hair color — is bright colors.

“This is especially true this summer,” says Kara Young, associate store manager at the Gap Outlet at Legends Outlets in Kansas City, Kan. The neon trend that blew up last fall is still holding strong, but with a colorful summer twist.

“Electric cantaloupe is a major color for spring and summer,” Young says.

She also mentions neon green as a popular tone.

“Be bold and try them in a legging jean with a chambray top, a light button-down jean top that has huge versatility for any wardrobe,” Young says.

For those who only want a pop of neon and not a big, bright statement, try adding a neon belt or scarf to an outfit for a

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small spark of color. Not a neon fan? No worries! Pastels are also a popular color option. Young recommends trying out mint green if you’re wanting to wear green but not in a neon hue. Other popular pastels are lilac, baby pink and hues of blue.

If you’re more of a print than a solid fan, you’re in luck this summer. Prints are all over shorts, dresses and tops this season, ranging from geometric to tropical.

“Botanical palm prints are huge this summer,” Young suggests. Try a bold print in shorts and pair with a basic colored tee.”

A more refi ned version of tropical prints this summer are beautiful, bright floral prints. Try a knee-length dress with a small, bright floral print for a cute and work-ready summer outfit. Another fun print easily found in stores is anything nautical.

“Try a lightweight sweater with anchors on it to be right on trend,” Young says. Adding on layers of nautical jewelry is also an easy way to wear the trend without being overwhelmed with a print.

A fabric that also is getting a lot of attention this summer is eyelet. Find it as on overlay on shorts, dresses and skirts in an array of light and pretty summer colors.

Once the color is figured out, it’s onto the cut. Which cuts and styles are hot for summer ’14?

“Skinny fit bottoms are really in right now,” Young says.

“Get them in a legging fit or try a legging skimmer, which hits right at the ankle.”

Tighter-legged bottoms allow you to show off a cute pair of sandals or flats while keeping you cool. Flowing, sleeveless dresses are everywhere this summer, ranging in wild prints and bold colors. When it comes to the workplace, cropped khakis are the perfect cut. Try a pair you can roll for the ultimate versatility.

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“You can pair these with a classic oxford shirt and still be fashionable and work appropriate.”

Summer and work sometimes just don’t get along when it comes to wardrobe. It may be hot out, but you still need to look professional without breaking a sweat. The best way to achieve this is by layering.

“Lightweight, open cardigans are the perfect piece to go from warm summer days to cool nights,” Young says.

Those cute spaghetti-strap dresses can still be made work appropriate with a sweater layered on top. Try out a lightweight pullover in a bright color or a neutral button-down with three-quarter sleeves and cute button details.

An extremely versatile piece to have available is a jean jacket.

“Denim jackets are always a classic way to layer up your outfit for the summer months,” Young says.

A light-wash jean jacket looks good with any color combination or try one in white or tan.

Now you can feel confident about what summer styles to stock in your closet. From fun prints to pretty pastels, there is bound to be a trend you want to add into your wardrobe this summer. It may be hot, but dressing in the hottest trends can keep you looking cool.

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A look at the winners of the 2014 YWCA Women of Excellence lifetime achievement awards I have just loved everything I’ve done; it has been such a joy.

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lifetime achievement awards are Mary Cornett and Bette Williams, who will be honored along with other winners at the YWCA’s annual luncheon on June 19 at Civic Arena.

Cornett, who will receive the award for lifetime achievement in the workplace, has enjoyed long careers in both education and business, thanks to the guidance of two high school teachers who advised her to get college degrees in both disciplines in order to have plenty of employment options.

“I used everything they told me to do,” she says. “It was good advice. They knew me well, and they cared.”

The St. Joseph woman – who also is a mother of two, grandmother of three and great-grandmother of three – taught secondary and adult students in several locations between 1957 and 1978 before deciding to enter the business world with a job in human resources at American Family Insurance. After nine years there, she spent another two in the personnel department at Missouri Western State University, then purchased Express Personnel Services.

“That was one of my top goals, to own my own business,” she says. “I think everything I did was a stepping stone.”

Later, she and her husband, Jim, purchased a second business that they renamed Cornett Automotive. After his passing in 1996, she sold her first business to focus more on this one, where she continues to do office work two or three days a week.

Over the years, Cornett also has dedicated a lot of time to volunteer work. She was the first woman to be named chairman of the board of the St. Joseph Chamber of Commerce in 1997 and also has served on the boards of the Allied Arts Council, the Performing Arts Association, the St. Joseph Safety Council, the Workforce Investment Board and Second Harvest Food Bank.

In addition, she is a member and past president of the Northwest Missouri Personnel Association, a longtime member and past chairman of the Chamber Diplomats, a member of Rotary Club No. 32 and a member and past president of Chapter ED, P.E.O. and the T.T.T. Society.

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Mary Cornett, 2014 YWCA Women of Excellence lifetime achievement in the workplace recipient the YWCA and various workforce and development initiatives and political campaigns. She remains active at Ashland United Methodist Church, where she is a member of the prayer shawl knitting group.

“My husband and I always felt that any community that paid us our salaries deserved to have us give back to the community,” Cornett says, adding, however, that “doing volunteer work benefits the person who does it a lot more than it does the person getting the help. I always learned so much from every group I was affiliated with. They were such neat, growing experiences.”

Thus, for her, receiving a lifetime achievement award is icing on a life that’s already been pretty sweet.

“I have just loved everything I’ve done; it has been such a joy,” she says. “And I have so much respect for the YWCA and what it accomplishes. I’m especially honored to be honored by these women whom I respect so much.”

Like Cornett’s, the course of Williams’ life was influenced by something that happened in high school – although in her case, this something was the bombing of Pearl Harbor.

“How well I remember the day that war started,” the Oregon, Mo., woman says, adding that until then, she’d lived a carefree schoolgirl life. “I became an adult that day. I knew World War II was going to involve a big part of our young people, and it did.”

She graduated from high school in 1942, and, like many of her peers, rushed to get married “so the guys would say they had something to come home to.” Her husband, Russell, was assigned to a ship out of Seattle, and for the year and a half he served in the Navy in the South and North Pacific, she supplemented his salary by working as a waitress in the “biggest, finest hotel” in the city.

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Bette Wiliams, 2014 YWCA Women of Excellence lifetime achievement in volunteerism recipient

with actor Buddy Ebsen – who happened to be an executive officer on her husband’s ship – when the men were docked in Seattle. But as soon as they were able, she and her husband returned home to Missouri.

Williams stayed home from that time on and raised three sons, but being out of the work force doesn’t mean she hasn’t contributed to the community. She has been an American Legion Auxiliary member for 68 years, having served as president of the Oregon Unit and the Fourth District. She also served as county government chairwomen for Oregon for 60 years and served Holt County for 60 years, as well. For these and other efforts, a proclamation was made in her honor in March 2007 designating that every County Government Day be called “County Government Day/Bette Williams Day.” Williams remains an active member of Oregon United Methodist Church, where she serves on the worship committee. She also is an active member of P.E.O., the Holt County Republican Club, the Happy Homes Club and the Fourth District Past Presidents Parley.

She was the recipient of the Chapel of Four Chaplains award for the State of Missouri American Legion Auxiliary in 1997, was chosen to be the grand marshal of the Holt County Autumn Festival in 2011, was recognized by the St. Joseph News-Press as one of the “20 Who Count” in 2011 and was chosen as a Buck O’Neil award winner by the Kansas City Royals in 2012. And in June, she will add to this list the YWCA’s Women of Excellence lifetime achievement award in volunteerism.

Just as significant to her as these accolades are the memories she’s made and continues to make – such as the collection

of money and gifts the American Legion Auxiliary gathers each year at Christmas time, then gives to veterans’ hospitals so veterans can pick out presents for their families.

“It’s held at my house, and it’s been a wonderful experience,” Williams says of the collection. “I can’t even find a chair to sit in, because my house is so full of gifts.”

Perhaps because of how her life was shaped at a young age – or perhaps because she has three sons, four grandchildren and six great-grandchildren – helping younger generations also is very important to her. This is why she is proud of the work of P.E.O., which furthers education for women through low-interest loans, grants and scholarships.

“I feel like I’ve been a part of organizations that do good work that benefits people,” she says, adding that being part of these organizations has helped her, too. “Especially after my husband passed away, I was not going to sit at home and look out the window. Volunteering has been a big part of my life.”

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fter surviving their own divorces and finding love in each other, Bob and Judy Johnson began a mission to help other divorcees.

The Johnsons, who had led singles and couples groups in the past, started the Divorce/Relationship Recovery Course in the early 1990s at the First Assembly of God (now Caring First Church). The couple, who met at a church singles group, developed the 12-week course to empower those suffering from a divorce or other relationship breakup.

Labor of love

Bob, who had no previous teaching experience, says he learned a lot from his wife, a nurse and former nursing instructor.

“We would rework the curriculum over the years to see what worked and what didn’t work,” he says. “We use real, powerful phrases and statements that give (participants) something to hang onto.

“We help them cope with the changes to keep their life on track.”

Bob continues to lead the classes since Judy died of leukemia three years ago. The class currently meets at St. Joseph’s Word of Life Church but over the years has been held at Caring First, Grace Evangelical and Heartland Health.

“It’s such a reward,” he says. “… You can see someone coming to class in tears and, by the end, they’re taking power back in their life.”

Using established references and occasional Bible readings, the class addresses the multitude of feelings and issues by those experiencing divorce. Each class lasts an hour and a half with 30 minutes of small group discussion, 30 minutes of teaching and ending with another 30 minutes of group time.

“The discussion groups are smaller and it’s where a lot of people begin healing,” says Maureen Power, course facilitator and past class participant.

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Dave Sonnenmoser took the class last year and says he gained strength from others and learned how to manage his anger following his divorce after 27 years of marriage.

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He suggests those interested in the course come in with an open mind.

“Don’t pigeonhole yourself. Be ready to listen to others,” he says. “Other people’s experiences will help a lot.”

Candy Collette took the course in 2011 soon after she divorced and moved to St. Joseph.

“To say my ex was my everything is an understatement,” says Collette, who was married for 36 years and has three adult children.

Though some weeks she struggled, Collette forced herself to attend each class.

“I’m so glad I did,” she says. “I was very, very angry and bitter and resentful and I made sure (the class) knew it. They just loved me in spite of the anger and bitterness.

“Bob (Johnson) kept saying, ‘It’s going to get better.’”

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“I learned to like who I am,” she says.

“I want people to know life can go on after divorce.”

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ALONZO WESTON has been a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.

never learned to flirt. I never learned how to pick up on it when someone flirted with me. It was easy in grade school when a girl passed me a note that read “Do you like me?” and had two crudely hand-drawn boxes for me to answer “yes” or “no.”

I never learned how to decipher flirting past that grade-school level.

Of course, if a woman hit me over the head with a club or jumped up and down in front of me with a lighted sign that read “I’m interested,” I’d eventually get the hint. But the subtle looks, long eye contact, touching an arm stuff went over my head.

Part of that dullness can be attributed to fear. I never wanted to misinterpret or misread anything and wind up sitting in a human resources office or facing a sexual harassment charge. If you can’t read the signals it’s best to ignore them or chalk it up to the lady is just being nice.

Many a guy is doing time because he thought a woman wanted something when she really wanted nothing. I don’t want to be that guy.

Dr. Monica Moore, a professor at Webster University in St. Louis, recently did some research on flirting.

What she found is that eye contact, smiles and signaling your interest in other ways is the key to getting approached.

In a TheWeek.com interview, Dr. Moore said “eye contact is not only a signal – it can actually make someone more attracted to you. And touching works better than anything else.

But what sort of touching? Well, shoulder pushing, shoulder tapping and handshakes surely don’t mean someone is ready for a date. A shoulder push or tap could just mean move out of the way. A handshake is just that, unless of course she scratches your palm while shaking your hand

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— then that’s another matter.

Dr. Moore said the most flirtatious touches are a soft face touch and a subtle touch on the shoulder, waist or forearm. Hugging is a good sign, too.

A man giving a woman a slight touch on her arm is considered a good flirtatious move according to the research. But context is important.

Now, I hug lots of people — other guys, my kids’ close friends as a form of greeting — that’s all it is. I’m not about to go up and hug some random woman to let her know I’m attracted to her. That’s a Goober Pyle move at best. At worst, it’s five to 10 years.

The research also showed that the more formal the setting, the more obvious you had to be with your flirting.

Going out of your way to make contact worked better than inadvertent non-effort eye contact. Paying a compliment works better than just asking for the time.

Who asks anybody for the time nowadays? Every bar has a clock on the wall so you can see how close you are to closing time. Everyone has a clock on their smart or cell phone.

Asking a girl for the time tells a girl you’ve either been asleep for 20 years or you just got out of prison.

Finally, the research showed that flirting that emphasizes physical attractiveness doesn’t work well for men. What’s most effective for men is displaying social dominance. Women want a leader-of-the-pack type, I guess, or one more like Moe of the Three Stooges. Apparently a guy who elbows the ribs of other men is attractive.

How do you know if your flirting technique is working or not? If the woman speaks “smoothly and quickly,” experts say.

I heard them do that when they’re mad, too. That still doesn’t help me figure it out.

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dlelit dinner at a local restaurant, my husband and I looked longingly into each other’s eyes as he told me I smelled like a fresh-cut rose on a summer morn’. (It’s hard to even type this with a straight face because the truth is, the dim light was not a candle but a burned-out light bulb over our table, and the discussion wasn’t about my delightful scent; he was telling me my new lotion smelled like the bottom of his grandma’s purse.)

Ordinarily, the words of my darling keep my full attention, but this particular evening, seated behind him was a nice-looking couple whose body language was turning from warm and cordial, to head-bobbing, finger-snapping coldness, and I was engrossed in what they were saying.

As my husband continued his conversation about a new technique he read about in Golf Digest that would virtually eliminate his wicked slice, I was watching the couple who was one margarita away from a “Jerry Springer” episode.

I guess while I was eavesdropping, my husband must have asked a question, because my attention came back to him when I heard, “You are not even listening to me, are you?”

My heartfelt, loving reply was, “Move your head to the left a little. I think this lady is about to ninja kick her boyfriend.”

As I strained my neck to see the show going on behind us, my husband said, “Stop being so nosy.”

My first response was to take a lesson from the lady at the other table

who was now cursing like a sailor, but instead, I was overtaken with shame. I had become a busybody eavesdropper.

Up to this point, I had been appalled at those who felt it was their right to listen in on a chat that wasn’t their own, with absolutely no remorse. I know not everyone felt the same way, because I used to have a coworker who listened to my every conversation and didn’t care if anyone knew. She was so brazen, I once had a private call from my husband about a sporting event he and I were going to attend, and I asked him in a low, secretive voice, “What time does the game actually start?” A second later, she slid a piece of paper across the counter to me, and on it was written, “Game time 7:00 P.M.” She proudly owned her nosiness.

I judged her harshly that day.

Now here I was, trying to justify my actions to my husband by explaining how I needed to keep a close eye on the couple because an outbreak of violence was brewing and I wanted to have a good description when the police came, but deep down, I knew I was just watching so I would have a good story to tell my friends when I got home. After a bit of introspection, I decided to give the couple their privacy.

Since that night, I thought about it and I have decided there are times when it is acceptable to give heed to an uninvited conversation. Like if there is yelling, the person must actually want you to hear them, so any elevated voice qualifies as an invite to listen. Also, if there is nudity involved you get to lend an ear, because if a person is that “transparent,” I seriously doubt they care if you listen in. And, lastly, if there is singing involved, you need to be aware because this could easily turn into a “Happy Birthday” sing-a-long and you don’t want to appear unkind.

Other than these three examples, I think my ears need to be listening to the conversation I am actually a part of, in hopes the person I am with is going to say something so spicy, strangers will stop what they are doing and strain to hear what we are saying. It’s a lot more fun to be the excitement than to listen to someone else’s.

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Mexican meals I love the varied cuisines of MexiCalabacitas con crema — co. A country with a rich and varied Zucchini with Corn and Cream past, the food is much more than just This is a mild, creamy, frequently served side dish. tacos, enchiladas, rice and beans 2 tablespoons unsalted butter buried on a plate. I was fortunate to 1/2 medium onion, quartered and sliced have as my mentor Diana Kennedy, 4 medium zucchinis (about 1 pound) cut into 1/2the Julia Child of Mexican cooking. inch dice She was a tough taskmaster (English 1/2 teaspoon salt woman, rather humorless), insisting 1/4 teaspoon pepper that we learned the proper names 1 cup corn kernels, fresh or frozen of each chili and even how to grind 1 (4-ounce) can diced green chilies corn and make tortillas. Her dedica1/2 cup heavy cream tion to preserving the gastronomic In a large skillet, melt butter over medium heritage was matchless. If you ever heat. Add onion and cook, stirring, until it begins to brown. Add zucchini, salt and pepper want an in-depth education about and stir. Cover and cook, stirring frequently, Mexican food, her books are consid- until zucchini is barely tender. ered the best in the genre. But that Add corn and chilies, cook, uncovered, stirring until corn is tender, about two minutes, type of cooking takes a lot of time.

Stir in cream, bring to boil, take off heat.

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Sopa de Tortilla Tortilla soup may be the best known of all of Mexico’s soups with many versions and many different interpretations. In this recipe, the onion, garlic and tomatoes are roasted to deepen the flavor.

1½ teaspoons dried oregano 1/2 cup vegetable oil 6 corn tortillas, halved and cut crosswise into thin strips 1 medium onion, halved 4 garlic cloves 1½ tablespoons vegetable oil 4 medium tomatoes, cored 6 cups chicken stock Salt Diced avocado, chopped cilantro, lime wedges Preheat oven to 375. In a small, dry skillet, cook oregano over medium heat, shaking pan often, until fragrant, one to two minutes. Transfer to small bowl.

In a medium skillet, heat 1/2 cup vegetable oil until hot, add tortilla strips, a few at a time, and fry until golden brown. Remove and drain on paper towel.

Rub onion and garlic with 1/2 tablespoon

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Camerones al mojo de ajo — Shrimp in garlic sauce Wherever seafood is served, you are bound to find some form of this dish. This is an easy version done in one pan.

2 tablespoons unsalted butter 2 tablespoons olive oil 6 garlic cloves, minced 1 pound shrimp (16 to 20) shelled and deveined, leave tails on 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon paprika 3 tablespoons lime juice In large skillet, melt butter and olive oil over medium heat. Add garlic and cook, stirring until golden brown, about two minutes.

Do not let burn or it will be bitter.

Add shrimp, salt and paprika. Cook, turning shrimp several times, until pink outside, curled and opaque throughout. Remove from heat, toss with lime juice. Transfer to warm serving platter, drizzle on pan juices and serve.

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oil, place in small baking dish, cover with foil and roast about 30 minutes or until soft. At the same time, place tomatoes in another small baking dish, roast uncovered until very soft and skins are wrinkled.

Remove skins from tomato, garlic and onion.

Puree in blender or food processor, add toasted oregano and blend until smooth.

In large saucepan, heat remaining 1 tablespoon oil over medium heat, add tomato puree and cook, stirring frequently, until thickened, about four minutes.

Add chicken stock and salt, bring to boil, reduce heat to low and simmer 10 minutes to blend flavors.

Divide tortilla strips among six bowls, ladle hot soup into bowls and garnish with avocado and cilantro. Pass lime wedges to add at table.

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