Josephine 2012

Josephine May 2012

St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

SUPER SCARVES

Casey Wallerstedt gives tips on how to wear them GET OUT FOR A WORK OUT The weather’s nice and St. Joseph abounds with outdoor opportunities

ON A MISSION FOR LITERACY Two local teachers trying to bring reading education to Uganda

MORE INSIDE: Plants that will bring color to your garden Spending time together can help build a better mother-daughter relationship

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getting real

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Presentation editor Paul Branson paul.branson@newspressnow.com

Get away Planning, incorporating technology are keys to a great trip

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Women on a rescue mission Two St. Joseph educators seek to improve literacy in Uganda

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Get out!

In St. Joseph, opportunities abound to get outside and work out

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Super scarves Casey Wallerstedt gives tips on how to wear them

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Skin deep Giving yourself a healthy glow takes more than soap and water

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How does your garden grow?

These plants will bring color to your outdoor space

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Summer savings Use these tips to cut down your costs in the coming months

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Build a better mother-daughter relationship Communication and time spent together can stave off major problems

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cover girl St. Joseph native Casey Wallerstedt (pictured here with mom, Terry) has owned her Downtown store Mod Podge for about four and a half years.

She’s been at her new location at 624 Francis St. for a little more than a year. The textile designer/artist earned her degree at Kansas State University in 2003, later returning to her hometown to set up shop.

“If you want to go into the design field, you have to move to a larger city, and that’s not what I wanted to do,” she says. “I like the personal touch of getting to know your customers.”

Someone who also knows Casey’s customers is her English Golden Retriever, Addison, who comes to the store with her.

“She’s famous for having her own window,” Casey says. “She loves people and knows she goes to work every day.”

We had Casey give us some tips on how to wear all those cute scarves out there. Check page 16 for details.

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editor’s note

By JESS DEHAVEN Mother’s Day makes May an especially meaningful month for women. We’re all someone’s daughter, and many of us have daughters of our own. We hear that the mother-son bond is special, but many of us know from personal experience that the mother-daughter relationship sometimes can be a bit more of an emotional minefield. I love having a daughter to dress in pink and do girly-girl things with, but even at her young age, I can see that sometimes the things that make us so similar also are going to have us butting heads in years to come. Whether you’re a mother or a daughter (or both), you want your relationship to be the best it can be.

Jennifer Gordon talked to experts and moms of daughters for some ideas to help you strenghten that bond. Her story is on page 26.

Also in honor of Mother’s Day, we’re running a contest now where we’re asking you to submit your mother and child pictures. Our readers will determine the winners. The details are on page 23.

And starting next week, Josephine will add a Pinterest page to our lineup. Please check it out, and if you’re not following us on Twitter or haven’t liked us on Facebook, please do. It’s the best way to find links to our Web-only content. Keep watching for additional contests and special events for Josephine readers coming soon.

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Every Monday 9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weight-loss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn, 238-7245.

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May 1 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371.

Call 238-7503.

Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village.

May 17 1 p.m. Hyde Forge Questers, 1310 S. 40th.

Program on gum.

May 15 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting.

To find out more and to make reservations, please call Vickie at (816) 244-5648 the Friday before the meeting.

May 7 7 to 9 p.m., St. Joseph Camera Club, Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.

May 14 5:30 p.m., Show Me Women Who Care, East Hills Public Library Theater Room.

For more information, call 262-2461 or e-mail showmewomenwhocare@gmail. com.

May 21 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail millergloria@att.net.

7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684.

5:30 p.m., Wine Tasting, AlbrechtKemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person.

Call 232-9750.

FRI Every Friday 5 to 8 p.m., Friday Night Wine Tastings, Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.

May 24 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 351-2139.

May 22 10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 2791947.

3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail millergloria@att. net.

7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258.

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SAT Every Saturday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village.

May 5 3:30 to 7 p.m., Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art Pot of Gold presents the Kentucky Derby, The Benton Club, 402 N. Seventh St., $50 to $100 per person. Call 2337003 ext. 308 or email frontdesk@ albrecht-kemper. org.

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Stop talking ‘fat’ Health. Stop yourself next time you say something like, “I’m so fat,” or “I need to work out more.” According to a report in Fitness magazine, those statements can destroy both your body image and your mental health. A study conducted by the University of Arizona found that “fat talk” (the negative talk about one’s own body or others’ bodies) is related to lower body image and higher levels of depression. Not surprising, the more often someone engaged in fat talk, the lower that person’s body satisfaction and the higher the level of depression tended to be.

Emotional release

What is he thinking? Our Kevin Krauskopf offers this insight about men: We’ll do our best to sit and listen patiently while you want to talk about your feelings. That’s fine, but it’s a two-way street — except that we usually don’t sort through our emotions by talking about them. Just give us some time to pour into a favorite hobby — like sports, music, reading or whatever it may be — and everything will be fine.

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We need to talk Relate. Have you realized one of your “friends” is adding more stress in your life than happiness? Find yourself dragged down by that person’s negativity? It might be time for a friendship break-up. Deleting a contact from Facebook or from your phone doesn’t count, cautions Redbook contributor Karen Karbo.

You need to have an “I’m ending the relationship” chat just as you would a romantic partner.

The friend in question might not know how to handle a problem that’s cropped up in the relationship. Maybe that friend wants to air some of his or her grievances with you.

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Get away

By CRYSTAL K. WIEBE Josephine magazine

The key to a perfect getaway is simple: Plan ahead, and do your homework.

Book your tickets and lodging and coordinate with whoever you may be depending on well in advance.

The time spent now could prevent future disappointment, money and even personal misfortune.

Transportation can be the most expensive part of travel. Chad Cotter, manager of Cotter Travel in St. Joseph, recommends getting that purchase out of the way early.

“Don’t count on a last-minute deal,” he says.

Planning trips is in Cotter’s blood. He’s been involved with the family business for two decades.

While he admits that last-minute sales on flights, hotels and cruises do exist, they favor those with flexible schedules who can take off on a whim.

For the rest of us, waiting too long is likely to cost more in the end.

Cotter says package deals, which typically include airfare and lodging or cruise accommodations, tend to be the most budget-friendly way to travel.

Particularly for such popular destinations as Mexico and the Bahamas, he says “a package is normally quite a bit cheaper than doing everything a la carte.”

Cotter recommends booking packages close to a year in advance.

“You definitely get a good discount if you book that far out,” he says.

Booking ahead also allows plenty of time to prepare for your trip in other ways. Save up some fun money. Get into swimsuit shape. Research the area.

Cruise passengers should decide in advance exactly what they want to do during their limited time in a port of call.

“Plan out your day and do it in an order

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Planning, incorporating technology are keys to a great trip that makes sense,” Cotter says. You don’t want to miss the boat.

The first day of travel could be the most important time for preparedness.

There’s no excuse for showing up at the airport with a carry-on full of prohibited items or complaining when you’re charged for checking luggage. Find out what’s allowed — and what’s required — by consulting the airline’s website and reading your travel documents closely well before you get to the airport.

Also, mind the airlines’ recommendations to arrive an hour and a half or more early.

“We board 40 minutes prior to takeoff,” says flight attendant Karen Deleon. “A lot of people don’t realize that, and if everybody is on the plane, we can leave 10 minutes early.”

As a flight attendant for the past 13 years, Deleon has seen it all. That includes many confused faces.

“A lot of people who travel maybe once or twice a year, they’re not as savvy as a business traveler,” she says. “They’re not prepared.”

The Shawnee, Kan.,-based flight attendant urges travelers to be alert and aware of their surroundings, particularly prior to boarding and during de-boarding.

“Listen for announcements,” she says.

“Pay attention and be proactive.”

Some things you can’t really figure out until you’re on the ground.

Public transportation can be a great way to really get a feel for a city. Don’t let bus routes and train schedules intimidate you. Plot out your route before you arrive. If you have a smart phone, install an application like HopStop, which provides public transit routes for almost every city.

Staying in a hotel? When you check in, “check in” on your smart phone, too. You might not have the same taste as the concierge, so pull up a list of all the restaurants in the area. It’s good to also get an idea of what else is nearby: pharmacies, grocery stores, good shopping or parks.

Deleon has stayed in a lot of hotels over the years. The professional traveler warns that “even the nicer hotels can have bed bug problems.”

Don’t climb under the covers without looking for signs of the nasty critters on the sheets: blood smears or black specks that resemble a sprinkling of pepper.

The itchy bites of bed bugs could ruin your vacation and more.

If they hitch a ride on your clothes you could end up with unwanted, hard-to-getrid-of souvenirs.

More savvy traveler tips g Travel cheaper during the off-season.

Just remember it’s the off-season for a reason. g Don’t overpack. Bring items you can mix and match and limit pairs of shoes. g Bring earplugs to block out airplane engine sounds and noisy hotel neighbors. g Going out of the country? Warn your credit card company so they don’t mistake your foreign purchases for fraudulent activity. g Get travel insurance to protect your purchase in case you can’t travel and help avoid out-of-pocket medical expenses in case of illness or injury. g Don’t buy additional insurance on a rental car if your personal policy will cover you. g Find out about the best deals: Plug your favorite destination into an online fare finder that will tempt you with daily discount alerts.

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Tammy Flowers, left, and Beth Zahnd founded Rescued Readers, a program that provides books for children in Uganda.

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Women on a rescue Two St. Joseph educators seek to improve literacy in Uganda

By ERIN WISDOM Josephine magazine

Tammy Flowers’ life has been a lesson on the transformative power of education.

Thus, it’s no surprise she’s driven to take that power to people who need it most and, out of that desire, co-founded a non-profit organization that provides books as well as literacy training to children in Africa.

“I grew up in poverty, so I understand the effects education can have on a release from poverty,” says Flowers, the early childhood coordinator for the St. Joseph School District. She adds that she’d always felt called to Africa and first had a chance to go a few years ago, taking a trip with Brookdale Presbyterian Church that opened her eyes to how incredibly few books are available to children there.

“It’s as if all the puzzle pieces fit together, and finally I understood how all of my experiences had shaped me into a person who could make a difference to children around the world.”

After a couple more trips to Africa with other organizations and with guidance from internationally known children’s author Audrey Wood — whom Flowers contacted with photos from one of her trips in which some of Woods’ books were distributed — Rescued Readers came to exist as a 501c3 non-profit last October.

Also instrumental in developing the program was co-founder Beth Zahnd, a kindergarten teacher at Bessie Ellison Elementary School.

“We have the same combination of being early-childhood people and loving literacy and having a heart for missions,” says Zahnd. “We sing the same song.”

Zahnd will be among the group of Bessie Ellison teachers forming the Rescued Readers team that will deliver books to a school in Bufundi, a mountain village in Uganda, in July. And Bessie Ellison students are involved, as well — not only by collecting books and donations for the program but also by forming pen pal

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Bessie Ellison kindergarten teacher Beth Zahnd, left, and early childhood coordinator Tammy Flowers read ‘Silly Sally’ inside of Zahnd’s classroom. relationships with the students in Uganda and learning some about their culture and language.

“I think it builds a sense of compassion in them,” Flowers says concerning the benefit of the program for students in St. Joseph. “It makes a difference when they know the names” of the children Rescued Readers aims to assist.

“They know they’ve helped kids in Africa, and they love it,” Zahnd adds about her kindergartners. “It’s touched them, for sure.”

As for why it’s important for Rescued Readers to deliver books in person rather than simply shipping them over, Flowers cites the unreliability of the mail system in Uganda — especially when it comes to scarce items such as books, which are likely to be stolen before they reach their destination — as well as an understanding that sometimes, needs can’t be met with material resources alone.

This is particularly true in a country where, in Flowers’ experience, teachers sometimes need help knowing how best to help students use the books. This is one way the team of Bessie Ellison teachers making the trip this summer will be able to help, and as with the pen-pal relationships between students, communication will continue between the Uganda and St. Joseph teachers year-round.

“We want to change mentality, which requires building relationships,” Flowers

says. “Right now (in Uganda), literacy is something for scholars. We want it to be something for babies.”

The number of books they can put toward this goal is limited mainly by the amount of money available for transporting them, which can be up to $250 for a 50-pound tote. The Rescued Readers team wants to raise about $2,000 more to put toward this and other trip expenses and hopes to receive funding from individuals as well as ongoing sponsorships from local businesses.

Tax-deductible donations can be made via Paypal on the organization’s website, www.rescuedreaders.org, or through Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri. Also, Rescued Readers Tshirts will be for sale on the website, for $25 each, beginning in May. Flowers notes that in the future, she’d like to see Rescued Readers expand to include students elsewhere in the United States and helping children not only in Africa but in other needy parts of the world as well. It’s a goal that may not happen overnight, but fortunately, small examples of the success her book distributions have seen so far serve as big motivation to keep forging ahead.

Case in point: During her last trip to Africa, students “couldn’t keep their hands off the books long enough to put them on the shelves,” Flowers says. “Seeing that was pretty powerful.”

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Get out!

By KRISTEN HARE I St. Joseph News-Press

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ndrea George is a runner.

Sometimes she hits the even sidewalks of Ashland Avenue, admiring the houses along the way. Sometimes she heads for Krug Park. Whatever her destination, in St. Joseph, it’s not about whether or not she will run, but simply where.

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In St. Joseph, opportunities abound to go outside and work out I love The Parkway System here in St. Joseph. I’m very proud of it because I’ve lived in other communities that don’t have anything like it.

— ANDREA GEORGE, manager of the Remington Nature Center

“I love The Parkway System here in St. Joseph,” says George, the manager of Remington Nature Center. “I’m very proud of it because I’ve lived in other communities that don’t have anything like it.”

St. Joseph has miles of trails, and every year, there’s a new trail under construction, says Chuck Kempf, senior recreation supervisor with the city.

“The trails are really prominent in St. Joseph,” he says.

And from almost every part of town now, you can get to one part of those trails fairly easily, sometimes with just a jaunt down the sidewalk.

“We’re really close to being a complete trail system all the way from Hyde Park to Krug Park,” he says.

You can walk, run, push a stroller, all while getting some fresh air. Plus, other free opportunities exist at Krug and Hyde parks, where there’s equipment for stretching.

“Installments like that kind of add to the experience,” Kempf says.

Remington Nature Center, which was flooded, also offers 1.2 miles of trails.

Kempf hopes it will be open soon, and the experience of walking on the path is an interesting one, George says.

“People have an opportunity to see kinds of wildlife,” she says.

There’s a muskrat that lives there, she says, eagles, and “it’s a great chance to see all of the riverfront nature.”

In addition to hoofing it on the trails, you can take up a game of horseshoes, play tennis, basketball or grab your bike.

Jim Glassford is a cyclist and on the board of directors of the St. Joseph Bicycle Club. Anyone is welcome for rides, and they serve a variety of skill levels, from medium speed to pretty fast. Rides go from 10 to 25 miles and are usually advertised on the group’s website and on its Facebook page, where more impromptu rides are also organized.

“There’s plenty of opportunities,”

Glassford says.

And at the end of May, if you’re inspired to get out and get fit, there are a few opportunities.

May 18 and 19 is Bike Fest, and on Memorial Day weekend, the Parkway Run offers 5K and 15K, as well as a 5K walk.

And if you just want to hit the trails and

get out on your own, that’s easy to do now, too. According to Kempf, you can find a full map of all the city’s tracks, trails and parks, including high school tracks, at the park department and on the city’s website, www.stjoemo.info/parks/UrbanTrailImages/bike_ped_map.pdf.

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Casey Wallerstedt, left, and her mother, Terry, pose in and with scarves in Casey’s shop, Mod Podge.

Super scarves

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Kansas State University understands what it takes to give an outfit that “wow” factor. On this day she greets us wearing basic black, but she has given it pizazz with a long multicolored scarf loosely looped around her neck in a muted purple, brown and green.

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Casey Wallerstedt gives tips on how to wear them “Originally a scarf was a stuffy thing,” she says. “When I was in high school, it was your grandma that wore a scarf.”

Not now. Even high school girls love to wear them around the neck, as headbands in their hair or to add interest to a purse, she says. Still, Casey finds herself having to dispel the old stereotypes and educate women about how to wear scarves and when to wear them, which is year round.

“People will come to the shop and say, ‘I thought scarves were only for winter,’” Casey says. “They’ve got to get past that and see it as a replacement for a necklace.”

Summer scarves are made out of light fabrics such as acrylics, silks and Viscoes (a synthetic cotton). Instead of wearing them for warmth, you wear them for color and texture.

As with many of the fashions of today, there are no hard and fast rules on how to wear one.

The basic difference in now and the way your grandma wore a scarf is it’s more carefree, loose and easy.

“Think asymmetrical,” Casey says. “Off balance, to make it look current.”

That means the ends of the long scarves do not have to hang the same length. You don’t need to balance it out.

“The main idea is to throw it on as you are going out the door,” Casey says. “It can look nice, but it shouldn’t look fussy.”

Although there are an infinite number of ways to work a scarf, Casey gave us a few ideas for the three basic kinds of scarves: long, square and convertible.

LONG SCARF A typical long scarf is around two yards long Please see SCARVES/Page 18

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Tips on how to wear scarves CONTINUED FROM Page 17 and varies in width. The one Casey is using is about two feet wide and made of silk and Viscose.

g Make your own infinity scarf. Infinity scarves are a continuous loop of material that is a very popular style now. Make your own by tying a knot at the ends. g Create a cowl/collar effect in front with a loop in the back that has ends hanging loose. g Tie in front. Make a simple fold, keeping the length, and let the ends hang loose. Don’t make it too tight. You should never have a choking effect. g Take the ends and loop twice, creating a shorter effect. g Ruffled. The end looks like a ruffled rosette.

Don’t pull it through all the way. This would be cute to wear with a suit.

CONVERTIBLE SCARF Convertible scarves will work for anyone, Casey says. They are good for

all sizes and age ranges, so they make a good gift, too. And they are a great layering piece.

g As a shrug. Button the ends and put your arms into them as a jacket. It can be practical, such as keeping warm in air conditioning or fashionable and adding extra color. g Vest, open or closed. Button it down the front or down the back, too. g Side cape or nursing cover. Button it down the front and turn it to the side. Good for covering low necklines or to use as nursing covers for mothers. It’s not real heavy, but it covers. g Simple scarf. Wear like a long scarf.

SQUARE SCARF Casey doesn’t wear a lot of square scarves around her neck, but Addie does.

Addie is the 7-year-old English Golden Retriever who works as a window model and greeter at Mod Podge. Casey prefers to use square scarves to accessorize.

g Instant headband. Make it into a triangle

and roll it to make a band. Play around with the width to see what looks best. g Tie in a bow, and turn off to the side. The bow look is very in, Casey says. It could be worn with a simple white tee to dress it up. g Go nautical. Tie a knot in the center and wear it loose. g Tie one on your purse or tote bag. g Make a rosette. Take two corners, essentially creating a flower. Tie it, make leaves, take one end to the right, pull it through the left end. Pull your left end through the right.

Then pull it, to create rosette. You can fluff it out and put a pin in the middle.

Want more tips?

Get more ideas on Toasted Pink, a Facebook business created by Wallerstedt and Lauren Merget. They have tips on how to wear scarves and accessories. They also have weekly auctions where you can bid on jewelry and accessories at a discount through PayPal. Check it out at www.facebook.com/toastedpink.

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Skin deep

Giving yourself a healthy glow takes more than soap and water

By CHRISTINA HECKMAN Josephine magazine

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In addition to causing dull skin, some of our habits can lead to serious damage.

Sun exposure, indoor tanning and smoking can cause pre cancerous lesions, skin cancer, premature aging and fine lines and wrinkles, Wampler says.

“The No. 1 thing people can do to promote healthy skin is to keep it clean, hydrated and protected,” says Pamela Calligan, an aesthetician at Covenant Medical Spa in St. Joseph. “The environment is one of the most damaging elements to the health of the skin. Pollution and ultraviolet rays from the sun create free radical damage to the cells of the skin, and the skin is permanently damaged by untreated acne, sun damage, stress, pollution or inappropriate skincare.”

Establishing a daily cleansing routine

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that includes sunscreen can minimize sun damage and help you avoid costly “repairs” later.

“Sun is the skin’s greatest environmental enemy,” Wampler says. “Avoid the sun between the hours of 10 a.m. and 4 p.m.

Use sunscreen SPF 30 or greater every day, and wear long sleeves and a broad brimmed hat.”

With summer around the corner, we are tempted to bare our skin to get a tan. A tan may appear attractive, but in reality it’s just damaged skin.

“We offer spray tan in our office,” Wampler says. “It is a safe alternative to sun bathing or tanning beds. We also offer self-tanning products to keep your tan looking beautiful.”

Some say beauty is only skin deep,

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t’s our largest organ so we should take good care of it, but our skin usually takes the brunt of our bad habits, and it shows.

Many factors can cause your skin to look dull and lifeless, but thankfully there are ways to freshen up your complexion and bring back a healthy glow.

“Sun exposure, indoor tanning, smoking, dehydration and improper cleansing and exfoliating all can contribute to dull skin,” says Charity Wampler, practice manager at Advanced Dermatology and Skin Cancer Center in St. Joseph.

but that’s not entirely true. Healthy skin starts on the inside. Experts say drinking eight glasses of water daily and eating fresh fruits and vegetables, lean meats and whole grains also help keep your skin beautiful, inside and out.

“Your skin is the body’s largest organ and needs vitamins, minerals and water to stay healthy,” Wampler says. “There are rashes associated with vitamin deficiencies, and eating carbohydrates can cause acne to flare.”

It seems like a never-ending battle. We go from acne to wrinkles, sometimes dealing with both at once. WebMD offers some tips for keeping our skin looking healthy.

Make sure everything you put on your face is noncomedogenic and won’t clog your pores. Since gentle but thorough

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cleansing is essential, it’s a good idea to invest in a sonic cleansing machine and use it once a day. Drugstores now sell relatively inexpensive versions.

Look for products that contain salicylic acid. It is highly effective at unclogging pores and reducing breakouts. Use this at night, because it can increase sun sensitivity. Products with alpha-hydroxy acids (AHAs) also will work.

At-home microdermabrasion systems provide more exfoliation than salicylic acid and AHAs. Don’t do microdermabrasion more than once a week or you risk irritating the skin.

If your skin is oily, you can use a benzoyl peroxide product over areas prone to breakouts. Use it on the whole area to kill bacteria.

Consider light therapy either at your dermatologist’s office or with machines intended for home use. They’re not as powerful as the ones dermatologists use, but they do work.

Mild adult acne is easily treated with over-the-counter products, but people who scar easily or who have pimples that look like angry red cysts should to go to a doctor immediately.

Consistency is the key to having a clear complexion, even if you have adult acne.

Daily treatment will lead to significant improvement, but if you stop treatment

or do it only sporadically, acne will come back with a vengeance.

“Being on a good daily skincare regimen is very important,” Wampler says. “You should at least cleanse and moisturize daily. A Clarisonic Cleansing Brush works well to remove makeup, dirt and oil which cause the skin to look dull.”

“People should cleanse the skin with a Clarisonic brush and appropriate cleanser designed for their individual skin type, use an antioxidant with C and E peptide to repair free radical damage and apply a moisturizer and broad-band-spectrum sunscreen, SPF 30 or above,” Calligan says.

Vicki Kurtz, Clinique business manager at Dillard’s in St. Joseph, says a common misconception is that soap will remove makeup, but it won’t. A makeup remover cleanser is designed to totally remove makeup, she says.

In addition to a daily skin care regimen, a little extra effort can brighten up dull skin. Calligan recommends a hydrafacial as a quick fix to exfoliate and nourish the skin.

“The number one thing to do for healthy skin is exfoliation,” Kurtz says.

“Exfoliation sluffs off dead skin cells and cleans out pores. It helps to smooth skin, and if someone is oily, cleaning out

pores is a great benefit to help control oil production. Built up dead skin cells can promote dryness and have the look of rough, dull skin.”

If your skin care regimen isn’t doing the trick you may need to seek help.

“Dull or damaged skin can be treated with good pharmaceutical skin care, laser treatments or chemical peels,” Calligan says.

WebMD says you should have your dermatologist evaluate your skin to better guide you as to whether or not microdermabrasion, chemical peels or laser peels would be best for you.

“Microdermabrasion is a superficial treatment that may help fine lines and wrinkles when used with the right skin care products,” says Doris Day with the American Academy of Dermatology. “There are many different types of chemical peels available. Some are superficial, and others can go to deeper layers of the skin. They should be done by your aesthetic/cosmetic dermatologist in order to have the best results and minimize risks.”

Poor nutrition, bad habits and environmental factors have taken their toll on our skin, and professional treatments to repair the damage can be costly. A little effort each day goes a long way in keeping our skin fresh and healthy.

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How does your garden grow?

These plants will bring color to your outdoor space

By LISA HORN Josephine magazine

Spillers, fillers and thrillers are three words you’ll want to remember when planting this summer.

One vibrant example is a combination of lime green sweet potato vine (spiller), white bacopa (filler) mingled with vibrant Picasso petunias (thriller), says Lisa Potter, greenhouse manager at Mann’s Lawn and Landscaping.

According to the Better Homes and Gardens Plant Encyclopedia (online at bhg. com), sweet potato vines thrive in sun or shade and actually grow the best during the warmest days of summer. Three new varieties of sweet potato vines to look for this season are Raven, Bewitched and Garnet Lace, says Krystin Kleinlein, herbaceous specialist at Moffett Nursery and Garden Shop.

Bacopa is particularly hardy, especially for caretakers who forget to water. Unlike many plants, it doesn’t wilt when it dries out. It will, however, lose its flowers and may take two or three weeks to start blooming again. For a continuous bloom, keep them watered.

Petunias, the final ingredient in this mix, grow well and come in hundreds of colors.

Interestingly enough, these “thrillers” are deer resistant but also attract hummingbirds. Many varieties are also “weatherproof,” which means that their blossoms stay open when splashed with water.

“Vivid colors are really popular,” Potter says. “Oranges, purples, rose colors, cherry colors to mix together are especially pretty in hanging baskets.”

Million Bells, Lobelia and Dragon Wing begonias (which last all season) also are good sources of color for window boxes, hanging baskets and other containers.

“In years past, I feel like people were using the pottery as the color,” Kleinlein says.

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“Now, pots are neutral and flowers and plants provide the color.�

For an airy look to your floral groupings, Potter recommends mixing in some thin, fiber optic grass also known as isolepsis. This unique filler likes part to full sun and grows to a height of 14 inches.

If you are interested in planting once and seeing a return year after year, perennials, such as daylilies, are always a good option, Kleinlein says. Some perennials new this season include: Pow Wow White echinacea, Praying Hands and Empress Wu hostas, Banana Cream shasta daisies, Little Duckling clematis and Berrylicious and Summer Storm hibiscus.

Both Potter and Kleinlein say they continue to see an increase in customers starting vegetable gardens. “People are trying to cut back on their grocery bills, so they plant a small garden to supplement,� Potter says.

Think you need a large plot for vegetable gardening? Not really. It’s amazing how much you can grow in containers, Potter says. As long as the containers you have are large, you can grow as much as you can eat — and then some.

Heirloom tomatoes, such Black Krim, Cherokee Purple and Aunt Ruby’s Ger-

man Green continue to be popular for their unique colors and great flavor.

Growing herbs, such as the resilient basil and its many varieties, also can save your grocery budget. Herbs continue to be popular especially for people who prefer container gardening. Some herbs and varieties of lettuce even can be grown almost entirely in water, in a method called hydroponic gardening. “A lot of people are planting herbs in pots to bring inside to use all year round,�

Kleinlein says.

Peppers also are popular, she says, especially among her male gardeners. “A lot of guys like (growing peppers) because you get the reward of eating them,� she says.

Or perhaps it’s more the challenge of eating them.

Bhut Jolokia, also known as the “ghost chile,â€? is a thriller of its own. The pepper measures 100 million units on the Scoville heat scale, a scorcher when compared to the average jalapeĂąo pepper, which registers between 3,500 and 8,000 units.

If the idea of eating one of these peppers makes you break out in a sweat, the Bhut Jolokia, with its fiery red color, make an excellent ornamental addition to your other container plant combinations.

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Cool summer savings Use these tips to cut down your costs in the coming months

By SHEA CONNER I Josephine magazine

Between sunny vacations, A/C bills, concert tours and ice cream runs, summer is usually the season that’s hardest on our bank accounts. But it doesn’t have to be.

Use these money-saving tips this summer, and you shouldn’t be strapped for cash by the time September rolls around.

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HOME COOLING “Before you check in, go to a supermarket g Coffeehouse iced coffee is a delicious, but g Replace your air filter every 30 to 60 days. and buy microwave dinners, popcorn and expensive, treat. Teri Gault, CEO of the suAfter 60 days, the dirty air filters will hinder soda,” Gault says. permarket savings website thegrocerygame. airflow, and it becomes more difficult for the com, says you can whip up homemade coffee g Rather than taking your date on a romantic air conditioner to cool the house in a timely, dinner in a fancy restaurant, pack a picnic slushes for a lot less ($1 for four servings, cost-efficient manner. basket for an alfresco meal at a beautiful, versus $12 in stores). Simply pour your Greg Kerns, owner of Comfort Heating and Coolscenic spot. You’ll save on food, and frankly, leftover coffee into ice-cube trays and freeze, ing in St. Joseph, says 30 to 40 percent of picnics are more personable anyway. then toss the frozen cubes and flavored liquid customers who call his office for a repair job creamer into a blender, and enjoy. g Quit tossing away cash on grocery-store never replace the air filter in their air condisalads and flowers. This summer, visit a farmg Those daily runs to the ice cream shop can tioning units. ers’ market instead. Spinach, cucumbers, add up. And we’re not just talking about “We have people argue with us that that’s tomatoes, string beans and red bell peppers money. Think about calories, too. Gault not the problem, but it usually is,” Mr. Kerns are cheap. While you’re there, pick up daisies recommends freezing bananas, bluebersays. and lilies at bargain prices to brighten your ries, raspberries and strawberries for a g Clear your outdoor A/C unit of debris, Kerns windowsill. cold, sweet, cheap summer snack. Toss any also recommends. The condenser coil of the uneaten frozen fruit into a blender, pour into g Stop spending so much on overpriced bottles outdoor unit performs a tough job in warm ice-pop molds and refreeze for a treat you of iced tea. Instead, make sun tea. Toss four weather. It takes the concentrated heat can enjoy on those hot summer nights. large tea bags into a clear pitcher or jar full of collected from your home and dumps it into water, and let it bake outside for three hours. g If you’re traveling this summer, make sure the warm outdoor air. If the coil is dirty or if Later, dilute with water, add a little lemon you’ve booked hotel rooms equipped with plants or other objects are too close to the and sugar, and refrigerate in emptied and microwaves. By doing this, you’ll shy away conditioner unit, the fan in the outdoor coil rinsed soft-drink bottles. from the cost of constantly eating out while can’t get the job done.

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g Any cracks or openings in windows and doors should be sealed up. Use caulk or install weather stripping. g Use your large appliances at night or as the sun goes down in the evening. Both ovens and dryers produce a lot of heat and you don’t need your air conditioner to battle both the sun and a warm, home-cooked meal all day.

“The oven’s a killer. In the daytime, try to use the microwave or go outside and grill,” Kerns says. g Use kitchen and bath fans sparingly when the air conditioner is operating to avoid pulling humid air into the house. Ceiling and room fans, however, should be turned on frequently as they help circulate cool air around the house. g Remember that shade is your pal. Darkcolored indoor window coverings, outdoor awnings and shutters all provide effective shading and greatly reduce indoor temperatures. g Keep in mind that higher home temperatures equal more money in your pocket. For every degree you raise the thermostat setting in the summer, you can expect to cut your energy consumption by 3 to 5 percent, according to KCP&L. Kerns says most people should be comfortable at 76 degrees in the summer.

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Phil Welch Stadium to see the St. Joseph Mustangs in action. Single-game tickets can Summer is the most popular season for be purchased for as little as $5.50 each. concert tours and music festivals, but attending g You’ll spend hundreds taking the family to Worlds tons of concerts in Kansas City can get pricey of Fun or Oceans of Fun. Instead, enjoy the quickly. Not only do the trips rack up gas exbeautiful weather here in St. Joe. Visit the affordpenses, but the tickets to these concerts often able St. Joseph Aquatic Park or many of the city’s cost a pretty penny. parks for a fun afternoon. Go on family hikes or g There are three concert series held throughcamp in the backyard. Shoot some hoops or play out the summer in St. Joseph that are free a game of tennis at the Northside Complex. and open to the public. Parties on the Parkway is held on every second Thursday each FASHION month during the summer. In addition to the g Shop seasonal sales. Andrea Woroch — a live music, local food vendors, a Budweiser consumer and money-saving expert who has beer tent and balloon artists from Up, Up and been featured on “Good Morning America,” Away Balloons are on hand at each event. and NBC’s “Today” as well as in the New “You’ll see people that have small children, York Times, Kiplinger Personal Finance and people that are retired, kids in high school and CNNMoney — says shopping for summer middle school,” says Natalie Leonard-Redmond, vice president of membership for the St. Joseph clothing as retailers gear up for the fall and Metro Chamber and Parties on the Parkway winter fashions will land you great deals on organizer. “A lot of people say their events are cool clothing to wear both now and after sled‘all ages,’ but this is really, truly ‘all ages.’” ding season is a distant memory.

“This one’s a no-brainer but with ‘80-perg The Sounds of Summer concerts are held cent off’ promotions cluttering my inbox, I’d each Friday evening at Felix Street Square be remiss not to mention it,” Woroch says. through June, July and August. Also, the Shoppes at North Village concerts will whet g Instead of buying a whole new summer the appetites of local music fans on Saturday wardrobe, Woroch recommends holding a nights throughout the summer. swap-a-thon with your girlfriends. Reserve a Saturday afternoon to trade away your most g If you can’t afford tickets to a Kansas City gorgeous “not for me” leftovers for something Royals game but still want to watch some professional baseball, you can head out to that’s more your style.

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Mother Melissa Lembke sits on the couch with daughters, from left to right, Ella, Brea and Adriana pictured behind her in their home in St. Joseph.

Build a better mother-daughter relationship

By JENNIFER GORDON Josephine magazine

The joking starts as soon as the Lembkes sit down to dinner. Brea, 16, drops hints about what Benton High School’s prom decorations will look like.

She ribs her older sister, Ella, 18, about how her year didn’t spend as much time on the decorations as the current junior class. Adriana, 14, can’t go to prom yet, but she’d appreciate the decor Brea says, because it looks like a scene from the

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“Footloose” remake. The girls’ mother, Melissa, says she’ll help decorate the day of the dance and then sneak into chaperone. The older girls are quick to shoot down that idea. Their father, Doug, just shakes his head.

Melissa says dinner time is the family’s favorite time of day, and with all the peals of laughter, it’s easy to hear why. During the meal they make it a point to hear about everybody’s day.

Conversations like the Lembkes’ are crucial, says Ron Carter, a licensed social

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Communication and time spent together can stave off major problems worker and counselor at The Center, even if topics are in the vein of cardboard cutouts of Zac Efron and Mason jars. Frequent talks establish a rapport the girls will need when they have more serious troubles.

Not that the trickier conversations in the Lembke family happen effortlessly.

“It takes a lot of questioning sometimes to really get them to open up, and I think that’s pretty typical for teenagers,” Melissa says. “Generally they do, and we can have that moment, and it doesn’t have to be a thing that it’s an entire family thing, it can be just between me and them.”

When Melissa sees something troubling one of her girls, she’ll pull her aside and take her for a car ride. If it’s Brea or Ella, she’ll let them drive so they feel like they can talk without being interrogated.

But a child’s honest answer isn’t always what parents want to know.

“As a mother you really have to grit your teeth sometimes to hear what they have to tell you,” Carter says.

Blowing up or becoming excitable might deter a child from confiding you again.

Save the big disagreements for major problems, Carter warns, so your child doesn’t feel like you’re always in opposition of her.

Melissa says she and Doug remind their

girls all the time that they were teenagers once, too.

Like with conversations, casual one-onone time also goes a long way in building a strong mother-daughter bond, especially if the pattern begins when the kids are young, Carter says.

Dana Robb and her husband, Aaron, have 8-year-old triplets, Katie, Kelsie and Caleb. Though they do a lot of activities together, Dana makes sure she spends time with each of her kids individually. She’ll shop with Kelsie, because that’s one of her favorite activities, and cook with Katie.

Parents with long work hours might have more difficulty finding time for faceto-face activities. Even a phone call during work or lunch breaks spent at home will help a mother-daughter relationship, Carter says.

Kids need to feel they’re important in their parents’ lives and that they’re being supported. Establishing that base cuts down on any potential conflict that could build up as the kids get older.

And above all, both Melissa and Dana say, is to enjoy any time spent together.

“They’re just this age for such a short while,” Dana says. “Laugh a lot. Try not to get caught up in the everyday grind of things that have to get done. Enjoy the little moments.”

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M Why can’t we be friends?

Guys often think of something more when it comes to hanging out with the opposite sex

en and women cannot be friends. Can’t do it. The idea that heterosexual men and women are able to have a pure, platonic relationship is a myth.

No one is a dog. We’re just hard-wired that way.

Now when males and females are both very young or very old, that belief may not hold true.

Male and female toddlers are able to have friendships because they don’t know any better. But you can bet as soon as they discover there are anatomical differences between them, things change. Soon they won’t be playing with the same toys anymore. They’ll begin to pick sides.

When you’re old, it might be possible to have a platonic relationship, too. At a certain age, you hold about as much sexual interest as Santa Claus. In a nursing home setting, getting to third base means holding hands. Of course, Viagra does change that theorization somewhat.

In an act of lazy research, I asked a couple of women here in the office if it was possible to have a celibate friendship with a man.

They both pointed out that they often go to lunch with other men in the office.

They also said they are able to hold conversations with men on a friendship level.

“To a certain extent,” one woman, who is single, said. “I have co-workers that are male friends and we spend time together outside the workplace. It’s

ALONZO WESTON is a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press. The St. Joseph native has served on the News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.

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more difficult if either person is in a relationship.”

The other woman, who is married, had this to say: “There’s ulterior motives. Guys have more issues with it than girls do. At some point in time, they’re your friends, but you’d still do them.”

Marriage does work like a muzzle for most guys. But most single guys will bite at the chance to have a friendship turn into a sexual relationship or even a one-time encounter.

The only time you’ll usually hear a single guy tell a girl “Let’s just be friends” is if he’s really not attracted to her. But even that can change on a desperate 3 a.m. booty call. But don’t blame us. It’s just something that’s inextricably linked to our species’ evolution.

Psychologists call it a sexual desirability “reflex” action.

It’s been said that this explains why men often misread women’s friendly signals as invitations for sex. Women, in turn, are shocked when they find their supposed male “friend” finally confessing he’s attracted to them sexually.

But Linda Sapadin, a New York psychologist, was quoted in a recent Psychology Today article as saying platonic male-female relationships are possible.

“The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance,” she said. “Now they work together and share sports interests and socialize together.”

I’m no shrink, but I can tell you more than friendship eventually will come into the guy’s mind.

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Cutting the cord

getting real

Landline goes the way of the dinosaurs

I

took the plunge and got rid of my home phone. It was a tough decision to switch from my always-faithful landline phone to a shiny new cell phone, but I just didn’t think I was important enough to have two phones. Plus, I had a hard time trying to remember all of those numbers.

I delayed the decision for a very long time. Getting rid of the phone was just another thing I had to retire, like my 8-track player. Once it was gone, it just became something else I would someday tell my grandchildren about when I start griping about “the way things used to be.”

As I wrapped up the old phone to put it in storage, I remembered with fondness coming home and seeing the little red light on my answering machine blinking, informing me that a stranger had called. (I knew they didn’t really know me, or they would have called my cell phone.)

I thought about all of the accidental 911 calls my kids had made when they were little, the household chores I completed while talking on the phone all day because the curly phone cord was so long it would reach from the kitchen to the living room and calling the family to tell them we were in labor.

I also remembered when we went high-tech and got our first cordless phone. That was a big deal at our house because I could walk all the way to the end of our property and still talk to the person on the line. Who would have thought that just a few years later, I would have a phone in my car?

But of all of those memories, my favorite is still the time I called the Sears do-it-yourself hotline to ask for assistance in replacing my dryer belt.

(I happen to like a challenge.)

A young man answered the call and began to coach me through the repair.

The first matter of business was to shut off the power. I explained to him I was a young parent and if I started messing with the electricity and got electrocuted, my children would be motherless.

He assured me I would be safe.

I went into the utility room and opened the door to the fuse box.

He said, “Is there a lever that says “main”?” I nervously replied, “Yes.” He said, “OK, on the count of 3, flip it.”

Sweaty and clammy, I began counting with him.

One, two, three. I flipped the switch.

The phone went dead.

I looked around the room and quickly realized it wasn’t heaven, so I wasn’t dead. I took a moment to think and figured out cordless phones needed electricity to work. I flipped the switch back into power mode, and the dial tone returned.

I giggled as I hit redial and asked if I could talk to my serviceman again.

The receptionist obliged. A breathless man answered.

I said, “Howdy! Just thought you should know, I’m not dead.”

His reply, “Thank God! I thought you had gotten electrocuted and I just kept thinking about your kids!”

That day I learned three things. One, Sears has great customer service. Two, how to shut off the power to my house.

And three, pretending you have been electrocuted is a really funny practical joke.

Putting away the old phone was the beginning of a new era for me. No longer am I bound to the house when I take a phone call. Now I can take calls everywhere. In the car, in the store, in the doctor’s office and even in the bathroom. I have my phone with me at all times. This is good, because now the telemarketers and political survey companies can get ahold of me, any time day or night!

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STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”

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More is not always better In the San Francisco foodie world years ago, we used to joke about the trend to list many ingredients for one dish on a menu. And why? It’s certainly easy to ruin a recipe with “too much stuff.” Simplicity in food, as in life, can be a good thing.

This recipe comes from one of my favorite Italian cooking teachers, Giuliano Bugialli. Spending weeks with him eating my way through Italy, hunting truffles in Umbria and porcini mushrooms near Florence was a fabulous highlight of my cooking career. He discovered this recipe in an 1841 Italian cookbook that employs an interesting technique.

Dried pasta is soaked in olive oil before cooking. This soaking gives the pasta a wonderful texture.

Italian Pasta Casserole 8 ounces dried pasta, like fusilli 6 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil (and some for brushing casserole) 28-ounce can imported plum tomatoes with thick puree (It is extremely important to use really good tomatoes, I use San Marzano) Salt and freshly ground pepper Preheat oven to 400 degrees. In a medium bowl, mix pasta and olive oil, let soak for 20 to 30 minutes. Add tomatoes (mash them up if whole) and puree to pasta and oil. Add salt and pepper to taste, mixing well. Bake in a shallow casserole brushed with a little olive oil. Bake for about 50 minutes, stirring occasionally so pasta does not stick to dish.

Sometimes just a simple sauce over hot noodles is what I crave. Gorgonzola, a creamy mild blue cheese from northern Italy, is almost a sauce in itself and melts beautifully.

Gorgonzola and Walnut Sauce

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Italian Pasta Casserole

LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career

1/4 teaspoon minced garlic (or less, according to preference) 2 teaspoons vegetable oil 1 cup walnut pieces 8 ounces hot, cooked pasta (save some water) 4 to 5 ounces Gorgonzola cheese, crumbled Salt and freshly ground pepper In large skillet, heat garlic, oil and walnuts over low heat, stirring constantly until walnuts are lightly toasted, about three minutes. Remove from heat. Toss the hot cooked pasta with a half cup of pasta cooking water, cheese and walnuts. Season with salt and freshly ground pepper to taste.

When my girls were young, I always had the ingredients on hand for this really quick cake. It’s a perfect dessert for an impromptu slumber party.

Really quick cake

in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental Hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.

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1 loaf shaped pound cake (thawed if frozen) 12 ounces of semi-sweet chocolate chips (I use Ghirardelli) 1 cup sour cream Slice the pound cake horizontally into four layers. Melt the chocolate chips in the microwave until just barely melted, then stir to a smooth texture. Add the sour cream, mix well; frost and stack each layer, then frost the entire cake. Don’t wait around to do this; the frosting sets up rather quickly.

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