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Angie Henandez turns pain of breast cancer into purpose
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cover girl Four years ago, a routine mammogram revealed Angie Hernandez’s worst nightmare: Areas of pre-cancerous tissue in each breast. Having lost several family members, including her mother, to breast cancer, the St. Joseph woman began receiving screenings at an early age and was only 37 when these pre-cancerous cells were detected. “I will never forget that day,” she says. “At first, I didn’t even think of the positive.” Since then, however, she has put this experience toward a positive effort by becoming involved with Paint the Parkway Pink, an event that takes place the first weekend of October and raises money for breast cancer research. Read more about this effort as well as Ms. Hernandez on page 16.
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See you there 2012 Josephine Expo set for Oct. 6
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When it’s all about her How to handle a friend who’s a taker but never a giver
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Healthy holiday Even a small break from work can be a big help
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Thinking pink St. Joseph woman turns pain of breast cancer into purpose
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What are you supposed to eat? All those food guidelines can make things confusing
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Get what you’re worth How to negotiate a pay increase
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De-stress for less Five ways to relax and recharge without doing damage to your pocket or your physique
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Crafting your color Keep your hair hue looking good with these tips
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By JESS DEHAVEN Fall is in the air, and for us at Josephine, that means it’s time for our annual Expo. This year’s event is set for 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Oct. 6 at Civic Arena. This expo, which is themed “Hats off to her,” promises to be our biggest yet. We’ll have the usual shopping, entertainment, fashion and food, but this year you’ll notice we also have changed up the look of our floor. We’re looking forward to spending the day with our readers and invite you to stop by the Josephine booth with any ideas or comments for the magazine. You can get your tickets at the door for $5, or in advance at Hy-Vee for $4 with a $1 off coupon found in the News-Press. Also new this year is a special patron’s party from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. Oct. 4 at the Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. In addition to a ticket to the expo and a goodie bag, the price of admission also includes one drink ticket, hors d’oeurves, live music, giveaways and raffles. Tickets can be purchased online for $30 each or two for $50 at www.npg coevents.com. Part of the admission price will benefit Cinderella’s Closet. More on the expo and the patron’s party can be found on page 10.
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10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799. 7:30 p.m. Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684. 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., crochet classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799. 5:15 to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks. Call 364-4799. 6:45 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 6711133, $3 a class.
5 to 8 p.m., Friday Night Wine Tastings, Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 7494WINE, $5 per person.
7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., crochet classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799. 9 to 9:45 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
Oct. 1 7 to 9 p.m., St. Joseph Camera Club, Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.
Oct. 15 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail miller gloria@att.net.
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Oct. 2 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call 238-7503.
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11:30 a.m., 10th Annual YWCA Pink Tea luncheon and fashion show, YWCA Terrace Room, 304 N. Eighth St., $15 per person. RSVP to 232-4481 by Oct. 12. 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. To find out more and to make reservations, please call Vickie at (816) 244-5648 the Friday before the meeting.
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Noon, Breast Cancer Prevention luncheon at St. Francis Baptist Temple (1610 Angelique), free. RSVP to 232-4481 by Oct. 10. 1 p.m., St. Joseph Garden Club Autumn Tea, Word of Life Church. Call 232-9151.
Oct. 18 9:30 a.m., Breast Cancer Prevention brunch at Calvin Center (1412 N. Third St.), free. RSVP to 232-4481 by Oct. 17 5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art, $10 a person. Call 2329750.
Oct. 25 11:30 a.m. Breast Cancer Prevention luncheon at the YWCA (304 N. Eighth St.), free. RSVP to 232-4481 by Oct. 24. 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, East Hills Library. Call 351-2139.
10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, general meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. For additional information, go to www.stjomo welcomewagon.com. 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail millergloria@att.net. 7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course designed to help couples with family planning. Call 232-2258. October 2012
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Pantry pointers
Organize. So you’ve cleaned out your pantry and are ready to put it back together. How do you go about this in such a way as to avoid the need for another pantry overhaul in a couple of months? Real Simple magazine offers these suggestions: Start by putting baking items (flour, sugar, baking soda, etc.) in one section and breakfast items in another. If you have kids, set up a snack zone so they can find what they need easily and don’t rifle through the other shelves. Keep heavy items, like jugs of olive oil, on the bottom shelf, and the stuff you reach for every day — lunch ingredients, pet food — at eye level.
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Silver screen advice
Take care of your teeth
Relate. Just because movies aren’t that much like real life doesn’t mean you can’t take advice from some of your favorite flicks. Anna Moeslein of Glamour recommends a movie you’ll want to learn from. “Forgetting Sarah Marshall,” which chronicles a hardto-get-over break-up, shows that though you need time to grieve the end of a relationship, once you move past the sadness, you’ll see the real reasons why the relationship ended. And that there’s people better suited for you.
Beauty. No matter how busy you may get, don’t skimp on taking good care of your teeth. According to a new comprehensive health study this year at the Case Western University School of Dental Medicine, there is a link between hormones and gum disease. Researchers found female hormones that fluctuate throughout women’s lives can change conditions in the mouth that allow bacteria to grow, enter the blood and exacerbate certain health issues like bone loss, fetal death and pre-term births. It’s just one more reason to put brushing, flossing and six-month check-ups on the top of your to-do list.
That’s not the only thing on his mind What is he thinking? Here’s what’s on Shea Conner’s mind: It’s been said before that men think about sex every seven seconds. I always told women that this was a lie because my brain couldn’t possibly focus on sex when it was thinking about pizza, pork ribs and naps. Now, I finally have some research to back up my claim. Recently, researchers from Ohio State University found that, on average, men thought about sex only 18.6 times a day (for women, the average was 9.9 times a day). A close runner-up was food, which men thought about 18 times a day, (women think about food almost 15 times a day). When it came to sleep, men thought about that almost 11 times a day (and women thought about it about 8.5 times a day). You see? We men are not merely sexually obsessed creatures. We’re tired and hungry sexually obsessed creatures.
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“It’s always been an excuse to get together and connect with our readers, find out what they are interested in and celebrate who we are as women,” says Tami Clymer, co-coordinator of the events. If you have never attended the Josephine Expo, you’re in for a treat. One of the big draws is the more than 100 booths that fill both f loors of the arena, featuring products and services especially geared to women including everything from health care to decorating ideas. There are always a number of unique items you won’t find in the stores, such as handcrafted gifts and home-based business products. “The Merchandise Mart is really a great big shopping mall,” Clymer says. When your legs need a rest, take a stop at the Hy-Vee Food Court, where a wide variety of options await for lunch or a snack, including Famous Dave’s, Simply Tea and Sweet Sisters gluten-free bakery. You can sit at one of the decorated tables to eat or rest and enjoy the entertainment. The theme this year is “Hats Off to Her.” Make sure you grab a spot around noon or 2 p.m. for the always much-anticipated fashion show presented by East Hills Shopping Center. Then throughout the day, listen to
live music, including returning favorites the Woodpile at 3 p.m. This band plays an eclectic mix of original country songs and classics by groups like the Beatles and Tom Petty. Also back by popular demand are Phil Vandel and Marcus Words. Vandel provides country sounds, and Words plays acoustic pop rock in the vein of The Dave Mathews Band. And if you attended the Green Acres Farm Show earlier this year, you’ll know why we invited Aaron Blumer to join us, too. Since we’ve been told one day is not enough for Josephine activities, this year you also are invited to attend the 2012 Josephine Expo Patrons’ Party on Oct. 4. It will be held from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. at the Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Each attendee is treated to a goodie bag, a ticket to the Expo, one drink ticket (a cash bar is available also), hors d’oeurves, live music, giveaways, raff les and other special surprises. Limited tickets are available and may be purchased online for $30 each or two for $50 at www.npgco events.com. A portion of the proceeds will benefit Cinderella’s Closet. Tickets to the Josephine Expo are sold at the door for $5, or in advance at Hy-Vee for $4 with a $1 off coupon from the News-Press .
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When it’s all about her
How to handle a friend who’s a taker but never a giver By BROOKE VANCLEAVE Josephine magazine
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e all know who she is. She loudly boasts about her latest achievements whenever you mention good news of your own. She puts her own wants and needs above yours, regardless of the plans you’ve already made. Her compliments are actually thinly veiled criticisms meant to cut you down. She’s the self-centered friend, and there’s nothing we can do about it except ignore her and move on. Right?
For most of my life, I’ve consistently been described by others as a “good friend.” While flattered, I was never quite sure what that meant until I got to college, a time when many of my friendships — both old and new — were tested. What I found out was that being a good friend is no easy feat, especially when your peers don’t always return the courtesy. 12
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A common problem among women transitioning from high school and college days to adulthood is figuring out how to maintain friendships despite emotional and geographical distances. We all have that one friend or acquaintance who wants everything to revolve around her but never puts effort into helping others in return.
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After a couple years of my old friends canceling plans and not returning my texts or phone calls, and new roommates acting inconsiderate and standoffish, I was beginning to wonder whether something was my fault. By junior year, I had reached the conclusion that I simply was surrounded by self-absorbed deadbeats who didn’t deserve me.
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All dramatic declarations aside, dealing with a selfish acquaintance is a tasking matter for any woman. We want so badly to cut ties with this person but are afraid of losing a connection that was once an important and healthy part of our lives. Sometimes, though, it’s better to part ways with a self-centered person rather than allow her to continue taking you for granted. There might be ways to remove this eternal thorn in our side after all. Many women with selfish tendencies aren’t aware of their actions and don’t necessarily know that they are hurting others. “Sometimes they don’t realize what they’re doing; maybe there’s something more going on and they’re just trying to get someone to ask,” says Dr. Susan Shuman, a psychologist with The Center, a Samaritan center for counseling services. “You wonder what else is going on in their life where they’re requiring more attention.” Shuman says the first course of action should be to talk to the person privately and ask her if something is wrong or if she needs any help. Let her know that her actions are becoming a problem in the relationship. If that doesn’t help, though, it may point to something more serious in your friend than occasional selfishness. One indicator is that she is constantly trying to one-up you whenever you’re telling a story or sharing something good that happened to you recently. “I know we all do it because we’re proud of our accomplishments, but sometimes we need to step back and let others have the glory,” Shuman says. Other indicators include the friend feeling entitled and worthy of extra attention or needy to the point that she ignores the interests of everyone around her. This problem is common not just among friends, but with roommates as well. Many young women who are longtime friends decide to room together during or after college in hopes that the arrangement will work out perfectly, but then something happens between the two
that sours the relationship. Dave Brown, with the Missouri Western State University counseling center, explains that issues involving friends who become roommates often stem from one girl ignoring the needs and feelings of the other and putting her own wants first. At first, they both assume they will be able to live together happily, but they don’t anticipate problems or disagreements that can arise. He says many of these problems come from boundary issues, of which selfishness can play a big part. “Certain expectations that don’t end up working out can fall through. … Things seem to crumble pretty quickly when things go wrong,” Mr. Brown says. He notes that for you to feel comfortable where you live and with the people who live with you, you should feel like you have your own space that is your sanctuary, where you can relax and be yourself. When that space is threatened, something is definitely wrong. I once had a roommate who always hosted impromptu parties at our apartment with all of her friends without consulting me first. I would come home from a night class, and there would be 10 people and a dog in our living room and kitchen, and they were all eating my food. One time she even came home with a large group and demanded that my friend and I leave so they all could
watch a movie. I eventually had to figure out different living arrangements for the following year. Some women have trouble with confrontation and don’t know how to speak up when they are being overshadowed or taken for granted by a peer. Although it’s tempting to keep your mouth shut and try to ignore your frustrations, that can just cause more problems. If the friend is so bad that her selfishness has evolved into a personality disorder, little can be done to repair the situation. “Communication is key. It’s not always going to be comfortable or easy, but if you can talk about it, that helps try to fix things before the friendship is ruined,” Shuman says. However, if talking doesn’t work and the abuse continues, it might be best to cut the person out of your life for good. “It’s just like ending a significant relationship — sometimes you have to just take a deep breath and let it go,” she says. With time, patience and some growing up, I’ve come to realize now that my friends really aren’t that bad. They’re a little flighty, they’re bad at returning messages and they can be a bit self-absorbed from time to time. But in the end, I know they love me and would do anything for me, just like I would for them. If your friendships don’t feel that way, perhaps it’s time for a change.
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Healthy holiday
Even a small break from work can be a big help
By JENNIFER GORDON
Studies show that people who take regular vacations have lower blood pressure, smaller waistlines and decreased stress hormones, says Dr. Cynthia Brownfield, a family practice physician for Heartland Health. “Vacation definitely has been linked to health benefits,” she says. A break from stress also helps your health. According to the Mayo Clinic, high stress levels can throw off your body’s natural balance of adrenaline and cortisol, two of the hormones released during tense situations. When in a normal balance, adrenaline and cortisol should kick in when you sense you’re in danger. Adrenaline gives you a rush of energy; it’s responsible for your racing heartbeat after you narrowly avoid a fender bender, for example. Cortisol affects sugars in your bloodstream and works with parts of your brain responsible for emotions. When you’re constantly feeling stressed out, those levels can’t go back
down to normal. It can lead to a host of health problems, including heart disease, sleeplessness and depression. Surveys also have shown that people come back to work feeling refreshed and less burned out with their job, says Dr. Kelly Bouas Henry, a psychology professor at Missouri Western State University. She recommends that those used to working non-stop should schedule something they enjoy doing during their time off. “It’s not helpful to just take a break and not have something planned that’s going to engage you,” Henry says. As good as sleeping all day can sound when you’re tired, too much idle time can also leave lots of room to worry about the work that’s not being done while you’re away from the office, Henry says. It also helps to disconnect from the office once you’re on vacation, something Brownfield says she struggles with in her line of work. During a recent trip to Hawaii, she ended up texting her nursing staff about every other day to answer patient-related questions. “I think the best way to make the most of your vacation is to leave work at home,” Brownfield says. “What kind of vacation is it if you’re sitting on the beach with your laptop? That should be put away, and you should be looking at the sunset.” The benefits of the vacation can wear
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off quickly if you don’t manage your time when you get back into the normal routine, Henry adds. Try to ease back into the schedule those first few days so your stress-free vacation doesn’t add more tension to your life. Can’t get away for the weekend? Try incorporating “mini-vacations” into your work day, Henry recommends. “There’s a lot of evidence that five minutes every hour gives the same sort of productivity boost (as taking a day off),” Henry said. “It clears out that clutter. It’s kind of like resting a machine. The brain really wasn’t designed to go continuously on the same task.” The principle is similar to the concept of cramming for a test. The mind remembers more and retains more information if learning is spaced out over the course of several days. If you’re working on the same project for hours on end, your mind’s likely not as focused as you think, Henry says. The brain gets bogged down. Mini-breaks can provide space for new ideas to pop in. You don’t have to carve out a lot of time, either. A few minutes would do, Henry says. Waiting for a file to download? Take a walk around your office. Go get a cup of coffee. Your brain will thank you.
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Thinking pink St. Joseph woman turns pain of breast cancer into purpose Story by Erin Wisdom | Josephine magazine • Photos by Matt Reid | Josephine magazine “I’d lost my mom to breast canherself began undergoing mamspend the rest of her life keeping an eye out for it, with screenings B y anyone’s definition, Angie Hernandez is a scheduled religiously and with survivor. each year bringing a greater Sept. 1 marked four years since the St. Joseph womstatistical chance she’ll receive a an received a mammogram revealing atypical cells, diagnosis in her lifetime. Currently, she’s at 51 percent, which an ultrasound showed blood feeding. Caught at making breast cancer more likely this stage, they were pre-cancerous and could therethan not. Yet while she admits to fore be eliminated by surgery alone — but an early having occasional down days as diagnosis was a terrifying one, all the same. she deals with this reality, Ms. Hernandez has put her focus on cer,” says Ms. Hernandez, who was mograms in her early 20s and had contributing to the fight for a just 37 at the time of her diagnosis. a benign lump removed when she cure. She’s been involved with “I knew hearing certain terms was was 22. Then, in her late 20s, she St. Joseph’s Paint the Parkway not good. I saw the ultrasound and had a partial hysterectomy and Pink since it began four years ago, saw the blood going to it, and I was one ovary removed due to a tumor bringing with her the support of absolutely devastated. I couldn’t on it three times its size. her family. even drive home at that point.” Although she underwent genetic “We are a very close, tight This was far from the beginning testing and was relieved to learn family,” says Ms. Hernandez, who of cancer’s impact on her life. Ms. she’s not a carrier of the breast has been married to her husHernandez lost not only her moth- cancer gene, her family history band, Rudy, for 23 years and has er — at 50 years old — but also her and her own medical history put a 22-year-old son, Stefan, and an maternal grandmother and a maMs. Hernandez at significant risk 18-year-old daughter, Bethany. ternal aunt to breast cancer. She for the cancer all the same. She’ll (She also had another son, Seth, Please see Page 18
CONTINUED FROM Page 17 who was stillborn 19 years ago, just two weeks after she lost her mother.) “When one goes through a struggle, the whole family goes through it.” “I can vouch for that,” adds Frankie McDowell, the founder of Paint the Parkway Pink, “because the whole family will show up for a meeting.” As it did for Ms. Hernandez, breast cancer hit close to home very early in life for Ms. McDowell, whose mother died of it at 34. “I was 14 and never knew my father. No siblings. Losing my mom — that was my whole world,” she says. She began Paint the Parkway Pink to raise money for breast cancer research, and this year, all donations will go to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation, which guarantees 90 percent of the contributions it receives go toward research. Last year’s Paint the Parkway Pink raised $18,000, up from $15,000 each of its first two years. The five-mile walk takes place on the St. Joseph Parkway System between Bartlett Park and Hyde Park. It will begin at 10 a.m. Oct. 6, and any walkers who didn’t pre-register by the Sept. 10 deadline can register the morning of the event. Donations will be taken that day, and T-shirts will be given to those who donate $25 or more, as long as supplies last. (Also, the first 200 to check in that morning will receive a ticket to the Josephine Expo, which is scheduled for Oct. 6, too.) Ms. Hernandez notes that her best friend comes from Columbia, Mo., for every walk, and that even the smallest members of her own family get involved. “It really is the whole family, even the chihuahuas,” she says. Walkers are encouraged to dress in pink and can form teams representing a breast cancer survivor or victim. For Ms. Hernandez, the reasons to walk are many. “Everyone who walks with me knows I’m walking in memory of my mom,” she says. “But I’m also walking in support of every survivor who is out there and is fighting this battle.”
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What are you supposed to eat? All those food guidelines can make things confusing By CHRISTINA HAZELWOOD HECKMAN
The Basic Four became the Food Pyramid. It seems like the rules keep changing, but the United States Department of Agriculture food guidelines really haven’t changed that much. Sarah Knorr, a nurse practitioner with Northwest Health Services in Savannah, Mo., says the guidelines were updated to be more easily understood in May 2011. More emphasis is now on how to build a healthy plate. It’s best to turn to medical experts when sorting through the hype. If you watch enough food-related documentaries, you will find many have conflicting data. “Just because it is a documentary does not mean the information is accurate or true,” Knorr says. “It could be biased based on the filmmaker’s beliefs. Keep in mind who sponsored the documentary. The documentary “Weight of the Nation” that recently played on HBO is research based and sponsored by the National Institute of Health and several other credible sources.” Dr. Maureen Boyle, an OB-GYN at Heartland Women’s Health, says respected sources for diet information typically are guidelines put forth by the federal government and medical associations. The USDA has created www.choosemy
plate.gov, and the website for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention includes a section called “Overweight and Obesity.” There is information describing specific food components like carbohydrate, protein, fiber and fat. There is also the ability to review meal plans and to personalize a diet. “These websites have lots of info on what compiles a healthy diet,” Boyle says. “For people with medical conditions, there are also respected resources like the American Diabetes Association and the American Heart Association, among others.” According to the CDC, during the past 20 years there has been a dramatic increase in obesity in the United States, and rates remain high. More than onethird of U.S. adults and approximately 17 percent of children and adolescents aged 2 to 19 years are obese. Knorr says as of November 2011, Medicare covers weight-loss counseling with primary care providers for those who are obese. If people would like more information about this program, they can contact Northwest Health Services. “The obesity epidemic in the U.S. is primarily a result of overconsumption,” Boyle says. “Missouri ranks 12th in the country for obesity. Diet is the most critical part of getting to and maintaining a healthy weight. Moderation and portion control are critical. Never super size. Today’s kid’s meals are the sizes of what a normal adult portion was in the 1970s. Eliminate sugary drinks, sports drinks and energy drinks. The bulk of obese Americans’ calories come from our oversized high-calorie beverages.” Boyle and Knorr agree that sweet drinks are our biggest problem when it comes to making healthy choices. “Avoid sugary drinks including pop, sweet tea and sports drinks,” Knorr says. “The average person drinks 400 calories
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per day in drinks that provide no nutrition.” In addition to controlling portion size and avoiding empty calories, Boyle says we need to understand the difference between a craving and hunger. “A craving is very specific, makes your mouth water and stimulates the reward center in the brain until you become obsessed,” Boyle says. “It is emotional. Once you take a bite, it’s unclear when you will stop. Hunger is generic. Basically any food will do, you can wait if needed and there’s a point where you are satisfied and stop. With any craving, your brain actually ‘gets its fix’ after about four bites, and it takes 20 minutes to acknowledge that. It’s like an addiction. Not many of us stop at four bites though. That’s why we are obese.” The prevalence of obesity makes us easy targets for fad diets. “They may help people lose weight, but those diets are not sustainable on the long term,” Knorr says. “Those diets are meant to sell books. If I wrote a book “‘Eat More Vegetables,’” I doubt very many people would buy it.” You’ve heard the saying, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” That definitely applies to diets. “If you lose 15 pounds in 15 days, you’ll gain 15 pounds in 15 days when you finish,” Boyle says. “If it’s a late-night infomercial, beware. It’s so cliché to say, but the most effective long-term successful diet really is lifestyle change. Ideally, you should never be ‘on a diet’ but committed to making generally healthy choices with your day-to-day food decisions.” She says there are hundreds of diets out there, some decent, some absolute rip-offs. An informative website called www.dietscam.org names those diets that are just trying to make money off of those looking for a quick fix, desperate to lose weight, Boyle says.
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Sometimes even weight-loss programs aren’t the best choice when trying to eat healthier, because they are not always sustainable long term. Knorr recommends a nonprofit group called Taking Off Pounds Sensibly. For more information, you can visit www.tops.org. “TOPS is here to encourage members to make changes to a healthy lifestyle,” says Dorothy (Jeanie) Daniel, Northwest Missouri area captain. “This includes sound nutrition and exercise plans to reach weight goals set by your health care professional. MyPlate is a great tool, but each individual needs to find what works best for them.” According to the TOPS website, MyPlate, unveiled in June 2011 by the USDA, replaces the 20-year-old food pyramid, which the USDA said was too confusing for consumers. “Healthy eating is about balancing grains, fruits and vegetables and protein,” Boyle says. “For a typical woman trying to lose weight, it’s watching calories, fiber and protein intake. Read the nutrition labels, not hype on the package. Look at ingredients, and generally avoid additives you can’t pronounce.” Standard food guidelines are fine for the average person, but what if you are on a restricted diet? “Each member’s needs are different,” Daniel says. “That is why we encourage them to work closely with their doctors.” Libby Jordan of St. Joseph recently discovered she has a wheat allergy that causes multiple health issues. Her doctor recommended a gluten-free diet that has alleviated her problems but left her lacking in the recommended intake of grains. “I see that as a recommended guideline, but that doesn’t work for everyone,” Jordan says. “Instead I have a vitamin regimen I’m on with the assistance of my doctors, and I get fiber from the increased fruits and vegetables I’m eating. Six weeks into this journey I haven’t quite figured out if I need to truly replace it or not. That will be my next question to my doctor.” Those with a gluten-free diet aren’t the
While some foods fall in and out of favor from one study to another, vegetables are almost universally considered an important part of a healthy diet. only ones feeling pressure to meet dietary guidelines. Mikah Sargent, a student at the University of Missouri-Columbia, has been a vegetarian for more than two months. Despite criticism, he’s glad he made the switch. “My diet at college involved mostly salads and extremely rare fast food runs,” Sargent says. “Over the summer, I was exposed to fast food for at least two meals every day. Vegetarianism was a way to get out of having to eat fast food. I also saw a few documentaries which suggested that meat, dairy and fast food aren’t necessarily good for you, and healthier options exist.” Some may question the health of a vegetarian due to lack of meat con-
sumption, but the 1995 USDA guidelines included a statement recognizing that vegetarian diets can meet recommended daily allowances and conform with the dietary guidelines. Dietary restrictions don’t exclude you from making healthy food choices. You just have to get creative. Life is busy, and people think eating healthy takes too much time, but if we don’t take the time to make ourselves think healthy, who will? “Take time to plan your meals,” Daniel says. “Find time to exercise. Find time for yourself if only for 10 minutes a day. Think before you take that first bite. Ask yourself, ‘Is this the best I can do for me?’”
Get what you’re worth How to negotiate a pay increase By KEVIN KRAUSKOPF
Sure, the economy has started to make a modest recovery. OK, unemployment has improved, even if it does remain relatively high. In all likelihood, the company you work for is in a better financial position than it was in the last few years. But one fact remains, says Missouri Western State University Career Development Center Director Donnell Turner: It’s an employers’ market. “Employers really still have the upper hand right now,” he says. There are likely hundreds of people “standing in line waiting for your job.” What that does is drive down salaries, a well-documented trend since the Great Recession took hold. Yet, despite the implications of supply (lots of workers) and demand (not a lot of jobs) on the job market, a pay increase just might be within your reach — if you go about it the right way. “One of (a company’s) key assets is its employees. Those who are good or excellent performers, who show up to work on time, go above and beyond and get along well with others, those are worth keeping,” says Rebecca Evans, regional director for the Small Business and Technology Development Center at Northwest Missouri State University. “And employers know that.” Which raises a great point: Let your
work speak for itself. Your long-term job performance — meeting and exceeding your position’s requirements over the long haul — will back your request for a pay increase more than anything you can say during a meeting with your boss. Of course, after you’ve scheduled such a meeting (Evans says it’s not a conversation you want to have “on the f ly”), you’ll need to be able to document your contributions to the company. Speak to not just your attendance record and ability to get along with colleagues, but also to any accolades you’ve received and ways in which you’ve improved the company’s bottom line. Did you secure a big new client? Identify areas for savings without compromising productivity? Start thinking along those lines. Keep the conversation positive. Don’t put down your co-workers or the company, which will only serve to put your supervisor on the defensive. Also, both Turner and Evans advise against issuing any sort of ultimatum. “Not many of us are in a position to demand,” Turner says. But what if you already have another job lined up? “Even then it’s burning a bridge,” Evans says. Before requesting to meet with your boss, do your research. However, it’s not quite as simple as looking up the average salary for your position. You’ll need to know the typical career arc of somebody in your field and how your education, training and experience factor into that. How much can you expect to make after a year on the job? After 10? How much more could you expect to earn if you finished that degree? (Turner suggests starting at websites such as salary.com and indeed.com to get started.) If you find your salary sits on the low end of the spectrum within your field, respectfully ask your supervisor
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to help you understand your specific situation as a means of starting a discussion regarding your compensation. If your pay is on the high end, you may need to take on more responsibilities or request a promotion before your company would consider digging deeper into its pockets. Turner advises that it’s crucial to understand your company’s current financial condition. Many workplaces have instituted hiring and salary freezes, and if that’s the case where you work, it could be imprudent to ask for more money. In lieu of higher compensation, though, consider making a request for benefits such as a title change, more f lexible work schedule or more vacation time. It might not be the same as a raise, “but still, if you have more time off, that’s nice,” Evans says. For those who are more advanced in their careers, Turner says companies may be more amenable to discussing stock or profit-sharing options. And, don’t forget that timing is everything. A scheduled performance review is a natural time to raise the issue of compensation, and a history of strong job evaluations can help build your case. However, an article on CNNMoney.com points out that budgets often are set and any pay raises decided by the time evaluations are performed. Consider putting the process in motion two to three months beforehand so that there is ample time for budgets to be shifted and the many layers of approval that would require to go through. Above all, keep in mind that asking for a pay increase is a potentially sensitive request that requires a delicate approach. Keep that conversation professional and factual, and leave out the emotion. “It’s not ‘I feel I need a raise,’” Evans says. “It’s ‘I deserve a raise because ... .’”
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De-stress for less Five ways to relax and recharge without doing damage to your pocket or your physique ❯ Instead of dinner and a movie ... pack a picnic and take a walk.
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trip to the spa? Lovely, but not cheap. A delicious meal prepared, served and cleaned up by someone else in a nice restaurant? Delicious, but not cheap. A massage, a yoga class, a really good bottle of wine? Relaxing, but ... you get the point. Finding ways to de-stress your busy life won’t work if you’re then stressing about how much that de-stressing costs. But you don’t have to spend a lot to let off a lot of steam. Here are five easy alternatives for relaxing yourself while reeling in the costs. 24
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Whatever food sounds good to you, pack it. Make peanut butter sandwiches, grab last night’s leftovers, but get out of the house and outside for fresh air, a nice view and a break from the normal go, go, go of your day-to-day routine. And while you’re outside, get even more stress relief for your body with a brisk walk. “That’s one of my personal favorites,” says Sheri Caldwell, a dietitian at Hy-Vee. “Get out of the concrete walls, away from the cell phone and computer.” Walks are healthy, she says, and free.
❯ Instead of booking a massage ... get a tennis ball. Really. The Web is full of tips on DIY massages with tennis balls. Here are the basics — put the ball on the floor, lay down on it and roll around. Since that’s totally not specific, check out this video by American Yogini on You Tube, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0KYtUBVDdc, with a quick and easy guide to a two-minute massage.
❯ Instead of a day at the spa ... spend a day at home. It is lovely to have a full day to yourself, and you can still get that by blocking off your day ahead of time. Send the kids out with grandma or dad, turn off your phone and brew a cup of tea or your favorite coffee drink. You’re allowed to stay in your robe all day. Keep the TV off, and instead, read, journal or write an old-fashioned, pen-to-paper letter. You can find a full tutorial on DIY mani/pedis at a blog called Confessions of a Cosmetologist, http://confessionsofacosmetologist.com/2012/02/29/manispedis-at-home-2/.
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❯ Instead of indulging in an extra large banana split ... choose a healthy alternative that will eliminate all stress actually eating that banana split would have created. Caldwell says she often finds that when people are busy with work, they’re skipping breakfast, working through lunch and coming home ready to eat the refrigerator door. Instead of waiting until the big, bad cravings hit, focus on eating well all day and stocking your desk drawers and home cupboards to help you make healthy choices. “If we can give our body wholesome foods at regular intervals throughout the day,” Caldwell says, “it will be more satisfied.” That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a treat now and then, but save it for celebrations and occasions when you’ll enjoy it and not for spur-of-the-moment stress relief. “Eating is one of life’s great pleasures,” Caldwell says.
❯ Instead of shopping and buying something that gives you that temporary high, invest time back into your life. Maybe it’s through taking a walk to be alone with your thoughts or listening to your favorite music. Pick up the phone and give some of your time to your friends. If you’re a person of faith, take a little time for prayer or meditation. “Prayer is always first and foremost,” says the Rev. Jim Oswald of Faith United Church. He recommends reading Psalms and says they’re a place for great comfort. You also can volunteer your time and work with others, taking your focus off yourself. All of this, the Rev. Oswald says, can help remind you “tomorrow’s a new day.”
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Crafting your color
Keep your hair hue looking good with these tips By LINDSAY LADEROUTE | Josephine magazine
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all is here and so is a new school year. That means a new wardrobe, school supplies and haircuts for the kids, but what about you? It’s probably time for a change yourself. How about re-inventing your look this season with a new hair color? Don’t be worried, confused or scared to try some dye on your ‘do. These tips and pointers from salon professionals will have you fully prepared to take on a trip to the salon.
The first thing to understand when going to the salon for a coloring is the types of color available. The commitment level you have will affect the type of color you choose. The three main choices are temporary/demi, semi-permanent and permanent. “Temporary just stains the hair,” says Amanda Pogue, a hairstylist and Redken artist at Sola Salon in Overland Park, Kan. A temporary or demi color is perfect for someone with a worry of commitment or who does not want to damage her hair. This is because “a demi color only goes so far into the cortex and gradually washes out leaving the hair in great shape with no harm done,” says Jen Thomas, owner 26
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of Last Tangle Salon in Overland Park. For those wanting to take a drastic color step, be aware of the process being used. “Decolorizer or bleach permanently takes the color out and the hair is forever compromised. Permanent color does the same thing,” Thomas says. But rest assured, your hair will not be very damaged if kept in the hands of a professional, Pogue says. The next step is to find a color. To stay looking natural, try to keep within two or three shades of your natural hair color. If you want to make a big change in your color, it should be done in steps. This will assure the color turns out correct and
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does less damage to the hair. Not sure what color to go to? “Your stylist should help you choose a color according to your skin tone, existing hair color and the shape the hair is in,” Thomas says. If you want to only spruce up your color and not change it completely, try highlights or low lights. “Highlights will be lighter than your current color and low lights will be darker,” Pogue says. Your stylist can help you decide which will look better on you. If you are trying to cover up grays, be sure to tell your stylist this since not all hair dyes cover gray. “Redken has a line called Coverfusion that has an extra brown molecule to penetrate and cover gray. There are many tricks a good stylist must know to deal with certain clients with difficult gray. Knowing these tricks makes them a better stylist,” Thomas says. After taking the hair color plunge, it is extremely important to take care of your hair properly. “Do not shampoo for the first 24 hours because the color molecule truly does not harden completely until after 24 hours,” Thomas says. When you do begin to use shampoo, it is important to use the right kind.
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“Protein-based products should be used first to fill in the porosity of the hair, followed by moisture; the balance of the two should be guided by your stylist and for what look you are after,” Thomas says. Pogue suggests using a deep conditioner and a leave-in conditioner with UV protectors. Discuss with your stylist to figure out what kind of shampoo, conditioner and leave-in treatments will work for you, since “everyone’s prescription is different,” states Thomas. To keep your color vivid, there are a few rules to live by. First is to protect your hair from the sun, since it will “lighten it and make it look more brassy,” says Pogue. Make sure to use a shampoo and conditioner with UV protectors to help your hair fight fade. Thomas suggests wearing a sun hat when outdoors for long periods of times. The second subject to be aware of is washing your hair. Thomas says to think of colored hair like a pair of jeans; realize that the more you wash them, the more faded they become. “How do you take care of your favorite pair of jeans? You protect and take care of them. You wash when needed, in the proper temperature of water with the correct soap,” she says. “Apply that to hair. Use a shampoo that puts the ceramides back in your hair, which are your natural lubricants that come out when you dye
your hair. Replacing the natural proteins and moisturizers also will help.” But what do you do if you have a color mess up? Never try to match your hair to a box dye at the store after a color mess up, Thomas says. To avoid causing further damage or making your hair look worse, “go see a professional stylist immediately,” Pogue says. If you do not know of a good stylist, call some friends for a referral or search online. Most salons will give a free consultation for hair color mishaps, so you can know ahead of time what needs to be done and for how much. Thomas says one of the most important
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You will lose arguments Women’s memories catalog all men’s faults ALONZO WESTON is a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.
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couldn’t tell you where I was or what I was doing on March 19, 1984, if my life depended on it. Bet you my wife can. I can probably get you in the general area, like where I lived and where I worked, easy stuff like that. But my wife can tell you where I was down to the exact time and second, especially if I did something really bad on that date. She’s like most women in that they have a built-in archive system. And let me tell you it’s a heckuva storehouse. It’s actually three times larger than the Library of Congress. Quite impressive for someone who can never remember how to parallel park or who somehow forgot to thaw out the pot roast. Impressive as the female archive system is, it’s only focused on one topic: The register of bad and good behavior of their husband or boyfriend. You’ve heard the term, “They can write a book on it.” Well they have lots of them, like I said before, and all very comprehensive. However, most of these mental tomes focus on the bad stuff. The shelves with the good husband behaviors are tucked away in a dusty library corridor where all the old books, eight tracks and Perry Como records ready for the book sale go. But all your insults, forgotten birthdays/anniversaries, late nights out with the fellas, unremembered chores and long ago uttered arguments are stored on a shiny, new state-of-the-art hard drive retrieval system. It’s a powerfully rapid one-
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click system, primed and ready for any new argument. Women use the system in lawyerly fashion. Every man has a wife or girlfriend who he feels asks too many inconsequential questions. Those questions you really don’t think about answering because you feel at the time they don’t amount to anything. You may, to yourself of course, even call them dumb questions. Say you stopped off at a convenience store on the way home from work and picked up an $8 sports magazine and a Coke. It’s a mundane activity that you might have sleepwalked through, but to your wife or girlfriend, it’s a crucial piece of evidence. Here’s a typical court case: Wife/girlfriend:“What did you buy at the store?” You: “A magazine and a Coke. Why?” Wife/girlfriend: “Nothing.” A few days later. Wife/girlfriend: “I need $10.” You: “I’m broke. I’ve got just enough money for lunch the rest of the week.” Wife/girlfriend: “You would have it if you hadn’t wasted it on that stupid football book and a soda pop at 5:17 p.m. Monday, Sept. 24, at the convenience store on Frederick Avenue.” Case closed. Let’s say you hid out in the garage when her parents came to visit a few years back. You count it as a long ago success and have since forgotten about it. But your wife/ girlfriend hasn’t. You forget a birthday or anniversary today and she hits the retrieval button. With one-click efficiency, she has that infraction and more at her disposal. No way you can possibly fight off the onslaught. You got shot more times than Scarface. And like every other bad guy, you will lose.
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chool is well under way, and all of the first-day jitters have calmed. The new crayons already are broken, the shiny notebooks have doodles all over them and the new clothes have wrinkles and stains. I always loved the first day of school, but that may have had to do with the fact it was right around my birthday. My mom would always bring birthday cupcakes to school, and giving those confections to my fellow classmates immediately made me a popular girl. Once I started high school, the cupcake trick was no longer practical, so I switched to fashion to make my mark in a new classroom full of strangers. The first day of my freshman year was too monumental to wear old summer clothes, so I went out and bought new clothes for school. Problem was, by September all the clothes in the stores were fall clothes. Sweaters, jeans, corduroys and jackets were the only things hanging on the racks when my mom took me school shopping. I dressed in brand new blue jeans and a long-sleeved sweater on that 95-degree day and walked into the “brick building of learning” to meet my fellow students. I made it through my first-hour class with ease, but by second hour, sweat beads started forming around my hairline. I blotted the droplets discreetly, as a lady didn’t sweat. By third hour, the curl had left my bangs and they were sticking to my forehead. During fourth-period class, I had shoved the sleeves of my sweater up as high as I could get them, but I was beginning to feel the symptoms of heat exhaustion and kept dozing off. Fortunately, the bell rang, indicating it was lunch time and my life was saved. I went into the lunchroom and drank from the wa-
ter fountain for about three minutes straight. A boy behind me began telling his friends, “Hey, this girl drinks so much, she must be a camel!” Concerned that nickname could stick, I surrendered my hydration station and moved to the large cooler where the drinks were stored and pretended to be helping the lunchroom attendant pass out drinks to my fellow students. My motivation was not to make friends but really to stay close to the cool air that was escaping from the cooler each time I opened it. Once lunch ended, I had no choice but to return to class. With sweat now pouring down my back, my legs became damp, causing my new blue jeans to begin fading onto my shirt. Each time I wiped my sweaty hands on my thighs, my palms became bluer. Unaware, I used that same hand and wiped the sweat from my upper lip. The teacher immediately noticed my blue lips and panicked, thinking I was going to pass out. He asked if I needed to go to the restroom to cool off. My pride went out the window, and I took him up on his offer. Amongst the snickers of my peers, I walked out of the room and into the ladies room where I found I had a blue mustache and severe pit stains. Dejected, I looked to the ground and a thought occurred to me: “The floor sure looks cool!” Just as I went to lie down, the bell rang. The day was over, and I got to go home and change clothes. I ran into the classroom and grabbed my books, and the teacher gave me a nod of understanding. The next day, I returned to school in shorts and an old T-shirt. I learned sometimes newer is not always better. So when the bell rings to begin a new year, I always wonder: Is there a young girl walking through those doors thinking she looks stunning, when really she has a blue upper lip and is at risk of heat stroke? I want to tell her if she can make it through that, she can make it through anything.
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getting real
Making an impression First day of school fashion can be tricky
STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”
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n my San Francisco catering days, I had a secret clientele. As a member of the San Francisco Junior League, several of my JL friends had me secretly cater parties for them. So I had to keep meticulous records on what I made for who. (And not say anything to anyone; my assistants were sworn to silence!) The girls would drop off their own serving pieces, I would prepare whatever and they would pick it up at my house. A couple of times I had to deliver, I’d drive right into the garage so no one would see me! It made for some interesting times. The following recipes were popular.
Mussels with Black Walnut Sauce 24 large mussels 1/4 cup chopped black walnuts 1/2 cup olive oil 1/4 cup fresh bread crumbs 2 teaspoons red wine vinegar 1 teaspoon balsamic vinegar Dash hot pepper sauce Salt and freshly ground pepper I steam the mussels in a large pot with a steam rack. Cook, then let cool, remove and discard top shells. Place remaining ingredients in a cook processor, puree until smooth. Spoon sauce over each mussel. Cover and refrigerate for at least one hour or as long as four hours; serve slightly chilled.
Eggs-tra-ordinary Cheese Toasts Amuse-gueule is a French term for bite-size morsels to amuse the mouth. These amuse the eye also, as they resemble tiny fried eggs. 8 slices firm, textured white bread 3 ounces packaged cream cheese, softened 1 tablespoon milk 1/2 teaspoon onion juice Pinch of salt 30
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1/4 pound sharp Cheddar cheese Freshly ground black pepper
1 (1/4-ounce) envelope unflavored gelatin 2 ounces black lumpfish caviar
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Using a 2-inch biscuit cutter, cut three rounds from each slice of bread. Arrange rounds on baking sheet, bake until lightly browned, five to seven minutes. Cool. Combine cream cheese, milk, onion juice and salt, mixing well. Spread over untoasted sides of bread. Cut cheddar into 24 (1/4-inch) cubes, and place one cube in center of each round. Sprinkle lightly with pepper. Bake until cheddar has just melted, resembling an egg yolk, eight to 10 minutes. Serve.
Combine all ingredients except gelatin and caviar until well blended. Soften gelatin in 2 tablespoons cold water, then warm over low heat until dissolved. Fold gelatin into sour cream mixture until well blended. Place caviar in fine sieve, rinse under cold water to remove black dye. Drain well, fold into sour cream mixture. Turn into three-cup mold and refrigerate for at least two hours or up to two days.
Caviar Mousse Since lumpfish caviar is not expensive, this recipe gives you a lot of bang for the buck. It has a very mild taste. Serve it with water crackers. 3/4 cup sour cream 1/4 cup finely minced onion 3 hard-cooked eggs, finely chopped 1/4 cup lemon juice 3 tablespoons mayonnaise 1½ teaspoons salt 1/2 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce 1/4 teaspoon white pepper 5 to 7 drops hot pepper sauce
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LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks. newspressnow.com/josephine
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