Josephine October 2011

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Josephine October 2011

St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

Part-time business success Sabrina Theas makes money

WHY BUY NeW?

Second-hand deals are often worth the extra work

doing something she loves

MORE INSIDE: Base your wardrobe on evergreen basics Less stress

Sometimes it’s tough just getting out the door in the morning

Lisa Regina coming to Missouri Western to perform monologues, poems about abuse from the

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Registered Dietitian Sheri can answer your questions and concerns about food, products, nutrition and health. Services Include: 9 Cooking Classes 9 Nutrition Consultations 9 Cholesterol Screenings 9 Supermarket Tours 9 Nutrition Shopping Assistance 9 Community Presentations 9 Food Sensitivity Consultations Contact your Hy-Vee Dietitian for more information or to make an appointment.

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cover girl Many are looking to make a little extra money in this economy, and it seems Sabrina Theas has struck a gold mine. Not that she’s a millionaire. But she is rich in that she’s found success in a side job she genuinely enjoys — purchasing jewelry, belts, flip-flops, purses and other accessories from wholesalers and reselling them at home parties. “It just kind of came to me,” says the Maryville, Mo., woman, who in her day job works in quality control at Kawasaki. Ms. Theas estimates her business, Uptown Girlz, requires just as much time as her full-time career. But as a single woman, she’s able to dedicate herself to it and looks forward to seeing where it takes off from here. More on her and Uptown Girlz is on page 16.

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October 2011

A to zinc Knowing what vitamins you really need can be confusing

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Stress less Tips to get you out the door in the morning without losing your sanity

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Why buy new? Some used items can work just as well

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Accessorizing for success Sabrina Theas’ small business has taken off in a big way

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The Write to Heal YWCA sponsoring nationally acclaimed performance during ‘A week without violence’

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Expo gets healthier Heartland’s Women’s Wellness Initiative joins 2011 Josephine Expo

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Basically Trends are fun, but build your wardrobe around basics

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Getting back out there Dating after divorce can be tough, but those who have been there share what works

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WineTastings Every Friday Night 5pm-8pm

By JESS DEHAVEN In just a few days, a year’s worth of planning becomes reality as we host our annual Josephine Expo on Oct. 1 at Civic Arena. This year we’ve got more for you to see than ever. All of our booth space is sold out, so we have plenty of shopping, several options to tempt you in the Hy-Vee Food Court, East Hills Shopping Center will once again host two fabulous fashion shows, we have four great acts lined up to keep you entertained from our stage and our columnists, Stacey Mollus and Alonzo Weston, will be on hand to meet readers. Also this year, Heartland Health has partnered with us to have its popular Women’s Wellness Initiative on the same day and at the same location as the expo. Those who register in advance for the Women’s Wellness Initiative receive free admission to the expo. The expo runs from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Advance tickets can be purchased at Hy-Vee and the News-Press for $5 (look for our $1 coupons in the paper this week) or at the door. And to extend the fun, this year we’re having a pre-expo ladies’ night from 5 to 7 p.m. Sept. 29 at Smooth Endings. There will be drink specials, free appetizers while they last and prizes and giveaways. I hope to see you there!

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Register at the Diabetes Expo to win two tickets to a CHIEFS game!

Last fall, Kelli Withrow attended the Diabetes Expo followed by classes at Heartland Diabetes Center. “It was great,” says Kelli. “They gave me tips for eating right, how to count carbs, how and when to take insulin.”

Saturday, October 29, 2011 7:45 - 11:45 a.m. Missouri Western State University, Fulkerson Center 4525 Downs Drive, St. Joseph, Mo.

H E A LT H Y M I N D , H E A LT H Y B O DY Keynote Speaker Dr. Paul Ciechanowski has served as an attending psychiatrist at the University of Washington Medical Center’s Diabetes Care Center for more than 14 years. He will share how improving behavioral health and relieving stress can improve the physical health of a person living with diabetes. He has helped thousands change their lives and their outlooks through enlightening and entertaining presentations. At this year’s Diabetes Expo, enjoy vendor booths, healthy snacks, exercise and giveaways. Also, free health screenings for eyes, body composition, foot sensory, blood pressure, osteoporosis, oral health and cholesterol.

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Schedule 7:45 – 8:30 a.m. Registration Health screenings Vendor booths Active Living — Zumba (8 – 8:15 a.m.) 8:30 – 9:30 a.m. Keynote speaker, Paul Ciechanowski, MD 9:30 – 10:15 a.m. Break Health screenings Vendor booths Active Living — Tai Chi (9:45 – 10 a.m.) 10:15 – 11:45 a.m. Discussion Panel (Q&A) featuring local physicians Dennis Dobyan, MD — Nephrology William Burr, MD — Ophthalmology Sherry Zhou, MD — Endocrinology Francisco Lammoglia, MD — Cardiology Akilis Theoharidis, DPM — Podiatry Robert Brunker, DDS — Dental

Visit Heartland-Health.com/Diabetes or call (816) 271-4098 or (800) 447-2919 Diabetes Center

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Every Monday 9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weightloss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn.

Oct. 3 St. Joseph Camera Club, 7 to 9 p.m., Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.

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Oct. 4 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call 238-7503.

Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684.

Oct. 13 1 p.m., St. Joseph Garden Club autumn tea, Word of Life Church, guests welcome. Call 232-1709.

Every Friday Friday Night Wine Tastings, 5 to 8 p.m., Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.

Every Saturday 7 a.m. Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village

Oct. 18 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. Call 232-7462.

6 p.m., “Boosting your child’s immune system,” Green Family Chiropractic, 1338 N. Belt Highway, 387-8994.

Oct. 1 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., Josephine Expo, Civic Arena, $5.

6:30 p.m., St. Jo Women On The Go, Moila, dinner, $15. Call 279-4583 for reservations Oct. 20 5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, AlbrechtKemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 2329750.

Oct. 17 and 25 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 7070097 or e-mail millergloria@att.net.

Oct. 27 6 p.m., Informational session on asthma, Green Family Chiropractic, 1338 N. Belt Highway, 387-8994. 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 390-8081.

Oct. 25 10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 279-1947. 7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258.

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tips for life Pill not perfect HEALTH. Most authorities agree birth control pills can give a woman close to 100 percent protection from getting pregnant. Yet we have all heard of someone who got pregnant while taking the pill. Why? According to pharmacist Dr. John Wilks for lifeissues.net, one problem is forgetting to take a tablet each day. “Missing a single tablet may be all that is needed for ovulation to occur, which could lead to a diagnosed pregnancy,” his report states. That is why the leaflet inside the pill packet recommends using something like a condom or diaphragm, even if you are only 12 hours late in taking your daily pill. It also is recommended that a condom or diaphragm be used for seven days because of the risk of ovulation and pregnancy. An infection may be the cause, too. The pill can cause a drug interaction with antibiotics (such as amoxicillin, co-trimoxazole, tetracycline, erythromycin and amphotericin), or large doses of vitamin C, or anti-epileptic medication, barbiturates and rifampicin. The drug interaction can reduce the quantity of hormones absorbed, allowing ovulation to occur. Finally, some women get pregnant due to stomach illness. That can prevent the full dose of the pill from being absorbed into the woman’s body, so it’s just like missing a day.

Date better, live better

RELATE. Ruts happen. Maybe you’re dating the same type of person time and time again. Maybe you’re having the same fight with your problem. Even though his advice is for the single ladies, Paul Carrick Brunson of the Modern Day Matchmaker, offers some solutions to get you unstuck in your relationship (and happier). g You’re not perfect: Own your flaws instead of trying to find clever ways or lies to conceal them. g Find a sympathetic ear: You need a sounding board for problems with a partner sometimes. Be sure it’s someone who both shares your best interest and your beliefs. g Ditch Negative Nancy: Cut the negative people out of your life, and you’ll be a lot happier. That friend might be dragging you down in ways you don’t even realize, which could sap the energy you need to keep bettering the good relationship you do have.

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Fast and frivolous

Is it really about the socks?

MONEY. Usually, we turn to the experts to bring you these tips, but this one comes from personal experience. Don’t be tempted by higher-interest checking accounts to neglect your savings account. If you’re like me, any extra money in that checking account gets spent. Fast. And frivolously. Instead, even if it’s only a small amount, transfer it into your savings and watch it start to add up.

WHAT IS HE THINKING? Our Shea Conner offers the male perspective on relationships: The following conversation might seem familiar to some of you.

Tray chic ORGANIZE. Organization works only if the people in your house do their part to maintain it. For increasing your odds of this happening, Better Homes and Gardens recommends evaluating where family members tend to dump their stuff as they enter the house. Then go with the flow — even if the location is the kitchen counter — and set out a catchall, such as a wicker cutlery tray for keys, sunglasses and electronics. Most organization experts agree: Storage systems that adjust to your habits, rather than vice-versa, have a greater chance of enduring success.

Wife: “Why don’t you ever pick up your dirty socks?” Husband: “I didn’t know it bothered you.” Wife: “Why can’t you pick up after yourself? I’m tired of doing everything for you.” Usually, this interaction devolves into a huge argument, and there’s one reason why: Men are still stuck on the socks. The wife has leaped far past his thought process and is trying to address his lack of consideration, but he’s wondering what physically bothers her about the socks. Maybe they were smelly. Maybe the dogs were getting at them. Why didn’t she mention how much my socks bother her before? The next time any man in your life lazily leaves a mess, start off slowly with the “lack of consideration” angle. You’ll save yourselves a lot of time.

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A to zinc Knowing what vitamins you really need can be confusing By LISA HORN I Josephine magazine

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ith a supplement available for nearly every letter of the alphabet, visiting the vitamin aisle at your local drug store can be overwhelming. So where do you begin?

Jim Fly, owner of A to Z Fresh Air Fare, who is also a health and lifestyle counselor, and Sheri Caldwell, St. Joseph Hy-Vee store dietitian, agree that your first source of vitamins should be a well-balanced diet. “The best nutrition is to wisely choose a variety of nutrient-rich foods,” Caldwell says. “The more whole foods we eat — not processed — the more we’re going to reap in those benefits.”

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Our busy lifestyles, however, can make it difficult to eat the variety of foods we need for good nutrition. Various other factors such as eating a vegetarian/ vegan diet, age and gender also have an effect on whether vitamin supplements may be necessary. Because meat and sometimes fish are eliminated from their diets, vegetarians and vegans have to work extra hard to get the protein and other nutrients they

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may be missing. B12, a vitamin found in foods that come from animals, such as fish, meat, eggs and dairy, is something that many vegetarians and vegans may be deficient in. People with diets consisting mainly of plant foods may want to consider supplementing with B12, a vitamin essential for normal brain and nervous system functioning and for the formation of blood, Fly says. According to the American Dietetic Association, infants, children, teens, women who could become pregnant, pregnant women and older adults are also groups who may need supplements to maintain optimal nutrition. Fly and Caldwell suggest talking to your health care provider to determine what’s needed.

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A GOOD PLACE TO START Your physician may suggest starting with a multivitamin. Multivitamins contain: VITAMIN A — Necessary for healthy eyes and skin. VITAMIN B — Increases metabolism. VITAMIN C — Good for a healthy immune system (especially during cold and flu season). VITAMIN D — Contributes to strong bones and a healthy immune system. VITAMIN E — Aids in muscle growth and brain function. Your doctor also may suggest an additional supplement of vitamin D. D, produced in the body when the skin is exposed to sunlight, is a vitamin that most Americans don’t get enough of. While vitamin D is fortified in many foods (including milk), this is one vitamin where diet or supplementation aren’t always the best sources. Fly recommends spending 10 to 15 minutes a day in the sun (without sunscreen) to adequately synthesize this important nutrient. In fact, vitamin D may be more critical in staying healthy during cold and flu season than vitamin C, according to Dr. Oz’s website, www. doctoroz.com. Vitamin D also is responsible for protecting against some forms of cancer, obesity and promoting healthy neuro-muscular function. It also helps to absorb calcium — a must for strong, healthy bones, Fly says. Other supplements are critical not just for the individual, but also for a growing fetus. Women who may become pregnant and expectant mothers are especially recommended to take folic acid, which has been shown to prevent spina bifida and neural tube defects, Caldwell says. Iron is also recommended for pre-menopausal women to compensate for iron lost during menstruation. Midwestern diets, Fly says, are often lacking in omega-3 fatty acids, which help fight inflammation. Found primarily in oily fish, such as salmon, sardines and tuna, omega-3s support the normal development of the brain, eyes and nerves. Several studies have demonstrated that diets higher in omega-3 fatty acids can reduce the risk of chronic disease and several types of cancers. They may even increase the sensitivity of cancer cells to chemotherapy and radiation, according to the American Dietetic Association.

SUPER FOODS Sheri Caldwell, St. Joseph Hy-Vee store dietitian, recommends adding these super foods to your diet as an excellent source of vitamins and other nutrients. BEANS/LEGUMES — A great, inexpensive source of protein for both vegetarians and carnivores. BERRIES — Provide vitamin C and antioxidants (natural chemicals that help the body fight disease and aging). DARK-COLORED LEAFY GREENS — Such as arugula, collard greens, mustard greens, kale, spinach, romaine lettuce, endives and bok choy. These veggies pack vitamin A, C, K, iron and folate.

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“Omega-3s affect more body systems than probably any other class of nutrient,� Fly says. “An omega-3 supplement is certainly something to consider.� When speaking to your physician about multivitamins or other supplements, be sure to mention other medications you’re taking as certain drugs and supplements (when taken together) can be harmful for some people. For example, garlic, ginkgo biloba, ginseng and vitamin E can cause bleeding — a bad combination if you are having surgery, Caldwell explains. Two other supplements, kava and valerian, can increase the effects of sedatives. “It’s important to check with your physician on the latest breakthroughs,� Caldwell says. “As consumers, we need to ask the question, ‘Is this the latest information?’� When shopping for supplements, check the nutrition label just like you would on foods, Caldwell says. Dr. Oz suggests purchasing vitamins and other supplements that are labeled, “100 percent daily allowance.� So how do you know if you’re deficient in nutrients? For most people, the symptoms aren’t all that obvious. A micronutrient test, which measures how micronutrients are actually functioning within your white blood cells, can help determine if you’re deficient in any vitamins, minerals or antioxidants.

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Stress less

Tips to get you out the door in the morning without losing your sanity By CHRISTINA HAZELWOOD HECKMAN I Josephine magazine

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ou’ve done it again. You hit that snooze button one time too many, and now you’re in a race against time. Our mornings set the tone for the rest of the day, and with all the potential distractions and delays, many of us get stressed out before we even leave the house. Some simple steps can help reduce that stress and get your day off to a better start.

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“I believe that nurturing our bodies through appropriate nutrition and sleep seems like a sound starting point,” says Vincenza Marash, diversity and women’s issues counselor at Missouri Western State University. “Such practices assist in curbing fatigue, which can slow us down. My overall sense is that a combination of organization and planning, flexibility and mindfulness practice may be most helpful in managing our experience of morning stress.” Lisa Doyle, professional organizer and job coach, says the most common way people waste time in the morning is by not being prepared. Knowing what you are going to wear, what you will have for breakfast and knowing how long it all takes helps you prepare for the morning bustle.

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“Plan out your day the night before, laying out clothes, etc., so it is all ready for you,” Doyle says. “Try on an outfit if you haven’t worn it in awhile to make sure it still fits. Give yourself time to just sit before running headlong into your day. You are much more focused and much more productive.” Sometimes it’s not the lack of planning ahead that gets us. With so many available distractions we can get caught in the morning wasting time we don’t have. Marash says what constitutes wasted time may vary greatly between individuals. Trying to avoid those pitfalls depends solely on each person. She says limiting morning television viewing, which places us in a passive role, frees up valuable minutes for a more spirit-nourishing activity, like conversation and/or mindfulness-based practices such as deep breathing, stretching, journaling, creative visualization or listening to music. Other potential stress management morning guidelines might include the following:

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Create an orderly, livable home space where you can easily locate important items in a hurry. Consider placing a substantial box or basket near exits for to-go items and posting a strategically located bulletin board, to-do list and/or calendar.

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Inventory your current morning time usage by creating a running log of all of the various activities that succeed in getting you and any loved ones out the door and on your way each morning. Record the approximate number of minutes spent in preparing/eating/ cleaning up after breakfast, personal cleaning/dressing/grooming activities, walking/playing-with pets, etc.

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your practices accordingly, by simplifying or streamlining aspects of your routine wherever possible. Consider performing certain tasks (e.g., food preparation, outfit selection) on the previous evening, and/or awakening 10 to 15 minutes earlier each day, to build in sufficient time for life’s little emergencies.

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Each morning, devote 5 to 10 minutes (more where possible) to mindfulness-based practice. Such self-nurturing reminds us (and others) that we are worthy of care.

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Be resourceful by enlisting the assistance and support of loved ones in completing your eclectic morning routine where possible.

“Creatively customizing our morning routine by integrating fundamentals of focus, flexibility and mindfulness sets the emotional and spiritual tone for the remainder of our day and enables us to be more authentically present in our work and relationships,” Marash says. Andrea Higdon, an office assistant in St. Joseph, used to frequently run late, but she made some changes that reduce her morning stress. “I ran late in college a lot because I was younger and more free with my schedule,” Higdon says. “If I am running late for work it is because I woke up late, not necessarily because of any distraction or delay. Now I know what my body needs to wake up on time, and staying up till 1 a.m. isn’t it anymore.” “If I run late for an appointment it is because I didn’t have everything I needed to participate in the meeting and had to back track,” she says. “I keep a detailed list of everything I need and when I need it in my Blackberry. The calendaring system with scheduled reminders is great.”

It can be hard enough just getting ourselves out the door on time, but many women are faced with the additional challenge of motivating children as part of their morning routine. Parenting magazine gives many helpful hints on getting your kids moving and reducing your morning stress level. Do it the night before — Everything that does not have to be done in the morning should be done the night before. Kids should pack their backpack, prepare clothing and set the alarm clock. Create charts — Get dressed, comb hair, make bed, eat breakfast, brush teeth, put on shoes, grab your backpack — and out the door! A morning routine chart with images for prereaders can keep easily distracted children focused. Stay calm — The more you rush in the morning, the slower your kids will move. If the kids are dawdling, stop what you’re doing and see if a hand on the arm or squatting down to make eye contact can get them moving again. Staying calm can have a big effect on adults as well. Choose the tips that will work best for you, or see if you can create your own time-saving, stress-reducing strategies.

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Some used items can work just as well

So, why buy new? By CRYSTAL K. WIEBE I St. Joseph News-Press

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econdhand shopping is in.

According to the National Association of Resale Professionals, Goodwill Industries raked in nearly $2.7 billion in 2010. Goodwill is just one slice of America’s used goods market, which includes some 30,000 consignment, thrift and resale shops, as well as online classified, sales and trading sites.

Chances are, if you’re thinking about purchasing anything (besides food), it’s available used. Jessica Bradley, a 29-year-old criminal intelligence analyst from Kansas City’s northland, estimates that she’s saved thousands over the years buying secondhand. She has scored huge savings online on “like new” and “gently used” college books, appliances, home décor and items for her pets (three dogs and a cat, all acquired secondhand via rescue groups or shelters). “I would say my best purchase was a treadmill,” Bradley says. “Folks buy those new with every intention of using it to get back into shape but end up falling off the wagon and thus selling the barely used treadmill for approximately 75 percent off retail.” Vernis Roberts, 73, operates a secondhand store in St. Joseph. Country Junction, 5403 Lake Ave., features a lot of furniture and other household goods — as the owner says, “Whatever we can get that’s in good shape.” Roberts opened the store six years ago. She used to seek out her inventory but says now people call her, often wanting to unload a whole home’s worth of useful stuff. “A lot of younger people could very easily start out with used furniture,” she says, adding that older dressers, chests and bed frames tend to be sturdier than what’s widely available new. “A lot of it now is being made very flimsy,” she says. “If you get the older pieces, you’re getting more solid wood than you get with the newer ones.” When buying used, Roberts advises avoiding upholstered items with stains or tears. Check that pots and pans aren’t burned, and always plug in lamps and other electrical items to be certain they work. Bradley failed to check the functionality of a Craigslist refrigerator and also overpaid on a lawnmower that only worked to mow the grass a few times. Since then she’s learned to “keep open communication with the seller about returns, just in case.” Before the recent birth of her son Gilmer, Bradley picked up virtually everything he’d need — clothes, nursery furniture and

THREE THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER BUY NEW g PETS — Dogs and cats are overpopulated to begin with and can cost hundreds to thousands of dollars at pet stores or from breeders. Vaccinations, microchipping and spay/neuter costs are usually included in the much lower price of preowned pets from shelters or rescue organizations. They might even already be house trained. g MATERNITY AND BABY CLOTHES — You aren’t pregnant for long, and babies grow fast. Stock up at garage sales, thrift stores or have a kids’ and maternity clothing swap with friends. g SPECIAL-OCCASION AND HOLIDAY CLOTHING — Wedding and other formal dresses can run into the thousands, and most people only wear them once. Vintage gowns are often more unique and memorable anyway. even some cloth diapers — through online sites and garage sales. On its website, Consumer Reports recommends against buying certain products for children and babies, including cribs, bicycle helmets, child safety seats, clothing with drawstrings and toys. Reasons vary and include choking hazards, frequently updated product regulations and product deterioration. Bradley considered those warnings before she bought her baby a used crib. “That’s what Google is for,� she says. Bradley suggests doing the research on any secondhand product, especially anything for a baby, to be sure it is not part of any recall lists. One time, however, the savvy shopper actually got a recall to work out in her favor on a secondhand item. “I bought a recalled baby sling for $1 at a garage sale,� Bradley says. “I sent in the recall paperwork and received a brand new carrier and cute little toy from the retailer.�

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yellow purse is harder to find than you might think. That’s where Sabrina Theas comes in — although she didn’t exactly set out to be a personal shopper. Rather, the 34-year-old Maryville, Mo., woman started purchasing items early this year to sell at home parties as part of Uptown Girlz, a business she began on the side of her fulltime job in quality control at Kawasaki. “It’s just all the stuff women can’t live without,” she says — meaning jewelry, belts, purses, hats and other accessories. It’s also the stuff of slightly surprising success, in the sense that Ms. Theas

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There’s always time for more accessory watches. didn’t expect her business to take off like it has or to be as time-consuming as it’s become. She notes that she spends as much time ordering merchandise, keeping records, preparing for parties and otherwise meeting the demand Uptown Girlz has generated as she does at her day job — but the magnitude of this work hasn’t kept her from going the extra mile and searching for specific, hard-to-find items, like yellow purses, that people tell her they struggle to find themselves. She also tries to stretch herself in terms of what items she stocks for home shows. (To learn more about hosting one, contact Ms. Theas at (816) 294-4075.) “I really try to think outside my preferences,” she says. “One of my first home shows, a purse I personally found unappealing was the first to go.” As a result, her shows tend to have something for everyone, whether they’re in the market for something in an animal print or a little more down-to-earth, such as some particular Western-style belts Terry Runde has a taste for. “You can’t find these in stores, so you have to order them online, and the cost is outrageous. But she’s very reason-

able and really tries to keep prices low,” Ms. Runde says of Ms. Theas, whom she invited for a home party after learning about her through her aunt, Ms. Theas’ landlord. Word of mouth such as this has been Uptown Girlz’ only advertising thus far, but it’s been enough to require Ms. Theas to have some help. Fortunately, she’s surrounded by willing volunteers — including two young neighbor boys who help her tag and display merchandise and a Kawasaki co-worker, Selina James, who assists not only with show preparation but also in brainstorming ideas for the business. “Uptown Girlz is a great concept of someone being able to start their own business while working a full-time job,” Ms. James says, adding of Ms. Theas, “Besides being great at presentations, the girl’s a great gift wrapper. She’s just on top of everything.” And on top is where she hopes to stay — even if it’s not exactly where she planned to be in the first place. “I’m not out to make the Fortune 500,” Ms. Theas says. “But it’s become a lot bigger faster than I ever anticipated.”

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Lisa Regina, who appeared on ‘The Sopranos,’ will be speaking in St. Joseph during ‘A week without violence.’

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pril 2, 2005, is a date that changed the life of Lisa Regina. You may recognize her from the popular TV series “The Sopranos” or the daytime soap “All My Children.” Talking with her on the phone, she reels off April 2, 2005, as if it were a Social Security or phone number. It’s clear she’s gone over this many times before. But as she tells the story about what happened that day, you sense she is still coming to terms with it all.

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Lisa has been a professional actress and acting coach for more than 20 years, but nothing could have prepared her for the assault and resulting press coverage that took place that day. “It was the fifth season of ‘The Sopranos,’” she says slowly, beginning her story. That’s when she met the man who would become her fiance and the person who turned her world upside down. She states at the beginning of the interview that she does not want to discuss him by name. She’s already given him enough attention, she explains. This is not about him; it’s about domestic violence and how it can happen to anyone, rich or poor, educated, famous or not. “When I look back at the signs of an abusive rela-

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tionship, we had them all,� she says. Her ex-fiance was charming and generous during the early days of their courtship, she says. Everything seemed perfect. They had so much in common including a love of the arts. But there were signs of abuse, she says. She just didn’t see them at the time. Or maybe she didn’t want to see them. In either case, he had a bad temper, she says. “I got used to defusing his temper and fell into the role of being able to do that successfully,� she says. “But that day I wasn’t able to.� It was just two months before they planned to get married. They were getting ready to move to California for work and were going to see her parents before they left. But something was wrong. “I could see it in his face, the tension in his jaw,� she says. They started to argue, and then she remembers how he grabbed her hair. It went downhill from there. Next thing she knew she was laying on the street, an ambulance had arrived and her ex-fiance had fled the scene. She had been thrown around like a rag doll. “He weighed around 290 pounds, and I’m a size two,� she says. According to a New York Times report, her ex-fiance “punched her in the head, knocking her into the gearshift of his SUV and drug her out by the hair ... Her face, according to well-circulated tabloid photographs, turned black and blue.� He had never hit her before. “It was the first and last time,� she says. Fortunately for Lisa, she did not give in to the promises that this would never happen again. Abuse is never a one time event — it is part of a dangerous cycle of violence. And it doesn’t matter what the argument may be about, physical violence is always wrong and against the law. She knows this now, but it has not been easy. She went through months and months of counseling and soul searching to understand how such a thing could happen. She still wonders if she can totally trust again. But unlike some women, she has friends and family who continue to give her support. And like the ancient stone that could turn base metal into gold, she has used her talent in writing, acting and directing to produce something good out of the bad. In 2007, Lisa wrote, directed and produced an educational stage performance called, “A Write to Heal.� “I was so traumatized after it happened,� she remembers. “All I had was a pad and pen.� Over a period of year she wrote down her thoughts and feelings, which became the base of the performance which is a collection of monologues, poems and music emerging from the true stories of women who have been victims of domestic violence. It was such a huge hit after

A Write To Heal 6:30 to 7:30 p.m., Oct. 17 MWSU Spratt Auditorium Admission is free g This event is sponsored by the YWCA, Air National Guard — Rosecrans Airlift 139th, Holiday Inn, MWSU Counseling Department, St. Joseph Police Department, Buchanan County Sheriff’s Department, Buchanan County Prosecuting Attorney’s Office, Catholic Charities of Kansas City — St. Joseph, Legal Aid of Western Missouri and United Way of Greater St. Joseph. being performed originally in New York, that she has taken it on the road. In July, Lisa was honored as the keynote speaker at the YWCA World Council’s 2011 International Women’s Summit in Zurich. “The executive director saw it and said it was excellent,� says Kim Kempf, victim

services director at the YWCA in St. Joseph. That is one reason why they have asked Lisa to bring the performance to St. Joseph as part of the YWCA Week Without Violence — a national initiative of the YWCA USA. Celebrated the third week in October, it seeks to mobilize women, men and children to take action against violence in our homes, schools, work places and communities. This year, the week is Oct. 16 through 22. Violence against women is a subject that could not be more timely, Kim says. In the past 10 years, the number of women seeking shelter rose from 283 to 610 in St. Joseph. The length of stay is increasing as well. It’s an issue that concerns everyone, she says. Women and men, as a man so poignantly relayed on the Write to Heal Facebook page: “Part of my journey as a man has been to confront the sad reality of pain and indignity my mother lived through. The abuse she experienced was always kept silent and secret. But in the end it killed her anyway. There is nothing I can do for Mom now, but I can help others survive and recover from domestic violence, and so I will. Keep up this all important work.�

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Expo gets healthier Heartland’s Women’s Wellness Initiative joins 2011 Josephine Expo By JENNIFER GORDON Josephine magazine

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hopping. Cupcakes. Live music. Zumba. The 2011 Josephine Expo Oct. 1 at Civic Arena promises the gamut of activities for women of all ages. Themed “Just Her Style,” the expo will be a little healthier than last year, thanks to a collaboration with Heartland Health. As both the Expo and Heartland’s annual Women’s Wellness Initiative target the fairer sex, the groups teamed up to bring them together in the same venue. “I think we will reach a different audience for both events,” says Shelley Allen, the event planner for Heartland Health. The Wellness Initiative (with a corresponding Just Her Health theme) will take place on the south side of the arena. Rather than the 8:30 a.m. to noon schedule used in the past, the free event will run from 9:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. to allow attendees breaks to explore the Expo, which runs from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Participants who pre-register for the Initiative by calling (816) 271-4098 will receive a free pass to the Expo. Regular price of Expo admission is $5 and free to children under age 12. Panel talks about women’s health issues and a special guest visitor will be on the itinerary as before. This year Heartland also added a healthy cooking demonstration by its registered dietitians. Five canned goods, to be donated to America’s Second Harvest Food Pantry, will earn participants entrance to a Zumba session led by local instructors at 4 p.m. Last year’s Wellness Initiative saw about 500 attendees. Whether they come to the Initiative,

visitors to the Expo will see the magazine brought to life come Oct. 1. “It’s a really great opportunity for our readers to experience what they read each month whether it’s fashion, food or entertainment,” says Expo coordinator (and Josephine contributor) Tamara Clymer. “It’s an opportunity for us to reach out to our readers and get to know them a little bit better and connect with them.” At the merchandise mart, attendees can browse from familiar vendors such as Pampered Chef and Mary Kay as well as offerings from new home-based businesses. Ambitious shoppers can even get started on holiday wish lists. Once again, East Hills Shopping Center will sponsor its much-in-demand fashion show at 11 a.m. and 2 p.m. Men who tag along will appreciate the Expo’s live musical performances. The Phil Vandel Band will play the main

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stage at 10 a.m., Marcus Words at noon, Bob Reeder at 1 p.m. and the Wood Pile at 3 p.m. They might also enjoy the only electric Chevy Volt in the Midwest, which sponsor Randy Reed Chevrolet will have on display. The food court’s fare has been amped up, too. In addition to offerings from sponsor Hy-Vee, visitors can chow down on barbecue and ice cream and sip on beverages, alcoholic or otherwise. A ladies’ night-out, pre-Expo event will be held Thursday, Sept. 29 from 5 to 7 p.m. at Smooth Endings, 3606 Beck Rd. Drink specials and appetizers will be available as well as prize drawings. Tickets to the Expo can be purchased for $5 in advance at the News-Press or at Hy-Vee. Keep an eye out for $1 coupons that will run in the News-Press prior to the event. Tickets also will be available at the door.

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rends are fun. Sometimes cringeworthy, but fun. The real cringes come, however, years later, when that family photo shows big bell bottoms and platform shoes and feathered hair. Or, maybe in the future, skinny jeans and flats and a feather in your hair.

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Trends are fun, but build your wardrobe around basics Still, trends are fun, but the best way to build your wardrobe isn’t around trends, but around basics. Trends can then be worked in to add a contemporary edge without making you look like a fashion victim to-be. The tips break down pretty simply.

g Invest in a few classic pieces. g Stick to neutral colors. g And use jewelry, shoes and bags to add color and stay current with styles. “I think it’s good to have some fun stuff in your closet, get some trends,” says Diana Hietbrink, supervisor at Schweser’s. “But always go back to the basics.”

INVEST IN A FEW CLASSIC PIECES Michelle Carpenter, an attorney and partner at Kranitz and Kranitz, PC, says at first that she might not be the most fashion conscious person to consult for this story. But then she offers some great basics advice. You need a great suit, or two, to look professional. You need a pair of black pumps or heels. She has them open-toed and closed, depending on the occasion. “Always black pants.” And she sticks with blacks and browns for most of her major pieces. Also consider a swing sweater in a black or brown that you can wear over Tshirts in different colors, Hietbrink says. “They are just great pieces to have, to dress up with, or you can make them casual.” She recommends a blazer that you can also dress up or down in black or brown. Add it to dress pants and you’re ready for work, or to jeans and you’re ready for date night. Get a great pair of jeans, she says, and get a style that’s flattering to your figure, which for most of us means not low-cut. And, of course, most basic wardrobes need a little black dress and a black skirt. “These are staples you should always have in your closet,” Hietbrink says.

That’s true regardless of age. “I think everyone, whether it is a high schooler or an adult, can always use a little black dress,” says Ashley Rogers, first store assistant at Maurice’s.

STICK TO NEUTRALS Has the profusion of black and brown struck you yet? These are basics, remember. No one’s suggesting you wear all black all the time. But build your wardrobe around neutrals, all the women suggest, and then add color in with your accessories. “You can always use a gray or black sweater and you can mix or match any color with that,” says Rogers. Carpenter also sticks to blacks, but adds color and texture in with camisoles and shirts. Pair a black suit with a polka dot blouse, she recommends, to add some edge without going overboard. Oprah.com also recommends a classic white shirt, and don’t forget basic Ts and tanks in neutral colors to go with just about everything.

USE JEWELRY, SHOES AND BAGS TO ADD COLOR AND STAY CURRENT Carpenter recently bought a new necklace with a reversible pendant. With a wise investment, she now has a piece that can work double duty. For her, jewelry is a must have. “That’s how you can add different colors and textures to your outfit,” she says. Bags and shoes are also a must, she says, and for professionals, she says a big bag is a great way to stay in style and avoid the briefcase. You don’t have to spend a lot on your accessories, and paying attention to the current colors of the season can help you stay on trend. While building your basics, find the cuts that look best on your body and avoid the latest trends, like skinny jeans or wide legs. Leave those for your extras. And while it’s great to shop bargains and find deals, if you can afford to spend money on these pieces, all the women agree, they’ll last through the seasons and help you look classic, not tragic.

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Dating after divorce can be tough, but those who have been there share what works

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By JENNIFER HALL I Josephine magazine Michelle’s divorce left her in a small apartment with her three children, and Katherine kept her home and has no children. It was at least two years before either Michelle or Katherine entered the dating scene. Both say they needed a little time to themselves to re-evaluate their lives. “I think that’s the biggest mistake people make after a separation,” Katherine says. “They immediately jump to the next person. That does nothing to help figure things out.” Chris Bryant of St. Joseph agrees. He said that starting the dating process before the ink on the divorce papers is dry can cause big trouble. “I know from personal experience,” he says. “Even though my marriage was over, there were still a lot of feelings, and that can lead to a lot of fights.”

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The best thing to do is wait. Celibacy isn’t forever, but until one relationship is finished, it is best to put the brakes on starting a new one. But when you’re ready, here are a few tips:

g Where do you want to meet your significant other? Many new singles tend to flock to the bar scene, but this can be a big no-no. Remember, you’re probably not a spring chicken, and this may not be the lifestyle you’re looking for. Look for future partners in the places you frequent most. If you’re into sports, your church or other activities, that might be your best bet. g Take it easy. You just got out of a very serious relationship, so have a little fun and flirt with the idea that you have choices now. g Keep your children in the dark at first. If you have children from your previous

marriage, be up front about that, but don’t bring them along on your dates. This not only confuses the children but also leads to heartbreak if the relationship doesn’t work out and attachments are formed. Plus, you want to get to know someone before you have them around your kids. g When you realize you’ve got a keeper, introduce the person to your children, and be honest. Calling your new boyfriend or girlfriend a “friend” only complicates things. Don’t forget your children are taking mental notes and learning every step of the way for their own future relationships. Don’t misguide them. g If there comes a time when overnight visits are going to happen, be respectful. Finding a sitter for those occasional times might be the best option.

While her children have their own spaces, the living quarters are quite close for Michelle. “This already poses a very real problem for having anyone over for a romantic dinner,” she says. “But I don’t mind. My kids have always come first.” And as the relationship progresses, don’t be afraid to include your children and set aside alone time for just the two of you. There has to be a good balance. Even though divorcees like Katherine have a little more freedom, there is a completely different set of issues. Loneliness is the biggest battle after a divorce. “Once you overcome that, you’re fine,” she says. “I learned to fill that void with friends and family.” Remember to take it one step at a time — even if you’re ready — and don’t compare every person you date to your ex. Doing so will create a false sense of love. “Everything looks better when you were so miserable for so long,” Chris says. “If you take your time, you can sift through and find what you’re really looking for.”

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ALONZO WESTON is a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press. The St. Joseph native has served on the News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.

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t’s beginning to look a lot like 19th century Europe around here. Most every guy you see nowadays is sporting a beard or some other type of facial hair. I see spitting images of Benjamin Disraeli, Charles Dickens and Karl Marx in restaurants, grocery stores, shopping centers and on pitching mounds. San Francisco Giants pitcher Brian Wilson looks more suited for a Smith Brothers cough drop box than the mound. Milwaukee Brewers slugger Prince Fielder looks like a 300-pound black Fidel Castro. And Tiger Woods? Does he actually think that growing a beard will help his game? But there he is, the once smooth-shaven chosen one, looking like a Cablinasian William Shakespeare. Come to think of it, it was William Shakespeare who wrote in “Much Ado about Nothing” that “He that hath a beard is more than a youth, and he that hath no beard is less than a man.” Personally, I think the whole beard craze is much ado about nothing. Sorry William, but beards are no indication of manliness. Heck, Peewee Herman once grew a beard. And no one would call “Mad Men’s” cleanshaven Dan Draper less than a man. I was able to grow a full beard at 16 years old. I wore it in high school to impress the girls. Facial hair never impressed the coaches, however. It was mandatory back then that you not have any facial hair if you wanted to go out for sports. I always thought that was a silly rule. What did facial hair have to do with performance? I never saw it stop Magic Johnson. I suspect the rule about being clean shaven in high school probably had

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more to do with age requirements than ability. I know a few guys who played high school sports just this side of 20 years old. They didn’t mind shaving because it kept the age-eligibility doubts to a minimum. After school, I started wearing a full beard and jean and army jackets to look like a rebel. I never trimmed it but just let it grow as long and as scraggly as I could. Even in a suit I looked like a hobo. I see young guys and movie stars now doing the same thing. They let their beards grow long and unkempt like the grass in an abandoned lot. It’s the new sexy look. One beard style I don’t get is the Pa Kettle chin beard. It’s a long hillbilly-looking beard that makes the wearer look like he belongs on a can of Mountain Dew or as an extra in the movie “Deliverance.” Whenever I see somebody wearing one of those, I swear I hear “Dueling Banjos.” My beard growth is seasonal nowadays. I usually start growing one in October. But now I keep it short and neat, trimmed to a two-week stubble. With my bald head some say it makes me look scholarly. But my beard is gray now and all that says to me is old. I tried dyeing it jet black once for a family reunion. That was a mistake. It stuck out like a bad toupee. It looked as fake as the magnetic metal shavings that made up “Wooly Willy’s” beard. You remember the old toy. I fooled no one, but like “Wooly Willy,” I provided hours of fun. Everyone laughed.

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oday I was wondering, do they give you special classes in med school on how to scare the life out of someone? I am sorry to offend, and mostly this is my own fear talking, but I cannot think of one thing scarier than going to the doctor. Here is why. Let’s say you have something growing on your finger, and you assume it is a wart. You call your physician to make an appointment to have it removed. You show up at the office, otherwise healthy, and they tell you to have a seat in the waiting room. There you are coughed on by a man who you are convinced has tuberculosis, a child covered in a rash (possibly the beginning of leprosy) grabs your shirt to wipe his nose, and a lady who is holding her hand to her heart keeps asking you, “Do I look blue to you?” Thinking you have been rescued when they call your name to release you from the waiting room, you quickly realize things just got worse. You are escorted to a large, Medieval, metal machine, and the nurse invites you to step up on it. You watch as she moves the smaller weights to the end and grabs the largest weight and pulls it to the forefront. She keeps scooting that massive weight higher and higher, and with each nudge she gives a disapproving shake of her head. “Hum,” she replies, as she writes your weight on your chart. You are then taken to a room where more numbers are written down. Those numbers apparently determine the level of chastisement you will receive once the “big guy in white” comes in. After you have been reduced to numbers on a page, they leave you with your own thoughts in a cold, sterile room with a bright light similar to those used by mobsters during interrogations. You are surrounded by charts on

the walls that show only your guts and bones, and small ceramic replicas of your organs adorn the desk. You begin to imagine what diseases are lurking just under your pink skin. You reach up and check your pulse, which is now racing. You hear movement on the other side of the door, and just like in every horror show you ever saw, the door slowly creaks open, and there he is! The decider of your fate! Now your breathing is so shallow you are about to pass out. You lay back while he looks at the tiny blemish on your finger and says, “Well, we better run some tests.” TESTS!?!?! No way! This was supposed to be just a tiny little wart! He walks out and schedules to have the growth removed and you overhear him telling his assistant this will need to be sent off. The room starts to go black, as the nurse tells you to take a deep breath and relax. Three weeks later, the tests come back. Just what they thought. It was a wart, but now the doctor would like for you to come in and talk with him about why your blood pressure is high. You begin yelling at the nurse on the phone, “I can already tell you why it is high. It is because he scared it that way! Let me walk around with him all day and jump out from behind things and yell diseases at him and I guarantee, by the end of the day, his pressure reading might be a bit out of the normal range.” She replies with, “Great, we will see you next Tuesday.” I swear, going to a doctor’s office can cause you to need medication.

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getting real

Strange medicine Just going to the doctor can raise your blood pressure

STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist

who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”

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LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held

Once a foodie, always a foodie

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was sitting in my master naturalist class when the discussion turned to the reintroduction of elk into Missouri. Thinking about elk, a large ruminant, my thoughts then turned to moose and yes, immediately to mousse. Chocolate in fact. So I went home and made one. The mousse range must be larger than the elk range since it encompasses both sweet and savory. The following sweet mousse recipes are chocolate dessert favorites.

Simple 1-2-3 chocolate mousse 10 ounces semisweet chocolate (use good chocolate, it makes a difference) 1/4 cup brewed espresso at room temperature (or dissolve instant espresso in 1/4 cup hot water, let cool) 5 extra large egg whites Pinch of salt Chop chocolate into small pieces. Place in heavy saucepan with espresso. Place over very low heat, stir constantly until chocolate melts, let cool slightly. In bowl of electric mixer, beat egg whites with a pinch of salt until stiff peak stage. Slowly add chocolate mixture, beat on low 10 seconds, then use rubber spatula and fold mixture together until thoroughly incorporated. (The whites will deflate quite a bit, but the mixture will become creamy and smooth.) Do not over mix. Spoon mousse into four coffee cups or wine glasses. Refrigerate several hours before serving.

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Cold chocolate mousse is a wonderful recipe masquerading as a soufflé. (FYI: Mousse means “foam” in French.) In a typical French bistro, chocolate mousse is served from a large communal bowl. You can do the same thing, but for a more elegant presentation use the following. 2 envelopes unflavored gelatin 1 cup cold water 8 eggs, separated 3/4 cup granulated sugar 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 1/4 cup all purpose flour 2 cups whole milk 12 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, finely chopped 2 cups heavy cream 1/4 teaspoon salt Solid chocolate for garnish (optional) Sprinkle gelatin over cold water, leave for 10 minutes. In a heavy saucepan, combine egg yolks, 1/2 cup sugar, vanilla, flour, milk and softened gelatin, cook over low heat until the custard coats the back of a wooden spoon. Remove from heat. Cool, stirring from time to time so the mixture does not become lumpy. Melt the chocolate, let cool then stir chocolate into the custard mixture. Whip the cream to soft peak stage (keep in refrigerator until needed). Beat egg whites until frothy, then add salt and remaining sugar and beat until stiff peak stage. Transfer custardchocolate mixture to a large bowl, carefully fold in whipped cream. Next gently fold in egg whites until no white streaks remain. Using a 2-quart soufflé dish,

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in the Oriental Hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.

make a collar around the top with some aluminum foil, extending it about 3 inches above the rim. Gently spoon mixture into prepared dish and refrigerate at least four hours or overnight. For those suffering from “terminal choco-mania,” drizzle a mixture of Grand Marnier and chocolate sauce over the top just before serving.

Modern chocolate mousse A traditional chocolate mousse uses uncooked eggs; this recipe uses a cooked custard base. 10 ounces bittersweet chocolate, chopped 3/4 cup milk 2 tablespoons granulated sugar 4 large egg yolks 2 teaspoons Cognac, dark rum or Grand Marnier 1/2 cup cream Place chocolate in a large heatproof bowl. In medium saucepan, heat milk and sugar, stirring to dissolve sugar. In a medium bowl, whisk egg yolks, then gradually add about 1/4 of the milk mixture, constantly whisking to prevent the yolks from cooking. Pour mixture back into saucepan and cook over low heat, stirring constantly. When the mixture is thick enough to coat the back of a spoon, pour through a mesh strainer onto the chocolate. Whisk gently until the chocolate is melted and the mixture is smooth, then stir in liquor. Let cool completely, cover and refrigerate until chilled. Whip cream to soft peak stage. Fold a large spoonful of whipped cream into the chocolate to lighten it, then gently fold in the rest until there are no streaks of cream. Cover and refrigerate for at least two hours.

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