Josephine September 2011

Josephine September 2011

St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

After the diagnosis So you and your doctor know what’s wrong.

Now what do you do?

In the spirit of philanthropy Mary Hinde makes it easier for people to give back to their community

Awkward!

How to handle those difficult situations

Garage sale secrets Get some tips from pros to make the most money from your unwanted stuff from the

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Physician panels and presentations about women’s heart issues, cancer and more

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Our staff Editor Jess DeHaven jess.dehaven@newspressnow.com Presentation editor Paul Branson paul.branson@newspressnow.com Photo editor Todd Weddle todd.weddle@newspressnow.com Writers Sylvia Anderson Tamara Clymer Shea Conner Jennifer Gordon Jennifer Hall Kristen Hare Lisa Horn Christina Hazelwood Heckman Kevin Krauskopf Betsy Lee Stacey Mollus Kim Norvell Alonzo Weston Crystal Wiebe Erin Wisdom Cathy Woolridge Photography Eric Keith Jessica Stewart Matt Reid

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Cover photography by Matt Reid/Josephine magazine

cover girl Mary Hinde has community betterment in her blood. The president and CEO of Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri is the fourth generation on both sides of her family to stay in the area — although she also has an extensive background in humanitarian work overseas.

But she’s concentrating her efforts at home now, hoping through her leadership of Community Foundation to better Northwest Missouri by empowering others to reach their charitable goals.

Ms. Hinde has led the organization — which allows people to establish funds for charitable giving that offer substantial tax benefits — since its inception in 2009, and she is passionate about helping it reach its full potential.

“I get excited about getting to create a stronger culture in this area,” she says.

Read more about Ms. Hinde and Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri on page 16.

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Fuel up You can have a good breakfast without putting yourself behind

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Weight, weight, don’t tell me It’s not just junk food and lack of exercise that make it hard to drop a few pounds

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Close encounters of the awkward kind You can maneuver through uncomfortable situations

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A giving spirit Mary Hinde puts her passion for philanthropy to use in helping others follow theirs

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Dissecting the diagnosis What happens once you know what’s wrong

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Plan ahead When is it time to consider long-term care options?

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Garage sale 101 Make the most with tips from the pros

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The base for your face Creating a look that will carry you through

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YOUR DREAM IS OUT THERE. GO GET IT. WE’LL PROTECT IT.

By JESS DEHAVEN We’ve all been in situations where we’ve said something we shouldn’t have, run into someone we’ve been avoiding or encountered a person whose zipper is not as it should be.

Yeah, it’s awkward, and no doubt in these situations we haven’t handled things as gracefully as we would’ve liked. It’s hard to know just the right thing to say and do, so we had our Cathy Woolridge talk to some experts to give you pointers the next time you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation. Turn to Page 14 for those tips.

Receiving a life-threatening medical diagnosis is another situation that can leave you feeling bewildered. Whether it’s breast cancer or diabetes, there are some things you need to get a handle on as soon as possible in order to have the best outcome and to calm your fears.

Jennifer Gordon’s story on Page 20 offers a rundown on some of your first steps.

And just a reminder that this year’s Josephine Expo is only a month away. I hope you’re making plans to join us for some great exhibits, shopping, food and entertainment from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Oct. 1 at Civic Arena. I promise it will be a good time!

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september2011 area events

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Every Monday 9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weightloss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn.

Sept. 19 and 27 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail millergloria@ att.net.

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Sept. 6 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371.

Call 238-7503.

Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village.

7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum.

Call 262-9684.

Sept. 8 9:30 a.m., St. Joseph Garden Club meeting, “Autumn Leaves” by Mary Smith, Joyce Raye Patterson Senior Citizens Center, guests welcome. Call 232-9151.

6 p.m. “The Drugging of Our Children,” learn how commonly prescribed drugs affect your children, Green Family Chiropractic, 1338 N. Belt Highway, 387-8994, greenchirofamily. com.

6:30 p.m. St. Jo Women On The Go, Moila, dinner, $15.

Call 279-4583 for reservations.

Sept. 15 5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person.

Call 232-9750.

Sept. 22 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 390-8081.

7 p.m., The Northwest Mo. Genealogy Society will present Laura Waugh in a Civil War ladies’ dress, “A Stitch in Time,” Corby Building, 14th floor, Fifth and Felix streets. Call 233-0524.

Every Friday Friday Night Wine Tastings, 5 to 8 p.m., Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.

Every Saturday 7 a.m. Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village Sept. 17 9:30 a.m., Southside Fall Festival 5K run/walk, follows parade route, register at Performance Plus Rehabilitation Center or online at www.enter2run.com.

Call 232-5113 for more information.

Proceeds of the 5K benefit the Benton High School Scholarship Fund.

Sept. 20 6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. Call 232-7462.

Sept. 27 10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 279-1947.

7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258.

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Sept. 24 10 a.m., Teacher Appreciation Day, music and snacks, Green Family Chiropractic, 1338 N. Belt Highway, 387-8994, greenchirofamily. com.

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Dating 101 RELATE. We all mess up, but in the dating world, even a little slip up can suddenly seem like a big deal. Men’s Health offers these tips for how to move past, and in some cases avoid, common goof-ups: Word play: So your pronunciation of “pollo” on the Mexican menu made your Spanish-speaking date cringe. Instead of mumbling about your years of French, laugh it off. Laughing at yourself never hurts.

Too much information: You did a double-take at the guy in the ticket line during your romantic evening. While honesty usually is the best policy, there’s no need to alert your partner every time.

Just make sure it doesn’t happen too often.

Share instead of force your interests: Save the Taylor Swift concert for your girlfriends. If you want to introduce your partner to a favorite band, casually sample a track first.

Step away from the ice cream HEALTH. Eating a half-gallon of ice cream in one sitting or a dozen cookies at midnight is not about hunger. They call it stress eating, and it can be brought on by any stressful event, such as you are overdrawn at the bank, your co-worker is acting like a jerk or the kids won’t be quiet. Stress may increase your desire for doughnuts, ice cream and other high-fat or sugary foods, but you don’t have to give in.

Instead, recognize what’s happening. When stressful events or thoughts trigger the urge to eat, stop and evaluate first. Are you hungry or not? Often, negative emotions trigger what feels like hunger but is really just a habitual response to eat to get rid of negative feelings. Then choose a healthy, stress-busting alternative such as going for a walk or run, listening to music, calling a friend for a chat, brushing your cat or dog or just sitting quietly.

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Stock up

Beauty from the inside out

MONEY. By stockpiling groceries, you’ll not only be able to purchase more items when they’re on sale and save them for later (just stick meat and bread in the freezer), but you’ll also be able to skip shopping trips.

Often, unnecessary items are purchased on these trips (especially if the kids are along). Elisabeth Leamy, consumer correspondent for “Good Morning America,” says many people can get by on the food they already have for a week, so why not skip shopping once a month or once a quarter? If you’re used to shopping every week and spending $7,500 a year, then skipping the trip once a month could save you $1,800 (or 24 percent) of your annual grocery bill.

BEAUTY. Elle magazine has some advice for beautifying skin from within. Besides glow-getting ingredients like vitamins A and C, leafy greens are high in natural estrogens that can be beneficial as you age and your own estrogens are in shorter supply. “When estrogens decrease, you can supplement them with plant estrogens,” says dermatologist Dr. Cheryl Burgess. “Broccoli has a very high content, as do sweet potatoes. They’ll both make your skin look pretty nice.”

Missing you WHAT IS HE THINKING? Our Kevin Krauskopf has this thought to share with women: Men and women deal with being apart from their significant other in different ways, especially if it’s only for a few days. Of course we miss you while you’re out of town, and we’ll still call you up to see how your weekend’s going. But, in some ways, we look forward to the chance to catch up with old friends or waste a day conquering the latest video game — as long as we know you’ll be back soon.

Fuel up You can have a good breakfast without putting yourself behind

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By BETSY LEE

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n the morning, it’s important to take a break. Fast.

Few are immune to the pressures of getting ready and out the door in the morning. And even though the importance of breakfast is well known, many of us still find it hard to get proper nutrition during the morning meal.

So how do you get a healthy breakfast, pronto?

Sheri Caldwell, registered dietitian with Hy-Vee, and Sarah Wood, registered dietitian with Heartland Wellness Connections, share their quick and healthy breakfast ideas.

COLD CEREAL Cereal is the typical quick breakfast food. But watch out, cereals with too much sugar aren’t healthy and can lead to weight gain. Choose wholegrain cereals with little added sugar.

“A cereal with five grams or more of fiber and less than 10 grams of sugar per serving is usually a pretty good choice,” Wood says. “I really love Kashi cereals. They are usually organic, high in fiber with a light sweetness.”

To add to your cereal’s nutrition, Caldwell suggests topping cereals with dried fruit or seeds. And don’t forget to choose your milk wisely. Fat-free or 1 percent milk will add less sugar and calories to your breakfast than other milks.

MAKE AND TAKE For those who don’t even have time to sit down, you can make a quick and healthy breakfast spending just five minutes in the kitchen.

Caldwell suggests making a fruit, nut and yogurt parfait. Opting for Greek yogurt can add extra protein, which will sustain you throughout the morning. Make sure you look for a low-sugar yogurt.

Simply spreading peanut butter on whole-grain bread is another idea.

Protein is often key to waylaying the mid-morning munchies. But eggs, a great option for protein, take time to cook. Wood says hardboiled eggs are an easy way to get your protein. Just grab one, along with a piece of fruit, as you are running out the door.

You also can make eggs quickly in the microwave. Toss in a whole-wheat tortilla with some cheese.

And though cookies are usually reserved for snacks, they can make a quick and healthy breakfast. Homemade breakfast cookies made with whole-grain oats and flours, flaxmeal,

wheat germ and dried fruits are good and good for you.

And if you often find yourself too rushed to prepare anything at all, make a homemade trail mix to keep at the office. Mix seeds, nuts and dried fruit, then store in an airtight container. Your mix will keep you going throughout the day, while streamlining your morning process.

DRIVE-THRU Sometimes, picking up food at a fast food restaurant or grocery store is the best option for breakfast. But, whatever you do, stay away from the muffins.

“For some reason they seem to have this health halo around them, but there really isn’t anything healthy about a muffin. It’s really just a cupcake without the frosting,” Wood says.

“A whole-grain muffin might not be a bad choice, but most muffins are made with white flour and contain very little if any real fruit. Also the amount of sugar and calories in a muffin is often just as much, if not more than, what you would find in a doughnut.”

At fast food restaurants, stick with English muffins or toast. These breads have fewer calories and fat than biscuits or other types starches. And avoid high-fat meats, such as sausage, bacon and steak.

Here are a few other breakfast recipe ideas:

Yogurt fruit smoothie 20 ounces 100 percent fruit juice (pineapple, orange, apple, etc.)

2 cups low fat vanilla yogurt 1 pound frozen fruit (strawberries, raspberries, peaches, etc.)

Pour all ingredients into smoothie maker and blend. If mixture seems too thick, pour in additional fruit juice. Pour into cups and serve. Makes six servings, 8 ounces each.

Tips: Try different fruit juices and frozen fruits to create various delicious flavors. A calciumfortified fruit juice will provide additional calcium.

Using frozen fruit provides an icy texture and eliminates the need for ice.

— Sheri Caldwell, registered dietitian with Hy-Vee

Breakfast cookie 2 cups bran flakes, crushed 2 cups oatmeal 2 tablespoons wheat germ 1½ tablespoons cinnamon 1/2 cup plain yogurt 1 cup unsweetened applesauce 1 teaspoon vanilla 1/3 cup honey 1 egg, beaten 1/4 cup skim milk powder

1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 cup raisins Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Crush bran flakes and place in a medium-sized mixing bowl.

Add oatmeal, wheat germ and cinnamon. Set aside. In a medium mixing bowl, combine yogurt, applesauce, vanilla, honey, beaten egg and skim milk powder and mix well to combine. Add baking soda and baking powder to the yogurt mixture and mix well. Gradually add the crushed bran flake and oatmeal mixture to the yogurt mixture and stir well. Add raisins. Scoop a heaping tablespoon of the cookie batter and roll into a ball shape. Place onto a parchment paper lined cookie sheet, and lightly flatten the cookie. Bake for 15 to 18 minutes. Makes 24 cookies.

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Quick omelet 1 container of Egg Beaters Fresh veggies such as broccoli, red peppers, mushrooms or avocado 1 tablespoon of cheese Place 1/2 cup of Egg Beaters in a microwavesafe bowl. Microwave according to directions on the package. When nearly halfway cooked, open microwave and add fresh veggies and cheese.

Complete cooking process.

— Sarah Wood, registered dietitian with Heartland Wellness Connections

Remember when you and she would play dress up for hours letting the afternoon slip away? Those were big shoes to fill!

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Weight, weight, don’t tell me It’s not just junk food and lack of exercise that make it hard to drop a few pounds

By KRISTEN HARE Josephine magazine

The traditional wisdom about losing weight hasn’t changed much over the years.

Eat well and exercise.

But what if those two things alone aren’t giving you results? Is it time to get extreme or start considering other factors in your life?

While they might not seem directly related, several other issues can lead to weight gain or give you trouble losing weight. Here, we’ll break them down and offer some suggestions on how to deal with them.

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SLEEP Lack of sleep, says Sheri Caldwell, HyVee store dietician, can actually lead to weight gain.

“Sleep deprivation can absolutely influence weight gain,” she says.

That’s because your body will send signals that it’s hungry when it’s really just looking for energy to keep you going.

Lack of sleep also can cause people to turn to food as a coping mechanism, according to WebMD. While it can be hard, adults should try and get the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep each night, according to the Mayo Clinic. If you’ve established good sleep habits but still feel tired during the day, consider a trip to your family doctor to see if other factors are making you tired.

It’s common for women to have abnormal menstrual cycles, she says, and birth control pills and the hormones found in many foods can contribute to that.

“That imbalance, plus stress on top of that, is a big factor of why women and men can’t lose weight,” she says.

WebMD notes that high blood pressure medications and heartburn medications also can contribute to weight gain.

The site recommends talking with your family doctor about the issue and not getting off any medications until approved by that doctor.

“It never hurts to have an extra set of eyes on it.”

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You still have to eat well and exercise.

Find an activity that you love, like gardening or running through the playground with your little one, and do it for 30 minutes each day, Caldwell recommends.

Pay attention to your portion sizes, she says, and don’t eat something just because it’s there and convenient. Plan ahead to be healthy.

She also recommends getting a routine physical, and if you suspect something else may be leading to weight gain, seek out a professional opinion, but also stand up for yourself.

“A key with this is to be an advocate with your health,” Caldwell says.

It’s hard to find anyone not affected by stress these days, but our bodies weren’t meant to experience it full time, says Caldwell.

“It seems to increase certain hormone levels like cortisol,” she says.

The Mayo Clinic recommends learning to recognize your own signs of stress and finding relaxing techniques, like yoga or meditation, to help you manage it.

Green often has her patients get on a supplement to help balance out their adrenal glands. It’s not for long, she says, and if you’re concerned that you’re not handling stress well, see your doctor or chiropractor.

MEDICATIONS Medicine is supposed to make you better, but Caldwell says medications with steroids, such as antidepressants, can cause weight gain.

WebMD also lists medicines such as contraceptives and those to treat diabetes as culprits.

“I see a lot of hormone imbalances that lead to weight gain,” says Dr. Crystal Green, a St. Joseph chiropractor.

A Healing Touch

MEDICAL CONDITIONS Hypothyroidism and the rarer Cushing syndrome can lead to weight gain, too, Caldwell says.

Symptoms include fatigue, swelling and lethargy.

Again, go to your family doctor for a checkup if you’re experiencing any of these issues.

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Awkward!

You can maneuver through uncomfortable situations

By CATHY WOOLRIDGE Josephine magazine

A friend was hosting a toy party when one guest asked another guest when her baby was due. An innocent question ... except the lady wasn’t pregnant.

Oh ... How many of us have been there and done that?

Awkward situations happen to all of us. We don’t ask for them, sometimes we walk straight into them, but we all wish we could avoid them. While avoiding those situations may be impossible, there are ways to handle them that will make it less embarrassing for everyone involved.

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“How people handle awkward situations depends largely on their ability to experience, regulate and tolerate emotions,” says Tina Sanborn, a marriage and family therapist in St. Joseph and the Liberty, Mo., area.

She says we typically learn how to have and express emotion or not have and express emotion from our families. If we haven’t been taught how to handle emotions in a healthy way, then it can be difficult to handle awkward situations.

“The reality is that people typically have an emotional response that they themselves are uncomfortable with,” Sanborn says. “Because they don’t want to feel uncom-

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fortable themselves, they turn away or avoid the situation all together.�

However, avoidance doesn’t really work.

But here’s something that can — etiquette.

Etiquette, says Janis Kliethermes, owner of Etiquette Kansas City (etiquettekansas city.com), plays a starring role in being able to handle just about any situation that you find yourself in. If you’re thinking you’ll need to enroll in one of Kliethermes’ classes to learn the basics of handling awkward situations, you would be wrong.

The etiquette expert says it all boils down to showing a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T. In other words, put yourself in the other person’s shoes, say both Kliethermes and Sanborn.

It’s a simple concept, but maybe you’re wondering just how the etiquette of respect can help you handle awkward situations. We asked Kliethermes to give us a few tips for handling common scenarios.

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ASKING SOMEONE WHEN THEY ARE DUE AND THEY’RE NOT PREGNANT: You could do what the guest at the toy party did and blame the hostess (not very respectful of anyone’s feelings).

Kliethermes offers a better approach — “don’t ever, ever ask.�

In this case, silence is golden.

However, if you do insert your foot in your mouth, it’s better to apologize, the etiquette expert says.

RUNNING INTO SOMEONE WHOSE NAME YOU CAN’T REMEMBER: That happens to everybody, Kliethermes says, adding that “It’s always better to ask than to think you know their name.�

Say something like, “I’m sorry, tell me your name again.�

Or, if you’re with someone else, say something like,� This is my friend (or hubby or whatever) Mike. Mike, this is ...� Chances are the person whose name you can’t remember will introduce herself/himself to “Mike.�

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BEING ASKED OUT BY SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT REALLY INTERESTED IN:

Booths Merchandise Mart Hy-Vee Food Court Live Music East Hills Fashion Shows See the Chevy Volt with Randy Reed Chevrolet

“As a woman, we’ve a gazillion and two excuses,� Kliethermes says.

And those excuses don’t include having to wash your hair, ladies. No, tell the person you’re not looking for a relationship right now or you’re already involved in a relationship. Above all, consider the other person’s feelings. “Just let them down easy,� Kliethermes says.

RUNNING INTO SOMEONE YOU’VE BEEN AVOIDING: How you handle the situation will depend on why you are avoiding them.

If you’re in a group, smile, nod and offer to call the person later to discuss the situation. “It’s better to take the high road,� Kliethermes says. “You don’t want to create drama or a scene.�

SOMEONE WITH THEIR ZIPPER DOWN: You want to look away but the undies (and hopefully the person is wearing a pair) take center stage with a peek-a-boo act. “Don’t announce it in front of everyone,� Kliethermes says.

Put yourself in that person’s place. You wouldn’t want someone announcing your opening act, would you? No, quietly and politely let the person know they need to zip their pants.

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A giving spirit

Mary Hinde puts her passion for philanthropy to use by helping others follow theirs

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Mary Hinde is CEO of Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri.

By ERIN WISDOM Josephine magazine

t’s the stuff stories of saints are made of: Helping refugees in war-torn countries, highlighting the plights of oppressed women in the Middle East, leading mission trips year after year to places like Mexico and Guatemala.

Although she makes no comparison between herself and Mother Theresa, Mary Hinde’s resume includes all of these.

But it also includes work she considers just as important, right here at home.

“I feel like we have different seasons in our lives,” says the 49year-old St. Joseph native, “and I feel like this is my time to pour into the community that raised me.”

Ms. Hinde is the president and CEO of Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri, which was established in 2009 as a public charity serving 15 counties. Because it has a 501(c)3 tax designation, it allows individuals and businesses maximum tax advantages in donating to charities through accounts they establish with the foundation. (Although about 700 such foundations exist throughout the United States, this is the first of its kind in this area.)

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In a professional sense, Ms. Hinde’s background — which includes 15 years as an interior designer — didn’t exactly make Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri an obvious progression in her career path. But in a personal sense, it’s a perfect fit; her family history is filled with community-enriching endeavors. Among many other things, her grandfather worked to establish the Kansas City Zoo and Starlight Theatre. Her mother founded the Kansas City no-kill animal shelter Wayside Waifs. And when her father died, a long list he left behind revealed all the charities he was fond of supporting.

In other words: Community betterment is in her blood. And the principles for achieving it aren’t any different, really, than ones she’s used in her own home at Christmas — deciding with her husband and two sons which charities to donate to — or halfway around the world, in arranging for a shipment of wheelchairs to go to disabled refugees in Afghanistan. At the heart of both has been identifying needs and giving to meet them, and now, Ms. Hinde thrives on helping others do the same.

“I really like to see people excited about achieving their philanthropic goals,” she says.

She adds that going forward, she hopes to make a comprehensive data package so the counties in Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri’s coverage area “will understand who they are,” both in terms of economic opportunities and how charitable gifts can best be used.

She’d also like to see more collaboration between the counties in the region.

Karen Graves, one of the founders of Community Foundation of Northwest Missouri and a member of its board of directors, notes the importance and potentially far-reaching impact of the foundation’s efforts.

“We think it will increase philanthropy, which could help stabilize industries in the midst of government (funding) cut-backs. And it can insure people can give support to their causes long after they’re gone,” she says, adding that Ms. Hinde is perfect for the role of leading the fledgling foundation. “She is very intelligent, very organized and, probably the best thing, she sticks with it. She is just extremely dedicated.”

For Ms. Hinde, it’s actually hard to know how to be otherwise.

“I was raised with the concept that in order to make the community a better place, you give back,” she says. “ ... If you don’t give back, you don’t get. Giving is the most important thing you’ll do.”

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Dissecting the diagnosis What happens once you know what’s wrong

By JENNIFER GORDON St. Joseph News-Press

No matter how minor the problem, hearing the doctor say there’s something wrong is never easy.

In fact, says Kristen Thatcher, most patients she works with don’t process what the doctor says at all. The breast health nurse navigator with Heartland Health encourages women to go home after their first appointment and write down all their thoughts and concerns to help them sort through the information.

From breast cancer to type 2 diabetes, what comes after a lifechanging diagnosis can be overwhelming. Area specialists help shed some light on what to expect.

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BREAST OUTCOME During the course of her work day, Ms. Thatcher holds a lot of hands. Though the most common cancer among women, every case of breast cancer comes with shock.

Ms. Thatcher recommends patients educate themselves on their options so that they understand more about their diagnosis. Breast cancer doesn’t necessarily mean double mastectomies or chemotherapy. “Play an active part in your treatment,�

Ms. Thatcher says. “Patients used to say, ‘Whatever you say, Doc,’ but now physicians, patients and family members play a part in coming up with the treatment that works best for the patient.�

Voice any concerns to the physician because not long after diagnosis, a group of specialists will get together to determine the course of action.

As decisions often will be both difficult and emotional, Ms. Thatcher recommends a family member or friend be kept up-to-date on your treatment to provide support.

The Breast Cancer Center also will connect patients to survivors, a process Ms. Thatcher says helps patients learn what to expect at a certain stage of treatment or feel reassured about their prognosis.

Play an active part in your treatment.

Patients used to say, ‘Whatever you say Doc,’ but now physicians, patients and family members play a part in coming up with that treatment that works best for the patients.

the age of 20 have a form of diabetes.

It’s so common, many women see the type 2 diagnosis coming, even if they learn about it when they present with another related condition, such as a bladder infection or a heart attack, says Dr. Junping Yang, an endocrinologist at Heartland.

Patients should address their diet first.

Too many sweets will lead to arterial damage, so they need to cut out simple sugars and trade carbohydrate-heavy snacks for nuts. Portion control and smaller meals also will help. “It’s one of the most important management tools we try to employ,� Dr. Yang says. “The medicine, the insulin, is only a supplement. If you don’t control your eating, you will not bring your (blood) sugar down.�

In some cases, type 2 diabetes will be helped through weight loss, so exercise should also be added into the routine.

If the whole family gets involved in the changes, they’re more likely to take hold. — KRISTEN THATCHER, Heartland Health breast health nurse navigator A patient will have a really difficult time eating healthy if everyone around her opts for fried food and other bad-for-you fare.

But with the lifestyle adjustments come DIABETIC SHOCK a condition that’s pretty manageable, The American Diabetes Association Dr. Yang adds, unlike other autoimmune estimates 10.8 percent of women over diseases he sees in his practice.

HEART OF THE MATTER Though the words “heart disease� might strike the patient like a lightening bolt, the condition rarely comes without contributing risk factors. Fortunately, most of the big ones — high cholesterol, hypertension, diabetes, smoking and family history — the patient can manage.

People can quit smoking. Through a healthy diet, patients can control blood sugar, weight and cholesterol levels. Medication will address high blood pressure.

Focusing on what to do to cut the risk factors often helps with the sense of helplessness that can accompany the diagnosis, says Dr. Jane Schwabe, a cardiothoracic surgeon with Heartland Health.

Depression sometimes comes along with a serious diagnosis, but Dr. Schwabe says patients should take comfort in the help and resources available for heart disease. “One of the things a lot of people find out is when you first find out about it, you feel alone and like you’re the only person, but the more you talk, the more you realize it’s the No. 1 killer because it’s the No. 1 disease that Americans have,� she says. “There are a lot of people with it in various shapes and forms and a lot of support out there.�

What won’t help is continuing a tobacco habit, which Dr. Schwabe calls akin to playing Russian Roulette.

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Plan ahead

When is it time to consider long-term care options?

By KEVIN KRAUSKOPF

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n the spring of this year, Loretta Koelliker agreed, reluctantly, to a temporary stay in an assisted living facility.

As is often the case, it was a difficult decision for not only her but her family, as well. A widow before she turned 50, Loretta, who celebrated her 75th birthday in July, had become accustomed to living alone since her husband passed away.

After their mother was diagnosed with a mild form of diabetes nearly 10 years ago, brothers Jon and Scott Koelliker began to make weekly checkups on her. They ran errands for her, kept up on the yard work and made sure she took her medicines. Then, they started noticing bruises and suspected she’d taken some falls. Earlier this year those fears were confirmed.

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Time to step in Connie Saxton and Dody Parker with Saxton Care Centers say intervention may be needed if an aging relative: O Couldn’t call for help if needed.

O Remains homebound.

O Can’t prepare meals or forgets to eat.

O Can’t be regularly checked on by a friend or family member.

O Forgets to take necessary medications.

O Falls excessively.

O Struggles with incontinence.

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O Regularly becomes lost or disoriented.

Scott Koelliker helps distribute birthday cake for his mother, Loretta Koelliker, center, at Saxton Riverside.

“(Jon) went to drop off her groceries one Saturday morning and she didn’t answer the door. He went ahead and unlocked the house and went in, and she’d fallen backwards into the bathtub and had been there all night it appeared,” Scott Koelliker, a Heartland Clinic administrator, says. “We knew at that point and time that we needed to do something.”

It’s a situation nearly all families must face at some point, and it’s one that’s fraught with a lot of sensitive issues: When can an aging parent no longer be cared for at home? Who has the final say in making that decision? What level of care is required?

Throw in the huge financial considerations, and it’s something a lot of families put off until they’re forced to make these critical decisions.

“The problem with this is that everybody says, ‘I’m never going to need that,’” says Connie Saxton, administrator and co-owner of Saxton Care Centers.

By the numbers — and as the Koellikers attest — the majority of those people are wrong. At least 70 percent of people 65 and older will require long-term care services at some point in their lifetime, according to the National Clearinghouse for Long-Term Care, part of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

So when’s the best time to start planning for long-term care? Yesterday, say Saxton and assistant administrator Dody Parker.

“You don’t know what’s going to happen,” Parker says. “You don’t know if

You have to be real about your situation, your abilities and what’s going on with you ... You just have to be prepared for whatever is handed to you, that you can cope with it and you can live with it and you’re going to do your best to be positive through it all.

— CONNIE SAXTON, administrator and co-owner of Saxton Care Centers

you’re going to get sick when you’re 62 years old and you’re going to need someone to care for you.”

Saxton and Parker recommend families meet with an elder care lawyer to establish an advance directive and discuss how

a family member’s assets will be handled upon entering a long-term care facility.

Protecting valuable assets — like a home or family farm — can become a complicated legal issue, so it’s crucial to talk things over with a lawyer.

It’s also a good idea to understand Medicare eligibility and how much it will pay toward long-term care expenses, Parker says. In many cases, families find it doesn’t cover as much as they expect, leaving a large gap that will have to be paid through personal finances.

Just as important as financial preparations are emotional considerations. For older adults, it can be difficult to admit it’s no longer viable to live independently.

Too often, their spouse or children might be in denial about their needs, as well.

“You have to be real about your situation, your abilities and what’s going on with you,” Saxton says. “ ... You just have to be prepared for whatever is handed to you, that you can cope with it and you can live with it and you’re going to do your best to be positive through it all.”

For their part, the Koellikers have made the best of their situation. Overcoming her initial hesitation, Loretta found she enjoyed her roommate’s company and many of the activities the facility offered. She soon realized she didn’t want to leave.

“By the end of the (first) week, she pulled us aside and said, ‘Do you think there’s any way I might be able to stay here?’” Scott Koelliker says.

Sell your stuff

Make the most with tips from the pros

By SYLVIA ANDERSON Josephine magazine

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here is one good thing you can say about the economy right now — it’s great for garage sales.

They can’t be beat for making some fast cash because everyone is looking for bargains. To get some tips on getting the most money for your efforts, we talked with a couple of experts on the subject.

Bob Reed of St. Joseph has been buying and selling merchandise for close to 45 years. And he’s sold everything from fruit to automobiles, including and owned his own antique store. Even though he’s now retired, he loves selling so much he buys and sells his “finds” at flea markets and booths all over the county as a hobby with his wife, Barbara.

Likewise, Kathy Boatright is a reselling master. A long-time

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garage sale aficionado, she now owns the successful Kat and Company Antiques and Gifts in St. Joseph, where she rents out booths to vendors wanting to sell antiques, collectibles and used merchandise in good condition. Currently there are 114 filled booths with 150 people on the waiting list. And when she held her first Black Top Swap Meet, something like a glorified flea market, there were literally traffic jams of folks anxious to get there. (She’s planning another this fall).

Our experts agree if you want a good sale, there are some guidelines to keep in mind:

KNOW THE LAW Check to see what the garage sale regulations are in your city or county. In St. Joseph, you must get a garage sale license for $5 from the Customer Assistance Center at least one day before the sale, and the license must be on display during the sale. The garage sale must be confined to the house, garage or driveway

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and cannot spill over on the yard or other areas. You also can’t hold a sale for more than four consecutive days or more than four times in a 12-month period. Signs advertising or giving directions to a garage sale are limited to one sign at the location of the garage sale. For more information, call the St. Joseph Customer Assistance Center at 271-4751.

TIMING IS NOT EVERYTHING Although most garage sales are held in May and June followed by September, any month will work if you have plenty to sell. “I had a garage sale in February and it was the best garage sale I’ve ever had,�

Boatright says. “If you don’t mind getting it together in the colder weather, people will come.�

Saturday mornings are the most popular time to hold a sale, but success can be had in the evening to catch people on their way home from work. Or combine both, she suggests, starting a sale at 5 p.m. on Friday and again on Saturday from 8 a.m. until 3 p.m.

I’ve found from my garage sales that after 3 p.m. the crowd is gone,� Boatright says.

ADVERTISE Even when Reed sells at Jones Market in Wathena, Kan., a heavy traffic area, he always puts an ad in the paper.

“I would rather pay a fee and get people there than not,� he says.

Since a garage sale sign in your yard is a must, one of the best deals is to buy a garage sale package, says Nadine Pinzino, classified advertising sales manager for the St. Joseph News-Press. A package includes one inch of copy in the newspaper with bold print (it also runs online), two garage sale signs and a $5 coupon to be used on a future ad within 30 days of the sale. The coupon is designed for selling a big item that doesn’t go at your garage sale, she says. A two-day garage sale package is $28 and can be purchased just a day before you want it to run.

PRICING “The majority of people that come in here always want to know if they will do a discount,� Boatright says. “Everyone wants to think they are getting a bargain.�

On the other hand, don’t feel like you have to give it away. “If they really want it, they’ll buy it,�

Reed says.

Whatever your price, make sure it’s marked. Both experts agree nobody likes having to ask about it, and it will save you time answering “How much do you want for this?� When you have trouble with a haggler wanting to go too low, try adding some extra items. Say, “How about $10 for

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all three items.� Sometimes it’s enough to seal the deal.

PRESENTATION IS EVERYTHING “Your display is 25 percent, your advertising is 25 percent and your merchandising is the rest,� Reed says. For starters, make sure everything is clean and priced.

Hang clothes or neatly fold them. Then you can do what they call “staging.� For example, instead of leaving dishes in a box on the floor, display them on a table as if you were having a dinner with a centerpiece, napkins and glassware. “They may be junk to you, but staged on a table, they think, ‘I can use those,’�

Boatright says. “It takes a little more money and time to make your garage sale look nice, but in the end, you come out better.�

SAY NO TO EARLY BIRDS Early birds are those overly ambitious folks who feel they must get a crack at the goods before everyone else. So if your ad says your sale starts at 8 a.m., early birds will be knocking at your door at 7 a.m. “It just burns you up,� Boatright says. “It’s really not fair and it sours people if you let others in early. A person should hold true to the time listed in the paper.�

Simply put “no early birds� in your ad and be ready to be firm when they knock on the door.

The base for your face Creating a look that will carry you through

By Lindsay Laderoute Josephine magazine

Every woman wants to look her best. To do this, most of us wear makeup.

Makeup can be a great tool to emphasize your natural beauty and create a large range of looks. The secret to successfully using makeup is to always start with a great base. Beginning with a good base will help increase the length of time your makeup stays on, help makeup blend easier and give you an even skin tone. With these three easy steps, you can learn how to create the perfect base so that your makeup looks flawless with each application.

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The first step to creating the perfect makeup base is to use concealer. “Concealer is a miracle product that hides everything your foundation doesn’t,� says Mary Kay beauty consultant Melissa Leander.

Concealer can help hide or diminish a multitude of problems. “I use concealer to mask/hide/conceal blemishes, hyper pigmentation, broken capillaries, rosacea, scarring, dark circles, freckles ... basically, anything you don’t want seen,� says Belleza Salon & Day Spa makeup artist Ashley Bransfield.

To use concealer correctly, there are two things you must keep in mind: color and consistency. Finding a concealer that matches your skin is the key to a flawless makeup base, Bransfield says.

To find the perfect color, try to match the concealer to within one to two shades of your skin tone. Bransfield recommends using a shade lighter in winter and a shade darker in summer.

The consistency of your concealer really depends on where and for what you are using it. “A concealer used to cover undereye areas should always be moist and

creamy, whereas, a concealer designed to cover breakouts or broken capillaries should be much drier in texture, so it will adhere better and last longer,�

Leander says.

After applying concealer, it is important to follow up with a foundation selected for your particular skin type and coloring. “Foundation makes the skin appear flawless and natural, covers imperfections and blemishes and smooths out uneven skin tones,� Leander says.

Someone wanting full coverage or who lacks oil in their skin should use a liquid foundation, while someone prone to acne or who has oily skin should use a powder or mineral based formula, Bransfield says.

An easy way to find the perfect color and pigmentation for your skin is to think of how your skin reacts to sunlight. “If you never tan and always burn, you’re skin is of the pink pigment. If you burn once, then tan, you are of the yellow pigment. If you always tan, you are of the orange/olive pigment,�

Leander says.

After applying foundation, sweep a

translucent powder over your face to help set your foundation, absorb excess oil and create a matte finish, Bransfield says.

For summertime, you may want to add a little bit of bronzer on top of your foundation. Bronzer works well to help enhance and define features, Bransfield says. Sweep bronzer across your forehead, bridge of the nose and a bit on the apples of your cheeks. This will give you an even, sun-kissed look. But Leander warns to not overdo it, since bronzer is not meant to make you look like you have a tan. “You want a bronzer that is one or two shades darker than your skin,� she says.

The final step for your makeup base should be to apply an eye makeup primer. Priming the surface of the eyelid creates a base for the eye colors, increasing their opacity and reducing their ability to move to the crease of the lid or smudge, Leander says. A cream eye shadow close to your eyelid’s natural color or an eyelid primer can both be used. Using a base before eye shadow can help prolong your eye makeup eight to 10 hours, according to Leander.

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Hedging marital bets Being tethered by love may be more beneficial than divorce proceedings ALONZO WESTON is a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press. The St. Joseph native has served on the News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.

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y wife, Deanna, and I lived together for 13 years before we got married. For a long time I was afraid to tell anyone that because the guy never looks good in that story.

People tend to look at you like you’re some vainglorious creep who think’s he’s too good for marrying.

That wasn’t the case for me. I’d been married once before and was unsure about getting into another legal commitment. Besides, we were getting along pretty well enough living together, so why spoil it with a contract? And that’s what marriage seemed like at the time: A legal contract that forces you to stay together instead of one that’s tethered only by love.

If you break up while living together, in most cases you can just pack up your stuff and get out. Sure your stuff may get thrown out the window, but you don’t have to pay a lawyer to sort things out. You also don’t have to go through any of those court-appointed counseling classes.

That’s like locking the barn door after the horses are out. Who benefits from counseling at this point besides the people collecting the fees? Your ex-wife is looking to move on and so are you.

Now it seems the only people who want to get married are gays. A recent Census report shows there’s been a 25-percent increase in the number of unmarried couples in the last 10 years.

Most of the blame for this un-matrimony is placed on the doorstep of a poor economy.

According to the report as recorded in a recent USA Today article, the largest share of unmarried couples is in areas with dimmer financial

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futures than in other parts of the country.

Two thirds of the cities with the largest share of unmarried couples are in the Northeast and Midwestern parts of the country, according to the report.

“Couples whose employment opportunities are more precarious tend not to marry,” said Stephanie Coontz, a sociologist with the Council on Contemporary Families, as quoted in the article. “(Many) are hedging their bets, waiting to see if they can improve their long-term odds by making sure they’re economically and emotionally secure with each other,” she added.

Living together isn’t as easy as it sounds. For starters, you’ll see more of each other and that means seeing each other at worst as well as best.

What once was a treat, like seeing her walk around naked, now becomes routine. And no one nagged you about leaving your jeans on the floor or the toilet seat up when you lived alone.

I once worked with this old blues guy who lived in one house and his longtime girlfriend lived in another.

They were basically committed to each other but they each needed their own space. If she got mad, he didn’t go sleep on her couch, he just went to his house and slept in his own bed until she cooled off. It cut down on the arguments, he said.

I asked the guy once if it wasn’t expensive maintaining two households.

He said no, she paid her own way just as he did.

“We both just like our independence,” he said.

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haven’t gained a single pound since I graduated high school, and do you know how I can prove it? Just look at my driver’s license.

OK, maybe the number printed on there does not tell the true story (as I am almost twice the woman I was when I attended school), but for some strange reason when I go to the “Department of We Ask Nosey Questions” to renew my license and they ask me to confirm the vital information listed on that official government document, my tongue just goes numb, and I cannot speak the words, “Oh, where it says weight, would you mind raising those numbers for me? You see, my rear end has increased greatly, so I would love it if you would put that fact on a state document.” It is just easier to do what I always do — cross my fingers and proudly proclaim there are no changes necessary.

It is pretty obvious from the judgmental looks given to me by the clerks at the license counter that they are onto my game, because when they ask, “Is everything the same?” and I reply, “Yes,” they look me up and down, then look at the very small number listed as my weight and begin shaking their heads in disbelief.

I have tried to suck in my cheeks and tummy just to let them see I am really not that far off from the weight listed on the little plastic ID, but I am not sure that is working anymore. It may have something to do with the picture they force me to take. My plump cheeks fill up the whole frame, and it would be impossible for someone to weigh what is listed on my license to take up that much space in a photo.

Well, unless they have a bad case of mumps.

I first began this “pick a weight and

stick with it” charade because I knew I was just a few carrot sticks and some “Sweating to the Oldies” workouts with Richard Simmons away from getting back to the weight listed on that card, so I didn’t bother changing anything. Well, the numbers on the scale kept creeping higher and higher, and now I am concerned I may be committing a crime if I don’t confess that I got more “jelly in this doughnut” than I am admitting to. I am not sure if anyone has ever been arrested for “failure to report belly fat” before, but just my luck I would be the first.

I do have a very good explanation if I am ever pulled over by a police officer and he begins questioning the inconsistency between the ideal weight I have listed on my license and the weight that I actually appear.

I would let him know that I have a disease called “Oreo-itis” (caused by the overconsumption of double-stuffed chocolate sandwich cookies). I would explain how it is a slow-growing disease that is marked by an ever-expanding tummy and a double chin. Advanced symptoms can be muffin top, heavy breathing while climbing stairs and the need for elastic waistbands. I will tell the officer I am being treated

by Dr Pepper, and I take these small, multi-colored “pills” that have tiny “m’s” on them that actually seem to be making my symptoms worse.

I know, it would probably just be easier if I just confessed I have put on a few pounds since high school, but if I start admitting stuff, the next thing they will want to ask is what my real hair color is. I tell you, honesty is a slippery slope.

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getting real

The weighting game Really, it’s the camera adding all those pounds STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist

who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”

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Shrimp three ways Hawaiian shrimp with tomato chutney The tomato chutney is a perfect piquant foil for the sweet shrimp.

1/2 cup flour 1/8 teaspoons cayenne pepper 1 teaspoon salt 3/4 teaspoon ground ginger 24 jumbo shrimp, shelled and deveined (leave tails on if possible) 2 eggs 1 tablespoon water 7 ounces shredded coconut Oil, for deep frying

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Shrimp in beer

Steamed shrimp and eggs

The type of beer used makes a big difference. Dark beer gives a bitterness to the sauce that some find appealing, while American beer gives a more delicate result. Serve with crusty bread to soak up the sauce.

Replacing the ham with smoked salmon makes this a great breakfast along with cream cheese and bagels.

2 pounds shrimp, peeled and deveined 2 to 3 cups beer 1 bay leaf 2 tablespoons unsalted butter 2 tablespoons flour 1 cup heavy cream Salt and freshly ground pepper 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper 2 tablespoons minced parsley Place shrimp in saucepan and just cover with beer. Add bay leaf, bring to simmer and poach for four to seven minutes or until shrimp turn pink. Remove shrimp from pan. The secret to texture is the poaching time, overcooking makes shrimp tough. Over high heat, reduce beer until one cup liquid remains. In another saucepan, melt butter, add flour and whisk to make a paste. Add the beer, cook and whisk until thick. Add cream. Heat and season with salt, black pepper and cayenne. Add parsley and return shrimp to sauce. Reheat very gently.

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2 tablespoons peanut oil 1/2 pound bay shrimp 1/2 teaspoon peeled, minced ginger 2 tablespoons minced smoked ham 1 tablespoon minced green onion 1 tablespoon dry sherry 4 large eggs, lightly beaten and seasoned with salt and freshly ground pepper Grease two 12-ounce heat-resistant bowls with the peanut oil. Place half the shrimp in each bowl, scatter ginger, ham, green onion and sherry on top of shrimp. Pour beaten eggs over each bowl. Place bowls on steamer rack over boiling water. Cover and steam until eggs are set, six to eight minutes.

Combine flour, cayenne, salt and ginger. Dust shrimp with this mixture. Beat eggs with the water. Dip floured shrimp into eggs, then roll shrimp in coconut. Heat oil to 350 degrees.

Deep fry shrimp until coconut browns; drain on paper towels. Serve with chutney for dipping (see below).

Tomato chutney 2 pounds ripe tomatoes, peeled, seeded and chopped 1½ cups sugar 1 garlic clove, minced 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon crushed red pepper 2 teaspoon ground ginger 1 cup cider vinegar 1/2 cup crushed pineapple (optional) Combine all ingredients, cook uncovered over very low heat, stirring occasionally until thick, about 45 minutes. Add crushed pineapple if you desire a sweeter sauce.

LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental Hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.

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FREE DIABETIC EDUCATION! Family Medicine Associates will be hosting a series of Diabetic Education classes.

Each class will cover a different topic essential to Diabetes Self-Management.

The 5 course class schedule is as follows: August 3rd at 10:30 a.m. & August 18th at 7:00 p.m. Topic: Introduction to Diabetes, Pre-diabetes & Blood Glucose Monitoring.

September 7th at 10:30 a.m. & September 22nd at 7:00 p.m. Topic: Nutrition, Carb Counting & Meal Planning.

October 5th at 10:30 a.m. & October 20th at 7:00 p.m. Topic: Medication Options & Healthy Activity.

November 2nd at 10:30 a.m. & November 17th at 7:00 p.m.

Topic: Risk Reduction: Preventing Complications.

December 7th at 10:30 a.m. & December 15th at 7:00 p.m.

Topic: Coping, Problem Solving & Goal Setting.

Patients may attend all classes or just the ones they want. Friends and Family are always welcome! Classes are held at Family Medicine Associates, 2303 Village Drive (on the corner of Beck Road and Village Drive).

Call for reservations or any questions, call 816-901-1013 Tara Stevenson RN, BSN, CDE (Diabetes Educator)

Visit our website to find the clinic nearest you or call 816-271-8261 www.nwhealth-services.org We accept Medicaid, Medicare, most private insurance and offer a discount program for those who qualify.

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