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Meet couples whose weddings were long ago
Create gifts for the happy couple
For this edition of Brides, we strove to capture that dichotomy
at the heart of the big day. We included some familiar features (such as do-it-yourself crafting), but branched out in some
new directions,
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married couples for our main feature).
Groom’s cakes are sweet and fun
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find something familiar and
something surprising in these pages. And so, the
moment we’re all waiting for:
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Learn the sordid secrets of wedding music
Moms get fancy fashion advice
Best men are great
Lower your nuptial stress levels
Times and the Santa Maria Sun, I now pronounce you ready to read our annual Brides publication. You may kiss the paper.
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an afterthought, the byproduct of all this activity. But it shouldn’t be. Taking a page from the past, we decided this year to skip the full-page portraits of dresses and f lowers and present, instead, the end goal. Meet five couples who’ve been married more than 50 years. May you enjoy the same—or more. ∆ Send comments to rmiller@newtimesslo.com.
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e asked her and her mother over for dinner, then gave her a purse. She didn’t like the purse—but she was ecstatic about the ring inside. When the wedding day arrived, rain poured down from New Jersey to New York. He had to buy a shirt, tie, and cumberbund because he’d forgotten to buy them earlier. She told the bridesmaids to wear whatever they wanted. They went to the Catskills for their honeymoon. It was freezing, snowing, and raining—and now they can’t remember why they hadn’t gone to Florida instead. He worked as an engineering aid, she as a bookkeeper. They have two children and four grandchildren.
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he was nervous about the date, but everything seems to have worked out fine. Her mother made the white velvet dress she wore and the pink velvet dress her sister wore. Her father’s arm shook as he walked her down the aisle. They took a weekend honeymoon at Lake Geneva in Wisconsin, and then he had to go right back to school for his PhD. He worked as a graduate assistant, she worked for United Airlines. They have three children and three grandchildren.
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e was 19. She was 17. They had been talking about marriage, but in a grand romantic gesture, he sent his grandmother and a priest to ask her parents for her hand. They were married in Santiago Tangamandadio, Michoacan, Mexico—no formal dress, no honeymoon—but there was a memorable party afterward: food, tequila, beer, and 150 celebrants. He went on to work as a goatherder, she as a housewife. They have eight children, 26 grandchildren, and 17 greatgrandchildren.
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y nature a distaff display, formal weddings showcase the bride, her fabulous dress, and her color-coordinated retinue. As the words, “This is her special day!” repeatedly ring out, the overlooked groom may simply resolve to enjoy the proceedings, despite feeling a little lost in the shuff le. Sensing her beau’s distress, the thoughtful bride can surprise him with a groom’s cake, a 19th century tradition popularized in Victorian England and later embraced by high society in the American south. With this cake, she can acknowledge his taste and individuality, while offering a sweet token of her love and affection. “About 40 percent of my couples order groom’s cakes,” said Dawn E. Peters, proprietor of Decadence Fine Cakes and Confections in Buellton. “They are mostly decorated with team logos and favorite sports themes, and they completely ref lect the groom’s taste, both in f lavor and design. “Other biggies are the groom’s favorite musician or band,” she added, “and sometimes it’s just the groom’s favorite dessert, and not cake at all.” In the past, groom’s cakes were served along with the wedding cake or cut and given to the bridesmaids and groomsmen, either before or after the ceremony. Alternatively, slices were boxed and handed to guests leaving the reception as a gift to take home. “These days, groom’s cakes are usually served at the rehearsal dinner,” Peters explained, “so that it doesn’t take away from the display of the wedding cake.” Prior to the introduction of refined f lour and baking soda in the 1700s, and well after the Romans stopped breaking wheatcakes over brides’ heads, fruitcakes ruled the world of wedding edibles. Thus, bakers producing the first groom’s cakes likely made them from honey, whole wheat f lour, crushed nuts, and bits of preserved fruit.
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As wedding cakes—often called bride’s cakes—evolved, they morphed from simple loaves into multi-tiered extravaganzas layered with a rococo haze of buttercream swags, piping, and rosettes. Until recently, however, a single f lavor dominated the cake, its frosting, and its frilly embellishments.
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“When wedding cake was restricted to vanilla,” Peters explained, “groom’s cakes were ordered to add chocolate to the menu. Today, popular f lavors include Jack Daniels Chocolate Mousse Cake, as well as Captain Jack’s Rum Cake and Triple Vanilla Cream Cake.” Typically heavier and always markedly different from the bride’s cake, the groom’s cake may be chocolate, carrot, pound, or even cheesecake. At Santa Maria’s Tan Top Bakery, f lavors range from chocolate, marble, and carrot, to banana-nut and even chiffon, an option that’s rare in the area. Though generally smaller and less fussy than the bride’s cake, the ornamentation on the groom’s cake may be equally elaborate. Its theme, rendered in distinctly masculine hues and imagery, tends to ref lect the interests, abilities, and fantasies of the groom. A look at the website for Carlock’s
Bakery, located in Los Osos, reveals a dazzling variety of choices for the man of the hour’s special cake. Indeed, skilled confectioners can manipulate edible ingredients to create everything from fire engines and skyrocketing spacecraft to jet planes soaring through frosting clouds and King Kong atop a cake mountain sporting sugar paste trees and fondant waterfalls. On a more dignified note, a groom’s cake may take the form of a chessboard, alma mater, or frosted tuxedo. It can display a family crest, military emblem, or a handpainted monogram on a golden sugar plaque. “The groom doesn’t want a little foo-foo cake,” laughed Tony Samoska, who owns Windy City Cakery with his wife, Mary, “so it definitely should be a masculine cake, and chocolate is masculine. The f lavors we find to be favorites are chocolate and red velvet.” Recently, Samoska made a red velvet groom’s cake sheathed in blue fondant and topped with a smaller cake bearing a blazing orange replica of the Superman logo. “The groom’s cake is usually a gift from the bride to the groom,” he said, “and ref lects his interest. The bride is not going to have a Superman cake as her sole cake normally, traditionally.” At Santa Maria’s Windy City Cakery and Tan Top Bakery, as well as at Decadence Fine Cakes and Confections and most other better bakeries, the bride (and groom) can make an appointment to sample cake f lavors before placing an order. Bakers advise them to pick a date well ahead of the nuptials to insure that they get just what they want. “I think the groom’s cake got lost in the shuff le some years ago,” Samoska said, “but it’s making its way back. It’s all about the groom, to let the groom know the bride appreciates him.” ❧ K. Reka Badger is a super writer. Send comments to Executive Editor Ryan Miller at rmiller@santamariasun.com.
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poser boycotted by the Jewish community. “The Bridal Chorus” first appeared in 1850 in the opera Lohengrin, written by German composer Wagner. Inspired by a German medieval romance, the opera tells the tale of Elsa and a mysterious knight who champions her when she’s falsely accused of murdering her brother. The tale ends, after Elsa and the knight have married, with the knight’s permanent departure and Elsa’s dramatic death from a broken heart. The chorus takes place at the beginning of Act 3, sung by the wedding party. The lyrics aren’t exactly in keeping with the sweetly generic “here comes the bride” either. “Faithfully
guided, draw near/ to where the blessings of love shall preserve you,” begins the piece. “Most people don’t know Lohengrin. It’s a nice processional. For the purpose of striding along with a sense of hopefulness, it’s perfect. But the moment you start looking at its context, that’s where the problems surface,” acknowledged Alyson McLamore, a music history and music education professor at Cal Poly. According to McLamore, given the processional’s musical qualities, it’s no surprise that it’s become a tradition for brides to walk down the aisle to the piece. The music has a regal quality, full of fanfare. It’s full of dotted rhythms with uneven notes that follow long, short, long, with added emphasis on certain notes. But, according to Rabbi Scott Corngold of Congregation Beth David, the processional’s musical virtues aren’t enough to overcome the composer’s bias against Jews. “The problem is that Richard Wagner was a notorious anti-Semite who in his own day did a lot of writing about how Jewish music was decadent because Jews are so decadent,” he explained. “Wagner became a favorite of the Nazi leadership. He has always had this strong Nazi connotation. It’s such an extreme connection that Wagner’s music wasn’t performed in the state of Israel.” Though Wagner died six years before Ad-
olf Hitler was even born, the composer was a favorite of the Nazi party. To complicate matters, a second popular wedding song, “Wedding March,” is also boycotted by many people of the Jewish faith because the composer, Felix Mendelssohn, was born to Jewish parents but his father renounced the religion. In lieu of these two songs, Jewish couples often select other classical pieces or turn to compositions created with the Jewish community in mind as an audience. Many of these songs are set to Biblical text. McLamore sees it differently. Among the composers she teaches in her music history series are several Nazi sympathizers and one musician from the Renaissance period who murdered his wife. A fellow music instructor teaches his band a movement from Symphonie Fantastique as a graduation march; the movement was originally written to represent a March to the Scaffold. “It’s good music, so what do you do?” she asked. “The more people know about an artwork, the more likely they are to judge it by external forces. As a musician, I think sometimes we should judge artwork in and of itself.” ❧ Arts Editor Ashley Schwellenbach has visions of herself flying. Send crisp, white wings to aschwellenbach@newtimesslo.com.
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soft gray, beige, mauve, or other muted tones or pastels—unless, of course, the bridesmaids are wearing claret or hunter green. But still, the moms want their dress colors to complement those of the bridal party. Like it or not, the moms are part of a big picture, literally, when it comes to the wedding photos. Those records of magic moments can be unforgiving—20 years later someone will wince and point and say, “Ouch, look at that awful dress your mother wore!” when the mom in question is a blob of black or brown amidst a sea of pastels. The Madonna Inn’s second floor shop, My Favorite Things Boutique, carries ap-
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parel for the grand occasion. “Today’s moms do not want frumpy,” emphasized Manager Cheri Humphrey. “They are looking for fun, non-traditional, stylish outfits.” She and Phyllis Madonna, who owns the Inn, frequently go to market in Los Angeles, San Francisco, and New York to find classic, elegant, unique items. One wedding consultant mentioned tealength dresses—not quite ankle length and well below the knee—are popular, as well as generally flattering and feminine. Cleo Estrada, who owns The Bridal Boutique in Atascadero, is adamant that moms start looking for the right dress well in advance of the wedding. “So many wedding dress shoppers are just not realistic,” Estrada said. “Wedding outfits for the mothers are special. They take some planning. You just don’t want to throw an outfit together at the last minute.” Down the Aisle, a bridal shop in Arroyo Grande, advises starting the dress search as soon as they can so moms can have all the options available. They won’t have to settle for a garment that isn’t that special. “We do a lot of special orders,” reported Madonna Inn sales staff member Lauren Chester. Clients order through catalogs and
faxes of the latest designs companies have available. In Santa Maria, Macy’s at the Santa Maria Town Center consistently carries frocks that are suitable for weddings. Macy’s can request other sizes and colors in a garment from other stores in their chain. Moms can also find dress possibilities at the Santa Maria Bridal Shop, which also recommends shopping way in advance of the wedding—and they can special order. “Silver and gold are popular colors in our store,” contributed sales consultant Brenda Garcia. Once the dress is selected, the moms can move on to bags and shoes. Most bridal shops can guide the selection of the appropriate footwear and complementary accessories. “Moms don’t have to go out of the area for just the right dress,” advised Humphrey of the Madonna Inn. “There is a lot to choose from on the Central Coast.” “Sometimes,” volunteered Estrada of Atascadero’s Bridal Boutique, “the prices on the Central Coast are a lot less than out of the area.” ❧ Helen Ann Thomas is always in fashion. Send comments to the executive editor at rmiller@newtimesslo.com.
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pretty heavily involved in running the No on 8 campaign,” said Chief Financial Officer Kenzie Seal, a San Luis Obispo native and second-year student at Stanford. “We ended up pulling together a really large campaign. When Prop. 8 passed, we were kind of left not knowing what to do. We decided that we were obligated to continue the fight.” Seal, at least, knew Prop. 8 was going to pass. The polls in the weeks leading up to the elections indicated it would. But knowing didn’t mitigate his disappointment when, waiting with a group of friends late into the night, he saw it finally happen. Prior to Proposition 8, Seal hadn’t really been involved in any political campaigns. He was aware, but never spurred to action. And he didn’t intend to spend his undergrad years at Stanford organizing For more information about, or to a civil rights campaign. But join, the National Marriage Boycott, for the past two years that’s visit marriageboycott.ning.com. exactly what he’s been doing. The decision to make the
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Defense of Marriage Act the focus of their campaign was deliberate. Reflecting on the struggles of interracial couples to achieve the right to marry, the students realized that fighting a state-by-state battle would simply take too long. In 1967, the Supreme Court declared that anti-miscegenation laws were illegal; before that decision, each state had its own law. Today’s activists intend to hold President Barack Obama to a campaign promise he made before his election, but now seems to have forgotten. “He outright stated that he would repeal it,” said Seal, regarding Obama’s stance on the Defense of Marriage Act. But within days of his inauguration, any mention of DOMA disappeared from his website, without explanation or comment. National Marriage Boycott Executive Director Laura Wadden called the discovery “a slap in the face.” Initially, the campaign’s founders anticipated the boycott would occur on a smaller scale, drumming up support solely among Stanford students. But they’ve garnered so much outside support that they
began to expand, establishing branches on college campuses and high schools across the country. Thus far, branches number between 30 and 40, and more are being established with each passing month. Cal Poly is among the universities they’re hoping to work with, though they’re still looking for students willing to captain the effort. Independently, a handful of SLO County residents have signed the pledge without the benefit of a local branch. Despite the fact that the boycott is a nonprofit, Seal thought it was important that they establish themselves as a financially sustainable organization. Toward this end, NMB entered to compete for a $10,000 ideablob grant. Founded by Advanta Bank Corporation, ideablob allowed small businesses and organizations to explain their business model and ideas on the site. Then, each month users would vote for their favorite idea and the winner would collect $10,000. Last October, National Marriage Boycott won. The win was a huge financial boost, allowing the group to begin outsourcing tasks like filling online orders for equality rings, which founders and supporters were doing in their own spare time. “In its own way it was precious, but that wasn’t very practical,” Seal said. “This allows us to be sustainable at a time when people aren’t donating as much as they normally would.” Estimates as to how long it will take to achieve their goal of toppling the Defense of Marriage Act vary. Wadden believes it can be accomplished during Obama’s first term, provided everyone rallies around the cause. Seal isn’t as optimistic, citing five years as a reasonable estimate. Until then, there will be no white gowns or “I do’s” for those who have signed the pledge. Wadden believes the sacrifice will be worthwhile in the end. “I think this is the movement of our generation,” she said. “And one thing I saw during the Prop. 8 campaign that really clued me in—young people are totally on board with what’s happening, but the activists that are working hard to make that change are mostly older. So there’s unlocked potential in the campaign.” ❧ Arts Editor Ashley Schwellenbach is a free thinker. Send free thoughts to aschwellenbach@newtimesslo.com.
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roles, including valet, chauffeur, emcee, and party planner. He lends sound advice and a sympathetic ear as the groom grapples with the snags and high emotions inevitably triggered by an impending wedding. The best man is responsible for getting the bride and groom from the reception to the hotel or airport, so prior to the big day, he must decide whether to round up a driver or book a professional. If he hires a stretch limo from Gold Coast Limousines, the newlyweds can ride in style while sipping crisp champagne. At Stardust Cruises Limousine Service, based in Orcutt, staffers will outfit the interior of the car with wedding décor, pipe
in romantic music, and even snap a photo of the happy couple. The best man may be asked to arrange hotel accommodations for groomsmen not living nearby. He can add a little extra by contacting the Santa Maria Valley Chamber of Commerce and Visitors Bureau, whose hospitality program provides complimentary welcome bags for out-of-town wedding guests. According to the lore, members of medieval bridal parties dressed alike to confuse jealous spirits shadowing the newlyweds, which may explain why today’s bridesmaids wear matching dresses and groomsmen don similar—usually rented—tuxedoes. At Robinson’s Dry Cleaners in Lompoc, tuxedo rentals run from $99 for a basic style to $150 for a more elaborate one. The price includes jacket, trousers, vest, shirt, shoes, cummerbund, tie, and even a post-wedding cleaning. “We’ve been here 30 years and we’ve been handling tuxedos for 10,” said owner Susan Robinson. “We take all the measurements, and when the tuxedo comes in, I fit it, do the alterations, and then re-press it, so it’s nice and neat, like you’ve never had it on.” Among the best man’s most celebrated duties, hosting the bachelor party comes
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fraught with decisions. Should it be held in a private home or restaurant or comprise a night on the town? Should it be funded by the groomsmen, a cover charge, no-host bar, or BYOB/potluck request? The tradition of the bachelor party likely began in 5th century Sparta, when military cohorts feasted on the eve of a friend’s wedding, and it remains an event where the groom and his attendants famously blow off steam before the impending nuptials. “Take the time to get to know who ‘should’ be at the bachelor party,” advised Adam Rebh, a clinical psychologist and former best man, “and reach out to those individuals, so the groom doesn’t have to organize his own party. “Really,” he added, “it’s about taking the initiative and working with the groom to make sure he is happy.” On the wedding day, the best man ferries gifts to the reception hall, oversees the other groomsmen, and carries the bride’s ring until it’s needed. He helps the groom dress, gets him to the ceremony on time, and stands beside him at the altar. At the reception, he proposes the allimportant first toast to the newlyweds, hopefully without mentioning ex-girlfriends or the bachelor party. Arguably the most
challenging part of the job, this short speech provides an opportunity to speak from the heart and set a warm, cheerful tone for the celebration to follow. Nervous types might want to enlist the aid of a local Toastmasters Club to gain a little public speaking experience. Others can simply practice in front of friends, taking time to introduce themselves, perhaps relate a few friendly anecdotes about the happy couple, and then close with a traditional toast or blessing. When a groom names his best man, he bestows a profound honor by asking the fellow to stand as his friend, guardian, and fellow warrior (despite the absence of military maneuvers). Most who accept the challenge find the experience satisfying and more enjoyable than they had imagined. “The thing I remember most about the wedding,” Rebh said, “is just how much fun I had, and how amazing it was to have nearly everyone that I loved and cared about in one place celebrating the same thing!” Which leads to what is likely the most helpful advice of all for the anxious best man: “Enjoy yourself! It’ll be over before you know it.” ❧ K. Reka Badger is the best. Send comments to the executive editor at rmiller@newtimesslo.com.
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