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5 SIGNS BRIDAL REGISTRY with SCOTIA JAMAICA BUILDING SOCIETY
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Editor’s Corner
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Good Hope Estates has Bride: Jamila Maitland earned the coveted Gown: The Wedding Planners Plus spot of Nuptials PreBride’s Bouquet: TAI FLORA LUXE ferred Venue. This week’s issue marks the start of our two part feature on the beautiful Good Hope Estates. A property recently acquired by the team
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Contents Scotia Bridal Registry.............4 to 5 10 Important Questions..........6 to 7 5 Signs......................................8 Real Tours Jamaica.................9 Sex...........................................11 Did you KNOW.........................12
Scotia Bridal Account A perfect gift solution
Why a Bridal Registry Account? Here are some reasons why it makes sense to open an account.
Time Constraints So you only have a handful of weeks before the wedding. You’re so bogged down with work Getting married is one of the few and other things relating to the decisions that will change your wedding, that the thought of a trip to a gift store and several life forever! hours to try to determine the So apart from when, there is gifts you want, seems like an the where, who to invite, what impossibility. With a Bridal dress to wear, the bridal party - Registry Account, you eliminate and the list goes on and on. One having to decide on what gifts important item that should be to include and the time spent on on your list is the bridal registry. deciding what store to register Even more important, is the kind at in the first place. of registry you would like to set Convenience for Overseas up. Guests Most people are familiar with As much as you would like to establishing a registry with a have them present, some persons gift store, but becoming more living overseas may not be able and more popular, is opening a to make it to your wedding. They Bridal Registry Saving Account – may want to extend their best usually with a building society. wishes by giving a gift but may When the engaged couple opens not be able to view the items a Bridal Registry account, they selected at a store registry and are given cards on which to so the Bridal Registry Account is write their names and account an excellent solution.
number. These are then usually included in the invitation for guests to make deposits into the account, instead of purchasing an actual gift. This has proven to be very beneficial to the couple Models: Chad Stephenson for several reasons. & Jamila Maitland Photographer: Andre Pottinger
Guests Prefer to Give Cash Let’s face it – besides your overseas guests, there are those who would rather not have to go to the store registry and battle with the decision of what to choose. Nuptials | 4
They would much prefer to give a cash gift. A Bridal Registry makes it easy for guests to deposit it to your account it before the wedding.
journal and list the names as soon as a gift is received. Send out as early as possible and no later than three months after the wedding. A nice touch is for both To Start that Deposit for the you and your spouse to sign the Mortgage cards. That way the recipient will feel like a part of your new life This is the most obvious reason. together, regardless of who they Purchasing their first home is knew before the wedding. usually the next big goal that a This is how it works: couple will save towards after The bride and groom visit any getting married, or they may want Scotiabank or Scotia Jamaica to start a their life in a new home. Building Society to open a Scotia After the expense of a wedding, it Bridal account. After opening the also helps to have some funds in account: place to get ‘the ball a rolling’. And why not consider handing out the bridal registry cards shortly after the wedding invitations have been distributed, rather than having the cards included in the invitations? This way it won’t appear as if in order to attend, guests must bring a gift or contribute to the registry. There is also the option of spreading the news about the registry by word of mouth. Encourage bridesmaids, close friends and immediate family members to tell the other guests about the registry and explain why you have chosen this approach. Finally, do not forget to send out ‘Thanks You’ cards. Keep a gift
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The couple will receive bridal registry cards, at no cost, to advise their guests that they have enrolled with SJBS
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Guests may then visit Scotia Jamaica Building Society or any branch of Scotiabank and deposit a cash gift directly into the Scotia Bridal account
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Guests will be given a certificate to present to the couple
If the bride and groom are not customers of SJBS or Scotiabank, they will need the following items to open a Scotia Bridal account: •
Valid picture identification, such as a passport, driver’s licence or voter’s registration card
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Tax Registration Number (TRN)
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Two references1
Call the Scotia Contact Centre at 960-2675 or toll-free at 1-888991-2675, or visit SJBS or any
branch of Scotiabank to learn more about this service. Features •
Interest paid quarterly
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Statement generated quarterly
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ATM card available on request
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Minimum opening amount: $1,000
Opening your Scotia Bridal account is easy. Contact us today, or visit any of our Scotiabank branches for more details on this product, and how you can easily transfer your existing business to Scotiabank. Bridal Registry Accounts are available at The Scotia Jamaica Building Society and can be opened at any Scotiabank branch. For more information on Scotia Bridal Registry visit our link at www.scotiabank.com.jm or email us at sjbsgen@scotiabank.com.
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10 IMPORTANT QUESTIONS Sometimes love just isn’t enough to keep a couple together. So often on the, a person will share an issue in a marriage that is an obvious deal breaker. When asked if the issue was discussed prior to getting married, the answer is often “no.” Don’t make that mistake. Don’t get married without knowing your future spouse’s thoughts on these issues that can kill a marriage. Compromise is usually not an option if the two of you disagree on these issues that can be deal breakers. 1. Do you want to have children? It is a huge red flag in your relationship if you and your future spouse can not agree on whether to have children or not. Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage is a mistake. Making a decision to have a baby when one parent doesn’t want to have children is not fair to the child or to your marriage. 2. Can we talk about money? The mechanics of how the two of you will handle your finances really isn’t the issue. Many couples in successful marriages have
separate checking accounts and many couples in successful marriages have one account. The issue is whether or not the two of you can calmly and practically talk about money. If how your money is spent, or saved, or not spent is an issue before you get married, it will be an even bigger issue after your wedding. If your future spouse doesn’t want to talk about money, or doesn’t think talking about money is important, postpone your wedding until this issue is solved. Can we talk about sex? There is no way of predicting the future when it comes to an individual’s sexual libido. However, if the two of you are already having sexual issues, you shouldn’t get married until the issues are settled. Differences in sexual frequency, desire, preferences, fantasies, masturbation, pornography, expectations, etc. will tear the two of you apart. If you and your partner are unable to talk about the issues, or if your future spouse doesn’t see any real problem, or doesn’t want to talk about sex with you, cancel the wedding.
4. How much time will we spend with our in-laws? They may be wonderful people who love you both, but your in-laws should not be allowed to interfere in your marriage relationship. If either one of you will not set boundaries with your own parents when it comes to visits, phone calls, finances, children, etc., the problem with your in-laws will only worsen. 5. Will you clean the toilet? If the answer is “no” or “why should I?” or “Isn’t that your job?”, you have several options. •
You can hire someone to do the chores that neither of you wants to do.
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You can accept that you will be doing 90% of the chores around the house.
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You can discuss the importance of sharing the household chores together.
If none of these options work out, call off the wedding. This is another one of those issues that won’t suddenly get better after you sign the marriage license.
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6. How do you want to spend our days off? The answer to this question will reveal several things. • How your future spouse
likes to spend free time.
• The value your future
spouse places on having fun together. Whether or not you will come first before work
Balancing work and fun and family time and personal time is not easy. Without talking about the time aspect of your life together, you may find yourself grumbling because your spouse is spending what you consider to be too much time with old friends and extended family, or on hobbies, sports, the computer, etc. Living a balanced life together will create the time you both need, individually and together, for vacations, quiet time, and fun time.
can’t. This is a problem that needs professional counseling. 9. Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another? Open marriage and swinging is okay for some married couples, but most want and prefer a monogamous relationship. If your future spouse and you have differing opinions on what cheating is or isn’t, don’t get married until this issue has been discussed. 10. What do you think we’ll be doing in thirty or forty years? If your future spouse can’t answer this or won’t answer this, then the two of you need to talk about long-lasting marriage expectations. Why marry someone who doesn’t think your marriage will last? Designed by Watto Pastries Photographer: Andre Pottinger
7. How often do you drink? The answer to this question, or to questions about smoking cigarettes or using drugs, will reveal whether or not your future spouse has a potential addiction problem which could end up not only threatening your marriage but could also put you in legal and financial jeopardy. 8. Have you ever hit someone? If your future spouse has anger management issues, or tries to control who you see and what you do, or is causing you to
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5 Signs
An affair won’t screw up your marriage. “If you’re tempted to have an affair, your marriage is already in trouble,” says relationship expert Steven Stosny, Ph.D., the author of Love without Hurt. The good news: People don’t become cheaters overnight. If you’re in it till death do you part—that’s what you told the minister, right?—watch for these five signs that your union may be unraveling.
1. Busy Mornings Don’t walk out the door without a see-you-later kiss. “Skin-on-skin contact releases oxytocin, which lowers stress and makes you feel connected,” says Patricia Love, Ed.D., coauthor of How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about It. “When a man is touch-deprived, this need becomes sexualized, making his wife think he just wants sex, and creating more tension.” Live Happily Ever After: Set aside 1 minute a day. “It takes only a few seconds of skin-on-skin contact a few times a day to start oxytocin production,” says Love. Just a kiss in the morning, a hug after work, and another kiss before bed can produce a lasting feeling of intimacy—and save your marriage. 2. Your Bedroom An exhausted brain is an antagonistic one. “When we’re tired, our brains use anger to create energy,” says Stosny. “So you start arguments seeking a rush.”
3. Her Mirror Sure, you love her intelligence and sense of humor. But make sure she knows you love her smokin’ hot body as well. “If a woman’s body image is low,” says Love, “she’ll feel less passionate and sexual.” Live Happily Ever After: Yes, compliment her, but here’s the trick: “Do it in public,” says Love. “It’ll emphasize your commitment, making her feel more secure and ultimately improving her body image.” 4. Her Promotion A recent Cornell University study found that men who earn less than their wives are more likely to cheat. “Guys have always been seen as the primary breadwinners,” says Love. “Many men feel weak when that changes, so they go searching for an ego boost.” Live Happily Ever After: Remember the golden rule of management: Hire well. It also applies to relationships. Remind yourself what a smart guy you were for picking such a competent woman, says Love. 5. Dirty Dishes In a recent Montclair State University study of nearly 7,000 married couples, sexual frequency increased 0.06 percent a year for every 1 percent increase in weekly housework that husbands handled. The average woman without kids does 10 hours more housework a week than her husband. So if you picked up 5 additional hours, it would yield nine additional romps in the hay each year. Not a bad investment! Live Happily Ever After: Grab a dishrag already. “Too much housework, like anything that causes stress, decreases bloodflow to the genitals,” says Love. “Approach her at the sink and say, ‘I’ll take care of that.’ Your reward will come later.” From the Editors of Men’s Health Mon, Nov 22, 2010
Live Happily Ever After: Don’t nod off with the TV on. “A bright room keeps your brain awake,” says Stosny. Also make sure your curtains are thick enough to block out early-morning sunlight, and turn the alarm clock away from you. “People with sleep disturbances tend to be clock watchers,” Stosny says. “Calculating the numbers on a digital clock stimulates left-brain activity and the production of cortisol, a stimulant.”
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When it comes to frequency of sex, the old adage of “just do it” is backed up by science. More and more studies are showing increased emotional and physical benefits from frequent safe sex. •
Lower mortality rates.
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Reduced risk of prostate cancer.
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Improves posture.
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Boosts self esteem.
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Makes a person feel younger.
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Firms tummy and buttocks.
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Keeps spouses connected emotionally.
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Offers pain-relief.
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Gives people a positive attitude on life.
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Reduced risk of heart disease.
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Makes a person more calm.
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Improves fitness level.
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Makes a person less irritable.
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Reduced depression.
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Improved sense of smell.
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Has a therapeutic effect on immune system.
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Better bladder control.
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Relieves menstrual cramps.
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Helps people sleep better.
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Improves digestion.
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Healthier teeth.
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Helps folks remember more.
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Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites.
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Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings.
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Lowers feelings of insecurity.
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Increases level of commitment.
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Less-frequent colds and flu.
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It can help people achieve weight loss since about 200 calories are burned during 30 minutes of active sex.
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Studies are also showing that it is a myth that abstinence can sharpen a person’s competitive edge.
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The answer dates back to 1840 when Victoria, Queen of England, married her Prince Charming, Albert, in a wedding that set protocol on its ear.
Why Brides Wear White?
The young Queen was only 20 when SHE proposed marriage to Albert. According to the Royal Marriages Act of 1772, all royal marriages were to be sanctioned by the sovereign but in Victoria’s case, she was the sovereign and this independent young woman was not about to ask anyone’s permission to marry-a royal first.
tion that has passed down to us throughout the ages.
The young queen married publicly, in the afternoon, and set another royal precedent. Since royal weddings were considered too sacred for the public’s eyes, they were always held very late at night or early in the morning. And, to top it off, she wore a wedding dress with a plunging, SEXY neckline. It was a dress that would change the course of history because Victoria, instead of wearing silver, the traditional choice for royalty, wore WHITE. It was a first, and the beginning of a tradi
But how did the color become synonymous with purity and virginity? In the sixteenth century, another English queen, Elizabeth I, popularized the color white; she LOVED IT and wore it often! Because the queen was celebrated for her chasteness (she became known as the Virgin Queen), her favorite color came to symbolize purity and virginity-and the tradition passed down to us throughout the centuries. Today white symbolizes joy and celebration and remains the traditional color for wedding gowns. But there’s no reason not to wear any color that you choose.
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