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14 Keeping Kids Healthy Post-COVID After a year of social distancing, how do parents make sure their kids don’t get sick?

16 A Speciality Camp Summer

These targeted camps allow kids to pursue their passions.

26 Congrats, Grads!

You can still plan a special and memorable day for your graduate—from preschool to college.

28 Does Your Child Have Anxiety? It’s normal for kids to have bouts of fear— but how can you tell when it’s anxiety?

30 Pet Sense & Sensibility

Teaching kids how to interact with animals is more important than ever

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6 Editor’s Note 9 News: What’s happening in the community 12 Baby: Sun Protection for Baby 13 Advice: Ask Dad and Buried 34 Last Word: What do you appreciate about your kids’ teachers now more than ever?

things to do 20 Celebrating Mom 22 Your Outdoor Bucket List

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Warmer Days Ahead

he weather’s getting warmer every day and summer will be here before you know it. Have you started making your family’s summer plans yet? Whether you’re taking a much-needed vacation, sending your child to a day or sleepaway camp, or just hanging around the area this year, it might be worth considering a specialty camp or two to engage your child for a few weeks. There are so many benefits, but, most importantly, they allow your child to follow their passions with likeminded peers. And, since they’re typically weeklong stints, specialty camps can fill in the gaps between your family’s other plans. Read more about them on p.16, then turn to p.17 to browse and choose the best camp for your child. Speaking of warmer weather, we’re excited to spend as much time outside as possible, which is why Long Island mom Linda DiProperzio compiled a bucket list of 40 things you can do outside with your kids right now (p. 22). We’re talking Adventureland, whale-watching, Garden of Eve, White Post Farms, and more! Before you head out for a day of outdoor fun, make sure to slather the family in sunscreen! May is Skin Cancer Awareness Month, and one of the best ways to prevent it is using a broad-spectrum, water-resistant sunscreen. Visit nymetroparents.com/sunscreen for more info—and if you have a baby, turn to p.12 to find out how to protect your littlest family member. However you choose to spend your time outside this month, we hope you have a blast!

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Harry Potter in NYC

The flagship store is slated to open in the Flatiron District early this summer.

Harry Potter New York, the world’s largest official Harry Potter flagship store, is slated to open next to the Flatiron building on June 3. The three-floor wizarding wonder will house the largest collection of Harry Potter and Fantastic Beasts products in the world all under one roof—from personalized robes to Bertie Bott’s Every Flavor Beans to a brandnew range of wands designed specifically for this location. Harry Potter New York will feature 15 different themed areas and a number of exciting experiences that use digital technology and VR to bring the Wizarding World to life. You can strike a pose at one of the many photo opportunities within the store (like the London phone box or inside Hagrid’s boots) or visit the interactive wand table to bring one of your favorite Harry Potter characters to life. Harry Potter New York, located at 935 Broadway, will open with a virtual queuing system in place (you’ll scan a QR code to join and return when you are notified to rather than stand in line), and it will follow all CDC COVID-19 safety guidelines, including reduced capacity and face coverings. For a sneak-peak of all of the magical merchandise Harry Potter New York will feature, visit harrypottershop.com.

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Shayna Ferm and Tracey Tee, creators of the popular live comedy show, The Pump and Dump Show, and the Band of Mothers app, talk about what it’s like to be a woman who also happens to be a mom in Band of Mothers. With nothing off limits, this long-time duo (they’ve been friends since eighth grade!) explores women’s lifestyle subjects and expert opinions. They often include compelling guests, and always have honest, raw, charmingly irreverent conversations and hilarious games.

Me Time Did you know taking 15-20 minutes of me time each day can help prevent caregiver burnout? “Me time is recovery time,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., author of Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love. Learn how me time reduces stress and how to find the time (even if it seems impossible right now) at nymetroparents.com/ me-time.

his beautifully illustrated book by Caldecott Medalist Brian Floca (Locomotive, Moonshot: The Flight of Apollo 11) realistically captures New York during an unreal time: when families were stuck at home clanging pots for the city’s unsung heroes. And as normalcy returns, this book will memorialize our pandemic madness—and the incredible perseverance and comradery demonstrated by this city and most importantly its essential workers. We spoke to Floca about his book.

Why did you want to write a book about essential workers?

How did creating this book help you through the pandemic?

I’ve never been happier to see a UPS truck or a fire engine or a delivery cyclist coming down the block than I was last spring. Each of the essential workers operating those vehicles seemed to me to be making the assertion that, yes, the city would continue to function, that we would in fact get through this thing. I was grateful for that.

It gave me something to do, is the simplest way to put it! (And, yes, I made bread, too.)

How did you find your specific inspiration? Almost everything in the book was inspired by—or simply lifted from—something I saw while walking or biking near my studio in Gowanus. Any questions I had about the details on the garbage truck I was drawing could be resolved with a short walk.

Making Mom Friends In the absence of traditional meetups like library story hours, it’s been tricky to make new mom friends this past year. But with a bit of effort and creativity, you can nurture friendships with other moms who’ll relate to what you’re going through, whether it’s teething troubles or teenage texting. Find ideas at nymetroparents.com/momfriends. 10

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What do you hope kids will take away from this book? Making the book has certainly helped me be more observant and appreciative of the people and the work that make New York run—a remarkable feat even when there is no pandemic. As E.B. White said: “It is a miracle that New York works at all. The whole thing is implausible.” If looking at the book helps readers be more aware and appreciative, too, or if readers have friends and family who do this kind of work and who might feel acknowledged by the book, then I would be very happy with that.

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Peace Train By Cat Stevens; illustrated by Peter H. Reynolds To mark the iconic song’s 50th anniversary, Cat Steven’s picture book (published May 11) invites readers to hop on the Peace Train and join its growing group of passengers who are all ready to travel together to a better world of peace and human understanding. For MiddLe schooLers

Stamped (For Kids): Racism, Antiracism, and You By Jason Reynolds, Ibram X. Kendi; adapted by Sonja Cherry-Paul, illustrated by Rachelle Baker Adapted from the groundbreaking bestseller Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You, this book (published May 11) shows kids where racist ideas came from and how they impact America today, and introduces them to the heroes who have fought racism with antiracism. For teens

The Supreme Lie By Geraldine McCaughrean In this darkly comic thriller (published May 12) by a Carnegie Medal-winning author, 15-year-old Gloria is thrust into a world of corrupt and desperate politicians. As she becomes aware of the forces manipulating her, she must take actions that could save, or end, thousands of lives—including her own.

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Performing Arts Studio Moves to Westbury Linda’s Studio of Performing Arts (LSPA) at Little Sponges moved to a new location in Westbury this February. The new facility boasts three large dance rooms and a gymnasium. LSPA offers all genres of dance, including tap, jazz, ballet, hip-hop, lyrical, Irish step, Latin fusion, and musical theater along with a variety of gymnastics floor skills. The goal is to help children and young adults learn and grow while doing what they love and participating in various genres of dance and performing arts. All skill levels are welcome at LSPA. 1000 Shames Dr., Westbury; 516-314-8589; lsperformingarts.com

YMCA of LI is Offering Flexible Programs to Cater to Comfort Levels of All Members The YMCA of Long Island is now offering indoor, outdoor, and virtual programs for adults, kids and families at its Bay Shore, East Hampton, Glen Cove, Huntington, and Patchogue locations to allow members to utilize the Y in whatever way they feel comfortable. Whether its indoor group fitness, lap swimming or youth group & private swim lessons, outdoor fitness in the tented “Y on the Fly” spaces or youth sports, or virtual cooking, nutrition, and wellness programs, YMCA of LI has taken all comfortability levels into account. Programs cater to ages six months and older. Beginning May 15, the Y will be able to welcome more members based on the updated guidance from New York State. 5 locations across Long Island. 855-296-2254; ymcali.org

Boosting Emotional Wellness in Kids Even if you don’t think your kids are stressed out or affected by the past year, it’s a good time to up your game when it comes to fostering emotional wellness. Here are 5 simple things you can do:

Support your child. Check in with your kids at least once a week and remind them part of your job is to answer their questions and provide support. Speak openly and calmly about your own anxieties and your children will become better at adapting during periods of crisis.

Get active. Spend plenty of time dancing around the house introduce your kids to yoga. Staying active can help reduce stress levels. Practice mindfulness. Meditating or coloring are some great ways to be present with one another and enjoy each other’s company without having to say or do much, and they’re ideal for supporting mental health and wellness. Be informative. If your child expresses some fear of re-entering public spaces and social environments, provide information and be specific regarding what you will do outside of the house and how you will be smart to stay healthy.

Stay aware. If your child is having trouble sleeping, eating, or experiences dramatic mood changes, you should probably seek a mental health professional’s guidance. For more, visit nymetroparents.com/ emotions.

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Sun Protection for Baby

Summer is around the corner—don’t forget the sunscreen! By Alison Leighton

or many parents, sunscreen wasn’t a staple in our beach bag. Back then, we weren’t taught much about the dangers of overexposure to the sun. Today, parents are more informed about risks such as cancer or damaged skin, and most adults practice safe sunscreen habits with their kids. But as summer approaches, it’s always a good idea to buff up on healthy sun tips for babies.

Can my newborn wear sunsCreen? Baby skin is sensitive and still very delicate, so most doctors don’t recommend using sunscreen before 6 months old. Instead, parents should rely on other forms of sun protection—such as shade from an umbrella, a stroller canopy, or a pop-up tent. For additional relief, try a clip-on fan for a stroller or lounge chair. Infants should also wear brimmed hats and sunglasses if possible. Dress them in lightweight UVA/UVB protective or UPF- (Ultraviolet Protection Factor) containing clothing, and make sure they don’t get overheated. This is especially important between the hours of 10am and 4pm, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. If you can’t avoid the sun, it’s safe to apply a small amount of sunscreen to small, exposed areas, such as an infant’s face or the back of her hands. Check with your pediatrician about this and also refer to the sunscreen guidelines below.

How do I keep my baby proteCted from tHe sun? The Mayo Clinic says it’s safe for babies to wear sunscreen after 6 months and, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, a history of sunburns, especially in youth, can increase the risk of skin cancer later in life. So, don’t forget to follow these rules for the whole family. • Apply a broad-spectrum sunscreen 15-30 minutes before going outside. • Use a lotion which contains 30 SPF or higher. • Apply sunscreen generously to all exposed skin every two hours or after getting wet. Do this even if it’s cloudy; clouds don’t absorb all the harmful UV radiation. • Use a mineral-based sunscreen containing zinc oxide or titanium dioxide, which prevent skin and eye irritation in babies. Zinc will

act as a barrier against the sun and won’t be absorbed into your baby’s pores. • Water-resistant sunscreen is ideal. • Everyone, regardless of skin-tone, should wear sunscreen.

do I need sunsCreen speCIfICally made for babIes? “If you are using a mineral sunscreen that has limited ingredients, you don’t necessarily need one labeled ‘for babies/children’,” according to Orit Markowitz, M.D., boardcertified dermatologist and founder of OptiSkin in Manhattan. “However, it can be easier for parents to look for a baby/kid safe label if they are unsure.” Dr. Markowitz notes that babies older than 6 months and small children tend to have more sensitive skin, so she recommends parents use mineral blockers with pure ingredients (like zinc or titanium dioxide) instead of chemical sunscreens that contain micro-size particles that are absorbed by a young child’s delicate pores. “Mineral or physical sunscreens sit on top of the skin making it a better option for babies, children, and even adults with sensitive skin as you are less likely to have a reaction,” she explains. Many popular sunscreen brands have baby- and child-specific options. Test a new brand of sunscreen on a small section of your baby’s skin and a wait for a couple of minutes to see if there is a reaction before applying more. Some brands sell baby sunscreen in solid form called sunscreen sticks (which look like mini deodorant) and are especially useful for wiggly babies’ faces. You will also find various options that may meet personal preferences, such as hypoallergenic, fragrance-free, paraben-free, or vegan.

How do I keep my toddler proteCted from tHe sun? Even as babies age, they can be burned easily in direct sunlight and become overheated quickly. Continue to keep your child in the shade as much as possible, reapply sunscreen, and maintain the sunprotective behaviors you started at 6 months old. Also, your child may be swimming and playing in water at this age, so don’t forget to reapply after they get wet, and/or after two hours of exposure. And finally, our favorite tip: Go outside and have a blast with your little ones!

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Ask DadandBuried We’re all going crazy. Every sunny, warm day is followed by three lousy ones, and my kids need to get outside—and away from me! How do we survive these next few weeks before summer without losing our minds? — Marcus, Staten Island

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onestly, Marcus? I DON’T KNOW! We’ve been stuck inside far more than we’re used to. Parents have been working from home; kids have been schooling from home; some of us have even been teaching from home. We’re all dying to get outside and back to normal life. If we lived in California or another warm locale where social distancing outside is easy, maybe we’d feel differently. Unfortunately, we live here, where winter has been long and brutal and enjoys rope-a-doping us with false hope well into spring! We’re all going a little mad—especially our kids. (Not that you can tell; kids are already insane…unless it’s just my kids. Please don’t let it be just my kids!) Thankfully, spring is here and so is the vaccine! You’ve done what you needed to do in order to survive. Maybe you’ve kept the family together with weekly game nights. Maybe you’ve stayed sane by Zooming with friends. Maybe you’ve allowed the kids to melt their brains with video games so you could have some adult time? Guilty as charged! Whatever coping method you used, you’re surely completely sick of it by now, and also probably completely sick of your kids. I think we are all dying to get a lot further than 6 feet away from our kids. And we’re so close (to being far from our children). Take heart that change is coming. Use these sporadic sunny days to take a walk and yell at your kids outside, and if you’re vaccinated, visit other vaccinated people. Keep ordering take-out and delivery, keep maximizing your Netflix account, and keep letting your kids play Fortnite or Doom or Double Dragon or whatever they play these days. Hang on for a little while longer, Marcus, and soon enough the weather, and the vaccine (and herd immunity!) will give us all the protection we need to start getting together with friends again, to start getting away from our kids again, and to start living life again—if we can remember how!

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Keeping Kids Healthy Post-COVID After a year of social distancing, how do parents make sure their kids don’t get sick? By Alison Kotch

hen COVID-19 forced kids to stay home, the germs they could potentially catch and carry decreased dramatically. But what happens now that kids are going back to school? New York and New Jersey have the most COVID-19 cases, hospitalizations, and highest death rates in the country. In March, the number of new infections increased 37-percent in little more than a month, according to an AP News article. Plus, children may not be vaccinated for a while, according to David Buchholz, M.D., assistant professor of pediatrics at Columbia University’s Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons. “Nothing has changed for children at this point in the pandemic. The youngest may not get vaccinated until 2022, when the studies are complete.” Until then, how do parents keep kids protected as they are reintroduced to pre-pandemic activities? We asked Dr. Buchholz to weigh in.

pandemic. Their immune systems have not been compromised by the lack of interaction—and there are likely less germs circulating. “The use of face coverings, social distancing, handwashing, and isolating when ill has dramatically reduced contagious diseases during the pandemic,” Dr. Buchholz says. “These precautions will continue to help reduce illness as children socialize more.” In fact, when kids return to “normal” social interaction, their risk of getting sick will be on par with pre-pandemic levels—or might even be reduced. “I’d like to believe that the lessons learned about handwashing and isolating when ill may persist, and reduce contagious disease transmission for, at least, a while,” Dr. Buchholz says. These habits also safeguard against the common cold and other viruses, so kids should continue to wash hands for at least 20 seconds (and sneeze into their arm instead of their hand).

Will my child spread coVid-19? As adult vaccinations increase, people might be worried that kids will continue to transmit the coronavirus. Fortunately, Dr. Buchholz says, this is not the case. “Studies have shown that the spread of COVID-19 occurs less among children in elementary and middle school, while transmission in high school students is more similar to how adults contract the virus,” he says. However, that’s no reason to let your guard down when it comes to protection: COVID-19 can be spread through ventilation systems in schools, during indoor after-school sports, and in child care programs, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. In addition to all of the regular safety precautions, parents should request that teachers and administrators open windows whenever possible and use fans to ensure proper air circulation.

When can kids get the Vaccine?

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As of press date, Pfizer/BioNTech is testing the vaccine in children ages 12-15, followed by those ages 5-11. Moderna is conducting two studies: one on children ages 12-17 and the other on kids between the ages of 6 months to 12 years. Results should be available by summer. Once a safe and effective dose is determined, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration will review data before authorizing it for distribution. Dr. Buchholz says children will be considered immune two

HEY, LONG ISLAND, WHAT’S IN YOUR WATER? weeks after completing a single-dose vaccine or two weeks after the second dose of a two-dose vaccine. Until then, facecoverings, hand washing, and isolation will need to continue. Parents should also boost their child’s immune system with a healthy diet, which is especially important these days— childhood obesity levels have increased 2 percent since the start of the pandemic, as a result of reduced availability of healthy lunches, easier access to snacks, and more screen time, according to a study in the journal Pediatrics.

What precautions should kids continue to take? After parents are vaccinated, kids can safely see grandparents. “Per the CDC’s guidelines, an unvaccinated, asymptomatic child may visit a single-family household who has been vaccinated—such as grandparents—without the need for masks or social distancing,” Dr. Buchholz says. After kids get vaccinated, they should still take precautions as in-person classes return. The CDC advises parents to stay in touch with their school staff and teachers and avoid sending kids to school with a fever of 100.4 or higher, or if they exhibit symptoms of diarrhea, severe headache, vomiting, or nausea. Sending your children to school with sanitizer and encouraging them not to share musical instruments, writing instruments, or books can also slow the spread of COVID and the common cold. That said, if both kids and adults are vaccinated, families can cautiously start to resume normal activities—and look forward to a brighter, less isolated future.

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A Specialty Camp Summer

These targeted camps allow kids to pursue their passions. By Zlata Faerman

specific sport (tennis, soccer, baseball, and more), STEAM, dance, art, academics, and pretty much anything your child shows an interest in. There are also specialty camps for kids who want to travel— either to experience different cultures or to pursue a passion. For example, there are camps in Costa Rica where campers help save sea turtles. No matter what your children’s interests are, there is likely a specialty camp out there for them.

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his last year of pandemic-living erased all sense of routine. Now that summer is approaching, both parents and kids are craving some normalcy—especially more interaction with their peers, which is where summer camp can come to the rescue. While some parents may be concerned about COVID safety at camp, many are reassured by last summer’s study conducted by the American Camp Association, which showed that out of 90,000 kids at 486 camps, less than 1 percent of campers and staffers contracted COVID-19. “This summer is looking hopeful! Registration has already opened for many camps, and spots are filling up fast,” says Gregg Morrow, who manages clients at UltraCamp, a summer camp registration and management tool. So, for parents who are jumping on the camp bandwagon, the only question that remains is: Which camp? Will you choose a day camp that offers a varied program of outdoorsy fun like swimming, sports, hiking, games, and arts and crafts or a sleepaway camp? Or is this the summer for a specialty camp or two?

What are specialty camps? Some specialty camps are intended for a specific group of kids— such as those with rare skin conditions, campers with cancer, gifted and talented children, at-risk youth, kids with certain health conditions, or individuals with intellectual or physical disabilities. There are also specialty camps for children who want to focus on a particular interest and learn to master a skill—like a 16

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Specialty camps allow children (and their parents) to come together around a mutual interest—and gives kids the chance to meet others with the same passion. These relationships foster a sense of community and encourage growth and confidence in kids. “There is a lot of power bringing people together who share a common love of something and the community that love fosters,” says Mike Samer, co-founder of Everyday California—a San Diego, CA-based surfing camp. “Specialty camps are a great way for students to hone-in and focus on one thing and one thing only for a short period of time,” says Christopher Rim, CEO and founder of Command Education Group, which hosts a week-long College Application Booster Camp. “Specialty camps allow kids the opportunity to build out and focus on one endeavor and make a lot of progress in a short amount of time.” These camps are also often shorter (one week as opposed to several), which means they can fill in the gaps between other summer plans like traditional day camp, sleepaway camp, or a family vacation. So, if you’re trying to decide between specialty, day, and sleepaway camp for your child, consider choosing two or all three options—if it’s feasible for your family—and line them up to fully engage your kid. After a year of reduced social-emotional learning, it’s the ideal summer for this, according to Tom Rosenberg, president and CEO of ACA. “After such an isolating and traumatic year of disruption and loss, the SEL outcomes that result from camp experiences will help young people prepare to thrive in school this fall,” he says. Zlata Faerman is a full-time publicist, part-time writer, and round-the-clock ambassador to wit and humor. When she’s not crafting kitchen concoctions for @lifeandthymez, she can be found spending time with her family, having @zlatathoughts, and fantasizing about being a Real Housewife of New Jersey.

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401 Roslyn Road, Roslyn Heights 516-621-9257 bethsholomdaycamp.com office@bethsholomdaycamp.com Beth Sholom Day Camp offers children, ages 3-15, the opportunity to reach their goals in a friendly, noncompetitive atmosphere. Activities include music, dance, arts and crafts, karate, as well as outdoor sports. Red cross swim instruction is offered in our three heated pools. BSDC provides door-to-door, air-conditioned transportation.

Buckley Summer Academy

2 I.U. Willets Road, Roslyn 516-627-1910 buckleycountryday.com Buckley Scholars is an exciting, elite academic program allows students entering grades fifth-ninth to explore their passions through hands-on workshops, true-to-life simulations, and essential leadership development activities! The two-week program is a partnership between the Buckley Summer Academy and the National Student Leadership Conference.

Nassau: Garden City, Manhasset, Plainview, Wantagh Suffolk: Babylon, Commack, Huntington Station, Setauket 888-909-2822 destinationscience.org info@destinationscience.org Destination Science - the Fun Science Day Camp for Curious Kids 5-11! Explore STEM based projects and build great life skills. Safe, friendly, educators. Experience three hands-on science stations each day, outside action and lots of camper connections. In-person or online camps. Early savings ends soon!

209 Glen Head Road, Glen Head 866-222-0269 Everbrook Academy of Smithtown 740 Route 347, Smithtown everbrookacademy.com It’s full STEAM ahead to fun and excitement at Camp Everbrook in Glen Head. Enjoy weekly themed experiences (exploring subjects including science, art, animals, history, and games), engaging activities, fun field trips, and healthy meals and snacks. Experience a 21st century summer at Everbrook Academy®. Visit everbrookacademy.com/summer and learn more.

Locations in Baldwin, Bellmore, Deer Park, East Rockaway, Farmingdale, Hicksville, Melville, St. James, Syosset, Valley Stream, and Williston Park 516-935-CAMP (2267) campsrus.org info@campsrus.org We advocate for children to have a meaningful, positive, and safe summer at camp. Following the unprecedented circumstances of current events, it is our mission to deliver a safe summer camp experience that will nurture the physical, intellectual, emotional, and social well being of our campers.

Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory DNA Learning Center

Cold Spring Harbor and Brooklyn 516-367-5170 summercamps.dnalc.org The Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory DNA Learning Center offers weeklong biology-focused summer camps for students entering grades sixth-12th. Join us at the flagship in Cold Spring Harbor, our new center in Brooklyn, or virtually. Campers use sophisticated laboratory and computer equipment to perform experiments grade levels above their peers.

354 Lakeville Road, lower level, Great Neck 516-466-8422 cmsgn.com info@cmsgn.com Countryside Montessori School is offering in-person camp for children ages 18 months to 6 years old. There

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1000 Shames Dr., Westbury 516-595-7900 littlesponges.net Little Sponges Summer Camp is an interactive experience and youth program for children ages 4-12. We have successfully run our summer camp through the COVID pandemic. We offer STEM, dance, arts and crafts, academic enrichment, water play/slides, obstacle courses, and hours of fun! Come plan your summer with us.

Little Sponges Child Learning Center

1000 Shames Dr., Westbury 516-595-7900 littlesponges.net LSPA is a dance camp that offers beginners and intermediate dancers an opportunity to grow in the art of dance and performing arts. Dancers will have the opportunity to work on technique as well as explore new disciplines and genres. Teachers help build confidence, strength, rhythm, flexibility, technique, and tempo.

Music Institute of Long Island

90 Plandome Road, Manhasset 516-627-7052 milimusic.com miligirls@gmail.com Voted No. 1 Best Music School on Long Island and North Shore. Programs include: violin, viola, cello, guitar, piano, voice, clarinet, saxophone, trumpet, trombone, tuba. Instructions in Traditional, Suzuki, and ABRSM methods for ages 3-99, beginner-advanced. MILI offers Chamber Music, Theory, Sight Reading, NYSSMA, and college preparation.

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270 Duck Pond Road, Locust Valley 516-393-4207 fa.org/summer summer@fa.org Friends Academy Summer Programs provides children ages 3-14 with high quality opportunities in STEM, the arts, and sports. Children learn, explore, socialize, and create wonderful memories that last a lifetime. Programs are taught by school faculty and highly qualified industry professionals.

Brookville 646-519-5066 Steve Miller, camp director oasischildren.com liupost@oasischildren.com Located in beautiful Brookville Long Island, there is never a dull moment at Oasis Day Camp at LIU Post! We pride ourselves on our age-appropriate programming for ages 3-16. We encourage trying new things, establishing lifelong friends, and making memories that will last a lifetime.

100 Drexel Ave., Melville 631-694-3399 kenwaldaycamp.com kenwaloffice@kenwaldaycamp.com We opened and operated last summer without a single case of Covid! Kenwal is the camp where children can start at age 3, and still thrive at 16. Campers are nurtured and challenged in a fun, safe environment designed for success! Building self-esteem, and being “unplugged” are achieved regularly.

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855-2YMCALI (962254) Bay Shore, East Hampton, Glen Cove, Holtsville, Huntington, and Patchogue ymcali.org/camp camp@ymcali.org info@ymcali.org At the YMCA Summer Day Camp, we offer the best of adventure, athletics, aquatics, camp traditions, STEAM, special guests, and summer learning. Our programs for ages 3-15 are designed to meet your child’s interests and abilities. Twoweek sessions run June 28-Aug. 27. Discounts available! (Expire April 30). Following NYS COVID-19 Guidelines.

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Celebrating Mom 8 ideas to celebrate Mother’s Day this year By Melissa Wickes

very day is a good day to celebrate Mom, but this year we should work even harder to make her feel extra special to make up for different (or lack of) celebrations last year. Here are some ideas for celebrating Mother’s Day in 2021 and making Mom feel extra special—whether you’re spending the day together or apart. And remember: The vaccine gives us protection we may have not had last year, but it’s important to remain cautious and continue to practice smart COVID-protection tactics.

order, Make, or take Her for Her favorite Meal Whether it’s takeout, a home-cooked dinner, or you’re looking to spend the day out, make sure Mom has a special meal to celebrate the day. If you’re staying in, put down a tablecloth, light a candle, and have the kids pretend to be servers!

Make MoM a HoMeMade Gift A harsh reality is sinking in for many Dads: The kids aren’t coming home from school with the usual Mother’s Day craft gift. Luckily, you still have time to make that happen for Mom at home. Visit nymetroparents.com/mom for some craft gift ideas that can inspire your little one to create the perfect gift for Mom.

Have a Picnic If the weather holds up on Mother’s Day, and as of right now the forecast for New York is looking clear, plan a special backyard picnic.

Give MoM tHe day off Moms are superheroes under regular circumstances and right now, they are likely balancing motherhood with homeschooling all while being someone for the whole family to turn to in this time of uncertainty. Give Mom the day off from being the designated superhero by getting up early to finish up some house chores, make her breakfast in bed, or even plan a full at-home spa day.

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Plan a MotHer’s day scavenGer Hunt Surely your home is filled with relics and memories the kids share with Mom. Look for things around the house with Mom that represent special moments and bring back happy memories you’ve experienced together. Some things you can search for, courtesy of MistoBox’s Blog, include: • A picture of you and Mom. Tip: Make it more challenging by finding one from every age! • An old birthday card from Mom or to Mom • A handmade gift from Mother’s Days in the past • Clothing you borrowed from Mom’s closet • A book she read to you when you were little

take a free ride on tHe Hudson Circle Line’s Landmarks Cruise is offering free rides to moms on Mother’s Day at 12pm using the discount code MOMSFREE21. Take in breathtaking views of Manhattan’s downtown skyline with mom to make it a day she won’t forget.

Make MoM a sPecial dessert If Mom has a sweet tooth, surprise her with her favorite dessert. Want to try something new? Visit nymetroparents.com/mom for the recipe for Van Leeuwen’s Roasted Banana Ice Cream excerpted from Van Leeuwen Cookbook.

Make a MotHer’s day cocktail You can make Mom feel like she’s enjoying a special drink out at a restaurant with the ingredients you already have in your home. Makemeacocktail.com allows you to plug in every alcoholic drink and mixer you have in the house and will then generate all of the fun drinks you can make using them.

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Related Services: • Speech • OT/PT • Parent Training • Family Support Services

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Your Outdoor Bucket List! 40 reasons to get outside and have fun with your kids! By Linda DiProperzio

he warmer weather is finally here so it’s time to head outside for some fun in the sun. There is no shortage of outdoor family fun on Long Island. From fishing and fruit farms to amusement parks and festivals, here are some locations and activities you’ll want to check out this month.

Pet, feed, and cuddle with the hundreds of rescued animals at the Animal Farm Petting Zoo.

Your admission also includes the puppet theater, picnic areas, and playgrounds, along with a ride on the Safari family Train (afpz.org).

Pay a visit to Patches and Oliver, the resident giraffes at White Post Farms. While there, enjoy a train and pony rides, and feed the birds at Ronnie’s Birdie Landing (whitepostfarms.com).

Take a whale-watching tour with Captain Lou Fleet. You might also spot some dolphins, birds, and other wildlife, with a naturalist on board to explain it all (liwhaleandsealwatching.com). 22

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Swing through the air at Wild Play Elements Park at Jones Beach. There are three levels of obstacles that get higher and more challenging, including tightropes, cargo nets, ziplines, rope swings, swinging logs, and wobbly bridges (wildplay.com).

Take a drive to New York’s most-visited state park: Jones Beach. In addition to the sandy beach and beautiful ocean, walk on the boardwalk or take a bike ride, play miniature golf, and more (parks.ny.gov).

Walk along the pristine beaches of Fire Island. Then explore the salt marsh on a guided tour and climb to the top of the Fire Island Lighthouse, the tallest lighthouse on Long Island (fireisland.com).

Book a guided tour at the Holtsville Ecology Site and Animal Preserve, then head over to the playground and picnic area (brookhavenny.gov).

Take a step back in time at the Old Bethpage Village Restoration. Your family will find out what it was like to live during the mid-19th century (oldbethpagevillagerestoration.org).

Visit the butterfly vivarium and reptile room at the Sweet Briar Nature Center. Don’t forget to also check out the Discovery Area, which includes a sandbox, a hobbit house, other activities where children can paint and make music (sweetbriarnc.org).

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family fun Check out the 20 waters slides at Splish Splash. Two new additions for this year are Bombs Away and Riptide Racer (splishsplash.com).

Say hello to more than 200 animals at the Long Island Game Farm, the largest combined children’s zoo and wildlife park on Long Island. Its zebra, Zypher, is expecting (longislandgamefarm.com)!

Celebrate the official start of summer at the Bethpage Air Show on Memorial Day weekend. This year, capacity is limited, and tickets must be bought in advance (bethpageairshow.com).

Take a sunset cruise aboard the American Beauty II—or learn about the historic whaling village of Sag Harbor on a sightseeing tour (americanbeautycruises.com).

Pack a picnic and enjoy the 200 acres of gardens, ponds, and lakes at Old Westbury Gardens (oldwestburygardens.org).

Surround yourself with nature at the Bayard Cutting Arboretum. It has 690 acres of open spaces, woodlands, and gardens (bayardcuttingarboretum.com).

Explore the colorful gardens and greenhouses at Planting Fields Arboretum. While there, take a tour of historic Cole Hall (plantingfields.org).

Walk the nearly 2½ miles of marked trails at the Uplands Farm Nature Sanctuary. It’s a former dairy farm that has been transformed into a preserve with bird and butterfly meadows and a white pine-shaded ravine (nature.org).

Challenge the kids to a round of mini golf at Bayville Adventure Park. There’s also indoor rock Bring out your inner daredevil at Adventure Park at Long Island! Your family can climb and zip line through lowand high-ropes courses (myadventurepark.com).

climbing, bumper boats, a jungle tree top adventure, and more (bayvilleadventurepark.com).

Spend the entire day at Harbes Barnyard Adventure. Kids can get close to the animals at the petting zoo, play some games at the new sports zone, challenge themselves on the obstacle course, and even pretend to milk a cow (harbesfamilyfarm.com)!

Hike or bike through acres of woodland, meadows, rock shoreline, and salt marsh at Caumsett State Historic Park Preserve (parks.ny.gov). There are plenty of photo ops at Waterdrinker Family Farm & Garden thanks to its annual tulip and sunflower festivals. Families can also enjoy a round of mini golf, the jumbo jump pad, and a visit to the petting zoo (waterdrinker.com).

Marvel at the outdoor sculpture garden at the Nassau County Museum of Art. There’s also an arboretum, nature garden, and trails to explore (nassaumuseum.org). 24

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Watch a movie from the comfort of your car at the Gateway Drive-In, which boasts the largest outdoor projection surface on Long Island. All proceeds go to the Performing Arts Center of Suffolk County (thegateway.org).

Get your hands dirty at the outdoor backyard at Long Island Children’s Museum. This interactive outdoor exhibition includes a weather boat, herb garden, strawberry maze, sunflower house, evaporating art easels, and water play area (licm.org).

See a real-life castle at Sands Point Preserve. Built-in 1902, Hampstead House is a 100,000 square-foot castle inspired by Ireland’s Kilkenny Castle (sandspointpreserveconservancy.org).

Sign up for surf lessons in Montauk. Then visit the Montauk Lighthouse, which was built in 1796 and is a national historic landmark (montauklighthouse.com).

Walk through fields of lovely lavender—and buy some to take home—at Lavender by the Bay (lavenderbythebay.com). Ride the go-karts at Country Fair Park. Then round out

Hop on amusement park rides for kids of all ages at Adventureland. You can then cool off at the arcade and grab some food at the park’s family-style restaurant (adventureland.us).

the day of fun with mini golf, batting cages, outdoor laser tag, and more (countryfairpark.com). Courtesy Suffolk County Department of Parks, Recreation, and Conservation

There’s plenty of bird watching at the Caleb Smith State Park Preserve. Plus, the Nature Museum has been recently renovated and showcases natural history exhibits (parks.ny.gov).

Spend a quiet morning or afternoon at Clark Botanical Gardens. This 12-acre botanical garden was designed by Alice Recknagel Ireys (clarkbotanic.org).

Sail on an interactive and educational adventure aboard the Atlantis Explorer. Conducted by Long Island Aquarium educators, you’ll travel down the Peconic River and into Flanders Bay. When your excursion is over, stop by to say hello to the aquarium’s resident penguins (longislandaquarium.com).

Catch some fish at Belmont Lake State Park. There is trout fishing in the spring and bass fishing in the summer (parks.ny.gov).

Snap a photo in front of The Big Duck, which is recognized by the National Register of Historic places and has become a roadside attraction for many motorists driving out to the east end (bigduck.org).

Teach the kids how to fish at Cold Spring Harbor Fish Hatchery & Aquarium. Just be sure to make a reservation in advance (cshfishhatchery.org).

Live like a cowboy at Deep Hollow Ranch, the oldest working ranch in the U.S. Families can ride horses on the trail to explore Montauk’s beautiful scenery (private guided tours are available).

See Teddy Roosevelt’s historic home at Sagamore Hill National Historic Site. Then explore the grounds and take a hike to the small nearby beach (nps.gov). Linda DiProperzio has written extensively on parenting issues for Parents, American Baby, Parenting, and Family Circle, among others. She lives in New York with her husband and two sons.

Pick strawberries this spring at Garden of Eve. Its annual Strawberry Fest will be hosted in May and June. Just be sure to buy tickets in advance (gardenofevefarm.com)! LongIslandParent 25

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Congrats, Grads!

It’s another year of alternative celebrations, but you can still plan a special and memorable day for your graduate—from preschool to college. By Melissa Wickes

hile your child’s graduation might not be able to happen as imagined, you can still create a special celebration that adheres to social-distancing guidelines. Here are some fun ideas to make your graduate feel special—whether it’s preschool, middle school, high school, or college.

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mAke diy grAduAtion hAts And gowns.

Ask your child’s fAvorite stAr to record A grAduAtion messAge.

Whether your school provides a cap and gown, or you need to find one yourself, let your little one doodle out a decoration to put on top of the cap. Or, let him loose in Michael’s craft store to pick out his favorite stickers, pins, buttons, gems, sequins, fabric paint, and more to decorate the gown.

Post A grAduAtion lAwn sign And hAve A drive-by PArAde.

PurchAse A mArquee messAge.

It’s clear that drive-by parades are a fun energy booster and a great way to feel loved without getting too close. Invite friends, family, and neighbors to drive, walk, scoot, or bike by the house to cheer for the graduate.

New York sports are finally allowing fans again, so if your family is comfortable attending a game, you can congratulate your child up on the jumbo screen. If you’d rather watch the game from home, consider calling a favorite radio station or local news channel to ask for a shout-out.

orgAnize A visit from your kid’s hero.

hAve A grAduAtion movie mArAthon.

If your little graduate is fascinated by fire trucks and sirens, ask your neighborhood fire or police department to come by for a socially distanced, special visit. If the loud noises and lights aren’t your child’s idea of a fun time, invite over another one of her local heroes—like a favorite teacher, sanitation worker, librarian, or doctor.

Luckily, your middle school graduate has many graduations to come even if she didn’t get a big ceremony this year. Give her a sneak peak of the future by watching some of these familyfriendly, graduation-themed movies together:

invite some AnimAls to PlAy. Ask your friend or neighbor if you can borrow their dog or cat to play in the backyard for a few hours. If your child’s favorite animal is more exotic, you can hire a reptile handler—like My Reptile Guys—to put on a show in your backyard!

It’s a lot easier than it sounds! Using Cameo, you can pay an actor, athlete, or influencer—like Tony Hawk, Lindsay Lohan, Carole Baskin, Floyd Mayweather, or Perez Hilton—to send your child a personalized video message. You can even schedule a video call with one of them!

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• High School Musical 3: Senior Year (Rated G, Disney+) • Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (Rated PG-13, Amazon Prime) • The Graduate (Rated PG, HBO Max, iTunes) • The Lizzie McGuire Movie (Rated PG, Disney+) • Grease (Rated PG, Amazon Prime) • Legally Blonde (Rated PG-13, Netflix) • A Cinderella Story (Rated PG, Disney+) • Crossroads (PG-13, Cinemax) • Pretty in Pink (PG-13, Amazon Prime) • Paper Towns (PG-13, Amazon Prime) • Jack (PG-13, Disney+) • Never Been Kissed (PG-13, Hulu)

High School and College Graduates create a moving montage. Commemorate the years with photos and videos of your child’s high school or college experience. Use her favorite song and imagery from the school; then ask her friends if they have any funny or memorable moments on video that you can include.

Have a pretend diploma ceremony witH a placeHolder diploma and special guest speakers. If your family works together and gets creative, your child can have a “graduation day” full of laughs and surprises. Create a makeshift diploma and have family members give speeches about the school and your child’s experience. (Friends and relatives can Zoom in to give their own commencement addresses!) You can also play guest of honor trivia after the speeches end. Good luck not fighting over who gets to give your child her diploma!

Have a party and invite your cHild’s friends—on Zoom or in-person and socially distanced—so everyone can celebrate togetHer. There’s no doubt your child is missing his friends right now. If you’re not yet comfortable having people over for a gathering outside, throw a virtual grad party for him and invite all of the family and friends who would have attended a regular party. Serve food and drinks, and let the memories and friends make this a party your graduate will never forget!

turn tHe House into a bar witH a personaliZed food and drink menu. Have you seen those viral videos of families who have turned their homes into bars—complete with a bouncer, DJ, and bartender— for kids turning 21 in quarantine? You can do the same for your college graduate, with school-themed drinks and a menu of foods he loves. It’s not quite the same as a university commencement, but it’s personal and super festive.

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Does My Child Have Anxiety? It’s normal for kids to have bouts of fear—but how can you tell when it’s anxiety? By Stacey Feintuch

ids of all ages worry. Your baby cries when you leave the room. Your toddler may fear clowns. Separation anxiety may make your preschooler cry. Your elementary schooler may have a stomachache on the day of a spelling test. Middle schoolers may be nervous about making a presentation in front of their virtual or in-person class. Your high schooler may worry about getting a pimple. Children have bouts of fears, worries, and anxiety at some point; these are totally normal feelings. “If you don’t have a range of emotions, that’s abnormal,” says Joel Friedman, Ph.D., clinical director at the Center for Family Guidance in Marlton, NJ. Normal childhood anxieties from new people, places, and experiences come and go throughout a child’s life. They need time to learn about, work with, and get comfortable with something new. “Kids are resilient,” says Sanam Hafeez, Psy.D., a New York City-based licensed clinical neuropsychologist, teaching faculty member at Columbia University’s Teachers College, and founder and clinical director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, P.C. “They’re able to shake off a lot of stuff.” Some kids ask a lot of questions when they’re anxious.

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Others figure things out on their own, which can have negative consequences. “Children often ‘fill in the blanks’ with assumptions that can trigger anxious feelings,” says Haley Neidich, LCSW, a Connecticut-based psychotherapist.

SignS of Child Anxiety It can be difficult for parents to admit when their child has a problem, Dr. Hafeez says. Usually, though, it will be so obvious that you can’t ignore it. “You have to pay close attention to the signs and know when it’s time to get help,” she says. “Most of us are reluctant to admit that there is a problem. But on some level, we know.” Here are some signs of when to worry about child anxiety: • tendency to worry about what can go wrong in any scenario • avoidance of specific activities, situations, or people • persistent stress despite an adult’s reassurance • trouble sleeping at night, insisting on sleeping with parents, or waking up with bad dreams • fears or worries that interfere with normal daily activities and are difficult to control • changes in appetite

• phobias and fears that they’ll likely never encounter • headaches, fatigue, rashes, stomachaches, or other physical symptoms that are unrelated to other medical conditions • unrealistic worries (concerned about getting pregnant without having sex) • anxiety is out of proportion and they lack the insight to realize their worries are exaggerated (worry about SATs while only in grade school) • overly self-conscious (they won’t order in a restaurant for fear of humiliation) • anxiety is uncontrollable (crying at schooling because think their parent will die when they’re apart) • difficulty concentrating • significant change in anxiety in a short period of time • changes in relationships such as choosing not to be around people

When to Worry Fears and worries are a natural reaction to new or stressful situations. “You should worry when the anxiety becomes persistent, constraining, and/or begins to impact or interfere with the child’s daily functioning. Facing anxiety or worry is normal and expected throughout childhood. It’s how the child copes when confronted with anxiety that makes the difference,” says Francyne Zeltser, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist and certified school psychologist in the New York metropolitan area. “If your child is having trouble coping and the anxiety or worries seem overbearing, it’s time to intervene and help.” Speak directly to your child when you notice something isn’t typical for him, Dr. Friedman says. Younger children will be vaguer, not provide as much insight, and won’t be able to pinpoint exactly how they’re feeling—they may say they have a stomachache, for example. For older kids, choose a time of day to talk about their concerns or worries and why those are reasonable fears, then table the discussion for the day. “If they carry it with them all day long, it gets a life of its own,” Dr. Friedman says. With kids home more due to the pandemic, they have less transitional time (they may not be on a school bus, for example) and structure that would typically distract them from their thoughts. “With their environment not changing, they may tend to focus more on what’s bothering them, and that makes it more intense,” he says. “They’re living too much in their head and not really living.”

don’t dismiss your child’s feelings. You don’t want him to believe that something is wrong with him, so “it’s important to validate his feelings,” says Jessica Senick, MSW, LCSW, a psychotherapist who practices in Red Bank, NJ. And don’t take what’s happening personally: “It’s not necessarily indicative of something that you as a family have caused,” she says. If you pressure your child to feel a certain way, she may hide her real emotions, making it harder to see the seriousness of her anxiety. Ignoring an anxiety disorder puts him at increased risk of substance abuse, selfharm, and other negative coping strategies. “Helping your child heal from anxiety can help them learn to trust that their caregivers will be there for them when life gets bumpy in the future,” Neidich says.

Consider professional help. Get your child treatment from a mental health professional if what you’re doing isn’t working. “Childhood anxiety is common and treatable, especially when caught early on,” Dr. Zeltser says. Your child will be taught coping skills to help her manage the anxiety and reduce physical, emotional, and cognitive issues. She may be prescribed medication. With proper treatment and support, most kids eventually outgrow childhood anxiety. “Remember, anxiety is rooted in a real or perceived fear of the unknown,” Dr. Zeltser says. “Providing your child with the tools they need to better circumnavigate their worries will accelerate their ability to overcome the anxiety.”

hoW to help your Child

try to figure out why your child is feeling anxious. Consider what triggers the anxiety, how long your child is anxious, what helps reduce the anxiety, and what worsens it. “By better understanding why the anxiety occurs, you can help your child plan, so they feel prepared and confident to navigate the anxiety-producing situation,” Dr. Zeltser says.

Stacey Feintuch is a freelance writer for print and online publications. She lives in Bergen County, NJ, and is mom to two boys.

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Pet Sense & Sensibility Teaching kids how to interact with animals is more important than ever By Barbara Russo

uring the traumatic days of lockdown, many Americans turned to furry, finned, and feathered friends for comfort during the crisis. In fact, pet adoptions went up 57 percent in 2020, according to Shelter Animals Count, a national database of shelter animal statistics and facts. And a recent survey from Westchester’s Banfield Pet Hospital, a major provider of preventative veterinary medicine, shows 1 in 3 people adopted a pet during the pandemic. This is great news for once-homeless animals, but as society slowly returns to pre-pandemic normalcy, our kids will undoubtedly run into a stranger’s—or even a friend’s—pet. How do parents ensure that their kids interact with these animals safely and appropriately? We spoke with local experts about how to make every pet encounter a good one.

Hartmann, director of education at the Staten Island Zoo. “Do they like to be pet behind the ears? Do they like to not be pet at all? Do they like to be talked to or left alone? Find out the animal’s personality and what they like, the same way we like people to think about that when they interact with us.”

observe body lAnguAge. Just like humans, dogs give out signals to tell us how they feel. A dog wagging his tail is most likely approachable. But if the dog is snarling, has his ears back, is cowering, or gives any signal that he is not happy to greet you, it’s best to stay away, Dr. Navratik says.

never hug A dog. As tempting as it might be for a child to cuddle or hug a dog— especially one who is extra fluffy like a plush toy—parents should tell their children to refrain. There are some dogs who don’t enjoy this type of attention, but they tolerate it until it’s too late. “Dogs can’t say that they’ve had enough, so they could bite to show that they want it to stop,” says Donna Reiss of Freedom Dog Training, a pet training service based in Staten Island.

Consider the little Critters.

Ask before petting. It’s hard for even adults to resist petting cute dogs, but parents should tell their kids to ask permission before attempting to touch any pet, according to Joel Navratik, D.V.M., CEO of MRVL Pet Pharmaceuticals. “Once you have been given permission by the owner, approach the dog slowly and pet the dog gently,” Dr. Navratik says. “Avoid reaching for the face of the dog on initial contact. If you avoid the face, that keeps you safer and farther from the dog’s mouth in case the dog gets startled and reacts with a snap.” If you know the owner of the dog you are meeting, take the opportunity to ask about the dog’s likes and dislikes before attempting to touch or pet him. No one knows the dog better than his owner. “Ask what the animal is comfortable with,” says Jessica Pownall 30

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The most important thing to remember with small animals like rabbits, hamsters, and gerbils, is to handle them lightly because of their size and fragility. “We have to remember to be gentle with animals, particularly the smaller animals, because we are much bigger than them,” Pownall Hartmann says. “Even when we think we’re being gentle, we have to remember to be even more gentle, especially when it comes to something like a hamster or guinea pig.” Some small animals don’t mind being pet, but many don’t like to be picked up because they don’t feel safe when there is no ground beneath their feet. “We want to make sure the animal is comfortable and wants to be friends with us, so we want to make sure we are extra gentle and extra soft with them,” Pownall Hartmann adds.

teACh respeCt for All AnimAls. The most important lesson parents can teach their children about pets—and animals in general—is to have respect for all of them. “Animals are living, breathing creatures. Learning at a young age to be gentle and show compassion for animals is a lesson that will benefit a child,” Reiss says. “It’s an important life lesson.” Barbara Russo is a freelance writer who holds a bachelor’s degree in communications from the City University of New York. She enjoys playing guitar, following current events, and hanging out with her pet rabbits.

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