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for Staying Mentally Healthy in a Crowded House Kehan Bao
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Before the coronavirus outbreak, many parents worked and children attended schools during the day. The evening was the precious family time when everybody enjoyed the warmth of each other and shared their joys.
8. Assign and share household chores. Every chore is a “mission” to complete every day. 9. Be creative in the ways you have fun together. Who says a dining room table can’t be a ping-pong table?
However, when people are practicing social distancing and staying at home almost 24/7, excessive family time can trigger boredom and conflicts. Here are some tips for managing family relationships during this time:
10. Every talk doesn’t have to be a group talk. One-on-one chats strengthen individual relationships. Even talking for five minutes helps.
1. Give each other space. When possible, try to stay in separate rooms, and give people freedom to do what they want.
11. Be open about feelings. Families can support each other in managing anxiety during this particular time. Moreover, feelings toward each other should be explicit as well.
2. Be explicit about how each family member wants to spend time together and how much time they want to spend.
12. Show appreciation, love, and encouragement through words and affection. This can be as simple as saying, “I love you.”
3. Norms matter. Have a conversation to create family rules that state clearly how your family wants to look after and treat its members.
13. Include children in decisions about things like going to supermarkets and food choices.
4. Have a personal schedule. Each person writes down a personal agenda. Follow the plan to keep yourself mentally engaged. If it’s not working, make a new personal plan.
14. hare family stories and memories. These can help members appreciate things that aren’t obvious, or that they’ve forgotten.
5. Schedule family time. Agree on the times and activities everyone should show up for. Maybe that’s dinner, maybe it’s game time, maybe it’s watching a favorite show. Again, give everyone in the house a voice in deciding what qualifies. 6. Have hobbies. People can entertain themselves even though they are not around each other. 7. Take an interest in others’ hobbies. If someone puts time into drawing the house across the street, give them some praise.
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This story was written by Penn GSE Counseling and Mental Health Services M.S.Ed. student Kehan Bao (Anna) for Penn GSE’s Consortium for Mental Health and Optimal Development, and was originally published at www.gse.upenn.edu/news/14-tipsstaying-mentally-healthy-crowded-house.
