10 Vital Steps for Your First Date
1. Build up a Conversation Going on your first date can be very intimidating. Some things that you are supposed to do are quite obvious like choosing a fancy restaurant, making sure that you compliment your date on how they look. But there are several other aspects of the first date that you could be failing in without even realizing it. You do not know what to expect from your date and whether you will be able to make it through the whole time with them without feeling nervous and totally conscious of what you are going to say and do. First Date: Guide to Perfection The most difficult thing to do is to start an interesting conversation with a man/woman you are going out with for the first time.Since you are not aware of their interests or hobbies, you basically do not know what to ask or how to begin a conversation with them. So the first thing (and the most interesting one) is to ask about the places they have travelled to, and from there you can build up a good conversation bringing in your favorite places to travel and the memories of any previous trips you have been to. Another easy topic is to ask about the kinds of movies they like to watch, give and take recommendations from each other and that way you can easily find some similarities that you share which bring you closer. First Date Notes
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2. Not Using Your Smartphone Never ever keep your phone on the table where you can easily be distracted by any calls, messages or social media notifications that can interrupt your first date. That will give quite a negative impression of you to the person who has taken out time from their schedule to go out on a date with you but you are busy with your phone.
3. Outfit Audition
Take honest opinion from your close friends as to what you should wear for the first big date. Keep in mind to consider weather; the type of place you are going to and at what time is the date. Always choose to wear something that you feel comfortable in; the more comfortable you are in the outfit you choose to wear, the more confident you will be on the date. First Date Notes
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Take honest opinion from your close friends as to what you should wear for the first big date. Keep in mind to consider weather; the type of place you are going to and at what time is the date. Always choose to wear something that you feel comfortable in; the more comfortable you are in the outfit you choose to wear, the more confident you will be on the date.
4. Punctuality is Key
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No one like to feel as if they have been stood up; that is exactly how your date will feel if they have arrived on time while you are choosing to be “fashionably late�. That is going to make them feel like as if they are not a priority for you and if they are not a priority on the first date then how can they be sure of the future if it goes on to the next step. If, however, you do genuinely get caught up in situations where you just can not make it on time, for example traffic, then be very apologetic and make sure they know that you mean it.
5. Be Interested in Your Date
The worse thing you could do is not show any interest in the other person’s life; what they do, what their hobbies are or what they are going through in life right now. If you keep on going about yourself then that will just make your date pray that the date is over soon and they never see you again. No one wants to go out with someone who makes him or her feel unimportant and neglected, that even on the first date! So listen to the other person, show interest in their life and make them feel as if everything that they are sharing with you means a huge deal and you understand their situations.
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6. Be Yourself
This is a very important step in order to be able to sincerely enjoy your first date. Most people feel that since they have to give a good impression of themselves to their date, then they better pretend to be someone they are not and change their personality traits so that the other person likes them. But if it goes on to something more than just a first date then you cannot keep pretending forever. Just be yourself and the right person will enjoy being around you for who you really are.
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7. Manners Manners are very important in helping the other person decide what kind of a person you are. Speaking softly, being polite to the staff of the restaurant, being courteous to your date; all of these come under being well mannered.
8. Choose an Activity Based Venue To make your first date even more interesting what you can do is choose an active venue for the date like an amusement park so there is a lot to do and none of you can get bored. Having an active first date makes it more exciting and you get to interact more personally as compared to a formal, fancy place for dinner.
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9. Take Care of Hygiene
Always make sure you go to a date all cleaned up and sharp rather than being messy and slouchy. Hygiene can mean several things apart from the main inference. If you smell good, are considerate and look crisp, you give a very responsible vibe to your date and they will automatically be attracted to you.
10. Second Date
If you thoroughly enjoyed your first date or if you just want to know more about the other person and enjoy his or her company, then just ask for a second date! If you are shy then you can hint at how good you felt meeting them and would love to meet them again. Second dates help you come to a much concrete decision as to whether this could possibly go somewhere or not First Date Notes.
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