Juan in E.U.

Virgilio Reyes Philippine Ambassador to Rome Rome, Italy

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n November of 2011, I became the Philippine Ambassador Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary to the Italian Republic. It was the occasion of the 65th anniversary of the Philippine-Italian relations. Truly this was a huge honor.

Being assigned to serve in Europe brought back so many fond memories of the early years when I was starting to build my career in the Foreign Service.

After graduating from the Ateneo De Manila (BA in Humanities, cum laude) and the University of the Philippines (MA in Communication), I decided to pursue further studies in France, Spain, and Germany between 1972-1979. I entered the Diplomatic Academy of Vienna in Austria and finished the course in 1977. I have the distinction of being the first Filipino to graduate from this distinguished professional school.

My first diplomatic assignment was as Third Secretary (then Second, and finally First) of the Philippine mission to the United Nations in New York between 1983-1991. Then I served as Minister Counselor and Consul General at the Philippine Embassy in Yangon, Myanmar between 1994-1997; as Minister Counselor and Consul General at the Philippine Embassy in Mexico, 1997-1998; and Minister and Consul General at the Philippine Embassy, Santiago, Chile, 1998-2000. I was Ambassador Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary in Pretoria, South Africa with jurisdiction over eight other countries, for the period of 2003-2009.

During the time I served in the Philippines, I had the privilege of working in various diplomatic offices. I served in the Home Office as Director of the China Division of the Asia-Pacific Affairs Office as well as Vice Director of Ceremonials in the Office of Protocol and Special Assistant for Foreign Affairs Secretary Carlos P. Romulo.

I also worked as Executive Director of the Office of Policy Planning and Coordination, Special Assistant in the Office of the Undersecretary for Special Projects and Executive Director of the Center for Ocean and Maritime Affairs (MOAC). My last position was Assistant Secretary for Middle East and African Affairs at the DFA (2009-2011).

It has always been our mission to strengthen our relationship with the Filipino community, and improve our various services to the public. I am proud of the developments we have made so far since I assumed office. We have renovated the structures in our building so we could provide a nice workplace and “home� to our staff. We have conducted a number of seminars with our employees to improve their performance and make them more efficient. We have also mobilized services to the community through our labor office and various outreach programs to our fellowmen in various parts of Italy.

Likewise, it has always been our main goal to keep our relations with the Italian Government strong and greatly promote the Philippines to the Italians.

In the coming years, we look into the possibility of bringing a delegation of Italians to the country and take them to our beautiful places.

My job as an ambassador boils down to one important aspect: people. I deal with people everyday. That is why it is important to always represent the good side of our countrymen. There is no question to how friendly and hardworking the Filipinos are, and these traits have made our people exceptional citizens, whichever part of the world.

I hope that our people continue to be good citizens of the Philippines and guests of Italy. My message to our countrymen is this: Always remember our country, our language and culture. Let us work together to maintain a good image of our motherland wherever our aspirations take us.

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Lourdes Adrian Tabamo Tabiling

Consul General Cabin Crew Performance Manager Milan, Italy Germany could not have been more grateful when I was designated as Consul General I just presented the annual plan, one of the three of the Philippine Consulate Generalmanagement in Milan, Italy.business Ever since I assumed office requirements for had the promotion I amtime vying for fewwith months ago. With God’s in January 2011, I have the wonderful working the ever-dedicated have beenand shortlisted promoted as kababayans a crew performance manager people inhelp, the IConsulate serving and the needs of our here in Italy. in Milan.

I started career as a flight attendant last 2004 andinbeen with the Truly, there is nothing likemybeing a Filipino uplifting another Filipino a foreign same since then. place education is irrelevant in achieving land, and I amairline honored to be partTime, of this line nor of service. promotion.

It is hard and determination.

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Philippine Embassy believe Confucius’ Irule of karma. the Vatican, aninassignment have always dreamed of, and where, having assumed office for a year, my faith was truly strengthened. Though it was brief, it alonginwith Pinoy diplomacy, in my opinion, are the most was oneThese of the factors, best periods my our career. important my airline career.part I deal withthat’s hundreds of passengers And finally, here I pillars serve inofMilana beautiful of Italy both old and new daily who came from walks of As Pinoys, we are very dynamic and regarded as second homedifferent to thousands of life.

Filipinos. candecades learn different easily.

All of ushaving possess, “Jose Rizal powFor overand three of beinglanguages in the Foreign Service, experienced living withinand us.experiencing Visayans have “p” and “f” defects, Kapampangans have in other ers” countries different cultures, I realized how important it is“h” defect andidentity Bicolanos may have “I” and “e” defects, but regardless, we learn to be proud of our as Filipino. languages veryduring quicklymy compared to some in nationalities I came with.

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No doubt always have a heritage to be proud of. why we are famed the “Call Centre Capital of the World”.I encourage every Pinoy to be proud of our race, for we carry As a piece of advice, in our blood a deep sense of heroism and a resilient fortitude. We should not think This proficiency hasahelped a lot in the airline industry. fact, this he/ has a of ourselves as inferior, for Filipinome is always a productive citizenInanywhere huge on my A good command is a good investshe goes.

Let impact us continue to career. make our own nation proudinoflanguage us, respecting the laws the airline career. of everyment host incountry we work or live in, working harder for our loved ones back home and further improving ourselves in the process.

Lastly IGeneral am a proud and patriotic Filipino.

I continuously myselfimwith Under Consul Tabamo’s leadership, the Consulate has update successfully what’s happening in our I always quip, “I am a Filipino” each time I plemented a string of projects to country. better serve the Filipinos in Italy. my nationality.

I accept theduring fact that we mayinnot To beginencounter with, the questions Consulateabout has opened transactions even noontime classified as “first but we have the happiest people. order tobeserve the needs of world” anyoneeconomy, whose only time to process papers or re-Our ourlunch strong and our working ethics exemplary.

Filipino… and quests isspirits during break.

Its public area hasare been renovatedI am anda refurbished I am proud to be one.for applicants, an additional transaction window was to provide more elbow room opened to speed up the daily processing operations, it now has an Information Desk to address queries about the various Consulate processes, and an expanded multipurpose hall for use as waiting area or meeting and training room.

The Consulate staff also travel to major cities of Northern Italy on scheduled weekends between April to October to provide mobile passporting and bring its services closer to the Filipinos.

The year 2012 marks the 65 years anniversary of Philippines-Italy diplomatic relations. It was in 1947 when the two countries signed in Rome the Treaty of Friendship and General Relations which initiated the important bilateral cooperation that exists until today. To celebrate the occasion and in conjunction with our Philippine Independence Day celebration, the Philippine Consulate in Milan for the first time organized and hosted in June 2012 a concert of professional Philippine talents with Raul Sunico on the piano, Ena Maria Aldecoa as soprano and Fredelin Parin on the trumpet at the Auditorium di Milano. The well attended event showcased our rich history and culture before the eyes of Italian and other foreign guests who lavishly praised the Filipinos for their talent, traditions and lovely Filipiniana costumes and barongs. Such occasion brought everyone closer as one community through the universal language of music and on that night, Filipinos in Italy felt a close affinity to each other and to their homeland, and left the hall exhilarated and with a deep sense of pride.

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ALBERT UY

New Initiatives Marketing Manager Rome, Italy

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or years, the concept behind this book has been safely tucked under my pillow, like a magic bean—kept away until the right time for it to be finally planted on the ground. It was a precious seed that bears 14 years of my rich experiences as an OFW here in Europe, and along with it are the same inspiring stories of other Filipinos who, like me, found a greener pasture in this part of the world.

It seemed a daunting task but I kept my hopes up that someday I would get to finally see this book come into full being, like a mighty tree that stands as testament to all the years of labor and sacrifices of Filipinos abroad.

Finally, having met the right people to make it possible, the time proved ripe for sowing. And here it is now, our very first edition of Juan In EU. This book is greatly inspired by the many faces of Juan Dela Cruz that I encountered in my journey all these years: the kind and compassionate ones that will truly make you feel proud as a Filipino, as well as the bad ones who will sometimes inflict you with their own sense of bitterness in life. I am sure my journey will mirror one of the thousand stories of other Filipinos who made Europe as their second home.

OFW 101. Way back then, being new to this land and young, I had my share of arduous struggles. While I had no trouble adjusting myself to the new culture and environment, the opposite can be said of my experiences with the “old timers”—Filipinos who have been here for the longer time who thinks you are a threat to the limited job opportunities offered by the Italians. It didn’t take long for me to be aware of the ugly side of some of our kababayans here. “Crab mentality”, of course we’ve heard of it.

Thank goodness there are still lots of people with genuine hearts who will unselfishly help, who truly know how it feels to be a newcomer (as they were once before). From them I learned of “bayanihan”—a beautiful unique trait among us Filipinos that is to be celebrated. People like them make you feel as if guardian angels do exist!

Negativities aside, I can say that my early years of being an overseas Filipino had been entirely exciting—gaining new friends and meeting interesting people (even when some were tough cookies, but admittedly, they helped a lot in making me a stronger person). I also consider myself lucky to have had the opportu-

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nity to work with various companies of different fields, all with the common factor of being of good service to the Filipinos.

I had worked with The Filipino Channel (TFC) for 8 years and to be honest, this is one of the important chapters in my life. This is where I collected so much experience, gained many wonderful friends, had plenty of traveling opportunities and opened my eyes to the lives of thousands of interesting Filipino heroes here in Europe. Still instilled in me is the mission statement of the company “In the service of the Filipino worldwide”.

Now that I am working with Western Union, the same dedication to giving service to our fellowmen is alive in me. I keep in my mind that everything we do in the company should value the sacrifices of our migrant workers, who have to be away from their families just to provide a better life for their loved ones back home. We should always be here for them. We have to make sure that the services we are delivering to our customers will help them to make their journey as migrants easier. That is why I engage myself a lot in initiatives that will help improve people’s skills and open more doors of opportunity for everyone. I also try to contribute my creative talent once in a while in various fund-raising activities of different foundations that support the education of children in the Philippines in order to give them a brighter future.

I always remember a simple piece of paper with a print text on it that is posted in the wall of my late Grandfather’s room, saying, “Give a man a fish and he will only eat once – Teach a man how to fish and he will eat all is his life!” It was a very simple piece of paper but it had a great impact on me.

I was once a new comer 14 years ago and now considerably an old timer. All those years I have always made sure that the role I am playing in the anecdote in the beginning of my story is that of the one who helps the new comers have the opportunity to start a better life.

I hope this book can encourage others to also share their stories so we can plant more seeds of hope and inspirations. Let’s make Juan In EU an undying chronicler of all life lessons of every Juan dela Cruz, new and old. Cheers to more volumes!

Cesar Crisanto Calangan Vice V ice President for Sales, Megaworld International Rome, Italy

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t was not easy growing up to a family of 12 with parents whose only way to earn is through carpentry and washing clothes. Living in Bambang, Nueva Vizcaya, a rather very rural province back then, we remained a happy big family.

At the early age of 7, I helped my parents by selling pandesal. My brothers and I have to wake up as early as 4am to pick up the bread in the bakery by foot, which is about one kilometer away from our house. Sometimes I need to sleep in the bakery just to get much number of pandesal to sell. Starting life the hard way gives me the courage to push for more. When I entered high school, I started to support myself. Studying while working is not common to any Pinoy who wants to have a good life. I worked at the rice mill during weekend, did a part time as a houseboy and other jobs cover my expenses for school.Our faith has been tested when our father died when I was 13. My siblings and I were separated from each other because our mother was not that able to provide us financially. Some of my siblings went to our relatives, and others were old enough to live on their own. With the help of my sister in Isabela and through hardwork, I was able to finish college with a degree of BS Business Administration, Major in Accounting. It has become my stepping stone to work in Manila.

With my salary, I was able to send my younger brother to school while supporting my ailing mother. I had no savings of my own. It was like I was living from paycheck after paycheck.

My wife, Liza Jison, and I got married and moved to Negros Occidental where she lives. We are blessed with 2 lovely children, Ramil Josef and Carisse. It was

tough that I have to support both my families. An opportunity.

An opportunity came when I was offered a job to work in a bank in Manila. This opened a new door for me to take a chance to fulfill my dreams. It was not easy to leave my wife and children in Negros. Faith, strength and perseverance were my armor while trying to be at my best performing my duties in my assigned job.

I was also given the opportunity to be assigned and work in Rome as head of remittance center. After 3 years of service, I decided to take the job offered by a broadcasting company as sales manager in Italy. This gave me the chance to travel to other countries in Europe. After a few years, I was offered to work for a real estate and took the job. Currently, I am working as Vice President for Sales in Eupore under Megaworld International.

Like many OFWs, I left my family in the Philippines to work abroad in order to provide a good welfare for them. The decision of working abroad is the toughest thing to happen in my life. I salute all who are with me in the same boat because the battle we face everyday is not easy, regardless of what you do. As I continue my journey, I could say that I am now in the position to tell everyone that I MADE IT! To all OFWs, we are doing sacrifices for our loved ones and I would like to say everyone to be prudent and wise. For our hard earned money, save for yourselves and INVEST wisely…Continue to work hard and keep the faith in God with you. “Don’t give up, life begins at the end of your comfort zone”

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MALCOLM CONLAN Pinoy at Heart London, UK

“I am a Britishman with a Filipino heart.” I love the Philippines with a passion. It is funny to think that as a young boy, I didn’t know anything about it, nor have I heard anything about its people and its culture.

But all that changed in my teenage years.

I had an interest in theatre and attended the Mountview Theatre School for three years. I went to see many musicals during that time including Starlight Express and Time. At that period I also discovered Miss Saigon, which I saw almost on a weekly basis. I had a secret crush on one of the actresses who played Kim, the well-known and very talented Philippine actress, Monique Wilson. I quickly realised that the majority of the cast were also Filipino, including Lea Salonga, Pinky Amador, Junix Inocian and Cocoy Laurel. I started to listen to Pinoy music tapes and the first record I had was, in fact, by Monique Wilson. At around the age of 19, I travelled to the Philippines to meet Monique herself, and I fell in love with the country and all things Pinoy. This is how my love affair with the Philippines began.

A few years later, in my late 20s, I was introduced to a Filipina, Susan, with whom I also fell in love. We have been married for 14 years and have two lovely children.

I believe that if you marry someone from another culture, you should respect that culture and even help to promote it. Marriage is about sacrifice and commitment. I really don’t understand the point in a foreigner, or in my case a British person, marrying a Pinoy and still only eating British foods, never wanting to visit the Philippines, and some not even allowing Tagalog to be spoken at home. I understand that some people may not like hot weather or exotic food, but if you love someone, you need to show that through your actions.

It is something I impart to my own children and family: to embrace not only their Britishness, but also their Filipino heritage. We have visited the Philippines many times, and I have even encouraged my British mother to visit the country, and I am proud to say she has been there three times.

Together with my family, I try to immerse myself in Philippine culture even in the UK. I have tried to learn Tagalog, with which I am now conversational, able to understand and speak some words and phrases.

We also have TFC (The Filipino Channel) at home where we watch Filipino movies and television programs. I also created an online website to list events relevant to the international Filipino community.

I attend many UK events myself, and have also been involved in various organisations and initiatives, from educational charity Philippine Generations, to the biggest Filipino event in Europe, Barrio Fiesta sa London.

Having been part of the Filipino community for several years, I urge Pinoys around the world to continue to work hard for their families back home, and to continue to show the Philippines in a positive light on the global stage. It is through millions of overseas Filipino workers (OFW) around the world, with their hard work and commitment, that the Philippines can be proud of its people. I am truly honoured to be counted as a member of this community. I am a Pinoy at heart, with great respect, love and understanding of the Philippines and its people.

Malcolm Conlan was born and raised in England. An active leader of the Filipino community in the United Kingdom, he runs Fil-Event.com, a website dedicated to Filipino-related events and initiatives from around the world. He lives in London with his Filipina wife and their two children.

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Romulo Salvador Adjunct City Councilor of Rome and Owner of Sariling Atin Srl Rome, Italy

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orn and grew up in Sta. Cruz, Laguna, with a degree in Psychology at University of Santo Tomas I came to Rome, Italy in 1984 to attend my sister’s wedding, however, I eventually decided to give working here a shot. I experienced to work on almost any kind of jobs: from part time jobs, in hotels, bars. But in my 14 years of stay, I spent largely in working as a waiter for a fine dining restaurant where I handled all the tables all by myself. I envisioned myself to just give this all a try for the sake of saving money for my studies or a capital for a business.

Being a clandestine didn’t stop me to share my passion. In between my early years in Rome, I put up a band or how we call it back then ‘combo’ which we named as ‘Flight 741. Yes, that was the Philippine Airlines flight from Rome to Manila in the 80’s! We named the band as such to mirror each and every Pinoy immigrant’s longing to return to the Philippines. Backed up of being a member of Teatro Tomasino and Malayan Theater Group, I am also an actor in some Italian television series like Cesaroni and a couple of movies. I am grateful that this and my love in music and acting were channeled out to my children who grew up with such passion in directing, dancing and acting as well.

From being a clandestine, I was able to work my way up into the Italian sociopolitical society. I am one of the 4 incumbent consigliere aggiunto or adjunct city councilor for Asia in the municipality of Rome. A city councilor’s main focus is to let Italians see and realize that multicultural society is a positive thing. One of my political platforms was to institutionalize the cultural identity of the migrants.

I was also elected member of the commission on election to formulate the regulations and roles of an adjunct city councilor. My role is not solely limited to the Filipino migrants but as well as the other nationalities around Asia. What also entails the position of migrants leaders may not include the right to vote for deliberation in the council but still we have, in our own way, established our influence to the council. One must know how to maximize the potential of being a city councilor for migrants just like what I did when I presented a motion asking the city of Rome to be the promoter of the ratification of ILO Convention 189 for domestic workers which was later approved by Mayor Alemanno in Dec 2011.

Recently, we managed to pull off the the Global Filipino Diaspora Council, together with other Filipino-Italian members, which summoned an approximate of 250 delegates from all continents. We gathered together for the definition of the complexities and the myriad of socio-economic issues that the hunt down of every Filipino working overseas and establishing rapport on how to continue to empower the Filipino migrants. Through this, we came up with a documented report asking for a better position of the OFWs worldwide. We presented this to the United Nations, European Commission, to the Philippine government, to the Mayor of Rome. I have the same report officially translated for the Philippine Ambassador to Italy will submit it to President of Italy.

In my stay in Rome, I eventually got married with my high-school sweetheart, Emy, and we were blessed with 2 good kids, Romulo Emmanuel and Bea Maria Elisa. Through the joint efforts with my business minded wife, who is the heart and brain of this business, we put up Sariling Atin where we offer cargo, ticketing and a recently opened remittance center. It may not be in boom but I am thankful it is neither at the brink and still continues to provide for the needs of our family. Being organized and keeping your time management on track is fully needed for me to juggle my position as the owner and the city councilor.

Though our life has not always painted red as it seems. We were put in to the test when my wife was confined at the hospital for 3 months. Juggling a morning and night job plus the everyday visit to the hospital alone really put not only my patience to test but my faith as well. Thank God we were able to get passed through the darkest point of our life.

All these were little representations of myself while being an OFW. These could also be you. Make sure never to lose the dignity to yourself even after all the struggles and successes of your life. I believe that whatever achievements you have but lost your dignity along the way, at the very end of the day these are just empty accomplishments. Never lose your values, work hard and hold on to your faith above all.

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ROSE ECLARINAL Journalist London, UK

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orking on European news for Philippine media is like covering an ocean versus a pond. The challenges are gargantuan, the possibilities limitless. Working as a one-man team - doing research, camera work and rough edit - is no mean feat.

As a Filipino away from home, life abroad can be difficult at first, it certainly was for me. There was a disconnect between my value system against that of Europeans. But once I learned to be resilient, to embrace my new environment, I found my second home. Life can be sweet. La Dolce Vita - that is the true essence of Europe for me. Living more with less while giving more and sharing adequately. Living in mature democracies with rich histories and diverse communities.

In my career, I have done many meaningful coverages on the triumphs and challenges confronting overseas Pinoys, including reporting on the repatriation of Filipinos fleeing war-torn Libya in 2011, using European countries like Malta and Greece as exit points; the royal wedding of Prince William and Catherine Middleton; the London summer riots; the 2012 Olympics.

These are some of the milestones of my career.

I wasn’t sure at first if I wanted to be a television journalist. In high school, I was editor-in-chief of our school paper. I represented my school at writing competitions. And so I thought this was something I could pursue in college.

Soon enough I realised I was cut out to be a journalist. I am always curious. I like meeting people and exploring things. I want to travel. I want to tell stories that matter. I intend to devote my career as a journalist to my countrymen at home and abroad, and to ensure they receive both inspiring narratives and quality information through my reports. When I have helped produce well-informed citizens with an insight in global affairs, then I have done my job well.

But I wasn’t thinking of a job at the start. I was just finding something I was happy to do. I’m a work in progress. I hope to be an excellent cross-border messenger. In the near future, I want to be able to consistently pursue advocacy journalism. For me, a good journalist is always hungry to tell stories that matter, one who practices the fundamental editorial values of impartiality, accuracy, fairness, independence, and commitment to the highest standards of taste and decency.

My vast experience in the media, coupled with extensive studies in the Philippines and abroad, allowed me to get a grip on global society, a chance to see the world in a different perspective, and an opportunity to critically examine our own brand of Philippine journalism. I have only just begun and I feel the need to continuously grow professionally. I am motivated by the thought that my work could have a direct impact on people’s lives.

In covering Filipinos across Europe, I have seen the resilience of Pinoys in various forms. We thrive anywhere and we succeed in our endeavour because we are a people blessed with fortitude. We adapt easily. We are innately irrepressible in the face of adversity. We remain committed to our faith. I have learnt to appreciate and honour my core values as a Filipino. I have learnt to embrace the beauty of ethnic diversity while celebrating my own Filipinoness.

A literary artist once said: “A Filipino is pliant like a bamboo. Neither typhoons nor monsoons could break the Filipino spirit. Like the bamboo, it sways and bends with nature’s relentless onslaughts, but it refuses to yield or die.” I could not agree more.

Rose Eclarinal is a news consultant and senior correspondent for ABS-CBN Europe Ltd. Before settling in the UK in 2008, she has worked as a producer, reporter and editor for news and current affairs in ABS-CBN Manila. A Chevening and Nuffic scholar, she studied mass communication and sociology from the University of the Philippines, before taking up international broadcast journalism in Wales, Denmark, and the Netherlands. Born and raised in Camarines Norte, she is currently based in London and works closely with Filipinos across Europe.

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DANNY BUENAFE News Chief London, UK

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ews has been my lifeline. Having been a reporter for many years and moving on to become head of news for the country’s biggest television network, my life has been a series of challenging but rewarding experiences at the centre of major turning points in history.

I have worked in broadcast news for more than 30 years. I was a witness to many colorful, and sometimes unusual, news events that changed our political landscape: the Ninoy Aquino assassination; the first Edsa Revolution; the seven coup attempts against Cory Aquino; and celebrated courtroom dramas including The Agrava Board hearings, Vizconde massacre, and the Imelda Marcos trial in New York. I was also in the middle of the biggest man-made and natural calamities that battered the nation, like the 1987 MV Dona Paz tragedy which claimed the lives of over three thousand victims, the biggest maritime tragedy in modern history with more casualties than the sinking of Titanic in 1912. I have covered every stuff you can imagine: crime, scandals, tragedies, showbiz, and politics.

But my stint in Manila is not nearly as challenging as what I do now as the chief of ABS-CBN news bureaux for Europe and the Middle East. I have always believed that news should be global. When I was sitting through daily meetings for upcoming stories, I began to realise that most of our reports were strictly confined to ‘Mega Manila’ and the provinces covered by our regional stations. There were hardly any news about Filipinos abroad. And yet, at that time, we already had more than 8 million Filipinos overseas. No one was telling their stories simply because we had no reporters embedded abroad. But things have changed.

I established a Filipino news bureau in the Middle East in 2002, the first of its kind outside the Philippines. It offered, from the very start, some exciting and compelling stories, opening previously unopened windows into the lives of Filipinos in war-torn and high-risk areas. Many of our kababayans in that part of the world were languishing in jails, with stories of physical, sexual and emotional abuse. Our news bureau gave these stories an effective platform through which they can be heard.

In January 2003, a few months after my arrival at the continent, the Americans invaded Iraq using Kuwait as a staging area. Kuwait was then home to more than 63 thousand Filipinos, most of whom were in danger of exposure to chemical warfare from the ruthless Saddam Hussein. I felt the need to be there. Almost everyday for nearly two months, I reported live from Kuwait, even at times when sirens were wailing to warn us of incoming missile attacks. Luckily for us, the Americans were able to intercept most of them and spared many of our lives.

A few years later, in 2005, I arrived in London to begin another journey in broadcasting: to establish and run a European news bureau. As luck would have it, a mere three days after my arrival, bombs ignited London trains and buses on July 7, killing 55 people and injuring hundreds including two Filipinos. It was the biggest act of terrorism since 9/11 in the US. Friends have observed that I am always in the right place at the right time for major news coverage. “Sinusundan ka ng mga terorista,” they joked.

Today, the Europe news bureau is proud to have more than 30 correspondents in key cities around the continent, while the Middle East news team also continues to flourish. Stories emanating from these global news bureaux are now regularly used by platforms like TV Patrol, Bandila, ANC, Umagang Kay Ganda, DZMM, Balitang Middle East, and Balitang Europe.

Stories of Filipinos from Europe and beyond show us that foreign news have immense value to millions of our kababayans abroad and their loved ones back home. My job as an international newsgatherer for Philippine media, challenging as it may be at times, has proven to be a source of connection for Filipinos around the globe. The news we deliver, be it good or bad, is the link that binds the diaspora, the homeland, and the world around us.

Danny Buenafe hails from Manila. A seasoned broadcast journalist, he runs the European and Middle Eastern news bureaux of ABS-CBN Global. He travels around the world covering major international stories while managing a strong team of overseas news correspondents from several countries. Currently based in the UK, he spends most of his time between London, Dubai and Manila.

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Mark Angelo Baron Country Manager, Megaworld Nice, South of France

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y family was one amongst many who embraced the “culture of migration”, leaving their professions in the Philippines with a desire to have a better life offshore. Only two years old then, my parents moved to Europe to join our other relatives abroad. I grew up in Angono under the loving custody of my grandmother. Approaching my teenage years, my parents moved back to the Philippines to establish an import-export business which did not materialize as expected. Over a short period of time, they decided to move back to Europe. Eventually in the latter part of my teenage years, my sister and I decided to join our parents and migrated illegally in Europe.

By then, I started to work as a gardener at a private villa in South of France owned by a world-renowned rock and post-punk band, which later on led to granting my application for having a legal status in the country. Also thru this, I’ve met several A-listers and stars that I never thought I would ever meet, not even in my wildest dreams!

Inspired by how these people are making and will be leaving their legacy in this world and despite the society’s enslaving stigma that Pinoys in France are only meant for domestic work, I never gave up of having my own mark one day.

Thinking that the spotlight would change my life, I auditioned for Pinoy Big Brother’s candidate searches in Europe twice, tried my luck in the modeling world in the Philippines during vacations and played an extra role in the country’s top teleserye few years back. However, realizing that it is more economically sensible to go back to France and so I did… then my life has changed.

I met the woman of my dreams. She was based in London and was travelling to France often for business those times. Whirlwind romance as they say but I proposed after few months of dating and got married nine months later. I deeply knew she was the one from day one.

Having enough of a mediocre thinking and an unstable bachelor’s lifestyle, I had to renew my mindset of putting excellence in everything I do. Through hard work and commitment but still keeping my feet on the ground, I pursued a career in corporate sales and consultancy roles and embraced all the trainings therewith. Through the network gained, I’m grateful to be exposed to new and exciting entrepreneurship opportunities.

Life is about making choices and the choice is ours to make to stand out from mediocrity. I chose to do things that will leave an excellent mark in this world and to inspire the people in my environment. On top of all of these, I’m no longer a bachelor with a happy-go-lucky lifestyle – I chose to be a loving husband to my amazing wife and to be an awesome dad to my beautiful children one day.

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Katrina Santos-Baron Territory Sales and Distribution Head Nice, South of France “Passion is everything,” –a gift from ABS-CBN Chairman, Gabby Lopez, arrived with his personal dedication written on it. This brings me back few good childhood memories… Back then, I dreamt of travelling the world.

Mesmerized by TV programs showing different places and cultures around the globe, I used to look at the world map for hours as if spellbound. I dreamt of making my family proud. Coming from a broken family, I wanted to fill in the gaps by being the best daughter and ate I could ever be. I dreamt of being able to serve others in my own little ways. I dreamt of meeting the right man whom I can share the fulfillment of these dreams.

I dreamt fervidly… prayed fervently and believed fiercely. I had a lot of things to be grateful of throughout the years of my life. My parents always believed in good education and I passionately valued this gift that they’ve worked hard for. When I was entering college, a top university offered me a scholarship – a gift which opened more doors of opportunities. Normal days back then involved internship at the United Nations Development Programme, strutting at the catwalk or posing for some fashion ads but responsibly keeping my name on the dean’s list. I’ve shared the passion that drives me to excel to the other young people in my area and it was a privilege to volunteer in the community youth programs. I started travelling places around the Philippines and into the nearby countries.

I moved to Singapore for the first six months after university but my heart for the voluntary youth work brought me back to the Philippines. I cheerfully contributed what I can, sharing that passion in and out of the city until I received another gift – opportunity to pursue my post graduate studies in another top university… in London. Though it was sad to leave everything behind, I gratefully moved to the UK (where I spend six colourful years of my life). It was not easy being away from family but I’ve been blessed with plentiful of things that made me thankful in every way. Opportunities after opportunities came – I started travelling UK, Europe, Asia, America and some parts of Africa for leisure and later on, for business. During my post graduate studies, I voluntarily joined as one of the youth ambassadors for our university working with public schools – encouraging underprivileged young people to pursue their dreams. I’ve also met people in the fashion industry and got involved in few projects. I cherished the friendship gained all through the years. Moreover, I’m able to support the education of my siblings and always keep that close connection with my family despite the distance. And through one of my travels, I met my better half.

Presently, I am devotedly working for a company that is faithful and committed of being in the service of the Filipino worldwide, happily living in the South of France with my husband, Mark, and blissfully fulfilling all of our dreams together.

Dreams build our passion. Passion leads to fulfillment. And indeed, PASSION IS EVERYTHING.

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LUIS BARIUAN, JR. Business Executive London, UK

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t was a tough decision to work for a Filipino company in the UK. Having worked for multinational companies in the Philippines since finishing university, the decision to work for ABS-CBN Global was experimental at first.

I have since worked for the company for nearly six years and, consistently without fail, I have been truly inspired by many people I have met over the years. To witness the many colourful stories of Filipinos overseas, alongside the distribution of The Filipino Channel across Europe, eases those nagging feelings of homesickness. I soon understood the importance of my job, a reminder of the company’s ethos that has rung true for generations - in the service of the Filipino people.

Working for TFC means giving back to fellow Filipinos by being able to share ABS-CBN content overseas, thousands of miles away from home, with quality service to the growing community as our guiding principle. Whilst TFC is commercial in nature due to its pay-for-content subscription business model, we are also able to bring free events during important Filipino celebrations, from Independence Day to the annual series of barrio fiestas across the continent. We also have Balitang Europe, a weekly television news platform in which we help promote community events and initiatives, as well as the failures and triumphs of the Filipino abroad. These have brought me closer to the overseas Filipino communities, and has in turn made me proud to be a Filipino away from home.

My own personal story has given me strength of character. 2007 was a tough year for me. I had the mammoth task of adjusting to a new life, new work and new environment. In the same year, my wife became pregnant with our first child whom we gave birth to in the Philippines. Soon after my first-born’s baptismal reception, my father passed away. In the middle of these, work also took its toll on my family due to constant travelling required to meet the demands of the business. These were all challenging, but I held on. I thank God and my family for giving me the ability to come out of these stronger and more positive than ever.

As overseas Filipinos, we should learn to take care of each other by being supportive and being of service to one another. We should take pride in being a Filipino and shun being crabby towards each other. Let us celebrate every Filipino’s achievement and emulate their success. Continue to dream and work for our country’s betterment by working hard for your family and community. Be more active in all issues surrounding the plight of the poor.

Carpe diem.

Luis Bariuan Jr. is the regional sales director of ABS-CBN Europe Ltd, providers of the The Filipino Channel and live events including concerts, barrio fiestas, TFCKAT Talent Search, and Kapamilya Fairs. A graduate of Ateneo de Manila University, he spent 11 years working in sales and marketing for corporations in the Philippines, from MeadJohnson to Coca-Cola, before moving to the UK in 2007. He lives in Surrey with his wife, Helen, an oncology nurse, and their two children: Mariana Beatriz and Joaquin Emilio.

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Giovanni Andrea Austria Jamora Executive Business Development Milan, Italy

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y name is Giovanni Andrea Jamora, I’m 24 years old and I was born in Milan. Although I was born in Italy, luckily, I speak fluent Tagalog, our language. It is very important to be able to speak your own language, because even if you grew up in another country, you should never forget about your own origin and culture, which is always useful when I go on vacation in the Philippines and for my daily conversations with compatriots.

My parents have been in Italy for almost 30 years and also, searching for fortune or work like many others. They have made many sacrifices from the very beginning not only for them but also for the family. Their courage and determination have always been good examples for me.

Despite the many commitments, they have always tried to give me a good education and give me their full support for everything. This pushed me to focus study and finish as soon as possible so that I’d be able to help them in return.

During my studies, I also worked to put into practice the subjects I studied.

After the internship in 2006 at well-known clothing store as an assistant store manager, I was then hired by Rossini, a clothing store for men as junior store manager, but then after several months, I had to leave to focus on my final exams. In 2008, I graduated with Business Administration, Accountancy and Finance at the B.Cavalieri Institute in Milan.

After graduation, I enrolled again in college for Bachelor in Economics & Business Management course at the Università Cattolica del Sacro Cuore in Milan. During the first year of 2008, I practiced at a consulting and business administration firm as an accountant.

In 2009, I was also hired at one of the leading banks in Italy for the position of Controller Credit & Collection, a beautiful experience that taught me a lot of things and made me even more mature. After a few years, I received a job proposal by newly opened bank. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to accept the proposal at first because I was already contented and fixed at a leading bank but the offer was good and the base project has interested me very much. It is an Italian bank which dedicates to immigrants in Italy. I learned a lot from this job, as I have been part of it from the beginning. I am very happy to be able to help many people.

If you have a dream, you have to start building its bases or foundations from an early age. One must have courage, determination and always live honestly, have respect for their parents and in general for all the people, the very important element is humility.

Thank God for all the blessings and family.

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Pol AND Evelyn Reyes Proprietor of Philcargo Travel Srl Rome, Italy

Pol and I grew up and met in Tarlac City. We have put up and manage a business in the Philippines and it was progressing and stable but with the unfortunate luck – lahar, rain flood, financing - we were forced to close down our business and decided to try our luck in the United States of America where, at that time, most Pinoys go to make a new start, a new life. But unfortunately, our visa applications were denied by US embassy in Manila. With unprepared of a contingency plan after the denial, we suddenly thought of considering to go to Italy since my husband`s sister is working as a nurse. At first, his sister was not happy at all that we decided to transfer in Italy. She tried to persuade us not to go by saying that life there is not as what it seems to be. We completely understood her concern. In the Philippines, we have had a big house and furniture, a driver to drive us around to do errands and a couple of housekeepers to attend to our domestic needs but in Italy, its very different. Perhaps we were desperate to leave or maybe not, we still continue to apply for the visa by using the same requirements we had brought in the US Embassy. After a few days, we got the approval.

Indeed, life abroad is completely different to what we have back in the Philippines. We stayed at my sister-in-law’s house. We occupied a small part of the living room that has become our makeshift sleeping quarter. Being just a space in the living room, we separated our room by hanging some curtains as our partition. Whenever there is a party in the house, we’ll rest or sleep after the visitors are already gone and the living room is already cleaned up. There was also a time on our first months when my husband will fetch me from my part time work, we’ll just look at each other with tears in our eyes.

Fate crafted these obnoxious turn of events for us and that made us strive hard to resurface again from where we were. We decided to put up a business. However, the problem of being undocumented stepped into view as it was the number one requirement for a foreigner to put up a business. Not losing hope, we both scored our work for a couple.

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We worked as housekeepers for a castle in Sienna. Our employers will only visit and stay on every weekend. Two persons versus 1 castle, all for the sake of getting documented. With the very same document, our strength was put into test. A general amnesty was passed and our employer provided us the needed documents. We were at the period when we were waiting for the release of our permesso di soggiorno (permit to stay) when our only daughter died. To say that we were devastated is an understatement. It felt like we died with her at that very moment. We learned of her passing and the thought of not being with her at last minute on Earth was just added wound to our mourning heart. Situation was at worst when we could not go home because the documents were not yet ready for release.

It was time to move on with the remaining strength we got in our life. We pursued in putting up our cargo business. How did we came up with Philcargo Travel? My husband’s brother in law in USA has a cargo company so we thought of putting up our own here in Rome. For a foreigner, it was very hard to put up a business. Not only the procedures were complicated, the language barrier has been a great hindrance for us. People close to us kept telling us that sea cargo will never be a hit since there are lots of incident from other companies that the goods were either lost, late in arrival or the cost of shipping is expensive. They didn’t believe nor support us at all. But there was one person who believed in us and helped us in our first step to open up the business and that person is also our broker for 16 years. This has also paved way for my husband’s brother-in-law to join us in our business.It has been 16 years and Philcargo is still here.

Trials are still there, but if you want to survive in this life, you must always stay focus on what you are doing. Don’t lose hope in achieving what you want with your life and never be ashamed of your current job. You’ll only succeed if you believe in your capability as a person. Never lose hope and never forget to look back where you started. And most of all, be thankful of everything and never forget your obligation to the Man above.

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Benson Reloza Royal Guard Madrid Spain “Nothing is impossible if we believe in ourselves” – this is the phrase that I hold dear to my heart, a belief that guides my very being.

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y name is Benson Reyes Reloza. I was born and raised in Caloocan City, Philippines. I have been living in Spain for 19 years now and I can say that time passed rather quickly. I came a long way from what my life was before. My loving grandparents had been taking care of me at a very young age because my parents had to leave the Philippines to find their fortune in another country - Spain. After my parents endured long years of hard work, they arranged for me to be with them in Madrid, Spain. I was nine years old then when my life started to change, I went through a series of adjustments, and luckily, I was still at a very malleable age. Through my parents guidance, I was able to adapt.

After high school, I had the opportunity to enlist in the military academy and I must confess that the training was not at all easy but my parents were my inspiration. I have heard stories on how they have managed to survive in a foreign land. The least that I can do was to give the program my very best shot. Out of 250 applicants, I was selected to be one of the 70 individuals chosen to be the guard of a royal family in Spain.

Like most sons and daughters, I feel forever indebted to my parents and its not just brought about by Christian guilt and morale, it is the deep affection that they have shown me and I will continuously repay the love that I learned from them. I would say that the fruit of my hard work and perseverance would be the house in the Philippines that I built and invested for my parents. I knew that they wanted to return to our homeland, and retire in a place where they were born in. Nothing beats living in a country that is truly yours. I give them my deepest gratitude. From them, I understood how to love and be loved, to be loyal and to persevere, without them I would not be the man that I am today.

For all our kababayans, do not let go of your dreams. We should believe that there is a power that is greater than all of us. Believe that with God’s help we will achieve whatever we set our minds into, and that we should stay focused and believe that we can make it happen, as they say “walang imposible sa Pinoy” (Nothing is impossible for Filipinos).

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Fr. Norman Peña Jr Priest Rome, Italy

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orn in Malate, Manila but hails from Batangas. I am a priest of the Society of St Paul, an international institute working to spread God’s word through the media of Social Communications. With a degree in Philosophy and Communications, I was sent to Australia for mission work and finish Theology, Management and MA in Communications. 13 years after, I was asked to go Rome, Italy, where I am now for 8 years, to work in the information, IT and communications centre of our General House. Concurrently, I am pursuing a Doctorate in Communications expected to finish next year.

Almost each Sunday, I help out in the liturgical and spiritual activities of the and Filipino communities’ in Rome through the Sentro Pilipino Chaplaincy.

Personally, it has always been a joyful and learning moment to reach out and serve our migrant kababayans. Along the cheers, they share are also the cries of homesickness, loneliness and tears. The consoling panacea I share are the words in 1989 of Cardinal Sin before we went for mission overseas: ‘Whenever you feel lonely or alone, just look at the sky which is the same everywhere. And remember that we are praying for you.’ For me it is an empowering presence capable of adding some cheers in place of tears. It’s hard but I know every migrant Pinoy looks forward to re-unification with their families. It strengthens their very soul enabling them able to continue with inspiration. Part of this is also idea of ‘returning to the basics ’- being aware of the little signs we encounter that we sometimes overlook because of the difficulties we have. Find joy and appreciating them brings enormous positive effects in return. God sends these little signs to uplift our souls, encouraging us to believe firmly that being a Filipino abroad is distinct from being a Filipino back home. The challenges of the “other” culture we face ask us to remember the Filipino spirit embedded in our hearts and to positively use it as a basis of our “isip, diwa at gawa”.

In general, we Filipinos are also a religious people. Many migrant Pinoy’s believe priests and nuns (fluid migrants in the sense that they can be assigned anywhere anytime) know every answer from God, capable of healing and solving everything. Experiences with the same migrants though highlight the reality that everyone has the capacity and gift to heal each other. It doesn’t matter if you are a priest, a councilor, a nun, a banker – we heal not only through words or actions but through our presence – as kabayan, kapwa, kapanalig. We heal by being there for others, by accompanying them even in pain. Acceptance of one’s suffering is one way to start to get through it. I have gone through it too. My own brothers and sisters have been abroad for years. We never had seen each other in one place for almost 20 years until our parents celebrated their 45th year wedding anniversary. The complete reunion was repeated when my mother passed away at a young age of 68 a couple of years late due to Alzheimer and complications with her diabetes. I will always remember the simple yet only words through which could communicate to her: “Bahay kubo, kahit munti….”

What unites my mom from heaven and the rest of my family in the Philippines and abroad are the prayers we continually share. I believe the challenge for all of us migrants is to joyfully do the best that we could in everything – little or small – that we do. The greatness of a Filipino who believes is not in being able to bring what he is used to back home in a culture that is new, but to use its real worth and value to help him/her fully integrate to a culture that is new.

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Adrianne Marfil Chef Rome, Italy

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still remember the first time I left my country when I was 7 years old, more or less. It was the first time I flew in such a huge plane and I knew right there and then, it was going to take me to the most beautiful city in the world: Rome. I was also heart broken. I didn’t want to leave the most important people in my life: my brother and my father. Nevertheless, there was one great thing about this trip that made me very happy: I was travelling with my mom, my hero!.

In this new city, I experienced a childhood that was both positive and negative. Positive because I had the opportunity to know a new culture, to meet new people and most of all, to make new friends. Negative part was I was too used to a different kind of life. Back home, we were well off as a family and then, we found ourselves living in a nightmare, as my parents had to suddenly live apart.

Back in the day, we had a textile factory and a car repair shop. My mom originally came here with the intention of working only for 3 or 4 years. It was supposed to be enough to help our businesses back home. But that didn’t happen. My father was a selfish man: he betrayed my mother for another woman. When my mom found out, she decided to send me back to the Philippines hoping that once he sees me, he would stop his fooling around. So,I went and stayed in the Philippines for another two years. However, it got worse. My dad had a daughter with the other woman and it was such a shock for me. I didn’t leave the house. I didn’t speak to anyone in my family. I had become withdrawn because of the shame.

My mom, understanding the situation, decided to have me come back to Italy and this time, with my brother. When we arrived to Italy, my brother and I had a challenging experience. It was a stressful for my mother to raise 2 kids alone abroad. My mom always works ended very late, so I had to start taking care of my brother. For him I was a mini mom. After school, I’d pick him up and we’d wait for mom in a church for 4 to 5 hours. Sometimes, it happened that my brother was so tired, he’d fall asleep on the pews. This was all because our landlord was very strict and he didn’t want the neighbours to see young kids going home unaccompanied.

Luckily, some years later, our lives started to improve. One of my mom’s employers asked her to work for him and in return, we could live in one of his apartments. It was also in this period I had to make an important decision regarding my future, which high school to go to, Languages or Hotel Management? So, I chose Hotel Management as I was really interested in tourism and mostly, because I wanted to be able to express my creativity through cooking Italian cuisine. I studied in one of the most prestigious culinary institutes located in the most beautiful part of Rome: Trastevere. There, I learned a lot of international dishes and other aspects of the restaurant business I didn’t know. This was also the place I met the most important person in my life: my boyfriend! He is also like me, a cook and an immigrant. When he was a child, he lived in Bulgaria, and just like me, he moved to Italy for economic reasons. Lets say, we literally fell in love at first sight. At school, we really shine when we participate in the different cooking comptetitions.

I also tried to help my mother by doing odd jobs. At 20 years of age, I’ve already worked as a shop assistant, a baby sitter, a barman, a waitress and an assistant chef. My brother has chosen a different path from mine.

Since he is passionate about technology, he decided to go to a Science and Technology in high school. My mother, after all the misfortunes she suffered, has always managed to take care of the family by herself and for this, I admire her and would like to thank her for all that she has done and given us. Because of my experiences in Italy, I have become more responsible and more independent.

We are currently living in the heart of Rome, I have lots of friends and now, I’m closer to making my dream come true: becoming a professional chef.

I’m grateful to be working in a Roman restaurant as a cook. Someday, I will work as a chef in a famous hotel.

I would like to wholeheartedly thank the people who have always been with me during the good and the bad moments; for believing in me and for never giving up on me.

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Ryan de Catalina Head Chef Milan, Italy

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rowing up, I never really thought that I would become a chef. It never occurred to me that the kitchen was going to be a place I would be most comfortable and that cooking was going to be my profession.

Being the youngest in the family, I would say that life was never really much of a struggle aside from the fact that our parents needed to be away so that they can provide for us and send to school. That experience of being away was really sad but somehow I coped with it as years went by. This experience taught me to be independent and has helped me in many ways when I started working to earn and make a living.

I arrived in Italy when I was 17, and the first time I saw Milan I just said to me, “this is the place to be.” Having that in mind, my goals were still vague but I knew I was going to make something happen for myself.

My first job was a crew in McDonald. I have learned not only how to make burgers and fries or clean tables but how to deal with people differently.

Things were harder than I thought and the real world was tough. I was a victim of false accusations, rooted from dispute among my co-workers, so I lost my job. But as the saying goes, though it may sound cliché’, “life goes on”... and it did for me.

After several attempts of finding another job, I was hired as a helper in a Japanese restaurant. I would wash the dishes and practically clean the workplace after. I must have been working very good back then because for some reason, I was asked to work as an assistant to the master chef. So I took the opportunity, and little by little I was starting to like the feeling of being so enthusiastic with food preparation, plating and cooking. It finally became clearer to me that my direction was to become a professional cook.

When I became a sous-chef, I made an extra effort to learn everything that would develop my skills. I was very patient with myself. I would read a lot and watch videos on youtube about all kinds of cuisine particularly Japanese gastronomy. I became more confident and was ready to step up. But unfortunately, the owner of Japanese restaurant decided to close it down. Again, life goes on. So I took that as an opportunity to go to Japan with a colleague to study and train the real art of sushi making.

Shortly after I came back, a friend who was putting up a sushi bar offered me a job as a head-chef. I grabbed it, performed what I have learned and did my responsibilities well. So the business picked up in just a short period of time. The restaurant beside the sushi bar called Tweed is one of Milan’s most elegant places caught my attention because of its unique cuisine. I met the owner who happens to be the head chef also asked me if I could help him reinvent their menu. So I left the sushi bar knowing that my contribution to its success was something I can truly be proud of. My driving force at that time was the aspiration to pursue my dream of becoming a great chef. So I joined the new team, hoping that I would become one of the bests in my craft.

My attitude in life is that I do not ask for more than what I am capable of, and even if I am given less to what I deserve I do not really mind. What matters to me is the experience because from there everything else will follow. And as what the legendary Michael Jordan said “I can accept failure but I cannot accept not trying.” For me success goes with believing in oneself.

Now, I am currently in Riccione working as a Head chef in a newly opened Japanese restaurant here in one of the best known summer seaside destinations in Northern Italy.

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Joana “JM” Ronquillo Hair and Make-up Artist (HMUA) Cannes, South of France

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French fashion magazine called and asked if I can do the hair and makeup for their December cover girl. There was a moment of silence as my jaw just dropped out of amusement! Call it cliché but yes, it’s a dream come true!

Born in the destitute areas of Angeles City, I never thought that I would walk into the fashion and glamour-stricken streets of Monaco to the celebrity-clad red carpet of Cannes, handling the hair and make-up styling of runway and print ad models as well as Pinoy and foreign stars circling the limelight!

I keep on asking myself - how can a neophyte like me join all other talents in the same field where there are experts who are more qualified and professionals who had extensive trainings from prestigious schools?

My knack for cosmetics and hairstyling is not something that is exclusive to the fashion and film personalities. I am ever grateful that I have taken part in the special moments such as weddings, birthdays and community events of my fellow Filipinos. But this is still way different from the life I had back in Pampanga when I was studying whilst working diligently with two jobs – from being an assistant to a manager of a fast food chain and from being a local band singer to working as an overall personnel staff at an eminent biochemical company. As I build my way to fulfilling my dreams, I had to maintain my scholarship from high school to college, so that I can support my siblings in their academic expenses.

I am blessed to finish my studies in Computer Technology with flying colours. However, I believe that learning is a continuous process and I yearn to pursue a career in the beauty and fashion industry as an HMUA. And really, I had no other option but to succeed due to the financial necessities of my family in the Philippines.

Over the years, this vision has captured my heart. I learned to develop a flair for my craft, an unrelenting determination and most importantly, nourish the joy for the work that I do.

Words are not enough for my heartfelt gratitude to the numerous and smashing opportunities in the field that’s spreading like wildfire. I have no regrets to be missing out some of the best offers that could have given me the best shot of my life. For me, aside from all the exposures, achievements and growing success, everything else is just a background noise when it comes to my beloved family. Being a mom to my four-year old son, Jared and being a wife to my ever loving husband, Jojo, is the number one priority in my life right now. Seeing Jared’s smile every morning, watching him grow up everyday and building a future with my supportive husband far outweighs the glamorous benefits of those offers.

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Argy Cardino Student/Part-time Model Milan, Italy

Growing up, I was bullied and humiliated by almost everyone because of my personal appearance. I was skinny, dark and with a walking disability.

In short, an ugly duckling with an awkward nature. It took me sometime to outgrow that sense of insecurity, and most of my teenage years were so difficult. Every time I go to school or attend gatherings people would just laugh and talk about me. I couldn’t remember all the embarrassing and excruciating moments but my Mom would tell me that she really felt disheartened the way people looked at me before.

When I suffered from an illness, I started having abnormal heartbeats which caused me to alternately lose and gain weight. I had to take medicines to normalize my condition and it went about for several years. I’ve noticed changes when I was around 14 years old and maybe I thought the medications helped with the development of my body. Then I became more conscious with the way I looked and I started taking care of myself like any other girls my age.

Now I am 17 and I could say that I have finally grown out of my teenage years and that I am starting to come out in my full bloom like a beautiful flower. And because of the help and support of my family, life has totally changed for me. People started seeing me in a different light. Today, they talk about me not to degrade me but to actually compliment me because of my natural beauty. I have been invited several times to become a muse to different events, and I feel so overwhelmed because I never thought that such change would ever happen.

I joined Ms. Philippines Italy 2012 because of the motivation and desire to have an experience with the crowd and the public after going through such a transformation. I wanted to see for myself that I can actually overcome lack of self-confidence brought about by my childhood. To my surprise, the pageant was not only a rejection of all the doubts that have clouded my perception of my own self but an affirmation of my whole new being. I did not win the title, but I ended up as 1st runner up and took almost all major awards that night. It was an unforgettable and memorable experience that I will forever treasure. I may have not won the title, but for me, I am the winner. I have gained back everything that I have lost when I was a kid. I have gained back my self-worth and I have won the hearts of so many people. It was a great leap.

Today, I still continue with my studies finishing up Hotel and Restaurant management and at the same time doing some modeling. I am happy and I feel blessed to all great opportunities that have taken place. And the best lesson that I have learned is that we should never ever let a hurting past influence our future. My message to everyone out there, especially teenagers like me is to never lose hope, to believe in yourself and to have the courage to try and take the plunge.

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CHRIS QUEBRAL Entrepreneur Ireland

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come from an average Filipino family. I am used to the ups and downs of life. As a child, if I wanted something, I had to work for it because my parents would often say we can’t afford it. I would determine what I want, then make a plan on how to do it, step by step, till I make it. If plans didn’t work out, I would change them and try again. I often find myself thinking of new strategies on how to get what I want quicker. It is survival instincts that gave me the brains and the guts to keep on going all these years.

I came to the UK on a tourist visa with the hope of getting a nice job in engineering. But after staying here and spending all my money, I couldn’t get a job I want. I was forced to do odd jobs, from house keeping to bar work, just to survive. I also asked some friends to help me get by. It was embarrassing, but I just had to deal with it. I learned early on that you need people and friends at difficult times. No man is an island. But you can’t survive on the help of friends alone.

I ended up with nowhere to stay and nowhere to go. I had to sleep out on the streets on a cold winter night. It was a turning point in my life. I told myself, “NO!” I didn’t go this far to be a failure. I had to do something. And so, with discarteng Pinoy coupled with determination, I soon saw an opportunity. It was a job for a soil engineer in Ireland. I have no experience in this area, but on the the interview, I made sure I sounded fit for the job and pretended everything is ok. I got the job. So I went straight to the airport with my best clothes and a backpack. It was great. It felt good.

I was housed in a nice B&B with good food. I was paid 200 euros a week.

But soon enough I found out I was underpaid. So I learned the ropes and moved from one job to another until I ended up with a high paying job with my own business. Unfortunately, just when things were on the up, I made mistakes again. I was earning at least 5 million euros a year at the time, but I wasted it all on expensive trips, cars, gadgets, restaurants, and a huge rented apartment. It all came to an end, but I had enough money to go back to school, and so I did. I wanted to learn something new in the hope of going back into business someday.

I took a degree in law, and it wasn’t easy. But, with the ultimate goal of having a better life - financially and personally - I strived as I have done many times before, and I thank God that I am back in business again. I learnt that you can get everything you want if you work hard for it. Work even if you don’t feel like working. The key is to think positively, to keep on dreaming. If a person stops dreaming, life also stops.

My experiences as a Filipino also made me different in the way I think and work compared to other nationalities, particularly when the need for practicality and the acceptance of reality arises. Life is full of hardships and there is no other choice but to live with it, and to use it as a learning ground to improve while striving to get out of it. And when the triumphs come, it will feel good because it will mean I didn’t waste the things I have learnt from the toughest periods.

In life, nothing is free, you always have to do something in return either way, so I look at hardships as payment for my triumphs. Without it, my perspective would be different and I would not improve at all. Some people fail the test of hardships and never get out of it alive.

Chris Quebral works for Filinvest, presenting and advertising properties from the Philippines, while building his legal experience through pro-bono cases with qualified lawyers. A graduate of engineering, he worked in the industry for a number of years before pursuing a new path in the legal sector. Based in Dublin, he is currently finishing a degree in law, aiming to pass the bar in Ireland in 2013.

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Joseph Alvin Umahon Correspondent Pisa, Italy

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n undergraduate of Mass Communications from the Lyceum of the Philippines University of Batangas. It is but natural that I am inclined to photography, theater arts, and acting. I’ve worked as a freelance production artist and event organizer and many more. I have so much more to offer – the jack-of-all-trades! – a sure ball ticket to get a stable job. Yet, I still decided to go abroad.

You might have read the usual stories of our fellow Filipinos how they were able to go abroad. Some have sold their land and other properties, borrowed money from a financing firm and then later paid it with sky-rocketed interests, and some are from petitions. So, how did I get here? I was petitioned by my‘wife’. I flew in Italy around June 2005 from a fixed marriage.

That was my only way to get here. Lots of people may not know this and most of them who have heard how I technically got here never fail to leave them baffled.

Life abroad will liberate you from all your financial problems as long as you are pretty good in managing it. But in truth, how much does your feelings really cost? I remember my first work in a pizza restaurant given by my sister. Enduring everything especially the long tiring hours of a non-stop hard work so that I will not be left behind by others. It’s been 5 hours since I’ve started. I don’t even know how to ask for any favors to help me or even for a glass of water. All I can say was “SI! Tutto bene!”. The food was tempting, feeling my stomach crumble of hunger, as I take some leftovers of pizza on dishes in front of me. My tears fell off from my eyes feeling the pain of fooling myself that I’m okay. Twenty seven cold euros for seven hours. that was the value of everything I felt that night. I was exhausted and even going back to my apartment seems to be impossible. This has taught me to acquire better skills, speed, endurance, adaptability and being well-organized.

I became focused and disciplined.

But this is not what I really want to do in life. I always wanted to be a good man, a good father, a home with my family, an actor where my mom could be so proud of me to see his son in the big screen. But I still don’t have anything I’ve wanted. Maybe life is too complicated, maybe I’ve never been good on finishing what I’ve started. I have all the potentials, talents and guidance that someone needs to be with success but all I did was to take them all for granted and am truly sorry. Things have not been good, and for several years, I’m trying to patch things up. I became a correspondent in a TV news and eventually, I’m slowly getting on track of what my forte is. Now, it’s been 7 years since I’ve entered the world of being an OFW and I am earning more. Time flies so fast that you can hardly feel it has consumed you until it’s too late. Feeling that you’re in a mission of saving lives of your family and relatives’ future then at the end will leave you on a deserted emptiness, a prey for all emotional vampires that would suck you.

I cannot be like that. I have dreams and I know I have to do it the hard way.

Turning back time is impossible. With a new life to start far from home, I felt my limitations, paralyzed by my irrational fears. I realized that I wasn’t alone with this feeling. I let go of it to ensure my survival.

We, OFWs, must not be prisoners of fancy dreams. Let us not live on persuasions of being rich , pushing to our limits just to reach others expectations. Let us not waste our lives just to earn money. Let us be wiser and thankful. Understanding well the greater meaning of life. We cannot buy time for what we missed in life. Success is within you. It’s not how much money you’ve got in the bank, or how big your houses are. It’s the simple things that matters to you, making your soul happy. A happiness that gives real meaning to what you wanted your whole life. Just don’t rush things. As long as you’re alive, you’re winning.

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EFREN DORDAS Florist Rome, Italy

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ometime life can be unpredictable no matter how you want to write your own destiny. I was a BSN graduate who hailed from Roxas City, Capiz.

Now I am a florist based in Rome. Indeed, when life throws you lemons, make lemonade. Or in my case, flowers, lots of it.

While I dreamed of becoming successful as a professional in the health care industry, fate led to me a small vacant shop at Via Monterone and opened a flower shop instead. How did I get here?

Back in the Philippines, my mother loved making corsages, sometimes made out of roses or orchids, which students buy during graduation rites to pin on their dresses. I was very young then but I already eager to help her. At first, it was more of an obligation. We have this in our Filipino culture, lending a helping hand to the family whenever we can. But little did I know that those days of observing my mom and learning her tricks of magically transforming a spray of flowers into beautifully arranged creations, would become my own hidden gem of a skill.

Flash-forward to years later, I came to Italy to try my luck as a nurse. But instead of getting my hands busy caring for the sick, I was carrying luggage of guests in a hotel where I worked as a bellboy. At the same time, I was already discovery my passion for flowers. During free time, I would go around the city to look at flower shop windows teeming with beautiful flower arrangements, or I would browse wedding and floral magazines.

One time, I had the chance to apply my little know-how on flower arrangement in the hotel where I used to work. It was one client of the hotel, a bride all the way from Ireland, one August day 8 years ago. It came as a challenge, but it was also the start of a career that has kept me afloat to this day.

On that said occasion, I had to do the bride’s bouquet since she could not find a florist available. Seeing the bouquet I made, the receptionist of the hotel, who was getting married the following month, decided to let me do her bridal flowers from the church to the reception. It was at Villa Fiorano along Appia Antica, my first reception venue.

Then, a caterer from Frascati, who was at the wedding in Villa Fiorano, was impressed by my work and eventually took me as their exclusive florist. This opportunity became my regular training ground.

A year after, I decided to open Dordas Flowers at Via Monterone and eventually at Largo del Teatro Valle early this year. Since then business has blossomed like the flowers in spring. I could not have asked for more. The clients come to me because they say I have ‘unique and strange’ ideas on arranging flowers, which makes me stand out from the rest. My creative philosophy is simple: I don’t need sophisticated materials to come out with spectacular arrangement.

But for me, not everything is about business. It is also important that you give back something to the community that embraces your talent. I am happy that our kababayans in Rome recognize my talent as a Filipino florist here.

On the occasion of the 65th anniversary of Philippine-Italian Relations and 114th year of Philippine Independence, I had the honor of putting up an exhibit with fellow artisan sculptor Richard Gabriel at the Hotel Westin Exelcior last June. It was called “Fiori e Scarpe delle Filippine”.

Also last November, I was commissioned by our Philippine Embassy here in Milan to create its entry to the 37th Edition of Esposizione Internazionale “100 Presepi” (International Exhibition 100 Christmas Cribs), organized by the Rivista delle Nazioni. Instead of requiring the Embassy to buy new materials, I just recycled their old belen and made use of materials available in my flower shop such as bark of betulla tree, dried coconut leaves, and cord to clothe Joseph, Mary and infant Jesus. It was an honor for me to be part of showcasing not only state-of-the-art design and creativity of Filipino artist but also to represent the Philippines and its Christian values to the world.

Indeed, being a Filipino in another country is also an opportunity to excel in what you do and to show the world how talented we are as a people.

Personally, I see myself as not just a businessman but as an ambassador of Filipino talent, one flower arrangement at a time.

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EUSEBIO MERCADO CASENAS Hair and Make-up Artist Milan, Italy

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came to Italy in November of 2004. I won the grand prize in the hair and make-up category of Hair Asia and I was sent as representative of the country to the Hair World Olympics that was held in Milan. Life was tough back in the Philippines. My income as a stylist and make-up artist in Batangas, where I lived, was barely enough to support a decent life. That’s why it came to my mind to try my luck working here.

The first few days of starting a life here in Milan were a period of adjustment.

I lived in a small apartment with other Filipinos and I had to learn to deal with other people’s attitudes and expectations. I also had to cope with the different culture. After two years, I was finally able to work hard and save up for my own place.

When you are far from your own family and you always find yourself in a sea of strangers, it is easy to feel lonely and scared. I got homesick a lot of times especially when I was still new here and didn’t know my way around.

There are times, too, when I experienced being discriminated just because I’m not European. But what’s worse is when you are pulled down by your kapwa Pinoy. Though it’s very difficult when it happens, I just pray and focus on what matters: my loved ones who rely on me.

Thankfully I’m a Filipino. I have a strong heart and I have unwavering faith in God. Constant prayers and seeking God’s counsel through the Bible have strengthened me through the years. I make sure I go to church during Sundays as part of my devotion.

It also helped that I have a positive outlook in life, perhaps because I have been through tougher times already. In order to combat any negative emotions, I make sure that I enjoy my work and feel grateful for each day. Aside from my job, I also make time developing my interest in singing. Indeed music is a very Filipino thing!

During weekends I find time to bond with my friends, Filipinos and Italians alike. This way I feel I’m not alone in my struggles and sacrifices. Whenever I see a fellow Filipino who still manages to flash a smile despite a tiring day, I feel inspired. I realize I’m not alone in my ambitions to help my loved ones back home.

But sometimes I ask myself if I made the wrong decision, if it’s better to go back home to the Philippines to continue my business. But whenever I receive my salary, and realize how I could earn a lot here, I see the value of my sacrifices.

Yes, being an OFW is hard, really-- hard like playing cards. It gets challenging when it’s time to send money home to my family. But every time I get to help my loved ones financially, it feels good. I feel like a hero.

As for my future plans, it’s either I can have my own salon here or anywhere in Europe, or I’ll go back to the Philippines to put up the same business. But I leave it all up to God.Europe is a beautiful continent, and I am blessed that I am here to work and I get to travel around and see wonderful cities in this part of the globe. This was just my dream before and I am so happy that I get to fulfill it now.

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CAROL PANDAY Olympic Volunteer London, UK

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o render my services selflessly is one of my utmost ideals. Since arriving in the UK, I have always wanted to be involved with the Filipino community, which now takes up much of my time. I want to do something that will make my family and friends proud. That is how my journey began with the 2012 Olympics and Paralympics.

As a performing arts student in London, my goal is to excel in my chosen field. I just want to dance, through which I know, somehow, that I can make my country proud. The question is how.

I found exactly what I was looking for with the historic London 2012. After countless auditions and rehearsals stretching back from 2011, I found myself performing at the spectacular opening ceremony of the Olympics. I was one of the dancers from the 60s, wearing a glamorous and much-loved ‘Mirror Dress’, from a segment that paid tribute to Sir Tim Berners-Lee, creator of the World Wide Web. No words can describe how I felt the first time I set foot in the stadium. It was huge. I was so impressed I could not even dance. I told myself: “This is it. It’s real. This is not a dream. I am fully awake and my eyes are wide open.” At that moment, I also remember the pride I felt as a Filipino, to represent my beloved country in the greatest show on earth.

The time to perform in front of the world came soon enough, sharing the spotlight with thousands of fellow performers and a handful of international stars like David Beckham, JK Rowling, and even Mr Bean. It was exciting. I had an overwhelming feeling of belonging, that I was part of something important. That I was, from that moment and beyond, a part of Great Britain - even as a so-called foreigner.

That is why I moved to London. The discipline of the people, the honesty of the government, and the services available to constituents are manifested in everything. Everyone here can make a difference. Everybody has the same equal opportunities, as long as you can prove that you deserve it. You can be part of the most prestigious events not because of who you know or how much you have, but because of what you can offer.

I have fallen in love with this city.

The Olympics came and went followed soon after by the Paralympics, where I also volunteered as a marshall, acting as a sort of superhuman serving the needs of the visiting public. And as the dust of the whirlwind settled, I found myself alongside other volunteers sharing our wonderful experiences with the Filipino community. We found ourselves in a unique position to pass on the flames from the games, to inspire warmth and compassion in others.

This experience proved to me that I can help make my country and its people to believe. To know that we can do things just as well as, if not better than, other nations. If there is one thing I can share with fellow kababayans from this experience, it is to think: hindi pwedeng pwede na, dapat talaga perfect. We can be the best if we work hard and put our soul into it.

But it is not always easy. Leaving your country is one of the most challenging things you can do. It is an act of courage coupled with sacrifices, often leaving your loved ones behind.

For me, my dear 17-year-old son in the Philippines is the reason I get up every morning. I want to work, to strive hard, and to do something extraordinary, so my son can one day say: “That lady is my mum, and I am proud of her.” With this, together with my faith in God, and my respect for Grant, with whom I shared most of my life, I know that I can withstand anything that comes my way.

Carol Panday was born in Pampanga and spent most of her life in Manila, where she worked in the education sector for 15 years before studying in the United Kingdom. She lives in London and is pursuing a career in performing arts and the media.

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DAVY VALLECER

Fashion Designer London, UK

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’ve always had a flair for fashion. As a child I loved dressing up, putting outfits together and customizing my clothes. The joy of looking presentable came from my dad, who always wore suits and was always well presented.

In 2008, I found myself jobless like thousands of people around the world.

I was bored. At home, while fiddling with fabrics and buttons, I started designing and making bows in all manners of things, from neckties and headbands, to handbags and costume jewelry. This was the birth of BOW!, my very own line of bespoke accessories.

Out of that boredom and curiosity, I went on to make bows everywhere: in the house, on the bus, and even on the tube, which sometimes attracted attention from fellow passengers. I drew inspiration from anything I could see, like pieces of wrappers on the street, which had interesting shapes, colours and textures.

I made pieces for friends and families, but soon after other people also started requesting for my bows. Most orders are bespoke so the inspiration also comes from my clients. Seeing celebrities like Labrinth and DJ Nikki Beatnik wearing my bows makes me proud to know they like what I do.

I make each piece by hand, sometimes with a sewing machine for bigger items. Bows are a simple shape that both guys and girls can relate to, an accessory which transcends all trends and always in fashion. If you can imagine it, I can make it happen. It makes me happy to see other people happy. Sharing a passion means a great deal. I like to think sharing inspiration is inspiration. It’s how creativity is created. Why hide a diamond no one will see? It needs to shine.

Beyond fashion, I also have a passion for dance. It’s a different kind of creativity, another form of self expression. In 2011, after a few classes and some training, my sister and I started a new business venture with Zumba, a popular Latin-inspired workout that fuses dance and exercise. Six months after I tagged along with my sister to my very first Zumba class, we both became qualified instructors and started running classes in parts of London. We have never looked back. It’s a great feeling to help others to live a healthy lifestyle and have fun doing it.

BOW! and Zumba stirred an entrepreneurial spirit that has always been inside me. Running your own business is about being your own boss, with the freedom to be creative, to meet people, to make people happy and, of course, make a living.

But it’s not about the money. It’s about being happy. I believe if you love what you do, you’ll be happy. If there’s something you don’t like in your life, change it. We only get to be on this earth once so make the most of it. You want to be able to look back on your life and say: “Wow, I did all of that.”

My parents, who moved to England from Pangasinan in the Philippines, have always taught me to work hard, to be respectful, polite and kind to everyone. Their perseverance, sacrifice and determination for me and my sister has made us truly grateful to have all the opportunities we have. This drives me to work hard, to be a success, and to make my parents proud. It is the least I can do. Without my parents, I would not be me, and I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing now. They are my inspiration.

Every day motivates me. I am grateful at every waking moment, to have a roof over my head, food in the fridge, running water, good health, loved ones - I could go on. I am blessed with so many things that I see every day as a blessing.

We can get wrapped up with the everyday little annoyances of not having enough money, not liking our job, being fat/thin, or missing the train. We forget that we are actually blessed with more than we realise. Count all the things you are grateful for today. You’ll be surprised.

Davy Limliman Vallecer is a second-generation British Filipino. Born and raised in the UK, she studied business, finance and marketing communications at Greenwich University. She lives in London with her husband and works as a freelance shoe consultant while running her creative businesses in fashion and dance.

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Henry Estrada UN Worker Rome, Italy

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riginally from Navotas, Metro Manila and I’ve always been an OFW. I was working with LandBank-Manila when I applied with a recruitment agency for a job in Saudi Arabia and from there, the adventure began.

Saudi Arabia stint lasted for 8 years and afterwards, been posted in Bangkok, Thailand for a year.

It’s actually while working in Saudi that I came over to Italy as part of my Eurotrip Holiday. I fell in love with Italy and even though I knew it was next to impossible, I tried anyway to apply for a vacancy with the UN World Food Programme (WFP). My tourist visa was about to expire and it was very difficult to get into the UN. I weighed my options and was convinced that I didn’t want to return to Saudi anymore. If anything, I was ready to go back to Manila.

As luck and timing would have it, the Italian Government had just granted amnesty to all foreigners staying in Italy and I was able to get myself legal documents. The bonus part was I had also just been recruited to work for WFP. Working for the UN has been an amazing experience. I was given the chance to go to the field to support various emergency operations of WFP, i.e. in Baghdad, Iraq (before the war), Honduras, Latin America and moved to Kenya for 3 years (with the whole family) and was recently posted in Sudan (in 2009). The job itself is demanding and requires a lot of sacrifice, but the benefits are truly great. Nothing can compare to knowing and seeing you’ve made a difference in someone else’s life. In being able to help feed the hungry poor, wherever they are in the world.

Another blessing in my life and my source of strength is my family. I met my wife Joy, through a colleague of mine in Saudi Arabia. What started out as being penfriends turned into a long distance relationship that has lasted for 9 years. Remember, back in the 80s, emails and cell phones did not exist, so once a month we’d be exchanging hand written love letters and occasionally, when the creativity hits you, send voice tapes, with the usual musical background (for more effects!). When you really love someone, all the effort you put into staying in touch doesn’t seem like much. Nowadays, people stay in touch without much effort because of the technology, and the end-result, relationships don’t last (for others). We decided to take the next step by tying the knot, wed in Manila and been blessed with two beautiful kids that makes everything worthwhile.

What I would like to impart to our fellow OFW’s are two things: One, love your JOB. No matter how humble you may think it to be, whatever your current job is, Love it. Respect it. Be patient and be dedicated to the work you have because if you lose your job, everything falls apart. Two, please don’t take your HEALTH for granted. We are here abroad for our families, but we can’t work if we are not healthy and we can’t send money if we can’t work.

Take care of yourself. Remember: HEALTH is our only weapon.

For our loved ones back home, please learn to value the remittances being sent to you and appreciate the sacrifices we’ve made here, just so you can have a bit more luxury back home. We work non-stop, we are far away from you just so we can give you everything you need and a bit more. It’s not easy. So please, don’t waste it.

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Pia Eliza Gonzalez Editor in Chief / Adjunct Municipal Councilor of Rome Rome, Italy

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ur parents have been in Italy since when we were young. They left their 3 children, me being the eldest and only daughter, in the Philippines to continue to provide the best life for us. We were granted to have a vacation with them for 2 months in Rome. Two months have passed, I thought of not going back anymore to the Philippines but we have to, since we need to finish our studies. When we returned, that was when I learned that my two younger brothers have firmly decided to join our parents in Italy. I must admit I felt a tinge of hesitance to go. I was taking up BS Math and I have had wanted to finish it. However being a minor, my parents insisted me to join them and I did. They petitioned us all 3.

Being abroad means stepping out of your comfort zone. I didn’t understand a word in Italian leaving me insecure and reluctant that I could be able to make myself to be in the society. The sense of belongingness has left me the very moment I stepped foot in Italy. I was 18 then, the age when one is supposed to have fun, go out, meet and make friends but I can’t understand them and they don’t understand me. That was what pushed me to study the Italian language in a year. Feeling the security that I now belong, I entered the university – took up Psychology – but later shifted to Tourism. I graduated not only with the help of my parents but also through my earnings from the part-time domestic works I did while studying.

After I graduated, I was bound to get a work. That time I was active with the Filipino community because I was a member of a choir and a volunteer to a radio station, Radio Roma, which was my first exposure to media. Being exposed to the community, I was offered a chance to work with an Italian insurance company called Union Assistance which has an eye to expand its market to the Filipino community. Together with my German colleague who understood the Pinoy’s necessity to prepare for their future, I worked with her when we had a transmission on TV entitled, Kapwa ko, Hahandugan ko, which served a promotion of the company to the community by using its legal assistance . It was a groundbreaking move, it has become the first TV transmission dedicated for the Filipino community in Rome.

From these exposures, there was no need for me to be introduced to the people.

I can say that I had become a point of reference for the Filipino community which earned me to be elected for a post as a consigliere aggiunto or adjunct councilor for the 16th Municipality of Rome. I was pregnant to my 2nd daughter by that time yet the role of being a councilor was freely absorbed by the public servant in me. I focused on it even when the post is still on its experimental stage. It was difficult for both parts - foreigner councilor and Italian council – since this is the first time they allowed an outsider to be in the council. For an adjunct councilor, the importance of the fluency of the Italian language is very high. For me or for any adjunct councilor to express our thoughts and ideas, for us to defend each of our right, we must have the fluency of the language where we were in! It is the most integral factor of becoming a councilor. With the fluency of the language, we are automatically integrated to the society. The sense of belongingness of a foreigner to a foreign land starts with fluency.

It was my first shot in politics. It was not only the Filipino communities that I handle but as well as the other nationalities. It was difficult at first but it became a lot easier after I formed the consultative body which consists of different association of foreigners which helped me reached out to the other nationalities. The Italian government received well the adjunct council and proposed for the 2nd election. I won the 2nd election for the same municipality. I was contented the votes didn’t come only from the Filipino community but also from the different nationalities. For me, it just proves that what I have started at the 1st election has appreciated my leadership well enough and that just strengthened my justification of my decision to run for same post. On my 2nd term, I asked for us, foreigners, to have our own ‘sportello’ or room, and it was granted. Here we entertained any kinds of social and welfare assistance, from job hunting down to providing information of processing their documents. On my 2nd term, I immersed myself to the Filipino community. I was the founding member and elected as the vice-president of Philippine Independence Day Association. After a small stint at Babel TV, I became also the Editor-in-Chief of Ako ay Pilipino which caters migration issues and Filipino local news. I handle the management of both its online and physical newspaper. My connection to the community expanded, reaching out and helping the needy has been made easier.

Seeing the people I extended my hand to, feeling the trust that they give you, hearing the thank you’s of these people has never fail me to thank them too in return.

I can proudly say my hardwork and dedication to serve the public, through being a council and editor, has paid off. I can’t ask no more for what I have now. With 2 beautiful daughters and a very supportive and loving husband, my extended family who were always been there when I am not around for my kids while I am attending to the needs of the public. With Him to guide me, I have made it through this journey swiftly.

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Christina Agustin IT Consultant Netherlands

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t has always been my heart’s desire to live in a foreign country, travel the world and speak another language.

I always have high hopes that these dreams would come true. Right after college, I started working as a software engineer for a multinational company thinking this would be the start of fulfilling my dreams. But as all fresh grads would realize, the real world is not what it seems, your dreams are not handed over. The closest things I got as for the world travel are eating at Italian, Spanish and American restaurants. My fresh grad salary could not even take me to Hong Kong.

Someone once quoted, “Desire it the key to motivation...” – I took the risk and switched jobs, with a promise from the new company that I will be assigned onsite for work. One day I got an e-mail from my manager that he wanted to discuss something and he broke the news that I will be assigned to the Netherlands! I felt the ultimate excitement ran into my nerves then as that would be then the first country outside Philippines that I would be able to set foot on.

I started living and working in the Netherlands. Sounds fabulous really, but living and working alone in a foreign country have all its drawbacks. Leaving the Philippines for me is like cutting a social umbilical cord – all my friends are there, and my family is there. Sometimes, loneliness gets the best out of me. When I get sick, I have to take care of myself, no mommy or sisters that would take care of me. Immersed in a very different cultural background, dealing with the locals has been challenge as well, especially in a country where the language is nothing close to the languages I know! Far different from my Filipino cultural roots, they are not as family oriented as we are, they are brutally frank, chivalry’s dead and they don’t practice religious beliefs.

It is not a walk in a park, but hey, I would rather have a trek in a mountain and enjoy the journey! Dutch people maybe not be family oriented as we are, but they have a lot of respect to their family members; they are brutally frank but they are very honest people; chivalry seems to be dead and religion may not exist here but they treat all people equally. I love living and working here, that is why I also decided to settle here permanently. Sure I miss the Philippines, it will always be my home, and my second home is just as good.

My second home gave me a chance to visit other neighboring countries; opportunities here made me travel the world (it may be for work but I’m able to see all those gorgeous places while doing something that I love). And hopefully soon, I will learn Dutch.

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Pauline Anne Escalante

Text Processing Assistant Geneva, Switzerland

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was born in the region of spices in Ligao, Albay. I had spent most of my life moving and one day, I came to Europe. My reason was like every Overseas Filipino Workers’ – to help provide for my family. We are 5 children and raised by a single mother. It was becoming more and more difficult as we entered college for my mother to support all of us.

Coming to Europe was certainly unexpected. One of the hardest situations I ever encountered was the language barrier and the dependence of one’s legality on having a residence permit. I knew very little French then. That was a great stumbling block to communicating or expressing myself. I sometimes found myself discriminated because I could not speak. With regards to having papers, I felt like a prisoner every time my papers had expired and I had to find work that would let me stay. But while waiting, I could not leave Switzerland. Thank God I was able to find regular work after a year of uncertainty.

But God has always been a stronghold. There were times when I lost hope and only He could comfort me. For me, it is important to have faith and to claim that God will be there no matter what any situation or person says. It is essential to surround yourself with loving people who share your journey and whom you could walk together with to support each other in the darkest of times.

Being an OFW is not a bed of roses. Although my situation can be considered better than most, I share in the heartache of every OFW who cannot go home to see their ailing relatives or their dying mother or father. What breaks my heart is how other Filipinos can take advantage of other compatriots in their time of need. We are all working so hard and economizing so we can send money back home. Let’s not take advantage.

I would like to call on those who are left behind. It is very hard to leave you. I hope that you understand the heartbreak of being away from you. I just ask that you would go to school, if you are a child of an OFW and finish to make your parent(s) proud. It is their legacy to you. If you are a spouse, be faithful, because we are trying our best to beat loneliness in this foreign land.

My advice is if you don’t have to leave, don’t because it is not easy to be away from family or loved ones.

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CECILE HIPOS IT Expert London, UK

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learnt a lot from my first job. I would spend nights studying each and every part of a computer, taking them apart and putting them all back together.

I worked hard to learn how to write scripts to simplify tasks, manuals and documentations. Back then, I was one of very few women woking in the IT industry. I wanted to succeed.

In 1994, after finishing a computer science degree at university, I had my first full-time job as IT support for an environmental project of the Philippine Department of Environment and Natural Resources, funded by USAID through Development Alternatives Inc. (DAI). A year later, I was promoted as network administrator. I was often requested to be a resource person to provide IT trainings in the project’s capacity building activities. I eventually left the project as systems manager.

In 1999, DAI won another project in Mindanao and appointed me as database and information manager. This new project focused on the economic livelihood transition of the Moro National Liberation Front (MNLF), ex-rebels putting down their arms following a peace agreement.

In 2001, my dedication and skills were recognised when I was sent to work for DAI at their US headquarters in Bethesda, Maryland. After living in the East Coast for three years, an opportunity came to work for their European office, and so I moved to London.

I have now been living in the British capital for eight years. One of the good things about the United Kingdom is their Equal Opportunities Policy, ensuring that no job applicant or worker receive less favourable treatment on the grounds of race, colour, gender, nationality, religion, age, marital status, sexual orientation or disability.

This has allowed me to grow even more in my profession. I currently manage DAI Europe’s IT operations and work remotely with system administrators from DAI Washington and other sites in South Africa, Jordan, Palestine and Mexico. I have also been given opportunities to design and implement IT systems for several donor-funded projects in Africa, Asia, Europe, North and South America. I have also worked on projects for banks and governments across the US, Liberia, Uganda, and the Philippines. At one point, I was even asked to create a database for a survey not only done in Serbian language but also using the Cyrillic alphabet. So I had to teach myself basic Cyrillic and Serbian overnight.

Due to my job, I have been lucky enough to travel the world and have visited 42 countries to date, designing and implementing IT systems for projects focusing on environment, energy, governance, health, stability and economic growth.

In an industry where there is great gender disparity and divide, working as an IT technical expert proved to be very challenging and adrenalin pumping, but equally as rewarding as it is demanding. IT is a male-dominated trade, and it can be intimidating at times for a professional woman. Some people are even surprised that I work in the industry, let alone be successful at it.

Despite this, however, I was able to overcome any feelings of inadequacy.

I have met women in my travels who are now in the same boat when I was starting out. I wish to inspire them with my story, to make them realise the possibilities, and to make the industry more desirable to women. It is my fervent desire to promote technology and IT-related courses to women, so more could be recruited, trained, and retained. We need to have more women in this sector, and to have more role-models especially at senior and management levels.

If there is one thing I have learnt from experience, it is to grab every opportunity that presents itself to you as there may not be another one. I want to encourage fellow Filipinas to never let anyone tell you what you can and can not do as a woman. There are no limitations to what you can become.

You can be aerospace engineers, computer programmers or bus drivers. Be proud of being a Pinay. Be proud of where you come from. Reach your goals but stay grounded. Never forget humility.

Cecile Hipos was born in Lucena City and raised in Oriental Mindoro.

A graduate of computer science from AMA University in Makati, she works as principal systems administrator and information technology manager at DAI (Development Alternatives Inc.) International, a USbased development contractor. She lives in London with her partner, Elaine, with whom she has been with for 23 years.

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Maria Rowena Dumlao Giardina Blogger / Photographer Rome, Italy

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was a lone backpacker from Manila at 26 when I first stepped on the European soil in July, 1999. In my fanny pack was a Eurail Pass that would allow me to travel flexibly by rail around Europe, a Lonely Planet guidebook and an itinerary that I never followed. In my extremely heavy backpack, you can find the necessities that I was going to live with for the month and a half long adventure I put myself into. Prior to that, I backpacked my way around the Philippines alone so the courage in embarking alone as a single woman came from that experience. I met my future husband in Madrid during that trip.

I went back to Italy for good on the same year. Two years after, my husband and I got married and after 4 years, our family grew. At present, we have 2 kids, aged 7 and almost 3.

Life abroad entails doing everything on your own, a far cry from how we lived in the Philippines, one major part of taking care of a family is cooking.

I started cooking creatively after my second child was born, about 2 years ago. I captured everything in my life with my camera and shared all the pictures with my friends and family through Facebook. My friends encouraged me to start a blog about cooking and traveling, because my husband and I retained our traveling habits until now.

I started my blog, APRON AND SNEAKERS – Cooking and Traveling in Italy, in February 2011 without any objective but just to share the anecdotes, recipes and pictures in my daily life in Italy with two growing children. Apron epitomized the cooking part and Sneakers stood for the traveling part. Because of the blogging, I discovered a passion for cooking, food styling and food photography that I never thought I had.

It had been a big learning process for me as I got better in photography over time. During the past year, my recipes and pictures have appeared in the sites of important food magazines and I have also started to sell some pictures that I made. People from around the globe continue to follow my blog, send me encouraging messages and use my recipes. This makes my life as a food blogger a success because not only do I have these aspects of blogging backing me up, but I also have the soul of it all, LOVE and PASSION. We sometimes discover some things that interest us at a later point in our lives. Time doesn’t matter. Follow your heart because if there is passion in what you are doing, you will excel in it. This passion keeps us apart from the rest, it’s not just work.

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CECILIA CECH Retired Nurse/ Babaylan Austria Vienna, Austria

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was born in Bacolod and never thought of living abroad and raising a family here in Vienna. I was one of the first batches of Filipina nurses that arrived here in Vienna through a government to government exchange program initiated by Secretary Domingo Siazon on the year 1974.

Back in the 70s, we were few and new, we have to be close to one another and creative in making sure that we don’t feel lonely or homesick. We should be solid and serve a support group to all our kababayans. This is where I became very active in helping our kababayans who are in need and have problems, and active in forming organizations to make sure that we are united as one. The first organization we formed was a product of group of friends who meet on a regular basis to eat Filipino food and go out to ease their homesickness – this group then blossomed to the Ilonggo association of Vienna.

I started to lead the group and made sure that we as a group will integrate to the Austrian society and show them that we are proud of being Filipino.

From a simple group formed in a dining room over dinner, the organization start involving ourselves in promoting the culture and share to the Austrian society what the Philippines is all about --- its music, language, food and art.

As the population of Filipinos grew here in Vienna, more and more people sought help and more and more organization were formed with the aim to help each others in resolving issues in the community. Some of the organization I had been active with are : Philippine International Nurses Association in Austria (PINAA), Babaylan – Philippine Women’s Network in Austria where we push the empowerment of women, was one of the founder and coordinator of the Kaiser Franz Joseph Hospital programs for Humanity, played an important role in establishing the Business Council for the Philippines in Austria, I have assisted to some needs and projects of the Philippine Embassy, Consulates and NGO’s dealing with the assistance to distressed women, women issues, discrimination of women, human trafficking and illegal recruitment.

Why am I so much involved in these things? The answer to all this is simple, mother’s instinct. We, the women in society, wants to care and we are capable of making changes in the society. We can make sure that we, as women, should fight for our legal rights. We need to be educated and be equipped with these learning’s, to be determined and be courageous enough to battle any form of abuses. We also should not be victims of loneliness, language and cultural barriers.

Now I am retired and enjoying these moments with my loving husband, wonderful children and a grandchild but the calling of being active to serve the community is still there like when I first arrived in Vienna 38 years ago and it still burns within me. All I can say ….all these dedication of time and effort in helping the community is because of one thing…..my love to our mother land…The Philippines!

Mabuhay ang kababihan, mabuhay ang Pilipinas!

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NONA TOMELDEN Community Leader London, UK

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want to do something with my life. We only live once, and I want to leave a mark when it’s time for me to go. Early on I have realised that the best way for me to do this is by serving my beloved country, to be a positive force to Filipinos in the UK who may otherwise feel isolated and detached from the homeland.

When I arrived in the UK in the 1970s, Filipinos had to learn to be on their own. There wasn’t such a thing as a ‘community’, not yet. Back then, many people felt insecure for one reason or another. Life was tough. There were deportations and struggles everywhere. Most people just worked hard, sometimes with two or three jobs, so there was no time to socialise or mingle even if they wanted to. The aim was simple: to earn money and send it to our loved ones back home.

Despite this, however, Filipinos still missed the Philippines. We, as a nation, have strong connections to our home, especially to our families who are often left behind. With this in mind, together with my late husband Benjamin, we decided to create something that could help make life a little brighter for our kababayans. We wanted a place where they could meet, make friends, and feel at home away from home. This gave birth to the first ever barrio fiesta series in London.

We started small in Holland Park in West London. It was a simple affair, and people didn’t know what to make of it. Some people were even afraid to come. But it flourished slowly, and a few years later, we moved to Gunnersbury Park in Chiswick, which offered a bigger space.

Eventually, we managed to secure Lampton Park in Hounslow, where the barrio fiesta remains until today. It is now one of the largest Filipino gatherings outside the Philippines, visited by people from around the UK, as well as those from further afield like Europe, North America, and the Middle East.

It has become a special occasion that many look forward to each year. A place where they can meet old friends and make new ones, to smell and eat Filipino food with Filipino products and entertainment. A place to relax and have fun, to experience their very own culture in a foreign land.

It hasn’t been easy to do this. Organising these events is always a long process, requiring countless hours of management and coordination. Over the years, we have encountered several problems, from cancellations to mismanagement. Funding is also an issue. We work very hard each year to ensure we have enough funds to provide all the services people expect. But, against all the odds, we have managed to persist.

And it’s not just about the fiesta. Our aim is much more than that. My husband and I, with the help of dedicated volunteers over the years, established the Philippine Centre, a registered charity organisation promoting Filipino heritage through Tagalog language lessons, sports initiatives, educational trips, and other projects. It continues to flourish to this day.

I am proud with what my husband and I have achieved. Our ideas and hard work laid out the foundations for what is today an integral part of the Filipino community in the UK. We have managed to raise the profile of Filipinos in this country, as well helping Filipino businesses and the local economy by providing revenue from the events. Most importantly, we have touched the lives of Filipinos abroad by giving them a taste of home.

The world is a different place now compared to when I started living abroad a few decades ago. The Filipino image is improving. We have communities.

We have an identity. We have now established ourselves in the global stage, and I hope we continue to make our country proud.

Nona Tomelden was born in Zamboanga City and raised in Manila, before moving to the UK in the 1970s. Alongside her late husband, Benjamin, she is co-founder of the Philippine Centre in London, organisers of the London Barrio Fiesta sa London in Hounslow, dubbed as the largest Filipino event in Europe. A graduate of civil laws from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, she has been an advocate of various causes, from racial equality to pensioners’ rights. She lives in London and travels around the world to see her family scattered across the UK, Philippines, Sri Lanka and the US.

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KIM HAWKER Charity Campaigner York, UK

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have always been involved in voluntary work. It has been my ambition to run my own charity group. So when my friend, Marlyn Bright, was diagnosed with cancer, I knew I had to do something to help her and her family.

Being ill in a foreign land is not easy, especially when you are miles away from your family and relying on friends for support.

Marlyn was diagnosed with breast cancer in March 2012, shortly after her 50th birthday. While she was busy going in and out of the hospital for medical check-ups, I came up with the idea to join Race for Life, a charity run for Cancer Research UK. A few of our friends signed up, including Marlyn herself. A month before the run, in May, my friends and I also organised a fundraising event.

In the same month, Marlyn had major surgery involving full reconstruction on her left breast. Seeing my dear friend at the hospital - weak, groggy, and in pain - and knowing how her family had been affected by this, I realised for certain that I wanted to help women who go through this kind of grief.

Together with some friends, we then created “Filipinos Beat Cancer,” an organisation that aims to support people affected by breast cancer. The group now has a few supporters from both the Filipino and British communities.

And so, in June, we all ran five kilometers at The Knavesmire York Race Course to stand up against cancer and support our friend. More significantly, aarely a month after surgery, Marlyn’s recovery was better than expected and she was able to join us at the event, walking the whole distance hand-in-hand with her daughter as they pushed on to the finish line. We were overjoyed, excited and emotional. It was an experience we will never forget.

Through various efforts, our group managed to raise £2,059 for Cancer Research UK. We are grateful to everyone who supported us by sponsoring the charity run and attending the fundraising event. I am also thankful for my partner, Aron, for being understanding and supportive in everything I do.

Our work against cancer has just begun. Shortly after Marlyn recovered, another friend was diasgnosed with cancer. We vow to work hard to support her, as well as anyone else we could help from this point onwards.

In the UK, breast cancer is now the most common form of cancer. Each day, around 130 women are diagnosed and almost everybody has been touched by the illness in some way through family, friends, colleagues, or maybe even you.

Our aim is simple: to give support to women who have been diagnosed with this illness while offering financial support through fundraising. I encourage everybody to do the same for this and other causes. Let’s help save lives.

Kim Hawker is co-founder of Filipino Beat Cancer, a start-up charity organisation aiming to support cancer patients through social and financial assistance. Born and raised in Misamis Occidental, she is currently based in York, working as a part-time support worker for the elderly while developing charity projects.

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EMMA Bibal DE CASTRO

Social Worker London, UK

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tories of a good life abroad brought me to Europe. Inspired by overseas Filipinos with their endless remittances and pasalubong back home, I wanted it for myself and my family. Soon enough, I arrived in the UK on a cold winter’s day with thick snow mounting outside. I was a million miles away from home. I told myself, “Don’t worry. I will only be here for a couple of years and I will be back with my family.” Thirty-three years later, I am still here.

I finished midwifery at a university in the Philippines in 1974. But I could not find a job after graduation, not even to repay the debts I have incurred during my studies. The eldest of six siblings, I also felt a responsibility to help my parents in the education of my brothers and sisters. Getting a job was absolutely crucial.

In 1976, I found a job as a care worker and ended up in London. I was 19 years old. The Philippines, at the time, were sending workers to many countries around the world. Now I could fulfil my dream, to send money back home and help support my family. Work was not easy though, with very long hours and low pay, so after 10 years of constant hard work, I thought of doing something else for myself.

I decided to get involved in community activities, attending cultural and theatre workshops led by Philippine-based group PETA. I then became part of a group that continued to develop cultural work, culminating in a memorable performance of a short play during the London visit of Cardinal Jaime Sin in 1986.

Around the same time, I began to work as a community development worker.

I eventually became a founding member of Bahay Kubo Housing Association in 1989, aiming to meet the needs of Filipinos as they seek accommodation in a city away from home. We often hear stories of kababayans in overcrowded and expensive rental properties, with no security and no knowledge of their rights. We wanted to help them. We wanted to provide them with affordable and decent housing, and to assist them with whatever issues they face with help from other agencies we work with.

Running a housing association has been challenging. There is extremely high demand for inexpensive, good properties, but with limited availability.

To make matters worse, we often suffer from a shortage in funding. Despite these, however, we manage to survive and continue our work. To manage a voluntary organisation, you have to persevere and be completely committed to pursuing its goals.

I have learnt the importance of having organisations that Filipinos can identify with. And although we work closely with UK organisations, we feel the need to stamp our identity in British society by having a presence on frontline services in housing, legal matters, and human rights issues. We want the mainstream to know about Filipino migrants: this is who we are, this is what we do, these are our stories.

I know what it’s like to have a hard life. I am a migrant worker to the core.

That is why I feel lucky, even grateful, for the opportunity to do social work.

I have been in this country for many years, and I want to share my experiences to those who might need guidance as they find their own feet abroad.

It is something I wish to impart to other people, even my own children - to help others the best you can with whatever skills or knowledge you might have. Somebody has to do it.

Emma Bibal de Castro is the director of Bahay Kubo, an organisation dedicated to the housing needs of Filipinos in the UK. An active human rights campaigner and community leader, she is a founding member of several social work initiatives including Kanlungan and Kalayaan. Born in Batangas, she lives in London with her husband and two daughters

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AUDREY HORCA Creative Entrepreneur London, UK

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reativity cannot be taught, nor can it be judged. You can be taught the basics or the ‘correct’ ways of doing things, but the art is something personal. My passions lay within the creative industries and having the opportunity to see a project through from start to finish is extremely rewarding.

But you need to be determined in this business.

I got my foot in the door through my first job as a personal assistant at a fashion production company that supplied retail company C&A. It gave me a rare insight into design and production which soon developed into an interest in the industry. I consequently pursued a GNVQ qualification in Advanced Business of Fashion at the London College of Fashion. On completion of the course, however, I fell pregnant with my first child and had to take time out to concentrate on being a mother, but with every intention of eventually going back into the industry.

I slowly got back on the horse and went on to build my fashion retail experience, working part-time for companies like Arcadia Group, Harvey Nichols, Selfridges, and Harrods.

I then got into beauty by chance, after assisting a friend with her make-up when she entered Miss Philippines in 1998, and again a few years later for her wedding in 2006. From this humble beginning, I decided to gain more experience in this sector through cosmetics retail. I started with luxury brand Molton Brown, before moving on to high street chain Space NK for four years, followed by freelance work for Laura Mercier. Make-up is an expression and interpretation of beauty. You can enhance or alter a person’s appearance, making them look unrecognisable and completely different each time.

But there is a lot of hard graft in the creative industries. You have to really put yourself out there, often showcasing your work for free. You need to be self-motivated, determined, passionate and hard working to really establish and maintain yourself. I’ve always had a creative streak, be it through fashion, beauty or music, and I would like to somehow create something where all three are infused into one.

In 2011, at London Fashion Week, I found a way to do just that with the official launch of my creative venture Kulaydoscope, derived from the Filipino word for colour, kulay, and the English word kaleidoscope - which in ancient Greek translates as an ‘observer of beautiful forms’.

Kulaydoscope is a creative arts organisation providing make-up artists, hairstylists, stylists, photographers, videographers, models and musicians, whilst also offering events or project coordination, often working with charitable organisations, freelancers, and start-up companies. It began as a personal make-up service and has since evolved into what it is today. It even hosted its first event in June 2011 in celebration of the 113th Philippine Independence Day, showcasing UK-based Filipino fashion labels alongside British Filipino music artists.

The initiative continues to develop and is currently branching out into fashion retail, where my journey began, through a new clothing line, Lauren-Nicole London, specialising in designer vintagewear and accessories.

Beyond that, however, I am first and foremost a mother. I have two daughters: Raichelle Lauren, 12, and Jaimelise Nicole, 8. Both of whom, funnily enough, have expressed an interest in creative arts. I often encourage them to do what they enjoy, and have thus enrolled them in performing arts school, as well as fashion, ballet, and piano classes, in a bid to help them find their own passions. My own Filipino parents have been very supportive of me, even at times when I myself did not fully understand what I was doing. And now with all my creative projects, I am only able to juggle my life because of their help.

It is extremely challenging and demanding being a creative mother, but it is ultimately rewarding. It all pays off when you see the same drive in your children, and the pride they express when they are asked about the occupation of their mother.

My children are my motivation. I feel like their role model. If I show them that I can do anything, I hope it will motivate them to do the same. I am blessed to be in an industry that I am passionate about and wish the same for my children. Nothing less. In this business, you have to be self-motivated and determined. Doing any line of work that you are passionate about is rewarding in itself, and being paid for what you do is just a bonus.

Audrey Horca was born and raised in north London. She is founder and creative director of Kulaydoscope, a make-up and events coordinator service. She has worked on several photo-shoots, video productions and fashion events in London. She also runs her own vintage clothing 37 line, Lauren-Nicole London.

Jamie Anne Viray Youth Leader/Photography Student Geneva, Switzerland

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orn in the Manila, I moved to Switzerland at the age of two with my father and eight-month old sister to join our mother who had found a job in one of Geneva’s many UN organizations, at a time when borders were lax and employment was easy to find. Geneva being a city of international consequence and such diverse ethnicities, encouraging its citizens to nurture their own uniqueness of culture and language, my sisters and I were raised in the love and respect of Filipino traditions and values, at home as well as in a church community that has always been family. Still, we are entirely integrated and at ease in the Genevois way of life. The intermingling of cultures and mindsets has molded who I am and how I see the world- and as a photographer, it can literally be seen in my work.

“Oh but you look Chinese/Japanese/Korean!” is a line I have invariably heard my entire life. To which I answer “Oh no, I’m Filipina to the core”and the “Oh wonderful! You can even speak Tagalog!” line- invariably, yet again- follows. It’s always a little gratifying, yet somehow dismaying: of course, a Filipina should speak Tagalog. I am an oddity. Korean/Japanese/Chinese in looks despite being a full-blooded Filipina, both Filipino and Swiss on paper, Filipino at heart and a mixture of Swiss, Filipino and American in speech and mind. I am other: I am Filipino and I am Swissand because I am so simultaneously, I am somehow really neither and as such, am afforded a privileged viewpoint, straddled between two cultures, two homes and as many different mindsets. Even so, my dearest wish is to return to the Philippines some day and spend as many years there as I have here in Europe.

I serve as both one of the Youth Leaders and one of the Sunday School Teachers- wherein we teach biblical truths, but in small ways, I also encourage our younger ones to love and take pride in their heritage. As a church, we’ve supported several pastors in rural areas throughout the years- and the year 2013 will bring about our third Evangelical Concert Mission across different provinces, providing dental care and much needed medicines as well. Our entire congregation is enthusiastically taking part in the vision God has set for us.

My heart is ever in my roots- be it in things as simple as our home, cooked food and our sense of humor, or in the awe and love I have for the Filipino and our resilience and smiles, our customs and deep values. If there will ever be a song which I can sing to express my longing to be ‘home’ I guess ‘Manila’ could almost summarize it. I know it can be rather uncommon for an individual to keep such ties to a homeland one only sees it at the very best once a year- so coming from a child who grew up far away from home, I cannot but encourage all of us to uphold not only our traditions and impart our values and experiences, but also not to forget that He who brought us to whichever country we find ourselves in for a reason- and to seek to give Him glory in all that we do.

The generation that comes after us will follow in our steps.

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Consorcio Amado Community Leader Modena, Italy

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n the year 1995, it happened that I got an opportunity to work abroad since I have so many plans in life because being the chairman and founder of the Agapito Amado Memorial National Highschool Foundation.

It is school for the poor but deserving students. This will help more students if I go abroad since the pay is higher than what I received in the Philippines. So with that aim I pursue and grab this chance. With passion and determination, I could meet other persons who could help me continue my programs.

I arrived in Cagliari, Sardegna and worked for 5 years. After that, I transferred to Modena because my sister lives there and during my stay in the city, I was able to adapt easily and work more because of higher pay and more comfortable living in the city. So I stayed until now and continued my goals to help students back home.

I love travelling. So, I organize tours, and events that brought interest to travel more and explore new things and culture differences of Europe. I’ve also learned about the people, the environment, the way of life, the customs and traditions. With this, I was able to share my experiences to my friends and encourage them to travel as life is short. I emphasized that good and proper education will take you more than you expected if you have also strong will, determination and hardwork.

I was recently elected as a President of the Filipino Community of Modena and I was very happy and contented that having this responsibility I could impart to others my aims and goals to some Filipino students in Italy and Philippines of how important education is. In fact, if I didn’t study, I could not reach all of these things. Through determination and eagerness to uplift the personality development of Filipinos here in Italy, I was able to organize and invite speakers and I am very happy that our fellow kababayans are very cooperative and understand of why are we doing this program.

The only thing I can advise everybody is to have a good education. With this, you can could go further and explore the world.

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Baby Juanita Picar Retired Teacher / Writer Modena, Italy

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’m Baby Juanita Picar. I was born in Baguio City but I grew up in Project 6, Quezon City. A graduate of Bachelor of Science in Education, major in English, minor in General Science at Divine Word University Vigan, Ilocos Sur with M.A.T (Master of Teaching Chemistry, Integrated Science and Elementary Science at Saint Louis University in Baguio City. After I graduated, I work as a highschool teacher in Quezon City. After a few years, I left my teaching job and decided to apply job in abroad for greener pasture. Then I was offered to work for a famous Italian lawyer in Modena.

Just to start, I’m proudly tell that I’m one of the first Filipina to be directly hired by Italian employer in the year 1978 in Modena. At first, it took me a hard time to adjust since being a teacher I used to command but here I need to obey. But then, I was able to adapt myself little by little and tried to cope up with my employer. Luckily, after 5 months of stay, I was accepted to teach English in a private school. I thanked the Lord because I was able to practice my teaching profession. At that time, Italians were very conceited, they couldn’t accept an non-EU degree holder. So, I accepted all kinds of domestic job. I worked as a babysitter, janitress, barmaid, cook and all humble jobs. I learned a lot and I was very much satisfied because aside from teaching, I learned the European culture customs and traditions.

Through hardships and determination, I was able to bring my 2 sons here in Italy in 1987.

In the year 1990, I started teaching in the kindergarten school in Modena.

Back in time, I was an active in community activities and given the position to various organization and association in Modena: President, Association of Filipino Workers in Modena in 1992, Member, Consulta Comunale per Extracomunitari(Municipal Council for Non-EU) in 1996, Member, Consulta Provinciale (Modena Provincial Council) in 1998, and nominated as athe cultural mediatrix of the Consulta Regionale per l’integrazione Sociale dei Cittadini Stranieri Immigrati della Regione Emilia Romagna (Regional Council for Social Integration of Non-EU immigrants in Emilia-Romagna Region) in 2007. I was also hired as a cook at the Fire Station of Modena.

I’m now a retired woman but still continuing to teach Italian language for Filipino students and English language for Italian students. With my passion and dedication in teaching, I was able to publish my first Italian-Filipino Dictionary last 2007, and ABC of Animals and Plants and Filipino ABS Coloring Book last 2009. Through this hardwork and determination, I will able to help our fellow kababayans to learn more about the language and able to integrate more with Italian friends.

Although I experienced a very hard and tough times before I dedicated myself to teaching, I was able to surpass this trial and challenges through faith.

If you keep praying to the Lord Almighty, He will definitely guide and lighten your way. The only thing I want to achieve is to spread a good and proper education to our fellow Filipino thru my dictionary. My best advise are: just be humble in life, good education, hardwork and perseverance.

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RHODA MONTEMAYOR Actress London, UK

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y family have always been very encouraging about my career. And in a tough industry like mine, it really helps to have supportive and understanding parents. Born as a middle child, my two sisters were the ones who inspired me to take up performing in the first place.

They were both in the industry before me, with older sister Renee having acted on stage from the age of five in The King and I at the London Palladium, with Yul Brynner and Virginia McKenna, and both Renee and Rowena performing in Miss Saigon during its run at the Theatre Royal, Drury Lane.

I watched proudly as my sisters did their thing, completely unaware that I would do anything remotely similar in the future. It wasn’t until I picked up Rowena from her weekly ballet class that I realised I wanted to take ballet lessons too. When we got home that same evening, I asked my mum if I could also enrol - and so I did.

I was about twelve or thirteen years old at the time, which is considered a late start for dancing, and so I was put into one of the lower grades with other students who were a lot younger than me. However, I seemed to have a natural knack for dance and quickly worked my way up the grades. But this was all just extracurricular. I didn’t have any intentions of making it a profession.

A few years later, I found myself studying performing arts full-time, after encouragement from sister, Renee, and my ballet teacher, Blandine Lamaison.

The transition from dancing to acting came when Renee got me an audition for a BBC television series, as the sister of a role that she was being seen for.

I didn’t get the job, but it got me noticed and the rest, as they say, is history.

My latest project was a British romantic comedy called The Knot, playing bridesmaid Anisha, which was released in cinemas across the UK and Ireland in October 2012. I was very fortunate to work with an amazingly talented cast, which included Mena Suvari and Noel Clarke, although I initially found it quite daunting.

Seeing my name on the big screen for the first time, especially with family and friends right next to me, is a very special experience. All the hard work and sacrifice suddenly pays off in that one moment... only for it to begin all over again: the waiting, the auditioning, the disappointment, and even more waiting for the next gig to come along, which sometimes doesn’t happen for a while.

The life of an actor isn’t as glamorous as one might imagine. There are times when it is, but there are a lot of days spent “in between jobs”, and being a woman of my ethnicity doesn’t always help. It can sometimes be an advantage, especially if they are casting a very ethnic-specific role, but most of the time, I have found, it can be a disadvantage, because there aren’t really that many roles written for actors like me. Having said that, I feel very lucky to have played some fantastic roles, and to have worked with some wonderful people in some amazing locations. I love what I do.

Rhoda Montemayor is a British Filipino actress based in London. A trained performer, she has appeared on a number of productions on film, theatre and television, including stints on medical drama “Holby City” on BBC, and high school thriller “Trinity” on ITV. Best known for her role as Pink Ranger from popular children’s series “Power Rangers: Operation Overdrive”, she recently co-starred in independent comedy feature “The Knot”, alongside Hollywood actress Mena Suvari and British actor Noel Clarke. She has also ventured into screenwriting with her debut short film “A New Friend”, which went into production in 2012. Born and raised in England, her family hails from Pampanga and Ilocos Sur in the Philippines.

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Vincent Bueno Singer / Dancer Vienna, Austria

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was born in Vienna at Dec 10th in the year of 1985. My parents (Antonio & Corazon Bueno, both Filipino) migrated to Vienna in the early 80’s. Together with my sister Maricel who is three years older than me, I grew up in a healthy environment and had the privilege to visit private schools.

As a kid, I would dance a lot of Michael Jackson. Not only was I amazed by his energy but I think the way Michael performed had always been an inspiration to me. In my early youth, I discovered my passion to play instruments like guitar, keyboards, bass and drums - basically all instruments you would need for a band. My father taught me some chords on the guitar and on the piano and the rest was history. I remember being so passionate about music and writing songs. Streetmachine was my Dance Crew’s name. We would dance, compete in several contests and organize Charity Events for the Aids Help Foundation in Vienna.

From 2003 to 2007, I studied “Musical Theater” at the Conservatory of Vienna and graduated successfully as a Bachelor of Arts. During my Studies at the Conservatory, I already participated in a lot of Plays and Musicals to earn money and enhance my skills in theater.

At 2008, there was a national televised Contest at the ORF Channel in Vienna. It was called “Musical die Show” and I had the honor to be the champion of the reality Show. Actually from that moment on my career as an international artist started to blossom and I was and still am very blessed indeed.

Even though there are a lot of people admiring me for all my accomplishments and an adventurous life, I still had many struggles during the times of my victory and after that big hype. It was like as if God was testing me. And he surely did. At that time, I was emotionally unstable and not to mention the fact that I had no idea to deal with my finances that time. Bottom line: no experience - a little bit of an overestimation of my abilities - and a lack of faith in the Lord. But good that there’s always a hope that never dies that comes from deep within.

In 2010, I moved to the Philippines and appeared in Shows like “ASAP”, “Walang Tulugan” and worked with a lot of great artists like Angeline Quinto, Denise Laurel, Kris Lawrence, QYork, Jay R, AJ Tabaldo, etc.. One of the reasons why I am so thankful for being here in the Philippines is because I had an encounter with God. I found my faith again and my mind became clearer and more mature. It makes a huge difference in life to have a strong faith. Many corporate Events and Studio Sessions with a lot of Artists keep me busy and content. I love what I do.

So I cannot really say that i am an OFW, but I can very much relate to all of you. Because I DO miss my family in Austria, the US - they really mean so much to me. But as an artist you gotta keep moving where God wants you to be, to become the best He wants you to be.

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Zita Baron Correspondent/Journalist Milan, Italy

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came to Italy not because I had so much desire to work in a foreign land. I never really wanted to leave the Philippines so I could try my luck abroad.

It was not the ambition that pushed me, but the obligation that I had to fulfill at that time. Nevertheless, life in Italy has been an exciting and interesting journey for me.

Working with the Radio Caritas back in Manila was something I would always be proud of. I feel gratified doing that kind of job. I think it is innate in me being in the field of media especially in journalism and broadcasting.

So when I arrived here, things didn’t really measure up to my expectations.

I wanted so bad to get into radio or anything that has something to do with media but It was just impossible. I felt desperate because I miss my family back home and at the same time was so anxious about the situation.

At times I would say how much I regret coming to Europe. I always thought that life was never really hard in the Philippines because my family and I live a comfortable life--not extravagant, not mediocre but just plain, simple and comfortable life. Things have changed when I started working and earning with a salary much higher than what I usually get. Somehow it has influenced my state of mind. I just thought I may be away from my husband and daughter so I could save enough and then go back home for good. That was the plan. I had no choice but to look at the situation in a different light. I knew I needed to stay focused if I wanted to achieve my goals. Working then as a governess was never easy especially if you have an employer who gives you the job but doesn’t actually believe that you can do it. I hate to say that I was a victim of discrimination. However, it was work so I did what I had to do putting aside my personal issues. But when things got out of hand, I left my employer, I left my job and I left the country and promised myself to never return again.

I guess I was wrong when I said that because after two years of staying back home, I came back to Italy with a brighter perspective. Opportunities started coming in and I have finally accepted and adjusted to the kind of life here. I began acquainting myself with people in the community and then later immersed myself to social activities that allowed me to finally get back on track.

I felt alive again and I’ve realized that I could actually do mass media and at the same time help the Filipino community in my little own ways.

I became a correspondent for Balitang Europe of the Filipino channel, started doing stories and opened my vision to a more meaningful one. I grabbed it as an opportunity to reach out to the many OFWS. It was no longer a career goal for me, instead it became a commitment to share my time, talent and knowledge for a greater good.

I continue with my advocacy hoping to inspire people and do my part in enriching the lives of thousands of OFWs by means of proper and balanced media. I would like to believe that I am an avenue in connecting people by sharing their stories through my work. In the future, I see myself getting more active with different activities, building up solid foundation and creating initiatives that will elevate the standard of every Filipino working and living in Italy.

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Ruel de Lunas Leader, Photography Club Milan, Italy

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y love for photography started when I was a little boy. I guess it runs in our blood since my mother was a photographer in our hometown in Batangas. I used to borrow her camera and she commended the shots I took.

She saw the eye of a photographer in me.

Let’s move few years later. I put aside my passion for photography as I wanted to go to Rome. Most of my relatives were already there since the 70s and the thought of making more money attracted me to move abroad. I was still studying at that time but I chose to drop out from school to pursue this goal. The agency I dealt with even convinced me more to do this. I asked money from my mom as I told her about my plans. Though she’s very hesitant, she had no choice as I was already processing my papers and filed a drop out form in our school. Just over a week later, I found myself in Rome.

I did not anticipate the kind of work that welcomed me when I arrived. I thought that life would be so much better in Rome. I was expecting white-collar job opportunities even to those who did not finish school. I was wrong.

Life in Rome wasn’t easy. I stayed with my aunt as I was unemployed for almost a year. To my regret, I wanted to study again but I was financially challenged. The only thing I could do was to work to make both ends meet and took advantage of learning the language.

My kumpare advised me that Milan’s salary rate for domestic work is higher than Rome and so I moved last 2001. You could see me at Duomo or at the metro those times, speaking to our fellow kababayans seeking more work opportunities so I could raise enough money to bring my wife who was still in Rome then. Luckily, one Pinay helped me with this job that I still have right now (as a driver and all-around personnel) and I was able to bring my wife here in Milan (with our two children).

When I look back, I regret not finishing my studies. If chance permits, I would study again and take a course in entrepreneurship. However, I cannot bring back the time but I can take those regrets as inspiration to direct my life.

About five years ago, I revived my love for photography. Despite the hardship that most of our kababayans encountered in this place, I wanted to tell a story about the beauty of Rome through my photos. Though I could not afford an SLR that time, this was when I became serious with photography.

I also had a vision of uniting my fellow Filipinos in Milan who are also into this kind of art. It was not easy at first as each artist has a different persona and interest but I’ve learned that if you believe in something, just carry on.

Right people will come on the right time. That gave birth to UPC (United Pinoygraphers Club).

The organisation is now helping aspiring photographers to set up their own photo-videography business in Italy or even when they go back to the Philippines. Pinoys are there anywhere you go. Pinoys are talented and I would like the world to see this.

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ELIJAHLEE JACINTO Performer Rome, Italy “With a friend to call my own I’ll never be alone And you my friend will see you’ve got a friend in me” I lost my sight when I was very young. The doctors had to remove my eyes in order to save my life from a very fatal virus that was impairing my sight. Some would say I lost a big part of me because of that.

But what people may not understand is that, it was just the beginning of discovering something wonderful in me-- my passion for music.

As far as I can remember, I was only five years old when I developed a strong interest in singing. Shuffling music to get me by through my iPod, my favorite buddy, I got acquainted with the music of Michael Jackson and The Jackson Five, thanks to my dad who introduced their music to me.

So it should not come as a surprise that my favorite song of all time is also one of their greatest hits, Ben. I could not help but admire Michael’s wonderful young voice as well as the song’s beautiful melody. It was the first song I ever learned to sing in public.

I also listen to other talented musical artists for inspiration, such as Whitney Houston, Mariah Carey and Jennifer Holiday. I like singing their songs, too, such as Whitney’s “All at Once” and Mariah’s “Love Takes Time”. These gifted people are obviously in my list of musical influences.

Aside from singing, I also love playing the piano. I used to have this small battery-operated piano toy when I was little. I guess that started my interest. To further hone my skill, my parents enrolled me in a piano school. Imagine how proud they were of me when, out of 150 students who auditioned for slots in the school, I made it to the top 3 of the 24 who got accepted. Those who were ranked higher than me were Italian kids who already had years of piano training.

But when it comes to encouragement and support in improving my craft, there is no one like my dad. His passion for music is admirable too. He came from a family of musical performers back in the Philippines. No wonder music seems to be a natural part of his life, and I am very grateful that he shares that part with me.

At present, my dad acts as co-organizer and musical director of Pyramid Entertainment Productions. He is actively involved in producing musical events all over Italy, both for public and private purposes.

He also helps in raising funds for charitable institutions and worthy causes. This way he shows me how music is important in improving the lives of people.

My dad is my mentor as well. He helps me appreciate different types of music such as jazz, reggae, blues and pop. He teaches me the right techniques in singing or playing instruments.

It truly helps that I have very supportive parents. They never made me feel that I am less normal. They did not discourage when I wanted to play the guitar, or learn karate, or take swimming classes.

They did not exempt me from doing household chores like washing the dishes or cooking rice.

It’s funny how some people would feel sorry for my situation because I am blind, when I believe I am just like any other kid; only that I have I feel extra-blessed because I have these musical gifts.

I am truly grateful that at my age of 12, I get to showcase my talents in various occasions in front of the Filipinos here in Italy. I also had the privilege of performing abroad, like the United States, as well as singing with some famous Pinoy celebrities when they came and visited Rome.

I remember my dad saying, “The stage is your arena where you can be true to your self.” Whenever I get to perform, indeed it makes me happy. I savor each moment when I sing or play the piano. He said people cry when they hear me sing. I guess it’s true that music can truly touch our hearts.

Hopefully, I become a successful professional singer someday so I can continue to share my gift to the world.

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MARK PRINCE MOLINO Photographer / Musician Bologna, Italy

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’ve been here in Italy since I was born. At an early age, my father introduced me to music From voice lessons to guitar lessons until I realized that the piano is the right instrument for me. I started playing in the church and joined the band at the age of 9. My childhood was not like the others since I started playing for my band and for the church. While other children of my age went out with their friends, gone to movies and downtown, I dedicated almost all of my time practicing after doing my homeworks.

While others are hanging out, I practice new pieces for the church or rehearse for band competitions. As a child, my parents taught me the importance of using the Filipino language. Living in Italy is not an excuse for not using it to communicate with Filipinos here. As I grow up, I realized that they were right, using our own language is part of being a Filipino. And we should be all proud of it. The same thing goes to our culture. It is so sad to see that the majority of our youth does not apply our Filipino traditions anymore. You see Filipino teenagers who are disrepectful or worse addicted to drugs. In my opinion, one of the reasons why my parents introduced me to music is to learn our culture thru learning our music. And I thank them for that because I had so much experience in the field of music.

When I started to mature myself, I decided to study music production wherein I learned the proper way of mixing sounds and effects in a recording studio and in general with the use of proper instruments. At the same time, I’ve always been keen on photography and videography that is why my father and I started our video coverage business.

Until one day I heard ABS-CBN’s Christmas id, Kwento ng Pasko”. I immediately thought that this music video would be perfect for me to apply my love for music and videography. This project will not be possible if I’ll do this alone. I thought that maybe the best singers in Bologna from different organizations will be able to help me do this project. I’ve done this project in order to unite the Filipino community in Bologna. I never thought a simple project like this would go this far. It’s a pleasure that our video was recognized by the TV network itself and will be viewed by our fellow Filipinos around the world.

I’m grateful that through this video I was able to show my talent together with the singers in Bologna and I was able to give inspiration to those Filipinos around the world that are far away from their families.

If I would be given the chance to make another project with the youth, I’ll do it willingly because I believe that music is a good instrument to divert the attention of our teenagers and in the end I can help them avoid drugs and together we can inspire other people.

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JEREMYand APPLE Ramos Dublin, Ireland “Every couple desires to have the most beautiful wedding they The key to the success of our planning was that we identified ever dream of. This lovely couple shares their story on how thoroughly the minute-by-minute itinerary starting from the day before up until the day after. Both the wedding consultant and they conceptualized their dream wedding.” our wedding coordinator were amazed with how well we know It is better late than never! We were married in a civil cere- the intricacy of the details by heart as we breezed them through mony and been living together for 3 years together with our our plans for a straight 3-hour meeting!

3 kids (Chloe and our twins, Sophie and Zoe.) However, we still wanted to have that dream wedding. In Autumn 2011, The Big Day. The night before, we had our wedding rehearswe started sketching on our drawing board for our wedding als at the hotel and Apple and I stayed there together with our plans. And well we’re so right not to expect this ride to be a twins. We had to bring the babies to sleep first before Apple got started with her bouquets at around 11pm with the help of her smooth-sailing one.

We worked off on the theme from day one which we thought mom and aunt. I being the not-too-flowery kind went out and would be the main deciding factor on selecting the rest – ven- got takeaways from Eddie Rockets. It’s a tense and fun night!

Morning came and it wasn’t raining, hooray! It was very gloomy ues and suppliers. though. We had the perfect breakfast, read the newspapers Choosing the right mix of things. Nature and being organic are and headed to our own rooms to prepare. Apple’s hair dresser some of our innate and secret advocacies so we have the at- and make-up artists were already at her room. There was no titude of ‘if we are getting married in Ireland, it should be in a time spared and so they started with their magic. The Maids are garden/field/barn’ or ‘if we’re getting married in Mindoro (where coming to her room too one by one and the photographers and Apple grew up), it should be in the mountains of Mangyans or videographers were setting up too. It was indeed the busiest the tropical beach’. Since the Mindoro option may end up as room in the hotel that morning. It was the opposite at my room the more expensive option (airfares alone could have cost us where I am alone – beating to the jazz of Sitti Navarro while the whole of our Food and Beverages budget plus the Filipino re-ironing my shirt and waistcoat. The men came in, changed custom of inviting the whole Angkan), Ireland and obviously the my beats to Parokya ni Edgar and all asking the same question gardens are our picks. From here we have set our theme in ‘How do you tie a Cravat?’. Of course, we consulted the How stone – a Gold and Ivory Vintage Garden Wedding (Yeah, we to guru - Youtube! know, garden setting is as ludicrous as the Irish weather). And As we finish preparing, the rain started to pour. It was a shower then the rest follows… that shows no sign of stopping. Yes you guessed it right, the Spotting the Perfect Venue is not the hardest item to tick on our garden wedding did not happen. But we have our contingency checklist as we have several spot-on criteria in mind – It must plans alright. We have another room reserved – vintage styled, be in Ireland; Garden must stunningly look great and classy; chandelier lighted and wallpapers and carpets that suited our Both the wedding blessing and the reception will be held at the theme too! The string quartet is set and the men came down same venue; Must be within half an hour travel time from Dub- too and rallied at the back. Guests have started coming in too. lin City Centre; And most importantly, it should be within our Everybody looked extraordinarily beautiful and classy. The budget. The Radisson Blu St. Helen’s in Blackrock, Co. Dublin room has been filled with elegance. is one of the finest hotels in the Irish capital which offered the All 50 guests are in and the procession took place. The Maids’ perfect wedding venue for a romantic in-city ceremony. The stunned all guests with the elegance of blush pink, floral and historic estate exudes charm and elegance throughout four pleated dresses. The men also looked great on the Beige acres of formal gardens and richly arrayed event facilities. It is Prince Edward suits. Let alone the parents who were dressed to kill (that idiom can be used literally at that time J). Our eldest obviously a sure pick.

Chloe came in and you can see in her eyes how beautiful she Hydrangeas, Lysianthus, Roses, Syringia and Amaranthus feels. And in a snap she realized everyone was looking at her have filled our topiaries and candelabra centerpieces in theme and there she dived the aisle hiding her face. She was such a and blush colours. In this department, we used locally sourced little clown! Our twins Sophie and Zoe came in. I was in tears. flowers and bought a few extra bunches as we planned to DIY They were wearing their biggest smiles and their little sparkling the bouquets which we did the night before the wedding until eyes. Every single guest was in awe! The Bride is next with 1am! It was an awesome experience to have put our very own the Maid of Honour holding the tail of her veil (as rehearsed). personal touch to it which nearly topped the quality of the Bridal I had a mini heart attack when the Maid of Honour went in without Apple but she whispered me that she was told to go in bouquet supplied by our supplier. ahead and Apple did not wear her veil. Phew! Apple came in.

We were also very highly engaged in designing the stationer- All eyes are on her. Beautiful is an understatement. The only ies - on a venti cup of coffee at Starbucks for almost 3 hours time I remember seeing her that way is the moment I first fell - with our stationery designer who is a Filipina whom we knew in love with her. She was so angelic and I was about to melt. through her blog and online shop. She is a true genius in the Her mom gave me her hand and from there I know there is no stopping – it is the start of our voyage in our official sailing boat area!

Selecting all the above may sound easy but initially we do not of life together with our crew, Chloe , Sophie and Zoe. know exactly what we wanted so there were plenty of research, browsing and reading before we concluded and finalized our Many thanks to our Parents, family, and friends for their selections and requirements. We searched in Pinterest, wed- everlasting support to us in trials, in doldrums and in hapding blogs, wedding stylist blogs (such as Style Me Pretty) and piness. The wedding day is a very important day, and is bought the quarterly Brides Magazine. We ended up having too not only to celebrate the unity of our love but also to thank many choices but we had to draw the line at some point and everyone for being a part of our lives. took the best yet affordable options.

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ABDUL CANDAO Singer Vienna, Austria

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was born in Davao but was raised in Cotabato City in the Southern Philippines. Growing up, I was already exposed to music as an art form, and my passion for singing grew more through the years.

It was my first voice teacher, Mr. George Hernandez, who recognized my potential as a soloist. Prior to college, I joined a group called Philippine Saringhimig where I continued honing my confidence in singing. In 1982, we won first prize in the National Music Competitions for Young Artists Foundation (NAMCYA).

I enrolled at the UST Conservatory of Music as a personal scholar of my teacher Prof. Irma P.E. Potenciano. Later on, I was awarded scholarships by the UST Music Alumni Association and the Music Promotion Foundation of the Philippines. During my studies at the UST, I was a member of the Kayumangging Kaligatan under the late National Artist Prof. Ernani Cuenco, from whom I developed my love and high regard for Filipino music.

I left the Philippines in 1991 and attended the opera school of the Vienna Conservatory of Music under KS Waldemar Kmentt through a grant from the Cultural Center of the Philippines Young Artists Fund. It was a precious opportunity being trained under the baton of prolific music teachers like soprano Lilia Reyes in Rome, Gyorgy Korondio in Budapest, KS Walter Berry, Otoniel Gonzaga and maestro Vahan Mirakian in Vienna.

The following years after obtaining my diploma were filled with exciting career opportunities. I did a three-year stint in the Austrian musical “Elisabeth” staged at Theater an der Wien in Vienna. Then I premiered in two modern operas in Vienna namely, “Jush-Tush” by T. Deszy and “Arrest” by D.D´Ase wherein I sang the lead roles. I sang in Summer Music Festivals in Udine and Pordenone, Italy; Luebeck, Germany; Greifenstein, Germany; Zadar, Croatia; and Jennersdorf, Austria. I have performed in concerts in Austria, Canada, England, France, Germany, Slovakia, Spain, Switzerland, the U.S.A. and the Philippines.

Since I started my career here, trying to find time to visit family and friends in the Philippines has always been a challenge for me. (I think this is true with all the Filipinos living abroad.) I love going home to our country. I always look forward to being with my family and friends, and most especially, enjoying the unique Filipino cuisine! I used to go home every two years, but recently it has been more frequent, like once a year.

But I regret to say I have no plans of going back to settle for good in the Philippines. I’m happy that I have found a fruitful and blessed life here in Europe. Vienna has been my home for the last twenty years.

My piece of advice for every Filipino working or living abroad is this: always be sincere and be proud of your roots. Do not think that being Filipino is a disadvantage. Personally, although I needed to embrace a huge deal of discipline and give sacrifices in order to compete and work well with Europeans, but my Filipino character has kept me successful. I am proud that I get hired I to play European or non-Asian roles in recognition of my talents.

The passion for music is a very Filipino thing. Singing is something very natural for Filipinos and I am very proud of that, and I make sure that my European colleagues know that.

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ALEX ANSSELMUCCIO Actor / Model Manila, Philippines

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left my beautiful country Italy and move to the Philippines, which is equally beautiful, when I was selected to join the PBB (Pinoy Big Brother) Teen Edition Plus in 2008 of ABS-CBN. I was only 18 then.

Shortly after the Big Brother, I got signed with the Star Magic Artist Management and started working as an actor. My first important break was as part of the cast of Tayong Dalawa with Gerald Anderson and Kim Chiu. I also did several guesting in various ABS-CBN programs and some minor projects on the side. This had kept my artista career afloat in the beginning.

But then my life as an actor was not turning out as productive as I have wished it to be. The fact that I did not speak any Tagalog was a major bump in my acting career. It was not enough that I am blessed with good genes.

I realize I need to prove I am Pinoy enough to make it in Philippine show business; and being able to speak the language of my mother’s homeland could be an important springboard for my dreams.

So I worked hard to learn to speak Tagalog, and one helpful way was to understand and appreciate first my Filipino heritage. I went around to see some beautiful parts of the country just to acquaint myself with the Filipino people and our rich culture.

When at work, I tried interacting with the people around me in Tagalog, although it was very hard for me at first. Thankfully they are very patient and helpful, giving me tips and language tutorials. Ngayon marunong na ako mag-Tagalog kahit barok pa ang accent ko. (Now, I know how to speak and understand Tagalog even it’s not fluent.)

As I waited in the wings for my major showbiz break, I worked as a call center agent for 2 years, thanks to my capability in speaking Italian. Afterwards I decided to do modeling, something I do until now.

My artista dream is still alive. Aside from ABS-CBN, I also tried doing projects with TV5. My fans are going to see me in an upcoming reality program airing very soon, hopefully. I’m obviously working hard now, especially that I have a goal to buy myself a house.

Being mixed race isn’t always easy. Thankfully, my Pinoy guts have shown me how to make it work. Though I must admit it’s a big struggle. When I’m in Italy, I don’t blend in as a pure Italian and when I’m in the Philippines, I look foreigner to the people. It isn’t easy but I’m slowly catching up with my Filipino side. Now I speak the language, eat Filipino food and practice a great deal of wonderful Filipino traits, which I myself can be proud of, such as being hardworking, kind and loving.

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Adrian Tabiling Cabin Crew Performance Manager Germany I just presented the annual management business plan, one of the three requirements for the promotion I am vying for few months ago. With God’s help, I have been shortlisted and promoted as a crew performance manager in Milan. I started my career as a flight attendant last 2004 and been with the same airline since then. Time, place nor education is irrelevant in achieving this promotion. It is hard work and determination. I always believe that being a Filipino has a huge influence and impact in reaching this career point.

It is our nature as Pinoys to adapt quickly to the environment we are in. We can stay in a 5- square meter room and still be happy about it. Our life is full of contentment because we always have a comparison – life abroad versus the life that we left in the Philippines. My story is probably not different from the other ninety-nine stories written in Juan in EU. Like most OFWs, I left the country for a search of a better economy elsewhere.

Suffering entails acceptance and Pinoys just smile over life’s issues. Patience is indeed our virtue. We are excellent in the politics of goodwill – we invest into things that we know will bring us good returns. In other words, we believe in Confucius’ rule of karma.

These factors, along with our Pinoy diplomacy, in my opinion, are the most important pillars of my airline career. I deal with hundreds of passengers daily who came from different walks of life. As Pinoys, we are very dynamic and can learn different languages easily. All of us possess, “Jose Rizal powers” within us. Visayans have “p” and “f” defects, Kapampangans have “h” defect and Bicolanos may have “I” and “e” defects, but regardless, we learn languages very quickly compared to some nationalities I came across with.

Normally, after six months of intensive language immersion, we are able to communicate and construct sentences easily, maybe not be accent free, but we are able to speak. No doubt why we are famed the “Call Centre Capital of the World”.

This proficiency has helped me a lot in the airline industry. In fact, this has a huge impact on my career. A good command in language is a good investment in the airline career.

Lastly I am a proud and patriotic Filipino. I continuously update myself with what’s happening in our country. I always quip, “I am a Filipino” each time I encounter questions about my nationality. I accept the fact that we may not be classified as “first world” economy, but we have the happiest people. Our spirits our strong and our working ethics are exemplary. I am a Filipino… and I am proud to be one.

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JAIME DE LEON Remittance Manager Milan, Italy

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am a living proof that courage, determination and success go together. I came to Italy not knowing how life will turn out to be. I always thought that being abroad is my only way to help my humble family back in the Philippines, growing up in a small and very modest home in Bustos, Bulacan. Our family owns a small “karinderya” just across the street. At a very young age, not only did I learn how to cook but I have learned how to connect with people. When someone walks in, I just know right away what customer wants and I would begin conversing with them and they eventually become our loyal clients. I think I have developed that quality through the years in which I consider to be my strongest point now - the convincing power.

The story of people who try their luck abroad in search of a greener pasture is absolutely true. Though I may have experienced almost getting caught by the police while trying to cross the borders of Italy, it was an experience that will never forget. It has been more than 20 years since I had my first taste of Italy. During those times, finding a job was not really a big problem for me since I was taught to do domestic work (laundry, cleaning, cooking.. As I proclaim myself to be “jack of all trades”, I thank my parents for allowing me to have the freedom and independence to try to do things on my own, to realize that knowing a little bit of everything could go a long way.

Working in the corporate world was something I never planned. It just happened. I was still working as a stay-in housekeeper at that time. When the usual Thursdays and Sundays, I would spend hanging out at some Filipino establishments, particularly in a remittance center. I would stay there to look for clients who would want massage service as an extra income and doing “hilot” for free and never asked for a single cent . Since they allowed me to stay inside their office, I would promote them and entice clients to send money to them.

The turning point of my life was when I was given a chance to work with people doing a white-collar jobs in a foreign land associated with managerial, sales or clerical positions. Being an undergraduate, I did not really give much of a confidence at first with no computer and typing background. But despite my lackness of knowledge and skills, I still believe that I will give my 100% to the task that was handed to me using the best key in all types of job, it is the “malasakit“. From standing just around their office, I became a regular part-time teller in remittance company. I was given also an opportunity to work various remmitance company. After that, I was offered a job to work as sales for a broadcasting company. I was given the opportnity to travel other European countries for work. I have lasted 7 long years of hardwork and dedication, until I have decided that it wasn’t for me anymore. But when God closes a door, He definitely opens a window. I guess I am destined to be part of the remittance business. I am now currently Branch Manager of a new remittance company. Another chapter of what they so called, professional life.

The corporate world is a very challenging yet very complicated environment, to meet people from all walks of life, to prove yourself, to validate how much determination you put to pay off, to sometimes sell your principles so you could have that so-called position. But my attitude in life is this, what you sow you will definitely reap. I have managed to plant a seed of generosity and sincerity with the help of my ultimate magic tools 4Ps in Life - Pakikisalamuha(Interaction), Pakikibagay(Adapt), Pakikisama(Integration) and Pakikipagkapwa tao(Socialize People)” and to everyone I have met. I acknowledge people regardless of what they are. I help without asking anything in return. I share knowledge, time and utmost concern to whoever I work with.

Life’s great lessons come from experience, and experiences definitely mold a person’s character and low profile personality.

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Leopoldo Jose Businessman Milan, Italy

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y life story is nothing exceptional, but I’d like to share it anyway hoping to inspire the readers on how I have survived life’s greatest challenge -- facing death, defying it and coming out of it alive and now still kicking.

I have been living in Italy for more than 25 years now. I came here only because my wife was here and I had to forget about my American dream. I was supposed to go the US at that time, but opted to take my chance in the European land.

I come from a simple family in Bulacan. I wasn’t able to finish school because of financial limitations. But despite that, I have managed to get a job in the garment business of Ding Velayo. Then I’ve worked in Saudi Arabia for seven years before coming to Italy.

I had an impression that OFWs in Italy have wonderful jobs. I would see in the photos how beautiful the country is and the people wear nice clothes. So, domestic work was the least in my mind but it was the reality in Italy. Though I never really had a hard time adapting to the new life. What was important for me during that time was to be with my family.

I started as kitchen helper It didn’t last long since I never really had an experience with that kind of job. I then worked as a domestic helper because this job could earn a lot by doing housekeeping and cleaning houses. When the Italian government decided to bring out a new law for immigrant workers, my course of life was changed to my professional work. I had a chance to work in an insurance company as a consultant. At the same time, I decided to venture into a restaurant business together with an Italian partner, and we called it the Luneta Park. We ran the business for 2 years, but unfortunately, the partnership didn’t work out so we decided to close it down. After that attempt, I’ve focused more with my social activities. I was elected as president of The Filipino community of San Lorenzo, and together with the officers of the organization and we came up with programs that will unite members of the community.

2006. I got sick. Bone cancer. I was hospitalized for 15 months to undergo medications and chemotherapy. It was very frightening since it was already a later stage cancer, and the doctors and nurses were reluctant if I could ever survived. But I did. It was a miracle. And I thank God for a second chance to life. Being a cancer survivor is something I would have never imagined in my lifetime. But it has changed my outlook and disposition in life. I have learned to see things in a different light. I have learned to give importance more to people than any material things. I have learned that life is too short to be anything but happy and contented.

After the recovery, I went back to work again. This time I have collaborated with the Philippine Consulate General of Milan for a small consultancy to help our fellow kababayan in the preparation of documents needed for any legal matter that may serve them. And now, I own a small place near the consulate office. I would like to say that I am very much happy with how things turned out in my life. I have my family with me, I have served the Filipino community, I have a small business I call my own, and I have struggled and survived death. So to anyone who is facing a challenge, all I can say is “never give up and keep the faith”.

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Arnela Perales Domestic Helper Rome, Italy

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beautiful life for me should be based on simplicity where you appreciate even the tiniest of good things that happen to you or just anywhere around you. Our parents couldn’t provide us with a life of more than enough and so we learned how to deal with what they could just give us. The hard life we had was the main motivation why my siblings and I learned how to dream big and have more of life’s offer. But as the cliché goes, there would always be something wrong that could go along the way.

The year 2010 has been a memorable year to me as at that year I married Arvin and just after a few months I was diagnosed with cavernoma – a vascular abnormality of the central system. The moment the news broke, it also broken my spirit but not my family’s. With my husband back in Italy a month after our wedding, my family has been extra supportive of me.

They were there to catch me, literally and figuratively. Sometimes, when I look back at that conversation between me and my neurosurgeon, I always realize that there are no coward individuals when faced with life and death matters. It was a decision I made not only for myself but for all those people who were hoping the best for me and for those who kept on praying that I’d be strong enough. And I think, their prayers were answered. I was brave enough to defy death.

I am now adjusting my life after the neurosurgery. Waking up every day that time was both hopeful and frustrating for me. Hopeful because every morning gave me hope that when I wake up, I’d find the old me, the normal me. Frustrating because when every time I stood up, I knew that I lost a bit of the normal me because of cavernoma. It was like relearning to be independent in so many things and in so many ways. Slowly, I was able to get back on my track, hoping that as days went by, I’d gain piece by piece of what I lost for cavernoma.

My husband eventually petitioned me. Like everyone, it was painful to leave my family. I had to step out from my comfort zone just to be reunited with my husband. It was a bitter sweet reunion with him but I am very sure I’ll see my family back in the Philippines soon enough. Life here in Italy is also survival and struggle, sometimes pain and frustrations. It’s also having so little and giving so much, hoping more and praying harder. In spite of these, the other side is also fun. It has to be. We just have to make our stay here worthwhile.

And if we try to appreciate the beauty of the place, the goodness of many people, the new experience, the exciting discoveries, and if we thank God simply for the life HE has given us, we will be happy to be here.

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MIGS LOMIBAO Filmmaker Surrey, UK

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n 1998, a friend of mine moved to London to work for a year. He asked me to join him. At that time, fresh out of college from Malaga, I was staying in California with my grandmother and cousins hoping to secure a permanent visa to remain in the US. But, as it turned out, it wasn’t that simple.

After some time, as I celebrated my birthday in the states, I told my relatives that I wanted to go back to Spain, where I grew up and studied. And so I packed my bags and headed for Europe, but all is not as it seemed. My grandmother thought I was going back to Spain, but my parents thought I was staying in California. Instead, unbeknownst to my family, I was on my way to join my friend in the UK. I was supposed to stay for only a few months, but years later I am still here.

I arrived in England with only £70 in my pocket with no job prospects whatsoever. I had to move fast to survive. With limited funds, my friend and I stayed in hostels, but we only paid for only one person at a time. One of us had to sneak in. We did this for a while and so we moved a lot, from Bayswater to Notting Hill to Surrey Quays. My own family didn’t really know where I was for three months.

At the same time we looked relentlessly for work. We would go to every shop, restaurant and hotel asking for vacancies. I got my first job in the bakery section of a supermarket in west London, eventually moving on to the shop floor. From there I worked as a waiter for a Thai restaurant. I didn’t have any experience at all, but I had to learn. As I understood how things worked in this country, I started to apply for better jobs and slowly ended up working for American Airlines, where I still work to this day.

Over the years, I also discovered my passion for filmmaking. I used to watch a lot of films growing up, from betamax to VHS to DVD and now online, but having been raised in Spain, I felt disconnected from my origins in the Philippines. It was my cousins from Croydon in England who convinced me to go back on vacation to the homeland, and I have never looked back since. I am fascinated with the Philippines and everything related to it, including its films.

I used to buy Pinoy DVDs and would watch them over and over again. But after a few years, I realised that most films told the same stories: man and woman having an affair, or poor boy meets rich girl, or people falling in love, breaking up and getting back together. It started to put me off. From there I thought that maybe I should be a filmmaker, so I can do something different.

I want to make Philippines relevant again in the international film industry.

We need more people like Brillante Mendoza, who won Best Director for his film Kinatay at Cannes Film Festival in 2009. We need more filmmakers like him to be up there with the best of the world. Filmmaking has become my passion, and I would love to have the honour of representing the Philippines someday.

In 2011, I worked on my very own short film by accident. I went on vacation to the Philippines, and there was a young man working for my dad looking after chickens. He had resemblance to a young Manny Pacquiao, during his early days as a boxer sporting a blonde hairstyle. Straight away I started to improvise a short film based on this. I was a one man crew working under the heat of the summer. I had to do everything from camera and sound, to editing and choreography. Having a lead performer with no acting nor fighting experience, who happens to be extremely camera shy, was also a challenge. But when you are passionate about filmmaking or anything else, nothing should stop you from going forward. I managed to finish a short film comedy, a parody of the beginning of Manny Pacquiao’s boxing career, which eventually ended up at a screening in New York as part of an international film festival.

Being an overseas Filipino is a privilege in some ways. It opens doors and opportunities that one cannot have back home. I have learnt the importance of finding a passion, a personal goal, from a young age, and then to work hard for it and never look back. I have started late with filmmaking, but age will not stop me from pursuing my dreams. It is also important to maintain a good balance between your passions and your family or loved ones, because at the end of the day, they should be your priority.

Migs Lomibao was born in Pangasinan and raised in Spain. An aspiring filmmaker, his short film parody “Manny Paquiao: The Beginning” was screened at the 2011 International Film Festival Manhattan in New York, and is now being developed into a feature. Based in England, he is pursuing his passion for cinema and is currently shooting a new short film with a British cast.

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Mar Manhic Part-time Domestic, Part-time Sales Agent Paris, France

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t’s a cliché when we hear that OFWs are the new heroes of our beloved country. As we read in the comics or seen in sci-fi films, being a hero is not easy. A hero takes a lot of sacrifice and must overcome emotions for a better cause.

I was born and raised in Oriental Mindoro and pursued my undergraduate studies in Manila. After university, I was assigned in Batangas for work where I met my lovely wife, the mother of my three children. As a father, I wanted to provide the best for my children. However, due to the unfortunate financial situation that time, my wife and I decided to take the path of seeking better opportunities offshore. My wife left then later, I followed, leaving our young children behind.

I arrived in Paris nearly Christmas of 1999. Even though I was united with my wife after months of separation, I suffered from the depression of being away from my children. I always wanted to talk to them however phone cards were expensive those times. Worst, I could not understand the local TV and radio.

Flying to Paris was a long way tougher that I thought it would be.

Once I was speaking to my daughter on the phone, I could not forget how she cried and asked me, “even if we have no money, no house of our own and even if we study in public school, just go home…” It just broke my heart even more. I felt the deep sadness and longing of my daughter. Since then I promised myself that I will work harder and save enough for my children.

With God’s grace, my wife and I are able save enough… Enough to buy our own properties and car back home. We’re able to send our children to private school and I can say that we are able to provide them a better life.

Our eldest son is now an engineer, our daughter is now a registered nurse and our youngest is at his second year in university.

As an OFW, I’ve learned three important things in life. First, communication is an essential element in keeping that close bond with the family, especially with our children back home. Thank God for the technology available nowadays!

Secondly, even if our emotions take the best out of us as we are million miles away from our loved ones, aside from being strong-willed and focused on the things that matter most, it is also important to dedicate time enjoying and relaxing in our second home. As the bible says – there’s a time for everything.

My wife and I explore local places when we get a chance and connect with our friends whom we share our experience as OFs. Lastly, as Spiderman quoted, greater power comes with greater responsibility. I’ve learned to save and invest my hard-earned money more responsibly.

I may not be Superman or any of those iconic comic heroes but as a proud OFW, I ought to share these best practices to our fellow Kababayans.

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JERRY NABUNG Conceptual Artist Nice, France

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t was October 2011 when I held my first one-man exhibit at the MUSE AAV Place Garibaldi in Nice, France. It opened the door for me and set another phase in my life as an artist.

Looking at my life few years back, I decided to leave the Philippines to try my luck on the other side of the world. In the search for a greener pasture, I’ve realised that landing on a foreign land isn’t that easy. Despite of my insatiable hunger for the arts, I had to set them aside to help myself and my family make both ends meet.

I am a conceptual artist who was born and raised in the city of San Fernando in the Philippines, went to France in 1998 and found myself doing odd jobs.

During my free time I devote myself doing what my heart desires - creating conceptual arts, collages, assemblage or better known as installations. I love playing with different medium and material. I let my art speak for what’s in my mind, what’s in my heart.

However, for almost seven years, I stopped doing what I love most. I had taken a position as yacht steward based in Italy to support my financial needs. Later on, I found myself bored with the daily routine and decided to go back to France to find another job. Eventually, I became an assistant for two French chefs who paved the way for me to meet another person who’s also into arts. He was the one who inspired me to paint. Through this connection, I was introduced to one of the lions guarding the world of art in France, where I took some art lessons and started painting.

As a conceptual artist, I was motivated by various artists ranging from the renaissance period to the modern contemporary, and all the art movements, from classical renaissance, cubism, fauvism, surrealism, impressionism, expressionism. And as an artist, I would want to put a distinctive mark on my art works. I also believe that doing contemporary art would separate my works from the classical arts, which was already done by Leonardo da Vinci, Titian and Raffaello.

Currently I still maintain my job as a chef and hopefully I’ll gradually traverse the road to an even brighter future as an artist. Nevertheless, I never lose hope that someday my works would be appreciated worldwide. After my first exhibit last 2011 in South of France, I am excited and grateful to showcase another exhibition of my craft before this year ends.

For me, art is always changing. It should always progress. Art is not a job, it’s a passion and it’s a grace.

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Skye Zee Nisnisan Businesswoman Milan, Italy

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believe that being here now is something that was meant to be. We all have goals and aspirations, but how we manage to fulfill these dreams despite the obstacles and the struggles that life puts us through make the difference.

For me, what you see is what you definitely get. I do things and I try to excel in it so I could succeed. I have fought to survive, not to fit in because no matter how nice you are and how good you do, people always have something to say. I am a survivor. Why? Because I`ve been to a very tough times and back and yet I’m still here, smiling with grace.

I have survived living in a country with nobody but myself. It all started when I came here to attend a conference for the company I was working at that time. So from Manila, I flew to Milan for a job but little did I know that supposedly a short stay in Italy turned out to be a long term arrangement. I went home only to find myself coming back here once again. A whirlwind romance ended up in marriage. Unfortunately, mine was not the kind of fairy tale story which ends in a happy ever after. It was a bit heartbreaking but the whole experience gave me an opportunity to know more of myself. The separation was the lowest point of my life because I didn’t know what to do and where to go after that. But since I take full responsibility of all my actions, I didn’t go back to the Philippines because I wanted to prove to myself that I can actually make it on my own. I am not embarrassed at all because I could say that no matter what happened, I was strong enough to face all my problems.

I coped with the situation embracing a very positive attitude. Struggling to endure life in Italy did not discourage me because I know that once you fail or if something doesn’t turn out the way it should be, things just happen for a reason. And even if it sounds crazy to most people, I pray a lot because I believe that prayers are not only answered but can actually move mountains.

I have survived judgments and sarcasms. The funny thing is that, those people who actually know a little about me are the ones who got a lot say. It doesn’t really bother me because I know that even if there are those who bash, there are more who really know how I am as a person. And these are friends who helped me get through during my trying times.

Work was a lot easier and I felt so much better having good people around.

I continued with my work as a corporate English teacher in Wallstreet and doing financial consultancy at the same. Life was starting to get better, and I have my family and true hearted friends to thank that for.

People I have worked with became my friends building me a network of prominent people from the financial and political sectors. That is how I came up with the idea of setting up Threelogies, an events company that puts people together giving them a good feel, a very unique approach and a quality show/event. A simple hobby I consider at first, until I got good feedbacks from previous events I have organized like The Chabella Fashion Show and the Spooktacular Charity Halloween Party. We were published in different websites and Italian magazines because of the wonderful job. I would have not done all of this if not for the people who collaborated with me, the best Filipino photographers, videographers, make-up artists and stylist whom I consider the best in their fields.

So, if asked if I am successful, I just say yes. I claim it. And the highest point of my life is not the fact that I am well-known or I belong to the prominent crowd but for a simple fact that I have survived. I have survived the struggles, got out of them and use them as my motivation to bring me to greater heights.

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Maverick “E-Twist” Gomez Dancer Barcelona, Spain

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feel like a million bucks when I was crowned as the very first TFCkat Grand Winner in Europe this year. I recall the time that I auditioned, gone through the semi and grand finals within Spain and Andorra, then travelling all the way to Nice last September for TFCkat Europe Grand Finals carrying the flag of the Filipinos in Spain as I joined other equally talented individuals from UK, Italy and France on the centre stage. Overwhelmingly, that milestone followed shortly after being the only one chosen amongst hundreds of aspiring dancers who auditioned in Barcelona for Kelly Rowland’s promotion music video for Bacardi called “Summer Dreaming”. I can’t help but smile and be grateful when people appreciate my dance moves and choreography. I feel very lucky to represent the continent and compete against other talented individuals from all over the world in the much-awaited Pilipinas Got Talent 2012.

I believe that my obvious passion for dancing and unrelenting support of my family and friends led to these great achievements I had so far (and I do pray that there’s more to come). Admittedly, responsibility goes side by side with my passion. Things did not just happen to me overnight. I have to make sure I am giving the best of my very best in every practice and every performance.

And by simply watching their youtube videos, I’ve taken inspiration from the world class French hip-hop duo dancers, Les Twins (Larry and Laurent), who has no clue of my existence but have taught me how to feel the dance, bring life in dancing and live the happiest way possible.

Growing up in Spain but born of mixed Spanish and Filipino blood, I am very proud of my Pinoy roots and believed that I got this hard working spirit from it. I also have no fear of making mistakes nor falling on the ground. I learn to appreciate every correction encountered. For me, every defeat means working hard more. Falling on the ground means standing up once again and carry on moving forward. It’s not all about talent or skills, it’s also about hard work and will power.

Napoleon Hill once said, “Before success comes in any man’s life, he’s sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit.

That’s exactly what the majority of men do”. But for me, quitting is a no-no!

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MICHAEL NONATO Model / Chef Surrey, UK

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ife wasn’t easy for us. My family and I lived in slum-like conditions when I was a child in the Philippines. We didn’t have much money, but I was oblivious to it all. I played happily with my friends while my mother worked hard abroad to ensure our survival. Now, at 18, things are different.

My mother worked in Singapore to provide a better future for me and my sister. She had to leave us behind to raise us. I stayed with an aunt in Rizal while my sister lived with another relative in Caloocan City. It was tough.

Whilst working overseas, my mother met an Englishman whom she ended up marrying. Soon enough I found myself moving to the UK, where I had better opportunities and a decent education.

Eventually, after secondary school, I started working myself. I landed a position at a Japanese restaurant, with which I was grateful after nearly losing hope in these uncertain economic times. I developed an interest in culinary arts. I find cooking fascinating - the idea of experimenting with food and creating new dishes. It is my dream to open my own restaurant someday, and to set up cooking schools in the Philippines to inspire children and help feed the poor. Helping those in need is something I would love to incorporate in whatever I do in the future.

I also have a growing passion for fashion and modelling. I recently joined a pageant where we showed off intricate costumes and all manners of beachwear. From there I was invited to attend London Fashion Week for the first time ever. It was an amazing experience: I met new people, saw some celebrities, and discovered different styles. I was also offered a modelling job, which was a welcomed surprise.

Beauty to me is anything and everything. Everyone has beauty in them. We are all different and unique, and that is what makes us beautiful. It would be boring if everything was the same. The secret to is to have confidence in yourself, to accept who you are for what you are, no matter what other people say. Once you accept yourself, what is there to be afraid of? True beauty comes from within.

I’ve learnt in my young life that good things come to those who work hard for it. Never give up no matter what happens. Life is a test. We will always make mistakes, and that’s ok. We just have to learn from them. Life has many different chapters, and one bad chapter does not necessarily mean the end of the book. Work hard to achieve your goals, and even if someone else tells you that you cannot do something, show them that you can. Always be good to people around you, especially your friends and family. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. Above all, always pray and be thankful for everything that happens in your life whether good or bad. Prayer and belief are always helpful regardless of your religion, race or background.

Michael Nonato was born in Caloocan City. An aspiring model and chef, he moved to England with his Filipina mother and British stepfather.

He lives in Woking, Surrey and was recently spotted at Bikini Open and Fashion Week in London. He is currently planning to attend culinary school.

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GILL CONCHA Leadership Training Strategist Consultant Beausoleil, France

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lived a good, simple life and been enjoying a fulfilling career in the Philippines. As a qualified consultant back then, I was inexplicably chosen and given the Competency and Talent (Family) Visa by the French Embassy in the Philippines. Grateful as I was back then, I thought that this opportunity would take my career into another level and provide a breakthrough in my family’s finances. On top of our basic family expenses we were mostly short due to the medical expenses of my wife because of an unexplainable case of poly-arthritis that gradually became severe within seven years.

I migrated to France alone at first, with a hope for a better life, health solutions for my wife and more opportunities. But sadly, I arrived in 2009 when the European economy faced its deepest recession since the 1930s. I found no permanent job – I was either underpaid or had no work at all. I tried to survive myself, I slept in a laundry room with my small loaned laptop. Despite all these, I learned new skills and was able send money to my family whenever I can, but at some point we have no choice but to borrow money from an able friend. I almost decided to back home until, I landed a permanent job.

I came back to the Philippines on the same year to prioritize my family’s migration to France and work on the possible medical recovery for my wife.

Miraculously, my wife had a successful operation. She’s able to walk gradually but had to maintain regular therapy. Given this and the needs of my family, I have to work harder and have a better focus on what I need and want to achieve in life.

If there’s no opportunity, make one! A year later, I decided to move on in doing what I am meant to do, why I am sent here in France. On top of my faith to the greater force above, I have learned that it is also necessary to be equipped with the right knowledge in making choices, skills in making things happen and believing in myself. I have learned not to dwell on the negative criticism nor discouragement but rather persist with integrity and patience, that I must always learn and grow along the way. I officially began my very own leadership and training consultancy program this year which offers one on one or small group coaching.

Aiming to help my fellow Filipinos, I have successfully launched the first legitimate and professionally designed seminar this year encouraging OFWs unleash the entrepreneurship skills within and am grateful to hear powerful testimonies on how the seminar has changed their mindset in life with a clearer hope to become an entrepreneur. I believe 2013 will be bigger and better!

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BENETTE RAMIREZ Community Consultant Rome, Italy

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ince I was a child, it has always been my desire to love and serve the Lord.

Years ago, I used to be a missionary of the Clerical Congregation Missionaries of Faith. Upon the advice of our Superior Genral, I came to Rome in September of 1992, to finish my clerical studies.

In July 1994, I was fortunate to be accepted as private secratry of His Excellency Archbishop Msgr. Giovanni De Andrea, (President- Libreria Editrice Vaticana, Vice- President Ufficio Del Lavoro presso la Santa Sede). I am humbled by the privilege to have served God Almighty in almost all of the Holy Masses officiated

by Pope John Paul II. I am also greatly privileged to have attended the ordination of the Cardinals, and to have met the many Apostolic Nuncios and bishops from other countries.

As my studies came to a close, Archbishop De Andrea tasked me to establish an apostolate. I was at the Sentro Pilipino on Sundays and Thursdays, to provide assistance to Filipino children in Rome. Then one day at the Sentro, lightning struck me (though not literally): I fell in love with Christine Luna Zabala, now my wife of 16 years. We were married on May 25, 1996. The Almighty God has blessed Christine and me two healthy and good children, Maria Camill and Christian Joseff.

After we were married, I tried to find work in the Philippines. But because life was difficult, we decided to go back to Italy, to find work. It was not easy for me to come back here, but I had made a promise to myself to provide a better future for my family. I did every job I could find. I have gone through cleaning toilets, and working part time in several houses.

July 22, 2007 is a date that I will never forget. At two in the morning of that day, my wife and I received a phone call from the Philippines. We were told that my son, Christian Joseff (CJ), who nine years old at that time, was run over by a tenwheeler truck. That truck that had a load of 600 sacks of cement wheels crushed my son’s legs. When the driver put his gear in reverse, he ran his truck over my son a second time, this time flattening my son’s stomach.

My son was with his cousins Melai, who was also critically injured, and Melvin, who suffered a few grazes. Melvin says it was his Kuya CJ who saved his life by pushing him to the side of the road.

When we received the devastating news, my world collapsed. The initial shocked caused by CJ’s death and the SMS messages that came from him was too much for my mother in law. She suffered a heart attack and had to be brought to the Intensive Care Unit of the Perpetual Help Hospital sa Binan. My grieving mother had a stroke right after we buried CJ. Not long after both my mother and my mother in law passed, joining CJ in the happy place where he now is.

The last time I talked to CJ was the day before his fatal accident. The calls I made to my family was a regular thing. But that day, CJ had wanted to have the phone all to himself. He said he had something important to tell me. He said it was a secret that he did not yet want to share with his mother and grandmother.

He told me, “Papa, when I grow up I want to be a priest. I want to be like you, to serve the Lord. I have just become an altar boy in school (Canossa Academy).

Please do not tell Mama and Lola yet. They might get angry. They might think I am following in your footsteps, wanting to be a priest, and then later changing my mind and leaving the calling.” “Is that all?,” I laughed. CJ said, “No, Papa, there is something else I wish to tell you. I have a gift for you, and I want you to get it from my closet.” I told CJ, “Son, you know that Papa cannot go home because he has work. You also know that we have a lot of expenses. We have just paid your tuition fees. If there is any of us who can go home at this time, it will have to be your mother.” CJ was insistent: “Papa, you have to come home and get your gift from my closet. Ate Camille will be celebrating her birthday soon. I want you and Mama to be here.”

My son got what he wished for. His mother and I went home. His gift for me was in his closet. He had saved his allowance to buy me a gift. We were able to celebrate Camille’s birthday. All of these when he was already gone.

I came back to Italy to work for my family’s future. And I also came lead a life I know has served as a good example to my son, CJ. I am very grateful to Kuya Pol and Ate Evelyn Reyes of Philcargo Travel. They have helped me become strong, to face my trials and to stand on my feet again.

I have been given another chance to work for my family. I am now a sub dealer of PLDT Smart Pinoy. I have also received a pleasant surprise in the form of an offer to be a Community Consultant of the Western Union Company. This new job is a way by which I can help and make happy my fellow Filipino workers in Italy.

In 2011, after a four-year wait, my daughter Camille joined my wife and me in Rome.

The burdens in our life come because God knows that we can overcome these.

We sometimes feel that we do not have the strength to overcome our trials, or that God has abandoned us. What we do not know is that God is always here, 62 carrying us and our burdens.

CHIT AFUANG Diplomat London, UK

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y job is quite a challenge. I work for the Department of Tourism in London, promoting the Philippines as a holiday destination, but in the absence of a national carrier to partner with us, it has been very difficult.

I have spent almost two decades promoting Philippine tourism in the UK and in other territories in Europe. I was originally assigned to Sydney, Australia, but accreditation took too long to be arranged so I ended up accepting an offer for a post in London instead. I had my doubts at first: distance, high standard of living, the weather. But after much deliberation with my husband, I landed in the British capital in 1989.

My work involves all kinds of promotions and marketing to ensure that the Philippines is seen as a viable option for travellers. We attend conferences and meetings with relevant organisations and companies. We participate in fairs for businesses and consumers to help raise our profile. We organise familiarisation trips for members of the media - writers, journalists, broadcasters, filmmakers - to introduce them to the country in exchange for positive publicity on radio, television, print and online.

In the 1990s, we were very lucky to have the back up of Philippine Airlines.

The tour operators and travel agencies had very good concessions from them. These days, without a flagship Filipino airline in Europe, we have to work even harder to get tourists to venture out into the Philippines.

From my experience, most Europeans haven’t even heard of the Philippines.

That is why we are working towards raising our profile through awareness campaigns, advertising, tourism presentations, sales calls, and industry networking. Luckily, those who do go to the Philippines are often complimentary about the country. Tourist numbers are also improving consistently, which proves that our work makes a difference.

The Philippines have a lot to offer the world, most of all its people, known for their friendliness and hospitality. Beyond that, we have sandy white beaches, natural attractions, adventure tours, excellent accommodation, vibrant cities, and some of the world’s best diving sites.

I may not have been sure about going to the UK at first, and life abroad, like most Filipinos would say, can be tough and lonely, especially away from friends and family back home. But when you do things for your country, like promoting the Philippines, I honestly feel that I have somehow contributed to the local economy in my own small way. I am proud to promote our country, to show the world what we can offer as a nation, as people, as a destination.

It is this passion and my love for the country that pushes me to continue to work hard for our goals.

Chit Afuang is the Officer-In-Charge at the Philippine Department of Tourism in London, responsible in promoting the Philippines as a destination for British and European travellers. Born and raised in Iloilo City, she has been based in the UK for a total of 18 years, between 1989-1999, and from 2004 until present.

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Nancy Arenas Entrepeneur Naples, Italy

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y journey to Europe started over two decades ago. Born in Camarines Sur where my marriage life blessed me with four wonderful children, I was captivated by the hope of moving to Europe could take my family out of poverty. I left the province and moved to Naples with a strong determination to succeed and fulfill all my dreams of giving my loved ones a better life and a promising future. I’d been so lucky with all the employers I’ve encountered who treated me with respect and made me feel part of their family.

But living abroad is not always easy, not everything you wanted will be given to you neither in a golden plate nor silver spoon. As a mother, it was very hard to live away from my children knowing that I’d missed half of my life seeing them grow and not being there to guide them in times of their ups and downs. However, I had to sacrifice and fight all those loneliness and anxiety for the end goal.

My husband’s infidelity did not help the situation. Leaving me for another woman felt like the heaven and earth were against me. More so, depression was taking the best out of me and I felt like I couldn’t live my life any longer.

But thank God for His promise in Hebrews 13:5, “He will not leave me nor forsake me.” I drew my strength from my faith and inspiration from my children and grandchildren to move on and start afresh. After that heartbreaking incident, I focused to excel in my job, worked even harder and venture into other part time businesses such as putting up a small gift article shop in Salerno, selling vegetables to fellow Filipinos, being an agent for cosmetics products, remittances, ticketing, door-to-door packaging and real estate. Some were successful, some were not but I did not let failure affect me.

When my life seemed almost right and I was able to bring all my children to live with me in Italy, the most painful and unbearable event happened.

My second eldest daughter suffered and died from incurable fatal illness. I witnessed how she suffered and fought against Lupus. Even though we all know she was getting weaker, she always looked to the brighter site of things despite her condition. She never loses hope and faith in God until her last breath. Her bravery has been an inspiration for me to stand still and hold on to my faith.

In my life’s journey, I am so thankful that God never abandoned me; He is my fortress, my inspiration, my Saviour.

We can never tell what life is ahead of us because one moment everything seems to be right then the next day could be the opposite. Failures and difficulties are inevitable. With my experiences, I’ve learned that everything shall come to pass. Both soaring joys and crushing sorrows fade away like a dream. However, the knowledge of having lived one’s life to the fullest never disappears. Everything happens for a reason. Take every loneliness and hardship as challenges to be a better person. Love, trust, cherish and treasure all your happy moments with your loved ones and live like it’s your last day in the world. Delight yourself in the Lord and everything will be alright.

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KAREN JOY TAÑAC Leader, Photographers Club Rome, Italy

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It was on September 2009 when I came to Italy. I left because I was given an opportunity when my visa was granted. The move was my leap of faith, the act of leaving everything that is familiar in my life towards an entirely unknown future, far away from home.

When I reach Rome, a good family friend helped me find my first Italian employer. I work as a caregiver to a 74 year old signora with advance Parkinson and Alzheimer. Hard is an understatement to describe my adjustment months. She was strict, moody because of her sickness, and she wakes me several times during the night which left me sleepless. Since, I was ‘stay-in’, I couldn’t easily leave; I felt cloistered but giving up is not an option. It encourages me to learn fast and to do good. My consolations during that period are creating artworks, keeping a journal and exploring Rome during my day-offs. When my signora died, I left and took several jobs from cleaning houses, food servers, dishwasher, dog walker, babysitter, photographer, until I landed with encoding jobs, then as office coordinator in a real estate, which open doors for me to work in an Embassy to the Holy See and currently as a teller in a remittance center.

These experiences taught me to increase my faith, to give goodness to get goodness, to persevere amidst all odds, to develop limitless patience, to break barriers by learning, to always look out for opportunities, to dream big and work to realize these dreams.

When I was in my second year in Italy, Fr. Morrel Querickiol founded the Pinoy Photographers Club in Rome (PPCR). Little had I known that by joining PPCR, a new creative and challenging journey will open for me.

The challenge came to lead as president.

PPCR aims to give an avenue where a Pinoy photographer can LEARN-GROW-INTERACT-ENJOY and BELONG through events like photography workshops, photo walks and photo shoots. What started with 15 PPCR members grew to 150 during the first year to 586 at present. The rapid increase can be contributed to the influence of social media networking we find in social network; affordability/accessibility of digital photography equipment; sharing of resources; the balance between different age levels among members; the spirit of service and the common passion in photography that bond us together.

Leading PPCR is not easy, but the rewards come when fellow photographers improved and also go out of their ways to willingly share their talents, time and resources for the group. My journey with PPCR is not only about capturing beautiful photographs through the years but also compiling lasting memories that will last a lifetime.

If you are starting up in photography, nurture the fire, the passion to ‘click’ within you. Do not discourage easily when others have improved a head, just continue to learn until you find your niche. When you do, master it.

And when you become a master of your own style, never forget to leave a legacy, share what you know, teach and pass on the fire.

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Zendryll Asuncion Singer/Student Milan, Italy

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inging. It is not just an act of putting out vocal music, melody or harmony.

For me, singing is passion, singing is life. I started singing when I was three years old, and my mom would always tell me that she gets chills every time she hears me sing. She catches herself in amazement because at a very young age I sing like I own the stage.

I think it’s destiny. Even before I was born, it was already written in the stars that I would become a singer. I don’t have it all yet, but I think it’s a work in progress. When I was in the Philippines, I used to sing for family gatherings only. Then after I came to Italy, I started performing in different community affairs. I have learned to mingle with different people from all walks of life.

Slowly, I was getting aware that I should really put more effort with my talent, I mean, not just use it as an instrument to entertain people but to actually touch their lives with my music. I never really thought that singing was going to be my career. I know I am just 18, but I really feel that I have a great career ahead of me.

But like all other stories, there is the beginning before any ending. And it was a pretty tough start, a sweet struggle and a challenging journey for me.

People think that I have everything easily handed to me. The truth is, I went through a series of rejection before I got in to an audition that will change everything.

When I was 14, I auditioned for an Italian animation dubbing but was refused because I was too young at that time. Although I didn’t get the part, it gave me the opportunity to meet my current producer. Things have gotten out of hand, but as the saying goes, “when God closes a door, He opens a window”. So when I found out that there was going to be a national singing contest, and the production was going to be in Milan, I auditioned right away and I got in.

To be seen on national TV every week was a dream come true. I wanted so bad to win the contest, because aside from my family, I want to give joy and pride to the Filipino people who support and encourage me during the show.

I made it to the semifinals. However, things didn’t work out the way I planned.

I was supposed to get into the grand finals, but the ratings of the show went so high so they decided to change the whole program, and I lost my fight to win the spot. I was disappointed at first, but my mom was there to console me. She said that I am so lucky that I have gotten into the audition because among hundreds of participants, I was chosen to be one of the contenders.

My Mom is the greatest. If asked, what for me is the greatest inspiration to my music, I would have to say it’s my Mom. She is my weapon. My wind beneath my wings. She is my constant reminder that life is too short to waste wonderful opportunities despite the pressure of proving my talent. She is my disciplinarian when I forget that nobody gets on top without having to sacrifice and working hard for it.

Now that I already have a single and its out in the market entitled “Bring Me Over” , and hopefully, an album to follow soon, I dedicate my music to all overseas Filipino workers. May our journey away from our country land become more fruitful and prolific. To those aspiring singers, continue and never give up trying. To sing, not just with the voice but with the heart, because if you believe in one thing, you’ll get it!

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Chris Sta Brigida Business Owner Amsterdam, Netherlands

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am a Filipino British national living in Amsterdam. My European life started way back in 1997, while I was still serving as the President of Santa Ana Parish Pastoral Youth Council. Back then I was selected to represent the youth of Santa Ana, Manila and be part of the Philippine delegation to the 12thWorld Youth Day celebration in Paris, France.

During this trip I´ve seen beautiful places, gathered loads of great memories and met a lot of wonderful people from all walks of life. However, from all the people I met on this trip there is one person I would never forget. It was this lady who was giving away food on the street to all Filipino pilgrims she sees. She had basket full of fried rice and pancit. I´ve noticed her smiling at me secretly while observing how I appreciate her food. I smiled back at her and ask `Bakit po?´ She replied saying `Naalala ko ang anak ko sa iyo.

Malamang kasing laki mo na rin yun ngayon. Labing limang taon na rin kasi akong hindi nakakauwi.’ I can´t imagine not seeing my own mom for a very long time so I instantly felt sad for her and I gave her a hug.

It didn´t register to me right away but it made me think why would someone wouldn´t want to go back home and be with their love ones? I´ve never found out her real reason but my short encounter with her made me rethink and re-evaluate what I would like to do with my life. The following school year I´ve decided to go back to school and strive to be a diplomat studying a degree in Consular and Diplomatic Affairs so I could work overseas and provide assistance to hundreds and thousands of Filipino working overseas.

In 2003, carrying the same passion I came back to Europe and continued my studies at the Diplomatic Academy of London and finished a Master’s degree in Diplomatic Studies. The following year I studied International Human Right and then English Law. Luckily, I was offered an employment in an immigration law firm coordinating and assisting migrants wishing to migrate to England. During that time, there were a huge number of Filipino nurses being employed in the UK. I stayed with that company for many years until the EU expansion took place. Immigration policy changed dramatically since then and importing immigrants from outside the EU became more difficult than ever. Company operation shifted more to the Middle East and I was invited to move along but I refused and decided to stay in London.

I worked in various commercial establishments in retail, travel and publishing until I got an opportunity to work in charity and non for profit sector once again where my heart truly belongs. I worked voluntarily for Amnesty International at the International Secretariat in London monitoring human rights violations and abuses in The Philippines, Malaysia, Singapore and Brunei.

From being the voice of those who are suppress I became the voice of defenceless animals. I started working for the World Society for the Protection of Animals in London and was in charge of its supporters and volunteers.

I´ve attended various fundraising events from local community events, national marathon and even accompanied 15 fundraisers to trek the jungle of Borneo in an attempt to raise funds to save the Oraguntans.

Aside from devoting my time working for charitable causes, I also have passion in putting up my own business. In April 2012, my partner and I decided to open a small guest house in the heart of Amsterdam and named it the Tulip of Amsterdam B&B. We thought that it is not important if we start small and simple as long as we are moving forward with our dream. Six months after opening, we now ranked among the top 6 best bed and breakfast inns among 242 registered on Trip Advisor in Amsterdam.

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PAOLO VILLASAN Service worker / Amateur Photographer Milan, Italy

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y mother left for Italy when I was only 1 year old and grew up with my father and my eldest sister in Manila. Eventhough I never felt what it is like to be raised by my parents, my father was able to raise us well and open my mind that my mom is working abroad in order to provide us a better life.

My mom continued sending us letters and calling us twice a week to tell us that she is fine. I understood how my mom’s hardship and sacrifices to live and work in abroad. After few years, my father followed mom in Italy to help her as we have a lot expenses than the usual. So my sister and I continued living in Manila with our cousins, aunties and a housemaid.

After I graduated in elementary, my parents decided to bring me and my sister to Milan to continue our study and finally be together. When I came here in Milan, I continued my study and getting to know more people and adjust in a new environment. But, as years goes by, my life started to change and I had gradually neglected my studies, disrespected my parents, returned home at late night and learned how to smoke and drink alcohol because of being influenced by bad friends. My parents were so worried and concerned about sudden change of my personality. So, I decided to stop attending school and search for work. My uncle gave me his part time job as a cleaner of a 5 roomed office for months but I continued to hang out with friends.

Every time I come home at night, I am always drunk. One day, my parents is trying to help me realize of how what I have done and I was not like before.

But when my youngest brother was born, I realized how important life is.

Despite of what I did in the past, I started to change my life and personality in a positive way. I have set my goals in life, do right decisions and start working seriously to help my family and my future. As I pursue to search for a decent job, I was hired at Hollister as overnight stocker and it was really good feeling to start fresh and new life. I am now working to pursue my dream, to become a professional photographer or a news reporter.

Few months ago during a dragon boat race in Milan, I was inspired to see some photographers at the event and I told myself that one day I will be like them. One of my friend who is a photographer told me that they are members of a photography club, United Pinoygraphers Club. So, I immediately joined the group thru a social network page as I become more interested in photography. The group became my inspiration and learned a lot of techniques and most especially, friendship.

It was a dream come true for me to reach one of my goals in life. I learned a lot of lessons that even if we have made mistakes in life, there is still hope to change and start a new life by following your dreams, stay positive and learn not to give up even if there are obstacles in life. All I can say, especially to teenagers, is just continue to believe in yourself, follow you dreams, believe in God, and if you have done wrong decisions, you will learn from it and don’t be afraid to commit mistakes because life will begin when you find the right path.

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RENRICK ANDRIN Director Milan, Italy

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was just a hometown boy. But today, I would like to believe that I talk and walk like every inch of a fulfilled man. I know I still have a lot of things to learn and experience, but at 24, life has already given me so much to be thankful about – the struggles, the defeats and the winning moments.

It all started when I was growing up in Lemery, Batangas. At the age of 10, I would gather all the kids around the town and ask them to join me in fun-filled games and mini events I have organized myself. For me, it was a normal thing for someone my age who takes everything naive, candid and innocent.

It did not occur to me that it will pave a way for me into the entertainment industry and become an event organizer and director.

I left the Philippines at the age 15 to join my family here in Italy. I brought nothing but hope and my childlike dreams. Everything was surreal back then.

Living from a little town in Batangas to a first world country in Europe was such a big leap for me. But little by little, and as time went by, doors of possibilities opened up and I never thought that my small antics back then would lead me to a bigger picture.

Starting was never easy. A very close friend of my family motivated me to fulfill what it is that I most love doing. He was like an older brother to me since I do not have any. Unfortunately, his untimely death left me devastated.

There were so many community projects and events at that time set to be accomplished. There was nobody who could take over and finish what he has started. Everyone else including my family encouraged me to continue his legacy. So I have decided to go on at this field and carry on the vision of a friend, to uplift the Filipino Community by means of channeling talents through good shows and quality performances. I will forever be grateful to this person who did not only become a good friend, but a brother and a mentor as well- a person who believed in me and inspired me to be the best that I can be.

My directorial debut was in 2007, The Philippine Independence Day celebration. This event caused buzzes and stories around even before the actual program. Some people raised eyebrows and questioned my competence and capacity to this task. I was just 17 at that time and there was nothing else I could have done but to prove them wrong. Undeniably, with my determination, courage and will I was able to pull it off, making the event very successful.

After that very controversial experience, I have decided to put up my own entertainment company. After a series of community events, I started organizing weddings and birthdays, from conceptualizing to organizing and directing the whole program. And then I took the profession into a higher level when I have finally made a way into celebrity shows, which includes promoting and producing shows for our kababayans here in Italy. In the future, I would like to be able to come up with more shows not only in Italy but all over Europe as well. I would like to bring hope, joy and aspirations to OFWs. When I had the chance to infiltrate the corporate world as events consultant for marketing, I still did not forget that my main goal was to acknowledge outstanding Filipinos. So we did Gawad Layag and You’ve Got Talent in different cities like Madrid, Barcelona, Vienna, Rome and Milan to recognize them.

With all the ups and downs that I have been through in my life, I take pride with me to have such wonderful and supportive family. From my parents who undoubtedly gave me the moral support, to my sister who never left my side when I needed her, words are not just enough to express my gratitude.

I attribute all what I have become to them. And now that I am a family man, I dedicate my future endeavors to my wife and to my 1 year old son whom I consider my beacons of light. And to my fellow kababayans, I promise to continue raising the standards of total entertainment and to continue providing quality programs not only to entertain but to uplift and recognize world class Pinoys.

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Roger Esteron Fashion Designer Milan, taly

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came from a large family in Batangas and our income was just enough to get us by. We struggled to afford other things that I had to stop my studies so I can start working to be able to contribute financially. I started working as one of the tailors in a big company at my hometown. However, I needed to work harder to support two families, including my own when I got married last 2005. I used to buy dolls in Manila, dress them up in wedding gowns and sell them at the church in Balayan.

It’s been four years when I traveled the longest journey of my life. I left the country to work as a machine cutter in Slovakia. Since my income was not enough, I decided to join eighteen other fellow Filipinos to take our chances and try our luck in Italy. Crossing the borders was one of the most unforgettable moments. To avoid being caught and possible questioning of authorities, we had to pack up our things in the barracks where we stayed an hour passed midnight on December 24 and waited at the train station until noon for our trip.

Fourteen hours, three stop-over’s and daunting emotions had been creeping inside of us the whole time. I’ve been praying every second, every minute, every hour. Praying gave us hope and confidence throughout our journey. It was Christmas day when I first set foot on Italy.

I felt lost, or maybe rather anxious when I arrived in Italy. I know no one, had no relative and unsure where to go, where to start. With the help of my fellow Filipinos I traveled with, I was introduced to a family who whole-heartedly extended their hospitality and welcomed me in their home. They made me part of the family; I stayed with them for almost a year and never asked anything in return.

Mahirap maging mahirap are the astounding words that invigorated my determination to persevere and succeed so I can help my family back home. Like many of our kababayans, I tried different sorts of job to be able to get by. I remember selling bottled water at the park, longganisa and joining our fellow Filipinos who ventured into domestic work for signora. One time, or maybe it was really God’s perfect timing, when one of the signora I worked for had an old sewing machine. This awakened my desire to create and sew once again. I asked my employer if I could possibly have her old machine in exchange of few days of work. Thank God, she agreed. There started a new chapter in my life – my journey as Corn Tailor began.

In the beginning, I was accepting jeans repair until the spotlight exposed my passion of creating wedding gowns to the public.

I could never be more than proud of seeing my works winning awards in the recent Miss Phil-Italia 2012, from casual wear to long gown, and not to forget, my Filipiniana creation.

As I celebrate my four years in the fashion capital of Europe, Milan, I was once asked, “ano pa ang pinapangarap ng isang Corn Tailor?” Well, I still dream of countless things. One of these is to showcase my creation not just to my fellow Filipinos, but also to the Italians and all other nationalities and say, “I am Corn Tailor, this is my creation, and I am a Filipino!”

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Kriemhild Clements

Au pair Amsterdam, The Netherlands

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grew up in Tondo, Manila. I graduated high school and was in the middle of college when I had to stop.My mom at the time was working in Taiwan so she could only send one of us at a time through school. One year, my kuya (older brother) would go and I would stop. Next year, I would go and then he would stop.

I have an older brother and a younger sister and since we’re so close to each others ages, we all couldn’t go to school at the same time. That’s when I decided to try my luck abroad.

My uncle knew someone in an agency and applied for an au pair visa. The interview with my first Dutch family went well and we agreed that I would go and live with them. I came because I wanted the abroad experience, to enjoy the adventure and I knew I had to do it while I was young. After living with the Dutch family for a year, I told them I was not ready to go home yet. However, they insisted that I had to go back to the Philippines. So three days before I was supposed to go to the airport, I ran away.

After I came to the Netherlands, my mom came back from Taiwan and then I realized, if she was home, who would be sending my siblings to school. So even if I came for the adventure, I stayed because I wanted them to finish their education especially my kuya, since in our culture, my brother will need to provide for his family, he needed a good foundation to do that. He needs to be a college graduate so he can find a good job and be able to take care of his family when the time comes.

I found another Dutch family that took me in but that didn’t last. Eventually, I just became a professional part timer. I have my own hours and I do what I want. I’m much happier for it. Now, I’m a nanny, a domestic helper and an office girl.

Being illegal in The Netherlands is not for the timid. You have to be brave. Before I left the Philippines, I rsearched as much as I could about being an illegal immigrant here. What to expect and what I needed to do in case I got sick. I discovered different organizations like Migrante and MKSP,that are here to help our kababayans when they have problems. Here, they enforce, criminalization, which means, if the police decide to stop me and I have no legal documents, I can be imprisoned for 18 months before being deported. But if you don’t try to enjoy life you, don’t live. Sometimes, I forget that I’m illegal and I do my things normally like riding my bike through the city.

When I first got here, I had a hard time adjusting to their culture.

Dutch people by default are very straight forward. They say what’s on their mind and if something bothers them, or if you made a mistake, they will tell you straight away. Our background always tells us to say yes. Even if at times, we don’t want to comply, we don’t complain and we accept whatever comes our way. It was a shock for me to have to say no to them. I’m still trying and learning to stand up for myself.

Then the Dutch language is extremely difficult. They have 46 letters in their alphabet and after 3 years, I still haven’t learnt to speak it well. The locals are very nice and very patient and they see when I struggle to speak in Dutch, they speak to me in english instead. It’s both a good thing and a bad thing. It’s good because we, in the end, are able to understand each other at the same time, it makes learning the language slow and frustrating as I can’t practice with them.

I’ve already decided that I’ll go home next year. I came here, to earn some money and help my family. Now my brother and sister have both graduated, now, it’s my time.

I also have my own hesitations. Four years is a long time to not see my family even though we talk regularly, but it`s different to be with them again. There is so much freedom and a sense of security you feel here that I don’t have to go back home. There are lots of things I will miss here, it’s not like I’ve made this decision lightly.

A lot of people have already told me, why are you going home to study? What for?

Lots of people have a college degree but they come here anyway, to do what you do. So, now that you’re here, why do you want to go back? I reply, I came from the Philippines and I survived there without a college education. I believe I can do so much more with myself in the Philippines with a degree.

For all the young ones who are here already or those who wish to come, what I would like to share is this: Don’t get too attached to life here, if you don’t have your papers, the reality is, it’s very hard to be a permanent resident. Save money. Think about what you really want from life - your long term goals. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own reason for being here, so don’t let them influence you. Be honest to yourself as to why you’re doing this and stick to it. It’s not easy to be without your papers, it’s half of your freedom gone. If you’ve survived living abroad illegally, you can do a lot more with your life, legally.

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JACQUILINE DE VEGA Babysitter Rome, Italy

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was working as a call center agent in a BPO in Ortigas before my auntie gave me the opportunity to work in Rome. Got my nulla osta in about a year but I stalled for a few months because I was about to apply for a supervisory post. I left for Rome in 2008 with the thought of returning in a year. I never imagined myself leaving Kawit, Cavite but I used to say if I could travel abroad, I’d want to be in Europe especially for its romantic setting. I fell in love - hard. But who would not fall in love in Rome, right? And the fruit of that love was Marcus Johannes.

A 26-week old preemie, he gave my life a new direction, gave me hope that everything would be okay. I ran after the father not for financial support but for the care a father could give to his child. I had read lots of stories about the wonders of touch therapy and thought his touch will somehow make our son better. It was a joy and a burden to see Marcus enclosed in his small shelter, nurtured by tubes. I put on a mask that covered my gnawing anxiety; convincing myself that everything would soon be all right. But the ardor I showered him, the trust I put in him, the love I poured in him was abruptly put to an end.

A short month after his birth, I suddenly received a call from the hospital that Marcus’ condition had gone unexpectedly grave. I prayed like I had never prayed before in my entire life. I entered the hospital shaking and saw my little soldier – so pale, with tubes and monitors everywhere. My heart was broken into million pieces upon seeing him. The following day, I received another call that he was yet again in grave condition. When I arrived, the news that I feared most was confirmed. My little angel passed away due to cardiac arrest after complications he received from the respiratory crisis. There is no way to describe the pain. A good friend even told me that I was unrecognizable when she saw me in a corner, cradling my dead son in my arms.

Fast forward. After the funeral, I received a call from the funeral parlor that Marcus’ body was sequestered by the Carabinieri for autopsy. It appeared that the cause of his death had been vague. Weeks passed waiting for the results. On July 23rd, Marcus’ case was all over the news: Latte in vena, morto un bimbo. (Milk in the veins, infant dead.) Marcus has undergone three autopsies and his earthly body was laid to rest in the Philippines, fifty days after his death. The case, however, is still ongoing, praying that sooner that justice will be served rightfully.

Through all this, I know I made the right decision to continue my pregnancy; even when I knew it would be very hard for a single woman to continue pregnancy abroad, even with relatives here. With so many stories of Pinays resorting to abortion abroad and I am glad I was not one of them. I may not be a saint, but definitely I will never be a murderer.

Being away from my family and struggling to get through these hardships has made me stronger than ever before. They are maybe miles away from me but I know that they are always there to support. This thought is enough to uplift my faith to fight back and pursue Marcus’ case. Always remember to not let your being a foreigner keeps you from getting justice in a foreign land. Know your rights, fight for them. Don’t be afraid to ask for help: I myself was surprised by the overwhelming support of countless people, Filipinos and Italians alike. Above all, never forget Him. He will bring you through everything and grant you many joys as long you look to Him.

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Kim Carandang Make-up Stylist Milan, Italy

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ver since I was a kid, I remember having so much interest with clothes and make up. And when I was still in school I worked as a trainee in one of the best couture shops in the country. That’s how I got so attracted with fashion design. I love the hype and the glam so I pursued my dream of becoming a stylist, a make-up artist and a designer.

But I am a broken soul. My mother died far away from us and I didn’t even have the chance to say how much I love and thank her for everything she has done for us. She’s been working in Italy for so long and so hard just to send us to school and give me and my siblings a comfortable life. I never realized how much she has sacrificed for us until she was gone. It’s been 5 years and every time I think about it I still feel pain, maybe because I have regrets and maybe because I should have taken the chance of reconnecting with my mom, but I did’nt.

The problem of being away from each other is that you get to drift apart even if you know in your heart that no matter what happens she is the only person in this planet who could understand and make everything alright. I didn’t approve of the fact that my mom works abroad and just leave us in the Philippines all by ourselves. It was the reason why we always fight, that is why she decided to come back and stay. It should have been our opportunity to spend quality time with her but I never would have thought that it was going to be the last time I was ever going to see her. I will forever take it in my heart, to linger the pain of losing the most important person in my life.

Letting the years pass by, I was going through each and every day with all the sadness and at times I feel I couldn’t take it anymore. But life has to go on and we all have to do is move forward. I have to think of my brother and sister so I decided to come to Italy and work just like my mom did for us. Being in a fashion capital gives me hope and inspiration to continue and pursue what I left behind. I know I have no choice but to be strong for my family because if I don’t do something nobody else will take over the responsibilities.

So I arrived here, with no family or relative but a friend who helped me start anew. I was willing to do all kinds of job just to make both ends meet. That’s when I started doing hair and makeup for special occasions like weddings and birthdays. I started meeting a lot of people, some have become my friends and some have accepted me as a family. Now I feel so blessed and somehow fills the void of having no one around.

Because of the connection and network, I started having different projects not only for occasions but for different events and shows as well. I would receive call from people and ask for my help and expertise in clothes and make up. I feel proud every time I get to decide for my clients wardrobe during photo shoots and fashion shows. One of my biggest break was Milano fashion week. I was hired to be one of the makeup artist and assistant to the organizer for a Summer-Spring collection. I was very happy because we were published not only by local tabloids but also in the New York post. I really hope to have more projects that will showcase my talent, and to fulfill my lifelong dream to be recognize not only by the Filipino Community but by the European market as well.

I dedicate all the hard work to my family whom I consider my strength and my driving force. I know that even if I am away from them I am able to provide for their needs. I just wish my Mom is here to see me, but even if she’s not here anymore I know she looks upon me and guides me as I continue my journey in life.

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VIVIENNE MELANIE MESIAS Nurse London, UK

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etting to where I am now has been a roller coaster. Being the kind of woman that I am, life has been a series of challenges, questions and adjustments, a journey that began when I was just five years old.

I was born as a boy. But not like any other boys. As a child, I remember playing with a blue umbrella that my sister had. I have always liked girls’ toys.

My friends since elementary school were mostly girls. Some have identified me as gay, but I have always felt different even from my gay friends. It was a confusing time. I had no idea who I was.

Growing up, I recall saying on numerous occasions that I will one day become a woman. But I couldn’t take it seriously at the time. I didn’t know about the possibilities. So I grew up thinking I was gay.

A few years later, in 2000, I moved to the UK. It was a different world. With eager curiosity, I started to hear about gender dysphoria, or transexualism, a complex condition that can be difficult to grasp. I began to understand what it all meant for me.

Gender identity is the gender that you feel you ought to be. Gender dysphoria is a condition that refers to the mismatch between your biological sex and the gender you feel yourself to be. A transexual is someone with strong and long-lasting feelings of gender dysphoria.

It was difficult to live life not knowing who I was, trying to be someone I was not. It was like I have never lived at all. When I was 28, I went to see a psychiatrist in the UK for the first time and my questions were answered. In 2003, I started living full-time as a woman. I now know who I am, and I have never looked back.

I went on to win several beauty pageants: Miss LYC 2003, Miss TS International 2004, Miss Pink Philippines-Dublin 2006, Miss TG Diamond 2011. I also represented the UK in the Miss International Queen-Thailand in 2007. I have always wanted to be a beauty queen - and now I am.

For 28 years, I felt I was dead, like I never existed at all. Years of my life wasted, lost in confusion. I could have met someone special in my early 20s. I could have used make-up. I could have explored everything on offer for a woman. I could have lived my first 28 years a lot happier. Nevertheless, those 28 years have made me stronger, more ambitious, more sensitive - a better person.

I am now living a life I never thought would be possible. I am now able to express the true person that I am, with a respectable job that adds meaning to my life, a boyfriend who has taken me for who I am, and a family who supported me all the way.

My life may not have been smooth. I may have fallen and stumbled many times, wiping away tears from so much pain along way. But it led me to who I am now: a survivor, a better woman. Life is not about who you once were.

It’s about who you have become.

Vivienne Melanie Mesias was raised in Maguindanao as Romie Lou. She is a transexual woman, having completed her full transition from male to female in 2009, following rhinoplasty, breast augmentation and sex reassignment. A graduate of nursing from Notre Dame University in Cotabato City, she worked in Kuwait for five years before moving to the UK in 2000, where she now works as deputy theatre lead at University College London Hospitals. She lives in London with her partner, Darren, whom she has been with for 10 years.

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Noel Duran Videographer Milan, Italy

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was born in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia. I grew up almost half of my life abroad 12 years in the Middle East and 8 years in Milan, Italy - because my father worked for the consulate and embassies. Being a son of a diplomat, it has been a challenge to adjust every time he is posted to different countries. I went to 4 different schools from nursery to 1st year high school. In 1995, my parents decided to send us to the Philippines to finish our education in Manila. It was an eye-opener upon the realization of my parents’ sacrifices to leave us to our aunties for them to work and provide for our future. In return, I made sure that I’ll finish my studies to prove them that their hard earned money will not be put to waste. I may not have been the perfect son but I made sure to avoid all vices. I was fortunate to be surrounded by good friends and relatives who were ready to guide, help and advice to do the right things in life while my parents were away. My father was then assigned to Milan when I graduated from one of the best university in Manila with a degree in from Electronics and Communication Engineering . They wanted me to join them and take the opportunity to work. Being a newly graduate with very high hopes to work in the Philippines I was hesitant to leave the country until they told me that I could earn more if I work in Italy. I agreed.

I arrived in Milan last May 2004 and was thinking that I might able to find a job in line with my course. I was wrong. I tried to apply to various companies but all of them required me to learn the Italian language first. I was left with no choice. With 8 months of no work, I took a dishwashing job in a big restaurant in Como with little help from friends. It was physically, mentally and emotionally tough and hard but I had to do it. This experience started to open my eyes that life after college is not easy especially if you are working abroad. After 2 weeks, I started looking for another job. I had to swallow my pride in order to be more flexible in finding a job and to earn more. I was about accept a work as a cleaner when, with God`s blessing, I was offered by a television network to work with them. I accepted the job and gave all my best to work hard and to be diligent of what I’m doing.

When my father ended his tour of duty in Italy last August 2008, he wanted to return to the Philippines. My parents, sisters and little brother went home but had to stay because of my work. I was bombarded with a lot of challenges since they left and the greatest of all was when my mom died. I was devastated and lost. She has been my advisor and my mentor. She taught me everything from moral values to practicality in life. She was the witty one who was capable of solving difficult problems. The one whose courage and wisdom have been the integral part of all my decisions in life. I owed her a lot and I thought by doing extracurricular activities (conducting workshops, starting to reach out communities and creating business) and following her teachings, in that way, I’ll be able to repay all the things she did to me.

One of my greatest influence also is my father. He taught me also how to be productive, and more importantly, be diplomatic. Frankly speaking, a lot has mistaken me to be snobbish but in truth, I am very shy and laidback by nature. Thru his influence, he helped me to overcome it and took advantage to expand my social connection.

It has never been a smooth sail. There was a time when I was in deep financial crisis that I thought I will no longer resurface from it. I am thankful that I accepted that bad turn as a challenge – a challenge which must be faced wisely and maturely and with God’s guidance too. Everything will not materialize if the perseverance is also missing.

After 7 years of service in the TV company, my business partner and I decided to put up a photo and video business in Milan, Embassy Productions. I am also one of the few people who helped the realization of OFWorld which aims to entertain and be of the service to the OFW globally.

Make yourself surrounded by good and inspiring people, those who can share you great learnings and knowledge in order to be more productive and be respected by many. Every problem you have, remember that you cannot always solve it all by yourself. You have your family who are definitely always ready to help you out. Cherish them and most of all, never forget the Man above. Pray to Him as He truly listens.

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BENEDICT CARANDANG Entrepreneur & Scholar London, UK

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t is a great honour to be given the accolade of Young Global Leader. It is a testament that Filipinos can be as good as the best and brightest of the world. It is an interesting and inspiring network of people who are movers and shakers in their industries.

I was chosen due to my achievements in championing the creative industries in the Philippines, particularly the animation sector, which I have been promoting for the past few years through Tuldok Animations, a studio reflecting the spirit of bayanihan - people working together for a common cause.

Being recognised in the global stage has given me the platform and credibility to convince the Philippine government and other stakeholders to invest in the local creative economy. We need to empower the youth so that we can combine talent and entrepreneurship to create more economic opportunities for our people, and at the same time preserve our culture and heritage.

Hopefully, we can replicate this idea of creative entrepreneurship in other countries as well.

I believe that Filipinos can be the best in whatever situation, especially when we are outside our own country. We can excel more abroad because we are given equal opportunities to succeed by the countries we live in.

I have seized this opportunity myself, having lived in the UK for the past few years pursuing a postgraduate course in business. I was lucky enough to have been given a scholarship by the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office, which allowed me to study abroad and further develop my interests.

The whole experience has exposed me to different cultures from all over the world, creating a network of students aspiring to make a difference in their respective home countries.

My dream is to achieve my full potential as a human being. It is what drives me to succeed. I would love to continue to travel, see the world, and meet interesting and influential people.

Success is not the amount of money you have made, but the positive impact you have on the lives of other people. Success for me is the number of friends and connections I have made, and the experiences I have gained with all my travels. I have learnt that if we become truly genuine and be who we are, doors and opportunities are opened easily.

Benedict Carandang is the founder of Tuldok Animations, a social enterprise promoting animation talent in the Philippines. In 2012, he was named as a Young Global Leader by the World Economic Forum, an annual selection recognising world leaders under the age of 40 from various sectors like business, politics, social work, and the arts. A prolific creative, he was awarded Most Inspiring Young Entrepreneur by the Philippine Center for Entrepreneurship in 2009, and was also recognised at the International Young Screen Entrepreneur Awards in 2008. He studied applied economics and management of financial institutions at De La Salle University in Manila, before moving to London to pursue postgraduate studies as a Chevening scholar. Born in Quezon City and raised in Batangas and Paranaque, he is currently based in the UK finishing his masters in business administration at the University of Westminster.

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BUSHE DELA CUESTA Photographer Rome, Italy

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was born and raised in Taal, Batangas in the Philippines. My parents left me when I was at kinder school at the age of 5 and joined them again after 11 years. I was happy to hear from my parents that one day, I will be given a vacation….and yes - this is a trip to Italy. For me, it was a dream vacation that I was always been curious to see what Europe is all about. Not knowing that the trip they have planned for me is to stay here for family reunion – in short is a petition. At first, I felt cheated and trapped and sooner I began accepting the fact that it nice to reunite with the family to make up for the lost time.

I started working for an Italian couple that treated me like their daughter, they where nice to me and worked unselfishly on all the documents needed to stay in Italy and they also applied for a driver’s license from me. I had been very loyal to my employer as they had been helping me since I started working here In Italy. While working with my employer, I am doing photography. This is one of my dreams to have a DLSR camera to share my crafts to my fellow photographers and appreciate my arts, and I did it. I’ve been joining various contests, workshops and group in order to enhance my skills.

I’m lucky that I am surrounded with good, inspiring and achieving persons.

The moral of my short story are: First, make up the lost times you had with your parents. Second, learn to be thankful always and treat our Italian employers as a family as possible as they will help you along the way. Third, if you have a good paying job in the Philippines, think twice before you go here because it is not that easy to start. Fourth, while you are young and able try to follow your dreams, earn and save as much as you can so that you can secure your future My story may be simple but it may represent so many similar stories of children who were made to believe that it is just a vacation and never go back to a situation where your usual life in the Philippines suddenly stops and a new life in Italy instantly starts. A transition from a comfortable life provided by your parents to a self sufficient individual. Well, as they always say…that is life! Let us face the challenge and make the most of it.

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RALPH ROVERO Fashion Designer London, UK

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feel like I am in the right place at the right time. Being a Filipino designer in the UK, I get to experience other cultures and see things in a different perspective. Watching the whole world come to London for the 2012 Olympics really made me think of where I come from and how much more of the world I want to explore. For me, as a designer, it is very important to take in the new to create new works. This is the best thing about London: every day is different from the last. This city is well known for discovering new talent, and I am really pleased that I get to be in it.

I feel blessed to have been given opportunities to show what I can do. After studying fashion at university, my work has slowly reached the attention of people in fashion, music and the media. My graduate collection, “Who Needs a Superhero?”, has appeared in the British and international press. It even made the front page of the Metro newspaper in London.

My designs also caught the attention of Nicola Formichetti, a well-known stylist working with the likes of Lady Gaga. He got in touch with me about using my designs for one of the best men’s magazines in the world. They flew my pieces to New York for a photoshoot and were later published.

From that point, it felt like people in the fashion industry are taking me more seriously as a designer and a talent to watch out for.

Soon after, I was handpicked to join a fashion series on national British television, showcasing new designs and dressing up international popstars while competing against upcoming designers. To be given a platform for the whole world to see my work is the best possible opportunity I could ever have. All of the other contestants were so different from each other and that made the whole journey even more special. Even though we were all competing against each other, we all felt each other’s support and expectations to be the best that we can be. It made me want to compete even harder and to perform better than ever. The show has really helped define the direction of where I want to go with my career.

There are, of course, many challenges to living the dream. At the moment, I am wishing for more hours in the day to get everything done: from organising photoshoots, finishing sewing samples for new collections and other creative projects, to keeping a full-time job seven days a week to fund my designs. All of this takes time and care, but mostly time. I just wish there is more of it. But I never complain about how much work I have on, because as they say about life: ‘If you’re not tired, you’re not doing it right’.

Being an overseas Filipino, I have learnt that hard work definitely pays off.

You get to learn the blessings that you get given. What motivates me the most is actually doing what I love doing. I am personally happy when I am busy with my career and working my way towards the best life I can have for myself, my family and my friends.

Living in the UK as a Filipino designer has given me a chance to represent not only myself as a creative, but also my country for its varied talents. We, as a nation, have great doctors and nurses, but I believe we are also a country full of creativity, passion and imagination. We always aim to inspire and I, for one, would like to set a good example.

Ralph Rovero was born in Pangasinan and raised in the UK. A graduate of fashion design in menswear from the University of Westminster, he recently appeared as a promising young designer in a reality documentary series on British television. Based in London, he runs his own independent fashion label, I AM. RALPH, designing streetwear inspired by superheroes, comic books and artists. His designs have been featured on various publications including GQ Style and Vogue Homme Japan.

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PAUL CABRAL Restaurant Owner Milan, Italy 1990, it was the first time I ever set foot on a big and beautiful kitchen at some luxurious restaurant in Southern Italy. I was assigned to work as a dishwasher. My employer told me that it took him 12 years before he was able to put up his own restaurant and he started out washing the dishes as well. Since then, that thought has inspired me and motivated me to take on every experience so I could use it as my weapon to fulfill something in the future. I believed that regardless of nationality, social status and background, if someone thrives to achieve something and works hard for it, he will definitely get it.

I was passionately happy with my work. It was a decent job and I really enjoyed doing it. It also gave me a chance to see how it really works running that kind of business. I’ve tried to learn every detail, every process and every pattern of all the persons involved inside that restaurant. That eagerness and interest gave me an opportunity to be promoted as an assistant to the head chef. Sadly after 4 years, I decided to quit my job taking with me all the learning and knowledge that I have learned from everyone I have worked with. I left because I wanted to try something new and I wanted a new environment.

1994, Milan. I got a new job as an assistant to a chef who used to work for Queen Elizabeth. Unfortunately, after couple of months I had to look for another job because the owners at that time were having financial problems.

I started scouting for another job and found myself applying in a little but very cozy restaurant just a little outside Milan. The owner was having a hard time since the business partner/cook couldn’t keep up with the clients and his expertise could not meet the demands. They asked me if I could do the job, and I just said “I am equipped with experience and dedication, I can definitely do the job.” To cut the story short, I was hired. Later on, they have decided to part ways and at that time I was starting to evaluate the situation.

I felt that I needed to go to the next level and finally fulfill a lifelong dream.

I know I was ready to handle and manage the restaurant business already.

Call it luck or fate, but the owner just didn’t seem to have the drive anymore and with the turn of events I ended up buying the rights and the license to operate and became the sole owner of that restaurant.

It was a tough a decision, but it was instilled to me that if someone was able to do it, so could I. So with courage and determination, I did what I had to do. After my contract expired, I needed to find a new place for the restaurant. I know I have been guided to be where I should be and my faith keeps me focused. So I searched everywhere until I found a new location for the business and it was 10 times bigger from the previous one. At first I was a bit reluctant since I was dealing with a big amount of money for the investment. I almost lost hope because I never heard from the bank if they have approved my loan. After one year of running the new restaurant, I finally got an answer regarding my loan and the bank didn’t give me the entire amount that I wanted. So I made a deal with the owners without going to so much trouble with the lawyers because I know I might be sued for breach of contract. It’s safe to say that we all have compromised and decided to meet half-way. It’s been four years now and by January I am happy to say that I am debt-free and have fully paid the place. My hard work and determination paid off and I feel contented and fulfilled to run my own restaurant together with my wife and kids.

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allan Orio Food & Beverage Manager Malta

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wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. I just wanted a simple life. My father came from Abra and my mother was from Ilocos Norte. They met in Manila and started our family. I was the fourth of seven siblings.

My dad always dreamed of going abroad with its promise of a better life, but despite his best efforts it wasn’t meant to be. One day, my mother met a clairvoyant who told her that four of her children will eventually work abroad. The prophecy proved itself to be true, with two of my sisters and my elder brother ending up working overseas. I was the fourth.

Before I left the Philippines, at a much too early age, I fell in love, got married and had a child. At the same time I worked and gained experience in the restaurant trade, working for different establishments from Kimpura Greenhills to Mandarin Villa. The marriage, however, didn’t work out and I eventually found an opportunity to go abroad and pursue what my father had dreamed of.

I first worked at a military base in Saudi Arabia in 1991. It was the Gulf War, and I was working in a canteen feeding soldiers in a unit I would describe as McDonald’s in a cargo container. It was an unstable time for the region, but I lasted for two years, supporting my child and my family left behind in the Philippines.

I then found myself in Kuwait working for Le Meridien Hotel as a waiter. I worked hard at my job and was eventually promoted as manager of the restaurant. I was lucky enough to be mentored by a French colleague, Harold, also a manager, who treated me as a brother and taught me almost everything I know in this business. He was later offered a job in Oman and offered to take me with him to start afresh in a new place with better opportunities. I took on the challenge, working at the Al Busta Palace Hotel, where I had the honour of serving and meeting then Philippine President Fidel V. Ramos during his visit in the country. It was an experience I will never forget.

A few years later, in 2000, my friend Harold once again offered me another opportunity I could not refuse. Harold, who ended up marrying a Filipina, had always been very kind to me. He has worked with Filipinos before and saw our potential. He knew he could trust us to work hard and to do our best in everything. I was grateful for his help and I didn’t want to let him - and our nation - down.

And so I moved to Dubai working for Royal Mirage Hotel as an assistant restaurant manager, serving Formula 1 driver Michael Schumacher and a host of Hollywood celebrities. There I learnt even more about the restaurant business, from mixing drinks and making sauces to recognising the best wines. I also learnt to embrace different cultures, living and working alongside people from India, Pakistan, Egypt, Lebanon, Nepal, and several European countries.

After gaining some experience in the UAE, I started to explore possibilities in the US. I almost had my chance, with an opportunity to work in Florida, until the terrorist attack in New York happened on September 11, 2011. America decided to close its borders and had frozen hiring policies from overseas at the time. That was the end of my American dream.

Eventually I ended up in the mediterranean island of Malta, where I was offered a job to lead a stylish Asian restaurant set up by colleagues I have met in Dubai, Erika Cassar from Malta and George Rouvelas from Greece. Erika and George saw my potential and offered me a role in their new venture, which I have accepted.

It was a great opportunity. I made it to Europe. I started as a waiter all those years ago, but now I am ready to be a restaurant manager. I wanted to prove myself, but it wasn’t easy at first. We needed to get everything ready for the big launch. We had tight deadlines and I had to manage a team of new staff. I gave it my all. I used everything I have learnt and passed it on to our staff. It was an uphill struggle from the start. Most restaurants in Malta shut down after only two to four years. But I told myself that I will do everything in my power to avoid this. A decade later, the restaurant I helped create has become one of the best places to dine in Malta, gathering a number of awards along the way. I also survived in Malta, now a manager at a boutique hotel and running a number of popular restaurants.

The road to every triumph is filled with trials. We need to rise up to the challenge and keep going. You can’t have everything in life, my marriage failed after all, but I am grateful for all the other blessings I have had, including my child and my career. I have worked so hard to get to where I am now, and I will never forget the main reason why I am doing this: my family.

I will be forever grateful to God, and to every single person who have helped me along the way. I remain in touch with many of those people, and they will remain part of my life and of every success I make. I am proud of my achievements as an overseas Filipino. Nothing is impossible if we believe, dream and work hard. Iba talaga ang Pinoy.

Allan Orio hails from Marikina. He worked in the restaurant trade in the Philippines, Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, Oman and Dubai, before moving to Malta in 2003 to help launch a new Asian restaurant. He is currently the food and beverage manager at Hotel Juliani in the charming coastal town of St Julian’s, where he runs the award-winning Zest restaurant and the stylish Cafe Juliani.

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JANETTE LACUIN Businesswoman / Caregiver Torino, Italy

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y husband and I opened a small sushi takeout place two years ago, together with another Pinoy business partner. The business did well, later becoming the restaurant that it now is. In November last year, we parted ways with our business partner and now we manage the business on our own. The restaurant is unmistakably Japanese and it promises nothing less than its name: Oishi, meaning delicious.

As husband and wife and incidental business partners, I can say we have a great working relationship. He runs the kitchen, preparing the food and managing the other cooks. I am the more visible one, taking customer orders, manning the cash register, and attending to guests. Our daughter, Iana, also helps out at the restaurant. She is the only child and our daily inspiration.

The family business is also a 100 % Pinoy business as everyone helping run the place are all Filipinos.

The restaurant has all your favorite Japanese foods. The sushi is always fresh. The tempura has a light, crisp coating without the grease. The udon captures the Japanese flavor, and the chicken teriyaki has just the right kind of sweetness. The restaurant also has the inside-out roll, the Uramaki. If you visit our restaurant, don’t forget to order the Uramaki, it is to die for.

The way I devote my time and energy to attend to our many customers, you’d be probably be surprised that running the restaurant is just my second job. My main profession is as a caregiver, but I’m grateful that I am able to find a way to balance the restaurant with my ‘main’ job. The place has given me satisfaction, and more importantly, time well spent with her family.

I hope that the family business will serve as inspiration to other Filipinos.

Even if you are currently working as a caregiver, cleaner or helper, you can use your free time to improve yourself and do something productive.

My advice for our fellow Filipinos is this: Whatever your passion is, whether it’s cutting hair or sewing dresses or creating artwork, pursue it! It might even give you extra income.

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Charito Basa Founder/Vice Chairman, The Filipino Women’s Council, Italy Rome, Italy

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ver the long haul, I worked hard against poverty back in Mindoro. As the eldest daughter from a poor family in Mindoro, I learned to provide the needs of my family and also my own schooling by selling candies, bananas and sweepstakes tickets. My family’s ample resources for basic needs are hardly enough for all of us to get us through the day. Consider me lucky that I have these cool friends and classmates who shared basic school needs with me to the point of buying my own notebooks and books like what my best friend, Bing Estrada, did. However, tertiary education was impossible for me, I ended up finishing only one semester of secretarial course. I took baby-sitting jobs and helped my mother do the laundry for rich neighbors.

I decided to be a working student and went to Manila. Backed up with a bare typing and stenography skills, I was signed for a clerical position for the Philippine Coconut Authority (PCA). This is where I learned my basic education on public relations and at the same time, from this office I was able to finish my tertiary education in Philippine Women’s University with an Economics degree. I still managed to help my family back in Mindoro by providing what meager wage was left to me. After college, I met Girlie Villariba - former director of Centre for Women’s Resources - and her partner Ed dela Torre who helped shaped my socio-political awareness and thus the start to pursue my own contribution to social justice causes to humanity.

I migrated to Rome, Italy in 1986 through the help of my Aunt with a vision to work as a domestic helper, just like any other Filipinos do at that time. Overseas employment was difficult yet I braved my way with the hopes to provide well for my family, even if that means I have to work as TNT or an undocumented worker. With the turn of events, I instead found work for Isis International which revolutionizing its circuitry of women’s movement at a global level. I became the publications assistant to the Editor of Isis Publications. After 2 months, a general amnesty for undocumented migrants was passed and I got documented. All the blessings that have been thrown at me by the One above were in such short of a time that I hardly believed it has all been happening to me. And all this was just the beginning of my involvement to the women’s movement and NGOs. I eventually got involved in organizations such as Kaisahan ng mga Manggagawang Pilipino sa Italya (KAMPI), Society for International Development (SID), and The Foundation for a Compassionate Society. All of which built and re-shaped my perspective about being a woman, feminism, living in outside your native land, situation of migrants especially women’s issues, etc.

Amidst the stature of activism in my life in Italy, I met my husband Massimo. Not only he became my personal Italian language teacher but also he thought me everything I must know in Italian politics. When it comes to the migrants’ cause, he never fails to suggest the ideas that could be helpful on the policy of migrant issues. He has always been very supportive of me and always by my side throughout all my struggles and in my organizing works.

Together with 10 Filipinas, we formed the Filipino Women’s Council in 1991. Our aim was to help migrant women to know and uphold their rights, to uplift and empower them and to raise awareness of the many global issues about women and migration. We also provided shelter and psychological support through referral to service institutions to the Filipinas who were the victims of violence, discrimination and sexual exploitation. We participated in various advocacy and lobby works is at European level, with contributions to the policy works of NGO and at various UN & international conferences on migration and development. FWC’s recent projects include “Maximizing the Gains and Minimizing the Social cost of Overseas Migration in the Philippines” where in to build the capacity of migrant Filipinos in Italy and their families in the Philippines to address both their economic and family issues brought about migration.

In 1992, I helped form Babaylan – a Philippine women’s network in Europe – focused in organizing training programs to empower the Filipino women living and working in Europe. With Jing de la Rosa’s support, she helped me transform my voluntary works into a professional one in the later years. With the support of international organizations, we were involved in community action research works including the recently published study on ‘International Migration and Over-indebtedness: The Case of Filipino Workers in Italy’ which has warranted support from the International Institute for Environment and Development in the United Kingdom.

It was the year 2000 when all of my work has paid off. I was overwhelmed when I received Italy’s illustrious bestowal of recognition – the Cavaliere Award! The Cavaliere della Repubblica, (the Knight of the Republic), an Order to the Merit of the Italian Republic, was granted to me by the then President Carlo Azeglio Ciampi in 2002.

The pleasure it brings to myself and as for the people I have helped that I am not here just for myself but I am here to serve for others. Being a Cavaliere della Repubblica instilled that obligation to me. I might have made big sacrifices in reaching where I am now but I regret none of taking these sacrifices for I know that along the hardship in getting through all those struggles, the contentment 82 will be immeasurable.

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y story is just simple that may be a good example of what a son should be. I am not saying that I am a perfect son but trying one’s best is the best gift to your parents.

I was born and raised in Manila. My parents left me and my brother when I was a child doing what most parents would do to give their families a greener pasture and for them, they chose Italy to be their destination. My dad, by the way, is a pastor in our community and I remember going with him to evangelize when I was a little kid. Unfortunately, when I was 9, my dad had a fatal accident in Rome leaving my mom alone to raise me and my brother.

I moved to Italy when my mother petitioned me when I was 17. I never had an idea what life would be when I learned that I am joining her in Europe.

I know that she worked hard and alone for the longest years to support us and that made me decide easily to join her as I want to accompany and give her the needed moral support.

When I arrived in Italy, everything is new to me but what struck me most is when I saw my mom wearing an apron in her workplace and discovered that she was working as a domestic helper which really broke my heart.

This is where I felt that you will really do sacrifices just to raise money to support your family. Given that this is a major shock for me, I said to my self that the more I should be there for her and be a good son to her especially, my dad is not with us anymore.

I had been looking for a father, at least someone who can guide and have simple chat of what fathers usually do with their kids. The last time I felt of having one is still when I was a child. I remember him as a happy person.

I realize that now after joining my mom in Italy…..It is difficult not to have a dad….. and the more I felt sorry for my mom as it may be more difficult to work and raise a family alone without a husband. Given this reflections in my life, I become more mature and firm with my mission and that is to be a good son in order to make up in the absence of my dad --the least I could do is to make my mom happy.

I tried doing various jobs like baby sitter, warehouse stockman, bellboy, hotel receptionist and even worked for a pharmacy. I would really do any job to support and help my mom as I don’t want to be a burden for her.

My advice to the other kids that never grew up with their parents and joined them for the reason of petition is that, please realize what our parents sacrificed to raise us. They opt not to see us grow just to provide us a comfortable life. I am sure it also breaks their hearts to leave us behind and the only thing we can give back to them is the assurance that the child they left behind grew up recognizing their sacrifices. Another gift that we can give them is simply making them happy rather than giving them problems – make up for the lost time until we can. I didn’t have the chance to show my dad my appreciation…but at least I still have the chance to show the good things to my mom and I know my dad will be happy as he looks over us in our daily lives!

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AGNES PEDROSA MARELID T

he view from the bathroom window upstairs gave me nothing but bleak, cold, dreary and monotonous picture. The grass was now covered with snowdrops.

Sadly, it will be like this for next 5 months. There was no green in sight. Everything outside whispered solitude. I found myself in hopeless sighs. Life was then filled with diapers, constant running after the children, sleepless nights with teething children, household cleaning and a life of incurable homesickness. All this added by compulsory bundling up of thick bulky winter gear, a cumbersome task one has to endure most months of the year, made me wonder, “Why did I ever decide to live in this unforgiving place? I felt that it must have been the longest winter of discontent as I had been depressed far too long. “This can’t be the life I wanted”, I said as I started fighting back the tears. Many of us living abroad go through tunnels and tunnels of self-reflection. “Had it been better if I had stayed in the Philippines? I might have been struggling there but I’d be happier being with family and friends”.

A Brazilian Japanese friend of mine I’ve met in our neighborhood once said to me. “When you have made a decision that was yours all the way - your decision and not someone else’s – you will have to stick to your guns. In short, you have to fight for that decision regardless of the consequences that come its way”. I think that the very moment I heard those words, I knew then that nothing could change the arctic setting, nothing could cure homesickness and nothing would change or would ever change if I didn’t start changing myself.

My name is Agnes Pedrosa Marelid. I am a survivor of loneliness in a strange land with harsh Scandinavian climate.

Stockholm would have been perfect with its delightful summers but when winter comes, it drains every energy left of me, and draws me to loneliness. But I decided that Sweden was my new home. I decided that in order for me to enjoy my stay in Sweden - apart from being a mother of two young children and a wife to a wonderful and supportive, tall and blue-eyed Swede (him being the reason for my move to Sweden in the first place) - I had to count my blessings, get out of my rotten nature and get myself together by trying to find a greater purpose of living.

Through a Filipina friend I worked with at the Philippine Airlines in Stockholm, I joined a non-profit, cause-oriented organization called FILIPINA that champions in helping women fight for their rights. FILIPINA has tie-ups with government organizations, immigration as well as airtime on the local radio. It brings Filipinas in Sweden together and builds a beautiful community of women helping each other. FILIPINA raises funds for calamities in the Philippines. It even offers private homes as a safe house for runaway women. You just can’t turn a blind eye once you see people in need. It haunts me in the night how much work can be done while the rest of us, act unabashed and unperturbed. I am grateful for

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my family’s understanding, during those snowstorms when they had to drive me to attend community activities and those times I was away from home doing fundraising. I know I owe my success in community work to my neighborhood friends in our little town Trångsund who helped me make my life easier, my Filipino friends who believed in me, and mostly to my husband and my children for their unfaltering support as it was them who suffered in my absence, who had to share their time with me for those who are in greater need. With community work, I realized I was a happier person. I had a purpose in life.

Because of my active presence in the community, ABS CBN offered me a stint as a TV correspondent for Balitang Europe. It was one of the most enjoyable jobs and fulfilling endeavors I have had in my life. It is to this very day what I call “service to the Filipino people”. One might think that it is very tough to juggle work, run a household and be active in the community but when we do something from the heart, for God and simply for goodness sake, you get an uplifting spirit, a pair of wings to go on and on. Through community work, I learned to understand why there is a need for Filipinos to huddle together and connect, even in a strange land. It gave me a realization that Filipinos, wherever they are, will always build a sense of collectivism. It nourishes them and cures them from homesickness.

We were able to stage successful concerts and events that made the Filipinos in Sweden connect, smile and laugh and feel that they were home once again. I look at myself and notice how much I have changed since I moved to Sweden.

Nothing else can make you more patriotic when you are separated from your homeland. I don’t remember wearing “patadyong” or a Filipiniana back in the Philippines. Yet now, I wear it with pride and even went to the extent of going around the streets of Stockholm with the outfit during the well-attended Asian Festival that Merose Brual from FILIPINA and I produced. I love promoting the Philippines. I always have a Department Tourism leaflet in my bag, my speech ready, quick anecdotes and my Filipino jokes for cocktail parties. Perhaps I am a little tourism ambassador. Recently, I have been spreading a good word for the Philippine fashion using organic materials such as pineapple and banana fiber in collaboration with Filipino designers.

The last time I looked outside a window on a dreary and foggy day in Sweden, loneliness pinched me but I never felt solitude again. Today, the family has relocated to another challenging climate: the desert of United Arab Emirates. From wintry Scandinavia to hot scorching desert, I am fearless. I may not be able to climb mountains or cross an ocean but I know I can evolve and be a catalyst of change.

Your single chance to live a life is nothing if you live it for yourself alone.

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VALERI VALERIANO Cake Entrepreneur London, UK

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t was a sweet accident. On Mother’s Day 2011, me and my friend Christina wanted to give something special to two of our friends whom we consider our ‘second mums’. Living away from the Philippines can be tough, but we have been blessed with good friends who support us and we wanted to show our appreciation. We thought of cooking pansit or adobo but ended up deciding to bake something. And so I scoured the internet and stumbled on a tutorial about making a sunflower cupcake using a ziploc bag improvise. We taught ourselves how to make buttercream cakes and realised that we are rather good at it. We discovered a passion, and we haven’t stopped since.

Soon after, with encouragement from friends, we started a baking business providing specially-made cakes designed with buttercream. We made everything by hand and designed every little detail ourselves. Buttercream is made of butter and icing sugar. It’s delicious and soft, but very hard to manage. We wanted to rediscover this forgotten art and reintroduce it to the world with a little twist of our own. Instead of only sticking to traditional designs like flowers and swirls, we wanted to do something new.

We took inspiration from anything nice. If you open your eyes to your surroundings, you will realise that there are a lot of things you can use. We found designs and patterns from everywhere, from a shirt to a print on an apron. We took photos of everything we found and created our own designs from there. We turned beautiful things into edible art.

It was challenging at first, but it’s just like any new start. We had to learn everything quickly and, to top it all, we were doing it in a foreign land. We had to sell our cakes and conduct demonstrations to foreigners. It was tricky at first, but we got through it. We have met a lot of people since and we eventually got used to it.

Christina, my bestfriend and business partner, always say: “We need to be different from the rest, otherwise we’ll be eaten alive, especially here in the UK where everyone is good at what they do. We have to stay one level ahead of everyone, and always aspire to do something that nobody has done before.”

When we started, however, no one was answering any of our emails. No one paid any attention to us. It was very quiet. We used to send letters to everybody, and we literally mean everybody - hundreds of people. We wanted to show everyone what we can do.

We even offered our cakes for free. But after some hard work and determination, people now come to us and they even pay us to do what we do. It’s a blessing and a bonus.

A year on, our little business continues to grow.

It slowly found its own popularity which has also boosted our confidence. On our part, we want to make sure that we know what we’re doing, especially when we’re talking about our work to other people. We continue to strive for improvement and development, to be better than before, so people can always look forward to something new from us. Our aim is simple: to spread buttercream love. We want to revive buttercream as an art and we would like to teach people how do it themselves.

Our nursing background, different as it may seem, helped us a lot. If you are looking after people you don’t know, you need to have the passion and the love to take care of them. The same goes with cakes. It can be hard to handle at first, but if don’t have the love and the passion, you will just give up.

We are happy with what we have achieved so far. We are over the moon. It has been overwhelming at times, but we can’t complain.

It’s nice to wake up everyday and hear good things from our clients who appreciate our work. We continue to innovate in what we do. If you started on something, be it a business or a hobby, don’t just settle from what’s already there. Be resourceful. Be creative. Appreciate beauty around you, and turn it into something different. And with a little patience, passion and love, you will succeed.

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Valeri Valeriano created Queen of Hearts Couture Cakes with her bestfriend and business partner Christina Ong. Nurses by profession, together they design and bake special cakes using buttercream for clients around the world. Having been featured in the media, their creations have been showcased in major baking shows in the UK, including Cake International, The National Wedding Show, and Food Spectacular by the Experimental Food Society, picking up a handful of awards along the way. Established in 2011, their business offers bespoke cake services as well as baking lessons and masterclasses in the art of buttercream.

ELIJA PAUL VILLANUEVA Caregiver & Photographer London, UK

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grew up in the Philippines with a very practical upbringing. My father was a driver while my mother earned a little from a small business. Life was never easy. My father decided to go abroad to sustain the needs of our family. He started to dream big. But, as luck would have it, he was the victim of illegal recruitment and was immediately sent home. To make matters worse, he suffered from a severe illness and needed heavy medication. This became my motivation.

Seeing my family go through all this has made me determined to work hard and to pull them out of poverty.

I was lucky enough to have aunties who supported my education, finishing secondary level at an exclusive private school for boys, Aquinas School in San Juan, where I was also a scholar of the Dominican Order. I studied hard at school and was active with extra-curricular activities. I was a varsity player, a council president, a theatre actor, and was even involved in music and the arts. I was grateful for the opportunities and support that I wanted to graduate with flying colours. And I did.

I worked just at hard in college where I studied nursing. To support my studies, I applied for government scholarships, worked part-time in a call-center, and even worked as an extra on a few commercial shoots. I am also interested in business and, at the time, started selling mobile phone accessories, ending up with my own small store for school supplies.

As a student, I was engaged in social functions and activities for youth all over the country. I was even featured on television at one point, and became an anchor at AFP radio station through the Confederation of Student Governments of the Philippines. I also represented the country at an international youth event in Korea, meeting and mixing with high government officials through the National Youth Commission Philippines. I was then selected as a leader out of 22 candidates.

Despite a busy schedule, I managed to maintain a good scholastic standing. I graduated cum laude with several awards, and I soon received my license as a nurse. I then moved to the UK at the age of 21 to try my luck abroad, where I now continue to work hard to support myself and my family. I have also recently started campaigning for my younger sister, Myla, who was diagnosed with cancer, by raising funds and awareness through events and social media.

She has become an inspiration through her steadfast spirit and positive attitude in the face of illness.

It is important to support other people too. I continue to help youth charities and events in the Philippines, and I always try to find time to reach out to anyone in need. I also engage with different Filipino organisations in the UK to explore life, meet people and help out. It’s my little way of expressing gratitude to those who have helped me in the past.

Poverty is never a hindrance to success. All we need is the will to work hard, the courage to take risks, and the audacity to go beyond the limits.

Elija Paul Villanueva hails from San Juan City. A graduate of nursing from Dominican College in the Philippines, he works as a licensed nurse in the UK while pursuing his passion for photography. He recently launched his solo photo exhibit, “Kulay”, at the Philippine Cultural Centre in London, in aid of his sister’s battle for cancer. An active member of the overseas Filipino community, he won the title of Mr Philippines UK in 2011, and is currently hosting an online radio show about the lives of Filipinos abroad. He is also pursuing a degree in business management.

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MAE MAGNAYE WILLIAMS Food Entrepreneur London, UK

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am very proud of my Filipino background and had the privilege of growing up in the Philippines. I was born in Manila but spent most of my childhood in Leyte, before moving to the UK in 1999, at the age of 14, with my mother and younger sister.

I have done a lot since arriving in this country. I went to school, became a British Citizen, got married, and gave birth to two beautiful daughters. I have also worked hard. In 2007, I co-founded Philippine Generations, a not-for-profit charitable organisation promoting the Philippines and helping young Filipinos - children of migrant workers like myself - to be better connected with their heritage.

Culture is vital for anyone leaving one country and moving to another. Being involved in a movement like Philippine Generations helps me feel like I am making a difference to my community, making it easier for my children to be a Filipino here in England. Part of that is helping them feel confident in their identity both in the UK and in the Philippines.

The most visible and, in my opinion, most enjoyable part of anybody’s culture is food.

Every time I missed the Philippines, I have found comfort in cooking and eating Filipino dishes. That is how I ended up with my own online cooking show featuring Philippine food. And in 2008, through Philippine Generations, we were approached by a production company looking to showcase Philippine cuisine. It led to an appearance on UKTV Food’s New British Kitchen, in which I took broadcaster Hardeep Singh Kohli in search of Philippine food around London, introducing different kinds of dishes from our country. I also cooked live at their studio, in front of restauranteur John Torode of MasterChef fame, showing the British nation how to make sinigang and lumpia. It was a life changing moment, and I realised my calling. I saw myself as an ambassador of Philippine cuisine in the UK, a natural combination of my love for cooking and my culture.

A few years later, in 2011, I established Pepe’s Kitchen, a business that aims to bring indigenous traditions of the Philippines into the 21st century by serving up traditional home-cooked Filipino food with a modern twist.

As owner and chef, we offer cookery classes and catering services, proving high quality food to clients ranging from corporate to private functions, including the Philippine Embassy and the Philippine Department of Tourism in London. At various events, I have created Philippine canapés ranging from adobo pate on crackers, to menudo served in puff pastry. These subtle combinations of East and West set my food apart, which I have cultivated for many years.

I started cooking from a very young age, a great passion that comes from my father, Jose ‘Pepe’ Papio Magnaye. Growing up with my father in the Philippines, I learnt to prepare and cook traditional meals. Every time he cooked, he would always ask me to help prepare ingredients and I would watch him create each dish from scratch. I loved every minute of it and enjoyed the food even more. In January 2011, my father died of cancer in his home province of Batangas. It affected me a lot. My father was the one person I looked up to, and I wanted to do something to celebrate him. Pepe’s Kitchen is his legacy.

Mae Magnaye Williams runs her own food business, Pepe’s Kitchen, offering catering services and cookery classes. A keen cook and food lover, she champions Philippine cuisine through her online cooking show “Filipino Food by Mae”. She studied business and IT at college before setting up a consultancy start-up focusing on business media and development through multimedia marketing and design. An active member of the Filipino community, she is co-founder of Philippine Generations, an educational and cultural organisation promoting Filipino heritage. She lives in London with her husband, Adrian, and their two daughters, Bella Michelle and Eliza Marie.

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JUNJUN MEDRAN Award-Winning Nurse Brighton, UK

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t took a little while to sink in. I kept thinking of what it meant. It was not just for me, of course, but for every hard working Filipino nurse around the world. But is this a dream? Poking myself for a reality check, I finally realised what was happening. I have won.

I jumped in tears. It was amazing to be chosen from hundreds of nominees, most of whom were British.

And when the day came to collect the award, I couldn’t help but think how significant this would be to Filipino nurses who are just like me. Karangalan ng isa, karangalan ng lahat.

It was my mother who introduced me to the idea of nursing. She was a teacher, but very much a frustrated nurse. She hoped her children would fulfill her life-long dream. So here we are, all four of her children - nurses. And I can’t thank her enough.

There is no secret of being a good nurse. Just be yourself and give each patient the utmost respect and unconditional care. Hospitals have been my second home for the past 20 years, so I figured I should treat everyone like I would my parents - family.

My father used to say: “If the work is worth doing, it is worth doing with a smile.” So I’m always smiling. I never get stressed, because my work is not work at all. Not to me. I see it as as a mission, a purpose, where everyone is treated equally regardless of race, social status, or age.

All this started in the Philippines. I spent a few years in college training as a nurse, eventually practicing in the public health sector for eight years. I had a very simple life. If I’m not at hospitals, I was with family and friends playing basketball or dabbling in car mechanics. But I have always wanted to go abroad. It was my dream. And in September 1999, after patiently waiting and working hard, I got my chance - to work in the UK. Good things really come to those who wait.

But even good things come with challenges. Being away from home was difficult at the start, especially because I was close to my family. I was so scared. I was anxious of discrimination, of the culture shock that laid ahead. The first three months were the hardest. Homesickness, a foreign culture, and a different climate were all hard to swallow. Though I need not have worried. I will always miss home, of course, but through the help of friendly British colleagues, everything became easy and bearable. We need to experience things, meet different people and learn from mistakes, not only of your own but of others too.

My motivation in life is my family. My wife, my kids, my parents, my siblings, my friends and my patients - these are the people that fuel my energy, to get going and do my best in everything. I have always wanted my life to mean something. I want to leave a mark in everything I do and with everyone I meet, even if I may not have another opportunity to ever meet them again. I want to pursue my dreams, to live my life and have no regrets. I want to have stories for my children, my grandchildren and their children. That is what it’s all about.

My family is my success. Anything good beyond that is a bonus. I always feel so strong knowing that they believe in me, to have them beside me in all my endeavors. And no matter what happens in life, I always feel like a winner because my family is the only trophy I really need.

Junjun Medran was awarded UK Nurse of the Year in 2011. Born in Oriental Mindoro, he studied at Arellano University in Manila before working at the Philippine Heart Centre and Lung Centre of the Philippines. Now based in Brighton, he works as a Clinical Charge Nurse at the Royal Sussex Hospital. He lives with his wife, Cindy, also a nurse, and their three children: Mika, Thea, and Theodore.

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MADONNA DECENA Singer Manila, Philippines

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acrifices have to be made even if they are painful. It’s hard to make money but we all need financial stability. This is why most Filipinos are forced to go abroad: to seek a better life, a brighter future for our loved ones back home. My own journey is much the same.

I arrived in England as a student, where I also worked part-time in food retail, often for 12 hours straight. Not all overseas Filipinos have a perfect life abroad. I was one of those who had to drag their feet home after a graveyard shift. I didn’t even have enough money for a taxi when most buses had stopped running late at night.

And so I walked, mostly in cold weather, after every long day of hard work and studies. I wasn’t one of the lucky ones. I’ve dealt with every problem imaginable for a migrant: legal issues, employers refusing to pay wages, people stabbing me on the back. I faced all these and more, on my own.

All that time I just wanted to sing professionally, my passion, but my visa would not allow me. Luckily, with help from some friends, I found a way to change my papers and soon started singing all over the UK. Bookings were slow at first, much lower than I was hoping for. It was average. It was tough. A little TV exposure, I thought at the time, could improve things for me. It was a simple idea that would change my life.

One evening, I went to a karaoke bar rumoured to have some talent scouts for a reality show. I was ready to show them what I can do. But before I could even sing a note, they packed up their stuff and left. I was not ready to give up, so I ran after the scouts to introduce myself and gave them my card. I think they were stunned by my audacity to approach them. “What’s in it for you?

Are you a singer?” they asked. And I said yes.

The next thing I know, I was standing in a long queue to audition for Britain’s Got was a cold and drizzly morning, standing and waiting for several hours for just minutes in the spotlight. I was confused. I didn’t really know what the show about, except that it’s a talent search for different acts vying for a chance perform for the Queen of England.

Backstage, waiting for my moment, I could hear buzzers, harsh comments, boos and cheers. I didn’t even know that Simon Cowell will be there to judge me. It was exciting and stressful, but I knew it was a big opportunity. And so I went on stage and did what I had to do. It was hard to sing at the first. I couldn’t breathe. But I held it together when I spoke about my daughters in the Philippines, how I longed to give them a better life. My audition went alright in the end, but I never expected it to be a hit.

Soon after I was all over the media: TV, radio, newspapers. I even made it to the front page of some local papers. I was invited to perform everywhere, from barrio fiestas around the UK to concerts of well-known artists. It was surreal. There were clips of me on YouTube seen by millions around the world including the Philippines. It was all too much. I wasn’t prepared for it, but I found my way eventually.

In 2009, I met Manny Pacquiao in London while promoting his fight against British boxer Ricky Hatton. I gave him a copy of my demo CD and thought nothing more of it. I then got a call from Manny when he returned to the US. He listened to my demo and was impressed. He offered to be my manager and sent me a plane ticket back to the Philippines where he would help me establish a career. I soon found myself performing at Manny’s after-match party in Las Vegas, followed since by many other opportunities.

It has been a roller coaster for me with more highs and lows than I could ever predict. It is the natural cycle of life. I have memories, I have regrets. But every experience taught me so much about work, ethics, people, trust, and fame.

It made me stronger. The roads we take are not always easy, but I am proud of every step I make. That’s the trait of an overseas Filipino. The show must always go on no matter what.

Madonna Decena gained recognition from her stint at the hugely popular Britain’s Got Talent on ITV. Born in Manila, she lived in Quezon City before moving to Singapore and the UK. She has since returned to the Philippines to pursue a career in showbiz, appearing on live events and television shows, including GMA 7’s Manny Many Prizes, and is currently recording an album. A single mother, she lives with her two children and her parents.

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Ryan Christian Arbilo Photographer / Videographer / Artist / Art Gallery Owner Paris, France

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was born and raised in Calauan, Laguna. Together with my younger siblings, I taught myself how to survive independently and how to take each opportunity that was available for me since my mother left to work in Europe at a young age. There were days when I had to borrow uniform from one of my classmates to attend school.

There were also days when I needed to pump water and fill up several tanks on top of the physical pain caused by my father’s rage and anger. But even then, I carried on each and every day.

All of this changed when I studied at Alliance Francaise in Manila so I can prepare for my future travel to Europe. From considering a janitorial position at a local burger chain to being employed at a highly-notable salon in Manila, my goals grew from modest to bolder.

Moving to Paris at the age of 21 was another milestone in my life. Like most OFWs that set foot in a distant land, I initially relied on domestic jobs to sustain my day to day living. Together with my previous studies and experiences in reflexology, my network of clients as a personal masseuse grew from fellow Filipinos to their foreign employers. To make ends meet, I also helped my mother with her furniture refurbishing business.

But let us jump a few years forward to that instance when I first held a camera. It just kind of happened, the dawn of my dreams in photography and videography became so clear that it shone like a brightly-lit sun on a cloudless day. To develop the skills needed for my new-found passion, I spent hours and hours of absorbing all possible knowledge to develop the skills needed to grow in this field. I became totally immersed in practicing, experimenting and experiencing each of the techniques that I’ve learned. Photography suddenly became my absolute interest which transformed immediately into a career. Throughout the years, I have captured hundreds of smiles, laughs, poses, emotions and even cries of different people during memorable occasions in their lives. I have videographed dances, beauty contests (as well as novelty contests), celebrations for French art dealers, fashion shows of renowned fashion designers, charitable galas, promotional videos for book writers and also for international real estate companies, openings for up and coming artists, etc.

The love for art drove me and my mother to open up an art gallery a few years back that featured talented local artists. This gallery currently serves as my photographic studio, workspace and additionally, artist studio. Every year since 2008, I have been snatching photos of celebrities, models and personalities at the red carpet during the Cannes Film Festival. Some of the images were sold privately to several business owners and the rest that remains in my collection will be eventually displayed at an upcoming photo exhibition.

What’s in store for me in the future? I am awaiting the opening date of my exhibition at one of the biggest museums in Paris for my photography art collection titled, “The Chicken Hands”. It is a collection of photos featuring the bruised and almost distorted hands of fellow Filipinos who have worked as OFWs for several years. The hard labor they have experienced is dramatized with every cracks and lines in their swollen and calloused hands that it resembled that of a chicken’s. After the initial exhibition of my photography, there are offers of touring around the world to showcase my exhibition in different countries and plans of a book signing of my biography book that is in the works as this is being written.

I am still dreaming... dreaming high and big.

And, the sky is the limit!

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Maria Salve Regala Muńoz Founder of Visaya Association in French Riviera Mougins, France

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was once a student in Alliance Française Manila when my teacher convinced me to further pursue my language course in France. She helped me choosing the right school and as adventurous as I was back then, I sold most of the assets I inherited from my family and migrated to France at the young age of 24. I was granted an 8-month student visa, after which I was obliged to go back to the Philippines. I wanted to stay longer in France and researched on how to make it possible. I was advised by the secretary of college to apply as an au pair, so I did. My employer paid for my school expenses and provided lodging in exchange of taking care of their children. Part of my job also required travelling in between South of France and New York given my employer’s lifestyle. It was awesome!

Two years later when I went to the discotheque for the first time. I met few friends and surprisingly, there I met my better half. Serge gave me two gorgeous daughters as we lived together over the years. I did not want to get married that time because for me marriage is just a piece of paper. However, my partner’s grandma changed this mind set when she shared her dream of seeing her grandson all-dressed up in tux and exchanging vows with the woman he loves. Serge and I met in 1986 and got married in 1995.

As one of the privileges of marrying an EU national, I was able to bring my mother, followed by my sister and other relatives to France. My husband who was working at one of biggest hotel chains then, achieved promotion after promotion until he became the Secrétaire départemental of Syndicat Hotels Cafes Restaurants des Alphes Maritimes – responsible for protecting the welfare of hotel, café and restaurant staffs. Given my husband’s new and exciting delegation, I helped him with this advocacy and extend the service to my fellow Filipinos, particularly to those with employment issues. I remember one of our kababayans knocking on our door at the middle of the night after she was maltreated by her employer. We have a round-the-clock open home to Pinoys seeking help.

Given my Visayan roots, I’ve founded the Visaya Association in French Riviera last 2004 with the aspiration of uniting not just the Visayas but also all Filipinos in Cote D’Azur. For the first time in history, I’ve gathered all Pinoy association presidents and discussed what I have in my heart. Along with the other organisation leaders, we worked together in supporting one another’s projects such as fundraising activities, themed parties and more year after year after year.

Presently, I am an active volunteer serving as one of the advisors of some Filipino associations. I’ve been recently invited as well to represent and share the experiences of Filipinos in France at the European Association for Immigrants, a newly formed organisation in Paris. It would be an honour to share the inspiring journey of Filipinos in this foreign land which became our second home.

It may seem that I have a very busy lifestyle as people would often tell me. On top of all these, I draw my inspiration being a contented wife and a happy mother.

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GIA MACUJA ATCHISON Stage Performer Essex, UK

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have always been at home on stage. I cherish every opportunity to be on it. I love singing and making people happy - it is as simple as that. But, as a Filipina actress abroad, living away from home can be tough.

I came to London in 1997 to study musical theatre at Mountview Academy. I visited the city as a tourist, and each time I saw a show at the West End I told myself: “I should be on that stage.” A year later, there I was.

It was something I have prepared for since my teens. I started singing lessons in opera with Maestra Teresita Agana Santos when I was 12. And by the age of 16, I was already in my first professional production with Tanghalang Pilipino at the Cultural Centre of the Philippines. After finishing college from Ateneo de Manila, I then joined Repertory Philippines where I performed most leading roles in musical theatre, including Clara in the Asian premiere of Stephen Sondheim’s Passion.

Whilst studying in London, the school asked me to audition for Miss Saigon, a hit musical boasting several Filipino performers. And I got in. It was my West End debut, understudying and playing parts at the Theatre Royal Drury Lane.

It was intimidating to perform at one of the biggest theaters in the city. But the support from fellow Filipinos in the show helped a lot, and it was great to have them around. I already knew many of them from the stage scene in the Philippines, so I fitted in easily.

Playing the role of Ellen in Miss Saigon is one of my favourite moments, the first time she was portrayed as an American-Oriental in the West End. Before me, the part was normally played as a caucasian. I was very proud to be given the opportunity to do this and make history.

I then joined The Lion King at Lyceum Theatre, where I understudied and played the role of Princess Nala. Playing this lead role remains my all-time favourite because the show is one of the most beautiful musicals ever created for stage. Who wouldn’t love to play a Disney princess? I am proud to be one of two FIlipinos in the original cast when it debuted in the West End in 1999. I stayed for 5 years and performed nearly every female role available, and it is not an easy show to do. It takes toll on the body after a long period of time. But through injuries and personal problems, you need to be the thorough professional and deliver eight shows a week, every single day. It is a true practice in personal discipline.

One of the biggest challenges of being abroad was living far away from home, all on my own. That can be really tough sometimes. But I learned to be responsible for myself, and I enjoyed the independence of my new life in London. Though I wouldn’t have been able to accomplish any of this if not for the love and support of my family back home.

My experiences taught me that nothing comes easy.

You need to work hard if you want to achieve your goals.

You also have to be at the right place at the right time. Competition is really tough so you really need to stand out and give it all you’ve got. But trust me, dreams really do come true. And when it does, never forget where you came from. Be proud to be a Filipino.

Gia Macuja Atchison was born in Manila and raised in Quezon City.

A seasoned stage performer, she was in the original cast of The Lion King at the West End in London. She also appeared in international productions of Miss Saigon, Les Miserables and Jesus Christ Superstar, among others. She currently performs as part of musical trio West End Mamas, singing popular show tunes and OPM classics alongside fellow Filipino performers Maya Duffy and Cez Bonner. She lives in Essex with her children and husband Robert Atchison, a concert violinist and conductor.

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Andreu Matibag Aclanabiling Fashion Designer Madrid, Spain

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am a product of OFW. My parents left for Spain when I was six years old and I came when I was 17 years old. I continued my highschool studies here in Madrid while working for a part time job like doing babysitting, cleaning, and etc.

After five years of stay, I went back to the Philippines to study foreign service in college. Having been witness the hardships & sacrifices of my parents, I made sure that I would study hard to get a scholarship. I was able to take summer classes during my whole college so that I can finish my course in a short period.

I refrained all vices, vacation, and even buying expensive gadgets in order to focus my studies. Fortunately, I was able to get a job after my graduation.

After working for twoand a half years in Manila at the Embassy of Peru, I came back to Spain and work at the Philippines Embassy in Madrid at POLO section then worked also at Gucci Madrid and Tiffany & Co. For some reason of not experiencing adventure for several years since college, I started to unwind and explore Madrid. During my first year back in the city, I started partying every weekend, until I was dragged to the darkest & wildest side of city nightlife. I experienced and lived the literal meaning of sex, drugs and rock n’ roll. I did not have earnings. My salary just went to credit card payments.

Until one time, I was walking on the street and I felt suddenly cold from my feet going up to my whole body. I was able to drink straight a cup of a very hot manzanilla. For the first time, I felt as cold as a dead body. And for the first time, I felt the feeling of dying - a very fearful experience.

From there I thought of my parents, and realized after all their hardships & sacrifices, is this the only way I can give back to them? I cant`t forgive myself of the thought that they will receive a call from someone telling them that their son is found dead somewhere because of overdose.

With all these experiences, I want to prove to myself that I am better than that. I started investing real estate property so that my salary would go to something valuable. While working in Gucci, I was encouraged to take up a course on fashion design, so I pursued to study and finished it. My work experiences have given me an overview on how dresses should be represented. I started to make dresses for my friends. Then I met

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royal families, politicians, celebrities, football players and their wives, hollywood personalities, top models, singers, musicians, and designers. And lately, I opened a small office with some of my friends to work for my fashion designs.

I want to focus on Filipino fabrics, making them contemporary & wearable for europeans. For me, dress should not represent your social status but how you feel about yourself.

I have learned that it’s always never too late to change. Never use nor try drugs, even curiousity to try it. It`s not cool and never it will be. Continue on investing foryourself and NOT destroying it because it’s your only asset in life that cannot be taken away from you. You are the merchandise of your own, with good merchandise, you can have good business, and with good business, there’s good profit.

For me, the best way you can show your love for your country as an OFW is to be better in the foreign land from where you are. How? Study, speak and understand well their language because it entails a good job opportunities, well integration, good living for you and your family back home, contentment and happiness. We are a happy nation and happiness should start from within.

Benford Fortuna Fast Food Owner Rome, Italy “Nothing is impossible if we believe in ourselves” – this is the phrase that I hold I must confess that the training was not at all easy but my parents were my inspiration. I have heard stories on how they have managed to survive in a foreign dear to my heart, a belief that guides my very being. land. The least that I can do was to give the program my very best shot. Out of My name is Benson Reyes Reloza. I was born and raised in Caloocan City, 250 applicants, I was selected to be one of the 70 individuals chosen to be the Philippines. I have been living in Spain for 19 years now and I can say that time guard of a royal family in Spain. passed rather quickly. I came a long way from what my life was before. My loving grandparents had been taking care of me at a very young age because my par- Like most sons and daughters, I feel forever indebted to my parents and its not ents had to leave the Philippines to find their fortune in another country - Spain. just brought about by Christian guilt and morale, it is the deep affection that they After my parents endured long years of hard work, they arranged for me to be have shown me and I will continuously repay the love that I learned from them. I with them in Madrid, Spain. I was nine years old then when my life started to would say that the fruit of my hard work and perseverance would be the house in change, I went through a series of adjustments, and luckily, I was still at a very the Philippines that I built and invested for my parents. I knew that they wanted to return to our homeland, and retire in a place where they were born in. Nothing malleable age. Through my parents guidance, I was able to adapt beats living in a country that is truly yours. I give them my deepest gratitude.

After high school, I had the opportunity to enlist in the military academy and From them, I understood how to love and be loved, to be loyal and to persevere, without them I would not be the man that I am today.

For all our kababayans, do not let go of your dreams. We should believe that there is a power that is greater than all of us. Believe that with God’s help we will achieve whatever we set our minds into, and that we should stay focused and believe that we can make it happen, as they say “walang imposible sa Pinoy” (Nothing is impossible for Filipinos). .

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NINOVAL ROQUETabiling Nurse London, UK

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t’s not a life I would have chosen for myself: buhay overseas Filipino worker, buhay abroad. Nobody ever said it would be easy. I came to London in 2006 to join my Filipino partner who works as a nurse. We were madly in love. Words cannot describe the intensity of our relationship. I have the most amazing partner who made it easy for me to adjust to life in the UK. There was not a grey cloud on sight. Everything made perfect sense. I was living my own European dream, our own European dream. That is, until 2010.

I fell into a trap so deep it tore everything apart. It was the start of a dilemma, a real life teleserye that unravelled before our eyes. I found myself helplessly in love again – but with a different person. I fell in love with someone else, a Filipino writer based in the Philippines.

It was wrong, I admit. It was unfair, inappropriate. But there are things beyond our control. It was a force stronger than me, like Niagara Falls or something. I could only succumb to that power. So I broke up with my partner. I chose the writer over the person who had done nothing but to give the whole world to me.

I chose to live alone to embark on a long-distance affair with the writer. It was all unplanned, a result of a very impulsive decision.

Our friends were furious. I received hate mails, even death threats. “Wag lang kitang makikita sa central London at bubugbugin kita. Bubuhusan ko ng asido mukha mo,” said one angry text message. I have been called by every other name imaginable – cheater, user, selfish a**hole. I was afraid to go out in public. I hid under the radar to avoid being a human target, travelling at off-peak hours wearing hoodies and staying out of sight. I had no friends. They all turned their backs on me. I found myself all alone in a foreign land with no one to turn to. I was in the midst of breaking down. I broke down.

Even money turned its back on me. I struggled financially. The salary from my hospital job does not arrive in my bank account until the end of the each month. And even then, it was not enough to cover my expenses. I was literally homeless and sought shelter from people I barely knew but were kind enough to lend me a space in their homes. I was a nomad. I leapt from one place to another. I was struggling to make ends meet. I could not afford a deposit or a down payment. I had no place to live. I even reached a point where I was down to the last few pennies in my pocket. I will never forget the time I was in a food shop praying to God that my coins would be enough to buy a £2 loaf of bread. I sobbed my way out of that shop. I cried myself to sleep every night.

I thought of suicide several times, but was spared by the thought of my family in the Philippines who depends on me for their survival. They were oblivious to the struggles I was facing.

But I have chosen this, and this is my own battle. In due course, I was forced to seek medical help and started to take antidepressants. It worked, somehow. I learned to drift away from suicidal tendencies. I was also offered accommodation from my workplace after colleagues realized my plight.

Through it all, the writer had been a portal of strength. But what I feared has transpired. He cheated on me. The karma principle has never been so veritable. I had no choice but to break up with him. Torn into pieces, suicide reared its ugly head once again. Two failed relationships, one devastated 27-year-old man. I was alone now – alone in every sense of the word.

The following months have been a series of nonchalant existence. I worked six days a week to cover the mounting financial cost of living in London, and to cover up my depression. It was dark. Perhaps the darkest part of my life. The sadness was truly palpable, and every fibre of my being had lost hope.

But I needed to carry on. My family depends on me. Every single time I felt like giving up, I thought of them to alleviate my worries. My family is more important to me than my own struggles. They are the pillars on which I stand.

I diverted my attention to prayer. I prayed so hard that it shook me to the core. My belief system may have been battered, but

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a part of me is hopeful that my faith will save me, one way or another. And it has. I continued to believe in HIM and He answered my prayers.

I eventually found comfort from a new set of friends who accepted me for the person that I am. I learned to acknowledge my flaws. I asked for forgiveness from all the people I have hurt, especially my partner who loved me from the very start. He was God’s blessing to me.

He was always there. In fact, he never left at all despite my failures. He welcomed me back with open arms. We got back together and the world is a better place once again. We have now been together for eight years and getting even stronger.

We are looking forward to buying our very own apartment next month and have both been successful in our respective careers.

It has been said that what breaks us makes us stronger, and that experience is the best teacher.

This whole process allowed me to reassess my priorities and ascertain what really matters in life.

I believe that my courage to stand up despite all the tribulations has allowed me to become a better individual. Our mistakes form part of our humanity but it does not define who we are.

I loved. I lost. I loved again. I managed to rewrite my own fairy tale ending. In a world of scepticism and biased judgement, I know we will defy all odds and prove to everyone that happy-ever-after does exist, even in a foreign land. We just need to have faith and believe.

Ninoval Roque hails from Bulacan. He moved to the UK after studying at the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, and Our Lady of Fatima University in Valenzuela.

With a keen interest in writing and the media, he runs his own blog called ‘Ramblings of my Mind.’ He lives in London with his partner, where they both work as a nurse.

Myemye Mulingtapang Writer Milan ,Italy

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s they say being a mother is the noblest profession in the world. No holidays, no salary and absolutely no resignation. I can attest to that because I for one have joined the league of motherhood seven years ago and now I am blessed with two adorable kids. I have experienced the joys and hardships of being a mother as I struggle and toil miles away from my family in Batangas to work abroad.

Being an OFW is one of the most difficult parts of it. Because I would have to leave my children behind and this put my conviction to test. With the life’s lessons I am getting from working in a foreign land, my priorities have changed dramatically. Now I put my family above all, especially my children to whom I offer all my sacrifices.

I was once a girl who parties a lot like an average teenager from a long day at school. I used to hang-out with friends and stay up all night without worrying that there’s class the next day or I have work to do at the office. The thumps and jumpin-jumpin’ on the dance floor and my favorite gimmick places sometimes seem to be haunting and inviting. But the late night-outs with friends and colleagues were a thing of the past to me now. In fact, I wouldn’t care at all.

My life took a big turn in 2005. Taking up Communication Arts at the University of the Philippines Los Baños that time, I had to quit studying because I got pregnant at the age of 20 and became a mother to Ashley Margarette. It was a choice I had to make, to stop schooling and work for my child. I worked in a financial institution in Alabang as a Retention Specialist and I had to shoulder all the responsibilities of raising my daughter. Even though I was earning enough money to support her, I still thought of leaving the country. I said to myself that what I’m earning was not good enough because I want the best for my child and my family.

In 2007 I resigned from work and left to Milan, Italy, with a luggage full of dreams, courage and faith. I remember clearly the day when I left Ashley Margarette who was just three years old back then. She asked why I had a big bag and I just said to her that I’m going to cover my grave yard shift at the office.

It was on December 16, Flight Ek 0335 bound to Milan, one of the saddest days in my life, the day that I had to leave my child, so small and naive. She has to be the one to suffer the consequences of my actions and grow up without a mother on her side. Tears overflowed and there were mixed emotions. I thought of staying but just imagining a bleak future ahead of us made me firm about my decision. Even if it breaks my heart I chose to leave. As I walked away I told myself that this was for the best. I left a promise to my daughter trying to control my tears, “Baby, Mommy will come back tapos pupunta tayo sa Disneyland pag-uwi ko.” I kissed and hugged her and hurriedly turned my back so I would not see her cry.

Love and Relationship I did not become lucky enough with my first relationship. I learned after a few months of being away that the father of my eldest had another woman pregnant.

Immediately I decided to end things with him and moved on with my life. This is one of the consequences of being an OFW. The pain I felt that time was unbearable. But I have to be strong not only for myself but for my daughter whose future and life lies on me.

At one point in my life I thought that I won’t have the chance to get married and that I’ll live alone. I was so afraid that I might get hurt again. I can’t imagine loving someone else again or having someone else to love me. But to my surprise he came at the right time, the time when I was fully healed and just about ready to trust again. Another man came, a man who changed me, a man who convinced me to love again and look at the brighter side of things. August of 2010, I exchanged vows with Regen Mulingtapang after 14 years of friendship and I had my second child named Martina Amber.

Working Abroad Life is totally different in Milan taking care of an 86-year-old woman. While I may be used to doing household chores in the Philippines changing diapers, giving bath and preparing food to old people are things I have never done before.

The sad truth is that I am taking care of strangers and make sure they live well, while I can’t even look after my kids nor make sure they’re free of mosquito bites.

On my first month away, I scrambled after learning that Ashley had seizure attacks due to high fever. I cried every night and I couldn’t get decent sleep thinking how Ash was going. She often would have seizures when having a high fever.

Working non-stop at an average of 10 hours a day makes me busy and helps me forget about the family I left at home. Days and weeks pass in a breeze in Italy where everyone is busy.

Instead of partying with friends I usually rest and kill time in bed and chat with my family in the Philippines. We do webcam chatting almost every day. This way I make sure I get to see them especially my kids who often ask where I am. When confronted by my daughter I just tell her that I am coming home soon. I always tell my eldest why I have to work far away, that it’s for them. It’s very hard to live life away from your loved ones. When every single year my daughter’s birthday wish would be that I come home so our family would be complete. “Mommy uwi ka na para one big happy family na tayo,” she tells me. It also breaks my hearts when my other daughter Martina who I left when she was just six months old calls me Mommy, smiles and sends me kisses with her cutest face on the camera.

These are the moments that tears just flow down on my face.

On being a mother Asked if I regret mothering at an early age, there were times I regretted quitting studies and starting my own family at a very young age. But I wouldn’t be as happy as now. I find genuine happiness seeing my angels grow up and thinking that soon all my sacrifices would pay off. My parents were of course disappointed when the news broke of my pregnancy. They never expected that I would get pregnant at a very young age. They have a lot of dreams for me—to graduate at UP, and get a high paying job. But the motherly work of course was not a piece of cake and it wasn’t too hard either. I find fulfillment on being a mom. I stood on my own without asking help from them. Now I want to prove them that I can raise my own children well.

Future plans Life is good and God is great. My life right now is the result of the decisions, attitude and choices that I have made in the past. At times I may have regrets and questions. Now I just make sure things will sway to the better and soon I’ll be home with my family in our new house. Earning bigger than my paycheck back in the Philippines, I am planning to buy a house and lot, a car, and put up businesses when I get back. Re-enrolling at UP might be a consideration. In the meantime, I plan of schooling in an Italian institution so I can easily find an office work aside from teaching English to Italian kids as my part time job. Nakakabobo dito. Nasasayangan ako sa UP education ko pero wala ako magagawa kelangan kong kumita at mag-ipon for my family. I scan the online Filipino papers, online news and surfs the Internet and often curled up in bed finding time to rekindle ties with good books. With my passion in writing, I write stories and articles about life, people and politics and share it through my personal blog, time permitting.

My priorities have been shuffled and goals have changed. So far the experience taught me things I’ll never get from UP or from any institution I’ve worked in. It has changed my perspective and attitude as a person. Now I can say that there are no regrets just learning for I wouldn’t be the person I am now if not because of what I have been through, I am stronger, wiser and a better version of myself.

I have learned well from my mistakes. My experiences have made me a better person and above all a better mother to my kids.

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Louie and Irene Asilo Artisan cake maker Nice, France

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rene and I passed the board exams as Nurse and Medical Technologist in the Philippines but we decided to venture into other different opportunities. From high school to college, until getting our professional medical license to shifting into a career in sales and networking, we’ve been together through thick and thin, eyeing for a stable business that would bring us success. As a couple from the same town in Angono, we decided to move to France in 1999 as we search for better compensation, or as OFs would say, greener pasture. We left our degree titles and professional work experiences as we faced the reality of our decision.

At first, it was absurd and hard to accept – this new life seemed far from the life we envisioned. We worked as care givers from an Italian-British employers for over a year who then recommended us to work as guardians of a villa owned by a French family.

Filled with our thirst for that ‘corporate success’, we still tried other ways to earn some extra living. We tried our luck in the real estate industry, networking marketing, and so on and so forth. To be honest, we earned much but still those achievements did not give us the real contentment.

Finally we realized that our struggles and obsessions to the material world came to an end. We got drained and exhausted.

We realized that the best treasure is not found on these things but rather on our faith to God. While it is good to aim for better things, dream bigger and hope for a better future, we learned to trust Him and seek first His Kingdom. We started to share this to our family and friends and found fulfillment and joy in it.

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Irene and I have been married for a decade now and have kept the job in the villa for the past twelve years. A life different from what we expected but thru this job we have created a home. We are blessed with three wonderful children and residing in our humble abode in South of France provided by our employer. As we continue to serve, one most special gift that my wife received is an inspiration to develop a new skill that she never imagined in her entire life! She started baking and have opened up a business called, “My Sweet Tooth Cravings”, a special kiosk for cake-holics and cakes for all occasions. A simple and interesting passion has begun.

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have a strong musical lineage in my family. My great great-grandfather was an accomplished guitarist, famous in his barrio and the surrounding provinces for being able to play a song he had never heard before, just by following the melody of the singer. My grandmother was a professional classical pianist in the Philippines.

My father was in Dynasouls, a well-known rock band from Manila in the 1970s.

He later moved to the UK with my mother and played session work for other musicians, one of them being a band called The Tourists, which later became the Eurythmics.

Singer/Songwriter London, UK When my grandmother passed away a few years ago, it left a gaping hole in my life. Her passing was and will always be a great loss in my life, but it also gave me, for the first time in my adult life, a feeling of freedom to finally do what I wanted - to pursue music a little bit more seriously.

As fate would have it, I also lost my job due to the recession around a year ago. I thought it was the perfect time to go into business for myself, so having studied an online marketing course and using all the experience I already had in marketing, I set up my own internet marketing consultancy. It has been a serious struggle getting it off the ground but I now have a few good clients keeping the business going while I work on expanding my client base even more. Running my own business from home has also given me the flexibility and time to focus on my music, more than ever before.

I was left in the care of my grandmother who raised me like a son, and I looked upon her as a mother. I was reunited with my parents when I joined them in the UK and followed the wishes of my grandmother, who did not want me to get into I continued to play music as a solo artist and I recently signed a record deal with music but instead to finish my studies and get a “good job”. I eventually ended an independent artist management and record production company who are now up going to university even though I wanted to pursue music full-time after supporting me in creating and promoting my music to a wider audience. completing secondary school.

I have now been featured twice on ABS CBN Europe as an upcoming London-based Fil-Brit artist. My music received airtime through After university, I began a career in sales and several internet radio stations such as Brooklands Radio marketing and found myself quite successful Surrey and Generate Radio Berwickshire. I have also at climbing up the professional ladder, worked with Steven Williams, one of the best producers even though it was not what I wanted in the industry having worked with the likes of Sting and to do. Music was, and still is, my real Eric Clapton, producing my first two studio-recorded passion. singles which were released recently.

So I continued to write music. I After several years of only writing songs in the even formed a band with some English language, I have recently dabbled in friends, but only as a hobby after writing my first ever Tagalog song. It seems to working hours and on weekends. have captured the interest of Filipinos not just in Deep inside, I knew that even London but also abroad in places like Sweden, after finishing my studies, my Saudi Arabia, and the US, thanks to support from grandmother would be unhappy if I online radio stations like EU Radio Pinoy and Pinoy pursued music full-time. I lived for Radio UK. I have since performed at the 2012 Barrio my grandmothers approval and Fiesta sa London in front of 15,000 people this summer. happiness.

One of my original songs has also been chosen as part of the soundtrack for an upcoming independent feature film directed by indie Filipino filmmaker Jowee Morel. My management company is now planning to record a concept album or a two-part EP of my songs, together with some music videos for fans to enjoy. More gigs are being planned and I will continue to play live. I am also starting to write more Tagalog songs as I’d like to reach out to my countrymen more and help to inspire young Filipino musicians in our community.

Looking back, I have learnt that the love and respect we show our parents and families is a legendary trait of Filipinos, and something we should be proud of. I have put my grandmother’s wishes before mine and because of this, I believe I gave her a little bit of happiness in her lifetime before she passed away, a small token of my appreciation for the love and protection she showered upon me all my life.

Not all of us are lucky enough to do what we love for a living. And if you don’t love your job, that’s ok.

Keep something for yourself outside work that you are passionate about, whether it’s your family, a sport or a hobby, and indulge it as often as you can. It will help to keep you sane and will inspire you to be better at whatever you do.

Mark Villarosa hails from Manila. A seasoned musician, he recently released a single, “Raining in London”, alongside his first ever Tagalog song, “Minsan”. His self-penned track, “I Want to Believe”, will also be featured in upcoming feature film “Leona Calderon” starring Pilar Pilapil and Virginia McKeena. He lives in London while pursuing a career in marketing and music.

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NICHOLAS

OLAES

Dancer Bedford, UK

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was adopted as a toddler. I spent my childhood in the Philippines with a Filipina stepmother, a British stepfather, and a stepbrother. I was just like any other child without a care in the world. But life, as I know it now, is not as straightforward.

When I was 11, my stepfather needed to return to England to look after his ageing father. My stepparents also wanted me and my stepbrother to have a better education, a better life, in a place with opportunities. And so with the whole family in tow, we found ourselves in a new country to start afresh. I settled soon enough in my new environment, but the years that followed were less than perfect.

In my early teens, I was told about my real parents. It was a confusing time, I can hardly remember what happened. My innocent youth protected me from the cold hard facts of my situation. I didn’t really know anything, so I carried on without dwelling on it too much.

A few years later, at 15, I started asking questions. I was curious. I then found out that my biological father was Malaysian. It was strange. I have always identified myself as Filipino, full Filipino. And now I am not? I was also told my biological mother might be in Australia. I was more confused than ever. And, despite the revelations, details from my previous life remained sketchy. No one seems to know much about anything.

Around the same time, I discovered dancing. I would watch dance videos in my bedroom and teach myself how to move. Dance is a form of expression. It brings out the best in me. It helps me deal with my thoughts and emotions. It makes me feel confident and outgoing, without which I can be shy, quiet and awkward.

I want to be a professional dancer. I want to earn and save some money to look for my mother. It is now my dream to meet her, to find my family wherever and whoever they may be. I want to talk to them and find out more about myself. I want to know who I am, where I come from. I have so many questions. I want to experience what it’s like to be with my real family. Dancing has kept my hopes up.

A year after, at 16, I saw an opportunity. It was time for me to go to college and, without hesitation, I chose to study performing arts to pursue my growing passion for acting, singing and dancing. But when my stepparents found out, they were furious, disappointed perhaps. Deep inside they wanted me to do something ‘technical’ or ‘mechanical,’ anything more stable than performance art. My life became hell.

They took away everything as punishment, and I mean everything: TV, laptop, phone.

Everything. My stepmother stopped speaking to me for a whole year even though we lived in the same house. It was a hard time. Every now and then, on those increasingly rare moments of communication, my stepparents would tell me that dancing will not lead to anything, that I would fail. But I held myself together. I worked hard and kept going. I continued to study, dance and perform. I want to prove them wrong.

I then found myself joining Mr & Miss Philippines in London. I wanted to show what I can do. Backstage, at the live show, I had the biggest shock of my life. I received a call from a private number and the person on the other line said, “We’re here.” Amid the chaos I was confused. I didn’t know who it was.

I wasn’t expecting anybody. And there was no time to think in the middle of a show. But as I came out on stage, there they were - my stepparents, cheering for me. I was touched. It brought tears to my eyes. Secretly, I bought tickets for them and left it at their house. It was a stab in the dark, I didn’t believe they would come. But they did. They finally believe in me. At the end of the pageant, I ended up winning a plane ticket to the Philippines and gave it to my stepparents, a small token of my appreciation for their support, for everything they have done for me since they took me in as a child.

I have learnt a lot in the last few years, most of all to believe in myself. My journey has just begun and I have a long way to go. Never give up on anything you want to achieve no matter what other people tell you. Stay positive and keep your head up no matter what. Every dream is achievable. But don’t just follow your dreams - lead them.

That is exactly what I’ll do.

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Nicholas Olaes was born in Olangapo City and raised in Pangasinan. He studied information technology and performing arts at Bedford College after moving to the UK with his adoptive family. An aspiring dancer, he has performed with groups around the UK and has recently ventured as a solo performer. He is set to appear on a British reality documentary called “Anything You Can Do” in 2013. Based in Bedford, he works as a dance teacher while pursuing a career as a performer.

RODRIGO ENRIQUEZ Designer London, UK

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decided to move to London to further my career and explore my great interest in design and history. London is the mecca of design in whatever medium one can think of, and its proximity to other European cities makes it even more appealing compared to similar places like New York. But I knew that going to a place like this wouldn’t be that easy.

The only way I can see myself succeeding is to be the best in what I do, to simply work as hard as I can with full dedication, passion and enthusiasm. One thing I have learnt when I started living in London is that I am just one of the millions of people here from all corners of the globe wishing to achieve exactly the same things I want. I wouldn’t be where I am now in my career without perseverance, keeping an open mind, and staying hungry for success.

Over the years, I have worked hard on my skills and experiences to equip myself with the right tools to pursue my interests, from studying relevant courses at university, to working on different projects in the creative industries. I am now the creative director of a design company.

One of the reasons for my burning desire to succeed is to ensure I am having fun. I guess it’s part of being a creative person. It is important to have fun in what you do, whatever it may be. Your attitude and mindset will reflect the outcome of your work, and will ultimately determine the failure or triumph of your efforts.

Having fun is what led me to join a coin design competition for the London 2012 Olympics. I wanted to do something in my own terms, to create something away from my day job without crazy rules, crazy deadlines and crazy clients. It was something for everyone to celebrate the games.

I also wanted to commemorate my time in London. If I ever leave this city, my coin design would be a lasting legacy to leave behind in memory of my experiences and achievements abroad. Most of all, I wanted to create something that my native country could be proud of from the games. London is such a melting pot of different cultures, and it is an honour to be involved in such a prestigious event as a British Filipino.

I ended up winning the competition with one of my designs, a coin depicting the old sport of wrestling using lines and shapes that mixed classic and contemporary imagery. I never expected to win, but it was an honour. Since its introduction in 1969, only 16 designs have ever been featured on the heptagonal 50 pence coin. And now my design is part of its history.

To be involved in London 2012 is good enough, but to be immortalised through my design is even greater. In my career as a designer, I have created ad campaigns that were circulated globally, but designing part of history is incomparable to anything I have done before. I remember thinking about my pride for my country, for achieving something abroad as a native-born Filipino.

Designing for London 2012 was very important to me, both as a designer and as a Filipino. Creating a coin to commemorate the world’s biggest event is simply amazing, and to do so as a Filipino is a tremendous honour. I hope this inspires young Filipino designers to reach their own dreams. Only those who are hungry will go further in life.

Rodrigo Enriquez designed the winning London 2012 Olympics coin for Royal Mint. A graduate of fine arts and advertising from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, he continued his creative studies in England with graphics and media design at London College of Communication, University of the Arts London. Born and raised in Zamboanga City, he lives in the UK while running a startup company specialising in information and application design.

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