Recovery(from(Child(Sexual(Abuse:( INNER(CHILD(12(STEP(PROGRAM! ! Svava!Brooks! Cer,ďŹ ed!Child!Sexual!Abuse!Preven,on!Educator! Advocate!and!Survivor! Svava@educate4change.com! www.Educate4Change.com!
! ! This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is ! the counsel or not meant to replace treatment of a licensed therapist. !
How!are!you!feeling?!
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Inner(Child(work:! “Learning!to!connect!and!bond!with!your!! Inner!Child!means!learning!to!be!a!loving!! Adult!to!your!Inner!Child!in!whatever!life! situa,on!or!conflict,!external!and!internal! you!are!faced!with.”!!NMargret!Paul,!Ph.D.! ! To((help(and(understand(the(wounded(part(of(ourselves.( ( The(key(to(choosing(loving(behavior:( “Intent!is!our!deepest,!most!primary!mo,va,on!or!purpose,!what!! we!want!most!in!any!given!moment.”(( ( ( ( (MMInner(Bonding(Margret!Paul,!Ph.D.! ! ! !
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Inner(Child(work:!con,nued! “There!are!only!two!possible!intents!at!any!one!,me:!the!intent! to!protect!or!the!intent!to!learn.�!!At!any!one!given!,me,!we!can!! only!be:! !
Loving!or!unloving! Connected!or!disconnected! Willing!or!unwilling! Open!or!closed! Vulnerable!or!protected! Learning!or!not!learning.!
! MMInner(Bonding(Margret!Paul,!Ph.D.! ! 2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com! !
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( ( ! The$key$to$Inner$Child$work$is$maintaining$balance$between$nurturing$and$discipline.$$ Never$punish$or$judge$your$inner$child.$$However,$refuse$to$let$it$do$harmful$things—be$ firm$and$adamant—take$charge!$! !! 1)!!!Get!a!doll!or!stuffed!animal!to!represent!your! Inner!Child!so!you!can!see!and!experience!them!as! separate!and!different!from!you,!the!Adult.!!You! must!________________________your!adult!from! this!other!part!! !! 2)!Dialogue(with(your(Inner(Child(daily.!!Get!to! know!its!wounds.!!Do!not!neglect!itNN!your!Inner! Child!has!already!been!neglected!and!needs! ____________to!come!through!!!! ! ! 2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Fill(in(the(Blanks:(! INNER(CHILD(12(STEP(PROGRAM(conPnued.( $! 3)!Your!Inner!Child’s!needs!are!simple:! !! Feel________________________.! Have!its!______________________________needs!met.! Be!allowed!to!express________________________.! Be!allowed!to!tell!the_________________________.! _______________!!!!! Have!______________be!there!consistently!and!compassionately.! !! 4)!Make!a!commitment!to!meet!your!Inner!Child’s!needs!on!a! _____________________!!_______________________.!!Give!up!expec,ng! ________________________to!do!this.! !! 5)!Be!accep,ng,!understanding!and!_________________________with!your!Inner! Child.! !
6)!Be!firm!about!not!allowing!the!Inner!Child!to!do!anything!that!is! ________________!or_____________________________.! 2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
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! INNER(CHILD(12(STEP(PROGRAM(–(conPnued.! !! 7)!Don’t!let!your!Inner!Child!out!unless!you!are!sure!it!is_______________.!!Only! _____________________!people!get!to!play!with!your!Inner!Child.!!Otherwise,!you,! the!Adult,!handle!things.! !! 8)!Your!Inner!Child!needs!to__________________;!you!take!care!of!what!isn’t!fun.! !! 9)!Your!Inner!Child’s!needs!should!be___________________________.! !! 10)!Your!Inner!Child!does!not!need!to!__________________(you,!the!Adult,!get!to! choose!what!you!want!to!change!and!must!be!willing!to!do!the!work!of!changing).!! ! 11)!You!must!be!in!charge!of!your!Inner!Child!and!not!let!it!run!the!show!by! ___________________________________________________you!or!others.! !! 12)!You!must!____________________________your!inner!child!but!give!up!needing! anyone!else!to!do!so.! !! 2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Resources!
The!healing!begins!with!you!and! the!suffering!can!end!with!you.! !NNSvava!Brooks!
• Survivor!Support(and!Resources! ! ! thelamplighters.org! ! siawso.org!
! malesurvivor.org! ! Call!211! ! OneHealth.com! ! acestudy.org!
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! psychologytoday.com! ! educate4change.com! ! JusJell.org! ! jaimeromo.com!
Great!Books!for!survivors:!! The!Courage!to!Heal!–!Ellen!Bass! Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!Riggins! Repair!Your!Life!–!Marjorie!McKinnon! !
! 1in6.org!
! Taalk.org! ! survivormanual.com! ! survivingspirit.com! ! connec,onssp.org!
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