Healing(a)er(Childhood(Sexual(Trauma:( Ge6ng/Asking(for(support! ! Svava!Brooks! Cer,ďŹ ed!Child!Sexual!Abuse!Preven,on!Educator! Advocate!and!Survivor! www.Educate4Change.com! svava@educate4change.com!
! ! This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is ! the counsel or not meant to replace treatment of a licensed therapist. ! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
How!Are!You!Feeling?!
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We!Need!Support!to!Heal! !
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Something!to!Consider! !
Receiving!support!can!be!harder!than!giving! ! support! ! • What!do!you!prefer?!!What!do!you!find!easier!for!you?! • Giving!Support! • Receiving!Support!! ! What!can!get!in!the!way!of!receiving!support?! • Not!knowing!what!you!need! • Trust !! • Not!wan,ng!to!be!a!bother! • Thinking/believing!that!no!one!cares !! • Other !!
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Asking!for!support! We!need!community!and!support!in! order!to!heal!and!restore!ourselves!to! who!we!truly!are.! ! We!can!not!expect!just!one!person!to! be!there!for!us,!all!the!,me.!! ! We!need!to!learn!about!appropriate! support/boundaries!in!rela,onships! (give/take).! ! Our!job!is!to!be!willing!to!ask!for! what!we!need,!but!ďŹ rst!we!must! know!what!we!need.!! What!do!you!need?!
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Asking!for!support!is!a! form!of!self!care! Self!awareness!is!the!key!to!self!care,!and!is!necessary!to!be!able!to!ask!for!what!you! need.! ! Example:!!Hi!friend….!I!am!going!through..………and!really!could!use!someone!to!talk!to.!! Do!you!have!a!minute!now!or!when!would!be!a!good!,me?! ! I!already!know!what!I!need/want!to!do!about!this/what!I!am!feeling!but!I!just!need! someone!to!listen!to!me.!!!It!can!be!overwhelming!to!be!alone!with!my!thoughts!and! feelings.!!Can!you!listen?!Are!you!ok!with!this?!!I!will!let!you!know!if!I!need!something! else!like…………………(feedback,!sugges,ons,!your!experience)! ! Another!example:!I!feel!like!I!am!going!to!have!some!feelings!about!this.!Can!I!share! them?!!I!am!not!upset!with!you!I!just!don’t!want!to!repress!these!feelings!any!longer.!! Can!you!just!sit!with!me!while!I!cry/feel!my!anger?! ! Thank!you!for!listening!and!for!being!here!for!me.!!It!just!helps!to!have!someone!that!I! can!trust!will!not!judge!me!while!I!work!my!way!through!this.!! 2014!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com! !
The!Healing!Journey! • Learn!about!the!healing!process! Outline!the!Process:! • Safety!first! – Create!a!Safety!Plan! – Courage!to!Heal!
• Support!Group!or! Counseling! Educa,on!on!trauma/healing! Prac,ce!new!skills!
• Balance!and!SelfNCare! – Exercise/medita,on! – Sleep! – Ea,ng!well!!
• PlayN,me/Spiritual!Prac,ce! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com! !
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Giving!Support! Most!people!just!need!to!be!heard! Most!of!us!want!to!know!we!are!not! alone! ! Listen!and!ask!for!permission!before! you!give!advice! ! I!am!glad!you!are!here!with!us.!How! can!I!support!you?! I!am!happy!to!just!listen.! ! Providing!support!you!are!modeling! how!you!would!like!to!be!supported.!
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Feeling!Overwhelmed?! • Remember!your!safety!plan!and!reach!out!to!a! safe!person!or!someone!here!in!our!community.! • Work!with!a!counselor!or!find!a!life!coach! • Get!help!with!seang!health!goals!and!steps!to! reach!them! • Find!ways!to!empower!YOU!to!take!charge!of! your!life! • You!are!stronger!than!you!think!!I!believe!in!you!! • Please!email!if!you!have!any!ques,ons! !svava@educate4change.com! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Resources!
The!healing!begins!with!you!and! the!suffering!can!end!with!you.! !NNSvava!Brooks!
• Survivor!Support(and!Resources! ! ! thelamplighters.org! ! siawso.org!
! malesurvivor.org! ! Call!211! ! OneHealth.com! ! acestudy.org!
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! psychologytoday.com! ! educate4change.com! ! JusJell.org! ! jaimeromo.com!
Great!Books!for!survivors:!! The!Courage!to!Heal!–!Ellen!Bass! Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!Riggins! Repair!Your!Life!–!Marjorie!McKinnon! !
! 1in6.org!
! Taalk.org! ! survivormanual.com! ! survivingspirit.com! ! connec,onssp.org!
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