50plus LIFE Dauphin County June 2019

Complimentary | Dauphin County Edition

June 2019 • Vol. 21 No. 6

Life at the Speed of Sound page 4

Your Hidden Retirement Risk: Long-Term Care page 7

10 Signs You Are Managing Grief in Healthy Ways page 8

Ms. Pennsylvania Senior America Pageant August 11, 2019

3 p.m.

Red Lion Hotel, Harrisburg

Are you a woman who has reached the “Age of Elegance” — 60 years and older?

Pa. Senior America is looking for you.

At the pageant, you will compete for the title by completing four categories: 1. 5-minute interview with judges 2. State your philosophy of life

Ms. Pennsylvania Senio r America 2018 Lynn Montemuro

3. Stage gown walk 4. Presenting a talent performance

Senior America, Inc., is a non-profit corporation designed not only to enrich the lives of seniors, but also to tap their energy to enrich the lives of others.

Find out more at the Senior America website: www.senioramerica.org

Ms. Pennsylvania Senior America 1994 Merle Adele Millhimes mmillhimes@verizon.net (717) 533-3471 www.senioramerica.org Ms. Senior America Pennsylvania Administrator Denise Russo-Caiazzo Ms. Pennsylvania Senior America 2015 (610) 417-7905 pasenioramerica@gmail.com Honoring the “Age of Elegance”

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Farmers Market Vouchers Distributed This Month The Pennsylvania Department of Agriculture and the Dauphin County Area Agency on Aging have again partnered to make the Farmers Market Nutrition Program available to Dauphin County residents over age 60.

FMNP vouchers, worth $20, may be redeemed for Pennsylvania-grown fruits and vegetables at participating farmers markets and roadside stands in Dauphin County.

FMNP-eligible food is defined as “grown or able to be grown in Pennsylvania.” Vouchers are not accepted for citrus or tropical fruits, such as bananas, oranges, lemons, limes, grapefruit, tangerines, pineapples, or mangoes.

FMNP vouchers are not accepted for processed food, e.g., jams, honey, nuts, cider, or baked goods. FMNP vouchers cannot be used at grocery stores or supermarkets.

Eligible seniors will receive four

vouchers worth $5 apiece for a total value of $20. Customers will not receive change if the FMNP purchase does not total $5. They may be offered additional FMNP-eligible food to make the purchase an even $5.

To be eligible, county residents age 60 and older must have an annual income less than $23,107 for a single individual, $31,284 for two people, $39,461 for three people, $47,638 for four people, $55,815 for five people, and $63,992 for six people.

The Farmers Market Nutrition Program does not include seniors who are living in nursing home facilities, convents, and residential facilities where meals are provided.

Proof of age and Dauphin County residency are required (driver’s license, photo ID, etc.).

Any person obtaining vouchers for another must present a completed and signed proxy form from the person for whom they are receiving vouchers.

Contact the agency to have this form sent to you prior to your selected distribution date.

Vouchers are offered on a one-timeonly per summer basis. Supplies are limited and are distributed on a firstcome, first-served basis.

For more information or to receive a proxy form, contact Dauphin County Area Agency on Aging at (717) 780-6130.

Voucher distribution will take place at the following sites:

Services Center, 295 State Road, Elizabethville (Note: Any remaining vouchers for this site will be available at this same location on Tuesdays from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.)

Monday, June 3, 9-11 a.m. – Zion Assembly of Harrisburg, 2101 N. Fifth St. (Fifth and Maclay), Harrisburg

Wednesday, June 12, 9-10:30 a.m.

– Mohler Senior Center, 25 Hope Drive, Hershey

Wednesday, June 5, 1-2:30 p.m.

– B’nai B’rith, 130 S. Third St., Harrisburg Friday, June 7, 8 a.m. to noon – Northern Dauphin County Human

Tuesday, June 11, 9-10:30 a.m. – Steelton Senior Center, 900 Cumbler St., Steelton Monday, June 10, 9-11 a.m. – Pheasant Hill Estates, 4400 Pheasant Hill Road, Harrisburg

Friday, June 14, 9 a.m. to noon – Friendship Senior Center, 5000 Commons Drive, Harrisburg Tuesday, June 18, 9-10:30 a.m.

– Essex House, 320 Market St., Middletown

At Your Fingertips Helpful numbers, hotlines, and local businesses and organizations eager to serve you—all just a phone call away.

Emergency Central Pennsylvania Poison Center (800) 521-6110 Dauphin County Area Agency on Aging (717) 780-6130 financial services Morgan Stanley Wealth Management (302) 573-4027 Health & Medical Services Alzheimer’s Association (717) 651-5020 American Diabetes Association (800) 342-2383 Arthritis Foundation Central Pennsylvania Chapter (717) 763-0900 CONTACT Helpline (717) 652-4400 The National Kidney Foundation (717) 757-0604 (800) 697-7007 PACE (800) 225-7223

Social Security Information (800) 772-1213

Property Tax/Rent Rebate (888) 728-2937

Vision Resources of Central Pennsylvania (717) 238-2531

Insurance Apprise Insurance Counseling (800) 783-7067

Healthcare Information Pennsylvania Healthcare Cost Containment Council (717) 232-6787 Hearing Services Pennsylvania Office for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing (800) 233-3008 V/TTY Hospice Services Homeland Hospice 2300 Vartan Way, Suite 115, Harrisburg (717) 221-7890 Housing/Apartments B’Nai B’rith Apartments 130 S. Third St., Harrisburg (717) 232-7516 Housing Assistance Dauphin County Housing Authority (717) 939-9301

Services Dauphin County Area Agency on Aging (717) 780-6130 The Salvation Army Edgemont Temple Corps (717) 238-8678

Capital Blue (888) 989-9015 (TTY: 711)

Toll-Free Numbers American Lung Association (800) LUNG-USA

Medicare (800) 633-4227 Nursing/Rehab Homeland Center 1901 N. Fifth St., Harrisburg (717) 221-7902

Bureau of Consumer Protection (800) 441-2555

Personal Care Homes Homeland Center 1901 N. Fifth St., Harrisburg (717) 221-7902

National Council on Aging (800) 424-9046

Pharmacies CVS/pharmacy www.cvs.com

Veterans Affairs (717) 626-1171 or (800) 827-1000

Meals on Wheels (800) 621-6325

Social Security Office (800) 772-1213

Veterans Services Lebanon VA Medical Center 1700 S. Lincoln Ave., Lebanon (717) 228-6000 or (800) 409-8771

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By Jason J. Tabor “We’re only here on this planet for so long; you have to do things while you’re here,” James Kleinklaus laughs when asked how he’s managed to fit so many experiences into one lifetime.

A racecar driver, published author, professional musician, and president of his own advertising agency, Kleinklaus arrived in Carlisle with his wife, Sherry, 15 years ago at the tail end of a career in newspaper advertising that took him around the country.

As a child growing up in Long Island, New York, Kleinklaus excelled in school, particularly in writing and music, and took up the guitar at a young age.

“My father was a violinist and there was always music playing around the house. I practiced daily, as much as 12 hours a day during the summers, and The wreckage of Kleinklaus’s racecar after began teaching lessons at age 13,” he says. the crash that took him and his vehicle into a By the time he was enrolled at Dowling College concrete wall. in Long Island on a National Merit Scholarship, Kleinklaus was dividing his time playing music onstage at legendary New York City clubs like CBGB’s and Max’s Kansas City at night and studying literature and creative writing during the day.

“I idolized John Updike,” he says.

“When I wasn’t playing music, I was writing short stories and working on novels. It was a real balancing act.”

After graduating in 1971, Kleinklaus Kleinklaus in his racecar, the Purple Dragon. continued playing music and writing, eventually getting the opportunity to open for an up-and-coming Billy Joel and having his own music copyrighted and released by Elektra Records.

“Between doing studio work and playing onstage, I was literally singing for my supper each night,” he says.

“I wasn’t thinking in terms of having a ‘career path’ at that point — there was no Plan B to fall back on.”

After 10 years of music, he decided to move to upstate New York to live with his brother and figure out what he wanted to do with his life outside of the music industry.

“I was still teaching guitar but decided to get out of the music business,” he remembers. “There was too much ‘biz’ and not enough music, and I just didn’t believe in it anymore.”

Away from the music business in New York City, Kleinklaus fell into a job that would propel him into a career in advertising. He began selling advertising for small businesses in local newspapers.

“I had no formal training in marketing or advertising,” he laughs. “I just always looked for Kleinklaus during a recent performance opportunities, was a good talker, and never gave up!” of Jim Kleinklaus Duo.

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After meeting the publisher of the Scotsman Press in Syracuse, Kleinklaus landed a job selling ad space to local businesses and started a magazine for the publisher where he did market research, sold ads, and wrote stories, often using pseudonyms.

He soon began receiving job offers from newspapers in larger markets around the country and began moving around from Syracuse to Hartford and Detroit as a high-level advertising executive.

He worked for the U.S.’s largest newspaper publisher, Gannett, and was a regional manager for Valpak and Auto Trader, before moving to Carlisle to work at the Carlisle Sentinel.

He met his wife Sherry at an industry mixer in 1990 — she was an account executive at a competing newspaper.

“We were both from the same world and met each other just as our previous marriages were ending. It wasn’t a surprise to anyone when we got married less than two years later,” he laughs.

Together, he and Sherry had several children from their previous marriages.

“It was kind of a Brady Bunch situation,” he says.

In 1984, at the prompting of one his clients who was involved in competitive auto racing, Kleinklaus purchased his first racecar.

“I bought it for $500,” he laughs. “It had no engine, wheels, or suspension, but I put some work into it and have been doing amateur racing ever since.”

A longtime fan of Formula One racing and vintage racecars, Kleinklaus likens racing to playing music.

“Both music and racing are a performance — you spend a lot of time getting ready, making sure everything is perfect, practicing, knowing your equipment inside and out, and dealing with pressure. I often have trouble sleeping the night before a race.”

Kleinklaus acknowledges the dangers involved in racing but feels compelled to challenge himself, despite being “definitely over age 25,” he jokes.

“I should be dead three times by now,” Kleinklaus says. “During my first race, after taking the first turn at 90 mph, out of the corner my eye I saw a red car coming out of the sky right at me, the driver holding his detached steering wheel in his hands. He crashed into me and put me into a concrete wall.

“You know these kinds of things can happen, and just get back on that horse!”

Over the years, he has won races in West Virginia, New York, and the MidAtlantic States Road Race championship in 2013, among others.

Two years ago, Kleinklaus began playing music once again in Jim Kleinklaus Duo. “Originally, my idea was to start a jazz band, maybe play some lounges once in a while,” he says. “And now we play recurring shows at the Army War College in Carlisle, the Harrisburg Hilton, and other clubs every month,” performing a variety of classic rock and R&B covers.

“My bassist, Mike Kaufman, convinced me to sing again, and, as much as I put into the guitar, I realize my voice is what has opened doors for us,” he adds. “Next up, we’re heading to the studio to record some of the originals I’ve written over the years.”

Although he and Sherry both officially retired at the same time a number of years ago, Kleinklaus maintains a busy schedule with business, travel, and visiting family.

When he’s not doing laps around the racetrack or playing onstage, Kleinklaus runs his own advertising firm catering to clients in the medical field, riding his mountain bike, and canvassing for political candidates.

“I’ve always enjoyed getting out there and talking to people; that’s what my entire career was built on,” he says.

“I think the things that really matter in life are prizing the relationships you create with friends and family,” he says. “It’s always later than you think, so if you can blast some frets off a guitar or scare yourself in a racecar along the way, all the better. Do what you love.”

Kleinklaus’s memoir, Fran’s Tools: Finding Common Ground in the Fast Lane, is available on Amazon and Jim Kleinklaus Duo is on YouTube and Facebook.

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Assisted Living Residences/Personal Care Homes The listings with a shaded background have additional information about their center in a display advertisement in this edition.

Bethany Village — MapleWood

325 Wesley Drive • Mechanicsburg, PA 17055 717-766-0279 • www.BethanyVillage.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 100 Assisted Living Residence: Yes Personal Care Home: No Private: 100 Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes

Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: One-bedroom suites; secured memory support neighborhood; skilled nursing – The Oaks.

Cross Keys Village The Brethren Home Community

1901 North Fifth Street • Harrisburg, PA 17102 717-221-7727 • www.homelandcenter.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 56 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes

Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: Providing exemplary care in a beautiful environment for more than 150 years. Our continuum of care includes therapy services, skilled rehab, 24-hour medical staffing, plus Hospice, HomeHealth, and HomeCare outreach programs. All-private rooms include a full bath and kitchenette.

Homestead Village

2990 Carlisle Pike • New Oxford, PA 17350 717-624-5436 • www.crosskeysvillage.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 123 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Homeland Center

Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: No Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: A regional leader in all aspects of memory care and a program designed for optimal engagement and socialization.

1800 Village Circle • Lancaster, PA 17603 717-397-4831 • www.homesteadvillage.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 100 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: Yes Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Harrison House of Chester County

Homewood at Plum Creek

Total AL and/or PC Beds: 80 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Total AL and/or PC Beds: 92 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

300 Strode Avenue • Coatesville, PA 19320 610-384-6310 • www.harrisonseniorliving.com Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: No Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: Located in western Chester County, Harrison House provides an array of amenities with nursing care.

425 Westminster Avenue • Hanover, PA 17331 717-637-4166 • www.homewoodplumcreek.org

The Hickman Friends Senior Community

Landis Homes

Total AL and/or PC Beds: 114 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Total AL and/or PC Beds: 97 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

400 North Walnut Street • West Chester, PA 19380 484-760-6300 • www.TheHickman.org Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: Nonprofit personal care community in downtown West Chester. Includes secure dementia care neighborhood. Call to schedule a personal tour.

Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: One-bedroom deluxe and studio apartments available! New Harvest House Memory Support now available.

Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Excellent care in a lovely environment. Call to schedule a visit.

1001 East Oregon Road • Lititz, PA 17543 717-569-3271 • www.LandisHomes.org Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: Attached to wellness center and pool without going outside.

This is not an all-inclusive list of agencies and providers. These advertisers are eager to provide additional information about their services.

Assisted Living Residences/Personal Care Homes The listings with a shaded background have additional information about their center in a display advertisement in this edition.

Mennonite Home Communities

1520 Harrisburg Pike • Lancaster, PA 17601 717-393-1301 • www.mennonitehome.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 150 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: Yes Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Supportive, encouraging environment. Various room types and suites available. Secure memory care offered.

Normandie Ridge

1700 Normandie Drive • York, PA 17408 717-764-6262 • https://normandieridge.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 27 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Our dementia care residence features the Kaleidoscope therapeutic engagement program designed for our residents.

Pleasant View Retirement Community

544 North Penryn Road • Manheim, PA 17545 717-665-2445 • www.pleasantviewrc.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 96 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: Yes* Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes

Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: *Three-year private pay spending. Maintain independence in an enriching and supportive environment.

If you would like to be featured on this important page, please contact your marketing consultant or call (717) 770-0140.

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Financial Focus

Steven Brettler

Your Hidden Retirement Risk: Long-Term Care

You have spent years carefully working and planning so that you have enough income for a comfortable retirement. You may think your retirement savings are protected — but have you ever considered what might happen if you or your spouse required long-term care?

The cost of long-term care services — whether they are provided in the home, at a community facility, or in a nursing home — may not be covered under major medical plans or Medicare and can be a threat to your retirement savings.

Planning for long-term care can help you manage this risk and help give you more choices and more control over the care you receive.

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independence and having to rely on others for care.

But talking about, and planning for, long-term care is important because there is a good chance you will need long-term care services as some point in your life. In fact, about 70% of people over age 65 will require some care at some point in their lives, and the likelihood of needing care increases as you age.1 And, while long-term care is often associated with the effects of aging, it may be needed at any time, due to an accident or illness. Some conditions that might require long-term care include stroke, cancer, and Alzheimer’s disease or dementia.

Talking about long-term care is also important because the cost of long-term care services often please see CARE page 9

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Grief Relief

Victor M. Parachin

10 Signs You Are Managing Grief in Healthy Ways

While making the journey through grief, it is often hard to know if we are managing grief in healthy ways.

The good news is that the vast majority of those who experience a loss to death adjust and adapt in healthy ways. Here are 10 signs you are managing your grief skillfully.

1. You realize that the “goal” is not to “get over the loss.”

The goal is to become reconciled to it and live on to the best of your ability.

2. You are using your own unique ways to deal with grief.

You are not following someone else’s script for how you should feel, talk, and behave.

3. You can talk about the one who has died, especially with good, trusted friends.

The word therapy originates in the Greek language and literally means “healing by talking.” Speaking about the experience of loss and your feelings is therapeutic and healing.

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We have many variety shows featuring the music from the 1930s to the 60s.

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4. You are stabilizing emotionally, mentally, and physically.

The powerful emotions that were present initially are easing up. It is less and less of a “rollercoaster ride.”

5. You are eating and sleeping in ways that are normal for you.

When his wife died suddenly of an aneurysm, Mark experienced sleep and appetite disorder.

“I just couldn’t sleep well and couldn’t care less about eating. However, as I worked on my grief, I found myself releasing the tension. That allowed me to sleep better and actually enjoy a meal.”

6. You are enjoying the company of friends.

After Karen’s husband died, she recalls a text she received seven months after the death: “‘Karen, some of us are meeting up for coffee. Why don’t you join us?’

“I did, and it was the first time I felt I really wanted to be with a group. It was a nice breakthrough and awareness for me.”

7. You are comfortable when people don’t know what to say.

When people speak or act in clumsy ways toward you, it’s no longer an awkward moment for you because you understand that they just don’t understand, and it’s OK. 8. You are using a resilience you may have been unaware of.

Most people are naturally resilient. We are equipped to not only endure loss, but also to continue moving forward with our lives.

When actor and martial artist Chuck Norris learned his beloved brother was killed in Vietnam, Norris tapped into the power of resilience to cope.

In his book, The Secret Power Within, he writes: “Consolation comes in many forms, all of them meaningful and helpful to a degree, and families, even small ones, can generate enormous amounts of power support to deal with such a terrible loss.

“The first piercing grief eventually becomes a kind of ever-present sorrow that doesn’t seem to want to go away ever, but then it does; or, rather, it grows into something else, something you know you can live with, although at the same time you know you’ll never forget.”

9. You are reaching out and helping others.

This indicates you are not completely self-absorbed and have extra energy to be helpful to others. Coming to the aid of another person has the added benefit of making you feel better as well.

10. You find reasons to feel optimistic and are looking forward to your future.

After her husband was killed in a work-related accident, Audrey Andersson says there were difficult and discouraging moments, but she chose to be optimistic.

“I felt as if I were, indeed, in a black hole from which no escape is possible.

But I can face the future with confidence and hope,” she told herself.

Victor M. Parachin, M.Div., is a grief counselor, bereavement educator, and author of several books, including Healing Grief.

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CARE from page 7 exceeds what the average person can pay from income and other resources, particularly in retirement.

Consider this: The projected national average cost for five years of long-term care 30 years from now is over $1.9 million.2 Keep in mind that your retirement may be significantly longer than that of your parents and grandparents. If you’re a married couple and each of you is age 60, there is an 89% probability that one of you will live until age 85.3 As you get older, your healthcare expenses are likely to increase. In fact, according to the Employer Benefit Research Institute, a 65-year-old couple would need $265,000 in savings to have a 90% chance of meeting healthcare costs in retirement.4 And that doesn’t even include the potential costs of long-term care.

Paying for Long-Term Care A common misconception is that Medicare or Medicaid will pay for all expenses. The reality is Medicare does not pay for assisted living facilities, continuing care retirement communities, or adult day services.

Medicare does provide limited coverage for nursing home care or home healthcare under certain conditions. For the most part, the costs of long-term care will be your responsibility.

One alternative to paying these expenses out of your own pocket is longterm care insurance. By paying an annual premium, perhaps from your investment earnings, you can transfer the risk to an insurance company and help protect your assets from long-term care costs.

Long-term care insurance can also help you maintain your independence and give you the freedom to choose the type of care you want.

Here is a checklist of questions to think about if you are considering longterm care insurance:

• How financially sound is the company offering the policy?

• What are the monthly/annual costs versus cash flow and investments?

If you’re not sure whether long-term care insurance is right for you, a financial adviser can help you understand and explore your options for offsetting the risks that long-term care might present to your retirement.

Steven Brettler is a financial adviser and branch manager with Morgan Stanley in Greenville, Del. He may be reached at (302) 573-4027 or advisor.morganstanley.com/ steven.brettler.

Footnotes 1 U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Clearinghouse for Long-Term Care Information, July 2018.

2 John Hancock Insurance Long-Term Care Calculator. Based on five years of private room nursing home care during the years 2048 to 2052, and assuming a hypothetical 4.1% annual inflation rate.

3 Society of Actuaries (www.soa.org) Simple Life Expectancy Calculator (2017). Averages takes into account age and sex, using the 2012 Individual Annuitant Mortality table, with 1% mortality improvement.

4 EBRI Notes, Employee Benefit Research Institute, January 2017.

Disclosures Article by Morgan Stanley and provided courtesy of Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor. Steven Brettler is a Financial Advisor in Greenville, DE at Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC (“Morgan Stanley”). He can be reached by email at steven.brettler@ms.com or by telephone at 302-573-4027. His website is https://advisor.morganstanley.com/steven.brettler This article has been prepared for informational purposes only. The information and data in the article has been obtained from sources outside of Morgan Stanley. Morgan Stanley makes no representations or guarantees as to the accuracy or completeness of the information or data from sources outside of Morgan Stanley. It does not provide individually tailored investment advice and has been prepared without regard to the individual financial circumstances and objectives of persons who receive it. The strategies and/or investments discussed in this article may not be suitable for all investors. Morgan Stanley recommends that investors independently evaluate particular investments and strategies, and encourages investors to seek the advice of a Financial Advisor.

The appropriateness of a particular investment or strategy will depend on an investor’s individual circumstances and objectives.

Insurance products are offered in conjunction with Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC’s licensed insurance agency affiliates.

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• How much protection (daily benefit) does the policy provide?

• Does the policy contain inflation protection?

• How many years of institutionalization are included?

• Is custodial care (assistance with basic daily activities, either in your home or a nursing home) covered?

• Is home care covered?

• Does the policy have restrictive provisions on preexisting conditions?

• Is the right to renew the policy guaranteed for life?

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On Life and Love after 50

A ‘Qualities Wanted’ List: Are Senior Singles Being Too Picky?

Tom Blake

Single seniors often ask if they should make a written list of the qualities they want in a mate.

John wrote, “At age 79, I’m still single, after losing the love of my life to cancer 3 ½ years ago.

I’ve been on dating sites, had some dates — some just for coffee, some for lunches, dinners, movies, and trips. But I’m still searching.

“I wonder if we seniors have — conscious or unconscious — checklists that prevent us from finding ‘the love of our life’ as we age? Are we too picky?”

In 2003, I published Finding Love after 50: How to Begin, Where to Go, What to Do, which included a chapter called, “Qualities You Want in a Mate.”

In that chapter, I recommended that singles make a written list and included 10 qualities that a woman might seek in a potential mate. That was 17 years ago. The qualities were that a partner: 1. Makes me a top priority

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2. Is confident, makes our relationship feel natural 3. Has a positive attitude 4. Is carefree and relaxed 5. Treats me with respect 6. Gives me space and time to myself 7. Is as attracted to me as I am to them 8. Has a sense of humor 9. Maintains adequate finances; I don’t need to support them 10. Is spontaneous, willing to do things spur-of-the-moment I then summarized the chapter: “Make a list. Review it often. Knowing the qualities you seek in a mate leads to better decision making. This isn’t an exact science, so don’t get too carried away with perfection.”

I admit, after 40 years of making poor relationship decisions, having a written list helped me finally get it right when I met my life partner Greta 21 years ago.

Having a person as a mate who is kind, caring, and gentle, and yet has a mind of her own, was top on my list, and Greta filled the bill perfectly.

Now, 17 years after publishing the book, do I still recommend that John and single seniors, age 50-plus, make a list of the qualities they seek in a mate?

Yes, but don’t be so rigid and inflexible that you eliminate someone who would make a nice friend, even though you wouldn’t want to marry them or even be in a committed relationship with them. At our age, not all relationships are going to be the love-of-my-life type.

More important now is the need for all seniors to have social interaction. If they get too rigid in their selection process, they might find themselves alone, which could be worse than being with someone who isn’t perfect.

Because we’ve aged and are more set in our ways now, I recommend a second list: The qualities we won’t tolerate in a mate. A few that come to mind: • Smoking • Drug or alcohol addiction • Closedminded, opposite political beliefs • R igidly different religious beliefs • Children/family issues and problems to the extent they dominate his or her life, leaving little time or energy for me When making the two lists, keep them brief and simple. By doing so, you avoid being too picky, but you’re still careful — while leaving a little “wiggle room” in case Mr. or Ms. Right isn’t quite right enough for you.

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Tech Talk

Computer Shopping: Where to Begin?

Mark Rinaudo

or the computer part of the machine, then you have to throw away the whole thing.

I’ve also seen lots of issues with all-inones not being able to effectively cool themselves, slowly cooking themselves to death. The tried-and-true computer is a tower with lots of room inside for air to move through the machine to keep it nice and cool.

There is a vast array of computer models to choose from today. The computer is truly a commodity now.

With a little knowledge on what you’re looking for, you can make a wise decision on a machine to last you the next seven years.

Question: I’m ready to purchase a new computer but don’t know what specifications are most important.

What should I look for in my next computer?

I start with the processor — the brains — of the machine. It controls how fast instructions in the code of the operating system and the application run.

Intel processors are standard, with i3 being the base model. The next step up is the middle-of the-road i5, and the top level is the i7.

Intel has, however, introduced a new line of processors: the i9 line. This is their latest offering in speed, so if you go with this model, you’ll be paying for the latest and the greatest.

AMD also offers processors. When it comes to processors, your budget will dictate how fast you can go.

The next thing to look at is the amount of system memory in the machine.

Most machines start at 8 GB and go up from there.

If you’re considering a machine that has less than what you’re looking for, you can usually upgrade the amount of memory in the machine through memory vendors such as Crucial.com.

I usually recommend 8 GB as a good starting point for memory in a new machine. With more memory, you can have more applications open and running at the same time.

Memory is something a computer can use and never have enough of. When you run out of it, that’s when things slow way down. The machine has no more memory to store things, so it falls back to the only other place it has to store data: the disk storage in the machine.

The storage system in a computer has to provide storage for the operating system, applications/programs, and the data the user creates and stores on the machine. This includes pictures, music, documents, and email.

For years, hard drives were the go-to storage in most consumer-based computers. Capacity in drives grew from a few megabytes (MB) to multiple terabytes (TB). With time, technology has improved, and the hard drive’s days are now numbered with the introduction of the solid-state drive.

A solid-state drive stores its data on chips, which provide access speeds that are many times faster than the speed of a regular hard drive.

This speed difference comes at a price, though. Solid-state drives haven’t reached the storage capacity level of today’s hard drives, but they are slowly getting there.

If you’re storing lots of pictures on your machine, then I would suggest purchasing a computer with a high-capacity hard drive in it. If you’re using your machine more for applications and internet browsing, then I would suggest a machine with at least a 500 GB solid-state drive in it.

As a final note, I’ve seen lots of people moving toward all-in-ones, where the computer is built-in with the monitor. Apple’s line of iMacs is a good example of all-in-ones.

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Art & Antiques by Dr. Lori

Babe Ruth at Auction Lori Verderame

As a longtime New York Yankees fan, stemming These historic baseball artifacts, mementos from my father’s link to the game as a left-handed of a life in baseball, and other special pieces of pitcher and my upbringing in Connecticut — Americana derive from the personal collection of Babe Ruth. The history of Ruth has been the watching the likes of Munson, Nettles, Dent, Guidry (Louisiana Lightning!), Randolph, Bonilla, history of baseball in the early 20th century.

His story has also contributed to the American Griffey, Jeter, Rivera (the Sandman!), Posada, story in times of trouble. Ruth’s commitment to Pettitte, and so many other baseball greats on TV community and his work helping children in the and at the old Yankee Stadium — I am most excited for this summer in the Bronx.

1920s and 1930s has become a model for other athletes.

Why? This year, in mid-June, something historic George Herman “Babe” Ruth was signed to the is going to happen (again) at Yankee Stadium. This event will excite both baseball fans and memorabilia Baltimore Orioles in 1914 for minor league play and then started his major league career with the collectors alike.

The personal collection of George Herman “Babe” Boston Red Sox. He was later an iconic slugger as a team member of the New York Yankees.

Ruth will be auctioned off at the stadium, located at 1 E. 161st St. in the Bronx, New York, on Saturday, Ruth’s contract was sold to the New York Yankees in 1920, and he was a pitcher and June 15.

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Chicago White Sox at the renamed Guaranteed Rate Ruth’s stats remain impressive even by today’s standards: 714 home runs, Field (formerly Comiskey Park and U.S. Cellular Field), a major baseball lovers and collectors event will take place in the Bronx, organized by Hunt Auctions. .342 batting average, 2,213 RBIs. He was a seven-time world champion and a 12-time American League home run leader, too. Of course, he was elected to the Baseball Hall of Fame in 1936.

Babe Ruth was a major part of American culture during the Roaring 1920s “I was amazed! and Depression-era 1930s. He endorsed consumer products, was trusted and Sounds I hadn’t widely popular, and devoted time as well as his celebrity status to various heard in years charities, especially those aiding children. Some maintain that Babe Ruth came back to me!” remains the most popular athlete in American history.

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Go to the Doctor!

Changing the Cultural Mindset that Drives Men Away from the Doctor’s Office

By Louis Bezich

longitudinal study for over 75 years that has tracked the lives of 724 men (and now Compared to women, American their children) and examined men perform miserably on most the factors that influence their measures of health behaviors, but health. perhaps the most serious affliction According to its director, men exhibit is their healthcare Dr. Robert Waldinger, “The attention gap. clearest message that we get The numbers tell the story. Men from this study is that good visit their doctor for preventive care relationships keep us happier half as often as women. Surveys and healthier” and that “social show that the rate of men who had connections are really good for not seen a physician during the us.” prior year is three times greater than So, there you have it. women, and 33% did not have a Want to convince a man to primary physician, compared to see a doctor? Start with a women at 19%. strong focus on his social and Finally, 24% of men said they emotional relationships. Help would wait as long as possible before him connect the dots between seeing a doctor, despite warning his personal aspirations and his signs, with 17% of them indicating Men’s Health Week: June 10–16 behavior. they may wait at least a week!

Men who make this Through my research on men’s connection see their health as a health, I’ve had the opportunity to means to an end. The endgame is a fulfilling and purposeful life. interview a number of physicians, one of whom is Dr. Jeffrey Brenner, winner With a man’s motivational platform in place, you can now use tactics like of the MacArthur Genius Award in 2013 for his work creating a comprehensive those prescribed by the Men’s Health Network for getting a man to the doctor effort to confront the healthcare needs of an underserved urban population. and breaking the healthcare-attention gap: When I asked Brenner about his experiences in treating men over 50, he said that he treated many of them, and, as he put it, “I saw them committing • Find health providers who have weekend and evening appointments or have suicide slowly.” He explained how he saw men have stroke after stroke because offices close to his work. of factors that were entirely preventable.

He also witnessed their wives becoming caretakers and confirmed that “guys • Schedule simultaneous appointments for both of you and make fun plans to don’t talk,” referring to their unwillingness to share what’s on their minds. do something together afterward.

Brenner places a good number of men he treated in the “dismissive” category • Find out whether he is more comfortable seeing a male or female healthcare of attachment style, meaning they sought a high level of independence, provider, and make sure he’s seeing the one he prefers. On a related note, try sometimes avoided attachment altogether, and denied needing close to avoid physicians who tend to scold. relationships. This included their physician.

It’s this avoidance of healthcare and dismissiveness of its importance that has • Recruit male friends or relatives with good health habits to help reinforce plagued men of all socioeconomic categories for years. A survey by the Orlando your message.

Health hospital system suggested that a man’s reluctancy stems from a number • Point out the connection between good health and good physical and mental of reasons: busyness, fear, shame, and discomfort. performance in sports, work stamina, etc.

Where’s the hope? It starts with Brenner’s suggestion that 80% of health is • Gently remind him that the example he sets when forming lifelong health attributable to psychology and social factors. habits influences his children and their life habits.

His counsel reinforces my research of healthy-behaving men over 50 and my findings that social factors are a strong source of motivation for healthy • Decide on an exercise routine that involves and is enjoyable to both of you. behavior; this social pathway represents a new way to confront the alarming • Encourage him to celebrate Men’s Health Week (June 10–16) by seeing a state of men’s health. doctor about annoying health problems or getting a thorough checkup.

In ratings in excess of 70%, the men I studied confirmed that their life’s priorities — that which they value most in life — played a major role in starting and maintaining their healthy lifestyle. They think about their Louis Bezich, author of Crack the Code: 10 Proven Secrets that Motivate Healthy priorities at least once a week.

Behavior and Inspire Fulfillment in Men Over 50, is the senior vice president of The results were consistent with perhaps the most comprehensive study of strategic alliances with Cooper University Heath Care. With more than 40 years of experience, Bezich is also an adjunct professor at Rutgers University. men’s health in history, the Harvard Study of Adult Development, an ongoing www.50plusLifePA.com

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Calendar of Events

Support Groups Free and open to the public Tuesdays, noon Al-Anon Family Group at Work Meeting Penn State Hershey Medical Center Seventh Floor, Room C7521 500 University Drive, Hershey (717) 448-7881 Other meeting times/locations at https://pa-al-anon.org Wednesdays, 6 p.m.

Swatara Serenity Al-Anon Family Group Meeting Unitarian Church of Harrisburg 1280 Clover Lane, Harrisburg (717) 448-7881 Other meeting times/locations at https://pa-al-anon.org Wednesdays, 7:30 p.m.

Adult Children of Alcoholics Support Group St. Mark’s Lutheran Church 2200 Londonderry Road Harrisburg (717) 526-9252 ymt57@comcast.net June 5, 10-11:30 a.m.

Life Enrichment Group for Blind and Low-Vision Adults Vision Resources of Central Pennsylvania 1130 S. 19th St., Harrisburg (717) 238-2531 June 5 and 19, 7-8:30 p.m.

ANAD Eating Disorders Support Group PinnacleHealth Polyclinic

Landis Building, Sixth Floor Classroom 1 2501 N. Third St., Harrisburg (717) 712-9535 June 6, 7-8 p.m.

Fibromyalgia Support Group LeVan Chiropractic 1000 Briarsdale Road, Suite C Harrisburg (717) 558-3500 June 7, 10:30 a.m.

Parkinson’s Disease Support Group Helen M. Simpson Rehabilitation Hospital Second Floor – Pinnacle Conference Room 2 4300 Londonderry Road, Harrisburg (717) 216-2730 elcassel@simpson-rehab.com June 11, 6-7 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Caregivers Support Group Greenfield Senior Living at Graysonview 150 Kempton Ave., Harrisburg (717) 561-8010 June 12, 6-7 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Support Group Brookdale Harrisburg 3560 N. Progress Ave., Harrisburg (717) 671-4700

Senior Center Activities 1020 N. Union St., Middletown (717) 930-1218 June 19, 2-4 p.m.

Parkinson’s Support Group The Residence of the Jewish Home Second Floor Library 4004 Linglestown Road Harrisburg (717) 697-2513 June 20, 6 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Support Group Country Meadows of Hershey Second Floor Training Room 451 Sand Hill Road, Hershey (717) 533-6996 astoner@countrymeadows.com June 20, 6-8 p.m.

Harrisburg Area Parkinson’s Disease Caregiver Support Group Giant Food Stores – Second Floor 2300 Linglestown Road Harrisburg (717) 580-7772 June 26, 7-8 p.m.

Connections Support Group: Families of Memory Impaired Ecumenical Retirement Community Building 3, Second Floor 3525 Canby St., Harrisburg (717) 561-2590 If you have an event you would like to include, please email information to mjoyce@onlinepub.com for consideration.

June 17, 6:30 p.m.

Support Group for Families of Those with Memory-Related Illnesses Frey Village

Community Programs Free and open to the public June 5, 7 p.m.

World Culture Club of Central Pennsylvania Meeting Penn State Hershey Medical Center Fifth Floor, Lecture Room B 500 University Drive, Hershey www.worldcultureclubpa.org

Roundtable Meeting Vietnam Veterans of America Michael Novosel MOH Chapter 542 8000 Derry St., Harrisburg (717) 545-2336 centralpavietnamrt@verizon.net www.centralpavietnamroundtable.org

June 6, 7 p.m.

Central Pennsylvania World War II Roundtable Meeting Grace United Methodist Church 433 E. Main St., Hummelstown (717) 503-2862 charlie.centralpaww2rt@gmail.com www.centralpaww2roundtable.org

June 25, 6 p.m.

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Friendship Senior Center – (717) 657-1547 Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, 8-9 a.m . – Light Aerobics Wednesdays, 12:30 p.m. – Mah Jong Mohler Senior Center – (717) 533-2002 www.mohlerseniorcenter.com Rutherford House – (717) 564-5682 www.rutherfordcenter.org Weekdays, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. – Billiards (Open to Members) Mondays and Fridays, 11 a.m. – Chair Yoga Wednesdays, 9 a.m. to noon – Computer Assistance Submit senior center events to mjoyce@onlinepub.com.

Library Programs East Shore Area Library, 4501 Ethel St., Harrisburg, (717) 652-9380 June 4, 6:30-8:30 p.m. – L earn about the Hubble Telescope June 9, 1-3 p.m. – A Starry Night Painting Elizabethville Area Library, 80 N. Market St., Elizabethville, (717) 362-9825 June 18, 6:30-8 p.m. – Make Your Own Telescope June 27, 6-8 p.m. – Knit One, Crochet Too! Johnson Memorial Library, 799 E. Center St., Millersburg, (717) 692-2658 June 13, 6-7:30 p.m. – Capture the Stars Origami June 22, noon to 1:30 p.m. – A Solar System of Essential Oils Kline Library, 530 S. 29th St., Harrisburg, (717) 2343934 June 8, 1-4:30 p.m. – Second Catan Tournament June 12, 5-6:30 p.m. – Internet Fundamentals Madeline L. Olewine Memorial Library, 2410 N. Third St., Harrisburg, (717) 232-7286 June 10, 6-7 p.m. – Astronomy Trivia June 17, 6-7 p.m. – Cookbook Book Club: Pop Culture Cooking McCormick Riverfront Library, 101 Walnut St., Harrisburg, (717) 234-4976 June 21, 6-8 p.m. – Creating Alien Felties June 25, 5:30-6:30 p.m. – Device Club Middletown Public Library, 20 N. Catherine St., Middletown, (717) 944-6412

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June 13, 7:30-9:30 a.m. – Bird Walk: Nesting Birds, Wildwood Park June 16, 10:30 a.m. to noon – Flower Walk: Peak of Blooming, Wildwood Park June 20, 5:45-7:15 p.m. – Get in Shape Walk, Wildwood Park

William H. & Marion C. Alexander Family Library, 200 W. Second St., Hummelstown, (717) 566-0949 June 18, 1-3 p.m. – Novel Thoughts Too Book Club June 24, 6:30-8:30 p.m. – Full Moon Folklore

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Across 1. Falafel bread 5. Trade punches 9. Woodworking tool 12. Birch relative 13. Blackjack 14. Swedish shag rug 15. Detective 18. Simple sack 19. ___ and outs 20. Jacket material 21. Roasting rod 23. Wrath 24. Prompted 25. Bellini opera

27. Raised-eyebrow remarks 28. Kind of team 31. “Zip your lip!”

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Soldier Stories

Robert Naeye

Vet Finds Healing in Missionary Work, PTSD Support

Former Air Force E-4 Edwin “Eddie” Beckford nearly died in an airplane accident before even reaching Vietnam.

And once there, he was targeted by an enemy sniper.

But Beckford lived to tell his tale, which includes 16 years as a Christian missionary in A Bible that survived the firebombing Israel. of the Beckfords’ church in Israel.

Now living in central Pennsylvania, Beckford was born on Manhattan’s East Side in 1947. His father had served in the Army in World War II but never talked much about his experiences.

Beckford grew up in Manhattan, but after his parents divorced and his mother remarried, the family moved to Roosevelt, New York, on Long Island.

His stepfather had a good job with the New York Times and bought a house on 10 acres of land.

All during his childhood Beckford regularly attended church, giving him a solid religious upbringing. He went to a Catholic church as a young kid, but later attended a Protestant church.

“This was good for me; I never got in trouble,” he recalls.

One of his fondest memories from youth is playing a lot of chess.

“I was better than average,” he modestly asserts.

Beckford graduated from high school in 1964 at age 17. His mother was a practitioner of tough love, forcing him out of the house to make sure he would earn a good life on his own. He went to an Air Force recruiting station in Manhattan and passed all the mental and physical exams.

The Air Force recruiter told Beckford he would serve four years but would probably not be sent to Vietnam. The recruiter also said Beckford would be trained as a jet-engine mechanic. These were both lies — a common occurrence during the Vietnam War era.

After basic training at Lackland Air Force Base in San Antonio, Texas, Beckford was stationed at Laughlin Air Force Base in Del Rio, Texas.

But instead of learning to fix jet engines, he ended up being assigned to a department called roads and grounds.

Growing up in and near New York City, Beckford used public transportation and never learned to drive. Now, he was driving garbage trucks, dump trucks, asphalt rollers, and other vehicles.

But even driving garbage trucks had its drama. He had to drive the vehicle to the very edge of a cliff before dumping the waste into a landfill.

In 1966, Bedford received orders to go to Vietnam. During a preliminary exercise in Fayetteville, North Carolina, he experienced Jim Crow racism for the first time. Beckford, along with a team of his fellow comrades, entered a diner to get a meal and were told that “the coloreds” were not allowed inside.

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Eddie Beckford, right, with his wife, Lura, and dog Matzah.

“I’m ready to go to Vietnam, and I might die to keep your place open,” he said before he, and everyone in his unit, walked out.

But when serving with his Air Force unit, the 819th Civil Engineers, Beckford never encountered discrimination like that.

“We didn’t

have racism. That was awesome,” he recalls.

Beckford also points out that white officers treated him and other black servicemen in an appropriate manner.

During his flight to Vietnam across the Pacific Ocean on a C-130 Hercules, Beckford was horrified to look out the window and see flames. An engine had caught on fire. Beckford recalls making the typical foxhole prayer: “God, please get me out of here in one piece.”

Fortunately, the plane made a successful emergency landing on Wake Island, although the runway seemed awfully short to Beckford.

Arriving in Vietnam in 1966, Beckford was introduced to a strange new reality. While driving down a highway toward Phù Cát Air Base, he saw women along the side of the road pulling their pants down, defecating, urinating, and laughing at the Americans.

Beckford spent a full year at Phù Cát, his entire tour in Vietnam. There, he and his colleagues set speed and efficiency records for pouring concrete for runways, among other record-setting achievements.

The base was well protected, so Beckford never experienced brutal combat.

But he had one near-fatal incident that haunts him to the present day.

He was sent outside the base one day to fill up a dump truck with sand and clay from a nearby landfill. Suddenly, bullets were whizzing by. An enemy sniper had singled him out and kept shooting and missing.

Beckford never saw who was shooting at him. Sensing extreme danger, Beckford drove back to base with only half a load. But an officer ordered him to return to the landfill alone and return with a full load. To Beckford’s great relief, the sniper had vanished.

On another occasion, he was in a remote area when his convoy left without him. Fortunately, some nearby South Korean soldiers helped him get back to base. “God, I owe you,” thought Beckford.

After his deployment in ’Nam, Beckford returned to an Air Force Base in northeast Arkansas. His favorite job was driving a large vacuum-cleaning truck slowly across runaways to keep them clear of debris.

Beckford left the service in 1968. He initially returned to New York but later moved to New Jersey and then Virginia, working various jobs. He got married and had a son, but the marriage didn’t last long. www.50plusLifePA.com

Beckford met a woman named Lura around 2000; he had served with Lura’s late husband in Vietnam. She had previously done missionary work in Israel and planned to return, so she invited Beckford to join her. They got married in Cyprus in 2001.

The Beckfords served as Christian missionaries in Israel from 2001– 2017, working for Jewish Outreach International. The Beckfords handed out Bibles and worked with Jews and gentiles who believed in Jesus.

Beckford also got to revive one of his childhood interests when he helped form a chess club/storefront church.

In 2009 Beckford took a DNA test and found that he has Igbo ancestry.

This ethnic group lives mainly in southern Nigeria. Some Igbo members practice Judaism and identify as Jews from the tribe of Gad. The Beckfords had good relations with secular Jews and Muslims. But there was tension with the overall majority of Orthodox Jews. One day, they firebombed the Beckfords’ storefront church and chess club. They later made a second attack by pouring gasoline around the doors, with people inside.

When their work was completed, the Beckfords returned to the States in August 2017 and settled in central Pennsylvania, near Lura’s family.

The Beckfords are still working with Jewish Outreach International.

But for Eddie Beckford, his close brushes with death live on to this day.

He has recurring dreams of being left behind.

Like many Vietnam veterans, Beckford suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder. For years, Beckford was in denial, concerned about the stigma of mental illness. But now, he meets with other Vietnam veterans about once a week to help cope with PTSD. If you would like to meet Beckford and hear him tell his story in person, he is scheduled to speak at the Central Pennsylvania Vietnam Round Table meeting near Harrisburg on Nov. 14. Visit http:// centralpavietnamroundtable.com or call (717) 545-2336 for details.

Robert Naeye is a freelance journalist living in Derry Township. He is the former editor-in-chief of Sky & Telescope magazine.

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The Expo brings federal, state, and local agencies together with area businesses to provide information and resources to veterans and their families.

The Job Fair brings veterans and spouses who need jobs together with employers who can benefit from this rich source of talent to aid their organizations.

Stories of ordinary men and women called to perform extraordinary military service.

From 1999–2016, writer and World War II veteran Col. Robert D. Wilcox preserved the firsthand wartime experiences of more than 200 veterans through Salute to a Veteran, his monthly column featured in 50plus LIFE. Now, for the first time, 50 of those stories— selected by Wilcox himself—are available to own in this soft-cover book.

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Savvy Senior

Jim Miller

2020 Census Offers Temporary Jobs Suited for Retirees

Dear Savvy Senior, The U.S. Census Bureau is in the process of recruiting thousands of workers for temporary jobs to help collect valuable data for the 2020 Census, and retirees are ideal candidates. Can you write a column to get the word out? Thanks for your help!

– Census Recruiter

• Be at least 18 years old

Dear Recruiter, I’m happy to oblige, and I agree. This once-a-decade job opportunity is a great fit for retirees who have some free time on their hands and who wouldn’t mind earning some extra income while helping the community.

• Be registered with the Selective Service System or have a qualifying exemption if you are a male born after Dec. 31, 1959

Attention, Retirees!

The United States Census Bureau is currently in the process of recruiting over 500,000 temporary workers to help carry out the upcoming 2020 census national head count of every person living in the U.S. The U.S census helps determines each state’s representation in Congress and how funds are spent for schools, hospitals, and roads. It also provides information to guide many decisions made by government agencies, private businesses, and institutions.

Jobs within the census vary, from working in the field canvassing, updating maps, and conducting follow-up interviews with citizens in your community to working in the office as a clerk performing administrative tasks or as office operations supervisor, who oversees the field staff.

Some jobs will begin this summer, but the majority of positions will begin in late April 2020 and last a month or two.

These temporary, part-time positions are located in every county throughout the United States and Puerto Rico. Some positions require evening and/or weekend shifts because you must be available to interview members of the public when they’re at home. And all positions require several days of online and classroom training.

The pay ranges between $13.50 and $30 per hour depending on position and location. To find the pay rates in your area, see www.2020census.gov/en/jobs/ locations.html.

• Commit to completing training

• Be a U.S. citizen • Have a valid email address • Complete an application and answer assessment questions

• Pass a census-performed criminal background check and a review of criminal records, including fingerprinting • Be available to work flexible hours, which can include days, evenings, and/or weekends In addition, most census jobs require employees to have a valid driver’s license and access to a vehicle, unless public transportation is readily available.

Job holders must also have access to a computer with internet and an email account to complete training.

How to Apply The first step is to complete the online job application at www.2020census. gov/en/jobs. The process takes about 30 minutes and will include some assessment questions about your education, work, and other experience.

If you’re a veteran who would like to claim veterans’ preference, which provides preference over nonveteran applicants, you’ll need supporting documentation.

For more information on the 2020 census, or if you have questions or problems with the application process, call (855) 562-2020.

After you apply, an interviewer will reach out to potential hires to conduct a phone interview, but not all applicants will be interviewed. Job offers are made verbally, but candidates will also receive a letter by email.

Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit www.savvysenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of The Savvy Senior book.

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Job Qualifications To be able to work for the 2020 census, you must:

• Have a valid Social Security number

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With more than 3 million individuals age 60 and over in the commonwealth, a thriving volunteer network is essential for the delivery of aging services.

There are many opportunities statewide for volunteers through Pennsylvania’s 52 Area Agencies on Aging, including: • A PPRISE – Medicare insurance counseling • Long-term care ombudsmen • Home-delivered and congregate meals

• Senior companion program • Foster grandparent program

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Learn more about volunteer opportunities with the Pennsylvania Department of Aging or complete a signup form at www.aging.pa.gov.

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