El Girasol ~ Fall 2012 Edition

Volume XIII Issue III Fall 2012

Omega Phi Beta’s National Sorority Magazine

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Table of Contents

In Every Issue

Letter from the Alumnae Association President Letter from the Editor

3 4

Staying Connected to AA

5

To Be Politically Inclined

19

Beta Cookin’

21

Beta Mommies Updates

25

Know your Rights: The Great Booby Debate

26

Day to Night: Make-Up Tutorial

28

Sunshine Corner

30

Beta Celebrations

36

Beta Brides

37

Sorority Highlights 6

OPBSI Nationol Rememberance Day

10

Bringing Sisterhood to the Forefront

11

Domestic Violence Awareness Events

12

“Love Doesnt Hurt” Mini Walk

14

Unity and Support Amongst Greeks

15

Upcoming Events and Service Opportunities

16

Region 2 Retreat

31

RFTG Scholarship Winner

38

New Beta Business

35

Feature Articles Hispanic Heritage Month Spotlight (S)heroism Happens Everyday

Our Editor’s (S)heros Facing Fearlessness To the woman who had a hand in my success...

The (S)hero in all of Us

Beta Resources

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it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.

National Conference 2012

Important Anit-Violence Resources Beta Yellow Pages Chapters and Colonies

How wonderful

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20 40 41

~ Anne Frank ~

Alumnae Association Mission Statement: Omega Phi Beta’s Alumnae Association serves as the representing body of all nonaffiliated alumnae of the sorority.

Our mission is to engage our alumnae in the mission, vision, and goals of the sorority, create a sense of community, and support our alumnae in all areas of lives.

Welcome The Alumnae Association of Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Inc (OPBSI) in collaboration with the staff of El Girasol want to formally WELCOME you to our first ever public edition. After serving our members for over 20 years, we decided it was time to share all the great things OPBSI is doing with our family, friends, and the community.

We hope that you enjoy this edition and use this as an opportunity to reflect on the topics discussed. This edition proves to be chockfull of great topics that not only shows you the commitment that our members have to advancing the community but we also hope it will help spark some dialogue in your respective communities.

With the elections coming up see what OPBSI has done to be politically inclined, in this day and age of uncertainty-be comforted by the stories of sisters sharing who their s-heros are and why, and most importantly in honor of our national philanthropy (raising awareness of violence against women) we hope that you learn more about what OPBSI is doing to further advance the cause and what resources are available to you.

The Staff Editor in Chief Selina Hernandez Managing Editor Amanda Crane Copy Editor Marielys Garcia Design Editor Desiree Henry Contributing Editors, Fall 2012 Edition Sherlene Ayala Yvette Lopez-Colgon Claribel Crews Virginia Rivas Lozada Kristen Sepulveda Jane Vega Dr. Cassandra St. Vil

Contact us!

We hope you enjoy and we look forward to sharing the next edition with you this upcoming December!

We love to hear your feedback, tell us your thoughts, comments, concerns, kudos, shoutouts or submit an article!

Email

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Iota, Spring 2000 Alumnae Association President

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From the Editor

Hello and Welcome to our very first public online issue of El Girasol!

Our team is so excited to be opening our magazine up to new readers and hope that you enjoy the content!

Selina Hernandez

Alpha Beta, Fall 1999 Alpha Beta Chapter President

So much has happened in the past few years and things are continuing to evolve--we offically turned into an online magazine on January 2011 and now in October 2012 are inviting a new audience. We hope that El Girasol not only provides you with creative and interesting content but can also serve as a resource to you.

The overall theme of this issue is She-roism and Heroism.

Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated, a NALFO organization member, is a Latina-oriented sorority founded on March 15, 1989, at the University at Albany, State University of New York. Seventeen women of various ethnic and cultural backgrounds came together to defy the injustices suffered by women, particularly women of color, in the academic, professional and political arenas.

The purpose of OPBSI is to serve and educate people of diverse backgrounds through sisterhood, leadership, and guidance. As positive role models, we promote unity of all cultures, focus on the empowerment of our gender and raise the standards of excellence in our academic, social, and personal endeavors.

For further information visit: www.OmegaPhiBeta.org

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Shero- Blend of She and Hero. A hero for women’s rights or a woman regarded as a hero.

Heroine- A woman admired and emulated for her achievements and qualities.* October is a month chock full of events for our organization especially as it relates to spreading awareness of violence against women in the hopes that one day it won’t be a prevalent issue. Whether it is for this very important philanthropic effort, important social views, highlighting Hispanic Heritage month or highlighting issues concerning mothers and so much more, this issue is overflowing with Sheros.

The sheros I speak of are not like that in a novel or film but real woman of diverse backgrounds that are striving to be better and make a difference in their community. These women are mothers, doctors, teachers, social workers, lawyers, writers, students--role models (whether they know it or not) and yes Sheros!

Please enjoy this issue and pass it on to your friends!

Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. Serving and educating through our diversity *www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary

Staying Connected

to

AA

Once you become an alumna, you are removed from your chapter’s alias and only receive OPBSI emails if you elect to sign up for any of the following communication tools.

Do you Tweet?

Monthly Buzz.

Follow us, @OPBSI_Alumnae, for the latest updates on AA activities!

Stay connected with OPBSI National updates via the Monthly Buzz. To subscribe to the BUZZ mailing list email ExecVP@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Share Photos on Instagram?

Follow us, @OPBSI_Alumnae, for the latest updates on AA activities!

AA Newsletter

AA collects the emails of alumnae and adds it to their distribution list. If you are not on the list, or know an alumna who would like to be added, contact us at Alumnae@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Get LinkedIn with OPBSI. Job postings, virtual networking, and professional devolpment opportunities. Join the Omega Phi Beta LinkedIn Group today!

Beta Hummer The Beta Hummer is a biweekly events newsletter that is published electronically on the 15th and 30th of each month. It’s main purpose is to keep the sisterhood informed of National and Local Events. The publication will also include links to our LinkedIn group for job postings and any announcements sent by individual sisters such as apartment hunt inquiries.

Contact VP of Programming at Programming@OmegaPhiBeta.org to get added

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National Conference “Remember(ing) Your Roots”

By Desiree Henry, Theta Chapter, Fall 2000

Sorors from across the nation came together to attend OPBSI’s National Conference. The sisterhood filled weekend took place from October 5 - October 7, 2012 at Theta Chapter in Stony Brook University, Stony Brook, NY. The “Remember Your Roots” theme resonated throughout the entire weekend where sorors had many opportunities to bond and connect with the very women that inspired them to be a part of this organization and continue help them grow professionally and personally.

Over 35 Sisters arrived on Friday evening to a Welcome Reception hosted by Theta Chapter.

They spent time catching up and playing “Beta Bingo,” an interactive game where sisters get to know each other by asking questions about their lives, such as who “Pledged more than 10 years ago” and who “Speaks three languages.”

Winners of the game received gift cards and Diversity Mugs that were donated by Theta Chapter alumnae and Stony Brook University’s Diversity and Affirmative Action office.

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Welcome Reception hosted by Theta Chapter

Sisters were up bright and early for Saturday morning’s national business meeting. There were many new and exciting announcements including the addition of two new chapters.

Congratulations to our New Chapters!

Beta Lambda University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill Beta Mu University of California, Berkeley

Sisters also had the opportunity to hear speaker Dennis Camacho, Director of Commuter Student Outreach and First Year Programs in Boston, Ma. He spoke about the risks academically, personally and financially associated with hazing.

Congratulations to our new National Officers Regional Director 1 Kristina Castorina, Kappa, Fall 2007 Regional Director 4 Claribel Crews, Rhode Island Colony, Fall 2003

OPBSI’s National Meeting

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After the conference, the Alumnae Association celebrated its 10 year anniversary by hosting an After Conference Alumnae Affair in the Brooks Alumni Room, that was attended by over 70 sisters! Alumnae Sisters enjoyed a delicious Italian buffet and open bar

while catching up and reminiscing about about their favorite sisterhood memories. Even sisters who were unable to attend the morning meetings, joined us for the event, many of them remembering the days they used to attend Stony Brook as undergrads.

After Confererenc Alumnae Affair hosted by the Alumnae Association

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After the Alumnae Affair, Theta Chapter undergrads hosted “Beta Fest” a Step, Stroll and Dance Exhibition where they invited organizations from from campus and the local Stony Brook community to perform. Soror Jessica “Remo” Saul was the Mistress of Ceremonies and she did an amazing job. There were performaces by various organizations and a local dance group. The evening was full of fun, strolling and lots of laughter.

The National meeting culmunated on Sunday afternoon where chapters were awarded for outstanding

programming achievments. After which sisters enjoyed some additonal bonding time, enjoying the remainder of the weekend.

On behalf of Theta Chapter, thank you for allowing us to host this year’s conference. It truly was a wonderful experience to see so many of our sisters on our campus. Spending time with sisters at a place I called home for four years brough many warm memories to light again. As an alumnae of Theta Chapter, I was extremely proud and humbled to be a part of this National Conference. Until the next time...Soleil!

Beta Fest hosted by Theta Chapter

Scavenger Hunt Winner !

Lotus M. Felix , Beta Delta Chapter, Fall 2010, won the Theta Chapter Scavenger Hunt. Sisters were challenged to take photos in iconic places and people around Stony Brook for a prize.

Congratulations Lotus!

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October 9th is OPBSI

National Day of Rememberance...

In Loving Memory of...

Founder Renee Padilla

August 21, 1970 - October 9, 2000

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B ringing S isterhood T o T he F orefront

By C laribel Crews, Rhode Island Colony, Fall 2003

Many times as sisters we forget that being a “Beta” is not all about business. This summer sisters from the New England Region decided to take a vacation together. We traveled to Saint Maarten and Curacao. Both islands were very beautiful and we had tons of fun at each. Most importantly we were able to be “Betas” without the business.

Since we had such a great time, we are planning to go on vacation again next year!

If you have any questions about either of the islands feel free to contact alphaepsilon@omegaphibeta.org

Left to Right: Amy Mateo, Stacy Dubois, Natasha Lopez, Anny Munoz & Claribel Crews

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month OPBSI has been dedicated to raising awareness of violence against women since its inception in 1989. Sisters throughout the organization participate in many service events that help spread our philathropy. From our graduate chapters

to our Colligiate counterparts, fundraisers, tabling, walks and programs are taking place in cities all around the country.

Through our solidarity we continue to make strides in our communities for change and helping empower women.

E.n.c.a.n.t.o.

Educando Nuestra Comunidad: A Night

Congratulations and Kudos to the sisters of the Alpha Beta Alumnae Chapter of Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. for successfully organizing their wonderful 3rd annual Domestic Violence Awareness Semiformal Fundraiser Dinner, ENCANTO on Saturday, October 20, 2012, and raising money for Sanctuary for Families of NYC.

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of

Teaching & Overcoming

On Sunday, October 28, 2012 the 1st Annual Ray of Hope Walk to end Violence Against Women (ROHW) was held in Riverside State Park. The 5K walk brought together sisters of Omega Phi Beta, domestic violence survivors, sponsors and members from all over the community. The recipient of this years monetary donations will be going to the National Organization for Women (NOW), the largest organization of feminist activists in the United States. Our sponsors were SingleBlackMale.org and Beauty Cares.

Thank you to everyone that supported, walked and donated!

Through your efforts we raised over $10,000!

For more information: RayofHopeWalk.org

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W alking

away from violence

On June 24, 2012 OPBSI’s Alpha Beta NYC Alumnae Chapter hosted the

“Love Doesn’t Hurt” mini walk in conjunction with 106th Street Oldtimers, Inc. The walk took place in Pelham Bay park located in the Bronx on a Sunday morning. The Ballet International Africans performed after the walk. Proceeds were donated to Sanctuary for Families.

For more information on future events, please contact: LoveDoesntHurtWalk@gmail.com

At the starting line...

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Unity and Support amongst Greeks

Sigma Lambda Upsilon sisters supporting AB Chapter’s Love Doesn’t Hurt Walks Lambda Upsilon Lambda brothers supporting Theta Chapter’s Beta Fest

Kappa Alpha Psi brother performing at Theta Chapter’s Beta Fest

Operation Dressy

Dennis Camacho, Director of Commuter Student Outreach and First Year Programs in Boston, Ma and brother of Phi Iota Alpha Fraternity, Inc. speaks at OPBSI’s National Conference 2012

Dress Drive

Operation Dressy Dress Drive: Is an initative that the sister’s of Alpha Beta Chapter do every year.

They collect dresses for donation to teens that have been effected by domestic violence and the teen girls are able to pick their dress or choice to attend their dance or prom. This year for the second time in a row, sisters of the chapter went to a Sanctuary for Families to assist the girls with choosing their dress. The volunteers then gave them manicures and a lip gloss from Avon that was donated by Nadia Cureton (ncureton.avonrepresentative.com).

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Upcoming Events and

Service Opportunities

October Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Beta Epislon, SUNY Old Westbury, Old Westbury, NY

Beta Theta, SUNY Cortland, Cortland, NY

The Beta Epsilon Chapter of Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated will be participating in a Domestic Violence Dinner from 9-11pm at the Student Union: Multipurpose Rooms A-C. This dinner will be with the Women’s center in order to grieve the victims as well as promote strength & independence.

Beta Theta will be hosting a Halloween Bash. Sister support woudl be greatly appriciated.

For more information: BetaEpsilon@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Pimp-my-Pumpkin co-sponsored with Lambda Sigma

For more information: BetaTheta@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Monday, October 29, 2012 Upsilon Chapter, Rutgers University, Rutgers, NJ Upsilon. For more information: Upsilon@OmegaPhiBeta.org

November

Alpha Theta Alumnae Chapter

Sunday, November 4, 2012 Upsilon Chapter, Rutgers University, Rutgers, NJ Cafe Soleil For more information: Upsilon@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Saturday, November 10, 2012 Alpha Theta Chapter, Florida Alumnae Chapter, FL Alpha Theta will participate for a second year in a row at Hunter’s Creek Relay for Life in Orlando. The event assists in raising funds and awareness to save lives from Cancer.

Last year was a great success for Alpha Theta and we look forward to an even better turn out for a great cause.

Alpha Theta participating in Hunter’s Creek Relay for Life in 2011

For more information: AlphaTheta@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Wednesday, November 28, 2012 Upsilon Chapter, Rutgers University, Rutgers, NJ Shades Program For more information: Upsilon@OmegaPhiBeta.org Alpha Theta participating in Hunter’s Creek Relay for Life in 2011

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Be a Beta, Be a Scholar The OPBSI Book Rental!

Saturday, December 1, 2012

World Aids Day I Wear Red Campaign! This is our 3rd year and we want to have as many chapters participate and Wear Red on December 1st via social media.

Please follow Alpha Theta Chapter on Facebook.

For more information: AlphaTheta@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Stay academically inclined while saving up to 80% on book rentals. Rent your textbooks for school or start a book club with this great offer. Spread the word to friends, family, co-workers, classmates, and teachers.

Anyone is able to take advantage of this great deal.

Rent your favorite books while helping your organization raise money.

For more information visit http://opbsi.bookrenterstore.com

FUNDRAISER YOU CAN SUPPORT RIGHT FROM THE COMFORT OF HOME The Scentsy Party that will change your world! The Alumnae Association is hosting a fundraiser with Soror Lourelix Alvarado Ruiz, Scentsy Consultant Extraordinaire, to make money to go towards our yearly scholarship and our operations.

ANYONE can purchase from this party (sorors, family, friends) so please share this with your networks!

If you need any additional motivation, they have a Puerto Rican flag as a warmer. (Other country flags are currently not available).

Please support us by purchasing through this party: https://loryruiz.scentsy.us.Scentsy/Buy?partyId=93005613

Scentsy is AWESOME and a great wickless candle you can use in your office, home, and car! Try a product and you’ll be hooked!

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Hispanic Heritage Month Highlight: Nora de Hoyos Comstock, Ph.D. Nora de Hoyos Comstock is the national and international founder of Las Comadres Para Las Americas. She has served as the organization’s President and CEO since it’s founding.In 1989 Dr. Comstock formed a business development consultancy known as Comstock Connections which she continues to the present day.

First Latina to be selected for Austin,Texas Women’s Hall of Fame Check out their recently released book:

Count on Me Tales of Sisterhoods and Fierce Friendships

Beloved bestselling Latino authors share moving personal stories of the many ways that sisterly bonds have powerfully impacted their lives.

What would you do, where would you be, without your Comadres? http://www.countonmebook.com/

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Nora Comstock received her Ph.D. (1982) from the University of Texas at Austin in Educational Administration with an emphasis on community college management and a B.A. in History (1974) with a specialty in Latin America.

She was selected one of twenty Latinas in the U.S. to be a 2000 fellow of the National Hispana Leadership Institute in Washington, D.C. Dr. Comstock also was selected as one of fifteen Hispanic leaders to participate in the 22nd Seminario Fundacion Solidaridad, Mexico City and Michoacan in October, 2003.

National Convention and Exhibition of Mexicans Abroad in Los Angeles in July 2006. In 2007 Dr. Comstock was selected as one of the 25 top Hispanic Influencers in Austin, Texas for 2007.

Throughout her career she has received numerous accolades.

She is the recipient of a Maybelline 2008 Beauty of Education Award for her dedication to serving the community, she was honored as one of the 25 Mujeres del Año 2011 by Sucesos: El Periódico de la Comunidad Hispana in Houston, TX, and she has served on numerous local and national boards.

Las Comadres Para Las Americas was named a 2011 Community Leadership Award honoree by the University of Texas at Austin for commitment and dedication to promoting social justice, increasing opportunities for inclusion, and/ or improving access to education.

Nora Comstock was selected for the 2012 Austin, Texas Women’s She received an award in Hall of Fame. She is the first Latina recognition of lifetime commitment to be selected for this honor. and achievements in serving the Hispanic Community from the Hispanic Professional Women’s Association at the 4th Annual

By Nora de Hoyos Comstock, PH.D. Las Comadres is a culturally-based group because I was painfully aware that my cultural roots were slipping away and that I was dangerously close to losing my cultural identity. I felt a deep desire to connect on a close personal level with other Latinas in the community to build and maintain my cultural heritage. Initially I thought I was unique in my need to connect to my cultural past but when an article about me was published in the local paper, the response from Latinas was so overwhelming that I quickly realized that the desire for connection was immense.

The word spread quickly from Austin to other cities and the requests for group formation is rapidly outstripping my capacity to meet the demand.

In our website we identify what is happening as a “movement” because we really think that is what it is...and it is sweeping us along with it.

Las Comadres is for Latinas to build and grow personal relationships. Non- Latino spouses of

Latinos are welcome to join our group, their children are Latino and we will help the family feed the cultural soul. The monthly comadrazos™ are an informal professional networking and support gatherings. There are no dues, no officers, no meetings, no commitment, everything we do is by a self selection process. We send out information and each one of us decides what to do with it. Mostly we email information about things happening in the community, regionally, nationally and internationally.

Our information covers jobs, special events, happenings, our National Book club and cultural issues. Las Comadres create workshops or seminars to meet gaps in needs within our communities. From Austin, Texas to New York City, NY Las Comadres are making an impact!

For more information visit the website: http://www.lascomadres.org

To be Politically Inclined....

OPBSI Participates in Voto Latino Campaign OPBSI, along with 19 other national organizations, partnered with Rep Ur Letters, a campaign powered by Voto Latino to empower young voters by getting them registered before the November elections. Voto Latino will provide a grand prize of a celebrity appearance for the national organization that registers the most voters as part of this campaign. The campaign ran through October 7, 2012.

About Voto Latino:

Voto Latino is a next-generation, constituency based organization that empowers American Latinos to claim a better future by voting. United by the belief that Latino issues are American issues and American issues are Latino issues, Voto Latino is dedicated to bringing new and diverse voices into the political process by engaging youth, media, technology and celebrities to shake up the political process.

Interested in Voto Latino?

Over the next few weeks, Voto Latino will be announcing updates and events, so make sure you sign up and stay tuned at: www.RepUrLetters.org!

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I mportant Anti -V iolence Resources N ational H otlines and Organizations Hotline Phone Numbers Domestic Violence Hotline 800-621-HOPE (4673)

Crime Victims Hotline 866-689-HELP (4357)

Rape & Sexual Assault Hotline 212-227-3000

Boston

www.c2home.org http://feminist.org www.mahomless.org

Los Angeles

www.agapefdnadv.org http://dvcouncil.lacounty.gov

Los Angeles County Hotline (24 HOUR)

U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) TTY 1-800-787-3224 www.nnedv.org

Washington, DC Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) is the nation’s largest anti-sexual assault organization. Among its programs, RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE and the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline at rainn.org .

This nationwide partnership of more than 1,100 local rape crisis centers provides victims of sexual assault with free, confidential services, 24 hours per day, 7 days per week. These hotlines have helped over 1.3 million people since RAINN’s founding in 1994.

1-800-656-HOPE Washington DC www.dccadv.org www.houseofruth.org

(800) 978-3600

New York City New York City’s 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 621–HOPE (4673)

Sanctuary for Families (212) 349–6009 • • • • •

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Press 0 for general information and for information about shelter Press 1 for Clinical Program Press 2 for Legal Center Press 3 for Children’s Program Press 8 if office is closed and on weekends - Sanctuary is open from 9 am - 6 pm on Monday Thursday, and 9 am - 5 pm on Fridays.

Press 9 for Spanish

MADRE 121 West 27th Street, # 301 New York, NY 10001 USA

(212) 627-0444 Fax: (212) 675-3704 Volunteers volunteers@madre.org

http://nyscadv.org/directory.htm Additional Help in your area: www.thehotline.org

Florida Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.fcadv.org/centers Florida Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-500-1119

Harbor House of Central Florida

If you or someone you love is going through domestic abuse, PLEASE CALL US at 407-886-2856.

Administration Office: P.O. Box 680748 Orlando, FL 32868 admin@harborhousefl.com GET HELP: 24-Hour Crisis Hotline (407) 886-2856 (TTD) 1 (800) 5001119 (FL) 407-886-2244 (main office) Safehouse of Seminole 24-Hour Crisis Hotline (407)-330-3933 (TTY/TDD) (800) 500-1119 toll free

Chicago 1-877-To-END-DV Domestic Violence Agencies by City www.dhs.state.il.us

Safe Horizon

www.safehorizon.org In New York State:

New York State’s 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 942-6906 (English) (800) 942-6908 (Spanish)

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NY State Resources

If you know of any resources in your local city, please share it with the membership.

Email: OPBSI.El.Girasol@gmail.com and put “DV Resources” in the Subject heading

Beta Cookin’

By Jane Vega, Founder

R ice :

Turkey K ielbasa with Green Peppers and Onions, served with C ilantro R ice (serves 3-4)

K iel basa

1 link of Turkey Kielbasa 1 medium green pepper julienned 1 medium onion julienned 1 small red onion julienned 1-2 cups of chicken stock 1-2 clove of garlic finely chopped 1 tablespoon oil 1.5 tablespoon of Italian seasonings Salt pepper to taste

C i la nt ro R ice

1.5 cups of white medium or long grain white rice 2.75 cups of water 1 tablespoon oil Salt and pepper to taste Large hand full of cilantro rolled up and chopped (cut cilantro just before adding to rice)

P ots N eeded

Medium Sauce pan Large Sautee pan

In medium sauce pan add rice, oil, salt and pepper. I usually add a teaspoon of each right now. Stir until rice is completely coated with oil. Let this sit for 10 seconds. Slowly add water, stir gently. Put on a medium high flame and bring to a boil. Once the rice water is boiling cover pot tightly, lower the flame to low and cook until water is absorbed, 1217 minutes. Once rice is done take ¾ of your cilantro and stir it into the white rice.

Add remaining cilantro as a garnish for each plate once rice is served.

K ielbasa :

Heat sauté pan, add oil. Place whole turkey kielbasa link in pan and brown on all sides (if you need to cut it in half to properly brown on all sides that is fine). Set aside on a clean plate. Add green pepper, onion, red onion and garlic to pan. Sauté peppers and onion until they begin to become translucent.

Add one cup of chicken stock to deglaze pan. Add remaining stock and reduce just a few minutes. Take kielbasa and slice into 1/8” slices. Add kielbasa back to pan and simmer with vegetables until vegetables become fully translucent.

Add Italian seasonings to pan. Reduce liquid in pan until it starts getting a little thick and begins to coat kielbasa and vegetables. Remove from heat.

Serve while hot.

Feel free to add any other vegetables you love. Sometimes I will add carrots and mushrooms. Add a little extra chicken stock if you add more vegetables. You want that slight coating of great flavor from the liquid reduction.

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Empowering Women : (S)heroism Happens Everyday

By Jane Vega, Founder It took me a while to consider how to write this.

Even after thinking about it I felt, “Who am I to talk about heroism or “sheroism”? When you hear words like these you think grand gestures and grandiose moments. I am a mother of a 5 year old who apparently knows everything (lol), so I decided to ask Jacob about it. Now I was ready to hear about Batman, Superman, Spiderman and the like – and I did hear about them, but what followed caught me off guard.

After describing all the things that Superheroes do; he snuggles in and says, “But you do know Mom – not all heroes wear costumes.” Intrigued, I inched in closer. “Really?”I inquired. He responds, “Yes Mommy, I have heroes in my class. They are my friends, they play with me, they don’t hit me, they are nice to me, they share with me and they always get greens (accolades for good behavior in class). Well not always greens but they try to do a good job.”

WOW!! Talk about an epiphany moment. I heard hero or shero and pumped the idea of the word up so large that the basics of the words almost escaped me.

A hero behaves in a way that isn’t just good: their actions inspire others to be good.

Being friendly or polite, just because. Heroes play nicely with others, they are respectful, they look out for those that can’t do it for themselves. Even my son recognizes that no one get greens for good behavior every day, so let’s not be so judgmental with ourselves or anyone else. Perfection does not exist.

It is in the little acts of kindness, support and encouragement that we build trust, self-esteem and confidence. “Do unto others…” We have

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all heard it before, we all want it that in our lives, but we all have dispositions that occasionally prevent us from showcasing our heroic or sheroic attributes. It is not easy to be open-minded and heroic when we have bills to pay, we are late for work, or our partner got us miffed. Maybe you woke up today and encountered every contrary or difficult person in your neighborhood on the way to work or school.

Needless to say it would be difficult to dig deep and pull out love for our fellow man. But you never know where that other person is coming from. Their life experiences have led them down a different, darker road that they are choosing to continue traveling. Sometimes other people’s bad attitudes are not because they are terrible people but rather because they have no idea what happiness or peace is.

The Dalai Lama says, “Be the change you want to see.”

This is a heroic/sheroic statement.

The implication is, in the face of adversity, in your hour of discontent, in your inability to understand how certain things operate, be the change you want to see. Be the force that moves the mountain. Be the water that perseveres through any obstacle. Be the heat that melts away the drama. So if you really want to be a hero or a shero - push forward – align yourself with what should be happening – be kind to someone – be open to helping – be proactive in your community – and above all else challenge yourself to be open hearted, open minded and full of love. Your one action could be the catalyst that makes all the difference and starts to change everything.

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Sides* Creamy Baked Macaroni & Cheese with seasoned crumb topping $35 Brown Sugar & Rum Glazed Sweet Potatoes w/pecans $30 Sister’s Slammin’ Stuffing – with seasoned ground turkey $35 Honey Glazed Cornbread (made with real corn) $20 Pastelon $25 Sweet Plantain & sofrito ground turkey quiche *Additional items available upon request. Prices are pickup only

Desserts Cupcakes $24 per dozen Red Velvet

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Caramel Stuffed Brownies Sweet Potato Pie $16

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Have a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!

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Empowering Women : Our Editor’s (S)heroes’

We asked each of our editors to share who the (s)heros in their lives are....

Ever since I played her in my Pre-K Black History play, I have been continually impressed with the legacy left by Rosa Parks’ life of advocacy and resilience.

Despite simply being known for the historic stand against discrimination on public transportation, Rosa lived a life of self-determination and giving back to her community, to ensure that all citizens were given access to equal representation and rights in American society. She was a strong advocate for all minorities, women and other marginalized groups. Her determination and her strong sense of purpose impacted my life greatly and have inspired me to always use my influence in order to give a voice to the needs of the voiceless. She is my ultimate shero!

Marielys Garcia It is hard to pinpoint one person that I looked up to in my life. I have to say that I have been very lucky to have some very stong and independent women who have nutured me and helped me become the woman I am today. From my mom, to my aunts, some of my closests friends and family, the women who are around me have been through so many obstacles and challenges in their lives. Being able to overcome those challenges and continue on with a smile on their face is something I truly admire and try to carry out in my everyday life. I feel blessed to be a part of a family and circle of friends who are sheroes in their everyday lives.

Desiree Henry

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There are plenty of people I admire and look up to, especially my own family, but I find my true inspiration comes from many people, not just one. My hero is anyone who is willing to stand up for what they believe in, no matter what their “support” network or society may say. Anyone who approaches life with such tenacity and vigor that they follow their passion, take risks, and follow their heart and soul because in the end they have found what it means to truly live.

Amanda Crane My grandmother, Guillermina Davila has lived on this earth for over 94 years and is still a fiery and vibrant woman. She has experienced the harshness and the joys of life and is a living history that I cherish. Mai (what we all call her) has lived through her mother dying when she was only in the second grade, raised her siblings and experienced one die in her arms before reaching adolescence, given birth to 5 children in her house--one of which died before the age of 6, migrated to New York City without knowing the English language, outlived all her siblings, buried her husband, my handsome grandfather Ventura Hernandez, outlived a naïve doctors premature death diagnosis, has become a great grand mother and a great great grandmother! She has lived this all while keeping her uplifting spirit, realistic attitude on life, inner peace, inner strength and her amazing love for people. She is a rock and although her education doesn’t surpass elementary school she has a world of wisdom and knowledge to offer. She is my belove dbeautiful “Abuelita Linda”, my Shero!

Selina Hernandez

Beta

Welcome to our new Beta babies

Mommies

and congratulations to our expecting Mommies !!

ARE YOU EXPECTING? NEW OR SEASONED BETA MOMMY?

Stay connected ,share stories, advice and stay up-to-date with Beta Mommy events. To join the Beta Mommies group email: BETAMOMMIES-subscribe@yahoogroups.com

C hr istina F igueroa

G a br iela S oto (Tau/

J eanette G onzalez

Stephanie Roj as (Xi/

(Theta/Spring 1998) welcomed a baby boy in August (Theta/ Spring 1999) are her husband are expecting her second daughter

G lor y Kowa lz yck Jackie Camilo Mendez (Nu/Spring 2000) welcomed twin boys in June

D or is C orporan

(Theta/Fall 2000) welcomed her second child, Daniel David in August

(Theta/Spring 1999) welcomed her second baby girl, Emily Noelle, in July

Yvette Lopez -C olgan

Spring 2004) welcomed baby girl Olivia in August Spring 2006) welcomed baby boy Liam in June

I vonne Valentine

(Upsilon/Fall 2006) will be welcoming Baby Vasquez in March 2013

(Theta/Spring 1998) welcomed Jaxton David in early October

C arolina Rami rez

(Theta/Fall 2000) welcomed her first born son, Gabriel Anthony in June

Z ugel y S aez (Xi/Fall

1999) welcomed her first born daughter, Rosario Valentina in July

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Know Your Rights The Great Booby Debate

By Yvette Lopez-Colgan, Theta, Spring 1998 The Great Booby Debate: Bloomberg Proposes Restrictions on Baby Formula The Internet and media are all abuzz over NYC mayor, Michael Bloomberg’s, proposed restriction on baby formula in NYC hospitals. This is a topic near and dear to my heart as I breastfed my first child for 13 months and am now 36 weeks pregnant with my second child and plan to exclusively breastfeed.

First, here are the facts: Under the organization “Latch on NYC”, Bloomberg is asking NYC hospitals to voluntarily restrict access to formula and provide education and support to breastfeeding moms. By joining this voluntary initiative for NYC maternity hospitals to support mother’s decision to breastfeed participating hospitals have agreed to enforce the NY state hospital regulation to not supplement breastfeeding infants with formula feeding unless medically indicated and documented on the infant’s medical chart, restrict access to infant formula by hospital staff, tracking infant formula distribution and sharing data on formula distribution with the Health Department, discontinue the distribution of promotional or free infant formula and prohibit the display and distribution of infant formula promotional materials in any hospital location.

Despite all the media propaganda to the contrary, the initiative itself seems quite positive and will protect those moms who have chosen to breastfeed exclusively, while still respecting the rights of those women who choose not to.

So why all the debate and controversy? In a society where a woman’s breasts are viewed as sexual objects as opposed to natural sources of nutrition for a baby, and where most of our mamis and abuelas bottle fed and find it somewhat disgusting to breastfeed, it’s easy to see why there is such debate. The reality is that breast milk is the number one best source of nutrition for a human baby, not cow’s milk, which is where formula is derived.

Breast milk has numerous health benefits for mommy and baby, including but not limited to preventing

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obesity, asthma, allergies, diarrhea, ear infections in the baby and preventing ovarian and breast cancer in the mom.

It should be a no-brainer, right? Yet, in our overly commercialized, capitalistic society, big formula companies have made many believe that formula is cleaner and easier and more “civilized”, but let’s wake up here sistas! Would you put your baby to a cow’s utters and allow them to suckle? Of course not!

Just this week alone I found on my doorstep, unsolicited, a 3 pound box from Similac which included a bottle, a free sample of Similac Advance and Similac sensitive and about $30 worth of coupons for the products should I decide to buy it. For those moms on the fence about breastfeeding or having a hard time (which is the majority), it is so easy to open

that box, fill that bottle, mix up that white powder and shove it in their baby’s mouth, but the consequences can be disastrous for the health of that child.

I respect every woman’s right to choose what is right for her and her baby but what’s wrong with preventing free and unrestricted access to formula in hospitals?

Maybe if it weren’t such an easy option more moms would stick with breastfeeding. Formula is pushed on moms even before the baby is out and at times the nurses in the hospitals will give the baby formula without permission. If it were an illegal or prescription drug, such soliciting would shock the conscience, but the long-term consequences for a mom who is trying to breastfeed can be nearly the same.

Once any bit of formula is introduced or supplemented it changes the flora of the baby’s stomach and will also act to reduce the mom’s supply, since the baby will sleep longer (because formula is heavier) and not nurse as often, not to mention other dangers like nipple confusion or adverse reactions to the formula. Most women’s biggest fear is that they are not producing enough. Since we have no hash marks on our breasts with the amount of ounces like a bottle, it is impossible to tell what’s coming out. Formula companies pray on that insecurity when the reality is there are very few women who cannot produce enough milk for a child who is exclusively breastfeeding. We have to learn to trust ourselves and just because the baby cries doesn’t mean they are still hungry.

Bloomberg may be a smart and wealthy man but his plan is not a novel idea. We are far behind even many underdeveloped countries when it comes to breastfeeding and most European (like the U.K.) and South American countries (like Brazil) have long ago banned formula from hospital and clinics in order to encourage and promote breastfeeding.

The truth is breastfeeding is not easy or as natural as you might think when you attempt it because our culture has strayed so far from what is the natural course of things. Women who are attempting to breastfeed may have little to no support system. We may not have grown up seeing our moms and aunts

do it and since they didn’t do it, it is often hard for them to help or relate. Even my mom repeated over and over, “Ella tiene hambre, por eso esta llorando.

Tu no le’ sta dando na” (“she is crying because she is hungry, you’re not giving her anything”). My mom, Grandma, husband and even pediatrician were telling me to “just give her formula”. Luckily I am as stubborn as a mule and I found an angel, by way of a lactation consultant who came and gave me the support and encouragement I needed to go on for over 13 months (I also found a new pediatrician who supported my choices). What’s the result? My child has only been ill a handful of times in over 3 years, has no allergies, never had an ear infection or needed antibiotics for any reason and is a happy, healthy, extremely smart child.

Is it all from breastfeeding? Probably not, but I would like to think that it helped.

So ladies, never forget that breast is best! If you have a sister, cousin or friend who is pregnant or post-partum and is considering or in the midst of breastfeeding, give her a hug and tell her she can do it and is doing a good job; it could make all the difference.

Helpful resources: www.lalecheleague.com www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/ms/latchonnyc.shtml

If you have any legal questions, please send them to OPBSI.El.Girasol@gmail.com Looking forward to hearing from you!

Disclaimer

(come on, you know there had to be one, I am a lawyer after all) Any legal advice solicited does not constitute an attorney/client relationship and may be shared and discussed in my column either anonymously or with fictitious names, if requested. All advice offered should not be solely relied upon by the solicitor and should be discussed with personal counsel.

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Day to Night

Make Up

tutorial

By Kristin SepĂşlveda, Alpha Gamma Chapter, Spring 2007

1 p e t S

Apply Bronze Shadow To Primed Lid

Step 2

Blend Matte Shadow Across Crease

Step 5

Line Upper Lash Line

Step 3

Sweep Bronze Shadow Along Lower Lash Line

Step 6

Apply Mascara

Step 4

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Rim Inner Waterline

Step 7

Convert To Evening With A Pop Of Dark Blue Or Black Shadow To Corner

Facing F earlessness

By Dr. Cassandra St. Vil , Mu Chapter, Spring 2002

What a privilege it is to live your life exactly how you choose.

I make choices I can live by and take actions that I am proud of, and attribute this learning to one of the most frustrating periods of my life. Just over a year ago, I felt trapped in my existence, attached to a job I hated within an organization I formerly loved.

Mission had long since left its practice, and I felt warped and disappointed to the point where getting out of bed was a daunting task.

It took me a whole year to finally resign.

When I finally took the leap, I quit without necessarily knowing what was ahead (and oddly enough, without having secured another job). I needed the opportunity to breathe positive energy back into my life and rediscover the sense of self I had lost in the time I spent whining and complaining. I made the choice to leave. I also made the choice to cut off my hair into a short new style that I loved, pick up an interest in walking and running, leisurely read whatever I chose, redecorated my home just how I wanted and dated just as much as I had hoped. What a season! It felt great to become me again! The highlight of it all was that I invited my friends and family to celebrate my “renewal” with me. Together, we breathed new life into each other, our families, our careers, and more.

With my newfound freedom, I started on a new career path .

At age 29, I reset and restarted. I took an odd job in between my earlier career in the nonprofit sector and my new one in education. I knew I had much to learn, and chose a position as a community

organizer during my gap year. Although challenging, it gave me just the insight I needed in education policy and reform to prepare for the classroom.

I met my 9th graders just one year later, and have loved them from the start.

I am a high school teacher now. I teach high-need students in a brilliant academic environment where I am challenged, supported and inspired. I still love walking long distances and choose to do so to and from my new school. My short haircut looks great, and I still date who I choose. My home is a comfortable reflection of my recharged energy, and I couldn’t be happier. Earlier this week, I learned that my former boss (also the cause of much angst in my previous role) was recently let go for poor performance. I volunteer at my old organization, choosing how I continue to stay involved in ways that fulfill me personally and professionally.

I am happier now.

I choose me.

In every moment there is an opportunity for new learning. As adults we settle into routines, for better or worse, often because they are familiar or comfortable. I chose to take a course that was fulfilling, and it has kickstarted my life in ways I never thought imaginable. My mindset has changed. I have removed any reserve, fear or selfdoubt I once allowed to block my path, and couldn’t be happier for it. Choose to renew yourself, your relationships, your career, your life. Use fear as a launch pad to fully live the life you were meant to.

It is easier to keep still because you are afraid, but it is something powerful, riveting, enlightening and amazing to be and keep FEARLESS knowing that you and your life deserve more than your present.

Choose you.

To your own Renewal...

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Sunshine Corner Embracing Change

By Desiree Henry, Theta Chapter, Fall 2000

Change is inevitable.

It happens every day around us, from the weather to our jobs, friendships, loved ones...the list can go on and on.

This year has been quite interesting with many of those around me experiencing major changes in their lives. It made me start thinking about the many times in my life where I have experienced major change and how I was able to overcome the anxiety that sometimes comes with change.

I always prided myself on not getting easily frazzled by unexpected occurrences. I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that I lost my father at a very young age to cancer. I developed an attitude of...

“Sometimes bad things happen, but life goes on.”

I understood how difficult these types of situations could be, but I also knew that it wasn’t the end of the world.

That attitude helped me get through many of my own challenges. We are all challenged at various points in our lives. Think about how well do you handle change?

If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference ~Author Unknown If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience. ~Robert Fulghum The only disability in life is a bad attitude. ~Scott Hamilton

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You will eventually start to realize that you can either worry about what’s going to happen or take control and embrace the change that is about to happen. Regardless of how you deal with change, both ways require your time and energy, neither of which you should waste. Being able to roll with the punches and maintain a positive attitude in the face of change can help throughout many aspects of your life. If there is one thing I have learned in the last couple of years, its that you never know what unexected life alterering situation may be thrown your way.

Enjoy your life to the fullest and enjoy each day. You never know what may happen in the next week, month or even year, but be ready for it all and keep a positive attitude!

Learn to readjust your attitude constantly. I used to have a quote above my desk at work that said, “Attitude is the little thing that makes a big difference.” Having the right attitude and embracing the change before you, will make all the difference on whether that change will help you grow or keep you where you are. We can’t be afraid of what is to come because “life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” Embrace the change and embrace the life that is to come!

Soleil!

Follow me: www.weinspireus.wordpress.com

We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, “Why did this happen to me?” unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes our way. ~Author Unknown Sometimes in tragedy we find our life’s purpose - the eye sheds a tear to find its focus. ~Robert Brault We find comfort among those who agree with us - growth among those who don’t. ~Frank A. Clark Allow yourself a moment of grief when life’s misfortunes visit you. However, do not spend your days building a monument in honor of them. ~Dodinsky,

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine. ~Anthony J. D’Angelo, To be interested in the changing seasons is a happier state of mind than to be hopelessly in love with spring. ~George Santayana Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it. ~Author Unknown Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. ~Betty Smith

Region 2 Regional Retreat

“Although Region 2 is scattered from New York, to New Jersey, to Washington D.C., the amount of sisterhood from each of us withstands any distance in between us. Expressing our needs as a region was effortless and constructive, and we have all made an efforts in reaching our goals for the semester and supporting each other every step of the way; because that’s what sisterhood is all about.”

Alexis Marie Agosto, Upsilon, Fall 2011

Region 2 Chapters are Lambda Brooklyn College

Beta Alpha St. John’s University

Alpha Gamma Alumnae Chapter of Washington D.C.

Upsilon Rutgers University

Beta Gamma New York University

Alpha Zeta Alumnae Chapter of Northern NJ

Chi Chapter Seton Hall University

Alpha Beta Alumnae Chapter of New York, NY

Colony at Pace NYC Campus Colony at Columbia University

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Empowering Women : To the woman who had a hand in my success

By Sherlene Ayala, Sigma Chapter, Fall 2001

First Lady Michelle Obama spoke at the Democratic National Convention on September 4, 2012. I, along with millions of other women, clinged to our tissues and listened intently as she spoke about the values of our nation. Paying special tribute to the critical role of parents and grandparents, her words made me reflect on the people who had a hand in my success.

I lived in a community where the educational system did not invest the best of resources, but I had teachers and mentors who taught me about dignity and humility, as well as honesty and integrity. I had a supportive community of neighbors and family friends who would encourage me when they saw me walking to and from school. I also had my number one cheerleader push me everyday, and that was my grandmother. Wela was and still is the driving force in my life.

I have never told her how much she means to me, but after hearing Michelle Obama speak, I knew I needed to acknowledge what she has done for me. As her birthday approaches, I thought I’d write her a letter and share with her that she has played a role in my success.

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Ma-

As you approach your 65th birthday, I wanted to give you the biggest gift I could think of to show you my sincere gratitude for what you have done for me. In 1993 when my mom died, I remember the overwhelming feeling of confusion, sadness and anger. As a teenager, I couldn’t understand why my life had taken this change of course. I know the years following were tough, and at the time I didn’t know how to accept my new life changes, and while spending so much time on me-me-me, I had failed to realize that you had lost your daughter.

Our lives changed. You raised me like I was your own, and you made sure that I had everything I needed, within our means. You attended parent teacher orientation, went on school trips, and dropped me off at the bus on the first day at my summer youth job. You gave me a once in a lifetime sweet 16, taught me how to cook rice and beans, and drove 12 hours to attend my college graduation. When I got my first job out of college, you bought me a mattress set, and when I bought my first house, you came over and gave it your blessing. When I got accepted to my doctoral program, your words meant more to me than anything. You said, “Neca, I am so proud of you.”

In the 30 years of my life, you have selflessly given me your time, energy, money and your love to ensure I grew up to be a great woman. I know it was not easy, and you faced many challenges, but you have done a remarkable job, and I only wish to be the woman you are today. You are a woman of dedication and perseverance. I haven’t seen you give up on any of your grandchildren despite the ups and downs, and that is something I wish to continue. You are a woman of character.

You have taught me to hold myself with a certain level of prestige and elegance. You are a woman of integrity and faith. Your love for God is

impressive and one day I hope to find that connection in spirituality. You are a woman who placed high standards on education knowing that without it, I would be nobody. You are a woman that is respected and well liked, not to mention sarcastic and sometimes sassy.

When I consider that you are a mother of 4, and singlehandley raised all 4 kids, plus grandchildren, I am impressed with your courage to keep the family going. You have lost many people in your life, including all of your siblings, one of your daughters and friends. I am in awe when I see that you keep going. I wish I had that courage and stability to do that.

I could never be the woman you are today. You are a great mother and grandmother, and more importantly my friend. In the course of my adult life, I have transitioned my selfish ways of thinking, and recognized that you are a gem and the day I become a mom, I will instill the values you have instilled in me – faith, love, honesty, integrity and dedication.

As I bring this letter to a close, I have that feeling in my throat that’s telling me to let the tears flow down my cheek. There is no way for me to show you or tell you how much I love you. How grateful I am to you. How much you inspire me.

I want to thank you for loving me and listening to me, and being there for every step of my life. For letting me discover my path in life, and allowing me to make my mistakes. I could not imagine what my life would be like without your influence and passion for my growth. You are my role model, my best friend, and more importantly my mom. I love you more than you know.

Muneca

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Empowering Women : The (S)hero in All of Us

By Amanda Crane, Iota Chapter, Spring 2000 As a child I vividly remember watching She-ra and Thundercats (my favorite was Lionel) and thinking they were my heros. Why? Because they were powerful, they stood for what was right, they demonstrated great strength, and they had cool costumes and weapons. Who didn’t want to defeat the bad guys every time?

I’m sure if you flashed back to your childhood and who your (s)hero was, it may have been a cartoon character or your local civil servant.

It’s funny to see how simple life was and how we enjoyed life day by day without any pressure or looming self-doubts about oneself.

As we grow older, we learn the true definition of what a hero is and let our own personal experiences help mold who, or what that may look like. As I grew to be an older…ahem I meant wiser… person, I realized that although some of the reasons I looked up to those cartoon characters were rather superficial, at its core it helped define what I believed in and valued- strength, standing for what is right, assisting and defending their community, and enjoying life with gusto.

Throughout time there have been many public and local figures who have fit the bill for me and as is true to my nature, who my hero was always changed because I refused to settle on just one. The funny thing is I never articulated

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this to anyone and especially not to the “lesser known” people because I thought it would be awkward to say it to them (and on occasion for fear of sounding like a Mariah Carey or Enrique Iglesias song).

As I reflect on this topic I am reminded of a time in middle school where in class we had to write about who our hero was and one of my classmates wrote about me! I was taken aback and didn’t know how to respond. I was honored but then thought, why me? I’m a nobody. I’m just a plain old kid who didn’t even run with the popular crowd! It is now that I realize that we are all hero’s in our own respect. We don’t have to leap over buildings in a single bound, call out to the Power of Grayskull, or anything like that!

By being true to ourselves and tapping into our inner greatness, we can and will have a great impact on others and who knows… maybe today, maybe tomorrow, or maybe next week someone will come up to you and say “Hey, I just want you to know, you’re my hero.”

New Beta Business: Greetings!

Omega Phi Beta has created numerous events which instills elements needed as great training for many of our members.

Any gathering of two or more individuals for a given purpose is indeed an event! From that has immersed a vast variety of unions, for many, entrepreneurial backgrounds to create small businesses within our organization that are growing!

We continuously applaud our sisters and encourage them to succeed!

We are excited to say that three of our members make up the team of a new boutique event planning company for your special event needs, Your Best Event, Inc. (YBE) The event industry continues to grow as a very creative and much needed service to many and we each utilize our specialty to contribute to a successful event.

The YBE Team: Erica Diaz, Co-Founder & Lead Event Agent Spring 2002, Upsilon Chapter, Rutgers University

Daiana Hidalgo, Wedding Specialist Spr. 2002 , Epsilon Chapter, C. W. Post/ Long Island University

Jessica Medina, Creative Design Specialist Spring 2005, Theta Chapter, Stony Brook University

Events

Services/Resources

Anniversaries & Engagement Parties Awards Dinners Baby Showers Bachelorette Parties Birthday Celebrations Budget Planning Catering Christmas Parties Corporate & Holiday Functions Dinner Parties Engagement Events Event Marketing & Branding

Event Staffing Solutions Graphic Design Hair and Make-Up Invitations & Wedding Programs On-Site Event Management Printing Security Sound Design Thematic Conceptualization Transportation Venue Scouting Web Development

(left to right) Jessica Medina, Erica Diaz and Daiana Hidalgo

Our professional team members are experts in organizing, managing and executing any event. YBE, Inc. will tailor a customized events package suited for both your individual needs and the indulgence of your guests. We maintain a strong portfolio of the finest venues, service providers and industry insiders who are focused on creating unparalleled spectacular events.

We are extremely grateful for all the support we have received from our sisterhood. We have previously worked with sisters from Beta, Delta, Epsilon, Theta, Mu, Upsilon and Alpha Beta Chapters and hope to continue working with many more!

Each of our event agents are passionate, trained, and educated in several aspects of event planning. We emphasize communication, stress details & creativity and great organizational skills. If we adhere to this maxim, we will achieve customer satisfaction beyond expectation.

Please enjoy reading through our list of Events&Services.

We look forward to creating the best events with only you and your guests in mind.

Your Best Event, Inc. info@YourBestEvent.com www.facebook.com/YourBestEventInc

Your Vision...Our Pleasure!

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Beta Smarts, Celebrations and

Professional Achievements

Deyadira “Betty” Diaz, far right, (Zeta/Spring 1998)

and some fellow sisters take part in the New York PRIDE Parade each year. Betty is a supporter of NBCUniversal’s LGBT affinity group, OUT@NBCU, and recently revived UNIDOS, a Latino affinity group, at NBCUniversal’s Rockefeller Center headquarters.

Jessica Medina (Theta/Spring 2005)(left), Erica Diaz (Upsilon/Spring 2002)(middle), and Daiana Hidalgo’s

Jenice Diaz (Upsilon/Spring 2003) attends the

Registered Nurse Program at Bergen Community College and currently has a 3.2. Also, she has 4.0 GPA at Kean University’s BSN program. Jenice was also featured in the LatinTrends magazine for the month of August for a photo shoot campaign for Yeroc Eyewear & #Ush Clothing. http://www.latintrends.com/?p=14104 The Campaign Ad is shown in several media outlets for the upcoming NY Fashion Week.

(Epsilon/Spring 2002)(right) recent accomplishments rests upon their entrepreneurial goals. They are the CoFounders of Your Best Event, Inc. Your Best Event, Inc. is a boutique event planning company servicing the New York City area for special event needs.

Ruth Lora (Upsilon/Fall 2011) will be interning this semester with Van Wagner Sports company as a Brand Ambassador for the NFL games at Met Life Stadium.

Also, she will be with Viacom (owners of MTV, VH1, and BET) as one of two interns in the International Treasury Department.

Best wishes to Virginia Rivas Lozada (Upsilon/Fall 2003), Naydine Lopez (Upsilon/Fall 2003), Mary Guzman (Upsilon/Fall 2005), Carla Parra (Upsilon/ Fall 2007) and Karina Guzman (Upsilon/Spring 09) – they will be participation in TOUGH MUDDER Tri-State region on October 20, 2012. We are all proud of you and support you through this challenge.

Natalie Hernandez Green, MPH (Theta/Apring 1998) received the 2012 Outstanding Student Award for her paper titled “Latinas’ health care provider preferences regarding HPV vaccination.” This award is bestowed by the Latino Caucus of the American Public Health Association.

Alpha Theta Alumnae Chapter held a social for sisters who have graduated from Beta Eta and Beta Zeta Chapters in hopes getting to know each other better and peak their interest in Alpha Theta. They made chocolate and had some wine at Ferris and Fosters Famous Chocolate Factory.

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On May 16, 2012 Alpha Theta Alumnae Chapter attended the 14th Annual “Latinos Unidos Luncheon.” The “Latinos Unidos” Luncheon was established to raise funds for the City of Tampa Hispanis Advisory Council Scholarship Fund that assists Hispanic students in financial need to continue their education. Alpha Theta sisters took a picture with Bob Buckhorn (middle), Tampa’s Mayor, joined by Max Lora (Lambda Upsilon Lambda brother) as well as Alpha Theta interested women.

Natalie Hernandez Green

(Theta/Spring 1998) was married to Gerald Green in August in Punta Gorda, FL

Eve Torres (Phi/Fall 2003) won an NBC celebrity reality competition series, Stars Earn Stripes, on September 3. She earned over $100,000 for her charity, the USO.

Upsilon sends Birthday Wishes to their chapter sisters....

September Birthdays:

Joanna Estrada, Spring 2002 Virginia Rivas Lozada, Fall 2003 Yessenia Morales, Fall 2003 Sadie Mirabal, Fall 2006 Milibeth Castro, Fall 2006 Tatiana Fernandez, Fall 2006

October Birthdays

Ysmelda Peña, Spring 2002 Yisel Lopez, Fall 2003

Happy Birthday to all our sisters who have celebrated their birthdays since our last edition... wishing you all many more!

Share your great news! OPBSI.El.Girasol@Gmail.com

Johanna Fernandez (Zeta /Fall 2001) was engaged in August to Eduardo Marte

Have any questions or need advice please email us and see your answers in our next Girasol edition. Recently engaged? Just Got Married? Share the good news with your sorors!

Email: OPBSI.El.Girasol@gmail.com

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2012 Reach For the Gold Scholarship Winner: Heaven Saunders The Alumnae Association of Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated (OPBSI AA) is proud to announce Ms. Heaven Saunders of San Pedro, CA has been selected as this year’s winner of the Reach for the Gold Book Scholarship.

be a strong leader in her community.

She has participated in both the San Pedro & Peninsula YMCA (SPPY) and the California YMCA Youth & Government Programs (Y&G) where she has received several young leader awards.

She has also shown true creativity, enthusiasm and high energy in her love for the arts through several forms of dance.

The Reach for the Gold Book Scholarship recognizes academic and benevolent achievement among young women of color, and supports continued success through the first year of college. The OPBSI AA awards one scholarship recipient annually and as this year’s winner, Ms. Saunders, will receive $1,000 towards the purchase of academic text books.

Ms. Saunders plans to major in Public Relations at the University of Southern California with the hopes of pursuing a career as a PR specialist in fashion, entertainment, or government.

As a student at the Los Angeles County for the Arts, Ms. Saunders excelled academically with various Advanced Placement courses and an impressive Grade Point Average. Ms Saunders has not only participated in many extra curricular activities within her academic setting, but she has also proved to

Applications for 2013 will be available on Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated’s national website by February 2013.

Golden Calibri Grant Scholarship:

Nurturing the Development of Professional Beta Women

The Golden Colibri Grant was established in 2011 and serves to recognize and support the professional and academic development of alumnae members of Omega Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated. The Alumnae Association awards $500 annually to one grant recipient towards the pursuit of an advanced degree, professional certification, specialization, or license.

Please submit a completed application and send letters of recommendation, and professional resume to scholarship@omegaphibeta.org.

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Only applications submitted by November 1, 2012, will be considered.

The grant recipient will be announced no later than December 1, 2012.

Apply Now!

Keep the Ghosts

and Goblins Away

Order Sangria Anytime! today!

Treat yourself to some delicious red or white sangria.

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B eta Yellow Pages

Creative and Beauty Services Jessica Ayala

Elizabeth Cano

www.AyariMakeOvers.com www.TheGlossyParty.com

http://www.sweetcraftcakes.com

Ayari Make Overs

Sweet Craft Cakes

Karla Ayala-Quervalu

Karla Samantha Photography www.KarlaSamantha.com

Elsa Batista-Yzaguirre

Stoles By Elsa

Erica Diaz, Daiana Hidalgo and Jessica Medina www.YourBestEvent.com www.facebook.com/YourBestEventInc Erica@YourBestEvent.com

Stephanie Camacho & Rebecca Slivka

www.MOYACreative.com MOYACreativeDesigns@gmail.com

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UPCOMING NATIONAL MEETINGS N ational Convention March 15- 17, 2013

Beta Lambda Chapter University of North Carolina Chapel Hill, Chapel Hill, NC

N ational Conference October 11-13, 2013

Beta Mu Chapter University of California at Berkeley, Berkeley, CA

N ational Convention 2014 H appy 25 th OPBSI! March 13-16, 2014 Miami, FL

For more information: Events@OmegaPhiBeta.org

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Stampin’ with Lydia

www.stampinwithlydia.blogspot.com

Your Best Event

Desiree Henry MOYA Creative Design Boutique

StolesbyElsa@Yahoo.com

Lydia Jimenez

Food Services

Lupe Flores

Sangria Anytime

sangriaanytime@gmail.com (917) 457-8650

Selina Hernandez

My Sister’s Creations www.mysisterscreations.com mysisterscreations@yahoo.com (917) 348-8556

Ivy Roman

IvySweetsNYC

IvySweetsNYC@gmail.com

Health / Home Services Maria Jarmillo

Birth Doula

nediva.89@gmail.com

Elbanery Lora

Diana’s Cleaning Services diana_cleaningservices@hotmail.com (347) 564-6491

The Beta Yellow Pages is a free service designated to highlight businesses that are operated by sorors.

If you would like to list your business information, please submit it to OPBSI.El.Girasol@OmegaPhiBeta.org

Omega Phi Beta Sorority, inc.

Chapters and Colonies

Collegiate Chapters Alpha Chapter University at Albany, SUNY Est. 1989

Xi Chapter Syracuse University & LeMoyne College Est. 1999

Beta Chapter SUNY New Paltz & Marist College Est. 1991

Omicron Chapter Duke University Est. 2000

Gamma Chapter Union College Est. 1991 Delta Chapter Binghamton University, SUNY Est. 1992 Epsilon Chapter Long Island University, C.W. Post Est. 1993

Beta Epsilon Chapter SUNY Old Westbury Est. 2008

Pi Chapter Boston, MA Est. 2002 Rho Chapter Michigan State University Est. 2002 Sigma Chapter Plattsburgh University, SUNY Est. 2001

Zeta Chapter SUNY, Oswego Est. 1993

Tau Chapter Utica College & Hamilton College Est. 2003

Eta Chapter College at Brockport, University of Rochester & Rochester Institute of Technology Est. 1994

Upsilon Chapter Rutgers University, New Brunswick Est. 2003

Theta Chapter Stony Brook University Est. 1998 Iota Chapter University of Virginia Est. 1998 Kappa Chapter Hofstra University Est. 1998 Lambda Chapter Brooklyn College and Manhattan Metro Est. 1998 Mu Chapter University of Buffalo, Buffalo State College & D’Youville College Est. 1999 Nu Chapter Cornell University Est. 1999

Beta Delta Chapter Pace University, Pleasantville Campus Est. 2008

Beta Zeta Chapter Florida State University Est. 2010 Beta Eta Chapter University of South Florida Est. 2010 Beta Theta Chapter SUNY Cortland Est. 2009 Beta Iota Chapter Northeastern Illinois University Est. 2010 Beta Kappa Chapter University of New Haven Est. 2010

Phi Chapter University of Southern California Est. 2003

Beta Lambda Chapter University of North Carolina Chapel Hill Est. 2011

Chi Chapter Seton Hall University Est. 2003

Beta Mu Chapter University of California Berkley Est. 2011

Psi Chapter DePauw University Est. 2006 Beta Alpha Chapter St. John’s University Est. 2002 Beta Beta Chapter University of Illinois, UrbanaChampaign Est. 2006 Beta Gamma Chapter New York University Est. 2007

Colonies

Colony at Pace University Est. 2011 Colony at Columbia University Est. 2011 Colony at Purdue University Est. 2011

Alumnae Chapters Alpha Beta Chapter New York City Alumnae Chapter Est. 1994 Alpha Gamma Chapter Washington D.C. Alumnae Chapter Est. 2004 Alpha Delta Chapter Rochester Alumnae Chapter Est. 2004 Alpha Epsilon Chapter Boston Alumnae Chapter Est. 2007 Alpha Zeta Chapter New Jersey Alumnae Chapter Est. 2007 Alpha Eta Chapter Buffalo Alumnae Chapter Est. 2007

Colony at University of Maryland, Baltimore County Est. 2003

Alpha Theta Chapter Florida Alumnae Chapter Est. 2007

Colony at Rhode Island College Est. 2003

Los Angeles Alumnae Colony Est. 2011

Colony at Charleston Southern University Est. 2008

Chicago Alumnae Colony Est. 2012

Colony at St. Thomas Aquinas Est. 2010 Colony at Ramapo College Est. 2010

Est. 1989

Alpha Alpha Chapter Honorary Sisters Omega Chapter Eternal Sisters

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