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An Interview with Stephen Hartley

May 2014 Vol. XXXIII, Issue 1

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Letter from the Editor

Letter from the Publisher

Dear Reader,

Dear Reader,

My mother always said, “Your health comes first.” As is true of most great advice, it’s easier said than done. Taking care of one’s physical health is often an exercise in perpetual procrastination.

We imagine that in the not-too-distant future we’ll get some rest, make that appointment for a check-up, take up yoga, quit smoking, or buy health insurance. The time for self-care is always now. But in a society of constant pressures, for many, “now” is usually the time to get work done, text, email, drive, run errands, and respond to our Facebook friends.

We’ve partnered with RI Pride to produce the official guide to Rhode Island’s largest LGBTQ celebration - PrideFest 2014!

Options’ June issue will also serve as the official Pride Guide and will be bigger and better than ever, containing the provocative editorial content that our team produces each month alongside all of the information you need to know about PrideFest and the Illuminated Night Parade. Event listings, festival map, parade route, and entertainment lineup will reach a larger audience of LGBTQ community members and allies this year. With additional pages of content, a larger distribution, and the leadership teams of both Options and RI Pride involved, the June issue is shaping up to be fantastic! Subscribe now to have this issue delivered for free.

As you peruse this month’s Options, heed the urgings from our community leaders to prioritize your health. SAGE announces their second annual health fair, which last year harvested a wealth of invaluable information and resources and comes highly recommended. APRI strives to connect men with appropriate physicians while ACOS works steadfastly, offering free education and testing for Hepatitis C. (Baby Boomers - take note.) This month’s “On the Shoulders of Giants” interview finds Stephen Hartley demanding we all use condoms each and every time we have sex. And AIDS Quilt RI hosts the AIDS Candlelight Memorial, reminding us how a horrific epidemic banded a community together, and through the tears created something magnificent in the Quilt.

Here at Options we are celebrating the renewed health of our long-time volunteer, Myra Shays, who cautiously returned after a few months of self-care to offer her editing skills. We couldn’t have been happier to see her looking well and to have her expertise. Welcome back, Myra!

Options is endeavoring to produce the annual Pride Guide in collaboration with Rhode Island Pride, and the publication will serve as our June issue. At first the task seemed daunting until many volunteers began stepping forward with contributions, stimulating my confidence and excitement for a groundbreaking issue. Readers, I must ask you for some help with a story for June that’s been brewing for some time and depends on many of you contributing, if only a word or phrase. I have two questions. 1) Do you think the LGBTQ community should unite under one umbrella term ? 2) If yes, what term is most appropriate? If no, why not?

Please email responses to editor@optionsri.org, respond to our Facebook survey, or mail responses to Options, PO Box 6406, Providence, RI 02940. Responses can be credited or anonymous.

As always, I’d love to hear your opinions.

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In April you read about the Renaissance City Softball League’s upcoming 2014 season. An unprecedented 17 teams will be playing this season due to the high number of sign-ups the league received. I’m excited to announce that Options will be sponsoring a team this season. I’m looking forward to meeting our players and cheering them on.You’ll have to join us at a game!

As you enjoy the editorial content in this issue I ask you to be conscious of the advertisers that fill our pages. Their ads are the reason we are able to send an issue to the printer each month and provide you, our readers, with information about our community. As you flip the pages, take note of what businesses are supporting our community and be sure to thank them. Patronizing LGBTQ-friendly businesses who advertise in Options is a crucial component of keeping our doors open and maintaining a vibrant, inclusive small-business community.

I want to acknowledge our Advertising Director, Traci Allen, for her commitment to Options. Traci has been working diligently to streamline our procedures for managing ads. She’s tirelessly been in communication with all of our advertisers to be sure that we are serving them to the best of our abilities. You’ll notice many of our long-time advertisers have opted for new designs and new advertisers have joined our publication. Next time you see her, be sure to say hello and thank you, and maybe even buy her a drink!

Pride is fast approaching, and we’ve got our work cut out to be sure that we’re ready. I encourage everyone to get involved with Options. I promise you that we have a need for your skill set or interests. Our May and June calendars are already full of events. I hope to see you around town!

Onward, Kyle McKendall

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LGBT Center Moving to New Location at University of Rhode Island

Prop 8 Plaintiffs to Wed While Opposing Attorney’s Views Evolve

The University of Rhode Island held a ground-breaking ceremony April 16 for the construction of a new building to house its LGBTQ Center, set to open in spring 2015. The ceremony immediately followed a Hummel Report investigation, which revealed former LGBT Center Director Andrew Winters had been forced out of the university in 2011 for reporting bullying and harassment on campus. Winters, along with students and community members, successfully petitioned URI to establish the LGBT Center in 2001. In 2010, students staged an eight-day sit-in drawing national attention to the hostile, homophobic climate among its student body and administration.

“Our wedding is an opportunity to show that marriage is a fundamental, protected right and to reassure all those that live in states that prohibit marriage equality that their day is also coming,” said Prop 8 plaintiffs Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo, who’ll mark the one-year anniversary of the historic Supreme Court victory by marrying in CA on June 28. Charles Cooper, the attorney who argued before the Supreme Court in favor of upholding the Prop 8 ban, now says his view of same-sex marriage is evolving. Cooper learned, while he was handling the case, that his step-daughter is a lesbian and is now helping plan her wedding.

Ellen DeGeneres Ranked Most Powerful LGBT American OUT.com announced their 8th Annual Power 50 list, ranking Ellen DeGeneres the most influential LGBT voice in American culture. DeGeneres, who ranked number 2 last year, returned to the top spot on the list. Her talk show shattered its own 10-year ratings record in March. She hosted the highest-rated Academy Awards telecast in a decade while almost shutting down Twitter with her star-studded Oscar selfie.

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Mozilla CEO Resigns Mozilla co-founder and JavaScript inventor Brendan Eich resigned as Mozilla CEO after coming under fire for his $1000 donation in 2008 toward banning same-sex marriage in CA. Many Mozilla staff members protested or resigned following the appointment.

Popular dating site OKCupid protested by displaying a lengthy message asking Firefox users to consider different software to access OKCupid. “Our mission is bigger than any one of us, and under the present circumstances, I cannot be an effective leader,” Eich said.

Australian Sports CEOs Unite Against Homophobia CEOs of all five major Australian sports leagues (two football, two rugby, and one cricket) have signed a pledge to implement new policies and programs toward eliminating homophobia within their respective leagues. The leaders commit to ensure gay, lesbian and bisexual players, coaches, administrators and fans feel safe and welcome.

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Calendar of Events Jacqueline DiMera in La Cage aux Folles May 2-4

International AIDS Candlelight Memorial May 11

May 2014 Fri. 2 Got UR Game On? The RI HIV Prevention Coalition’s one-day conference and training on improving communication with young people about sexual health and substance abuse issues, 8:30am-4pm, Roger Williams University’s Baypoint Inn and Conference Center, 144 Anthony Road, Portsmouth. The conference and training are designed for educators, social workers, health care providers, counselors, faith leaders, community leaders, and others interacting with young people ages 11 to 24. To register, attendees should send a $20 check to Youth Pride, Inc., 743 Westminster Street, Providence 02903. Online registration is available at http://tinyurl.com/p6v8e44. For more information, contact Stephen Hug at 639-4709 or visit www.facebook.com/HIVPreventionCoalition.

Fri. 2-Sun. 4 Bear Brigade 2014. Join Bear Providence for their biggest weekend of the year. For information and tickets see www.bearprovidence.com.

Fri. 2 – Sun. 4 La Cage aux Folles, 8pm,The Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket. Tickets are $19 and may be purchased at www.stadiumtheatre.com. Miss Jacqueline DiMera is a member of the cast.

Sat. 3 Northampton Pride Parade and Rally, 12pm, Three County Fairgrounds, 54 Fair Street, Northampton, MA. Sat. 3 Scrumptious Spring 2014, 6-11pm, Knights of Columbus Hall, 1675 Douglas Avenue, North Providence. All proceeds raised by We R Group Hug support Monkey See…Monkey Do Backpack Program. Help keep much needed backpacks full of kid-friendly foods for low income kids affected by HIV/AIDS who otherwise go hungry over the weekends. Food stations and steamship round, cash bar. Music by Debra Coppola and Second To None Band.

Live and silent auction, penny social, and gift card raffles.

Tickets: $50 in advance; $65 at the door. Reservations are suggested. Group and corporate tables are available. For tickets and info call 301-9305.

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Sat. 3 La Cage aux Folles. See Fri. May 2.

Sat. 3 Two of Hearts: Show Band & Cabaret Act, 9pm, DeVille’s, 345 South Water Street, Providence. No cover. Food menu.

Sat. 3 Headmaster presents the 2nd Annual Pawtucky Derby and Headmaster No. 6 Release Party, 9pm, Machines with Magnets, 400 Main Street, Pawtucket. Prizes and giveaways including a fancy hat competition and a pony dance-off, signature derby-inspired cocktails, dancing and mingling opportunities, and copies of Headmaster No. 6 for sale.

Sun. 4 AIDS Care Ocean State presents King of Queens, 7pm, The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. $15. For tickets see www.aidscareos.org.

Sun. 4 La Cage aux Folles. See Fri. May 2.

Sun. 4 Melissa Ferrick, 8pm, The Sinclair, 52 Church Street, Cambridge, MA. $20. For information and tickets see www.sinclaircambridge.com.

Thu. 8 and Fri. 9 Eddie Izzard, 8pm,The Wang Theatre, 270 Tremont Street, Boston, MA. For tickets see www.citicenter.org Sat. 10 Chelsy Lau, 9pm, DeVille’s, 345 South Water Street, Providence. No cover. Food menu.

Sun. 11 31st Annual International AIDS Candlelight Memorial hosted by AIDS Quilt RI, 7pm, Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church, 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

Free and open to the public. Features a performance by the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus.

Thu. 15 Red, White & Blue Gay Bingo, 7pm, Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Doors open at 6pm, $20 to play. Bingo benefits ACOS and APRI. Let’s celebrate America!

Fri. 16 Cheril Vendetti – The Italian Floozie, 9pm, comedy show, DeVille’s, 345 South Water Street, Providence. No cover.

Food menu.

Sat. 17 RI Women’s Association Pre-Pride Dance, 7pm, 174 Mayfield Street, Cranston. $10. Potluck and BYOB. Donations benefit RI Pride.

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LGBT Health Fair May 28

Sun. 18 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm, network for gay and bisexual men 40+. Social, dinner, and meeting. For info see www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7pm, Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Michael Tolliver Lives, by Armistead Maupin.

Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information, e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Sat. 24 Countdown to Pride Rainbow Ball, 9pm, The Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. Proceeds benefit RI Pride.

Wed. 28 RI Pride Open House, general social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement, 7pm, 1005 Main Street #1105, Pawtucket. www.prideri.com.

Wed. 28 2nd Annual LGBT Health Fair, 1-5pm, RI State House rotunda. Designed for LGBT Rhode Islanders of all ages, sponsored by SAGE/RI. Thu. 29 RI Association of Gay Professionals Speed Networking, 5:30-7:30pm, The Hotel Providence, 139 Matthewson Street, Providence.

June Sun. 1 Options/RI Pride Guide Release Party & Tea Dance, 3-6pm, The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence.

Sun. 1 Countdown to Pride at 88 Lounge featuring Danny Arico, 6pm, 55 Union Street, Providence. No cover. Donations benefit RI Pride.

Thu. 5 - Sun. 8 LOVE: From Showtunes to iTunes, Providence Gay Men’s Chorus, 7pm (Sun at 4 pm), Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. Tickets are $20 via www.provgmc.org or www.eventbrite.com/pgmc.

Fri. 6 King and Queen Ocean State Pageant, 9pm, Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. www.prideri.com for more info.

Thu. 12 Countdown to Pride at Providence Melting Pot, 199 Providence Place (Mall), Providence. Proceeds benefit RI Pride. www.prideri.com for more info.

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PrideFest and Illuminated Night Parade June 21

Sat. 14 Be Yourself, Change the World - Boston Pride Parade and Festival, 12 noon. For more information see www.bostonpride.org.

Sun. 15 Countdown to Pride at DeVille’s, 9pm, 345 South Water Street, Providence. No cover, karaoke. Donations collected for RI Pride.

Wed. 18 Queer Book Club, 7pm, Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Prairie Silence, by Melanie Hoffert.

Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information, e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Thu. 19 RI Pride Gay Bingo, 7pm, Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Doors open at 6pm. $20 to play. Bingo benefits RI Pride. Wear your Pride colors!

Sat. 21Triumph & Transformation - RI PrideFest and Illuminated Night Parade, 12 noon, Providence Waterfront, South Water Street, Providence. Parade kicks off downtown at dusk. See www.ripride.com for information.

Sun. 22 Hangover Drag Brunch to benefit RI Pride. www.prideri.com for more info.

Sun. 22 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm, Network for gay and bisexual men 40+. Social, dinner, and meeting. See www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010 for info.

Sat. 27 Bartender of the Year, The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. Cast your ballot to benefit RI Pride at your favorite bar.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS: youth – Tues. 4pm, gay men – Wed. 1:30pm COLAGE (children of LGBTs) – 3rd Sat. 10:30am PFLAG (parents, friends, allies) – 1st Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans*) –1st & 3rd Tues. & Sat. 7pm TransFamily New England - 2nd Mon. 6:30pm Youth Pride, Inc./Way Out – Tues. 5pm See Resources on page 24 for more info.

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a cer tain sense of fearlessness to the post with an impressive resume and sense of personal vision. In short, he’s the face of the future.

Face of the Future at the Providence Public Library Chris Cedroni

Jack loves the library, energetically telling me his ideas. We talk about some of the things for which Providence is known.

“I met with the Visitors Bureau, and they told us Providence is known for having a fun, energetic gay community and as a foodie paradise.” He tells how much has changed for the better during his absence from Providence, from the downtown revitalization, with a bustling nightlife, to the distinctive West Side adding flavor to the Renaissance City.

Jack guided my tour of the library, starting in the graceful staircases with big, ornate windows that bathe everything in honey-colored light. In the corner, a life-sized statue of the Muse Terpsichore, patron of dance, perches. “She was also the character Olivia Newton-John played in the movie Xanadu.”

Jack tells me. “When I saw it, I knew I was home.” This is also one of the spaces available for wedding receptions. “Four gay ones coming up this year,” Jack tells me.

The Providence Public Library (PPL) has a noble mission to uphold. It is a proud member of a grand institution: libraries.

They embrace old-world ideals of liber ty and inclusion. That language is one that Director Jack Martin speaks fluently.

“Libraries are critical institutions of lifelong places in our communities,” he tells me. And he’s interested in getting to know the various communities in Providence as he lists them with enthusiasm: “The senior community, the LGBT community, the Latino community, the African-American community, the Asian community,” to name a few. Jack wants to make sure the library is meeting each community’s needs.

Originally from Georgia, Jack has a warm, sunny personality. He brings new life into a venerable institution and seems to symbolize the library itself—dynamic and fresh, yet well-steeped in the past; modern, yet possessing a keen appreciation for history.

“I’m a teen librarian at hear t,” he says, pointing to a Harry Potter fan poster in his office. He’s written frequent articles for the Huffington Post about the state of adolescent literature. He is also focused on serving LGBT teens, evident in Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Teens: A How-To-Do-It Manual for Librarians, a book he wrote

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along with his husband, James Murdock.

Jack has been responsible for the overall direction and programming of the library and its 60 or so employees, volunteers, and interns since January. It’s quite an accomplishment for a 39-year-old who fell in love with Providence while visiting a friend studying at RISD in the early 90s. His background in books is long and distinguished.

He holds a B.A. from the University of Georgia, Athens, and an MLIS from the Pratt Institute in Brooklyn. He worked in PPL’s Ar ts and Music Collection for a few years before moving to New York to oversee cultural and educational programming for adults, teens, and children in the system’s 90 citywide branches.

The Ar ts and Music section of the PPL was more than a stepping stone on his career path. It was also where he met his husband. “James was on the computer over there,” he points. “And I was over here, in the CDs.” They hit it off from the star t, eventually marrying and moving to New York.

Now Jack chooses programs, refines operations, and makes sure that the library engages the community. He is also about to embark on a strategic planning process that will guide the library through these changing times. He brings

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Fur ther on, we see the Ship Room, another beautiful, historic space with nautical antiques and models of sailing vessels along the walls. The interior is mostly empty, waiting to host a meaningful occasion. Fur ther on, we pass through modern, clean classrooms and lecture spaces, then back through marble hallways that seem to be inspired by Les Liaisons Dangereuses. From there we see the cheerful boardroom, then Jack’s cozy office. On the table there are some vintage gay/lesbian magazines.

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“We found these in the archives,” he tells me. When he arrived, he star ted exploring and found vintage copies of Out and The Advocate locked away. People were stealing them so the library had to lock them away, but even that put up some hurdles. “Imagine having to go up and ask at the desk,” he says. He looks unhappy for a moment. “But what could they do?”

Now that we are in more enlightened times, Jack has an eye on the future. “I’d really love to cultivate a celebrity speakers series. I’m sure that will include LGBT celebrities.” He also envisions a library-based interactive learning experience where young people can learn more about LGBT heritage.

With the strategic planning process about to star t, Jack has a lot of ideas, but they seem to focus around extending the library even further beyond its own walls.

“Where are people going to learn?” he asks. “How can we par tner with other libraries? With other learning institutions? How is the PPL unique? How can we build an identity?” Good questions, surely. And with Jack at the helm, they will have good answers.

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TGI Network

AIDS Project RI

Jaye Watts

Tom Bertrand

Spring is here and with it brings the promise of warmer days. There have been some exciting things going on in Rhode Island’s trans* community that we wish to share with you.

“Is there a doctor in the house?”

On March 26, Lieutenant Governor Elizabeth Roberts and TGI Network held a community meeting at the William Hall Library in Cranston to discuss the health care concerns of trans* Rhode Islanders.There were approximately 35 people in attendance for this unprecedented opportunity to have trans* voices heard by policymakers who are committed to improving health care access for our community. Concerns discussed included access to trans*-knowledgeable medical providers, including primary and emergency care, obtaining trans*inclusive health insurance and improving community resources.

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Many people in the LGBTQ community are seeking health care professionals who meet their needs. Often the best way to find a doctor is through word of mouth. AIDS Project Rhode Island wants to help spread the word about recommended doctors through the Men2MenRI.org website.

Starting in mid-May through June, APRI is encouraging LGBTQ Rhode Islanders to submit their recommended health care professionals (doctors, dentists, specialists, etc.) through the website and enter into a raffle to receive a $100 gift certificate to one of three Rhode Island’s top restaurants. Please check out the Men2MenRI.org website for more information, or contact thomas@aidsprojectri.org.

Photos by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez

Tribute to Rodney Davis & Brian Mills pg. 11 ACOS Swing Into Spring pg. 12 Triple Crown Pageant pg.13

This meeting was a follow-up to a similar meeting in February for medical and mental health providers who work with or are interested in working with the trans* community.

Individuals at the provider meeting expressed energy, willingness, and good intentions to provide care along with a need for further training and professional support. The information from both meetings, along with information gathered from a survey of trans* community members, will be compiled to help us build our advocacy efforts to improve trans* health care access and services across Rhode Island.

TGI Network is happy to announce that we are now offering Borderlands meetings on Saturdays! This popular support group will continue to meet at their current location on the first and third Tuesdays of the month. The new Saturday meetings will take place at a location in the Greater Providence area on the first and third Saturdays of the month.The locations of both of these groups remain unpublished to protect the privacy of those who attend. For more information about Borderlands groups and their locations, email info@tginetwork. org or leave a message at 441-5058 and someone will return your call.

TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and/or intersex community. Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large. Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.

Trans* is an all encompassing term that includes anyone who identifies with a gender that differs from the sex they were assigned at birth

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Lesbians on the Loose

AIDS Quilt RI

Annie Cronin-Silva & Melanie Silva

Beth Milham AIDS Quilt RI will host the Rhode Island commemoration of the 31st Annual International AIDS Candlelight Memorial on Sunday, May 11, at 7pm at Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church, 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

Pictured left to right: Annie Cronin-Silva, Lise Schwartz, Melanie Silva, Kim Stowell, John Kelley, Kyle McKendall, Donny McKendall The 2013 Triple Crown Step-down was held March 15 at the Mirabar. Mr. Gay RI Dion Baker, Miss Gay RI Justus Starr, and Ms. Lesbian RI Leisha Ellery graciously took the stage and bid farewell to their year of reign. Comedian John Kelley hosted the event with performances by Gia Deveroux, Complete Destruction, and Ursula Londonderry. The performances that night were electric and engaging! Watching the current titleholders perform one final time was bittersweet. The event was a fundraiser for RI Pride. There are still plenty of volunteer opportunities for PrideFest, which will be here before you know it! If you want to get involved, please reach out to RI Pride or attend any of the Pride planning meetings.

Speaking of Rhode Island Pride, a large crowd honored and recognized the contributions of Rodney Davis and Brian Mills for their 30+ years of service to the LGBTQ community on March 21 in the Grand Ballroom of the historic Providence Biltmore Hotel. It was definitely a “who’s who” of the LGBTQ community. Comedians, DJs, drag queens, club owners, volunteers, state representatives, and various supporters rallied to give cheers to these two passionate and giving individuals for their years of service to RI Pride and our community.

This walk down memory lane was a valuable reminder of how RI Pride began. We found the stories of the early days both educational and enlightening about how the community

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was “back then.” Perhaps the community takes for granted that the Pride events will just take place and they miss the entire premise and history of it and the reasons why it was important so many years ago to establish Pride. This generation does not know the kind of struggles and barriers that these men along with countless others had to endure in order to build Pride into what it is today. We are in awe of the years of service they have each dedicated to our community and are thankful they helped shape it.

“Once Upon a Time” was the theme of this year’s Triple Crown Pageant, which was held on April 6 at the Colosseum Nightclub in Providence. The talented contestants competed in five different areas: Private Interview, Theme Wear, Talent, Onstage Question, and Evening/Formal Wear. This magical night showcased not only each contestant’s creativity and originality with their chosen theme wear for the event but also highlighted their desire to represent and be a positive role model for the LGBTQ community. It was an impressive group of men and women who competed. Annie was honored to be one of the judges for the event on the panel for Ms. Lesbian. At the end of the evening, three 2014 titleholders were crowned: Mr. Gay RI Anthony Maselli, Miss Gay RI Nadia Starr, and Ms. Lesbian RI Betty Lebesian. Check out the photos in Options Out on the Town on page 13.

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A particular joy this year is the debut of a new work of choral music, “A Quilt upon the Earth,” by composer John Prevedini.

AIDS Quilt RI donors commissioned the work for the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus, which will perform it that night. The Chorus has performed at most of AIDS Quilt RI’s public events for the past several years. This project brings a new dimension to the relationship between the Quilt in Rhode Island and the Chorus.

Once again, this international memorial takes on a personal feeling, as friends honor the passing of yet another Quilt volunteer. George Warch, 69, passed away unexpectedly from complications of a medical procedure in December. He and his wife, Sherrill, had been volunteers for AIDS Quilt RI for several years, and Sherrill is a member of the organization’s steering committee. A U.S. Navy veteran, George was active in veterans’ affairs, and was also president of the RI Prime Timers. He lost a nephew, Keith, to AIDS several years ago, and became active with AIDS Quilt RI when Anna’s Workshop offered to make a panel in Keith’s memory. Besides his wife, George leaves a son and a daughter and six grandchildren to whom he was devoted. The

two oldest, Matthew and Alex, live with their grandparents, and have also been Quilt volunteers. His dear friend, Stephen Bodwell of Woonsocket, is a fellow Prime Timer and a Quilt volunteer.

New panels for the AIDS Memorial Quilt will be dedicated, including two created by members of East Greenwich High School’s Gay Straight Alliance, one by the Social Work Club and the Alliance at Salve Regina University, and one by students at the RI Training School.

The event is free and the public For more information, contact Beth annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org or 847-7637.

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“On the Shoulders of Giants”

An Interview with Stephen Hartley

Jen Stevens

is one of the most talented hairdressers and dressmakers. I will be totally honest with you: If it was not for the incomparable Miss BB Hayes, Kitty would never have happened and would not to this day be in existence. I thank her for everything that has allowed me to become who I am as Kitty.

O: Kitty Litter is both loved and feared for her quick wit. Have you ever regretted something you’ve said on the mic?

S: Never! It is all for fun and to raise money for charity. Have I crossed the lines a few times? Yes! Either way, love me or hate me, it’s what I do.

Stephen Hartley and Brian Deslauriers Options: You’re best known in the community as Kitty Litter, the quick-witted, no-holds-barred, drag queen emcee of the annual PrideFest & Parade, Gay Bingo, and many high-profile fundraisers. You also perform stand-up comedy as Kitty Litter. When did your alter ego first become a part of your life, and how did Kitty Litter get her name?

Stephen: I started out emceeing drag shows for the Imperial Court of RI back in 1993 and shortly after stepping down as the Emperor of the Imperial Court I realized that the drag queens were the ones people loved and wanted to see. So being the person that liked being the center of attention, I decided I wanted a part of that and did my first drag show at Chan’s in Woonsocket as a fundraiser for House of Compassion.The first few times I did drag as “Jill” but was searching for a drag name.

To be honest, I am not sure how I got the name. I wish I could remember but as you know, Kitty does like to drink on occasion, so it was probably one of those nights out with my sisters BB Hayes and LaDiva Jonz that we came up with it.

O:Would you describe your earliest memory dressing in drag?

S: The first time, like for most gay men who want to try it, it happens on Halloween, and I was no different. On Halloween 1982 I dressed as Patti LaBelle. It was so much fun. I’m not sure why I didn’t keep doing it then, but for every Halloween after that I was in drag of some sort.

O: How many wigs, dresses, and pairs of shoes do you own?

S: A lot, but I do recycle my outfits and donate them to up-andcoming drag queens. I feel it is my duty to breed a new line of drag divas. I will say I am truly blessed to have a best friend who

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O: Have you ever taken advantage of being onstage to make a political statement or get a certain message across?

S: I used my voice about gay marriage and the fight against HIV/AIDS. I have only worked really hard to get one person elected, and that was more for a selfish reason. When David Cicilline first ran for Mayor of Providence, he was single, so I thought if he gets in I’ll make myself the Self-Proclaimed First Lady of Providence. He won, I did, and that title has stuck with me ever since. Twelve years later I am still known as the SelfProclaimed First Lady of Providence. I have learned it is better not to endorse anyone as a somewhat well-known gay person in the community, as it might come back to bite you in the ass.

So I usually will be on a host committee for one fundraiser for each candidate.

O: How much time do you spend volunteering and performing as Kitty Litter, and do you plan to keep up the pace?

S: I’ve never been one to keep track of how much time I have spent. It’s been a lot because my feet hurt! I know I will not be keeping up the pace I have for the last 17 years. I decided when I got married to the most wonderful person in the world I would slow down and give him the time and attention he deserves. I’ll still be around, just on a limited basis. I’ll pick and choose what I should go to. In years past I was at the opening of an envelope! Now… the big events I will attend but I need to make room for someone to step up to the plate and do what this old queen has been doing for years.

O: As a youngster, did you envision yourself getting married?

S: Yes, I always did. Not sure why, but I knew someday I would.

hard to get marriage equality passed, it was all worth it. We got married for two reasons: I love a party and because he is the love of my life. I met Brian over eight years ago. For the first year it was just a fun, wild time. Brian had just come out, and I know he was overwhelmed with dating me, but we fell in love very quickly. We have now settled down and are happy spending quiet time at home, traveling, and spending time with our daughter.

O: How old is your daughter? Has she ever seen Kitty Litter in action?

S: Our daughter is 13 and she doesn’t know about Kitty yet.

She’s still too young to understand it. In time we will [explain], but that is down the road.

O: When did you assume your position as Development Director of AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS), and what were the relevant HIV/AIDS issues at the time?

S: Ten years ago come this August. The issues for me are still the same: Prevention. The new meds do allow people to live with HIV, but trust me, the young kids have no idea of the side effects.

This is not like diabetes, like I hear some people say. I work so hard to make sure everyone knows that. Prevention is the best way to stop the spread of HIV and must be done!

O: What drives your passion to continue with ACOS? S: I believe in the work we do. We have a huge prevention team that is out there getting the word out about safe sex and how important it is to be tested and know your status. For free testing call our prevention office at 781-0665 or visit our web site at www.aidscareos.org. See--I am always working!

O: Do you have a coming out story you’d like to share?

S: I will be honest; coming out was no big deal to me. I knew what I was by the age of 13. At 17, I told my parents. They did not handle it so well. I was living in my own apartment at 18, having the time of my life. I think it has all turned out wonderful for me.

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O: What has most surprised you about our community’s struggle for equality?

S: How much people can hate.

O: How so?

S: People would post horrible things online that we did not deserve our rights as well as the protests that happened at the State House.

O:What’s it like to be married, and why did you decide to do it?

O: Do you have a favorite community memory, perhaps from an ACOS event, drag show or PrideFest?

S: It is the best feeling ever! After so many years of working so

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they have done for this community. I have been working with Kate for over 30 years on issues that affect the gay community.

O: You’ll be celebrating a milestone birthday next month.

How do you feel about turning 50?

S: Well, I just can’t believe it! I still feel like I’m just one of the kids.

How quick 50 years passes you by.

O: How’s your health these days?

S: Well, it has not been a good year so far, but it is getting better.

I have been HIV positive for more than 20 years and that has been a bitch. I am in good health with the HIV still undetectable, so god is keeping me here for something. This year I have had a cancer scare but hopefully the treatment has worked. Fingers crossed.

O: Incredibly, you’ve found time to serve on the founding board of directors for the much-anticipated RILGBT Community Center. How do you envision its success?

S: The success for the RILGBT Community Center will happen.

People just need to be patient. It takes time and a lot of money.

I look forward to the day we cut the ribbon for the Center, but the board and the community are taking the time to make sure it is done correctly.

Continued from page 17. parade at Providence Performing Arts Center - someone came up to me and handed me this full-size pride flag on a pole. I instantly started running up and down the street with this flag and the crowd went wild. I have never felt such energy in all my life. I also feel that same energy every time I first walk out on the main Pride stage as the emcee every year, just not as strong as that fateful night. It really did move me to tears.

O: Can you describe the best gay bar you’ve ever experienced?

S: Pulse was the best gay bar ever! It had it all - shows, piano bar, a trapeze, and big name drag shows. I loved working there, drinking there, and making many outstanding memories there.

Don’t get me wrong--I loved the old Dark Lady when it was up the street where the Eagle is now. That was home for many years. I had my weekly show there and everyone knew me and came to see me. I miss that bar, I think, most of all. As I get older my new hangout is The Stable. It’s more of a lounge and there are lots of seats for me to sit down. When you get to be my age that is very important. I still bartend once a month at the Stable. It keeps me in touch with what’s going on with the kids.

O: Whom did you especially look up to as you were finding your way in the gay community?

S: Rodney Davis and Kate Monteiro have always and will always be my heroes for everything gay. People have no idea how much

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O: What would Stephen Hartley say to the youth of our community?

S: Use a condom when having sex--period! Enjoy every day; before you know it you are old enough to be a grandparent.

Also, always remember that it is your elder gays who made your life this easy to be yourself.

O: What would Kitty Litter say to the youth of our community?

S: Use a condom, always! I would say, be proud of who you are because I am. And respect your elders!

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15 Years of Big Gay Al’s Bowling League Kelly Scafariello “Come on everybody, gather round. I’m gonna show you how to knock ‘em down.When I’m on the ball, I’m the number one. And I’m gonna show you how it’s done. Hey, come on, let’s get this show on the road. Let’s bowl, let’s bowl, let’s rock-’n-roll!”Those lyrics are from one of my all-time favorite movies, Grease 2. While certainly not as popular as the original Grease with John Travolta, Grease 2 had Michelle Pfeiffer and great music. So what does that movie have to do with this month’s sports spotlight story? Big Gay Al’s Bowling League, of course!

Affectionately named after a character from the animated comedy South Park, Big Gay Al’s Bowling League was founded back in 1999 by Frank Ferri, Leo Monteiro and Manny Rebello.The three men wanted to provide an avenue for the LGBTQ community to come together in a competitive yet social atmosphere. The bowling league started with 12 teams and has grown each year, now boasting 32 teams.

League President Leo Monteiro shared the mission of the bowling league which “strives to provide a fun, positive environment for the LGBTQ community. The league looks to inspire sportsmanship, camaraderie and a true sense of belonging.

We welcome all skill levels and abilities ranging from low to high bowling averages.”

This season the league begins May 13 and will run on Tuesdays through August 19. It and costs $20 to register and $14 each week.

At the end of the season, the league will host a barbeque and awards ceremony. All competition takes place at Town Hall Lanes in Johnston. Owner Frank Ferri said, “Our bowling league is a great way to meet others, have fun, exercise, and be yourself in a safe and friendly environment.You can join a team, be a sub, or just stop by to visit.”

Big Gay Al’s Bowling League believes in supporting the community financially. By designating a portion of the weekly bowling dues and sponsoring fundraising events over a span of 14 years, the league has donated over $70,000 to LGBTQ organizations, including AIDS Project Rhode Island, AIDS Care Ocean State, Options, PFLAG, Marriage Equality RI, and RI Pride.

“Both through the donations provided by league members and the spirit of togetherness and friendly competition fostered by weekly team bowling [we] endeavor to make a difference in the community. The league has even partnered with AIDS Project RI to provide onsite HIV testing and counseling during some league nights,” said Monteiro.

To register to bowl or to learn more, contact Leo Monteiro at BigGayAlBowling@aol.com or Frank Ferri at 831-6940.

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Ken Fish, Susan Perkins, Esq., and Billy Lagor for their many years On May 2, the Rhode Island HIV Prevention Coalition is of leadership. Our new slate of officers includes Board Chair presenting its third annual “Got UR Game On?” conference at Barbara Margolis, Esq., Board Vice Chair Emma Garrett Nelson, the Baypoint Inn and Conference Center in Portsmouth. Any Secretary Hugh C. Minor IV, and Treasurer Paul Kloiber.

We are also excited to introduce our new Direct Services providers in Rhode Island who interact with young people, ages 11 to 24, including but not limited to educators, social workers, Coordinator, Ethan Kennedy. Ethan comes to YPI with many healthcare providers, counselors, faith and community leaders, years of experience providing LGBT trainings in the Boston etc. are encouraged to attend. This year’s focus is “Sex. Youth. and Baltimore areas and he ran a peer-to-peer group at the Substance Use.” The agenda includes an expert panel about LGBT Center at Towson University. Ethan will be responsible for local community efforts to address sexual health and substance coordinating YPI’s community trainings and providing referrals abuse among Rhode Island youth, and a keynote address from to services (housing, healthcare, food, education, employment, Cynthia Rosengard, PhD. on “Contexts of Adolescent Sexual etc.) for our youth.

Behavior: Relationships, Substance Use, and Life Transitions.”

Finally, we would like to recognize YPI’s three interns Please visit www.tinyurl.com/p6v8e44 for more information or during the 2013-2014 school year: Julie Boothroyd (Rhode to register.

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Hellos & Goodbyes YPI’s Annual Meeting is held in April and includes elections for new board members and officers. We would like to welcome our new board members: Lisa Carcieri, Jesus Holguin, Barry Nickerson, Hillary Reiser, and Patrick Smock. We also want to share our respect and appreciation for outgoing members

Jason Padilla (Rhode Island College). Youth Pride Inc. is a small organization with a small staff, and we rely heavily on the hard work of our interns. From entering data and supervising support groups to presenting workshops and connecting with youth in the drop-in center, these interns were an integral part of YPI. We wish them all the best in their future endeavors!

Today, an estimated five million Americans are infected with the hepatitis C virus (HCV). More than 70% do not know they have HCV because they’ve never been tested. HCV is commonly referred to as the “silent epidemic,” because those who are infected can live for decades without ever experiencing any symptoms, but when symptoms do eventually appear, they are often a sign of advanced liver disease. HCV is the leading cause of liver cancer and the number one reason for liver transplantation in the U.S. Over time, HCV can cause serious health problems including liver damage, cirrhosis (scarring of the liver), liver failure, and even death.

The virus is treatable - and curable! Knowing your HCV status can save your life and help prevent the spread of the virus to others.

HCV treatment can lead to a cure and decreases the risk of getting sick from HCV. HCV is a viral liver disease, and is spread when blood from an infected person gets into another’s bloodstream. HCV is not spread through casual contact - kissing, hugging, holding hands, sneezing, coughing, or sharing food, eating utensils or glasses.There is currently no vaccine available to prevent HCV infection. You should get tested if you: -Have ever injected illegal drugs, even once.

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likely during the 1960s, 70s and 80s before widespread screening of the blood supply and universal precautions were adopted. Even if you cannot identify a risk factor, just being from the Baby Boomer generation means you should get tested.

ACOS provides free, rapid and confidential HCV antibody testing and free confirmatory HCV viral load testing.This is the first free confirmatory testing site in Rhode Island. Call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment at our Prevention Center located at 557 Broad St. in Providence, or email Ray, our Prevention Supervisor, at rayj@aidscareos.org with any questions you might have, or visit www.ridefeatshepc.com or www.aidscareos.org.

Celebrate Kitty’s 50th with a Birthday Hi-Tini!

Join us high above the city to celebrate Miss Kitty Litter’s 50th birthday! You’ll enjoy delicious food and wonderful music on the Garden Terrace of the Providence Biltmore Hotel. Money raised will support ACOS. There’s no better way to kick off the summer.This birthday Hi-Tini will be held on Monday, June 2, from 5:30-8pm. Jeanne D’Agostino, LaDiva Jonz, BB Hayes, and Scott Connery host. Tickets are $30 and can be purchased online at www.aidscareos.org or at the door.

Thanks for Swinging Into Spring with ACOS On Saturday evening, April 5, we filled the Roger Williams Park Casino with hundreds of daffodils, spectacular music, and over 150 dancing people for Swing Into Spring, AIDS Care Ocean State’s debut fundraising event.The community raised over $13,000 to support ACOS programs and services. What an amazing weekend!

We’d like to congratulate our 2013 Philanthropists of the Year, Carol Mann and Thomas Wright, and thank our wonderful volunteers, performers, sponsors, and guests for swinging into spring with us and for making the evening such a success.

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Triumph & Transformation

As this issue of Options was going to press, SAGE/RI was finalizing plans for our Dining Out For Life gathering at Blaze Restaurant on Providence’s East Side. Having a bigger crowd than last year caused us to increase the reservation to accommodate everyone who wanted to join us for the April 24 event. We are grateful to Blaze and all the restaurants that participate in this annual fundraiser for AIDS Project Rhode Island. Their efforts allow us a great evening out while contributing to services so important to our community.

SAGE/RI Presents…

SAGE/RI representatives have been busy with education and outreach efforts lately. At the end of March, Marguerite McLaughlin and Sally Hay met with several members of The Providence Center’s Adult Outpatient Department. In early April, SAGE’s Patricia Burbank and Bob Desrosiers met with RI’s Advanced Practice Psychiatric Nurses Association. Both groups were interested in deepening their understanding and skill in working with LGBT elders.

A larger and more varied audience attended “Visible Lives: Caring for LGBT Elders,” a daylong conference SAGE presented in early April. The conference included keynote presentations in the morning regarding caring for LGBT elders and how to create LGBT-friendly and welcoming environments. Next up was an amazing panel of LGBT individuals who generously and candidly shared their own stories. Panelists included Belle Pellegrino, Lynn McKinney, Monique Paul, Susan Peloquin, and Bruce Thompson. SAGE/RI cannot thank these individuals enough! They really brought home the messages contained in the morning’s presentations. We finished the day with a workshop that helped participants take an audit of workplace practices and explained how to improve LGBT competency in the workplace.

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2nd Annual LGBT Health Fair Join us Wednesday, May 28, from 1-5pm in the State House rotunda for the 2nd Annual LGBT Health Fair. It was such a success last year - you won’t want to miss it this year. Join us to learn more about how to take good care of your fabulous self, get information on LGBT and LGBT-affirming programs and services, and find out the latest from LGBT advocacy and community organizations. The Fair is designed for LGBT people of all ages, though there will be representatives from state and federal programs especially for those of us on the older end of the spectrum.The speaking program is at 3pm. Did we mention we’ll have refreshments and wonderful door prizes? If your group or organization would like to participate, do be in touch.

Hope to see you there.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE/ RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com, leave us a message at 528-3259, write to us at 235 Promenade St., Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI 02908, or find us on Facebook at SAGE/Rhode Island.

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Each spring the RI Pride Committee brainstorms dozens of ideas for a festival theme meant to signify the current feelings in the community, bring cohesion to the celebration, and inspire designs for the beautifully illuminated parade contingents. The chosen 2014 RI PrideFest theme is “Triumph & Transformation.”

“Triumph” was chosen to celebrate our marriage equality victory, which was not fully in hand last PrideFest. “Transformation” draws attention not only to the struggle for trans inclusivity, but also to the changing nature of our community’s plight. Victory is sweet, but we must adapt to the changing times and remember that the struggle continues toward achieving equality and acceptance.

and exclusive parties while supporting the organization that brings you your favorite celebration of the year? Visit www. prideri.com to find out how. RI PrideFest is always the third Saturday in June, so mark your calendars for June 21!

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Parade Marshals are chosen annually to represent the chosen theme, and our volunteers felt strongly that Rodney Davis & Brian Mills were the most suited to serve as Grand Marshals. Rodney and Brian recently stepped down from the Pride Board of Directors, and after serving a combined 35+ years full of victories, defeats, and progress, it seemed more than appropriate to see them leading the march rather than organizing it.

Kate Monteiro has been selected as an Honorary Marshal for her leadership in the marriage equality victory. Kate was at the forefront of the battle for LGBT civil rights in RI for Options Ad.indd decades before becoming a co-chair of what was originally called the Campaign for Marriage Equality, and would later chair Rhode Islanders United for Marriage. Stephen Alexander was also chosen as Honorary Marshal for being recognized as the first out transgender high school coach in the country; he has handled the media attention with grace.

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Pride also welcomed three new members to the board this month: Treasurer Adam Good and Directors Tammy Pita and Jess Wrubel.

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Resources Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

Saturday 7:30-8:30pm Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence.

24hr. (866) 252-3784 Gay Al-Anon: Tuesday 7:30pm. Congregational Church, 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800 RI LGBT AA Group: Anchor Recovery Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. Tuesdays 7pm Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group. Meets Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100 Suburban Gay & Lesbian: Fatima Shrine, Rt. 126, Holliston, MA.Thursday 8-9:30pm AIDS/Health Resources AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & HEP C testing (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment), safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups, The Speaker’s Bureau. 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence.

521-3603. www.aidscareor.org AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored

by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday & Thursday 12-4pm.

Matthewson Street Church, 134 Matthewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper. 331-1350 ext. 3268. coopergo@familyserviceofri.org AGAPE/Family Resources Community Action: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street,Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331 AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri. org. annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. www.brown.edu/brunap Chiropractic Services: Free for unemployed HIV+ patients. Ronald P. Marsh, D.C., 11 King Charles Drive, Portsmouth. 683-1941 Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston.

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222-2320 Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/ AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette. 727-7079 House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992 Jewish AIDS Task Force: Programs for HIV/AIDS and Jewish communities.

421-4111 ext. 172 LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514 Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 305-3993. info@plaidsproject. org. www.plaidsproject.org or www.pl-aids.org Project ACT: Free anonymous HIV counseling and testing. Walk-in hours Monday 9am-4pm & 5-7pm, Tuesday & Thursday 9am-4pm or by appointment. 1 Washington Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 977-8146 Project Empower: Wellness program for gay, bi and questioning men in south coast MA. Info on HIV/STD test sites and safe sex, social/support groups, therapists and health care referrals. Community Counseling of Bristol County. (508) 828-6692. www.projectempower.com Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. www.facebook.com/ projectweber. www.projectweber.org SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C and STD testing, education, case management and support.

386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/ HCV). (800) 937-3610. Family Healthcare Center (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org Steppingstone, Inc.: Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. Second Wednesday 6-7pm. First Baptist Church of Fall River, Kay Conference Room, 228 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. Third Wednesday 10-11am. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation. 105 Charles Eldridge Drive, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683 Thundermist Health Association: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516

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Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Thursday-Saturday 12-6pm and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org Fenway Gay and Lesbian Helpline: Support, information and referrals.

Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm.

(617) 267-9001 or 888-340-4528 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com RILGBT-NEWS: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. MondayThursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm-2am, Sunday 2pm1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369 Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Monday-Thursday 5pm-1am, Friday 5pm-2am, Saturday 2pm-2am, Sunday 2pm-1am.

62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: Special events space, film screenings and other public and private events. Open mic first and third Saturday. 209 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 575-2284. www.brooklyncoffeeteahouse.com Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.clubbodycenter.com The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. Tuesday-Thursday 9pm1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm-1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369 DeVille’s: Lesbian, gay, straight, it’s all good. Sunday, Wednesday and Thursday 5pm-12am, Friday and Saturday 5pm-1am. 345 South Water Street, Providence. 383-8883. www.devillescafe.com Ego: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space.Thursday 9pm-1am, Saturday 9pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208 Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Sunday-Thursday 3pm1am, Friday & Saturday 3pm-2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447 The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Sunday-Thursday 12pm-1am, Friday-Saturday 12pm-2am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. 683-3062. queer@brown.edu Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. (800) 455-GLAD. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. www.GLAD.org Green Party of RI: PO Box 1151, Providence, RI 02901. 490-7602 Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY, NY 10005. (212) 809-8585 Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062 RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662.

TDD: 222-2664 RI Socialist Action: 952-5385. adgagneri@gmail.com. For Spanish: 351-3414. walsil@cox.net Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans affected by the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy. PO Box 65301,Washington DC, 20035. (202) 328-3244, ext. 100. sldn@sldn. org. www.sldn.org Straight But Not Narrow Coalition: Straight supporters. PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840. 847-7637 Religious & Spirtual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: mail@wabaptists.org Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” 461 Old County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. www.bccucc.org Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A welcoming congregation. Rev. Ann Willever. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. www.beneficentchurch.org

T.W.I.S.T. Program Coffee Night: Coffee & light snacks served Thursday 7-9pm. 1287 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford. 508-672-0378

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org

Political & Legal Groups

Calvary Episcopal Church: Open and welcoming. 158 Broad Street, Burrilville. 568-3888. calvary125@aol.com. www.calvaryepiscopal.us

American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171 Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTIQ human rights. 212-807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org BIGFLAG (Boston Immigration Group for Lesbians And Gays): Social/ support for LGBTs affected by immigration discrimination. (617) 499-9433

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Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. 200 Turner Road, Middletown.

847-6181 Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence.

331-1960. www.centralchurch.us

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Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist.A Welcoming Congregation.

135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. www.channingchurch.org

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford. 508-997-5684

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neopagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com. www.charteroakadf.org

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com

Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln.

Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. www.christchurchlincoln.org

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 35 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153 www.staugustineuri.com

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation.

1336 Pawtucket Avenue, Rumford. 434-5012. www.epiphanyep.org

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence.

353-2079

Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: 50 Orchard Street, Providence. 751-2141

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. www.edgewoodchurchri.org

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. www.stpaulspawtucket.org

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland.

658-1506 First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Pastor Dan Randall. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288 First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am.

One Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: County & River Streets, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-8972. stmartins1887@aol.com

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 862-1466. www.stpaulsportsmouthri.org St.Peter & St.Andrew’s Episcopal Church:25 Pomona Avenue,Providence.

272-9649. stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpetersandstandrews.org

First Unitarian Church: 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 263-4296. www.saintthereseocc.org

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 528-5348. fusf@verizon.net. www.fusf.org

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 222-4677. www.attleborosecondchurch.org

Foxboro Universalist Church: Unitarian Universalist Association.

6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. www.uufoxborough.org

Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. www.scc-ucc.com

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225

Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. Providence contact: adrienne.r.landau@gmail.com. www.sgi-usa.org

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation.

Pastor Sandra Demmler Damico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org Interweave at Channing: UU Church. A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643 Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900 Meditation: Gay men’s meditation experience. Relax and connect. Fee applies. Third Tuesday. Cranston. 7-8pm. 944-0723 Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. www.mgc.org Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Sandra D. Fitz-Henry. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 4311-4742 Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. nccucc@newportcongregationalchurch.org Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800 The Pub Church: A church that meets in a pub! Open & Affirming.

Location may change. Saturday. 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937

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Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congrgation. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. www.agudasma.org Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence.

331-6070 Temple Emanu-El: Sessions Street & Morris Avenue, Providence. A welcoming conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 331-1616. www.teprov.org Temple Habonim: A warm, welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 245-6536. www.templehabonim.org

Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: 29 Stanhope Street, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. www.biresource.net Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. www.biversity.org Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and-affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome.

Age-restricted.bearsoceanstate-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate Bridgewater State College GLBT Alumni Group: Contact Kenneth Hayes (‘91). khayesbbc@msn.com. www.bridgew.edu Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGYA): (508) 778-7744 CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net. www.corismagroup.org Defenders/Providence: Leather/Levi club. Third Sunday. 6pm. PO Box 41153, Providence, RI 02940 Feminist Voices: Women’s chorus. www.feministvoices.com Gay Lesbian Alliance of Newport County Etc. (GLANCE): Social and entertainment events. glance1234@hotmail.com Gay Men’s Meditation Group: Fee applies.Third Thursday. 7-8pm. 225-8149 Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. First Monday. RI Pride Office,1005 Main Street, #1105, Pawtucket. All welcome. PO Box 6583, Providence, RI 02904. www.icriprov.org

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RI Skeptics Society:Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion.

Fourth Saturday. Seekonk restaurant. http://skeptics.meetup.com/133/ RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBTQ seniors. 235 Promenade Street, Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI 02908. 528-3259. sageriinfo@gmail.com SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA and RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com Trans Queer RI: Friendship, fun activities and support for transgender, queer and like-minded people. Gatherings third Sunday. trans.queer.ri@gmail.com T.W.I.S.T. Project: Program for gay and bisexual men in Fall River/New Bedford area. Drop-in center, referrals, condom distribution, social groups. Coffee night Thursday 7-9pm. (508) 672-0378 UNISONG: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. jlglass53@aol.com. www.unisong.net WomenRIsing: Feminist chorus. Director Nancy Rosenberg.

Contact@womenrisingchorus.org. www.womenrisingchorus.org

PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. (617) 937-5858. www.pridesportsboston.com

Men’s Gay Camping: In RI, CT and MA. Gatherings organized from tents to RVs during spring, summer and fall. 277-0075. gaycamping@gmx.com Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.MixedBorders.com Opera Club: Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. Enjoy hearing and attending. Dave, BrettCornellpi4@aol.com

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org

Westminster Unitarian/Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Second Sunday. Contact Steve Kagan. 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org

Men’s Card Group: Contact John. 261-9715. johninprov@gmail.com

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 No Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org. www.unitarianchurchfr.org

United Church of Christ: Coalition for LGBT concerns. Contact Ray Bradley. 13 Steven Circle, South Kingstown. 782-3871

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, RI 02901. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. 467-2130. info@prideri.com. www.prideri.com

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT people interested in vintage & specialty cars. sisherwood@aol.com. www.yankeelcc.com

Pawtuxet Pride: GLBTQ folks & friends in Pawtuxet Village (Cranston and beyond). 345-1264. EDZL@aol.com

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. www.uusouthcountyri.org

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children.

Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com

Lesbian Writers Group: Writing exercises, support. No critiquing or workshopping. Free. Rochambeau Library, Russian or Computer room.

708 Hope Street, Providence. Monday 7-8:30pm

Temple Sinai: A welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. www.templesinairi.org

Unitarian Society of Fairhaven (MA): 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081

RI Lesbian Social Club: Social gatherings for women. 272-2962. heylari@yahoo.com

Queer Book Club: Third Wednesday 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. queerbookclub@gmail.com

Sports

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: (617) 937-5858 ext. 2. www.bgbl.com RI GALA BOWLING: Sunday 6pm. East Providence Lanes, Newport Avenue, East Providence. Contact Bruce or Bill. 397-3803 or 828-5587.

Monday night women’s bowling league. Contact Pat. 451-2188 Royal Court BOWLING League: 9pm Wednesdays. Woonsocket Hill Bowl. 767-2110 Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri.

831-6940. www.bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com FLAG (For Lesbians and Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. www.flagflagfootball.com

Raging Grannies: Women “of a certain age” working toward a more peaceful, equitable society with song, humor & passion. Will sing for rallies & events. jlglass53@aol.com

Northeastern Nitro FOOTBALL: Professional women’s football team.

Members of the Women’s Football Alliance. Practices held in Bethel, CT. Contact Amy Manfred or Carley Pesente. amymanfred@yahoo.com or linebackergirl56@aol.com

RI Association of Gay Professionals: Professional networking and philanthropy. 453-9276. gayprofessionalnetworkofri@gmail.com

RI/S.E. MA Flag FOOTBALL: Saturday 10am. All levels and genders welcome. mbs1994ever@yahoo.com

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Boston Pride HOCKEY: (617) 937-5858 Ext. 7. www.bostonpridehockey.org Ice HOCKEY for Women: Contact Gail Wickstrom. gwick@kersur.net Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672. www.mainstma.org

Fitchburg State College GLBT Alliance: Social support group for students. One-in-Ten and Friends. 978-665-3164. sfranzemn@fsc.edu Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-2535 or (800)-399-PEER

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org

S.A.F.E (Sexual Advocacy for Everyone): Roger Williams University LGBTQ & allies group. Weekly meeting in Intercultural Center. Speakers, social and awareness events. Pride week in April. saferwu03@gmail.com

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org

Salve Regina University Gay Straight Lesbian Bisexual Alliance (GSLBA): 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Sister Johnelle. Lucianij@salve.edu

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football Club: www.bostonironsides.org

SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership): Bi-weekly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@Prysm.us. myspace.com/seaQuel

Frontrunners Rhode Island: RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Thursday 6pm. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Contact Brian. 7517643. bripm@cox.net Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Saturday morning walk/run along the Charles River. 10am. Meet in front of Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. brian@outryders.org. www.outryders.org Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit, social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment (617) 9375858 Ext. 9. www.bostonstrikers.com Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome.

(226) 7771-642. rcsl_commish@cox.net. www.providencesoftball.org Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in 4 divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and two recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org TENNIS-4-All: Boston, MA area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. (617) 633-2180. www.GayVolleyball.net Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult co-ed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com East Coast WRESTLING Club: 467-6737.(617) 937-5858 ext. 6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance (BCC/GSA): Steven Camara, Advisor. 774-357-2391. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown Univeristy for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu Bryant Pride: Bryant University Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Student Association. 232-6389 CCRI Triangle Alliance: Student & staff GLBTQ group meets on Flanagan and Liston campuses. 455-6065 COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Third Saturday 10:30am-12pm. Gordon School, East Providence. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. vjutras5@gmail.com. www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/

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S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks.

(866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org University of RI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer & Questioning (LGBTIQ2): Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@advance.uri.edu URI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894 Youth Pride Inc./The Way Out: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Drop-in center at 743 Westminster Street, Providence. Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm, Friday 4-8pm, Saturday 10am-5pm. The Way Out peer support group Tuesday 5pm.

Gender Spectrum support group Tuesday 5:30pm. Ask about 14-andunder day. 421-5626. kerri@youthpride-ri.org. www.youthpride-ri.org Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. Network/LaRed. advocate@tnir.org Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-54337 Foster parents needed: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 766-0900, ext. 1213 Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4318. www.childrensfriendri.org Foster parents sought: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305 Behavioral health outpatient services: Fall River area. S.T.E.P.: (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T.: (508) 672-0378 Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057 Catholic Parents Outreach: Always Our Children, first and third Tuesday.

Sacred Heart Convent, 395 Chestnut Street, Springfield, MA. (413) 736-6803 COLAGE (Children of Gays): A national movement of people with one or more LGBT parents. Social activities, education & advocacy.

Third Saturday. rhodeisland@colage.org. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. vjutras5@gmail.com Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@comcast.net. www.compassftm.org

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Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700 Day One (Formerly Sexual Assault and Trauma Resource Center of RI): Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest.

24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100 Dementia and Early Alzheimer’s LGBTQ support group: Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Road, Middletown.

847-6181 Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. outreach@gayfathersboston.org. www.gayfathersboston.org Gay Fathers Support Group: Rhode Island. Fee applies. Contact Tom Fronczak, LICSW. 431-2953 Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter. (800) 8321901. www.gmdvp.org Gay Officers Action League/New England (GOAL/NE): Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 587, Boston, MA 02117.

(617) 376-3612. info@goalne.org. www.goalne.org Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@gayshare.org. www.gayshare.org Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108 Kathy’s Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any lifethreatening illness. Meets monthly in Providence. Partners and caregivers welcome. 888-5KATHYS

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. Contact Aida. 861-6191 ext. 121. amanduley@sojournerri.org Sojourner House: Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety.

861-6191 Straight Spouse Support: Straight spouse professional offers peer support and referrals. Contact Jane Harris. (413) 625-6636. jcmalinski48@gmail.com Straight Spouses Group: For information on groups and online support. www.straightspouse.org TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, genderqueer and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group first and third Tuesday 7-9pm. info@tginetwork.org. www.tginetwork.org Transgender Support Group: Cape Cod (508) 362-4435 Trans Family New England: Gives parents and family members of transgender people a safe place to explore impact of gender identity of their loved ones and to connect with other families. second Tuesday.

Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org Trans Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. Last Wednesday. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org TransYouth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org. www.imatyfa.org Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263

Lesbian Moms of Southern NE: Discussion, support and activity list for lesbian mothers. foradancer63@aol.com.www.topica.com/ listsLMOSNE Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Taunton Thursday and New Bedford first Tuesday. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./ New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Greater Providence chapter. Serves all of RI and southeastern MA. First Wednesday 6:45pm. Met School, 325 Public Street, Providence. 751-7571. pflagprovidence@verizon. net. www.pflagprovidence.org RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940 RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday.

98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. RI Relay 711.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org

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Worth a Look The Lit Chick

What if you went back in time to meet yourself at a moment when you were struggling to understand who you were and where you fit in? What would you say to you? That’s the heart of The Letter Q: Queer Writers’ Notes to Their Younger Selves, a mustread that’s out in paperback this month. Don’t let the “writers” part fool you. Sure, there are letters from more than 60 published authors and artists, including Gregory Maguire and Carol DeSanti, Amy Bloom and Paul Rudnick, but the book is not about writing; it’s about living. The entries are down to earth, sometimes funny, sometimes bitter, sometimes tearful, but always inspiring. The book is endorsed and recommended by The Trevor Project for its messages of hope to the next generation, but it’s worth the time to reflect on how far we’ve all come.

I dare you to not write your own letter to yourself after you read this book.

A new award-winning documentary, The New Black, produced by Yvonne Welbon and Yoruba Richen, is also making the rounds. It chronicles the fight for marriage equality in Maryland as seen through the eyes of members of the AfricanAmerican community fighting on both sides of the issue.The film provides a rarely seen perspective as it explores the black community’s response to the fight for LGBT rights. The story, told against the backdrop of President Obama’s own shift in conviction, takes the audience into the churches and homes of African Americans in Maryland for candid conversations about how members of the community currently view LGBT African Americans and what they predict 30

Pictured left to right: Michael Cunningham, one of the authors of The Letter Q;Yoruba Richen, Director of The New Black; cover of Pregnant Butch: Nine Long Months Spent in Drag.

for the future. It is highly recommended. You can see it at the Clark University Community Cinema in Worcester, MA, on Tuesday, May 13 at 7pm, or visit the website at www.newblackfilm.com to get additional show times or to purchase a DVD. After reading Providence artist and author A.K. Summers’ first graphic novel, Pregnant Butch: Nine Long Months Spent in Drag, I hope more than ever that any children I have will just magically appear, but for all of you more intrepid butches willing to take the plunge, this should be required reading. Part memoir and part commentary, the book was seven years in the making. First serialized on the web comics site ACT-I-VATE, the collection of black-and-white comics deals expertly with a gray area that most people may not have considered. The artwork is shockingly over-the-top, and the book pulls no punches when addressing the obvious anxiety of having to juggle all the things that go into having a baby, plus the shock of those in the mainstream suddenly forced to acknowledge a shared experience. Summers was gracious to leave signed copies in the wake of her recent reading at Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, so snatch your copy while they last. Find out more about Summers and check out her comic zine Negativa, and animated shorts “Topless Dickless Clueless” and “World Without Femmes” at her website www.aksummers.com.

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risd museum graphic design: Now in Production mar 28 – aug 3, 2014

Charles S. Anderson Design, Tiny Bubbles Soap, Pop Ink brand

Nathan Myhrvold, Chris Young, and Maxime Bilet, Modernist Cuisine

Exploring some of the most cutting-edge ideas and creative works in 21st-century graphic design.

Richard Spencer-Powell, Monocle

Meike Gerritzen, Beware of Software vest from the Saved by Droog Project

Mike Perry, Eames Eiffel Side Chair Experimental Jetset, Statement and Counter-Statement

Justin Manor, John Rothenberg, and Eric Gunther, Set Top Box

Peter Buchanan-Smith, C.C.G.F. Badge Set

Anthony Burrill, Oil & Water Do Not Mix

Jop van Bennekom, The Gentlewoman

risdmuseum.org

Graphic Design: Now in Production is co-organized by the Walker Art Center, Minneapolis, and the Smithsonian’s Cooper-Hewitt, National Design Museum, New York.

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David Bennewith, Churchward International Typefaces

Aaron Draplin and Coudal Partners, Field Notes (dry transfer letter version)

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