Options Magazine-April 2017

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Options 35th Anniversary Event: A Black & White Affair Join us as we celebrate the past, present, and future of Options and kick off our 35th year in print.

Saturday, May 20 — 7:00 PM Skyline at Waterplace — 1 Finance Way, Providence For tickets, visit www.optionsri.org.

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14 5 From the Executive Director 6 Newsbriefs 10 Being, Belonging, and Becoming 12 Calendar 14 Welcome To CrossFit 19 No Limits 20 The Whole Self 22 Being Fit Means Being Fabulous 23 APRI 24 AIDS Care Ocean State 26 Coming Out to Your Provider 28 Out On the Town 30 It’s Jonathan 31 Resources 38 Poetry 38 Transosaurus Rex Correction: In the March 2017 issue, the caption for the upper picture on page 18 should have read “Ralph Martino, left, and BB Hayes, right, are crowned the first baron and Baroness of Rhode Island, 1991.”

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From the Executive Director Dear Readers, When it comes to choosing a place to work out there are many options available to us. While some prefer a large facility boasting top-of-the-line equipment, others may choose a quiet yoga studio or any of the options in between. Ryan TracyCarvalho gets his workouts in at Ocean State CrossFit located in Cranston. In order to dispel some myths about the rough-around-the-edges approach to fitness, we share Ryan’s experiences as a gay CrossFit coach. We hope the story, along with the other health and fitness articles in this issue, will inspire you to get active this spring.

Lace up your sneakers, because it’s time to announce the Options Magazine Gay 5K Run/Walk. This event will take place on Sunday, June 11, in the beautiful, historic Roger Williams Park. We have a fantastic lineup of hosts and entertainment, and have partnered with Run Rhody to make the run a great time for the whole family.

You may register as an individual, or better yet, create a team and encourage family members, friends, and coworkers to join you. For more information, visit our race website at www.runthegay5k.com.

Also in this issue, our friends at AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) detail their upcoming event, King of Queens. I’m thrilled to say that I’m a contestant, partnered with LaDiva Jonz who will assist in my drag transformation and performance.

Though this event is sure to make you laugh, the heels and makeup are not only for fun; the event is a major fundraiser for ACOS. Each year, Rhode Island continues to see new HIV infections, and I’m ready to raise money to support an organization working hard to put an end to it. Please consider helping me become fan-favorite by making a tax-deductible contribution to my fundraising campaign. Together we can fight HIV and AIDS. The donation page can be found by visiting www.optionsri. org.

Later in May, be sure to join us as we kick off our 35th year at the Black & White Affair, the Options Magazine 35th Anniversary Event. This not-to-be-missed party is being held at Skyline at Waterplace in Providence on May 20. We’ll celebrate the past, present, and future of Options, recognizing individuals who have helped to shape the organization. Guests will enjoy a hosted bar from 7-10pm, food catered

by Russell Morin, and great entertainment throughout the night.Tickets are available at www.optionsri.org.

Spring is shaping up to be packed with fun for the Options community. I hope to see you participating in the festivities, and hope the warmer weather encourages you to flip to the sports and recreation section of our Resources, where you will find 25 varied organizations and groups offering ways for you to meet people in the community while participating in an activity that’ll keep you moving.

Onward, Kyle McKendall

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NEWS BRIEFS

by Adam Brooks

The U.K. Starts Plans For Its First LGBTQ Retirement Home The Manchester, England, City Council has announced plans to build the United Kingdom’s first retirement home for LGBTQ residents. While the home is still in its early planning stages and many details have yet to be announced, the goal is to have an affordable place, with a staff fully trained in LGBTQ concerns, for Manchester’s senior citizens. The idea for this retirement home came from a report by the LGBT Foundation, commissioned by the Manchester City Council. The report stated 55% of LGBTQ people felt that their identity would garner more negative treatment as they grow older.

It also determined that LGBTQ people are more likely to have no children, live alone, and see family members less frequently as they make the transition into old age. “People shouldn’t have to face the prospect as they get older of being surrounded by people who may not accept their sexuality or gender identity,” Said Bev Craig, the City Councilor who leads the council on behalf of LGBTQ women. “Older people should never feel isolated by who they are, or who they love.” Of course, heterosexual residents will be welcome in the new retirement home as well, but the Manchester City Council hopes to have at least a 51% LGBTQ occupancy

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Moonlight Wins Academy Award for Best Picture The gay-themed film Moonlight won the Best Picture Oscar at the Academy Awards last month. The announcement of the film’s win was shocking after La La Land was mistakenly announced as Best Picture by presenter Faye Dunaway. Heartbreaking and profound, the film chronicles the lead character, Chiron, through three pivotal stages in his life as he comes of age, falls in love, and examines his masculinity and queer identity within the backdrop of Miami’s African-American community.

The film quickly became critically acclaimed after it premiered last fall at the Telluride Film Festival in Colorado.

Moonlight also snagged Oscars for Best Suppor ting Actor, Maherhala Ali; and Best Adapted Screenplay, thanks to screenwriter Barry Jenkins, who also directed the film. “Very clearly, even in my dreams this could not be true,” Jenkins said after accepting the award. “But to hell with dreams! I’m done with it. This is true.” The win is a harbinger of change in the United States enter tainment industry, as the Academy has been accused of systematically ignoring gay-themed films.

Gay Veteran Group was Banned and “Un-banned” From Boston St. Patrick’s Day Parade OutVets was first allowed to par ticipate in South Boston’s St. Patrick’s Day parade in 2015, in what was seen as a groundbreaking decision after parade organizers had resisted the inclusion of gay groups for decades. They were allowed to proudly display their flag in the parade — with the rainbow stripes included — for the past two years.

However, after making the decision that the LGBT veterans would not be allowed to march in this year’s St. Patrick’s Day parade, the parade’s organizers changed their minds again, allowing the group to par ticipate, but with the stipulation that OutVets would not be allowed to display the rainbow flag that appears on their banners and jackets. OutVets said no to the offer. The council’s decision was immediately condemned by most of Boston’s political figures. Boston Mayor Mar ty Walsh and Governor Charlie Baker both dropped out of the parade as soon as they heard that OutVets was not going to march. “We are one Boston. We are so beyond this conversation,” Walsh told CBS Boston.

The council then changed its stance in an unanimous reversal and once again welcomed OutVets.

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Democrats Demand Solutions from Betsy DeVos on Protecting Transgender Students A group of Democrat Senators are taking a stand and demanding that newly appointed Education Secretary Betsy DeVos formulate a plan to defend the rights of transgender students. Democrats on the Senate Committee for Health, Education, Labor and Pensions sent DeVos a letter requesting a briefing with her — to aid in the understanding of civil rights that she should be implementing for all students.

The letter, signed by Washington Senator Patty Murray, Minnesota Senator Al Franken, and Massachusetts Senator Elizabeth Warren, among others, expressed vehement anger at the secretary’s decision to rescind the guidance, stating the change has caused a maelstrom of confusion to schools nationwide. The letter demands a response on how DeVos plans to enforce Title IX for all students, including those who identify as transgender. The Democrats’ letter came the week after the Supreme Cour t decided not to rule on the case of Gavin Grimm, a Virginia student whose school doesn’t allow him to use the bathroom consistent with the gender he identifies with. While DeVos has not yet made all her opinions public, she did publicly stand by the decision to revoke Obama’s guidance, calling it an example of federal overreach. While rumors are circulating that DeVos privately opposed the change, the senators’ letter addresses this possibility succinctly: “The suggestion that the Depar tment jeopardized the health or well-being of any student because of political pressure is extremely alarming.”

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ABC Mini-Series Chronicles Gay Rights Movement The new ABC mini-series “When We Rise” has received a lot of viewer acclaim. The four-part television event chronicled the evolution of the gay rights movement from the 1970s to the 2000s. Written by Oscar-winning writer Dustin Lance Black, “When We Rise” is based partly on the memoir of Cleve Jones, an activist who is portrayed in the series by Guy Pearce. The series, eight hours in total, garnered much praise for its star-studded cast. Mary-Louise Parker, Rachel Griffiths, and Michael K. Williams all play principal roles. Whoopie Goldberg, Rosie O’Donnell, and David Hyde Pierce also lent their names to the project, playing smaller, yet crucial, roles. The mini-series was lauded by viewers for depicting many powerful moments in America’s LGBT history, such as the early stages of the AIDS epidemic and then-President Clinton’s visit to the AIDS Memorial Quilt. q

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Teen Focus

Being, Belonging, and Becoming

By Katheryn Tavares, MSW, Manager of Program Development & Youth Transition Services at Adoption Rhode Island On any given day in Rhode Island there are nearly 2,100 children and youth in the foster care system. They may live with extended family members, in licensed foster homes, in shelters, or in group homes and residential treatment programs. Adoption Rhode Island (Adoption RI) promises these youth safety and well-being in a permanent family.

Many youth are reunified with their families, but when reunification is not possible, the work begins to find an adoptive family.

There’s another option for youth in foster care, however, that few average Rhode Islanders know about: Another Planned Permanent Living Arrangement, or APPLA. APPLA is similar to the idea of long-term foster care and is intended for youth for whom reunification or adoption is not a viable option. Until 2015, youth in Rhode Island with the goal of APPLA were not referred to Adoption RI. Additionally, youth who had been previously working with Adoption RI were often closed to their services if their care goal changed. Without continued efforts to find and engage family connections and help youth understand their life story and their future as a member of a family, these youth were at significant risk of aging out of the foster care system at age 18 without a permanent family.

Each week, Adoption RI is often inundated with former foster youth dropping in to the office or calling for assistance with numerous basic needs. Some may be asking for photos of themselves as a child, some

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may be looking for support while working through their gender identity. The scenarios are endless-- and through them all, Adoption RI is motivated by the urgency of the need for permanency planning for teens in DCYF care. Young people who age out of the foster care system are at significantly higher risk for homelessness, unintended pregnancy, unemployment, and incarceration. One in four young adults who aged out of care are diagnosed with PTSD-- a rate that is twice that for combat veterans.

All of these reasons have led to a new program at Adoption Rhode Island, Teen Focus, which will be working specifically with teens who have the goal of APPLA. The new program will help them to build meaningful connections and improve their readiness for transition into adulthood.

Funded by DCYF, the Teen Focus program will build on the Adoption RI history of providing child-focused recruitment, familysearch and engagement, clarification work, and opportunities for connections and relationships with natural supports for teens.

In addition, through educational advocacy, Adoption RI will support youth in achieving their educational and/or vocational goals and help prepare them for adulthood.

Together, Adoption RI and you can change the course for young people who have experienced tremendous loss and loneliness and help them achieve their goals. Are you willing to open your heart and your home to a teen who is ready to launch into their

full potential as an adult? Maybe you’re ready to be a mentor to a teen to help them learn life skills and have a positive adult connection in their life? Or maybe you are interested in learning more about adoption from foster care?

If the answer is yes, or even maybe, to any of those questions, consider attending the Adoption Rhode Island Information Night hosted by The Village in Providence on April 11, beginning at 6:00 pm. Adoption Rhode Island staff will be on hand to explain the adoption process, talk about the children waiting to be adopted and the rewards and challenges involved. The various services offered through Adoption RI, both pre- and post-adoption will also be outlined. There will be plenty of opportunity to ask questions in an unpressured, friendly environment.

Of course, adoption and/or mentorship is not for everyone, but community support is key in helping Adoption RI continue the important work, support, and advocacy that youth need. Not everyone can adopt or become otherwise involved in a child’s life, but everyone has something to offer a child in foster care. You can support the work being done at Adoption Rhode Island for the hundreds of children in care each year by making a donation or attending our annual spring fundraiser, Super Heroes, this year to be held at Skyline at Waterplace, on May 5.

For further information about Adoption RI, visit the website at www.adoptionri.org. q

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS APRIL

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Sat. 1 The Imperial Court’s Coronation XXV: The Silver Jubilee, 6pm. The Providence Biltmore Grand Ballroom, 11 Dorrance St, Providence. $90.

Cocktail reception at 6pm, voting from 6pm-9pm, ballroom doors open for dinner at 7pm, show 8pm, crowning at midnight.

Monarch candidates are Gingah Rale and Roxie Van Cartier for Empress. For tickets, visit www. icriprov.org.

Sat. 1 Sarah Rich &The Invincible We, 8:30pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 2287222.

Sun. 2 The Imperial Court’s Victory Brunch, 10am. The Providence Biltmore Garden Room, 11 Dorrance Street, Providence. $40. For tickets, www.icriprov.org.

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Sun. 2 Drag Brunch, 12-2pm.

Massimo Ristorante, 134 Atwells Avenue, Providence. Join the ladies for a mix of comedy, music, and cocktails. Adults only.

For reservations, 273-0650 or www.massimori.com.

Sun. 2 The Imperial Court of RI Victory Party, 2-4pm. The Providence Eagle, 124 Snow Street, Providence. No Cover.

RISE Discotheque April 16

Wed. 5 SalsaConSoul by TeamFusionRI, 8pm-1am.

Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Open to dancers of all levels of experience. No partner needed. $15 cover includes a lesson. $10 after 10pm.

For more info, facebook.com/ SalsaConSoul.

Fri. 7 Rent Opening Night Benefit for AIDS Care Ocean State.

ACOS ticket includes cocktail party at 6pm with open bar, hors d’oeuvres, and deserts; premium

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seating for the 7:30pm show; and Q&A meet and greet with the cast after the show.Tickets $115$150: bit.ly/RENT2017

Fri. 7 Comedy with Amy Tee and Kelly MacFarland with host John Kelley, 8pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $10. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 2287222.

Sat. 8 A Child’s Sparkle, 2-8pm.

The Stable Providence, 125 Washington Street, Providence.A benefit for The Tomorrow Fund Clinic at Hasbro Hospital. Silent auction and raffle items called at 7pm.

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SPONSORED BY Sun. 9 Drag Brunch, two seatings at 10:30am or 1pm. Opa Restaurant, 230 Atwells Avenue, Providence. $35. A benefit for Youth Pride Inc. Sun. 9 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Sun. 9 Black Queer and Trans Film Series: Major!, 6-8pm. Brown University, Salomon 001, 79 Waterman Street, Providence.

Major! is about a formerly incarcerated black trans elder and activist. Pizza served. Free and open to the public. Wheelchair accessible. For more info, contact Brown’s LGBTQ Center at 8633062 or LGBTQ@Brown.edu.

Sun. 9 21st Annual RI PrideTriple Crown Pageant, 7-10:30pm.

The Colosseum, 150 Pine Street, Providence. Contestants compete for titles such as Mr. Gay, Ms. Lesbian, and Miss Gay. VIP tables and advanced tickets are available at www.prideri.com. $10 in advance, $15 at door.

Thu. 13 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment. $7.

Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook.

Fri. 14 The Holographics with Rachel & Tori, 9pm.

The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5.

Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 228-7222.

Sun. 16 RISE Discotheque with DJ Andy Morris, 3pm.

Rooftop at the Providence G, 100 Dorrance Street, Providence. LGBTQ t-dance atop Providence with live show at 6pm. 18+. No cover.

Sun. 16 Interweave Potluck Dinner and BornThis Way Prom planning, 5:30-8pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

All are welcome. Bring a dish to share. For more information, contact Rex at 595-9068 or interweave@channingchurch.org.

Wed. 19 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence.

Reading: Breakfast on Pluto by Patrick McCabe. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Thu. 20 Drag Bingo: Easter Bonnet Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. $100 cash prize for best bonnet. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Fri. 21 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad

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Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGERI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others.

Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700.

Fri. 21 Divas of Drag, 8pm.

Stadium Theater, 28 Monument Square,Woonsocket. $26. Order up a double dose of glitz, glamour, sass, and class with RI’s premier drag stars Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. Adult content. For tickets, www.stadiumtheatre.com.

Sun. 23 AIDS Walk RI, noon2pm. RI State House lawn, rain or shine. Registration and vendor check-in 10am-12pm, speakers 12-12:30pm, Walk 12:30-1:30pm, raffle and closing 1:30-2pm. For more info or to start or join a walk team, email aidsprojectri.org or call 831-5522.

Tue. 25 Flatbread Company fundraiser for the Pride Center of RI, 5-9pm. Providence Flatbread Company, 161 Cushing Street, Providence. The Flatbread Company will donate a generous portion of the proceeds from eat in, take out, or delivery. For further details contact jlglass53@gmail.com.

Thu. 27 Paint the Town Red. Over 20 restaurants all over RI will donate up to 30% of sales to support AIDS Care Ocean State.Visit bit.ly/PTTR2017 (case sensitive) for complete list of restaurants. See restaurants for menus, hours, and to make reservations.

Fri. 28 LGBT Short Film Program, SENE Film Festival, 9pm. Rhodywood Studio, 209 Douglas Avenue, Providence.

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$10, $8 seniors/students. For more info, www.senefest.com.

Fri. 28 Sister Speak, 9pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri. com or 228-7222.

Fri. 28 Born this Way Prom, 6:30-11pm. Easton’s Beach Rotunda, 175 Memorial Boulevard, Newport. Carousel rides begin at 6:30pm, last dance at 11pm. Food and drink provided, non-alcoholic event.

Free to LGBTQ people and allies age 18 and under, $10 suggested donation for all others to benefit Interweave and Youth Pride Inc. Contact Rex at 595-9068 or interweave@channingchurch. org for more information.

Sat. 29 RI Women’s Association Dance, 7pm. Events on Main, 999 Main Street, Suite 1230 in the Hope Artiste Village, Pawtucket.

Featuring DJ Sharon and potluck. $12, free to members. For more info, www.riwa.net.

Sat. 29 Mary Day, 8:30pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri. com or 228-7222.

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Wed. 3 SalsaConSoul by TeamFusionRI, 8pm-1am.

Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Open to dancers of all levels of experience. No partner needed. $15 cover, includes lessons. $10 after 10pm.

For more info, facebook.com/ SalsaConSoul.

Wed. 3 & Thu. 4 Performer auditions for TRANS*, a staged reading, 8:30pm. Paff Auditorium, URI Feinstein Providence Campus, 80 Washington Street, Providence. TRANS* is a full-

length play created from oral histories of members of the local transgender community. A moderated discussion of the play will follow the staged reading.

Trans performers are especially encouraged to audition.

Rehearsals scheduled prior to performances on June 1 and 2, and a full production in October 2017. For more information, contact Steven Pennell 277-5206, uri.artsandculture@gmail.com.

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Fri. 5 Comedy with Jackie Monahan, John Kelley, and Karen O’Donnell, 8pm.The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $10. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 228-7222.

Sat. 6 Sirsy, 9pm.The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 228-7222.

Sun. 7 King of Queens: America’s Most Wanted, 7pm.

11 first-time drag queens compete for the title of King of Queens. The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. $20 to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State.

Visit Bit.Ly/KOQ2017 for tickets or to donate.

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Thu. 11 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence.

A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment. $7. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook.

Fri. 12 Fifth Annual Conference on Youth Sexual Health Education, 8am-3pm. Alger Hall, Rhode Island College, 600 Mt. Pleasant Avenue, Providence.

Presented by The Rhode Island HIV and STI Prevention Coalition.

Professional education opportunity for youth-serving providers and community partners featuring a youth panel, skills-building

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS workshops, and poster sessions. $35 includes breakfast and lunch. To register https://tinyurl. com/CYSHE2017. For more information, contact Alec Tributino at alec.tributino@ lifespan.org.

Strike Out AIDS Softball Tournament May 13

Sat 13 Strike Out AIDS Softball Tournament. Check-in 6am, opening ceremony 7:30am, first game 8am. West Kingstown Park, 3840 Kingstown Road, West Kingstown. 18+. Register at bit.ly/SOFTBALL2017 (case sensitive) by April 21. $450 for teams of 9-16 people. $1,000 prize to first place team.

Sat. 13 Becky Chace Band, 9pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 228-7222.

Sun. 14 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Queer Book Club May 17

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Wed. 17 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence.

Reading:The Right Side of History: 100 Years of LGBTQ Activism

by Adrian Brooks. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Thu. 18 Drag Bingo: Beach Party Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. 18+ event.

No alcohol. Email Bingo@ AIDSCareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and

phone number for reservations.

Fri. 19 SAGE LGBT CafĂŠ, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGERI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others.

Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700.

Fri. 19 Mark Cutler and the Men of Great Courage, 9pm.

The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5.

Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 2287222.

Sat. 20 Options Magazine 35th Anniversary Event: A Back & White Affair, 7pm. Skyline at Waterplace, 1 Finance Way, Providence. Celebrate the past, present, and future of Options as we kick off our 35th year in print. Enjoy a hosted bar from 7-10pm, food catered by Russell Morin, and entertainment throughout the night. Options will recognize individuals who have shaped the organization over the past 35 years. For tickets, visit www.optionsri.org.

Sat. 20 Bachata/Kizomba Fusion Night by TeamFusionRI, 8pm-2am.

Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence.

Open to dancers of all levels of experience. No partner needed. $20 cover, includes two lessons. $15 after 10pm.

For more info, facebook.com/ SalsaConSoul.

at www.thevillageri.com 228-7222.

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Sun. 21 RISE Discotheque with DJ Andy Morris, 3pm.

Rooftop at the Providence G, 100 Dorrance Street, Providence. LGBTQ t-dance atop Providence with live show at 6pm. 18+. No cover.

Sun. 21 Interweave presents: How To Be an LGBTQ Ally, 5:30pm potluck dinner with panel discussion at 7pm.

Parish Hall behind Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. All are welcome. Free. Bring a dish to share if you would like to join the potluck. For more info, contact Rex at 595-9068 or interweave@channingchurch.org.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth,Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out,Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum,Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under:Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 31 for complete information q

Sat. 20 Midnight Honey, 8:30pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made

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t first glance, CrossFit may seem like a place where LGBTQ community members could feel out of place. It appears to have similar characteristics to that part of a typical gym where only the strongest and most confident guys — those who know how to lift free weights — venture. At many other gyms, those of us unfamiliar with this type of fitness might turn to a machine that has a clear-cut list of instructions.

A CrossFit gym looks as if someone took a conventional gym and stripped out all of the safe, modern and familiar cardiovascular workout options like treadmills and ellipticals. It leaves only the weights. It’s a heteronormative environment boasting barbells and weight plates, kettlebells, muscular men and women, and a certain “rough-around-the-edges-who-can-liftthe-most-weight-the-fastest” attitude. The CrossFit gym appears to challenge many of the insecurities that a gay man would face.

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Despite an afternoon lull in classes at Ocean State CrossFit, cars were still parked in the the gym’s parking lot. Though not many people were working out, they were lingering after having taken an earlier afternoon class. In the main gym downstairs was a 25-year-old guy; he worked out in the corner alone with a barbell stacked with weights. Taking advantage of the downtime, he had found the opportunity to perfect a lift. While this was a time when there was no official programming taking place, finding a quiet room or a place to sit and talk was next to impossible.

One of the gym’s owners was upstairs at his desk editing a draft for his newest blog post while also on a phone call. I found coach Ryan Tracy-Carvalho in the lounge socializing with gym members. He took the time to talk with me, and it became clear that those preconceived notions about CrossFit are unfounded.

Despite the worries one might have about CrossFit and fitting in, spending a short time in a class or having a quick conversation with Ryan or one of the other coaches at Ocean State would lay any concerns to rest. Ryan explained that there are a lot of gays and lesbians who work out at Ocean State. He expressed this in a tone that implied it’s not a point many even discuss or consider.

“You’d think there would be an element of awkwardness while working out next to him, ” Ryan said, as he motioned toward a straight, 6’2”, 210 lb gym member who was working out on the other side of the room, “where he may think differently of you…but, we’re treated just like everyone else. No one thinks, ‘Oh, that’s the gay dude over there.’ It’s one community.”

This is the CrossFit that members of Ocean State know and love, a place where working out is more than just a

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task on a to-do list. It is a community gym that provides a place for conversations to take place and friendships to flourish. It’s an environment that members describe as supportive, fun, encouraging, and often inspirational. It’s a place of belonging.

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rossFit calls itself “constantly varied functional movements performed at high intensity.” All workouts are based on functional movements, and these movements reflect aspects of gymnastics, weightlifting, running, and rowing, among other fitness approaches.

Overall, the aim of CrossFit is to forge inclusive fitness supported by measurable, observable, and repeatable results.

The CrossFit brand says that “the program prepares trainees for any physical contingency—not only for the unknown but for the unknowable, too. Our specialty is not specializing.”

While CrossFit challenges the world’s fittest, the program is designed for universal scalability, making it the perfect application for any individual, regardless of experience.

Ocean State CrossFit, and the more than 13,000 affiliates across the world, don’t change the programmed workout for different people; instead they scale the load and intensity. If 225 lb deadlifts and pull-ups are in the programmed workout, everyone is doing some variation of those movements based on their individual capabilities. After all, the physical needs of a competitive athlete versus your grandparents differ by degree, not kind.

The hardest part of acclimating to the CrossFit approach may have little to do with the workouts or weight, but instead with understanding the terminology and acronyms tossed around. Here are the basics:

Each CrossFit gym is an independentlyowned business that franchises the CrossFit name. The physical gym is called a “box” and boasts a surprisingly simple setup with a metal rig/weight rack around the perimeter and stacks of weights, kettlebells, and wooden boxes along the walls. There is one “workout of the day,” commonly referred to as the WOD. At Ocean State, the WOD is programmed

by Ray Fleser, co-owner and director of fitness operations. The WOD is scaled or adjusted to provide a safe, approachable, and challenging workout for all participants.

Classes are instructed by a coach-- not a trainer-- and when you join a CrossFit gym, you are considered to be an athlete.

On a typical day at Ocean State, members participate in a group warm-up, followed by an opportunity to work on a specific movement or lift. The programming dictates what the lift will be and what you should be working towards. Some days a member may be going for a personal record, where they’re trying to lift more weight in that particular movement than they’ve previously done. Other days everyone may be instructed to go lighter with weight, while aiming for more repetitions. While one person may be back-squatting 95 lbs, the person to their right may have 275 lbs on their barbell, and someone to their left is using a only plastic PVC pipe—meaning to improve their mobility and range of motion.

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itness wasn’t always a priority or focus in Ryan’s life. It wasn’t until his mid-twenties when he discovered he had a passion for it. For years, he suffered from severe depression, while trying different medications to fill the void in his life. “I was 25 years old and didn’t know what I want to do with my life. I was overweight, which added to the stresses of having gone to school to be an actor and things had not taken off as I had planned.”

Life was difficult at that time and Ryan often questioned why, and how, to move forward. His dad often talked about the health benefits gained from releasing endorphins through working out and

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maintaining a regimen of going to bed for a good night’s rest, plus the importance of eating right. He suggested Ryan shake things up and make some truly major changes in his life. And that’s exactly what Ryan did.

“Working out every day and seeing the difference in my body, and seeing the difference in the way I was feeling, and being proud of myself completely changed who I was. At the time, I was a waiter, trying to be an actor, and I finally thought, no, I want to be a personal trainer.” He talks vividly of this point in his life when he realized that he wanted a career in something that helped people to feel better and improve their lives. The emotional and physical benefits that came with working out began to change his perspective and what he wanted from life.

When Ryan became a member at Ocean State CrossFit in May of 2012, he was already a personal trainer certified through the National Academy of Sports Medicine. He had worked and trained clients at several gyms throughout Rhode Island. His sister back home in New Jersey had joined a box and she shared her new interest in CrossFit with him. Meanwhile,

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friends here in Rhode Island started to regularly talk about their new gym in what he recalls as “an obsessive manner.”

Ryan decided he just had to try it out; he quickly fell in love with the community he found. A year later, Ryan took the Level 1 CrossFit Coach certification program and was subsequently hired as a coach at Ocean State.

Of course, there were some reservations when he first joined Ocean State. Many gay men can easily relate to these concerns regarding a competitive environment such as CrossFit. “You have to push the nervousness to the back of your head when you’re trying something new that is challenging your comfort zone. Joining CrossFit was reminiscent of the feeling of being picked last in gym class because you’re the gay kid. Maybe you weren’t out when you were in gym class but you knew you were different. So you walk into somewhere like a CrossFit gym and you are forced to think about the what-ifs of being treated differently. I just wanted to be treated like everyone else, and that’s what happened.”

Exercising every day made Ryan feel like a superhero version of himself. As a coach, he watches transformations happen

almost every day. “So many members come in here shy and sad about their bodies. Fast forward just a few months and they’ve made friends, they are walking around carrying themselves differently, some even working out without a shirt on for their first time of their life — and they are comfortable doing it.” He talks about the Ocean State community like a family that supports one another, building each other up to achieve their goals. “I constantly have moments where I think, thank God I do what I do.”

Ryan can’t recall a singular coaching moment that makes him most proud because there are too many to talk about.

“The transformations that take place on a daily basis are rewarding and my ‘best coaching moments’ happen so often they keep replacing themselves.” He speaks of the rewarding feeling of watching someone get their first unassisted pull up, or finally being able to use a jump rope, or to be able to step up onto a 18” high box after months of failed attempts.

The energy level at Ocean State is high every day, and it infiltrates members’ minds. “You look at the whiteboard to read the WOD and say, ‘How am I

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going to do that?’ Then you do, and that confidence is carried with you through the day.”

For decades, mental health professionals and authors have published work that explores gay men’s obsession with fitness and their body image. With a gay culture that highlights, rewards, and emphasizes the perfect male body, the internal struggles that gay men face constantly can be challenging. Popular gay dating/ hookup app Grindr allow users to identify their body type by adjectives such as “toned, average, large, muscular, slim, or stocky.” The app prominently displays that information on your public profile.

National gay news websites often offer hyper-sexualized content woven into the more traditional news stories. It’s not uncommon to read an article about the a Supreme Court hearing only to have it followed up by the latest leaked celebrity nude photo. In one article, psychologist Nando Pelusi noted, “Men are more visual, so gay culture basically reveals male sexuality in its purest form. So we’re going to put a high premium on what somebody looks like when we’re male, regardless of our preference.”

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hile there are plenty of CrossFitters with model-like bodies, CrossFit emphasizes strength, not size or image. It prioritizes achievement of personal goals, without preventing others from hitting theirs. It feels competitive, but you compete against yourself, not necessarily one another.

Prior to joining, Ryan was concerned that the environment would only amplify those concerns of having to prove your masculinity or toughness, but he says he couldn’t have been more wrong.

“Everyone is a friend here, rooting for you to do your best. In my own head I still may occasionally think ‘look what I can do too’ but we’re all just looking to get a good workout. Just because he’s in love with her and I’m in love with him, we still like to compete, and we still like to get heavy with weights.”

While the welcome mat for gay men and women seems to be laid down at CrossFit gyms, things are not so clearly defined for the trans community. In 2014, the national CrossFit organization was sued by Chloie Jonsson, a transgender woman, who was

“Ocean State was the place where Ryan truly fell in love with his now husband” denied entry into the women’s division of the CrossFit Games, a contest aimed at determining the fittest man and woman in the world. Chloie was anonymously outed as a transgender woman and the response of CrossFit was to invalidate her registration and state that all athletes must register and compete under their birth gender.

While no official policy can be easily found on the CrossFit website, Ryan says that accepting the trans community at Ocean State wouldn’t be worth a second thought to the coaches and community that workout there. “It could only become a conversation with a regional or national competition. Here, you are who you say you are. I know with complete

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confidence that if someone came here and said, I’m a woman or I’m a man, they’d be treated as such.”

Ocean State was the place where Ryan truly fell in love with his now husband, Adam Tracy-Carvalho. They two met through friends, but it was their mutual love of CrossFit and competitive attitudes that drove them together. “Never before in my life have I ever had someone that I’ve loved so much share so much in common.” He talked about how in previous relationships, he had to find a workout buddy to fill that companion space, but now he looks no further than his husband.

This past fall, Ocean State CrossFit honored Ryan and Adam with a special workout on the morning of their wedding day. The day’s WOD was programmed to included both men’s favorite movements.

Family members, gym members, and coaches all participated in the celebration.

The final component of the workout was a 600-meter run. Ryan and Adam ran it in tandem, enjoying every moment of love their community was sharing with them. But, unexpectedly, during the last stretch, Adam dashed off to beat Ryan.

Ryan gave a playful eye roll and laugh when he recalled this moment for me. “I love when he beats me in a workout,” he said, “Adam’s drive and competitiveness, even with me, is something I admire most about him.”

“This is where I work, work out, and spend most of my time with my husband.

Whenever I hear a story about a gay couple’s negative experience at a gym or place of work, or go out and feel like we can’t be ourselves, I’m reminded that the whole world doesn’t share the values of CrossFit. Because in here, it’s not like that.”

Why join a CrossFit gym?

Well, in Ryan’s view:

Every day is something different it keeps your workouts fresh and exciting.

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You are always reaching for a new goal or doing something you haven’t done before.

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The camaraderie. You feel like you’re part of something bigger.

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Shared experiences. Everyone is doing the exact same workout, just scaled to fit their needs.

At the coach’s count of “3, 2, 1, go!” everyone in the room has the same goal in sight. At Ocean State CrossFit, the elite athletes take classes with beginners whereas at some gyms they’d work out at a completely different time. But at Ocean State they’re in this together and everyone is part of the same team. The last person finishing a workout is just as important as the first one.

If you’re considering joining CrossFit, try to erase any negative thoughts that might serve as obstacles. “Don’t think ‘I can’t do this.’ or, ‘This isn’t for me,’ or even, ‘How will I be able to do that?’” said Ryan, adding, “You don’t need to be fit to come here.

You get fit when you come here.”

For more information about Ocean State CrossFit, their schedule of classes, or personal training sessions with Ryan, visit www.oceanstatecrossfit.com. q

TRY THIS WORKOUT AT HOME! Ryan recommend a workout* that you can do at home with no equipment. Give it a try and let us know your thoughts!

Workout Lengths: 20 minutes Style: AMRAP (as many rounds as possible) 1 Round: 5 burpees 10 push ups 15 sit ups 20 air squats

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Consider adding an 800 meter run as a warm-up before you start the clock and as as a cool-down when you hit the 20 minute mark. *While this is programmed and intended for athletes to compete with standard movements, each movement can be scaled to match your athleticism. For example, if a traditional push-up isn’t in your currently abilities, keep your knees on the ground. Ocean State CrossFit’s website offers an extensive video library of many movements performed in classes. Visit www.oceanstatecrossfit.com to view some short video clips with pointers about each of the movements.

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By Joelle Reyes

I am a personal trainer at a studio in North Providence called Dexter Training Concepts. I am also a lesbian. I started my fitness journey when I was 19 years old, after gaining a lot of weight. I had a turning point when I stepped on the scale and I knew I needed a change. Soon, healthy eating and working out became a part of my lifestyle. I took some health and fitness classes at my college and found that it was my true passion. Friends who could see the progress that I made asked me for help, and I loved it.

I decided that I wanted to take my passion a step further and become a personal trainer. I have helped a wide variety of clientele lose weight, gain strength and muscle, plus establish an all around healthier lifestyle. I got my personal training certification from my community college, and now I am continuing to get my bachelor’s degree in Wellness and Movement Studies from Rhode Island College. Along with personal training I have also taught swimming, group fitness classes, and even kung fu in the past.

Most of my clients know that I am a lesbian, but it has not seemed to impact or affect my work at all. Being a woman in this field, on the other hand, can be difficult. Along with being a trainer, I am a competitive powerlifter. (This is a sport where athletes display three attempts of a one rep max on squat, bench, and deadlift against other competitors in their weight class.) Because of this, I am stronger than a lot of people, both men and women. I find that, oftentimes, men prefer not to have a female trainer.

I think some men can be stubborn about women training them.

Maybe it’s an ego thing, maybe it’s a comfort thing, who knows?

The one thing that I do know is that I can train a man just as well as I would a woman, and they may even do better with me. I have one male client who initially was hesitant to train with me because he thought he would feel uncomfortable. He now says that he feels more comfortable than would with any other trainer. So gender does not have to be a limiting factor.q

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ENERGIZING THE

By T.C. Rogers TC Rogers, Ed.D. is on the faculty at Johnson & Wales University, College of Online Education.

In an attempt to cleanse after the holidays, feel solid, clear-minded and joyful this winter, and as a way to support my spouse, I joined her Whole Life Challenge team in January. I was somewhat hesitant to join, after recently completing a more stringent eight-day cleanse. But after she created an account for me and paid the fee, I slowly became engaged. The Whole Life Challenge lasts for eight weeks. By week two of this gentle focus on the whole self, the benefits that I felt and the level of positive consciousness that it was causing impressed me. It required me to focus on taking care of myself in a manageable way. It also encouraged me to focus on elements that I knew I was faltering in, such as stretching each day and getting quality sleep. I now stretch every day and sleep extremely well (almost) every night.

I am at the beginning of my seventh week, am still feeling wonderful and I know that I will continue to incorporate these changes more regularly because I have felt the benefits.

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processed and overall unhealthy foods as you proceed up the level. I chose the mid-level option because I didn’t feel that I could commit to another rigorous cleanse.

Overall, the main difference in my diet at the mid-level has included eliminating dairy, gluten and sugar. I consider myself rather healthy and was truly amazed to learn the significance of ingesting or not ingesting gluten, dairy, or sugar into my body. After a couple of days my sleep and energy improved. I began sleeping through the night and I felt extremely clear minded.

After about one week I felt extremely lean, never feeling that oh-so-uncomfortable bloated feeling that can happen by the end of the day.

Fluids

WHOLE SELF HABITS

This aspect helps you remain hydrated, which certainly helped during a dry winter season. It also helps to flush the toxins from your system. The program gives you an equation based on your body weight to help you determine how many ounces of water you should drink each day.

Nutrition

Exercise

There are three levels of nutrition to choose from, each cutting out more

The exercise component is extremely reasonable and aims to get you moving

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each day, not necessarily prepare a beach body. It asks that you exercise for ten minutes each day and does not require any specific type of activity – just activity!

Mobilize The mobilize element aims to bring you into consciousness with feeling your body and being kind to your body. This includes stretching, doing a little yoga or getting a massage. The aim is to help you stretch out and unwind from tension, whether from daily stress or how we sit at work. I got into the habit of either stretching each morning for a few minutes and/or making sure that I stretch after I exercise.

Sleep Among other aspects, a happy person is a well-rested person. At the start of the challenge you are asked how much sleep you would like to acquire each night and you can change this at any time. I set a goal of seven-and-a-half hours a night and found this goal attainable most nights. I did find that in the early part of this program, I was tired and ready to go to sleep earlier than usual. I listened to my body, went to bed early and slept right on through the night.

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Lifestyle The lifestyle practice is one that changes each week.This aspect seeks to bring more joy into your life by doing a different action each day for seven consecutive days. The program suggests the actions you should take. Examples of this include ten minutes of meditation, focusing on three images of what you find beautiful, responding to the posts of your team members, and not eating meals in front of digital media.

Reflect Each day you are asked to write a brief reflection. What you write about is completely up to you. I found this section helpful because it made me pause to be aware of what was working for me and what was not, and why. It is also a way to give and gain support from team members, At the end there is a log of all of your journals for you to reflect upon.

SCORING AND REWARDS Scoring is basic. You are awarded five points for completing a task each day. The

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nutrition segment allows you to choose between zero and five, depending on how you feel you did adhering to the food list you chose. There is a team board, as well as a full participant board that includes all people doing the challenge. You can look at this if you are interested in comparing your progress to other participants.

Additionally, you are often given “tokens” for successfully completing a category on consecutive days. For example, you may be given an indulgence token (so you can enjoy a treat that isn’t on the food list or to sneak in a glass of wine mid-week). You are also given tokens for sleep, exercise, or to receive an entire rest day from every activity.

BLOG AND PODCASTS On the Whole Life Challenge website there is a blog (and also podcasts) to provide information about nutrition, recipes, mediations, work outs, and other information that may be helpful to you in meeting goals.

LESSONS LEARNED, & ADVICE If you want to take on this challenge, time is essential. You need to have time for grocery shopping, cooking, and doing the suggested daily activities. Although you are encouraged to make a team and join with a team, you can do this alone alone; but doing it alongside someone helps keep you motivated.

Paying for something helps you focus on meeting your goals. At first I felt the $50 sign-up fee was prohibitive and that helped motivate me. Now I would pay that again without thinking about it. I imagine that we saved quite a bit of money in the end, due to not eating out much, not buying prepared foods, and having only limited amounts of wine. q More information can be found by looking up Whole Life Challenge on the web.

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Being Fit Means Being

Fabulous! start with a personal trainer.

By Haley Star

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tep right up! It’s time for a New Year’s Resolution check-in.

Now that we are four months into the New Year, how is the progress of your resolution coming along? Did you set an attainable goal or just jump on the bandwagon with everyone else when it came to choosing a resolution?

One of the most popular resolutions for people to make every year involves fitness and exercise. It is believed that a whopping 38% of the population strives to achieve a healthier lifestyle every time that ball drops, yet only about 10% actually do – why is that?

It could be a lack of motivation or perhaps the fear of what others will think of you when working out in the gym. For me, both of those things are true. I mean, let’s be real – no one wants to work out next to a six-foot tall drag queen in her matching leg warmers and cut-off shirt. Most of the time I get distracted by the half-naked men dripping with sweat. I’ve been to three gyms and have only ever seen the

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locker room in all of them. Whoops. Don’t get me started on the sauna.

In all seriousness, fitness and exercise are things we should all be focused on whether we enjoy it or not. Simple daily routines to keep you active will not only improve your physique, but help aid in a better lifestyle, which keeps you alive and kicking even longer. Speaking from experience, I know how it feels to be surrounded by friends who are more fit than you are and garner all the attention of the cute boys. You sit there wondering how you can look like that or be one of those guys with washboard abs – well, don’t just sit there and wonder, act on it!

Instead of wondering how I could do this myself, this year I decided to take action and began a fitness journey I never thought I would be on. Sure, I’ve tried plenty of things before– spin classes, boot camp, Crossfit, Jane Fonda workouts– none of which seemed to tickle my fancy.

I finally decided just three months ago to

The most important thing is that you find somewhere to go that makes you feel comfortable and will allow you to achieve your goals. I go to Dexter Training Concepts in North Providence and train three days a week with Kevin. It is truly a wonderful place to be and I find myself excited each and every day I walk through the door. I even got my fellow musketeer, Jacqueline DiMera, to start training and she loves it just as much as I do.

Find a place where your trainer and the others on staff are accomodating with workouts and diet plans that are designed for you and what you need to accomplish.

Gone are the days of feeling self-conscious and inferior at the gym. Every single person that walks through the door– employee or client– should feel a sense of family and inclusion.

Admittedly, this was a hard decision for me to make, as it is for many. I never fully felt comfortable with my body, so taking the leap and making a change was important to me, though scary at the same time. There truly is no time like the present, especially if this is something that means a lot to you. Whether you go to a small gym with a buddy every day or start yourself with a trainer, there’s no time like the present to make a change. Every day can be the start of a New Year for you.

Take the first step; no goal is too big or too small, so don’t be a size queen!q

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FIGHTING HIV

By Stephen L. Hug

WITH AIDS PROJECT RHODE ISLAND

• Pictured from left the 2017 AIDS Walk Committee chairs: George Evans Marley, Anthony DeRose, and Stephen Hourahan.

• Tim Rondeau

AIDS Project Rhode Island was founded in the mid-1980s to provide a compassionate, non-judgmental and collaborative response to the needs of people infected, affected, and at risk for HIV and AIDS.

This year is the 125th anniversary of the founding of Family Service of Rhode Island. The upcoming AIDS Walk for Life is one of many anniversary events.

In 2008, the organization expanded its array of services by merging with another organization, Family Service of Rhode Island, which offers many state-wide services to the underserved. The unification of two major organizations created a broader system of care accessible through one entry point.

This year the walk takes place Sunday, April 23, starting and ending on the State House lawn. Registration opens at 10 am, a speaking program begins at noon, and the walk steps off at 12:30.

Immediately after the walk, there will be a raffle and other fun. The event’s tag line this year is “Fighting HIV One Step at a Time.”

Today, AIDS Project Rhode Island, as a division of Family Service of Rhode Island, continues its tradition of excellence through the energetic development of new programs and approaches designed to meet today’s challenges. AIDS Project Rhode Island offers an array of services to prevent the spread of HIV, facilitate testing, and provide assistance to people living with HIV/AIDS.

Individuals, families, and pets are invited to participate in the walk, which will take place rain or shine. More details, including information about online registration and forming walk teams, are posted at www.aidsprojectri.org. More information about Family Service of Rhode Island is available at www.familyserviceri.org. q

Family Service of Rhode Island is a non-profit organization providing a wide array of human and educational services to primarily low-income children, adults and families in every Rhode Island community. It was founded in 1892, making it one of the oldest local organizations of its type.

AIDS Project RI is a division of Family Service of RI, providing case management, various health-related services, advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep-C testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. Call (401) 831-5522 or visit www. aidsprojectri.org for more info.

AIDS PROJECT RHODE ISLAND SERVICES INCLUDE: • Mental health counseling for issues surrounding HIV/AIDS, sex addiction and more

• Emergency financial assistances for a variety of needs, including medical costs, rent, heat and other utility expenses

• Free, fast and anonymous HIV testing.

Free testing is also available for hepatitis C and syphilis. (HIV testing is through swabbing one’s mouth. No blood is involved in the test.)

• Bus passes for medical appointments

• Case management to help clients access medical care, food resources, and more • “HIV 101” trainings to provide basic information to high-risk communities • Free condoms • Financial support for dental care

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• Nutritional supplements •

Information about Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) and Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP). (PrEP is an HIV prevention approach where HIV-negative individuals use anti-HIV medications to reduce their risk of becoming infected if they are exposed to the virus. PEP is an HIV prevention strategy where HIVnegative individuals take HIV medications after coming into contact with HIV to reduce their risk of becoming infected.)

• The Afia Center, a drop-in location at the Mathewson Street Church, offers hot meals, support groups, a food pantry, and more (Wednesday and Thursday afternoons.)

• Community testing for HIV, hepatitis C, and syphilis at colleges and other locations, often in partnership with the 2-1-1 Outreach RV More information is available at www.aidsprojectri.org or by calling 831-5522. AIDS Project Rhode Island’s office is at 9 Pleasant Street, Providence, Rhode Island, 02906.

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AIDS CARE OCEAN STATE’S

HAPPENINGS

By Christopher Cedroni

Eat, Drink, and Be Merry as You Paint the Town Red

King of Queens: America’s Most Wanted

Hungry to help people affected by HIV? Then join us on April 27 for Paint the Town Red, a celebration of food and fun, wherein participating restaurants all over Rhode Island will automatically donate up to 30 percent of your bill to ACOS. All you have to do is enjoy a great meal at your favorite restaurant or try someplace new.

Eleven first-time drag queens are on the loose in Rhode Island, and are considered “dangerously fierce.”

Over 20 restaurants, bars and clubs have signed on to show their support.

The event is chaired by David Dadekian of Eat Drink RI; Dr. Nicole Alexander-Scott, Director of the Rhode Island Department of Health; Jamie Coelho of Rhode Island Monthly, and Doug Palmieri of 94HJY/Coast 93.3, all of whom encourage everyone to celebrate the wonderful culinary traditions of Rhode Island while supporting ACOS.

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King of Queens is back and bigger than ever. The event, now in its sixth year, will be held at the Colosseum in Providence on May 7, and will feature 11 members of the LGBTQ community who have never done drag.

Each contestant was paired with a “drag mother” who will be responsible for the contestant’s transformation.

One contestant will be crowned winner, as well as a fan favorite who will be chosen by popular vote at the event. In short, it promises to be an extravagant, audacious, glamourous, and over-the-top night, all while helping ACOS support people affected by HIV and AIDS. The fun begins at 6pm, with the show starting one hour later. Tickets are $20 and can be purchased online or at the door. Attendees are encouraged to get tickets early as it is expected to be a soldout event.

The King of Queens is once again produced by Alysha Brock, who has brought it from its infancy to become one of the biggest drag events of the year.

This year’s contestants are Brett Caisse, Jason Darosa, Jason Tucker, Jonathan Root, Joseph Lazzerini, Lonna Razza, Mark Cardarelli, Nathan Pine, Nicholas Bergeron, Rick Cascella, and Options own Kyle McKendall, who represent a wide and varied array of the LGBTQ community, and each has personal reasons for why they would like to be crowned this year’s King of Queens.

Each of the contestants is fundraising for ACOS through individual gofundme pages.

ACOS is asking everyone to visit candidates’ pages where you can get to know more about them. q AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS services, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a Speakers Bureau.

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Appointments: (401) 7810665. aidscareos.org.

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Although it may appear our society is becoming more receptive to the LGBTQ community, there is still a significant amount of progress needed to obtain full equality.

One area this can be seen in is the relationship between health care providers and their patients/clients.

In fact, surveys conducted by The Human Rights Campaign in 2017 show that many people do not come out to their providers.

Considering the level of intimacy required in relationships with our providers, this can create a barrier that leads to ineffective care.

In worst-case scenarios, patients/clients may tolerate inappropriate and unprofessional behaviors or withdraw and avoid care altogether. We know, based on information gathered in 2014 by the Center for Disease Control, that LGBTQ youth are at a disproportionality higher risk for suicide.

The LGBTQ population is also at a higher risk for depression, anxiety, substance use disorders, and other mental health conditions. It is imperative, because of these increased risks, to find a provider who is knowledgeable and sensitive to the needs of LGBTQ people.

As a gay-identified provider who has also been a consumer of health care services, I have seen the struggle on both sides. I recently was told by someone how he had gone to a new physician’s office after being told the provider was LGBT-friendly, but he noticed a magazine in the waiting room with an article endorsing conversion therapy. I have heard clients playing the “pronoun game,” for fear of judgment. Another time, I called a medical facility to inquire if they were LGBT-friendly. The receptionist laughed and said, “I have no idea, but no one has ever complained.” A statement like that could unsettle even the most confident person. The coming out process is not a finite event; it is an ongoing process that never ends.

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A health care provider, in theory, should be the last person we are fearful of being honest with, since they are responsible for both our physical and mental health. So why are we afraid? Because often there is a perceived power differential between the provider and and the patient that can cause worry about lapse in care or possible repercussions. Of course, if the provider does not have an open response or appears uncomfortable, you do not need to stay with them. Remember you are the consumer. The transaction is like any other service and you do not have to tolerate inadequate care, since that can put you at risk.

It goes without saying that the entire process of seeking help requires a certain amount of vulnerability for anyone, whether it is answering invasive questions regarding one’s sexual life or just sitting on a table physically exposed. It can make us uncomfortable.

But it needs to be done for the simple and clear reason that the LGBTQ community has higher risks in multiple areas; again, these include sexual health, addiction, and depression. How can one remain healthy if one cannot discuss the potential problems?

Like any relationship, the patient/provider one should be a dynamic collaboration. It is important for patients to provide education to the people who help. It is equally important for us to challenge ignorance.

If you do not give your caregivers the information they need to help you, you are risking your health and your well-being.

Finding the right provider is a personal choice, but it does not have to be a difficult decision. By asking friends for referrals, then making phone calls to ask the right questions, you can feel confident in your choice. Of course, the best medical professional for you is the one you trust and feel most comfortable with. Be your own advocate; your health depends on you. q

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OUT ON THE TOWN

GODDESS SHOW March 5 — Aurora, Providence Rhode Island Pride’s 18th Annual event celebrating women in the arts. Hosted by Lulu Locks and Reece Cotton.

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FEERLESS IN THE DARK March 17 — Mirabar, Providence Black Light Party hosted by Joe Di Mauro and Joey Lazzerini.

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RISE March 19 — Rooftop at the Providence G New England’s only queer monthly rooptop tea dance.

This month was hosted by Kira Stone. Music by DJ Andy Morris.

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SAYONARA SLADE March 23 — The Dark Lady, Providence Farewell/sendoff party for Michael Slade as he leaves the Providence bar/nightlight scene and begins a new career.

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YOUTH VOICE

It’s Jonathan

By Jonathan Izzard

Life loves to catapult major and minor problems into the playing field every day for us to dodge and recover from. These challenges in life are there to help us grow in both big ways and small. Everyone has their own way of coping when overloaded. And while there are many ways you can try to cope, you have to learn the efficient and effective ways that work best for you personally. One way that can help is meditation.

Yes, meditation. Much of the time when people hear that word, they think of a group of monks, hanging out in robes and chanting. That is one form of meditation, but it doesn’t have to be that complicated-in fact, you don’t even have to go to Tibet. Meditation is simply the process by which you are able to bring yourself to another plane of thought through relaxation and breathing exercises. Meditation is simply a nice, easy way to calm your body and free your mind; and you can perform it anywhere.

Here are two very easy techniques that I personally use. Perhaps they can help you. The first is “mental reassurance.” When you are feeling overwhelmed in any way, the goal is to ground yourself in reality and put any anxiety-causing thoughts to rest. The other technique is “focused breathing,” using counts of four. Breathe in while counting to four, hold your breathe for four, and slowly exhale for four. Repeat this several times and you will begin to see-- and feel-- your body calming down.There is no set time that one should meditate for. Do it so that it helps, at your own discretion.

Still unsure how to start? You can go to a class to learn techniques.

Check your local recreation center, or even your gym, to see if they offer any meditation classes. There are also plenty of online sources you can use. YouTube is a great resource for trying to learn new things, and there are plenty of relaxation videos out there. You do

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have to go in with the mindset that not every method will benefit you, though. What works for one person may not work for you.

Keep trying.

Meditate wherever you are comfortable. I personally have a “comfy corner.” I have a huge bean bag that I sit in with my water diffuser and my essential oils on a lamp stand. Also, I have a rock salt lamp which offers some anxiety-reducing vibes.This is where I sit and relax from my day’s stress-- as much stress as a teen could have.

Don’t be afraid to try something new. You never know how much you could end up liking it, and the benefits are worth the time. q

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RESOURCES Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS

Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

AddictionCenter.com: Web information guide for addiction resources nationwide. Or call 1-877-830-2915.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784.

RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.

Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome.

YPQT (Young People Queer, Trans) meeting of AA. Fridays 7:30 -- 8:30pm., Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.

AIDS/Health Resources

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients.. Wed. and Thurs. 12 -- 3pm. 134 Mathewson St., Providence. John Fruscella, 831-5522, Ext. 3835.

AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org.

AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safersex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org.

AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-

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Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@ aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org.

Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education.

121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.

Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations.

222-2320.

Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-3386555. www.hhcri.org.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992.

LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse.

New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514.

Miriam Hospital HIV & STD Testing Clinic: For gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, Hep C, and trichomoniasis. Linking to physicians for PrEP. Wed. -- Fri. 12:30 -- 3:30. 1125 N. Main St., Providence (rear of building). 793-4715 Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations.

North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org.

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www.plaidsproject.org Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org.

Prima CARE Transgender Clinic: Fall River, MA. Counseling, hormonal reassignment, referrals for surgery. Kishore Lakshman, MD. 508-235-0481.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing, partner care. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org.

Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683. www.tranquilmind.net.

Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing.

450 Clinton Street,Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext.

3516.

Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org.

Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org.

Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net.

South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org.

United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar.

Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com.

Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192.

Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required.

One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com.

The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com.

Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am.

15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447.

The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue.

Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours.

373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org.

Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212)807-8400.

Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org.

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

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National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu.

RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org.

RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net.

RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov.

Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality.

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www. sldn.org.

Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.

Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road,Tiverton.

624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org.

Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org.

Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@ gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org.

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.net Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com.

Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 3311960. www.centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org.

The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence.

413-4821. www.holyparaclete.org.

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open andWelcoming Congregation

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of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org.

Christ Church in Lonsdale: 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am.

725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org.

Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910.

Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org.

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678.

Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am.

292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com.

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org.

First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation.

Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org.

First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org.

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.

Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www. uufoxborough.org.

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www. gracechurchprovidence.org.

Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen.

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation.

Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street,Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 7897776; office@goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com.

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie.

505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

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Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 8492238.

Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www. parkplaceucc.com.

The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail. com.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com.

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086.

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com.

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org.

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am.

50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB. Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org.

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org.

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org.

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 222-4677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch. org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming.

Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com.

Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org.

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation.

901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org.

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org.

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Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation.

Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org.

Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation.

Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org.

Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org.

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org.

Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven.org.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

United Congregational Church, 524 Valley Rd., Middletown RI 02842. A Welcoming congregation. Sunday, 10 am. www.UCCMiddletown.org. 849-5444.

Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

Social Organizations

Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org.

Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net.

Gay Men’s Social Group: FirstTuesdays,6 -- 9pm,Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com.

Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome.

Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org.

Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com.

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children.

Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com.

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com.

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org.

RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www. meetup.com/skeptics-133/.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail.com. www.sage-ri.org.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com.

Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@gmail.com).

South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com.

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

Sports & Recreation

PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com.

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com.

BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123.

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www. bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com.

FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins in Aug. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com.

FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Bostonbased recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www. flagflagfootball.com.

Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org.

Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www. rondeauskickboxing.com.

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Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence.

274-7672.www.mainstma.org.

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org.

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf. org.

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@ gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org.

OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org.

Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org.

Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com.

LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org.

TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www. tennis4all.org.

Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

Students & Youth Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu.

CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri. edu/triangle/.

LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth.

Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org.

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Queer & Trans Thursdays: 6-8pm. Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalitionbuilding and organize to address intersections of oppressions.

669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm.us.

383-7450.

Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@ salve.edu S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.

URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894.

Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org.

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org.

Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days.

66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.childfamilyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org.

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group.

Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org.

Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright.

331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org.

Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org.

Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700.

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Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org.

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org.

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org.

Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm.

Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org.

LGBT Grief Support: Meets regularly at Hope Hospice, 1085 No. Main St.., Providence. Rebecca Sizelove, 415-4301.

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor.

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served.

AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108.

Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome.

Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+.Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com.

MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org.

PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org.

Project RENEW: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. Trans support group meets Thurs. Info: transoutreachpwr@gmail.com.

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Queer & Trans Thursdays: Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalitionbuilding and organize to address intersections of oppressions.

6-8pm. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm. us. 383-7450.

Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323-HOPE. Office (508)226-4015.

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940.

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston.

6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening.

310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety.

861-6191 ext. 121.

Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group.

Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232.

861-6191. Office 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org.

Adam Cable, 353-3900.

Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org.

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month.

Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org.

Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org.

Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa. org.

Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org.

Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence.

846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org.q

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At The Grace School every student can be themselves.

Open House - Feb. 4, 11 am to 1 pm RSVP at 401-533-9100 or info@meetingstreet.org 1000 Eddy Street - Providence www.thegraceschool.org

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Poetry Transgender Inspiration

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By Felicia Nimue Ackerman

My sister and I were

And that’s when it hit me:

Named Carey and Ann

“I needn’t stay Ann!

Until she transitioned,

I’ll choose something fancy!”

Becoming a man.

I started to plan.

I said, “How convenient --

So now we’re each sporting

Your name needn’t change.”

A name that we like.

He answered that Carey

My name is Rowena;

Still struck him as strange.

My brother’s is Mike.

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