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Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982. March 2016, Vol. XXXIV, Issue 11
The Crowned Ones: Turning Over the Reigns p. 16
Out on the Town: Cabaret p. 21
4 From the Editor 5 Letters to the Editor 6 From the Publisher 6 Advertisers 8 Calendar 10 News Briefs
Raising Funds for Rising PrideFest Crowds
Worth a Look: Just Jillian
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20 Out on the Town 23 $40 for 40 Years 25 How to Be a Trans* Ally 26 News from SAGE-RI 27 Women’s Field Hockey 28 AIDS Project RI
12 Passages: Buddy Cianci 29 Funnies 14 Talking to Your Kids About Sex 30 Resources 15 Youth Pride Inc. 38 Worth a Look 16 The Crowned Ones’ Year in Pride
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From the Editor Dear Reader, As an Options reader, before ever truly participating, in my mind’s eye I saw Options as a community bulletin board and imagined that anyone with words on a page could post a notice. That holds true today, as nearly all of the material submitted to Options by local community members finds its way to print as long as there’s an LGBTQ-specific angle. (I can hear Kim Stowell’s helpful parting words to me, her successor: Keep it gay.) What do Options readers want to read? Rather than give you my usual run-down of the commendable content we’ve provided in this issue, I’ll pitch you some ideas we’re working on; feel free to tell us if we’re on the right track. Next month’s top story will delve into the Community Safety Act, which aims to ban racial profiling by Providence police officers and is being backed by PrYSM (Providence Youth Student Movement) as well as other LGBTQ organizations. Also slated for April, as Rhode Islanders prepare to vote in the primary election, is an examination of how LGBTQ issues are affecting the presidential race. We’re updating our mostly well-received glossary of LGBTQ terms for the big June issue/Pride Guide. Looking ahead, we’d love to find answers to questions like: Are there “gayborhoods” in Rhode Island? Where are the best LGBTQ-owned eateries? We’ll revisit our history. What led to the first Pride march in RI? What stories need to be shared before they’re forgotten altogether? Each of these concepts could benefit from group discussions, so we’re challenging ourselves to assemble an editorial board to guide Options’ tone and direction. There’s a lot to consider when charting a course for this long-standing magazine. Do we aim for an analytic, allages-appropriate digest? Investigative reporting, or more creative expression? Should we be more edgy or reserved, opinionated or factual? Do we lack humor or heart or political awareness? And more generally, what are our strengths, and where can we improve? Surely you’ve heard our steady rallying cry to join this merry band of misfits. We’ve invited you to edit, distribute, advertise, write, photograph, and, on one Sunday a month, party with us. And while our editing team and various others offer valuable editorial advice, we’re taking this next step to offer volunteers the opportunity to sit on an editorial board. Know that the Options compass will always point toward being an open, accessible medium for your average community member to start a conversation, share knowledge, organize around a cause, and raise social consciousness.
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t has come to our attention, the Bisexual Resource Center Board of Directors, that Options Magazine has published a glossary of terms used in the LGBTQ community. To our disappointment the definition used for bisexual is not in fact the definition we in the bi+ community use. As a nationally recognized bisexual nonprofit organization, we respectfully ask that you revise your definition of bisexual to include “a person who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to persons of more than one gender.” The bisexual community includes attractions to all persons who identify within the gender and non-binary identities. It is important to understand that there is a long history of the bisexual movement and people identifying as bisexual. Bisexual is sometimes used as an umbrella term which includes other identities/labels such as pansexual, queer, non-labeled, intersex, etc. Many of these identities can be used interchangeably. Some people connect more with certain identities than others. For example, how I describe my bisexuality could be exactly how someone describes their pansexuality. Another thing to consider is what terms were being used in positive or negative ways when you were coming out. This has an effect on our own personal labels. It’s really important for people to understand that our identities can be and are fluid, just like language is fluid and evolving. As a community we stand for being inclusive and building relationships with each other. People who identify outside of the monosexual and hetero/homonormative labels should know that there is a community for you, and you are not alone. Please feel free to visit our website at www.biresource. net or on Facebook to learn more about the Bisexual Resource Center.Thank you.
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oday [February 13], the media are praising [the late] Justice Scalia who, in a sense, supported killing the civil rights of GLBT Americans. (He seems not to have read the Ninth Amendment.) But today I am frustrated that our community is not speaking out against honoring a man who let his bias decide how he read the Constitution. I have asked why homosexuals remained silent in the face of police brutality, invasion of our privacy, and anti-gay laws. Today I ask why we are not protesting the praise of a man who denied us our equal rights. - Billy Glover, Bossier City, Louisiana Mr. Glover cofounded the Homosexual Information Center in Los Angeles in 1968.
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was delighted to read that you were including a glossary of terms and eagerly flipped to the centerfold, only to be dismayed that the definition of bisexual included is not the one used by most bi communities. We prefer to define bisexual as “a person who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to persons of more than one gender.” For us, the bi in bisexual refers to similar and different genders, not just men and women. We hope that you will make this correction in your guide. I identify as bisexual – also as pansexual, also as queer. I don’t see these terms as mutually exclusive. The term bisexual has its own history, of which I am a part and proud. - Robyn Ochs for the Boston Bisexual Women’s Network and the Bi Women Quarterly q
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From the Publisher Dear Reader, While it’s lovely to have you reading the words on these pages that we so carefully curate each month, we’d love to connect with you on a more personal level and there are many upcoming opportunities to do so. We invite you to attend our annual meeting on Tuesday, March 29, at 6pm, in The Speakeasy at Local 121 (121 Washington Street, Downtown Providence). Please join us as we discuss Options’ achievements in 2015, present our board of directors, and discuss the future of Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community publication. Hors d’oeuvres will be provided, and a cash bar and complimentary valet parking will be available. Our May 2016 issue will mark our 34th anniversary in print, and we’re in the process of planning a May event to celebrate this milestone. How do you envision Options celebrating our past while focusing on where we’re heading? If you have an interest in joining the planning committee, please reach out. For the third consecutive year, our June issue will be the official guide to the Rhode Island PrideFest and Illuminated Night Parade. Consider supporting Options and Rhode Island Pride by placing an ad in this special issue. Visit optionsri.org for advertising information, and reserve your spot today. Our team is looking to grow! We’re especially interested in talking with readers who have experience in web design, accounting, or fundraising. If you are interested, please don’t hesitate to contact me today. Time commitments to Options can be minimal while still making a big impact on the organization. If you have an Options story, we want to hear it! When did you start reading the magazine and how did you discover it? Has a particular article impacted your life? What memories from events or volunteering do you cherish the most? Send your comments to info@optionsri.org. We’d love to hear them.
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Heart Warming Winter Ball March 12th 2016 6:00pm - 10:00pm Roger Williams Park Carousel Village Tickets: $100 TheHouseofHopeCDC.org Join us as we honor those who have kept our friends and neighbors warm all year by dedicating their lives and work to ending homelessness in Rhode Island. Complimentary Beer & Wine, Hors d’oeuvres, desserts, Musical Entertainment Live & Silent Auction with selections from Tiffany & Co., Signed New England Patriots Memorabilia, Dining Experiences and More!
CALENDAR OF EVENTS MARCH
Wed. 2 Rhode Island Pride Events Committee Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. A meeting to plan upcoming Pride events. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130. Wed. 2 Lesbian/Queer Women’s Book Club, 7:30pm. First Wednesdays at the Sarah Doyle Women’s Center, 26 Benevolent Street, Providence. For more information, www.facebook.com/groups/ provqueerwomensbooks. Fri. 4 SAGE-RI and the RI Council of Churches present Gen Silent, 7pm. Westminster Unitarian Church, 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. Email sageriinfo@gmail.com for more information.
Pride Goddess Show March 6
Fri. 4 Nightlight: A Black Light Party, 6:30-9pm. Youth Pride Inc., 743 Westminster Street, Providence. LGBTQ youth and allies are invited to bring glow sticks and join us on our black light-lit dance floor. Limited amount of glow-in-the-dark body paint and glow sticks available. No cost. For more info, www.youthprideri.org. Sun. 6 17th Annual RI Pride Goddess Show: Celebrating Women in the Arts, 1pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Featuring comic Jennie McNulty, Mary Day Band, Jodi Jolt & the Volt, Alejandra Blaze, Complete Destruction, The Rafters, The Tropigals, and host Karen O’Donnell. Doors noon/show 1-5pm. $20 in advance at www.prideri.com/$25 at the door. Thu. 10 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Queer-produced potpourri of entertainment featuring ventriloquist Virginia Dare, poets Jennifer Driscoll and Muggs Fogarty, stilting burlesquer Mary Langlois, comics Ellen Moschetto and Elena Jawitz, Great Gale with music by Jeana DeLaire & Jeff Castelli, and musician John Fuzek. $5. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook and at www.sweetlittlevarietyshow.com.
Assi Azar at URI March 31
Sat. 12 Rhode Island Women’s Association Dance, 7pm. Slater Mill, 67 Roosevelt Avenue, Pawtucket. BYOB & potluck. $10/members free. Sun. 13 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. Sun. 13 Miss Comedy Queen RI Pageant, 8-10pm. The Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Presented
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by The Imperial Court of Rhode Island and hosted by Dowager Empress XXII Jealousy Jonz, comedian John Kelley, and Miss Gay Rhode Island 2015 Complete Destruction. Proceeds benefit Project Weber, a harmreduction program for at-risk men. $5 suggested donation; $10 contestant fee. Contact jealousyjonz@aol. com for more info or to register. Wed. 16 Queer Book Club, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Fire Shut Up in My Bones by Charles M. Blow. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Thu. 17 Youth Pride Inc. & Campus Pride’s online college fair, 3-9pm. LGBTQ youth, allies, and parents chat with college representatives about admissions, financial aid, and campus life. Youth Pride Inc. will screen the live panel broadcast at 4pm. Laptops will be available for youth to join the live chat.Youth should register at www. campuspride.org. Thu. 17 Drag Bingo: St. Patrick’s Day Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Fri. 18 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston.A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGERI. Programming after lunch. Older LGBT people and their friends (60+) are welcomed and asked to pay a $3 suggested donation. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Sat. 19 Winter, Women, Wine & Song (rescheduled due to weather), 8pm. Blaze Village Kitchen, 999 Main Street, Pawtucket. Featuring musicians Kim Trusty, Becky Chace, Cheryl “Dirty Blonde” Aruda, and a three-course meal by Chef Phyllis.Wine pairings available. $40/person ($10 deposit required). Dinner 6-10pm, music 8-11pm. Call Blaze for reservations: 727-2529. Tue. 22 Boston Pride Community Forum on Intersectionality, 6:30-8:30pm. Hosted by Boston Pride, Black Pride, and Latin@ Pride and moderated by Cambridge Mayor Denise Simmons, this forum will focus on challenges faced by trans* people of color. For more info, www.bostonpride.org, or www.facebook.com/events/1711291789107746. Wed. 23 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www. prideri.com or 467-2130.
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Thu. 31 Assi Azar, 7pm. Gender and Sexuality Center at the University of Rhode Island, 19 Upper College Road, Kingston. Co-host of Israel’s versions of Big Brother and American Idol (The Rising Star), Assi Azar is one of the most popular entertainment personalities in Israel and an outspoken LGBTQ advocate.
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Sun. 3 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-6pm. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join us for the release of the April issue. Volunteers needed for distribution. Wed. 6 Rhode Island Pride Events Committee Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. A meeting to plan upcoming Pride events. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 4672130. Fri. 8 SAGE-RI presents Life at the Intersections:Working with Older LGBT Adults, 8am-12pm. Conference for health care professionals. Social work CEUs provided. Limited seats; registration begins March 1 at www.sageri.org. Cost per attendee is $75. Fri. 8 Comedy Night, 8pm.The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $10. For more info, www.thevillageri. com. Sun. 10 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. Sun. 10 Pride Triple Crown Pageant: Wonderland, 7-10:30pm. Colosseum, 150 Pine Street, Providence. Mr. Gay, Ms. Lesbian, Miss Gay, Mr./ Ms. Bisexual, and Mr./Ms. Trans will be crowned. Visit www.prideri.com to learn more and apply. VIP tables and advance tickets ($20) available at www.prideri.com. Thu. 14 Divas, Drinks and Dessert to celebrate Diana Ross’ In the Name of Love Tour, 6pm. This AIDS Project Rhode Island benefit includes tickets to the Diana Ross concert at PPAC (7:30pm), pre-show cocktails (6pm) and an after-party at the Providence G. Hosted by Mr. Gay RI 2015 Richie DeFilippo with “Diana” and friends. Tickets range in price and can be purchased at tinyurl. com/apridianaross. For more information, call 831-5522. Thu. 14 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment. Featuring Cardboard Ox: Music by Steve Allain & Tracie Potochnik, Bettysioux Tailor’s Boa Girls, comedian Maceo Johnson, Hair Deux Oh!, and an episode of Ups and Downs: Adventures of the Knight Skye Detective Agency. $5.
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Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook and at www.sweetlittlevarietyshow.com. Fri. 15 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston.A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. Older LGBT people and their friends (60+) are welcomed and asked to pay a $3 suggested donation. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Fri. 15 Breaking the Silence Open Mic, 4pm. Youth Pride Inc, 743 Westminster Street, Providence. This event supports the national Day of Silence, a national student-driven event in which thousands take a vow of silence to bring attention to anti-LGBTQ bullying and harassment. No cost. For more info, www.youthprideri. org.
RHODE ISLAND PRIDE PRESENTS
THE 2016 TRIPLE CROWN PAGEANT
WonderLand SUNDAY APRIL 10 2016
THE COLOSSEUM
180 Pine Street, Providence, RI 02903 Doors open at 6:00pm • Pageant begins at 7:00pm
ADVANCED TICKETS $20 TICKETS AVAILABLE AT THE DOOR $25 LIMITED VIP BOOTHS AVAILABLE WWW.PRIDERI.COM
Wed. 20 Queer Book Club, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The Daylight Gate by Jeanette Winterson. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.
Triple Crown Pageant April 10
Thu. 21 Drag Bingo: Spring Bonnet Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Sat. 23 Rhode Island Women’s Association Dance, 7pm. Slater Mill, 67 Roosevelt Avenue, Pawtucket. BYOB & potluck. $10/members free. Wed. 27 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www. prideri.com or 467-2130.
Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth,Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out,Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum,Tue. 4pm YPI (youth 13 and under):Thu. 5pm
Divas, Drinks & Dessert April 14
See Resources on page 30 for more info.
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News Briefs by Adam Brooks Brown University Sororities Allow All Female-Identifying Students to Rush As of February 12, the first day of spring recruitment, Brown University’s sororities are allowing any student who identifies as female to apply for membership. The decision was made by the University’s Panhellenic Council, the group that oversees the recruitment process for all sororities, and was a formalization of a policy that had already been practiced for some time. In order to be approved, the policy had to be endorsed by all three of Brown’s sororities: Alpha Chi Omega, Kappa Delta, and Kappa Alpha Theta. The decision was met with little resistance, with many of the current sorority sisters saying that the change in policy “seemed natural.” “It wasn’t really a landmark decision. It’s kind of been a policy that we’ve always had,” said Meredith Heckman, co-chair of the Greek Council, adding that during her time spent in the Greek system all women were welcomed to rush, regardless of their assigned sex. The national Greek councils may choose to disagree with Brown’s decision, in which case the respective sorority houses may choose either to disaffiliate with their national organization, or comply and revert back to whatever rules their national affiliates have put into place. So far there is no word of any backlash, and there is talk of the inclusive policy being implemented in all the Greek houses on campus. Trump Plans to Change Same-Sex Marriage Policy if Elected In recent statements, Donald Trump, the Republican presidential candidate, had some critical words to say about the 2015 decision to legalize same-sex marriage at a national level. “It has been ruled upon. It has been there. If I’m elected I would be very strong in putting certain judges on the bench that I think maybe could change things, but they have a long way to go,” said Trump on Fox News Sunday. He later added: “I disagree with the Court in that it should have been a states’ rights issue....This was a very surprising ruling. I can see changes coming down the line,” and said he would consider appointing Supreme Court justices who would overturn the ruling. Actor and gay rights activist George Takei responded to Trump’s anti-gay agenda by saying,“He was for traditional marriage, despite the fact that he’d been married three times. That is not traditional. I approve of his three-time marriage because you want to find the person that you love. But the important thing here is to understand that our democracy is a dynamic democracy, and our Constitution is a living document – it’s not carved in stone. Over the years, the whole arc of our democracy has been to adjust to the times, to expand equality to more and more people.”
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Sojourner House Offers Support for Male Victims of Domestic Violence Sojourner House, the domestic violence agency located in Providence and serving Northern Rhode Island and Providence, has launched a new Men’s Services Program that offers temporary emergency housing for maleidentified victims of domestic violence. Formerly, housing was available only for women. In addition to housing, the new men’s program includes one-on-one advocacy, HIV testing, domestic violence education, and a male survivor support group. Sojourner House’s goal is to end violence and educate the community on how to recognize and prevent domestic and relationship violence. Also known as intimate partner violence, domestic violence can include physical, emotional, sexual, economic, or digital abuse among other types of abuse. Those seeking emergency housing should contact an advocate at the Sojourner House helpline: 7653232. Individuals interested in joining a support group can contact Men’s Services Coordinator Anthony Faccenda at 861-6191. For more information, visit www.SojournerRI.com. India’s Supreme Court Set to Review Anti-LGBT Law India’s top court will soon decide whether to uphold a law that criminalizes gay sex. The law was passed in 1860 and calls for a ten-year prison sentence for anyone who participates in samesex relations. The Supreme Court asked a five-judge bench to examine whether the law is constitutional as the country begins to modernize many of its laws. This is the last legal channel that gay rights activists can use to eliminate the law. If the five-judge bench deems the law constitutional, future decisions to lift the ban will depend on the country’s politicians, many of whom are conservative and resistant to change. Although the ban on gay sex is rarely enforced, gay activists say that it is still used to intimidate and blackmail members of the LGBTQ community. Activist Shashi Tharoor said, “This is not just about sex, or even about gays; it is about principals of freedom enshrined in our constitution. My argument has always been that what people do behind their own closed doors should be their business, and we should keep the government out of the bedroom.” According to the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, and Intersex Association, India is one of 75 countries in the world that still bans homosexual activity.
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Banning Objectionable “Therapy” The New York Times reported in February that the Governor of New York plans to use financial incentives to eliminate socalled “conversion therapy” in the state. This practice, also called “reparative therapy,” claims the ability to reverse same-sex attraction in some people but has been widely discredited by scientists and condemned by gay rights groups. At least one state legislator worried that the plan seems to have loopholes. Gov. Andrew Cuomo’s plan would prohibit insurers from covering the cost of the therapy for anyone under the age of 18. A new State Health Department regulation would deny Medicaid coverage for the therapy. Centers overseen by the State Office of Mental Health would also be barred from providing conversion therapy to minors. The Governor called the practice “hateful and fundamentally flawed,” and added,“We will not allow the misguided and the intolerant to punish LGBT young people for simply being who they are.” The Governor’s action does not require legislative approval. Political opposition to conversion therapy has been growing across the country. At least four states have enacted laws banning its use on minors, and more than a dozen other states are considering it. In New Jersey a Jewish group that offered the therapy by unlicensed therapists was forced to close in 2015. Even the Obama administration expressed support for the ban. A senior advisor to the President described its “potentially devastating effects on the lives of transgender as well as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and queer youth.” The American Psychiatric Association has argued that this supposed therapy can cause “depression, anxiety, and selfdestructive behavior.” An openly lesbian state assemblywoman, Deborah Glick, worried that some independent mental health counselors – licensed by the State Education Department – who embraced conversion therapy would not be deterred.“Any avenue you can close off for this pernicious practice is a good thing,” she said. “I’m just saying I don’t think it gets the largest number of practitioners.” State Senator Brad Hoylman, though, was pleased, saying, “…the state is cutting off the oxygen for this so-called therapy. Kids and their parents need to know that this practice is quackery.”
.gay Domain Name Could Inflate in Price Due to Economist Intelligence Unit Many believe “gay” is the most common, concise, fitting, and nonoffensive umbrella term for the community of LGBTQ people around the world. However, this past October, dotgay LLC, the organization spearheading the movement for .gay domain names on the Internet, received a failing score on an evaluation performed by the Economist Intelligence Unit (EIU), the international organization responsible for maintaining the internet’s global domain system. The EIU claims the word “gay” is “not a well-known abbreviation for the community of LGBTQ people. Passing the evaluation would have allowed online global LGBTQ communities to use the domain name while avoiding the massively inflated price tag that will likely be assigned to it when the name is secured at auction. Now the domain dotgay (.gay) cannot be used freely unless the Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers (ICANN) intervenes with the EIU’s decision. In stark contrast to the scrutiny that .gay underwent, the EIU approved community applications for other broadly defined domain names such as .hotel, .spa, and .eco, to name a few. “We are poised to suffer a great loss that the gay community cannot recover from if ICANN allows the EIU decision to stand,” says dotgay LLC founder Scott Seitz.“That kind of loss, from this type of discrimination, equates to a setback with Internet equality for the gay community.”q
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BUDDY CIANCI APRIL 30, 1941 - JANUARY 28, 2016 by Bradford Greer
Before Vincent A. “Buddy” Cianci, Jr. first became Mayor of Providence in 1974, he was a lawyer for the Office of the Attorney General in a city known for its corruption and a breeding ground for criminals. Buddy ran as a Republican and won on an anti-crime platform. With six terms in office, he was the longest serving mayor of a city with a population over 100,000. He resigned from the office of Mayor twice – first in 1984 after pleading nolo contendere to assault charges, and in 2002 after being convicted of racketeering. He brought notoriety and scandal to the office, and distinction, renovation, and rejuvenation to the city of Providence, which was in urgent need of urban revitalization. Buddy considered himself everybody’s mayor, earning the reputation of attending the opening of an envelope. He advocated for minorities and marginalized members
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of society – in particular the LGBTQ community – his support of which cost him votes and earned him hate mail and a lawsuit.
“He once ordered the fire department to drive a truck in the Gay Pride Parade, for which he was sued.” Mayor Cianci was the first Providence mayor to fly the rainbow flag over City Hall and to serve as Grand Marshal of the Gay Pride Parade. He successfully urged the Providence Police Department to curtail their harassment of homosexuals, to enforce hate crime laws, and support a violence recovery program. He once ordered the fire
department to drive a truck in the Gay Pride Parade, for which he was sued both professionally and personally. He appointed Fitzgerald Himmelsbach as the first mayoral liaison to the gay community. Himmelsbach introduced him to gay businessmen and women, fostering a relationship with the community that found the mayor socializing in gay bars and restaurants, and helping to relocate some of the bars during the city’s restoration. He granted domestic partner benefits to city workers. He was an undeniably outspoken champion for gay rights in the city of Providence. Buddy’s final bid for mayor in 2014 was not successful, and he returned to host his popular radio talk show until he passed away. Love him or hate him, Buddy Cianci was a charismatic leader whose love for the city of Providence was deeply felt. q
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arch is “Talk to Your Kids About Sex Month.” Most people characterize talking about sex as awkward, uncomfortable, and nerve-wracking for parents and children alike. Some parents worry about not having the information for which their child is asking. Some parents worry about saying the wrong things. Some children may avoid asking questions of their otherwise-trusted adults and seek answers from other places, like the Internet or their friends. Discussing sex can be an uncomfortable and often hilarious process, but having that conversation can help ensure that children get accurate information about their bodies and sexuality, so that they can make educated and informed decisions as they grow older. In the words of C.S. Lewis, “We read to know we are not alone.” Books can be a great tool to help a child come to terms with puberty, sex, and relationships. Here is a list of books that can help you facilitate the conversation with your children about sexuality. Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley offer a solid foundational book for children aged ten and up: It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health. This book is bursting with drawings and boasts a nearly-encyclopedic array of topics, including puberty, gender identity, emergency contraception, STIs, adoption, and more. Parents or educators can select which chapters to read or discuss with children based upon their developmental level. Older children can read the book on their own, choosing the topics that interest them most. It’s Perfectly Normal has been used for over two decades and has been translated into over 20 languages, showing that it continues to be a trusted resource for parents, teachers, and sexuality educators. How to Talk to Your Child About Sex: It’s Best to Start Early, but It’s Never Too Late —
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A Step-by-Step Guide for Every Age by Linda and Richard Eyre takes a broad approach to “The Talk.” This is a heftier book than the picture-filled It’s Perfectly Normal, as it’s intended to be a guide for parents and educators, rather than a book for children to read. This how-to guide provides clear and thoughtful instructions on how to talk to children of every age about sexuality, and can help expand “The Talk” from a single conversation to a more comfortable series of informal and less anxiety-provoking talks instead.
“Remember that education is never complete.” If you are looking for resources for different age groups, there are several options. For young children, Cory Silverberg’s What Makes a Baby takes an inclusive look at the different ways babies join a family.This read-along is non-gendered and covers adoption, in vitro fertilization, and surrogacy, as well as discussions of anatomy and biology. For a slightly older age group, Silverberg offers a second resource: Sex Is a Funny Word. Styled like a comic book, Sex Is a Funny Word combines factbased sexuality information with discussions about boundaries and personal safety, while incorporating the same guiding values as What Makes a Baby. If you have young adults in your life with tough sexuality questions, consider S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties (now in its second edition) by Heather Corinna, the founder of Scarleteen.com. S.E.X. is a comprehensive guide that covers more advanced anatomy, information about
gender and sexual orientation, pleasure, and the “sexual readiness checklist.” In S.E.X., Corinna translates the frank, accessible, non-judgmental tone of Scarleteen into a useful handbook for all people looking to increase their sexual knowledge. As with any book recommendation, the better you know the person, the stronger your recommendation to them will be. You may find the following resources helpful in addition to these guides: the Unitarian Universalist/United Church of Christ Our Whole Lives program provides an in-depth approach to sexuality for children of all ages. You can also check out Planned Parenthood’s advice for parents, which provides answers to frequently asked questions about “TheTalk.” Our organization, The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (CSPH), offers curricular resources which are available online. Remember that education is never complete. Just as you help children learn to be more knowledgeable about their bodies and all that goes into sexuality, you too can continue learning. The CSPH is brimming with resources for ongoing education. In addition to our in-house library, we offer a display of various sexual aids, pamphlets, videos, and regularly scheduled classes on a wide variety of sexuality topics. Go forth, and happy learning! q The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health is a 501(c)(3) sexuality education and training organization that works to reduce sexual shame, challenge misinformation, and advance the field of sexuality. Visit www. thecsph.org, email info@thecsph.org, or call (401) 489-5513 to connect with us. CSPH is located in The Grant Building, 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket, RI 02860. Hours of operation Tuesday – Saturday, noon–6pm, and by appointment.
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Youth Pride Inc. has a variety of exciting events coming up this spring. These events are open to all LGBTQ youth and allies ages 13-23, have no fee, and are great opportunities to check out what Youth Pride Inc. has to offer and get more involved. Nightlight: A Black Light Party, March 4 We are kicking off spring with a glow-in-the-dark party on March 4. LGBTQ youth and allies from around the state are invited to grab their glow sticks and join us at Youth Pride Inc. from 6:30-9pm. Our dance floor will be set up with black lights, and we will have a limited amount of glow-in-the-dark body paint and glow sticks available. Online College Fair, March 17 Campus Pride, a national LGBTQ organization focused on campus life, is coordinating an online college fair running from 3-9pm on March 17. This is a great opportunity for LGBTQ youth, allies, and parents to chat with college representatives about admissions, financial aid, and campus life. Youth anywhere can register on the CampusPride.org website.Youth Pride Inc. will
be screening the live panel broadcast at 4pm. We will also have laptops available for youth wishing to join the live chat. Leading up to the online college fair, we will have college search resources available, and will host a workshop on finding an LGBTQ-friendly college. Breaking the Silence Open Mic, April 15 The Day of Silence is a national student event in which thousands of students across the country take a vow of silence to bring attention to anti-LGBTQ bullying and harassment. In support of youth who choose to participate, Youth Pride Inc. is hosting an open mic night on April 15, where youth can come together to break their silence for the day through dialogue and celebration. q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 9-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www.youthprideri.org, email info@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.
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Miss Gay Rhode Island 2015 Complete Destruction
Ms. Lesbian Rhode Island 2015 Lorena Gorman
Ms. Bisexual Rhode Island 2015 Amber Guzman
Ms. Trans Rhode Island 2015 Alejandra Blaze
promoter and fundraising event planner. Amber Guzman is a Certified Nurse’s Assistant. She is continuing her education to become a registered nurse, with the goal of becoming a Psychiatric Nurse. Richie DeFilippo is a box office supervisor and a bartender. Alejandra Blaze is a manager in the food service industry. Here are their responses to several questions as to how and what fulfills these local heroes. Options: Is it easy to find Pride where you work and in your daily life?
Mr. Gay Rhode Island 2015 Richie DeFilippo
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t’s been quite a year for our titleholders – each putting sparkle in their crowns and raising much-needed funds to support us in our pride. They are serious enough to give up a year of their lives to raise the torch of pride high enough to inspire the rest of us to join in, maybe open our wallets to fund the day of celebration we all enjoy, and to shine the LGBTQ light in every corner of the state. Complete Destruction, know out of drag as Matt Cicero, is a performance artist with a BA in art education and a minor in sculpture. She is putting together a portfolio of special effects makeup. Lorena Gorman is a personal fitness trainer, LGBTQ club
Complete: I am happily surrounded, at least 75% of the time, with out and queer people, and it’s been a fulfilling and liberating experience. The other 25% of the time is jarring sometimes, especially when I need to explain and elaborate on terms of gender or sexuality, but that itself can be a very enlightening and inspiring situation, depending on the time and place; everyone is always learning and evolving at different speeds and degrees. Working in LGBTQ nightlife is definitely always a celebration of Pride! Lorena: I am very proud of being able to help others achieve personal goals and I have never been happier about going to work every day. Helping others in some form or another has always been a constant goal of mine, and I am very
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Photo by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez happy to be doing multiple things that have enabled me to do that. Richie: Working for PPAC and EGO, I am surrounded by support, acceptance, and encouragement. Both are top-notch venues, in my opinion the best the state has to offer. I am proud and stand behind all of their work, community projects, and opportunities they offer. At PPAC, I am proud to help others experience the beautiful art of theatre. At EGO, I love being able to serve our community in a safe, accepting, LGBT-owned nightclub. Amber: I was the intern at Pride for two years before I became Ms. Bisexual, so I felt close to the organization. Alejandra: To me pride is everywhere you are as long as you carry it with you. Options: What was your favorite event during this year? Complete: My favorite event this year was definitely PrideFest. Being able to perform on the main stage was really exciting, and being able to use my number to preach love in my own way was exhilarating. Lorena: I loved being involved in many of the events this year but the most exciting was PrideFest. Being involved in what goes
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into putting such a large event together has been very eye-opening, and I plan to be directly involved every year from now on. Richie: I was thrilled to be selected to speak at the Rhode Island State House for the World AIDS Day Kick-Off event. I had the opportunity to address the public on the topic of PrEP and the issues we are facing regarding awareness of its availability, and the barriers that are preventing us from taking full advantage of this preventative medication. To be seated on a panel alongside Governor Raimondo, Congressman Cicilline, Mayor Elorza, and other leaders in the HIV/AIDS community was an accomplishment I’ll remember for life. Amber: My favorite event definitely had to be the Rocky Horror Picture Show screening with the RKO Army shadow cast. I had wanted to plan it for a while but then changed my mind. Complete encouraged me to do it, and I’m glad she did. It was my first time watching the performance so I “popped my cherry,” raised a lot of money for Rhode Island Pride, and also had so much fun! Alejandra: So far, my favorite event was raising the Pride flag over Providence City Hall!
Options: Who or what inspires you to give so much to the community? Complete: In my time being out, I’ve really just found everyone who does community outreach and service and benefit work to be inspiring. I’ve thought that, since the instant I first really got tipped at a gig, that performing could really be used to give back. And since I’m not necessarily in the most stable financial position to be able to just donate money to good causes, I feel that, in drag, I can at least raise money for important things. Lorena: I am lucky enough to have many inspiring and amazing people in my life, and surrounding myself with those people is what drives me every day to do anything I can to make the community better, both locally and beyond. One specific example is my longtime friend Aydian Dowling. He is a well-known transgender activist, trans clothing designer, fitness model, and a truly inspiring person. I am also currently working as an LGBTQ club promoter and have plans to hold events to benefit multiple local nonprofits both as a current titleholder and after my reign has ended. My next planned fundraiser is at the end of March to benefit The Abandoned Dogs of RI Organization. Richie: The community’s familiarity with PrEP was the main reason I decided to
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devote my reign to advocating for the use of this drug and its benefits. I believed that the distinguished title would give me a platform to speak to an audience much greater than I could on my own. My goal was to increase the awareness of PrEP in the community – including its efficacy and how to obtain it – and to clear the air of misconceptions related to this alternative prophylactic. I am also inspired by the titleholders and community leaders who have come before me. Witnessing their selfless giving to our community was easy to absorb and put into action myself. Amber: I went to my first ever PrideFest when I was 16 years old. I went with a couple of friends and volunteered. I remember being so amazed by how friendly the other volunteers were and felt so welcomed. When it was time for the Parade, my friend and I hopped in the back of a golf cart and waved and screamed, “Happy Pride!” through the streets until we reached the Parade location. There, I helped set up and wanted to hold the flag in the Parade along with other younger volunteers. We were right behind the 76ers. In the hustle and bustle right before the Parade was going to start, Kate Monteiro came and asked us if we knew what had started Pride Parades and if we knew who the 76ers where. None of us did. She began to tell us about Stonewall and how it happened in June and that is why all around America Pride festivals are held in June. She told us about how the 76ers were the people who marched in the first ever Rhode Island Pride Parade in 1976, and risked everything to march and be proud of who they are. I realized how appreciative I was of those people to be able to proudly and safely express my sexuality publicly in 2013. She talked to us with such passion in her voice, I was happy to learn about LGBT history from her. It was then that I realized I wanted to really help the community and continue the
work that older LGBT people had done. Alejandra: Those who inspire me are the ones who didn’t have the chance to make it this far, and left this world when it wasn’t the time for them. Options: Do you have any advice for future titleholders? Complete: I would say to any aspiring titleholder: Always aspire to more. Push yourself to make outreach and education stressful to yourself but always look like riding a bike to everyone else. The challenge is always rewarding. Express yourself, and help as much as you humanly can.
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Lorena: My biggest piece of advice for future titleholders would be to take the time to get to know other leaders and activists within the community if you don’t already know them well. Many of them have been involved with RI Pride in some way for a long time. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and learn from them. It will absolutely help aid you in becoming a great and productive representative of RI Pride and the LGBTQ community overall.
Lorena: I try to take the time to meditate and play music as often as possible, mainly the ukulele which happened to be my talent for last year’s pageant. I am also an avid reader, primarily in the areas of health, self-help, and philosophy.
Richie: I would tell all future Pride titleholders to expect a lot of work. Being a titleholder has been equivalent to a job. It takes time, commitment, and hard work in order to make advances. It also takes a lot of heart. Have passion for what you are doing, and then it all becomes rewarding. If you do not have spare time, motivation to make a difference, and drive to get it done, you will not enjoy or take full advantage of all that being a titleholder can provide. Amber: My advice for future titleholders is to relax and be you. I was so nervous (and excited) when I won, but I was scared of what the year would bring. With encouragement and support from my titleholder brother and sisters as well as Pride, I’m happy to say my reign went smoothly. With a good support system, things will work out for you. Alejandra: For future titleholders: A crown and sash is not your best success. The idea is to use them right to represent and be there to help the community. Give support to anyone who might need it, no matter who they are, and lead as an example.
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Complete: I relax by shutting off my phone and computer, closing my door, cocooning myself in blankets, and marathoning my favorite films, or reading very long fiction novels.
Richie: I DON’T. I find comfort in staying busy and going full speed. Sitting around and “relaxing” makes me anxious that I am missing out on an opportunity that will benefit my goals. Amber: Between juggling school, work, home, and Pride, I rarely find time to relax. I’m a really anxious person. When I do, I usually stay low key and enjoy staying in and watching Netflix, hanging with friends, or going out for a bite to eat. Alejandra: I relax when I know I’ve done something good for the community. Options: Can you sum up your year as a Rhode Island LGBTQ community titleholder? Alejandra: A whole year as a titleholder was more of an opportunity to get closer and more involved with the LGBTQ community, and also a chance to proudly represent the family that I’m part of. All this will not end when I step down, because with a title or without, I will always be there for all of us. Amber: This year has been amazing! I
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really broke out of my shell and did things I never thought I would. I also have felt more a part of this community than I ever have been. Being Ms. Bisexual has helped me grow as a person, and I’ll continue working in the community in the future. I am honored to have been the first ever to represent bisexuality in this pageant and am eager to see what the next Ms. or Mr. Bisexual RI will bring. Good luck to all contestants! Richie: I am delighted by how my reign has progressed and am amazed how quickly it flew by. I spent my year speaking
out about PrEP, educating many who were not familiar; clarifying any misconceptions or false rumors; and encouraging those who are at high risk of contracting HIV to get on a daily regimen that includes PrEP. I have engaged in many one-on-one conversations with friends, acquaintances, and strangers to explain why PrEP can be one of the best resources we have to eliminate HIV for future generations. Lorena: The year has been truly a year of growth for me as a person. It has forced me to step outside of my comfort zone and take a leadership role in the community.
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RI PR I D E by Kurt Bagley
Pride is all of us – every person who attends
PrideFest or participates in our year-round gatherings, programs and events, every same-sex couple that holds hands in public, every drag queen who walks from place to place with her head held high, every trans person with the courage to come out at work. We all have something to celebrate. We all have pride in ourselves. We are all why Rhode Island Pride exists. It is essential that community members take the next step and make a financial contribution to ensure that the heart of our local community continues to beat strongly. Every year since 1976, people have gathered in the heart of Rhode Island to celebrate the pride of the LGBTQ community. And every year, that crowd has grown. What started as a protest march has evolved into a 16-hour celebration: a festival with live music, vendors, and families having fun together; a nighttime Parade showcasing the artistic talent of our community through a myriad of floats, performing groups, and marchers; and late-night block parties produced by our local small businesses that also foster one of the most creative drag communities in the country. Small community groups and businesses know PrideFest is their best chance to engage with the largest number of LGBTQ people, leading to a stronger, more connected community. Overall attendance has reached upwards of 35,000 – a number that requires significant planning and expense to ensure that this annual celebration is not overshadowed by any of an untold number of possible complications. An obvious change in 2015 was the expansion of the festival site, adding a significant strain on limited resources to cover a larger area, but allowing more space for growing crowds, particularly youth. Increasing the number of safety barricades has become necessary as our celebratory crowd has grown and, in their exuberance, pushed to join in on the streets. All of this comes at a cost, and Rhode Island Pride was not able to cover those costs in 2015 due to low donations and higher-than-expected public safety overtime expenses. Although we have successfully sustained and even doubled the amount of cash sponsorships coming from corporate businesses, and most generously from some of our local small businesses in the last two years, we must rely on donations from our community to ensure that the growth of RI PrideFest is sustainable in the future. In order to bring our 2015 budget into the black and produce a 40th Anniversary PrideFest that is at least equal to last year, we must raise at least $40,000.
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PrideFest itself costs about $120,000, up from $80,000 just four years ago. Here’s how we spend it: • Entertainment: $35,000 (performers 15k, stage/sound/ light 20k) • Public Safety: $25,000 (barricades 15k, police and fire 10k) • Infrastructure: $35,000 (tents 12k, road closures/permits 8k, tables, chairs, toilets, trash, etc. 15k) • Outreach & Miscellaneous: $25,000 (State House lighting, Banner Trail, signage, advertising, etc.) It also costs on average another $40,000 per year to sustain Rhode Island Pride as an organization – our office space, meeting expenses, website – bringing our total annual budget to $160,000+. If you include our 2015 outstanding debt we’re looking at $185,000 in expenses this year. Here’s our projected gross income adding up to $185,000 for 2016: • Parade and Vendor registrations: $30,000 • Beer, Wine & Spirits Garden: $25,000 • Sponsorships: $60,000 • Donations: $5,000 • Grants: $10,000 • Fundraising events: $15,000 • $40 for 40 Years Fundraising Campaign: $40,000 You see, we cannot create PrideFest as we know it without more financial support from community members like YOU. Please join me by saying #IamRIPride. q Tax-deductible donations can be sent to RI Pride, PO Box 1082, Providence, RI 02901; or visit www.prideri.com. Donations of $40 or more will be acknowledged in the 2016 Pride Guide, or can be kept anonymous upon request. Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c) (3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com; call (401) 467-2130; or join us for a gathering in our office at 1055 Westminster Street, Floor 2, in Providence.
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s Options readers, you know the value of creating LGBTQinclusive spaces. More than ever before, we expect most places to be gay-friendly. Especially in New England, we expect that gay and bi folks will be treated with dignity and respect wherever they go. Most of us know that the by Stephanie Huckel same isn’t true for our trans* family. For many trans* folks, entering a new community space, business, employment opportunity, or medical/dental/mental health practice triggers thoughts such as: “Will they welcome and include me? Will they ask me personal and inappropriate questions? Will they turn me away because I’m trans*?” And who can blame trans* folks? They are bullied, turned away, assaulted, and murdered at appallingly high rates. Non-trans business owners, nonprofit leaders, healthcare providers, and allies, have an obligation to create and communicate trans*inclusive spaces. Here are a few quick tips: 1. Training and education. Educate yourself, your staff, your peers, and your volunteers. There are numerous options for classroom and online education that will help bring you up to speed on the latest terminology, topics, and issues affecting the trans* community. Knowing what’s going on is the first step in the journey to creating trans*-inclusive space and being a better ally. [Options recommends PFLAG’s Guide to Being a Trans Ally, available free online.] Here’s another tip regarding training and education: Don’t rely on your friendly neighborhood trans* person or patient to educate you or your staff. Simply put: It’s not fair to them. Appropriately asking someone about their personal experience is one thing; asking someone to answer for all people “like them” is another.There are a number of free resources available online, and a number of talented trainers and educators are available for hire across the state. 2. Inclusive policies and practices (and accountability). How well are trans* people and the needs of the trans* community represented in your agendas, publications, and images? Take a critical look at your materials and ask, “Who’s missing?” Do your policies protect people against discrimination based on gender identity and expression? If you’re part of a larger organization, do you have guidelines to support employees who may transition in the workplace? Are your health care policies trans* inclusive? (Not only should they include coverage for gender-confirming care, but they should ensure that all medically-necessary procedures are covered, regardless of identified or legal gender.) If you’ve checked all the boxes for inclusive policies and practices, be sure that your organization is truly holding people accountable if they work against the inclusive space you’re trying to develop. 3. Community Engagement! All the training, inclusive policies, and gender neutral bathrooms in the world mean nothing if the trans* community doesn’t know about them. You can’t sit around saying, “We welcome everyone” and expect trans* people to walk through your doors. Attend
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the Trans* Day of Remembrance (aka TDOR) and Trans Day of Empowerment (aka TDOE) events; get your business or organization to sponsor those events. Attend conferences that don’t just include trans* people, but focus on their experiences and needs. Participate in rallies and legislative fights that advocate for the needs of the trans* community. These actions are how trans* folks know that you care about their lives and the issues that affect them. Once you dive in, you’ll identify more opportunities for inclusion and education. After all, we’re all still learning. This journey is never done. Better get started! Those seeking additional information, support, or consultation should reach out to TGI Network of Rhode Island at info@tginetwork.org. q Stephanie Huckel is a diversity and inclusion professional, consultant, and self-identified trans* ally. Her personal mission is to help individuals, organizations, and institutions create more LGB (and especially) T-inclusive environments. TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large. Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.
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NEWS FROM As SAGE-RI continues its transition from a volunteer-driven grassroots group to being a small, not-for-profit organization, it has been important to all of us to keep faith with our mission: In partnership with constituents and allies, SAGE works to achieve a high quality of life for LGBT older adults, supports and advocates for their rights, fosters a greater understanding of aging in all communities, and promotes positive images of LGBT life in later years. A quick survey suggests we are doing a great job of taking that mission to hear t! As co-chair of the Long Term Care Coordinating Council LGBT Elder Care Subcommittee last year, we helped develop Rhode Island’s first statewide strategic plan focusing on improving services to LGBT older adults. That committee will be reconvening this month to begin implementation of the plan. The Gen Silent Road Show continues; we’re taking the film to Westminster Unitarian Church in East Greenwich on March 4 and plan to screen it at Roger Williams Law School later this month. This documentary is a powerful tool for raising awareness and calling for action regarding the challenges faced by LGBT older adults. If you are a health care professional, you’ll want to be at the Save the Bay headquar ters in Providence on April 8 for our conference entitled: Life At The Intersections: Working with Older LGBT Adults. Jayeson Watts, Trans* Health Program Manager at Thundermist Health Center, will be presenting on “Trans People: Aging in the Margins.” Following this will be a panel discussion on “Best Practices Working with LGBT Older Adults,” which will be moderated by Dr. Scout, Director of HealthLink at CenterLink. We all know that planning for retirement is critical and that getting good, understandable information can seem impossible. So, when SAGE-RI member Karen Paley offered to put a program together to look at different aspects of retirement finances that are of par ticular relevance to our community, we were delighted. Hats off to Karen (Independence Financial Partners), Rich Streitfeld (ALSD Cer tified Public Accountants), and Karen J. Bacon (Diversified Resources, LLC) for braving the cold and providing Karen Paley
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such an informative presentation at January’s LGBT Café. If you haven’t been to the LGBT Café, mark March 18 or April 15 in your calendar. (We aim for the third Friday of the month.) The Café is a fun way to share a nice lunch with a great group of people. Each month features a different program (movies, presentations, etc.) and we usually have a great door prize. The LGBT Café welcomes older LGBT people and their friends (60+). Reservations are a must and easy to make, just call Pauline at 351-6700. Mark your calendar! SAGE-RI’s 2nd annual gala, Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow is coming your way on Saturday, May 14 from 7-10pm at the Warwick Ar t Museum. The event features a silent art auction, drinks, appetizers, and a dance with a DJ, all for $50 to benefit SAGE. Sponsorship oppor tunities are available. Last, we’re happy to report that we’ve added new talent to the SAGE team. At the February meeting, SAGE-RI welcomed Brian Kovacs as the newest member of our growing Board of Directors. We welcome Brian and his exper tise working in human services, faith communities, and the LGBT community in Rhode Island. q SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, write to sageriinfo@gmail.com; call (401) 443-4451; send a letter to SAGE-RI c/o CareLink, 1 Virginia Avenue, Providence, RI 02905; visit www.sage-ri.org, or find SAGE/Rhode Island on Facebook.
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FIELD HOCKEY: Local & Year-round by Kelly Scafariello
For this month’s recreation story, I thought I would go outside the box and write about a less than mainstream sport: field hockey. To be honest, the sport was never one that I played nor one that I really understood. Still, the sport found its way into my life. Several good friends of mine played field hockey in college and coached the sport at the high school and college level. One of those friends, Erica Hebert, continues to play today. Hebert, a 30-something former high school hall of fame standout, recruited Division I student-athlete, and former college coach, still finds joy in playing the game after 25 years. A Connecticut native, she started playing field hockey in gym class and really liked it. She said, “I joined my middle school team and found that I was pretty good at the sport.” Field hockey is played by both genders, although predominately played by women in the United States. The game was first played in the 19th century in England.To play this fast-paced game, a team needs to score goals using a round hard rubber ball and curved stick made out of wood or fiberglass. The game is quick, as players run up and down a grass or turf surface. While fun, the sport can leave athletes with a bruise or two if hit by the fast-moving ball. For safety measures, shin guards, mouth guards, and a goalie mask and pads may be worn. For many of the female athletes who played field hockey in high school and college, finding a place to continue playing this sport – one that feels ingrained in their DNA – can be difficult. For those players located in Rhode Island and Southern Massachusetts, there is a place for you!
“providing Southern Massachusetts and Rhode Island with various indoor sports and recreation programs.” According to the website, Teamworks offers an adult field hockey league that is “perfect for college students as well as retired field hockey players looking to get back in the game.” The next field hockey session starts the first week of March. A new session starts every ten weeks. The league is open to women ages 16 and older. All abilities are welcome. The format is 7 versus 7 with an optional goalie and a maximum of 16 players to a team. Nine regular season games are guaranteed to each registered team. On Sunday mornings teams play 50-minute games consisting of two halves. There is a $15 membership fee along with a weekly team cost of $15 for referees and timekeepers. Hebert said that there are usually 8-12 teams during each session. Her team is called the Misfits. She said she enjoys the league because, “the quality of the game is competitive and the teams are friendly.” While the league isn’t specifically geared toward the LGBTQ community, Hebert said, being gay “is not an issue and doesn’t come up. The women are really nice in the league. There are lesbians that play.” Teamworks’ Adult League Manager Steven Albert wants you to know, “We do not discriminate against any of our customers.” q To learn more about the league or to sign up for the next session, check out the Teamworks website at www.teamworkssomerset.com, email at info@ teamworkssomerset.com or call 508-676-3956.
Teamworks, located in Somerset, MA, is a place
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AIDS PROJECT RHODE ISLAND
by Christion Battey
In Loving Memory It is with great sadness that I write of the passing of our beloved friend, Margaret “Peggy” Brown on January 28. Peggy was a longtime case manager at AIDS Project Rhode Island (APRI) and she will be deeply missed. She was an excellent case manager, always going above and beyond for all her clients no matter what the circumstances. Peggy was an inspiration to us all, setting the standard of what it means to be a true pioneer and visionary for the future (as long as it did not involve computers). Peggy left us too soon, retiring in September 2015 at the age of 65 after ten years of continued dedication and service to APRI. Pictured is Peggy Brown at her retirement luncheon in September 2015 along with APRI’s executive director, Stephen Hourahan. Peggy has left a void here at APRI, but will always remain in our hearts. Diana Ross Comes to Providence On Thursday, April 14, Diana Ross’ In the Name of Love Tour comes to the Providence Performing Arts Center. Join AIDS Project Rhode Island for “Divas, Drinks and Dessert,” a fundraising event including the Diana Ross concert at PPAC, pre-show cocktails, and an after-party hosted by Mr. Gay RI 2015 Richie DeFilippo with “Diana and Friends.” The cocktail party will begin
at 6pm at the Rooftop at the Providence G. The Providence Performing Arts Center’s doors open for the concert at 7:30pm, and the after-party will be at the Providence G immediately following the show. Tickets range in price from $15 to a $1,000 sponsorship and can be purchased at tinyurl.com/apridianaross. For more information please call (401) 831-5522. Take Charge! Get Tested! Please take care of yourself and others by knowing your HIV status. AIDS Project Rhode Island offers free, anonymous, and rapid HIV and Hep C testing during our walk-in clinic on Tuesdays from 4-6pm, Thursdays from 5-6:30pm, and by appointment. Call Christion Battey, Prevention and Testing Program Coordinator, at 831-5522 ext. 3824. The rapid HIV test consists of an oral swab or finger prick, depending on your preference, and takes approximately 15-20 minutes for results.The Hep C test requires a finger prick. For more educational information on testing, HIV, and STIs, visit www.aidsprojectri.org or email inquiries to takecharge@aidsprojectri.org.q AIDS Project RI is a division of Family Service of RI, providing case management, various health-related services, advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep C testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. Call (401) 831-5522 or visit www.aidsprojectri.org for more info.
Om Therapy
Clinical Therapy Services for the LGBTQQI Community Now offering support groups, therapeutic yoga, and online services. 401-497-8873 omtherapy.org Melissa@omtherapy.org
Melissa DaSilva, LICSW
Office appointments available at 1 Richmond Square, Providence.
Nathan J. Reynolds 508-837-3972 nathan@insperiors.com www.insperiors.com
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Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.
Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.
Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. Young People’s Sexual Diversity meeting of AA. Fridays at 7pm at Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.
AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext. 3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.
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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.
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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous.Free or sliding scale.RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org. Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org. Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org.
Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516.
The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 Foster Parents needed for newborns to age six. Visit www. chidrensfriendri.org or call Joyce, 276-4318. GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564.
www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.
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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.
Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue. Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours. 373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com
Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com. National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.
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The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.
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Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC.An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail. com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910. Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal
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congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org. Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org. Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org. Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.
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Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail. com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)994-8972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am.50 Park Place,Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am.
2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org. St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com. Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www. uufairhaven.org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.
Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA.
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corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Gay Men’s Social Group: First Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm, Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.
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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.
SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail. com. www.sage-ri.org. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@ gmail.com). South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.
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PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com. Field Hockey: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins Aug. 30. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org. Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com
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Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.
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Students & Youth Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org. Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@ salve.edu
S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.
Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 6765708. www.child-familyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 2356095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 2764300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training,stipend,support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012.T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. 36
Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. DayOne:Counseling&legalaidforvictimsofsexualassault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 7823990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@ gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -9pm. Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal. org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 3699448. info@gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. Options | March 2016
HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+.Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 8616191. www.sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships,
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and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa. org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org. q
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Watching the newest season of The Biggest Loser, I can’t help remembering the good old days, sitting on the couch eating chips for one hour and ice cream for the next, feeling that somehow I was exercising a little every week. Fortunately, my favorite former trainer, Jillian Michaels, is back – this time on E! with a new reality show, Just Jillian. In Just Jillian, Michaels brings her no-nonsense, in-your-face attitude to everything except the gym. Michael’s bull-in-a-chinashop personality sometimes causes problems. Luckily, her huge heart and over-spilling emotions tend to fix them. “Imagine if Sex in the City was written by a gay Charlie Brown,” says author and illustrator Patrick Atangan about his latest graphic novel, Fires Over Hyperion, a descent into the admittedly sad history of his own love life. “One day I woke up and realized I had been dating for twenty years. Twenty years,” writes Atangan. “It’s hard to imagine anyone with as little resolve as I have doing anything for so long.” It seems like Atangan has had every kind of boyfriend experience possible, from the closeted college crush, to the dashing fling who turned out to not be single, to the long-term love who couldn’t say “I love you” to the short-term love who said “I love you” too soon. Atangan has lost loves to other men and to women, and I definitely can relate to his awkward first dates. Atagnan’s whimsical illustrations make this book. I really enjoyed his artwork, his dark humor and his willingness to keep moving forward, despite all of his ill-fated dating adventures. In the end, this Charlie Brown has learned that confidence is the key to his next chapter. You can find Fires Over Hyperion at Books On The Square in Providence, home of Rhode Island’s Queer Book Club.
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Just Jillian introduces Heidi Rhodes, her partner of seven years, whose calm, even personality smoothes Michaels’ edges and soothes her temper with reason. Despite the chaos of Michaels’ career, the two lovingly tend to their daughter Lu, 6 and son Phoenix, 4. “I can’t imagine how my world would function without Heidi,” says Michaels. Watch new episodes of Just Jillian on E! Tuesday nights and catch up at E! On Demand. Get more Jillian in her weekly podcast on iTunes, the Jillian Michaels Show.
I’ve decided to make Sia Furler’s newest album my soundtrack this year. The bisexual Australia native shook the international music scene last year with “Chandelier,” and she delivers a second punch with her new album, This Is Acting. She’s been writing hit songs for years for the likes of Adele, Rihanna, Beyonce, Christina Aguilera and Flo Rida. If This Is Acting sounds like a compilation album, that’s because it is; almost all of the songs on the album were written by Sia for other artists who chose not to sing them. One listen to the album, however, and you’ll be glad they didn’t. Sia reclaims each song with her rich, clear voice, and performs them with an emotional strength that explodes through the speakers to engulf the listener in the richness of her songwriting. The album seems to have a flying-free, happy-to-be-here feel, starting with its lead single, “Alive,” co-written by Adele, “Move Your Body” and “Unstoppable.” My favorite track is the devil-may-care “Cheap Thrills,” which may become my new Friday night anthem. Sia’s new album will definitely help you shake off the winter doldrums and welcome spring early. Find her on iTunes and YouTube. q
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