Options Magazine - May 2018

options May 2018

Through Their Eyes:

Leaders Envision Community

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IN THIS ISSUE: 7 14 10

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5 From the Editor 6 From the Board Chair 6 Advertisers 7 AIDS Walk/Run RI 8 Calendar 10 Through Their Eyes: Community Leader Interviews 14 Trans Views Tours RI 15 Youth Perspective: Love Song 16 Out on the Town 20 It’s Pride Season!

21 TGI Network Empowerment Breakfast 22 Trans Rights Activists Protest Dr. Cretella 24 Empowering LGBTQ Youth 25 ACOS Welcomes New Executive Director 26 News from SAGE-RI 27 Tim Cavanaugh Joins Thundermist 28 Resources 35 Felicitations 35 Transosaurus Rex

Home deliver y is free! Subscribe at www.optionsri.org, email subscriptions@optionsri.org, or write to us at our PO Box. Š OPTIONS 2018. Options is published monthly except in January and July. The opinions expressed are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect those of the volunteers or staff. Listings are provided as a resource and do not imply endorsement. Submissions to Options must include a phone number or email address. Names may be withheld on request. Submissions, ads, calendar, or resource listings for the June 2018 issue must be delivered by May 11.

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From the Editor-in-Chief Dear Reader, Perhaps you’re surprised to find a new issue of Options in your mailbox, or on the table at your local cafe, or doctor’s office. My hope, however, is that you’ve been eagerly anticipating Options’ comeback. Just as good: you’re thumbing through Options for the first time, curious to find what it’s all about. Or is it possible you didn’t even notice we weren’t around these many months? In any case: welcome! We’re back and there’s a place for you here.

After the June 2017 issue, it was announced without much fanfare that Options would go on hiatus indefinitely to regroup. Many inferred that the magazine would close up shop for good. After all, we’d had a good 35-year run. “Another print publication surrenders against the moment-to-moment news cycle.” Sad, yes, but not shocking.

Most could not imagine the day would come that Options would publish again.

But something was stirring in community members unwilling to let go of this beloved resource. They gathered together to make a plan and form a board, as we LGBTQ folk are prone to do. And here we are. (TC will tell you more on page 6.) I think more than anything, Options’ resurrection speaks to this community’s resolve to remain vigilant – vigilant in the face of extreme bigotry, and vigilantly in support of one another.

As I read this issue, I’m reminded that LGBTQ people have unique challenges that lead to unique strengths. When our stories address problems, they tend to offer solutions, or at least the action step worth celebrating. Whether it’s the play (pg.

14), the walk (pg. 7), or the protest (pg. 22), Options can help this community sort through the tough stuff, and find a path forward.You’ll be especially interested to read interviews with some community stalwarts and thought leaders (featured in the cover photo), who offer perspectives on how this community has evolved, and where their visions could take us (pg. 10).

I left my role as Options’ editor in the autumn of 2016. One warp zone later, I find myself in strangely familiar, yet unfamiliar territory. Leadership changes, though the institutions remain. Nightclubs close, but the people still dance. Trump is president, and the press speaks truth to power. Options will surely and continually be challenged to adapt. What will assure our relevance is the personal, inclusive, and collaborative gathering of this community’s remarkable stories, vibrant images, valuable resources and health information, social opportunities, political initiatives, and thoughtful discussions that better our lives.

Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982.

May 2018, Volume XXXVII, Issue 1

Editor-in-Chief Jen Stevens jen@optionsri.org Resources Editor Myra Shays resources@optionsri.org Copy Editors Rex LeBeau, Christine Pavao, Maria Phillips, Myra Shays Graphic Design Theresa “Reese” Barzyk www.tibcreativestudio.com Contributors Felicia Nimue Ackerman, Steve Ahlquist, Amanda Barney, Natasha Connolly, Yaretsy Flores, Janie Ganga, Cathy Gorman, Ethan Huckel, Joe Lazzerini, Rex LeBeau, Steven Pennell, TC Rogers, Kelsey Sanford, Jen Stevens Photographers Steve Ahlquist, Jen Bonin, Ryan Clarke, Jack Hartwein-Sanchez

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BOARD Executive Committee Dr. TC Rogers,

Board President

Brendan Chipley Roane,

Board Vice President

Dr. Dawn Letourneau,

Recording Secretary

Dr. Mike Marrapodi, Treasurer Directors Melissa Da Silva, LICSW Ashley Delgado Daniel Kellum, Esq. Nathan McNamara Dr. Eileen Medeiros Arthur Snow

Dear Readers, Thank you for your unwavering support of Options Magazine. Since the board of directors decided to suspend publication in June 2017, the donations, volunteers, inquiries, and overall support has been pouring in.The enthusiasm for Options and recognition of its value to our community has been confirmed; and the board sure has been busy preparing Options for another 36 years. Additionally, we have expanded the organization of Options, so it can lend even more support to our community and provide more opportunities to gather together and celebrate the vibrancy of our beautiful community.

I know you have been wondering, so let me tell you the details of how the board spent the last ten months. First and foremost was the transition of leadership and a great deal of learning. Kyle McKendall has remained engaged and committed to supporting Options by dedicating a vast amount of time to helping the board learn all the details of running the organization. Trust me, there are more details than you would imagine. Upon Kyle’s advice, the first task was to build up the board. We have a robust board who are genuinely committed to Options’ mission and success. In all my roles of management, I have never worked with a more talented team. You know the saying: “People will work for free if they love what they are doing?” That’s our board. When the opportunity arises to thank them, please do because they have dedicated an immense amount of time and effort making Options sustainable.

After all of the nuts and bolts were tightened – finances organized, paperwork filed, responsibilities delegated – we made some changes. We freshened up the logo, changed platforms for our website, moved the Gay 5K to the fall, and expanded our mission. The mission was rewritten for two reasons. The board is diverse and aims to expand the representation of the diversity in our community. Secondly, Options will continue to publish a magazine and will also host and support events that honor our community.

The new mission is as follows: Options’ mission is to provide advocacy and education for the LGBTQ+ community of Rhode Island and Southern New England by organizing inclusive events; publishing life-affirming resources; and promoting diversity, health, safety, and equality.

Again, I thank you for your support of Options. Serving in a leadership role for Options is an honor, because, well, as we know, “It’s Great to Have Options!”

Cheers, Dr. TC Rogers Board President

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by APRI Staff, with photos by Ryan Clarke

Honors Cardi Brothers The theme for the April 21 AIDS Run/Walk for Life was “It Takes a Team of Heroes to Get to Zero,” and encouraged participants to dress as their favorite superhero, or make one of their own, and emphasized the heroic efforts being made to stop new HIV infections. For the first time in its 32-year history, the event also included a run, and both kicked off from the Roger Williams Park Carousel. As the largest fundraiser for AIDS Project Rhode Island, the Run/Walk raised nearly $40,000 for critically needed support services provided to Rhode Islanders living with HIV/ AIDS. “The Run/Walk for Life is not just a historic, grassroots community event, it also ensures we can continue to provide care to individuals living with HIV and AIDS who need us,” APRI Executive Director Stephen Hourahan said.

In addition, the Run/Walk for Life this year honored Nick, Ron, and Pete Cardi with the prestigious Hope Harris Award. Named after Hope Harris, a former APRI board member, the award recognizes persons or organizations dedicated to the fight against HIV/AIDS. All three brothers appeared at the event to accept the award. The Cardi brothers, known throughout New England for their furniture and mattress retail outlets, are longtime APRI and Walk for Life supporters who have been instrumental in raising public awareness in the fight against HIV/AIDS. “We are proud to have been a sponsor of AIDS Project Rhode Island from the beginning; 32 years goes by fast!” they said in a joint statement. “We thank APRI

and Family Service of Rhode Island for honoring us with this award.”

More than 2,600 people are currently living with HIV/AIDS in Rhode Island, and new HIV infections in the state actually rose slightly in 2017 from 2016. HIV continues to disproportionately affect low-income and minority communities, particularly young Latino and African-American gay and bisexual people of color. On a brighter note, we know we have the tools to make “getting to zero” a reality. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently endorsed the “Undetectable = Untransmittable” campaign, which states that a person with HIV who is on medication and achieves an undetectable viral level cannot pass the virus to a partner. In addition, tools such as preexposure prophylaxis (PrEP) are up to 99%

effective in preventing HIV transmission in HIV-negative individuals.

Donations to the AIDS Run/Walk for Life can be made up until June 21, at www.firstgiving.com/event/aidswalkri/ walkforlife2018/donate.

APRI, a division of Family Service of Rhode Island, is dedicated to providing a compassionate, nonjudgmental, and collaborative response to the needs of people living with, affected by, and at risk for acquiring HIV. APRI currently provides comprehensive prevention and HIV/STD testing services. For more info, visit aidsprojectri.org, facebook. com/AIDSProjectRhodeIsland, twitter.com/ AIDSProjectRI, or call (401) 831-5522.

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CALENDAR:

May

Wed. 2, 9, 16, 23, & 30 PrideFest Planning Meetings, 7pm. RI Pride office, 1055 Westminster Street, 2nd floor, Providence. All are welcome to help plan the 43rd Annual RI PrideFest taking place June 16.

For more info, prideri.com.

Thu. 3 Options Magazine Relaunch, 6-8:30pm.

Providence G Ballroom, 100 Dorrance Street, Providence. Celebrate the return of RI’s premier LGBTQ magazine with the release of the May 2018 issue. Complimentary food, drink, and live entertainment. Donations suggested. For more info, optionsri.org.

Fri. 4 Safe Homes Gala & People of Courage Awards, 6-10pm. AC Marriott, 125 Front Street, Worcester. Safe Homes provides hundreds of vulnerable LGBTQ youth with a safe space to access information and counseling, find supportive peers and adults, and participate in leadership development activities. For more info, safehomesma.org.

Sun. 6 PFLAG Providence 20th Anniversary Celebration, 1-3pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. Free. RSVP required at pflag20th@gmail.com. For more info, pflagprovidence.org.

Sun. 6 King of Queens: The Queens are Wild, 7-10pm. The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. First-time drag queens compete for the title of King of Queens. $20 to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State. For more info, aidscareos.org or info@aidscareos.org.

Mon. 7, 14, 21 & 28 Free Play Arcade GAYME night, 7pm-1am. Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, and skeeball. Featuring drag show with Kira Stone, DJ Transcendence, and Joe Lazzerini on the bar with Tommy Pistocco. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri.com.

Tue. 8 & 22 Trans Yoga, 6-7:15pm. THC Health Equity Zone, 1229 Main Street, West Warwick.

For more info, ajm@thundermisthealth.org.

Wed. 9 Mundo Bachata, 9pm-1am. Dusk, 301 Harris Avenue, Providence. Social dancers experience an intimate, friendly, inclusive space.

Bachata fundamentals and partnering lesson, 9-9:45pm. No partner required. Drop-ins encouraged. Free parking. $10/$15 includes class.

Thu. 10 RI PrideFest Volunteer Orientation, 7-8:30pm. Federal Hill Pizza, 495 Main Street, Warren. Learn about and register for PrideFest 2018 volunteer opportunities. Refreshments served. All are welcome. For more info, email Jess

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at jess.motyl@prideri.com or visit prideri.com.

Thu. 10 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm.

Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queerproduced potpourri of entertainment performed monthly on 2nd Thursdays. Featuring the Mary Day Band, Beledi Dance, and excerpts from A Furtive Movement. $7. For more info, email sweetlittleemail@gmail.com or visit facebook. com/sweetlittlevarietyshow.

Fri. 11 Trans Views, 7pm. Westminster Unitarian Church, 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. Play created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community. Free. For more info, web.uri.edu/prov/arts.

Sat. 12 Confessions of a Working Girl, 8-10pm.

Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Jacqueline DiMera, Viza D. Klein, Jennie Talia, Yolandi Fizzure, Pariba Ariba Brown, Calypso Phoenix Brown, and Farrah Foxx perform dramatic readings from the best seller Confessions of a Working Girl (or How To Get Laid-Off) by Doreen Collins and perform songs. $15 includes book copy and donation to RI Pride.

Sat. 12 Womxn’s Night, 9pm-1am. Colosseum Nightclub Arena Room, 180 Pine Street, floor 2, Providence. Welcoming all who identify with queer women’s space, as well as friends and partners. Music from the 70s-2000s. $10. 21+.

Tue. 15 Trans Views, 6:30pm Woonsocket Train Depot, 1 Depot Square, Woonsocket. Hosted by the Community Care Alliance. Play created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community. Free. For more info, web. uri.edu/prov/arts.

Tue. 15 Big Gay Al’s Bowling League 19th Season Kickoff, 7:30pm. Runs through early August. $16 per person. Proceeds support local LGBTQ charities. Register to join a team or submit a team of four at facebook.com/biggayalbowling or email Leo at Biggayalbowling@aol.com.

Wed. 16 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Call Me by Your Name by A. Aciman. Discount on books purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Thu. 17 Drag Bingo: Under the Sea Bingo, 6-9pm.

Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. 18+. No alcohol.

Theme dress suggested. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. For reservations, email bingo@aidscareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and phone number.

Fri. 18 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston.

A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting on 3rd Fridays sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all others. Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700.

Sat. 19 Mary Day Band, 9pm. Stout Irish Pub, 50 Exchange Terrace, Providence. No cover. For more info, stoutri.com.

Sun. 20 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men.

For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Sun. 20 Interweave Potluck & Movie Night, 5:309pm. Bring a dish to share if you would like to join the potluck. Paris is Burning screened at 7pm.

Parish Hall behind Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. All are welcome.

Free. For more info, contact Rex at 595-9068 or interweave@channingchurch.org.

Tue. 22 Dinner with Pride at Flatbread Company, 5-9pm. 161 Cushing Street, Providence.

Flatbread Company donates 20% of all eat in, take out, and delivery purchases. Optional volunteer orientation takes place at 7pm. For more info, www.prideri.com.

Tue. 22 RI PrideFest Volunteer Orientation, 7-8pm. Flatbread Company, 161 Cushing Street, Providence. Learn about and register for PrideFest 2018 volunteer opportunities. Refreshments served. Portion of sales benefits RI Pride. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or email jess.motyl@prideri.com.

Thu. 24 Cocktails and Conversations: What’s in a Name? Media Language and Representation, 5:307:30pm. AS220, 115 Empire Street, Providence.

Discussion on how women and girls are represented in the media, hosted by the Women’s Fund of RI. Panelists are AS220 Artistic Director Shey Rivera, Gabriela Domenzain of the Roger Williams University Latino Policy Institute, and Providence College Women’s Studies Director Abigail Brooks; Margie Reed of Capitol TV moderates. $15-$20.

Cash bar and light appetizers included. For more info, email Ellie Brown at ebrown@wfri.org. For tickets, https://bit.ly/2qCp7ft.

Fri. 25 Pride Idol, 8:30pm. Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. Twelve local singers compete for the title awarded by guest judges. Jen Bonin and Miss Gay Rhode Island 2017 Viza D. Klein emcee.

Door, raffle, and grand prizes awarded. Doors open 7:30pm.To enter, attend a Monday karaoke at Mirabar. $10 donation benefits RI Pride.

June

Fri. 1 Rainbow Flag Raising, 6-7pm. Providence City Hall steps, 25 Dorrance Street. Join Providence Mayor Jorge Elorza and community representatives to officially kick off the RI Pride season.

Fri. 1 Trans Views, 7pm. St. Paul’s Church, 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. Play created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community. Free. For more info, web.uri.edu/prov/ arts.

Sat. 2 Becky Chace Band, 9pm. Stout Irish Pub, 50 Exchange Terrace, Providence. No cover. For more info, stoutri.com.

Sun. 3 Trans Views, 7pm First Baptist Church in America 75 N. Main Street, Providence. Play created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community. Free. For more info, web.uri.edu/prov/arts.

Mon. 4 Rainbow Flag Raising, 4:30-5:30pm.

Pawtucket City Hall, 137 Roosevelt Avenue. Join Pawtucket Mayor Don Grebian and community representatives to welcome the RI Pride season.

Mon. 5, 12, 19 & 26 Free Play Arcade GAYME night, 7pm-1am. Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, and skeeball. Featuring drag show with Kira Stone, DJ Transcendence, and Joe Lazzerini on the bar with Tommy Pistocco. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri.com.

Wed. 6, 13, 20 & 27 PrideFest Planning Meeting, 7pm. RI Pride office, 1055 Westminster Street, 2nd floor, Providence. All are welcome to help plan the 43rd Annual RI PrideFest taking place June 16. For more info, prideri.com.

June 7 & 8 Trans Views, 7pm. URI Providence Campus Paff Auditorium, 80 Washington Street, Providence. Play created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community. Free. For more info, web.uri.edu/prov/ arts.

Fri. 8–Sun. 10 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents God Save the Queens, the music of the British Invasion. Fri. and Sat. 7pm, Sun. 4pm. Greenwich Odeum, 59 Main Street, East Greenwich. $25. Tickets and info at www.provgmc.org.

Sat. 9 Boston Pride Parade and Festival, 11am6pm. City Hall Plaza. Free for all ages. www. bostonpride.org.

Sun. 10 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Mon. 11 RI PrideFest Volunteer Orientation.

Location and time TBD. Learn about and register for PrideFest 2018 volunteer opportunities.

Refreshments served. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com.

Tue. 12 Trans* Pizza & Game Night, 7-9pm.

Roger Williams University, 1 Empire Plaza, Floor 5, Providence. Join Thundermist Health Center and TGI Network for a free night of fun and friendly competition.

Wed. 13 Mundo Bachata, 9pm-1am. Dusk, 301 Harris Avenue Providence. Social dancers experience an intimate, friendly, inclusive space.

Bachata fundamentals and partnering lesson, 9-9:45pm. No partner required. Drop-ins encouraged. Free parking. $10, $15 includes class.

Thu. 14 Support & Celebrate Justice with GLAD, 6-8pm. Providence Art Club, 11 Thomas Street, Providence. An inside look at GLAD’s work on critical LGBTQ issues. Honoring Dr. Michelle Forcier. $50 includes hors d’oeuvres and libations. For tickets and info, action.glad.org.

Thu. 14 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment performed monthly on 2nd Thursdays. $10 includes donation to RI Pride. For more info, email sweetlittleemail@gmail. com or visit facebook.com/sweetlittlevarietyshow.

Fri. 15 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston.

A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all others.

Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700.

Sat. 16 43rd Annual Rhode Island PrideFest: Louder & Prouder, noon-7pm. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. PrideFest features live entertainment, a Kids Zone, Youth Center, marketplace, food trucks, and a beer, wine, and spirits garden. Donations suggested. For more info, www.prideri.com.

Sat. 16 Rhode Island Pride Illuminated Night Parade, 8:30pm. Parade travels North on Dorrance Street past Providence City Hall turning West on Washington Street, South on Empire Street, and East on Weybosset Street to the Providence Performing Arts Center Reviewing Stand. Free for all ages. For more info, www.prideri.com.

Tue. 19 PrEP for Me, 6:30-8pm. Social Enterprise Greenhouse, 10 Davol Square, Unit 100, Providence. Learn how Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) can reduce your risk of HIV infection by up to 92%. This free event is hosted

by Thundermist Health Center and presented by Timothy Cavanaugh, MD.

Reading: Surpassing Certainty by Janet Mock.

Discount on books purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com.

Thu. 21 Drag Bingo: Show us your Pride Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly.

18+. No alcohol. Theme dress suggested. All funds raised benefit RI Pride. Email Bingo@ AIDSCareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and phone number for reservations.

Sun. 24 Pride Month Swim Night, 4-6pm.

McDermott Pool, 975 Sandy Lane, Warwick.

Thundermist Health Center and guests have private use of the facility. Free. For info, ajm@ thundermisthealth.org.

Mon. 25 Trans* Bowling Night, 7-9pm. Lang’s Bowlarama, 225 Niantic Avenue, Cranston. Join Thundermist Health Center and TGI Network for a night of friendly competition. Attendees will enjoy a private room and private restrooms. Free.

Wed. 27 National HIV Testing Day, 9:30am9:30pm. Thundermist Health Center QuickCare Locations: 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket; 186 Providence Street, West Warwick; 1 River Street, Wakefield. Free testing to learn your HIV status.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about one in seven people in the United States with HIV don’t know it.

Early detection is important to treatment and prevention.

Thu. 28 How to Change Your Documents, 6-7pm. Youth Pride Inc., 743 Westminster Street, Providence. Thundermist Health Center experts help you navigate the process of changing your gender and name on documents, and provide tips and tools to make the task less burdensome. Free.

Presented in partnership with YPI. Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth, Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans,partner, and non-binary groups): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm

TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out, Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum, Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under: Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 28 for complete information

Wed. 20 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence.

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Learning from the Past, Looking to the Future:

As Options Magazine regroups, we’re looking to various community builders and thought leaders to tell the story of where we’ve been, where we’re at, and where we need to go.The June 2018 issue will feature part 2 of these interviews; readers will hear from Kate Monteiro, Joe Redish, Nika Lamazzo, Frank Ferri, Haley Star, Alex Gorriaran, and Timothy Cavanaugh.

Community Leaders Take Us Onward & Upward

Joseph DiMauro

Myra Shays

Ethan Huckel

What called you to serve the LGBTQ community?

Joseph DiMauro: Back in 2012 I was an intern on the Marriage Equality campaign in Rhode Island. I helped organize/ run phonebanks and enter data into our database. I felt like I was a part of something bigger than myself. For the first time, I was passionate about something, and I met all of these incredible people in the process.

From there I was reintroduced when I ran for and won Mr. Gay Rhode Island 2016. It was one of the best experiences of my life so far. I feel as though I owe a debt to this community; it’s given me everything I have.

Myra Shays: Back in NY when my daughter came out to me I attended PFLAG and was greatly helped. I became very active, serving on their board and attending national conventions. When I moved to RI and discovered there was no PFLAG, I founded the Greater Providence chapter.

Ethan Huckel: Most of the queer people I know are serving the community in some way. We support each other through coming outs, and then at times through the loss of family, friends, religions, jobs. We hold each other up in the face of prejudice, both personal and political.

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Kim Stowell

Shey Rivera

As a community that has always been in some stage of battle, we are in service to one another. I think the fact that so many of us lose people because of our identities makes the power of community that much stronger. I am, ultimately, an optimist. That I have had some concrete ways of helping to empower my community – as an advisor to queer student groups or on the board of TGI Network, for example – has been a blessing and a privilege. Countless people constantly inspire me. I have friends who routinely open their homes to folks in need of a safe place, friends who are rallying people to action at the State House, friends whose careers are in service to this community, friends who I can always call when a community member is in need.

Kim Stowell: I had been an Options reader – and a veteran in the publishing field – when I heard that the organization was in trouble. This was around 2005, and I went to a meeting they were holding for anyone who wanted to learn more. There were about 15 people in the room, and they literally closed the door, turned to us, and congratulated us on being the new steering committee. I started helping out a little, getting the current issue out and so forth. I was soon recruited to join the board of directors, and was eventually hired, along with Christopher Cedroni, to produce the publication. We were paid out of a 3-year

Curt Colombus

Ronia “BlueAzul” Peguero

RI Foundation grant – the Equity Action Fund – to help the organization grow. So it is more accurate to say that I was drafted, rather than called, but I’m pretty sure there was something at work in the cosmos, which brought me to that place. It was a perfect fit for me, and I loved the chance to build community. It was a delightful time.

Shey Rivera: My personal identification, the love I have for my friends, the respect I have for the elders, and a desire to see our young people living in a world that supports, nurtures, and celebrates their identities and gives them space to create new language and culture.

In conversations about culture, it’s often forgotten how much gender identity plays a role.Queer communities are hotbeds of culture and we build every day with our chosen and/or blood families.

Curt Columbus: I don’t think my work serves just the LGBTQ community.

I’ve always made service a part of my life, and my identity as a queer man is really central to who I am, so it’s natural that that work is an outgrowth of my identity.

Ronia “BlueAzul” Peguero: I saw a void and I filled it. My first gay night [as a promoter] in RI was a Gay Latin Night named Sofrito Sundays at Lot 401. No one

thought the concept would work when I asked around, however the night ended up running for seven years. Then I ran Neon Fridays at GLO for two years to provide the urban gay community a venue to listen to HipHop, Reggae, Latin, and Cape Verdean music relevant to their culture and lifestyle.

The last nightlife contribution I made in the gay community was #TwerkFridays. It was again, a concept born out of the necessity of an underrepresented community to have a space to express themselves comfortably and freely. That night will be celebrating its five-year anniversary in 2018.

Whom have you viewed as an inspiration for the work you do or have done?

Joseph: When I was in my lowest points of depression, severely underweight, suicidal – I didn’t think I would make it past 21 years old. I thought of my younger cousins. I’m really blessed to have such a supportive extended family. I wanted to be healthy and happy, and be someone they looked up to. So I realized me living as authentically as possible was the first step to that. That’s me being out, open, honest, vulnerable, healthy, proud, and fearless.They have no idea, but them being in my life indirectly saved it.

Myra: My inspiration is Jeanne Manford, a petite teacher who started PFLAG in an outer borough of NYC 45 years ago and made it a national movement despite the lack of cell phones, answering machines, Xerox machines, websites, and email. Also, I’m grateful to Belle Pellegrino and the other brave 76ers.

Ethan: I’m inspired by an incredible web of organizations, like Youth Pride Inc., DARE, SAGE RI, Project Weber/RENEW, the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, PrYSM, Project Fearless, and so many more, who, like TGI Network, are doing the work of serving our community every day. I’m inspired by folks like Kate Monteiro who see the strength of shared history and do the work of connecting our community to those who came before us. I’m inspired by a new generation of activists, taking their message of intersectionality and inclusion to the streets. I’m inspired by the people I know who lead with love and open hearts, doing the work of bringing others in, not the least of whom is my wife, Stephanie Huckel.

I’m inspired by the people I get to work with,

on the board of TGI Network and on the planning committee of the RI Trans Health Conference, who not only inspire by their example but are also a constant source of support. And I’m inspired by every trans person I know, for their commitment to caring for one another and, simply, for being their fierce, beautiful selves.

Kim: I turned to Michael Guy a lot during my time at Options. He had been the steward of Options for something like eighteen years prior to my coming along, and he is a very accomplished designer and a wonderful person. He knew Options like the back of his hand, and I was grateful for his willingness to help, to jump on board with things like building a humongous slice of birthday cake (and then dragging it along the PrideFest parade route), or to give me permission to fold the Options tent whenever the going got rough.

Shey: The queer Latinx/Afro/ Indigenous artists and thought leaders who have made immense contributions to the fields of contemporary culture and push against oppression. People within my immediate circle, including young artists, peers of my age, and our elders.

Specifically, the work of POC femmes and trans activists, artists, and community organizers that expand the conversation of feminism with a lens of racial justice. Special shout-out to Frances Negron Muntaner, Feliz Jimenez, Graciela Sanchez, Tomas Ybarra, Rita Indiana, Huascar Robles, Sasha Constanza-Chock, and local leaders/artists: K. Funmilayo Aileru, Andrea Perez, Micah Salkind, Yon Tande & Jude Sandy, Ronald Lewis, Justice Gaines, Veronica Cintron and BlueAzul, Angel Torres, Seth Tourjee, Hernan Jourdan, Muggs Fogharty, the Providence Poetry Slam community, and a very special acknowledgement to the AS220 Queer Arts Fest committee members.

Curt: I have a lot of mentors in my work in the theater who really encouraged me to explore my voice as a gay artist, most of them who happen to be straight people, weirdly.There’s a guy from Chicago, Dennis Zacek, one of my first mentors, who told me that “a ghetto was something you carried within yourself.” He said, “You don’t have to worry about your identity limiting you, you should see it as essential to any work you make.” It was life-changing.

BlueAzul: I experienced a lot of nightlife, shows, parties, and events growing up in such an eclectic city as Divine Providence. My influences came from frequenting Don King’s Black Rep (both locations), specifically ‘Round Midnight, Exxodus, Poetry Slams and plays. Going to the “Carriage House” (Everette) as a kid with my graffiti crew friends (MCI) and B-Boys/B-girls. Attending Mr. Mortal’s Basement Flavor events, and most memorably the RI First HipHop Awards.

Partying at most of the Dominican clubs on Broad St. Attending Chris Harris events, Jamie K & Glory’s Saturday nights at Platforms. Michelle & Dodie’s nights at Pulse. Going to Bar One, Gerardo’s, Mirabar, etc.

Who do you think is making the biggest impact on the local LGBTQ community?

Joseph: I think that changes everyday.

That’s the beautiful thing about our community, we have so many trailblazers.

We all have different experiences and we’ve all done a really amazing job at learning from one another and growing together. But I’ve really been inspired by the work of Joe Lazzerini, one of my best friends. He stepped into the position of Board President for RI Pride and has made it his own. People don’t understand the level of stress and expectations that come with that role, and he’s done a fantastic job at juggling a new job and a new role at the same time. Another person who I think is a trailblazer in our community is BB Hayes. I really have a lot of respect for her.

Kim: Politically speaking, Ethan Huckel is a real rising star, as are Denise Crooks, Nika Lomazzo, Stephanie Huckel, and many more. And then there are the folks who hold us together by organizing LGBTQ events, keeping our gay bars open, running the queer non-profits, reporting in on social media. In a way, it feels like we are all stepping up. I’m crazy about that.

Shey: Young people who are rising with strong courageous voices to lead the movements and push toward equity and justice.

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Curt: Rande Diantuaono, who owns the Alley Cat and Friskie Fries, makes a huge investment in the Pride parade every year. He’s, I think, one of the leading people in making stuff happen. When the Pulse nightclub event happened a couple of years ago, Rande was the first one to organize a vigil and get candles and stuff. He’s the first; he’s amazing.

BlueAzul: In nightlife, I would have to give the credit and respect to Chris Harris and Rafael Sanchez, as they went from club promoters to club owners. Their impact is felt multiple nights a week in RI, MA, and even FL. How does Options need to evolve (and/or what traditions must Options hold on to) to be relevant in the world of social media, fake news, and the 24hour news cycle?

Joseph: Options has been a staple for our community and I’m glad to hear it’s back! Options opened up so many doors for me when they gave my story a platform back in August of 2016. I think continuing to talk about issues that affect everyday people, education, and awareness is key. I’d also like to see Options do stories on people who don’t have the platform I do. People who are affected by legislation, racism, transphobia, deportation. That’s how we change minds – by touching hearts, and I see Options as the perfect messenger for that.

Myra: Print Options is relevant because it’s a physical thing that arrives in your mailbox.You keep it to consult at least till the next month’s edition arrives. YAY paper! (Full disclosure: I never get news from my phone – I read newspapers.)

Ethan: Options is a great resource for finding community. I’d like to see the resource guide and monthly calendar of events maintained. It would be great if Options were also a resource for up-to-date news about current legislation and actions related to our community. LGBTQ Action RI has been doing the work of engaging folks in lobbying efforts at the State House, and Options could be a valuable resource in broadening that network. I’d also like to see the magazine being used to bring people together physically whenever possible, to

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better foster local community bonds.

Kim: I remember the mantra I was given from the start of my tenure: Keep it all-LGBT and all local! If an article could run in a mainstream publication, it is not an Options article. Keep advertising space affordable, so that queer-owned small businesses can take out ads.The calendar is super important too.

Shey: Options should make space for the voices of young people.

BlueAzul: I think Options needs to be more open/inclusive to having the community of color be a part of the magazine, behind the scenes, in front of the camera, at the events, all around in general.

The younger generation can contribute a lot, Give them a section or few sections to make a splash. Also news moves at faster speeds than ever before so being able to roll out relevant content at that speed is of the utmost importance.

What is the most important issue affecting LGBTQ people that is likely to come up at the RI State House this year?

Joseph: I think our community has done an amazing job at including our trans members, but we are all not free until trans women of color are. We should support legislation that protects trans people on the streets, in the workplace, in the housing market, making sure they are respected, valued and safe.

Ethan: Currently, we are lobbying in favor of House Bill 7765 which will guarantee that death certificates for transgender Rhode Islanders will reflect their correct gender. A number of bills have been introduced that we should be watching in case they gain traction, including bills to restrict abortion and to ban pornography.

Curt: Post-marriage equality a lot of our issues have to do with the issues of society at large. I’d suggest that the real problems in the LGBTQ community have to do with marginalized groups within our community that we haven’t spent a lot of time or energy on. There are communities of color that are still very much at risk. I feel like the next phase of work that we’re going to do is protecting trans people, protecting

people within communities of color who are targeted by police. It’s going to shift from our traditional issues within the gay community to different ways of defining who is in our community.

Shey: There are too many. Personally, I’d like to see a harder push in favor of health justice and the expansion of queer and trans care as primary care. Also, the issue of youth homelessness is urgent. We need solutions for our teens.

What advice do you have for youth who are just coming out as LGBTQ? Joseph: What sets you apart may feel like a burden, and it’s not, and a lot of the times it’s what makes you great. Every single identity in our community has different experiences and obstacles in their way. [No matter who] makes you feel like you are less than – whether it’s your church, your family, your government or your school – you are amazingly beautiful, and people will always throw rocks at things that shine.

Stay open minded, surround yourself with people who love you for you, protect your mental health, stay humble, be kind, and envision your world years from now.

What does it look like? How do you want to feel? In the dark and low moments to come, remind yourself that love and hate are beasts, and the one that grows is the one you feed.

Myra: I’d like the youth to know that coming out is not an event – it’s a process.

Your relatives, friends, co-workers, and the others on the landscape of your life are on a journey to acceptance. If your parents are in distress, there is PFLAG. See Resources pages in Options for loads of suggestions for yourself that don’t involve bars.

Shey: Surround yourself with people who are caring and inspire you. Look for the elders and others who have taken the steps before you. Stay strong in yourself and always be open to learning and evolving.

Curt: Find your family. I don’t mean your biological family. I didn’t have a lot of support from my biological family when I came out. I know my husband didn’t when he came out. A lot of my friends in the 80s found themselves without a family and they had to construct their own. And I worry

that youth today spend so much time isolated by social media and the internet that they don’t find their family. And that’s an active pursuit, you build that over time.

It’s not just people within the LGBTQ community, it’s straight allies, it’s building family, you just have to do that.

BlueAzul: Love yourself first. Before you love anyone else or seek love or approval elsewhere learn to love yourself.

Make a list of all your strengths, the things you love, that make you smile. Reach into that space of sunshine whenever you need it, whenever you’re down, remember who you are. Remember your purpose; remember to shine.

Do you think Rhode Islanders need an LGBTQ community center?

Joseph: Yes, of course, a safe space where people can gather and learn about ways to get involved. As much as I love the bars and clubs in this city, a place without alcohol is more accommodating for people who are sober.

Myra: YES! There should be one structure where groups can meet, where archives can be stored, where classes can be held, where orientations can take place.

A place to call our own.

Ethan: The value of an LGBTQ community center depends entirely on how collaborative the process is to develop the center and who is in control. If a center were to truly serve the community, it would have to reflect the broad LGBTQ community and its leaders must represent the most marginalized voices. Which is to say queer and trans people of color must be empowered to lead. Otherwise, such a center would not, in my opinion, serve a valuable purpose.

Kim: Yes! I could write a whole article about this. Maybe I just will.

Shey: Yes. Not only because it is necessary, but because it is a strong statement in support of the LGBTQAI community and a commitment of investment.

BlueAzul: This is a great idea, as long as it’s inclusive for all LGBTQ races and

ages. It should be a multiple purpose space that provides education, entertainment, safety, and whatever other wonderful ideas that the community suggests. Co-op work space would be awesome! Plus a hall/room you can rent out for fundraisers and parties.

Outdoor play area for LGBT families and maybe an indoor pool! Also, some healthy bites and drinks.

What health concerns most affect the LGBTQ people in your life?

Joseph: I consider myself an advocate for mental health treatment/recovery after creating Project Fearless. I want to stress the importance of identifying mental health conditions and also treatment. If you live with depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder... you don’t have to battle alone. I’m currently taking medication for my anxiety/ depression. I see a therapist once every three weeks, and I’m the happiest and healthiest I have ever been. Whoever you are, wherever you are, you deserve help.

There are so many resources and services that you can try out. Visit www.zencare.co to find a therapist in your area, who takes your insurance, all within ten minutes.

Ethan: Though we have made great strides in this area, particularly through the growth of Thundermist Health Center and the success of the RI Trans Health Conference, transgender people in Rhode Island are still in need of a broader network of local, affirming providers including local surgeons. Economically disadvantaged people continue to struggle to access affordable care, and the frequent threats to the ACA are troubling. It’s also worth noting that housing insecurity and homelessness (which are disproportionately high among transgender people) is also a health concern and there is a dangerous lack of emergency housing available to LGBTQ Rhode Islanders. Fixing this problem should be a priority of our community.

Shey: Family care, trans care, hormone use, emotional/mental health, sexual education, multiple sclerosis, disability, aging healthily.

people in my life right now.

If you could ask one thing of your fellow LGBTQ community members, what would it be?

Joseph: To remain resilient and aspiring for an even better and more inclusive community. We have a really forward/progressive community that we should be very proud of. Let’s keep learning from one another, including one another, trusting one another and taking care of one another. Also, go register to vote and get to the polls for 2018! There are so many amazing local candidates who need your support.

Ethan: Look into the good work being done by the many small organizations in our state and see where you can get involved. I say that not only because the help is needed, but because getting involved will strengthen your connection to community.

It’s uplifting to find your family.

Shey: Why aren’t more community members taking on political roles in this city? We must push harder and have visible representation in public office.

Curt: Be more philanthropic. Think about the charities you give to, work for, spend your time with. I think as gay people we get isolated from mainstream society so we turn our back on philanthropic work one can use to make your life rich. I’d like to see more of that.

BlueAzul: Love yourself. Honestly, once you do, it’s a trickle-down effect that echoes out to all around you. Spread love, even when you’re not at your best. Be thankful. Be grateful. Live in an abundance of positivity. Believe in yourself and don’t be afraid.

This story featured Joseph DiMauro, Project Fearless Founder & Mr. Gay RI 2016 (photo by Jen Bonin); Myra Shays, PFLAG Greater Providence Chapter Founder; Ethan Huckel, TGI Network Board President; Kim Stowell, Former Options Magazine Editor; Shey Rivera, AS220 Artistic Director (photo by Cat Laine); Curt Columbus, Trinity Repertory Company Artistic Director; and Ronia “BlueAzul” Peguero, Former Nightlife Promoter.

Curt: Aging is an issue the people in my life are dealing with right now.You know, not having children, who is going to take care of us? What are we gonna do? This I think is the real big challenge that faces

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FRANK TOTI’S TRANS VIEWS

TOURS RI MAY 11- JUNE 8

(L-R) Steven Pennell, Ted D’Atri, Sandra Lee, Lilly Cataldi, Chris Laureano, Mark Roberts, Carol Schlink

by Steven Pennell

What if your ‘insides’ did not match other people’s perception of you from the outside? What if the world demanded you to be a person you were not? What if you lived in fear all the time?

Trans Views is a full-length play written and directed by Frank V. Toti, Jr., created from oral history interviews of members of the local transgender community in their own words. Often maligned and misunderstood through ignorance, transgender people illuminate their individual journeys through these personal accounts that help dispel fear and misunderstanding and celebrate courage and tenacity. The project is meant to affirm, celebrate, educate, and create understanding and support.

The performance shares the daily life celebrations, struggles, and triumphs of six transgender people, aged 15-70. Additional quotes from the oral histories are infused in the narrative, adding depth and diversity to the range of stories shared.

Mr. Toti is a Cranston native and has written nine plays (five from oral history) produced at URI, Perishable Theatre, and in Chicago. Trans Views includes performances by Lilly Cataldi, Ted D’Atri, Chris Laureano, Sandra Lee, Mark Roberts, Carol Schlink, and Steven Pennell, with spoken word by Cody Suzuki to open the performance.

The fully staged performance is followed by a moderated discussion coordinated by the Rhode Island State Council of Churches. The play will tour to locations around the state in May and June, returning to URI Providence Campus Paff Auditorium for the PVDFest and RI PrideFest celebrations. All performances are free and open to the public.

Trans Views is presented by the URI Feinstein Providence Campus Arts and Culture Program with the Rhode Island State Council of Churches. For more info, contact Coordinator of Arts and Culture at URI Providence Campus Steven Pennell at 2775206, uri.artsandculture@gmail.com, or visit web.uri.edu/prov/ arts. All events are free and open to the public.

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TRANS VIEWS TOURING SCHEDULE: 5/11, 7pm Westminster Unitarian Church, 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich 5/15, 6:30pm Woonsocket Train Depot, 1 Depot Square 6/1, 7pm St. Paul’s Church, 50 Park Place, Pawtucket 6/2, 7pm Berean Baptist Church, 475 Chapel Street, Harrisville 6/3, 7pm First Baptist Church in America, 75 N. Main Street, Providence 6/7 & 8, 7pm URI Providence Paff Auditorium, 80 Washington Street, Providence

Love Song

by N. Connolly

When you pull your fingers away, dripping with dew, it is because of a strange sound you hear reverberating through the trees. Closing your eyes you focus on the sound until all else falls away. It doesn’t sound like the rush of falling water, or the gurgle of streams. It doesn’t sound like anything you’ve ever heard before. You can’t help being drawn towards it. It is haunting yet beautiful. It is melodious yet it sounds nothing like the birdsong melodies you are so accustomed to. No longer do trees guide you. Now it is this sound, pulling you past familiar maple and into new parts of the forest, ones so unfamiliar.

Then you step out into the clearing.

After that your thoughts just stop.

Everything stops. There is just the moon, shining brilliantly, blindingly, beautifully, suddenly appearing in the sky, and the girl, just as beautiful (if not more so), who stands in front of it, in the shade of the trees.

She is the moon, the stars, the night itself, with skin as pale as birch trees, hair with the richest brown color that you can only find in chestnuts deep in the western groves,

and eyes – her eyes! They are glimmering green like the leaves.They sparkle like stars.

They are dark like the sky, and they are something else too, something strange and undeniably beautiful.

She is singing the song that led you here, so haunting, so beautiful. It is not a song though, not like the ones the birds sing, or the ones your fellow villagers love to hear from bards. It is so much more.

Even though there aren’t words, she is saying something. “Aika,” she sings, and you realize that must be her name. “My name is Keithia,” you answer, your voice sounding harsh and rough. Nothing like Aika and her song.

“Keithia…” she whispers, in your tongue now, the language of your village.

Even though she is no longer speaking in song, her voice is still musical, and it is captivating. You nod, forcing yourself out of the trance she had put you in. Opening your mouth, you are already planning what to say – something along the lines of “That’s my name” or “Yes, and you are Aika.” You can’t though, because the words get stuck

YOUTH PERSPECTIVE

In an effort to reach a younger audience, Options Magazine is offering space for youth to share creative writing. If you know a talented young author, please invite them to submit works to editor@optionsri.org.

on the way up and they suddenly feel cold and wrong and all that you can say is “Aika.”

Her name, and only her name, but maybe it’s enough. She smiles, not serenely though.

It’s not what you’d expect from a girl like that, who seems so unreachable.

You can’t explain why, but Aika makes you feel like you’re walking on a tightrope, like one word could send you hurtling to the ground, hundreds of feet below. The feeling is as dangerous as it is mesmerizing.

Just like her, you think. It’s not just the way Aika makes you feel, though that is danger enough in itself. She is not like the villagers you wish you could leave behind. She sings songs they can’t sing, and when she whispers your name your heart feels like it’s falling apart in your chest. She is powerful, this girl, who shines like the moon at its fullest, as blinding as the sun. And she called you here, to a place that shouldn’t exist.

N. Connolly is a 6th grader at Gordon School living in Providence who loves writing, reading, and most everything book-related.

Read this story in full at optionsri.org

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OUT ON THE TOWN

Drag Bingo: King of Queens, Riviera Bingo Palace, April 5, photos by Jen Bonin

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Project Fearless First Anniversary, Skyline Restaurant, April 8, photos by Jen Bonin

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Imperial Court of RI Coronation,

Omni Hotel Providence, April 21, photos by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez and Jen Bonin

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IT’S RHODE ISLAND

R P ID E SEASON!

by Joe Lazzerini, President, RI Pride

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Friends, family, community members, and my fellow Rhode Islanders. Whether you were born and raised here or if this is your newfound home – Welcome! Rhode Island may be the smallest state in our nation, but after visiting our beaches and our cities, you will find that we Rhode Islanders have great Pride.

What does Pride mean to you? To me, it’s remembering those we’ve lost to AIDS, suicide, and/or violence. It’s a trans woman of color running for office. It’s the queer person coming out to their family for the first time as non-binary. It’s a young person deciding to love themselves when the world around them tells them otherwise. Pride is in you, in me, and in every heartbeat of this beautiful state.

We remember the Stonewall Riots. We remember the activists like Marsha P. Johnson, Sylvia Rivera, Stormé, and Harvey Milk who paved the way so we could celebrate our Pride.

We honor those continuing the work to find a cure for HIV/AIDS. We hold our rainbow flags high for those who couldn’t.

The fight for equality in Rhode Island and around the country isn’t close to over. We must be persistent; we must be strategic; we must be

resilient, together. We must listen to our fellow community members about their struggles, hold the door open for them after we step through, and make sure they have a seat at the table.

Because no one is free and equal until we’re all free and equal.Therefore, this year’s RI PrideFest them is “Louder & Prouder!”

I look forward to seeing you at the 43rd Annual PrideFest and New England’s only Illuminated Night Parade on June 16. To the gay men and the lesbians, the bisexual folk and the trans people, and all the people I struggle to describe and will learn to describe, respect, and love – welcome to the greatest little state in the nation.This is where you belong.

It’s 2018! Let’s be loud. Let’s be proud.

Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community, and providing a safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com or call (401) 467-2130.

Sampson Hampton, photo by Steve Ahlquist

BCBSRI Empowerment Breakfast attendees

by Ethan Huckel, Board President TGI Network of Rhode Island is excited to welcome Options back! We look forward to bringing you information for and about the local transgender, gender-variant, and intersex communities.

On March 31, TGI Network hosted our First Annual Empowerment Breakfast for Transgender Day of Visibility where we welcomed over 100 community members and sponsoring partners, and presented our 2018 Empowerment Awards to Samson Hampton and Representative Edith Ajello. We are excited to report that TGI Network is growing and expanding our impact because of the support of our community.

In addition to our general Borderlands

peer support groups (held first and third Tuesdays and Saturdays of the month), we have recently reinstated our partners’ peer support group (held first Tuesdays) and have begun a new non-binary peer support group (held third Tuesdays). We are preparing to train a new group of support facilitators and plan to introduce a monthly game night. Stay tuned for more details.

And on April 28, we were proud to present, along with the Rhode Island College School of Social Work and Brown University’s Warren Alpert Medical School, the Fourth Annual Rhode Island Trans Health Conference.This year we were able to welcome 50 percent more community

members for a free day of workshops, networking, and community building. Check out our website for information about how you can get involved in planning next year’s conference.

TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large.Visit us at www.tginetwork.org

warmly welcomes Options Magazine back to print, and invites its readers to attend

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providence biltmore 11 dorrance street One Night Only!

An evening of operatic favorites, done in signature Providence singers style!

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On April 19, Michelle Cretella, a member of the American College of Pediatrics (ACPed), gave a lecture at St. Pius V Church in Providence on the dangers of the “transgender agenda.” In response, nearly 50 people supportive of transgender rights held signs protesting Cretella outside the church. They pointed out that the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) considers Cretella’s organization,

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ACPed, “a fringe anti-LGBT hate group that masquerades as a premier United States association of pediatricians to push anti-LGBT junk science…”

“Our presence at St. Pius tonight achieved exactly what we hoped to achieve – to provide information to our community and support the transgender youth who deserve to know that their experiences are valid,” said protest

organizer Galen Auer. “I don’t believe that St. Pius teaches hatred for the LGBTQ community, or that tonight’s event was motivated by hatred, but we know that factually misinformed rhetoric like Michelle Cretella’s has the potential to harm trans kids regardless of her intentions, which is why every major medical association in the country disagrees with her position on this subject.”

Here’s Cretella’s presentation, as described by the Rhode Island Catholic: “Last year, the State of Rhode Island made it illegal for a licensed medical professional to counsel a child away from the desire to change his/her gender identity, yet it remains legal to inject that same child with hormone blockers and cross-sex hormones. Currently, Rhode Island public schools are deciding how to implement statewide transgender policies that would open up bathrooms, locker rooms, and sports teams to anyone who claims to be the opposite gender from their biological sex. Dr Cretella has been on the front lines of the fight against the transgender agenda for 25 years. She has seen firsthand the severe mental and physical abuse that children have endured at the hands of medical professionals who are willing to “transition” a child from boy to girl or girl to boy, a feat that is biologically impossible.”

ACPed is not the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), founded in 1937 with 64,000 members. ACPed was founded in 2002 and has fewer than 500 members.

Whereas the AAP supports the idea that transgender children, adolescents, and adults should be affirmed and supported in their gender identity and expression, Cretella’s ACPed supports practices, such as forcing children to hide their gender or sexuality and corporal punishment, that are harmful to children’s health.

ACPed places a premium on heterosexual parents, and falsely claims that same sex parents harm their children.

In addition to the AAP, the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, and the American Medical Association all support and affirm the gender identity and expression of transgender children, adolescents, and adults. The SPLC goes on to say that Cretella’s ACPed, “opposes adoption by LGBT couples, links homosexuality to pedophilia, endorses so-called reparative or sexual orientation conversion therapy for homosexual youth, believes transgender people have a mental illness, and has called transgender health care for youth child abuse.”

The protest itself was entirely peaceful. Protesters held signs and handed out flyers to those entering the church.

In a kind gesture, the church put out a table with coffee and hot chocolate for the protesters. The Providence Police

Department was on hand but did not interfere with the protest. A few minutes before the lecture was due to start, several protesters went inside the church to hear Cretella’s lecture. Signs being prohibited, some of the protester-attendees expected to be ejected from the lecture when they held up signs emblazoned with the word, “LIE!” The Providence Journal reported that a woman who disrupted the lecture inside the church was escorted out by Providence Police. No charges were brought against her.

Steve Ahlquist is a frontline reporter in Rhode Island and a past recipient of the Spirit of Pride Award. He has covered human rights, social justice, progressive politics, and environmental news for half a decade. Uprise RI is his new project. For more info, visit upriseri.com or contact atomicsteve@gmail. com.

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RI’s LGBTQ Youth

At three o’clock in the afternoon, across the street from two of Providence’s largest public high schools, youth begin to flock excitedly into the large space decorated with dazzling unicorns and vibrant rainbows known to many as Youth Pride Inc. (YPI). Here, most visitors range from child to young adult and are either questioning their sexuality, identifying as LGBTQ+, or living in an impoverished or unstable household. They’ll enjoy one another’s company in the brightly painted common area, indulging in delicious snacks. For the youth who spend time at YPI, reality outside of these walls is likely mentally and emotionally taxing. Many are homeless and/or struggling with their newfound identity as LGBTQ+. YPI provides them a safe place to play, reflect, and feel a sense of belonging among youth experiencing a similar reality.

Homeless youth most often suffer from three factors: family conflict, residential instability, and economic problems. Many of those visiting YPI experience homelessness due to family conflict and cynical reactions to the expression of their sexual orientation.

“Anything to do with poverty – that’s what brings people in our doors,” says Elana Rosenberg, YPI’s executive director. Rosenberg, seated on the organization’s treasured black leather sectional donated by Cardi’s Furniture, expresses how grateful the organization is for the donations of food, clothing, and books provided by the community. These contributions provide YPI with everything a household would need to care for the people in it.

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For the tweens, teens, and young adults enjoying the communal space at YPI, this is the daily dose of happiness they have waited all day to experience. However, the moments pass at warp speed, and soon it will be eight o’clock, and the doors will close for the night.

Contrary to assumptions,YPI services not just LGBTQ youth, but allies too. The doors are open four days a week to all youth, and YPI provides food, counseling sessions, and even dance classes free of charge. “Sometimes people from outside of our doors are under the illusion that you come to YPI to only talk about LGBT stuff, and the truth is you come here, as the person that you are, bringing all the baggage and all the identities that you have with you,” says Rosenberg. “We know that 90% of the population is an ally or has the potential to be an ally, right?”

Rosenberg goes on to share YPI’s belief in the importance of encouraging every individual who walks in to be a better ally, despite how they may fit into society.

“That’s how we are able to change the environment outside of our doors.”

But what happens at 8 o’clock when the doors close and many teens are forced back onto the street or into unloving households? “These aren’t problems with easy solutions, or we wouldn’t need to exist – we wouldn’t still be here after 25 years,” Rosenberg states.

Just upstairs from YPI, Justice Gaines, a coordinator at the Providence Youth Student Movement (PrYSM), leads programs on Queer Justice and Queer Transformative Roots, which support trans people of color. “There’s a lot of

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queer young folks of color and just queer folks in general that are homeless … because of their parent situations, or folks who couldn’t stay at home, or could only stay with friends for a certain amount of time,” Gaines states. Coming out often means instantaneous instability. “Especially when it comes to being queer and people of color, we need to recognize the support systems that are needed,” Gaines adds.

Beyond the safety of YPI and PrYSM’s walls, another organization works to foster understanding toward LGBTQ people and make better allies out of those close to them. PFLAG is nationally recognized and was created to support the “parents and friends of lesbians and gays.” Newcomers to PFLAG Providence’s monthly meetings consist primarily of parents accompanied by teens. Many seek to educate themselves on how to overcome societal barriers experienced when one identifies as transgender or gender non-conforming.

Former longtime president and founder of PFLAG/Greater Providence, Myra Shays, believes it is important for the public to know that the organization supports the LGBTQ community as a whole, not just parents and friends.

“PFLAG views the rejection of a child by his/her parents as a tragedy. By helping parents understand and accept their gay, lesbian, and transgender children, we are ensuring those children feelings of worth and value.This enables them to go proudly into the community and forge satisfying lives for themselves,” states Shays.

Kelsey Sanford is a student at Rhode Island College studying journalism.

ACOS

Welcomes

Thomas Adams

by the ACOS Staff

New Executive Director On March 19, AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) welcomed Thomas Adams as its executive director. Mr. Adams has been a nonprofit professional for over two decades, with over ten years experience working with people who are affected by HIV and AIDS. He moved to Rhode Island from the Midwest where he had worked closely with program development and grant funding with the Missouri Foundation for Health in St. Louis.

Increasing grant funding for ACOS is a top priority for Adams, but not the only one. Grants must often be applied to very specific programs, while donations and revenue raised from events can be applied to areas where grant funding can often fall short.

Community groups, our friends in the drag community, corporate and foundation support, individual donations, fundraising events, and federal, state, and local grants

have put ACOS in good financial health however, we need to continue to diversify our donor base and create new revenue streams to sustain our existing services to best serve the Rhode Island community.

Adams also aims to find areas where ACOS can have a greater impact on prevention for groups at higher risk of contracting HIV, as well as providing housing and holistic clinical and emotional support for the agency’s clients. As AIDS Care Ocean State’s leader and spokesperson, Adams has been eagerly meeting with community partners and potential collaborators. ACOS has a compelling and important story to tell.

ACOS was born from the spirit of community development through the visionary eyes of Paul Fitzgerald. This collaborative spirit will continue with the various partnerships that ACOS has developed and sustained over the decades.

Adam says he looks “forward to working

with our cohorts in the field as well as developing new relationships as we continue to deliver ACOS’s mission in the community.”

His appointment comes after a lengthy search by the ACOS Board of Directors.

Adams has the combination of experience, enthusiasm, and forward thinking that ACOS needs.

“As AIDS Care approaches its thirtieth year providing services to the Rhode Island community, we are excited to have found a leader who is committed to our core values and mission, and has the capacity to strategically guide our organization forward through a changing climate,” said B. Joseph Reddish III, Board Chair.

AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS service, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a Speakers Bureau.

Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 521-3603. Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www.aidscareoceanstate.org.

JDHS PHOTOS

JDHSPHOTOS.COM 401.624.6698 JDHSPHOTOS@VERIZON.NET www.optionsri.org

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URBAN ARTS & CULTURE PROGRAM with RHODE ISLAND STATE COUNCIL OF CHURCHES PRESENT

Trans Views touring production by Frank V. Toti Jr.

SAGE-RI Sponsored

LGBT

Community Meeting

by Cathy Gorman

May 11–June 8

Trans Views is a full length play written and directed by Frank V. Toti, Jr. Trans Views is an Oral History play with stories gathered from members of the local Transgender community told in their own words. The play shares the daily life celebrations, struggles, and triumphs of 6 transgender men and women out of the individual interviews ages 15-70.

The Performance is FREE and open to the public.

May 11 7:00pm Westminster Unitarian 119 Kenyon Ave East Greenwich, RI 02818 May 15, 6:30pm hosted by Community Care Alliance at the Woonsocket Depot.

1 Depot Square Woonsocket, RI 02895 June 1, 7:00pm St. Paul’s Church 50 Park Place Pawtucket, RI 02860 June 2, 7:00pm Berean Baptist Church 475 Chapel Street Harrisville, RI 02830 June 3 7:00 pm First Baptist Church in America 75 N. Main Street Providence, RI 02903 June 7 & 8, 7:00pm URI Providence Campus Paff Auditorium 80 Washington Street Providence RI 02903

On Saturday,April 14, SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders) sponsored a well-received LGBT community meeting held at Capitol Ridge, a senior 80 Washington St, Providence, RI 02903 Hours M-TH 9-9, F&S 9-4 (closed Sundays & Holidays) residence in Providence. A panel of speakers addressed For information call Steven Pennell 401-277-5206 topics relating to the past, present, and future of LGBT uri.artsandculture@gmail.com or visit uri.edu/ceps/prov/arts activism in Rhode Island and on a national level. This forum introduced SAGE-RI’s efforts at reorganization – to reenergize and once again connect more closely with LGBT organizations and activism in the field of LGBT options quarter page ad.indd 1 4/17/18 aging.

The LGBT community’s A brief review of SAGE-RI’s past accomplishments trusted partner for set the stage for a report on new initiatives – plans for showing Gen Silent, an award-winning documentary buying & selling real estate.

by Stu Maddox focused on the lives of Stonewallera LGBT elders facing the challenges of old age; strengthening social and educational programming through intergenerational suppers; the monthly LGBT Café; and working with other groups to advance LGBT issues in Rhode Island.

ROBERT RUTLEY Appreciation is extended to the organizations who REALTOR® participated and shared their goals and missions and robert.rutley@ announced events and activities, all of which helped to mottandchace.com promote a climate of cooperation. Stay tuned for word on future events including SAGE-RI’s September annual 401.601.0446 meeting to once again establish a secure foundation for an organization aimed at improving the lives of LGBT elders.

SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@ gmail.com, or find us on Facebook as SAGE-Rhode Island.

Waterplace, 100 Exchange Street, Providence 401.314.3000

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8:25 AM

LGBTQ Health Expert

Dr. Tim Cavanaugh to Join Thundermist Health Center

by Amanda Barney

Tim Cavanaugh, MD, a recognized leader in LGBTQ health, has returned to Rhode Island and will join Thundermist Health Center (THC). Dr. Cavanaugh is a family medicine provider who will care for trans and LGBQ patients, in addition to the general population, at THC’s Woonsocket location.

Dr. Cavanaugh has dedicated his career to serving LGBTQ patients in the community health center setting. He partners with patients to help them be as healthy as possible. He has also dedicated countless hours presenting cultural

competency training to fellow health care providers.

Most recently, Dr. Cavanaugh worked at Fenway Health in Boston where he served as medical director for the Transgender Health Program. Previously, he worked at the Comprehensive Community Action Program (CCAP) in Cranston where he helped develop an innovative hepatitis prevention program which delivered hepatitis vaccines and HIV testing services in non-traditional settings, such as local bathhouses, leather events, and LGBTQ community events, including Gay

Bingo and Pride.

He received a Doctor of Medicine from Dartmouth University, completed his fellowship training at the University of Virginia in family medicine, and is a certified physician through the American Board of Family Practices.

Thundermist Health Center is a Federally Qualified Community Health Center, serving Woonsocket, West Warwick, and South County for 45 years. For more info, visit thundermisthealth.org or call (401) 7674100 to schedule an appointment.

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RESOURCES Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that

you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.”

ADDICTION SUPPORT GROUPS

young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri. org. www.aidsquiltri.org.

Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@ brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island.

245 Main Street,Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.

Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations.

222-2320.

Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992.

LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514.

Miriam Hospital HIV & STD Testing Clinic: For gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, Hep C, and trichomoniasis. Linking to physicians for PrEP. Wed. -- Fri. 12:30 -- 3:30. 1125 N. Main St., Providence (rear of building). 793-4715 Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www. plaidsproject.org

AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

AddictionCenter.com: Web information guide for addiction resources nationwide. Or call 1-877-830-2915.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784.

RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.

Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome.

YPQT (Young People Queer, Trans) meeting of AA. Fridays 7:30 -- 8:30pm., Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.

AIDS/HEALTH RESOURCES

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients.. Wed. andThurs. 12 -- 3pm. 134 Mathewson St., Providence. John Fruscella, 831-5522, Ext. 3835.

AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org.

AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safersex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org.

AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing.

9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panelmaking programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for

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Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 175 Broad Street. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne. org.

Prima CARE Transgender Clinic: Fall River, MA. Counseling, hormonal reassignment, referrals for surgery. Kishore Lakshman, MD. 508-235-0481.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing, partner care. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org.

Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683. www.tranquilmind.net.

Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing.

450 Clinton Street,Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext.

3516.

INFORMATION/EDUCATION The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org.

Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org.

Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net.

South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org.

United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

NIGHTLIFE The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar.

Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com.

Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192.

Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required.

One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com.

The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com.

Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am.

15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447.

The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue.

Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours.

373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

POLITICAL & LEGAL GROUPS American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org.

Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212)807-8400. Cvohs18904@ yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@ glad.org www.GLAD.org.

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

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National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@ nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@ brown.edu.

RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org.

RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net.

RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov.

Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@ gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality.

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL

All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.

Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton.

624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org.

Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org.

Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC.An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@ gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org.

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.net Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com.

Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence.

331-1960. www.centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org.

The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic.

Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 413-4821. www.holyparaclete.org.

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Chapel Street Congregational Church UCC: Open & Affirming.

185 Chapel St., Lincoln, RI. 722-7934. www.chapelstreetucc.com.

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org.

Christ Church in Lonsdale: 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am.

725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org.

Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910.

Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org.

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678.

Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am.

292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com.

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org.

First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation.

Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org.

First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org.

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.

Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www. uufoxborough.org.

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www. gracechurchprovidence.org.

Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen.

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com.

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and

commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie.

505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238.

Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket.

726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com.

The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com.

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086.

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am.

433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com.

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am.

StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org.

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org.

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org.

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am.

2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri. org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org.

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com.

Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education.

Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org.

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation.

901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org.

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org.

Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation.

Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org.

Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation.

Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org.

Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org.

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org.

Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am.

102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven. org.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

United Congregational Church, 524 Valley Rd., Middletown RI 02842. A Welcoming congregation. Sunday, 10 am. www.UCCMiddletown.org. 849-5444.

Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

SOCIAL ORGANIZATIONS Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org.

Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net.

Gay Men’s Social Group: FirstTuesdays,6 -- 9pm,Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com.

Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome.

Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org.

Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com.

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children.

Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com.

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com.

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org.

RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www. meetup.com/skeptics-133/.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail.com. www.sage-ri.org.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com.

Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@gmail.com).

South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com.

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

SPORTS & RECREATION PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com.

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com.

BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123.

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www. bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com.

FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins in Aug. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com.

FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Bostonbased recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www. flagflagfootball.com.

Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org.

Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www. rondeauskickboxing.com.

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Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence.

274-7672.www.mainstma.org.

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org.

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org.

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@ gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org.

OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org.

Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org.

Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com.

LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org.

TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www. tennis4all.org.

Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

STUDENTS & YOUTH Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu.

CCRI Gender Equity Initiative: SafeZone & Trans* 101 training.

Support, info for LGBTQ people and allies. www.ccri.edu/genderequity.

CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/.

Home to Hope: Support for housing-insecure LGBT youth 13 -- 24. Crisis intervention, medical and other services. At YPI (743 Westminster St., Prov.) and Mathewson St. Church (134 Mathewson St., Prov.) varying days and times. For info/appointments: ayanna@ rihomeless.org or 484-7720.

LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-to-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org.

Queer & Trans Thursdays: 6-8pm. Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalition-building and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm.us. 383-7450.

Rhode Island College LGBTQ+ Office: works towards inclusion of gender, gender identity/expression and sexual orientation in all appropriate aspects of campus life. 401-456-9033 www.ric.edu/lgbtq Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@salve.edu S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.

URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894.

Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

SUPPORT GROUPS & SOCIAL SERVICES

Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org.

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org.

Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days.

66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.childfamilyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org.

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group.

Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org.

Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright.

331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org.

Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org.

Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700.

Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org.

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org.

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org.

Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm.

Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org.

LGBT Grief Support: Meets regularly at Hope Hospice, 1085 No. Main St.., Providence. Rebecca Sizelove, 415-4301.

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor.

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served.

AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108.

Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome.

Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Thurs. eves. in Taunton, MA. Social support for gay, bi, and questioning men from Mass. and RI. Confidential, drug- and alcohol-free. Find us on Facebook and MeetUp. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org.

PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org.

Project RENEW: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. Trans support group meets Thurs. Info: transoutreachpwr@gmail.com.

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Queer & Trans Thursdays: Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalitionbuilding and organize to address intersections of oppressions.

6-8pm. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm. us. 383-7450.

Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323-HOPE. Office (508)226-4015.

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940.

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston.

6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening.

310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety.

861-6191 ext. 121.

Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group.

Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232.

861-6191. Office 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org

St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org.

Adam Cable, 353-3900.

Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org.

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month.

Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org.

Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org.

Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa. org.

Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org.

Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence.

846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org.

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by Felicia Nimue Ackerman

Dale’s Song

To David Brooks*

I’m not really sure if I’m straight or I’m gay Or whether I’m female or male.

My options are open; I like it this way.

I’m lucky I have the name Dale.

If there’s little at stake When it’s only a cake, Then what of the Rosa Parks fuss For only a seat on a bus?

When anyone hints that it’s time to decide: What am I? Straight? L? G? B? T? I’m perfectly happy to answer with pride That “questioning” designates me.

*In his December 5, 2017 New York Times column, “How Not to Advance Gay Marriage,” David Brooks said, “It’s just a cake,” in glossing over a bakery’s refusal to make a cake for a same-sex wedding.

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